24:36 good point -- on looking for truth and accepting it, without having to "like it" per se. Reality stares you in the face, AND YOU DEAL WITH IT, in the name of truth, not political ideology, wishful thinking, etc.
You should witness it in cantankerous late summer bison. From a distance. With that short-term mater,it's anticipatory, which should assist us in exiting the delusion of human "exceptionalism." EVERY trait visible or signaled by humans is paralleled by, or homologous with/from, traits of numerous other animals.
Mate poaching! You’ve got to trademark that! Absolutely brilliant work, one of your new biggest fans! I’m sure you get a lot of hatred with people that can not quite accept the outcomes of your research. So much of what you say I’ve observed in my life but not had the lexicon to put it all together. I thought I was highly Sexist, because of these observations…
Dark triads in academia...boy do I know about that. From deans and presidents males using their power to attract female students, graduate students. The Dean of the school at university was sleeping with a grad student.When that became well known the male faculty felt emboldened to approach female grad students. I was approached in elevators, in the library, many times by different male faculty when that affair became well known. I was married wearing an engagement and wedding ring.Before that affair was known, I hadnt been approached the year before. It was like tacit approval by the dean "okay guys, the hunt is on" the late 70s. both undergrad and grad years male faculty felt perfectly comfortable approaching young women.I started college at 21 in 1970 as did several of my friends...our age group,.early 20s, rather than the 18 yr olds, seemed to be approached most.
do humans learn tactics of attracting their preferred sexual partner like they learn to survive in different situations?....if yes, then why the fuck was i never able to learn flirting skills or ability to get intimate with someone?
It's the most difficult game and we're not all born equal. Equality is unnatural, as un-p.c. as that strikes certain people today. Answer me this, why is it some radical feminists date the weak "yes men" you'd expect, but why is it actually the case that a striking number of these seemingly domineering women prefer to mate with men who blow right past all the rhetoric and just have the confidence to take control of the relationship dynamic and lead because they inherently know human nature is more powerful than ideology? It's complicated and the words people say rarely express their true beliefs or senses of self, rather it's much more common that people overcompensate for where they are weak. Any human sees the benefits of the evolutionary strategy the blowfish employs, but a large predator might completely see right through the blow fishes evolutionary bluff and the predator gets what they want: a satisfying, but not so full belly of blowfish.
Yes humans do learn attraction techniques.Really understanding the general qualities the opposite sex likes is key. In the 50s in mainstream American culture women returned to traditional roles after working in factories during WWII. Most WANTED to....some didnt. The emphasis was on homemaking skills. Men in such marriages were expected to be the SOLE financial support of the family, as they still are in some traditional cultures. Under such conditions, the evolutionary factor of finding a male of the highest status and earning potential to better support a totally dependent family was even more important than it is in current western economies, where women work and have careers.Women under those conditions were and are more willing to tolerate more male bonding activites in their spouses...sports sharing with other men etc The expectations of the male are somewhat different and depend on the culture. Today after feminism has come to permeate western developed countries, women are less tolerant of absences of men for male bonding activities...hunting, fishing, sport together in all male groups away from the family. This is only ONE difference in the way the genders adapt to culture. So expectations vary over time and by culture. Western men today often feel caught between the two cultures...the older male bonding one where the wife and family demand LESS than total attention allowing for more male activites on weekends etc. Women often now ACTIVELY campaign against male bonding activities such as hunting, fishing, and sports, sometimes on moral grounds...many women in urban areas today will openly say they would never date a man who hunts or watches sports...or participates in male bonding team sports.They say they want tender men open to lots of discussions about feelings, which some men have difficulty with. Men today say they are expected to be ALL things to a woman and often they are right and some of these roles are actually most attuned to opposite poles on the Big Five personality factors, so no wonder men often feel they just cannot measure up to a womans expectations. THIS is perhaps what you are expressing. You need to define the type of woman YOU want first. Then ask yourself does a man like me ATTRACT a woman like that. These need to be congruent...if you are a man who hates long emotion based discussions then you dont WANT those skills or activities so you would have a tough time fighting your own personality and personality does not change dramatically over time.The best strategy is determing what YOU are, then analysing the kind of woman attracted to THAT type of man, then looking for HER. She is out there. For example, I am high in openness, high in conscientiousness, moderately low in extroversion, moderately high in agreeableness, and low in neuroticism. I am highly logical NOT highly emotional or brittle emotioanally ie I am low in neuroticism...similar to men. I get along well with many men ...colleagues, my mate, male family members...often BETTER than with women, who often seem too emotional even to .e , a psychologist. I am very rational and excellent at analysing human problems. My mate has very similar characteristics. Yet he too has trouble verbalizing as well I as I do, what we each want. Many times I am left to guess at what he mens when he speaks..he is an avid reader with high tested verbal ability ie reading ability, but EXPRESSING himself in words does not come easy to him. Men generally dont want to discuss emotional topics as much as women do. I keep this in mind in our relationship. A BIG difference between men and women is that women often NEED to verbalize problems and issues with a mate...they DONT expect or even want, a mate to solve those problems eg problems in their work life, but expressing their frustrations with their day with their family or friends helps THEM de stress.. "Venting" helps with de-stressing in women more than in men. Men want to jump in and SOLVE these problems but that is not their role when they are not part of those.problems and those problems may actually be unsolveable. So keep that in mind with women. You DONT have to nor SHOULD you let a woman go on for hours expressing their issues and problems. You can agree to talk for maybe a half hour , an agreed upon time limit, about some issue and then say...okay lets spend a day or two thinking about what you said. I hope this helps some...let me know. Sybil Francis PhD clinical.psychologist professor
@@latinaalma1947 still... Even today in western societies, well off women or middle class independent women still focus on men having better salaries. Not even equal, it has to top their income, still, today in the feminist era.
That's the alien DNA part. There is continuity between species but the reason humans are so much more successful than all species Is because we are a product of accelerated evolution by aliens.
Old Soul I believe the term "Co-evolution" is an apt descriptor of the evolutionary phenomena that results from one sex's preferences and desires that may be unfavourable to another sex. "Co", according to many English Language dictionaries, refers to--"jointly, mutually occurring". Hence, one sex's mating strategies forces another sex to evolve in a particular manner as a consequence of that selection pressure. Hence, Co-evolution.
24:36 good point -- on looking for truth and accepting it, without having to "like it" per se. Reality stares you in the face, AND YOU DEAL WITH IT, in the name of truth, not political ideology, wishful thinking, etc.
Two of the great scientists who I really respect are together! Wonderful!
Prakhar Gupta OP
54:26
Mate guarding. I've heard that term before when reading about SoapBerry Bugs
You should witness it in cantankerous late summer bison. From a distance. With that short-term mater,it's anticipatory, which should assist us in exiting the delusion of human "exceptionalism."
EVERY trait visible or signaled by humans is paralleled by, or homologous with/from, traits of numerous other animals.
Mate poaching! You’ve got to trademark that!
Absolutely brilliant work, one of your new biggest fans! I’m sure you get a lot of hatred with people that can not quite accept the outcomes of your research. So much of what you say I’ve observed in my life but not had the lexicon to put it all together. I thought I was highly Sexist, because of these observations…
Agreed except for the sexist part... my intuition said otherwise.
Prakhar bhaiya ke professor op
hello sir. good moring.
David and Scott together 🔥 This is a legit value bomb 💯
Dark triads in academia...boy do I know about that. From deans and presidents males using their power to attract female students, graduate students. The Dean of the school at university was sleeping with a grad student.When that became well known the male faculty felt emboldened to approach female grad students. I was approached in elevators, in the library, many times by different male faculty when that affair became well known. I was married wearing an engagement and wedding ring.Before that affair was known, I hadnt been approached the year before. It was like tacit approval by the dean "okay guys, the hunt is on" the late 70s. both undergrad and grad years male faculty felt perfectly comfortable approaching young women.I started college at 21 in 1970 as did several of my friends...our age group,.early 20s, rather than the 18 yr olds, seemed to be approached most.
I didn’t expect to learn as much as I did from this one. Thank you.
12:00 names
I just got his newest textbook! 📖
do humans learn tactics of attracting their preferred sexual partner like they learn to survive in different situations?....if yes, then why the fuck was i never able to learn flirting skills or ability to get intimate with someone?
It's the most difficult game and we're not all born equal. Equality is unnatural, as un-p.c. as that strikes certain people today. Answer me this, why is it some radical feminists date the weak "yes men" you'd expect, but why is it actually the case that a striking number of these seemingly domineering women prefer to mate with men who blow right past all the rhetoric and just have the confidence to take control of the relationship dynamic and lead because they inherently know human nature is more powerful than ideology? It's complicated and the words people say rarely express their true beliefs or senses of self, rather it's much more common that people overcompensate for where they are weak. Any human sees the benefits of the evolutionary strategy the blowfish employs, but a large predator might completely see right through the blow fishes evolutionary bluff and the predator gets what they want: a satisfying, but not so full belly of blowfish.
Yes humans do learn attraction techniques.Really understanding the general qualities the opposite sex likes is key. In the 50s in mainstream American culture women returned to traditional roles after working in factories during WWII. Most WANTED to....some didnt. The emphasis was on homemaking skills. Men in such marriages were expected to be the SOLE financial support of the family, as they still are in some traditional cultures. Under such conditions, the evolutionary factor of finding a male of the highest status and earning potential to better support a totally dependent family was even more important than it is in current western economies, where women work and have careers.Women under those conditions were and are more willing to tolerate more male bonding activites in their spouses...sports sharing with other men etc The expectations of the male are somewhat different and depend on the culture.
Today after feminism has come to permeate western developed countries, women are less tolerant of absences of men for male bonding activities...hunting, fishing, sport together in all male groups away from the family. This is only ONE difference in the way the genders adapt to culture.
So expectations vary over time and by culture. Western men today often feel caught between the two cultures...the older male bonding one where the wife and family demand LESS than total attention allowing for more male activites on weekends etc. Women often now ACTIVELY campaign against male bonding activities such as hunting, fishing, and sports, sometimes on moral grounds...many women in urban areas today will openly say they would never date a man who hunts or watches sports...or participates in male bonding team sports.They say they want tender men open to lots of discussions about feelings, which some men have difficulty with. Men today say they are expected to be ALL things to a woman and often they are right and some of these roles are actually most attuned to opposite poles on the Big Five personality factors, so no wonder men often feel they just cannot measure up to a womans expectations. THIS is perhaps what you are expressing.
You need to define the type of woman YOU want first. Then ask yourself does a man like me ATTRACT a woman like that. These need to be congruent...if you are a man who hates long emotion based discussions then you dont WANT those skills or activities so you would have a tough time fighting your own personality and personality does not change dramatically over time.The best strategy is determing what YOU are, then analysing the kind of woman attracted to THAT type of man, then looking for HER. She is out there.
For example, I am high in openness, high in conscientiousness, moderately low in extroversion, moderately high in agreeableness, and low in neuroticism. I am highly logical NOT highly emotional or brittle emotioanally ie I am low in neuroticism...similar to men. I get along well with many men ...colleagues, my mate, male family members...often BETTER than with women, who often seem too emotional even to .e , a psychologist. I am very rational and excellent at analysing human problems.
My mate has very similar characteristics. Yet he too has trouble verbalizing as well I as I do, what we each want. Many times I am left to guess at what he mens when he speaks..he is an avid reader with high tested verbal ability ie reading ability, but EXPRESSING himself in words does not come easy to him. Men generally dont want to discuss emotional topics as much as women do. I keep this in mind in our relationship. A BIG difference between men and women is that women often NEED to verbalize problems and issues with a mate...they DONT expect or even want, a mate to solve those problems eg problems in their work life, but expressing their frustrations with their day with their family or friends helps THEM de stress.. "Venting" helps with de-stressing in women more than in men. Men want to jump in and SOLVE these problems but that is not their role when they are not part of those.problems and those problems may actually be unsolveable. So keep that in mind with women.
You DONT have to nor SHOULD you let a woman go on for hours expressing their issues and problems. You can agree to talk for maybe a half hour , an agreed upon time limit, about some issue and then say...okay lets spend
a day or two thinking about what you said.
I hope this helps some...let me know.
Sybil Francis PhD clinical.psychologist professor
@@latinaalma1947 its amazing how you were able to answer all my problems without even knowing me......thanks a lot doctor
@@_Sam_-zh7sw You are most welcome...wishing you ALL the best life has to offer.
@@latinaalma1947 still... Even today in western societies, well off women or middle class independent women still focus on men having better salaries. Not even equal, it has to top their income, still, today in the feminist era.
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Magic
I wonder what the survival or reproductive benefit of the near death experience is?
That's the alien DNA part. There is continuity between species but the reason humans are so much more successful than all species Is because we are a product of accelerated evolution by aliens.
Bit abrutish ending
"Co-evolution" is completely the wrong term for males and females of the same species. It's the same DNA, it's just plain old basic evolution.
Old Soul
I believe the term "Co-evolution" is an apt descriptor of the evolutionary phenomena that results from one sex's preferences and desires that may be unfavourable to another sex. "Co", according to many English Language dictionaries, refers to--"jointly, mutually occurring". Hence, one sex's mating strategies forces another sex to evolve in a particular manner as a consequence of that selection pressure. Hence, Co-evolution.
@@ayushbaral8269 translating... If men were all transparent and nice guys, a really tiny amount of them would have sex.
no stuff for redpill-males😒