Hi everyone! For those of you wondering, all Lauren's Hope ID jewelry has the internationally recognised logo, so medical professionals/ambulances know what to look for. Here are close-ups of them: instagram.com/p/BkTE0M0goqh/ instagram.com/p/BlnFRUlg0EU/ Lots of love xx
a cheese factory in your brain lol... I am more dark and but yet I can full of cheer and all that @#&*! I have become very sarcastic and yet funny its been like that sense childhood for me... and when the rubbish bin is on the walkway and blocking my path if I can while it is full I will tip it over into the persons yard thus moving it out of my way tipping it over. :-) Then I go home and laugh about it. glass half full... no no I drank it its empty and the glass is shattered all over the floor with a straw down there somewhere. Its all fine I will driver over it with my power chair and wait for someone to come and clean it when they come.
She feels awful and is exhausted, yet she still thinks about helping others and makes a video to help us. So amazing. I hope you get some rest and feel better, Jessica.
If you live to be 100 this awful day will be 0.00003 of your life. If you live to be 100 this awful year will only be 1% of your life. These mottos help me put struggle into perspective, we have a whole life and there are good parts and bad parts. If we hold on to bad parts we do a huge disservice to the good ones
“Praise yourself for the things that you have manage to do, not the things that you think you should have done but didn’t” I need to remember this! I’m repeating my first year of college because my lecturers didn’t think I was ready to move up (I was at level 6 and the college does offer a level 7 so I would have been jumping to level 8) and I’ve felt to talentless and like I should have done better but I improved so much throughout the year and I just need to look forward to improving next year. Jessica you are honestly such an inspiration to me. Seeing you be so successful and disabled is amazing! (I have a visual impairment no peripheral vision and Asperger’s syndrome and I’m doing a musical theatre course)
Yes, concentrating on the negatives is so narrow. Look at the bigger picture and "praise yourself for the good (paraphrased)" as Jessica advises. I struggle with this even though I know it. But, It can make you feel empowered.
Since i also struggle with various mental illnesses in addition to my physical illnessess, positivity is always a very great topic to me... because i can be the most optimistic and positive person in the world... as long as its about other persons and not myself 🤐 It's very hard for me to think positive about myself because my brain tells me all the time that I'm the most horrible person in the whole wide world. This video is a good reminder to more often practice all the things i learned in therapy, thank you for that! I also use the 'this too shall pass' thing when I'm in bad bad pain. I try to imagine I'm a few hours from now or the next day, when this horrible moment is just a memory and nothing more. This often helps me to calm down and calm my 'everything is getting worse forever' thoughts.
I love how beautiful your hair is, when it's down. You're so positive. Everytime something bad happens, I just think of you and your smile, that will take away all the negativity. 😊 I'm glad I found this channel, you're an idol to those who need cheering up! 💕 Tell Claud, Walter and Tilly I said hi!!
I swear I do most of these things when my body shuts down. That and I may do a lot of talking out loud when struggling with my legs, as if talking encouragingly to my legs will stop them from slipping away from under me. Such a nice thing to hear off this topic from the perspective of someone else
I do that too! My joints make a lot of horrid sounds as well, the type that concern people that don't know you're disabled(and even those that do!) and i've started saying "Don't worry they just want attention" in response to their worry (':
I have a medical bracelet that I wear, made out of light blue leather and delicate steel. I get so many compliments on it without people realising its a medical bracelet - but it still has a medical alert symbol and my info so still practical.
You have no idea how much I needed this today. I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome and was just diagnosed with idiopathic intracranial hypertension and it has been super hard.
Jessica, you're an angel on earth. I've watched this video a couple of times now, because when I feel reaaaally low I like to get myself back on track with your lovely messages. Thank you so much, it's just a blessing to you have you here on TH-cam.
"Especially if that other person is your own body..." - never thought of it like that and realise I'm in a constant row with mine. A useful insight, indeed. Thanks! And learning to be present totally changed my life! Great tip. Also loving that you have continued through POTS by lying down to film. I do some pretty peculiar things to keep adulting in the face of disability. As a consultant, I often work in other people's offices, meaning a whole new set of people to get used to me doing weird stuff like napping under my desk! Extra points for workplaces with a sick bay... Keep up the good work!
Nice! I'm always lying down in weird places bc being upright is painful; I'm glad you're supported by your employers, from the sounds of it. I'd never thought about my body issue either, & am similarly constantly unhappy with mine. I know about being present but I really, really suck at it. Can't seem to do it, or meditate.
Sorry to see you’re having a rough day but I have to say that your ‘videos from the floor’ when you’re feeling pants are still 90% better than most of the videos on TH-cam. Great video as always Jessica. ❤️
Hey, I had a really rough day. I really needed this! I couldn't sleep last night because of overthinking. Thanks for sharing your personal struggles and how you deal with them. You have such a nice heart and soul, that's what it matters.
I Really needed this. I’ve realized recently that my inner self dialogue is negative. I beat myself up when I’m not capable of doing something or having a longer attention span. Love you Jessica!
Jessica since I watched this video I have written myself a card every day! I am trying to do it for the month of August. The last couple months have been pretty challenging for me and I quit my job. I didn’t realize how much I needed appreciation from myself. Thank you for sharing this video. It has inspired me, and actually improved my life!
I rarely comment on videos but i just wanted to say thank you so much i don't have a chronic issues but i instead had depression and anxiety. After 2+ years of therapy and a 180 on my life im so much happier than i have ever been in my life (I randomly cry sometimes as i'm so thankful for being better and happy). I don't get out much so youtube video have been a great comfort. When i found your videos i was thrilled! I binged watched them and they have helped me so much as they brought happiness, understanding and education to my life.They help change my outlook on life from one of dread and sadness to one of hope and happiness. I hope everyone that reads this has a great day! *hugs*
This video makes me so happy. Your positivity brings joy to the world. The only thing that I would add is, if you think of something nice about someone else, tell them. If you think someone else looks really good today, let them know. Seeing the unexpected happiness on someone else can really help raise your own happiness.
I... I guess I needed this. Three minutes in and I am already in floods of tears. I know it sounds stupid but... whenever I'm having a bad day, you're there for me. And I'll be forever grateful for that.
I was diagnosed with HNPP in March and also have POTS. Your videos have been such a help to me because even though I have a positive outlook I have found it very difficult not to blame myself or feel guilty for needing help with things that someone our age should be able to do easily. Your video about having a carer made me realise that it is an option and I have now had a needs assessment which went really well. Thank you for sharing your journey!
Good luck, having a carer has helped me so much (even though it's part time), I highly recommend it if you're struggling to function. I still have a lot of trouble asking for help but I'm better about than I used to be.
We appreciate your comment! Approximately 95% of emergency response personnel are trained to look for medical IDs and more specifically they are trained to look for the internationally recognized medical symbol of the snake wrapped around the staff (⚕️- also known as a medical caduceus). They do this check as they are conducting their primary or secondary assessment of the person they are treating. The reason it is recommended that people wear their medical ID on their left wrist or around their neck is those are the points where an emergency response professional will take your pulse, meaning they are going to look in those areas regardless. Although it isn't as easy to see in the video, especially if you are watching it on your mobile device, the white medical symbols on both ofJessica's bracelets are very recognizable and bright in person. We also offer the medical caduceus in other colors like red and black for those who are concerned about EMS recognizing the med ID. Hopefully this explanation eases some of your concerns! 💖
As a person struggling with depression and having a bad dip lately, thank you for this video Jessica. You've helped me so much. I needed this to bring me back to reality. You're a wonderful person and I wish you all the best
1) I love how you're giving more practical advice and not just Positivity Porn that we encounter on the internet and from TV gurus. 2) This is also really good for anyone suffering with mental illness/addiction/trauma/difficult transition. 3) That "changing the narrative" exercise you're talking about is called "free writing" where you just put pen to paper and don't edit or look back for a set amount of time until you're finished.
I had a terrifying car accident today. I’m laying in bed. Feeling horrible. Laying w my daughters pillow pet. In the dark. W my iPad. I’m just looking for the most comforting videos and knew to come straight to you! Chronic illness sucks! I have had many depressed days. I’m much like you. Too emotional by others emotions. But you taught my 30YO self things I was too old to learn. Im old dog learning new tricks when it comes to mental health by you. I love you, my dear. I hope you’re feeling better and hello Claudia ! Love you too ! Lol
Thanks Jessica, I was really struggling today with my positivity but this has reminded me to stop wasting my spoons on being negative. I ain’t got enough spoons for that! Hehe much love
Love love love "This too shall pass". I tell myself that every time I'm feeling sick, because I know that I've been there before and have made it through, and this time would be no different :)
That photo of you at 13:12, my God you are beautiful!!! You are so positive. I also have some disabilities and try to stay positive. One of my "tips" is that no matter how bad you have it, someone always has it worse. That helps me to stay positive anyways. You were laying on the floor talking about how horrible you felt with a big smile on your face. Wow, awesome. This is one of my favorite channels on TH-cam and there is some really good stuff on here. You and Claudia have a wonderful day.
Thank you for this! I still have a ton of difficulty being "body positive" with myself because it always feels like it's fighting me just to make me miserable and so others think I'm a useless person! But it's not realistic to hold out on being kind to my body until it's kind to me, cause that's not how it works.
Thank you for this video, Jessica. I really needed to hear this..... the forgiveness portion made me cry. I keep forgetting that it's OK to forgive myself. Thanks, again.
Sumarry: 1 Self love -Affirmations 2 Self forgiveness 3 Change the narrative -Expressive writing 4 Be present -Interrupt thought spirals by thinking about today 5 Face up to your fears -Slow, small steps of exposure to fears Extra tips: Ask question "Will doing this bring me health, wealth or happiness?" when considering lofty goals "This too shall pass" "You are never alone"
I broke down a bit and cried today because i feel like i'm getting nowhere with figuring out what the heck my body is doing to me. thank you for making this video even though it was years ago and thank you for just making videos in general! im really glad i found your channel as it has been such a positive aspect of my life lately :)
You truly seem like such a genuinely compassionate, caring, kind, gentle person, Jessica. I'm also really impressed by your resiliency and ability to bounce back from negative situations without becoming bitter. I hope I can become more like you in my life.
thank you so much for this video and all your videos 💗 i have a neurological disability & struggle with severe mental illness and i love watching your living with disabilities videos. seeing you live a full life with a wife, friends, a career you love is so soothing to my anxieties and worries about if i’ll be able to achieve the same things. additionally you have so much wisdom that you share in your videos and i’m able to carry that wisdom and remember it when i go about my life.
Recently I’ve been so selfish and it makes me hate myself ! I feel A LOT and I’m extremely empathic, but my brain makes my “empathy switch” power off when a friend approaches me with a problem. I know it’s because over the past few years my brain has convinced me that vulnerability is a weakness, or something to cringe at, and showing a friend that you care is a form of vulnerability. I want that part of myself back to badly, but I just don’t know how
Thank you for this comment. I've been feeling exactly the same way and thought I was going insane, or at the very least turning into a horrible person I wasn't before. But I can see it's a (very) misguided attempt at self preservation.
seedsofmayasmr yes I feel you ! I was convinced I was a bad person. but my therapist told me something that’s really stuck with me; “what do you gain from acting the way you do? your negative coping mechanisms, what do you GAIN from them?” Because once you know what you gain, you can find a healthier way to achieve that thing, or change it
seedsofmayasmr so I asked myself “what do you gain from acting cold around people sometimes?” “so they won’t know you care.” that’s when I realized, it was because showing care and love is so VULNERABLE and scary. so, I’m working on my acceptance of vulnerability. and I’m already getting better 💛
Thank you for making this. I needed to hear this today. Sometimes it all does get to be a little too much and it is hard to stay positive, or even just keep going while remaining really grumpy (sorry everyone around me!) I asked you for this kind of video in your Instagram question series in your story, and I'm really grateful for you making it. Working on self-love and cutting myself some slack every day. ~from your fellow chronic illness friend who watches you on the daily
you're such an inspiration, thank you. i have a couple chronic illnesses that restrict me to the bed at times. i strive to be able to maintain positivity enough. i know shitty days are shitty and building up to acting like you feel okay is a chore. so, thank you.
Literally had to pause the video at the fear of marshmallow example because my laugh was louder than I could raise the audio at the moment. That was priceless! Jessica, you are amazingly brilliant. Thank you for all the joy that you bring to my life (and others) as I watch all your videos back to back. Also, hi to Claud, Walter, Tilly, and Clara!!!
Loved this video, it made me tear up in a good way as I am really self reflecting on my personality and my actions and I find you as a huge role model. I felt the need to take notes and maybe try to remember to do these things especially when my mind decides to spiral into negative thoughts. Thank you for being such an inspiration to all of us who watch your videos. Also your make up is absolutely perfect and you bring such joy into my day! Thank You!!!!!
I’ve been undiagnosed for almost a year and a half now and it helpful to see that other people like yourself have gone though it too and made it. It gives me hope that I might have an answer soon.
It is so crazy that you are telling me the things I have learned in a year of psychotherapy (depression). Thank you so much! I wish everyone would know these methods to overcome negative thoughts and dark days. Your are SO AMAZING
LOVE the necklace today, very pretty. Also I envy how good you can look laying on the floor, my hair loves to do this rooster thing and its a mess. so many times I have to remember to praise myself for just surviving the day, or getting myself a drink. Everyone in my household should have medical ID's but we dont. We really need to find stylish ones for each of us.
I just wanted to let you know how much these videos have really helped me. I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm disabled, but I do have a few physical and mental health issues that make things hard. Whenever I have an especially tough time of things, I think of you and am able to push through. Thank you so much for everything!
I also do all of the above. We must be twins? Or, not... Probably. I am agoraphobic. My psych always used to say "It only has to be good enough", because I beat myself up if I don't manage things as planned. I also tend to catastrophise, which is hard. It's still a struggle, but I'm better than I used to be. Great video - Genuinely great advice for anyone who struggles in life. For any reason, actually. Much respect to you ❤.
I never expected this video to be so helpful, but it really was. Thank you so much, Jessica. I've been writing my whole life in every moment I wasn't fine, and watching you, talking about that, really made me feel I wasn't alone, just like you also said. Thank you so so much for this. We need more positive people like you and I will certainly try my best to get closer to my best self. Lots of love❤️
clicked on your video right as i was starting a panic attack. Just got news of something else wrong with me today. on top of my chronic illness. You helped me stop the panic attack and just wanted to say love your videos and thank you
I hope this will sound as a compliment (it does in my head) but I love how your voice changes pitch in your laying-down videos! Your positivity is one of the many reasons why you are my favourite youtuber and this was another really lovely video to watch
For the last couple of months I've been watching your videos every time my anxiety would get out of hand. Your voice is so calming to me for some reason :)) And now it's a video with useful tips on how to deal with said anxiety. Perfect :))
This was a corker. I can relate. I started losing my eyesight 5 years ago and it's (next to having children) the best thing that ever happened to me. Most of my sight was saved, but in that dark wait I gained similar insights to yours and it turned my life around. Your situation is much, much more challenging and persistent than mine. But if I can offer something - it may be of use to others - to keep a positive mindset I have made development and review a habit - and my main job in life is to spread love. I use a metta meditation to keep that love for all people going. Gratitude also keeps me up there, daily thanks to God, the universe and to people for all I have. God bless!
I really needed this video today. I turned 20 this year, and I have multiple disabilities, and I've been kind of struggling. I thought I had accepted things, but I hadn't. The realisation that I am not like other adults, that I have different circumstances that cannot be changed, and because of these things, I am not as capable or productive. I don't feel like a "real" adult, because I'll always need assistance and have a limited capability to work, and accepting this is hard. We have different disabilities (I have autism and ADHD, mental stuff, and the cognitive nonsense that goes with all that), but watching you has really helped me out.
I really struggle with positivity, I know all the things you're saying, I know logically they are all true, but it's a totally different thing trying to internalize it so it becomes part of your inner truth. I have been trying to believe all the great stuff I tell myself for over a decade, but with every day it becomes harder as I see the days passing by me while I'm missing them. Seeing your videos gives me hope one day I too will believe my life won't be like this forever.
Love this! Those IDs are gorgeous! One question though: do people know to look at them for information? Like, I would have never guessed that necklace had medical information on it. The bracelets with the panels do seem easier to spot to me, though.
That is an excellent question! We're really glad you asked! According to surveys that have been conducted approximately 95% of emergency response personnel are trained to look for medical IDs as they conduct their primary or secondary assessment of the person they are treating. Specifically they are most often trained to look at the wrists and neck for the internationally recognized medical symbol of the snake wrapped around the staff (⚕️- aka a medical caduceus). That's because these are the points where they will take your pulse. Hopefully this is helpful! 💖 Oh and just a sidenote: The necklace that Jessica is wearing in the video is actually only an accent necklace that is part of the Golden Filigree Ensemble. While the necklace goes very beautifully with the medical IDs she is wearing, it doesn't have any sort of medical information on it. 😊
I thought the same thing. I went to the webpage the other day from someone else's channel. I am still confused about the necklaces. One thing they have that is very helpful is a card you can fill out and keep in your wallet for things such as a list of your meds, or additional information that cannot fit on the tag. Personally, I am leaning towards the silicon bands. First responders are trained to look at the wrist and neck for medical alert jewelry. I like the tags that have the red caduceus as it seems to show up much better.
I have impaired hearing and that's how I originally found your channel but have stayed for the continuous amazing content you put out - You're seem to be such a wonderful person and it's inspiring every day.
This is a wonderful video that i like watching, every so often. It puts things into good perspective, with my life, and reaffirms my own progress and direction. Living with my own chronic fatigue and what-not, 33 years and still going. Thank you, Jessica!
This video answered the question I have most wondered about you since I started watching your videos! And I really appreciate that you answered in a way designed to help others! (Because of course you would!) These are all really helpful for me right now! I had never heard of the writing exercise, I will definitely try that! I remember hearing Oprah Winfrey shared a definition of forgiveness that changed her life: “Forgiveness is giving up hope that the past will be any different than it was.”
This video was so helpful. I struggle with anxiety and I have really bad self confidence. This video made me calm and start to think about what i’m really afraid of and why. Thank you, you bring so much joy to the youtube community. ❤️
Just discovering your videos and this is a fabulous one. I've learned how valuable self-love and self-care are. I appreciate you sharing so that hopefully more and more people can learn how important taking care of yourself is.
I could easily listen to a Jessica positive affirmations podcast daily. My last doctors visit marked the official change from "you'll improve and get better" to "you'll probably be like this forever". Which isn't a surprise but has been bumming me out, so this video was very timely.
You are such a beautiful person both in terms of looks and personality. Your positive and accepting attitude really inspires me to be more patient with the difficulties in my own life
And it’s funny: I actually do think of you when I’m having a bad migraine day and I think “if Jessica can rock her bad days then so can I!! “ You’re inspiring and I’m so glad I stumbled upon your videos a while back. I hope you feel better soon. Love you guys!!! 😘
Dear Jessica, This video has helped me before... Then I forgot... Now I found it again. And this time I'm writing everything down and I will find a way to burn this into my brain. I really needed this today and I will probably need it again, but that's okay. I really want to thank you for posting this. It's important to hear that others struggle too (even though they might appear to be so darn careless and happy). It's hard work to appear that way. And not just for me. Everybody struggles. Thank you for reminding me. And also for sharing your ways to cope. Much love ❤️
Thank you for this video. I was really struggling today. I wish I could put into words just how much your videos help me every single day. I've been in constant pain for months and was really getting to a dark place and you've helped me see a small glimmer of hope again. Thank you for everything you do!
Your videos always fill me with positivity and hope. Thank you so much for sharing your journeys in self-love and discovery with us. I always learn something from each of your videos!
Watching this while I lay flat on my bed... relatable 😜 I have chronic illnesses as well. EDS, POTS, and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. This was very helpful, being a 32yr old and not being able to experience life the way I expected to be is hard. It's hard to see why life is worth living this way, why to keep carrying on. Finding something that will make living this way enjoyable is hard. Sending hugs 🤗❤️
I have Scheuermann's Kyphosis and so experience really bad back pain sometimes. I currently cannot get out of bed because of it. Seeing you continue to make videos, despite having to lie on the floor to do so, makes me feel like it's okay to be stuck in bed sometimes. I also love the tips and messages you give in this video so thank you ❤️
The way that I was finally convinced I should take care of myself (besides just keeping other people from worrying), was that I'm a person too, so I should work just as hard to help myself as to help everyone else. Then I feel a lot less guilty about the self love, because I'm still maximizing my effort to make people happy, it just includes myself. Also apparently it makes other people really happy when I'm excited about something and explaining it and smiling which just makes me even happier :)
Thank you! I recently discovered your channel and am catching up on your vids. This one is very helpful. I have chronic pain with an unknown cause. I have just been through therapy, where I learned your five tips. But it is always good to be remembered. Especially since I’m still in the process of accepting my situation. Forgiving my body has not happened yet but I’m working on it. Thanks for sharing your story and being your wonderful self. Lots of love, Marieke
So just thank you Jessica for being an amazing human being. You and Claudia helped me realize that I am actually Bi. I’ve been coming to terms with being bi for a while now and just CAME OUT TO MY MOM! Ahhh! It went so well and I feel so loved by my family right now. ❤️ So THANK YOU!! 💖
Thank you so much Jess. I have been struggling a lot lately both physically and mentally. It is nice to know I am not alone, you have made me feel a little bit better. Barbara 🇨🇦 ❤️
I watched video when it was released and I loved it, but now I rewatch it in a totally different way; don't get me wrong, I still love it! But only now I've leaned that I have a chronic condition that makes me feel miserable and unable to move because of the pain. As I was here lying in bed and not moving a muscle I remembered this video and it sparked a little hope in me that I could find a way to accept that this experience is for life and still live my best life. You give me this sort of hope and for that I'm so grateful that you're putting your videos out there, Jessica 💕 Thank you for giving me something to look fkr
Hi everyone! For those of you wondering, all Lauren's Hope ID jewelry has the internationally recognised logo, so medical professionals/ambulances know what to look for. Here are close-ups of them:
instagram.com/p/BkTE0M0goqh/
instagram.com/p/BlnFRUlg0EU/
Lots of love xx
a cheese factory in your brain lol... I am more dark and but yet I can full of cheer and all that @#&*! I have become very sarcastic and yet funny its been like that sense childhood for me... and when the rubbish bin is on the walkway and blocking my path if I can while it is full I will tip it over into the persons yard thus moving it out of my way tipping it over. :-) Then I go home and laugh about it. glass half full... no no I drank it its empty and the glass is shattered all over the floor with a straw down there somewhere. Its all fine I will driver over it with my power chair and wait for someone to come and clean it when they come.
On the floor.
In pain.
Shoots a vlog.
Still looks glamorous.
Yeah it must be a Jessica video...
I barely manage to look this good while not in pain and fully functional otherwise. Must be the extra positive attitude that makes this possible.
Ikr so beautiful
IDK goals?
She feels awful and is exhausted, yet she still thinks about helping others and makes a video to help us. So amazing. I hope you get some rest and feel better, Jessica.
If you live to be 100 this awful day will be 0.00003 of your life. If you live to be 100 this awful year will only be 1% of your life. These mottos help me put struggle into perspective, we have a whole life and there are good parts and bad parts. If we hold on to bad parts we do a huge disservice to the good ones
Thanks, that is true and my maternal relatives live over 80 but my paternal were shorter burning matches, pa and grandpa did not make their mid 60s
Just the video I need today Jessica. Thank you so much, you don't know how much this has helped me
Happy I could help 💖
Jon K Same here!
Same!
Nowadays all you hear is "In the end you are always alone". And it's so unusual to hear "You are not alone". Your words literally made me cry
Real life princess. The ultimate embodiment of a disney princess. My inner child is just beaming right now. Magical lady
“Praise yourself for the things that you have manage to do, not the things that you think you should have done but didn’t” I need to remember this! I’m repeating my first year of college because my lecturers didn’t think I was ready to move up (I was at level 6 and the college does offer a level 7 so I would have been jumping to level 8) and I’ve felt to talentless and like I should have done better but I improved so much throughout the year and I just need to look forward to improving next year.
Jessica you are honestly such an inspiration to me. Seeing you be so successful and disabled is amazing!
(I have a visual impairment no peripheral vision and Asperger’s syndrome and I’m doing a musical theatre course)
Yes, concentrating on the negatives is so narrow. Look at the bigger picture and "praise yourself for the good (paraphrased)" as Jessica advises. I struggle with this even though I know it. But, It can make you feel empowered.
woah.......tl;dr is so modern of you to say, it shocked me so much i remember youre not from the 30s/40s
Hahaha, I very much laughed out loud at this! I shock myself with that too sometimes 😉
Since i also struggle with various mental illnesses in addition to my physical illnessess, positivity is always a very great topic to me... because i can be the most optimistic and positive person in the world... as long as its about other persons and not myself 🤐
It's very hard for me to think positive about myself because my brain tells me all the time that I'm the most horrible person in the whole wide world.
This video is a good reminder to more often practice all the things i learned in therapy, thank you for that!
I also use the 'this too shall pass' thing when I'm in bad bad pain. I try to imagine I'm a few hours from now or the next day, when this horrible moment is just a memory and nothing more. This often helps me to calm down and calm my 'everything is getting worse forever' thoughts.
I love how beautiful your hair is, when it's down. You're so positive. Everytime something bad happens, I just think of you and your smile, that will take away all the negativity. 😊 I'm glad I found this channel, you're an idol to those who need cheering up! 💕 Tell Claud, Walter and Tilly I said hi!!
Thank you for such kindness! I'm glad I can make you feel good. Hello back from my little family! 👋💖
you should totally do a pillow talk with tessa violet :) that'd be an interesting video!
You're optimism is so infectious. ☺
I swear I do most of these things when my body shuts down. That and I may do a lot of talking out loud when struggling with my legs, as if talking encouragingly to my legs will stop them from slipping away from under me. Such a nice thing to hear off this topic from the perspective of someone else
I do that too! My joints make a lot of horrid sounds as well, the type that concern people that don't know you're disabled(and even those that do!) and i've started saying "Don't worry they just want attention" in response to their worry (':
I have a medical bracelet that I wear, made out of light blue leather and delicate steel. I get so many compliments on it without people realising its a medical bracelet - but it still has a medical alert symbol and my info so still practical.
You have no idea how much I needed this today. I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome and was just diagnosed with idiopathic intracranial hypertension and it has been super hard.
Jessica, you're an angel on earth. I've watched this video a couple of times now, because when I feel reaaaally low I like to get myself back on track with your lovely messages. Thank you so much, it's just a blessing to you have you here on TH-cam.
Ahh!!! My title suggestion. I'm sure I'm not the only one who suggested it but it makes me very happy!
Thank you so much!
"Especially if that other person is your own body..." - never thought of it like that and realise I'm in a constant row with mine. A useful insight, indeed. Thanks!
And learning to be present totally changed my life! Great tip.
Also loving that you have continued through POTS by lying down to film. I do some pretty peculiar things to keep adulting in the face of disability. As a consultant, I often work in other people's offices, meaning a whole new set of people to get used to me doing weird stuff like napping under my desk! Extra points for workplaces with a sick bay...
Keep up the good work!
Nice! I'm always lying down in weird places bc being upright is painful; I'm glad you're supported by your employers, from the sounds of it. I'd never thought about my body issue either, & am similarly constantly unhappy with mine. I know about being present but I really, really suck at it. Can't seem to do it, or meditate.
@@maidende8280 I think meditation takes practice till you can build that "muscle". You can do it !!
Sorry to see you’re having a rough day but I have to say that your ‘videos from the floor’ when you’re feeling pants are still 90% better than most of the videos on TH-cam.
Great video as always Jessica. ❤️
@@katznratz Very late, but feeling pants just means feeling bad/bleh/rubbish/having a bad time of it. You've probably googled it by now :P
Her videos from the floor are frequently some of her best ones, too.
Hey, I had a really rough day. I really needed this! I couldn't sleep last night because of overthinking. Thanks for sharing your personal struggles and how you deal with them. You have such a nice heart and soul, that's what it matters.
I Really needed this. I’ve realized recently that my inner self dialogue is negative. I beat myself up when I’m not capable of doing something or having a longer attention span. Love you Jessica!
Jessica since I watched this video I have written myself a card every day! I am trying to do it for the month of August. The last couple months have been pretty challenging for me and I quit my job. I didn’t realize how much I needed appreciation from myself. Thank you for sharing this video. It has inspired me, and actually improved my life!
9:22 I really 100% truly hope someone on earth is afraid of marshmallows... And I want to give them a hug❤❤❤💖
I rarely comment on videos but i just wanted to say thank you so much i don't have a chronic issues but i instead had depression and anxiety. After 2+ years of therapy and a 180 on my life im so much happier than i have ever been in my life (I randomly cry sometimes as i'm so thankful for being better and happy). I don't get out much so youtube video have been a great comfort. When i found your videos i was thrilled! I binged watched them and they have helped me so much as they brought happiness, understanding and education to my life.They help change my outlook on life from one of dread and sadness to one of hope and happiness. I hope everyone that reads this has a great day! *hugs*
This video makes me so happy. Your positivity brings joy to the world.
The only thing that I would add is, if you think of something nice about someone else, tell them. If you think someone else looks really good today, let them know.
Seeing the unexpected happiness on someone else can really help raise your own happiness.
I... I guess I needed this.
Three minutes in and I am already in floods of tears.
I know it sounds stupid but... whenever I'm having a bad day, you're there for me. And I'll be forever grateful for that.
I was diagnosed with HNPP in March and also have POTS. Your videos have been such a help to me because even though I have a positive outlook I have found it very difficult not to blame myself or feel guilty for needing help with things that someone our age should be able to do easily. Your video about having a carer made me realise that it is an option and I have now had a needs assessment which went really well. Thank you for sharing your journey!
Good luck, having a carer has helped me so much (even though it's part time), I highly recommend it if you're struggling to function. I still have a lot of trouble asking for help but I'm better about than I used to be.
This was lovely to listen to while I was rearranging my book case. Lovely message Jessica and I'm glad it's not just me that hates 'mindfulness'
Thank you SO much for your insights
We appreciate your comment! Approximately 95% of emergency response personnel are trained to look for medical IDs and more specifically they are trained to look for the internationally recognized medical symbol of the snake wrapped around the staff (⚕️- also known as a medical caduceus). They do this check as they are conducting their primary or secondary assessment of the person they are treating. The reason it is recommended that people wear their medical ID on their left wrist or around their neck is those are the points where an emergency response professional will take your pulse, meaning they are going to look in those areas regardless. Although it isn't as easy to see in the video, especially if you are watching it on your mobile device, the white medical symbols on both ofJessica's bracelets are very recognizable and bright in person. We also offer the medical caduceus in other colors like red and black for those who are concerned about EMS recognizing the med ID. Hopefully this explanation eases some of your concerns! 💖
As a person struggling with depression and having a bad dip lately, thank you for this video Jessica. You've helped me so much. I needed this to bring me back to reality. You're a wonderful person and I wish you all the best
1) I love how you're giving more practical advice and not just Positivity Porn that we encounter on the internet and from TV gurus.
2) This is also really good for anyone suffering with mental illness/addiction/trauma/difficult transition.
3) That "changing the narrative" exercise you're talking about is called "free writing" where you just put pen to paper and don't edit or look back for a set amount of time until you're finished.
As someone who struggles a lot with depression and anxiety - on top of my physical illnesses, finding this video today really helped me. Thank you
I had a terrifying car accident today. I’m laying in bed. Feeling horrible. Laying w my daughters pillow pet. In the dark. W my iPad. I’m just looking for the most comforting videos and knew to come straight to you! Chronic illness sucks! I have had many depressed days. I’m much like you. Too emotional by others emotions.
But you taught my 30YO self things I was too old to learn.
Im old dog learning new tricks when it comes to mental health by you. I love you, my dear. I hope you’re feeling better and hello Claudia ! Love you too ! Lol
I feel like crap today, and this really helps me! Your optimism and your attitude towards life always make me happy :) Thank you, Jessica!!
Thanks Jessica, I was really struggling today with my positivity but this has reminded me to stop wasting my spoons on being negative. I ain’t got enough spoons for that! Hehe much love
Love love love "This too shall pass". I tell myself that every time I'm feeling sick, because I know that I've been there before and have made it through, and this time would be no different :)
That photo of you at 13:12, my God you are beautiful!!! You are so positive. I also have some disabilities and try to stay positive. One of my "tips" is that no matter how bad you have it, someone always has it worse. That helps me to stay positive anyways. You were laying on the floor talking about how horrible you felt with a big smile on your face. Wow, awesome. This is one of my favorite channels on TH-cam and there is some really good stuff on here. You and Claudia have a wonderful day.
This video is in my short list for helping me when I feel really crappy ... And it works every time! 💖
Thank you for this! I still have a ton of difficulty being "body positive" with myself because it always feels like it's fighting me just to make me miserable and so others think I'm a useless person! But it's not realistic to hold out on being kind to my body until it's kind to me, cause that's not how it works.
Thank you for this video, Jessica. I really needed to hear this..... the forgiveness portion made me cry. I keep forgetting that it's OK to forgive myself. Thanks, again.
Sumarry:
1 Self love
-Affirmations
2 Self forgiveness
3 Change the narrative
-Expressive writing
4 Be present
-Interrupt thought spirals by thinking about today
5 Face up to your fears
-Slow, small steps of exposure to fears
Extra tips:
Ask question "Will doing this bring me health, wealth or happiness?" when considering lofty goals
"This too shall pass"
"You are never alone"
Thanks!
‘This too shall pass’ is something I have tattooed to me because it’s something that means so much to me.
I broke down a bit and cried today because i feel like i'm getting nowhere with figuring out what the heck my body is doing to me. thank you for making this video even though it was years ago and thank you for just making videos in general! im really glad i found your channel as it has been such a positive aspect of my life lately :)
Oh yes forgiving ourselves is KEY !!! So happy to hear other people say it
You truly seem like such a genuinely compassionate, caring, kind, gentle person, Jessica. I'm also really impressed by your resiliency and ability to bounce back from negative situations without becoming bitter. I hope I can become more like you in my life.
YES! Re: praising yourself for things you manage to do! So big and so important. I do that a lot!
thank you so much for this video and all your videos 💗 i have a neurological disability & struggle with severe mental illness and i love watching your living with disabilities videos. seeing you live a full life with a wife, friends, a career you love is so soothing to my anxieties and worries about if i’ll be able to achieve the same things. additionally you have so much wisdom that you share in your videos and i’m able to carry that wisdom and remember it when i go about my life.
Recently I’ve been so selfish and it makes me hate myself ! I feel A LOT and I’m extremely empathic, but my brain makes my “empathy switch” power off when a friend approaches me with a problem. I know it’s because over the past few years my brain has convinced me that vulnerability is a weakness, or something to cringe at, and showing a friend that you care is a form of vulnerability. I want that part of myself back to badly, but I just don’t know how
Thank you for this comment. I've been feeling exactly the same way and thought I was going insane, or at the very least turning into a horrible person I wasn't before. But I can see it's a (very) misguided attempt at self preservation.
seedsofmayasmr yes I feel you ! I was convinced I was a bad person. but my therapist told me something that’s really stuck with me; “what do you gain from acting the way you do? your negative coping mechanisms, what do you GAIN from them?” Because once you know what you gain, you can find a healthier way to achieve that thing, or change it
seedsofmayasmr so I asked myself “what do you gain from acting cold around people sometimes?” “so they won’t know you care.” that’s when I realized, it was because showing care and love is so VULNERABLE and scary. so, I’m working on my acceptance of vulnerability. and I’m already getting better 💛
I think that's very common with empaths. We tend to get taken advantage of by emotionally needy people, and therefore shut down.
That sounds really really hard. Im sorry your having to go through this. But realizing that is the first step!
Thank you for making this. I needed to hear this today. Sometimes it all does get to be a little too much and it is hard to stay positive, or even just keep going while remaining really grumpy (sorry everyone around me!) I asked you for this kind of video in your Instagram question series in your story, and I'm really grateful for you making it. Working on self-love and cutting myself some slack every day. ~from your fellow chronic illness friend who watches you on the daily
you're such an inspiration, thank you. i have a couple chronic illnesses that restrict me to the bed at times. i strive to be able to maintain positivity enough. i know shitty days are shitty and building up to acting like you feel okay is a chore. so, thank you.
Literally had to pause the video at the fear of marshmallow example because my laugh was louder than I could raise the audio at the moment. That was priceless! Jessica, you are amazingly brilliant. Thank you for all the joy that you bring to my life (and others) as I watch all your videos back to back. Also, hi to Claud, Walter, Tilly, and Clara!!!
Loved this video, it made me tear up in a good way as I am really self reflecting on my personality and my actions and I find you as a huge role model. I felt the need to take notes and maybe try to remember to do these things especially when my mind decides to spiral into negative thoughts. Thank you for being such an inspiration to all of us who watch your videos. Also your make up is absolutely perfect and you bring such joy into my day! Thank You!!!!!
I’ve been undiagnosed for almost a year and a half now and it helpful to see that other people like yourself have gone though it too and made it. It gives me hope that I might have an answer soon.
It is so crazy that you are telling me the things I have learned in a year of psychotherapy (depression). Thank you so much! I wish everyone would know these methods to overcome negative thoughts and dark days. Your are SO AMAZING
You are a brightly shining light. Thank you so much for sharing you life with us.
LOVE the necklace today, very pretty. Also I envy how good you can look laying on the floor, my hair loves to do this rooster thing and its a mess. so many times I have to remember to praise myself for just surviving the day, or getting myself a drink. Everyone in my household should have medical ID's but we dont. We really need to find stylish ones for each of us.
You will be such an amazing mom!
I just wanted to let you know how much these videos have really helped me. I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm disabled, but I do have a few physical and mental health issues that make things hard. Whenever I have an especially tough time of things, I think of you and am able to push through. Thank you so much for everything!
I also do all of the above. We must be twins? Or, not... Probably. I am agoraphobic. My psych always used to say "It only has to be good enough", because I beat myself up if I don't manage things as planned. I also tend to catastrophise, which is hard. It's still a struggle, but I'm better than I used to be. Great video - Genuinely great advice for anyone who struggles in life. For any reason, actually. Much respect to you ❤.
I never expected this video to be so helpful, but it really was. Thank you so much, Jessica. I've been writing my whole life in every moment I wasn't fine, and watching you, talking about that, really made me feel I wasn't alone, just like you also said. Thank you so so much for this. We need more positive people like you and I will certainly try my best to get closer to my best self. Lots of love❤️
clicked on your video right as i was starting a panic attack. Just got news of something else wrong with me today. on top of my chronic illness. You helped me stop the panic attack and just wanted to say love your videos and thank you
that's the thing I love about you Jessica! You have part of the sun inside you and it radiates out to help others that are feeling dark ❤
You are such a role model for positivity! And your voice is always lovely to listen too!
I hope this will sound as a compliment (it does in my head) but I love how your voice changes pitch in your laying-down videos! Your positivity is one of the many reasons why you are my favourite youtuber and this was another really lovely video to watch
For the last couple of months I've been watching your videos every time my anxiety would get out of hand. Your voice is so calming to me for some reason :)) And now it's a video with useful tips on how to deal with said anxiety. Perfect :))
i swear every time you upload a video it’s on a topic i need, you are an amazing person, thankyou so much ❤️❤️
This was a corker. I can relate. I started losing my eyesight 5 years ago and it's (next to having children) the best thing that ever happened to me. Most of my sight was saved, but in that dark wait I gained similar insights to yours and it turned my life around. Your situation is much, much more challenging and persistent than mine. But if I can offer something - it may be of use to others - to keep a positive mindset I have made development and review a habit - and my main job in life is to spread love. I use a metta meditation to keep that love for all people going. Gratitude also keeps me up there, daily thanks to God, the universe and to people for all I have.
God bless!
I really needed this video today. I turned 20 this year, and I have multiple disabilities, and I've been kind of struggling. I thought I had accepted things, but I hadn't. The realisation that I am not like other adults, that I have different circumstances that cannot be changed, and because of these things, I am not as capable or productive. I don't feel like a "real" adult, because I'll always need assistance and have a limited capability to work, and accepting this is hard. We have different disabilities (I have autism and ADHD, mental stuff, and the cognitive nonsense that goes with all that), but watching you has really helped me out.
I really struggle with positivity, I know all the things you're saying, I know logically they are all true, but it's a totally different thing trying to internalize it so it becomes part of your inner truth. I have been trying to believe all the great stuff I tell myself for over a decade, but with every day it becomes harder as I see the days passing by me while I'm missing them. Seeing your videos gives me hope one day I too will believe my life won't be like this forever.
Love this! Those IDs are gorgeous! One question though: do people know to look at them for information? Like, I would have never guessed that necklace had medical information on it. The bracelets with the panels do seem easier to spot to me, though.
That is an excellent question! We're really glad you asked! According to surveys that have been conducted approximately 95% of emergency response personnel are trained to look for medical IDs as they conduct their primary or secondary assessment of the person they are treating. Specifically they are most often trained to look at the wrists and neck for the internationally recognized medical symbol of the snake wrapped around the staff (⚕️- aka a medical caduceus). That's because these are the points where they will take your pulse. Hopefully this is helpful! 💖
Oh and just a sidenote: The necklace that Jessica is wearing in the video is actually only an accent necklace that is part of the Golden Filigree Ensemble. While the necklace goes very beautifully with the medical IDs she is wearing, it doesn't have any sort of medical information on it. 😊
I thought the same thing. I went to the webpage the other day from someone else's channel. I am still confused about the necklaces. One thing they have that is very helpful is a card you can fill out and keep in your wallet for things such as a list of your meds, or additional information that cannot fit on the tag. Personally, I am leaning towards the silicon bands. First responders are trained to look at the wrist and neck for medical alert jewelry. I like the tags that have the red caduceus as it seems to show up much better.
I really needed this tonight - thank you Jessica 💖 I’m really nervous about something that’ll be happening tomorrow, but you comforted me.
I have impaired hearing and that's how I originally found your channel but have stayed for the continuous amazing content you put out - You're seem to be such a wonderful person and it's inspiring every day.
This is a wonderful video that i like watching, every so often. It puts things into good perspective, with my life, and reaffirms my own progress and direction. Living with my own chronic fatigue and what-not, 33 years and still going. Thank you, Jessica!
This video answered the question I have most wondered about you since I started watching your videos! And I really appreciate that you answered in a way designed to help others! (Because of course you would!)
These are all really helpful for me right now! I had never heard of the writing exercise, I will definitely try that!
I remember hearing Oprah Winfrey shared a definition of forgiveness that changed her life:
“Forgiveness is giving up hope that the past will be any different than it was.”
This video was so helpful. I struggle with anxiety and I have really bad self confidence. This video made me calm and start to think about what i’m really afraid of and why.
Thank you, you bring so much joy to the youtube community. ❤️
Just discovering your videos and this is a fabulous one. I've learned how valuable self-love and self-care are. I appreciate you sharing so that hopefully more and more people can learn how important taking care of yourself is.
I could easily listen to a Jessica positive affirmations podcast daily. My last doctors visit marked the official change from "you'll improve and get better" to "you'll probably be like this forever". Which isn't a surprise but has been bumming me out, so this video was very timely.
You are amazing. Your style, personality, outlook are on point. Many blessings to you and your lovely wife Claudia.
You are such a beautiful person both in terms of looks and personality. Your positive and accepting attitude really inspires me to be more patient with the difficulties in my own life
And it’s funny: I actually do think of you when I’m having a bad migraine day and I think “if Jessica can rock her bad days then so can I!! “ You’re inspiring and I’m so glad I stumbled upon your videos a while back. I hope you feel better soon. Love you guys!!! 😘
You go straight to Heaven, Mrs. Kellgren-Fozard! Truly. You're such a wonderful woman~ 💛
I have been recently diagnosed with anxiety and depression and this has helped me a lot. Thank you Jessica :)
Dear Jessica,
This video has helped me before... Then I forgot... Now I found it again. And this time I'm writing everything down and I will find a way to burn this into my brain. I really needed this today and I will probably need it again, but that's okay. I really want to thank you for posting this. It's important to hear that others struggle too (even though they might appear to be so darn careless and happy). It's hard work to appear that way. And not just for me. Everybody struggles. Thank you for reminding me. And also for sharing your ways to cope. Much love ❤️
Jessica, you're an amazing person. I'm very grateful for finding your channel. You're such a positive soul!
Thank you for this video. I was really struggling today. I wish I could put into words just how much your videos help me every single day. I've been in constant pain for months and was really getting to a dark place and you've helped me see a small glimmer of hope again. Thank you for everything you do!
Jess I love these tips! This can help for those who struggle with self criticism and such, as well as perfectionism! I love these types of vids! 😚😚
I found this incredibly helpful
Your videos always fill me with positivity and hope. Thank you so much for sharing your journeys in self-love and discovery with us. I always learn something from each of your videos!
Watching this while I lay flat on my bed... relatable 😜 I have chronic illnesses as well. EDS, POTS, and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. This was very helpful, being a 32yr old and not being able to experience life the way I expected to be is hard. It's hard to see why life is worth living this way, why to keep carrying on. Finding something that will make living this way enjoyable is hard. Sending hugs 🤗❤️
I have Scheuermann's Kyphosis and so experience really bad back pain sometimes. I currently cannot get out of bed because of it. Seeing you continue to make videos, despite having to lie on the floor to do so, makes me feel like it's okay to be stuck in bed sometimes. I also love the tips and messages you give in this video so thank you ❤️
The way that I was finally convinced I should take care of myself (besides just keeping other people from worrying), was that I'm a person too, so I should work just as hard to help myself as to help everyone else. Then I feel a lot less guilty about the self love, because I'm still maximizing my effort to make people happy, it just includes myself. Also apparently it makes other people really happy when I'm excited about something and explaining it and smiling which just makes me even happier :)
Thank you! I recently discovered your channel and am catching up on your vids. This one is very helpful. I have chronic pain with an unknown cause. I have just been through therapy, where I learned your five tips. But it is always good to be remembered. Especially since I’m still in the process of accepting my situation. Forgiving my body has not happened yet but I’m working on it. Thanks for sharing your story and being your wonderful self. Lots of love, Marieke
that ensemble is GORGEOUS!
This was really helpful! I also hate the word "mindfulness", so I am glad I am not alone with that!
So just thank you Jessica for being an amazing human being. You and Claudia helped me realize that I am actually Bi. I’ve been coming to terms with being bi for a while now and just CAME OUT TO MY MOM! Ahhh! It went so well and I feel so loved by my family right now. ❤️ So THANK YOU!! 💖
Thank you so much Jess. I have been struggling a lot lately both physically and mentally. It is nice to know I am not alone, you have made me feel a little bit better. Barbara 🇨🇦 ❤️
when you're in pain and on the floor but your makeup is still perfect
You’re incredible. Thank you for cheering me up.
I watched video when it was released and I loved it, but now I rewatch it in a totally different way; don't get me wrong, I still love it! But only now I've leaned that I have a chronic condition that makes me feel miserable and unable to move because of the pain. As I was here lying in bed and not moving a muscle I remembered this video and it sparked a little hope in me that I could find a way to accept that this experience is for life and still live my best life. You give me this sort of hope and for that I'm so grateful that you're putting your videos out there, Jessica 💕 Thank you for giving me something to look fkr