I'm really shy and quiet at school. Just last year, most of my friends were going on a school trip France and it seemed such an amazing opportunity. We could see the Eiffel Tower, go Disney Land Paris and even have a tour around Paris. It sounded amazing! The only thing that was keeping me back was my confidence. I wasn't sure if I would be able to cope on a coach for a long time or be around people who I hadn't spoken to before. I felt really worried. When it was time to go I felt so scared and I felt as if I was going to back out of this once in a life time chance. But I coped with my nerves and jumped in at the deep end. I had the best 4 days of my life! I made so many memories with my friends and it was so much fun. I battled my fears and won! I doubted myself at first but I did it. My advice to people who feel isolated from other people and don't feel very confident is to always jump in at the deep end, it may seem scary at first but as soon as you have don't it you will feel great. I know I did and I couldn't of done it without my friends and teachers. My sister was also with me which made it even better. DONT LET SHYNESS AND ANIEXTY STOP YOU FROM GOOD OPPORTUNITIES!!!💕💕💕💕
I suffer from flying anxiety. Last year I was invited to go to Hawaii with my family and almost declined because of the 9 hour flight. This video gave me the confidence to say "yes" and I ended up having an amazing time. I am now re-watching because I recently agreed to visit my sister in Denmark and now, two weeks out, I'm starting to have nightmares about the long flight. I appreciate having this video available to remind me to never miss out on life experiences because of fear. I'm far too old to participate in something like NCS, but sometimes even us grown-ups need to be reminded to have faith and live a little. Thank you.
Thanks for this video. I reflected on my whole life and thought you were right. I had avoided a lot of things and regreted. I had done so many wrong things that I wished I can change. I've been depressed before, started cutting, had social anxieties, started became rebellious and defiancy happened. After my exams finished earlier this year, I regreted ever becoming rebellious and defiant. I am now starting to be more 'good'. Im going to catch my dream. Im gonna achieve my goal. Thank you so much, Zoe!
"1.1 million of you who have subscribed to me" casually has 9.7 million literally only two years later. if nobody realizes, she has gained 8.6 MILLION subscribers int only two years. love you zoe
I'm watching this in July of 2017, I'm so proud and inspired by how far she has come since this video. Now with a new range, and 11 million subscribers. As someone dealing with anxiety and depression I can safely say that this video and your previous one on anxiety + panic attacks were both so so helpful. You have inspired more people than I can imagine. Thank you so much
I'm watching this in September 2016, I've recently been lacking in self esteem and I've constantly been afraid of having panicky moments but this video has made me so much more confident and assertive. You are honestly such an inspiration and I can't tell you how thankful I am Zoe❤️
Thank you Zoe! You have made my life 10 x better than what it used to be. I remember watching this video the day that you uploaded it and since then I have started saying yes more. I said yes today to something that is massive for me. I said yes to my dad. It has always been a dream of mine to go to New York but I never though I would get to go. You have changed my life for the better and that is not an over statement. Thank you Zoe. Next year I'm going to New York! And in March/April I'm going on my first plane. I'm scared but this video always makes me feel better when I'm feeling worried and anxious. All I wanted to say is thank you because I now get to live my dream 💕
I took a 10 day trip on my own to visit college friends on the other side of the country. I had flown on my own to get to and from college, but I had not been in a big city on a vacation with just my friends before. The biggest thing was I went to a three day music festival (which was the main reason for planning the trip) and crowds around concert can make me incredibly anxious. And I didn't think about it when we made the plans, I just agreed. And I was fine for (almost) the entire trip. It was an incredible experience and I'm so glad I got to go explore new cities with some of my best friends in the world.
I literally watch this video every time I feel swamped by my anxiety and it helps me so much. I can never be grateful enough to Zoe for how much she has helped me. x
Today, my friend asked me to come swim with her. I am usually nervous about that kind of thing, but then before texting her that I didn't want to come, I thought of this video. I went & ended up having a blast!! Thank you so much Zoë!
Thank you Zoe!! This has helped me in so many ways. I live with my boyfriend of 3 years and he doesn't like to do anything social from dinner with my parents to going on holidays, or even going to the cinema. He does little things occasionally but it is very rare for him to say yes to anything. He suffers slight anxiety and I think he needs to watch your video which I will show to him. I don't push him to do things he doesn't want to do, but that doesn't mean it doesn't upset me. I can never really do anything fun WITH him so I had to start doing things on my own recently (because yes, we only do live once) and saying yes to my family to go on holidays with them and other little things. When I do say yes to big things like holidays without him I feel guilty and sad because I'm leaving him alone for possibly weeks at a time and I can see that it hurts him so it makes me very sad to feel this way and it is partly the reason I say no to so much stuff. If he would just come with me everything would be fine but he just won't for some reason :( all he ever says is that he doesn't want to go. But I know there has to be something more there. Like his anxiety.. but when we are in public he isn't shy, nervous or he doesn't struggle to make conversation with anyway so its really difficult to put my figure on it.. anyway, I just wanna say a massive thank you because your video helped me say yes to alot more things but I still feel guilty for leaving him behind on many things that I do so that's the next step.
I've always been really quiet and shy and I panicked when I would have to talk to people that I didn't know. But I decided that it was an unhealthy way to live, so I started trying to speak and do things even when it terrified me. I would raise my hand more in class and everything. There were groups of kids who would bully me constantly, and I finally stood up to them. Of course they didn't stop bullying me but everyone else respected me more, It didn't all turn out good but it made a big impact on my school life and it made me happier. I enjoyed going to school more, I mean as much as someone can. But I battled against these things I was scared of, I was scared of being judged or scared of doing or saying something wrong. I still have trouble, A LOT of trouble with this. But I try to speak up more and it really helps.
Hey, just watched this video in june 2016.Found it really inspiring. It's nice to know that you are not alone, not the only one and that you are normal in a good way! I said Yes to a France-exchange for 3 months and I gained a wonderful friend and lots of adventures. Most important it is to say YES to life!! "YES" Thank you for makimg this beautiful video, Zoella❤
On the social anxiety level, I just want to share that hey, I've been there and am still in the process of overcoming the fear and anxiety, but, its getting A LOT better with each leap of faith. Thank you for sharing your story and opening a way for conversation!
I watched this before a volleyball match i had. I was unbelievably nervous and used to have extremely bad anxiety along with other things. The last match i played was nationals a year and a half ago where i got so nervous i had to run off court and started retching in the toilets. The dreaded match day arrived and i was asked to serve because i have the strongest serve. I said yes and eventhough i was shaking and thought i was going to be sick i stayed on court and didnt let anxiety win. From now on I will be writing down everytime i say yes and believe in myself. You may not read this but I hope you know how much this video is helping people. Thankyou Amy x
this video helped me with my anxiety depression and panic disorders. i also have a huge fear of vomiting and going on adventures with my friends and family was a huge struggle. Now, almost 5 years after being diagnosed with all that ive never been happier. i want to start posting videos that will help people like this video did for me. youre my biggest inspiration and i want to reach the level of success that youve reached. keep doing you and never change. love you zoe!
I got up on stage and sang on the Apollo Theater in New York City (a giant leap for me) , I joined my school musical, and so much more. Thank you Zoe for inspiring me to step out of my comfort zone :)
I know this video was published like 3 years ago and you won't read this but I need to write it. I remember when I watched it on August 2015 (year ago) when I didn't know what to do with my life and I had really really low self esteem because I was bullied. I wanted to come back to school of music (which I left few years ago) and I wanted to do something that makes me happy and gives me confidence that I didn't have - music is one of these things. However, I didn't know if coming back to school of music is a good idea, and I couldn't decide what should I do, I was so scared of failing and that was awful. And then I discovered this video and after watching it i thought that I should try, even though I can fail. Right now I'm back in school of music, I'm a lot more confident and right now I'm just a happier person and I discovered that risking is okay and saying "yes" to new things is great. I just wanted to say thanks because this video helped me soooo much and if someone is reading this and feels the same thing as I felt - whatever it is, it's worth risking and trying. Thank you Zoe, love you.
I don't have anxiety, panic attacks or depression but I do sometimes feel trapped in a box that prevents me from doing things. So thank you Zoe because I am now going to say yes to more things so I can gain more confidence and let the barrier around me disappear.
I always reflect on my life, cos I've made mistakes but whenever I watch this video it just makes me realise that I need to and should be happy cos no ones perfect and no one has the perfect life and that we just need step out of it a little cos we could be missing out on alot of things for sure, we need to make the most of it and even though we've made mistakes we have to get past them and say yes to things more cos it's the way forward. This video makes me smile and happy and zoe makes me so happy and smile cos I just love this video cos it makes me really reflect on my life and tells me I need to improve on my life. Thanks zoe!
I'm pretty sure I have depression... I self harm and always find something wrong about situations. I am only 13 and I realise that I have my whole life ahead of me but sometimes it feels like it would be easier if i just quit. This video was amazing, Zoe. It is so nice that you can do something like this with so many subscribers and manage to keep it so personal. From now on I will start to say yes, starting with the room renovation my mum has been offering me but I have had the energy to do. Thanks again xx I love your videos and you are really inspirational :) P.S I said yes to liking this video x
I have awful anxiety and panic attacks. I'm junior in high school, and I have never gone to a school dance. I never wanted to, I was terrified, I thought I would never go. But last weekend, I decided to say YES. I went, and I didn't have a panic attack. I had a great time. I feel like I can do things now that I thought I would never be able to do!
This video helped me SO much 9 years ago and since then.. life has happened and I’ve come back to this remembering it helped me and it’s STILL so relevant and helpful❤
I've just had a really down day so I thought is watch this video. I've watched it before but I thought why not again. You don't understand how much thus helped, I've been feeling crap about myself all day and now because you you I'm much better. Thank you Zoe
Every time I'm scared of doing something I always think to this video. Since I saw it for the first time I started to say yes to a lot of things: I went to Rome with my classmates (although they're not really my friends), I signed up for a Tolstoj course, I signed up for being a guide in a local event and I started to say what I have to say, in classes and with my friends. I was so scared. And I still am. But I'm doing a lot of things...I've so many regrets about the stuff I haven't done in the past. Now I have the opportunity to go to an English university (I'm Italian) and I'm scared as hell, this is the biggest opportunity of my life. But I'm gonna say yes. Maybe I'll fail, but at least I'll be able to say that I had tried. I know that probably you won't never read this, but I really want to thank you for -seriously- having changed my outlook of life. 😊😊
I have been having panic attacks for about a year. Not often but quite a few. I didnt know how to cope i didnt want to speak to anyone but now i am so loud and bubbly you would think i am a different person which i basically am but the only reason i am like this now is because of Zoe. Zoe has helped me through soooooo many things without realizing it and i honestly cannot thank her enough. Zoe if your reading this keep doing what your doing cos u are amazing ly 😀
This video is very true. This year, I didnt want to sumbit my art into a contest( id already won that same contest a previous year actually) But I was afraid that I Wouldnt get in because there are 750 aplicants and only 40 win the show amd get to be part of the tour. Finally i sumbitted my work, and it was chosen as a winner, so thank you Zoe, for the motivation.
Re-watched this video today because my anxiety seems to be getting worse, including my claustrophobia. I think a lot of it is to do with my tendency to avoid things and say no to doing things so I never force myself to face them. I'm trying though, I get in lifts more often now unless they are full and I've said yes to going to a party where I don't really know many people. Wish me luck! xx
Thanks guys! I did it! I went, I was super anxious but I did my best. Anyone else find it awkward seeing people you haven't spoken to in years? I've got a flight to America this Christmas, which I'll probably vlog, super nervous, I hate takeoff and landing in case of turbulence.
I've suffered with depression, bipolar disorder, insomnia and self harm for about a year and a half now and I watched this video six months ago. It was the thing that really gave me the boost to say yes when counselling was offered to me. Obviously I still have my little blips but since I said yes to getting help things have been so much better for me. Since then I've said yes to other small things and my life has changed so much. Thank you Zoe, I love you 3
If anyone here has anxiety, here's a tip when it happens,blow on your thumb, it has nerves that connect with your heart rate, this sends a message to your heart to slow your heart rate down because when you have anxiety the main cause is your heart rate speeds up quite a bit. Ur welcome if this helped anyone...I have anxiety too, and it worked for me and i looked it up.
Thank you Zoe this we really help me I think been feeling really depressed lately and just cry about nothing and i get scared that if I go out I will just feel the need to cry so I will try your notebook suggestion and see if it helps I'm determined to get myself back on track :) thank you for a big boost of Zoe power xxxx
Thank you sooo much ZOE!!!! I am one of those people who won't go to anything if know one goes I don't know. I would all ways do stuff in side my comfort zone😔 I'd always say in side my own little bubble when it was my school play I got offered the main part I said no I wish I said yes I wish I has the confidence but I thought HEY do I really want to live the rest of my life saying and being the person who just follow people around I want to live my life saying YES!! And to try more stuff I still now feel like I can't walk out of my bubble but know I burst my bubble and did what right I said YES I'm glad I said YES i feel more CONFIDENT I stepped up my game and said YES so for all of you out there in the same situation I was in its ok you are not alone no one is perfect 😊JUST SAY YES!!!!!!!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️✌️ P.s my fingers Hurt from writing all of that no haters please x
My computer is filed with story's I wrote that no one knows about because I am scared that people would think there bad while I put my heart and soul in them an after a while I even stopped writing what made me feel even worse but after I saw this video I got up and posted my story's on quotev and it feels so good to see that people are actually reading them en like them. I know this seems small but this video really made me get on with my life. THANK YOU!
My friend called me to ask if I wanted to join a competition. I told her I'd get back to her later and watched this video (for the first time) to get my feelings together. Halfway through the video, I'd been reading through the comments of others' success stories after they'd said yes when my friend called me again. I said yes. Although I didn't win the competition, it was one of the best experiences I've had this year and I'm so grateful that I said yes instead of lounging about at home (which would've probably been great too). I just want to tell anyone who's hesitating, whether or not the outcome is what you what you wanted, you can always take it as a learning experience - as I did. So, do say yes. Thank you so much for this video, Zoe!
I have been offered the chance to go and do some charity work in Peru next year for a month, which is normally something I would be way too scared to do as my anxiety holds me back a lot, but I decided to say yes and I am currently raising money to go, so I am really pleased with myself and I know it's going to be a life changing experience!
Two years later I realise how much this has helped me for these last years. It's not just about saying yes anymore, but also about making myself do things I push myself to do without anyone else saying I should do them. For example I applied for an excellence program at my university and I knew I wasn't the perfect choice for such a thing, but I did it anyway and I got in! None of my current uni friends are doing this and I'm a little (okay a lot) intimidated by the others I'm going to have to work with, but I'm going to force myself to not chicken out and just keep saying yes even though I'm scared. It's such an amazing opportunity and I'm not sure whether I would've applied if I didn't watch this video a few years ago :)
I can just agree with her, just say yes! It is extremely difficult at first, but taking baby steps really help too. Saying yes to a small meet up with one or two friends for a short amount of time really helps to start off. After that, add on the people or the time and it really works! Thank you for the compliments, it means a lot :)
I've had the biggest struggle with anxiety for probably 2 months and I've tried so many things like talking to doctors, friends, and family. But nothing has helped me really. I noticed that I usually end up watching this video or zoella's anxiety videos so I don't feel so alone and its like a reminder that I have to change myself or it wont work. I'm still struggling but I'm trying my best everyday to keep moving forward. So thank you very much
i need help, im going on a train tomorrow, and trains make me feel really sick, i know you'll just say take travel sickness tablets. but i get so scared that they wont work:(
I watched this video last year and I wanted to say yes to lose weight! I weighted 86 kg last year, and my confidence was so low, a lot of people were like picking on me because I was bigger, and i just didn't loved myself. But then aftzer i watched this video i used summer 2013 as my remake and i just wanted to try to see if i can make it and i did! I lost 17 kg since last year and now I weight 69 kg, i look so much better, my confidence and selfesteem are improving, they are not high enough but they are growing, i can wear almost anything i like, i look so much better and love myself more! My life has changed like a 100% since then and it's amazing for now. This summer i'm using it for part 2 but i'm not going to lose 17 kg again because that would be too much haha! So thank you zoe, you helped me alot, and i will never thank you enough for making this video, love you! xxxx
i said yes to myself to ask my parents, who are very protective, to let me fly to Portugal (btw i'm from Luxembourg) so i could go to the One Direction concert ...i asked and they said *yes* so i flew alone for the very first time and i had the best time of my life :)
Same here ! :D Last year, I asked my parent if I could fly to Japan (I'm from Taiwan) to see NEWS's (a Japanese boy band ) concert. To my surprise, they AGREED ! At first,I thought that they're never gonna let me go,especially I was only 16,which they think it might be too dangerous for a 16-year-old girl to fly and travel alone. It cost me quite a long time to persuade them,however,I'm glad that I had say 'yes' to myself and had tried my best to let them say 'yes'. It had been the greatest and the most unforgettable time of my life~ :)
Also very proud 😄 i went to my friends house for the holidays and was was scared to go. I always said no in my life for all the other friends who invited me but this tile i decided to say yes. We had the best time, it brought us so much closer and i met her family, two cats (and i used to be scared of cats so it was a big step, now i am not scared) and i said yes to ride a horse wich i was also afraid of!
i love this because it shows people that zoe is not just a "beauty guru" or "fashion guru"... she is also an amazing person who wants to help other people...THANK YOU SO MUCH ZOE!!!
Wow! Really inspiring and motivational video :) Thanks so much Zoe (Zoella) I will try my best to do more with my life and say yes. You only live once so we have to make the most of it ♥
Thank you so much for this video! I've watched it multiple times when I feel like giving up and not saying yes to amazing opportunities. But one question...how do you deal with life when your closest friends are now bringing you down? I've been friends with this girl and all throughout the two years we've been friends, I continuously stood up for her and helped her through tough times, but when it comes time to help me...she's nowhere to be seen. She's said many hurtful things and never sincerely apologized for them and then she expects me to be okay with forgiving her in a snap. She's always excluding me when our our friends are present, but the moment she's lonely...she's bugging me. She claims to be a truthful friends but I also notice that she always creates misunderstandings between our other friends. I don't want to be rude and stop talking to her completely, but I'm also not sure how much more I can handle of this. I feel like our friendship is a one way street. Any suggestions?
I always feel like I'm the only one putting in the time and effort with some of my friends and sometimes it's a total downer. I don't mind organising, making plans and being there for them so long as they make me feel like I'm worth it and cherished. My suggestion is to surround yourself with your other friends that do make u laugh and smile. When she excludes you, talk to another friend and when she comes running back to you be patient but also don't give her everything she wants. She can't have you on a shelf ready to grab you whenever she wants. When you have so many other friends that are supportive it won't bother you so much that one friend isn't as good to you as the others are. Don't exclude her or block her out but if you're having trouble do something about it ️xx
Hi Zoe its me again, You probably never read my first comment on this video but I thought I would put something on here. A year ago I put something on hear about being self conscious and that I didn't have panic attacks or anxiety. 7 months ago I had my first panic attack. Where I cried and I had a break down while shaking. That's when I knew that my self consciousness was down to anxiety. Today I got invited to a party ( a small get together at her house) and I was going to reply no because I was scared that I would get in the way or that they didn't really want me there and as I was replying saying no I thought "Just say Yes." I should grab the opportunity to make new friends and I did. I said Yes (which is nowadays something I do rarely) so thank you for everything even though i get scared you remind me I'm strong and not everything is worth worrying. Lauren x
Recently I said YES to a BIG opportunity that would change everything in my life so far! I got accepted to a Disney program in which I have to move to Florida (I live in Costa Rica) and have to shared an apartment, meet new people, talk in a different language, study, work, be apart from my family for 6 months; and let's be honest its really scary but I want to make a difference in my life so I said YES! Don't be afraid of doing things, enjoy life! Hakuna Matata! :)
My mum asked me if I wanted to audition for a theatre group. I said YES! Now it's my favorite thing ever! I made so many friends! It was hard to get into but sooo much fun!
Zoe, you can't imagine how much you helped me. I cry with happiness and believe I will experience so much things! Wish you the best for your life, so you can be happy every day!
Im so glad I'm watching this again. I've been home making videos and just not hanging out with anybody and its really just bringing me down. I feel like I can finally leave my house again, thank you
I dream that when freshman year is over, I'll have been on several rollercoasters, because Zoey's right. I should say yes, not chicken out and watch my little cousins have fun and get scared out of their minds, because why not? They were made for the thrill. I also dream to speak my mind more, bc whenever a compliment or something nice or deep I want to say to a friend, I'll get afraid at the last moment and not want mushy gushy hugs or even worse, what if I get ignored? I should say yes, and I will, because why not :)
When I'm asked to go out with my sister (or friends) to go shopping, I become really really nervous. I know this sounds like a normal thing to be nervous about, but I'm scared to go out because of creepy people. But if I see someone lurking near me I instantly begin to panic. I kind of yell at my friends or sisters to leave even if we only just got there and it really really frustrates me. Nothing bad has happened apart from one time where I went to the park near me with a few of my friends and we were on the swings and a man walked past us and we went to leave and he spun around and began following us. Now I get anxious at the thought of going places without my parents. I told my mum and all she said was to "Get my big girl pants on" but its incredibly hard and I'm 14. Please help.
i think because what happend with that man one day made you feel so anxious that now everytime something simulair happens you start to panic. just think to yourself that the chances of it happening again are waaay smaller than the chances of it happening. made tell your friends/about it so they know how you feel and they can help calm you down 💕
In this situation I would suggest taking self deffence lessons because then you will be able to convince yourself that if something does happen you will be able to deffend yourself.
The other day my friend asked me to sleep at her house i am afraid of sleeping at anyones house who i dont feel comfortable with but i feel comfortable now you have made this video it just feels like ive gone from being in a dark room and busting into the world of wonders thanks so much zoe! it helped me alot. normally i get home sick thats why i dont like sleeping at places but i pushed myself and said yes im going to do that and this i dont care if i get homesick i want to enjoy my life with my friends family and of course the iternet i love you zoe! :) #justsayyes
I had never sung a solo on a stage before. I always got told that I had a gorgeous voice and I didn't think I had a good voice then last week, I went on stage and sung a solo and everyone in the audience come up to me and said your voice is amazing.
I said "yes" to 3 month journey to other country. I thought i would be stressed about it, but if i said no i would never make new friends and experiense
I've been feeling really depressed because of always being insulted and the bullies at school. I've not been saying yes to anything because I thought they would judge me and be really nasty. I'm now going to say yes to more things and not worry about the bullies and people judging me. You've really helped. This is your best video ever.😊
i know you will never gonna read this but whatever. i handle with depression, Panik attacks , anxiety , ana and More but hell yeah. you have saved me, and My life. everybody is like; "she is a youtuber....a normal women..she didn't come and catched you from Falling from a bridge .....you have never talked to her....." and i'm always Like: You Know what ? i was so Bad in Depression that i tryed to jump. i thought about nothing but then she pumped up in my head like she knew it and wanted to save me. she is My lifesaver and nobody else is making me AS happy AS she does. when i'm about to selfharm again SHe says no, when ur older You will be so sad about that. when i was ONLY AT HOME for 1 year. that was 2013, i was always watching her vid. but i rememberd this Video and i said. no no no ! this is My life, i'm gonna make the best of it ☺ i love her more than anything in life and god thank You.so much for being a youtuber. i need YOU. not more. thank You so much. i Know we have never talked but you havespeaken into My heart. TH-cam is More than people infront of camera who are talking about stupid things. TH-cam is family and TH-cam is lifesaving. only one thing hurted me from u zoe. it was the Video "sometimes it all gets a bit to much". that has hurted me so much becaus your My Idol and all i wanna See is You being happy........ well whatever. lifesaver ? thankyou. lots of love, zoe. instagram; @zobeezo
I've been wanting to go to culinary school during the second half of the school day over the next two years through a program connected with my school and I am afraid to just commit to it and say yes because I will still be taking the highest classes at my school during the first half of the day and have no lunch (which would make that the third and fourth years in a row) and it could be hard to coordinate everything. Listening to this and a similar thing my friend said (upon me saying I'd probably not really do it "if you want to do it, then just do it!") is making me realize how often I have said no and that I expected a no from myself. I do not want to go into the restaurant business but I may be learning to cook professionally in part because of you! I admire you, Zoe, and I love to see you hang out with your friends and I've thought you were naturally more social than I am because even though I am friendly I never really get together with my friends so it is encouraging to hear that you used to not want to go places if you didn't know everyone and worry about trying new things too. I am adept at almost any artistic thing I try but almost no sports so I have been refusing to go bowling or play mini golf for a while and now this video is part of me getting over it all :). Thank you! I hope it does work out for me to pursue my hobby of cooking for your sake too now :). P.S. This is, for whatever reason, the first comment I can ever remember writing on a TH-cam video, because I'm saying yes to you asking us to share.
I have anxiety and panic attacks. i have had them since for about 12 years,it has 100% stopped me from living my life.You are amazing,you give me hope!
What do i do if people at school are mean and i am really sensitive dont think im using you as a guide book but how do I battle and i only have 2 friends at school😣😣
I'm really sensitive too and I don't have a lot of friends at school. My advice to you is to remember that there are so many other people that are sensitive. I know it seems like everybody is so confident. You just have to give yourself permission to be sensitive and quiet. We need sensitive people too in the world ;)
Omg I am the same! This is personal for me to write but I know it will help you 😃 I was bullied from nursery until year 3! The bullying stopped for 1 year and it started again in year 5 I went through to year 6 and my life was fine😃 I had one friend and it was really hard when she had days off because I was walking around alone😭 I moved into high school and it was a very overwhelming time for me and I had the worst first 6months of my life! The bullying got worse and I developed anxiety😭I moved school and I think because I was new I got bullied for the first week so people could like see how I would cope and things😔😳but then I made my first friend at my new school of course we have our ups and downs and we are getting closer and closer! I am now in year 9 and I have ,add more friends and. Now have aboyfriend😃 I still have anxiety and panic attacks until this day but it is under control now and I'm just enjoying life😀 lets just stay positive and think what gets us in the future😃
I know exactly how you feel. I'm really shy at school and tbh I don't have many friends either. It doesn't matter how many friends you have though. As long as they are good friends that you can trust is the main thing. If anyone is mean to you and you go home feeling sensitive, just brush the badness off yourself. Live for today, forget yesterday and be prepared for tomorrow. At the end of the day, it didn't matter what people think of you as long as you feel great about yourself is the main thing. Talk to someone about your feelings eg parents, good friends or even school teachers. Just don't listen to what people say as their opinions don't matter at all and I'm sure they're all wrong anyway! Stay strong💓💕
I have two problems. My friends want to go to a nightclub and I'm scarred because of my panic attacks. I went the first time and I had a serious panic attack. It was so crowded and I was so nervous. I lived 30 minutes away so my mum took a while to get me. Half an hour seems forever when your having a panic attack haha. But I did it! But the thing is they want to go again on the 28th help me. I'm so stuck and I wanna say yes but I don't want to put myself through it again. And also we have to go on a plane to liverpool to see my brother over there in university. I'm so nervous and I think I may have a panic attack on the plane. I'm sick of it but. But I know in my heart I can go. But it's the panic attacks that are holding me back. I hate panic attacks. You don't even know some of amazing opportunities I had to turn down because of panic attacks. Ugh. I need advice. This video did help a lot but. Thanks Zoe!xx
firstly, i just want to say well done on saying yes to it the first time, i know it must have been really hard(i have anxiety and panic attacks too). what i would say is that please dont feel as though you have to go and do this, because you dont, if its not something that you really want or have to do. however, i think its great to push yourself and do things that are out of your comfort zone, but seriously, you do not by any means have to go again if you really dont want to, maybe in the future if you feel more confident then you could give it a go :) stay strong, beautiful xx
Sorry, didn't understand if you loved the club itself during the first visit or not. In my experience, night clubs are not my thing, so I'd say if you don't like the idea, don't go. But if you do, than you should definitely try! You can always get a taxi back home (just bring some extra money with you).
I just rewatched this video and I cannot tell you how much it has helped me, everything you were saying at the beginning just sounds like me at the moment and because of this video I feel like I can know move forwards and come out of the little, lonely shell that I have put myself in and made myself feel unhappy in- THANK YOU SO MUCH ZOE, WE LOVE YOU!!!!!!
yeah , it is , if you like watching a girl youtuber or stuff like this then ye s, who cares what gender you , if you like it then thats all that matters x
This has help me so much Zoe! My confidence is awful. I hate doing something I'm not used to or doing something where there is a crowd, everyone staring at me is probably my greatest fear; I don't like the way I look or my body or just me. But it got worse when my dad died, I was a 11 so it was hard but I never showed my feelings. I haven't been me for a long time, I hide behind the smiley girl at school who everyone thinks I am. Only recently I have started to talk to people how I really feel and now I see my friends more and I've joined more clubs at school and it hasn't been hard but saying yes to more things is definitely helped me but also anyone else who has kept there feelings to them self, please tell someone, it really does help and it's not easy at all but talking to someone will help you and can maybe help you to not think about the bad things, just think about something that makes you happy or memories and your life is precious and the only one you've got so be happy and treasure every moment. And yeah you'll have bad days, but everyone does. Thankyou so much Zoe, i love your videos and you've encourage me to get out of my comfort zone :) x
Don't know if you'll read this but I completely agree with what your saying. I'm 19 almost 20 and I suffer panic attacks and your so right you need to say yes to thinks and some times it's easier than others and sometimes you do freak out but just being able to say yes is a boost in its self. You and amazing person to be sharing your feeling with so many people you should be extremely proud of yourself.
I'm really shy and quiet at school. Just last year, most of my friends were going on a school trip France and it seemed such an amazing opportunity. We could see the Eiffel Tower, go Disney Land Paris and even have a tour around Paris. It sounded amazing! The only thing that was keeping me back was my confidence. I wasn't sure if I would be able to cope on a coach for a long time or be around people who I hadn't spoken to before. I felt really worried. When it was time to go I felt so scared and I felt as if I was going to back out of this once in a life time chance. But I coped with my nerves and jumped in at the deep end. I had the best 4 days of my life! I made so many memories with my friends and it was so much fun. I battled my fears and won! I doubted myself at first but I did it. My advice to people who feel isolated from other people and don't feel very confident is to always jump in at the deep end, it may seem scary at first but as soon as you have don't it you will feel great. I know I did and I couldn't of done it without my friends and teachers. My sister was also with me which made it even better. DONT LET SHYNESS AND ANIEXTY STOP YOU FROM GOOD OPPORTUNITIES!!!💕💕💕💕
This makes me so happy
Thank you I'm glad it does:)
I suffer from flying anxiety. Last year I was invited to go to Hawaii with my family and almost declined because of the 9 hour flight. This video gave me the confidence to say "yes" and I ended up having an amazing time. I am now re-watching because I recently agreed to visit my sister in Denmark and now, two weeks out, I'm starting to have nightmares about the long flight. I appreciate having this video available to remind me to never miss out on life experiences because of fear. I'm far too old to participate in something like NCS, but sometimes even us grown-ups need to be reminded to have faith and live a little. Thank you.
coming back 2 years later just to say that this video changed the way I live my life, thanks Zoe :)
Watching this again in September 2014 and it still gives me confidence, I love you Zoe x
ive said yes to wearing the clothes i like, not just what other people like and that was a really big achievement for me 💕
great!
***** you too well done
if done the same!!! bullyies are bitches!:) well done also babe :*xxx
Lauren-Ann Dyche well done
Well done xxxx
Thanks for this video. I reflected on my whole life and thought you were right. I had avoided a lot of things and regreted. I had done so many wrong things that I wished I can change. I've been depressed before, started cutting, had social anxieties, started became rebellious and defiancy happened. After my exams finished earlier this year, I regreted ever becoming rebellious and defiant. I am now starting to be more 'good'. Im going to catch my dream. Im gonna achieve my goal. Thank you so much, Zoe!
Good on you!
thnx! Rachel Neill
well done everyone believes in you.
you have made a amazing choice xxxx
Tamzinandbeth Darin :) and I'm proud of it.
Cheryl Heng you should be. your beautiful... and don't deserve to be cutting i am glad you have decided to change your life around xxx
:)
"1.1 million of you who have subscribed to me"
casually has 9.7 million literally only two years later.
if nobody realizes, she has gained 8.6 MILLION subscribers int only two years. love you zoe
i did
I was genuinely just thinking that! just shows how amazing Zoe is
+197misi 9.9!!!!!!!!!!!!
10.000.000
tjasa kamen yessss my queen is slaying
I'm watching this in July of 2017, I'm so proud and inspired by how far she has come since this video. Now with a new range, and 11 million subscribers. As someone dealing with anxiety and depression I can safely say that this video and your previous one on anxiety + panic attacks were both so so helpful. You have inspired more people than I can imagine. Thank you so much
I'm watching this in September 2016, I've recently been lacking in self esteem and I've constantly been afraid of having panicky moments but this video has made me so much more confident and assertive. You are honestly such an inspiration and I can't tell you how thankful I am Zoe❤️
Thank you Zoe! You have made my life 10 x better than what it used to be. I remember watching this video the day that you uploaded it and since then I have started saying yes more. I said yes today to something that is massive for me. I said yes to my dad. It has always been a dream of mine to go to New York but I never though I would get to go. You have changed my life for the better and that is not an over statement. Thank you Zoe. Next year I'm going to New York! And in March/April I'm going on my first plane. I'm scared but this video always makes me feel better when I'm feeling worried and anxious. All I wanted to say is thank you because I now get to live my dream 💕
So true x
I took a 10 day trip on my own to visit college friends on the other side of the country. I had flown on my own to get to and from college, but I had not been in a big city on a vacation with just my friends before. The biggest thing was I went to a three day music festival (which was the main reason for planning the trip) and crowds around concert can make me incredibly anxious. And I didn't think about it when we made the plans, I just agreed. And I was fine for (almost) the entire trip. It was an incredible experience and I'm so glad I got to go explore new cities with some of my best friends in the world.
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I literally watch this video every time I feel swamped by my anxiety and it helps me so much. I can never be grateful enough to Zoe for how much she has helped me. x
Today, my friend asked me to come swim with her. I am usually nervous about that kind of thing, but then before texting her that I didn't want to come, I thought of this video. I went & ended up having a blast!! Thank you so much Zoë!
Thank you Zoe!! This has helped me in so many ways. I live with my boyfriend of 3 years and he doesn't like to do anything social from dinner with my parents to going on holidays, or even going to the cinema. He does little things occasionally but it is very rare for him to say yes to anything. He suffers slight anxiety and I think he needs to watch your video which I will show to him. I don't push him to do things he doesn't want to do, but that doesn't mean it doesn't upset me. I can never really do anything fun WITH him so I had to start doing things on my own recently (because yes, we only do live once) and saying yes to my family to go on holidays with them and other little things. When I do say yes to big things like holidays without him I feel guilty and sad because I'm leaving him alone for possibly weeks at a time and I can see that it hurts him so it makes me very sad to feel this way and it is partly the reason I say no to so much stuff.
If he would just come with me everything would be fine but he just won't for some reason :( all he ever says is that he doesn't want to go. But I know there has to be something more there. Like his anxiety.. but when we are in public he isn't shy, nervous or he doesn't struggle to make conversation with anyway so its really difficult to put my figure on it.. anyway, I just wanna say a massive thank you because your video helped me say yes to alot more things but I still feel guilty for leaving him behind on many things that I do so that's the next step.
I've always been really quiet and shy and I panicked when I would have to talk to people that I didn't know. But I decided that it was an unhealthy way to live, so I started trying to speak and do things even when it terrified me. I would raise my hand more in class and everything. There were groups of kids who would bully me constantly, and I finally stood up to them. Of course they didn't stop bullying me but everyone else respected me more, It didn't all turn out good but it made a big impact on my school life and it made me happier. I enjoyed going to school more, I mean as much as someone can. But I battled against these things I was scared of, I was scared of being judged or scared of doing or saying something wrong. I still have trouble, A LOT of trouble with this. But I try to speak up more and it really helps.
Hey, just watched this video in june 2016.Found it really inspiring. It's nice to know that you are not alone, not the only one and that you are normal in a good way! I said Yes to a France-exchange for 3 months and I gained a wonderful friend and lots of adventures. Most important it is to say YES to life!! "YES"
Thank you for makimg this beautiful video, Zoella❤
Zoe thank you so much, now I'm doing so much better. I'm doing everything you said to do. Thankyou so much xxx
On the social anxiety level, I just want to share that hey, I've been there and am still in the process of overcoming the fear and anxiety, but, its getting A LOT better with each leap of faith. Thank you for sharing your story and opening a way for conversation!
I watched this before a volleyball match i had. I was unbelievably nervous and used to have extremely bad anxiety along with other things. The last match i played was nationals a year and a half ago where i got so nervous i had to run off court and started retching in the toilets.
The dreaded match day arrived and i was asked to serve because i have the strongest serve. I said yes and eventhough i was shaking and thought i was going to be sick i stayed on court and didnt let anxiety win.
From now on I will be writing down everytime i say yes and believe in myself.
You may not read this but I hope you know how much this video is helping people.
Thankyou
Amy x
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this video helped me with my anxiety depression and panic disorders. i also have a huge fear of vomiting and going on adventures with my friends and family was a huge struggle. Now, almost 5 years after being diagnosed with all that ive never been happier. i want to start posting videos that will help people like this video did for me. youre my biggest inspiration and i want to reach the level of success that youve reached. keep doing you and never change. love you zoe!
I got up on stage and sang on the Apollo Theater in New York City (a giant leap for me) , I joined my school musical, and so much more. Thank you Zoe for inspiring me to step out of my comfort zone :)
Hey zoe. PLEASE start an advice series on your second channel, it would help loads of us because you are such an inspiration
Yes! Or start up chummy chatter again ^_^
NaTaLiE343 I agree!!
I know this video was published like 3 years ago and you won't read this but I need to write it.
I remember when I watched it on August 2015 (year ago) when I didn't know what to do with my life and I had really really low self esteem because I was bullied. I wanted to come back to school of music (which I left few years ago) and I wanted to do something that makes me happy and gives me confidence that I didn't have - music is one of these things. However, I didn't know if coming back to school of music is a good idea, and I couldn't decide what should I do, I was so scared of failing and that was awful.
And then I discovered this video and after watching it i thought that I should try, even though I can fail. Right now I'm back in school of music, I'm a lot more confident and right now I'm just a happier person and I discovered that risking is okay and saying "yes" to new things is great.
I just wanted to say thanks because this video helped me soooo much and if someone is reading this and feels the same thing as I felt - whatever it is, it's worth risking and trying. Thank you Zoe, love you.
Pip Fawcett thank you so much x
Dorota Meszka Thanks for making me cry ;(
Mendel Jacobs sorry:(
***** its alright. I had to change my bedsheets from crying so much. My Mom thought I wet my bed. What's your favorite songs ?
Mendel Jacobs at the moment i guess it's "a car, a torch, a death" by twenty one pilots, and yours?
I don't have anxiety, panic attacks or depression but I do sometimes feel trapped in a box that prevents me from doing things. So thank you Zoe because I am now going to say yes to more things so I can gain more confidence and let the barrier around me disappear.
I always reflect on my life, cos I've made mistakes but whenever I watch this video it just makes me realise that I need to and should be happy cos no ones perfect and no one has the perfect life and that we just need step out of it a little cos we could be missing out on alot of things for sure, we need to make the most of it and even though we've made mistakes we have to get past them and say yes to things more cos it's the way forward. This video makes me smile and happy and zoe makes me so happy and smile cos I just love this video cos it makes me really reflect on my life and tells me I need to improve on my life. Thanks zoe!
Exactly! Thanks so much :) xxxxxxx
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I'm pretty sure I have depression... I self harm and always find something wrong about situations. I am only 13 and I realise that I have my whole life ahead of me but sometimes it feels like it would be easier if i just quit. This video was amazing, Zoe. It is so nice that you can do something like this with so many subscribers and manage to keep it so personal. From now on I will start to say yes, starting with the room renovation my mum has been offering me but I have had the energy to do.
Thanks again xx I love your videos and you are really inspirational :)
P.S I said yes to liking this video x
I have awful anxiety and panic attacks. I'm junior in high school, and I have never gone to a school dance. I never wanted to, I was terrified, I thought I would never go. But last weekend, I decided to say YES. I went, and I didn't have a panic attack. I had a great time. I feel like I can do things now that I thought I would never be able to do!
Well done! That's what I try to do to! 😊
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This video helped me SO much 9 years ago and since then.. life has happened and I’ve come back to this remembering it helped me and it’s STILL so relevant and helpful❤
I've also made a memory jar, every day I write down something that made me smile or laugh and when I feel sad I take it out and read through them 🙈🌷
That is such an amazing idea!
Im so doing that
i have one of themmmmm
OMG I AM SO DOING THAT! THANKS FOR THE IDEA!
This is an amazing idea
I've just had a really down day so I thought is watch this video. I've watched it before but I thought why not again. You don't understand how much thus helped, I've been feeling crap about myself all day and now because you you I'm much better. Thank you Zoe
Every time I'm scared of doing something I always think to this video. Since I saw it for the first time I started to say yes to a lot of things: I went to Rome with my classmates (although they're not really my friends), I signed up for a Tolstoj course, I signed up for being a guide in a local event and I started to say what I have to say, in classes and with my friends. I was so scared. And I still am. But I'm doing a lot of things...I've so many regrets about the stuff I haven't done in the past. Now I have the opportunity to go to an English university (I'm Italian) and I'm scared as hell, this is the biggest opportunity of my life. But I'm gonna say yes. Maybe I'll fail, but at least I'll be able to say that I had tried.
I know that probably you won't never read this, but I really want to thank you for -seriously- having changed my outlook of life. 😊😊
Woo! Hope you are now enjoying yourself! Good luck love :)
I have been having panic attacks for about a year. Not often but quite a few. I didnt know how to cope i didnt want to speak to anyone but now i am so loud and bubbly you would think i am a different person which i basically am but the only reason i am like this now is because of Zoe. Zoe has helped me through soooooo many things without realizing it and i honestly cannot thank her enough. Zoe if your reading this keep doing what your doing cos u are amazing ly 😀
This video is very true. This year, I didnt want to sumbit my art into a contest( id already won that same contest a previous year actually) But I was afraid that I Wouldnt get in because there are 750 aplicants and only 40 win the show amd get to be part of the tour. Finally i sumbitted my work, and it was chosen as a winner, so thank you Zoe, for the motivation.
The first time I watch this video and its exactly two years after it was brought out💖💖💖
Re-watched this video today because my anxiety seems to be getting worse, including my claustrophobia. I think a lot of it is to do with my tendency to avoid things and say no to doing things so I never force myself to face them. I'm trying though, I get in lifts more often now unless they are full and I've said yes to going to a party where I don't really know many people. Wish me luck! xx
Good luck!!! Proud of you!!
Thanks lovely! :)
Good and Carry on saying YES
Good luck! I'm so proud of you.
Thanks guys! I did it! I went, I was super anxious but I did my best. Anyone else find it awkward seeing people you haven't spoken to in years? I've got a flight to America this Christmas, which I'll probably vlog, super nervous, I hate takeoff and landing in case of turbulence.
I've suffered with depression, bipolar disorder, insomnia and self harm for about a year and a half now and I watched this video six months ago. It was the thing that really gave me the boost to say yes when counselling was offered to me. Obviously I still have my little blips but since I said yes to getting help things have been so much better for me. Since then I've said yes to other small things and my life has changed so much. Thank you Zoe, I love you 3
If anyone here has anxiety, here's a tip when it happens,blow on your thumb, it has nerves that connect with your heart rate, this sends a message to your heart to slow your heart rate down because when you have anxiety the main cause is your heart rate speeds up quite a bit. Ur welcome if this helped anyone...I have anxiety too, and it worked for me and i looked it up.
No problem!
Thx this really helped xx
thanks for the tip i think if it ever happens to me ill do that
Thank you for the tip! I will surely try this
Thank you💖
its 2016 and i believe that this video is gonna help me so much throughout this year 💕
BRING IT ON 2016 IM READY FOR YOU
I can't even believe the 577 people who disliked this video!! How could they?! This video has helped me so much, thank youuuuuu Zoe!!!!
+Hannah Tan HI5!
+Olivia Leitao there are 576 👍🏻😊
+Hannah Tan Now that's positivity! Good luck for your best year!
same!!
Thank you Zoe this we really help me I think been feeling really depressed lately and just cry about nothing and i get scared that if I go out I will just feel the need to cry so I will try your notebook suggestion and see if it helps I'm determined to get myself back on track :) thank you for a big boost of Zoe power xxxx
Thank you Zoella for being so inspirational. You are amazing.
Thank you sooo much ZOE!!!! I am one of those people who won't go to anything if know one goes I don't know. I would all ways do stuff in side my comfort zone😔 I'd always say in side my own little bubble when it was my school play I got offered the main part I said no I wish I said yes I wish I has the confidence but I thought HEY do I really want to live the rest of my life saying and being the person who just follow people around I want to live my life saying YES!! And to try more stuff I still now feel like I can't walk out of my bubble but know I burst my bubble and did what right I said YES I'm glad I said YES i feel more CONFIDENT I stepped up my game and said YES so for all of you out there in the same situation I was in its ok you are not alone no one is perfect 😊JUST SAY YES!!!!!!!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️✌️
P.s my fingers Hurt from writing all of that no haters please x
This video really helped me, and thanks to you I talked to my crush TODAY, I'm so happy and it went so well!
Well done! I could never do that! X
My computer is filed with story's I wrote that no one knows about because I am scared that people would think there bad while I put my heart and soul in them an after a while I even stopped writing what made me feel even worse but after I saw this video I got up and posted my story's on quotev and it feels so good to see that people are actually reading them en like them. I know this seems small but this video really made me get on with my life. THANK YOU!
What's your Quotev account? I have one as well.
www.quotev.com/IndigoAmber
here you go. can you send me yours?
Bables www.quotev.com/lover97 there you go.
My friend called me to ask if I wanted to join a competition. I told her I'd get back to her later and watched this video (for the first time) to get my feelings together. Halfway through the video, I'd been reading through the comments of others' success stories after they'd said yes when my friend called me again. I said yes. Although I didn't win the competition, it was one of the best experiences I've had this year and I'm so grateful that I said yes instead of lounging about at home (which would've probably been great too). I just want to tell anyone who's hesitating, whether or not the outcome is what you what you wanted, you can always take it as a learning experience - as I did. So, do say yes. Thank you so much for this video, Zoe!
This is such a helpful video 😊😊 it actually made me cry but it also motivated me to do more things that I'm afraid of doing
Thank you Zoe! I will try and say yes to going after what I want. But yeah...poor Dumbledore!
i know right. I have sympathy towards that old man
I have been offered the chance to go and do some charity work in Peru next year for a month, which is normally something I would be way too scared to do as my anxiety holds me back a lot, but I decided to say yes and I am currently raising money to go, so I am really pleased with myself and I know it's going to be a life changing experience!
That's so good Esme, I didn't know you had anxiety xx
Two years later I realise how much this has helped me for these last years. It's not just about saying yes anymore, but also about making myself do things I push myself to do without anyone else saying I should do them. For example I applied for an excellence program at my university and I knew I wasn't the perfect choice for such a thing, but I did it anyway and I got in! None of my current uni friends are doing this and I'm a little (okay a lot) intimidated by the others I'm going to have to work with, but I'm going to force myself to not chicken out and just keep saying yes even though I'm scared. It's such an amazing opportunity and I'm not sure whether I would've applied if I didn't watch this video a few years ago :)
I managed to say yes to a meet up with about 14 people (have social anxiety) and only manage to talk to about 5 but I felt comfortable around them :)
Go you! Well done 💕
I have social anxiety too, do you have any advice that zoella didn't include? Really well done at the meet up, I really admire you and Zoe!
I can just agree with her, just say yes! It is extremely difficult at first, but taking baby steps really help too. Saying yes to a small meet up with one or two friends for a short amount of time really helps to start off. After that, add on the people or the time and it really works! Thank you for the compliments, it means a lot :)
AliciaIsSoNotAmazing thankyou!
This has helped me so so much! I hope 2016 will be a better year! If anyone suffers from panic attacks watermelon favoured things are ment to help!
I'm really happy because I had a test in school today WITHOUT a pre-test anxiety attack leading up to it! :D
Well done! I have panic attacks as well 😒
Anyway, have you got over it yet? 😊
I am not completely over it but I have improved! Don't worry, we're all here for you. I truly believe in you xx
+RashiSaysRawrr That's awesome! You are an amazing person and will definitely be able to get over your anxiety.
Anita Tharmarajah Thank you so much
RashiSaysRawrr A year late- BUT THAT'S FREAKING AWESOME!!
I find myself coming back to this video time and time again as it always makes me feel better about being in a poopy mood. thanks Zoe xxx
I said yes to starting an Instagram account to post my drawings on and it helped me build my confidence a bit more ^^
I think that this is your best video ever !!!
I think so to
It's really hard for me to say yes because I'm sooo shy
same ;A;
Same
I've had the biggest struggle with anxiety for probably 2 months and I've tried so many things like talking to doctors, friends, and family. But nothing has helped me really. I noticed that I usually end up watching this video or zoella's anxiety videos so I don't feel so alone and its like a reminder that I have to change myself or it wont work. I'm still struggling but I'm trying my best everyday to keep moving forward. So thank you very much
i need help, im going on a train tomorrow, and trains make me feel really sick, i know you'll just say take travel sickness tablets. but i get so scared that they wont work:(
I went to NCS last summer and it was seriously amazing :-) thanks Zoe!
You are so inspirational Zoella! I did the NCS over the summer of 2012, and it was incredible. I would definitely recommend it. :)
What is NCS
I watched this video last year and I wanted to say yes to lose weight! I weighted 86 kg last year, and my confidence was so low, a lot of people were like picking on me because I was bigger, and i just didn't loved myself. But then aftzer i watched this video i used summer 2013 as my remake and i just wanted to try to see if i can make it and i did! I lost 17 kg since last year and now I weight 69 kg, i look so much better, my confidence and selfesteem are improving, they are not high enough but they are growing, i can wear almost anything i like, i look so much better and love myself more! My life has changed like a 100% since then and it's amazing for now. This summer i'm using it for part 2 but i'm not going to lose 17 kg again because that would be too much haha! So thank you zoe, you helped me alot, and i will never thank you enough for making this video, love you! xxxx
'You've got nothing to lose, so just say YES!'
i'm from germany and i said yes to studying in london!! i am so excited and hope that it all works out :)
i said yes to myself to ask my parents, who are very protective, to let me fly to Portugal (btw i'm from Luxembourg) so i could go to the One Direction concert ...i asked and they said *yes* so i flew alone for the very first time and i had the best time of my life :)
Proud ❤️
Same here ! :D Last year, I asked my parent if I could fly to Japan (I'm from Taiwan) to see NEWS's (a Japanese boy band ) concert. To my surprise, they AGREED !
At first,I thought that they're never gonna let me go,especially I was only 16,which they think it might be too dangerous for a 16-year-old girl to fly and travel alone. It cost me quite a long time to persuade them,however,I'm glad that I had say 'yes' to myself and had tried my best to let them say 'yes'.
It had been the greatest and the most unforgettable time of my life~ :)
Also very proud 😄 i went to my friends house for the holidays and was was scared to go. I always said no in my life for all the other friends who invited me but this tile i decided to say yes. We had the best time, it brought us so much closer and i met her family, two cats (and i used to be scared of cats so it was a big step, now i am not scared) and i said yes to ride a horse wich i was also afraid of!
thats amazing 💕
i love this because it shows people that zoe is not just a "beauty guru" or "fashion guru"... she is also an amazing person who wants to help other people...THANK YOU SO MUCH ZOE!!!
Wow! Really inspiring and motivational video :) Thanks so much Zoe (Zoella) I will try my best to do more with my life and say yes. You only live once so we have to make the most of it ♥
Thank you so much for this video! I've watched it multiple times when I feel like giving up and not saying yes to amazing opportunities. But one question...how do you deal with life when your closest friends are now bringing you down? I've been friends with this girl and all throughout the two years we've been friends, I continuously stood up for her and helped her through tough times, but when it comes time to help me...she's nowhere to be seen. She's said many hurtful things and never sincerely apologized for them and then she expects me to be okay with forgiving her in a snap. She's always excluding me when our our friends are present, but the moment she's lonely...she's bugging me. She claims to be a truthful friends but I also notice that she always creates misunderstandings between our other friends. I don't want to be rude and stop talking to her completely, but I'm also not sure how much more I can handle of this. I feel like our friendship is a one way street. Any suggestions?
I always feel like I'm the only one putting in the time and effort with some of my friends and sometimes it's a total downer. I don't mind organising, making plans and being there for them so long as they make me feel like I'm worth it and cherished. My suggestion is to surround yourself with your other friends that do make u laugh and smile. When she excludes you, talk to another friend and when she comes running back to you be patient but also don't give her everything she wants. She can't have you on a shelf ready to grab you whenever she wants. When you have so many other friends that are supportive it won't bother you so much that one friend isn't as good to you as the others are. Don't exclude her or block her out but if you're having trouble do something about it ️xx
That's the exact same thing that's happening to me with my supposed "bestie"
I said yes to my fiancé :)
That is a huge step, well done!
That's just about the cutest comment! Congrats!
Daniella Cassio Thank you :) You're so sweet. :)
awee this is too cute !
Literally watch this after every major anxiety attack and it always makes me feel better . Thank you Zoe x
Hi Zoe its me again,
You probably never read my first comment on this video but I thought I would put something on here. A year ago I put something on hear about being self conscious and that I didn't have panic attacks or anxiety. 7 months ago I had my first panic attack. Where I cried and I had a break down while shaking. That's when I knew that my self consciousness was down to anxiety.
Today I got invited to a party ( a small get together at her house) and I was going to reply no because I was scared that I would get in the way or that they didn't really want me there and as I was replying saying no I thought "Just say Yes." I should grab the opportunity to make new friends and I did. I said Yes (which is nowadays something I do rarely) so thank you for everything even though i get scared you remind me I'm strong and not everything is worth worrying.
Lauren x
Recently I said YES to a BIG opportunity that would change everything in my life so far! I got accepted to a Disney program in which I have to move to Florida (I live in Costa Rica) and have to shared an apartment, meet new people, talk in a different language, study, work, be apart from my family for 6 months; and let's be honest its really scary but I want to make a difference in my life so I said YES!
Don't be afraid of doing things, enjoy life! Hakuna Matata! :)
My mum asked me if I wanted to audition for a theatre group. I said YES! Now it's my favorite thing ever! I made so many friends! It was hard to get into but sooo much fun!
Great!
Zoe, you can't imagine how much you helped me. I cry with happiness and believe I will experience so much things!
Wish you the best for your life, so you can be happy every day!
You have no idea how much you've improved my life :3
Is it just me watching in 2015?😂
Nope😉I'm totally having a Zoe marathon💗💁
Nope,I found her channel just before the end of 2014 and now I am watching all of her videos :)
nope
watching now hehe
Amy D omg me too! Zoe makes my deyes better hehe
im going NCS thiis year :D i cant wait xxx
Im so glad I'm watching this again. I've been home making videos and just not hanging out with anybody and its really just bringing me down. I feel like I can finally leave my house again, thank you
I dream that when freshman year is over, I'll have been on several rollercoasters, because Zoey's right. I should say yes, not chicken out and watch my little cousins have fun and get scared out of their minds, because why not? They were made for the thrill. I also dream to speak my mind more, bc whenever a compliment or something nice or deep I want to say to a friend, I'll get afraid at the last moment and not want mushy gushy hugs or even worse, what if I get ignored? I should say yes, and I will, because why not :)
When I'm asked to go out with my sister (or friends) to go shopping, I become really really nervous. I know this sounds like a normal thing to be nervous about, but I'm scared to go out because of creepy people. But if I see someone lurking near me I instantly begin to panic. I kind of yell at my friends or sisters to leave even if we only just got there and it really really frustrates me. Nothing bad has happened apart from one time where I went to the park near me with a few of my friends and we were on the swings and a man walked past us and we went to leave and he spun around and began following us. Now I get anxious at the thought of going places without my parents. I told my mum and all she said was to "Get my big girl pants on" but its incredibly hard and I'm 14. Please help.
i think because what happend with that man one day made you feel so anxious that now everytime something simulair happens you start to panic. just think to yourself that the chances of it happening again are waaay smaller than the chances of it happening. made tell your friends/about it so they know how you feel and they can help calm you down 💕
In this situation I would suggest taking self deffence lessons because then you will be able to convince yourself that if something does happen you will be able to deffend yourself.
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I am kinda the same just as I say "Don't worry be happy!!!" I'm sure ur a great person express yourself you'll feel better trust me!
The other day my friend asked me to sleep at her house i am afraid of sleeping at anyones house who i dont feel comfortable with but i feel comfortable now you have made this video it just feels like ive gone from being in a dark room and busting into the world of wonders thanks so much zoe! it helped me alot. normally i get home sick thats why i dont like sleeping at places but i pushed myself and said yes im going to do that and this i dont care if i get homesick i want to enjoy my life with my friends family and of course the iternet i love you zoe! :) #justsayyes
I have a massive phobia of heights and climbed trees and walked along a small wooden pole then jumped from it....
Woah!! Awesome!
Kdk Kdm Thank you :)
Super good for you :) xxxx
I had never sung a solo on a stage before. I always got told that I had a gorgeous voice and I didn't think I had a good voice then last week, I went on stage and sung a solo and everyone in the audience come up to me and said your voice is amazing.
I said "yes" to 3 month journey to other country. I thought i would be stressed about it, but if i said no i would never make new friends and experiense
I know It's 2016 and this video was made in 2013 but I'm going to NCS this summer 😊
Me too! maybe we'll meet each other
In 2 years she's gained 8.7 million subscribers in 3 years 😱
I've been feeling really depressed because of always being insulted and the bullies at school. I've not been saying yes to anything because I thought they would judge me and be really nasty. I'm now going to say yes to more things and not worry about the bullies and people judging me. You've really helped. This is your best video ever.😊
Around 2 years ago you had 1.3 million subscribers and now you have 7 million
***** 8.7 million*
Jess Taylor 8.8 million*
8.9 million
+Cutekitties 9 million!!
and 6 months later almost 10 million
i know you will never gonna read this but whatever. i handle with depression, Panik attacks , anxiety , ana and More but hell yeah. you have saved me, and My life. everybody is like; "she is a youtuber....a normal women..she didn't come and catched you from Falling from a bridge .....you have never talked to her....."
and i'm always Like: You Know what ? i was so Bad in Depression that i tryed to jump. i thought about nothing but then she pumped up in my head like she knew it and wanted to save me. she is My lifesaver and nobody else is making me AS happy AS she does. when i'm about to selfharm again SHe says no, when ur older You will be so sad about that. when i was ONLY AT HOME for 1 year. that was 2013, i was always watching her vid. but i rememberd this Video and i said. no no no ! this is My life, i'm gonna make the best of it ☺ i love her more than anything in life and god thank You.so much for being a youtuber. i need YOU. not more. thank You so much. i Know we have never talked but you havespeaken into My heart. TH-cam is More than people infront of camera who are talking about stupid things. TH-cam is family and TH-cam is lifesaving. only one thing hurted me from u zoe. it was the Video "sometimes it all gets a bit to much". that has hurted me so much becaus your My Idol and all i wanna See is You being happy........ well whatever. lifesaver ? thankyou. lots of love, zoe. instagram; @zobeezo
Just said YES to going for drinks with my boyfriend and a BUNCH of his friends, I'm soooo nervous but at least I said yes! :)
You can stop liking the comment, he broke up with me, so that's that...
Don't worry xx 1, he's not worth it. 2, he's not the right one. 3, now you are one step closer to your Prince Charming xxxxxxxxxx
Just saying, you don't need anyone to be happy, your happiness depends completely of you 😊 xoxo
Thank you! I'm working on that really hard :)
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I've been wanting to go to culinary school during the second half of the school day over the next two years through a program connected with my school and I am afraid to just commit to it and say yes because I will still be taking the highest classes at my school during the first half of the day and have no lunch (which would make that the third and fourth years in a row) and it could be hard to coordinate everything. Listening to this and a similar thing my friend said (upon me saying I'd probably not really do it "if you want to do it, then just do it!") is making me realize how often I have said no and that I expected a no from myself. I do not want to go into the restaurant business but I may be learning to cook professionally in part because of you! I admire you, Zoe, and I love to see you hang out with your friends and I've thought you were naturally more social than I am because even though I am friendly I never really get together with my friends so it is encouraging to hear that you used to not want to go places if you didn't know everyone and worry about trying new things too. I am adept at almost any artistic thing I try but almost no sports so I have been refusing to go bowling or play mini golf for a while and now this video is part of me getting over it all :). Thank you! I hope it does work out for me to pursue my hobby of cooking for your sake too now :). P.S. This is, for whatever reason, the first comment I can ever remember writing on a TH-cam video, because I'm saying yes to you asking us to share.
when i was on hoilday i said yes to going in a water walker. before that i thought i would suffercate in it.
1.1 MILLION OF US? A year ago that's all she had? Omfg now she has 7.8 million
2015?
I have anxiety and panic attacks. i have had them since for about 12 years,it has 100% stopped me from living my life.You are amazing,you give me hope!
What do i do if people at school are mean and i am really sensitive dont think im using you as a guide book but how do I battle and i only have 2 friends at school😣😣
I'm really sensitive too and I don't have a lot of friends at school. My advice to you is to remember that there are so many other people that are sensitive. I know it seems like everybody is so confident. You just have to give yourself permission to be sensitive and quiet. We need sensitive people too in the world ;)
Omg I am the same! This is personal for me to write but I know it will help you 😃 I was bullied from nursery until year 3! The bullying stopped for 1 year and it started again in year 5 I went through to year 6 and my life was fine😃 I had one friend and it was really hard when she had days off because I was walking around alone😭 I moved into high school and it was a very overwhelming time for me and I had the worst first 6months of my life! The bullying got worse and I developed anxiety😭I moved school and I think because I was new I got bullied for the first week so people could like see how I would cope and things😔😳but then I made my first friend at my new school of course we have our ups and downs and we are getting closer and closer! I am now in year 9 and I have ,add more friends and. Now have aboyfriend😃 I still have anxiety and panic attacks until this day but it is under control now and I'm just enjoying life😀 lets just stay positive and think what gets us in the future😃
I know exactly how you feel. I'm really shy at school and tbh I don't have many friends either. It doesn't matter how many friends you have though. As long as they are good friends that you can trust is the main thing. If anyone is mean to you and you go home feeling sensitive, just brush the badness off yourself. Live for today, forget yesterday and be prepared for tomorrow. At the end of the day, it didn't matter what people think of you as long as you feel great about yourself is the main thing. Talk to someone about your feelings eg parents, good friends or even school teachers. Just don't listen to what people say as their opinions don't matter at all and I'm sure they're all wrong anyway! Stay strong💓💕
I have two problems.
My friends want to go to a nightclub and I'm scarred because of my panic attacks. I went the first time and I had a serious panic attack. It was so crowded and I was so nervous. I lived 30 minutes away so my mum took a while to get me. Half an hour seems forever when your having a panic attack haha. But I did it! But the thing is they want to go again on the 28th help me. I'm so stuck and I wanna say yes but I don't want to put myself through it again.
And also we have to go on a plane to liverpool to see my brother over there in university. I'm so nervous and I think I may have a panic attack on the plane. I'm sick of it but. But I know in my heart I can go. But it's the panic attacks that are holding me back. I hate panic attacks. You don't even know some of amazing opportunities I had to turn down because of panic attacks. Ugh. I need advice. This video did help a lot but. Thanks Zoe!xx
firstly, i just want to say well done on saying yes to it the first time, i know it must have been really hard(i have anxiety and panic attacks too). what i would say is that please dont feel as though you have to go and do this, because you dont, if its not something that you really want or have to do. however, i think its great to push yourself and do things that are out of your comfort zone, but seriously, you do not by any means have to go again if you really dont want to, maybe in the future if you feel more confident then you could give it a go :) stay strong, beautiful xx
Sorry, didn't understand if you loved the club itself during the first visit or not. In my experience, night clubs are not my thing, so I'd say if you don't like the idea, don't go. But if you do, than you should definitely try! You can always get a taxi back home (just bring some extra money with you).
In summer I felt so depressed and stuff and when school started, it somehow helped with all of it... 🤔
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Shelby Ortega same 😶
I just rewatched this video and I cannot tell you how much it has helped me, everything you were saying at the beginning just sounds like me at the moment and because of this video I feel like I can know move forwards and come out of the little, lonely shell that I have put myself in and made myself feel unhappy in- THANK YOU SO MUCH ZOE, WE LOVE YOU!!!!!!
*Is it NORMAL for a boy watched this and liked this? I'm a boy BTW.*
That is normal
Yes :)
It's being ur self and if it helps u than hell yah it is
yeah , it is , if you like watching a girl youtuber or stuff like this then ye s, who cares what gender you , if you like it then thats all that matters x
nahh boo your fine lol
This has help me so much Zoe! My confidence is awful. I hate doing something I'm not used to or doing something where there is a crowd, everyone staring at me is probably my greatest fear; I don't like the way I look or my body or just me. But it got worse when my dad died, I was a 11 so it was hard but I never showed my feelings. I haven't been me for a long time, I hide behind the smiley girl at school who everyone thinks I am. Only recently I have started to talk to people how I really feel and now I see my friends more and I've joined more clubs at school and it hasn't been hard but saying yes to more things is definitely helped me but also anyone else who has kept there feelings to them self, please tell someone, it really does help and it's not easy at all but talking to someone will help you and can maybe help you to not think about the bad things, just think about something that makes you happy or memories and your life is precious and the only one you've got so be happy and treasure every moment. And yeah you'll have bad days, but everyone does. Thankyou so much Zoe, i love your videos and you've encourage me to get out of my comfort zone :) x
Don't know if you'll read this but I completely agree with what your saying. I'm 19 almost 20 and I suffer panic attacks and your so right you need to say yes to thinks and some times it's easier than others and sometimes you do freak out but just being able to say yes is a boost in its self. You and amazing person to be sharing your feeling with so many people you should be extremely proud of yourself.
This is and will always be one of my favorite videos ever, I watch it everytime I need and it helps me a lot