👯♀️ Get Ready with Me Vlog | Co-Working, Friends, & Opening Up About Social Anxiety
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ก.ค. 2024
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Spend the day with me as I get ready to co-work at a cafe and hang out with friends! I open up about social anxiety (unplanned lol) after a social evening, but it feels relevant, especially as someone who quite enjoys being at home n’ cozy. But for real, does anyone else get the stiff neck thing?! 😅 I also share my thoughts on co-working and the importance of staying connected with friends when working remotely. Hope this one strikes a chord with one of you!
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» intro: 0:00
» getting ready: 0:10
» pick an outfit with me: 1:40
» procrastinating: 3:36
» coworkin’ with my friend Tia: 5:10
» dinner with friends: 6:47
» opening up about anxiety: 7:26
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Yes! I'm so glad you brought up the physical inability to eat certain ways. My arm will shake and I can't use a fork. Its BEYOND embarrassing. I never thought to just choose a burger! Genius. I'm using that as a hack. Thank you for being brave enough to share.
You need to read “The Body Keeps the Score”! It explains so much about how our bodies react when our minds don’t feel anxious. 10/10 recommend!
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Agree! Amazing book
I have social anxiety even with people I’ve known for years. It’s so weird and stressful. I want to be connected but I feel better alone. Thanks for sharing.
I love co-working with friends, each doing there stuff, but still being together.
I also love the last two dressing options you didn't choose. Could you edit the names in on such presentations, so it's easier to comment on?
The low-tone make up is also awesome!
That's so interesting. I also have social anxiety as well, especially after coming out of my grief (I lost my dad). My entire body shakes as if i were cold but I never thought to order something that is easier to eat! That's actually a genius thing of you/your body to think of doing! I just order the food and shake my fork from plate to mouth LOL! Thank you for sharing this, I really appreciate it. I just expressed this the other day; when I was in the deepest parts of my grief i didn't wanna pick up a camera and talk about it either. My first social event out after my first wave of grief was my best friend's bachelorette party. That was so scary for me to go to --the shell of a person that I was at the time. Man it was a brave thing to do, spend the weekend with a bunch of girls i never met at an airbnb. But man they were so nice and understanding when I told them what I was going through. Thanks for sharing your experience Jules! always love love love all your content!
Keeping your hands busy is definitely a thing if you're nervous. If it means for you to eat a specific dish to feel better in a given situation, then you do that! Whatever will help you cope with it. It's also amazing that you know your body enough to observe and notice that you prefer certain foods like burgers when you're anxious. Good for you
I have general anxiety and depression, and completely relate to feeling anxious in the body and not being able to control it especially in public. Deep breaths and just taking a moment out for myself does help
I totally relate to the anxiety you experience! My neck and body also get stiff and it makes it so hard to function sometimes. I’m glad I’m not alone in that experience! For the longest time I didn’t realize it was a reaction to my anxiety and then one day I realized anxiety can manifest physically and I didn’t feel quite so strange after that but I still wish sometimes I could make it stop when my body tenses like that
exactly! when it first happened to me, I didn't put two and two together that it was anxiety... I just thought I was overthinking how to eat lol so sorry you experience but also glad to know i'm not alone
I relate to you. Prayer has really helped me not struggle as badly regarding feeling anxious with certain people and certain groups. Especially when I am the only one which is often. It can be many things. You’re a beautiful Asian woman and it’s not easy being one of one all the time. Your body is reacting to internal things. I would recommend journaling about it. My friend group is very diverse and I used to have an issue where with new people I wouldn’t eat at all due to nervousness. So it just takes time and love of yourself. Keep healing ❤️🩹
I never realized it before but the "burger or fork"-theory is actually familiar to me! Thinking back to situations where I felt anxious I remember being very clumsy and shaky whilst eating
Jules, I love your vlogs so much! I hope you make us more vlogs in the future. Ps. thanks for always showing up authentically
thank you, marissa! i'm so glad you like the vlogs!!
Thank you for this video, Jules. Appreciate you sharing so openly about your anxiety. You are definitely not alone as I too live with one. I admire that you continue to challenge yourself and find a way to still eat the food/meet new people. We don't have to be defined by our anxieties, and you've generously modeled that. Thank you.
Hey Jules, thanks for sharing! It's refreshing knowing I'm not the only one who experiences the tense body/neck locking related to social anxiety. I first experienced it in high school when a teacher assigned me to a seat in the front of the class and I found that I was never able to scan my environment without my neck locking up and my body shaking, so in university I always sat at the back of the class. Interestingly enough I've never had a burger in public because I know it would make me too anxious eating something messy and knowing that people might be looking at me! Anxiety can be incredibly mysterious sometimes
I'm definitely inspired to pay more attention to what my body does when I'm feeling socially anxious. I tend to have a drink to calm down, which isn't my preferred method. :/
Hi Jules, thank you so much for opening up about (social) anxiety, especially the 'weird' affects it has on your body. I totally relate with the part that in my mind I'm not anxious at all, but my body keeps telling me I'm anxious. I also get very tense muscles in my whole body, which sometimes makes me shiver. Also, even though I'm hungry, I can lose all my appetite because I'm feeling nauseous or have to go the bathroom a lot. I feel really embarrassed, because sometimes I cannot eat at all. Surrounded by people in a restaurant and a full plate, and not be able to eat, really makes me feel ungrateful and ashamed.
The thing that helped me is acceptance. Accept the fact that this is a part of me and accept that I maybe don't eat, or just a little bit. And I don't need to prove myself to other people or even myself.
Thanks again for talking openly about it, because (as you can read in the comments) a lot of people experience the same, or sort of the same, feelings. 🧡
So grateful for running into this vlog! I have something similar but my jaw tenses and locks up along with my shoulders. I end up looking so stiff and people tell me to loosen up like I have a stiff personality 😅 You totally normalized social anxiety and how our body naturally reacts to surroundings and I'm here for it ♥
Regarding the food and neck issue, it’s a nervous system response, which goes from the brain down the spine and vagus nerve, and thereby all organs and systems in the body. Holding something constantly creates a sense of safety. The spinal impact of tension often accumulates in the neck and upper back, so it’s totally normal that you experience this. I really value and appreciate your honesty about your personal struggles, it will help a lot of people. P.S. I’m creating my own TH-cam channel this year to educate and help people with brain-body challenges. It’s bern my profession for over 8 years now, I love this stuff! Sending love!
Yes, Jules! I totally get you my body definitely reacts like that. Thanks for sharing it sometimes I think it's just me but feels comforting that others also deal with this too!
YES!!! My body does exactly the same thing with social anxiety!! I’m sorry you feel that way too but it’s nice to know we’re not alone ❤
Yessss to the social anxiety physical response!! My jaw has a similar reaction. Thanks for sharing - feeling so seen!
Really happy that you share with us your experience with social anxiety. I relate a lot with what you said, my mind is like it's okay i'm having a great time with friend then my body as a completely different story... It's not always easy to be so conscious of it but I hope with time it will be less and less difficult 🥰
Thanks for sharing about mental health! It’s so easy for me to compare myself to you and think you have it all together and don’t struggle with anything so it’s a nice reminder that you’re human too:)
Totally understand about your social anxiety. I am the opposite. I can’t eat greasy food and I get nauseous so I pick a salad
Jules try “Rescue” of flowers of Bach, this can help you with your social anxiety ❤
Hey Jules, thanks for sharing about your social anxiety. When I feel stressed and anxious, it would trigger my TMJ more at night and my jaw would be locked for days. Would love to hear your updates on TMJ.
Thank you for sharing about your anxiety! I was just telling my husband that when I eat with friends (close or new) I feel like I cannot taste my food. I had no idea this was related to anxiety.
Hi Jules! I also have social anxiety and even though I don’t feel anxious my body is tense 😬 I also sometimes get neck muscle spasms if I push myself for too long, which are painful! I’ve never talked about it with others except my bf. But we definitely need to be more open about our struggles because it helps❤
I’m sorry you experience neck muscle spasms! Makes complete sense - from how tense our body might be feeling without us really even being aware. Thank you for sharing 💛 agreed it feels healing to talk about more!
Now that I think about it, I think I also have this and my tummy feels bloated as a manifestation of social anxiety. I love being alone and doing things by myself now.
Omg.. It happened to me a few times.. that when I go out and I’m with people my head is shaking when I drink and didn’t know why. Never thought it could be social anxiety till I saw your video. Thanks for sharing.
duuuude what a cool clothing line angle - as a half chinese new-mama who seriously needs to revamp her wardrobe now, ill definitely be taking advantage of this promo. also, sorry to hear about the anxiety troubles but you're on the right path first of trying to find the words to describe what you're feeling and going through
I never knew anyone else had the neck thing happen too!! You're not alone!
Hey Jules, ditto!; Love your vulnerability and authenticity. And thanks for inviting me! you and your rescue puppers, really motivated and inspired me to push through a dark time a few months back...then adopted a pitbull, who is the love of my life, Buddy da Bull, from an Asian girly, who took him in and nursed him back to health... She is the real hero, and to be quite frank, buddy really rescued me... So, stay tuned, because Buddy is going to be a star, build an army, and stop the neglect, abuse and senseless killing of our furry little friends!! With that said, you and that little firecracker, Cody Sanchez are aknowledged in the Business plan, book, and Story! I loved Cody's story, quick whitt, brillient business mind and principles...as for you, i love your humbleness, authenticity and your story on how you upped the grind, then started burn out, but was smart enough, and had the courage to shut it down, focus on yourself, and made the aadjustments, to came up with the winning formula for love, hapiness, and sucess-- its called a " lifestyle!" ...and "Queen of Notion!" lol ...Thank you...
Needed this to stay inspired and create. We all.need someone to bounce ideas off
the camera quality of this video 😍😍😍
I love your tote bag!
Im exactly the same way...i usually dont eat in social situations at all.
Blessings Jules, I love your videos, I hope you are well and happy, kisses from Argentina
I do have social anxiety I don’t know from moving to Germany in the midst of pandemic. I was a flight attendant where I meet people (strangers, colleagues, friends) on a regular basis, thought I would be you know out there after my big move. Then when I do get out there, I get flustered, heart’s racing and stuttering when I meet new people like I get a brain fart. Unless I’m in a familiar setting then I‘ll be all fine. That’s my struggle, Jules and I‘m embracing what I call it now my own social awkwardness. 🫶🏽
I can relate so much to what you are saying about social anxiety. My body also get tensed and the bad thing is that it does that even if I'm having a lunch with all my close friends.
My hands start trembling and I have a hard time controlling my neck. I feel like everyone is watching me eat which makes it even worse. When I was a student going to a canteen was such a struggle.
Thank you for speaking about it as it was the first time I heard someone having the same experience with social anxiety as me. ❤️
Ah, thank you so much for sharing -- yesss the trembling, feeling like everyones watching (even tho they aren't!).. I can relate to you. It happens to me with close friends too sometimes... out of the blue. I don't get it!
@@julesacree Yeah, and it's like the more you want to control it and make it stop the worse it gets 🙈
Thank you for sharing! For me, it's my hand that shakes. It actually "snaps" when the fork or spoon is near my mouth so that whatever I'm eating spills 😆 At the end of the night out with friends, I would also be cold and clammy and shaking all over 🤷🏻♀️ Thanks, social anxiety!
I experience this! I also fidget a lot and worry about my facial expressions 😂
lol - I am 100% your friend who said "can you turn the phone this way"
I’ve developed social anxiety over the years with certain situations. It does affect our bodies and mind, especially where our body holds tension. Have you tried fascia work? It can really help release things we hold in our body….which is one root cause. ❤
I have social anxiety and when I'm feeling anxious I get the jitters and quiver/shake from inside out...I move faster and am clumsier. Sometimes I don't get these symptoms until after the event is over as well. It's like I held myself together when I needed to but then all the shakes had to come out and did so afterwards (this can be a bit scary when it starts while I'm driving lol!)
oh gosh yesss this too on holding yourself together! thank you for sharing! If I have to go to a work event where I only know 1 or 2 people and have to socialize with strangers, I'm scary good at "turning it on" and pretending like I'm not actually freaking out inside hahah...
I am so proud of Love, Bonito as a fellow Singaporean. Originally from Singapore making its way around the world, loveeeee their clothes and how it complements my short height and shape! Just a bit sad that they don’t ship to Germany. 😢
Singapore has suuuuch good style! A lot of my discover feed on IG is fashion from there! Hopefully they open up more shipping in the futureee
I get very nervous eating around people I don't know well so I'm starving by the end of a meal. I'm just nervous all the time 😅
Yes, I’ll be physically sore once I’m home
Thanks for the video!!!! Is there an app where we can look for coworking people. I live in Seattle and would love to work with someone that loves the coffee shop noise as much as me 😅
Oooh I wonder if anyone here might know?!
For your clothing haul did you order mostly small? Just for size reference thanks!
I ordered xs in everything except the jackets! Jackets I ordered small
Ah I can understand you very well because I have social anxiety too and my body shakes and I can't breathe and I get diarrhea (apologies for saying this) So I ddon'tave any friends anand Iate to go out 😔😔
I love you tote where's it from? X
Maybe you are an “empath”, which means you absorb the feelings of others around you and that is why you start feeling anxious for “no reason” when you are with many people and your body is telling you that with the sensation on your neck and so. Hope it helps!
i've never thought of it that way! i definitely consider myself an empath (and an HSP) 💛
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Such a great pLatform for females! Is it only for US based? 🥲
I get a headache every time after I socialize because my neck and shoulders are stiff the entire time, even if I don’t feel like they were. It’s so frustrating and exhausting!