It is true that people who are narcissistic have unreasonable standards. The narcissist manipulates a person through playing the victim, lying and doing mischief that borders on worse while planting toxic shame and diminished self-esteem and low self-worth in the people whom they are exploiting through then severe emotional abuse and sometimes through physical abuse too. It is a kind of slave owner mindset.
"learned helplessness" is the term Sam Vaknin calls this. He would say it was the "learned helplesness" that forced one to put up with a$$#0!3$ in the first place let alone healing from it.
I haven't watched the video yet, whatever this video has, I'm glad I broke free from Narcissism and my mother's intentions on me (trying to turn me into a narcissist like her)
They are restless, so they don't do anything consistently enough to excel at it. However, they know a little about a lot of things, which is enough to impress you at a surface level.
They are restless because they were not offered a restful place by their parents in childhood for theor pain and emotions to be centered nor they got that restful space from their love-demanding new partners either... They attarct partners who sense possible fatherly-love from the narc (which narcs can supply here and then for they know the love they did not get) instead of seeing the painful condition they are in and risk offering them a safe restful space. We might be a better off narcissist compared to the one he mentions in the video. We must be grateful to not be that kind of narc. Wonder if we were that narc how hard it might be right but lucky us.
People traumatized are restless too. I've been fighting/ flight most of my life. Healing is hard when you are a target constantly. No contact/ no relationship for 6 years but I'm being threatened and harassed by psychopath neighbors and they are raising psychopath children. Yes. It is demonic and they been chasing me for 57 years.
Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
I feel your pain. I had almost the exact same experience. We weren't married or living together but he strung me along with those promises. When he would come over, he would complain of being tired and he just couldn't do anything. He always turned away from me to sleep, feigning an injured shoulder that he couldn't sleep on and it was the shoulder that he would be lying on if had to face me. He told me that s3x woke him up instead of making him sleepy like 99% of the population. I always thought that was weird. He would only hug me with one arm and when I complained he'd put the other arm around me, but only half way and then move away after a few seconds. He never kissed me properly. And when I would start physical stuff with him, he lay there stiff as a board, completely terrified, holding his breath and he would inevitably experience extreme ED. He either couldn't get hard at all, or he would get semi hard and then it would disappear almost immediately. It always baffled me why he was this way when I'd never had issues with men finding me attractive in the past and he managed to have 3 children with his ex wife. I didn't find out until recently that a decade ago when we were together, he was cheating on me with women half his age. That explained the date nights that he constantly had to disappear from to deal with "stuff at home" and him never wanting me in bed. I'm friends with his ex wife now and she told me so many things about what he's really like and it explains pretty much everything. She told me he cheated on her a month into their marriage and she walked in on him face down in her female cousin's crotch. When she confronted him, he blamed her for driving him to it. There were other horror stories about him and she even experienced a miscarriage which she still cries about 20-odd years later. He never grieved with her, in fact, he just kept running around with other women, leaving her to deal with the grief and loss and the health issues she had after it all. And the worst part is, she told me that I got the worst of him. 😮😮😮☹☹☹😳😳😳
I should've married you!! I'm in same situation as you except not married but it's hard for me to leave, tied up finances, small child. I'm highly sexual and it never happens at home. Twice last year and twice this year. I'm seeking that outside of the relationship now. Just being honest. I don't feel like I'm in the relationship with the narc anymore
Stay strong! You never deserved any of their negligence. Take care of yourself and realize you are the strong one here!! You will gain more mental clarity as days go by. Attach to your happiness, let go of the pain. Try dark chocolate, Sunshine and exercise to stay strong and happy!!
These people hire THE best storytellers. 😂 That said, if there was any modicum of truth to the female that was featured in the story, cheers to her! 😅🎉
So if they begin to think they are the narcissist and suffers thinking about being the worst person in the universe with his mind torturing him with heart ache that he deserve hell compared to "all good" others then he/they must be not a narcissist?
Hi Danish. Why do narcissists always want to argue & always choose the negative behaviors & situations over positive? Peace ✌️, love, Miss Janine💯🌴🧸🫶⌚️
Can I ask....what if you see that your child has a narcissistic trait? How do you make sure they don't turn up like their dad?!😢 I feel my daughter is like that. So I am so lost.
Gracias, cuando estás perdido en el torbellino de la maldad narcisista sientes perder el piso y todo a tu alrededor es un caos te aferras a la cuerda dorada del amor a Dios y ruegas con toda tu alma. Gracias por recordarnos que gozamos de ese vínculo con nuestro Creador. He esperado justicia 42 años, ya no importa ese tiempo perdido porque ahora se que encontraré la paz anhelada en Dios. Bendiciones
You just explain my husband soon to be ex husband. I made a big mistake by talking to him again and now he is starting to act a fool again and driving me crazy. I don't know what to do now because he just keeps pushing and I'm loosing my mind and I just want it to stop for good. Please pray for me.
Narcissists’ overdeveloped sense of smell is because they are animalistic and this do not have complex brains like humans. Yet they are human in that animals are rarely diabolical.
They are often deeply calculating and aware of how to manipulate human emotions, making them far more complex than animals. It’s their combination of impulse and calculation that can make them so dangerous.
This is crazy. The narc in my life always had an insane sense of smell. COVID lessened that, but it's still pretty decent. Crazy how similar narc's are.
"Highly incompitent"!!🤭 Yes i agree very much.!!😶🌫️ I can think of MUCH more than📼5📝 reasons.📸, "you know" Really nice MESSAGE thou, that everyone soon will know. Mr.Bashir. THANKS 👍 Keep keep Keep keep on blasting the TRUTH 🐬👔👮
I see so many people in the comments expressing deep pain and struggles. As someone who has fully healed-thank God-I urge you to seek help from a coach or mentor. The sooner you reach out, the faster you can heal, and they can guide you through the process more effectively. I currently offer coaching programs and have created a resource that can help support your journey. It doesn`t have to be me but please, find someone to help you. It took me 10 years to heal from trauma, and I know I could have healed faster with the right guidance. God bless you all on your healing journey!
10:31 🤔 may i please add that if a third party were to become present -- say, a child comes home from school? -- the tone changes, so that in front of the new person, your Narcspouse may become a thespian! 🎬🎭
He might be indirectly guilt-tripping people who are crippled by trauma and end up as social losers while narcs are having fun and great social success.
Just remember Danish. Saul before he became Paul was a Narcissist. A lot of these gang bangers were Narcissists. Jesus does the impossible when we give our lives to him.
He is channeling his narcissism into an activity that is worth serving for him such as being a leader and protecting the nation rather than torture himself by calling himself a narcissist 24 hours or marrry and make kids knowing the reality--he channeled it as he saw his helplesness in now going back and receiving proper love and nurture in childhood.. He shows love to his own narcissistic-tendencies rather than pretend
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 you are talking about danish or modi? Who is this He? If he is modi than an empath cant cause a massacre of gujraat. Like hitler cant be an empath And like netanyahu cant be an empath And if He you are referring to modi G mahaan than go and check his interviews in one of his interviews THE GREAT MODI G EVEN CONFESS THAT HE IS NOT EVEN A BIOLOGICAL HUMAN BEING. THIS IS CALLED GOD COMPLEX,SUPERIORITY COMPLEX AND NARCISSTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER.
"They try to find an external solution to an internal problem". That is an excellent short answer explanation. It really says it all.
and they end up succesful externally
100 thumbs up 👍
Wow , very bright , clear explanation and it is all true .
They are probably the most inauthentic entity that i know. They even copy their own kids' interests and attitudes without any shame. So stupid
They get supply from their kids co workers and friends and will even sleep with family members. They are twisted with zero boundaries
It is true that people who are narcissistic have unreasonable standards. The narcissist manipulates a person through playing the victim, lying and doing mischief that borders on worse while planting toxic shame and diminished self-esteem and low self-worth in the people whom they are exploiting through then severe emotional abuse and sometimes through physical abuse too. It is a kind of slave owner mindset.
Exactly right
@francesbernard2445, Yes this is true. Thank you.
Healing after herendous abuse is a problem... especially when literally your all alone in the world...
You are not alone....many of us are in the same space
You are not alone. Many are in the same boat. May God heal us all..!! ❤
"learned helplessness" is the term Sam Vaknin calls this. He would say it was the "learned helplesness" that forced one to put up with a$$#0!3$ in the first place let alone healing from it.
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 ...yes thankyou..you are so right..i follow the professor sometimes..i hope i can find this lecture..🌹
I haven't watched the video yet, whatever this video has, I'm glad I broke free from Narcissism and my mother's intentions on me (trying to turn me into a narcissist like her)
Very accurate description! Thank you 💙
They are restless, so they don't do anything consistently enough to excel at it. However, they know a little about a lot of things, which is enough to impress you at a surface level.
Precisely correct!
They are restless because they were not offered a restful place by their parents in childhood for theor pain and emotions to be centered nor they got that restful space from their love-demanding new partners either... They attarct partners who sense possible fatherly-love from the narc (which narcs can supply here and then for they know the love they did not get) instead of seeing the painful condition they are in and risk offering them a safe restful space. We might be a better off narcissist compared to the one he mentions in the video. We must be grateful to not be that kind of narc. Wonder if we were that narc how hard it might be right but lucky us.
People traumatized are restless too. I've been fighting/ flight most of my life. Healing is hard when you are a target constantly. No contact/ no relationship for 6 years but I'm being threatened and harassed by psychopath neighbors and they are raising psychopath children. Yes. It is demonic and they been chasing me for 57 years.
100 thumbs up 👍
This is all so true thank you.
Danish, thank you.
Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...
Gimme a call.hehe
I feel your pain. I had almost the exact same experience. We weren't married or living together but he strung me along with those promises. When he would come over, he would complain of being tired and he just couldn't do anything. He always turned away from me to sleep, feigning an injured shoulder that he couldn't sleep on and it was the shoulder that he would be lying on if had to face me. He told me that s3x woke him up instead of making him sleepy like 99% of the population. I always thought that was weird. He would only hug me with one arm and when I complained he'd put the other arm around me, but only half way and then move away after a few seconds. He never kissed me properly. And when I would start physical stuff with him, he lay there stiff as a board, completely terrified, holding his breath and he would inevitably experience extreme ED. He either couldn't get hard at all, or he would get semi hard and then it would disappear almost immediately.
It always baffled me why he was this way when I'd never had issues with men finding me attractive in the past and he managed to have 3 children with his ex wife. I didn't find out until recently that a decade ago when we were together, he was cheating on me with women half his age. That explained the date nights that he constantly had to disappear from to deal with "stuff at home" and him never wanting me in bed. I'm friends with his ex wife now and she told me so many things about what he's really like and it explains pretty much everything. She told me he cheated on her a month into their marriage and she walked in on him face down in her female cousin's crotch. When she confronted him, he blamed her for driving him to it. There were other horror stories about him and she even experienced a miscarriage which she still cries about 20-odd years later. He never grieved with her, in fact, he just kept running around with other women, leaving her to deal with the grief and loss and the health issues she had after it all.
And the worst part is, she told me that I got the worst of him. 😮😮😮☹☹☹😳😳😳
I should've married you!! I'm in same situation as you except not married but it's hard for me to leave, tied up finances, small child. I'm highly sexual and it never happens at home. Twice last year and twice this year. I'm seeking that outside of the relationship now. Just being honest. I don't feel like I'm in the relationship with the narc anymore
Stay strong! You never deserved any of their negligence. Take care of yourself and realize you are the strong one here!! You will gain more mental clarity as days go by. Attach to your happiness, let go of the pain. Try dark chocolate, Sunshine and exercise to stay strong and happy!!
These people hire THE best storytellers. 😂
That said, if there was any modicum of truth to the female that was featured in the story, cheers to her! 😅🎉
Crazy thing in that is.. you start to think you are narcicist and they are okey.
So if they begin to think they are the narcissist and suffers thinking about being the worst person in the universe with his mind torturing him with heart ache that he deserve hell compared to "all good" others then he/they must be not a narcissist?
Hi Danish. Why do narcissists always want to argue & always choose the negative behaviors & situations over positive? Peace ✌️, love, Miss Janine💯🌴🧸🫶⌚️
Unfortunately we cannot send them to the desert alone... and they always seem to find supply somehow.... Wondering how will their collapse happen ?
This is all true
He wasn't wanted in childhood. He was nothing to the mother. No self of self..a mixture of parents, family, and brain damage.
Thank you Danish
Not really. They're great at acting. If they can keep a job they're great at pretending. It's the personal relationshipa they suck at
Yes, they r often v competent at their jobs
Can I ask....what if you see that your child has a narcissistic trait? How do you make sure they don't turn up like their dad?!😢 I feel my daughter is like that. So I am so lost.
Gracias, cuando estás perdido en el torbellino de la maldad narcisista sientes perder el piso y todo a tu alrededor es un caos te aferras a la cuerda dorada del amor a Dios y ruegas con toda tu alma. Gracias por recordarnos que gozamos de ese vínculo con nuestro Creador. He esperado justicia 42 años, ya no importa ese tiempo perdido porque ahora se que encontraré la paz anhelada en Dios. Bendiciones
This is exceptional Danish
These guys are the devil incarnate. If you find yourself involved with one - get un-involved.
You just explain my husband soon to be ex husband. I made a big mistake by talking to him again and now he is starting to act a fool again and driving me crazy. I don't know what to do now because he just keeps pushing and I'm loosing my mind and I just want it to stop for good. Please pray for me.
They know it all! Yes Danish!! Is THAT grandiosity or what? 😂 Oof!! 😮
We know it all about the narcissists however and we are sure we have zero bits of narcissism in us, the heavenly people, us (?)
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 well, the dark empath does exist
Hi danish. Hope you re well
Narcissists’ overdeveloped sense of smell is because they are animalistic and this do not have complex brains like humans.
Yet they are human in that animals are rarely diabolical.
Sehr interessant! Perfekte Jäger also! Die machen scheinbar Jagd auf reine Herzen😮
They are often deeply calculating and aware of how to manipulate human emotions, making them far more complex than animals. It’s their combination of impulse and calculation that can make them so dangerous.
This is crazy. The narc in my life always had an insane sense of smell. COVID lessened that, but it's still pretty decent. Crazy how similar narc's are.
Reptilian in every way.
@@Everythingismeaningless344mine has super crazy sense of smell.
They are impostors
FRAUDS
I was very sick with severe asthma and would not take me to the ER
learned helplessness? Sam Vaknin would say so "I am entitled to my helplessness'. I don't want to say so though...
"Highly incompitent"!!🤭 Yes i agree very much.!!😶🌫️
I can think of MUCH more than📼5📝 reasons.📸,
"you know"
Really nice MESSAGE thou, that everyone soon will know. Mr.Bashir. THANKS 👍
Keep keep
Keep keep on blasting the TRUTH
🐬👔👮
The 😈 fell from heaven talking and doing just like a narcissist.
Dr Danish..can they change become normal human being change they behavier?
I see so many people in the comments expressing deep pain and struggles. As someone who has fully healed-thank God-I urge you to seek help from a coach or mentor. The sooner you reach out, the faster you can heal, and they can guide you through the process more effectively. I currently offer coaching programs and have created a resource that can help support your journey. It doesn`t have to be me but please, find someone to help you. It took me 10 years to heal from trauma, and I know I could have healed faster with the right guidance. God bless you all on your healing journey!
Danke🎉❤
I believe that narcissists are all too human.
10:31 🤔 may i please add that if a third party were to become present -- say, a child comes home from school? -- the tone changes, so that in front of the new person, your Narcspouse may become a thespian! 🎬🎭
CORRECT Danish
My narcissist makes a lot of money. I am one of his renters.
Maybe ask him to be a loser instead so we can certify him as evil and have a non-narcissists party.
How about succesful narcissists?
But my enemies who are the biggest narcissists I have seen are top busines people How did that happen?
He might be indirectly guilt-tripping people who are crippled by trauma and end up as social losers while narcs are having fun and great social success.
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 People who have too much fun will have to pay the price one day as well
No 1 can better explain Danish😢
👂
To deeply understand ....... Hindi help us more.....
Just remember Danish. Saul before he became Paul was a Narcissist. A lot of these gang bangers were Narcissists. Jesus does the impossible when we give our lives to him.
Paul never changed. Do your own research about that. 🤔
@@dalebattaglia Even if he changed I won't allow or agree because my narcissist mind won't allow the possibility.
Do you think Modi is a narcissist?you are a Muslim by your name,how you are surviving in kashmir budgam?
He is channeling his narcissism into an activity that is worth serving for him such as being a leader and protecting the nation rather than torture himself by calling himself a narcissist 24 hours or marrry and make kids knowing the reality--he channeled it as he saw his helplesness in now going back and receiving proper love and nurture in childhood.. He shows love to his own narcissistic-tendencies rather than pretend
@@pretheeshgpresannan4172 you are talking about danish or modi?
Who is this He?
If he is modi than an empath cant cause a massacre of gujraat.
Like hitler cant be an empath
And like netanyahu cant be an empath
And if He you are referring to modi G mahaan than go and check his interviews in one of his interviews THE GREAT MODI G EVEN CONFESS THAT HE IS NOT EVEN A BIOLOGICAL HUMAN BEING.
THIS IS CALLED GOD COMPLEX,SUPERIORITY COMPLEX AND NARCISSTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER.