He Cried A Lot Today ..... This Process Is Stressful | New Routine | Simple Living Wise Thinking
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- He Cried A Lot Today ..... This Process Is Stressful | New Routine
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Hi friends, in this vlog I have shared a day in my life vlog.
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He is tooo small,I think it is too early,why you want to separate him so early from you,Let him be 3 atleast.These days parents want freedom,that is why they send babies to schools so early,they don't understand the soft mindset of babies,this affects them in long term,bad memories, insecurities develop in babies if they are so forced for schooling at such early age,I hope you give a thought to it and send your baby away only when he is actually ready,give him time atleast to be able to express what he feels in words
Sorry dear my way of thinking is different and I think so now in India also people send their kids to preschool as kids can learn to socialize also .I don’t agree with your way of thinking . And there is nothing harm in sending a kid for 3 hrs . Dont know which world you all live in live🙄🙄
@@SimpleLivingWiseThinking we live in real world but women today are so much in reel world..gali gali preschool isilye khule Hain coz they are seeking opportunity from women who are trying to get freedom from kids at home,social development ho ya koi bhi development ho Ghar se accha kahi kuch nahi ho skta toh develop confidence in children,Puri zindagi social he rhna hai unko,but aap apne bacche ko dusre baccho se torture kra k aur bite kra kr social skills develop krna chahte ho then good for you..Agr preschools itne he zruri hote to 90s kids k time kyu nahi thy,kyunki that time mothers took responsibility of complete development of child instead of others..I've done my doctorate in child's pedagogy and development and that is why was trying to make you understand it's not good for your Lil baby.. Don't go by what duniya is doing..Baki Experiences might teach you ❤️🩹
I am a educator working at childcare I can understand how you feel ! I can give you easy tips
For starting make his days 3 , first week give him 3 hours only
Second week increase one hour
Then third week maintain the timings which you suits better to make timings like 8-3 or 8:30 to 3 or according to their morning tea and lunch timings.
When dropping cuddle him and hand him to the educator and leave and don’t try to look through the window as kids knows parents will look through the windows they always looking through the door where parents drop them.
Try to tell them his comforts things what he likes that would be helpful for the staff members .
For eating it takes time when they start eating in groups .I can say first month is crucial kids when comes at toddlers age they used to of the environment at home it take time to adopt new environment.
At home tell him and make him ready look you will go to daycare , you will make friends play there tell him about the play area and the activities inside the room , believe me communication is the key .
You are a great mama your concerned it’s natural ask as many questions with the educators until you satisfies.
For me my two kids went to daycare at age of 15 months and 3 years I have experienced both I never gave up when my child at 15 months take 2 months to settle down I send him don’t take him out and once he settle down its easy for me later on when they starts kindergarten as they would be use to of the environment they pass the emotional separation anxiety and they love to be social and independent. Love and all the best to you in this journey take care 😘
V well said
Very sound advice. I am sure it will also help other parents who are in a similar situation.
Very well said and try to tell him mummy will pick you up soon because sometimes kids think that mummy will not come back to pick up. It’s really difficult in the beginning but definitely in long run it’s really helpful for kid’s development .
They develop their food choices too .
My child went to childcare at 6months which was very difficult for me in the beginning but know she doesn’t want to stay home 😂
Don't feel sad payal slowly slowly sid will adjust give him some time n he will be ok god bless ❤reena from mauritius
Do not send him to pre school before 3 years, children cannot tolerate emotionally being away from mother for that long when they are below 3
Yes, expected reaction from Sid but our heart will be in our mouth seeing the crying. But he will get used to it quickly. It's like my kids on the first semester in college and living in their dorm as freshman. Every weekend "Mom, can I come home this weekend?!". I would say 'sure, why not!!' After 3 months, they stopped asking me and stopped coming home until semester ended. They got used to new life and routine!!! Happens!!🤣🤣
you are home all the time, he is not even 2 yet, what was so rush to put him in day care full time. You need to ease up on cooking, outing, this much of food & cooking is not even needed. I understand if you were working mom, meaning had to go to work every day, you can even reduce on daily vlogs. I would say, this is the time, spend time with kid, rest of the family should help in daily chores.... take care
I agree. But she is an older mother and has her own travails which younger mothers may not understand. To each his own.
I am an older mother too. So, that is just an excuse. Being a mom means we give up some of our outings and trips. I am 40 and I too live in USA…mom of a toddler. Although I am well to do, I have raised my own kids without help because I don’t trust anyone else with my kids. I used to love her channel, but lost all respect when she chose laziness over taking care of her own kids. I mean, if you want to enjoy yourself, don’t have kids. It’s that simple. I understand moms who need to go to work and put their kids in daycare. I would never put my kids through this just so I can go shopping. Daycare is for moms who need it so they can work..not for moms to free their time for shopping
Hello, daycare is not just for moms who need to work. She has made a decision that works for her. Everyone has a different perspective, I put my children in "school" at 2 yrs old, they went every other day for 4 hrs....this was for my mental health and it did not make me any less of a mother. Bonus was that it allowed children to gain much needed social skills to help them thrive today.
If you can manage for one more year ,wait ,just a suggestion only Payal
After all from 3 years they will be in school only
Let this time you both enjoy staying together
Absolutely he is not ready. It will teach him Learned Helplessness. Being an at home mother what’s the hurry anyways. 😢 Sad.
@@earthmedicine27she is not home. She is also home making an earning. Its not easy having a toddler while you work trust me
@@Vibrantmealways24 not at all she is very very hardworking and loving mother,its not easy to work as a content creator,its just because she doesn’t have proper help and she gets exhausted with so many responsibilities she is looking for other options
@@Vibrantmealways24 Are you a mother? Do you watch Payla's vlogs regularly what makes you think she is lazy, she works so hard for a family, cooks takes care with a good outlook. We can voice our opinions but cant directly attack a person like a a mean person right?
Girls are emotionally more mature right from the beginning - boys grow up into men but they will are in a way more vulnerable n sensitive as children- give him all the love n attention you can give - these ages of 1-5 are when their psyche develops n I cant stress the importance of protecting that - these healthy formative years will result in emotionally healthy sound young adults is just my humble advice
😂😅aajka vlog dekhte huye Sara time main hasti rahi❤tum bahut jyada sochti ho,thora to royega, tum sabko chorke pahli barr akela ho raha hain,kuch time ke liye hi sahi.Rai to bahut help karti Hain tumhe, jab woh free ho , bhai ko dekh legi.love❤❤ you Payel
One more thing, don't take it negatively but when you buy stuff for Rai don't always buy for Sid . Now he is small he won't understand but as and when he comes to an age where he see when Rai didi gets stuff he also gets it then later if you don't want to buy his unnecessary purchase, it will be difficult to handle. Trust me it will be easy for you....I have seen siblings where ek keliye buy Kiya toh dusre ko bhi chahiye and this is not their fault hum he unhe unknowingly aadat lagate hai ....this message is not to offend you just think as if a friend giving Inputs to another friend.
For Sid I hardly purchase anything and see they both has a huge age gap so Rai shouldn’t feel always that she will always get stuff along as it’s builts a realization also that she has a sibling and both are equal .
@@SimpleLivingWiseThinking I just told as I saw at my friend's house happening, if it works for your family that's great.
I know dear 😘
Sid will be fine after few weeks he should be okay after that, if he doesnt then you will need to see why, right now he will be okay in the end. Half day is perfect.
Hi Payal
I can totally relate. Give a week and see. He will go happily after that. I sent my son when he was 13 months old. Took a week for him to get familiar. Now he doesn’t even say bye to me. He is very happy and love his daycare. All the best and hope Sid settle down easily.
Hello dii❤.Sid r tomader new journey start.1st day Chilo tai eto kadche. Sotti go khub kosto hoi.tomar moto amio khub emotional. Mon kharap koro na adjust hoe jabe.valo thako sabai tomra.❤
Don’t worry dear . He will adjust after some days.
Don’t worry di. Sid will start loving his daycare in a month. And the kind of development social and verbal that you will notice in a few months is incredible.
And don’t worry about people who criticize you. Most of them don’t know that the social environment in India and US is very different which is why kids need daycare to be around kids their age❤️
I know that people who don’t live here don’t have any idea and we don’t have any family member to help us so we need help from outside and it’s fine and being in social media for such a long time I know different people has different way of thinking .
I can relate to this feeling. My child used to go since he was one and half almost Sid’s age. He used to cry a lot and I used to cry out side in a car too. 😢. And I always reminded him that I am coming back to pick him up soon. And I never sneak out without saying buy and giving him a hug. And gradually he started enjoying at day care and there was a time when he always wanted to play little more when I go to pick him up.
Kids love to be around with the same age children.
Don’t worry .. he will be okay after a while ❤ this is good for socializing .. I did that with my son too
I can understand how it feels...Sid will learn slowly ..as it is very new for him ....Sab thik ho jayega as u always say.❤
Nice vlog.
Good decision, they need to socialise at young age. In India it is easy for kids to see people around but in western countries , its the best option in case they have no siblings of similar age groups
I know as a mom it is emotional moment but that’s how life is payal our blessings to Sid and you take care.
Such a emotional time it is when sending child to school❤, it will get better Payal.
Don't worry Sid will get well adjusted with the new school. Just give him few days time, he will simply make lot of friends, will eventually love going to school
Payal chinta nahi karo . Sid bahut jaldi adjust kar layga. Enjoy your vlog 👌👌❤️❤️❤️
Ha Payal di, it's Daal Makhani. I had a question jo aapka yeh red cookware(Dutch oven) hai, iska shine Kam hogaya hai, do u wash it in the dishwasher and is it because of that? Dutch ovens are really so beautiful but also pretty expensive.
Slippery cutting board ke lye keep a wet cloth or wet paper towel below the cutting board nahi move karega.
Hi payal. ❤😊 don't worry slowly will adjust
It's a phase it will be OK soon.
Sid ke liye from me ❤🎉 for his new joining in school. God bless Sid. Payel aap baat karte karte Sid ko bhi dikhayiye. Very cute ur baby is.
My grand daughter did the same thing. Today she is in America, she got a full scholarship for college, and is in the 4th yr now. She is doing environmental science. Don’t cry dear. And This Too Shall Pass.
Hi Payal! Why don’t you just wait till preschool? If one kid is sick , other kids get sick to in daycare. My friend just took her son out of daycare due to frequent sickness. He would probably be happy at home with you. Just a suggestion. I have 4 year old and 1.5 year old. I totally understand it’s hard. Sometime hard is not bad.
he gets bored in home dear and if I entertain him the entire day how will my family run .I have to take care of a number of things as we are family of 5 and Rai used to get sick in preschool also and Sid only stays there for 3 hrs its equivalent to sending in preschool .
@@SimpleLivingWiseThinking oh ok! Do what works for you! I understand your emotions being mom!
@@SimpleLivingWiseThinkingI agree with you Payal
We have a lot of things to do especially if we live outside of India and without support from extended family
Besides, women have a life as well, we are supposed to do what’s best for ourselves too
I love your sense of humor...like u said yeh toh khilona lag raha hain...lol
Payel chinta koro nah ei week ta bishon kadbe.. er por aro kadbe amio kadtam dekhe.. ekhun o mon kharap hoy go gele but aste aste thik hoye jabe.. tumi jakhan dekhbe oh okhane giye onek kichu sikhbe takhan aste aste tomar mon o thik hoye jabe
Don't give up unless day care is not good to Sid.
Oh my god ...same problem mere sath bhi ho raha hai.....aap ko sun k lag raha tha aap meri beti k baare me baat kar rahi kyuki same ..lunch problem h
Both stay together in daycsre
I feel kids are babies only for such a short time , we should spend as much time as possible with the. If you want him to socialize then find a mommies group. I’m not telling you what to do but don’t ignore the natural instinct of a mother , you have the luxury to be able to stay with your baby , some others don’t 0:47
Now a days where is mommy group and where one is busy all are working or the kids stay with nanny and I stay in a white community where all are working
I agree. I used to be a huge supporter, but the decisions that she has been making recently are extremely selfish and filled with excuses. I am 40…mom of a toddler…and live in a wealthy white neighborhood, but I raise my kids myself and do so with great pride. I would never put my kids through this just so I can free time to shop. There will always be time for shopping, but my kids will be small only once. Her excuses are appalling
But they who you socialize your kid . You are acting as if no kids go to preschool . Like it’s not I am sending him for the entire day . For 3 hrs where he can also learn sharing and to socialize in this world . It’s really strange if I send my kid for 3 hrs in a playgroup then it’s call selfish like really … and if you think also I don’t care
Aaj aapko dekhkar main b emotinal ho gai mera beta playgrp main tha yaad aa gai now tu Di vo UK main hai Masters kar raha hai
Koi na Di humara kanaiya adjust ho jaaiga🥰🥰
DalMakhani
Lots of love lovely family❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Payal Mera ladka bhi bohot roya tha. Actually play group may woh full year roya tha. After that he didn't cried right from Jr. Kg. And now he has given 10th grade exam. Tab mai full year uske school ke bahar 2 hours khadi rehti thi. Meri himmat hi nahi hoti thi usko leave karne ki. But time flies. Bachche bohot jaldi bade ho jate hai. While writing this comment I had tears in my eyes because I went 16 years back.
I can totally relate to your situation. I was in the same boat last year, I have even cried standing in those daycare corridors 😅 As a mom our heart breaks but trust me it gets so much better to a point where they dont want to come back home 😂 Its gonna be fine few weeks ❤
অনেক অনেক ভালো লাগে তোমার ব্লগ গুলো ❤
Udar back ramja Tomato Simple living recipe arun singh he creid lot today this process stress new much special
Don’t worry Payal ji I am working in VA day care kids learning so many things in day care I am mother for two kids I know your feeling I love you be brave ❤
Hi Payal di,
It will take some time to adjust for Sid upto 3 weeks. Don't worry , he will be fine and will start enjoying there.
This time is a bit tuff payal .. it's a transition time for him.. give him some time, he will adjust in some time, i remember a kid stays just opposite of my flat she used to cry hey heart out everyday used to stay scared so much.. but now she is enjoying so so much always smiles.. so don't worry payal seeing sid cry it wl hurt you a lot but give sone time later you see how he enjoys
Yes it takes time to adjust
This is one of the reasons i took night shift, its been more than 12 years i am doing nightshift, during the day time i was taking care of my boys, i was sending my boys to daycare for some hours and was sleeping, starting it will be an issue but he will get adjusted, now my boys are 12 years and 16 years, and now thinking to chang to a day shift job, after studying so much and spending my parents money on education, i wanted to work so that I can support them in future if needed
Sid er journey suru holo😊.. Khub koshto hoy go.. Oder eibhabe chhere aste khub koshto hoy but jibon to eibhabei suru hoy.. Carry on sid 👍😘 rexu baba is so cute 🤩
Thanks
Every habbit take time..... From 19 months he is with u so he attached to u so much . U will give at least two weeks to him.
Yes
The weather there looks sooo good compared to here in India .. Quite hot already 😅🔥. So good to see Rai home 😊💕. Guess the feeling of seeing one's kid off to daycare could be a little hard to deal with..but the little ones eventually settle down. 😊💕. But it's also a fact many kids cry the initial period of say even KG or preschool, even if they skip daycare. So guess its worth a try.. Maybe even if for a short while or just couple of hours at a time .
Hahaha weather is horrible here extreme
Dal makhani name it self says makhani means butter …it should be ghee & butter..pls try typical Punjabi style..boil black urad dal & rajma with ginger garlic paste and salt with lilltle turmeric …after that boil it with good amount of desi ghee/butter depending on your taste for about 1 to 2 hours cause the more it boils with ghee the more creamy taste..in tadka again add good amount of ghee once it’s nice and hot add jeera ,chopped onions ,red dry chilly and fry it good..turnof the gas add red chilly powder give it a swirl and add the tadka in the boiled dal… give it a boil for 5 minutes turn of the gas and serve …trust me try this once
What on earth is so urgent to leave the baby in daycare so soon ...give the kid some beautiful time with family and more over ur not a working mom and definitely u can take care of him ...please think over right age to go to school is 5yrs and let the kid stay home until 3yr old ...
Some where I feel ur in great hurry...
It’s very easy to say but very difficult to manage. So only Payal knows what’s is Appropriate for her and her children n family.
What do you mean she is not working? Are you shooting vlogs for her, then editing doing all her household chores? She isn't having a helper it's not easy to manage everything alone. Daycare is meant for this purpose only so that it can make tasks easier and sid will also learn to interact 2-3 hours in day care will not harm any quality time at home.
@ankita...yes she is doing vlogs that's also work, she is not doing 8 to 5 job to be on desk everyday...and making vlogs also consume time but not leaving ur 1yr old in day care, I also live in Switzerland , work, and take care of my 2 kids and family not that I don't know of wat I'm commenting..so I don't understand one thing ppl like u are ready with guns to shoot at ur blind spots 😂...
im also payals subscriber from long time.. and watching her vlogs means simply say good for all or what...she is openly sharing about her family and routine so I can also share my opinion on it..that is why we have a comment box...so understand it..
I agree. I used to be a huge supporter, but the decisions that she has been making recently are extremely selfish and filled with excuses. I am 40…mom of a toddler…and live in a wealthy white neighborhood, but I raise my kids myself and do so with great pride. I would never put my kids through this just so I can free time to shop. There will always be time for shopping, but my kids will be small only once. Her excuses are appalling
It's called dal makhni
It will take time to adjust him.
Give him some time Payal. After a week or so he’ll settle down. Initially kids feel scared to see us go but they eventually understand that we will come to pick them up. It’s more difficult for us who stay abroad as kids are only used to with us moms since their birth.
Was waiting for your vlog
Awesome payal u r very smart❤❤❤❤
Good afternoon
Make him sleep early so that he can have enough sleep....Dal Makhni (butter)
All the mothers can relate to this. Every child cries, and our heart breaks. This shall pass too. Don't worry sweetheart . ❤from Mangalore
Maybe Sid will a week to adjust, don’t worry, Sid is looking so cute
Yes let’s see
Nice vlog didi🌹🇵🇰
Payal, when i sent my kid I remember he cried for a week and he cried a lot and loud but after a week he knew that I am here for a while but then my mom will come and pick me....he is at the stage where he thinks you left him and will never come back and also small kids are used to certain routines and when they go to new place they don't see certain things not happening as they are used to so they cry ...so don't worry....take it like when apna routine change ho jata hai how we feel. It's just that since they can't talk they express their frustrations with crying.
Thanks dear
Oooo P- can u send the link to the pink microfiber cloth you use when you clean up chai in beginning of vlog?
Hi Payal , This is adjustment phase for you both . He will get used to the routine . Give some days and everything will fall in place , school will send you pics and updates also so you will see how he will get into the routine but it will take some time ❤ when you said balance karte life nikal jati hai , This is so true especially us women we are constantly balancing everything around . All the best 😊
It’s hard payal 😒.. I feel you as a mom .. meri beti 1 year ki thi jati thi daycare .1 month laga pura usko normal hone main ☹️.. par give him 2 weeks may b set hone main ..
Dont worry payal, he will cry for a week or so, after that he will enjoy going.
daal makkani
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Payal mera beta 7 year ka 4 saal ho gya usko school jate or aj tk bhi wo rota h school or tution jate waqt ....india me aj uska 1st day tha new season me phir bhi aj wo roya ... Kya kr sakte h... M bhi bahut paresan hu sach me ...
Ekdom chinta korona,,mon kharap hobei.. sob Mader eki experience.. Aste aste baby settle hoye jai. ami montesary school e kaaj korechi., Tai bolchi khub sundor bhabe teacher ra bachader handle kore Payel.. ❤
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Rashmi fr India good vibes
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Day care ?
Didi what are the name of the daal?
Black urad dal
Dal makhni hota h payal makhaana nahi
Give some time may be 10 days & then you can take a call
Don't worry payal sid is crying now but after a few month he would be fine in daycare ....
For a few second you were saying sid was crying & you stopped suddenly your emotions was saying everything at that time I was also get emotional that time.dont worry payal ❤
u s me tho sachin daalte hai
Daal makhni 😅
Payel ekdom Mon kharap korbena. Beshir bhag bachha ra prothrom
Prothrom emni kore pore sob thik hoe jae.
Payal it seems in ur house u do all the talking and others are mute moreover what rai speaks is difficult to understand though she has Bengali parents but never heard a single Bengali word its strange.give them roots and give them wings
It’s common in American all the teens speaks in English and it’s fine at the end of the day it’s there life and definitely I do vlog my life so only I will talk and my hubby is working as he is the solo bread earner of the family .
Rai is in America,it's quite obvious that she will speak English only ...
Hi I'm 1🎉
My grandson was sent to Day Care when he was 1, as my daughter in law commenced work after a year of maternity leave. He did not eat for the full day for more than a week. Like he was left from 7 am to 5 pm. Can you imagine what they have gone through
why didn't you go help her out?
Payal kitna paise waste kerte ho sidd ke toys already kitne hai fir charity kerdaite ho
man storage ho😊
Payal didi u r good lady but
Sid ko AP mat bhejo
Helloo
Payal tumko he jaldi the sid ko bhajne ki sana chali gai tum ko mushkil hore hai isko bhaje diya school
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