This Competition Almost *Broke Us Up!*
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- Being romantic partners while being badminton partners has a lot of benefits, but some major downsides as well...
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"Never talk about this day again".
We will talk about it forever as it is now memorialized on TH-cam forever haha
I really didn't want to edit this video, but I will certainly never watch it again, lol.
Don't give up Becky. I can empathize with both you and Ajay btw. I am probably like Ajay and in the heat of the moment its very easy to lose oneself especially with a strong desire to win. I am sure Ajay doesn't mean for his actions to come off this way (At least whenever I look back on videos of myself behaving this way to my partner, the only emotion that overwhelms is embarrassment). Just keep plugging at it mate, i can see your improvement both at the front and back of the court, youre a lot more proactive now which is why youre even clashing rackets. Keep it up, perhaps the only tip is just "keep the engine running, don't stay stationary in the middle of the rally, small split steps to keep it going" :) cheers
I've definitely had days like this as well. Especially playing with my wife when the game is competitive and shes making easy errors. Especially if you play mixed, the mens role is extremely physical and it takes significant effort to make set-ups from the back and to maintain pressure. Those little opportunities we create for you at the net are extremely important and (as a trained player), not too difficult to execute. Missing the free ones for a lot of the game feels like a sleight to all of my efforts. Of course you're not trying to sabotage the game. Of course you're playing hard. Of course you know what to do, but we're stuck right now because it's just not working.
I've spent years learning how to overcome this downward spiral (especially important while playing with your wife!). One of the best tricks I've come up with is a no-comment policy unless it shows up 3 times consecutively. Unless it happens 3 times in a row--just leave it. And any good shot or scoring rally resets the counter. If it DOES happen 3 times in a row, I can bring it up, but I have to provide a solution. I can't just complain. Example: Ok, on your serve, we've missed 3 backhand pushes in a row. I'll cover the backhand. You get forehand. Can't just be; "Your backhand is terrible".
Tournaments are especially different than training games/fun games. You really can't focus on your partner in tournaments. You can only play for yourself. At interval and between games, that's your chance to try and talk about strategy or how to handle tilt/choking. Some people need urgency, some people need encouragement. Some people need to be left alone to their own devices. Its always best to share what you find (while playing for yourself!). "The guy in the red shoes can't defend backhand. try blasting him!" "They have no power, just lift and then get ready to move in and block". "Serve hard, he likes to rush the net". Anything that can create new ideas on court helps with chokes or mechanical errors much more than focusing on the problems.
Viktor Axelsen recently said he has just as many bad days as good days as the next guy. But he's become extremely good at identifying and working around his problem spots. Keep fighting Becky! If he apologizes at all, you know it was his own emotions getting the better of him, it wasn't about you.
Edit: My wife and I have trained and played together for 8 years! It's hard work and dedication. But we still come back to it again and again. Can't keep us off court!
@@Phiz787 Thanks for that reply! Yeah, I do think being life partners adds a whole nother layer to on court outbursts because the partner can take it as a criticism of not just how they play, but how their whole relationship is functioning. Also because for me and Azhi we met because of badminton and I became intrested in him because he was a good partner. (I knew his qualities as a badminton partner would be good for a boyfriend as well) so our on court/off court relationships are very intertwined. Actually I think it would make a good video to talk to people who are in a romantic relationship with their partners and how they handle on court tensions.
Azhi is definitely a "heat of the moment" yeller. But also in daily life he almost never gets angry at anything and is very easy going. It's only badminton that triggers him!
@@BadmintonBecky exactly! It's great to have an outlet for all the energy. My wife and I met at badminton as well!
Imagine having to play with people like this every time at the social. I also have to deal with illegal serves. People are also sticking up their racket at the net rather than actually playing a shot. Opponent plays a net shot. Before I can get to the shuttle, the opponent will stick up their racket like in volleyball & basketball. Thus distracting me & blocking my follow through. If I do a lift the shuttle will hit his strings. It is bad for the game because players mock their opponent after doing it. Senior aged players are calling faults when this happens. Mainly because they don't want to smash a shuttlecock at a face or break a racket on a follow-through. I forfeit the point every time my partner does this. If I am to start calling faults they will shout & argue. It's just a game, not worth it.
haha that's why they always say couples shouldn't play competitive sports together
no food makes everyone grumpy ! or change partners for competition :)
well, it's one of those days i guess... cheer up and prepare for next game 😃
totally understand ur feeling. Lost a doubles match because I wasnt in the mindset of playing, i'd just stand there even when im receiving
This is definitely something that needs work on romantically. My partner and I play together as women’s doubles and my partner is very much a beginner. We’ve lost games but I’ve never had resentment to her, I’m always happy to cheer her on ask her if she needs advice or just needs me to listen to her needs. Definitely need to change the mindset in competitive settings. I believe in you both as we have been together for 5 years
well I think it's ok to be pissed at the moment because you are playing a high speed high adrenaline sport but holding anger or resentment after the game is a nono because even as teen boys when we play we don't carry things outside the game , not even the court