I'm going to be in Cebu this January and the Philippines for a month. It's good to know that there are pleasant, honest, well-spoken, thoughtful (and attractive) Filipinas like Jenny. I hope that I am blessed to meet someone so interesting, so honestly vulnerable, so aware of what she desires. As she says, it's how you respond in the moment that counts. The momentary patience, the allowing the woman the space and the time to respond to a simple 'hello,' is such sage advice.
John, she is a very high value Filipina and is a breath of fresh air with flawless english communicating skills, she might have been raised in the US and is very attractive. She comes across as a Career executive, focused, no wasted words, on point the list is long.
Ate Jenny is a very good friend of mine and yes she is a kind,wonderful,talented and a cheerful person that I have ever met in my life..one of a kind women ❤
I appreciate her openess, wisdom & humility, she's a smart & kind lady. It's a fun discussion, but usually only bubble gum for the ears, what I mean is, asking a woman what she wants or how women operate isn't helpful cuz they don't understand themselves. They can parrot back what they've heard, but it is only a guess, as they don't understand themselves. This woman is surprisingly insightful.
Wow, Jenny is extraordinary. She’s intelligent, articulate and beautiful. I can see why most men would feel a bit intimidated approaching her. Jenny seemed really confident, and comfortable in the interview which makes it hard for me to imagine her feeling awkward. I really appreciate that she was able to evaluate her thoughts and body language when approached at the coffee shop. The foremost takeaway for me is in understanding how important it is to make any conversation comfortable and flowing. Thank you both for the video!
Hey John, this is the first time I viewed your channel, and your interview with Jenny was absolutely amazing. I’ve been watching TH-cam videos for three years, and it’s the first time I’ve ever heard the term cheetahs and turtles. Now that I have heard it, I classify myself as a turtle. The reason being, I’ve been to the Philippines four times The longest stay was for 30 days and have only been on two dates. That’s because I’m very particular, and looking for women wasn’t my primary focus. One thing for certain, two things for sure: I am looking for a turtle, someone like Jenny-well-spoken, very confident, and very attractive. Keep up the good work, brother.
A different kind of video and conversation. An excellent and refreshing interview and conversation. I haven't watched your videos in awhile but doing interviews like this makes me want to watch more. I think in fact that I will watch that Chita video right now.
That was one of your best interviews yet, dear sir. And to Jenny, let me say that you are incredibly impressive in your command of the English language, maturity, high-level defensive, thinking. I hope that many foreigners get to listen to this. But I would agreewith the theory that you intimidate guys. Absolutely. You would intimidate guys in the United States. Anyway, great great interview thank you so much for sharing.
Thanks John, great down to earth conversation about concerns we all have about trying to meet a genuine, quality long term partner that’s right for us. It really is tricky trying to meet the right life partner as we get older. You both seem like wonderful people. 😊Thank you for sharing Jenny, you are amazing, so smart and beautiful. It’s really about chemistry, luck and timing. All the best, Charlie
She seems very sweet, caring, intelligent, and kind, but I am watching her body language and it screams assertive western women. I think that she works in a authoritarian role in her job which in turn translates into her everyday life and body language and it’s more than likely why it seems to push guys away because they think that she is high maintenance or like western women, but I don’t think that she does this intentionally and probably isn’t aware of how she is perceived or projecting this through her body language and inflection in her voice when she speaks. It’s nice that you brought her on so we can see how sweet she really is
Modestly dressing is a sign that you are a lady and that's a very good thing, but it also says you might not need a man to provide and protect which is a fundamental trait for them. Unfortunately, being focused and on a mission may put out a slight masculine energy. Men are simple, they need respect, support, peace at home and affection. In my opinion focus on filling those gaps in their lives. Best of luck!
What they need to do is EARN all that instead of assuming it's a birthright. Men are TRAINED by society to think their MAIN goal in life is to protect. They are not taught how to treat their women in away that opens THEM up. If you dont respect women as individuals that deserve as much respect as a man then its unlikely your going to get what you want in return.
She simply describing the differences between males & females, our communication styles are different. When a woman judges a man through a feminine perspective, she's only going to be confused. But still, I'd totally approach her! It hasn't happened to her cuz I haven't been around her haha! I mean this with the utmost respect
Jenny is extremely attractive, and she is intimidating. She is pretty, smart, articulate and probably has a good career. So guys wonder why she would be interested in them. Also, if you are familiar with MBTI, my guess is she is an INTP and the whole romance thing and other social situations seem like a mystery to her, you can see her trying to analyze them like she wants an if-then flowsheet so it will make sense. I say this because I'm an INTP.
Interesting. I think a lot of the guys who come are so burned out by "career" women, they're looking for someone with more time for them and to commit to a family or relationship rather than building some sort of life around money. Coming retired then seeking someone who doesn't have an open or flexible schedule is problematic.
Great subject/follow up to your cheetah vlog. Jenny has a combination of characteristics that makes her very attractive. I hope you let her know this. Great questions (and answers). I hope you include Jenny more for Q&A. For example: "Would a young, intelligent and independent Filipina, still be open to an age gap relationship with an educated foreigner"? ..."Churtles" !!
When a woman puts up her wall, i walk the other way. But she is correct, all you really have to do is say hi, and compliment a girl, and it will usually get them talking if they are interested. then get straight to the point and ask the girl out. I always give the girl my #, and tell her if she would like to get coffee, feel free to text me. I'm not forcing her to give me her #, and leaving the ball in her court.
@@jenoz4731 Jen, I've been proud of you long before this video was made. You don't need to prove anything. You are and always will be, beyond amazing! 😍🙌
I like Jenny's perspective. I think it would be difficult to meet a turtle like her with the shields up, but I would like to. She seems like a good person.
Seems like a good person to me too. But to date? To share a home with? Every time she doesn't get her way she says you're just intimidated by her. That gets old fast. There are many women like her in the US. Why move half way around the world to be with a woman you can find in the US. If you think you have a shot with her but not in the US you're mistaken. She's a seriously top shelf woman...but is still single but looking. When you approach she'll dismiss you the same as the women in the US do.
@@waterbug1135 HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Ya know On all these philpines blogs I hear the same tired crap. WOMEN ARE MEAN . WOMEN THINK THEY ARE BETTER THAN US. Women take advantage of us and steal our money. They think they are better than us. NOT ONCE in my life have I ever heard this kind of talk from women. NO one has ever insulted me or disrespected me. Maybe because I respect them back?? Maybe because I dont take umbrage if I am not what they want??
Jenny gives me hope that once I move there in several months with patience it is possible to meet a beautiful & smart Filapina with a wonderful vocabulary. Finding a partner who can engage & have good conversations is vital for a relationship for myself to be fulfilled. Jenny in case you are now taking applications now that you are famous haha, I'm 40 & will be moved there permanently in roughly 3 months. I too have been an awkward turtle so let's bump shells lol. Ok I ruined it already x(
Very intelligent, but sadly affection is probably lacking in her life , most likely a family trait. She's unsure how to give or receive it. She's very clear that she wants it but it's seems foreign to her. This is a characteristic of many Ph.D families.
😂 Right? Whenever a guy isn't interested it's always because of a flaw in the guy. Lol not that it can't be it's just that women always like to make themselves feel better by shifting any responsibility to character flaws in the men. 😂
Actually I saw her blaming herself more than any guy. She said BOTH sides have flaws. Both sides have insecurities. FLEXING??? HAHAHAHAHAH I saw no flexing. I saw a woman comfortable in her own skin discussing men and women approaching each other in a candid way. I watched it 3 different times to try to see flexing and I never once saw it. We all perceive what we perceive. I also never saw her shift character flaws to men. I saw a woman trying to figure out why communicating can be difficult. Not that MEN DONT KNOW HOW.
I just now read a comment here - the guy said he'd NOT approach her ! INTIMIDATED ! 😅😅😂 SOME just don't feel they are confident enough to approach some women! 😅
Another really good video. I’m becoming a super fan of your channel and this is just me. I’m not looking for a relationship if it happens it happens I can tell you this. I would prefer the turtle over a cheetah. I dealt with what you might call super cheaters over here in the west for years, and been there done that not interested in it I was a much better man when I was married and in a family situation then left to my own devices. Just leave it at that.
Man.... if they think you are too strick, I don't stand a chance... your about as easy going as it gets.. As.far.as the woman you interviewed, she is a real woman. Why men don't ask her out is beyond me. Pretty, smart, classy, shows good judgements... what's not to like?
@@FreeAmericanSpirit I agree, She can be high maintenance, but she has class and personality.. She is not the " little wife " type. Many guys come to the PH dreaming of becoming Archie Bunker, well - she is No Edith.
@dovoso5685 She does not appear to be high maintenance to me at all. Quite the contrary, it is the lose women are high, maintenance, and full of Drama. Who every marries this lady is in for a very peaceful life, providing his values line up with hers...
I have been a successful business man all my life - love is like business -there are too many low hanging fruits to try to convince a women to like you.
I think she has to loosen up a little. Not in a bad way. Otherwise a man won’t reach out to her. Start by putting a warm friendly smile on her. Don’t be so uptight.
Please have here on again she is amazing smart pretty and a different perspective. I have a take on this . Most Western men have been " scarred " with Western women so when they meet a turtle who also a educated professional woman most Western guys my say to themselves oh she might be Westernized and move on .
If the lady seems busy, introduce yourself. Say you would like to get to know her. Offer your phone number. Then let her continue on about her day. No harm, no foul. Even if dad is there. She may call, she may not. But you will have put her in a better mood for the day and not come across as creepy or needy.👍
A light approach to a woman like this: "wow, I like your watch! It's so unique...". If she replies "thank you", but immediately goes back to pecking her phone, she is not interested. If on the other hand she says "thanks! I bought it at x. It's a little weird, but I feel it fits me!", then she is open to chat.
At 22:00 he touched on a topic that I don’t think she gave an adequate response to. ‘Dating to marry’ is a ridiculous idea to me. How can you date to marry when you won’t give a guy a chance to get to know you before hand? It’s like signing the last page of a contract before reading the contract. Many turtles here in the Philippines are single mothers… who now what to date to marry… that’s like putting the cart before the horse! I’m not bitter or angry here… just pointing out the silliness of the situation.
She seems like the dream to me, but she is going to have to find some outside interests that allow men to get to know her, because she isn't the type of woman men feel comfortable approaching on the street or in the mall, and I honestly don't think she would find the type of man that does approach her that way to be very interesting. She's going to want to talk about books, or music, traveling, or some obscure hobby that engages her intellectually and that likely isn't going to be a guy that is comfortable just approaching women.
Sure, how a 'cheetah' dresses may catch my eye quickly, but so does the white stripe of a skunk. Or the bright colors on a poisonous snake. It means STAY AWAY. I have never, nor ever will pursue a cheetah. Anyone who can say 'I love you' in a day means they can say 'I hate you' the next day. Don't need that type of individual around me. They display (in my experience) lack of critical thinking, unable to take any sort of criticism. Are shortsighted. And definitely always want to be in the spotlight. Does that apply to other cultures? I really don't know. But I would have to think that behaviour is fairly universal, regaurdless of where on the planet I am.
Lots of filipina's in Australia i have been to the Philippines many times & have spent lots of time there NOT chasing young women i have never met a shy filipina turtle.
Filipinas are not shy… they say they are… but I think it’s an excuse. Look at the average woman in the street or mall…The way they dress and carry themselves. The way they will almost walk right into you at the mall. The way they will yell songs into any microphone at any occasion. They scream LOOK AT ME… but when you do… ‘I’m shy’…. It’s kind of silly to me.
Well spoken, intelligent, she seems to be the type I would go for. That is, except for the vibe I get ...... Of course I might be wrong, this is just a first impression based on what she is saying and her body language in this interview. She's too much in her head, if I was trying to connect, I would not feel her attraction to me even if she was attracted. I would be just like the guy who walked away after giving it a shot.
Having the "im dating to marry" mentality sounds to me like putting the job before the person. Make sense? I mean i meet someone and then im thinking about getting married not the other way round
I met a srunning 40 year old lady in a coffee shop in Manila. . She said she lived on ine of the islands and was in manika on buisness Result is we are in a committed relationship. As well as looking after ne she is very successful, selling and developong land. Her clients can be ve senuor givernment peiple. So yes you can neet the high achieving filupinas
She appears to be very westernized. Could run into her in a Starbucks in Los Angles California. Yet she is obviously educated and intelligent. Not the kind of girl I’m used to seeing on this type of foreigner in the Philippines channels. I’m intrigued. There are women that have attractive figures that get a lot of male attention. They don’t respond when casually spoken to in public. There women who are outgoing with everyone they smile and say hi to random guys. Doesn’t mean their interested in you. There are women who give you a side glance, then walk up and try to get you in a conversation. I like these, but wonder what’s the motivation? There are women who like this woman, try too look on a mission, walk fast, look straight ahead, stone face. I don’t even try to interact with this type. They are saying, Stay away”. It’s funny guys want to go get a slow woman in the Philippines that is not like western women that have rejected them. Philippine women, seem to want a better life. They want to be more like western women. Perhaps this woman is like that. It’s like the couple is on a collision course. And the danger is after the collision the parties keeps moving in different directions. Do we really want to end up with a westernized Philippine wife? 😊 It’s complicated, but slow , yet warm women are better than fast women in my estimation. Too fast into things is normally a mistake.
I feel like this woman is struggling to find a man is because of this personality that she has cultivated. She acts very business workplace professional in her personal life outside of work it seems. She is not intimidating, most guys are just not interested in that. There is a lack of malleability in her personality. She did say she is guarded and thats fine, in todays dating world you almost have to be. But that strict you know business like personality will not play while when trying to meet a man.
Like her who can travel outside the country through her work status and knows stuffs abroad, we'll, for sure she will chose to date fellow filipino men who has a good career and she can live like a queen with household workers, nanny ,and driver.
My fear of approaching a professional Filipina with a good job would be thinking she has many options among men. Why would she want a foreignera 20-25 years older?
Come on, John, can’t we see those sparkles in your eyes? Hmm? Or is the sheer radiance of your host leaving you dazzled? Don't worry, mate-blink twice if you're overwhelmed! 😏
I don’t understand the full story. She just needs to market herself on dating apps as a “trad” and if she’s a virgin she needs to hint at that as half the guys will be willing to “pay more” and invest knowing she hasn’t muddied her waters 😂 And I hope she can be ok with an older guy. She’d have no problem as obviously she seems to not have anger issues and is very very mature ( which a lot of older men look for is peace and quiet ) I think she’s fighting against thinking relationships are this wild thing when a healthy relationship is most times stable and quiet.. And definitely she needs to just find a date online and talk and video chat till she’s comfortable as maybe she’s thinking she’s going to find a relationship out there. Just use the tactic that works and she can easily find someone online as it’s “her style”
To interview only one/1 turtle (cheetah) says nothing about the entire turtle (cheetah) population !!! Thats why I hate such interviews. No offense to the young lady. Please give me pie charts, I love statistics.
Older expats, do you see? Why go to bars or look for young exotic Filipinas? In 98% of the case, the young Filipina is not in because she likes you or plans to stay with you for ever. Do you see? Plenty of very nice older Filipinas who are smart, nice, educated and well to-do. If you like her and she like you, neither you nor her will not dump you another men/women.
No, thank you. I met my girlfriend at a bar, and I'm proud of our 31 year age difference. She's not Filipina, so there's no Christian nonsense to contend with.
@@HemiChrysler Good luck to you. I did not say it never works, with a much younger Flilpina, but most of the times it does not work, eventually. But I honestly wish you the best luck and a happy future together until the last day.
@@HemiChrysler Please allow me to reply with all humility and respect: Christianity isn't nonsense. God loves you beyond what you can comprehend, Jesus sacrificed Himself to die for you, someday you will stand before God, I pray before that time you are able to develop a personal relationship with your Creator.
She has a certain swag that she carries that breeds success. She's slayin' it.
I'm going to be in Cebu this January and the Philippines for a month. It's good to know that there are pleasant, honest, well-spoken, thoughtful (and attractive) Filipinas like Jenny. I hope that I am blessed to meet someone so interesting, so honestly vulnerable, so aware of what she desires. As she says, it's how you respond in the moment that counts. The momentary patience, the allowing the woman the space and the time to respond to a simple 'hello,' is such sage advice.
Try to go to Iloilo too, there's a lot of young gorgeous educated filipinas in that island. Probably the whole Panay Island.
Well said! Thank you for sharing.
John, she is a very high value Filipina and is a breath of fresh air with flawless english communicating skills, she might have been raised in the US and is very attractive. She comes across as a Career executive, focused, no wasted words, on point the list is long.
Hi Charles, thank you for sharing and much agreed
Ate Jenny is a very good friend of mine and yes she is a kind,wonderful,talented and a cheerful person that I have ever met in my life..one of a kind women ❤
Thank you for the kind words, Bon!
I appreciate her openess, wisdom & humility, she's a smart & kind lady. It's a fun discussion, but usually only bubble gum for the ears, what I mean is, asking a woman what she wants or how women operate isn't helpful cuz they don't understand themselves. They can parrot back what they've heard, but it is only a guess, as they don't understand themselves. This woman is surprisingly insightful.
She's a gorgeous, well-spoken woman, John 😊 !nice video
Thank you Weng! Hope you are doing well.
Wow, Jenny is extraordinary. She’s intelligent, articulate and beautiful. I can see why most men would feel a bit intimidated approaching her. Jenny seemed really confident, and comfortable in the interview which makes it hard for me to imagine her feeling awkward. I really appreciate that she was able to evaluate her thoughts and body language when approached at the coffee shop. The foremost takeaway for me is in understanding how important it is to make any conversation comfortable and flowing. Thank you both for the video!
Hey John, this is the first time I viewed your channel, and your interview with Jenny was absolutely amazing. I’ve been watching TH-cam videos for three years, and it’s the first time I’ve ever heard the term cheetahs and turtles. Now that I have heard it, I classify myself as a turtle. The reason being, I’ve been to the Philippines four times
The longest stay was for 30 days and have only been on two dates. That’s because I’m very particular, and looking for women wasn’t my primary focus. One thing for certain, two things for sure: I am looking for a turtle, someone like Jenny-well-spoken, very confident, and very attractive. Keep up the good work, brother.
Thank you for sharing your story and for your kind words! Happy to have you here.
A different kind of video and conversation. An excellent and refreshing interview and conversation.
I haven't watched your videos in awhile but doing interviews like this makes me want to watch more.
I think in fact that I will watch that Chita video right now.
Glad to hear that. Thank you for watching
Smart, calm, and beautiful. This was very educational!
Good description of Jenny. Thanks for sharing!
That was one of your best interviews yet, dear sir. And to Jenny, let me say that you are incredibly impressive in your command of the English language, maturity, high-level defensive, thinking. I hope that many foreigners get to listen to this. But I would agreewith the theory that you intimidate guys. Absolutely. You would intimidate guys in the United States. Anyway, great great interview thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you my friend. Considering I've interviewed you more than anyone on the channel, that is kind of you to say.
Thanks John, great down to earth conversation about concerns we all have about trying to meet a genuine, quality long term partner that’s right for us. It really is tricky trying to meet the right life partner as we get older. You both seem like wonderful people. 😊Thank you for sharing Jenny, you are amazing, so smart and beautiful. It’s really about chemistry, luck and timing. All the best, Charlie
Thank you Charlie I appreciate that!
She seems very sweet, caring, intelligent, and kind, but I am watching her body language and it screams assertive western women. I think that she works in a authoritarian role in her job which in turn translates into her everyday life and body language and it’s more than likely why it seems to push guys away because they think that she is high maintenance or like western women, but I don’t think that she does this intentionally and probably isn’t aware of how she is perceived or projecting this through her body language and inflection in her voice when she speaks. It’s nice that you brought her on so we can see how sweet she really is
Modestly dressing is a sign that you are a lady and that's a very good thing, but it also says you might not need a man to provide and protect which is a fundamental trait for them. Unfortunately, being focused and on a mission may put out a slight masculine energy. Men are simple, they need respect, support, peace at home and affection. In my opinion focus on filling those gaps in their lives. Best of luck!
What they need to do is EARN all that instead of assuming it's a birthright. Men are TRAINED by society to think their MAIN goal in life is to protect. They are not taught how to treat their women in away that opens THEM up. If you dont respect women as individuals that deserve as much respect as a man then its unlikely your going to get what you want in return.
She simply describing the differences between males & females, our communication styles are different. When a woman judges a man through a feminine perspective, she's only going to be confused. But still, I'd totally approach her! It hasn't happened to her cuz I haven't been around her haha! I mean this with the utmost respect
Jenny is extremely attractive, and she is intimidating. She is pretty, smart, articulate and probably has a good career. So guys wonder why she would be interested in them. Also, if you are familiar with MBTI, my guess is she is an INTP and the whole romance thing and other social situations seem like a mystery to her, you can see her trying to analyze them like she wants an if-then flowsheet so it will make sense. I say this because I'm an INTP.
Jenny…thank you!
Interesting. I think a lot of the guys who come are so burned out by "career" women, they're looking for someone with more time for them and to commit to a family or relationship rather than building some sort of life around money.
Coming retired then seeking someone who doesn't have an open or flexible schedule is problematic.
Well then they likely shouldn't be looking for a woman of her age or educational level.
John is a very cool cat. I’d be intimidated by the camera and the babe.
Lol, great comment.
She is wonderful, completely intimidating and I would never approach her.
Joking?
@@waterbug1135 Nope
I'll give you points for honesty. Understanding it is the first step in defeating it
Great subject/follow up to your cheetah vlog. Jenny has a combination of characteristics that makes her very attractive. I hope you let her know this. Great questions (and answers). I hope you include Jenny more for Q&A. For example: "Would a young, intelligent and independent Filipina, still be open to an age gap relationship with an educated foreigner"? ..."Churtles" !!
I wonder what her age is
A very mature and impressive young filipina woman
Much agreed. Thank you for watching
exactly
When a woman puts up her wall, i walk the other way. But she is correct, all you really have to do is say hi, and compliment a girl, and it will usually get them talking if they are interested. then get straight to the point and ask the girl out. I always give the girl my #, and tell her if she would like to get coffee, feel free to text me. I'm not forcing her to give me her #, and leaving the ball in her court.
I’d say turtles are endemic to the West, cheetah’s in the East. How do you tell a uninterested Filipina from one who’s interested, but just a Turtle?
I can see that
That's MY GIRL! 💁👸 - Janice Perez
I know it is ☺️Thank you for watching!
I hope I made you and the rest of the turtle population proud, Jan! #savetheturtles
@@jenoz4731 Jen, I've been proud of you long before this video was made. You don't need to prove anything. You are and always will be, beyond amazing! 😍🙌
She's really great but considering my age, I would love to meet her mother 😊 Thank you for sharing .
Appreciate you watching and for your support
@@WatchCaliforniaExpat You are welcome. Maybe there should be a special site, just for Turtles...
I like Jenny's perspective. I think it would be difficult to meet a turtle like her with the shields up, but I would like to. She seems like a good person.
Seems like a good person to me too. But to date? To share a home with? Every time she doesn't get her way she says you're just intimidated by her. That gets old fast. There are many women like her in the US. Why move half way around the world to be with a woman you can find in the US.
If you think you have a shot with her but not in the US you're mistaken. She's a seriously top shelf woman...but is still single but looking. When you approach she'll dismiss you the same as the women in the US do.
@@waterbug1135 HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Ya know On all these philpines blogs I hear the same tired crap. WOMEN ARE MEAN . WOMEN THINK THEY ARE BETTER THAN US. Women take advantage of us and steal our money. They think they are better than us. NOT ONCE in my life have I ever heard this kind of talk from women. NO one has ever insulted me or disrespected me. Maybe because I respect them back?? Maybe because I dont take umbrage if I am not what they want??
Hi John, Jenny is really impressive. Is she on any dating site ?
Jenny gives me hope that once I move there in several months with patience it is possible to meet a beautiful & smart Filapina with a wonderful vocabulary. Finding a partner who can engage & have good conversations is vital for a relationship for myself to be fulfilled.
Jenny in case you are now taking applications now that you are famous haha, I'm 40 & will be moved there permanently in roughly 3 months. I too have been an awkward turtle so let's bump shells lol. Ok I ruined it already x(
Very intelligent, but sadly affection is probably lacking in her life , most likely a family trait. She's unsure how to give or receive it. She's very clear that she wants it but it's seems foreign to her. This is a characteristic of many Ph.D families.
Or maybe she simply hasn't met the man who gets her yet and lets her blossom in a different way. TRUST is a key word for her.
I agree. She's lovely and looks like a gf/wife material. I'd love to know her more but I'm based in Manila.
@@mmchannel8056 I agree
She is super impressive. Such an interesting interview.
Agreed, and thank you for your kind words
Guys are not intimidated..... Why do women think this??? They just do not want to deal with the BS......
😂 Right? Whenever a guy isn't interested it's always because of a flaw in the guy. Lol not that it can't be it's just that women always like to make themselves feel better by shifting any responsibility to character flaws in the men. 😂
@@mattizzle81 It's flexing. 'I'm so impressive guys can't handle it." Some guys do it too.
Actually I saw her blaming herself more than any guy. She said BOTH sides have flaws. Both sides have insecurities. FLEXING??? HAHAHAHAHAH I saw no flexing. I saw a woman comfortable in her own skin discussing men and women approaching each other in a candid way. I watched it 3 different times to try to see flexing and I never once saw it. We all perceive what we perceive. I also never saw her shift character flaws to men. I saw a woman trying to figure out why communicating can be difficult. Not that MEN DONT KNOW HOW.
I just now read a comment here - the guy said he'd NOT approach her ! INTIMIDATED ! 😅😅😂 SOME just don't feel they are confident enough to approach some women! 😅
just interact in an organic, natural way. Its so simple.
EXACTLY. Keep your ego out of it and simply communicate.
Another really good video. I’m becoming a super fan of your channel and this is just me. I’m not looking for a relationship if it happens it happens I can tell you this. I would prefer the turtle over a cheetah. I dealt with what you might call super cheaters over here in the west for years, and been there done that not interested in it I was a much better man when I was married and in a family situation then left to my own devices. Just leave it at that.
Thanks for sharing some of your story, and for your very kind words and support. I really appreciate it.
Awesome!
Man.... if they think you are too strick, I don't stand a chance... your about as easy going as it gets..
As.far.as the woman you interviewed, she is a real woman. Why men don't ask her out is beyond me. Pretty, smart, classy, shows good judgements... what's not to like?
Men do not ask her out because they realize she is over their league .
@dovoso5685 maybe a couple. But I think most men want the easy girls to satisfy their short term desires...
@@FreeAmericanSpirit I agree, She can be high maintenance, but she has class and personality.. She is not the " little wife " type. Many guys come to the PH dreaming of becoming Archie Bunker, well - she is No Edith.
@dovoso5685 She does not appear to be high maintenance to me at all.
Quite the contrary, it is the lose women are high, maintenance, and full of Drama.
Who every marries this lady is in for a very peaceful life, providing his values line up with hers...
Great conversation 👍🏿
I have been a successful business man all my life - love is like business -there are too many low hanging fruits to try to convince a women to like you.
I think she has to loosen up a little. Not in a bad way. Otherwise a man won’t reach out to her. Start by putting a warm friendly smile on her. Don’t be so uptight.
First comment!!!
I'll have to think about what your prize will be :)
Please have here on again she is amazing smart pretty and a different perspective. I have a take on this . Most Western men have been " scarred " with Western women so when they meet a turtle who also a educated professional woman most Western guys my say to themselves oh she might be Westernized and move on .
If the lady seems busy, introduce yourself. Say you would like to get to know her. Offer your phone number. Then let her continue on about her day. No harm, no foul. Even if dad is there. She may call, she may not. But you will have put her in a better mood for the day and not come across as creepy or needy.👍
A very impressive young lady
Yes she is, thank you for watching
A light approach to a woman like this: "wow, I like your watch! It's so unique...". If she replies "thank you", but immediately goes back to pecking her phone, she is not interested. If on the other hand she says "thanks! I bought it at x. It's a little weird, but I feel it fits me!", then she is open to chat.
At 22:00 he touched on a topic that I don’t think she gave an adequate response to. ‘Dating to marry’ is a ridiculous idea to me. How can you date to marry when you won’t give a guy a chance to get to know you before hand?
It’s like signing the last page of a contract before reading the contract. Many turtles here in the Philippines are single mothers… who now what to date to marry… that’s like putting the cart before the horse!
I’m not bitter or angry here… just pointing out the silliness of the situation.
There are not enough jobs or not much of a middle class in the PH, so more desperation
Another insightful interview John, great job . I think I may be a CheeTurtle...not sure !😂😂
Glad you enjoyed it. Nothing wrong with being a CheeTurtle ☺️
If I could be guaranteed to meet someone like her, I would go to the Philippines. I just cant do the online LDR thing.
I’d like to meet that turtle.? That is when I get over there sometime next year.
She seems like the dream to me, but she is going to have to find some outside interests that allow men to get to know her, because she isn't the type of woman men feel comfortable approaching on the street or in the mall, and I honestly don't think she would find the type of man that does approach her that way to be very interesting. She's going to want to talk about books, or music, traveling, or some obscure hobby that engages her intellectually and that likely isn't going to be a guy that is comfortable just approaching women.
Sure, how a 'cheetah' dresses may catch my eye quickly, but so does the white stripe of a skunk. Or the bright colors on a poisonous snake. It means STAY AWAY. I have never, nor ever will pursue a cheetah. Anyone who can say 'I love you' in a day means they can say 'I hate you' the next day. Don't need that type of individual around me. They display (in my experience) lack of critical thinking, unable to take any sort of criticism. Are shortsighted. And definitely always want to be in the spotlight. Does that apply to other cultures? I really don't know. But I would have to think that behaviour is fairly universal, regaurdless of where on the planet I am.
There is a very lucky man out there some where who gives Jenny a chance.
absolutely.
Lots of filipina's in Australia i have been to the Philippines many times & have spent lots of time there NOT chasing young women i have never met a shy filipina turtle.
I like her so muchh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks Marie!
Agreed!
Hi, Marie! Thank you! 😘😘😘
Do think it has to do with the Filipina clamming up because they are shy. Can relate. Thanks for the video, John...Jim
Filipinas are not shy… they say they are… but I think it’s an excuse.
Look at the average woman in the street or mall…The way they dress and carry themselves. The way they will almost walk right into you at the mall. The way they will yell songs into any microphone at any occasion. They scream LOOK AT ME… but when you do… ‘I’m shy’…. It’s kind of silly to me.
Well spoken, intelligent, she seems to be the type I would go for. That is, except for the vibe I get ...... Of course I might be wrong, this is just a first impression based on what she is saying and her body language in this interview. She's too much in her head, if I was trying to connect, I would not feel her attraction to me even if she was attracted. I would be just like the guy who walked away after giving it a shot.
great vlog
Thank you!!
Having the "im dating to marry" mentality sounds to me like putting the job before the person.
Make sense? I mean i meet someone and then im thinking about getting married not the other way round
I met a srunning 40 year old lady in a coffee shop in Manila. . She said she lived on ine of the islands and was in manika on buisness
Result is we are in a committed relationship.
As well as looking after ne she is very successful, selling and developong land.
Her clients can be ve senuor givernment peiple.
So yes you can neet the high achieving filupinas
Shes rocking it🎉❤
So so sweet lady. Its almost a crime for the world to not to have a a man besides her😮
She appears to be very westernized. Could run into her in a Starbucks in Los Angles California. Yet she is obviously educated and intelligent. Not the kind of girl I’m used to seeing on this type of foreigner in the Philippines channels. I’m intrigued.
There are women that have attractive figures that get a lot of male attention. They don’t respond when casually spoken to in public.
There women who are outgoing with everyone they smile and say hi to random guys. Doesn’t mean their interested in you.
There are women who give you a side glance, then walk up and try to get you in a conversation. I like these, but wonder what’s the motivation?
There are women who like this woman, try too look on a mission, walk fast, look straight ahead, stone face. I don’t even try to interact with this type. They are saying, Stay away”.
It’s funny guys want to go get a slow woman in the Philippines that is not like western women that have rejected them. Philippine women, seem to want a better life. They want to be more like western women. Perhaps this woman is like that. It’s like the couple is on a collision course. And the danger is after the collision the parties keeps moving in different directions. Do we really want to end up with a westernized Philippine wife? 😊
It’s complicated, but slow , yet warm women are better than fast women in my estimation. Too fast into things is normally a mistake.
I feel like this woman is struggling to find a man is because of this personality that she has cultivated. She acts very business workplace professional in her personal life outside of work it seems. She is not intimidating, most guys are just not interested in that. There is a lack of malleability in her personality. She did say she is guarded and thats fine, in todays dating world you almost have to be. But that strict you know business like personality will not play while when trying to meet a man.
Thats why she said she can learn from a Cheta
I believe she will be single for quite awhile because she on her mission. I don’t know what her mission is but she’s on one.
Like her who can travel outside the country through her work status and knows stuffs abroad, we'll, for sure she will chose to date fellow filipino men who has a good career and she can live like a queen with household workers, nanny ,and driver.
My fear of approaching a professional Filipina with a good job would be thinking she has many options among men. Why would she want a foreignera 20-25 years older?
When Filipinas get above a certain age here they are passed over so she may consider a older man that she clicks with not just someone with money
Come on, John, can’t we see those sparkles in your eyes? Hmm? Or is the sheer radiance of your host leaving you dazzled? Don't worry, mate-blink twice if you're overwhelmed! 😏
Lol, I'll get back to you on that one mate
Whoa! Such English!
I stand aghast that she is not married.
I don’t understand the full story. She just needs to market herself on dating apps as a “trad” and if she’s a virgin she needs to hint at that as half the guys will be willing to “pay more” and invest knowing she hasn’t muddied her waters 😂
And I hope she can be ok with an older guy. She’d have no problem as obviously she seems to not have anger issues and is very very mature ( which a lot of older men look for is peace and quiet )
I think she’s fighting against thinking relationships are this wild thing when a healthy relationship is most times stable and quiet..
And definitely she needs to just find a date online and talk and video chat till she’s comfortable as maybe she’s thinking she’s going to find a relationship out there. Just use the tactic that works and she can easily find someone online as it’s “her style”
Holy smoke! Unicorns exist.
Haha great comment
Cheetahs definitely don't take notes. 🤣
You two should date :)
oh nasty
Mitch people that don't know you are really going to not know how to take your comment 😂
Marry yourself
To interview only one/1 turtle (cheetah) says nothing about the entire turtle (cheetah) population !!!
Thats why I hate such interviews. No offense to the young lady.
Please give me pie charts, I love statistics.
Older expats, do you see? Why go to bars or look for young exotic Filipinas? In 98% of the case, the young Filipina is not in because she likes you or plans to stay with you for ever. Do you see? Plenty of very nice older Filipinas who are smart, nice, educated and well to-do. If you like her and she like you, neither you nor her will not dump you another men/women.
Very true. Thank you for watching.
No, thank you. I met my girlfriend at a bar, and I'm proud of our 31 year age difference. She's not Filipina, so there's no Christian nonsense to contend with.
@@HemiChrysler Good luck to you. I did not say it never works, with a much younger Flilpina, but most of the times it does not work, eventually. But I honestly wish you the best luck and a happy future together until the last day.
@raananh-w2j Thank you. I've never had a Filipina girlfriend, so I can't comment upon Filipinas.
@@HemiChrysler Please allow me to reply with all humility and respect: Christianity isn't nonsense. God loves you beyond what you can comprehend, Jesus sacrificed Himself to die for you, someday you will stand before God, I pray before that time you are able to develop a personal relationship with your Creator.