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What if your partner denies things they’re doing? How do we approach that? Also, what if there’s something physical we don’t like about ourselves and makes us feel unpretty? How can we accept the things we can’t change about ourselves so that we don’t feel insecure?
Your work has changed my life and saved not only my relationship but my children's future. If you could get these teachings into the education system starting at the elementary level, it would completely change the course of human history. We all must get these lessions to our children and start this work in the beginning....
I believed the words and behaviour of a v sick man. And then compounded it with a v sick husband. But it's so clear now. I was always that shining star. I was never the sick words and lies that were fed to me. Freedom!!! Thank you ❤❤❤❤ I AM beautiful. I AM enough. I AM awesome. Thank you. ❤❤❤❤
I feel absolutely sick that at almost 70, I have been choosing to believe so many lies about myself. I know I need to value myself, love myself and reconnect and even those statements make my stomach churn with anxiety. Thank you so very much for your videos, these are the life lessons that other modalities only hint at. I am so thankful you have chosen to share your wisdom with us seekers. It is said when the student is ready the teacher will appear, this student is ready, now to convince my inner child of that! So much to learn! These are the life lessons we missed in our childhood and along the journey!
NO I AM ENOUGH. I AM A HUMAN BEING EXPERIENCING A SPIRITUAL JOURNEY. MY SECURITY COMES FROM JESUS. I AM HEALING AN INNER CHILD WITH ALL IT'S CONFLICTS. GOD BLESS💖 ACCEPTANCE OF THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AND HEALING IS MY GOAL🏴🙏🌹💖🌈
I love that now I recognise the red light I'm able to deal with it really quickly, so it doesnt build up to the anxiety I used to have permanently. Thank you ❤❤❤❤
This video is so relatable... You guys simplify it so well which otherwise seems to be an unending journey... This really helped gain some clarity .. please continue with this fantastic job
Have had many aha moments since I began with these teachings. This is the first time I didn't even do a golden thread and had a huge aha moment just by watching a video. I found myself listening as David said someone's 'bar' for being good enough will always go higher and higher and then out of the blue I said to myself 'This person' (won't say who, but an important person to me) said that to me'. As it turns out, that person did tell me when I was very young to always look at people prettier, smarter, etc and try to be exactly like them, that the goal is to model myself after people who are better than me. And I realized that's exactly what I've done ever since. I had COMPLETELY forgotten about that until I watched this video. I'm wondering if anyone else has uncovered specific moments in childhood that were so important yet forgotten until you began with these teachings?
Listening to your videos has made me realize I don’t believe in myself. This is another amazing video. Not only am I battling a troubled childhood but I am highly sensitive. Parents always compared and highly critical. Thank you for your support and message!! So so helpful in healing! ❤️❤️❤️
It’s crazy how you gave that example of the parent sending their child to school saying make sure you’re better than everyone else cause that’s exactly what my mum did believe it or not.
I have two opposing thoughts that are always inside of me. On the one hand, I know that I’m the best I can be. I’m so proud of myself and my accomplishments. On the other hand, I don’t feel acknowledged by others and appreciated therefore it causes insecurity. I believe that if I were truly great, it would be noticed. I then work harder and no one seems to care. I see others who haven’t put in as much work but have people who appreciate and adore them. This leads me to believe that I’m not enough. You say that your value is from the inside out, but if there is no confirmation from the outside I struggle to believe my own worth exists. Please help.
My thoughts on this red flag (jealousy) would be that why would my partner want to flirt or prefer the other lady's company ( as opposed to Alex's role play where she assumes the partner finds the other lady more attractive)
Hi Alex and David, in answer to your remarks about how someone can be insecure about themselves and that it doesn't make any sense,well, it is possible when you are lacking the fundamentals of a healthy childhood with loving parents, possibly through no intentional fault of theirs but nonetheless this unhealthy childhood produces people who are insecure and have very low self esteem, so, that is how. As you always say, we are all born feeling confident, but along the way it is squashed out of us. I would love to have self confidence and you make it sound so easy, but I'm afraid it's not always so easy as that, wish so much it was. Love you both and your brilliant videos. xxxxx
Hi Angie, Thanks for your comments. I agree with your observations about childhood experiences. My point is that if you have in fact experienced unhealthy, unbalanced teaching and experiences there has to be a time to begin to take both emotional and self-responsibility for your own beliefs, thoughts and actions. Parental beliefs and experiences are NOT unmoveable or unchangeable. You can change them now and change your life right now! Remember, you are the creator of your emotions NOT the victim. You control your mind, your mind does NOT control you. Try following the techniques we demonstrate in our videos and keep us informed where or when you get stuck. David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thanks David, all that you and Alex say makes so much sense, only to be honest get a bit muddled in my head as where to start with all the incredible videos you share with us all. Is there any particular one that goes more into detail about the Golden Thread procedure? I get stuck and confused after a while. Thanks again xxxxxxx
This describes all my patterns. It was a red light in my head, comparing myself to others.But also, there was issues in the relationship. Thank you both of you for making a great video!
You guys are awesome, Ive been really diving into yohr content and ever since I did, my sleep has gotten so much better. I am able to sleep soundly through thr night, and dont wake up at 3am anymore. I cant explain how grateful I am for you guys making these videos, thank you
Hi David & Alex.Thankyou so much for covering these jealously issues.. you both compliment each other , and work so well uncovering core issues.It really helps to understand my belief system and correct it xx ♥️ Denise
Oh my goodness it's like Alex is in my head!!! I love her input and comments and scenarios in this (and really all) video!! All of this resonated with me and I'm so grateful you guys produce videos to help us out and give us something to think about! It's changing my life!
I guess my thought are I was considered an extension of my parents rather than a valued individual which has created the feelings that I’m not that important
Clementine, thanks for sharing... so, the inauthentic childhood belief that you may still be holding onto is 'I am not important'. This belief then *creates* the uncomfortable Red Light Feelings you experience. The good news is that you can now teach your Inner Child that this is not the truth! You are awesome and divine :) Here's our Inner Child video playlist that you may find helpful: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html x
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Thank you for your time in providing such meaningful insight on this very sensitive subject. I couldn't agree with David more on the fact that we should only be people who want to be with us. Thank You! By the way, Alexandra always looks fantastic.
I think it’s a shame not more people follow your videos but continue chasing something either not attainable or achievable. Theres a global addiction to chaos and searching.
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I created feelings of jealousy and insecurity when my husband had an affair but he said that he doesn't love her and that he does love me so I stopped comparing myself to her. Now that I know that it's just recreational like golf or football I've been able to be happy for him that he's found a "hobby" that makes him happy. We can now even have her over for dinner! Thank you Wu Wei Wisdom! You've saved my marriage!! Now we just have to find age appropriate ways to explain all of this to our children (ages 9,12 and 14 two girls and one boy). They're having a lot of trouble understanding why he has a girlfriend and that that's ok. I've since taken up pottery, macrame and had a greenhouse built and am enjoying them all very much.
@@WuWeiWisdom i love what u r saying but i get anxious bc i do not see that i live in thee fantastic universe that u r talking about. I see that i live in a world that is ugly bc some people on purpose withhold knowledge from us. Why do we or our parents not learn these things at school???there s a reason. And the reason is some people want to keep us in ignorance as we r easily manipulated if we rin ignorance. Also i m afraid with what s hapoening with the narrative aboutthe plandemic. People r so fearful about dying and they turn against one another. And it s all a big lie with a little bit of truth spread by media propaganda. I do not want to live in such a world of matrix where it spreads fear, where it enslaves people into working 12 hours a day and havung no time for their children. Where you r not allowed to breathe even, where they r forcing yiu to put substances in yiur body thaf you din t want to put or else you might lose your job, you might eve lose your child if you don t want your child to conform to these criminal rules and regulations at school. How can i want to live in this universe David where the rich r getting richer and keeping the vast majority in low frequencies of hate and fear??? I see it all around me. I m tired of being surrounded by people living in fear anc hate.why would i want to live in this world of matrix????
Thank you! I truly value your work. I means the world to me, I am learning so much and get all the answers I have been seeking for such a long time. Thank you!
Is it not appropriate to ask you partner to change some of their behavior which causes these red light feelings? My partner resists and calls me controlling when I do. I see this as a two way street. Not that THEY can eliminate any or all of MY insecurities, (as I believe your teaching states, I need to work on my own insecurities) but that they might understand how some of their behavior is inappropriate and be willing to make some adjustment This is obviously a nuts and bolts question I Understand how you’re teaching says I have to work with my own inner child Before I can address the red lights Issues and that changing the circumstances or environment won’t Fix the real inner problem, but is There any place for borders Like asking your partner to change their behavior? Or is it completely my own inner issue
,thank you for sharing your wonderful videos, more power to the both of you, people should be watching your videos, highly recommended, it promotes the betterment of humanity👌,
Hi Tripti, Thanks for your question. As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. Acceptance will be resisted by you Inner Child as she will prefer to stick with the familiar, even though it will never work! She will not want to give up the dream/illusion of how she wants things to be. In her perfect world! 😉 So there is still a little more Inner Child work to do here I think... Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our You Tube channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David 🙏
Hi Jaimie Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We're glad it has helped you! We have several videos on overcoming past issues you are stuck on - you may find these videos helpful: th-cam.com/video/xehPLACrWHU/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/wEBJyef3R00/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/o6VRiMRIHmY/w-d-xo.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our TH-cam Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ th-cam.com/users/wuweiwisdom (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex + David x
@@WuWeiWisdom thank you. :) I'd love to see videos on incorporating these lessons into parenting As a single parent your videos have already helped me communicate with my son. Keep up the good work !
Is there a video for people who discover later in life that they were raised by narcissist parents and how to unravel and heal the negative patterns of perception about oneself?!
What if what you think is 'you shouldn't be looking at someone else because it's disrespectful when you're in a relationship.? Does that still mean you have an IC issue??? Because that's how my thoughts work, they never go to 'she must be better than I'. I get angry because I believe I am being disrespected.....????
Hi. Can you make a video on how to handle a friend who likes to always talk about other people? Since the pandemic started, she will most of the time just message me to talk badly about other people. I do not know why it has become her habit. I seriously do not like gossiping. I feel so drained when she always message me toxic things. I’m an HSP and empath. People tend to go to me to talk to me because I think they know I am a good listener and their secrets are safe with me. I do not have the habit of talking about what someone told me to other people but for this friend, I am being too exhausted and wanted to know how to deal with this type of person? She has nice side but I think she is very insecure to the point that now I fear maybe she talks badly about me too because she likes to notice everything even if it none of her business. I don’t want to start a problem with her so I try to be still nice and be more understanding. She makes fun of other people. It’s like social media has become an envy amplifier for her. The funny thing is she denies it. She will defensively say that she is not insecure. She is a successful person, has a bf also but she can’t stop being toxic online. Does an insecure person knows she is really insecure?or is she really blind to her savageness? I have always wondered about that with people who always want to criticize other people but never look at themselves first. I truly do not have much time to even think or criticize someone I know especially by what I see on social media because I have other meaningful things to do and we cannot do anything to other people if they want to brag or whatever they want to do, so better not mind them but this friend always want to post passive aggressive posts on FB, indirect messages. It’s like she wants attention. We are not young anymore. We are in our late 20s. I think we are too old to be childish like highschool wanting to gossip always. 😰 Sorry for the long comment, i hope you can make a video about how to handle, talk to a toxic friend who always want to notice everything and everyone even if it is none of her business she puts her nose in it and tells me. She is always annoyed about other people. Even if someone is pretty for example, she will say that person is not pretty, etc. So obviously insecure. I did told her once to try not to mind people who destroy her peace and be more patient with people because I think she gets triggered by posts of others online, she likes to compare then she will say she’s not insecure and she’s happy. Thank you in advance if you do read this comment and make a video,
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David you are saying in this video that we must believe in, and value ourselves , but if the relationship we have with ourselves isn't a healthy wholesome one, how is that possible? I hear your words which mostly make sense, but they are just words, and somehow we have to connect on an emotional level to be able to achieve what you are teaching. Can you give some practical guidance on how to improve ones relationship with self? I would really appreciate that. Thanks so much
Hi Helen, Thanks for your question. Yes, I am saying we must be truthful, honest and have integrity with and for yourself.. Any relationship is the ability to relate, as the name suggests. If you choose to have an unhealthy unwholesome relationship with yourself, those too are just words. Why do you choose to connect those words to your emotions and not others? The basic teaching here is: YOU are the creator of your emotions, NOT the victim of them. David
Hi Tessa Thank you for your comment... Obviously I have never met you or know your history. Bet I could find something you are amazing at within 60 seconds 😊 Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our You Tube channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David 🙏
I wonder if Dr Lees understands just how much women lie to themselves and the people around them lol. Try being a man and dating in the USA, women ghost (go silent or just dont show up for set up dates) and lie at such a level "all my boyfriends were bad", you need to the Wu Wei wisdom just to get through your day. Never met a woman who actually, in real life, and not her crazy mind, ever tried to be "perfect". Btw everyone says they are doing the "best they can" but this is rarely, if ever, the case.
AWARENESS Of THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. LET THEM GO THERE OLD BELIEFS. FLIP THEM TO POSITIVE TALK. ADULT TALK I AM TAKING CARE OF MY CHILD. SHE NEEDS HEALING SO MUCH. SHE'S ANGRY AND AFRAID OF CHANGE🙏💖🏴🌈💞
I can see now that my deep dive into evolutionary psychology for about 2 years made me become hyper judgemental and critical of other people’s and my own appearance based on “genetic quality”. I would love to know your opinion on this. Where does this fit in the Wu Wei model? Is there such a thing as genetic superiority? I suppose it is just one part of being a human and doesn’t make up the whole of who you are or your worth?
Hi titihenryfan, thanks for watching! We appreciate your support. You may find this video helpful: th-cam.com/video/Lu_6Rq0Cqmc/w-d-xo.html ~ Alex + David x
You shout hurrah!!! Why would you want to be with anyone who thinks like that. It sounds as though they have emotional issues. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
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What if your partner denies things they’re doing? How do we approach that?
Also, what if there’s something physical we don’t like about ourselves and makes us feel unpretty? How can we accept the things we can’t change about ourselves so that we don’t feel insecure?
Your work has changed my life and saved not only my relationship but my children's future. If you could get these teachings into the education system starting at the elementary level, it would completely change the course of human history. We all must get these lessions to our children and start this work in the beginning....
I believed the words and behaviour of a v sick man. And then compounded it with a v sick husband. But it's so clear now. I was always that shining star. I was never the sick words and lies that were fed to me. Freedom!!! Thank you ❤❤❤❤ I AM beautiful. I AM enough. I AM awesome. Thank you. ❤❤❤❤
I feel absolutely sick that at almost 70, I have been choosing to believe so many lies about myself. I know I need to value myself, love myself and reconnect and even those statements make my stomach churn with anxiety. Thank you so very much for your videos, these are the life lessons that other modalities only hint at. I am so thankful you have chosen to share your wisdom with us seekers. It is said when the student is ready the teacher will appear, this student is ready, now to convince my inner child of that! So much to learn! These are the life lessons we missed in our childhood and along the journey!
Wow it’s inspiring you’re continuing to learn and self develop at 70 years of age. Wow
NO I AM ENOUGH. I AM A HUMAN BEING EXPERIENCING A SPIRITUAL JOURNEY. MY SECURITY COMES FROM JESUS. I AM HEALING AN INNER CHILD WITH ALL IT'S CONFLICTS. GOD BLESS💖 ACCEPTANCE OF THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AND HEALING IS MY GOAL🏴🙏🌹💖🌈
I love that now I recognise the red light I'm able to deal with it really quickly, so it doesnt build up to the anxiety I used to have permanently. Thank you ❤❤❤❤
This video is so relatable... You guys simplify it so well which otherwise seems to be an unending journey... This really helped gain some clarity .. please continue with this fantastic job
Thanks Tripti! We love doing what we do and we appreciate your support 😊 A+D x
Have had many aha moments since I began with these teachings. This is the first time I didn't even do a golden thread and had a huge aha moment just by watching a video. I found myself listening as David said someone's 'bar' for being good enough will always go higher and higher and then out of the blue I said to myself 'This person' (won't say who, but an important person to me) said that to me'. As it turns out, that person did tell me when I was very young to always look at people prettier, smarter, etc and try to be exactly like them, that the goal is to model myself after people who are better than me. And I realized that's exactly what I've done ever since. I had COMPLETELY forgotten about that until I watched this video.
I'm wondering if anyone else has uncovered specific moments in childhood that were so important yet forgotten until you began with these teachings?
Listening to your videos has made me realize I don’t believe in myself. This is another amazing video. Not only am I battling a troubled childhood but I am highly sensitive. Parents always compared and highly critical. Thank you for your support and message!! So so helpful in healing! ❤️❤️❤️
Same like me.
It’s crazy how you gave that example of the parent sending their child to school saying make sure you’re better than everyone else cause that’s exactly what my mum did believe it or not.
thank you david - your like a spiritual father 😂
I have two opposing thoughts that are always inside of me. On the one hand, I know that I’m the best I can be. I’m so proud of myself and my accomplishments. On the other hand, I don’t feel acknowledged by others and appreciated therefore it causes insecurity. I believe that if I were truly great, it would be noticed. I then work harder and no one seems to care. I see others who haven’t put in as much work but have people who appreciate and adore them. This leads me to believe that I’m not enough. You say that your value is from the inside out, but if there is no confirmation from the outside I struggle to believe my own worth exists. Please help.
My thoughts on this red flag (jealousy) would be that why would my partner want to flirt or prefer the other lady's company ( as opposed to Alex's role play where she assumes the partner finds the other lady more attractive)
Hi Alex and David, in answer to your remarks about how someone can be insecure about themselves and that it doesn't make any sense,well, it is possible when you are lacking the fundamentals of a healthy childhood with loving parents, possibly through no intentional fault of theirs but nonetheless this unhealthy childhood produces people who are insecure and have very low self esteem, so, that is how. As you always say, we are all born feeling confident, but along the way it is squashed out of us. I would love to have self confidence and you make it sound so easy, but I'm afraid it's not always so easy as that, wish so much it was. Love you both and your brilliant videos. xxxxx
Hi Angie,
Thanks for your comments.
I agree with your observations about childhood experiences.
My point is that if you have in fact experienced unhealthy, unbalanced teaching and experiences there has to be a time to begin to take both emotional and self-responsibility for your own beliefs, thoughts and actions.
Parental beliefs and experiences are NOT unmoveable or unchangeable.
You can change them now and change your life right now!
Remember, you are the creator of your emotions NOT the victim. You control your mind, your mind does NOT control you.
Try following the techniques we demonstrate in our videos and keep us informed where or when you get stuck.
David
@@WuWeiWisdom Thanks David, all that you and Alex say makes so much sense, only to be honest get a bit muddled in my head as where to start with all the incredible videos you share with us all. Is there any particular one that goes more into detail about the Golden Thread procedure? I get stuck and confused after a while. Thanks again xxxxxxx
This describes all my patterns. It was a red light in my head, comparing myself to others.But also, there was issues in the relationship. Thank you both of you for making a great video!
You guys are awesome, Ive been really diving into yohr content and ever since I did, my sleep has gotten so much better. I am able to sleep soundly through thr night, and dont wake up at 3am anymore. I cant explain how grateful I am for you guys making these videos, thank you
You guys make a good team. Thank you for your insights
Beautiful video, great points, such an important and relevant topic that I feel most of us can relate to and one way or another
Thank you Katy 🙏 A+D x
Hi David & Alex.Thankyou so much for covering these jealously issues.. you both compliment each other , and work so well uncovering core issues.It really helps to understand my belief system and correct it xx ♥️ Denise
Thanks Denise... keep on keeping on 😉 x
Alexandra beautifuly guides and asks the right questions and David gives clear answers. You both are a perfect pair in bringing clarity. Thank you.
Thank you for posting another great video. I look forward to listening to your lessons on Sunday afternoons. Sending both of you lots of love.
Sending love and positive Qi back to you Judith! A+D x
Oh my goodness it's like Alex is in my head!!! I love her input and comments and scenarios in this (and really all) video!! All of this resonated with me and I'm so grateful you guys produce videos to help us out and give us something to think about! It's changing my life!
I'm so glad! Kind regards, David.
David, have you ever watched these videos and seen how your wife looks upon you with utter adoration? You’re a lucky man.
They're married! 😲... Wooow!
I guess my thought are I was considered an extension of my parents rather than a valued individual which has created the feelings that I’m not that important
Clementine, thanks for sharing... so, the inauthentic childhood belief that you may still be holding onto is 'I am not important'. This belief then *creates* the uncomfortable Red Light Feelings you experience. The good news is that you can now teach your Inner Child that this is not the truth! You are awesome and divine :)
Here's our Inner Child video playlist that you may find helpful: th-cam.com/play/PL9NQ_PWX4zICGLRS1b7q1HSJhZRash5qq.html
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8:34 plus on your experience.
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Happy good Sunday morning wu Wei wisdom.
Wishing you a peaceful Sunday! 😊
Love your work David and Alex ❤️ but but but your role playing cracks me up 😂😂😆
Thank you for your time in providing such meaningful insight on this very sensitive subject. I couldn't agree with David more on the fact that we should only be people who want to be with us. Thank You! By the way, Alexandra always looks fantastic.
I think it’s a shame not more people follow your videos but continue chasing something either not attainable or achievable. Theres a global addiction to chaos and searching.
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I created feelings of jealousy and insecurity when my husband had an affair but he said that he doesn't love her and that he does love me so I stopped comparing myself to her. Now that I know that it's just recreational like golf or football I've been able to be happy for him that he's found a "hobby" that makes him happy. We can now even have her over for dinner! Thank you Wu Wei Wisdom! You've saved my marriage!! Now we just have to find age appropriate ways to explain all of this to our children (ages 9,12 and 14 two girls and one boy). They're having a lot of trouble understanding why he has a girlfriend and that that's ok. I've since taken up pottery, macrame and had a greenhouse built and am enjoying them all very much.
Thank you so much this video has been given in perfect timing exactly what I needed to hear :-)
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@@WuWeiWisdom i love what u r saying but i get anxious bc i do not see that i live in thee fantastic universe that u r talking about. I see that i live in a world that is ugly bc some people on purpose withhold knowledge from us. Why do we or our parents not learn these things at school???there s a reason. And the reason is some people want to keep us in ignorance as we r easily manipulated if we rin ignorance. Also i m afraid with what s hapoening with the narrative aboutthe plandemic. People r so fearful about dying and they turn against one another. And it s all a big lie with a little bit of truth spread by media propaganda. I do not want to live in such a world of matrix where it spreads fear, where it enslaves people into working 12 hours a day and havung no time for their children. Where you r not allowed to breathe even, where they r forcing yiu to put substances in yiur body thaf you din t want to put or else you might lose your job, you might eve lose your child if you don t want your child to conform to these criminal rules and regulations at school. How can i want to live in this universe David where the rich r getting richer and keeping the vast majority in low frequencies of hate and fear??? I see it all around me. I m tired of being surrounded by people living in fear anc hate.why would i want to live in this world of matrix????
What if your partner is people pleaser’s and he ignores to talk about it?what we should do? After 47 years married??
Thank you! I truly value your work. I means the world to me, I am learning so much and get all the answers I have been seeking for such a long time. Thank you!
Thank you Andrea! 😊 x
What a fantastic form and delivery of your videos. You greatly compliment each other. Thank you for sharing 😊
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Thank you, I am enough xx
100% true Heidi! Thanks for watching 🙏 A+D x
Is it not appropriate to ask you partner to change some of their behavior which causes these red light feelings? My partner resists and calls me controlling when I do.
I see this as a two way street. Not that THEY can eliminate any or all of MY insecurities, (as I believe your teaching states, I need to work on my own insecurities) but that they might understand how some of their behavior is inappropriate and be willing to make some adjustment
This is obviously a nuts and bolts question
I Understand how you’re teaching says I have to work with my own inner child Before I can address the red lights Issues and that changing the circumstances or environment won’t Fix the real inner problem, but is There any place for borders Like asking your partner to change their behavior? Or is it completely my own inner issue
What if there has been loss of trust, early in the relationship, he apologised and the feelings of jealousy keep coming up as a result?
Fantastic video 👍🙏❤️
Thanks Kieran! 😊🙏
,thank you for sharing your wonderful videos, more power to the both of you, people should be watching your videos, highly recommended, it promotes the betterment of humanity👌,
LOVE THIS VIDEO, my favorite video ❤
very sensible and logical teachings.
Glad you think so! Kind regards, David.
Beautiful lessons! Your videos are to be watched many times ❤️
Glad you like them! Kind regards, David.
Fantastic video and teachings as always. ☯️🙏🏼💜
Thanks Liz! 😊 x
Wonderful ❤
Thank you 😄 Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.
But my only query is even after knowing everything why does accepting it becomes so difficult or takes so long?
Hi Tripti,
Thanks for your question.
As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms.
Acceptance will be resisted by you Inner Child as she will prefer to stick with the familiar, even though it will never work! She will not want to give up the dream/illusion of how she wants things to be. In her perfect world! 😉
So there is still a little more Inner Child work to do here I think...
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Do u have a video on overcoming the past? Like the emotions from mistakes in the past, moving forward ? Mindfulness. Thanks
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@@WuWeiWisdom thank you. :) I'd love to see videos on incorporating these lessons into parenting
As a single parent your videos have already helped me communicate with my son. Keep up the good work !
I loved this video!!!! Thank you
Thank you 😊
Omg I love you two so much❤️ thank you so much for this healing videos ❤️ amazing 🌹
The "would you say that to a child" example doesn't work for me because my parents often did stay some of the things you state when I was a child.
Is there a video for people who discover later in life that they were raised by narcissist parents and how to unravel and heal the negative patterns of perception about oneself?!
What if what you think is 'you shouldn't be looking at someone else because it's disrespectful when you're in a relationship.? Does that still mean you have an IC issue??? Because that's how my thoughts work, they never go to 'she must be better than I'. I get angry because I believe I am being disrespected.....????
Hi.
Can you make a video on how to handle a friend who likes to always talk about other people? Since the pandemic started, she will most of the time just message me to talk badly about other people. I do not know why it has become her habit. I seriously do not like gossiping. I feel so drained when she always message me toxic things. I’m an HSP and empath. People tend to go to me to talk to me because I think they know I am a good listener and their secrets are safe with me. I do not have the habit of talking about what someone told me to other people but for this friend, I am being too exhausted and wanted to know how to deal with this type of person? She has nice side but I think she is very insecure to the point that now I fear maybe she talks badly about me too because she likes to notice everything even if it none of her business. I don’t want to start a problem with her so I try to be still nice and be more understanding. She makes fun of other people. It’s like social media has become an envy amplifier for her. The funny thing is she denies it. She will defensively say that she is not insecure. She is a successful person, has a bf also but she can’t stop being toxic online. Does an insecure person knows she is really insecure?or is she really blind to her savageness? I have always wondered about that with people who always want to criticize other people but never look at themselves first. I truly do not have much time to even think or criticize someone I know especially by what I see on social media because I have other meaningful things to do and we cannot do anything to other people if they want to brag or whatever they want to do, so better not mind them but this friend always want to post passive aggressive posts on FB, indirect messages. It’s like she wants attention. We are not young anymore. We are in our late 20s. I think we are too old to be childish like highschool wanting to gossip always. 😰
Sorry for the long comment, i hope you can make a video about how to handle, talk to a toxic friend who always want to notice everything and everyone even if it is none of her business she puts her nose in it and tells me. She is always annoyed about other people. Even if someone is pretty for example, she will say that person is not pretty, etc. So obviously insecure. I did told her once to try not to mind people who destroy her peace and be more patient with people because I think she gets triggered by posts of others online, she likes to compare then she will say she’s not insecure and she’s happy.
Thank you in advance if you do read this comment and make a video,
Once again, THANK YOU!
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David you are saying in this video that we must believe in, and value ourselves , but if the relationship we have with ourselves isn't a healthy wholesome one, how is that possible? I hear your words which mostly make sense, but they are just words, and somehow we have to connect on an emotional level to be able to achieve what you are teaching. Can you give some practical guidance on how to improve ones relationship with self? I would really appreciate that. Thanks so much
Hi Helen,
Thanks for your question.
Yes, I am saying we must be truthful, honest and have integrity with and for yourself..
Any relationship is the ability to relate, as the name suggests.
If you choose to have an unhealthy unwholesome relationship with yourself, those too are just words.
Why do you choose to connect those words to your emotions and not others?
The basic teaching here is: YOU are the creator of your emotions, NOT the victim of them.
David
I am 55 and I still don’t know what I am good at.
Hi Tessa
Thank you for your comment...
Obviously I have never met you or know your history. Bet I could find something you are amazing at within 60 seconds 😊
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I wonder if Dr Lees understands just how much women lie to themselves and the people around them lol. Try being a man and dating in the USA, women ghost (go silent or just dont show up for set up dates) and lie at such a level "all my boyfriends were bad", you need to the Wu Wei wisdom just to get through your day. Never met a woman who actually, in real life, and not her crazy mind, ever tried to be "perfect". Btw everyone says they are doing the "best they can" but this is rarely, if ever, the case.
I think the people who dislike meant dis I like
Thats me. My father keep abuse me
AWARENESS Of THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS. LET THEM GO THERE OLD BELIEFS. FLIP THEM TO POSITIVE TALK. ADULT TALK I AM TAKING CARE OF MY CHILD. SHE NEEDS HEALING SO MUCH. SHE'S ANGRY AND AFRAID OF CHANGE🙏💖🏴🌈💞
How to deal with people who always be jealous about you?
Thank you
You're welcome. Kind regards, David.
I can see now that my deep dive into evolutionary psychology for about 2 years made me become hyper judgemental and critical of other people’s and my own appearance based on “genetic quality”. I would love to know your opinion on this. Where does this fit in the Wu Wei model? Is there such a thing as genetic superiority? I suppose it is just one part of being a human and doesn’t make up the whole of who you are or your worth?
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What happens when your paetner says i dont find you attractive??
You shout hurrah!!! Why would you want to be with anyone who thinks like that. It sounds as though they have emotional issues. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
societey ...keeps telling us were not good enough!
We can always take self-responsibility for what we think and believe :) - this is true emotional freedom!
Thats me. My father keep abuse me