Most Single Men Are BLINDLY Missing This
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Updated thoughts: For some guys who are very in-touch with their feminine sides- they have lots of female friends, they are prone to being "friendzoned", etc... this message may not be the best for you. For guys on that end of the spectrum, it may be best to distance yourself from some females and get more in touch with your masculinity. Everyone is at different places in their lives.
We're all just human beings. :)
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90% of my friends are women. I made this realization many years back, that if I only see women as a means to express my sexuality, then I am always in a state of resistance with women and will therefore reinforce my being single. I think the next step with this for most guys will be to not be friends with women just because you know it will bring you more women in the future. Establishing those genuine connections, and doing it from a genuine place is the only way to go. But if you enter this “being friends with women “just so you can get more women later on, that will also backfire on you. Great video and message Luke!
It should be a nuanced mixture of the two. If you're only friends with girls because you think that it'll get you laid, you're going to be creepy and desperate, because, well, you are. But it's key to understand that you CAN get girls through being friends with girls, at least it's worked for me in the past. But I was friends with those girls because I genuinely liked them, and in return, I got set up with someone else. It's about being honest, and genuine with your intentions.
I LOVE the comment Seth! That's a profound realization you made several years back! Completely agreed about genuineness is the only way of being. I wish I clarified that in the video. Thank you for sharing your thoughts brother! :)
Wait.. do you just randomly go up to them and start talking? For example if you are in college. It's easy to say to just go up to a girl and talk but it isn't that easy isn't it?
ZmTopReasons, talking to girls is as hard as you make it. Obviously, there are different social contexts that make it easier or harder, but if you know how to present yourself in different situations, it all really comes down in your willingness to be exposed to potential embarassment or rejection. It's never as bad as it is in your head, just have to start taking small risks and you'll get used to it.
I find it tough to just be friends with women because they always seem to be/get attracted to me sexually. Maybe I am good looking, or something, I don't know. But I think if you have the quality of being a guy who is fine "just" being friends with girls, it's bound to make a lot of girls attracted to you. I mean, it must mean you are really confident, because your life doesn't circle around getting laid. Girls dig that, and not a lot of guys have that quality.
Dude nofap is making me feel hella good, feeling like my old self again. Ty @GoldJacketLuke for the motivation.
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How did you stop
We're all just human beings. :)
Updated thoughts: For some guys who are very in-touch with their feminine sides- they have lots of female friends, they are prone to being "friendzoned", etc... this message may not be the best for you. For guys on that end of the spectrum, it may be best to distance yourself from some females and get more in touch with your masculinity. Everyone is at different places in their lives.
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2nd video I watch of yours. And you’re right! I read this book called “Sextimacy” that’s speaks about when women resort to sex, when in fact they want true intimacy, a sense of deep connection that is emotional, psychological. But so, one thing the book suggests for women who struggle with this, is to make friends with boys. Just be friends. The point is to get familiar with knowing how to build bonds beyond sex, and you can do this with anyone, like you said. It is good practice though to do this with the sex your attracted to, to help your sex problems. And this helps with self esteem too! It makes you feel like you have more to offer. Yeah. Enjoying what you have to say, I’ll stay tuned!
Very interesting! That makes sense! I appreciate the comments Daniela!
Thanks Luke! This is the truth and may potentially be life changing! I need to open up and give everyone a chance.
Thanks for commenting Luke & all the best to you!
You’re an ever flowing source of wisdom. Thanks man
All the best to you Solution!
Very good advice
Thanks man🌸✌
This opened my mind so much
Spot on man, totally makes sense.
Thank you for your work, Master!
I started the nofap (that is related to that topic) at more less same time as you and I say the same things you do to my friends since then.
They understand but they do nothing to change their situation.
I think it's a long run work for some people and too difficult to change their way of viewing women, sexuality and life, sadly.
I really want to believe that together we will make a difference.
Greetings from Portugal
Best thing is to live and inspire by example, and "be the change we want to see in the world"! Very cool you are going solid on nofap and that we have similar mindsets! Best of wishes to you Zuhri!
Very good points! He is one of very, very few coaches in this area that emphasizes the need to actually appreciate women and to have compassion for them. It's easy to see a few girls laugh at a guy in a bar and then conclude that all women who go to clubs are mean -- but it takes courage to admit that most of these guys were hurtful to the women nearby whom they never even acknowledged. As Perrion pointed out regarding this specific topic, these women who don't have the stereotypical looks want and deserve to be noticed. The lame, cold PUAs will say ' befriend the group's as if these women are objects to be swatted down. Its sad... I'll stop now. Thanks for posting this!!!
miss you Luke!
Amazing to see your evolution over these 5 years. Interesting to see where you go in eternity.
Haha I appreciate is Seth! :)
Great video! btw the hair is really looking good on you
Thanks Enna! :)
I bought Cupid's Poisoned Arrows and I'm half the pages into it! DUDE, now I get why you were so enthusiastic about it! I GET IT! Thanks for recommending it!
Awesome Shamil!!! :)
This is a great concept, Luke, will definitely try talking to women more
Awesome!
great vid.
just try to socialize with everyone you come into contact with and you will build your skills that way if you are having issues.
social life is vital to a healthy human mind.
cheers!
Nicely said Aden! :)
Thanks Luke! Pretty cool to see a direct comment from you.
female energy is yin and male is yang. Combine the 2 to create oneness.
But remember.....even in this oneness still lies..........yin and yang.
Great video
Great video Luke
Ty for commenting!
Yes bro...I totally agree
Your doing awesome stuff brutha, love watching these abroad vids
BUUUUUUUUUUUCK! Miss you brother!!
You’ve helped me much in my journey. Thanks Luke & shout out to McKenzie Scott
Very good video as ever Luke! Where do you currently stand with your spirituality and what are your general thoughts on spirituality nowadays? Would love to see a video where you address this
Thanks Richard!! Thanks for the video idea, will keep this in mind! I made an instagram post a couple days ago about faith / spirituality :)
Well I have no friends at all
Well who said i want friends?
I'm 30, introvert and i feel pretty good
Once again ppl being fukn judgemental coz they are different to u. Ffs .. everyone’s different. No one needs certain things like friends or a girlfriend or female friends or any of that shit. Some ppl dont want friends for 1 reason or another and that’s completely ok. Stop telling ppl wat they need to do and just concentrate on urself.. and stop bein so fukn judgmental.. no ones perfect and everyone is different !!
@@SimonB.
I have friends, but a very small circle and I'm happy. I'm introverted and extroverted, so I'm an ambivert.
BTW, I'm 18:)
Awesome hair
youre so right
35 and never had a girlfriend? Doesn't sound unusual at all, more common than we think, it's quite obvious as to why its always been more common for men than for women for cases like that to happen
That's so spot on ... super true
It's perfectly fine to have lots of friends of both genders, but I'm rubbed the wrong way by the implication that there's something wrong if you're happy to be a loner. There are those of us who value our independence and solitude, without being uncivil toward anyone, of course.
Woah woah woah. In no way, shape, or form did I imply that there's something wrong with being a loner. If you enjoy the life of solitude, than do you brother! But I would be remissed if I didn't say that I hope one doesn't rationalize not getting out of their comfort zone because they hide behind an identify of "a man of solitude", when deep down they'd appreciate more companionship or intimacy in their lives. Through effort and getting out of our comfort zones, more intimacy and fulfillment in our relationship lives is very real and doable. Thanks for commenting and wishing you all the best Mike!
OK, OK, OK. I apologize if I inferred something that you did not mean to imply. I’m just tired of seeing men criticized for not wanting “more intimacy and fulfillment in their relationship lives.” We aren’t necessarily “hiding behind” anything. In my own case, I had to leave two good women broken-hearted in a cloud of my dust (after non-intimate romances) because they were eager to marry me, and I was unwilling to hand over the rest of my life to anyone. I decided that I wasn’t going to hurt another good woman like that again. So, I made peace with my solitude, and I’ve been happier for it ever since.
No traumas, and no need for shrinks! I was raised an only child, so I've always been independent. My romantic relationships were non-intimate because I and my girlfriends were Christians who didn't believe in premarital sex. I have plenty of male and female friends, but I live my life, and I let them live theirs. I couldn't be happier with that.
Such a quality video thanks for sharing Luke! My late father always said treat all women equal as all women, even ones that are not attractive have attractive friends ;) This is not the point though, every woman you talk to is a stepping stone to the next. Share your energy guys, be fun, love everyone. When you smile the world will smile back! Woman really appreciate guys who treat all women with respect and they notice! Any beautiful woman worth anything wont want to be with a man who looks down on women who he merely finds inferior. Its funny because i have gone out solo once, and that night i was terrified, but because of a girl i met a few weeks back who by the way was not attractive noticed me at the bar, she introduced me to her friends and we had an insane time not to mention i went home with one of them who happened to be attractive.
Anyways, Luke you have made being chilled and grounded insanely cool and attractive (no homo) but no offense to anyone who happens to be gay xD. Keep being real guys, we live in an ever changing and fake world supported by social media and fakeness as well as porn addiction! Be the change
In my 20s I had the same opinion. And it worked out. But in your 30s, it changed. You learn that most of your friends, male and female, get married and than the friendship stops. And a 35 year old man is just not on the level of a 24 year old woman. Having female friends is a phase you should go through, but it will probably end.
Why the fuck am I missing this.I have to admit that i blindly missed this as the title says,and god dammit, I knew it was useful to have female friends,but i never thought of it this way,i wish i realized this before.Thank you.
Hey man keep growing your hair! I think it will look very good
Thanks brother! :)
I personally think guys with long hair don't look that classy. had long hair myself was like a 5/10. Got a haircut 7/10 srsly though. I thought I was ugly and a few months after my new haircut I got my first gf and she was super hot lol
I've got one really good female friend who I've known for 6 years. I notice I connect really well with women. Honestly, It's pretty nice haha.
Nice 👍
Do not give false hope to the others, and avoid being bothered by them, cause many will bother you as long as you are giving them hope.
Dude, i'm always shy around girls sometimes. If they talk to me i can adopt pretty quickly but most times i really don't know what to say lol
I did acid with 3 girls. Worst day ever. I feel like I was not that happy when I had lots of girlfriends. A good male friend is so much more valuable
Fake: Having lots of girlfriends.
Gay: Says a good male friend is so much more valuable.
Very interesting , i'll try it! I don't really have any female friends and i'm single since more than 3 years... Thanks for the tip my friend ! Btw i'm on day 49 in the NoFap mouvement! :D
If you've never had a female friend, nofap isn't going to help that it's probably just going to make it worse just a heads up. That's just my opinion though, I find I get way too horny when I'm nofapping. I think it's better to do once you actually have made female friends because then you're not going to be as tempted to go after them if genuine friendship is your true goal.
Awesome LeGars!! And awesome about 49 days of NoFap!! Great work & keep it up brother! 💪
@@wolfmayner6274 huh? I dont think thats true lol. Nofap builds confidence to talk to women and make friends man
@@ghostpepper6763 exactly. Atleast he said it's 'his opinion'.
Yep, nofap definitely encourages social interaction and builds confidence / character! But Wolf does have a point that one should be careful that because nofap makes us extra horny, to make sure one don't escalate with a women who deep down they'd rather only be friends with. Gotta live our lifes with our hearts and intelligence leading the show, not our penises! :)
damn, that's true, never thought about that but i've actually never had a female friend :c Thanks Luke)
Best of wishes to you Polloten! :)
Women whatever standards you have also make sure you yourself can reach them if you have a preference
I had a quick gf 3-4 years ago. I’ve never been the guy to make friends w chicks. It bothers me to get friend-zoned, been there. I have this battle between if saying they’re cheating lying ho’s who have no value, then I don’t too or take it for what is and swallow that hard pill. I think I m turning to the dark side.
This is a real struggle for me. I have an easy time relating and associating with other dudes because we have common interests. With women though, it's like, what do I have in common with them? And that is also a fear I have: being friendly to a girl that I am not attracted to and her then thinking that I am romantically interested when in reality I'm just being nice, and then having to reject her and, therefore, the relationship is forever poisoned by rejection.
Most women are good at reading vibes, body language, and intention. And they are so used to friendzoning guys, that it really isn't an issue that you might have to reject them. Especially as also it's usually the guy's role to initiate a move. So don't worry about having to reject a girl.
I've tried hanging out with women a fair bit lately. I've also realized I'm attracting women I don't find attractive, but nonetheless I still enjoy the conversations I have with them. For me, I'm not really worried about not having women in my life (this might have something to do with the fact that I've had 4 sisters, and I'm used to women being in my life), but I am worried that I won't have a happy relationship(s). So for me, I still love hanging around with attractive women, sure, that's cool. However, I also know that many attractive women are not always lovely. They don't always have your best interest at heart. Some of them want power in certain situations, and these could be the MOST attractive women. But some women genuinely do want to share their life with you, I believe, somewhere inside of me. So it's all about feeling what you feel from the other person, feeling their intentions, feeling if they really want to spend time with you, or if they just want to use you for some other reason. I'm experimenting with hanging out with women, although I'm doing it at pubs, and through drinks, so there is still fears when interacting with women from a sober place. I'm at least interacting with women more (pat on the shoulder).
Very cool comment Cameron! Nicely said about feeling their intentions. All the best to you!
Dude, you're in Thailand right now? I live in there. How is it going on in Thailand?
damn that guys hair is epic...
Many of you just need to stand the test of father-time. Once I hit 30 things are definitely improving with females, its almost like leveling up to a new tier of talents. As long as you're doing nofap, eating well, exercising and going on adventures to improve your character then you'll be fine. There are a whole score of attractive ladies in their 30s as well you know? Maybe the young-lings just aren't for you, perhaps you should try some aged wine?
Awesome Michael. I talked about that phenomenon (of doing better with age) in this video: th-cam.com/video/x9MDDdgWmPE/w-d-xo.html I appreciate you contributing your thoughts!
You have very good voice bro, I think its because of nofap, cause mine gets better too.
Congrats on moving to Thailand man :)
Ty! :)
Hey Luke! Great video. I need your help brother, I am constantly having nocturnal emissions and I am tired of them. I realize that if I wake up before 4 am (REM sleep cycle) I don't have any but sometimes I slip and continue sleeping which causes me to have them. Is there any way to fix this? Thank you so much.
Hey Hari! I definitely plan on making a video on nocturnal emissions in the future. I've started a script actually, but my thoughts on the topic are still developing. Tricky subject. In the meantime, perhaps practice more meditation to have a more pure mind. I have nocturnal emissions too and I'm still learning how to decrease them haha. May be a couple months before I make that video. In the meantime if they do happen, don't take them too seriously. Maybe even try to see a sense of humor in the occurence. But I do think there are ways to reduce / eliminate them though... If you find something that helps you reduce your wet dreams, let me know! Wishing you all the best!
Thank you Luke. Here is a wonderful video you can listen to before you go to bed to improve your sleep. th-cam.com/video/pXyBRZ6ocPU/w-d-xo.html
I try to go to bed at the same time (10-10:30pm and wake up at 3:30am) however if I close my eyes again I tend to fall asleep and that is when my nocturnal emissions occur. I believe if I can start my day from the moment I wake up instead of staying in bed I can eliminate nightfall for good. I hope it works for you too! Cheers brethren.
Agree. I’m a girl and have lots of guy friends . No problem to be friends with you guys
Beauty needs an observer, to exist
Should 63 million subs
Hey can you talk about sexual transmutation? It’s very interesting and I want to hear u talk about it and more ppl need to hear about it
Good advice Luke. Having female friends has transformed my entire social life, and it makes any romantic endeavors much more successful.
Great to hear Brandon!! :)
any tips on staying on nofap? ive tried to quit porn for 2 years but i keep going back , my record is 23 days and normally it just last a few days
Here's my number 1 tip: th-cam.com/video/nyLXaUbwv2U/w-d-xo.html
Yeah pick up a sport/art form or anything for that matter that requires 100% discipline ...why not start working out ? Get a beginners work out plan free online and stick to it.....You lack ''discipline'' my friend ,So find something that requires it and it will bleed over in to other areas of your life ......You can do it brother ,i believe in you :)
I saw a random comment from you on a vegan video, from like 2 years ago, lol. Are you still on the diet?
kinda getting some jonny depp vibes from your friend there lol
you have a point but i try to avoid all people and be home allday 24 7 by myself..... i know its weird but idk
Maybe you'd enjoy talking to a therapist?
I'd also like to throw out there, aside from my first comment, that if you look at any guy who's very successful with women, it's very rare to find one who's banging every single one of them, and doesn't have any girls who are just their friends. One of the keys to being successful with women, in my opinion, is being able to "use" them to your advantage, as twisted as that sounds. At the end of the day, it's better to be the guy who has a couple of girls who friendzoned him, or a couple of girls who you're friends with who you're not attracted to in any way, than being the guy who's either too weird or too stubborn to be just friends with girls, and never talks and/or interacts with them platonically. There's a sort of sixth sense that you lose when you've been too detached from feminine energy, you start to get too serious, you forget how to flirt, you get sort of stuck-up and lose part of what makes you masculine. Funny enough, once I started befriending girls my first year of college, one friendship lead to another, and then another, and eventually I was put on a blind date and ended up meeting this girl who ended up being my girlfriend for 3-4 months, all because I let myself get "friendzoned" and the girls I met wanted to set me up because they thought I was cool. Don't underestimate the benefits of having girls as friends, it's always better than having none.
I don't like what you say about "using" girls. Not at all. One should be friends with a women because they genuinely enjoy their company. There should be ZERO manipulation or disingenuousness. However, I really like what you said "don't be the guy who is too stubborn to just be friends with girls" (I used to be that guy) and how guys can get detached from feminine energy and just turn weird. Those were both excellent points. Very cool how you met that girlfriend. Thank you for contributing your thoughts Wolf!
I absolutely agree, it was definitely a bad choice of words and not what I really intended, I'm just not sure how to put it. I think a better way of saying what I meant is that men should be aware that if they want to find a girlfriend, one way that can happen is by meeting a lot of girls as friends, and then expanding their social circle through those people. If you have a one track mind and try to go after every girl that's around you, you could be missing a lot of opportunities because the girls you meet will know a LOT of girls that you'll never have the chance to meet if you don't befriend them or alienate them by pursuing / hitting on them when they're not interested. Genuineness is key though, if you're truly just using them, you're going to come off as desperate and selfish.
You can turn charm on and off. I do it all the time. I turn it off when I want to conserve my energy. It's draining to be on all the time and I don't have time to be friends with everyone.
That said, the underlying point of this video is true, you shouldn't just be turning on your charm when you find a girl you really want as a girlfriend. If you are doing this, it means you are trying to impress girls into liking you and that either doesn't work or you will attract toxic women who prey on overly needy men.
I love having women as friends. Ever since I began having female friends, it not only improved my dating life but also my career. I'd say 50% of my friends are women.
Good thoughts. Thanks for contributing!
That’s tru dude i feel like it’s draining to give attention to everybody so I save it for women I find attractive
Are you in Thailand? The trap land?
Hey Luke, I have a question. You say to get out there and make more female friends and to be genuine and see them as regular people etc . Just like the clip illustrated so well. This video suggests that men and women can't be just friends (it's a short couple min if you can watch): th-cam.com/video/T_lh5fR4DMA/w-d-xo.html
The reason why I sorta agree with that video is because I've had a couple female friends and every time I get close with them, I automatically end up developing some sort of attachment to them which I don't find happens to my male friends. This can be for various reasons. I'm sure you might think it's because of the way I view women, but I try to get to know them genuinely and I don't ever plan on dating them etc. The feelings just naturally come on their own. So my 3 part question is,
1) is it possible to just *feel* the friendship feelings and not the attachment/romantic feelings?
2) if yes, how would I achieve this?
3) How do I deal with the feelings that come naturally?
Goldjacketluke is the reason why I’m 32 days into no fap. I’m planing on being a interstellar fapstronaut.
Is Zan Perrion Johnny Depp's brother
Good
I think it is connected to the fact some guys in highschool were the last cookie in the box and there was only the unwanted girls for them. It passes trought the age.
There is always time to improve and improve one's character, beliefs, and self-esteem!
Yes sure, but sometimes its hard. But definetly believe this video is a way to that. You cant turn on and off charm.
Yep. Best of wishes to you Mario!
I havent got any female friends even though i would like to have .
that dude explained everything from the clip. you didn’t add anything.
However, on the flip side of this, if you make lots of female friends and deny your sexual desires, well then you risk being friendzoned. You still need to have an element of mystery about you.
ive got an equal ammount of both to be honest, and I've had boyfriends and girlfriends, I've even had amazing Karezza with an ex parter (ex quickly after we broke the rule and orgasmed), I don't think the message from the cool guy is to befriend more women, it's to treat everyone as a lovable human being to form a connection with. physical attraction is just another false alure. you will find yourself falling in love and seeing beauty in "ugly" people, if you treat them all as beautiful, including sexual attraction.
I've been single for like 3 days though and trying to recover post-orgasm this relationship is pretty fucking horrible. we're both blocked, out of sync, hateful. I hope we recover from this. if not im confident i can find someone again.
I must be honest though, masturbation is a great way to get over someone, but should we really get over people? man im caught up in this love game. wish me luck.
Love what you say about treating everyone as a lovable human being! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I'm sure you will recover from this breakup! Things take time, it's only been 3 days haha! Best of wishes to you Bradley.
I am a very introverted person and i have a hard time to talk to anybody if not for a very good reason (like romantic interest). I know that this is not very fortunate but really, really struggle with it, try to force myself to socialize because i have no friends and am very lonely but i have to force myself, its against my nature (and i assume people feel that). I would prefer to have female friends. Cant get along with men at all. Again not interested.
Yeah true but... What about self-sabotage
You cannot turn charm On or Off...... that hit me
So true👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
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I disagree. I used to have lots of female friends- infact most friendzoned me and that is how I gathered a huge collection. It actually hurt me more than it helped. Women just wanted to be my friends, but not girlfriend. And i am talking of all sort of women - from 3-10 on scale. I got fed up, severed ties with all female friends over a year now. I feel peaceful. I was basically acting as an emotional tampon for all my "women friends." I have completed isolated myself, MGTOW and have accepted my position in society. The woman friend theory only helps if you are an attractive guy (good looking face and decent body). That opens your doors for more women through contacts and keeps your social skills uptodate. If you are an ugly, hideous looking guy like myself, all you will gather is more and more women friends- they would NOT introduce you to their woman friends. You know why? Let us say Sarah is your friend. Becky and Jane are single women who are friends with Sarah. before introducing you to them, she will show your photo and obviously, they would not find you attractive. Thereby, you will not get anything out of it. If you are an ugly guy, it is game over for you. You can do all the BS that you speak here- get women friends, be social, be charming, be witty and approach more women "be confident." It will only give you false hope, mirage and never ending rejections. I have been there and done all of that from age 24-32, with zero success. If 500 women have rejected you, 10000 more will. Attraction and dating is basic human behavior. If you have it that hard and cant even get an average woman like you, it is over for you. Better to accept reality and sign off from the game and society. Isolation is not ideal nut at least it does not hurt. Not everyone is born handsome. It all boils down to LOOKS LOOKS LOOKS. If you pass looks test, then money and status matter to decide what quality women you would get (a waitress or a secretary vs a doctor or an executive). As simple as that. Please do not misguide men. It hurts.
Sadly true. You either are liked by women or your are not. Looks are the most important- face matters the most. If you have good looking face, you will have no problem in getting a GF, even if you are a bit short and are not very athletic. Even God cannot save you if you are born with a hideous face. (deep placed eyes with black circles below, bulbous nose, small chin). I know this from personal experience. 3 of my friends have exactly the same social status and money as me- all of them are 5-9 ' tall or 5-10; at the best and have average to thin bodies. But all have cute faces as they are repeatedly told by women. None of them have gone without a GF even for 3 months at a stretch in their adult life - from age 21- 35 now. On the other hand, I have only had one GF whom I dated for 3-4 months at age 32. Other than that, my whole life has been TFL and being "single" and rejected. I am 6-2' very athletic but I do not have a good face. It is game over for me. be it online dating like match, or tinder. Be it social events like houseparty or drinks with other friends' friends. Be it workplace. Be it bars and nightclubs. ( I have been told on face by drunk girls at nightclubs MANY times- stay away from me, I do not find you attractive- who is your cute friend standing at the bar? )- When I used to visit nightclubs in the hope for chasing mirage. Every time, my friend will walk out with a girl and I will be walking alone at home- jerking off. Finally I have given up. I am a born loser. An ugly piece of shit not worthy of natural selection and love. Peace.
So What? What is the next best alternative?!?
Josh Journeys : Well there are 4 alternatives :
1) Accept that you are ugly and not attractive to women. Mature to understand that modern western women are not worth the mental anguish. Focus on career development, savings and develop hobbies. Get a dog. Travel. go MGTOW monk. This is the best option.
2) Accept that you are ugly and unattractive. However, if there are some physical traits which are potentially reversible, work on them. For example, if you are 6 feet plus tall and have a good wide bone frame but are fat and have ugly face. You can improve looks by getting ripped and by plastic surgery route- nose job, chin job , teeth alignment etc. This will work if you are dedicated and have money/time, provided you are tall and have a wide bone frame to build muscles. I am working on this right now.
3) If you are ugly and short with thin frame, (less than 5-10 or so), and still crave pussy, either go sugar dating route (if you have money) or visit legal brothels in Europe/ Asia.
4) Consider moving to a rural part of a developing NON-feminist country. You will find a decent woman there who will like you for who you are, assuming you are not grossly obese or too short. As long as you are an average guy with a regular job, getting a regular average GF is fairly simple and easy in non feminist countries - in rural areas. Women there have somewhat realistic expectations unlike in the west where hypergamy is out of control.
Be ready to give up American lifestyle for peace and love- which you will find in these countries. However, do NOT bring that woman to / western world/USA - she will change quickly and monkey branch as soon as she is exposed to feminist cancer. Be ready to settle down in her home country with her- she will respect you, love you and you will have a good family life. Choice is yours.
Other than that, you do not have any other option- unless you won genetic lottery at birth.
That's fucking true bruh. I know a girl who's 2(looks scale) on her best day and on top of that she's fat. She's still get a dude that can get any bitches if he wants. The only thing he lacks is financial status.
Yep- Women have so many options, thanks to online dating apps. Even an handicapped fat woman on a wheelchair can get way more decent matches (men 5-6/10) matches than a 6/10 type guy on tinder or bumble. It is a reality.
I don't know how to make friends with women...
The only problem is demand > supply.
I think there's a lot of truth to this. In highschool I had 0 female friends, and only 1 girlfriend for a month. In college, when I learned to be around girls and appreciate them just as people and not all as sexual conquests, I started to do better. I think a lot of guys struggle with the idea of being in the friendzone though; they think that if they're attracted to a girl, and don't pursue them sexually, they shouldn't be friends with them because it would be "dishonest", or perhaps they asked them out on a date and were rejected, and they think that they shouldn't keep that person around as a friend because it would be too "frustrating". It's a tempting mindset, but it's easy to overlook and forget the fact that having girls around you just as friends gives you an invaluable entrance into the mind of women; how they think and interact with one another, how they talk about men, and how they actually behave in their daily lives. While just having a bunch of friends who are girls won't magically make you an attractive guy, or get you out of the "friendzone" beta status, I think it's incredibly hard to go from being a guy who's not very good with women and has no girls who are friends, to going to a guy who is very attractive to women, without first accepting them as friends before trying to move forward and pursue things sexually. If you've never had girls as friends, and you've never had a girlfriend, it's going to be very hard to learn how to get laid if you can't even be around women and not be anxious, uncomfortable, or straight-up weird. That can only be fixed by spending an amount of time with women that you can only really achieve if you're willing to spend time with them as friends. After all, unless you're in the top 5% of attractive guys (and you aren't), there are always going to be more women that aren't attracted to you than are, that's just a fact of life. It's not a curse though, we should all learn to make the most of the situation that we're in.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Wolf! You have some very valuable thoughts. I'm sure some people who read your comment will benefit from them! Best of wishes to you brotha!
So many comments below this video are helpful🙌🙏
Well girls hang out with other girls, because they talk about the same thing and can easily relate with eachother. Same with guys/men. Hang out with who you get along with, plain and simple\
I can be friends with an unattractive woman but once I realize she likes me we ain't friends no mo.
But what if most of your female friends have no female friends.
Hangout with your female friends because you enjoy hanging out with them. That's it. Being genuine is the way to live life. You're not hanging out with them to get anything out of them. Also it's just good and healthy to be around feminine energy! I mentioned the female friends can introduce you to other females because that can be a bonus.
@@GoldJacketLuke holy shit you replied haha, yes of course.
So be a slave for women is basically what he means?
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oof i dont ever had any female friends after the age of like 9 ?
holy shit o.o now everything makes sense especially w how i objectify them all oof
im 27 btw ... man i feel dumb right now
27 is still very young! Best of wishes, hope you make a female friend/s!
Men and women cant be friends , its comman sense unless shes a business partner
I disagree, men and women can be friends, even if they're attracted to eachother. It's a mark of maturity that two people can be friends for the sake of the positive influence they have on eachother without having to push things forward just out of temptation and lust. Of course, if the relationship is truly one sided, it's not healthy, but in my experience, being friends with girls who I was attracted to but knew I shouldn't pursue made me learn to appreciate women more for who they are as people and less as purely sexual objects. After all, we're attracted in one way or another to any of the people we bring into our lives, especially the opposite sex if you're heterosexual, there's no way around that. I don't think it's a good idea to cut yourself off from a number of potential positive relationships just because you think you're too horny to be a good friend.
Scott you responding to me or OP?
I think not to you Wolf, you telling the true! Its really how you say "appreciate women more for who they are as people" !!!
I think it's impossible for men and women to be friends without at least one feeling some sexual attraction, but they certainly can make just being friends work with maturity and respect.
Wrong
Moral of the story.. get back to the plantation.. 🧔🏻 no thx
female friends....very bad idea.
I disagree with this.Sadly many attractive woman will think less of you if they see you socialising with unattractive woman. They will see you in turn as lower value because you are talking with lower value females.
Conversely if you are seen talking with attractive woman then other good looking woman will see you as a high value male.
When i was young and good looking I always tried to be seen with good looking girls, even if they were just friends. Other good looking girls gravitated to me because of this.
This is not my rule it's just the current social dynamics of the western world so don't shoot the messenger, it's the truth..
*women
I think most women would think you're a cool and social person.
If some of them would think they way you described, then you wouldn't want them in your life since they're probably very judgmental people.
Bro eat something you're so thin
If u leave the man bun and shave the sides youll be 10 times hotter, not tht you care tho #nohomo
Haha. Well my head shape is kind of long... so if I shave the sides it would emphasize my long head haha and look awkward, so I don't want that. My plan is to let the sides grow longer so I can put them in the bun too soon. Thanks for your thoughts haha.
THICC
Bro eat something .You are so thin
Im so attracted to you