Bobby's gotta let go entirely. Living together, _sleeping_ together and not really dating is even more toxic than being in an actual relationship. He's torturing himself.
He doesn’t care pretty sure he’s getting some action too he just doesn’t wanna pretend he likes things for someone else but he’s just going to sport fuck till he find w.e girl stands out to following the standards he has
@@judbaker5752 ima addicted to pssy and being 5ft5 keeps me away from my addiction 💯🙏 edit: idk why this comment got so many likes but yeah being short is not a good thing if you want to get into the dating market
I met Bobby Lee when he wasn't famous at The Comedy Store in LA and he was so cool and nice to me. I told him I knew 100% he was going to make it. I ran into him 15 years later and he remembered me! He was still just as nice and we had a great talk. Great guy and I have so much respect for how honest he is. Zero bullshit. He doesn't lie. You're the best Bobby and thank you for adding so much laughter to my life.
Bobby lies all the time, what are you talking about? He admits on every podcast that he lies constantly. He takes other people's stories and pretends it happened to him, he always embellishes or heavily exaggerates for comedic effect. He's always bullshitting and he would have no problem admitting that. He tells the truth too, but that's usually off camera.
Breaking up and still living with her is perhaps ones of the most painful emotional things I’ve ever done to myself. When you break up, break up. Don’t hang around, holding on. 1 shot to the head is better than 5 to chest and bleeding out. But maybe that’s just me.
khlayla is a manipulator narcissist look up her being exposed. she cucked a ex boyfriend because she wanted to manipulate she knew it was slimy and wrong. she did the same thing to bobby. she brought another man in the relationship on bobbys money he flew her to hawaii because he wanted to do anything to keep her while he was in rehab in a dark place. bobby never wanted an open relationship if you watch the clues she was grooming bobby to be in an open relationship like her ex. once you see how slimy she is it all makes sense. it makes me think that brendan schwab was right now
One thing I have to say. Bobby expressed that “girls” want/need the cuddles and attention and then later spoke about his inability to go and do things for the sake of the other person bc he simply just doesn’t want to. That is not a women thing. In any relationship wether it’s familial or romantic of friendly requires each person to do things for the others happiness even if it’s not something you want to do. If you don’t do that, it’ll begin to feel transactional rather than loving. If Bobby continues to refuse to do things for the other persons sake and only does things when HE wants to, he will never find a person. It’s hard to swallow but true.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes. You don't want to spend time with your SO. You want to do your own thing don't be surprised if they hear you & leave you to be by yourself.
You don’t fix depression overnight. Can you not hear him say he sees a psychologist and psychiatrist regularly. Why subject someone else and yourself to your depressed self.
@@Coastpsych_fi99 You misunderstand, my comment is about how his oversharing is unhelpful to him during this time. He needs close friends and that psychologist not a bunch of podcast listeners analyzing everything he says. I know it’s his job but some privacy and aside from the safe people in his life will help his healing.
@@ab-gail He's probably horrifically depressed but I don't think anything about sharing personal details is inherently bad for him. I've not followed him for years and only checked up on the news now but this is how I've known him since. I don't think he wants help right now other than the therapy sessions he's already getting.
Bobby is identical to so many of the 50 year old "forever bachelor" industry dudes here in LA. They are never satisfied because they're always looking to see what the next younger, "more exciting" thing around the corner may be. They're all self sabotagers. At this rate, Bobby will still be chasing his "dream girl" at age 60, but just banging whatever 20 year old actress he can bring home from the Comedy Store for that night.
I don’t even like talking about breakups with my friends lol. Imagine having to do a rundown on 17 podcasts my opinion has evolved lol I’m now jealous of what an easy bag Bobby’s getting just by talking about his breakup and I totally would do the same
Seriously. I’d be cringing after telling the story 3 times. I don’t feel like anyone really needs to know all the details anyway. People have a good idea already.
Im glad he was honest in admitting he is the problem and doesn't want to change. That takes a lot of balls to decide to just suffer the consequences of a bad choice you don't want to change
It's not really a break up when you still live together and even share the same bed. Bobby needs to decide where he wants to live and separate physically and financially or things will get worse.
He is a oddly different guy, things might hit different for him .. but he was crying before tiger belly and she wasn’t even on that episode, I don’t think I’ve ever seen that !!
Figure out? Bitch fuck out my house. Fuck out my bed. You are fired. Boom that’s it. His views will go up without her. I stopped listening to Tb after like 80 episodes. She’s too self indulged and mighty.
@@SuperRadChad of course theirs outliers, but most of thr tine open relationships fail, eventually someone is likely to find another person they enjoy spending their time with
Ok…. Has has he gone truly “mentally disabled” or is everyone babying Bobby for nothing? He had a loving girl, caretaker, and motivated sexual partner in his life that did nothing but support him and his wily antics and lifestyle. Why are we feeling bad for Bobby and not the chick that supported his strange little ass? Haha plus smoking hot Bobby you nut!
If I was listening to Bobby alone here, I’d honestly be kind of sad for him. But every time he says something heartbreaking, there’s Ryan laughing like a wolf whistle.
Disclaimer. Just because Bobby lee does this doesn’t mean it’s okay for you to. This shit ain’t healthy, I fell into a bad mental spot just satisfying myself and ignoring everything and everyone around me. This doesn’t give you an excuse to live like that.
@@RazluzTV Usually it yields mental illness to live like that, it's not because it's immoral it's because it's not good for you. Bobby Lee has resources, the rest of us don't. We'll stagnate and end up broke if we live like that.
@T N. Sometimes you gotta listen to that soft voice you slowly turn the volume down on and actually do something for yourself regardless of if people say you’re being selfish or not. Might have been 5-10-15 years of turning the volume down friend but when you finally get that solemn time and exit a relationship it ain’t time to listen to everyone about how selfish you are or how sad you are that you are alone. It’s time for you to delve inside and start listening to that voice you turned down for so many years. You guys have to make and my friend. You gotta figure out some stuff, you gotta find yourself, you gotta find your happy, you gotta find your worth. Nothing selfish about any of that don’t forget that.
@@exitscreaming4637 unlike you I have experience in life and experience in this exact position. Fulfilling your own needs doesn’t bring happiness. Just like cars and clothes and jewelry doesn’t make you truly happy either. Keep feeding your own ego and don’t look to benefit anyone but yourself and you will never find happiness ever in your life. It is truly a fact, not an opinion. The sooner you figure it out the easier your life will be. Good luck 👍
I just started listening to Bobbi (on and off) for about a year…I find that I really enjoy listening him just talk and tell stories. He has a gift in that
I was with my high school sweet heart for 9 years and had 2 daughters together. She went off the deep end and ran off to do some pretty shocking stuff. It's hard to leave someone you love even when you know you have to. Keep your head up Bobby and keep doing what's best for you
@@bigfrankentertainment damn same here this was 4 years ago we were together for 2years she hit me up she wants to catch up but I'm gd now sober and healthy and working out keeping my self busy the right one would come in time .keep your head up
5 for me and she left me bc I had a habit and her mom basically told her you can’t fix him unless he wants it and it took me a long time to realize reality
It’s a shame because I can’t help but feel that he self sabotaged his relationship. He sounds insecure with himself and that might have led to isolating. I hope he makes it out on top in the end.
Absolutely when he allowed to switch into a open realationship it was his way of hoping his ex would find someone else in hopes that she would break up with him bc he knows he isn’t mentally present enough to be a true partner in a romantic realationship. He needs to confront his trauma and quit finding new addictions to numb and dissociate from the past / present
@@TheFenixDown206 if he wants to be happy, he does. He isnt happy, he's numb... Which is what most addicts aim for. He may technically be "sober," but I guarantee he isn't "emotionally sober." I know he is an AA guy, but probably is not actually "working the program." If he starts working on himself, he may have a chance to be happy. Either alone or in a relationship. 🤷🏻♀️ as the child of an alcoholic/ addict, who has quite a bit of childhood trauma of my own, I spent my first 30ish years numbing myself. I actually worked on acceptance and forgiveness (of myself and others,) and at 34, I am actually happy now! 🥰
I’ve been married to my husband for 15 years. We have a great relationship on all fronts. We work together, we have a great love life, we enjoy our extended families, we have good kids, and we share our faith. It takes a lot of effort from both sides. In fact the first year we were married, we almost divorced. We went to counseling and the therapist told us he didn’t see us making it. My husband stood up, grabbed my hand and the then said to the therapist as he pulled me to the door, “ We are not listening to this shit!” In that moment we realized this was death do us part. Then last year my husband got sick and almost died from Covid. During that time I contemplated on the fact that I have the best, and how would I ever be lucky enough to have someone or something so good again. I don’t have any desire to ever date or get remarried again. I would be fine alone. So, I understand and believe Bobby when says that he is alright not dating again.
Sometimes therapy really is overrated. Therapists will often confidently say that you should leave a relationship because there are "plenty of fish in the sea" but this is a very flippant and American way of looking at things. Commitment is important and sometimes weathering the storm does more for both of you and the world than just giving up.
Dude this talk literally changed my life. I feel bobby 100% man. This conversation really made me think about my own life and my own previous relationships. I just came out of a two year relationship and before that I was in a 12 year relationship with my baby momma. It's tough man.
I think ppl. Are getting tired of each other too quik in this high dopamine era we live in. Were in a tap of a button i can see pretty girls or guys and something im attracted too.
People think I’m too picky or introverted but until I was 43 I had been in three long term relationships and each one we rushed into them and resentful of not liking the same things . 6 years living alone and I get it. Young people are codependent they would rather be in a horrible relationship than have no relationship
Bobby wants unreality. The chemistry, the magic, the special connection. These things all fade and then each party in relationship is left with…..another real person who has flaws, issues, and challenges in life. Surrendering to that is love and leads to a fulfilling life.
The thing is, there’s no such thing as a road that doesn’t end alone. There are many ways to live, and whether you’re with a partner or not, you’re dying alone my friend, and who is to say you won’t die before your partner or the other way around.
@@darrenbrown7037 What if you're a loving couple in a violent accident, like a plane crash, or an explosion? Then you can die together with the ones you love. That's why I have an explosive device linked to my smartwatch so that if I flatline, I go out surrounded by those I love.
Everyone keeps commenting about how they feel for Bobby, when I just keep thinking about how lonely and and how damaged kalyla’s self esteem must be. To have a partner constantly pick things iver you is awful. Hopefully both of them are happier now
It’s obvious that the target demo is males here for Bobby. The only people worried about Khalyla are pretty obviously women. We all know what it’s like to deal with such a major disappointment... What gets me the most is how matter of factly he states that “she helped make him who he is” and yet he has no interest in sacrificing or changing anything about himself to even reassure her she’s worth the effort. He’s admitting she’s not worth the effort. We’ve all been with a man child like this! Once she’s gone for good & happy alone/with someone else, he’s going to regret all of this. 🥲👺🤌
@@Keepgoing42 He spends all day watching porn and playing video games, that's a college kid, not a 50 year old man. And wanting to have sex with your boyfriend and hang out with him is not "high maintenance."
@@Keepgoing42 🤣 too high maintenance to you is wanting to have sex with your partner rather than them constantly watching porn, and spending time together once in a while. Rotfl what must you think of actual high maintenance people?
I can relate. I'm a pretty extreme introvert and a lot of my relationships failed because partners wanted / needed way more attention than I could give. I thankfully found someone very much like me and we go off and do our own thing, but then come back and share our adventures with each other. We've been happily married for 13 years and consider ourselves soulmates.
@@sweetembrace6706 Of course it can. Introverts can experience pretty significant exhaustion from human interaction. Even pleasant interaction with a beloved partner can be draining for a very introverted person. They need a lot of time to focus and recharge. So if you are paired with someone who requires A LOT of attention, that can be a recipe for disaster.
They’re truly genuine and honest people I love them too. Unfortunately they are heavily targeted by narcissistic psychopaths, which surprise surprise was his gf.
One of the most honest men around. Everyone's judging him and his situation but everyone has demons and nobody is this honest with themselves and others about it. The fact he puts it out on podcasts to the public is even more crazy. Got lots of love for Bobby and I hope he gets the help he needs and finds some self confidence. We can't lose another great comedian
@@Max-zu8xj That sounds like a pretty bias video for starters, and I'm pretty certain you don't know more about his personal life and his long term girlfriend than he does. I ain't into gossip.
@@jakeuren8688 I agree that it sounds bias. I recommend to take a look, youll see evidence. Nothing bias about that. Khalila is manipulative and Bobby is suverily damaged staying in that relationship for years. She still live in the same house and still sucks money from him.
You mean women do not like him???' He described emotional neglect and cruelty. He causes therapy because that is not a human that is a low cock with pockets who complains about everything to do and being around women. He hates beingaround women. What kind of guy who likes women hates to spend time with them?
@@nikkoa.3639 yeah I don't think so. i never see many men agree on men handling shit properly. They usually agree on "boys are boys" that is negatively affecting the world around them. But hey- who notices patterns.
I appreciate Bobby for always being one of the few that will open up about his life struggles. I think he helps to open these convos and break down these barriers we have as men. Appreciate you Bobby the world needs more of you brother.
Who put up those barriers?? Cause women have been calling this out for a while but i don't think people could get past the jargon enough to actually understand these "barriers" and what constructed them.
@@lifetops6569 men have barriers because they need to shield women from the pain of reality. This "calling out" bullshit is just an effort to feminize men and it has been wholly destructive to society.
I like how we are all sitting here acting like the porn addiction wasn’t the problem the whole fucking time everyone knows porn is massively destructive to the male brain no matter how hot girlfriend is
P0rn addiction topped off with video game addiction... but the p0rn addiction is what kills his drive for her... and if she can't make him happy in that way... nobody will.
@@carter_1 exactly he was satisfying himself. Sex is supposed to be another incentive. Pornography (modern) is classed under super stimulus so you're getting far more stimulation then is normal in nature.
By the sounds of it 100% his porn addiction killed the relationship. If he's jerking it to oldje while he has a gorgeous partner waiting desperately for him then he's a sad case. Love Bobby and mean no disrespect but that's a huge red flag. I hope he can find the strength to see the light
Used to date a girl we'd go to a beautiful park, were on the bench eating lunch together like movie-esc and she'd go "So what are we doing today?" and I'm like "Babe this is it, right now." like this is living to me, this is nice. She was a party girl, unless at a bar/concert/party/vacationing every 2 weeks then we weren't 'doing' something. We broke up.
And she used to date a guy that was too low energy for her and enjoyed a different pace of living and leisure. They broke up. Some people are just not compatible and there's nothing wrong with that.
I resonate with your girlfriend, because my girlfriend and I are the same right now. My girlfriend is a lovely, lovely person. But her go-with-the-flow personality is just too much for me to handle. She’s European, and constantly flip-flops on whether she’s going to stay in the states or leave depending on her mood. We stay in bed for hours on the weekend, until I eventually have to kick ourselves out and make sure we’re doing something, otherwise it feels like a waste. Throughout our entire relationship, I’ve always been the one to initiate texting/calling/planning because she’s just so aloof, loves nothing more than just spontaneously spending a day staring out at a skyline or up at the sky for hours while disregarding any real-life duties or experiences. And this will be the end of our relationship - mark my words. Don’t get me wrong, I love those slow, stop the world and melt with you moments. But I also love the stimulating parts of life. We recently went on vacation together - the whole week she wanted to stay on the beach. I wanted to see stuff and work in time for the beach as we went along. It’s hard being with someone who has their head in the clouds 24/7, because eventually you end up getting pulled away from the ground.
Everyone’s pissed at Khalyla, but Bobby is being very transparent that it was a 2 way thing. He wasn’t giving her what she needed for a very long time, she needed more. There should be no hatred towards either of them. I hope they figure things out and can eventually actually separate and get their own places. They have no resentment, so fans shouldn’t either.
Dude it is CLEARLY obvious that he only says that because she manipulated him into thinking it's his fault. That's what women do. That is the whole game.
@mero40k serious question here. I don't have any overt, easily identifiable addictions, but find isolation alluring. Can isolation itself be the addiction?
He’s just successful and he wants what he wants he met shawty on tinder pretty sure he just went wit the flow and noticed he doesn’t wanna be with her off of pretending to be interested in shit he don’t care about ya need to go tf out and stop thinking ya woke because you think of situations deep for no reason this why nobody can get out of a victim mindset just fucking make some kind of excuse to not see it for what it is he wants to live how he wants to I’ve no interruptions just peace and the fact that so many men can’t even see that is the reason so many of ya can’t get no females and so many men not saying how this correlates to the red pill movement but so many saying they feel the same still talking about the first man to speak on this are dumb and aren’t paying attention just trynna get some clout I’m so upset I can’t even stay on topic because why are ya like this stop lowering standards for a female because this is the outcome only difference is we broke compared to him and females wouldn’t even think to put up with shit they don’t like besides cheating due to the biological attraction of a top tier guy that fucks many women and does what he wants
@@homefrontforge Im not a clinical Psych, Dr. or LCSW so I cant really answer that question. And the last thing Im looking for is a debate on YT. I just know what addiction and isoaltion look like from decades of personal and external experience. I honestly wish him the best though. Hes a brilliant comedian.
Major props to Bobby for his honesty and self reflection. Porn is a major intimacy blocker and can destroy relationships - if you feel stuck and it's hurting you or your loved ones, get help! You have the power to change 🙌
Problem for Bobby is he most likley does not get attention from the ladies(according to him and I can see why honestly) at least not until he's worth more money.
What he's describing sounds like text book intimacy avoidance. I was in a similar situation with my wife and I needed to have a rude awakening to see what I was doing to her. It leaves your partner feeling like they're the problem no matter how you try to explain it. I needed to stop the porn and jerking off but most importantly I needed to learn how to be intimate with my wife, more than just physically.
It's hard to take that leap. Many of us (in my experience, far more often in men) have a hard time reconciling "be strong" and "be vulnerable" within the context of a relationship with our partner. It makes sense. It's a tough line to walk. But if she's a real catch, she'll be fine with your intimate side. Good luck out there to all who struggle with it. My advice is to just show up completely vulnerable. The women I admire the most have all cherished vulnerability in a partner. I've also known many who were turned off by it - but they were categorically lower quality people!
Dude I've been with my wife for 15 years now and yeah there was that little "mystery" part at the beginning, but the part where you know someone almost as well as you know yourself, and you know you can trust them 100% with everything - not just being there in an emergency, but your feelings, your private thoughts, your everything - that's the sweetest part of a relationship I've ever been in and I wouldn't trade it for anything. It really does sound like he's not comfortable with himself (a lot of comedians aren't) and has low self-esteem (a lot of comedians do) and has never been forced to mature. He started making money at a young age, landed some great gigs with his talent, and is now just sortof coasting through life as a grown-up adolescent. As he said, he's not a loser, he's just stuck emotionally like a lot of successful men are.
You're reading too much into this because its you. So you think youre deeper than you are. Its a porn and video game addiction along with being selfish. Lets not make this what its not.
Porn ruined your relationship dude. That’s why excitement fizzled with your real woman. Get deliverance from porn addiction. It’s a thing. Respect for how honest you are and taking full responsibility for your actions and not blaming your partner. That’s rare character.
I think for me, that mystery of a person and/or a relationship shifts over time. When I met my now wife, we, like what Bobby described, had that period of time of "the chase" and "the mystery" of getting to know each other. What happened for us wasn't so much of a boredom or "falling apart" once we had grown familiar with each other, but rather that mystery and chase shifted to how WE were going to continue to change and grow now as a unit. For me, this was a natural evolution of a relationship and, specifically, our friendship that lead to us becoming wed. I 100% with when Bobby described that change in the relationship becoming a friendship. I think a growing relationship eventually hit a point where you decide if you are interested in exploring the mystery not of another individual, but of a team and become invested in each other. For Bobby, it sounds like either he may not see things that way or, at this time, he doesn't have interest in that next step.
Wow this explains exactly how I feel, and that gives me a lot of hope after hearing Bobby speak and reading so many comments agreeing with him. I was wondering what the world is coming to is everyone feels the way Bobby does. I hope they all find someone worth being “bored” for.
Bobby should stop masturbating/watching Porn and playing video games all day, 2 activities that lower your regard of human interaction. While I think your spouse is foisted unto you in Western culture, you can find some middle ground. If I was giving Karlyla game, I would have told her to move out and find a partner to move on with. Luckily, they don't have children. But, that being said, even in a successful marriage (which is one where you get to the end together because that is the only success - for only death to do you part), they go through 10-15 years of not standing each other and someone not trying hard enough. I think had she taken the Filipino route of getting marriage first things might be different. Now, she is stuck. She had built something awesome with this man and now, he's like: "You're not worth it." Ouch! That must hurt. If I were her, I would put an intention for 7 weeks (Sundays)in a Catholic Church and ask Wisdom about what Her will is. Watch hoe the situation changes, so, I would say the fault is Kharlyla's because she has been taught how to handle spiritual.matters such as this but she is plagued by unbelief. Even of you are not Catholic, if you put in an intention, the whole Church = 1,2bn of us agree during intentions on what you are praying for. Sometimes the change happens as soon as you resolve to do it. It isnthat good. One prayer for you, the whole Church in unison, Wow!
You could understand this relationship wasn’t a true relationship of intimacy just by periodically watching then interact on their show. But if that still didn’t do it then listening to the first few min of this podcast made it quite clear. In his effort to say all the great things about her and their relationship, he described his great fullness being 100% about how she resurrected his career. Not one thing about her as a person. That ain’t ever gonna do it brah.
Bro you literally just heard him say she "resurrected his career", just ignored everything he said. Like he literally said "she's love of his life" and bunch of other shit about the relationship
What career? This guy is a nobody. Had one mildly funny bit on Madtv. Then you find about how much of an unfunny, gross pig he is in real life by watching his weak ass podcast. I imagine the only reason this video is in my feed is because I've watched someone actually funny on his dumb show, who he kept interrupting to same something disgusting or racist.
I'm an addict, alcoholic and a gamer. It's all about dopamine and throwing your time away for that escape and dopamine rush. The way bobby talks about gaming reminded me my past self. Coincidently it was Skyrim... around 2-3000 hours of playing, modding and reading ingame books for lore. I loved it. And I will come back after years but.... no more 2 weeks without shower barely eating not taking calls from anyone. As an addict I will forever be very careful how much I love something. Be careful out there.
I’m not a drugg addict, per se, but I too have those tendencies …. Very dangerous for me too. I will spend hours on my phone and just keep scrolling even if I’m tired or there’s nothing of interest … Im addicted to food and sugar - that’s my dopamine hit. It’s hard to avoid food because it’s necessary for survival.
I’m an addict and a gamer. Drugs&games every day for 2 years straight. This is the realest and easily the most relatable comment I’ve ever read in my life
I once had a friend who had the biggest crush on a mutual friend. He chose the friend zone and eventually stopped talking to her once she had a boyfriend. I asked him why he never made a move, he was good looking and funny. He said "she deserved better than me".
" they break apart and i want to meet somebody where it just doesnt" so he wants a relationship but he doesnt want to do any of the things that come with a relationship. he wants someone to just be content with him doing whatever he wants and not caring about them or maintaining the relationship/ connection. he basically wants exactly what caused his relationship to end. i wish him the best but damn hes going to be single forever with that mindset
That's why he kept saying he thinks he's just going to remain single. He understands that most people want some effort. His perfect relationship would probably just be a good friend he can have sex with from time to time. I know a few ladies that game all day and like to eat meat. It isnt impossible, but it's hard to get that combo.
GOD I loved how honest Bobby seems to be (SEEMS to be) about his life. The fact that he so often will admit his own failures, and deeply displeasing parts of his life makes me more likely to believe him when he speaks about a good aspect of his life.
He’s a massive red flag 🚩. Love Bobby as a comedian, but as a boyfriend/husband he is an absolute big fat NO. I can’t imagine investing 10 years of my life with an overgrown child. It’s fine to play video games, but Bobby literally doesn’t care about his partners emotional needs, physical needs like quality time and cuddles, her interests or her future goals. He literally doesn’t want to do anything with his partner, almost paying her off financially to leave him alone. He spoke as if a relationship is such a burden, well it usually is if you don’t put any effort in and let it become toxic. He doesn’t want to grow as a person or be in a proper relationship. Glad he is actually acknowledging that he is selfish and can’t provide properly for a partner, but the sad thing is that he’s already wasted 10 years of both their lives and he’ll most likely get into another relationship and do this all over again to a another girl. He’s 52 now so it’s pretty hard to imagine him getting over his old habits.
@@palmbalm you are 22? Get out now you’ll thank me years later, you are 22 prime of your life, leave that porn addict and find yourself a guy who gives you the attention you want, you’re young and probably beautiful, you’ll have no trouble finding someone else
Been there and done that, but would never talk about it to friends or family, let alone the whole world. Gotta respect this man! Only a real man can admit his own wrongdoings. Love you Bobby Lee!❤❤❤
Brutally honest interview. Respect to Bobby for being so open and honest about it! It’s a shame when two people genuinely love each other but are no longer in love with a sexual attraction.
i personally think they should have stayed together....majority of relationships stop fucking after years of being together....the bond that they had and the love they shared was unmatched in my opinion....it wasn’t one of those love stories where the people grew apart and hated eachother....i’m sure they had their moments and their resentments, but all relationships do...to me it’s a crime that they aren’t still together
@@lavs8696 he's honest about what he thinks happened. whether that is actually what happened, or is influenced by his low self esteem / misguided blame issues, only close friends can say.
@@govegan562 nah, that shouldn’t be happening in relationships. Relationships take effort, and if he wasn’t putting in the effort to at least sleep with her even once a month, then the relationship is dead. Sometimes we all don’t feel like it, but you get yourself in the mood and know you’ll feel better after. It’s like motivating yourself to go to the gym - it’s good for you. Constant porn and self flagellation is not attractive nor healthy for either an individual or a relationship. They made the right choice if he’s not willing to actually give her what she needs.
I think you are oversimplifying why it’s happening. I don’t think it’s about growing up at all, at least in my case it isn’t. I have a good, successful career which I do sacrifice for. However, when I’m not working, I want to do what I want to do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If I don’t have to, I shouldn’t have to force myself to be unhappy for a majority of my life. And right now, at 25, unless it was the right type of person, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship. I don’t want to have to worry about a significant others feelings, wants, needs, both emotionally and physically. I am at least self aware enough to realize that right now I’m not interested in that. However, saying that’s because people don’t want to grow up is asinine.
@@princeofgreece9054 well it also depends on how attractive you are or how much you've already been there and done that. If you're an incel saying that it's like a pacifist who can't fight. they are a coward and can't harm anyone anyway and act like it's a belief that they are a pacifist. No it's those who have swords but keep them sheathed who shall inherit the earth. One of the most egregious misquotes of the Bible is the meek shall inherit the earth when it's more like those who could kill but choose not to and turn the other cheek will. Those with great strength who don't abuse people or give into their rage. Those who dont clip their toenails shall inherit long toenails
Honestly him spilling this made me realize that’s how I was and when she left it was my fault. I wasn’t there like that I loved her I supported her I would still to this day but I can’t do all those things that make an actual relationship bro got me rethinking my whole life rn and how I’m gonna deal with that going into the future. Thanks Bobby I never though I’d be having a life lesson from fucking Bobby lee
@@BoogerBllue at least we know I can’t believe it took Bobby Lee of all people going through it and talking about it for me to understand it but I’m kinda happy it’s not just me too.
Say what you want about Bobby, but I gotta say I really respect how honest he’s being about his part in things while at the same time knowing who he is and being straight up about it.
I’m a woman and I can relate to this. I tried relationships and to be “normal.” But it just leaves me so exhausted. I’m so content alone but it’s hard to explain to anyone because If you are a person who seems to have any attractiveness or charisma people automatically thing the default is to be paired up.
When you are 60, alone, and broke, don't complain also. Bad thing about it is that gov't will bail you out when you are broke. They don't bail out the men though.
This man ended a long term relationship in preparation for Starfield... a true legend Jesus thanks for all the likes guys I too will be getting Starfield when it comes out. Callisto protocol as well can't wait.
Bobby talking about dumping his gf ahead of a video game launch because he knows he wants to play it 16 hrs a day and doesn't want to hear her shit is the funniest thing I've heard him say, I can relate so well to that.
Respect to Bobby Lee in many ways. He never disrespects Khayla, he owns up to his issues, and is a work in progress. I’m glad the current culture is for people to step outside themselves and look at what’s broken. No shame in owning your character flaws. That said, it has to go beyond this. Admitting your damage doesn’t mean you’re not also doing damage to other people. Let’s collectively examine how we’re fecking up and have some empathy for the people who love us, let us in, and have to deal with our garbage. Then watch us change. Admittance without serious ownership of the harm we’ve caused becomes a new platitude of narcissism.
My unpopular opinion is that porn has ruined your damn brain. Without porn having invaded this relationship he'd be getting his satisfaction from her and giving satisfaction to her on the regular. Also he's apparently an introvert so maybe find one of those to be a girlfriend. An introvert girlfriend would not want to go to those stupid places all the time.
I was thinking the same Porn isn't a good thing to be watching all the time. It distorts your reality of what is normal and healthy in a relationship. Video games aren't much different, yes I'm a video game fan but playing them all the time is just another addiction and if your partner isn't into it then they are going to be annoyed. Been there done that, and moved on. Some guys will lose themselves in these vices to escape other parts of their lives and maybe hide something they are going through mentally.
@@gordonlove5121 understand what you’re saying, but porn is actually problematic for your mental health it’s antithetical to what sex really is. It also fucks with your dopamine. If you choose to enjoy it from time to time cool, but if you’re getting off everyday or even a couple of times a week - of course you’re not gonna want to have sex or put in work into a relationship.
when ur lix and one of your best relationships where living w two dudes getting banged out by both and enjoying when one got jealous. so nah.. bobby was just played for the long con.
I love how so many comments have bashed K for being selfish, evil, etc for wanting the relationship to be open but if the roles were reversed and K refused to give sex and affection for years at a time, all hell would break loose. She deserves to have her needs met. Period. And for Bobby to allow so much to be said without speaking up against it, is sad as hell. Him saying it isn’t her fault one time isn’t enough. He needs to speak up for her on THEIR platform. More than he has.
So if a man doesn't hold up his part in the relationship he should be made to feel like he needs to accept his significant other sleeping with other men? Here's a crazy thought....... how about she just leaves him and get her needs met? If I'm a man who's dealing with a woman with emotional trauma and I emotionally manipulate her into accepting me sleeping with other women you'd never act like that was ok, so why does she get a pass? Men AND women need to accept moving on when it doesn't feel right and stop trying to force a change in other people
Also let's not forget Bobby has massive emotional and sexual trauma from men when he was younger, even if he jokes about it that doesn't mean it doesn't have an impact. Before you try to downplay or discredit his trauma
@@Insaniac969 She wasn't getting emotional or physical needs met. The two most important things to keeping a relationship alive. He checked out and this is the result. I wouldn't think it's fair to blame either side.
@@rutygut5000 Thats why the relationship should've ended preemptively, you don't convince him to accept you getting your physical needs met by someone else. Mind you he isn't the 1st boyfriend she's convinced to accept her sleeping with another man, by her own account she did that with one of her ex's and their roommate, convinced him to accepting an open relationship with the man who was rooming with them. Once is understandable but multiple times seems like a pattern, also as I've said physical trauma can mess with all future relationships. Would you accept me saying these same things if I was with a girl who had been sexually violated as a child, and just because she wasn't meeting my physical needs i convice her to let me sleep around even though it makes her unhappy? So because I'm unfulfilled i make her go through unhappiness to satisfy myself? That doesn't rectify or equalize anything, it's just shifting the misery towards the other partner and at that point there's no reason to continue the relationship
@@Insaniac969 I don't know too much of their drama but didn't he cheat first? She got sick, he had to take on a caretaker role, lost his desire towards her and all downhill from there. Still I can understand have a once in a decade connection with someone but they're not the full package. People go out and try to get their needs met elsewhere often without communicating it or being honest to themselves.
Oh shit I can see my old self in this guy so much. Pure escapism with the video games. Jerking off for the dopamine hit. Eating junk. Very little social interaction. Letting every relationship rot through neglect due to the belief that your not worth a relationship. Self sabotage. Geez the dude needs a sense of purpose and direction. I used to wake up every morning thinking 'I wonder if I'll kill myself today, hope I have the bollocks to do it today'. I'm scared shitless of going back to feeling like that.
@@skyiswomb1 I randomly tried to walk up a hill at 3 o'clock in the morning and thought I was going to have a heart attack. I thought some dog walker would find me dead. That was the wake up call I needed to get fit. So I did it every day until it felt easy. Then I changed my diet and stopped eating crap. Guess what, I felt a ton better. So much so I stopped smoking. Joined a gym. Started my own business. Found the love of my life. Quit video games. Mentally and physically fitter than I ever have been in my life.
@@Clip7heApex Congrats! That's awesome-Keep it up. Seems like it always starts with taking care of your body, the rest just follows. I've given up the fitness stuff in the past year and surprise, surprise, old habits picked back up. Appreciate the reminder.
Ugh dude. The part about letting relationships rot because you believe your not worth a relationship is so true. Ive done that over the past few years.
A friendship you can't leave because you blew all other friends when you went all in for one person that you don't even have a passion for any longer. Humans are kinda stupid.
Guys what he embodies is the path of shame and self hatred. To be in a good relationship, both people need to bring their best self. They need to advocate strong for themselves and for the other. It's not simple or easy, but it's worth it. I hope he gets past this stuff.
Well said I definitely wasn't surprised even though she was his caretaker for so many years. I couldn't see any confident female wanting to live that way forever. Especially when they are still young and have other options like she did. It was bound to happen sooner rather than later. Bobby lost a good one imo
I love how most of the comments are like "I respect his honesty" but his honesty is just showing he's an immature 10 year old with no redeeming qualities lol
I think it would be great. Theo has such a funny, unique deadpan style of humour. I think it would match perfectly with Bobby's drawn out story with an unexpected punchline style of comedy
The dude literally said he was addicted to porn and not touching his partner, an addict, just played video games, and doesn’t care to support their endeavors lol I’m glad he realizes he’s not fit for a relationship. He’s pretty selfish, which is okay he just shouldn’t be with someone, so good for him.
@@nahhhbruhhh yeah youre still projecting your own insecurities, even if he has admitted to those things. Khayla is a obvious cheater of the worst sort (the one that doesnt care if you know about it and flirts with other people in front of her partner) and i dont get this whole monologue pittying her.
I feel you!! I’m at a point in my life that I just don’t want to be anything for anyone anymore. I just want to do what I want to do and I have no problem doing it alone.
That’s how I feel. I can’t believe at one point I was afraid of doing things alone. You have to enjoy live. It’s strange I have no desire to be in a relationship.
@@chrisharris8207 I was never afraid of being alone but society tries to force you into a relationship. Where the f does that thought come from. And if you are a chick even worse. Your a spinster. Your frigid. Your something - whatever. Guys hate seeing chicks alone and doing their own thing. It is not just guys who like to be alone. But why does society indoctrinate us to think we should be in a relationship, married, kids etc. S@#4 do whatever you want to do. And f those judgemental people who can't survive unless they are tied to someone else because they can't survive on their own. Be happy by yourself. yeah.
I feel the same way. I spent many years surrounding myself with women who came and went. Somewhere something changed and I just value building a relationship with myself, focusing on my career, being alone. I don't have any desire to date, sleep around or anything. It is a STRANGE feeling considered it was a huge part of my life.
Bobby doesn’t sound “independently codependent”; he sounds “independently independent” and selfish. He wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it. That’s fine…It just means that he isn’t relationship material…
I respect how brutally honest Bobby is but damn this is going to age terribly.He obviously has a lot of issues within himself that needs to be addressed and regardless if he sees his faults and changes his ways or if he stays the exact same..I can’t imagine him(or anyone) looking back at this interview 10 years from now and being proud of himself for not even trying.
@@paullebon323 and at 80 he will die alone with no partner or children to carry on his fortune because he just couldn’t bother to “give a F”. I’m sorry but I don’t wish that life on anyone,even the ones who “claim” they prefer it that way
Some of us are hermits that love our alone time. Not only that but the older I get the less I want to compromise and I don't care if it hurts someone's feelings if I don't wanna participate. Relationships are exhausting and not for everyone
I’ve followed the break up and thought it’s just one of those things…. This interview however explained how selfish Bobby is in regard to partnership and interest in his partners life… it sounds like he wants someone there for him but he’s not there for them… good luck with that…
There comes a point in many people's lives, where they hit a fork in the road: One road has them doing all kinds of things, making all kinds of compromises, to make another person happy. The other road leads to them doing whatever they want to do, and if someone wants to come along for the ride, sure...but if no one comes along for the ride, that's cool too. It's important to understand that neither route is 100% right, and neither is 100% wrong. Some people are simply happier alone and/or living for their own happiness. Other people need constant companionship through life.
@@AM-vk2yq He thought he was doing the "right" thing by being in a relationship. Often, we spend so much time trying to be what others expect, that we never take the time to really figure ourselves out. Hearing Bobby speak here...it seems like he's finally figured out his own key(s) to happiness.
Bobby didn’t want to he with her. But I think it’s because kalayla is a cum bucket. She’s been with a lot dudes, so he probably feels stupid doing the girlfriend thing. And plus like he said he’s unfuckable.
Bobby just doesn't have it. Wait until you injure yourself or become ill or get older. She changed, saved your life 10 years ago and I have a feeling he'll need her again. Good luck
@@Kid_Ikaris Time is for sure a healer man. Everyone handles things differently I guess. I’m goodish now. I hope you’re doing well I know it’s hard and I hate the cliches but it gets better. You forget things for longer and don’t get so sad when you do remember things. Either way thanks for asking and as I said I hope you are getting through it.
@@philbobagbox1177 I know how you feel. I'm 35 and got out from a 10year relationship a couple months ago. It feels weird starting over. But I took a week off from work and made a 5 year plan of my goals. Just stay strong and keep it moving. Worry about yourself for now and don't get caught in a rebound relationship.
I don’t think anyone has to be less selfish or value commitment. But that doesn’t mean just jump into a relationship. I think if you value your alone time and your dreams and aspirations and wants more than a being, an actual human person, than that’s fine. Just do you until your ready. Me personally I can openly say I’m just too selfish I know what it’s like to have to be what a woman deserves. And I don’t want that at all..like ever honestly😂
He went deep into thought, even while joking around and was able to understand himself, what he went through, where it went wrong, why it went wrong and that he doesn't want it to happen again so he'll wait and work on himself until it's time and all those things align.
Relationships are two way streets, you have to like the person more than love them, when you like someone you want to share their experiences, and they become launching off points for conversation, which fuels the relationship. A lot of people are simply too self-centered for real meaningful, lasting relationships. Bobby will always be incapable of a real relationship until he opoens his heart and gets in his feelings, clearly he's locked up so fucking tight emotionally that he's practically a sociopath, and that's where he's decided he's comfortable, and escapes into chasing appetites to forget his feelings. It's sad, really.
His girlfriend also didn't cared about his hobbies like videogames. Based on what he said it just seems that both of them have completely different hobbies and things they value so once the high of the relationship faded they didn't had other things in common and it became a big effort to keep each other support.
Clint Eastwood's character in the movie Gran Torino tells the priest that he went to church every week because his wife liked it. Having your Independence is good but you should relish the opportunity to do things together. If the girl is cool, then it should be fun. If it's an extreme case like this where you play video games 16 hours a day, then why not date a woman who is a gamer?
He pretty much said in the beginning of the video that, he wanted his own space and do his thing from time to time. Meanwhile, his ex would do her own thing as well and at the end of the day, they come back together and mellow out. Unfortunately though, this wasn't the case for Bobby because, she was too clingy and he felt like he had to comprise a lot for her.
I like Ryan, he’s funny but also down to earth and doesn’t make fun when people are being real but also asks the hard questions in light hearted way. Like it when people don’t judge others and just engage in a funny way
Him saying he doesn’t have the energy to put time/effort into a relationship is exactly where I am at. It’s no fault to the woman I’m seeing or talking too; I just personally don’t have any drive to create something new in my life. I’ve been open and honest to every woman I meet, and I find like Bobby said, not something woman are attracted too. But that’s okay; because I want to be alone. Maybe one day I’ll be ready for the time and dedication it takes to create something new. But for right now I’m just doing me Thank you Bobby for being so honest !!
And thats all fine and well, but if that's the case, rather than a relationship, maybe just look for a "friends with benefits" kind of situation? That way you get the sex/hanging out when you feel like it, but no commitment.
@@45johngalt Oh I dont disagree with you, but generally its the girl that catches feelings, and bobby made a point of being lazy in his relationships. So regardless who he goes with, more than likely its the girl that would suffer, So having friends with benefits would work for him, because he gets the sex but doesnt really give extra, and if they catch feelings somehow thats on them.
@@BattleBladeWarriorhe's addicted to p--- and has no need to have sex. He's the one who only had sex a few times in a few years with his partner, not the other way around. So a friend's with benefits would be useless too. He's better off alone as much as I love Bobby he's selfish af and not any good for a relationship in his current state and he's always been like that. Same happened to all his ex's just total neglect 16 hrs video games no emotional support no intimacy sex hugging kissing etc and he has no interest in other women except himself. He's better off just having friends Like Bad Friends 😏
@@Shannon-vv6rr Oh wow, now I think I get it. Damn, that is pretty bad on his part then. I enjoy porn and long gaming sessions as much as the next person, but even then, I still always make time for my fiance. If Bobbys not even interested in sex wit ha partner, let alone any sort of intimacy or whatever, than yea, he's definitely better off by himself.
And you either get sick/bored of the person or you grow, learn, and develop a life together. People who think a relationship is always fun, new, and exciting are misguided.
it never wears off if you only know them for a single night. i think thats what bobby wants right now. i doubt it will last. he'll be trying to find someone constant again in a few years tops.
@@foximoxi8533 usually one or both do not want to do the work to build a life together after novelty wears off...which is sad because it can be amazing, especially once children come into play. younger generations are much more like bobby, "me me me", which makes me quite concerned about the future.
I know exactly what he's talking about, I feel the same way. I've had many relationships and I'm a good looking guy but I've realised that I'm at my best and happiest when I'm alone. It's just tiring and exhausting to be around any person for long period of times. Extroverts will never understand this or relate to this.
You don't need to be around them 24/7. Have your own office. If you're actually a productive and busy guy, she will appreciate you even if you mostly spend your time alone. When you do spend time with her, make ot quality time and make her feel like a proper wokan
You sound like youre projecting. Bet you think he shouldve married his girlfriend when you personally havent even held down your 2 ex husbands and now lives with cats trying to judge other people based on your own failure.
@@nolives lol how tf did you make up that whole narrative in your head? The internet never ceases to amaze me 😂 As a 29 year-old, to me he sounds like he's self-sabotaged & has retreated into himself a bit. He'd rather play video games all day and not move off the couch than work on his body for like 1 hour a day. He sees it as a drag to go support someone in something that means something to them, just because he doesn't find it interesting. He's becoming antisocial and if it worsens he's gonna end up exactly as he describes, alone. Only when he gets older he'll realise those minor inconveniences are a small price to pay for wellbeing & happiness.
Hes not gonna get out of it unless he throws himself into his work or something where he goes out and meets people and associates with people i fkn love video games so does my gurl and we both play alot but like when your depressed and thats all you do and you just show up for the paycheck thats a bad cycle of depression thats just gonna get worse and worse in my opionion and from what ive seen in my 30 years i could be wrong 🤷♂️
I appreciate Bobby's honesty, but dude is really selfish. Being selfish is ok. I am selfish as hell and i like being alone. I found myself miserable in relationships because i always wanted to do what i wanted to do, and got annoyed by having to spend energy on shit i didn't care about with my girl. But Bobby doesn't seem to fully understand his selfishness. Support for a woman (or partner or friend) is not just giving them money for their hobby or passions. It is sharing their hobbies even if its just talking about it. Being a part of that hobby in some shape or form other than monetary. But Bobby just explains how he supports by giving money.
I'm in the same boat. I'm a selfish, only child. It took me literal decades...marriage, divorce, and multiple failed relationships to realize I'm simply happier and more content with in life, alone. No drama, no arguing, no compromising and giving up hobbies that bring me joy. Just peace. The sooner Bobby realizes this about himself, the better off he'll be.
yeah i wonder if his parents had an influence on his concept of love bc i know for me my asian parents only showed me "love" via money and it messed me up for a long time but you gotta learn what love really looks like or you're gonna be miserable forever
Spending time on things you didn't care about with your girl; Bobby having said the same thing I think this is a little odd because I feel there should be common interests shared, and that a couple should be doing those things together instead of forcing interest in other areas.
Everyone always blames her for being terrible to Bobby. But, the reality is this is a man who is addicted to porn and video games and refused to even touch his partner. Eventually she needed more and that's okay. They both still love and care for each other which in the end is all that really matters.
@@JoeyJame So it’s her fault that he’s a gross OLD man addicted to porn and games. That shit is supposed to pass after your teen years, so like I said, he is NOT innocent. You’re acting like he’s a dreamboat and an absolute catch. Guess what, he’s not. 😂
"I have no interest. Women don't like that". Bobby: PEOPLE IN GENERAL don't like that! 😂 You're basically saying that you're entirely selfish, unwilling to compromise on anything you don't want to do, you don't care about the other person's desires, dreams, or needs. Dude, no wonder you're still seeing the same therapist. They're making a ton of money by not telling you how to be a better person.
As someone whose been in a tumultuous relationship for 10 years, what Bobby says hits real close to home...a lot of the things he describes is exactly how I feel.
exactly how i feel about relationships too. I dont blame myself for it though and I don't find myself difficult for being that way. Which is why I have no intention to marry anyone. Girlfriend sure, marriage nope
I feel like my husband & I also have this personality type....where you wanna just be alone & do your own shit. We'll even be in the same room but independently doing our own thing & we're at peace. Being around ppl that constantly need attention but dont enjoy anything you do is fucking draining!
It honestly is! Haha I mean we're human so obviously we have days we dont agree but we respect each others space. Also as a wife of a gamer im just gonna put this out there....my husband is a fucking genius! Lmao 😂 society makes women think gamers are childish but that shit aint easy! (I know, ive tried).
My hubs and I are very solitary individuals. Do we have some common interests and do those things together? Do we have open discussions on life, religion, and politics Do we enjoy spending time family? Yes to all of those. But we don't feel the need to be constantly doing things together or be around other people . We met at 18 & 20 and almost 40 years later it still works.
Bobby's gotta let go entirely. Living together, _sleeping_ together and not really dating is even more toxic than being in an actual relationship. He's torturing himself.
He doesn’t care pretty sure he’s getting some action too he just doesn’t wanna pretend he likes things for someone else but he’s just going to sport fuck till he find w.e girl stands out to following the standards he has
@@flakkog1971 is he tho? He says they had sex 2 or 3 times in 2 years
@Mattydubbz not at all, if anyone is being tortured from the situation it's her dude.
@Corndawg Wallace and?
He is a pathetic simp. What a sad man.
Bobby is a good example for someone going through life & not learning a god damn thing 😂
bobby is literally me
That’s why people have to treat their addictions. It’s almost impossible to learn and process if you’re addicted to things.
@@judbaker5752 ima addicted to pssy and being 5ft5 keeps me away from my addiction 💯🙏
edit: idk why this comment got so many likes but yeah being short is not a good thing if you want to get into the dating market
@@beganitdidnt6535 you are hopeless lol
@@beganitdidnt6535 tbh the fact you thought that was funny says a lot, get off the internet for awhile
I met Bobby Lee when he wasn't famous at The Comedy Store in LA and he was so cool and nice to me. I told him I knew 100% he was going to make it. I ran into him 15 years later and he remembered me! He was still just as nice and we had a great talk. Great guy and I have so much respect for how honest he is. Zero bullshit. He doesn't lie. You're the best Bobby and thank you for adding so much laughter to my life.
true story ^
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Bobby lies all the time, what are you talking about? He admits on every podcast that he lies constantly. He takes other people's stories and pretends it happened to him, he always embellishes or heavily exaggerates for comedic effect. He's always bullshitting and he would have no problem admitting that. He tells the truth too, but that's usually off camera.
cool story bruh
@@Nivomandasrail really? i never heard him admit that. Can you just provide a link? it should be easy for you, since it happens every podcast. Thanks!
Sexual trauma. Depression. Staying with a guy who won’t help himself ruins your self esteem. Among other things.
Huh?
"Sexual trauma" 😂
This is Khalyla’s secret account….
Women never seize to amaze me.
Well, shit.. call me Bobby Lee.
Breaking up and still living with her is perhaps ones of the most painful emotional things I’ve ever done to myself. When you break up, break up. Don’t hang around, holding on. 1 shot to the head is better than 5 to chest and bleeding out. But maybe that’s just me.
A heart shot kills you instantly
True
khlayla is a manipulator narcissist look up her being exposed. she cucked a ex boyfriend because she wanted to manipulate she knew it was slimy and wrong. she did the same thing to bobby. she brought another man in the relationship on bobbys money he flew her to hawaii because he wanted to do anything to keep her while he was in rehab in a dark place. bobby never wanted an open relationship if you watch the clues she was grooming bobby to be in an open relationship like her ex. once you see how slimy she is it all makes sense. it makes me think that brendan schwab was right now
It actually makes total sense. Great analogy also
1000% facts
One thing I have to say. Bobby expressed that “girls” want/need the cuddles and attention and then later spoke about his inability to go and do things for the sake of the other person bc he simply just doesn’t want to. That is not a women thing. In any relationship wether it’s familial or romantic of friendly requires each person to do things for the others happiness even if it’s not something you want to do. If you don’t do that, it’ll begin to feel transactional rather than loving. If Bobby continues to refuse to do things for the other persons sake and only does things when HE wants to, he will never find a person. It’s hard to swallow but true.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes. You don't want to spend time with your SO. You want to do your own thing don't be surprised if they hear you & leave you to be by yourself.
Facts
Easy to be alone until your on your deathbed
He needs some serious help from Jordan Peterson.
you are codependent. slave mentality.
Holy shit I think this is the first time I can fully trust that Bobby isn’t doing a bit and I’m seeing and hearing the real him for the first time.
Naw this is bit for sure lmaoo
Is this Khalylas burner ? Or have you never watched Bobby Lee on a podcast ?
This whole time I'm thinking where is the joke
🫵😂
Listen to Bobby Lee Returns Again on the Inside of You podcast. He opens up like this.
If you are playing video games 16 hours a day, of course your personal relationships are going to fall apart, they are non existent
I had to start scheduling things to make sure I was putting my time in with the person who means everything to me
@stalwartzero7001 yup. Told my wife I will schedule you for 2 hours a week..... now we sort of good
@@erey214 😂😂😂
@@erey214no worries boy a man will take care of her for you.
It’s depressing seeing so many people uplift this sort of thing as “authentic” and not “a cry for help. Holy crap this man is horrifically depressed.”
Why is everything a cry for help with you people. Gross.
You don’t fix depression overnight. Can you not hear him say he sees a psychologist and psychiatrist regularly. Why subject someone else and yourself to your depressed self.
@@Coastpsych_fi99 You misunderstand, my comment is about how his oversharing is unhelpful to him during this time. He needs close friends and that psychologist not a bunch of podcast listeners analyzing everything he says. I know it’s his job but some privacy and aside from the safe people in his life will help his healing.
Well look at him
@@ab-gail He's probably horrifically depressed but I don't think anything about sharing personal details is inherently bad for him. I've not followed him for years and only checked up on the news now but this is how I've known him since. I don't think he wants help right now other than the therapy sessions he's already getting.
They’re right to end it. If you only care about yourself you have no business being in a relationship.
Bobby is identical to so many of the 50 year old "forever bachelor" industry dudes here in LA. They are never satisfied because they're always looking to see what the next younger, "more exciting" thing around the corner may be. They're all self sabotagers. At this rate, Bobby will still be chasing his "dream girl" at age 60, but just banging whatever 20 year old actress he can bring home from the Comedy Store for that night.
@@mc2043 Lol. What are you on about? This guy is not banging anything.
@@aha6500 Don't be naive.
@@aha6500 oh you poor child
They haven't ended it.
I don’t even like talking about breakups with my friends lol. Imagine having to do a rundown on 17 podcasts
my opinion has evolved lol I’m now jealous of what an easy bag Bobby’s getting just by talking about his breakup and I totally would do the same
Seriously. I’d be cringing after telling the story 3 times. I don’t feel like anyone really needs to know all the details anyway. People have a good idea already.
They just want the gory details lol
If you’re whole life is public hard to hide something so big that factors to everything you do
He doesn't "have to." It's a private matter that gets views. He chooses to discuss it.
turning something ugly into money
Im glad he was honest in admitting he is the problem and doesn't want to change. That takes a lot of balls to decide to just suffer the consequences of a bad choice you don't want to change
It's not really a break up when you still live together and even share the same bed. Bobby needs to decide where he wants to live and separate physically and financially or things will get worse.
Shits wild
He needs to let her go!
He is a oddly different guy, things might hit different for him .. but he was crying before tiger belly and she wasn’t even on that episode, I don’t think I’ve ever seen that !!
Yeah is really weird. Honestly khayla seems emotionless
Figure out? Bitch fuck out my house. Fuck out my bed. You are fired. Boom that’s it. His views will go up without her. I stopped listening to Tb after like 80 episodes. She’s too self indulged and mighty.
Bobby needs to start streaming on twitch! I feel like he would kill on there.
He has done it before, but has explained that video games are his escape and he wants to keep it seperate from ‘work’
He'd get banned in a month.
@@KristianH1986 I think the person meant do an irl stream.
@@nicolaspace1182 I don’t think so, considering Bobby has been saying lately that he wants to play video games for 16 hours a day until he dies 😂
Fuck yes
lets be honest, open relationships never last
Not for people who aren't carrying a lot of baggage and trauma. Some "broken" people can convince themselves that's normal
@@SuperRadChad of course theirs outliers, but most of thr tine open relationships fail, eventually someone is likely to find another person they enjoy spending their time with
An open relationship isnt a relationship its just two people living together that fuck sometimes.
@@jigzonyt517 excactly....wtf is a relationship these days ? With its real values
Did they not open it up near the end? I don't think they started as an open relationship.
Bobby is the best example for my kids. Using him as an example, I will show them how life looks without discipline.
tbh he had shitty parents
Sheeesh
I'm sure he had plenty of discipline as a Korean-American kid with entrepreneur parents. He got into drugs early and left home at 18.
discipline of what 😂
Discipline has nothing to do
This guy is the definition of self sabotaging. At his age its hard to say if he could ever change but I hope he can.
@Jesús Torres Salgado how can you know if someone is OK with it? It’s self sabotage, you can’t trust them
Personality is usually set by age 25.
@@tmmnago2722 wouldn’t generalise all human beings that intensely mate, it’s pointless and not accurate
Ok…. Has has he gone truly “mentally disabled” or is everyone babying Bobby for nothing? He had a loving girl, caretaker, and motivated sexual partner in his life that did nothing but support him and his wily antics and lifestyle. Why are we feeling bad for Bobby and not the chick that supported his strange little ass? Haha plus smoking hot Bobby you nut!
@Jesús Torres Salgado why would you stay away? He is funny af man
If I was listening to Bobby alone here, I’d honestly be kind of sad for him. But every time he says something heartbreaking, there’s Ryan laughing like a wolf whistle.
It's an addicting and relatable laugh
Such an annoying laugh.
@@SuperPeterok agreed. It's relatable
Fr ion like this guy very much
He's trying to keep the energy light. Even though they're just having a conversation, this is still a show
Disclaimer. Just because Bobby lee does this doesn’t mean it’s okay for you to. This shit ain’t healthy, I fell into a bad mental spot just satisfying myself and ignoring everything and everyone around me. This doesn’t give you an excuse to live like that.
Disclaimer. Do what you want to do it's not morally abhorrent to live for yourself and your own interest if that's what you desire
@@RazluzTV Usually it yields mental illness to live like that, it's not because it's immoral it's because it's not good for you. Bobby Lee has resources, the rest of us don't. We'll stagnate and end up broke if we live like that.
@T N. Sometimes you gotta listen to that soft voice you slowly turn the volume down on and actually do something for yourself regardless of if people say you’re being selfish or not. Might have been 5-10-15 years of turning the volume down friend but when you finally get that solemn time and exit a relationship it ain’t time to listen to everyone about how selfish you are or how sad you are that you are alone. It’s time for you to delve inside and start listening to that voice you turned down for so many years. You guys have to make and my friend. You gotta figure out some stuff, you gotta find yourself, you gotta find your happy, you gotta find your worth. Nothing selfish about any of that don’t forget that.
Ok , well that's you and you can speak for yourself but why are you trying to lecture everyone else ?
@@exitscreaming4637 unlike you I have experience in life and experience in this exact position. Fulfilling your own needs doesn’t bring happiness. Just like cars and clothes and jewelry doesn’t make you truly happy either. Keep feeding your own ego and don’t look to benefit anyone but yourself and you will never find happiness ever in your life. It is truly a fact, not an opinion. The sooner you figure it out the easier your life will be. Good luck 👍
I just started listening to Bobbi (on and off) for about a year…I find that I really enjoy listening him just talk and tell stories. He has a gift in that
Lee: we broke up
Interviewer: well I would love to meet her
Bahhahah thats where my head went IMMEDIATELY
And that is the problem she was flirting before all this happened to all the guys she was in podcasts. I was like fuck wth
My stoned mind
i think he meant to have her as a guest
The interviewers laugh makes me want to make love to a blender
@@zigotina guest for what kind of situtation..?😮
If Bobby would take his peers advice and shoot a stand-up at this moment it would be a classic. He’s in rare form.
Well his "peers" aren't too concerned about his well-being then, because a stand-up special to salt a man's wounds may not be healthy for him.
@@train_cam shut up, snowflake. He needs to do a stand up
@@train_cam then stand-up might not be the career for the person who can’t do that…
I saw Bobby live and it was one of the best shows I’ve ever seen. The crowd was losing it
YES. He could reach Dave Chappelle levels of killing it
I was with my high school sweet heart for 9 years and had 2 daughters together. She went off the deep end and ran off to do some pretty shocking stuff. It's hard to leave someone you love even when you know you have to. Keep your head up Bobby and keep doing what's best for you
Same, 5 years not 9 but she left me for getting high and guys who would support her habit now she’s sober but we are two different ppl now
@@bigfrankentertainment damn same here this was 4 years ago we were together for 2years she hit me up she wants to catch up but I'm gd now sober and healthy and working out keeping my self busy the right one would come in time .keep your head up
Expect it broz, with apps and thirstyness, these females easliy get side tracked.
It's your fault. You got complacent and made yourself unattractive.
5 for me and she left me bc I had a habit and her mom basically told her you can’t fix him unless he wants it and it took me a long time to realize reality
He needs to surround himself with positive people that are going to challenge him to do better
It’s a shame because I can’t help but feel that he self sabotaged his relationship. He sounds insecure with himself and that might have led to isolating. I hope he makes it out on top in the end.
he probably just wanna chilly
Absolutely when he allowed to switch into a open realationship it was his way of hoping his ex would find someone else in hopes that she would break up with him bc he knows he isn’t mentally present enough to be a true partner in a romantic realationship. He needs to confront his trauma and quit finding new addictions to numb and dissociate from the past / present
@@SabrinaHawk he's rich and famous he doesn't need to do any of that.
@@TheFenixDown206 if he wants to be happy, he does. He isnt happy, he's numb... Which is what most addicts aim for. He may technically be "sober," but I guarantee he isn't "emotionally sober." I know he is an AA guy, but probably is not actually "working the program." If he starts working on himself, he may have a chance to be happy. Either alone or in a relationship. 🤷🏻♀️ as the child of an alcoholic/ addict, who has quite a bit of childhood trauma of my own, I spent my first 30ish years numbing myself. I actually worked on acceptance and forgiveness (of myself and others,) and at 34, I am actually happy now! 🥰
@@alexarobertson17 here here! Could’ve said it better myself
I’ve been married to my husband for 15 years. We have a great relationship on all fronts. We work together, we have a great love life, we enjoy our extended families, we have good kids, and we share our faith. It takes a lot of effort from both sides. In fact the first year we were married, we almost divorced. We went to counseling and the therapist told us he didn’t see us making it. My husband stood up, grabbed my hand and the then said to the therapist as he pulled me to the door, “ We are not listening to this shit!” In that moment we realized this was death do us part. Then last year my husband got sick and almost died from Covid. During that time I contemplated on the fact that I have the best, and how would I ever be lucky enough to have someone or something so good again. I don’t have any desire to ever date or get remarried again. I would be fine alone. So, I understand and believe Bobby when says that he is alright not dating again.
Sometimes therapy really is overrated. Therapists will often confidently say that you should leave a relationship because there are "plenty of fish in the sea" but this is a very flippant and American way of looking at things. Commitment is important and sometimes weathering the storm does more for both of you and the world than just giving up.
Literally no one gives a shit
He’s cheating on you…
This is beautiful I cried
Dude this talk literally changed my life. I feel bobby 100% man. This conversation really made me think about my own life and my own previous relationships. I just came out of a two year relationship and before that I was in a 12 year relationship with my baby momma. It's tough man.
I think ppl. Are getting tired of each other too quik in this high dopamine era we live in. Were in a tap of a button i can see pretty girls or guys and something im attracted too.
Watch Fresh and fit podcast
@@asmokingp3005 exactly, "there's always someone better"
Got out of a 5 yr relationship, been a few years haven't gotten back up yet :/
@@i7vSa7vi7y Fuck out of here. They are phonies.
People think I’m too picky or introverted but until I was 43 I had been in three long term relationships and each one we rushed into them and resentful of not liking the same things . 6 years living alone and I get it. Young people are codependent they would rather be in a horrible relationship than have no relationship
Bobby wants unreality. The chemistry, the magic, the special connection. These things all fade and then each party in relationship is left with…..another real person who has flaws, issues, and challenges in life. Surrendering to that is love and leads to a fulfilling life.
beautifully said
Dopamine addict. Quite common in this day and age.
He described a relationship growing up as falling apart and it was sad. Bcz he's 50 and still in his 20s that road does end alone.
The thing is, there’s no such thing as a road that doesn’t end alone. There are many ways to live, and whether you’re with a partner or not, you’re dying alone my friend, and who is to say you won’t die before your partner or the other way around.
@@darrenbrown7037 you're right, I do wish him the best video game filled days possible if that's his version of happy
@@darrenbrown7037 What if you're a loving couple in a violent accident, like a plane crash, or an explosion? Then you can die together with the ones you love. That's why I have an explosive device linked to my smartwatch so that if I flatline, I go out surrounded by those I love.
@@alfredprufrock6567 😹😹😹 how romantic
I cant believe hes 50! Thought he was like 35
Everyone keeps commenting about how they feel for Bobby, when I just keep thinking about how lonely and and how damaged kalyla’s self esteem must be. To have a partner constantly pick things iver you is awful. Hopefully both of them are happier now
It’s obvious that the target demo is males here for Bobby. The only people worried about Khalyla are pretty obviously women. We all know what it’s like to deal with such a major disappointment... What gets me the most is how matter of factly he states that “she helped make him who he is” and yet he has no interest in sacrificing or changing anything about himself to even reassure her she’s worth the effort. He’s admitting she’s not worth the effort. We’ve all been with a man child like this! Once she’s gone for good & happy alone/with someone else, he’s going to regret all of this. 🥲👺🤌
@@KM-bn7dg very much doubt it
@@Keepgoing42 He spends all day watching porn and playing video games, that's a college kid, not a 50 year old man. And wanting to have sex with your boyfriend and hang out with him is not "high maintenance."
@@Keepgoing42 🤣 too high maintenance to you is wanting to have sex with your partner rather than them constantly watching porn, and spending time together once in a while. Rotfl what must you think of actual high maintenance people?
@@Keepgoing42 Congrats. You just told everyone youee a man child too
I can relate. I'm a pretty extreme introvert and a lot of my relationships failed because partners wanted / needed way more attention than I could give. I thankfully found someone very much like me and we go off and do our own thing, but then come back and share our adventures with each other. We've been happily married for 13 years and consider ourselves soulmates.
introversion has nothing to do with how much attention you give your partner?
@@sweetembrace6706 yeah I was just thinking how idiotic this sounds 😂
@@sweetembrace6706 Of course it can. Introverts can experience pretty significant exhaustion from human interaction. Even pleasant interaction with a beloved partner can be draining for a very introverted person. They need a lot of time to focus and recharge. So if you are paired with someone who requires A LOT of attention, that can be a recipe for disaster.
That sounds super nice. Y’all met each other fell and love and felt like you didn’t have to completely change your lives in order to stay happy.
The given reason wasn't actually why they broke up. Khalyla is deeply insane.
He’s not like most normal people and he doesn’t care that he isn’t. He’s true to himself. I like these type of people.
They’re truly genuine and honest people I love them too. Unfortunately they are heavily targeted by narcissistic psychopaths, which surprise surprise was his gf.
@@kevinmcmillin870You've no idea what a narcissist psychopath is.
@@waterkingdavid
Tell me more about yourself then, narc.
yeesh
@@kevinmcmillin870 absolutely, the most vulnerable are always targeted by the NPDs, BPDs and HPDs
One of the most honest men around. Everyone's judging him and his situation but everyone has demons and nobody is this honest with themselves and others about it. The fact he puts it out on podcasts to the public is even more crazy. Got lots of love for Bobby and I hope he gets the help he needs and finds some self confidence. We can't lose another great comedian
@@Max-zu8xj That sounds like a pretty bias video for starters, and I'm pretty certain you don't know more about his personal life and his long term girlfriend than he does.
I ain't into gossip.
@@jakeuren8688 I agree that it sounds bias. I recommend to take a look, youll see evidence. Nothing bias about that. Khalila is manipulative and Bobby is suverily damaged staying in that relationship for years. She still live in the same house and still sucks money from him.
You mean women do not like him???' He described emotional neglect and cruelty. He causes therapy because that is not a human that is a low cock with pockets who complains about everything to do and being around women. He hates beingaround women. What kind of guy who likes women hates to spend time with them?
I don't think people are judging his honesty here, moreso judging how he handles his situation.
@@nikkoa.3639 yeah I don't think so. i never see many men agree on men handling shit properly. They usually agree on "boys are boys" that is negatively affecting the world around them. But hey- who notices patterns.
I appreciate Bobby for always being one of the few that will open up about his life struggles. I think he helps to open these convos and break down these barriers we have as men. Appreciate you Bobby the world needs more of you brother.
Bobby's not a man. He's a fifty year old boy, and even that is a charitable description
100 agree Bobby Lee is awesome and 99.99% of people are on his side in this whole ordeal
@@mitchellmiller781 🤡
Who put up those barriers?? Cause women have been calling this out for a while but i don't think people could get past the jargon enough to actually understand these "barriers" and what constructed them.
@@lifetops6569 men have barriers because they need to shield women from the pain of reality. This "calling out" bullshit is just an effort to feminize men and it has been wholly destructive to society.
We accept the love we think we deserve.
Well spoken
Perks of a wallflower!
Speak for yourself
…….. he….. he neglected HER?!!!!!
wahmyn detected
Talking about videogames and being a fat porn addict then calling yourself alpha is crazy
I like how we are all sitting here acting like the porn addiction wasn’t the problem the whole fucking time everyone knows porn is massively destructive to the male brain no matter how hot girlfriend is
Right. More people should read "Your Brain on Porn by Gary Olson".
P0rn addiction topped off with video game addiction... but the p0rn addiction is what kills his drive for her... and if she can't make him happy in that way... nobody will.
@@carter_1 exactly he was satisfying himself. Sex is supposed to be another incentive. Pornography (modern) is classed under super stimulus so you're getting far more stimulation then is normal in nature.
By the sounds of it 100% his porn addiction killed the relationship. If he's jerking it to oldje while he has a gorgeous partner waiting desperately for him then he's a sad case. Love Bobby and mean no disrespect but that's a huge red flag. I hope he can find the strength to see the light
Sounds like you guys have porn problems you need to resolve.
Used to date a girl we'd go to a beautiful park, were on the bench eating lunch together like movie-esc and she'd go "So what are we doing today?" and I'm like "Babe this is it, right now." like this is living to me, this is nice. She was a party girl, unless at a bar/concert/party/vacationing every 2 weeks then we weren't 'doing' something. We broke up.
And she used to date a guy that was too low energy for her and enjoyed a different pace of living and leisure. They broke up.
Some people are just not compatible and there's nothing wrong with that.
She was for the streets
@@fleepss2407 straight up, like bch that phase starts quickly and should end quickly lool
AKA hoeing
I resonate with your girlfriend, because my girlfriend and I are the same right now. My girlfriend is a lovely, lovely person. But her go-with-the-flow personality is just too much for me to handle. She’s European, and constantly flip-flops on whether she’s going to stay in the states or leave depending on her mood. We stay in bed for hours on the weekend, until I eventually have to kick ourselves out and make sure we’re doing something, otherwise it feels like a waste. Throughout our entire relationship, I’ve always been the one to initiate texting/calling/planning because she’s just so aloof, loves nothing more than just spontaneously spending a day staring out at a skyline or up at the sky for hours while disregarding any real-life duties or experiences.
And this will be the end of our relationship - mark my words. Don’t get me wrong, I love those slow, stop the world and melt with you moments. But I also love the stimulating parts of life. We recently went on vacation together - the whole week she wanted to stay on the beach. I wanted to see stuff and work in time for the beach as we went along. It’s hard being with someone who has their head in the clouds 24/7, because eventually you end up getting pulled away from the ground.
Everyone’s pissed at Khalyla, but Bobby is being very transparent that it was a 2 way thing. He wasn’t giving her what she needed for a very long time, she needed more. There should be no hatred towards either of them. I hope they figure things out and can eventually actually separate and get their own places. They have no resentment, so fans shouldn’t either.
Dude it is CLEARLY obvious that he only says that because she manipulated him into thinking it's his fault. That's what women do. That is the whole game.
100%. She’s getting so much hate for no reason
@@privateuser7 You need to go outside and interact with human beings for a change
@@privateuser7 “that’s what women do” lmao ok bro? If that’s what u wanna believe, no one’s stopping u from dating a dude lol
He made her rich
Bobby describing himself is just him giving tons of examples of what the word “selfishness” means
Bobby has more addictions than he realizes, addiction makes you isolate and want to be alone. I hope he gets it figured out.
So true I’m going through the same porn addiction as him and I’m very isolated and it makes you go insane in your head all the time
He should figure this shit out quickly.
Cuz he's not a foolish, detrimentally ignorant, lame, inexperienced, etc.... young man anymore.
@mero40k serious question here. I don't have any overt, easily identifiable addictions, but find isolation alluring. Can isolation itself be the addiction?
He’s just successful and he wants what he wants he met shawty on tinder pretty sure he just went wit the flow and noticed he doesn’t wanna be with her off of pretending to be interested in shit he don’t care about ya need to go tf out and stop thinking ya woke because you think of situations deep for no reason this why nobody can get out of a victim mindset just fucking make some kind of excuse to not see it for what it is he wants to live how he wants to I’ve no interruptions just peace and the fact that so many men can’t even see that is the reason so many of ya can’t get no females and so many men not saying how this correlates to the red pill movement but so many saying they feel the same still talking about the first man to speak on this are dumb and aren’t paying attention just trynna get some clout I’m so upset I can’t even stay on topic because why are ya like this stop lowering standards for a female because this is the outcome only difference is we broke compared to him and females wouldn’t even think to put up with shit they don’t like besides cheating due to the biological attraction of a top tier guy that fucks many women and does what he wants
@@homefrontforge Im not a clinical Psych, Dr. or LCSW so I cant really answer that question. And the last thing Im looking for is a debate on YT. I just know what addiction and isoaltion look like from decades of personal and external experience. I honestly wish him the best though. Hes a brilliant comedian.
Major props to Bobby for his honesty and self reflection. Porn is a major intimacy blocker and can destroy relationships - if you feel stuck and it's hurting you or your loved ones, get help! You have the power to change 🙌
Who do you go too for that
@@K.A.M1999 Lots of support groups online for all sorts of my addictions. SPAA I think is for that particular addiction.
Through Jesus Christ alone
@@ohtebowah Jesus has people on earth that are his hands and feet. You can pray and go to therapy at the same time.
Problem for Bobby is he most likley does not get attention from the ladies(according to him and I can see why honestly) at least not until he's worth more money.
What he's describing sounds like text book intimacy avoidance. I was in a similar situation with my wife and I needed to have a rude awakening to see what I was doing to her. It leaves your partner feeling like they're the problem no matter how you try to explain it. I needed to stop the porn and jerking off but most importantly I needed to learn how to be intimate with my wife, more than just physically.
It's hard to take that leap. Many of us (in my experience, far more often in men) have a hard time reconciling "be strong" and "be vulnerable" within the context of a relationship with our partner. It makes sense. It's a tough line to walk. But if she's a real catch, she'll be fine with your intimate side. Good luck out there to all who struggle with it. My advice is to just show up completely vulnerable. The women I admire the most have all cherished vulnerability in a partner. I've also known many who were turned off by it - but they were categorically lower quality people!
how do you do such a thing i kinda feel the saem way
Dude I've been with my wife for 15 years now and yeah there was that little "mystery" part at the beginning, but the part where you know someone almost as well as you know yourself, and you know you can trust them 100% with everything - not just being there in an emergency, but your feelings, your private thoughts, your everything - that's the sweetest part of a relationship I've ever been in and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
It really does sound like he's not comfortable with himself (a lot of comedians aren't) and has low self-esteem (a lot of comedians do) and has never been forced to mature. He started making money at a young age, landed some great gigs with his talent, and is now just sortof coasting through life as a grown-up adolescent. As he said, he's not a loser, he's just stuck emotionally like a lot of successful men are.
You're reading too much into this because its you. So you think youre deeper than you are. Its a porn and video game addiction along with being selfish. Lets not make this what its not.
lol
Porn ruined your relationship dude. That’s why excitement fizzled with your real woman. Get deliverance from porn addiction. It’s a thing. Respect for how honest you are and taking full responsibility for your actions and not blaming your partner. That’s rare character.
I think for me, that mystery of a person and/or a relationship shifts over time. When I met my now wife, we, like what Bobby described, had that period of time of "the chase" and "the mystery" of getting to know each other. What happened for us wasn't so much of a boredom or "falling apart" once we had grown familiar with each other, but rather that mystery and chase shifted to how WE were going to continue to change and grow now as a unit. For me, this was a natural evolution of a relationship and, specifically, our friendship that lead to us becoming wed. I 100% with when Bobby described that change in the relationship becoming a friendship. I think a growing relationship eventually hit a point where you decide if you are interested in exploring the mystery not of another individual, but of a team and become invested in each other. For Bobby, it sounds like either he may not see things that way or, at this time, he doesn't have interest in that next step.
I’ve commented above but you’ve put it more eloquently than I did 😂
Wow this explains exactly how I feel, and that gives me a lot of hope after hearing Bobby speak and reading so many comments agreeing with him. I was wondering what the world is coming to is everyone feels the way Bobby does. I hope they all find someone worth being “bored” for.
Bobby should stop masturbating/watching Porn and playing video games all day, 2 activities that lower your regard of human interaction. While I think your spouse is foisted unto you in Western culture, you can find some middle ground. If I was giving Karlyla game, I would have told her to move out and find a partner to move on with. Luckily, they don't have children. But, that being said, even in a successful marriage (which is one where you get to the end together because that is the only success - for only death to do you part), they go through 10-15 years of not standing each other and someone not trying hard enough. I think had she taken the Filipino route of getting marriage first things might be different. Now, she is stuck. She had built something awesome with this man and now, he's like: "You're not worth it." Ouch! That must hurt. If I were her, I would put an intention for 7 weeks (Sundays)in a Catholic Church and ask Wisdom about what Her will is. Watch hoe the situation changes, so, I would say the fault is Kharlyla's because she has been taught how to handle spiritual.matters such as this but she is plagued by unbelief. Even of you are not Catholic, if you put in an intention, the whole Church = 1,2bn of us agree during intentions on what you are praying for. Sometimes the change happens as soon as you resolve to do it. It isnthat good. One prayer for you, the whole Church in unison, Wow!
You sound brainwashed.
Marriage is just a way to force and trick young men into being miserable slaves. @@1ntuthukozwane
You could understand this relationship wasn’t a true relationship of intimacy just by periodically watching then interact on their show. But if that still didn’t do it then listening to the first few min of this podcast made it quite clear. In his effort to say all the great things about her and their relationship, he described his great fullness being 100% about how she resurrected his career. Not one thing about her as a person. That ain’t ever gonna do it brah.
Dude he done it himself ,
Bro you literally just heard him say she "resurrected his career", just ignored everything he said. Like he literally said "she's love of his life" and bunch of other shit about the relationship
@@niles1492 no listen again he starts "she's, the love of my life she rebuilt my career,we started tiger belly"
He looked at her like HR. he fu kd up
What career? This guy is a nobody. Had one mildly funny bit on Madtv. Then you find about how much of an unfunny, gross pig he is in real life by watching his weak ass podcast. I imagine the only reason this video is in my feed is because I've watched someone actually funny on his dumb show, who he kept interrupting to same something disgusting or racist.
I’m sure he loved her in the beginning and time drifted them apart
I'm an addict, alcoholic and a gamer. It's all about dopamine and throwing your time away for that escape and dopamine rush. The way bobby talks about gaming reminded me my past self. Coincidently it was Skyrim... around 2-3000 hours of playing, modding and reading ingame books for lore. I loved it. And I will come back after years but.... no more 2 weeks without shower barely eating not taking calls from anyone. As an addict I will forever be very careful how much I love something. Be careful out there.
You never stop playing Skyrim... You just take breaks... Praise the Todd
I’m not a drugg addict, per se, but I too have those tendencies …. Very dangerous for me too. I will spend hours on my phone and just keep scrolling even if I’m tired or there’s nothing of interest …
Im addicted to food and sugar - that’s my dopamine hit. It’s hard to avoid food because it’s necessary for survival.
You did this to yourself
And Elder Scrolls at the end of the day is Elder Scrolls not real life
Wow you've found a real dogshit game to be addicted to lmao
I’m an addict and a gamer. Drugs&games every day for 2 years straight. This is the realest and easily the most relatable comment I’ve ever read in my life
I once had a friend who had the biggest crush on a mutual friend. He chose the friend zone and eventually stopped talking to her once she had a boyfriend. I asked him why he never made a move, he was good looking and funny. He said "she deserved better than me".
" they break apart and i want to meet somebody where it just doesnt" so he wants a relationship but he doesnt want to do any of the things that come with a relationship. he wants someone to just be content with him doing whatever he wants and not caring about them or maintaining the relationship/ connection. he basically wants exactly what caused his relationship to end. i wish him the best but damn hes going to be single forever with that mindset
Her name is the Porn fairy
That's why he kept saying he thinks he's just going to remain single. He understands that most people want some effort. His perfect relationship would probably just be a good friend he can have sex with from time to time. I know a few ladies that game all day and like to eat meat. It isnt impossible, but it's hard to get that combo.
That’s what I want too
He wants someone that isn’t so damn needy. Hard to fathom huh
@@OldSchoolDudeGaming Not completely. He wants her, he just doesnt want to put in more effort.
GOD I loved how honest Bobby seems to be (SEEMS to be) about his life. The fact that he so often will admit his own failures, and deeply displeasing parts of his life makes me more likely to believe him when he speaks about a good aspect of his life.
Bobby is like the panda that doesn't want to reproduce to save his species but in this case it's his relationship
He’s a massive red flag 🚩. Love Bobby as a comedian, but as a boyfriend/husband he is an absolute big fat NO. I can’t imagine investing 10 years of my life with an overgrown child. It’s fine to play video games, but Bobby literally doesn’t care about his partners emotional needs, physical needs like quality time and cuddles, her interests or her future goals. He literally doesn’t want to do anything with his partner, almost paying her off financially to leave him alone. He spoke as if a relationship is such a burden, well it usually is if you don’t put any effort in and let it become toxic. He doesn’t want to grow as a person or be in a proper relationship. Glad he is actually acknowledging that he is selfish and can’t provide properly for a partner, but the sad thing is that he’s already wasted 10 years of both their lives and he’ll most likely get into another relationship and do this all over again to a another girl. He’s 52 now so it’s pretty hard to imagine him getting over his old habits.
At the end of his life, Bobby can look back and think, at least I lived my life like a prepubescent child.
Except he's probably more successful then most the people in these comments BAHAHAHAHA.
@@toddblankenship7164 success won't make you happy if you won't work on yourself, in fact it can kill you
@@toddblankenship7164 you mean monetarily, right?
@@beastsonwax well ya i mean there's only doing what you want and making money so ya.
@@tor4472 It does to ex-broke mf's like me.
There's nothing worse than dating a porn addict. I hope his girlfriend finds somebody that loves the way she deserves
Forreal. Most of these takes are selfish / inconsiderate. She deserves so much more. She’s gracious, beautiful, & loyal.
currently going thru it my bf is just like bobby & im 22
@@palmbalm hmu instead
@@palmbalm you are 22? Get out now you’ll thank me years later, you are 22 prime of your life, leave that porn addict and find yourself a guy who gives you the attention you want, you’re young and probably beautiful, you’ll have no trouble finding someone else
@@palmbalm girlllll you’re young!!! run!!!
Been there and done that, but would never talk about it to friends or family, let alone the whole world. Gotta respect this man! Only a real man can admit his own wrongdoings. Love you Bobby Lee!❤❤❤
Brutally honest interview. Respect to Bobby for being so open and honest about it! It’s a shame when two people genuinely love each other but are no longer in love with a sexual attraction.
Except he’s not being honest, he’s basically taking all the blame here.
@@lavs8696 Khalyla brainwashed him on that. She’s a dirtbag.
i personally think they should have stayed together....majority of relationships stop fucking after years of being together....the bond that they had and the love they shared was unmatched in my opinion....it wasn’t one of those love stories where the people grew apart and hated eachother....i’m sure they had their moments and their resentments, but all relationships do...to me it’s a crime that they aren’t still together
@@lavs8696 he's honest about what he thinks happened. whether that is actually what happened, or is influenced by his low self esteem / misguided blame issues, only close friends can say.
@@govegan562 nah, that shouldn’t be happening in relationships. Relationships take effort, and if he wasn’t putting in the effort to at least sleep with her even once a month, then the relationship is dead.
Sometimes we all don’t feel like it, but you get yourself in the mood and know you’ll feel better after. It’s like motivating yourself to go to the gym - it’s good for you.
Constant porn and self flagellation is not attractive nor healthy for either an individual or a relationship.
They made the right choice if he’s not willing to actually give her what she needs.
A whole generation going through the "i don't want to grow up and sacrifice" relationship blues cycle
Dude yes, yiu took my words exactly!
Bruh
I think you are oversimplifying why it’s happening. I don’t think it’s about growing up at all, at least in my case it isn’t. I have a good, successful career which I do sacrifice for. However, when I’m not working, I want to do what I want to do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If I don’t have to, I shouldn’t have to force myself to be unhappy for a majority of my life. And right now, at 25, unless it was the right type of person, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship. I don’t want to have to worry about a significant others feelings, wants, needs, both emotionally and physically. I am at least self aware enough to realize that right now I’m not interested in that. However, saying that’s because people don’t want to grow up is asinine.
@@princeofgreece9054 well it also depends on how attractive you are or how much you've already been there and done that. If you're an incel saying that it's like a pacifist who can't fight. they are a coward and can't harm anyone anyway and act like it's a belief that they are a pacifist. No it's those who have swords but keep them sheathed who shall inherit the earth. One of the most egregious misquotes of the Bible is the meek shall inherit the earth when it's more like those who could kill but choose not to and turn the other cheek will. Those with great strength who don't abuse people or give into their rage. Those who dont clip their toenails shall inherit long toenails
@@princeofgreece9054 but 25 is very young
Honestly him spilling this made me realize that’s how I was and when she left it was my fault. I wasn’t there like that I loved her I supported her I would still to this day but I can’t do all those things that make an actual relationship bro got me rethinking my whole life rn and how I’m gonna deal with that going into the future. Thanks Bobby I never though I’d be having a life lesson from fucking Bobby lee
My dude its wild how many people are dealing with this shit rn
@@BoogerBllue at least we know I can’t believe it took Bobby Lee of all people going through it and talking about it for me to understand it but I’m kinda happy it’s not just me too.
@@swvch kinda makes you wonder if there's any hope for us lol
@@BoogerBllue I think I’m finally fine with knowing there isn’t 🤣
@Paul T Smallwood didn’t say I didn’t think he could I said I wasn’t expecting it very big difference.
Gotta love when a ‘clip’ is half of the episode
Say what you want about Bobby, but I gotta say I really respect how honest he’s being about his part in things while at the same time knowing who he is and being straight up about it.
I love Bobby but he’s an idiot for not having sex with his beautiful ex everyday
*Once Ozempic was back in stock and Andy Dick became single again their relationship was doomed.*
"Men don't want to be alone, but we want to be by ourself" Patrice O'Neil
That’s so selfish but yet sadly so true lol
So true
@@Onedown5ups that's not selfish that's male biology, its only selfish if you compare men and women which isn't a fair comparison at all
@@richcampbell6808 tell us right then.
Sorry I got to correct you since it’s a Patrice O’Neal quote “Men want to be alone,But not by ourselves”
I’m a woman and I can relate to this. I tried relationships and to be “normal.” But it just leaves me so exhausted. I’m so content alone but it’s hard to explain to anyone because If you are a person who seems to have any attractiveness or charisma people automatically thing the default is to be paired up.
God I relate to this.
Don't say that and have your name be Anna Banana please
Are we the same person?
Let me know how that works out for you in the future
When you are 60, alone, and broke, don't complain also. Bad thing about it is that gov't will bail you out when you are broke. They don't bail out the men though.
He's not gonna pull like that ever again
This man ended a long term relationship in preparation for Starfield... a true legend
Jesus thanks for all the likes guys I too will be getting Starfield when it comes out. Callisto protocol as well can't wait.
Lol
He should stream it on twitch
As he should! 😎
Hahahahaha
Lmfao 🤣
Ryan you are a good dude. Holding this episode for him like that, that’s real shit!
Nobody else would ever trust him if he didn’t honor his word. Guys don’t do shit like that, it’s a chick thing.
Bobby talking about dumping his gf ahead of a video game launch because he knows he wants to play it 16 hrs a day and doesn't want to hear her shit is the funniest thing I've heard him say, I can relate so well to that.
Hey bobby, lets go to the park.
roommate of mine did this before elden ring release
Funny but lame as shit.
dudes be giving up girls for games that is some crazy shit
"..funniest thing.." _no..._ saddest, *yep*
Respect to Bobby Lee in many ways. He never disrespects Khayla, he owns up to his issues, and is a work in progress. I’m glad the current culture is for people to step outside themselves and look at what’s broken. No shame in owning your character flaws. That said, it has to go beyond this. Admitting your damage doesn’t mean you’re not also doing damage to other people. Let’s collectively examine how we’re fecking up and have some empathy for the people who love us, let us in, and have to deal with our garbage. Then watch us change. Admittance without serious ownership of the harm we’ve caused becomes a new platitude of narcissism.
He disrespected her a lot. He cheated on her
sometimes when i see bobby lee laughs hysterically after he tells a sad story... it's funny and sad at the same time.
It’s how some people cope with trama… it’s a normal response
@@gringa978 you're explaining life to a guy named Pupu Chuchu.... So there's that
only sometimes tho
@@loganlee5875 😂
Humor is the best medicine
My unpopular opinion is that porn has ruined your damn brain. Without porn having invaded this relationship he'd be getting his satisfaction from her and giving satisfaction to her on the regular. Also he's apparently an introvert so maybe find one of those to be a girlfriend. An introvert girlfriend would not want to go to those stupid places all the time.
Idk how this was the only comment about it. Porn addiction is a real thing and it will ruin your life just like any other addiction will
I was thinking the same Porn isn't a good thing to be watching all the time. It distorts your reality of what is normal and healthy in a relationship. Video games aren't much different, yes I'm a video game fan but playing them all the time is just another addiction and if your partner isn't into it then they are going to be annoyed. Been there done that, and moved on. Some guys will lose themselves in these vices to escape other parts of their lives and maybe hide something they are going through mentally.
@@gordonlove5121 understand what you’re saying, but porn is actually problematic for your mental health it’s antithetical to what sex really is. It also fucks with your dopamine. If you choose to enjoy it from time to time cool, but if you’re getting off everyday or even a couple of times a week - of course you’re not gonna want to have sex or put in work into a relationship.
when ur lix and one of your best relationships where living w two dudes getting banged out by both and enjoying when one got jealous. so nah.. bobby was just played for the long con.
@@gordonlove5121 It becomes the problem.
I love how so many comments have bashed K for being selfish, evil, etc for wanting the relationship to be open but if the roles were reversed and K refused to give sex and affection for years at a time, all hell would break loose. She deserves to have her needs met. Period. And for Bobby to allow so much to be said without speaking up against it, is sad as hell. Him saying it isn’t her fault one time isn’t enough. He needs to speak up for her on THEIR platform. More than he has.
So if a man doesn't hold up his part in the relationship he should be made to feel like he needs to accept his significant other sleeping with other men? Here's a crazy thought....... how about she just leaves him and get her needs met? If I'm a man who's dealing with a woman with emotional trauma and I emotionally manipulate her into accepting me sleeping with other women you'd never act like that was ok, so why does she get a pass? Men AND women need to accept moving on when it doesn't feel right and stop trying to force a change in other people
Also let's not forget Bobby has massive emotional and sexual trauma from men when he was younger, even if he jokes about it that doesn't mean it doesn't have an impact. Before you try to downplay or discredit his trauma
@@Insaniac969 She wasn't getting emotional or physical needs met. The two most important things to keeping a relationship alive. He checked out and this is the result. I wouldn't think it's fair to blame either side.
@@rutygut5000 Thats why the relationship should've ended preemptively, you don't convince him to accept you getting your physical needs met by someone else. Mind you he isn't the 1st boyfriend she's convinced to accept her sleeping with another man, by her own account she did that with one of her ex's and their roommate, convinced him to accepting an open relationship with the man who was rooming with them. Once is understandable but multiple times seems like a pattern, also as I've said physical trauma can mess with all future relationships. Would you accept me saying these same things if I was with a girl who had been sexually violated as a child, and just because she wasn't meeting my physical needs i convice her to let me sleep around even though it makes her unhappy? So because I'm unfulfilled i make her go through unhappiness to satisfy myself? That doesn't rectify or equalize anything, it's just shifting the misery towards the other partner and at that point there's no reason to continue the relationship
@@Insaniac969 I don't know too much of their drama but didn't he cheat first? She got sick, he had to take on a caretaker role, lost his desire towards her and all downhill from there.
Still I can understand have a once in a decade connection with someone but they're not the full package. People go out and try to get their needs met elsewhere often without communicating it or being honest to themselves.
Oh shit I can see my old self in this guy so much. Pure escapism with the video games. Jerking off for the dopamine hit. Eating junk. Very little social interaction. Letting every relationship rot through neglect due to the belief that your not worth a relationship. Self sabotage. Geez the dude needs a sense of purpose and direction. I used to wake up every morning thinking 'I wonder if I'll kill myself today, hope I have the bollocks to do it today'. I'm scared shitless of going back to feeling like that.
What changed?
@@skyiswomb1 I randomly tried to walk up a hill at 3 o'clock in the morning and thought I was going to have a heart attack. I thought some dog walker would find me dead. That was the wake up call I needed to get fit. So I did it every day until it felt easy. Then I changed my diet and stopped eating crap. Guess what, I felt a ton better. So much so I stopped smoking. Joined a gym. Started my own business. Found the love of my life. Quit video games. Mentally and physically fitter than I ever have been in my life.
@@Clip7heApex Congrats! That's awesome-Keep it up. Seems like it always starts with taking care of your body, the rest just follows. I've given up the fitness stuff in the past year and surprise, surprise, old habits picked back up. Appreciate the reminder.
Ugh dude. The part about letting relationships rot because you believe your not worth a relationship is so true. Ive done that over the past few years.
can u specify how old u were when u felt like this and what age u started working on urself
What he’s describing is the honeymoon phase. It’s impossible to be in the honeymoon phase all the time. A mature relationship is more of a friendship
Yeah, it’s the movement from passionate love to attachment love.
A friendship you can't leave because you blew all other friends when you went all in for one person that you don't even have a passion for any longer. Humans are kinda stupid.
@@CivicYt Nah bruh, -your- kinda stupid. Keep your baggage to yourself man. Holy shit.
Grow together or grow apart. 15 years married and I treat every day like it’s day one
@@CivicYtthere is no need for you to cut your friends off, that is a choice.
Guys what he embodies is the path of shame and self hatred. To be in a good relationship, both people need to bring their best self. They need to advocate strong for themselves and for the other. It's not simple or easy, but it's worth it. I hope he gets past this stuff.
Well said I definitely wasn't surprised even though she was his caretaker for so many years. I couldn't see any confident female wanting to live that way forever. Especially when they are still young and have other options like she did. It was bound to happen sooner rather than later. Bobby lost a good one imo
Not that deep. I think he just wanna chill
@@A22A8 what he said wasn’t that deep either. No surprise that you consider it such tho
@@WHIPTY lol
I love how most of the comments are like "I respect his honesty" but his honesty is just showing he's an immature 10 year old with no redeeming qualities lol
Do you have a podcast
@@banquetoftheleviathan1404 Do you have an IQ over 60
@@banquetoftheleviathan1404 No but unlike you I have a brain and my own opinions.
Sounds like someone is reflecting 😂
Yeah but most people who hate on people like Bobby are the exact same but they can't see it in themselves. Everyone's a hypocrite
Bobby and Theo collabing is going to be awesome. I can't wait to see what kind of show they put together
I think it would be great. Theo has such a funny, unique deadpan style of humour. I think it would match perfectly with Bobby's drawn out story with an unexpected punchline style of comedy
Add Nick Swardson and you got a dynamic trifecta of funny ovahhh therez
@@smotpoker86 Is that "The 3 Stooges" reboot of sorts? 🤣
Much better than tiger belly, I can hardly get through an episode of that
@@wra7h well Tiger Belly is a podcast and this venture sounds like a production tv show. So, let's hope so!
The dude literally said he was addicted to porn and not touching his partner, an addict, just played video games, and doesn’t care to support their endeavors lol I’m glad he realizes he’s not fit for a relationship. He’s pretty selfish, which is okay he just shouldn’t be with someone, so good for him.
His "partner" is a total psycho girl and she was flirting with his friends (like theo) in front of him.
Youre projecting on bobby basically
right and everybody still blames Khayla for some weird ass woman hating reason.
@@end.olives he said all of those things lmaoooo
@@nahhhbruhhh yeah youre still projecting your own insecurities, even if he has admitted to those things. Khayla is a obvious cheater of the worst sort (the one that doesnt care if you know about it and flirts with other people in front of her partner) and i dont get this whole monologue pittying her.
I feel you!! I’m at a point in my life that I just don’t want to be anything for anyone anymore. I just want to do what I want to do and I have no problem doing it alone.
That’s how I feel. I can’t believe at one point I was afraid of doing things alone. You have to enjoy live. It’s strange I have no desire to be in a relationship.
@@chrisharris8207 I was never afraid of being alone but society tries to force you into a relationship. Where the f does that thought come from. And if you are a chick even worse. Your a spinster. Your frigid. Your something - whatever. Guys hate seeing chicks alone and doing their own thing. It is not just guys who like to be alone. But why does society indoctrinate us to think we should be in a relationship, married, kids etc. S@#4 do whatever you want to do. And f those judgemental people who can't survive unless they are tied to someone else because they can't survive on their own. Be happy by yourself. yeah.
it's very under-rated. it's a wonderful kind of simple.
I feel the same way. I spent many years surrounding myself with women who came and went. Somewhere something changed and I just value building a relationship with myself, focusing on my career, being alone. I don't have any desire to date, sleep around or anything. It is a STRANGE feeling considered it was a huge part of my life.
Exactly. I feel you, 100%
Bobby doesn’t sound “independently codependent”; he sounds “independently independent” and selfish. He wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it. That’s fine…It just means that he isn’t relationship material…
I respect how brutally honest Bobby is but damn this is going to age terribly.He obviously has a lot of issues within himself that needs to be addressed and regardless if he sees his faults and changes his ways or if he stays the exact same..I can’t imagine him(or anyone) looking back at this interview 10 years from now and being proud of himself for not even trying.
In ten years Bobby will be 60 years old and will give even fewer Fs than he does today.
@@paullebon323 and at 80 he will die alone with no partner or children to carry on his fortune because he just couldn’t bother to “give a F”. I’m sorry but I don’t wish that life on anyone,even the ones who “claim” they prefer it that way
@@tujaun1 He's a narcissistic gay manchild. He's never going to have children regardless. Neither will his brother, Stevie.
He's clearly already not proud of himself , he's not bragging he's telling honestly his own flaws and what it's cost him !!!!
Some of us are hermits that love our alone time. Not only that but the older I get the less I want to compromise and I don't care if it hurts someone's feelings if I don't wanna participate. Relationships are exhausting and not for everyone
I’ve followed the break up and thought it’s just one of those things…. This interview however explained how selfish Bobby is in regard to partnership and interest in his partners life… it sounds like he wants someone there for him but he’s not there for them… good luck with that…
There comes a point in many people's lives, where they hit a fork in the road: One road has them doing all kinds of things, making all kinds of compromises, to make another person happy. The other road leads to them doing whatever they want to do, and if someone wants to come along for the ride, sure...but if no one comes along for the ride, that's cool too.
It's important to understand that neither route is 100% right, and neither is 100% wrong. Some people are simply happier alone and/or living for their own happiness. Other people need constant companionship through life.
Right? If he wasn't into caring for another person why tf did he do it for a decade or however long they were together for
@@AM-vk2yq He thought he was doing the "right" thing by being in a relationship. Often, we spend so much time trying to be what others expect, that we never take the time to really figure ourselves out. Hearing Bobby speak here...it seems like he's finally figured out his own key(s) to happiness.
Bobby didn’t want to he with her. But I think it’s because kalayla is a cum bucket. She’s been with a lot dudes, so he probably feels stupid doing the girlfriend thing. And plus like he said he’s unfuckable.
The way Bobby switches from completely serious then tells a joke, and then they both proceed to scream laugh has me crying
I feel like I’m high on mushrooms 🍄 watching this 😂
@@jaycobmelo1904 lmfao the waves!!!
You’re crying? Seriously? Why? And if you aren’t crying, why would you say you were over something so insignificant?
@@FranchiseSIX5 it’s an expression
@@FranchiseSIX5 Why are you so uptight..
Bobby just doesn't have it. Wait until you injure yourself or become ill or get older. She changed, saved your life 10 years ago and I have a feeling he'll need her again. Good luck
He's an idior
I’m 36 and just broke up after 8 years. Everything he said at the end I can completely relate to.
Also in the 8 years club. How you holding up?
Hang in there bro
You'll find a good one
focus on you bro don't look back
@@Kid_Ikaris Time is for sure a healer man. Everyone handles things differently I guess. I’m goodish now. I hope you’re doing well I know it’s hard and I hate the cliches but it gets better. You forget things for longer and don’t get so sad when you do remember things. Either way thanks for asking and as I said I hope you are getting through it.
@@philbobagbox1177 I know how you feel.
I'm 35 and got out from a 10year relationship a couple months ago.
It feels weird starting over.
But I took a week off from work and made a 5 year plan of my goals.
Just stay strong and keep it moving.
Worry about yourself for now and don't get caught in a rebound relationship.
Omg he doesn’t even want to do the bare minimum, everybody will eventually breakdown if the whole relationship is one sided.
Bobby has F U money, he can afford the luxury of even eliminating the bare minimum out of the equation if he wanted to.
Be less selfish. Value commitment. I’m working on this myself. It is nice seeing how open and vulnerable Bobby is here.
I don’t think anyone has to be less selfish or value commitment. But that doesn’t mean just jump into a relationship. I think if you value your alone time and your dreams and aspirations and wants more than a being, an actual human person, than that’s fine. Just do you until your ready. Me personally I can openly say I’m just too selfish I know what it’s like to have to be what a woman deserves. And I don’t want that at all..like ever honestly😂
You can't just will it into existence if you don't actually want to change.
@@Cee_B amen
Or don't spend all your time on women
He went deep into thought, even while joking around and was able to understand himself, what he went through, where it went wrong, why it went wrong and that he doesn't want it to happen again so he'll wait and work on himself until it's time and all those things align.
Relationships are two way streets, you have to like the person more than love them, when you like someone you want to share their experiences, and they become launching off points for conversation, which fuels the relationship. A lot of people are simply too self-centered for real meaningful, lasting relationships.
Bobby will always be incapable of a real relationship until he opoens his heart and gets in his feelings, clearly he's locked up so fucking tight emotionally that he's practically a sociopath, and that's where he's decided he's comfortable, and escapes into chasing appetites to forget his feelings. It's sad, really.
His girlfriend also didn't cared about his hobbies like videogames. Based on what he said it just seems that both of them have completely different hobbies and things they value so once the high of the relationship faded they didn't had other things in common and it became a big effort to keep each other support.
@@manuelsilva6244 exactly,. sharing interests is crucial.
@@manuelsilva6244 exactly he needs a small gamer korean girl and he will be truly happy.
Clint Eastwood's character in the movie Gran Torino tells the priest that he went to church every week because his wife liked it. Having your Independence is good but you should relish the opportunity to do things together. If the girl is cool, then it should be fun. If it's an extreme case like this where you play video games 16 hours a day, then why not date a woman who is a gamer?
Such good advice!!!
Appreciate the optimism lol
He pretty much said in the beginning of the video that, he wanted his own space and do his thing from time to time. Meanwhile, his ex would do her own thing as well and at the end of the day, they come back together and mellow out. Unfortunately though, this wasn't the case for Bobby because, she was too clingy and he felt like he had to comprise a lot for her.
I don't think you get the gaming thing, he wants to do it alone
“that being said… we broke up” *laughs like he’s losing his fucking mind*
I like Ryan, he’s funny but also down to earth and doesn’t make fun when people are being real but also asks the hard questions in light hearted way. Like it when people don’t judge others and just engage in a funny way
That fake Bert kriesher laugh has gotta go tho
Him saying he doesn’t have the energy to put time/effort into a relationship is exactly where I am at. It’s no fault to the woman I’m seeing or talking too; I just personally don’t have any drive to create something new in my life. I’ve been open and honest to every woman I meet, and I find like Bobby said, not something woman are attracted too.
But that’s okay; because I want to be alone. Maybe one day I’ll be ready for the time and dedication it takes to create something new. But for right now I’m just doing me
Thank you Bobby for being so honest !!
And thats all fine and well, but if that's the case, rather than a relationship, maybe just look for a "friends with benefits" kind of situation? That way you get the sex/hanging out when you feel like it, but no commitment.
@@BattleBladeWarriorthat's bad advice. Someone eventually catches feelings or gets hurt once one person starts preferring the company of someone else
@@45johngalt Oh I dont disagree with you, but generally its the girl that catches feelings, and bobby made a point of being lazy in his relationships.
So regardless who he goes with, more than likely its the girl that would suffer, So having friends with benefits would work for him, because he gets the sex but doesnt really give extra, and if they catch feelings somehow thats on them.
@@BattleBladeWarriorhe's addicted to p--- and has no need to have sex. He's the one who only had sex a few times in a few years with his partner, not the other way around. So a friend's with benefits would be useless too. He's better off alone as much as I love Bobby he's selfish af and not any good for a relationship in his current state and he's always been like that. Same happened to all his ex's just total neglect 16 hrs video games no emotional support no intimacy sex hugging kissing etc and he has no interest in other women except himself.
He's better off just having friends
Like Bad Friends 😏
@@Shannon-vv6rr Oh wow, now I think I get it. Damn, that is pretty bad on his part then.
I enjoy porn and long gaming sessions as much as the next person, but even then, I still always make time for my fiance. If Bobbys not even interested in sex wit ha partner, let alone any sort of intimacy or whatever, than yea, he's definitely better off by himself.
To think the newness of a relationship won’t ever wear off is fantasy. Doesn’t matter how amazing the person is, it will.
And you either get sick/bored of the person or you grow, learn, and develop a life together. People who think a relationship is always fun, new, and exciting are misguided.
💯
it never wears off if you only know them for a single night. i think thats what bobby wants right now. i doubt it will last. he'll be trying to find someone constant again in a few years tops.
@@foximoxi8533 usually one or both do not want to do the work to build a life together after novelty wears off...which is sad because it can be amazing, especially once children come into play. younger generations are much more like bobby, "me me me", which makes me quite concerned about the future.
I know exactly what he's talking about, I feel the same way.
I've had many relationships and I'm a good looking guy but I've realised that I'm at my best and happiest when I'm alone.
It's just tiring and exhausting to be around any person for long period of times.
Extroverts will never understand this or relate to this.
You don't need to be around them 24/7. Have your own office. If you're actually a productive and busy guy, she will appreciate you even if you mostly spend your time alone. When you do spend time with her, make ot quality time and make her feel like a proper wokan
I relate, not 100%, but I do. It's so much easier to be alone, and I do enjoy being so... but I'm married now hah... fuck...
they never understand the sociable-introverts types.....I am more at ease and worry free when I am doing my things.
@@skybyred13 not everyone does....my ex didn't.
same. hard to achieve this when you and your girl both work from home....
so he has been the biggest asshole to her, he admits it, and everybody applauts him... Whats wrong with ya'll?
He sounds like he's depressed and hopefully he can get out of that and start bettering himself.
You sound like youre projecting. Bet you think he shouldve married his girlfriend when you personally havent even held down your 2 ex husbands and now lives with cats trying to judge other people based on your own failure.
@@nolives lol how tf did you make up that whole narrative in your head? The internet never ceases to amaze me 😂
As a 29 year-old, to me he sounds like he's self-sabotaged & has retreated into himself a bit. He'd rather play video games all day and not move off the couch than work on his body for like 1 hour a day. He sees it as a drag to go support someone in something that means something to them, just because he doesn't find it interesting.
He's becoming antisocial and if it worsens he's gonna end up exactly as he describes, alone. Only when he gets older he'll realise those minor inconveniences are a small price to pay for wellbeing & happiness.
@@nolives wth out of nowhere with a monster burn for no reason 😅 dam the internet is such a nice wholesome enviroment
Hes not gonna get out of it unless he throws himself into his work or something where he goes out and meets people and associates with people i fkn love video games so does my gurl and we both play alot but like when your depressed and thats all you do and you just show up for the paycheck thats a bad cycle of depression thats just gonna get worse and worse in my opionion and from what ive seen in my 30 years i could be wrong 🤷♂️
Literally all he needs to do is find a gamer girl
I appreciate Bobby's honesty, but dude is really selfish.
Being selfish is ok. I am selfish as hell and i like being alone. I found myself miserable in relationships because i always wanted to do what i wanted to do, and got annoyed by having to spend energy on shit i didn't care about with my girl.
But Bobby doesn't seem to fully understand his selfishness. Support for a woman (or partner or friend) is not just giving them money for their hobby or passions. It is sharing their hobbies even if its just talking about it. Being a part of that hobby in some shape or form other than monetary. But Bobby just explains how he supports by giving money.
I'm in the same boat. I'm a selfish, only child. It took me literal decades...marriage, divorce, and multiple failed relationships to realize I'm simply happier and more content with in life, alone. No drama, no arguing, no compromising and giving up hobbies that bring me joy. Just peace.
The sooner Bobby realizes this about himself, the better off he'll be.
yeah i wonder if his parents had an influence on his concept of love bc i know for me my asian parents only showed me "love" via money and it messed me up for a long time but you gotta learn what love really looks like or you're gonna be miserable forever
It was mostly a transactional relationship. Let’s be honest. Look at them. It was always going to end at some point.
Spending time on things you didn't care about with your girl; Bobby having said the same thing I think this is a little odd because I feel there should be common interests shared, and that a couple should be doing those things together instead of forcing interest in other areas.
Everyone always blames her for being terrible to Bobby. But, the reality is this is a man who is addicted to porn and video games and refused to even touch his partner. Eventually she needed more and that's okay.
They both still love and care for each other which in the end is all that really matters.
She literally admitted that if he wasn't rich she'd leave him..
@@JoeyJame That doesn’t change the part he played, everyone has to be accountable for their own shit.
@@taraz6786 lol so it's his fault that she is a gold digger that was only with him because he has money?
@@JoeyJame So it’s her fault that he’s a gross OLD man addicted to porn and games. That shit is supposed to pass after your teen years, so like I said, he is NOT innocent. You’re acting like he’s a dreamboat and an absolute catch. Guess what, he’s not. 😂
@@JoeyJame 😂
"I have no interest. Women don't like that". Bobby: PEOPLE IN GENERAL don't like that! 😂 You're basically saying that you're entirely selfish, unwilling to compromise on anything you don't want to do, you don't care about the other person's desires, dreams, or needs. Dude, no wonder you're still seeing the same therapist. They're making a ton of money by not telling you how to be a better person.
As someone whose been in a tumultuous relationship for 10 years, what Bobby says hits real close to home...a lot of the things he describes is exactly how I feel.
That’s exactly how I feel aswell
exactly how i feel about relationships too. I dont blame myself for it though and I don't find myself difficult for being that way. Which is why I have no intention to marry anyone. Girlfriend sure, marriage nope
WTF! Then leave her, Mr. TheShroom. 10 years of a tumultuous relationship? You're torturing yourself. Just leave! Help yourself!
i’m interested to hear what you guys relate to and how you guys feel about your relationships after 10 years
Let er go man let er go
I feel like my husband & I also have this personality type....where you wanna just be alone & do your own shit. We'll even be in the same room but independently doing our own thing & we're at peace. Being around ppl that constantly need attention but dont enjoy anything you do is fucking draining!
It honestly is! Haha I mean we're human so obviously we have days we dont agree but we respect each others space. Also as a wife of a gamer im just gonna put this out there....my husband is a fucking genius! Lmao 😂 society makes women think gamers are childish but that shit aint easy! (I know, ive tried).
My hubs and I are very solitary individuals. Do we have some common interests and do those things together? Do we have open discussions on life, religion, and politics Do we enjoy spending time family? Yes to all of those. But we don't feel the need to be constantly doing things together or be around other people . We met at 18 & 20 and almost 40 years later it still works.
Same ,
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