8 Habits That Made me Get My Life together in my 30s

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  • @alpham
    @alpham  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    *You Deserve To be Happy!* betterhelp.com/alpham for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help.

    • @surpyt
      @surpyt 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm 14 and you've done a good job man your life is life changing for you and some the people that watch you

  • @ivareskesner2019
    @ivareskesner2019 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +69

    Factor no 1. Care about life. Factor no 2. Find your place in it. Factor no 3. Always develop. Always learn

    • @brennanlettucetomato
      @brennanlettucetomato 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Very true, that's what has helped me become a more high value person!

  • @HiFiJi
    @HiFiJi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you Alpha for being so transparent about your past. Your 20's sound very similar to what my 20s were like.
    I have been sober for almost 5 months now, which I didn't think would ever happen. I "cold turkey" stopped drinking and smoking.
    It's been one of the best decisions I've made, and I don't even miss these substances that were ruining my life.
    I've replaced those bad habits with music production and it really feels like its been a remedy for me.

  • @brennanlettucetomato
    @brennanlettucetomato 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    You're 100% the reason I will always be the best version of myself as a 16 year old, and I'm happy that you teach me stuff that most adults don't know!

    • @kazmiercuk4164
      @kazmiercuk4164 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Stick to the plan young man, it is worth it. Trust me

    • @brennanlettucetomato
      @brennanlettucetomato 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kazmiercuk4164 that's true, absolutely! Some people give up whenever they feel like things get hard or they achieved something life changing, but starting this journey just once has changed my life altogether in a way that I don't wanna go back!

  • @markralston5276
    @markralston5276 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks brother. I have been 4 years sober in July.

  • @ColtyT33
    @ColtyT33 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I turned 30 five days ago and feels like this is my last shot to get it together. No more drinking this decade

    • @RaidenSwimsBetterThanSnake
      @RaidenSwimsBetterThanSnake 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same, what do you do for work currently?

    • @dannyllerenatv8635
      @dannyllerenatv8635 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I turned 30 today. I used the second half of my 20s to get it together. Never too late, everyone has their own timeline.

  • @JacobsonFamilyAllotment
    @JacobsonFamilyAllotment 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Your channel was what got me on the right track I was alone drinking and smoking found your channel now happy with a family no drink no smoking. Still a work in progress trying to level up my life

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    sober friends are the best type of friends

  • @UCN2027
    @UCN2027 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Another vital item: Stop overestimating time. Big changes and big steps need time, day after day build change. Impossible in 24hs. I just writed down in order to remember it myself.
    Thank your for videos Alpha.

  • @TheJereld
    @TheJereld 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My very first YT vids 14 years ago, I was drunk too for the first 6-7 vids. The channel was never going to survive that way. Great channel dude!

  • @fzrt6530
    @fzrt6530 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I quit drinking too and i get to save so much money from it. It too helped me stopped smoking.

    • @fzrt6530
      @fzrt6530 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your video is the truth. I think people need to realize how crucial it is to get help and move on from folks who don’t matter. I hope more people see this video! All the best, Aaron! Love from Singapore!

    • @Jaysi_NY003
      @Jaysi_NY003 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ⁠​⁠@@fzrt6530it took me 14 years. 2024 I’m sober. Salute and god bless you.

    • @markralston5276
      @markralston5276 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too

  • @brianwells1398
    @brianwells1398 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You always say what I need to hear, when I need to hear it. GOD bless you my brother.

  • @jovan.petrovic
    @jovan.petrovic 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I‘m 33 and alcohol is after quitting smoking 5 years ago my biggest problem in life. Even then I used to drink, but after quitting cigarettes it got even worse. I hope and I fight to get that under control. I feel that this is my most problematic problem in life. Greetings from Switzerland.

  • @alexmic7941
    @alexmic7941 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Great video Aaron, many thanks.
    I'm turning 29 this year. And it's scary. Because I feel so lost & depressed. I'm grateful for not having a drinking problem, or drug/smoking problem. I have a lovely girlfriend who I'll probably marry. But I still feel like shit. Depressed & anxious all the time, and I don't even want to start talking about my overthinking. Overthinking is so tiring & just a bitch. Went to therapy some time ago, was going systematically. But I stopped because I kind of felt like she can't really help me anymore or say something more that hasn't already been said, you know?
    I can't find a job, feel unmotivated to work out regularly, that's a problem too. And I also kind of live in a toxic home. So as you can see it sucks but I guess it's not so bad.
    You know how several people throw videos on TH-cam talking about how they feel like they wasted their 20's? I watched a couple of those. And now I kind of relate to them & also feel like those people.
    Forgiving myself & my past is also another big one because I'm just not capable of doing so. I keep returning to the past. Depressed & anxious all the time. It sucks. Don't know my direction or how to be successful. Not to mention the stuff that's happening worldwide is also not making me feel better lol

    • @lehardeu
      @lehardeu 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      As a men , their is not such things as " waisting your 20's " , 20's are there to be waisted and to make dumb mistakes
      That's the real privilege we get as men over women ... it's never too late to get your shit together

    • @RichardRider_69
      @RichardRider_69 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Try a different therapist until you find someone that clicks

  • @kazmiercuk4164
    @kazmiercuk4164 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    So, I am here. 6 years later, 22 year old succesfull MF with a lot of payable skills, strong mindset and strong body. If you're new here and wonder if this guy is worth listening, he definitely is. I just came here after many years to thank you Alpha,. Just thank you.

  • @stevenkinscherf6642
    @stevenkinscherf6642 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Aaron! This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for doing what you do!

  • @layn3904
    @layn3904 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love dipping and dont have any plans to stop!! I started at the age of 35! And do a can a week.

  • @NaeemBaig-v1r
    @NaeemBaig-v1r 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love how open and real you are

  • @RealityKrib
    @RealityKrib 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love this. So relatable to me. Thank you so much brother!

  • @andrewthomas8737
    @andrewthomas8737 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Back to basics again man. I like it.
    Who gives a shit about beards and loafers.
    Where what you want to wear.

  • @mattshadow81
    @mattshadow81 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Aaron, I'm back.
    I'm lost and hurting. I grew up watching you, and it's time I started again.

  • @VictorHernandez-qd6ml
    @VictorHernandez-qd6ml 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The only thing is killing me it’s hair loss , its bring my confidence down

  • @joelbaensch4079
    @joelbaensch4079 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank-you sir, for your videos. Very wise words of wisdom.

  • @Jaysi_NY003
    @Jaysi_NY003 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Alpha M your the truth, Keep preaching. 💎

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    change is possible. you can change your life for the better.

  • @jeffstpete
    @jeffstpete 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    THIS IS BEYOND FANTASTIC ADVICE!!
    THX THX❤

  • @horse4301
    @horse4301 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for your honesty and know that you are helping others. Including myself. Peace always.

  • @gwillis01
    @gwillis01 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks for a detailed, informative video

  • @masteryoflife5133
    @masteryoflife5133 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just taking action doesn’t seem to do anything, I push myself and can be intensely focused on something, but after feeling angry and discouraged on and off all the time, It becomes hard to function and I have to get rid of the headache for a week before I start again. It feels impossible to stay consistent without wanting to punch myself in the head. I have a lot of good habits, I journal, I meditate, but I am still really sensitive to light, sounds, I talk to random objects as if they are people, I feel like I am acting when I try to socialize etc.

  • @Captain-Jack
    @Captain-Jack 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love your authenticity man, thank you.

  • @mauricefleming-hx9cb
    @mauricefleming-hx9cb 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good morning Alpha. I truly appreciate your content. Have a blessed day

  • @devanmcconnell9630
    @devanmcconnell9630 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such an awesome video that I so relate to! Thank Alpha! Brilliant! Absolutely brilliant.

  • @jgj4430
    @jgj4430 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Curious your thoughts on Zyn. I've heard a lot of ppl prefer that over regular Tobacco.

  • @soraninja
    @soraninja 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey Alpha... I've been watching you since I was like 16? I'm now nearly 33 ... inreally loved your earlier videos. I'll be honest I kinda lost interest with some of your later videos due to the nature of the hyper energy and the pushing of sponsors.
    Your best videos are ones like these were you are your most open and genuine.
    I lost some family during the covid lockdowns and became very depressed I didn't finish my degree and now I'm unsure of where I should aim my life .. but its so so helpful to know where you came from and how you turned it around. I'm proud of you man.
    It's also a little hard to see you have more of a hairline and haven't aged a day haha mean while my hair has been receeding every year!
    Anyway. Please consider having a more conversational tone like this. You don't need the thumbnails/hyper energy. You are inspirational as you are man. And still one sexy MF

  • @the_black_prince
    @the_black_prince 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Aaron, you’ve been a blessing.

  • @DawnHarvey-x2e
    @DawnHarvey-x2e หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video

  • @sampathpatil2439
    @sampathpatil2439 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Could you please share the tips and tricks on how did you manage to quit chewing tobacco ?

  • @Rezisorss
    @Rezisorss 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    About find the right person and you become better - Disagree and somewhere agree. A man don't need a women to become better person and it's not that easy for everyone to find a "right" person. Keep focusing on your life and not women

  • @I_Drank_WHAT_TTV
    @I_Drank_WHAT_TTV 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'll be 50 in less than 6 weeks. I watch your video for the reality check I need. I'm not where I want to be, but I sure as FUCK ain't where I used to be. I still have a long hard road out of Hell of my own creation. When I'm done becoming reborn, this world will remember MY. FUCKING. NAME. I don't care about being a celebrity or being famous. What I AM going to do is become a legend. And legends? NEVER. FUCKING. DIE.

  • @ravikumarrk957
    @ravikumarrk957 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks bro for making my life better day by day. Please make a video about to get rid of any bad habbits like smoking drinking always think about s.x not consistent on work or good habbits and back to life after breakup. Thankyou so much bro

  • @jonshawunited
    @jonshawunited 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is a great video thanks alpha. :) Jon

  • @ProBusterxXx
    @ProBusterxXx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    O man. U are really getting into depths. It so helps and is accurately similar to mine😂.
    Didnt know alpha m did dips😂.
    My respect just increases more for your honesty.
    U might just hit 1 crore subs.
    Almost near to 70lakhs subs.

  • @AzhaanEbrahim
    @AzhaanEbrahim 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video let's go💪🏻🔥💯

  • @thatosolomonsehlabi
    @thatosolomonsehlabi 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks alpha always doing the best to better us thanks i appreciate you

  • @TorianoCouture
    @TorianoCouture 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good to great share. Thank you and I absolutely can sadly relate.

  • @waziotter
    @waziotter 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    More than half of this video is an ad read for Better Help.

  • @John.Doe-OG
    @John.Doe-OG 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Tubers need to start vetting their sponsors better.

  • @jeffp.5080
    @jeffp.5080 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I want to stop drinking and falling into addiction. I'm 44 and I've been fighting this for almost 10 years. Help me. I have motivation but that's temporary. I don't have the discipline

  • @bk8541
    @bk8541 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Looking good Alpha❤

  • @B_Thunderbolt_
    @B_Thunderbolt_ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is it good to regularly go to therapy?

  • @chrism6764
    @chrism6764 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I've been to the bottom and back a couple times. Terrifyingly close to self deletion a few times. Now, with no alcohol, porn and a much healthier ratio of good to junk food, I'm almost respectable...again.

    • @malik32345
      @malik32345 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good stuff bro

    • @TheMathias95
      @TheMathias95 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not almost respectable. You might not openly respect yourself yet, but know that some stranger on the web respect you king.

  • @rogerdowns6965
    @rogerdowns6965 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    aaron you are awesome i love your videos .

  • @sandypritykin3678
    @sandypritykin3678 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    what brand hoodie you are wearing

  • @Adrian-bt4nf
    @Adrian-bt4nf 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You boozed you enjoyed it , you played around you enjoyed you enjoyed yourself buddy so did I , never be ashamed dude ……we all gonna die , deal with it and apply teige Hanley 😅

  • @albundy7794
    @albundy7794 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Kind of a d**k move to find new friends and then call your old friends losers on a public forum.
    Isn't this channel about being a better person?

  • @kante_07
    @kante_07 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love from Africa❤

  • @Tarantulisimo
    @Tarantulisimo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Drinking is such a waste of money -- I don't regret all the bar-hopping & clubbing & good times, but all the money spent..OUCH!!!

  • @Chris.starfleet
    @Chris.starfleet 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How does one approach a psychologist and book an appointment ... if you don't know whether or not you have a clinical problem ... or ... .... if it's just something that requires you to muster the willpower to get your shtt in order.

    • @TheMathias95
      @TheMathias95 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There are many options. Here's two examples;
      You could ask your doctor, or simply sent some emails to many different psychologist or psychiatrists asking how to begin the process.

  • @xanderturgeon9
    @xanderturgeon9 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    good stuff

  • @3X9NLCF
    @3X9NLCF 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If you call bankrupcy in Poland you are not able to open any company for 10 years. You need to pay dept your bussiness made

  • @itspalsguitar
    @itspalsguitar 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love you Man ❤... you are always too good

  • @B4rdsLonG
    @B4rdsLonG 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think alpha was learning on buddhism and apply it on her content🤔🤗🤭🥴😜😇

  • @daltonk301
    @daltonk301 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Alpha you are better than betterhelp... dont push that.

  • @kevinhernandez4830
    @kevinhernandez4830 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Same except I started at 20

  • @milekrizman
    @milekrizman 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    11:16 both of you are Italians, right?

  • @crocodilestantv734
    @crocodilestantv734 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ✝️🌅Alpha You REALLY Should Accept Jesus! You’re life IS AN AMAZING AWESOME TESTIMONY for the World! Yes you’re health is your priority asset BUT when you die and your “not” BORN AGAIN by the Precious Blood of Jesus NOTHING ELSE MATTERS if you don’t have GOD! Arron I Love You and I’d LOVE to see you SET free from sin! By the Way ALL YOUR VIDEOS HELPED ME! God Bless You Alpha In Jesus Name ‼️❤️✝️

  • @21stCenturySpaceOdyssey
    @21stCenturySpaceOdyssey 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    All good advice, but the vast majority of young men know that finding a good woman to settle down with is simply impossible these days.

  • @asta1011
    @asta1011 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If you were sleeping around in your 20’s how did you meet your wife and keep her while you had bad habits

  • @DwayneLynn-t4k
    @DwayneLynn-t4k 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    hi

  • @HardcityRaindrops
    @HardcityRaindrops 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dude literally made like 10 videos about this shit

  • @Bluetiger-qd5ct
    @Bluetiger-qd5ct 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I never drinked or smoked ever in my life because ik what it does to people

    • @malik32345
      @malik32345 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good deal man. Same here as well. Not a struggle for everyone but rather save the time and energy.

  • @IQ-Question1
    @IQ-Question1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😢😢😢 support

  • @hastihasti1589
    @hastihasti1589 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Advertising clip

  • @wladislavpillowich5338
    @wladislavpillowich5338 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😊❤

  • @DiscretionwithReason
    @DiscretionwithReason 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    At least you could discharge your debt in bankruptcy court. My student loans in aviation and law are permanent. I will likely pass away lonely and in debt. I've given up on owning a house, car, or any relationship because only minimum wage jobs will hire me. I'm also not willing to start a YT channel to sell white labels.

    • @Ajayy714
      @Ajayy714 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why only minimum wage jobs will only hire you? Does your debt pop up when you apply to other jobs you wished to apply

    • @DiscretionwithReason
      @DiscretionwithReason 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Ajayy714 law firms want people with a pedigree. I went to a small law school in the middle west.

    • @DiscretionwithReason
      @DiscretionwithReason 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Ajayy714 it's a factor on whether I can join the military, which I'm strongly considering at this point since I don't feel like I have a future

    • @Ajayy714
      @Ajayy714 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@DiscretionwithReason best of lucks and hope everything works out👍

  • @elmayonezotebe4245
    @elmayonezotebe4245 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Number one, getting closer to God. Amen

  • @thenotorious1406
    @thenotorious1406 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🫶🏻✌🏻

  • @AbdurRahman-jf3ui
    @AbdurRahman-jf3ui 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    1st comment 🎉

  • @user-gl5ld9vm7i
    @user-gl5ld9vm7i 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loud

  • @beornkhan2736
    @beornkhan2736 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Liar

  • @Zarjjer
    @Zarjjer 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Alpha, wtf happened to the promised financial content?
    I will like to suggest that your struggles and new struggles have changed. It's a different age now. It will be far more helpful to know business side of yours cuz you are in it now! So it's relevant too.

  • @user-jf9vr6gb5t
    @user-jf9vr6gb5t 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Instead of therapy you can just get a new suede jacket (Fraiser's dad's advice)

  • @lankeysob
    @lankeysob 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think this is one of your best most impactful videos. Thank you for this!