Guys I am genuinely OVERWHELMED (in a good way for once hahah) with all the comments and love. I took 20 minutes out to have a cup of tea and 3 bags of crisps (#eatclean) and came back to so many comments that I can't even keep up with replying! But I'm gonna do my best to respond to every single one 💖 thank you all so so much. It definitely feels like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and I know I wasn't ready before, but this is all something I should have done so much sooner because the responses and support has honestly shocked me. Like I knew you guys were KOOOOOL but wow ur all rly rly cool. I dunno what else to say but I really do feel like this is the start of a new chapter with a lot of things and I can't thank you enough for sticking around and just making me feel so loved tonight. Love you all xxx
Ok... I'm very sorry for your lost Steph 😢 I genuinely didn't knew all of that. When it comes to you, being offline for a few months... well I have to be honest... I didn't forget you, you are my favorite influencer and I still love you and suport you and I'm always anxious for a new video. And I'm 100% sure that your grandparents and your Mom are insanely PROUD of you. Big kiss from Portugal 🇵🇹 and we are here for you, every time you need
Modest opinion... you are beautiful, strong, inteligente, funny... so we are here because you are one of us Steph, because we love you and nerds never leave one of their own behind, so we will never leve you behind
I've never commented before on your videos, I'm 62 year old woman who likes make up but rarely wears it. So why do I watch your content? Simply because of your authenticity as a person. I'm so pleased to hear you say that you are realising that you are enough. Chant it like a mantra to yourself everyday, because YOU ARE ENOUGH! You have experienced so much loss and grief in such a short time, and yet here you are, unafraid to be vulnerable and that, darling woman, takes true, deep strength.
I know what you mean when you pull away. I close myself off as well. Thank you for coming to us. I will be an ear to listen. Mental health is something we all deal with and I am glad that their are people like you who help others in ways you may not know.
Steph I'm a silent watcher but I've had to comment today. I'm a 54 year old woman who was full of self hate from a young age just like you. Bullied for looking nerdy (glasses and big teeth) in 2020 during lockdown I started my TH-cam channel. It's a tiny channel compared to yours only 4.5k subscribers so far but I keep going because like you I've realised people actually like me for me and its a nice feeling isn't it. You steph are beautiful funny talented and the world is definitely your oyster. We are all here for you and always will be. I know this video was tough for you sweetheart but trust me when I say things can only get better. You are quite a bit younger than me but your videos helped inspire me to start TH-cam so thank you for that and thank you for just being you. Sending you lots of love positive vibes and blessings for what's to come. ❤❤❤❤
OOOh...I'm coming up for 50 in July so have subscribed to your channel too, I only just found Steph's!! @steph that's a lot to go through at such a young age and we all make mistakes at any age, you've got yourself together from that, now you've dusted yourself off and gotten back out there, it takes guts especially to come back to social media and being an influencer, good luck girl ❤
I wish you could see yourself through your viewer's eyes. You are the reason I watch TH-cam. Your videos make me happy,and have helped me through the last six years since I had my stroke. You are such a beautiful person inside and out.
Came for the makeup, stayed for Steph…. Self acceptance is so difficult and i commend you for laying it bare. I adore you! Have for years. You (and itssabbrina) are the only makeup girlie i follow.. for the makeup initially… now I rarely even wear makeup.. but im still watching you!! Proud of you and so is your mum xxx
Maaaaate, I feel like you are the wee English ADHD counterpart to my huge, autistic Scottish ass except you HAVE the balls to do this. My chest hurts from watching this because I’ve been through everything you’ve been through too, you are a fkn champ for putting in the work and coming back vulnerable but stronger and more determined than before. You are an inspiration and I’m sure I speak for many of your followers when I say I’ll be watching and supporting the Toms no matter what. Unless you become a light coverage/skin tint girly, that’s where I draw the line ❤️
Can confirm I just like you. And I’ve liked you for years. And I’ll continue to like you for years. And if you pop off for a bit then come back - I’ll watch and I’ll still like you. And I think I speak for a lot of us when I say that there’s no pressure from us to show up 100% of the time or to be 100% consistent.
Im a silent watcher, and I can confirm I do watch the videos for makeup. But let's be real, we come for the makeup but stay for the personality. To add to the list of clichés, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger... right? I'm sorry to hear that life has shit on you from a great height for many years. And never apologies for the way you feel. Your feelings are just as valid as anyones. Never compare your struggle to anyone elses. You are valid. You are enough. I hope it is all on the up from here. Girl, you deserve it. Love ya lots. Xx
I don’t care what you post, I just enjoy your content because of your personality. I’ve been watching you since 2014 and every time I see a new upload I click straight away. Love all the way from an Aussie ADHDer.
The reason I started watching you is because you’re hilarious, you’re smart, snarky, and self-aware. Those traits are *you*, Steph. Before the 4K camera, before the brand deals, before the ultra boujee PR-there is, was, and always will be you. I remember watching you put on bright blue eye shadow with Primark palettes, and that Steph is the Steph I’m still rocking with years later. 💜
People dont buy into brands, they buy into you...the person who keeps it real, who still shows up even when life is shite.i saw you once in debenhams in truro when i worked there years ago ,you were down to earth and youve not changed.your authenticity about who you are can be a lot for some people (i know this about myself😂) but you keep being just that!the ones who love you will continue to do so❤
My opinion isn't worth much, but I found your videos like 8 years ago when I was overwhelmed and lonely at uni. Idk who I really am a lot of time, I get you there, but I know you're my comfort videos. What other YTer would apply makeup with nuggets??? Looking forward to where you take your videos. You're a legend, thank you for adding light to some dark times x
Hearing you speak about drink is such a brave thing, my mum has been sober since November after her 4th medical detox in hospital. There is such a stigma around it and nobody likes to speak about it, so glad you have. X
Im 21 mins in, and this is how my 13 year old daughter describes herself. I tell her daily that none of this is true. She was diagnosed with autism during lockdown. I cry often because of what she says. Thank you for posting this. I'm going to show her this, and hopefully, she will see that she is not different, not on her own. Thank you
26 and diagnosed Autistic 2 weeks ago! Tell your daughter she is beautiful, she is amazing and we rule! The community is always here to support! I hope she never feels alone! Plus being geeky is the best! I love being a nerd and so does my girlfriend! Sending lots of hugs and hopes she sees her worth soon! Being different is really fricken cool! 💜
This was quite relatable. The inability to no feel your worth is so painful, unfortunately a lot of us feels the same. I think it is important to talk honestly about these stuff.
I’ve been watching you for years when you only had a few hundred subs, and I’m still excited when I see you posting. I am so proud to see the woman you became and seeing the woman you are becoming. You’re real and I really appreciate that. Thank you for being you!
Could cry with u! So brave of you making this video, as a late adhd diagnosis myself I know exactly your struggles, from addiction to self loathing, it’s like talking to your bestie listening to you, and with or without make up, you are beautiful, a whole,. real, lovely woman. Take care & take time for yourself, self care & family is no 1. Please keep going send love & hugs xxx
Hey steph, my mum passed 4 years ago aswell to cancer, its the most aweful thing to go through! You dont know me but i am always here! I get it. You have helped me in my darkest times and i would love to be uere for you aswell! ❤❤❤
first of all i'm so sorry you lost your mum too :( it's just awful and i hope you're doing okay. you just commenting something positive is absolutely enough! thank you so much xx
Wow Steph I can relate to u alot of this feeling off losing everyone. I am an only child I have lost mum and now dad and it terrifies me that I will loss my partner. I am waiting to speak to someone as I defo suffer some PTSD of finding my dad passed. And I defo have death anxiety.
@gingerbreadloverjulie8609 I think I know what you're talking about. I watched a few videos from palliative care nurses talking about how a lot of their clients see their family members, that have already died, before they pass. Like they will tell the nurse "my sister is here, she said she's coming back on Wednesday" then they die on the Wednesday. I don't believe in heaven and souls. But this really has been making feel comforted. I've watched people I love die. One of them, they woke up for a while and when I think back, they where saying things that I now think someone was there to take her. Now I look forward to seeing if my dad is going to come. I've always been atheist byw. So this is weird for me.
I'm very sorry for the losses you've had. I can only imagine how horrible that must have been for you. I also can relate to having conditions which means you feel like you stand out. I have stress induced epilepsy and autism, so I know what it's like. I also got bullied in school a lot, due to people not understanding it, as I hadn't been diagnosed with either condition at the time, and also from being fat, which at times for me, has been mistaken for pregnancy too. (I got my epilepsy diagnosis at 17, autism diagnosis at 18). I agree too, getting a diagnosis is good, as it helps to explain things, especially since problems are caused by people lacking understanding. I find it's better to say someone is different, rather than saying something is wrong, because it's essentially the brain working differently from other people's. I say think of it like you have 2 calculators, one is simple and the other scientific. A scientific calculator follows the BIDMAS rule, whereas the simple one doesn't. There's nothing wrong with either one, they just work differently.
Silent watcher! Cornish gal, 39 and love your videos! I lost my mum 3 years ago and felt every word you said. It’s wonderful to hear you being so honest and looking after yourself x
Steph, I've followed you for the last 5 years or so. I've gone through mental health issues my whole life, I got abused by my mums partner as a teenager and then got into a domestic violence relationship which lead to rape as an adult. I ended up fleeing to a womens refuge in 2021 and one of the things that helped me to sleep during my 6 months there was to fall asleep with your videos on. I thought I was doing ok in recent years until my mum passed away in September last year after battling cancer for 3 months and suddenly pretending everything was ok didn't work anymore. Cracks appeared. Since the start of this year I've been doing EMDR therapy which has been hugely beneficial and I would absolutely recommend it, I was skeptical about it and thought it was honestly just bullshit but the relief it has given me so far has been incredible. I also got recently diagnosed with Bipolar and will start medication soon which I hope will also help. You helped me get through one of the most difficult times in my life and you don't even know it. You have helped so many people, made them smile, taken the edge of the loneliness. We watch your channel for you and your personality, you feel like a friend to us and we want the best for you. From a Devonian to a Cornish, take care of yourself, put yourself first, I really recommend looking into EMDR and do what you need to do to find that peace inside your mind. Sending love.
So refreshing to hear someone be so honest about these things. Really brave of you to open up about all of this. Id personally watch/listen to whatever you do ❤ x
I love how real you talk about these situations and in such a respectful way to those involved as well. The courage you have had to even post such a vulnerable video is amazing. I cant wait to see new content from you. Definitely someone who deserves nothing but happiness x
I love how relatable you are and how real you are. I am so unbelievably sorry for everything you have been through. Just remember it’s ok to laugh when something is funny and cry when you’re sad. Your Poundland video is my go to when I need to laugh, that foundation shade and your facial expressions genuinely never fail to make me absolutely howl 😂. Love you lots mate x
I have watched you back in the day from 2018 onwards, fast approaching my 40's and going through a divorce, and I felt the same way about myself and how I looked and felt, like you have recently. You opened my world to make up and how to use it, what was the best dupes etc. I used to love going to Wilko's and getting the next Essence dupe you recommended. Its like you opened the door and I walked through and then on to a path to learning self worth, love and self care. I know thats major cringe, but for someone that found herself suddenly single after a 16 year relationship, it was everything. I was sorry to hear about had to deal with over the last couple of years, but please dont minimise it, your feelings and how these events made you feel are completely valid, no matter what else is going on around the world. Was lovely to see you posting, and looking forward to what comes next. You will smash it
Oh bless you.. it’s hard losing people you love especially those closest to you. I lost my 3 year old son and it’s the harder thing I’ve ever been through. That was 2018 and I’m still suffering now.. stop beating yourself up. We all deal with things differently and you should be proud that you’re coming out the other side. We all love you. You say it’s cringe but you do feel like a friend and id love to meet you! Take care of yourself and remember you are enough ❤
i’ve been subbed to you since i was in college and i’m 26 now. from one former nerdy loser teenager (also seeking a late adhd diagnosis! watching you talking about your journey with it gave me the confidence i needed to investigate it for myself) to another, everything that makes you ‘weird’ makes you so so wonderful to us. thank you for still being here. we love you so much!
I'm in my 40s and you make me laugh every time I watch you. Seeing you just be yourself is very refreshing. That includes you trying to do your job while everything's burning. I think most of us can relate to that. There's no need to know where you're at. Endless possibilities never stop feeling scary but this whole process will be worth it 😘
Also been watching for years purely for your personality (the cats are also a bonus). We're the same age nearly - im 31 in sept - and just want to send you so much compassion for those losses. I can't imagine losing my relationship so I'm so glad to see you processing it all and working through it. I wish you nothing but healing and peace (from a therapist haha)
Legitimately, the way you speak about life topics and balance your thoughts and feelings is the most relatable thing I’ve heard from someone, in a way I’ve never really heard from someone else before. Like being scared of nothing but everything at the same time? It’s hard to explain but internet friends can be like, such a significant part of making you feel less weird and okay about yourself. So this was a great video! Hope the cockroaching keeps on the roll 🐾
Steph, I love you. We all love you🩷 We are here for you, and cannot wait for your restart and see your videos going forward. Sending you love and happiness🩷xxx
Omg! There was a reason I loved your vids. ADHD peeps seemed to find each other. Diagnosed 6 months ago and it’s a ride!!!!! Welcome back. We missed you!
The more I watch this video the more I can relate such as the bullying as a child, low self esteem, finally being liked and accepted for being me and I feel your genuine happiness when you said you are liked now. I've chosen to go down the path of becoming a counsellor to help others and currently studying and would like to say as big headed as it is, you and I and many others are inspiration to those who feel their lowest and want to come out the other side!
As someone who is recently diagnosed with ADHD and recently lost a close relative, you are like a superhero in my eyes for making it here!! You are such a strong, wonderful human bean. Not only from the shite youve waded through but for opening up about said shite wading. Not a single thing in this world lasts forever, not the stars in the sky or the flowers on the ground. The bad times will pass, sad memories will eventually bring a smile to your face and dreams will come true that you havent even thought of yet. Reach for the sky sweet angel, it may be a bumpy journey but its your journey! I bet your mum would be so proud; being vulnerable and making yourself open to the INTERNET, come on, whats more bad ass than that. And p.s. id watch you all day, any day, doing absolutely fuck all 🤍✨
You are definitely ENOUGH! I love watching you because I learn new things (57 years old) and I laugh my ass off! I'm so sorry you've gone through so much, but also very happy and proud for you! Love from Texas, USA
Joining the rest in sending a lot of love beforehand before watching the full video. Thank you for your honesty and great vibes over all these years and I can only hope the good things will find you again soon as well 🫶
We love you Steph and sending you all the good vibes you deserve. So sorry to hear you went through all of this. And know you are going to come out of it ahead ❤❤❤
Ive got ADHD, OCD and Anxiety and i get seasonal depression. Its a struggle but i try and see the positive in things. We each have silent struggles we don't talk about.
So glad you’re coming out of the dark part of everything! I was the same when my mum passed away last year, I hid away for almost a year but now I can feel it’s time to start living again. Being honest mainly to yourself is such an important stepping stone. Sending love ❤
Im so sorry about what you have gone through. After watching I just have to say that I have never related to a video by an influencer more. Im a long time fan, i found you with the makeup but stayed for you! I really like you! I just want you to know that. You have been a fave and inspiration for me for so long, theres not many influencers I can watch and see myself in and relate to the way I do with you. I love your style and personality. After this vid I cant believe how much we have in common.. I have similar experiences with alot of it youre talking about, and just remember its so valid. And Im so sorry for you, just know youre not alone and nobody can take away those feelings. They are valid because all of it are real big and are traumatic things for anyone. Also just have to add ( the body dysmorphia is so real). I was bullied as a child and the way you talk about those feelings are the realest thing. The reason i got into makeup and fashion was mostly because I never felt pretty enough or cool/good enough because of it. I really get it. I guess we both have this year as a fresh start in many ways. I wish all the best for you going forward from now! I will be here and I will be watching and remember we love u ❤
I rarely ever comment on videos and such but this does resonate with me so much and you're not alone in feeling all the feels. what makes you stand up from other beauty gurus is just that you're more relatable than others and that makes it absolutely wholesome.
I’m just about to watch this video so I’ve no idea what’s in it or what it’s about but I just wanna say as a nearly 40 year old you are 1 of my fave people to watch and I genuinely laugh along with you. Xx
I’m a senior in college and I’ve watched you since middle school:) I also got an adhd diagnosis later in life(sophomore in college) and can relate to your story a lot. Thanks for coming back and pulling yourself out of the depths of depression. Loss mixed with ADHD is so hard. I admire you so much, can’t wait to see what you do!❤
Oh, sweet baby girl! I felt the same way until I turned 50. I went through similar things. I'm 57 and so comfortable in my own skin. As far as people liking me, now I don't give a flying fig! You are enough! I enjoy watching you, and you will find your footing!
I've been following for years now, I've left some comments here and there and you've replied to some of them. I love this realness, I don't want to see perfect lives with people doing just great because I'm so not perfect and I've been through some shit and appreciated you coming through with this realness. I hope you do get to a happy place mentally again ♡
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all this and fair play for sharing with us! I don’t often comment on TH-cam however I really appreciate videos like this as it helps us all realise that shit happens to all of us! Also been through a lot of loss in life as many have and it can feel so isolating. You’re doing an amazing job, I find you really relatable and enjoyable to watch so what ever you choose to do I’m certain we will all be here cheering you on ❤
Steph im nearly 52 and suffer with my mental health and inly iver the last couple of years really opened up about it, i shut myself away when things get to much, thankyou for sharing everything it takes alit of courage, you should be so very proud of yourself we all are xx ❤️
I’m usually a silent watcher but sending all my love, Steph! It really sounds like you’ve been dragged through the shit and you deserve to feel so so proud of yourself ❤️ Heck yeah the world is your oyster girl!! Xx
“In your bins” 😆😆😆 that properly made me laugh. What a genuinely touching and tough video to make, I think you’re very brave. Sending love and positivity to you and all your new chapters.
Dear Steph. I happened on one of your early make up tutorial videos around 7 years ago and it opened up a world of cool videos and information I knew so little about! I continued to watch all of your content! You are a wonderful woman that deserves success. I am sorry to hear about your recent losses, I lost my mom 10 years ago and it flies by. I wish you luck and please keep showing us your pretty face in your awesome videos.
Babe, I can relate to 90% of what you went threw the past 4 years 😢 I’m actually in hospital right now bc of depression and alcohol abuse! I drove drunk on Monday night and crashed my car in to a fence.. I’m so happy no one else was in the accident but me, and that I’m alive 🥺🙏🏽 You are my number one “best makeup friend” when I sit down to do my face, you’re keeping me company and make me laugh better than any of my irl peeps 🫶🏽🫶🏽 If you want to visit Sweden and our peaceful nature, I got a spare room with your name on it 🌲🌻👯♀️
I’m a heroin addict and have been sober 5.5 years. I wish you all the best in your recovery! I promise you life is so much better sober. Next time you could kill someone, or yourself, so please don’t drive intoxicated again 😢 you can do this and you are so much stronger than you think!!! I promise you are. One day at a time ❤ not at all judging btw, I have a DUI from like 7 years ago and still don’t have my license back. Working on it though! Addiction is a horrible disease and I pray you find your way out ❤
The first thing that needs to happen is for you to gain control of your mental health. I just came to your channel yesterday to see if you had uploaded and I maybe missed it. I haven’t been at my best the last few months and haven’t been on here allot. My grandson left for the US army in April and my granny heart has been through some shit!! Depression is an absolute bitch!!! As an old granny I feel like I just wanna hug you and squeeze all the bullshit that’s hurting you away!!!! I will be here with you as long as you’re here!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
oh for suuuure! that's what i've been trying to work on the most lately - just doing everything bit by but. i'll always take a granny hug! hope everything is okay for you my love ccc
I’ve been with you from the start and I have always loved how authentic and real you are, how relatable and YOU that you are. Literally think you’re bloody wonderful. ❤
I'm ready and I'm listening to the very end. As long as you're healthy and happy that's all that matters it really is all that matters. You have taught me a lot about make up and you made me laugh on the days when I was suffering with depression. I've got a lot to say thank you for. Now it's our turn to listen & help you if we can xxx
Touched by your bravery in talking about these difficult topics, Steph. You make each of us feel less alone in our own struggles, that is a true gift. Sending so much love and positive energy your way - your community is here to rally behind you on this new chapter of your journey ✨️❤️
@stephanietoms mate you could be talking about soil 😅 I watch because I like you. I recognise so much of what you say in myself, I lost my Dad at 13 and undiagnosed but almost certainly have ADHD. You may feel uncomfortable saying you like to be liked by randoms on the Internet... but it's just as weird to feel like you are friends with someone you watch 😅 honestly, keep being you. Do what is best for you and those that are worth it will support you 😘 xx
I have so much respect and admiration for you - to come on to social media and basically pour your heart out and tell everyone about the unfortunate happenings of the last few years is outstanding. Well done you! Be proud of yourself and continue to grow in to the amazing person you are
I started watching your videos in 2019 when I was going through a bad period in my life. You really resonated with me and we have had very similar experiences. I wish you all the best going forward and your future will absolutely amazing! Never stop being you ❤
I never really comment or anything, but I feel the need to confirm all the things you’re coming to terms with right now: you truly are enough and we really do love you for you. I’ve kinda fallen of out love with makeup, or at least don’t invest as much in it anymore but I’ll never stop watching your videos. You’re just so entertaining, also very relatable to me personally and seem so real, as sad as I get listening to you think negatively of yourself, you’re making your page a safe space to be true to yourself and I can’t put into words how much I appreciate that. I truly truly hope everything will finally work in your favor and genuinely believe you couldn’t deserve it more
Oh steph honey. Feel your pain,I nearly ended up being sectioned recently, trauma messes us up luv. We know you care ,I hope you can find the space and time to fully heal. Thank you for being so raw and vulnerable,thank you for just being you, sage your house and manifest . Love ya girl. You got this.❤❤❤
Awh Steph, i´m so sorry that you felt/feel this way. 😔 but i can understand. I´m diagnosed with seasonal depression. Fall and spring are the worst for me. I got help and was doing fine. And than my grandmother died, covid happened and i went rock bottom. And even with the help i have now, it´s still hard to get out of it. I think covid destroyed a lot of us. You´re not alone. I came f0r make-up and i stayed for Steph. I just like you. And i´m proud of you for opening up about what you´re struggling with. Wish more people did it. I love you, Steph! ❤
I just want to say that I started watching you 6 1/2 years ago after been homeless and entering recovery. I haven’t been watching YT for ages and I came to the app to have a look what you are up too. Sending you lots of love. Xx
Part of the reason I watch your videos, is because of how relatable you are and how open and honest you are about things. And in fact, because of you, I got an ADHD diagnosis at 30 years of age. Spent my whole life feeling different, weird, and like no one ever really wanted to be my friend. I just always thought I annoyed people and no one liked me. And I could never understand why I felt so different or found it so hard to fit in. Well, after hearing you talk about your experiences of ADHD and how similar are personalities are (again, one of the main reasons I love watching your videos) I was inspired to finally bite the bullet and get the test and I was ultimately diagnosed with combined ADHD. Without you I never would have got that official diagnosis and would have continued going through life thinking I was broken. I just wanted to say thank you for that 💕
Thank you for sharing and just know whatever you post up on TH-cam I will be watching and I appreciate it and I love your videos and I lost my mom in 2021. She gave up the fight from diabetes. Watching my favorite TH-camr and your videos have helped me get through the rough times, and just hang in there.❤❤ be safe, everyone😊😊
I resonate with this all so hard! I think it goes without saying I’m sorry and I love you, like we all do, but it it’s true. I have always resonated with you on so many levels and thought you would just be the bestest friend I could ask for because of how we see life and being a geeky person who happens to also like make up and make themselves feel good. It’s really difficult feeling like you don’t fit into a category and I have always appreciated that you are on here because I see myself and that’s powerful. I’m in a lot of the situations you are currently and seeing you own it I just have to say, you’re so strong. It’s not easy, especially when you your pain to others, but it’s important. Your feelings are justified and you are worthy of them just as much as you are worthy of feeling unconditional love. I know, (oh gosh do I know), that the deep shadow work is hard but it is opening you up to your higher self. So I’m manifesting for both of us, that we continue these journeys and blossom into who we are truly meant to be. You got this! I may never meet you, but I am always here for you if you ever need a strangers unbiased opinion. Oh oh! Twitch!!! Yes!! Loved chatting and playing with you on there 😁
It's wonderful to be genuine and even, sometimes, vulnerable. Not only for yourself but for anyone else scared to bare themselves. I'm a newer viewer, I was unaware of anything you've gone through, and I subscribed because I DO like you. You're candid, mildly irreverent, plain about your opinions, witty, and funny. I live in the US, I don't even have easy access to half the products you talk about but I watch anyway because you are you. Having a disorder, illness, personal problem, or flaw isn't abnormal or a burden and we all have seasons of change and growth. I hope you feel renewed.
I have never felt so seen in a video. I found your channel in my dark time and you helped. You made me feel seen and now you have done it again. Get out the way of your own self. It's hard.. I'm trying too but the progress? Feels like the best thing that's ever happened to you
YESSSS STEPH! 🥳 Just sat here cheering you on and rooting for you SO HARD. I’ve watched you for years and this actually made me so happy for you. You’re so strong for coming out the other side so positively and I know you’re about to have the biggest life glow up ❤ So excited to see what’s next for you 🎉
Steph, you have been one of my fav YT's for about 8 yrs. I was a 45 yr old, who had almost lost her eyesight. Was lucky and grateful that Dr's were able to save it. Thank God. After my surgery, I realized how much I had let myself go. So I started watching makeup videos. And you were one of the 1st I started actually following. I ❤️'d your energy, your style and the way you did your makeup. I'm in the states, so your accent was lovely as well. I'm glad your doing better, it's hard work with ups and downs. Your facing it and working on it and that in and of itself is a testament to your strength and resilience. Stay strong, keep improving, and we will ALL be here when you show up. Much ❤️
I'm so sorry you've been fighting through all that for so long. Happy to hear you're taking care of yourself. I feel like you've explained so many things that we all feel like about ourselves and about life in general, so never feel alone in that. ❤ We love you and your channel, no matter what you're talking about! Thank you for sharing and I pray that you make it through each day knowing that you are loved and appreciated.
Ive been watching your videos for years i can honestly say one of the best youtuber i watch and i hope all your wishes you mentioned in the video come true, no one deserves it more.. good luck steph i wish you a bright future x
You are deeply inspiring and I think you don't even realise that. I takes a lot of courage to talk about these things on the Internet. I wish you all the luck, happiness and best wishes in the world right now! 💕
I know, Steph has inspired me a lot over the years especially with regards to my mental health ~ knowing I'm not the only one going through it & even someone as successful as her sadly experiences hardship too. She also reminded me to remember that we're all enough & to be kinder to myself which is something we all need to do 💛✨️
I started watching you because I've felt like I could relate to your natural rambling, thoughts, ideas and even your comment a few years ago about wearing interesting T-shirts just to create a conversation starter in a public setting. It was a lovely idea and it helped me relax and you've given new perspectives on things about life in general bc you're so kind and you almost think the way I do and it makes watching your videos so relatable and comforting. Thank you.
Hey Steph 👋🏼 I have been a follower for years now, and have loved watching you and your content grow. I felt more connected to you than others I followed as we are the same age, from similar areas (Somerset for me), grew up with the same difficulties around self image and self confidence, and love for the same sorts of things, same mental health battles. I think it’s so brave recognising what is and isn’t working for you, and changing your life so drastically. There’s a lot of pressure at this point in life to have your shit together, but in reality, even the people we think are the most ‘together’ adults, don’t have all the answers and have it ‘together’. You have so much ahead of you, and even with all you’ve been through the last 4 years, you are smashing it. Proud of you x
I've followed you for quite a while now, I think around 7 years at least, and am still around because I like you as a person! You feel genuine, not someone who fakes their personality for views, and that's why I like you! I've always loved watching your vids because of who you are as the person we see, and how real you are. You share your struggles along the way, and that's what makes you real and relevant. You still are relevant, and will be, even after taking some time away from the internet. We need real people like you in a world where everything online seems to be fake. I also have ADHD and lost my mom nearly 2 years ago, and you talking about life (besides the regular vids you've made which I also absolutely love) has been helpful for me aswell. I don't comment on video's often, also don't watch TH-cam as often anymore, but your video's are still some of my faves! Take your time healing, finding your way through all that has happened in your life and all what's ahead of you, your (internet) support system will remain intact and we're rooting for you along the way! We love you Steph, thanks for sharing your story and opening up, you don't owe us any explanation but it is very nice to understand you a bit better after all that has happened in your life. We're proud of you ❤
I genuinely think you’re great. I struggled with being bullied, ugly, loser the whole shebang. I also late diagnosed adhd same age as you. Dysmorphia sucks and I have recovered from anorexia too it’s a tough ride and I’m sorry you’ve felt like this too but you have so many people who admire you for you!
Thank you for being you! I’m sure I’m not alone in saying I can relate to you. From feeling like the ugly duckling and not fitting in growing up to losing a parent way too soon, I related to the feelings and thoughts you talked about. It’s nice to know we aren’t alone and your bravery in putting yourself out there will help others not feel alone. I’ll be keeping you in my prayers and am excited to see all you will do!
You've got the realest and most fun personality. You've always been memorable for me since I discovered your channel. So sorry about everything you've been through and it's A LOT. I wish nothing but the best for you regardless of what that may be in the future x
I can resonate with the feeling ugly part, I was bullied horrendously at school and it’s literally shaped my entire life. I thought I was over it, but then something happens and I’m back to beating myself up and calling myself awful names, coz that’s all I’m used to. But deep down I know it’s not true, I’ve built myself into the person I am today and we I’m alright with it. But I completely get you, I understand you totally when you said you feel ugly. You’re not. You’re a beautiful person inside and out and that’s why people like me watch you. Not just for your makeup videos. It’s because you relate to so many people and have a fabulous personality. Other “influencers” are just boring and are genuinely making videos for money. But you’re doing it to entertain people and it shows. You’ve been through horrible stuff but it’s good that you’re talking about it. It helps take the weight off and coming to thousands of people must be terrifying but you’ve done it. So well done. The only way is up now. Keep working, keep laughing, keep on being you. The world is your oyster! 🥰🩷
Im a silent watcher but been watching for years and years and always empathised with you, i lost my mum suddenly when u was 24, diagnosed with bipolar same year, then 1 year and one month later lost my granda. It was horrific. I really do love seeing you being you, and love watching you be real. We all love you steph x
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Guys I am genuinely OVERWHELMED (in a good way for once hahah) with all the comments and love. I took 20 minutes out to have a cup of tea and 3 bags of crisps (#eatclean) and came back to so many comments that I can't even keep up with replying! But I'm gonna do my best to respond to every single one 💖 thank you all so so much. It definitely feels like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and I know I wasn't ready before, but this is all something I should have done so much sooner because the responses and support has honestly shocked me. Like I knew you guys were KOOOOOL but wow ur all rly rly cool. I dunno what else to say but I really do feel like this is the start of a new chapter with a lot of things and I can't thank you enough for sticking around and just making me feel so loved tonight. Love you all xxx
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Ok... I'm very sorry for your lost Steph 😢 I genuinely didn't knew all of that. When it comes to you, being offline for a few months... well I have to be honest... I didn't forget you, you are my favorite influencer and I still love you and suport you and I'm always anxious for a new video. And I'm 100% sure that your grandparents and your Mom are insanely PROUD of you. Big kiss from Portugal 🇵🇹 and we are here for you, every time you need
U are amazing ❤
Modest opinion... you are beautiful, strong, inteligente, funny... so we are here because you are one of us Steph, because we love you and nerds never leave one of their own behind, so we will never leve you behind
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I've never commented before on your videos, I'm 62 year old woman who likes make up but rarely wears it. So why do I watch your content? Simply because of your authenticity as a person. I'm so pleased to hear you say that you are realising that you are enough. Chant it like a mantra to yourself everyday, because YOU ARE ENOUGH! You have experienced so much loss and grief in such a short time, and yet here you are, unafraid to be vulnerable and that, darling woman, takes true, deep strength.
I fully agree. You are a beautiful person inside and out. You are so authentic. That’s why 500k people follow you.
Me too! I am 52 and Never wear it but love watching steph because she is humble and lovely
There’s so many TH-camrs out there with the fancy setups and cameras and doing makeup… they aren’t you! We watch you for you!
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aw man why has thissss comment made me almost well up! thank you so so much babe xx
I know what you mean when you pull away. I close myself off as well. Thank you for coming to us. I will be an ear to listen. Mental health is something we all deal with and I am glad that their are people like you who help others in ways you may not know.
Exactly! I'm not into make up that much, I just love her, the calmness that comes from her and her voice 🤭
@@stephanietomsAnd that is exactly why we love you 😊💛
this is why you’re successful - because of your authenticity & honesty. we love you no matter what queen, sending you so much love 🤍🤍
ohhh my love thank you so so much xx
Steph I'm a silent watcher but I've had to comment today. I'm a 54 year old woman who was full of self hate from a young age just like you. Bullied for looking nerdy (glasses and big teeth) in 2020 during lockdown I started my TH-cam channel. It's a tiny channel compared to yours only 4.5k subscribers so far but I keep going because like you I've realised people actually like me for me and its a nice feeling isn't it. You steph are beautiful funny talented and the world is definitely your oyster. We are all here for you and always will be. I know this video was tough for you sweetheart but trust me when I say things can only get better. You are quite a bit younger than me but your videos helped inspire me to start TH-cam so thank you for that and thank you for just being you. Sending you lots of love positive vibes and blessings for what's to come. ❤❤❤❤
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OOOh...I'm coming up for 50 in July so have subscribed to your channel too, I only just found Steph's!! @steph that's a lot to go through at such a young age and we all make mistakes at any age, you've got yourself together from that, now you've dusted yourself off and gotten back out there, it takes guts especially to come back to social media and being an influencer, good luck girl ❤
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@@tashaleeman thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
I wish you could see yourself through your viewer's eyes. You are the reason I watch TH-cam. Your videos make me happy,and have helped me through the last six years since I had my stroke. You are such a beautiful person inside and out.
Came for the makeup, stayed for Steph…. Self acceptance is so difficult and i commend you for laying it bare. I adore you! Have for years. You (and itssabbrina) are the only makeup girlie i follow.. for the makeup initially… now I rarely even wear makeup.. but im still watching you!! Proud of you and so is your mum xxx
Maaaaate, I feel like you are the wee English ADHD counterpart to my huge, autistic Scottish ass except you HAVE the balls to do this. My chest hurts from watching this because I’ve been through everything you’ve been through too, you are a fkn champ for putting in the work and coming back vulnerable but stronger and more determined than before. You are an inspiration and I’m sure I speak for many of your followers when I say I’ll be watching and supporting the Toms no matter what. Unless you become a light coverage/skin tint girly, that’s where I draw the line ❤️
Can confirm I just like you. And I’ve liked you for years. And I’ll continue to like you for years. And if you pop off for a bit then come back - I’ll watch and I’ll still like you. And I think I speak for a lot of us when I say that there’s no pressure from us to show up 100% of the time or to be 100% consistent.
Here here! Well said ❤
I can see at the end of the video how PHYSICALLY relieved you look for getting everything off of your chest. You’re such an inspiration.
Im a silent watcher, and I can confirm I do watch the videos for makeup. But let's be real, we come for the makeup but stay for the personality.
To add to the list of clichés, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger... right?
I'm sorry to hear that life has shit on you from a great height for many years. And never apologies for the way you feel. Your feelings are just as valid as anyones. Never compare your struggle to anyone elses. You are valid. You are enough.
I hope it is all on the up from here. Girl, you deserve it. Love ya lots. Xx
Ohh don't - I can't tell you how many times I have heard that - :( lol
I don’t care what you post, I just enjoy your content because of your personality. I’ve been watching you since 2014 and every time I see a new upload I click straight away. Love all the way from an Aussie ADHDer.
The reason I started watching you is because you’re hilarious, you’re smart, snarky, and self-aware. Those traits are *you*, Steph.
Before the 4K camera, before the brand deals, before the ultra boujee PR-there is, was, and always will be you.
I remember watching you put on bright blue eye shadow with Primark palettes, and that Steph is the Steph I’m still rocking with years later. 💜
Same ❤️
Same here 🥹❤️
Yes yes yes 🙌🏻
People dont buy into brands, they buy into you...the person who keeps it real, who still shows up even when life is shite.i saw you once in debenhams in truro when i worked there years ago ,you were down to earth and youve not changed.your authenticity about who you are can be a lot for some people (i know this about myself😂) but you keep being just that!the ones who love you will continue to do so❤
My opinion isn't worth much, but I found your videos like 8 years ago when I was overwhelmed and lonely at uni. Idk who I really am a lot of time, I get you there, but I know you're my comfort videos. What other YTer would apply makeup with nuggets???
Looking forward to where you take your videos. You're a legend, thank you for adding light to some dark times x
Hearing you speak about drink is such a brave thing, my mum has been sober since November after her 4th medical detox in hospital. There is such a stigma around it and nobody likes to speak about it, so glad you have. X
Im 21 mins in, and this is how my 13 year old daughter describes herself. I tell her daily that none of this is true. She was diagnosed with autism during lockdown. I cry often because of what she says. Thank you for posting this. I'm going to show her this, and hopefully, she will see that she is not different, not on her own. Thank you
26 and diagnosed Autistic 2 weeks ago! Tell your daughter she is beautiful, she is amazing and we rule! The community is always here to support! I hope she never feels alone! Plus being geeky is the best! I love being a nerd and so does my girlfriend! Sending lots of hugs and hopes she sees her worth soon! Being different is really fricken cool! 💜
This was quite relatable. The inability to no feel your worth is so painful, unfortunately a lot of us feels the same. I think it is important to talk honestly about these stuff.
I’ve been watching you for years when you only had a few hundred subs, and I’m still excited when I see you posting. I am so proud to see the woman you became and seeing the woman you are becoming. You’re real and I really appreciate that. Thank you for being you!
Could cry with u! So brave of you making this video, as a late adhd diagnosis myself I know exactly your struggles, from addiction to self loathing, it’s like talking to your bestie listening to you, and with or without make up, you are beautiful, a whole,. real, lovely woman. Take care & take time for yourself, self care & family is no 1. Please keep going send love & hugs xxx
Hey steph, my mum passed 4 years ago aswell to cancer, its the most aweful thing to go through! You dont know me but i am always here! I get it. You have helped me in my darkest times and i would love to be uere for you aswell! ❤❤❤
first of all i'm so sorry you lost your mum too :( it's just awful and i hope you're doing okay. you just commenting something positive is absolutely enough! thank you so much xx
Wow Steph I can relate to u alot of this feeling off losing everyone. I am an only child I have lost mum and now dad and it terrifies me that I will loss my partner. I am waiting to speak to someone as I defo suffer some PTSD of finding my dad passed. And I defo have death anxiety.
Sorry for your loss x
@gingerbreadloverjulie8609 I think I know what you're talking about. I watched a few videos from palliative care nurses talking about how a lot of their clients see their family members, that have already died, before they pass. Like they will tell the nurse "my sister is here, she said she's coming back on Wednesday" then they die on the Wednesday. I don't believe in heaven and souls. But this really has been making feel comforted. I've watched people I love die. One of them, they woke up for a while and when I think back, they where saying things that I now think someone was there to take her. Now I look forward to seeing if my dad is going to come. I've always been atheist byw. So this is weird for me.
You are humble and not stuck up. That is why I like you.
I'm very sorry for the losses you've had. I can only imagine how horrible that must have been for you.
I also can relate to having conditions which means you feel like you stand out. I have stress induced epilepsy and autism, so I know what it's like. I also got bullied in school a lot, due to people not understanding it, as I hadn't been diagnosed with either condition at the time, and also from being fat, which at times for me, has been mistaken for pregnancy too. (I got my epilepsy diagnosis at 17, autism diagnosis at 18).
I agree too, getting a diagnosis is good, as it helps to explain things, especially since problems are caused by people lacking understanding. I find it's better to say someone is different, rather than saying something is wrong, because it's essentially the brain working differently from other people's. I say think of it like you have 2 calculators, one is simple and the other scientific. A scientific calculator follows the BIDMAS rule, whereas the simple one doesn't. There's nothing wrong with either one, they just work differently.
Big hugs and keeo being you. Take care of yourself and take every day as it comes.
Silent watcher! Cornish gal, 39 and love your videos! I lost my mum 3 years ago and felt every word you said. It’s wonderful to hear you being so honest and looking after yourself x
Your you and that’s why we love you 🤍 sending you so much love gorgeous
We love you Steph! And will always watch 🖤🖤🖤🖤
i love YOUUUUU!! can't wait to meet you some day and kiss ur face gout xxx
Steph, I've followed you for the last 5 years or so. I've gone through mental health issues my whole life, I got abused by my mums partner as a teenager and then got into a domestic violence relationship which lead to rape as an adult. I ended up fleeing to a womens refuge in 2021 and one of the things that helped me to sleep during my 6 months there was to fall asleep with your videos on. I thought I was doing ok in recent years until my mum passed away in September last year after battling cancer for 3 months and suddenly pretending everything was ok didn't work anymore. Cracks appeared. Since the start of this year I've been doing EMDR therapy which has been hugely beneficial and I would absolutely recommend it, I was skeptical about it and thought it was honestly just bullshit but the relief it has given me so far has been incredible. I also got recently diagnosed with Bipolar and will start medication soon which I hope will also help.
You helped me get through one of the most difficult times in my life and you don't even know it. You have helped so many people, made them smile, taken the edge of the loneliness. We watch your channel for you and your personality, you feel like a friend to us and we want the best for you. From a Devonian to a Cornish, take care of yourself, put yourself first, I really recommend looking into EMDR and do what you need to do to find that peace inside your mind. Sending love.
So refreshing to hear someone be so honest about these things. Really brave of you to open up about all of this. Id personally watch/listen to whatever you do ❤ x
I love how real you talk about these situations and in such a respectful way to those involved as well. The courage you have had to even post such a vulnerable video is amazing. I cant wait to see new content from you. Definitely someone who deserves nothing but happiness x
I love how relatable you are and how real you are. I am so unbelievably sorry for everything you have been through. Just remember it’s ok to laugh when something is funny and cry when you’re sad.
Your Poundland video is my go to when I need to laugh, that foundation shade and your facial expressions genuinely never fail to make me absolutely howl 😂.
Love you lots mate x
I have watched you back in the day from 2018 onwards, fast approaching my 40's and going through a divorce, and I felt the same way about myself and how I looked and felt, like you have recently. You opened my world to make up and how to use it, what was the best dupes etc. I used to love going to Wilko's and getting the next Essence dupe you recommended. Its like you opened the door and I walked through and then on to a path to learning self worth, love and self care. I know thats major cringe, but for someone that found herself suddenly single after a 16 year relationship, it was everything. I was sorry to hear about had to deal with over the last couple of years, but please dont minimise it, your feelings and how these events made you feel are completely valid, no matter what else is going on around the world. Was lovely to see you posting, and looking forward to what comes next. You will smash it
Oh bless you.. it’s hard losing people you love especially those closest to you. I lost my 3 year old son and it’s the harder thing I’ve ever been through. That was 2018 and I’m still suffering now.. stop beating yourself up. We all deal with things differently and you should be proud that you’re coming out the other side. We all love you. You say it’s cringe but you do feel like a friend and id love to meet you! Take care of yourself and remember you are enough ❤
I lost my 6 year old in 2016. My heart is with you mama❤
@@jesuisaimeex same to you ❤️
i’ve been subbed to you since i was in college and i’m 26 now. from one former nerdy loser teenager (also seeking a late adhd diagnosis! watching you talking about your journey with it gave me the confidence i needed to investigate it for myself) to another, everything that makes you ‘weird’ makes you so so wonderful to us. thank you for still being here. we love you so much!
I'm in my 40s and you make me laugh every time I watch you. Seeing you just be yourself is very refreshing. That includes you trying to do your job while everything's burning. I think most of us can relate to that.
There's no need to know where you're at. Endless possibilities never stop feeling scary but this whole process will be worth it 😘
Also been watching for years purely for your personality (the cats are also a bonus). We're the same age nearly - im 31 in sept - and just want to send you so much compassion for those losses. I can't imagine losing my relationship so I'm so glad to see you processing it all and working through it. I wish you nothing but healing and peace (from a therapist haha)
Legitimately, the way you speak about life topics and balance your thoughts and feelings is the most relatable thing I’ve heard from someone, in a way I’ve never really heard from someone else before. Like being scared of nothing but everything at the same time? It’s hard to explain but internet friends can be like, such a significant part of making you feel less weird and okay about yourself. So this was a great video! Hope the cockroaching keeps on the roll 🐾
Steph, I love you. We all love you🩷 We are here for you, and cannot wait for your restart and see your videos going forward. Sending you love and happiness🩷xxx
"There's gunna be a lot of tangents "
The adhd side quests 🤣🤣🤣 (I'm still watching but I did giggle at that) xx
hahah LITERALLY!! everything i do/say takes 5 times longer i swear because of the tangents 😂
@stephanietoms 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you're not alone my friend!
ADHD squad unite!
Omg! There was a reason I loved your vids. ADHD peeps seemed to find each other. Diagnosed 6 months ago and it’s a ride!!!!! Welcome back. We missed you!
@@ebeb657 we're packs ✌🏻 I am 8 months diagnosed 🫶🏻
The more I watch this video the more I can relate such as the bullying as a child, low self esteem, finally being liked and accepted for being me and I feel your genuine happiness when you said you are liked now. I've chosen to go down the path of becoming a counsellor to help others and currently studying and would like to say as big headed as it is, you and I and many others are inspiration to those who feel their lowest and want to come out the other side!
As someone who is recently diagnosed with ADHD and recently lost a close relative, you are like a superhero in my eyes for making it here!!
You are such a strong, wonderful human bean. Not only from the shite youve waded through but for opening up about said shite wading. Not a single thing in this world lasts forever, not the stars in the sky or the flowers on the ground. The bad times will pass, sad memories will eventually bring a smile to your face and dreams will come true that you havent even thought of yet. Reach for the sky sweet angel, it may be a bumpy journey but its your journey! I bet your mum would be so proud; being vulnerable and making yourself open to the INTERNET, come on, whats more bad ass than that.
And p.s. id watch you all day, any day, doing absolutely fuck all 🤍✨
You are definitely ENOUGH! I love watching you because I learn new things (57 years old) and I laugh my ass off! I'm so sorry you've gone through so much, but also very happy and proud for you! Love from Texas, USA
Joining the rest in sending a lot of love beforehand before watching the full video. Thank you for your honesty and great vibes over all these years and I can only hope the good things will find you again soon as well 🫶
thank you so so much! honestly overwhelmed by all da lurveee xxx
We love you Steph and sending you all the good vibes you deserve. So sorry to hear you went through all of this. And know you are going to come out of it ahead ❤❤❤
Ive got ADHD, OCD and Anxiety and i get seasonal depression. Its a struggle but i try and see the positive in things. We each have silent struggles we don't talk about.
Yasss me too sending love ❤
So glad you’re coming out of the dark part of everything! I was the same when my mum passed away last year, I hid away for almost a year but now I can feel it’s time to start living again. Being honest mainly to yourself is such an important stepping stone. Sending love ❤
Im so sorry about what you have gone through. After watching I just have to say that I have never related to a video by an influencer more. Im a long time fan, i found you with the makeup but stayed for you! I really like you! I just want you to know that. You have been a fave and inspiration for me for so long, theres not many influencers I can watch and see myself in and relate to the way I do with you. I love your style and personality.
After this vid I cant believe how much we have in common.. I have similar experiences with alot of it youre talking about, and just remember its so valid. And Im so sorry for you, just know youre not alone and nobody can take away those feelings. They are valid because all of it are real big and are traumatic things for anyone.
Also just have to add ( the body dysmorphia is so real). I was bullied as a child and the way you talk about those feelings are the realest thing. The reason i got into makeup and fashion was mostly because I never felt pretty enough or cool/good enough because of it. I really get it.
I guess we both have this year as a fresh start in many ways. I wish all the best for you going forward from now! I will be here and I will be watching and remember we love u ❤
I rarely ever comment on videos and such but this does resonate with me so much and you're not alone in feeling all the feels. what makes you stand up from other beauty gurus is just that you're more relatable than others and that makes it absolutely wholesome.
I’m just about to watch this video so I’ve no idea what’s in it or what it’s about but I just wanna say as a nearly 40 year old you are 1 of my fave people to watch and I genuinely laugh along with you. Xx
oh mate thank you so much!! this video isn't the most funny thing in the world hahah but i hope it's something! thanks for sticking around xx
@@stephanietoms it’s true and it’s from the heart which in my eyes makes you even more amazing. Xxx
I’m a senior in college and I’ve watched you since middle school:) I also got an adhd diagnosis later in life(sophomore in college) and can relate to your story a lot. Thanks for coming back and pulling yourself out of the depths of depression. Loss mixed with ADHD is so hard. I admire you so much, can’t wait to see what you do!❤
Oh, sweet baby girl! I felt the same way until I turned 50. I went through similar things. I'm 57 and so comfortable in my own skin. As far as people liking me, now I don't give a flying fig! You are enough! I enjoy watching you, and you will find your footing!
I've been following for years now, I've left some comments here and there and you've replied to some of them. I love this realness, I don't want to see perfect lives with people doing just great because I'm so not perfect and I've been through some shit and appreciated you coming through with this realness. I hope you do get to a happy place mentally again ♡
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all this and fair play for sharing with us! I don’t often comment on TH-cam however I really appreciate videos like this as it helps us all realise that shit happens to all of us! Also been through a lot of loss in life as many have and it can feel so isolating. You’re doing an amazing job, I find you really relatable and enjoyable to watch so what ever you choose to do I’m certain we will all be here cheering you on ❤
Steph im nearly 52 and suffer with my mental health and inly iver the last couple of years really opened up about it, i shut myself away when things get to much, thankyou for sharing everything it takes alit of courage, you should be so very proud of yourself we all are xx ❤️
Thank you so much for being honest and open ❤ I'm so sorry for everything you've been through.
Big hugs to you Steph. I’m so sorry for your losses and all that you’ve been going through. I wish you all the best with whatever comes next for you.x
I’m usually a silent watcher but sending all my love, Steph! It really sounds like you’ve been dragged through the shit and you deserve to feel so so proud of yourself ❤️ Heck yeah the world is your oyster girl!! Xx
awww well i'm glad you're here today! thank you so so much xxx
I completely understand your struggle. Thank you for sharing. I really wish you the best of luck. Here for you.x
I would love to see vlogs and Pokémon card openings 🙌🏻 tbh I just enjoy watching you, not really fussed what the content is
Hey Steph! Appreciate you putting yourself out there to us, really rooting for you! Lots of love from London ❤
“In your bins” 😆😆😆 that properly made me laugh. What a genuinely touching and tough video to make, I think you’re very brave. Sending love and positivity to you and all your new chapters.
Dear Steph. I happened on one of your early make up tutorial videos around 7 years ago and it opened up a world of cool videos and information I knew so little about! I continued to watch all of your content!
You are a wonderful woman that deserves success. I am sorry to hear about your recent losses, I lost my mom 10 years ago and it flies by.
I wish you luck and please keep showing us your pretty face in your awesome videos.
Babe, I can relate to 90% of what you went threw the past 4 years 😢
I’m actually in hospital right now bc of depression and alcohol abuse!
I drove drunk on Monday night and crashed my car in to a fence.. I’m so happy no one else was in the accident but me, and that I’m alive 🥺🙏🏽
You are my number one “best makeup friend” when I sit down to do my face, you’re keeping me company and make me laugh better than any of my irl peeps 🫶🏽🫶🏽
If you want to visit Sweden and our peaceful nature, I got a spare room with your name on it 🌲🌻👯♀️
I’m a heroin addict and have been sober 5.5 years. I wish you all the best in your recovery! I promise you life is so much better sober. Next time you could kill someone, or yourself, so please don’t drive intoxicated again 😢 you can do this and you are so much stronger than you think!!! I promise you are. One day at a time ❤ not at all judging btw, I have a DUI from like 7 years ago and still don’t have my license back. Working on it though! Addiction is a horrible disease and I pray you find your way out ❤
Good for you Steph! I have watched you for a few years and I think you're great. I can relate to a few things you've said. All the best xx
The first thing that needs to happen is for you to gain control of your mental health. I just came to your channel yesterday to see if you had uploaded and I maybe missed it. I haven’t been at my best the last few months and haven’t been on here allot. My grandson left for the US army in April and my granny heart has been through some shit!! Depression is an absolute bitch!!! As an old granny I feel like I just wanna hug you and squeeze all the bullshit that’s hurting you away!!!! I will be here with you as long as you’re here!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
oh for suuuure! that's what i've been trying to work on the most lately - just doing everything bit by but. i'll always take a granny hug! hope everything is okay for you my love ccc
I’ve been with you from the start and I have always loved how authentic and real you are, how relatable and YOU that you are. Literally think you’re bloody wonderful. ❤
I'm ready and I'm listening to the very end. As long as you're healthy and happy that's all that matters it really is all that matters. You have taught me a lot about make up and you made me laugh on the days when I was suffering with depression. I've got a lot to say thank you for. Now it's our turn to listen & help you if we can xxx
depression is a BIIIAAATCH so i get it! so glad i could maybe help even in the tiniest way on your worst days. you got this. thank you so much xx
Touched by your bravery in talking about these difficult topics, Steph. You make each of us feel less alone in our own struggles, that is a true gift. Sending so much love and positive energy your way - your community is here to rally behind you on this new chapter of your journey ✨️❤️
This looks serious, hope you're ok. We all love you lots xx
it is a bit but i'm doing so much better now, thank you!! love you too xx
@stephanietoms mate you could be talking about soil 😅 I watch because I like you. I recognise so much of what you say in myself, I lost my Dad at 13 and undiagnosed but almost certainly have ADHD. You may feel uncomfortable saying you like to be liked by randoms on the Internet... but it's just as weird to feel like you are friends with someone you watch 😅 honestly, keep being you. Do what is best for you and those that are worth it will support you 😘 xx
I have so much respect and admiration for you - to come on to social media and basically pour your heart out and tell everyone about the unfortunate happenings of the last few years is outstanding. Well done you! Be proud of yourself and continue to grow in to the amazing person you are
no, literally i really wanna give you a big hug!!!
awww same!!xxx
I started watching your videos in 2019 when I was going through a bad period in my life.
You really resonated with me and we have had very similar experiences.
I wish you all the best going forward and your future will absolutely amazing!
Never stop being you ❤
I never really comment or anything, but I feel the need to confirm all the things you’re coming to terms with right now: you truly are enough and we really do love you for you. I’ve kinda fallen of out love with makeup, or at least don’t invest as much in it anymore but I’ll never stop watching your videos. You’re just so entertaining, also very relatable to me personally and seem so real, as sad as I get listening to you think negatively of yourself, you’re making your page a safe space to be true to yourself and I can’t put into words how much I appreciate that. I truly truly hope everything will finally work in your favor and genuinely believe you couldn’t deserve it more
The most honest and relatable video I have see in years. Thank so much for sharing and being so honest. Wish you all the best, here from Denmark🤗
Oh steph honey. Feel your pain,I nearly ended up being sectioned recently, trauma messes us up luv. We know you care ,I hope you can find the space and time to fully heal. Thank you for being so raw and vulnerable,thank you for just being you, sage your house and manifest . Love ya girl. You got this.❤❤❤
Awh Steph, i´m so sorry that you felt/feel this way. 😔 but i can understand. I´m diagnosed with seasonal depression. Fall and spring are the worst for me. I got help and was doing fine. And than my grandmother died, covid happened and i went rock bottom. And even with the help i have now, it´s still hard to get out of it. I think covid destroyed a lot of us. You´re not alone. I came f0r make-up and i stayed for Steph. I just like you. And i´m proud of you for opening up about what you´re struggling with. Wish more people did it. I love you, Steph! ❤
My heart is with you and I wish you all the best and you have my support if that means anything.
I just want to say that I started watching you 6 1/2 years ago after been homeless and entering recovery. I haven’t been watching YT for ages and I came to the app to have a look what you are up too. Sending you lots of love. Xx
Part of the reason I watch your videos, is because of how relatable you are and how open and honest you are about things. And in fact, because of you, I got an ADHD diagnosis at 30 years of age. Spent my whole life feeling different, weird, and like no one ever really wanted to be my friend. I just always thought I annoyed people and no one liked me. And I could never understand why I felt so different or found it so hard to fit in. Well, after hearing you talk about your experiences of ADHD and how similar are personalities are (again, one of the main reasons I love watching your videos) I was inspired to finally bite the bullet and get the test and I was ultimately diagnosed with combined ADHD. Without you I never would have got that official diagnosis and would have continued going through life thinking I was broken. I just wanted to say thank you for that 💕
Thank you for sharing and just know whatever you post up on TH-cam I will be watching and I appreciate it and I love your videos and I lost my mom in 2021. She gave up the fight from diabetes. Watching my favorite TH-camr and your videos have helped me get through the rough times, and just hang in there.❤❤ be safe, everyone😊😊
I resonate with this all so hard! I think it goes without saying I’m sorry and I love you, like we all do, but it it’s true. I have always resonated with you on so many levels and thought you would just be the bestest friend I could ask for because of how we see life and being a geeky person who happens to also like make up and make themselves feel good. It’s really difficult feeling like you don’t fit into a category and I have always appreciated that you are on here because I see myself and that’s powerful. I’m in a lot of the situations you are currently and seeing you own it I just have to say, you’re so strong. It’s not easy, especially when you your pain to others, but it’s important. Your feelings are justified and you are worthy of them just as much as you are worthy of feeling unconditional love. I know, (oh gosh do I know), that the deep shadow work is hard but it is opening you up to your higher self. So I’m manifesting for both of us, that we continue these journeys and blossom into who we are truly meant to be. You got this! I may never meet you, but I am always here for you if you ever need a strangers unbiased opinion.
Oh oh! Twitch!!! Yes!! Loved chatting and playing with you on there 😁
It's wonderful to be genuine and even, sometimes, vulnerable. Not only for yourself but for anyone else scared to bare themselves. I'm a newer viewer, I was unaware of anything you've gone through, and I subscribed because I DO like you. You're candid, mildly irreverent, plain about your opinions, witty, and funny. I live in the US, I don't even have easy access to half the products you talk about but I watch anyway because you are you. Having a disorder, illness, personal problem, or flaw isn't abnormal or a burden and we all have seasons of change and growth. I hope you feel renewed.
I have never felt so seen in a video. I found your channel in my dark time and you helped. You made me feel seen and now you have done it again. Get out the way of your own self. It's hard.. I'm trying too but the progress? Feels like the best thing that's ever happened to you
YESSSS STEPH! 🥳 Just sat here cheering you on and rooting for you SO HARD. I’ve watched you for years and this actually made me so happy for you. You’re so strong for coming out the other side so positively and I know you’re about to have the biggest life glow up ❤ So excited to see what’s next for you 🎉
I’m a couple of years coming out of some of the same stuff you’ve been going through. And I am very excited for you.
Steph, you have been one of my fav YT's for about 8 yrs. I was a 45 yr old, who had almost lost her eyesight. Was lucky and grateful that Dr's were able to save it. Thank God. After my surgery, I realized how much I had let myself go. So I started watching makeup videos. And you were one of the 1st I started actually following. I ❤️'d your energy, your style and the way you did your makeup. I'm in the states, so your accent was lovely as well. I'm glad your doing better, it's hard work with ups and downs. Your facing it and working on it and that in and of itself is a testament to your strength and resilience. Stay strong, keep improving, and we will ALL be here when you show up. Much ❤️
I'm so sorry you've been fighting through all that for so long. Happy to hear you're taking care of yourself. I feel like you've explained so many things that we all feel like about ourselves and about life in general, so never feel alone in that. ❤ We love you and your channel, no matter what you're talking about! Thank you for sharing and I pray that you make it through each day knowing that you are loved and appreciated.
Ive been watching your videos for years i can honestly say one of the best youtuber i watch and i hope all your wishes you mentioned in the video come true, no one deserves it more.. good luck steph i wish you a bright future x
You are deeply inspiring and I think you don't even realise that. I takes a lot of courage to talk about these things on the Internet. I wish you all the luck, happiness and best wishes in the world right now! 💕
I know, Steph has inspired me a lot over the years especially with regards to my mental health ~ knowing I'm not the only one going through it & even someone as successful as her sadly experiences hardship too. She also reminded me to remember that we're all enough & to be kinder to myself which is something we all need to do 💛✨️
I started watching you because I've felt like I could relate to your natural rambling, thoughts, ideas and even your comment a few years ago about wearing interesting T-shirts just to create a conversation starter in a public setting. It was a lovely idea and it helped me relax and you've given new perspectives on things about life in general bc you're so kind and you almost think the way I do and it makes watching your videos so relatable and comforting. Thank you.
I love you, you are a light in the dark,and you are definitely just as good as anyone else,stay bright , beautiful ❤🎉😊 xx
I love Steph. Not many out there like her. Sending lots of love ❤❤ New start is good Steph
Hey Steph 👋🏼 I have been a follower for years now, and have loved watching you and your content grow.
I felt more connected to you than others I followed as we are the same age, from similar areas (Somerset for me), grew up with the same difficulties around self image and self confidence, and love for the same sorts of things, same mental health battles.
I think it’s so brave recognising what is and isn’t working for you, and changing your life so drastically. There’s a lot of pressure at this point in life to have your shit together, but in reality, even the people we think are the most ‘together’ adults, don’t have all the answers and have it ‘together’. You have so much ahead of you, and even with all you’ve been through the last 4 years, you are smashing it. Proud of you x
I've followed you for quite a while now, I think around 7 years at least, and am still around because I like you as a person! You feel genuine, not someone who fakes their personality for views, and that's why I like you! I've always loved watching your vids because of who you are as the person we see, and how real you are. You share your struggles along the way, and that's what makes you real and relevant. You still are relevant, and will be, even after taking some time away from the internet. We need real people like you in a world where everything online seems to be fake. I also have ADHD and lost my mom nearly 2 years ago, and you talking about life (besides the regular vids you've made which I also absolutely love) has been helpful for me aswell.
I don't comment on video's often, also don't watch TH-cam as often anymore, but your video's are still some of my faves!
Take your time healing, finding your way through all that has happened in your life and all what's ahead of you, your (internet) support system will remain intact and we're rooting for you along the way!
We love you Steph, thanks for sharing your story and opening up, you don't owe us any explanation but it is very nice to understand you a bit better after all that has happened in your life.
We're proud of you ❤
You seem like one of life’s good guys. Take care ❤
I genuinely think you’re great. I struggled with being bullied, ugly, loser the whole shebang. I also late diagnosed adhd same age as you. Dysmorphia sucks and I have recovered from anorexia too it’s a tough ride and I’m sorry you’ve felt like this too but you have so many people who admire you for you!
Thank you for being you! I’m sure I’m not alone in saying I can relate to you. From feeling like the ugly duckling and not fitting in growing up to losing a parent way too soon, I related to the feelings and thoughts you talked about. It’s nice to know we aren’t alone and your bravery in putting yourself out there will help others not feel alone. I’ll be keeping you in my prayers and am excited to see all you will do!
You've got the realest and most fun personality. You've always been memorable for me since I discovered your channel. So sorry about everything you've been through and it's A LOT. I wish nothing but the best for you regardless of what that may be in the future x
I can resonate with the feeling ugly part, I was bullied horrendously at school and it’s literally shaped my entire life. I thought I was over it, but then something happens and I’m back to beating myself up and calling myself awful names, coz that’s all I’m used to. But deep down I know it’s not true, I’ve built myself into the person I am today and we I’m alright with it. But I completely get you, I understand you totally when you said you feel ugly. You’re not. You’re a beautiful person inside and out and that’s why people like me watch you. Not just for your makeup videos. It’s because you relate to so many people and have a fabulous personality. Other “influencers” are just boring and are genuinely making videos for money. But you’re doing it to entertain people and it shows. You’ve been through horrible stuff but it’s good that you’re talking about it. It helps take the weight off and coming to thousands of people must be terrifying but you’ve done it. So well done. The only way is up now. Keep working, keep laughing, keep on being you. The world is your oyster! 🥰🩷
Im a silent watcher but been watching for years and years and always empathised with you, i lost my mum suddenly when u was 24, diagnosed with bipolar same year, then 1 year and one month later lost my granda. It was horrific.
I really do love seeing you being you, and love watching you be real. We all love you steph x