Molly as a mum is so comforting, you couldn't get a sweeter, more patient and attentive mum! Bambi is very lucky. Love you guys! thanks for being so honest about parenting xxx
Change in behaviour and increased neediness, when the family unit experiences changes is really very normal, these are the formative years. You are doing a great job!
I went through exactly this with my son when me and his dad split. It’s sooo would destroying and easy to blame yourself, but it will get easier! It’s a long process of continually adapting to meet the child’s emotional needs, as usually their bad behaviour is driven by by some sort of unmet need.
trust me little bambi knows what shes doing! setting clear and strict boundaries is absolutely the way forward - yes she will stop eventually, but stay strong!!!
Say a firm “NO - that hurts. I don’t like that.” And move away from her. But also positively reinforce Bambi when she’s using “kind hands” like when she’s brushing your hair or playing gently. You’ve got this!! ❤
I would absolutely make an effort to say “No, that hurts please don’t.” And then walk away. Even if she laughs it will eventually sink in. And then praise the good “soft gentle hands” behaviour so there’s a stark difference ♥️
@@megroseanneyeah, i worked at a daycare for nursing & we were also taught this. You have to completely be serious and stern when you say your type of “no”. Our type of “no” was “no thank you”. Lol
Thank you for being so real. SO many TH-camrs/influencers only show the cute moment with their children and it's so real to see the slightly more stressful or hard moments. xx
As a former nursery worker I think it could definitely be from being at nursery that’s caused her to be more aggressive, I’ve seen it happen time and time again. If one kid starts that behavior the whole room starts. Also it is totally normal, although very frustrating and hurtful, at her age they can’t properly communicate their needs/wants so it’s just something that comes along with that. You’re doing great! Don’t take it personal and I personally wouldn’t ignore it I would correct it over and over until it hopefully is less or stops altogether ❤
2:38 I had this with my child - I ignored, I was firm, I explained. Then someone said to me to show how it hurts. Was so upset one day I did cry when he did it, and he was so upset that he had hurt me, he never did it again. Not that fake crying is a resolution, but showing emotions is a learning curve 😊
My SIL doesn't do a 'naughty step' but rather a 'feelings step' - when my nephew lashes out or has a moment she will say "right let's have a feelings chat" and she will take him to the step and they will talk about what colour he is feeling i.e. blue for sad, orange for silly, red for angry etc. and she will explain why we can't act XYZ way and ask for a hug and a sorry and she will ask if he needs a minute to sit alone and calm down etc It's worked incredibly well for him - it does obviously take a lot of consistency and perseverance but I really admire the way she has handled it all!
Love this idea! The naughty step doesn’t actually get to the root of the cause. It’s more so- isolating and dismissive, in my opinion. Gotta communicate those feelings 💛
Molly is just adorable and the most comforting person. It is so beautiful to see her strength through so much, she continues to look forward and create a beautiful life for her and Bambi. What an inspiration she is. Love from America, Molly Mae!! You are a treasure.
Hi Molly, I’m a mother of 5 and I would say children tend to act out in the opposite way to what their usual personality is when there’s change happening. I’m recently going through a separation and my usual ‘good’ children are now ‘naughty’ and the ‘naughty’ one are ‘good. It’s just about managing it and making sure they are supported and loved xx
Hey, I work with children who have autism and other disabilities/difficulties as well as neurotyplical children - As a team we have found by saying, for example: "hitting no" "biting no" is less language and gets to the route straight away. It is so important to say "no" last so they hear a clear demand- too many words can confuse them, making them ignore you. It doesn't work over night, we have been consistent for 3 months.
Mum of a 2 year old here 🙋🏽♀️ They are brutal, they are ALL brutal. As hard as it is, just get down on her level and say “mummy doesn’t like that, that hurts mummy, mummy likes kisses and cuddles so let’s not do that and be nice instead” kind of thing. My 2 year old has a heart of gold, but he’s a devil too. It can get you down, but don’t let it. She will grow out of it, and it’s nothing to do with you💝
Exactly! Everything is a phase. My daughter used to do this to me (she's 5 now, and I have 2, 3 year olds) and I only remembered that she used to do it when you talked about it there! Feels like an issue at the time and you worry that you're bringing up a monster, lol, but you're not! Kids push and test boundaries. Just tell her no, don't make it a big thing and if you need to say something like "no, mummy is going to move away" and move slightly out of her reach, it could help. It's just repeating yourself and setting that boudary each time, calmly and firmly. Feels like it doesn't work initally because they'll keep doing it, but just keep going, she'll grow out of it.
Really appreciate you sharing ALL sides of motherhood. So many other mums on TH-cam only share the perfect bits (which they’re entitled to!) so thank you for being real
Always love your vlogs and how open and honest you always are. So excited for these since they're gonna get me through my finals lol. Can't wait for the next!!🩵
I’ve got an almost 3 year old, I find that what helps is speaking with a high pitched soft voice, tell her to be gentle, get her hands to stroke your face so she can understand. I find that with toddlers they want to test the boundaries but also patient with her it could also be a phase that she’s in and keep telling her to be gentle and explain to her that if she carries on she’ll hurt you and direct her to something else. I find that this has helped me with my little one. You’re doing amazing mama❤️
Thank god for Molly Mae I have been dying for a video!! Just as I was getting overwhelmed as a mom (untidy house, baby screaming with teething and feeling like a single parent IN a relationship) I just checked TH-cam and Molly has posted 😂 I will now spend the next 30 mins cleaning watching Molly… and breath! Xxx
Watching this vlog literally took away my anxiety and headache! Molly you seem like a lovely soul, and also love watching you and your daughter as a fellow mum of a 1 year old girl. ❤
She's a toddler, she doesn't know yet that it's not just her who has feelings. It's as if she's just learning that other humans exist. So it's not that she wants you to be hurt, she just doesn't know that it does. And telling her once isn't going to make her immediately realise, it's just a process that takes time!
Don’t beat yourself up Molly, my daughter went through a similar phase when she was around two. It can be so upsetting but know you’re doing what feels right for you. There’s advice out there too so don’t feel alone. You’re such an amazing mum to Bambi 💖
Hot Chocolate Tip: Mix the cocoa powder with a tiny bit of water enough to make a paste and keep mixing till smooth. Then add the hot milk. This way you won't have any lumps and you'll have a smooth cup of Hot Chocolate. Enjoy to anyone that reads this ❤
Ps. I agree with people saying that Toddlers behaviour changes when they are experiencing changes, especially within the household. This is why it's important for all parents (IF they can) to get along the best they can. You and Tommy carry on working together for Bambi. ❤
Redirect!! This worked wonders for myself but I understand every child may need a slight different approach. I read that often when we just say “no” they don’t know what else to do with that energy they’ve just built up. Instead we can show them what we can accept and that’s “soft hands” - for instance : she claws your face or attempts to * redirect her hands and demonstrate gently stroking your face (with her hands) , telling her “soft hands” , let go and watch the magic of her now *soft* touch. It took a good handful of times before she got it but it worked wonders and much sooner than I thought! Good luck you’re doing amazing ❤
Such a tricky but common phase! My daughter is one day older than Bambi and we definitely had this phase. We stop her and hold her hands (gently) and tell her “I can’t let you hit mummy, use your gentle hands” and then when she is being gentle I reinforce and praise her for using gentle hands. Then after telling her no once if she continues then distract her and redirect so that you don’t get in to a cycle of doing it for a reaction. They have no impulse control at this age and don’t really understand cause and effect when causing pain yet but they will eventually get the concept of gentle hands and the importance of this. Just continue to hold the boundary and she will learn as she grows.
Totally normal behaviour for toddlers. It’s a great chance to validate her feelings ‘it’s okay to feel angry but it’s not okay to hit’ ‘can you show mummy gentle hands please?’. Also you could show her ways to release anger in a way that’s not hurting others (deep breaths, stomping her feet and hitting a pillow). It’s super tough! x
Molly words cannot describe how much I look forward to your vlogs like I make a whole evening of it like it is the highlight of my day every single time I scream in excitement 🎉
Omg molly i can so relate to ur parenting n being a single mum u have no idea how comforting it is to knw that role models like u go thru the same struggles .....I live for ur vlogs ❤
Yay been waiting for this xxx i had this with my two year old girl too. they do grow out of it so don't worry too much.. every time she does it pull her hand away gently and say kind hands and i won't allow you to hit mummy and move her away gently from you.. keep doing this and honestly she will stop
Ooooh my gosh, if any other moms are reading this, YES, there is absolutely a hitting and grabbing phase. My daughter destroyed my face for a while there and it is so aggravating, but keep setting boundaries and you’ll get through it!
Love the vlogs !! We appreciate any effort put into them. As a struggling newly single girl I find other single women so comforting. You are absolutely smashing it and the peace and kindness you have towards others and your life is lovely ! Xx
your vlogs are so cosy. They are soooooo cosy to just have on while you clean or do your hair (as i did just now). They are so homey, inviting and relaxed. And you dont have to do 1000 things like other influencers, you are just so calming in your own nature. Please vlog more
Child expert view Scratching / grabbing / hitting = normal Trying to get a reaction = normal Does she know it ‘hurts’ you the way something would ‘hurt’ her = no Naughty step time = no way All totally normal & will pass. Teaching her to be gentle and kind comes from her watching you just being yourself. You’re doing amazing ❤
Oh babe, I totally understand your pain as my twin daughters are doing the same exact same and they'll be 2 in Feb! . Hitting, Pinching and slapping. I've studied ealry years and it is a "normal" behaviours as exploring boundaries. Children can take time to process different transition too like starting nursery etc. Hope your well take care mummmma x
Consistency in your approach to Bambi is best as it is easier for them to learn and remember with repetition. A firm “NO that hurt mummy. I’m going to move away so I can feel safe”. Something along those lines. It will teach her right from wrong, that you have boundaries and it will teach her to move away from people that hurt her at school for example if that ever happens. I wish bambie was 5 cause my kids are 4 and 3 and I could have done with an influencer being honest about these things on the internet ❤
My daughter was born 16th Jan 23 just before Bambi and she is also going through the stage of grabbing my face/neck. I think it is just a stage and when she does it I ignore it I take her straight to the naughty step and I say you can sit on the naughty step for a few minutes (she hates it) but once she's calmed down I tell her that it's not okay to hit mummy or scratch mummy because it hurts my feelings and she always gives me a cuddle. It's definitely helped to stop it happening as much she usually only tries when she's really hyper now. Don't worry it will definitely pass at some point 😊
Bambi’s behaviour is just a phase, don’t worry, very normal. But we were told with our son that one day at nursery isn’t enough as the six days in between is too big a gap for them to get used too. Obvs no idea how true but it seemed to be the case with our son, so we upped it to two days xxx
I wouldn’t necessarily say 1 day isn’t enough, just that it may simply take longer for them to adjust etc! Of course the more they are there, the faster and easier it is for them to feel comfortable and secure x
From a mum whos literally going through the same thing shes just turned two its so normal, i have been ignoring it by picking her up moving her to the other end of the room and going about my day and not looking at her, when shes ready she comes over then i attempt to say thats not nice it hurts are you going to say sorry, i dont know of its right but ita 100% working for me. If i say no when i move her awayshe just laughs in my face and obviously gets whatever shes seeking from me talking to her ! Its so intense when your on your own thought your doing nothing wrong yoube absolutely got this mama ❤
You must definitely tell her that she must not hurt you or anyone else ,always teach your child to be kind to people and animals ,it is the best life skill you can give them x
My first son never did anything like this and was always so gentle but my second son was just like this! He would make me cry with how much he would hurt me. It’s really a horrible feeling to be hurt by someone you love so much! Stay strong they grow out of it. By 3-4 years old my son stopped. I think it’s their way of dealing with frustration not being able to communicate what they want to say xx
3:35 I understand you taking the perspective of giving no reaction will solve it, but this is your toddler trying to express something she’s going through - whilst simultaneously testing boundaries. I love the positive reinforcement idea
From a barista put the chocolate powder in the jug with the milk then froth it up, you will have to mix it when milk gets warm or move the jug around when you are frothing it up xx
I’m also the mum of an almost 2 yr old and also have a 5 year old. I try not to react emotionally to her with those kinds of things when she does them but definitely try and put boundaries in place . I take her hands off me and say ‘I’m not going to let you hurt mummy. We use gentle hands.’ Things will get easier, you’re doing great x
Totally relate to this with Bambi. It’s cause & effect. Very normal for her age! You’re a great mom and you will navigate this situation and many more to come. ❤
I have two littles and the only thing that stopped them from hitting was saying “soft” and making them repeat the action with their hand softly. When they do it softly I give them a lot of praise and say “good job! Yes! Soft!” Repeat every-time they hit. My babes never hit, and they are very soft with our animals. I like to say soft because it’s a short word so it’s easy for them to listen to. I like to save “No” for dangerous things so they listen right away (stove, outlet, etc).
Love your vlogs as always! In terms of behaviours re Bambi, I found myself setting the boundaries is key and letting her know it’s naughty and it’s not nice. Naughty step worked for us too! Be firm/assertive and come down to her height etc..I personally wouldn’t be able to ignore as I think it’s important to instill good values from day 1 ❤ you will find what works and she will soon get the message either way x
I love Molly her vulnerability her honesty as much as she can share..I wish her and Bambi all the best for 2025 🎉( side note is it just me who thinks she gives Tommie too much grace ?! Cause his behavior has been messy AF! He was literally in my friends DMs days ago 😒 she deserves the world!!
Every baby is differently! Try the “no thank you, that hurt mummy” and walk away and don’t feed into it. And then, when she is being kind, praise it massively “good girl Bambi, thank you for using your kind hands, that makes me happy” but if that doesn’t work, you can try the ignore route. Sending you love! You’re smashing it xxx
I love your week in the life video. They are just a joy to watch after dinner. Especially on a Wednesday as the working week can be tough at times. Your natural hair is gorgeous shame. You are not keeping it. Then again, styling longer hair is easier, I have never known any different. I have not had shorter hair. Hope you and Bambi are well! I am looking forward to the festive vlogs. 35 minutes long, you treat us! 🧡✨️🎄⛄️
hi Molly, a little tip for hot drinks that I use is to put how much milk you want in the jug, heat for a few seconds, add the powder and stir in and then finish heating it up. hope that helps
I see a lot of comments about family change and the impact on a kid and I think that makes a lot of sense - I was 3 when my parents split and my dad moved out and I remember being upset, not knowing why and my mum essentially telling me why it was I felt upset, but I never thought she was exactly right in her assessment of my feelings. That’s absolutely nothing against her at all, it was just quite hard feeling that neither I nor my mum knew what and why I was feeling. Despite how recently everything with Tommy has happened, to me, you seem to be handling it so well and being so good with Bambi. What I’m trying to say is that when you’re so little and there’s all this change, your emotions may just be a little too big for you
Molly, we’re all with you in the terrible 2 phase 😅 I’ve only learned this through being a nursery nurse and having my own almost 3 year old boy but the hitting phase is developmental, your friend is exactly right it’s a boundary pushing phase and I definitely would just walk away or put my LO in a safe space if it was repeated hitting etc and since 2.5 his hitting has decreased massively, he barely hits unless he’s extremely tired or overstimulated but I’ve got a 2 min sand timer and I give it to him to hold so that he can cool down and he is so quick to say sorry once he’s had a cool down, her understanding will be so much better with time and just allow the tantrum in a safe place and reinforcing that it’s not kind when it happens has been the main breakthrough for me! ❤ she will learn great skills from nursery too, don’t worry about it 🥰xx
Hi mollymae, its good to start looking at emotional regulation and what she is doing with her emotional state. Most adults never got taught how to manage emotions and that's why we avoid them with alcohol/drugs/sex/ruminating etc. So it good to try and explore its okay to feel "angry" but what can you do to calm rather than hit. Same with feeling scared or overwhelmed. In time kids can learn to manage emotions well and become much more balanced adults that can cope better with life stressors xx
Bambi’s experienced a few big changes in her life recently (parents separating and starting nursery). She’s just learning to communicate her feelings, sometimes she’ll feel frustrated and this can come out as slightly aggressive behaviour. It’s won’t last.
Babes laptops do that if you don’t have it on a “ fan laptop stand “ to keep it cool. It over heats and makes a noise when you have it placed on a bed, sofa etc. also it gets slow if you have too much stuff on it like videos/vlogs. You need to get a hard drive and move everything you don’t need on the laptop and put it on the hard drive then it will be faster ❤
Molly you don’t understand we need these vlogs. This is what gets us through a horrific work week.
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So refreshing to other Mum’s talking about the difficult parts of parenting. It’s flipping hard! We’ve got this 🫶🏼
Yes I was coming here to say the same thing!!!
Molly as a mum is so comforting, you couldn't get a sweeter, more patient and attentive mum! Bambi is very lucky. Love you guys! thanks for being so honest about parenting xxx
Change in behaviour and increased neediness, when the family unit experiences changes is really very normal, these are the formative years. You are doing a great job!
I went through exactly this with my son when me and his dad split. It’s sooo would destroying and easy to blame yourself, but it will get easier! It’s a long process of continually adapting to meet the child’s emotional needs, as usually their bad behaviour is driven by by some sort of unmet need.
trust me little bambi knows what shes doing! setting clear and strict boundaries is absolutely the way forward - yes she will stop eventually, but stay strong!!!
Yes! It doesn’t happen over night. Discipline can take weeks - months to sink in for toddlers.
Say a firm “NO - that hurts. I don’t like that.” And move away from her. But also positively reinforce Bambi when she’s using “kind hands” like when she’s brushing your hair or playing gently. You’ve got this!! ❤
Terrible advice 😂😢😢😮
@@rosk.wilburn5847 this isn’t at all. I work in a preschool and this is exactly what we’re taught to do
I would absolutely make an effort to say “No, that hurts please don’t.” And then walk away. Even if she laughs it will eventually sink in. And then praise the good “soft gentle hands” behaviour so there’s a stark difference ♥️
This.
@@megroseanneyeah, i worked at a daycare for nursing & we were also taught this. You have to completely be serious and stern when you say your type of “no”. Our type of “no” was “no thank you”. Lol
Thank you for being so real. SO many TH-camrs/influencers only show the cute moment with their children and it's so real to see the slightly more stressful or hard moments. xx
As a former nursery worker I think it could definitely be from being at nursery that’s caused her to be more aggressive, I’ve seen it happen time and time again. If one kid starts that behavior the whole room starts. Also it is totally normal, although very frustrating and hurtful, at her age they can’t properly communicate their needs/wants so it’s just something that comes along with that. You’re doing great! Don’t take it personal and I personally wouldn’t ignore it I would correct it over and over until it hopefully is less or stops altogether ❤
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2:38 I had this with my child - I ignored, I was firm, I explained. Then someone said to me to show how it hurts.
Was so upset one day I did cry when he did it, and he was so upset that he had hurt me, he never did it again.
Not that fake crying is a resolution, but showing emotions is a learning curve 😊
My SIL doesn't do a 'naughty step' but rather a 'feelings step' - when my nephew lashes out or has a moment she will say "right let's have a feelings chat" and she will take him to the step and they will talk about what colour he is feeling i.e. blue for sad, orange for silly, red for angry etc. and she will explain why we can't act XYZ way and ask for a hug and a sorry and she will ask if he needs a minute to sit alone and calm down etc
It's worked incredibly well for him - it does obviously take a lot of consistency and perseverance but I really admire the way she has handled it all!
To add - my nephew is now nearing 4 but they began this at probably age 2 ish
I do a “thinking step” and it also works wonderfully. Great inspo about the colours
Love this idea! The naughty step doesn’t actually get to the root of the cause. It’s more so- isolating and dismissive, in my opinion. Gotta communicate those feelings 💛
PLEASE make the vlogs longer. It’s so comforting.
Also I’m grateful for the consistency ❤
Molly is just adorable and the most comforting person. It is so beautiful to see her strength through so much, she continues to look forward and create a beautiful life for her and Bambi. What an inspiration she is. Love from America, Molly Mae!! You are a treasure.
Hi Molly, I’m a mother of 5 and I would say children tend to act out in the opposite way to what their usual personality is when there’s change happening. I’m recently going through a separation and my usual ‘good’ children are now ‘naughty’ and the ‘naughty’ one are ‘good. It’s just about managing it and making sure they are supported and loved xx
And its important to be a patent and tell them cant do that
Hey, I work with children who have autism and other disabilities/difficulties as well as neurotyplical children - As a team we have found by saying, for example: "hitting no" "biting no" is less language and gets to the route straight away. It is so important to say "no" last so they hear a clear demand- too many words can confuse them, making them ignore you. It doesn't work over night, we have been consistent for 3 months.
I was also just about to say this. I work with challenging behavior too and we are told the same.
molly you are in your glow up era girl , you look amazing!!!
Aww Bambi is so beautiful bless her 🥹♥️ her little “mummy cuddle” what a sweetheart
Bambi asking for Mummy cuddles is so so adorable😢😢😢😢❤
Mum of a 2 year old here 🙋🏽♀️ They are brutal, they are ALL brutal. As hard as it is, just get down on her level and say “mummy doesn’t like that, that hurts mummy, mummy likes kisses and cuddles so let’s not do that and be nice instead” kind of thing. My 2 year old has a heart of gold, but he’s a devil too. It can get you down, but don’t let it. She will grow out of it, and it’s nothing to do with you💝
Exactly! Everything is a phase. My daughter used to do this to me (she's 5 now, and I have 2, 3 year olds) and I only remembered that she used to do it when you talked about it there! Feels like an issue at the time and you worry that you're bringing up a monster, lol, but you're not! Kids push and test boundaries. Just tell her no, don't make it a big thing and if you need to say something like "no, mummy is going to move away" and move slightly out of her reach, it could help. It's just repeating yourself and setting that boudary each time, calmly and firmly. Feels like it doesn't work initally because they'll keep doing it, but just keep going, she'll grow out of it.
The 3 year old is worse 😭😭😅
Same here ! Xxxx
Little tip for hot chocolate making, add a bit of hot water into the powder and stir it to make a paste before you add the milk xxx
Really appreciate you sharing ALL sides of motherhood. So many other mums on TH-cam only share the perfect bits (which they’re entitled to!) so thank you for being real
Always love your vlogs and how open and honest you always are. So excited for these since they're gonna get me through my finals lol. Can't wait for the next!!🩵
I’ve got an almost 3 year old, I find that what helps is speaking with a high pitched soft voice, tell her to be gentle, get her hands to stroke your face so she can understand.
I find that with toddlers they want to test the boundaries but also patient with her it could also be a phase that she’s in and keep telling her to be gentle and explain to her that if she carries on she’ll hurt you and direct her to something else. I find that this has helped me with my little one. You’re doing amazing mama❤️
Thank god for Molly Mae I have been dying for a video!!
Just as I was getting overwhelmed as a mom (untidy house, baby screaming with teething and feeling like a single parent IN a relationship) I just checked TH-cam and Molly has posted 😂 I will now spend the next 30 mins cleaning watching Molly… and breath!
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Watching this vlog literally took away my anxiety and headache! Molly you seem like a lovely soul, and also love watching you and your daughter as a fellow mum of a 1 year old girl. ❤
She's a toddler, she doesn't know yet that it's not just her who has feelings. It's as if she's just learning that other humans exist. So it's not that she wants you to be hurt, she just doesn't know that it does. And telling her once isn't going to make her immediately realise, it's just a process that takes time!
Don’t beat yourself up Molly, my daughter went through a similar phase when she was around two. It can be so upsetting but know you’re doing what feels right for you. There’s advice out there too so don’t feel alone. You’re such an amazing mum to Bambi 💖
Love how you speak about the difficult parts of motherhood, I don’t feel alone 🫶🏽🫶🏽
Hot Chocolate Tip: Mix the cocoa powder with a tiny bit of water enough to make a paste and keep mixing till smooth. Then add the hot milk. This way you won't have any lumps and you'll have a smooth cup of Hot Chocolate. Enjoy to anyone that reads this ❤
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I agree with people saying that Toddlers behaviour changes when they are experiencing changes, especially within the household.
This is why it's important for all parents (IF they can) to get along the best they can.
You and Tommy carry on working together for Bambi. ❤
Redirect!! This worked wonders for myself but I understand every child may need a slight different approach. I read that often when we just say “no” they don’t know what else to do with that energy they’ve just built up. Instead we can show them what we can accept and that’s “soft hands” - for instance : she claws your face or attempts to * redirect her hands and demonstrate gently stroking your face (with her hands) , telling her “soft hands” , let go and watch the magic of her now *soft* touch. It took a good handful of times before she got it but it worked wonders and much sooner than I thought! Good luck you’re doing amazing ❤
Your vlogs are my COMFORT ZONE MOLLY❤I couldn’t wait for another video.
I literally love these vlogs, best part of the week. Fr therapy 🤍🫶🏻
Such a tricky but common phase! My daughter is one day older than Bambi and we definitely had this phase. We stop her and hold her hands (gently) and tell her “I can’t let you hit mummy, use your gentle hands” and then when she is being gentle I reinforce and praise her for using gentle hands. Then after telling her no once if she continues then distract her and redirect so that you don’t get in to a cycle of doing it for a reaction. They have no impulse control at this age and don’t really understand cause and effect when causing pain yet but they will eventually get the concept of gentle hands and the importance of this. Just continue to hold the boundary and she will learn as she grows.
what an amazing mama 🤍
Totally normal behaviour for toddlers. It’s a great chance to validate her feelings ‘it’s okay to feel angry but it’s not okay to hit’ ‘can you show mummy gentle hands please?’. Also you could show her ways to release anger in a way that’s not hurting others (deep breaths, stomping her feet and hitting a pillow). It’s super tough! x
The Ice blonde looks sooo good! It’s giving OG Baddie Molly! ❤
Molly words cannot describe how much I look forward to your vlogs like I make a whole evening of it like it is the highlight of my day every single time I scream in excitement 🎉
She will absolutely grow out of this stage. My little boy was doing all of this, but he has calmed down so much. He is 4 now.
Omg molly i can so relate to ur parenting n being a single mum u have no idea how comforting it is to knw that role models like u go thru the same struggles .....I live for ur vlogs ❤
Yessss! She's back! Love this look it's so OG Molly Mae!
Yay been waiting for this xxx i had this with my two year old girl too. they do grow out of it so don't worry too much.. every time she does it pull her hand away gently and say kind hands and i won't allow you to hit mummy and move her away gently from you.. keep doing this and honestly she will stop
Ooooh my gosh, if any other moms are reading this, YES, there is absolutely a hitting and grabbing phase. My daughter destroyed my face for a while there and it is so aggravating, but keep setting boundaries and you’ll get through it!
Love the vlogs !! We appreciate any effort put into them. As a struggling newly single girl I find other single women so comforting. You are absolutely smashing it and the peace and kindness you have towards others and your life is lovely ! Xx
your vlogs are so cosy. They are soooooo cosy to just have on while you clean or do your hair (as i did just now). They are so homey, inviting and relaxed. And you dont have to do 1000 things like other influencers, you are just so calming in your own nature. Please vlog more
Love how honest you are about everything. So refreshing x
Child expert view
Scratching / grabbing / hitting = normal
Trying to get a reaction = normal
Does she know it ‘hurts’ you the way something would ‘hurt’ her = no
Naughty step time = no way
All totally normal & will pass.
Teaching her to be gentle and kind comes from her watching you just being yourself.
You’re doing amazing ❤
Scratching hitting is not normal
Oh babe, I totally understand your pain as my twin daughters are doing the same exact same and they'll be 2 in Feb! .
Hitting, Pinching and slapping. I've studied ealry years and it is a "normal" behaviours as exploring boundaries.
Children can take time to process different transition too like starting nursery etc.
Hope your well take care mummmma x
Consistency in your approach to Bambi is best as it is easier for them to learn and remember with repetition. A firm “NO that hurt mummy. I’m going to move away so I can feel safe”. Something along those lines. It will teach her right from wrong, that you have boundaries and it will teach her to move away from people that hurt her at school for example if that ever happens.
I wish bambie was 5 cause my kids are 4 and 3 and I could have done with an influencer being honest about these things on the internet ❤
Great to have more Molly vlogs, keeping us going for the long period to Christmas break. Lots of love x
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You seem so much happier these days! Love that for you
Back with her ex that’s why silly girl
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My daughter was born 16th Jan 23 just before Bambi and she is also going through the stage of grabbing my face/neck. I think it is just a stage and when she does it I ignore it I take her straight to the naughty step and I say you can sit on the naughty step for a few minutes (she hates it) but once she's calmed down I tell her that it's not okay to hit mummy or scratch mummy because it hurts my feelings and she always gives me a cuddle. It's definitely helped to stop it happening as much she usually only tries when she's really hyper now. Don't worry it will definitely pass at some point 😊
Your not alone Molly. I am going through what your dealing with . Stay strong xx
Bambi’s behaviour is just a phase, don’t worry, very normal. But we were told with our son that one day at nursery isn’t enough as the six days in between is too big a gap for them to get used too. Obvs no idea how true but it seemed to be the case with our son, so we upped it to two days xxx
I wouldn’t necessarily say 1 day isn’t enough, just that it may simply take longer for them to adjust etc! Of course the more they are there, the faster and easier it is for them to feel comfortable and secure x
You are doing such an amazing job molly. I need your videos weekly or more than once.
From a mum whos literally going through the same thing shes just turned two its so normal, i have been ignoring it by picking her up moving her to the other end of the room and going about my day and not looking at her, when shes ready she comes over then i attempt to say thats not nice it hurts are you going to say sorry, i dont know of its right but ita 100% working for me. If i say no when i move her awayshe just laughs in my face and obviously gets whatever shes seeking from me talking to her ! Its so intense when your on your own thought your doing nothing wrong yoube absolutely got this mama ❤
You must definitely tell her that she must not hurt you or anyone else ,always teach your child to be kind to people and animals ,it is the best life skill you can give them x
These videos are going to MAKE my Christmas 🤍
Yayyy was waiting for another one queen 🖤 hope you are thriving for this cozy season!!!!
Loveeee the vulnerability when speaking about Bambi! There's no right & wrong way to do it but you're doing great! 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
The world is so big and they are so small. They are having first experiences allllll the time. You’re doing well mama 🫶🏼
Love your vlogs Molly, so effortless and so honest! I hope Bambi grows out of it :). Thanks for being my inspiration to my vlogs! ❤
My first son never did anything like this and was always so gentle but my second son was just like this! He would make me cry with how much he would hurt me. It’s really a horrible feeling to be hurt by someone you love so much! Stay strong they grow out of it. By 3-4 years old my son stopped. I think it’s their way of dealing with frustration not being able to communicate what they want to say xx
3:35 I understand you taking the perspective of giving no reaction will solve it, but this is your toddler trying to express something she’s going through - whilst simultaneously testing boundaries. I love the positive reinforcement idea
From a barista put the chocolate powder in the jug with the milk then froth it up, you will have to mix it when milk gets warm or move the jug around when you are frothing it up xx
I’m also the mum of an almost 2 yr old and also have a 5 year old. I try not to react emotionally to her with those kinds of things when she does them but definitely try and put boundaries in place . I take her hands off me and say ‘I’m not going to let you hurt mummy. We use gentle hands.’ Things will get easier, you’re doing great x
Love your Vlogs Molly! I have been waiting and I can't wait for the consistent content this month! ❤❤❤
Oh my goodness, Bambi is just the cutest!
Cozy Christmas Molly Mae vibes!
OG Molly is back !!! Loving it 🤍
Totally relate to this with Bambi. It’s cause & effect. Very normal for her age! You’re a great mom and you will navigate this situation and many more to come. ❤
I have two littles and the only thing that stopped them from hitting was saying “soft” and making them repeat the action with their hand softly. When they do it softly I give them a lot of praise and say “good job! Yes! Soft!” Repeat every-time they hit.
My babes never hit, and they are very soft with our animals. I like to say soft because it’s a short word so it’s easy for them to listen to. I like to save “No” for dangerous things so they listen right away (stove, outlet, etc).
Love your vlogs as always! In terms of behaviours re Bambi, I found myself setting the boundaries is key and letting her know it’s naughty and it’s not nice. Naughty step worked for us too! Be firm/assertive and come down to her height etc..I personally wouldn’t be able to ignore as I think it’s important to instill good values from day 1 ❤ you will find what works and she will soon get the message either way x
Hot chocolate tip: put the hot chocolate powder in with the milk, and then heat up the milk. That’s how it’s made in coffee places ❤
I love Molly her vulnerability her honesty as much as she can share..I wish her and Bambi all the best for 2025 🎉( side note is it just me who thinks she gives Tommie too much grace ?! Cause his behavior has been messy AF! He was literally in my friends DMs days ago 😒 she deserves the world!!
Why do I love mollie vlogs so much ❤
Every baby is differently! Try the “no thank you, that hurt mummy” and walk away and don’t feed into it. And then, when she is being kind, praise it massively “good girl Bambi, thank you for using your kind hands, that makes me happy” but if that doesn’t work, you can try the ignore route. Sending you love! You’re smashing it xxx
This hair is everything !!!
I love your week in the life video. They are just a joy to watch after dinner. Especially on a Wednesday as the working week can be tough at times. Your natural hair is gorgeous shame. You are not keeping it. Then again, styling longer hair is easier, I have never known any different. I have not had shorter hair. Hope you and Bambi are well! I am looking forward to the festive vlogs. 35 minutes long, you treat us! 🧡✨️🎄⛄️
hi Molly, a little tip for hot drinks that I use is to put how much milk you want in the jug, heat for a few seconds, add the powder and stir in and then finish heating it up. hope that helps
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I see a lot of comments about family change and the impact on a kid and I think that makes a lot of sense - I was 3 when my parents split and my dad moved out and I remember being upset, not knowing why and my mum essentially telling me why it was I felt upset, but I never thought she was exactly right in her assessment of my feelings. That’s absolutely nothing against her at all, it was just quite hard feeling that neither I nor my mum knew what and why I was feeling. Despite how recently everything with Tommy has happened, to me, you seem to be handling it so well and being so good with Bambi. What I’m trying to say is that when you’re so little and there’s all this change, your emotions may just be a little too big for you
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Molly, we’re all with you in the terrible 2 phase 😅 I’ve only learned this through being a nursery nurse and having my own almost 3 year old boy but the hitting phase is developmental, your friend is exactly right it’s a boundary pushing phase and I definitely would just walk away or put my LO in a safe space if it was repeated hitting etc and since 2.5 his hitting has decreased massively, he barely hits unless he’s extremely tired or overstimulated but I’ve got a 2 min sand timer and I give it to him to hold so that he can cool down and he is so quick to say sorry once he’s had a cool down, her understanding will be so much better with time and just allow the tantrum in a safe place and reinforcing that it’s not kind when it happens has been the main breakthrough for me! ❤ she will learn great skills from nursery too, don’t worry about it 🥰xx
Hi mollymae, its good to start looking at emotional regulation and what she is doing with her emotional state. Most adults never got taught how to manage emotions and that's why we avoid them with alcohol/drugs/sex/ruminating etc. So it good to try and explore its okay to feel "angry" but what can you do to calm rather than hit. Same with feeling scared or overwhelmed. In time kids can learn to manage emotions well and become much more balanced adults that can cope better with life stressors xx
Bambi’s experienced a few big changes in her life recently (parents separating and starting nursery). She’s just learning to communicate her feelings, sometimes she’ll feel frustrated and this can come out as slightly aggressive behaviour. It’s won’t last.
Perfect timing was just scrolling and this popped up ✨
Your content is so relatable ❤
You can add the powder straight into the milk and froth them together and that blends it perfectly
This haircolor looks so good on you Molly❤️
Change in behaviour and increased neediness, when the family unit experiences changes is really very normal
Babes laptops do that if you don’t have it on a “ fan laptop stand “ to keep it cool. It over heats and makes a noise when you have it placed on a bed, sofa etc. also it gets slow if you have too much stuff on it like videos/vlogs. You need to get a hard drive and move everything you don’t need on the laptop and put it on the hard drive then it will be faster ❤
Loving the old molly mae hair! The blonde looks amazing 🥰😍
This hair colour makes you look so much younger !!! Stunning 🤩
Welcome back molly!
I hope you and Bambi! are doing well! ❤
I can see how much effort went into this!
5 Santa banister.. Waay too much. There's only 1 santa, right😉
Your morning with Bambi is sooo relatable. Happens to me as well with my 17 month old. ❤
Vlogmas has begun!!! I’ve never been happier 🤗🤗🤗