Dial *125# to get your Airtel #Xtream wiFi and let's get started! What's your experience with toxic family members? From our loved ones guilt tripping us to ungrateful relatives, settle in because we are speaking out about TOXIC FAMILY. And we are lucky to have Counseling Psychologist Sunday Asingwire with us for expert tips into this matter. We absolutely loved doing this show at the Golden Tulip Hotel, come and solidify your family relationships and explore more of what this gorgeous hotel has to offer. Thank you to Zuri Hair, Shades of Beauty, Shoe Puzzle and Fashion Episode for our look today :) If you enjoyed this video please like it, share with someone who needs to watch this and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one. Follow us on: Instagram instagram.com/bumploveug Facebook facebook.com/BumpLove Twitter twitter.com/bumploveug?t=kR7O... #HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove
I realized I was a bitter toxic mother, I'm really working on it. I realized I was really angry and bitter more over towards my little ones, as young as 2! This journey of self awareness has got me working on my silent treatment, anger, bitterness, screaming....Most of the adults in my life were toxic. We can do better. The silent treatment made me lose so many good friends over time.
If I could, I would hug 🫂!,, Your accountability and emotional intelligence is plausible 👏. You taking the first step of acknowledgment and taking the steps to get better is amazing!,, From a mother to a mother, social worker, childrens rights & protection expert- I am so proud of you . I pray and hope this helps other parents realise it’s never too late to embark on international parenting. 💕
Its in this episode that I have really understood the statement you say over and over again that YOU ARE SIMPLY CONVERSATION STARTERS. I feel like having some conversations with some people in my life. I used to be ashamed of watching, and enjoying a ladies´show as a man but boy oh boy....am not the same guy I used to be. A BIG thank you to the entire team.
There is nothing wrong watching a "ladies" show my dear. That's just a stereotype of thinking men can't do what women do. If anything this channel 's topics are result of two parties( meaning women & men) e.g pregnancy, sex, childbirth, parenting etc.None of these are done without the involvement of a man. What your mindset should embrace is hearing the experience of a woman in an activity you are involved in when watching this show. Where a mindset shift is needed you embrace it, where you disagree you offer your objective opinion. Otherwise most women not just the ones on this show we are very intelligent in a broad no. of fields.We aren't less of anything of anything because of our gender. I bet you listen to ladies in your work space too. Otherwise welcome aboard.
Every one of you ladies bring or have your own aura on the show.i feel like something is missing without Manuela.I hope in the future Pumla you don't get absent 😂. I'm always looking forward to Friday because of you. For Rosette, ai,she's so iconic in fashion, Angie,her voice soothes one's soul and Rach,i love you so mucher❤
Thanks Nuwagaba. When one of us is unavailable, it's for an unavoidable reason so either we choose to have no show at all or a show with who is available. I'm sure you too would choose the latter 😊. P
@pumlanabachwa8668,there's a vibe that you bring on set that I also feel just from watching from a far.Please excuse me if I'm being disrespectful or impolite to other ladies but I would choose the first option
Awwwwwwwwww our BumpLove family, you touch my heart..... it's such a sweet thing to say though 😢; that if one of us can't make it, then we all can't. It's so sweet and yet the reality hits us like a ton of bricks
@@manuelap.mulondopliz manuela aleast put ur submission here coz now i hate my mom coz of her entitlement yet she did nothing to me apart frm paying fees and food not even giving mi basic needs as a girl like pads ,clothes and others yet we used to live in the same house though am so greatful for these submissions too
I know of someone who gets triggered and angered so fast.. like he's going to quickly shout at and abuse someone... But when we shared, the mother used to abuse them when they were young and I now realized that the toxicity from the mother all from way back is following them
I have a very, very, very, very toxic mother. Not to just me, but to any family member. One thing I know is that having a toxic mother is a lonely journey, so traumatizing yet you can't have anyone to tell and be on your side because, ideally to society, a mother does no wrong. A toxic mother can kill you faster than any other illness. I self-distanced about 8 years ago, and I have never regretted it. My life is so much better, mentally. No contact! and over time, I have earned so much respect from her, from a distance.
I feel your pain 🥹🥹🥹🥹. I have spent 10 yrs without my mother because she was about to kill me mentally. I decided to leave at a tender age after s.4 and i left home. My dear your not alone. Keep the distance please. You come first
I kind of grew up from a toxic home, most times i would be home i would go to my room amd cry and wonder why i was born in such a home, much as i had access to basic needs i was never excited about going home for holidays to the extent that i would opt to study in holidays and keep at school. The moment i joined campus i would look for volunteering placements to keep me busy and surely i wouldnt go home. I would go home for a few days to check on them and after my graduation i didnt go back home, i still went for voluntary work, God blessed me with a job a husband and now i have a family of my own, i distanced myself from my family not that i didnt love them, i love them and when money started coming i supported them all through, i visited them but i needed that space to build my empire that is free from all that home drama. Such environments can would your heart and u find yourself being hard on other people in future. My gal stay away from your mum for sometime however dont go into bad habits that will spoil your future
Let's all agree that Rosette's hair is SOOOO BEAUTIFUL! I have cut off my brother and my extended family from my life. I'm so happy and peaceful. Let's stop encouraging people to put up with toxic family members! Toxicity is toxicity whether family or not! Blood isn't always thicker than water after all!
@@arnoldariho4083 It's applicable to YOU and the relationships YOU consider meaningful and wholesome in YOUR life. Different strokes for different folks.BLOOD ISN'T THICKER THAN WATER!! Call police and arrest me... Nonsense!
@vickyitenyo I won't call police for u; Now u becaming toxic! Okay ur ryt just like Pumla; *Toxic is Toxic* but *blood ain't toxic there are exceptions* "Just saying"
@@arnoldariho4083 Do you know me personally? Do you know the family I come from? Do you know my family members personally? Do you UNDERSTAND the meaning of the word TOXIC?? Get out of my comment and go look for relevance elsewhere!
Hey ladies! This spoke to me. I recently decided to stay away from my family since they never stand up for me when i face abuse from my sister. It's been two months now and i am enjoying the peace of mind.
Hi ladys first and foremost sorry rossete for the loss of your mum anyway i,ve been watching at your episodes for a while now and i,ve learned alot,i,m so impressed by your maturity levels,the eloquence,the courage is just out of this world continue with that spirit your changing ppls lives othw nice wkeend to you all😊
i thank God i healed from the toxicity that lowered my esteem a bit and am now walking a journey of restoration. this aunt who took us on after the loss of our mum was too much.
I have a legion of toxic relatives both nuclear and extended. I have cut them off and I am not guilty of the choice I made because my mental health was wanting and I was also projecting my anger towards my friends. I am better now healed...
Rosette that look is epic family feud aside. Am glad i come from a family of 6 and we all grown ups, our parents made sure we can’t have hate for more than one day. Forgiveness was advised and be it practical. So we fight and break but mend in a few days. We give each other space and time to heal.
An amazing episode yet again. Kudos to everyone who healed and became an even better version of themselves. It’s unfathomable how toxic family can destroy identity.
Me I have been in a toxic situation since childhood and the story on my side just seems to be so long and big.....imagine doing everything but your father just feels you are not doing enough and never appreciates the little you do,its now 3 months and we haven't talked but I really feel peace at heart just because he's not asking or pressuring me in most things and am doing only what I can or provide what I could at my own time not his time......thanks bump love ❤🎉
To answer Rosette most people from toxic environments have low self esteem , anxiety, panic attacks, people pleasing, u always want to be validated, u have self doubt, you always put yourself second to anyone
Bump ❤,thank u ladies! Toxic family members/relatives bask in the phrase "family is everything" because it helps them get away with their bad behavior. A phrase that IMHO best defines Toxic Positivity. Now,a healthy family/community is everything.✅️ 🙌
You ladies today loooked Gorgeous and the topic was very eye opening. Now am doing a self check looking out for my toxic behavior towards my family. Thank u ladies. Mrs Mulondo you were Very much missed on the show today❤❤
Wow wow wow! When you think you now know Pumla's story so well, she drops a bombshell of SouthAfrica! Wow wow, Like I said before, it's never boring with Bump Love. Thanks for this show.
I like conversation. I also grow up with my mom before she passed, as I grow, they don't know what they are doing they are just trying to raise a responsible child to the society, not necessarily to themselves. They fear that the father's side will judge them its really tough on these mother.
Am soooo grateful for bump love. For us the new mothers, we have learnt/continue to learn sooo much about being better parents.May God grant us the grace to implement.
Rosette my deepest condolences. May your mum's soul rest in peace. Oh Lord, a deep conversation. Thank you for sharing ladies, I can see all the toxicity to date. My own mum was not toxic or controlling but I really had to parent her at some point because she was pitiful, and sad and had to deal with that toxicity from her family. Pumla, I can relate to the ridicule from relatives. I saw extended family do the same to us but I think on my dad's side he defended us. He would say, they will learn, teach them or even that is why I pay tuition, they are not allowed other languages except English at school. But when do these things stop? Because we are old and some relatives still behave poorly, I can not take it folding arms, I have to stand up for myself and whoever else is in that sad situation. I used to be temperamental, angry, violent even fight physically because I thought I was self-defending. I have come a long way. I am assertive but have learned to keep my cool. I know which battles to fight. I really have learnt to walk away and speak kindly even as I confront a situation. I am empathetic and patient now. Therapy helps, let us get help. I am actively getting help and prayer has been working good for me for the last 7 years.
Oh..how we have had experiences with toxic relationships from our relatives even in our nuclear families. Am glad I can now judge and handle the moments better. May the Lord help us to not be toxic to our husbands and children. Oh Lord help us to have healthy relations.
Wooowww thanks guys for this episode. For a long time i have been wondering why i don't have so many friends but now i know it's because i have a healthy family and they have my back regardless that i don't find the need to have friends around me. Been a good discussion and eye opener 👌
This conversation was amazing. Loved it loved it loved it. Yes people pleasers always start off as parent pleasers its not easy to get over, i should know BUT THE WORK NEEDS TO BE DONE. I like how Angie finished it off, there comes a time when now you cant blame your parents. You might have come from a toxic background but now YOU ARE THE BACK GROUND. do better so your children dont need to heal from your inactions. With love from bump love 💕
Hello Bump love, this was happening to me as I was looking for validation from my mum. I feel your pain dear. However, a friend advised me to break my emotional need for mum, air out my feelings and grounds, and rebel respectfully, if it doesn't work for me I stay away, she calls me yelling on my phone I switch it off. Then the change came. we learned to listen to each other she learnt she doesn't have to yell and say those hurtful words Oh God. Break that validation need from her and find peace with yourself. You can validate yourself and that enough should be enough. they eventually learn coz trust me she doesn't want to lose you as well. And she loves you just sometimes she is dealing with emotions she cant explain to you as a you are her child.
Ladies always looking 🔥. Rosette ur look is so on point. With regards to the topic, it is so sad that family members are the ones that bring about this childhood trauma and it is even more depressing that they never know what they are doing to their children. Am not yet a mother but i pray to God to always make me aware of even the smallest of toxic things happening to my children so that it can be combated. May the almighty bless you too ladies. Its never easy to speak about your personal experiences on media, but that fact that you get the courage to speak about it just to help the someone out there……dem🙌 God Bless
Hahaha, this episode reminded me about a certain auntie who frequented home for parties while we were still kids. Growing up, my favorite chore was cooking, but for some reason, I just wasn't passionate about cooking matooke. I even didn't like eating it anyway hence my lack of motivation to participate in its preparation! So this particular woman always said things like "' Who will marry you when you can't cook matooke'','' You are too lazy and you will never succeed''. All this culminated from the fact that I didn't like cooking matooke! Please note, I was great at all the other dishes. These statements went on for some years (through my teenage years up until campus) and then I decided to clap back. I reminded her how perfect her matooke cooking skills were and how they hadn't been sufficient to keep her marriage together. I reminded her how she isn't God and has no audacity to speak such words into my life. I went ahead to elucidate that God and not matooke keep marriages. Nways, I went on and on, while some other aunties watched and were dumbfounded🤣 Ladies and gentlemen, that was the last time she ever said anything to me. When we meet, we exchange our greetings and move on. Sometimes toxic relatives need to be schooled while establishing clear boundaries.Thanks for another great show ladies 💜
Guuurrrrrrrllllllll Not how her cooking skills were insufficient to keep her marriage. Auntie was just there minding her business and BOOM! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. You've won!
Rosette much love. Sorry for your mom loss. You shared with us she had been sick.. so sorry. You really speak highly of her and my heart goes out to you ❤❤❤
Surely lets all do better, there are these people who still discriminate, mostly for intermarried couples, you get married to a muganda when you are munyankole and all times the in-laws are being toxic. Thank you ladies for always bringing up insights of behaviors which we always dont know their impact to other people.
I can rili relate to this buh it's a pity for her that this is her real mum mine ware my aunty's and relatives, mmhh not appreciative, disguising,ful of hatred over you, you're never smart to them, they spit bad words to you, never wish you good luck not bcoz they don't know what to do coz I wud see them smile, appreciate,hug , give their own LOVE, but thank God am out of that situation and whatever thing they said to me just got their own and am now okay with my family, kids and hubby,wedded, my car, my house, my bzz, all I can say God above all" talemwa"...it's true you lose self esteem, you don't learn to love and give, appreciate others coz it's way you've bin seeing done to you mmmh ..thanks anonymous for sharing and thanks bump love 💕💕
May mamas soul rest in peace, kyoka when the show had just started I was like leero Rosette alinga eyakanva America nga u all look hot naye maama not knowing ur mum passed on
yiiyi Rosette i am so sorry for your loss. i last had when you were telling us that your mum beat cancer. its a pity dear otherwise thank you for this topic, i am working on mysel. Bump love you have really made me a better mother. i am grtefull ba tia
Thank you bump love family for movitating us i was affected with accent which lowed my self esteem and confidencewhile i was younng i personal have overcome toxic in family, friends through distanceing and cutting communication for a while to deal with the cause of the toxic.
Am always looking forward to fridays🎉 I love all of you but Racheal Rachael Rachael........ you are so beautiful and intelligent. Actually I got a privilege to meet you in person . You are soooooo beautiful and calm😢❤
Dear bump love...thank you for this episode....it has gotten me reflecting on those toxic relatives.... On a brighter note... @Rosette...you are gloooowwwing today!!!....the wig❤❤❤...the green❤❤❤❤ woow
Thank you so much ladies, and how about staying with toxic relatives and friends, more so seeking for financial support, it's really tiring that you give up your self and focus on pleasing them so they could continue supporting you, life is really tough anyways we move
I went through the same thing, imagine at 25years I still couldn't express myself well, I just had to move out of home, I can now see things more clearly, am gaining back my self esteem....Started a TH-cam channel 🤗 Prayer also helps🙏🙏🙏
This was very insightful. Having toxic family members is among the greatest killer of kids' self-esteem. I am a victim myself & still on the journey to healing. It's tough.
Hi ladies, I always watch hours later. Ladies you all look gorgeous, beautiful make-up, lovely out fits, nice hair,beautiful people with big hearts, unique personality traits ❤❤❤
I'm looking forward to watching this episode ❤❤❤❤❤ Rachel looks so beautiful and doe like today (Let me also take opportunity to not be happy about Airtels internet😢😢😢)
Before I watch the full episode, i felt so touched with the author of that DM. It's like talking from my life. I lost my dad who committed suicide when I was just 2 months, I don't how he was looking like. That aside, my mother raised me single handedly, but when I was at campus. I lost my patience with her because her toxicity. I don't know whether we will ever get along. Even now, she is ever negative. Thanks for sharing this.
You are not alone my dear. Myself being away is the greatest peace I have ever had. I gave and gave but nothing will ever be enough. Now I set boundaries for my mental health.
Pumla, i went through the same thing you went through, my whole life i was in Uganda, coming back to my home country in 2020 and its been hard to fit in. But today i have let it be. I will love the ones that love me. Bad energy is never my thing so i will avoid it.
I have a toxic mum and the sad news is that they never change! You keep trying to please them with hopes to make them love you appropriately but no. They just take and take. Whats helped me is acceptance of who she is and that I cant change an adult. Thankfully my Dad is really God sent, and all of us kids can always rely on his unconditional love. I now have a somewhat codial relationship with my mum and its bc I set boundaries and I absolutely have no expectations when it comes to her.
Ooh Rosette... i remember watching the episode closing 2022 and your mama was going through a difficult time which you never disclosed. Im sorry for your loss my dear. May She rest well
Started watching your channel a day ago and I love love love your honesty... Haven't encountered this rawness in any channel especially from our Kenyan you tubers or friends. Most people just want to show the winning flashy side, otherwise they keep quiet not unless they are older like our aunties. Kudos for that. Do you have any video on finances sharing in marriage, like when you make money, do you share with household buys and what works for each of you. 8s there a video to that regard we Learn. I feel career women put in something but they always saying hubby gives everything and I keep wondering what happens with their money?
Very serious topic, actually quite triggering, like Pumla said at the end, I had to turn it off for a bit and come back and finish later. Thanks ladies for speaking out about this, it is real.
Before i comment, Pumla first come and tell us about that ring😂😂😂😂😂. Anyway great episode ladies, toxic spaces are to be avoided and i understand it's easier if it is a work place, a friendship, a neighborhood but family is a different dynamic. Let's all be better indeed
Dial *125# to get your Airtel #Xtream wiFi and let's get started!
What's your experience with toxic family members?
From our loved ones guilt tripping us to ungrateful relatives, settle in because we are speaking out about TOXIC FAMILY. And we are lucky to have Counseling Psychologist Sunday Asingwire with us for expert tips into this matter.
We absolutely loved doing this show at the Golden Tulip Hotel, come and solidify your family relationships and explore more of what this gorgeous hotel has to offer.
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People will forget what you said but they will never forget how you made them feel. You can feel how Pumla felt . I also use silent mood
I realized I was a bitter toxic mother, I'm really working on it. I realized I was really angry and bitter more over towards my little ones, as young as 2! This journey of self awareness has got me working on my silent treatment, anger, bitterness, screaming....Most of the adults in my life were toxic. We can do better. The silent treatment made me lose so many good friends over time.
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Here is to accepting and choosing to do better. Hugs Brenda
am glad that you are doing better lots of love and hugs❤🫂
Thank you so much am on the same journey too
If I could, I would hug 🫂!,, Your accountability and emotional intelligence is plausible 👏. You taking the first step of acknowledgment and taking the steps to get better is amazing!,, From a mother to a mother, social worker, childrens rights & protection expert- I am so proud of you . I pray and hope this helps other parents realise it’s never too late to embark on international parenting. 💕
Its in this episode that I have really understood the statement you say over and over again that YOU ARE SIMPLY CONVERSATION STARTERS. I feel like having some conversations with some people in my life. I used to be ashamed of watching, and enjoying a ladies´show as a man but boy oh boy....am not the same guy I used to be. A BIG thank you to the entire team.
Waaaawooo I like this
Ooooohhhh we love you our male Bump Lover ❤❤❤
Wowwww a male bump lover❤❤❤❤ we love to see u here
There is nothing wrong watching a "ladies" show my dear. That's just a stereotype of thinking men can't do what women do. If anything this channel 's topics are result of two parties( meaning women & men) e.g pregnancy, sex, childbirth, parenting etc.None of these are done without the involvement of a man. What your mindset should embrace is hearing the experience of a woman in an activity you are involved in when watching this show. Where a mindset shift is needed you embrace it, where you disagree you offer your objective opinion. Otherwise most women not just the ones on this show we are very intelligent in a broad no. of fields.We aren't less of anything of anything because of our gender. I bet you listen to ladies in your work space too. Otherwise welcome aboard.
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Rossette today you are pure flames ,I loooove this look on you. Love from Kenya.
Thank u dear. Its Zuri hair
I also see
That is why I moved out of town, to love my relatives from a distance.
Every one of you ladies bring or have your own aura on the show.i feel like something is missing without Manuela.I hope in the future Pumla you don't get absent 😂. I'm always looking forward to Friday because of you. For Rosette, ai,she's so iconic in fashion, Angie,her voice soothes one's soul and Rach,i love you so mucher❤
Thanks Nuwagaba. When one of us is unavailable, it's for an unavoidable reason so either we choose to have no show at all or a show with who is available. I'm sure you too would choose the latter 😊. P
@pumlanabachwa8668,there's a vibe that you bring on set that I also feel just from watching from a far.Please excuse me if I'm being disrespectful or impolite to other ladies but I would choose the first option
@pumlanabachwa8668 what is your bumplove email address?
Awwwwwwwwww our BumpLove family, you touch my heart..... it's such a sweet thing to say though 😢; that if one of us can't make it, then we all can't. It's so sweet and yet the reality hits us like a ton of bricks
@@manuelap.mulondopliz manuela aleast put ur submission here coz now i hate my mom coz of her entitlement yet she did nothing to me apart frm paying fees and food not even giving mi basic needs as a girl like pads ,clothes and others yet we used to live in the same house though am so greatful for these submissions too
I am a victim of mother -adult child abuse. It’s very heart wrenching. She’s still alive but I grieve for her every single day.
I know of someone who gets triggered and angered so fast.. like he's going to quickly shout at and abuse someone... But when we shared, the mother used to abuse them when they were young and I now realized that the toxicity from the mother all from way back is following them
We must realise these cycles and be better.
This January i decided to draw boundaries because relatives come with entitlement and lack of self love can spin you out of this world.
This is so true
I have a very, very, very, very toxic mother. Not to just me, but to any family member. One thing I know is that having a toxic mother is a lonely journey, so traumatizing yet you can't have anyone to tell and be on your side because, ideally to society, a mother does no wrong. A toxic mother can kill you faster than any other illness. I self-distanced about 8 years ago, and I have never regretted it. My life is so much better, mentally. No contact! and over time, I have earned so much respect from her, from a distance.
Oh WoW! The distance. Lets normalise choosing ourselves. Well in
I feel your pain 🥹🥹🥹🥹. I have spent 10 yrs without my mother because she was about to kill me mentally. I decided to leave at a tender age after s.4 and i left home.
My dear your not alone. Keep the distance please. You come first
Hi dear.yo not alone.u may die if u don't distance yourself from her.i did n am mentally ok now
The distance, how is this possible now???
I kind of grew up from a toxic home, most times i would be home i would go to my room amd cry and wonder why i was born in such a home, much as i had access to basic needs i was never excited about going home for holidays to the extent that i would opt to study in holidays and keep at school. The moment i joined campus i would look for volunteering placements to keep me busy and surely i wouldnt go home. I would go home for a few days to check on them and after my graduation i didnt go back home, i still went for voluntary work, God blessed me with a job a husband and now i have a family of my own, i distanced myself from my family not that i didnt love them, i love them and when money started coming i supported them all through, i visited them but i needed that space to build my empire that is free from all that home drama. Such environments can would your heart and u find yourself being hard on other people in future. My gal stay away from your mum for sometime however dont go into bad habits that will spoil your future
Yes. I think they need time away
@@pumlanabachwa8668I had picked the toxicity from my father and was now doing to my younger brother. Thank God for setting me free
They definitely do, if I didn't run away from home I would be a different person now
Let's all agree that Rosette's hair is SOOOO BEAUTIFUL!
I have cut off my brother and my extended family from my life. I'm so happy and peaceful.
Let's stop encouraging people to put up with toxic family members!
Toxicity is toxicity whether family or not! Blood isn't always thicker than water after all!
Toxic is Toxic. Fullstop!
But at the end of the day; *Blood will always and still be thicker than water*
Don't even joke about it!
@@arnoldariho4083 It's applicable to YOU and the relationships YOU consider meaningful and wholesome in YOUR life. Different strokes for different folks.BLOOD ISN'T THICKER THAN WATER!! Call police and arrest me... Nonsense!
@vickyitenyo I won't call police for u; Now u becaming toxic! Okay ur ryt just like Pumla; *Toxic is Toxic* but *blood ain't toxic there are exceptions*
"Just saying"
@@arnoldariho4083 Do you know me personally? Do you know the family I come from? Do you know my family members personally? Do you UNDERSTAND the meaning of the word TOXIC?? Get out of my comment and go look for relevance elsewhere!
Rosette that hair colour looks gorgeous on you
Thx dear
What I have realised we are all toxic but on a different level, I'm personally progressing, I thank you ladies.
Hey ladies!
This spoke to me. I recently decided to stay away from my family since they never stand up for me when i face abuse from my sister. It's been two months now and i am enjoying the peace of mind.
Pumla is straight up spitting bars today, like damn girl, you spoke to my soul!
Here for you Miresh. Much Love ❤
@@pumlanabachwa8668 Awww thank you. Much love 💕
Hi ladys first and foremost sorry rossete for the loss of your mum anyway i,ve been watching at your episodes for a while now and i,ve learned alot,i,m so impressed by your maturity levels,the eloquence,the courage is just out of this world continue with that spirit your changing ppls lives othw nice wkeend to you all😊
This is a sensitive conversation. The conversation alone can trigger toxicity
Rossets. Hair.......that wig is perfect on you
i thank God i healed from the toxicity that lowered my esteem a bit and am now walking a journey of restoration. this aunt who took us on after the loss of our mum was too much.
A Friday without Bump Love is not a Friday; and the weekend only starts after watching Bump Love ❤🎉😅. Thank you ladies always.
i know
It so hurts when your people are not good to you. But like u said ladies at a certain age, we need to do the work. No more blame game.
I have a legion of toxic relatives both nuclear and extended. I have cut them off and I am not guilty of the choice I made because my mental health was wanting and I was also projecting my anger towards my friends. I am better now healed...
Rosette that look is epic family feud aside. Am glad i come from a family of 6 and we all grown ups, our parents made sure we can’t have hate for more than one day. Forgiveness was advised and be it practical. So we fight and break but mend in a few days. We give each other space and time to heal.
An amazing episode yet again. Kudos to everyone who healed and became an even better version of themselves. It’s unfathomable how toxic family can destroy identity.
Me I have been in a toxic situation since childhood and the story on my side just seems to be so long and big.....imagine doing everything but your father just feels you are not doing enough and never appreciates the little you do,its now 3 months and we haven't talked but I really feel peace at heart just because he's not asking or pressuring me in most things and am doing only what I can or provide what I could at my own time not his time......thanks bump love ❤🎉
It's always "love from a distance" period!
You guys make my Fridays...am addicted!!
Love from Kisumu _Kenya
To answer Rosette most people from toxic environments have low self esteem , anxiety, panic attacks, people pleasing, u always want to be validated, u have self doubt, you always put yourself second to anyone
This one has been a Reality check for me, thank you for sharing your stories.
Bump ❤,thank u ladies!
Toxic family members/relatives bask in the phrase "family is everything" because it helps them get away with their bad behavior.
A phrase that IMHO best defines Toxic Positivity.
Now,a healthy family/community is everything.✅️ 🙌
You ladies today loooked Gorgeous and the topic was very eye opening. Now am doing a self check looking out for my toxic behavior towards my family. Thank u ladies. Mrs Mulondo you were Very much missed on the show today❤❤
Wow wow wow! When you think you now know Pumla's story so well, she drops a bombshell of SouthAfrica! Wow wow, Like I said before, it's never boring with Bump Love. Thanks for this show.
Deep conversation. Appreciate it.
Rosette is looking super stunning on this one.❤
I like conversation. I also grow up with my mom before she passed, as I grow, they don't know what they are doing they are just trying to raise a responsible child to the society, not necessarily to themselves. They fear that the father's side will judge them its really tough on these mother.
Am soooo grateful for bump love. For us the new mothers, we have learnt/continue to learn sooo much about being better parents.May God grant us the grace to implement.
We appreciate you Claire. Bump lovers choosing to do better
As far as it depends on you,live at peace with everyone.
Rosette my deepest condolences. May your mum's soul rest in peace.
Oh Lord, a deep conversation. Thank you for sharing ladies, I can see all the toxicity to date.
My own mum was not toxic or controlling but I really had to parent her at some point because she was pitiful, and sad and had to deal with that toxicity from her family.
Pumla, I can relate to the ridicule from relatives. I saw extended family do the same to us but I think on my dad's side he defended us. He would say, they will learn, teach them or even that is why I pay tuition, they are not allowed other languages except English at school. But when do these things stop? Because we are old and some relatives still behave poorly, I can not take it folding arms, I have to stand up for myself and whoever else is in that sad situation. I used to be temperamental, angry, violent even fight physically because I thought I was self-defending. I have come a long way. I am assertive but have learned to keep my cool. I know which battles to fight. I really have learnt to walk away and speak kindly even as I confront a situation. I am empathetic and patient now. Therapy helps, let us get help. I am actively getting help and prayer has been working good for me for the last 7 years.
Therapy and Prayer. Amiina 🙏🏾.
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This is so deep,May this sink deep in my mind to figure out what to do
Oh..how we have had experiences with toxic relationships from our relatives even in our nuclear families. Am glad I can now judge and handle the moments better.
May the Lord help us to not be toxic to our husbands and children. Oh Lord help us to have healthy relations.
Wooowww thanks guys for this episode. For a long time i have been wondering why i don't have so many friends but now i know it's because i have a healthy family and they have my back regardless that i don't find the need to have friends around me. Been a good discussion and eye opener 👌
Racheal thank you for that submission. I just realised that am critical so.i end up judging people 😢. Hope i do better and learn to catch myself
This conversation was amazing. Loved it loved it loved it.
Yes people pleasers always start off as parent pleasers its not easy to get over, i should know BUT THE WORK NEEDS TO BE DONE. I like how Angie finished it off, there comes a time when now you cant blame your parents. You might have come from a toxic background but now YOU ARE THE BACK GROUND. do better so your children dont need to heal from your inactions.
With love from bump love 💕
Yes. There comes a time when you are now the background. Work needs to be done.
Madam laughing machine isn't on the show today,thanks my ladies for the show u look mwaaa🥰🥰🥰🥰i love u lots
My sincere condolences to u Rosette 4 loosing yo dearest mom. My her soul Rest in peace.
Hello Bump love, this was happening to me as I was looking for validation from my mum. I feel your pain dear. However, a friend advised me to break my emotional need for mum, air out my feelings and grounds, and rebel respectfully, if it doesn't work for me I stay away, she calls me yelling on my phone I switch it off. Then the change came. we learned to listen to each other she learnt she doesn't have to yell and say those hurtful words Oh God. Break that validation need from her and find peace with yourself. You can validate yourself and that enough should be enough. they eventually learn coz trust me she doesn't want to lose you as well. And she loves you just sometimes she is dealing with emotions she cant explain to you as a you are her child.
Ladies always looking 🔥. Rosette ur look is so on point.
With regards to the topic, it is so sad that family members are the ones that bring about this childhood trauma and it is even more depressing that they never know what they are doing to their children. Am not yet a mother but i pray to God to always make me aware of even the smallest of toxic things happening to my children so that it can be combated.
May the almighty bless you too ladies. Its never easy to speak about your personal experiences on media, but that fact that you get the courage to speak about it just to help the someone out there……dem🙌 God Bless
So sorry for your loss Rosette May the peace of God cover you during this difficult time.
Hahaha, this episode reminded me about a certain auntie who frequented home for parties while we were still kids. Growing up, my favorite chore was cooking, but for some reason, I just wasn't passionate about cooking matooke. I even didn't like eating it anyway hence my lack of motivation to participate in its preparation! So this particular woman always said things like "' Who will marry you when you can't cook matooke'','' You are too lazy and you will never succeed''. All this culminated from the fact that I didn't like cooking matooke! Please note, I was great at all the other dishes. These statements went on for some years (through my teenage years up until campus) and then I decided to clap back. I reminded her how perfect her matooke cooking skills were and how they hadn't been sufficient to keep her marriage together. I reminded her how she isn't God and has no audacity to speak such words into my life. I went ahead to elucidate that God and not matooke keep marriages. Nways, I went on and on, while some other aunties watched and were dumbfounded🤣 Ladies and gentlemen, that was the last time she ever said anything to me. When we meet, we exchange our greetings and move on. Sometimes toxic relatives need to be schooled while establishing clear boundaries.Thanks for another great show ladies 💜
Guuurrrrrrrllllllll Not how her cooking skills were insufficient to keep her marriage. Auntie was just there minding her business and BOOM! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. You've won!
@@pumlanabachwa8668 🤣
This episode speaks to me completely!
Thank you so!
Next emphasis on toxic/narcissistic partners 😊
What's Friday without Bump love 🙈We appreciate this content 💕
Condolences to Rosette🙏
Thank u.
Rosette much love. Sorry for your mom loss. You shared with us she had been sick.. so sorry. You really speak highly of her and my heart goes out to you ❤❤❤
Thank you 🙏🏽 It is well
@@roseviela.30❤❤❤
I really related with this and i am glad that i healed from the family wounds. I pray she can find healing in God abd do the work.
Rosette I love your look today. Beautiful 💯
Thank u
Issa bumplove Friday 🤸🤸🤸 am early today been checking checking 😂since morning
Rosettes hair and makeup ..beautiful
Rosy looks so beautiful! Hair & make up 👍
Surely lets all do better, there are these people who still discriminate, mostly for intermarried couples, you get married to a muganda when you are munyankole and all times the in-laws are being toxic. Thank you ladies for always bringing up insights of behaviors which we always dont know their impact to other people.
Surely
Love the topic today, thanks ladies and love the hair Rosette😊
Zuri uganda has the best hair. Hands down
I can rili relate to this buh it's a pity for her that this is her real mum mine ware my aunty's and relatives, mmhh not appreciative, disguising,ful of hatred over you, you're never smart to them, they spit bad words to you, never wish you good luck not bcoz they don't know what to do coz I wud see them smile, appreciate,hug , give their own LOVE, but thank God am out of that situation and whatever thing they said to me just got their own and am now okay with my family, kids and hubby,wedded, my car, my house, my bzz, all I can say God above all" talemwa"...it's true you lose self esteem, you don't learn to love and give, appreciate others coz it's way you've bin seeing done to you mmmh ..thanks anonymous for sharing and thanks bump love 💕💕
Thank you ladies for the show. Watching you from Rwanda. Hope next time will be live in Rwanda. ❤❤
ku gyvilla kwenkomye okutegeela. Angie i like yo vibe
I have never regretted following you . Be blessed
Amiina Vanie 🙏🏾
Rosette this hair coloooooooooooooooooooor ❤❤❤
Riiiigggghhhhttt 😊😊😊😊 It is goals
Cutting off toxicity is the best.The Bible commends us to guard our hearts at all cost for from it runs all matters of life.
Hi Rosette, I'm sorry to hear that you lost your mum. I remember last year you shared how she had beat cancer. May her soul rest in peace.
Really pretty hair Rosette ❤
Angie’s vulnerability is everything ❤
I am so sorry for your loss, Rosette. May mum's soul rest in peace. This was an informative episode, thank you guys
I also couldn't believe it.Sending her prayers.
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Yii.....sending you prayers baby Rosette. Cyber hugs sweeties
May mamas soul rest in peace, kyoka when the show had just started I was like leero Rosette alinga eyakanva America nga u all look hot naye maama not knowing ur mum passed on
Rosette May your mum’s soul RIP 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽& May God continue to comfort & strengthen you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
yiiyi Rosette i am so sorry for your loss. i last had when you were telling us that your mum beat cancer. its a pity dear
otherwise thank you for this topic, i am working on mysel. Bump love you have really made me a better mother. i am grtefull ba tia
Thank you bump love family for movitating us i was affected with accent which lowed my self esteem and confidencewhile i was younng i personal have overcome toxic in family, friends through distanceing and cutting communication for a while to deal with the cause of the toxic.
Just glad that you are doing what need to be done to heal . All the best Namome ❤
Wow! Rosette, that hair!!! Wow!!!!!!!
I totally relate with Angie. Thanks ladies for this topic. You mentioned so many things that go unsaid in our households and extended families.
Am always looking forward to fridays🎉 I love all of you but Racheal Rachael Rachael........ you are so beautiful and intelligent.
Actually I got a privilege to meet you in person . You are soooooo beautiful and calm😢❤
Rosette...the wig is fabulous!!
Zuri 🙌🏽🙌🏽 I allowed
Thanks very much ladies and for the guest as well. But missed Muky. Brian am sure she would have more to share .
Dear bump love...thank you for this episode....it has gotten me reflecting on those toxic relatives....
On a brighter note...
@Rosette...you are gloooowwwing today!!!....the wig❤❤❤...the green❤❤❤❤ woow
Thank you so much ladies, and how about staying with toxic relatives and friends, more so seeking for financial support, it's really tiring that you give up your self and focus on pleasing them so they could continue supporting you, life is really tough anyways we move
Rosette, i looooovvvvve ur hair,u look stunning.
Zuri hair
Looking beautiful Rosette❤
I went through the same thing, imagine at 25years I still couldn't express myself well, I just had to move out of home, I can now see things more clearly, am gaining back my self esteem....Started a TH-cam channel 🤗 Prayer also helps🙏🙏🙏
Same here
This was very insightful. Having toxic family members is among the greatest killer of kids' self-esteem. I am a victim myself & still on the journey to healing. It's tough.
Hugs Deborah
Hi ladies, I always watch hours later. Ladies you all look gorgeous, beautiful make-up, lovely out fits, nice hair,beautiful people with big hearts, unique personality traits ❤❤❤
I'm looking forward to watching this episode ❤❤❤❤❤
Rachel looks so beautiful and doe like today
(Let me also take opportunity to not be happy about Airtels internet😢😢😢)
I lived with toxic relatives and i agree with that opinion of steeping away from that environment and have time to heal.....
Rachel ur makeup is perfect ur lipstick is wow
Rossete so sorry for your loss.. i remember you had said she beat cancer…. bambi mukama akugumye🥹🥹🥹cyber hugs
It came back beginning of year😢. It is well .Thanks
@rosettenajjemba9747 sorry dear
May her soul rest in peace. Keep strong and winning dearest.
Thanks ladies for sharing.I wish we could expand it to toxic work environments.
Ooh talk about it,some family member they know that you're their wife yet your a wife to one person ❤❤❤
Before I watch the full episode, i felt so touched with the author of that DM. It's like talking from my life.
I lost my dad who committed suicide when I was just 2 months, I don't how he was looking like. That aside, my mother raised me single handedly, but when I was at campus. I lost my patience with her because her toxicity.
I don't know whether we will ever get along. Even now, she is ever negative.
Thanks for sharing this.
Owen. Hugs to you.
You need to set clear boundaries.
You are not alone my dear. Myself being away is the greatest peace I have ever had. I gave and gave but nothing will ever be enough. Now I set boundaries for my mental health.
Oh dear. Cyber hugs
How can these mothers be helped to heal
Pumla, i went through the same thing you went through, my whole life i was in Uganda, coming back to my home country in 2020 and its been hard to fit in. But today i have let it be. I will love the ones that love me. Bad energy is never my thing so i will avoid it.
Hello Gabriella. So sorry about that. It's good to know we're not alone here.
Which is your home country and why did you move back?
I have a toxic mum and the sad news is that they never change! You keep trying to please them with hopes to make them love you appropriately but no. They just take and take. Whats helped me is acceptance of who she is and that I cant change an adult. Thankfully my Dad is really God sent, and all of us kids can always rely on his unconditional love.
I now have a somewhat codial relationship with my mum and its bc I set boundaries and I absolutely have no expectations when it comes to her.
Same story ❤❤❤
In the same boat too
Me too 😢.am struggling to find a balance. Yo lucky you have a dad
Ooh Rosette... i remember watching the episode closing 2022 and your mama was going through a difficult time which you never disclosed.
Im sorry for your loss my dear. May She rest well
Amen
Started watching your channel a day ago and I love love love your honesty... Haven't encountered this rawness in any channel especially from our Kenyan you tubers or friends. Most people just want to show the winning flashy side, otherwise they keep quiet not unless they are older like our aunties. Kudos for that. Do you have any video on finances sharing in marriage, like when you make money, do you share with household buys and what works for each of you. 8s there a video to that regard we Learn. I feel career women put in something but they always saying hubby gives everything and I keep wondering what happens with their money?
The story of toxic family members that one you can even have 100 episodes cz u will always remember a new thing all the time
I very missed Manuela on the show. Thanks ladies.♡
Very serious topic, actually quite triggering, like Pumla said at the end, I had to turn it off for a bit and come back and finish later. Thanks ladies for speaking out about this, it is real.
May we heal 🙏🏾
Oh my God Rosette you look sooooo amazing 😍😍😍
Thx dear
i love this show...you never know what's coming
Before i comment, Pumla first come and tell us about that ring😂😂😂😂😂. Anyway great episode ladies, toxic spaces are to be avoided and i understand it's easier if it is a work place, a friendship, a neighborhood but family is a different dynamic. Let's all be better indeed
See this one of the ring 😅😂😅😂. It's just fashion jewelry
@@pumlanabachwa8668 enjoy baby 😂😂😂