I don’t have kids, I don’t have a husband, I’ve never been married, I’m 59, and it sucks to be lonely. I have everyone over for Christmas and then they all go home to their families and I stay by myself and clean up. I got a dog about 12 years ago because I had a giant pain in my stomach of emptiness. And as soon as I got him that went away. Animals do help.
@@nancybenton5635 🙈 well I don't see very many wrinkles! My TH-cam algorithm has been showing me a lot of similar videos over the past few days - there are so many people struggling and lonely but this is something social media can absolutely help with. Who knows where a random video or comment may lead? Great we're all looking young anyway !!!
Dogs are the best friends. My little dog just died. He was 12 years old and ill. I will have a dog sometime in the future. I think lonely people ought to have a dog or a cat or another pet. They love you to bits and you are never alone again you have this little pet and all the pet has is you. You have to take care of it and love it. I have 1 child a son, he is young though and he has his own life and he is always busy so don't think for one minute that you are all set if you have children because when they leave the nest they leave and you are on your own again. A dog or a cat never leaves you.
My children have become 100% no contact. Every day is endlessly lonely They won't let us see our grandchildren. Trust me, I am a good person who taught school and then went into health care because I enjoy people. There's an epidemic of parental alienation. Look it up. Nothing has meaning anymore, I wasted 30 years raising my children. I can't wait for it all to end
@@giab1188sometimes you need to have introspect and truly look within to why your children don’t want contact with you anymore. Often times saying sorry goes a long way instead of denying their truths. 🙏
YEAH I TOTALLY AGREE, IM IN THE SAME SITUATION BUT WE JUST GOT TO GET THROUGH, ANYWAY TRY AND HAVE A GOOD NEW YEAR AND ALL THE BEST, FROM WALES 🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴👍
im 43 years old and have never felt love from a significant other... and every single person ive loved never felt the same back then... it hurts like hell
@ love jesus but he ain’t gonna snuggle with me in bed or hug me or kiss me or lay my head down on the his shoulder when I’m having a very bad day … Jesus is everything but there are some things he ain’t able to do
It hurts like hell. I have felt it, but my 2 partners both died young, and it's been several years alone. I hate it. When people say "you don't NEED another person..." Well, THEY don't, but I do, don't tell me or you what we need! Grief never goes away. I hope you take the initiative and talk to people IRL. With eyes wide open, but an open heart. I still have hope, and I talk to strangers 🩵
Hey everyone in chat we are gonna get through this together! Never give up guys. We have to control our minds or our minds will control us. I got super depressed around thanksgiving and was going to end it later that day I found out my good buddy actually did take his life and somehow I snapped out of it. I reached out to God and I feel he gave me the strength I needed to overcome the attacks from the devil
Praise God. Glad you're ok .✝️🙏🏽❤️🔥 Finding a good church will help a lot. One that has a good community. Might take a while to find but pray on it and God will lead you.
Even when you have kids you could still end up lonely. My eldest married 15 years ago and moved to Florida. My youngest left 3 years ago at the age of 29 to move to Georgia with his fiancé. My mom’s elderly and lives an hour away and I’m disabled so driving anywhere other than local is out of the question. My closest friends have with moved (one to P.A) or have passed on. Just turned 61 and have some acquaintances but no one I really do anything with. Can’t be as physically active as I once was. Don’t hang around bars. Get bored with hobbies. I’m sorry you’re feeling as you do. I do understand it but the grass isn’t always greener on the other side which I’m sure you know. Also, a lot of children grow up and have lives of their own and even if they lived close by might still not have time for you.
I work rescue coz it soothes my soul. I wish I'd have met horses so much earlier in life. Always new life, be it chicks to alpacas. The ultimate therapy.
volunteering is great, I volunteer in road safety, with the police and also do crime leafleting with another division of the police, I also volunteer delivering the local magazine, and do citizen science. My life isn't boring
It takes a strong man to admit when he’s really hurting. I lost my husband 10 years ago and felt the exact same way but guess what? Things turned out better than I expected.
Of course things turned out better than you expected. You're a woman. I've experienced hell you couldnt imagine. After my wife died I been living in total isolation as my health declined, denied medical help, two car accidents later im in so much pain, struggle to walk, cant even get a job, disability is a joke, inflation is through the roof, trying to live on 700 dollars a month is insane. And there really isnt much I can do. Im by myself and cant even get up to make a meal for myself. My license is suspended, my car got taken. Oh and this isnt even scratching the surface. You know what i have working in my favor? I dont. They're trying to kick me off disability also and make me homeless.
Key points about emotional internet scams: Avoid Con Artist$ Exploiting emotions: These scams often target strong emotions like love, fear, guilt, or urgency to manipulate victims into making rash decisions. Building trust: Scammers invest time in building a relationship with the victim to appear genuine and trustworthy before making their request.
I feel the same. I have kids but they don't come around. Kids aren't always the answer. I'm glad I found your video. Keep going. You're still young. Life will get better but you have to help. God bless you.
Rescue an animal. You’ll have someone so happy to see you every day when you come home. Nothing like the unconditional love. Take him or her to the dog park. You’ll have so many people to talk to and your friend will have a blast.
@@robinredondo9427 the great question right? What’s my purpose in life. Do we all really need a purpose? We just exist and try to get by being happy and enjoying relationships. It’s all part of life
My cat has helped my depression so much. He is always there for me. And never judges me. He loves me no matter what. Icee follows me around like a dog would. He sleeps with me at night. Greets me 1st thing in the am. Icee gives me a reason to live because I have no one I would trust to take care of him should something happen to me. You will get through this ❤
My cat also saved my life. I told my therapist that she's the only thing keeping me from carrying out my plans. They wanted me to have inpatient care but I refused to leave her unattended.❤
I love cats I have my oldest cat she is 9 years old and she's my therapy cat and ESA (Emotional Support Animal) She helps me with my ADHD PTSD, depression anxiety etc. And I have learning disabilities. I love cats and dogs too.. But I'm more of a cat person BC they are my favorite animals.
God bless you 🙏. I lost my dog last year and am waiting till I get off the last prescription drug I was prescribed to get another one. My last dog was a rescue dog and we both saved each other's lives. You seem like a very kind soul.
It's the type of hurt you have to go through, and it's nothing you can do about it. I'm so happy you decided to live even if this message was meant to save me. Thank u so much for sharing your testimony. Sending love hugs prayers n everlasting blessings .
When I feel as you do i go and volunteer at the soup kitchen or animal shelter. Doing something for someone else just to help not expecting anything in return can be surprisingly rewarding. It helps i swear
Yes it is psychologically proven to to help. I think its a bit different with grief, a bereavement needs a while, my mother died 4 years ago and it is only this year I have felt normal. But this man is expecting too much too soon if it is only a year after his spouse died. Depression IS NORMAL. But maybe what helped me was a stray cat found me back in March and I swear I think I saved him BUT he saved me. Be gratefull, be thankfull, be patient, be kind to yourself.
Title got me. You not alone man. We all been through different stuff. It's ok to not be ok. Losing my mom changed me a lot . Feeling alone is probably one of those things that I can't explain well enough but just know you ain't alone bro. Thank you for the video btw you got good energy for this. Keep going 💪
Back in 2006 i went to a church where a man in lost his in only daughter when she ran into the road after a ball. She was 5. He had the biggest smile and the most beautiful voice, it perplexed and amazed me. I don't know what happened to his wife but he was always only by himself. Wonderful man. Myself...i turned out to be an alcoholic but thankfully i hit rock bottom this year and I'm 7 months sober; no wife or girlfriend or kids but i have a great community and a church family and most importantly. Jesus. Stay strong and pray to him for peace. I'll be praying for you also.
My brother died from alcoholism a little over a year ago. It’s an ugly addiction that does nothing but destroy lives. One thing I’ve learned about life is when you least expect it the most wonderful blessing can come into your life. You just have to be there. Seize opportunities or they pass by. God is real but for him to hear us, our needs, we have to live a righteous life. No sin. It’s worth it.
@D-Man2025 Yeah, I didn't seize the opportunity I had to potentially have a wife and kids in 2007. I'm sorry to hear about your brother, alcohol is tremendously tragic but God is healing me and He spoke 2 Corinthians 12:9 to me when I asked Him how I could ever be worthy of redemption.
@ we are not our past. God doesn’t even want to remember our sins once we are forgiven. We can be reborn in any moment. If you want a wife just live a righteous life and ask God for it. It will happen but you have to live sin free and live as God instructs.
Smiling faces say nothing about what state a person is in, nor is a reflection of a persons quality of life. My best friend from childhood was always a smiley face comical guy. He took his life, leaving behind his four year old son. A security guard where I work, a beautiful woman btw, was another person who always had a smiley face. She was really popular with the guys. Many would stop to have conversations with her on a daily basis, etc. One day, when I went to work, I found out that she took her life. Smiley faces say nothing. The only people who are happy being lonely are the ones who have gone insane from the loneliness, which is something I refuse to happen with me. That's the danger zone!!! That's where you end up being one of these people I just mentioned. Our brains have evolved to make us feel emotions for a reason. We're social creatures, aka Maslow's hierarchy of Needs. The best thing to do is to never lie to yourself about how you truly feel. Tell yourself the truth! Don't ever expect more from others than what you expect from yourself. And the same rule applies vice-verso. Other humans beings, who are not lonely, should not expect you to be happy and act that way in front of them. Unless they experience what you have to live through then you're entitled to feel the way you do. Love is like a currency. Some people like to flaunt it. Others like to only have social bubbles with those who have less than them. It's a superiors complex issue that they suffer from, main character syndrome. Learn where and who to associate yourself with or they'll keep you down. Some people don't like it if you end up making more $$$ than them. The same applies to love. They don't want you hooking up with a woman hotter than their wife. 😉 You're the single dude. You know, just sayin'. Don't accept being left behind or being last. It reminds me of that song by The Beatles, Eleanor Rigby. "All the lonely people, where do they all come from? All the lonely people, where do they all belong?" They gave us the answer in their song without actually saying it. We belong with one another. 😉 There's so many lonely people out there, but yet nobody is talking to one another.
YES!!!! It sounds so silly, but when I lost my sis then mom (my 2 people!), I wanted to die, too. But being grateful for ANYTHING every day, no matter how silly it feels. I made it hard, too, & named 3/day. It saved me (along w/my cat).
I don't mean to ne debby downer, but i understand that this idea can feel useless and unattainable when one feels utterly awful. I think of this everyday, but when I'm in pain, it feels like it will last forever. The idea to cherish each moment doesn't help when each moment hurts. Connection, community, nature, activity, stimulation, love, friends all help. Too many suffer alone.
I have the same problem. My Mom passed September, my Dad November, Dad's birthday on dec 8th., and my cat friend passed away this year after 20 yrs. I'm lost. I feel like i have nothing to live for, but something will come if I just keep going. Same for you. Keep going. Don't give up. Only you can make things better.
You just popped up on my feed man. I subscribed and I’m watching and listening. Lost both of my parents 3 years ago within 2 months of each other. Makes the holidays very lonely. I’m thankful for my wife of 18 years. We too can’t have kids. I’ll be 50 in January. Thankful I found this video. You’re an awesome human being.
I lost both my parents within a year of each other a couple years ago. I'm still having a terrible time with it. I'm thankful I have a daughter & my 1st grandson on the way. Not married & I'm 50. I struggle with it.
I lost my wife on Christmas day 2019. I know how you feel sir. Please don't do anything that's a permanent fix to a temporary feeling and situation...please! I don't know you but I care about people and all I can tell you is that your here for a reason. If you leave, you'll never figure out that reason. Have faith in that and in yourself. I truly wish you happiness and wellness.
I understand what you are saying and that you're coming from a good place. But please, remember some who feel this way are NOT dealing with something temporary! Some of us are very sick, with no hope from docs to recover because we won't etc ..
I have no family left. I got out of yet another abusive relationship 5 years ago. At 50 I'm not thinking I'll ever meet anyone. Never been married. I really don't have any close friends. I've never wanted kids and I'm not sorry about not having them - there's no guarantee they'll be there for you anyway. I just thought I'd have friends and a partner but nope. It does suck. Gotta keep on living for yourself somehow.
Watching this on January 2nd. I hope your New Years Eve went well & you’re waking up today with some hope in your heart. I rescued a dog in August & though I didn’t think I wanted another dog she has brought so much joy & purpose to my life. ❤
Hi, I listened to your vid. Live FOR YOUR WIFE. Yes, she has passed…. But she would want you to push forward. I understand what your going through. Do your best and keep sharing. Sending you healing vibes.
Hello, I'm from England and lost my partner to cancer 16 months ago I miss her every day and also feel I have nothing to live for.. Heartbroken and lost and alone on this horrible rollercoaster grieving process, I now have breathing problems and terrible depression and anxiety.. Sorry for your loss, I know exactly how you feel, we were together for 23 years and life now sucks ..
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been having a lot of breathing problems lately and it's absolutely brutal. Like a panic attack with every breath. Depression and anxiety are a constant. I don't have any answers, but I hope you can find something that brings a little bit of light into your life. ***HUG***
I am So Very Sorry for your Tremendous Loss ! You are Still here for a Reason !! God Has Got you ! Never Give up !! May God Bless you and Be With you and Comfort you as Only He Can . IJMN AMEN . 🙏♥️
Mannn I'm 20. Been dealing with the stress of Christmas and $$$$ in dental work and vehicle repairs, and I sometimes wake up with the same thought. Loneliness can get heavy; I don't really regularly see anyone other than the people I work with, my bosses, and my Dad. I have no idea if I'll live to your age, but I know I gotta keep going, and so do you. I work with (even go to school with) people older than you. There's still a lot left in life. Shit's gonna change if you want it to. Can't tell you when, but it will. I've found that volunteering to help my community helps a lot. I would certainly recommend looking into what organizations you can contribute to to help the locals. Maybe as a bonus, you'll meet some new friends. I'm rooting for you
We all go thru it. 💯🇨🇦🕯️🤍🕊️. Unfortunately the stigma to this subject is great. I don't know if you know hawks podcasts but he discussed it and PTSD thru this past week. He gives his story. I think you'd benefit.. I know I did 💯🇨🇦🕯️🤍🕊️🎼🎵🎼🎵🎵🎶
For a person 20 years old (1/3 my age), your words and feelings are fresh on my mind from when I was there. And true now. Nothing is as constant as change, both self imposed or in ways that come your way. Hope your positivity helps the Hanger.
I can understand exactly how you feel. I'm 59, single with no children or close relations . And I'm watching Your video I so much wanted to have someone in my life that I kept putting others before me and they keep taking me for a ride. Now 2026 I have decided I am going to love and pamper myself like never before. I am going to be my own baby girl. And I'm already feeling good about it. 🇳🇬 .
I'm 41, lost my girlfriend 7 years ago Nov 4th. Spent 18 y1ears together. We had a daughter and she had a son i raised from 5 years old. He passed away at 26 4 years after his mom. Your not alone. An I feel your pain
I feel your pain. Please remember you are responsible for own happiness. No one or nothing will bring you happiness. Find that joy within you. Find a hobby. No one is happy every day. Being alive comes with ups and downs.
Mate you’re healthy; you have a job you like; you have a father that needs you;you have some savings and nearly 50k people that have watched this video, so keep doing the TH-cam thing and focus on positivity. These are all key reasons to continue and you have plenty to live for! Don’t walkaway or do anything stupid! We are all questioning everything in our later years!
@@clarky417tell you what dude I get up every morning and I’m thnk full ,I live alone and what’s happened to me since age 27 ,one leg ,last yr broke it .This year lungs collapsed and I still look frwrd to making a Cuigar box guitar and look frwrd to good weather to get out for a ride ,dude live iLife get oytn do life ,
I am sorry you feel the way you do. I too am on my own since my husband died nearly five years ago. I understand the pain and grief you feel. Please think of the positives in your life. Your dear wife would not want you to feel sad and depressed. You have a lot to offer, you are still young, healthy, employed with hobbies no matter how limited they are. You have many more years to live - make them count, don’t waste your life. There are at least 100,000 people worldwide would do anything to change places with you. Think of all the things you have now. Why not Volunteer to help others? I volunteer in our local Hospital in the ED Department. I love meeting and helping people who are worried, sad and just need someone to share a friendly word with. I am 75 years of age and try to make the most of every minute I have left. Younger people than you face cancer and their limited future time , people are disabled needing wheelchairs never to walk again needing constant help from others. There are people watching this who would love the freedom you have to go out for a walk or go to the cinema or just go to a coffee shop. I too miss my husband every day and still talk to him. I want to make him proud of me still by doing my best to lead a worthwhile life. You have such a lot to offer other people, get out there and make your wife proud, you owe it to yourself.
Yes and everything is perspective also. I should be way more appreciative of my life after being off heroin for almost 2 years but I am still going through the withdrawals from coming off Sublocade and and two years of methadone that got me off heroin, but now I have to deal with the extremely long and protracted withdrawals of synthetic prescription opioids. PAWS are real and so fun😂. It's a weird time to get clean. I hope you do get healthy. It has taken give me two years and I just had comprehensive blood tests were all my biomarkers are normal, except testosterone. Took a lot of work and time. Now doing something you love for work can be harder. God bless you
@@thebestpredictions do you think that your rights trump other people’s rights? Freedom doesn’t guarantee happiness or require others to agree with you or even be sensitive in responding to you. Americans are losing our Freedom because we keep trading it in for other people’s feelings..people who don’t give a flying fuck about anyone else’s feelings.
63 here, husband gone 7 years, no kids. I do not for a second regret not having kids. You might get good kids and you might get bad ones. My cat is all I need.
You are so right. Not everyone who has kids has good kids or kids who care about them. My neighbor has a daughter that she did everything for and now the daughter has nothing to do with her because she’s ashamed of coming from a poor home…crazy
@ Perhaps you are confusing societal pressures and expectations for "natural yearning." Some may experience a yearning but many do not. I had a fulfilling career with no yearning and also certainly didn't want to experience birthing.
Children don’t cure your depression or loneliness Some have Children they never see So do something help children who would love to have an adult in their lives .
If you have clinical depression then maybe not, but I assure you, a lack of children for people who do want children can definitely lead to depression and unhappiness. I know because I'm living it, and I've seen others as well. Most people with children that I know do have good relationships with them and really enjoy spending time with them. Of course there are no guarantees, but without children it is a guarantee you won't know the joy of having them.
I lost my partner 3 years ago,Im 54 and also struggle to find purpose when I wake up,it's getting harder. We never had children,we couldn't,so yeah I know where you are coming from,money is really tight at the moment. I got fit,I cycle,walk,run,it helps but the feeling still hangs over me,so yeah I get where you are coming from,I live in Wales,please take care of yourself.
I honestly get it. I became a widow a year ago right before Thanksgiving and the past year I have discovered I am just living, waiting to die. I wont harm myself but just sitting waiting to die, us not living. I have a bulldog, yes it comforts, but he also loved my husband and he grieves at the loss. You are not alone.
So true about kids. I’m turning 50 and my wife and I don’t have kids and I’m terrified of where I go if something happens to her. Keep your head up sir. You are valued and loved.
For some reason, sir, you just showed up in my feed and your video title made me curious enough to watch it. My heart goes out to you so I’ve subscribed to your channel. You have so much to live for; your heart is just broken. Those of us who are new to your channel are rooting for you and we will be your friends ❤.
I lost my parents in my childhood. Then grandparents after 25 years care. Never married no kids. Other family are estranged, bitter. I suffer x 5 chronic illnesses including PTSD and Fibromyalgia. We either let ourselves die or try to live, help others, call helplines.... Samaritains, MIND, join groups, take medication. Life is tough.
100% this I'm legit almost in the same boat, Lost my sister at 28 too, You're 100% correct Last year loved my drink, Then quited in Jan and sorted my self out with few jobs in the year, Life just goes on but you get the choice on how to live it, No one else can do it for you.
My wife passed away Dec 15 2023 a year ago 😢 💔 still hurts especially right before i go to sleep I noticed i still hang out with her in dreamland though
My deepest condolences to you…the loss of your loved one will be with you forever. There will be “Firsts” without her and then seconds and on and on. Grieving is what I learned about 32 years ago when my 59 year old Dad passed away on December 22, 1992. I had 10 precious days with him & we said everything we needed to say before he passed. September 21,2023 my best buddy passed away from brain cancer. October 20, 2024 we lost my son’s father in a tragic accident. He was the happiest he had ever been 😚. I’ve lost other friends through the years. I will be 65 soon and I never forget my loved one. God bless 🙏
It’s hard at this time of year for some of us. I am so sorry you feel this way. My cat Jakey died on Nov 9,2024 and his buddy died on Jan 10,2021. My Dad died Dec 30,2013 so I understand what you’re going through. I’ve got health issues and on top of that, I’m my 94 yr old Mom’s caregiver. I have subscribed to your channel. God bless you, my friend.
Loneliness means we have an estranged relatiionship with ourselves. Anxiety, depression, worry and loneliness are ways to know we must build our self relationship. Loving ourselves, caring for ourselves, protecting ourselves, reassuring ourselves and comforting ourselves. Im sorry for your loss, loss is our worst experience. Our reaction to losing someone is how we feel about ourselves. Find support and help grieving and building your relationship with your self. Good luck and youre worth it!
I see a few comments saying about getting a dog, if possible please do so. My boy is a total lunatic but I wouldn't change a thing about him. The love I receive from him is out of this world, I leave the room for 1 minute and the welcome I receive melts me everytime without fail. He keeps me on my toes and gives me every reason to live. I hope things get better for you brother 👍
The holidays are hard for a lot of people. I just lost my mom oct 20th of 2024. Everyone gets this feeling of nothing to live for. I mean everyone. You need to stay strong. Your wife would want you to stay strong. The world is a brutal place. I’m not the best catholic, have not been to church in years. You say only you can rescue you that is not true. You need to put your faith in God. I’m going through troubles myself but my faith in God is keeping me going. Like I said I am not the best catholic but I know God has a plan for all of us. Hang in there man have faith. Our suffering will make us stronger and when your time comes you will see your wife again. When my time comes I know I will be with all my loved ones.
This was a beautiful channel mate. You wear your vulnerability on your sleeve for us all. I went through an existential decade long depression that drained the sap from me. Surrounding myself with animals and plants that I care for, definitely helped. 6yrs is still very fresh for digesting the loss of a partner... Alternatively you could always adopt a kid if that yearning lingers. I know the wait is endless for newborns if you're a single parent, but an older kid still needs the same love. It seems like you have a lot of compassion and love to share. Hoping you are filled with reason to carry on, fight and update us. 🙏🏻 Take care and godspeed.
Hello! Lovely to meet you. I live 'alone' with my little cats. I spend Christmases with the kitties; no family member ever joins us. I'm used to it now. I adore my cats and they, me. What blessings they are, every day. I know the pain of loneliness and isolation. Having pets helps hugely. Will be thinking of you xx
I ran into this video randomly, and I hope you're doing better. I know it's a tough day. Stay strong, brother!!! I hope 2025 is filled with blessings and opportunities to better your life and others. I had my middle brother who was in the military and got injured while serving because of the surgery he got, ended up abusing oxytocin, and passed away in his sleep. At 22, I didn't get to know him as a brother because I was also fighting my own demons. I did get away from that lifestyle, and I'm closer to my youngest brother. I know you don't get along with your father... maybe this is an opportunity to make relationships better before they are gone. Have somewhat of a purpose. That's just my opinion from my own personal experience. Stay positive!!!
I am sorry you are alone during the holidays. We must create our own meaning. I tell people to start with mastering something in life. Pick something to master and then find a community to support that mastery. Just sharing your story of grief and the love you have for your wife is helping others. Find what you are called to master and give your life to that. Many blessings.
as someone who has already passed through your emotions... there is light on the other side of dark... you are inches away from the top of the mountain... you are exhausted and in pain... but that's the game... it is the very very worst right before the glory... if you can just hang on, you will reap the benefits of all the anguish you have suffered... it will be glorious!!! The descent from the mountain is easy... come see the other side... its lovely...❤
Sending you love and prayers. I am 66 and can relate in some ways. I lost my beautiful baby girl dec the 30th 2018. The color faded from my world. But you have a reason for being here. There is no way to know what wonderful thing may happen for you tomorrow. I would enjoy being friends any tiime and wish you much happiness. Hang tough better days are coming darlene from Knoxville tn
Don't put your happiness in dependence on someone else. If you aren't happy alone, then you don't have enough happiness to share with someone else. Find your happiness, then you will have something to share.
I have just watched your video and subscribed. So sorry for your loss. My little dog just died. And my son is a grown man with his own life and always busy. He is young not married with kids yet. I am struggling too every single day and I don't have a job so yeah life is lonely these days. I'll be 60 soon. I am healthy. Thank God for that. I can see that there are so many people here on you tube struggling with loneliness and a sense of purpose in life. It was not always like this but as I have grown older and lost some relatives and my son moved out 4 years ago, he is 22, I still had the old dog, but now he is gone. Life is hard and I'm struggling. Believe me. At least I have a nice home. All the best to you. kind regards tina from Denmark
Hi! I love Denmark & its people! 56. Same w/ son of 24. Cats are easy & so sweet despite the news! 😉I've been so lucky to be out in the country where occasionally a stray will walk up to me & love me back unconditionally. Emmy🐈⬛is my current adoptee & she just found me 2 siblings out in the "wild." 🐈⬛🐈⬛
@@hollyharris1874 Hi Holly thank you. I have never been to the US. Yeah, you're right it's a very difficult age nearly 60, but we have to keep going we cannot give up ever. In my experience after the kids leave and you're on your own once again a pet is the solution. I like dogs but a cat or a rabbit is just as sweet as long as you have someone to take care of and you're never alone and the pets love you. The young people are always busy. It is just the way it is supposed to be. Get a dog or a cat and maybe do a bit of travelling meet new people and see new places then when you are back home you will enjoy your boring old life even more and you can get a pet.
You are not alone. I promise. God bless you. We all have issues, traumas, deaths, and worse. Yes it's hard. I never could have children affects me then and now. I hate to say I knew it would be lonely. You have to keep going. You are on the right path. And it's good make your videos. Make them for yourself. You don't have to be fancy. You just do and say what you feel. It's your channel. I'm sure that it's healthy for you to document your journey you don't know how many people you are helping. You are here for a reason. Here's a small example I nearly died these last few days I was losing a ton of blood by mouth and nose. It didn't hurt. I have a ton of health issues but I had to go to ER to find out where it was coming from. I got there got a few blood transfusions stayed in ICU. I found out the next day with an emergency endoscopy that there were no tears cuts lesions from the prior endoscopy I just had but ulcers can absolutely bleed and cause your hemoglobin to go so very low. And I have a horrible infection in my esophagus. I'm happy things worked out. All I've been trying to do this last two years is get well. I want so bad to be me again. So keep working at your channel. It'll be slow but worth it. It takes tim to build your core audience then you'll be so happy you did I promise. I lost both parents horrible ways so thank goodness you still have your dad. Maybe just an idea but some point get a PO BOX people do enjoy sending a nice note, letter, card, to simply talk be supportive and listen is sure nice. I absolutely love the long lost art of handwriting pretty letters and notes. I enjoy so many things that have to do with simple nice paper. Don't walk away friend. I already have subscribed and have a million questions. Find out at the very least if the woman you're interested in is married. You never know ever! You have no idea her story. So get out there find out!
Sir, you could get a cat. I felt lost for many years - then God sent a stray into my way. It gave me something to care about . Haven't felt better in years. Wish you health and happiness ahead.
I did watch your video til the end. I'm sorry you feel like you have nothing to live for. Even sharing your struggles can resonate with others who feel the same way it shows they're not alone. You have a unique voice, and your story matters. Please consider reaching out for support, there’s help available. I look forward to your next video. New follower here
Listen man I've been there. But you 100% have a reason to keep going. She would want you too. Find that special passion you have and get it going. You got this
I believe you have a lot to give. You are sensitive, intelligent, and clearly have a big heart. After my mother's death, two years ago just before Christmas, I was left alone in this world. I have four cats to take care of, and they have given me purpose. I feel they need me, and that if I were gone, they would have no chance of surviving. I take each day at a time. Trust me, there is someone out there for whom you will be a saviour. For me, it is my cats. Stay strong, and think that if you give up, the memory of your beloved wife will also disappear. Sending lots of love your way. You are important: never forget this.❤
Hey I saw your video. I heard every word. If I had your experience I’d feel exactly the same way, probably worse. If my wife has a shift at work and I’m alone in the house on my day off I actually get a little depressed.
I lost my health 8 years ago. My husband is retiring next year and he is totally beat up from a lifetime of hard work. We are limping into retirement crippled. But you're right, we have each other. Our adult children are busy with their own lives. Sending a virtual hug to you
So concise but complete! I feel the same! I try never to burden my son who is having the most significant, amazing, memory-filled time of his life right now! It makes me happy enough to know at least that. Why can't everyone be more like us, huh!?! 😂💜🌼☮
The feeling of falling asleep and hoping you just pass peacefully, then you wake up and you don’t know why or what your purpose is. You wonder why people pass away younger than you and wonder why you get to wake up when you don’t even want to but these people who are so loved and cared for will never get to enjoy life for as long as you haven’t even wanted to anymore.
Subscribed. "Grief is love with no place to go", it is so heavy, I feel your pain. I agree with the animal comments though, my guineas are saving me. Being able to care for and love them gives me purpose.
I can relate so much. I had a son. Betrayed by him cuts like a knife. Lost my amazing parents by the time I was 26. I have no family and all I ever wanted since I was 6 years old was to have a big family. I feel your pain. I spend holidays alone. I struggle every single day. I remember better times before my son’s father had so many back surgeries and doctors turned a good man into a junkie who is in and out of jail/ prison. He USED to be my best friend and cared for my mom before she died in 2001. I have never felt so alone in my life. I read the comments here and see a lot of others struggle. If something happened to me, no one would know. That hurts. When they ask for your emergency contact at the doctors office, I don’t have one. It’s the worst feeling to have nothing to live for but to know that if you were on the right situation that could make all the difference in feeling that you mattered in this world. You gained a new subscriber. I’m here. ❤
I don’t have kids, I don’t have a husband, I’ve never been married, I’m 59, and it sucks to be lonely. I have everyone over for Christmas and then they all go home to their families and I stay by myself and clean up. I got a dog about 12 years ago because I had a giant pain in my stomach of emptiness. And as soon as I got him that went away. Animals do help.
Well Nancy, I'm 50 and have 2 kids I rarely see. Loneliness is awful but I'm sure 2025 will bring something for you 🎉🎉
@@nancybenton5635 aw thanks! I'll be spending it alone tonight but I'm OK with it. BTW I think you look much younger than 59 😌
@ I’m spending it with my dogs. And by the way, thank you but the wrinkles are increasing every year.
@@nancybenton5635 🙈 well I don't see very many wrinkles!
My TH-cam algorithm has been showing me a lot of similar videos over the past few days - there are so many people struggling and lonely but this is something social media can absolutely help with.
Who knows where a random video or comment may lead?
Great we're all looking young anyway !!!
@ well I don’t dye my hair yet, so that’s good.
Having a sweet little dog has helped me immensely.
@@bgregg55 A parrot is nice. I can watch them instead of TV
Any pets are fantastic company
They really do help. 🐾
My 4lb Chihuahua has changed my life.
Dogs are the best friends. My little dog just died. He was 12 years old and ill. I will have a dog sometime in the future. I think lonely people ought to have a dog or a cat or another pet. They love you to bits and you are never alone again you have this little pet and all the pet has is you. You have to take care of it and love it. I have 1 child a son, he is young though and he has his own life and he is always busy so don't think for one minute that you are all set if you have children because when they leave the nest they leave and you are on your own again. A dog or a cat never leaves you.
There are people with kids who take their own lives. So having kids is not a guarantee that people will be happy.
Agreed
My children have become 100% no contact.
Every day is endlessly lonely
They won't let us see our grandchildren.
Trust me, I am a good person who taught school and then went into health care because I enjoy people.
There's an epidemic of parental alienation. Look it up.
Nothing has meaning anymore, I wasted 30 years raising my children.
I can't wait for it all to end
@@giab1188sometimes you need to have introspect and truly look within to why your children don’t want contact with you anymore. Often times saying sorry goes a long way instead of denying their truths. 🙏
@@giab1188 i imagined something bad must have happened with your kids.
Yeah. Kids don’t mean anything.
I was where you are, and it was suggested that I rescue a dog. Changed my life. I saved him, but he saved ME. Hang in there, PLEASE ❤
“Hang” in there 😂
Absolutely!
I just commented this exact thing. It's an awesome feeling and they're great company.
Please get a dog ❤
@@gremlinvibe a cat and a dog? 💕
There's at least 17 thousand people who watched and probably (including myself) feel the same way brother.
Amen
YEAH I TOTALLY AGREE, IM IN THE SAME SITUATION BUT WE JUST GOT TO GET THROUGH, ANYWAY TRY AND HAVE A GOOD NEW YEAR AND ALL THE BEST, FROM WALES 🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴👍
💯
26k
You not alone,God is with you and with me too.
Who's going to see this video? 38K of us saw it and we saw it for a reason! Please stick with us. Don't let loneliness take you!!! New subscriber!
55k now
im 43 years old and have never felt love from a significant other... and every single person ive loved never felt the same back then... it hurts like hell
misfile, we have the same life. But, I am over it. I am happy alone and very blessed. I smile each day anyway. Hang in there.
@@Melody-rt3wk ❤❤
IAM so sorry ..But guess what Jesus really does Love you unconditionally..Seek him out John 3:16 ❤
@ love jesus but he ain’t gonna snuggle with me in bed or hug me or kiss me or lay my head down on the his shoulder when I’m having a very bad day … Jesus is everything but there are some things he ain’t able to do
It hurts like hell. I have felt it, but my 2 partners both died young, and it's been several years alone. I hate it. When people say "you don't NEED another person..." Well, THEY don't, but I do, don't tell me or you what we need! Grief never goes away. I hope you take the initiative and talk to people IRL. With eyes wide open, but an open heart. I still have hope, and I talk to strangers 🩵
This video may have saved ppls lives just by hearing someone else feel the same way. Pls don’t give up 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
🥳Happy New Years Babes 🥰🥰
You Are loved@karmakartel75
over 3000 subs i will more new videos coming tomorow
@@clarky417it’s kinda a Christmas miracle, idn’t it 🥰
@@clarky417 Yessss !!! I’m subscribing right now !!
Hey everyone in chat we are gonna get through this together! Never give up guys. We have to control our minds or our minds will control us. I got super depressed around thanksgiving and was going to end it later that day I found out my good buddy actually did take his life and somehow I snapped out of it. I reached out to God and I feel he gave me the strength I needed to overcome the attacks from the devil
Depression is a very evil illness that belies our beliefs in hope, goodness and light until we feel better.
Praise God. Glad you're ok .✝️🙏🏽❤️🔥
Finding a good church will help a lot. One that has a good community. Might take a while to find but pray on it and God will lead you.
Beth from Davenport Iowa is here. Every day.
The universe helped me when God didn't answer just my personal experience
@@anairaqiyahbibiNot everyone believes in all that and no one needs it. You can reach true peace without a belief in god
A lot of us are like you. My partner committed suicide 10yrs ago and I have been alone since then. Have faith, we don’t know what is around the corner
Amen, thank you!🙏
Omg so sorry for you ❤❤
Woah that’s rough God bless and good luck
Even when you have kids you could still end up lonely. My eldest married 15 years ago and moved to Florida. My youngest left 3 years ago at the age of 29 to move to Georgia with his fiancé. My mom’s elderly and lives an hour away and I’m disabled so driving anywhere other than local is out of the question. My closest friends have with moved (one to P.A) or have passed on. Just turned 61 and have some acquaintances but no one I really do anything with. Can’t be as physically active as I once was. Don’t hang around bars. Get bored with hobbies. I’m sorry you’re feeling as you do. I do understand it but the grass isn’t always greener on the other side which I’m sure you know. Also, a lot of children grow up and have lives of their own and even if they lived close by might still not have time for you.
You have got a lot you're health your dad go to groups try and think positive age is just a number Lesley england
I volunteer at an animal rescue. Ironically, they rescued me. I wish you peace in the coming new year. You're never alone ❤
That’s exceptional.🌟
Help abused parrots!
I work rescue coz it soothes my soul. I wish I'd have met horses so much earlier in life. Always new life, be it chicks to alpacas. The ultimate therapy.
Thank you for giving time to the animals who really need it. ❤
volunteering is great, I volunteer in road safety, with the police and also do crime leafleting with another division of the police, I also volunteer delivering the local magazine, and do citizen science. My life isn't boring
It takes a strong man to admit when he’s really hurting. I lost my husband 10 years ago and felt the exact same way but guess what? Things turned out better than I expected.
Of course things turned out better than you expected. You're a woman. I've experienced hell you couldnt imagine. After my wife died I been living in total isolation as my health declined, denied medical help, two car accidents later im in so much pain, struggle to walk, cant even get a job, disability is a joke, inflation is through the roof, trying to live on 700 dollars a month is insane. And there really isnt much I can do. Im by myself and cant even get up to make a meal for myself. My license is suspended, my car got taken. Oh and this isnt even scratching the surface. You know what i have working in my favor? I dont. They're trying to kick me off disability also and make me homeless.
@@blade_warrior_blue You are alive and God loves you , this you have going for you.
It's just a classic ebeg
@@blade_warrior_bluedamn dude I dont even know what to tell u thats tought 😮 and you dont have any family that can help you ?
@@blade_warrior_blueall I’m hearing is a lot of feeling sorry for myself and take pity on me. NOBODY IS GOING TO SAVE YOU EXCEPT YOURSELF.
You're in a perfect position my friend, not a bad one. You are in the perfect spot to discover what your life is really all about...
I totally agree
Bro u don't know what he's going through
@@yumyumbubblegum8718 he just told us a lot of it in this video. Fym
Brother, I’m here for you. We all love you. We as people need to help each other!
awesome reply we are put here not to earn the most money we can but to help one another
Amen to that🙏🙏!! 2:15
Absolutely Amen so am I, there’s many people who care!!!❤️
Society is not as it was, I'm around his age - it was different then, people cared and connected. Today, nope. Too much ME ME ME
Key points about emotional internet scams: Avoid Con Artist$
Exploiting emotions:
These scams often target strong emotions like love, fear, guilt, or urgency to manipulate victims into making rash decisions.
Building trust:
Scammers invest time in building a relationship with the victim to appear genuine and trustworthy before making their request.
I feel the same. I have kids but they don't come around. Kids aren't always the answer.
I'm glad I found your video. Keep going. You're still young. Life will get better but you have to help. God bless you.
People that think kids are the answer have never had kids
Rescue an animal. You’ll have someone so happy to see you every day when you come home. Nothing like the unconditional love. Take him or her to the dog park. You’ll have so many people to talk to and your friend will have a blast.
This is the best answer.
Life.is.prious..dont.give.up.god.is.with.you.❤🎉🎉❤
dogs can be very expensive, especially with vets bills. so many get dumped. It is not fair for people to be pushed into having animals
True, it may not be his wish to have animals it doesn't have to be a dog either can be any pet.
Exactly and/or volunteer to help others ❤
No one really has anything to live for. You have to create your own meaning.❤❤❤❤❤
@@robinredondo9427 the great question right? What’s my purpose in life. Do we all really need a purpose? We just exist and try to get by being happy and enjoying relationships. It’s all part of life
Been there. Why bother?
Dignitas. I'll do it maybe you should. Be together.
Wow, what a mini thread. Creeps me out.
Kind of true, but not at the same time.
My cat has helped my depression so much. He is always there for me. And never judges me. He loves me no matter what. Icee follows me around like a dog would. He sleeps with me at night. Greets me 1st thing in the am. Icee gives me a reason to live because I have no one I would trust to take care of him should something happen to me. You will get through this ❤
My cat also saved my life. I told my therapist that she's the only thing keeping me from carrying out my plans. They wanted me to have inpatient care but I refused to leave her unattended.❤
I love cats I have my oldest cat she is 9 years old and she's my therapy cat and ESA (Emotional Support Animal)
She helps me with my ADHD PTSD, depression anxiety etc.
And I have learning disabilities.
I love cats and dogs too..
But I'm more of a cat person BC they are my favorite animals.
My dog saved my life. I live for him. ❤
God bless you 🙏. I lost my dog last year and am waiting till I get off the last prescription drug I was prescribed to get another one. My last dog was a rescue dog and we both saved each other's lives. You seem like a very kind soul.
Yea man. Maybe he should get a dog. It could change his life.
I know what you mean,I used to live for my dog until he died on my living room floor two months ago.
I also live for my dogs and cat. I have no extended family, and no one that cares...
I want a dog…I have 3 cats. ❤
Prayers man. The Lord is always with you
Amen ❤p
Amen
Loneliness sucks....I have been with my wife for 31 years and I really don't know what I would do without her. She really is my whole world ❤
I found you and have shared your video with my 69,000 fans. Clearly, you have angels listening to you.
Thank you for sharing, Whimsy!!❤
Thank you Whimsy!
Thanks 🇨🇦💯🕊️🕯️🤍💙💙🙏🙏
ooh wow Whimsy I follow your channel, fancy seeing you here, now thats amazing! Mr you wont be alone anymore, Promise! ❤
❤
I rescued a little dog that was in a bad situation a few years after my husband died and that little dog has saved my life.
Thank you for saving a vulnerable dog.
🤗
You're a hero
It's the type of hurt you have to go through, and it's nothing you can do about it. I'm so happy you decided to live even if this message was meant to save me. Thank u so much for sharing your testimony. Sending love hugs prayers n everlasting blessings .
When I feel as you do i go and volunteer at the soup kitchen or animal shelter. Doing something for someone else just to help not expecting anything in return can be surprisingly rewarding. It helps i swear
Nice ❤
That is what I do too! It helps so much.
Exactly! Go spend the day with a senior.
Yes it is psychologically proven to to help. I think its a bit different with grief, a bereavement needs a while, my mother died 4 years ago and it is only this year I have felt normal. But this man is expecting too much too soon if it is only a year after his spouse died. Depression IS NORMAL. But maybe what helped me was a stray cat found me back in March and I swear I think I saved him BUT he saved me. Be gratefull, be thankfull, be patient, be kind to yourself.
That sounds a great idea meet new people and be helpful to others🌈
I wish I could help you, but I’m in the same situation. No kids, family or friends.
Hang in there ✊🏼
I feel your pain and I am sorry to hear this. I am in the same situation. Maybe next year will be better
Maybe ❤
@@NINrod_M 🫂
I love you bro ❤
@karenisaacs920i1 love you bro
Title got me. You not alone man. We all been through different stuff. It's ok to not be ok. Losing my mom changed me a lot . Feeling alone is probably one of those things that I can't explain well enough but just know you ain't alone bro. Thank you for the video btw you got good energy for this. Keep going 💪
Back in 2006 i went to a church where a man in lost his in only daughter when she ran into the road after a ball. She was 5. He had the biggest smile and the most beautiful voice, it perplexed and amazed me. I don't know what happened to his wife but he was always only by himself. Wonderful man. Myself...i turned out to be an alcoholic but thankfully i hit rock bottom this year and I'm 7 months sober; no wife or girlfriend or kids but i have a great community and a church family and most importantly. Jesus. Stay strong and pray to him for peace. I'll be praying for you also.
My brother died from alcoholism a little over a year ago. It’s an ugly addiction that does nothing but destroy lives. One thing I’ve learned about life is when you least expect it the most wonderful blessing can come into your life. You just have to be there. Seize opportunities or they pass by. God is real but for him to hear us, our needs, we have to live a righteous life. No sin. It’s worth it.
@D-Man2025 Yeah, I didn't seize the opportunity I had to potentially have a wife and kids in 2007. I'm sorry to hear about your brother, alcohol is tremendously tragic but God is healing me and He spoke 2 Corinthians 12:9 to me when I asked Him how I could ever be worthy of redemption.
@ we are not our past. God doesn’t even want to remember our sins once we are forgiven. We can be reborn in any moment. If you want a wife just live a righteous life and ask God for it. It will happen but you have to live sin free and live as God instructs.
@D-Man2025 True. Ezekiel 18:21
Smiling faces say nothing about what state a person is in, nor is a reflection of a persons quality of life. My best friend from childhood was always a smiley face comical guy. He took his life, leaving behind his four year old son. A security guard where I work, a beautiful woman btw, was another person who always had a smiley face. She was really popular with the guys. Many would stop to have conversations with her on a daily basis, etc. One day, when I went to work, I found out that she took her life. Smiley faces say nothing. The only people who are happy being lonely are the ones who have gone insane from the loneliness, which is something I refuse to happen with me. That's the danger zone!!! That's where you end up being one of these people I just mentioned. Our brains have evolved to make us feel emotions for a reason. We're social creatures, aka Maslow's hierarchy of Needs. The best thing to do is to never lie to yourself about how you truly feel. Tell yourself the truth! Don't ever expect more from others than what you expect from yourself. And the same rule applies vice-verso. Other humans beings, who are not lonely, should not expect you to be happy and act that way in front of them. Unless they experience what you have to live through then you're entitled to feel the way you do.
Love is like a currency. Some people like to flaunt it. Others like to only have social bubbles with those who have less than them. It's a superiors complex issue that they suffer from, main character syndrome. Learn where and who to associate yourself with or they'll keep you down. Some people don't like it if you end up making more $$$ than them. The same applies to love. They don't want you hooking up with a woman hotter than their wife. 😉 You're the single dude. You know, just sayin'. Don't accept being left behind or being last.
It reminds me of that song by The Beatles, Eleanor Rigby. "All the lonely people, where do they all come from? All the lonely people, where do they all belong?" They gave us the answer in their song without actually saying it. We belong with one another. 😉 There's so many lonely people out there, but yet nobody is talking to one another.
Thanksgiving and Christmas are always the hardest . the key is to be grateful.
YES!!!! It sounds so silly, but when I lost my sis then mom (my 2 people!), I wanted to die, too. But being grateful for ANYTHING every day, no matter how silly it feels. I made it hard, too, & named 3/day. It saved me (along w/my cat).
Those anniversary dates can hit hard when you least expect them sometimes. Sending you love.
This is important for people to realize that life can be short and we need to cherish every moment...
I don't mean to ne debby downer, but i understand that this idea can feel useless and unattainable when one feels utterly awful. I think of this everyday, but when I'm in pain, it feels like it will last forever. The idea to cherish each moment doesn't help when each moment hurts. Connection, community, nature, activity, stimulation, love, friends all help. Too many suffer alone.
I have the same problem. My Mom passed September, my Dad November, Dad's birthday on dec 8th., and my cat friend passed away this year after 20 yrs. I'm lost. I feel like i have nothing to live for, but something will come if I just keep going. Same for you. Keep going. Don't give up. Only you can make things better.
“I am struggling financially, but who isn’t?” exactly. LITERALLY THIS
You just popped up on my feed man. I subscribed and I’m watching and listening. Lost both of my parents 3 years ago within 2 months of each other. Makes the holidays very lonely. I’m thankful for my wife of 18 years. We too can’t have kids. I’ll be 50 in January. Thankful I found this video. You’re an awesome human being.
I'm so sorry! Thinking of all of us at this time, especially! Glad about your wife. Take care! (Maybe we can start a little support group here).
I lost both my parents within a year of each other a couple years ago. I'm still having a terrible time with it. I'm thankful I have a daughter & my 1st grandson on the way. Not married & I'm 50. I struggle with it.
I lost my wife on Christmas day 2019.
I know how you feel sir.
Please don't do anything that's a permanent fix to a temporary feeling and situation...please!
I don't know you but I care about people and all I can tell you is that your here for a reason.
If you leave, you'll never figure out that reason.
Have faith in that and in yourself.
I truly wish you happiness and wellness.
Thats nice of u...especially the part when u say that u care about people..nowadays it seems only hate and Anger are the Main emotions
Amen! And my condolences, dear one. Happy Holidays despite some tough times. 💜
My sincere condolences to you, brother. And this is great advice for anyone. 🙏
Great advice.
I understand what you are saying and that you're coming from a good place. But please, remember some who feel this way are NOT dealing with something temporary! Some of us are very sick, with no hope from docs to recover because we won't etc ..
I have no family left. I got out of yet another abusive relationship 5 years ago. At 50 I'm not thinking I'll ever meet anyone. Never been married. I really don't have any close friends. I've never wanted kids and I'm not sorry about not having them - there's no guarantee they'll be there for you anyway. I just thought I'd have friends and a partner but nope. It does suck. Gotta keep on living for yourself somehow.
PS...LIVE FOR YOUR DAD ..hes still here on earth 🌍. He needs you believe me he does .. Pray for him as well as yourself 🙏❤️
Amen!
Best comments
Amen!!!! 🙏🏿❤🙏🏿
i agree, a dog is a great companion, they will make you happy and it makes you value your time with the pup
You need a social network to have a dog. Unless you never leave your home.
Yes! Well, CATS🐈⬛are easier, & that's particularly good if you suffer w/severe depression that makes you practically 🛌bedbound.🛋
Watching this on January 2nd. I hope your New Years Eve went well & you’re waking up today with some hope in your heart. I rescued a dog in August & though I didn’t think I wanted another dog she has brought so much joy & purpose to my life. ❤
Hi, I listened to your vid. Live FOR YOUR WIFE. Yes, she has passed…. But she would want you to push forward. I understand what your going through. Do your best and keep sharing. Sending you healing vibes.
THIS 💯❤️
Exactly. My deceased husband has left an unimaginable void but I know what he would want. For me to move forward. It is hard though
Hello, I'm from England and lost my partner to cancer 16 months ago I miss her every day and also feel I have nothing to live for..
Heartbroken and lost and alone on this horrible rollercoaster grieving process, I now have breathing problems and terrible depression and anxiety..
Sorry for your loss, I know exactly how you feel, we were together for 23 years and life now sucks ..
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been having a lot of breathing problems lately and it's absolutely brutal. Like a panic attack with every breath. Depression and anxiety are a constant. I don't have any answers, but I hope you can find something that brings a little bit of light into your life. ***HUG***
You have really great hair, if I may say.
I am So Very Sorry for your Tremendous Loss ! You are Still here for a Reason !! God Has Got you ! Never Give up !! May God Bless you and Be With you and Comfort you as Only He Can . IJMN AMEN . 🙏♥️
I'm so sorry! Maybe we can all become great friends! I need some badly.
@@gpants3633 For real, tho.
Stay strong. It's going to be alright.
Mannn I'm 20. Been dealing with the stress of Christmas and $$$$ in dental work and vehicle repairs, and I sometimes wake up with the same thought. Loneliness can get heavy; I don't really regularly see anyone other than the people I work with, my bosses, and my Dad. I have no idea if I'll live to your age, but I know I gotta keep going, and so do you. I work with (even go to school with) people older than you. There's still a lot left in life. Shit's gonna change if you want it to. Can't tell you when, but it will. I've found that volunteering to help my community helps a lot. I would certainly recommend looking into what organizations you can contribute to to help the locals. Maybe as a bonus, you'll meet some new friends. I'm rooting for you
We all go thru it. 💯🇨🇦🕯️🤍🕊️. Unfortunately the stigma to this subject is great. I don't know if you know hawks podcasts but he discussed it and PTSD thru this past week. He gives his story. I think you'd benefit.. I know I did 💯🇨🇦🕯️🤍🕊️🎼🎵🎼🎵🎵🎶
And im rooting for you✨️
God bless you ❤❤❤
For a person 20 years old (1/3 my age), your words and feelings are fresh on my mind from when I was there. And true now. Nothing is as constant as change, both self imposed or in ways that come your way. Hope your positivity helps the Hanger.
Great advice! 😊
May the peace of God that surpasses all understanding comfort you in this difficult time.
Amen 🙏🏼
Amen
Amen
That is so true . Jesus is only person that holds me together & an gives me life and life abundant.
I can understand exactly how you feel. I'm 59, single with no children or close relations . And I'm watching Your video I so much wanted to have someone in my life that I kept putting others before me and they keep taking me for a ride. Now 2026 I have decided I am going to love and pamper myself like never before. I am going to be my own baby girl. And I'm already feeling good about it. 🇳🇬 .
I'm 41, lost my girlfriend 7 years ago Nov 4th. Spent 18 y1ears together. We had a daughter and she had a son i raised from 5 years old. He passed away at 26 4 years after his mom. Your not alone. An I feel your pain
❤
**you’re
Wait so everybody died? The story is a bit convoluted.
you need to stop going with old women find someone your own age
So sorry for your losses.
I feel your pain. Please remember you are responsible for own happiness. No one or nothing will bring you happiness. Find that joy within you. Find a hobby. No one is happy every day. Being alive comes with ups and downs.
Mate you’re healthy; you have a job you like; you have a father that needs you;you have some savings and nearly 50k people that have watched this video, so keep doing the TH-cam thing and focus on positivity. These are all key reasons to continue and you have plenty to live for! Don’t walkaway or do anything stupid! We are all questioning everything in our later years!
You did the right thing to talk about it. Sending prayers. Stay strong, you will find purpose and love. Keep sharing!
Thank you so much!
@@clarky417tell you what dude I get up every morning and I’m thnk full ,I live alone and what’s happened to me since age 27 ,one leg ,last yr broke it .This year lungs collapsed and I still look frwrd to making a Cuigar box guitar and look frwrd to good weather to get out for a ride ,dude live iLife get oytn do life ,
You are healthy and have a job you like. I would love to have those things.
I agree but every person is different and has a right to feel any way they want.
I am sorry you feel the way you do. I too am on my own since my husband died nearly five years ago. I understand the pain and grief you feel. Please think of the positives in your life. Your dear wife would not want you to feel sad and depressed. You have a lot to offer, you are still young, healthy, employed with hobbies no matter how limited they are. You have many more years to live - make them count, don’t waste your life. There are at least 100,000 people worldwide would do anything to change places with you. Think of all the things you have now. Why not Volunteer to help others? I volunteer in our local Hospital in the ED Department. I love meeting and helping people who are worried, sad and just need someone to share a friendly word with. I am 75 years of age and try to make the most of every minute I have left. Younger people than you face cancer and their limited future time , people are disabled needing wheelchairs never to walk again needing constant help from others. There are people watching this who would love the freedom you have to go out for a walk or go to the cinema or just go to a coffee shop. I too miss my husband every day and still talk to him. I want to make him proud of me still by doing my best to lead a worthwhile life. You have such a lot to offer other people, get out there and make your wife proud, you owe it to yourself.
Yes and everything is perspective also. I should be way more appreciative of my life after being off heroin for almost 2 years but I am still going through the withdrawals from coming off Sublocade and and two years of methadone that got me off heroin, but now I have to deal with the extremely long and protracted withdrawals of synthetic prescription opioids. PAWS are real and so fun😂. It's a weird time to get clean.
I hope you do get healthy. It has taken give me two years and I just had comprehensive blood tests were all my biomarkers are normal, except testosterone. Took a lot of work and time. Now doing something you love for work can be harder. God bless you
@@thebestpredictionsand everyone else has the same right to share our thoughts on what people say in public and request feedback for.
@@thebestpredictions do you think that your rights trump other people’s rights? Freedom doesn’t guarantee happiness or require others to agree with you or even be sensitive in responding to you. Americans are losing our Freedom because we keep trading it in for other people’s feelings..people who don’t give a flying fuck about anyone else’s feelings.
You’re not alone! Sending you hugs and prayers. Each day can bring about something new and change your life. ❤
Subbed,refreshing honesty my friend. You are not alone.
63 here, husband gone 7 years, no kids. I do not for a second regret not having kids. You might get good kids and you might get bad ones. My cat is all I need.
Totally agree! We are all different. Kids are not the way to happiness. Cats are awesome too!!!
You are so right. Not everyone who has kids has good kids or kids who care about them. My neighbor has a daughter that she did everything for and now the daughter has nothing to do with her because she’s ashamed of coming from a poor home…crazy
kids are who they’re raised to be.
You yearn for kids period. That’s why you have a cat. It’s a natural instinct.
@ Perhaps you are confusing societal pressures and expectations for "natural yearning." Some may experience a yearning but many do not. I had a fulfilling career with no yearning and also certainly didn't want to experience birthing.
My friend you have a million things to live for! You just don’t know it yet, but you will, I promise you, you will! 😊
Children don’t cure your depression or loneliness Some have Children they never see So do something help children who would love to have an adult in their lives .
Agree. So many kids need a stable adult
My adult kids have mostly destroyed my life.
Hi I watched it to the end and I care 😢there is someone out there for you honestly 🤷
That might be true, but if you’ve never had any children you wonder what might have been.
If you have clinical depression then maybe not, but I assure you, a lack of children for people who do want children can definitely lead to depression and unhappiness. I know because I'm living it, and I've seen others as well. Most people with children that I know do have good relationships with them and really enjoy spending time with them. Of course there are no guarantees, but without children it is a guarantee you won't know the joy of having them.
I lost my partner 3 years ago,Im 54 and also struggle to find purpose when I wake up,it's getting harder.
We never had children,we couldn't,so yeah I know where you are coming from,money is really tight at the moment.
I got fit,I cycle,walk,run,it helps but the feeling still hangs over me,so yeah I get where you are coming from,I live in Wales,please take care of yourself.
I honestly get it. I became a widow a year ago right before Thanksgiving and the past year I have discovered I am just living, waiting to die. I wont harm myself but just sitting waiting to die, us not living. I have a bulldog, yes it comforts, but he also loved my husband and he grieves at the loss. You are not alone.
Get a dog or a couple of cats, that's what keeps me going after losing my much better half just over 3 years ago.
Very sorry that happened. God bless you 🙏
🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
Find something to take care of,it takes you out of your own head
Hell yes!! my 2 cats are all I have and I they are my furry children👍🏻👍🏻
The holidays just make grief and loss that much harder to deal with! Sending hugs, your life has a purpose!
So true about kids. I’m turning 50 and my wife and I don’t have kids and I’m terrified of where I go if something happens to her. Keep your head up sir. You are valued and loved.
Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it.
***Tough Times Don’t Last, Tough People Do.***
For some reason, sir, you just showed up in my feed and your video title made me curious enough to watch it. My heart goes out to you so I’ve subscribed to your channel. You have so much to live for; your heart is just broken. Those of us who are new to your channel are rooting for you and we will be your friends ❤.
You are a BRAVE man! You are not alone! I wake up every day feeling the same.
I lost my parents in my childhood. Then grandparents after 25 years care.
Never married no kids.
Other family are estranged, bitter.
I suffer x 5 chronic illnesses including PTSD and Fibromyalgia.
We either let ourselves die or try to live, help others, call helplines.... Samaritains, MIND, join groups, take medication.
Life is tough.
100% this I'm legit almost in the same boat, Lost my sister at 28 too, You're 100% correct Last year loved my drink, Then quited in Jan and sorted my self out with few jobs in the year, Life just goes on but you get the choice on how to live it, No one else can do it for you.
Your life is very sad story with full of suffering
Exactly the same and have PTSD and Fibromyalgia it is not easy 👍❤️
My partner killed herself 10 years ago this year. Please stay strong, it never goes away but you have to keep going.
I feel the same. I’m alone and don’t have family left.
My wife passed away Dec 15 2023 a year ago 😢 💔 still hurts especially right before i go to sleep I noticed i still hang out with her in dreamland though
My deepest condolences to you…the loss of your loved one will be with you forever. There will be “Firsts” without her and then seconds and on and on. Grieving is what I learned about 32 years ago when my 59 year old Dad passed away on December 22, 1992. I had 10 precious days with him & we said everything we needed to say before he passed. September 21,2023 my best buddy passed away from brain cancer. October 20, 2024 we lost my son’s father in a tragic accident. He was the happiest he had ever been 😚. I’ve lost other friends through the years. I will be 65 soon and I never forget my loved one. God bless 🙏
Awweee! Man! Yeh, sometimes I wake up then remember my sister & Mama aren't here anymore (after vivid dreams). It sucks!
It’s hard at this time of year for some of us. I am so sorry you feel this way. My cat Jakey died on Nov 9,2024 and his buddy died on Jan 10,2021. My Dad died Dec 30,2013 so I understand what you’re going through. I’ve got health issues and on top of that, I’m my 94 yr old Mom’s caregiver. I have subscribed to your channel. God bless you, my friend.
Loneliness means we have an estranged relatiionship with ourselves. Anxiety, depression, worry and loneliness are ways to know we must build our self relationship. Loving ourselves, caring for ourselves, protecting ourselves, reassuring ourselves and comforting ourselves.
Im sorry for your loss, loss is our worst experience. Our reaction to losing someone is how we feel about ourselves. Find support and help grieving and building your relationship with your self. Good luck and youre worth it!
and be happy all by yourself - no thanks
Very insightful ❤
Hey David. Your comment is on point. Also, your channel is a wealth of information and I’ve enjoyed it for years.
I see a few comments saying about getting a dog, if possible please do so. My boy is a total lunatic but I wouldn't change a thing about him. The love I receive from him is out of this world, I leave the room for 1 minute and the welcome I receive melts me everytime without fail. He keeps me on my toes and gives me every reason to live. I hope things get better for you brother 👍
The holidays are hard for a lot of people. I just lost my mom oct 20th of 2024. Everyone gets this feeling of nothing to live for. I mean everyone. You need to stay strong. Your wife would want you to stay strong. The world is a brutal place. I’m not the best catholic, have not been to church in years. You say only you can rescue you that is not true. You need to put your faith in God. I’m going through troubles myself but my faith in God is keeping me going. Like I said I am not the best catholic but I know God has a plan for all of us. Hang in there man have faith. Our suffering will make us stronger and when your time comes you will see your wife again. When my time comes I know I will be with all my loved ones.
❤ I’m there with ya. Never married no kids no life. My dogs are such a blessing. Just BE don’t worry about woulda, shoulda, coulda
Having kids doesn’t mean you have a life.
Dogs are such a blessing ❤
Helping shelters is the most meaningful gesture... if alone. Bless you Sir. Spread the desire to need others 🙏
@stephsawsu5804: Best advice !
This was a beautiful channel mate. You wear your vulnerability on your sleeve for us all. I went through an existential decade long depression that drained the sap from me. Surrounding myself with animals and plants that I care for, definitely helped. 6yrs is still very fresh for digesting the loss of a partner... Alternatively you could always adopt a kid if that yearning lingers. I know the wait is endless for newborns if you're a single parent, but an older kid still needs the same love. It seems like you have a lot of compassion and love to share. Hoping you are filled with reason to carry on, fight and update us. 🙏🏻 Take care and godspeed.
Hello! Lovely to meet you. I live 'alone' with my little cats. I spend Christmases with the kitties; no family member ever joins us. I'm used to it now. I adore my cats and they, me. What blessings they are, every day. I know the pain of loneliness and isolation. Having pets helps hugely. Will be thinking of you xx
Be you!! Don't give up, Keep pushing! We are listening to you
I ran into this video randomly, and I hope you're doing better. I know it's a tough day. Stay strong, brother!!! I hope 2025 is filled with blessings and opportunities to better your life and others.
I had my middle brother who was in the military and got injured while serving because of the surgery he got, ended up abusing oxytocin, and passed away in his sleep. At 22, I didn't get to know him as a brother because I was also fighting my own demons. I did get away from that lifestyle, and I'm closer to my youngest brother.
I know you don't get along with your father... maybe this is an opportunity to make relationships better before they are gone. Have somewhat of a purpose. That's just my opinion from my own personal experience.
Stay positive!!!
I am sorry you are alone during the holidays. We must create our own meaning. I tell people to start with mastering something in life. Pick something to master and then find a community to support that mastery. Just sharing your story of grief and the love you have for your wife is helping others. Find what you are called to master and give your life to that. Many blessings.
That’s a great idea Whimsy, I couldn’t have said it better but I was getting there. Holidays are tough when we miss someone.
Agreed. My bonus Dad was an artist and got very into making music when he got older. I don’t think we have to stop learning.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your story has touched me and many others here. More will follow.
I'm 56 I'm dying of stage 4 kidney cancer keep your head up my man !!
as someone who has already passed through your emotions... there is light on the other side of dark... you are inches away from the top of the mountain... you are exhausted and in pain... but that's the game... it is the very very worst right before the glory... if you can just hang on, you will reap the benefits of all the anguish you have suffered... it will be glorious!!! The descent from the mountain is easy... come see the other side... its lovely...❤
This is wise words
What's on the other side?
I am so sorry that you are feeling so sad and alone. I am a new subscriber here.
Sending you love and prayers. I am 66 and can relate in some ways. I lost my beautiful baby girl dec the 30th 2018. The color faded from my world. But you have a reason for being here. There is no way to know what wonderful thing may happen for you tomorrow. I would enjoy being friends any tiime and wish you much happiness. Hang tough better days are coming darlene from Knoxville tn
Don't put your happiness in dependence on someone else. If you aren't happy alone, then you don't have enough happiness to share with someone else. Find your happiness, then you will have something to share.
I just clicked on this video and it’s nice to see all the support ❤I’ve been there as well and God, my family and dogs help me. Praying for you 🧡
hi! I am subscribing now after watching this. thank you for being vulnerable ❤
I can relate to this so much. My wife passed in 2015. Still feels like yesterday. Thank you for making this video.
I have just watched your video and subscribed. So sorry for your loss. My little dog just died. And my son is a grown man with his own life and always busy. He is young not married with kids yet. I am struggling too every single day and I don't have a job so yeah life is lonely these days. I'll be 60 soon. I am healthy. Thank God for that. I can see that there are so many people here on you tube struggling with loneliness and a sense of purpose in life. It was not always like this but as I have grown older and lost some relatives and my son moved out 4 years ago, he is 22, I still had the old dog, but now he is gone. Life is hard and I'm struggling. Believe me. At least I have a nice home. All the best to you. kind regards tina from Denmark
I’m so sorry for the loss of your little dog. Prayers for your healing.❤️🩹
Yeah it’s tough when the kids move out !! I call my 19 year old son every day ! I know it annoys him sometimes but oh well !! 😂 try it !!❤
Hi! I love Denmark & its people! 56. Same w/ son of 24. Cats are easy & so sweet despite the news! 😉I've been so lucky to be out in the country where occasionally a stray will walk up to me & love me back unconditionally. Emmy🐈⬛is my current adoptee & she just found me 2 siblings out in the "wild." 🐈⬛🐈⬛
@@hollyharris1874 Hi Holly thank you. I have never been to the US. Yeah, you're right it's a very difficult age nearly 60, but we have to keep going we cannot give up ever. In my experience after the kids leave and you're on your own once again a pet is the solution. I like dogs but a cat or a rabbit is just as sweet as long as you have someone to take care of and you're never alone and the pets love you. The young people are always busy. It is just the way it is supposed to be. Get a dog or a cat and maybe do a bit of travelling meet new people and see new places then when you are back home you will enjoy your boring old life even more and you can get a pet.
You are not alone. I promise. God bless you. We all have issues, traumas, deaths, and worse. Yes it's hard. I never could have children affects me then and now. I hate to say I knew it would be lonely. You have to keep going. You are on the right path. And it's good make your videos. Make them for yourself. You don't have to be fancy. You just do and say what you feel. It's your channel. I'm sure that it's healthy for you to document your journey you don't know how many people you are helping. You are here for a reason. Here's a small example I nearly died these last few days I was losing a ton of blood by mouth and nose. It didn't hurt. I have a ton of health issues but I had to go to ER to find out where it was coming from. I got there got a few blood transfusions stayed in ICU. I found out the next day with an emergency endoscopy that there were no tears cuts lesions from the prior endoscopy I just had but ulcers can absolutely bleed and cause your hemoglobin to go so very low. And I have a horrible infection in my esophagus. I'm happy things worked out. All I've been trying to do this last two years is get well. I want so bad to be me again. So keep working at your channel. It'll be slow but worth it. It takes tim to build your core audience then you'll be so happy you did I promise. I lost both parents horrible ways so thank goodness you still have your dad. Maybe just an idea but some point get a PO BOX people do enjoy sending a nice note, letter, card, to simply talk be supportive and listen is sure nice. I absolutely love the long lost art of handwriting pretty letters and notes. I enjoy so many things that have to do with simple nice paper. Don't walk away friend. I already have subscribed and have a million questions. Find out at the very least if the woman you're interested in is married. You never know ever! You have no idea her story. So get out there find out!
Sir, you could get a cat. I felt lost for many years - then God sent a stray into my way. It gave me something to care about . Haven't felt better in years. Wish you health and happiness ahead.
He sent me 6 stray cats the whole litter and moma cat to and they help me give me something to keep going love my cats 🐈
I did watch your video til the end. I'm sorry you feel like you have nothing to live for. Even sharing your struggles can resonate with others who feel the same way it shows they're not alone. You have a unique voice, and your story matters. Please consider reaching out for support, there’s help available. I look forward to your next video. New follower here
Listen man I've been there. But you 100% have a reason to keep going. She would want you too. Find that special passion you have and get it going. You got this
Many of us are down and tired, and for good damn reason, hard times.
I believe you have a lot to give. You are sensitive, intelligent, and clearly have a big heart. After my mother's death, two years ago just before Christmas, I was left alone in this world. I have four cats to take care of, and they have given me purpose. I feel they need me, and that if I were gone, they would have no chance of surviving. I take each day at a time. Trust me, there is someone out there for whom you will be a saviour. For me, it is my cats. Stay strong, and think that if you give up, the memory of your beloved wife will also disappear. Sending lots of love your way. You are important: never forget this.❤
Hey I saw your video. I heard every word. If I had your experience I’d feel exactly the same way, probably worse. If my wife has a shift at work and I’m alone in the house on my day off I actually get a little depressed.
I lost my health 8 years ago. My husband is retiring next year and he is totally beat up from a lifetime of hard work. We are limping into retirement crippled. But you're right, we have each other. Our adult children are busy with their own lives. Sending a virtual hug to you
So concise but complete! I feel the same! I try never to burden my son who is having the most significant, amazing, memory-filled time of his life right now! It makes me happy enough to know at least that. Why can't everyone be more like us, huh!?! 😂💜🌼☮
I am in the same exact situation as you and I feel completely destroyed. The entire system is RIGGED against Generation X.
It’s rigged against everyone who isn’t part of the elite bloodlines. Even the idiots that serve and boot lick for them are on the menu.
Totally agree as I’m gen x too!
Yes it's been downhill for all generations after the boomers
We can be alright together. We've survived this long. Latchkey kids to now.💜🔑☮ 😂
All of US
The feeling of falling asleep and hoping you just pass peacefully, then you wake up and you don’t know why or what your purpose is. You wonder why people pass away younger than you and wonder why you get to wake up when you don’t even want to but these people who are so loved and cared for will never get to enjoy life for as long as you haven’t even wanted to anymore.
Subscribed. "Grief is love with no place to go", it is so heavy, I feel your pain. I agree with the animal comments though, my guineas are saving me. Being able to care for and love them gives me purpose.
I can relate so much. I had a son. Betrayed by him cuts like a knife. Lost my amazing parents by the time I was 26. I have no family and all I ever wanted since I was 6 years old was to have a big family. I feel your pain. I spend holidays alone. I struggle every single day. I remember better times before my son’s father had so many back surgeries and doctors turned a good man into a junkie who is in and out of jail/ prison. He USED to be my best friend and cared for my mom before she died in 2001. I have never felt so alone in my life. I read the comments here and see a lot of others struggle. If something happened to me, no one would know. That hurts. When they ask for your emergency contact at the doctors office, I don’t have one. It’s the worst feeling to have nothing to live for but to know that if you were on the right situation that could make all the difference in feeling that you mattered in this world. You gained a new subscriber. I’m here. ❤
Jesus is there ..Cry out to him he's waiting for you 2 ...John 3:16 ❤