Dr Darnise's Salon: Black Women Not Doing It Anymore - Letting Other Women Get The Lesson They Need
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I was asked to train my boss. I put in my 2 weeks
Oh dear 😂😂😂 Okay, it's not funny, it really isn't. But these are dire times when sometimes one has to laugh to stave off crying. Your comment is SO real to me. Let Becky, Brad, Daisy Mae & Jethro figure it out.
@@ellasabe6377 Nuh uhhh, not Daisy Mae and Jethro 😂😂😂
@tabbycatcrume YES SIS!
RIGHTFULLY so. The temerity.
@@ellasabe6377Don’t forget Ling Ling and Maria👀
I’m really over it. I’m resting.
Exactly! This is my black job from now on.
I'm minding my own black business from now on!!
My own BW business. I burnt my “cape” on those dudes too:
“One-sided loyalty is for suckas!”
-BB/KsC
I “rock” with who “rocks” with me. Race alone, is not someone’s all-access pass to get to me (my labor, my support, my attention).
THIS!!! ALL of it! 🎯❗️❗️❗️
@@beigenegress2979This! 👏🏽
Please don’t let’s mourn but let’s regroup please sis
They know bm dislike them that's why they come to bw see how bm are turning on France in Africa the French for the white man for the first time sang for a black man and dance😂😂😂 plus white men are scared cause blacks will soon be the majority of world population they hate the black man leading burkina faso black men got them scared and they praying bw will beg black men to spare there economy y'all better not let the west burn it's over when the congo join behind the AES I couldn't hold my laugh seeing white men sang and dance for black men and the French people boo marceon Italy going in on the west and as European leader saying they need to prepare for a advanced Africa and how white men fume cause the black population growing 😂😂 and bm and bw talking about make more people 🍆+🍑.😂oh how the mighty has fallen how has the oppressor ceased 😂
America is as it wants to be. I am reclaiming my time and leaning into my communities.
Rest is resistance.
absolutely
@@DarniseMartinHe who passes by and meddles in a quarrel not his own is like one who takes a dog by the ears. PROVERBS 26:17 Help Your Own PEOPLE That Will Listen! We Are More Than A Color In A Crayon Box! WE ARE ISRAELITES ACCORDING TO THE HOLY SCRIPTURES! PSALM 148:14 & 2CORINTHIANS 11:22 .
@@DarniseMartinWe Must Not Continue To Be Hard-headed, Rebellious, Stiff-Neck, Stubborn, And Wicked!
@@DarniseMartinRepent! ObeyThe Holy One of Yashar'al!
You are one-thousand percent correct. I continue to tell my black sisters that they are not hired you to be trained or taught. They hire you to extract and learn from you. Guard your skills, knowledge, and abilities like the Lord guarded the Tree of Life. Because you are the tree of life. Burn 🔥 those capes!
✌️🔔🔔🔔💜💯
They forget that we survived slavery.
You did not.
You survived it since when? You need mental help.
@@charliecharlie1761Ummm... yes she did. In addition to their pain, her ancestors also passed on to her their grit, courage, and resilience! So she's a survivor! Take notes! You may need her help to get through these times yourself!
@@charliecharlie1761stop you need to be behind black women I’m glad they are finally done trying to save other race. I never did because I realized I am black and they don’t care.
This should be a black people movement
This movement needs a name. I'm a black woman living in Europe and I support. Minding My Black Business (M2B2) or Minding My Own Black Business (MMOBB) is where it's at, and I'm here for it.
Which country do you live
Maybe it doesn’t need a name. Perhaps it should just be an understanding. We don’t need attention. We want peace. If it is named, it will be targeted. Blk people, specifically Blk women need to move in silence.
@@AminaPhilosophyexactly, I agree
🎯❗️So true. The jealousy and envy those people have causes them to do utterly evil things to Blk Women. It’s bad enough to receive harassment and slander simply for being naturally tanned with very feminine/curvy bodies…even WITHOUT owning a business or having much disposable income. They light into our arses when they find out we’re working for ourselves. It’s like Tulsa Oklahoma on an individual level. 😡 💣 🔥 Those people (MOST of them) are truly SICK! ❗️
92DONE Jackie Ellis penned...
My director (a sister too) saw how well I train and educate new/existing hires; I was convinced to apply for an official dept educator position in my field. They gave the position to a ✋🏻person only there 2-3 mo w/out the experience to my yrs. After all the prepping they did to get her to settled in, she abandoned the position before she could start (got cold feet) and stayed w/ her old title.
I refused to train anyone else and left shortly afterwards. I occasionally go out w old colleagues just to hear how the applicant screwed them over so badly.. I just sip my🍷 and stay silent 🤷🏾♀️. Gotta get burned to learn sometimes.
You did right. I don't care what anyone says, that kind of thing is a disrespect and I would have to move on
I burned my cape after the 2016 election. It's good to see more of my sisters joining me.
Please take care of yourselves.
And don't let anyone guilt trip you into feeling otherwise
…walk away when not respected…
Great advice! Black Men this woman is making sense. Walk away Brothers....
@@dman221 They don't need any urging to do that. They run, even their preferences can't depend on them.
@@dranchd6571He came here to take our ideas and get our attention. They are getting more and more strange by the day.
Let us not forget Shirley Chisholm ❤
She was exactly who I thought of 💯💯
White women told us who they were during the suffergette marches. Left us in the dust. Minding my Black business.
Yes, indeed! 😮
I strongly concur with your message! In addition to fighting for this country, we are also taking care of our homes, with little or no support, and that does not even include helping to raise children, grandchildren and ALL the other roles we play in our lifetime. I am a 76 years old black woman who, WITH God’s help, has SINGLE HANDEDLY raised 2 sons without child or emotional support from their dad while on a teacher’s salary. I have helped raise 7 grandchildren, all of whom have lived with me at different times. I taught them Christianity, the Bible, and helped one through undergrad and grad school. I clean my house with little or no spouse support. I make major decisions on things that need to be done around my house. And now, I am Tired, and I am spent! I must do Self Care at this point!
Thank you because I'm done
I think it’s time for Black women to unite and take care of one another because nobody is going to do it. Use this experience as a lesson learned.
@@HawaMcgill-v5v I have already been doing that for Decades 💜
Black women, this black man, Loves, Respect, and support you.
Thanks Sir! Yes, we love and respect you as well.
And we appreciate you!
They can't understand until it hits home. And if they are not black they still will not get it.
Some of us get it, and support _anything_ Black women need and want to do (or not do). You've tried multiple times to save the country and we've done nothing but disrespect and insult you. I'm not saying this to get a cookie, but I want to challenge other White women who might be reading this to stick up for Black people who are getting crap for drawing a line. Call out White women thinking a blue bracelet means anything but a way to identify someone who is not trustworthy. Not that I think we have done anything to earn trust. Hell, _I_ don't trust White women, but I am responsible for us.
I had to overcome bullying, racism and harassment to move laterally into a position requiring less physical labor at the same pay grade. I regularly had to clean up after a woman that didn't feel the need to mention she was on meds until after she tried to make me look bad and failed miserably. I had to do the jobs of multiple people alone because others at my level would either flake and not show up or whine about where they were assigned until middle management got tired of hearing them and sent them somewhere else. I had to deal with people regularly insulting my intelligence and trying to get me in trouble for the mistakes of others after I pointed out those issues so they could be resolved. I had to quit that job, or I would have been harassed and overworked to death.
Exactly who told Black women it was their job to save democracy?
No one "told" anyone. However, in the struggle to get basic rights as Black people we included others to benefit from what ever rights were gained. After doing that for over a hundred years (standing up in the fight for women to vote, standing up for equal pay, for outlawing workplace discrimination, etc.), 71 million people turned their backs on all of those gains and the Constitution and voted for a lying, cheating, immoral, unethical, degenerate who will do whatever he wants to benefit himself and his wealthy cronies.
Black women need to stay single, stop having children, and focus on themselves. Save money. Life will be much simpler.
Hello I feel like these people have been stuck in the twilight zone, because why are y’all just now noticing this.😊
@@dranchd6571that's not the solution for all but ok 😂
I have been resting since 2019. I’m not saving who or what doesn’t “save” me.
Stand down, take a chill pill, and refortify our internal selves. ❤
Kamala bet on women to fight for women's rights. Black women did with voting 92% for Kamala but unfortunately white women didn't learn from 2016 and once again chose their whiteness over country by voting 53% for trump! So don't protest on January 18th! The time to do that was on November 5th with your vote.
Kamala💙
@@yazohgarrison-uw6lv they are the ones who will be violated the most. They Live with the RedRapistVoters 🤷🏿♀️
…I was of the WHOLE 92% that showed up…AGAIN…respond with SILENCE…grab your pearls, put your chucks 👟and rest…peace…
OUR MOVEMENT IS 92DONE
I don't care how bad it gets in the next four years. I will be doing nothing and saying nothing , it's none of my business.
I’m struggling with having hope, but I am going to rest.
I couldn't have said it any better myself! Bravo😅
Sisters, this is not our lesson to learn. My new black job…stay in my lane and mind my business.
Because we all know God will reveal all things,and it will address all people…….
I’ve gotten replaced, twice, by other Black women less experienced and more pliable. And they both even look like me. I know both of them. Here’s the thing, I am not mad at them. They think opportunity is like pie, and they are grabbing for what they think was my slice. However, because the companies found malleable replacements, there is absolutely no incentives to make any changes. The pressure on them to be the “good” one, is enormous and I am not here to cause other Black women more stress.
We’re so done! 👏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
Thank you very much ladies. You did your job. rest up.
Yes the same thing happened to me and I didn't even give two weeks, I gave 2 days. I called in sick for 2 days , I had already moved in those 2 days to another state with another job to start in a week. I could see who was being favored, and I just said to myself when one door closes another one will open up .
❤❤❤
This is the second video that popped up in my feed today, and I may not be welcomed, however I’m trying to understand. I am a 65 year old white woman, have been a Democrat my whole voting life. I loved Obama (still do), love Kamala, and was hoping this would be a new path forward. Since 2016, I have been sick, I have known who he is from the beginning, and never voted for him. Since 2016, I have gotten involved, started working elections, working on educating those around me, and donating. This has been a gut punch, like I lost a family member, have felt like throwing up, screaming, crying. I knew it would be close, however it was devastating to find out there were more, that would elect that disgusting human being. My only solace, was knowing I was not alone, however today, I found out how black women view the white women. Believe me , I feel like I’ve been slapped in the face from everyone that voted for him. I could never fully understand all that you have endured, and I’m sure the fear you feel is a hundred fold , to mine, for that I am truly sorry. I’m sorry that we have let you down. For those of us that believe in democracy, equality and inclusion, what do we need to do? Or will we just always be lumped in with the rest? Thank you for listening and hopefully answering.
I can offer this response: Keep on keeping on. Continue the movement(s) that support democracy. We - Black women - are taking a well earned and well-deserved rest - from our present day experiences and on behalf of our Black women ancestors. We are not against you or anyone, but are now living for ourselves and our families. I’m 67 years old and am happy to be a part of the quietest “quiet quitting” movement.
@@threetreasures7698 thank you
Save your sanity. Step away from politics for a while. Don’t try to save this horrible administration. Your energy may be needed later. Thank you.
Thank you for your comment. we know that there are a Few that feel like you The problem is it's just a few.
@@hippodinoreserve6090 thank you
I so needed to hear this! 💯💯💯💯
Done Done and been Don!!!!
This is so timely. I'm all about taking the energy that we would waste on others, and putting it directly back into each other, our communities, our men, our sons, our daughters. These system controllers play mind games with people so they can suck our energy and use it for their means. Personally, I've had enough of it. My Mother (may she rest in peace) is an example of what Black women should be - laser focused on the well-being of people in our community, and using our resources, financial and otherwise, ONLY for our communities. Start from the center, move outwards - let's live according to that principle.
Reminds me of the movie "The Associate," with Whoopi Goldberg....
I am definitely done....
I taught in South Korea off and on since 2013, including having and raising my six year old son in the meantime. I worked in several different kinds of schools, honing my skill and when I found out that my son was autistic, I was able to use my skills to get a great job in the US at a bilingual school. After two years of juggling doctor's appointments, creating an ESL hybrid course from scratch and dealing with a partner in autistic burnout, I was let go, along with my entire English department. It wasn't personal*, but it also proved to me in March that this country will never value me the way I've always valued myself. A decade overseas just made me forget.
This election result was devastating to me in a way I was not prepared for. I avoided the news in the morning through getting my son on the bus and it was only accidentally that I saw a news headline on the subway~ and I immediately burst into tears. Then I was mad at myself for being so surprised.
Exactly 💯
My Beautiful Black Queens. You Are Loved , Admired, Respected and Needed by BLACK MEN.
The election results was a wake up call for Black People. No One Can Save Us…For Us….BUT US
THE BIGGEST THREAT TO RACISM IS BLACK UNITY AND MUTUAL INTEREST
THANK GOD FOR BLACK WOMEN
🙏🏾💯❤️🌍👑❤️💯🙏🏾
Can't tell we are needed by Black men, actions prove otherwise my brother, like this election! The VILENESS coming from " BLACK MEN". Black men for trump smdh! WTF is wrong with y'all?
They absolutely do. The narrative is all jacked up. If You're strong=difficult, if you're outspoken=aggressive, if you're wanting respect= demanding, if you know your worth= arrogant and the list goes on. They demean and devaule y'all every chance they get. One day, people will figure out it's much better to support each other so we don't act like crabs in a bucket.
Well said Dr Darnise! I'm in my old lady Rest Era forever!🥱
Well Spoken and Continued Success 🌄
Amen. Every word of this. Every man for himself. After watching this video I subscribed ✅✅
I continue, as I have for most of my 50+ years, to be disappointed in the majority of my fellow w women. It is almost no consolation, but begs saying in the spirit of accuracy, that Vice President Harris narrowed the gap more than any other candidate against the orange menace. But still, MAGA w women don't deserve anymore chances or anymore help. I don't even want to help them. I'd rather hang out with human beings who love their country and their species.
I 100% stand in agreement. Amen. I retired the cape years ago.
I’m ready to leave the US-
I can see why!
BRICS will make leaving more ideal. The US empire is falling. Once Blk Women exodus, the whites will be left to deal with the Hispanics. It’s going to be a blood bath. We need to get out of here.
Agreed 👍!!!!
US for TOTAL PEACE L LOVE JOY OURSELVES Find that place individually or with others. Too long we've been overlooked time overdue for us to rest ❤
💚💚💚 Thank you so much!
A G R E E 👊🏾🤞🏾👍🏾🙌🏾💯❣️‼️❣️‼️❣️💗☑️
Thanks for watching
Not me - not any more!!
Will swirling discontinue after yet another compounded slap in the face - hopefully keep to ourselves & communities means keeping our melanin pure 🙏🏾
I am not black. This is what I see about bw. The civil rights movement in the US was borne mostly on the backs of bw. If we consider the fissures between the King and X camps, the major opposition was who should be on the front lines. King thought that it would be a more sympathetic sight to see women and children being hit with water cannons rather than men, and so he encouraged them to put themselves into harm's way. X was opposed to this and only wanted the men to be on the front lines. We all know that King's methods were more used and bw were the main ones to pay the price. But did they benefit? I was there (as a child) and I can tell you that they did not benefit. Rather, the new laws benefited people with lighter skin who were not considered yt and had been excluded from yt society: Poles, Irish, Scottish, Slavs. There was so much backlash against Kennedy for presidential nominee because the party didn't know if anyone would vote for an Irish. We're talking about someone born in the US, pale skin, and born into wealth. But today, pretty much everyone who has fair skin is accepted as yt. That is all due to the civil rights movement. Therefore i think it is safe to say that yt people who were non- Anglo Saxon benefited from the movement much more than bw. So I agree and support all bw who decide to sit it out. Let others solve their own problems.
@RasheedahNizam We Are Obeying The Most High! All Praises To The Most High!
I hope your channel blows up!❤🎉💪🏿🙏🏿😃
Not ever training my replacement ever again. Minding my Black business
It should be illegal for them to ask that
Absolutely I stopped trying to save the world and this country….so done 👎🏽❤
Rest but regroup were always affected more profoundly than any group we can’t stop the press for better
The 2nd Drump administration will be much more cruel than the 1st, & black women will be vindicated. Just be patient. Stay safe. Protect you and your loved ones.
Vindicated of what?
Love on yourself and your community and stop putting trust in the rest.
You are not wrong.
YAY! 😊😊😊
In my place, not giving a damn 😊❤
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@00:30 I mean, they voted FOR THIS in opposition to compassion, humanity, and general decency. They want it; they got it. #BustAMove!
What specific legislation have Black women gotten from all their support?
Black women always should and should have been focused on the black man and the black family, stop following behind white women and talking about saving the country, save your community first.
We have to respect the will of the voters. I hope the voters respect 4B, 5B, and 6B. I’m out.
The issue is not hope, but finally admitting that the myth of "The Good White Man/Woman" is a LIE!
We need to focus on our families and happiness 1st. Be in the world, but not of this world. B1
Stop spending your money on the unnecessary stuff.
Respectfully sis, I’m not minding my business we need to deepen our coalition. I am black. F around and find out would be great if democracy crumbling doesn’t or wouldn’t affect us but it will affect us all!!!! Stop this kind of content smh! Teach your kids the truth speak up and continue to fight don’t back off or down because of disappointment hurt frustration and apathy please! Come at me all you want but think about what I’m saying. Activate don’t stand down stand up! I have had the workplace crap happen to me as well as racism all of it I could write a darn book and yes I’m heartbroken too but checking out will not help us or our kids!
I don’t understand why so many black women are taking this election personally. I think it’s wonderful that more women want to focus more on themselves. I have no idea why this election or democracy has anything to do with that. Outside of doing what you needed to do for yourself and your family. What have you been doing all this time you’ve been alive?
Exactly👏👏👏
I explain in the video. Many of us show up on our jobs way over qualified and get left behind, overlooked, in favor of a less qualified somebody who gets ahead. Typically, it's someone's white. This is a generations old scenario that many of us recognize in her situation. She couldn't be more qualified. In addition, we showed up at 92% because we understand the political and social ramifications of that man's presidency. It is not designed to benefit us or our communities. W women voted for him at nearly 70%. They voted race over gender so they showed their real allegiance. Go ask them why they did that to the detriment of other women.
They are mad kamala didn't win. what's crazy is blk women don't see kamala as a leech to blk women. I knew whites would not vote for her. Her mother more than likely told her to join the aka to get ahead. Immigrants listen to us & copy our story for benefits. We've always been used. Obama won with swag & ppl said not again. He sealed the trump win. The hate crimes escalated under Obama, who said nothing. Renisha Mcbride, trayvon, Mike,Tamir rice, Sandra, philando .. kamala had a blk woman jailed for truancy of a real blk girl with sickle cell. Blk women can be hateful of fellow blk women as well. Tired but don't stemroll one another.
Beloved, if you don't understand now, then you will never understand ❤
@@DarniseMartin, I understand the points you made in the video. Yes, Black women often get looked over on their jobs. It's their system. Until we build, control, and own industries, we will continue depending on their system. It will take generations, so we need to start now. Black men and Black women must focus on building our community. Black women have been told to go against Black men and vice versa. Where has it gotten us? Being united protects us from whoever is in office. Collectively, White people prioritize wealth, power, and control. They will ally with their men and continue building together, creating generational wealth. I don't understand why Black women thought otherwise. The Democratic Party should have been more responsive to the needs of the people and chose a stronger candidate.
are you kidding me ? who told you that you had power to start with?
Black women need to be reminded they "INHERITED" Civil Rights & Women's Rights. Protect them or continue to lose them!
Unite interracially in Solidarity...
Slavery was abolished...we are NOT doing the work for the benefit of other people and at our cost NO MORE!!!!Rest black sister...REST!!!!!!!!!
Sorry guys, but one thing - Kamala Harris is not a Black woman. Politics aside, she was playing us too, using the "cloak of Blackness" so we felt compelled to tie ourselves to her cause, then she could extract our energy. She is of Jewish, Irish, and Hindu descent. Her mother is an Iyer Brahmin caste woman from Southern India. Brahmins are not invested in raising "strong Black women". We HAVE to get over this false notion of her being Black - sorry.
@kathym8453 are you going to deny her father then?? America has a thing called the one drop rule, a little bit black = black! Also, we do not need to be in the business of policing racial purity. Guess who does that -- White supremacists! Apartheid, nazis, those people. Why would we engage in that when most black people in the "new world" are mixed to one degree or another. Who is pure? She's black. White Americans made that rule a long time ago.
Why are you calling Kamala a black woman?
We've always had folks in our community with 1 black parent, and we call them black. America's 1 drop rule means just that, 1 drop, and you're black. It doesn't ever benefit us to do racial purity tests. That's a nazi game. We're all mixed in America anyway.
I agree she’s biracial not black. You can vote for Kamala without one dropping her into the race. I can’t stand Trump but I cackled when he said she suddenly became black when it suited her. that’s the truth about biracials.
Why would any Black person need to ask the question you're asking?! You act as if you've never heard of JIM CROW'S ONE DROP RULE?! HER FATHER IS BLACK!
What Darnise Martin said: if you’re part black you’re considered black. Obama’s mother was white. He was raised by the white side of his family, but he’s considered black.
Obama’s mother is white and he was raised solely by the white side of his family - but he’s considered black. If you’re part black, you’re considered black.
These videos from all these bitter black women are really ridiculous. These women are late to the party already. If you thought your actions were about saving America, you should have realized that the most important actions you can take start at home with your own family, your partnership, your children. When you and your family go out into the world and do well and live well, that’s your most important contribution. The rest is icing on the cake.
America is not going to miss your participation, so get over it! If you deserve more, then go get it or make it for yourself! And please stop flagellating yourselves over this election, or at least do it in private! This is unbecoming.
Black women are delusional feminist. They want power as women and not empowerment for Black people.
@paja7647 Yes We Are More Than A Color In A Crayon Box! We Are ISRAELITE WOMEN! Our People Backs, BLOOD, Sweat, Tears, And Soul Built Up This Country! Also Our Prayers Helped! However, Our Prayers Will Be A Lot Different! Do Not Ever Underestimate The Contributions of Black Women Who Are Indeed The ISRAELITE WOMEN Of The Holy Scriptures! READ PSALM 148:14 AND 2 CORINTHIANS 11:22!
..... Well ........ Bye ......
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We have been here before and We are more than overcomers! This is not Our lesson to learn.
If you've "been here before", yet it's "not your lesson to learn"...perhaps this deja vu keeps confirming that y'all never really learned anything. ..Perhaps b'cuz y'all spend too much time patting yourselves on the back for being some other group's pawn (again).
#shirleychisholm. 1st black woman to be elected to Congress and the 1st black woman to be a presidential candidate for a major party!
@@ConsumerofExperiencesPROVERBS 26:17 AND PROVERBS 27:17 ....
Feels like we are mourning ❤️🩹
Everyone is mourning. Because Trump and his cohorts will ruin the poor and middle class. Immigrants are not the problem. Oligarchs are.
We are.
@Stephthencourager It Took This Event So That We Would Truly Learn As Israelites To Obey The Most High of The Holy Scriptures! PSALM 133:1 & PSALM 148:14 & 2 CORINTHIANS 11:22
For the people in the BACK OF the short BUS 😐 ... the majority of FBA MEN & WOMEN didn't VOTE for KUMALA 😵💫 because they understood that they would be voting against their own self-interest!!!
FBAS aren't ignorant WE can distinguish COSPLAYING DOPPELGANGER 🦝 TETHERS from our LINEAGE 🤨!!!.
Please 🥺 STOP referring to yourselves as FBAS 🤔....a piece of paper will NEVER make you a part of the FBA LINEAGE 😑!!!
All caps person. Settle down. I have no idea what you're trying to say.
@@lynnewilliams3241no idea.
Straight up GIBBERISH!