I feel very sad that you have just suffered the end of the relationship you were so happy to be in. I can see how much you are still suffering… I think one needs a lot of time to turn the corner. It will happen when you no longer think you can ever heal. I find that feeling empathy towards the person who left us, think of their problems even shed tears and then, it we often can let go. But I don’t think 3/4 months is enough to have healed… It takes much longer, I think.
Sorry if this seems negative, but his ex didnt seem fully into him. I sensed it last year. Body language was off...seemed kinda inauthentic after a while...nice lady tho...sorry it ended
I totally feel Jonathon when he‘s talking about losing his child. Been there, and it‘s still hard to accept sometimes. And nevertheless, a recent breakup totally knocked me down. I found myself crying through the nights, feeling overwhelmed by resentment and helplessness, not knowing how to go on, which is pretty similar to the loss of a loved one. But with the breakup it was more, that this guy had kept telling me how much he loves me, though never acted that way. And it’s tough to realize that somebody just doesn’t love you, no matter how much you wish they did.
Losing a child is not as has hard as somebody breaking up with you. Are you crying for Jonathan because Marie left her? If so that is showbiz! I am speechless. I say don’t believe anybody you just met few months ago tell you he/she loves you. I hope nobody loses a child. Breakups happen it is not a big deal, you can find another one like Jonathon says. He is looking for a new one don’t worry, new drama is coming.
@@badabing-g4g yes, I am a happy person, why not be happy I am living in this planet healty and enjoying little things in life. Worked hard retired, financially secure, I have a loving family. Yes, I am very happy with myself and people around me.
Another thing is forgiveness. And to forgive the person who hurt you. Then you can heal. I believe this Because then you will move on. and remember the good things about the relationship.
I agree with Jonathon about the feeling of extreme loss of his son. It is very much like the loss of a relationship. When I went through my divorce from my ex husband I grieved him as if he were dead because the person that I knew at the beginning of the relationship had in a sense “passed away”. Anytime someone goes through an extreme loss whether it be a death or a marriage of many years it is a loss. And, anyone that has gone through loss like that will be able to really relate to this video. Thank you Jonathon! 🙏
I'm on the healing journey, recently separated from my long term partner. I love your work, Jonathan. I'm ready to dive into the healing process. Reading Hoffman Process and Self Love right now. I'm owning my part, the dysfunctional part, that is codependency. I accept this is the part of myself that needs to change, that has been playing out in my most recent relationship and with family members. Being outside my comfort zone, not living with my partner currently, this is my big opportunity to process the who, how, and why. Being vulnerable, going down this path of healing, is right where I need to be!
Grieving time after a breakup is proportional to the type and level of attachment. The amount of time one needs doesn’t really matter. We can’t give what we don’t have. Love emanates love. In the process of sharing it, you might need to let someone go. Don’t call yourself junkie on self learning please. That is a fantastic asset not that many people have. I’m glad you met Sabrina. Thanks for sharing her with us.
E l.l.y. my divorce wasn't really expected but I began to feel that things weren't as they should be. When it ended I did what you did but then sought counseling which helped immensely. I still think about him and the why from time to time. You will be okay eventually. Hope you've done so counseling.
What we say or think comes back to us. So think positive and send out good intentions in the universe that you want the right love to come to you. Guaranteed to work😊x
In response to the discussion about the violence I stated...that was not me throwing the man under the bus. There were police & lawyers, I was injured and suffered trauma. I am working on forgiving myself for not protecting myself from that situation. Thanks, Sabrina for intuitively understanding where I was coming from, I apologize Jonathan if what I stated triggered you enough to say my statement was a deal breaker statement. I am working on it, and absolutely am not considering dating until I am whole again.
@@livelearnandgrow5422 thank you. It happens especially when we are looking for answers, and educating ourself by healing, and learning the lesson the event taught us. 🙏🏼
Im no dating expert But what i can respectfully say is... Johnathan you probably should be a little more aware that you seem to not let women speak. You interrupt repeatedly without apology. Ive noticed this with your ex and with this guest today. The guest looks slightly uncomfortable with it. Let women finish their words and thoughts.
Question, I am trying to get unstuck after a 33 year marriage. I spent three months trying to save the marriage. My partner was unwilling to contribute at all three months in of the separation I found out that he was actively in an affair with a married woman that he was unwilling to tell anyone about. I spent another three months counseling trying to redeem what we had, and he again was unwilling during this time he blamed me, said I was abusive told stories that were not true, we were active in the church, even leading married couples groups he was head elder preached two weeks before we separated. He’s unwilling to apologize to me or our three adult children. Since then he’s moved on from married woman to another girlfriend within three weeks that lasted eight months he left that relationship and hooked up with another gal whom he’s now living with he doesn’t understand why the kids don’t accept everything. I’m happier single I’m much happier without him. I don’t want to go back, but I am dealing with bitterness and unforgiveness. How do I move forward from that?
Maybe work on gratitude that you are out of that marriage. Yikes! And, be thankful that the truth of his nature has come to light. What a difficult situation! Prayers for healing. May God help to use it all for good - and help you grow in Wisdom and Discernment.
Surely you had maybe 20 years of a happy marriage or more? Im 48 and have never had the pleasure of being in a committed relationship in my life, let alone marriage. Ive missed out on love, companionship, sex, holidays, gifts etc. I'd swap with you anytime.
I don't think you need to forgive someone to be able to move on. Your bitterness is justified. My.advice is to focus on yourself, nurture your other relationships/ friendships. It's very easy to feel like a victim, however this outlook will only keep you trapped in the past.
In your circumstance there were a lot of promises. Marriage promises, spiritual or religious promises, promises of commitment to family etc etc. It felt like a guarantee!!! This is a lot to work with. The feeling of betrayal from a number of areas you held dear must be overwhelming. I’ll tell you what I had to do starting as a young child. It saved my mental health. Find a reason to be happy each day to stop giving all your daily hours to unhappy thoughts. It’s really retraining, or rescuing, your brain. I’m not saying you don’t have reason to be bitter. I’m saying retrain your thought patterns. It works. God Bless
Get counselling for grief maybe... Fisher Starting over book about Rebuilding when your relationship ends is very good for stages of getting emotionally past it. Focus on the things you enjoy and get a great routine.
My mom would leave us for days because of something she was upset about and then call us to check on us. I remember telling her I was sorry and please come home. I never really knew what the problem was. My question is is this emotional abuse for the kids? I was 1 of 5 children.
Your mother seems to have been unable to deal with difficult situations without literally running away. To call and check on you shows an awareness that she should be the caregiver - but not enough guts to actually stay, be present, responsible and nurturing. To put her children's welfare ahead of her "upset" feelings. Maybe she couldn't cope with the demands of 5 children. Maybe she didn't want 5 children. There's certainly a lot of people out there who shouldn't be parents but are, and they raise damaged children. Whatever the circumstances that would lead to her behaviour, it wasn't good parenting. To not be able to rely on a parent to care for you when you are small and powerless is frightening. Whether it was intentional on her part, a form of punishment (definitely emotional abuse) or just because she was/is an inadequate mother only you will know. Either way, it seems to have had a profound effect on you, understandably. Your siblings perhaps also still feel the effects. Speak with them, take strength from the fact that whatever triggered her dereliction of duties was not your fault. There was nothing to say sorry for. It's she who should have apologised to you, the very first time she left, for being a deficient mother, whatever the circumstances. Even if all 5 of you behaved so badly that she couldn't cope (a parenting failure in itself) she knows she shouldn't have walked away. But, labelling it as emotional abuse still won't make the feelings go away. Speak with siblings, who must have shared your feelings. Nurture yourself and each other. Try - if at all possible - to forgive your mother. You don't have to like her or condone past behaviour, but unless she is just innately selfish, something made *her* weak and inadequate as a parent. Forgiveness takes away their power over you. Perhaps then, when in that mental space, you could ask her why. Perhaps she will apologise and give a reason, perhaps not. But they're steps towards moving on and helping you become an informed and compassionate parent yourself. It's not what happens to us, it's how we deal with it that's most important. Big hug 🫂
I hasten to add that whether you label it as emotional abuse or not, you and your siblings suffered repeated emotional and physical neglect. If authorities had been aware of it you would have been taken into care. Whether that would have been better is a moot point. I'm so sorry that there was no other older family member that could have intervened to prevent such appalling parental neglect. Still, try to look forward, not back xx
It's been years since I've been in a relationship. I went on a date with a man that I really liked. We called and text for a while. His 91 year old dad went into the hospital. Not sure if he is still alive. Haven't heard from him since then. He said he would get back to me "after a while". I asked if he was involved with ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. He said, " No dear, my father is in the hospital ". He asked that I continue to text, but he was not responding back. I have been decluttering since my daughter and granddaughter moved out. I am making space for someone to come into my life. Yes, Sabrina. I believe that we were brought together by God to do work. I told him that I thought that we were TF. I told him that I wasn't sure if we were supposed to be in a romantic or platonic relationship, ... but that we were brought together for a greater purpose.
Johnathan i just broke up with a scammer we were talking over the phone i am heart broken i know its sounds rediculous but i guess it is but how do i get over it
Jonathan, in your profession you think you are so successful and probably you are but I think you feel like you are failing in your job because Marie left you. I don’t think you are upset because your relationship failed but you are upset because what you try to teach failed. I think you wanted to show your audience and say look this is the way to do it but when it didn’t happen you felt inadequate. I don’t think you were so much inlove with Marie and respect her but you took her as a job. Very few people married same occupation person. If you really loved her you shouldn’t applied her as a job partner. You shouldn’t presented her as a job partner, your personal life should have been very private not a show case.
This is what I was thinking. I watched a handful of his videos with Maries. She appeared not wanting to be there and participated out of niceness. She was reluctant to answer his questions, often repeated a question she was asked and even looked puzzled that she was asked a question. She did not look she was into him. I think even if she was in love or liked Johnathan, it would quickly fall apart after being in the center of constant analyzing, analyzing, analyzing of dating and behaviors. I enjoy his videos. Johnathan is the best and I agree with almost everything he says. But to make his potential relationship work, he needs to keep his gf out of his business.
See we don’t know anthing about Sabrina’s life, we don’t know if she is married or not why do you tell us about your life, if you are coach be one don’t show your needs in coaching. When you go to a doctor you expect doctor curing you if doctor starts telling his illness you wouldn’t like it. Do you understand what I am saying.
@@JonathonAslay I am saying weDon’t know anything about Sabrina’s life, like is she married, is she in relationship, or does she have childhood traumas, that is good not knowing because she is helping people in need instead of us worrying about her. Why do we know about your childhood traumas, are we going to cure you or feel sorry for you? Why do we have to know that your child passed away, are we going to heal you or comfort you? Why do we have to know Marie, are you expecting us to fix the relationship that is failed or feel sorry for you that she left you? We are not the expert like you to cure you so I wanna know why do we need to know your problems?
He's a coach. He talks about things we all wonder If he was a therapist, we shouldn't hear any of it, because it would be YOU talking almost only. But this is him, jogging your brain to realize the points he's trying to get us to understand.
I know that Jonathan speaks from his point of view. He is NOT a therapist, nor has he trained as one. In this discussion he states things that bother him about our comments, and moves the conversation along bringing his POV. It's a little like reality you tube, and just a discussion between him & his guest, mostly for getting us to think more deeply. He also brings his own flaws in understanding to the conversation, but since it's usually just Jonathan talking, that just is what it is, nothing more.
I guess Jonathan, you are saying you trust your discernment in seeing who has a negative charge, as distinct from someone who got out of an abusive situation...
@JonathonAslay I think though, it's probably pretty hard for someone who came from an abuse situation to say anything about it without it giving the listener a bad feeling.
Connect with Sabrina Here: intuitivesabrina.com
“When there’s attraction… there’s work to do together..” - that’s awesome!
Sabrina embodies GRACE (Generosity, Respect, Action, Compassion, Energy). Great addition to the show!
I agree...
I feel very sad that you have just suffered the end of the relationship you were so happy to be in. I can see how much you are still suffering… I think one needs a lot of time to turn the corner. It will happen when you no longer think you can ever heal.
I find that feeling empathy towards the person who left us, think of their problems even shed tears and then, it we often can let go. But I don’t think 3/4 months is enough to have healed… It takes much longer, I think.
Tempus fugits! He needs a new photogenic woman for his thumbnails and brand.
This is why I love Reiki because it gets all your chakras in alignment and you feel really good
Sorry if this seems negative, but his ex didnt seem fully into him. I sensed it last year.
Body language was off...seemed kinda inauthentic after a while...nice lady tho...sorry it ended
You're right. She looked obligated to do this videos. She also probably wanted to live the relationship instead of constantly analyzing it.
I totally feel Jonathon when he‘s talking about losing his child. Been there, and it‘s still hard to accept sometimes. And nevertheless, a recent breakup totally knocked me down. I found myself crying through the nights, feeling overwhelmed by resentment and helplessness, not knowing how to go on, which is pretty similar to the loss of a loved one. But with the breakup it was more, that this guy had kept telling me how much he loves me, though never acted that way. And it’s tough to realize that somebody just doesn’t love you, no matter how much you wish they did.
Thank you for the love and kindness...
Losing a child is not as has hard as somebody breaking up with you. Are you crying for Jonathan because Marie left her? If so that is showbiz! I am speechless. I say don’t believe anybody you just met few months ago tell you he/she loves you. I hope nobody loses a child. Breakups happen it is not a big deal, you can find another one like Jonathon says. He is looking for a new one don’t worry, new drama is coming.
I am praying for your strength and happiness
@@Kanad7 you sound like a happy person 😆
@@badabing-g4g yes, I am a happy person, why not be happy I am living in this planet healty and enjoying little things in life. Worked hard retired, financially secure, I have a loving family. Yes, I am very happy with myself and people around me.
She referenced David R. Hawkins! I love his books/teachings!! 🤩
I'll never get over it I'm healing from all the pain. Oneday it wont hurt anymore.🙏❤️💋
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Another thing is forgiveness. And to forgive the person who hurt you. Then you can heal. I believe this Because then you will move on. and remember the good things about the relationship.
Indeed
I agree with Jonathon about the feeling of extreme loss of his son. It is very much like the loss of a relationship. When I went through my divorce from my ex husband I grieved him as if he were dead because the person that I knew at the beginning of the relationship had in a sense “passed away”. Anytime someone goes through an extreme loss whether it be a death or a marriage of many years it is a loss. And, anyone that has gone through loss like that will be able to really relate to this video. Thank you Jonathon! 🙏
Yes
Hmm well I haven't had kids but even I know there is no love like parent and child so I'd say it's worse than a relationship
I have been divorced and I had a child that I almost lost in a horrific accident so I’ve been there before as well.
I'm on the healing journey, recently separated from my long term partner. I love your work, Jonathan. I'm ready to dive into the healing process. Reading Hoffman Process and Self Love right now. I'm owning my part, the dysfunctional part, that is codependency. I accept this is the part of myself that needs to change, that has been playing out in my most recent relationship and with family members. Being outside my comfort zone, not living with my partner currently, this is my big opportunity to process the who, how, and why. Being vulnerable, going down this path of healing, is right where I need to be!
Grieving time after a breakup is proportional to the type and level of attachment. The amount of time one needs doesn’t really matter. We can’t give what we don’t have. Love emanates love. In the process of sharing it, you might need to let someone go. Don’t call yourself junkie on self learning please. That is a fantastic asset not that many people have. I’m glad you met Sabrina. Thanks for sharing her with us.
Exactly
You are a hopeless, romantic Jonathon. Love it! I’m the same! Keep the faith! ❤
Yes I am!
Bear hug’s with you Jonathon❤️❤️🌹
It must be hard to lose a child.
Great to see Sabrina again.! ♥️
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E l.l.y. my divorce wasn't really expected but I began to feel that things weren't as they should be. When it ended I did what you did but then sought counseling which helped immensely. I still think about him and the why from time to time. You will be okay eventually. Hope you've done so counseling.
Yes
What we say or think comes back to us. So think positive and send out good intentions in the universe that you want the right love to come to you. Guaranteed to work😊x
Bear hugs to you Jonathon ❤❤🌹
Thank you for the video a lot of things I needed to here and learn
In response to the discussion about the violence I stated...that was not me throwing the man under the bus. There were police & lawyers, I was injured and suffered trauma. I am working on forgiving myself for not protecting myself from that situation. Thanks, Sabrina for intuitively understanding where I was coming from, I apologize Jonathan if what I stated triggered you enough to say my statement was a deal breaker statement. I am working on it, and absolutely am not considering dating until I am whole again.
I understand
Hang in there. Healing happens
@@livelearnandgrow5422 thank you. It happens especially when we are looking for answers, and educating ourself by healing, and learning the lesson the event taught us. 🙏🏼
I’m only about 25 mins in. I’m really enjoying this video! Thank you both!🙏🏼💝
Glad you enjoyed it!
Im no dating expert
But what i can respectfully say is...
Johnathan you probably should be a little more aware that you seem to not let women speak. You interrupt repeatedly without apology. Ive noticed this with your ex and with this guest today.
The guest looks slightly uncomfortable with it. Let women finish their words and thoughts.
Noted
What was the name of the app that you are using for recording affirmations in your own voice/bedtime subliminals? Sounds handy!
Think Up
Question, I am trying to get unstuck after a 33 year marriage. I spent three months trying to save the marriage. My partner was unwilling to contribute at all three months in of the separation I found out that he was actively in an affair with a married woman that he was unwilling to tell anyone about. I spent another three months counseling trying to redeem what we had, and he again was unwilling during this time he blamed me, said I was abusive told stories that were not true, we were active in the church, even leading married couples groups he was head elder preached two weeks before we separated. He’s unwilling to apologize to me or our three adult children. Since then he’s moved on from married woman to another girlfriend within three weeks that lasted eight months he left that relationship and hooked up with another gal whom he’s now living with he doesn’t understand why the kids don’t accept everything. I’m happier single I’m much happier without him. I don’t want to go back, but I am dealing with bitterness and unforgiveness. How do I move forward from that?
Maybe work on gratitude that you are out of that marriage.
Yikes!
And, be thankful that the truth of his nature has come to light. What a difficult situation!
Prayers for healing.
May God help to use it all for good - and help you grow in Wisdom and Discernment.
Surely you had maybe 20 years of a happy marriage or more? Im 48 and have never had the pleasure of being in a committed relationship in my life, let alone marriage. Ive missed out on love, companionship, sex, holidays, gifts etc. I'd swap with you anytime.
I don't think you need to forgive someone to be able to move on. Your bitterness is justified. My.advice is to focus on yourself, nurture your other relationships/ friendships. It's very easy to feel like a victim, however this outlook will only keep you trapped in the past.
In your circumstance there were a lot of promises. Marriage promises, spiritual or religious promises, promises of commitment to family etc etc. It felt like a guarantee!!! This is a lot to work with. The feeling of betrayal from a number of areas you held dear must be overwhelming. I’ll tell you what I had to do starting as a young child. It saved my mental health. Find a reason to be happy each day to stop giving all your daily hours to unhappy thoughts. It’s really retraining, or rescuing, your brain. I’m not saying you don’t have reason to be bitter. I’m saying retrain your thought patterns. It works. God Bless
Get counselling for grief maybe...
Fisher Starting over book about
Rebuilding when your relationship ends is very good for stages of getting emotionally past it.
Focus on the things you enjoy and get a great routine.
I really enjoyed this video.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Jonathan, I love your group of women. they are all so amazing
Jonathon needs perfect match ❤🌹
Buried my mother while the birthday of my brother. My bother is now died 7 yrs over the holidays.
😔🙏
My mom would leave us for days because of something she was upset about and then call us to check on us. I remember telling her I was sorry and please come home. I never really knew what the problem was. My question is is this emotional abuse for the kids? I was 1 of 5 children.
I’m so sorry you went through this. I’m no expert but it is. I pray for your healing ❤️🩹 & emotional growth
Thank you. I was curious for myself , my siblings, and my Ex who I Divorced in August 2022.
Donna, it's definitely neglect. Emotional abuse.
Your mother seems to have been unable to deal with difficult situations without literally running away. To call and check on you shows an awareness that she should be the caregiver - but not enough guts to actually stay, be present, responsible and nurturing. To put her children's welfare ahead of her "upset" feelings.
Maybe she couldn't cope with the demands of 5 children. Maybe she didn't want 5 children. There's certainly a lot of people out there who shouldn't be parents but are, and they raise damaged children.
Whatever the circumstances that would lead to her behaviour, it wasn't good parenting. To not be able to rely on a parent to care for you when you are small and powerless is frightening.
Whether it was intentional on her part, a form of punishment (definitely emotional abuse) or just because she was/is an inadequate mother only you will know. Either way, it seems to have had a profound effect on you, understandably.
Your siblings perhaps also still feel the effects. Speak with them, take strength from the fact that whatever triggered her dereliction of duties was not your fault. There was nothing to say sorry for. It's she who should have apologised to you, the very first time she left, for being a deficient mother, whatever the circumstances. Even if all 5 of you behaved so badly that she couldn't cope (a parenting failure in itself) she knows she shouldn't have walked away.
But, labelling it as emotional abuse still won't make the feelings go away. Speak with siblings, who must have shared your feelings. Nurture yourself and each other. Try - if at all possible - to forgive your mother. You don't have to like her or condone past behaviour, but unless she is just innately selfish, something made *her* weak and inadequate as a parent. Forgiveness takes away their power over you. Perhaps then, when in that mental space, you could ask her why. Perhaps she will apologise and give a reason, perhaps not. But they're steps towards moving on and helping you become an informed and compassionate parent yourself.
It's not what happens to us, it's how we deal with it that's most important.
Big hug 🫂
I hasten to add that whether you label it as emotional abuse or not, you and your siblings suffered repeated emotional and physical neglect. If authorities had been aware of it you would have been taken into care. Whether that would have been better is a moot point. I'm so sorry that there was no other older family member that could have intervened to prevent such appalling parental neglect. Still, try to look forward, not back xx
It's been years since I've been in a relationship. I went on a date with a man that I really liked. We called and text for a while. His 91 year old dad went into the hospital. Not sure if he is still alive. Haven't heard from him since then. He said he would get back to me "after a while". I asked if he was involved with ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. He said, " No dear, my father is in the hospital ". He asked that I continue to text, but he was not responding back.
I have been decluttering since my daughter and granddaughter moved out. I am making space for someone to come into my life.
Yes, Sabrina. I believe that we were brought together by God to do work. I told him that I thought that we were TF. I told him that I wasn't sure if we were supposed to be in a romantic or platonic relationship, ... but that we were brought together for a greater purpose.
Exactly
In the book of Leviticus, the priest always went in on the holy day, with incense to clean the temple
Exactly!
You reminds me of Brene Brown - be brave in your vulnerability
Exactly!
Hi Ken 👋🏼
God's blessings to all Amen 🍀🙏😇😇🙏😇🙏
I have one picture of my deceased husband in my home. It seats next to the pictures of our children.
Yes
I agree with you ❤
I am so sorry but I agree with you ❤🌹
Johnathan i just broke up with a scammer we were talking over the phone i am heart broken i know its sounds rediculous but i guess it is but how do i get over it
Remember your value...
heavens sake..just move to Canada and you will find your life mate before you can unpack your suitcase :)
Do you regret making your relationship so public?
Not at all
Jonathan, what are your needs.
Many...
My needs are simple…. A man that will choose me every single day.
❤❤
Jonathan, in your profession you think you are so successful and probably you are but I think you feel like you are failing in your job because Marie left you. I don’t think you are upset because your relationship failed but you are upset because what you try to teach failed. I think you wanted to show your audience and say look this is the way to do it but when it didn’t happen you felt inadequate. I don’t think you were so much inlove with Marie and respect her but you took her as a job. Very few people married same occupation person. If you really loved her you shouldn’t applied her as a job partner. You shouldn’t presented her as a job partner, your personal life should have been very private not a show case.
Amen, sista, you laid it down well
No
Excellent point! Why doesn't he just audition women to be his co host?
This is what I was thinking. I watched a handful of his videos with Maries. She appeared not wanting to be there and participated out of niceness. She was reluctant to answer his questions, often repeated a question she was asked and even looked puzzled that she was asked a question. She did not look she was into him. I think even if she was in love or liked Johnathan, it would quickly fall apart after being in the center of constant analyzing, analyzing, analyzing of dating and behaviors. I enjoy his videos. Johnathan is the best and I agree with almost everything he says. But to make his potential relationship work, he needs to keep his gf out of his business.
Shrooms and sage should be used in the kitchen
See we don’t know anthing about Sabrina’s life, we don’t know if she is married or not why do you tell us about your life, if you are coach be one don’t show your needs in coaching. When you go to a doctor you expect doctor curing you if doctor starts telling his illness you wouldn’t like it. Do you understand what I am saying.
@@JonathonAslay I am saying weDon’t know anything about Sabrina’s life, like is she married, is she in relationship, or does she have childhood traumas, that is good not knowing because she is helping people in need instead of us worrying about her. Why do we know about your childhood traumas, are we going to cure you or feel sorry for you? Why do we have to know that your child passed away, are we going to heal you or comfort you? Why do we have to know Marie, are you expecting us to fix the relationship that is failed or feel sorry for you that she left you? We are not the expert like you to cure you so I wanna know why do we need to know your problems?
Careful sista, Jonathon might ban you!
He's a coach. He talks about things we all wonder
If he was a therapist, we shouldn't hear any of it, because it would be YOU talking almost only. But this is him, jogging your brain to realize the points he's trying to get us to understand.
@@renette0506 so what did you understand?
I know that Jonathan speaks from his point of view. He is NOT a therapist, nor has he trained as one. In this discussion he states things that bother him about our comments, and moves the conversation along bringing his POV. It's a little like reality you tube, and just a discussion between him & his guest, mostly for getting us to think more deeply. He also brings his own flaws in understanding to the conversation, but since it's usually just Jonathan talking, that just is what it is, nothing more.
I guess Jonathan, you are saying you trust your discernment in seeing who has a negative charge, as distinct from someone who got out of an abusive situation...
Exactly!
@JonathonAslay I think though, it's probably pretty hard for someone who came from an abuse situation to say anything about it without it giving the listener a bad feeling.