A lot of this resonated with me. I've done belief work before and know that a lot of our subconscious beliefs can affect what we do and how we react. I also know its not a good idea to get in a power struggle but sometimes i think i need to try my best to control his behavior or he's not going to improve or he's going to get worse. Definitelty coming from a place of fear and stress. I'm so defeated right now and my husband blames our son's behavior on me which i think is why i then try to make my son be better because that’s what my husband says i need to do and i feel pressure from him and others to "make" my son more respectful and nice.
What do you do when you've tried all of this and it still doesn't work? They just continue to choose the bad choice over and over and over and over regardless of the consequences they're suffering...to the point where you can't even build a relationship with them because they are just literally constantly trying to screw with you and do bad things and it's so exhausting you don't even want to be around them anymore?
I don’t know if you have watched any of my other videos but there are many in my channel that might give you some other ideas. But in response to your question there are a few things to remember. First, everything we do we do for a reason or we wouldn’t do it. So there is a reason that your child does what he or she does if you can determine the goal of your child’s miss behavior that may then help you help your child meet that goal in a healthy way rather than destructive way. The other important thing to remember is that there are only three things that we can control those three things are our conscious thoughts our emotions and our behaviors. So many times when we are trying to change another person‘s behavior they feel like we are trying to control them and then they resist and we actually create more of what we don’t want then what we do want. So being able to set boundaries which are things that you control that will influence your child hopefully to want to make better choices. I hope this helped!
Thank you I need this for foster kids who suffer from this.
Therefore you are a wonderful person God Bless 🙌 🙏 ❤
A lot of this resonated with me. I've done belief work before and know that a lot of our subconscious beliefs can affect what we do and how we react. I also know its not a good idea to get in a power struggle but sometimes i think i need to try my best to control his behavior or he's not going to improve or he's going to get worse. Definitelty coming from a place of fear and stress. I'm so defeated right now and my husband blames our son's behavior on me which i think is why i then try to make my son be better because that’s what my husband says i need to do and i feel pressure from him and others to "make" my son more respectful and nice.
Ok. This guy is the real deal.
What do you do when you've tried all of this and it still doesn't work? They just continue to choose the bad choice over and over and over and over regardless of the consequences they're suffering...to the point where you can't even build a relationship with them because they are just literally constantly trying to screw with you and do bad things and it's so exhausting you don't even want to be around them anymore?
I don’t know if you have watched any of my other videos but there are many in my channel that might give you some other ideas. But in response to your question there are a few things to remember. First, everything we do we do for a reason or we wouldn’t do it. So there is a reason that your child does what he or she does if you can determine the goal of your child’s miss behavior that may then help you help your child meet that goal in a healthy way rather than destructive way. The other important thing to remember is that there are only three things that we can control those three things are our conscious thoughts our emotions and our behaviors. So many times when we are trying to change another person‘s behavior they feel like we are trying to control them and then they resist and we actually create more of what we don’t want then what we do want. So being able to set boundaries which are things that you control that will influence your child hopefully to want to make better choices. I hope this helped!
Good ole fashion butt whooping
Oh i recognise myself as a young person 😢
This doesn’t work with kids with ODD. Would you watch them taking drugs and not use control
Exactly, what these doctors and people don’t understand is ODD kids will not accept any consequences.
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