Aunty Fums please do a video on the masculinity dynamic that the lady in the first clip spoke of - she made some valid points and we, black women get too stuck in the „strong independent woman“ narrative that we forget our femininity
It’s not possible to forget your femininity if you witnessed femininity in your mother in your home growing up. It’s like saying you forget you’re black or you forget you’re a woman. You don’t forget what you are. If you’re masculine it means that’s what you witnessed growing up and that’s what you emulated/became.
It’s so sad because money can’t give her back her inner peace that she was robbed off….. She may have been a Tell All Girl, but I feel she didn’t deserved what she went through… None of his ALLEGEDLY victims…..😢
Omg! I was this exact way in a marriage for 9 years. I had to ask my husband to do things he should have taken the initiative to do. I got tired. It was exhausting and I became frustrated. It’s one of among many other reasons I left. I was 9 months pregnant while married and worked a full time job right to the end. Came home cooked, cleaned the house, did laundry etc. I did it all while he was free to live life freely. Whenever I asked for help it ended in an argument so I stopped asking. One day during my pregnancy I was craving fresh coconut water. I asked my then husband to pick me a few from the trees at the back of our house. He fussed about having to do it so I took a ladder, went up the tree, picked them myself and peeled them all and took out the jelly, them place in a mug in the fridge. Would you believe he had the nerve to ask for some? Yes he did have the gall to fix his mouth to ask if he could have some. I told him yes, but deep inside, I was hoping it choked him. I am glad I’m not codependent so I’m able to get things done.
Thank God somebody said it. Thank you Tracee Ellis Ross! Some folks should not have children because they are not fit to be parents. I know from first hand experience.
I don't think he wanted to take the lead. Which is why she divorced him. A man who wants to take the lead will speak up about it and do what it takes to help her understand she is doing too much. He would make it clear that she is stepping in his territory. If none of that worked, he would have probably left or show her that might be what he does. Not going to get the coconuts off the tree and then asking for some when she did it herself, implies that he saw nothing wrong with their 'arrangement'.
Let’s rewind a bit. The first clip at the start of the video… Could we please talk about that lady and her masculine energy to the point of losing her identity. The fact that her husband is ok with her doing the manly things😮 When did men get this comfortable with their women doing all the masculine things. Cutting grass and cooking and she’s not even a single mother???
Waw!!. That lady, s confession at the beginning is heartbreaking BUT accurate. The 2nd proclamation Accurate/ profound. Realisation, boundaries and change go hand in hand.
The woman in the beginning was also describing the burden that single parent mothers have to face on a daily basis. 😢I’m tired of men that don’t walk in their power but want to take advantage of mine.
The first woman is almost 20 years older than me.....I'm not yet married, but I understand what she truly means. I need to correct this and enter my female energy before my wedding 😂😂😂😂😢😢😢😢
💛👸🏽Wow, the lady at the beginning...... I want better for her. This was an eye opener. Blessings to you for so much better. You deserve it. Any of us with any percentage of what she expressed; we all deserve better & must require it. We now know better & if we didn't? We NOW do. We can't unhear what the lady said. I wish better for all of us & you 👑ma'am most definitely.What an eyeopener!
Wendy may have some form of dementia, but she knows what she knows in this situation and she is on point. Prayers for continued healing and progress. Fantastic outfit Fumi! And you wear it well ❤
I don't believe she has dementia, other health issues and substance abuse yes. She is being abused the same way Brit was.😢😢Do you think Brit had dementia at 25?. While choreographing dances,performing and having to remember all the dance moves. There is a pattern obviously.
That is why he is going to trial. He knows he has power to pull strings and he hopes to pull the facade and show his kids that he is innocent. The man has no scruples!
Honestly , the kids knew very little. Think about when parents are in arguments the kids no little about all the details. Let’s not victimize them with his mess. I’m praying for his kids and the victims. I do respect your thoughts but I had to share my thoughts.
Of course they knew. One of the sons attacked a server on a charted yacht. He learned from his father that this was ok. (The sins of the father is visited on the third and forth generations). Generational trauma stemming from early childhood trauma that is integral is the child’s development and identity.
Do we really think all of these rich and powerful people are going to sit back and wait to see what Diddy tells? He never needs to be released because he WILL disappear. We may even see a supposed “suicide” death while he is behind bars. Either way, what’s been done to others to silence them…
I am in constant shock with all the revelations about this monster diddy. It has made me wonder,the way my people are glorifying money in nIgeria,the day our own stories will blow open,we will be shocked. The day Nollywood (nigerian movie industry) stories will burst open,we will be gobsmacked.
Can we talk about that first clip about the sister who shared her story about masculine energy? It's becoming too common, my heart feels for her struggle.
She wasn't thinking she was in her masculine mindset - if she had been in her divine feminine energy she wouldn't have done that. This is why active fathers in the household is necessary.
On the Man oh Man subject, I feel that I love that woman. I want to hug her, and add a little bit of my meager strength to her spirit. I too have had to be masculine, but I left my husband, and never remarried. So I had to be both masculine and female. But the one particular point I want address is with the son with the computer. I would of reacted the same way. Because now there's so much police brutality, if he went by himself, or took his brothers or father with him, who would know what could of happened. Even your presence as a Black woman the outcome was unknowable. Doesn't matter the race of person causing a problem. You as a Black woman have the weight of your private life on your shoulders. Then you have the weight of the entire world on your shoulders. It's exhausting, and it is demoralizing. But man oh man, someone (me) here in Philly feels your pain, and I am sending love, and strength to you. May you ever stand strong, and continue to persevere in the Light, Love, and Peace.❤❤❤
I wish Wendy the best recovery, but I remember how vicious she was to Whitney Huston when she was going through her struggles! Lord only knows cute little young Whitney may have suffered during the early stages of her career.. just remembering…few people have a clean record in that industry 😢..
One of the short clips of videos out there on Diddy that I found most disturbing was a white guy with curly black hair, passed out, face down on outdoor furniture and Diddy saying proudly, "You know what happens to white boys at a Diddy party? We put them to sleep!" Meanwhile, another white man, sitting with legs crossed, stroking the hair of this passed out man. That sent chills up my spine.
But Diddy had lots of money. I wonder why he never paid people for their work and worth. I hope he rots in jail. He ought to pay for the monstrous things he did to innocent souls. Stupid man!
Fumi you look stunning! Remember Diddy was (or is) on hard drugs. Was he able to shut down for sleep? With all the withdrawal he's going through with not eating, paranoia, etcétera, I think his body would have to crash! And in that facility it doesn't make sense to sleep too deeply!!
@justbelit . Per @themastersvoiceprophecyblog the lady we know to be Wendy Williams’ the popular TV show host is no more among the living. The person walking around now is NOT Wendy Williams.
Listen... yall we gotta stop repeating things without knowledge of truth..... I am doubting that Wendy Williams as said anything but people are exploiting her voice.... unless we see her say it, I wouldn't believe it.
I don't think the new law team will make a difference... I believe its already a wrap that he'll never be set free...even after he tells on everyone else and tries to make a deal!
I hear this woman LOUD and clear but SHE chose to accept that way of life for as long as she did. I’m just glad she’s ready to redefine her FEMININE energy and get out that babysitting ass ‘marriage’. Her husband sounds SUPER USELESS
I found it so ironic that Wendy, of all people, is dealing with dementia during this time. Viewing this episode highlighted it again. The things Wendy knows about what went down or tea 🍵 she heard from others. My goodness...Wendy could open a global tea shop and be set for life 😂😂 Karma is a bish', so, nonetheless, Diddy is going to face the music. I was surprised that he was using Sam's lawyer because I was like, "Didn't Sam get TKOed 🥊?? 🤔 Even if Diddy miraculously was to get off. His career, life, and anyone associated with him are tainted 💩
The hen got off the eggs 🥚 🥚 and cackled loud diddy's karma comes back in time for all the survivors who was hurt by him and his cohorts evil 😈 don't last forever no lawyers can't save him from going to prison cell
I just got back from the nail salon having burgundy nails and toes. As she’s nearly done she say I did so many of this colour last week 😂😂😂 I said yea because this is this year’s autumn/winter season colour 😅
I thought that was me speaking for a moment! I lived the same life, had a whole husband, but had to be masculine all the damn time! I AM NOW, repairing myself from all the physical damage of lifting heavy shit and delayed self care! I pray that I can embrace my feminine side and be loved in that space!
Aunty Fums please do a video on the masculinity dynamic that the lady in the first clip spoke of - she made some valid points and we, black women get too stuck in the „strong independent woman“ narrative that we forget our femininity
Willie Lynch put us there
Bingo was thinking the same
Auntie Fums 😂 Love it!
It’s not possible to forget your femininity if you witnessed femininity in your mother in your home growing up. It’s like saying you forget you’re black or you forget you’re a woman.
You don’t forget what you are. If you’re masculine it means that’s what you witnessed growing up and that’s what you emulated/became.
I slowly sank the more I listened to her. She's absolutely correct and expressed it so clearly. Think I need to do some inventory.
Wendy should turn around and sue the radio station now including Diddy.
Agreed!!! Wrongful Termination & Toxic Work Environment & Unethical Intimidation 👩🏾⚖️📚
It’s so sad because money can’t give her back her inner peace that she was robbed off….. She may have been a Tell All Girl, but I feel she didn’t deserved what she went through… None of his ALLEGEDLY victims…..😢
Probably too late now due to a statute of limitation(?)
Omg! I was this exact way in a marriage for 9 years. I had to ask my husband to do things he should have taken the initiative to do. I got tired. It was exhausting and I became frustrated. It’s one of among many other reasons I left. I was 9 months pregnant while married and worked a full time job right to the end. Came home cooked, cleaned the house, did laundry etc. I did it all while he was free to live life freely. Whenever I asked for help it ended in an argument so I stopped asking. One day during my pregnancy I was craving fresh coconut water. I asked my then husband to pick me a few from the trees at the back of our house. He fussed about having to do it so I took a ladder, went up the tree, picked them myself and peeled them all and took out the jelly, them place in a mug in the fridge. Would you believe he had the nerve to ask for some? Yes he did have the gall to fix his mouth to ask if he could have some. I told him yes, but deep inside, I was hoping it choked him. I am glad I’m not codependent so I’m able to get things done.
Hunnny noooooooooooo, sorry you had to go through that…..happy you left that leech
Are you still there?
Did you leave him?.
And they still have the Nerve to ask women, what do you bring to the table.? So annoying.
Happy you happy now ❤
I hope you left that waste man
Wow... The lady at the beginning of the video 😔
This poor lady
No wonder she had a stroke !
Totally empathize. 😢
Next docu-series......Surviving P diddy combs
I empathize with this women. 💯%
lot of us are that woman
Thank God somebody said it. Thank you Tracee Ellis Ross! Some folks should not have children because they are not fit to be parents. I know from first hand experience.
I enjoyed the lady's story of masculinity at the start of the program. You have to set boundaries and allow a man to lead and take on his role.
Sounds like he never wanted to
I don't think he wanted to take the lead. Which is why she divorced him. A man who wants to take the lead will speak up about it and do what it takes to help her understand she is doing too much. He would make it clear that she is stepping in his territory. If none of that worked, he would have probably left or show her that might be what he does. Not going to get the coconuts off the tree and then asking for some when she did it herself, implies that he saw nothing wrong with their 'arrangement'.
Aunty Funmi we are living and loving your wears. Yesssss!
What is the name of the outfit you’re wearing???? Can’t find it on H&M!!!😬
Let’s rewind a bit. The first clip at the start of the video…
Could we please talk about that lady and her masculine energy to the point of losing her identity.
The fact that her husband is ok with her doing the manly things😮
When did men get this comfortable with their women doing all the masculine things.
Cutting grass and cooking and she’s not even a single mother???
You will be shocked at how many women are living with some of this with full red blood males in their lives.
I feel for her. 😢
I missed that , o m g this says a LOT
😢
Gardening and duties has nothing to do with femininity.
Waw!!. That lady, s confession at the beginning is heartbreaking BUT accurate. The 2nd proclamation Accurate/ profound. Realisation, boundaries and change go hand in hand.
The woman in the beginning was also describing the burden that single parent mothers have to face on a daily basis. 😢I’m tired of men that don’t walk in their power but want to take advantage of mine.
The first woman is almost 20 years older than me.....I'm not yet married, but I understand what she truly means. I need to correct this and enter my female energy before my wedding 😂😂😂😂😢😢😢😢
Same
Her truth is my truth. I am sick of this too. We need to stop. Just stop.
Thank you so much for showing her video . This is something I talk about so much . This is deep
Agreed! Let's discuss this.
Very
💛👸🏽Wow, the lady at the beginning...... I want better for her. This was an eye opener. Blessings to you for so much better. You deserve it. Any of us with any percentage of what she expressed; we all deserve better & must require it. We now know better & if we didn't? We NOW do. We can't unhear what the lady said. I wish better for all of us & you 👑ma'am most definitely.What an eyeopener!
This is getting more and more horrific by the day.
That woman at the beginning is the way a lot of black women are being treated. She spoke the truth.
I felt complete empathy the first woman .
Stuff like that no church can teach
Wendy may have some form of dementia, but she knows what she knows in this situation and she is on point. Prayers for continued healing and progress. Fantastic outfit Fumi! And you wear it well ❤
I don't believe she has dementia, other health issues and substance abuse yes.
She is being abused the same way Brit was.😢😢Do you think Brit had dementia at 25?.
While choreographing dances,performing and having to remember all the dance moves.
There is a pattern obviously.
Your looking great, outfit slamming. 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲
Yes Fumi I love all these topics you bring up! What a gift you are 🎉
We’re living and loving ❤ as always.. thanks 😊 for constantly looking and being amazing ❤ aunty fumi
Who needs a man if you’re doing all that.
Specifically, who needs a man like the one she has been with……!!!
Good ? 🤪
Fumi loving your hair today it looks fabulous, shaped, and trimmed !😀😀💖
Darling.....The outfit 🥰. Yes Sis, Loving it 👑💜
That is why he is going to trial. He knows he has power to pull strings and he hopes to pull the facade and show his kids that he is innocent. The man has no scruples!
I miss Wendy. These other talk shows don't click with me.
Facts.
OMG..😢the Man oh Man clip…so so sad😞
The KIDS BEEN KNOWING!!! They lived there! THEY KNEW all these years! Nothing was HIDDEN from them!THEY KNEW & that’s that!!!
Not only did they know, I believe Diddy's oldest son is also being accused of and fighting charges for SA.
Honestly , the kids knew very little. Think about when parents are in arguments the kids no little about all the details.
Let’s not victimize them with his mess. I’m praying for his kids and the victims. I do respect your thoughts but I had to share my thoughts.
Of course they knew. One of the sons attacked a server on a charted yacht. He learned from his father that this was ok. (The sins of the father is visited on the third and forth generations). Generational trauma stemming from early childhood trauma that is integral is the child’s development and identity.
I don’t think they knew the full depth of what was going on apparently he kept a lot hidden from them maybe reset the older boys or justin
They released a statement that they are supporting their father. The son has a case pending against him, too.
Love the beautiful colors and outfit you chose to wear.
Righteously, he didn’t create music other people did .
Wendy paid the cost for speaking truth ? Now it’s time for her to seek compensation from all those who wronged her .
You look fabulous Fumi
Do we really think all of these rich and powerful people are going to sit back and wait to see what Diddy tells? He never needs to be released because he WILL disappear. We may even see a supposed “suicide” death while he is behind bars. Either way, what’s been done to others to silence them…
Yep he's going to get the Epstein treatment
Fumi, you're radiating, your glow is ❤❤❤
Burgundy is YOUR color, Fumi!
Oooh! I don’t want this to be my life ever!
Look at the monster. So sad the way he treats people. He is a thief and most of who surround themselves around him are enablers .
I am in constant shock with all the revelations about this monster diddy.
It has made me wonder,the way my people are glorifying money in nIgeria,the day our own stories will blow open,we will be shocked.
The day Nollywood (nigerian movie industry) stories will burst open,we will be gobsmacked.
Fumi!!!! We have to speak about the first woman!! I’m literally her!
That outfit is gorgeous
My God.. how horrible. HORSE TRANQUILIZER ON HUMANS ☹️
I'm living and loving , oh my world, I'm a burgundy fan, and the pop of this colour on skin is amazing
We love you, lady. Keep up the great work! You are such an inspiration and so respected. Blessings.
Can we talk about that first clip about the sister who shared her story about masculine energy? It's becoming too common, my heart feels for her struggle.
childfree - not childless -
That women came into agreement with that masculine energy….she’s part responsible
The color suits you Queen 🇯🇲
Fumi!!! The FITTTTTT is FIRE 🔥 😍 👌
I am waiting patiently for the names to be revealed
Ummm. Forget the masculinity. What about the fact that you took your son to fight someone?
She wasn't thinking she was in her masculine mindset - if she had been in her divine feminine energy she wouldn't have done that. This is why active fathers in the household is necessary.
Lol, I thought the same thing, to be quite frank!
It sounded like she didn't know he was going to fight someone.
I wondered, but she said she had no idea, seemed like she believed he need to get his stuff back… and he went right to fighting
I think she been having to do it all and be strong for so long she just reacted n didn’t think
On the Man oh Man subject, I feel that I love that woman. I want to hug her, and add a little bit of my meager strength to her spirit. I too have had to be masculine, but I left my husband, and never remarried. So I had to be both masculine and female. But the one particular point I want address is with the son with the computer. I would of reacted the same way. Because now there's so much police brutality, if he went by himself, or took his brothers or father with him, who would know what could of happened. Even your presence as a Black woman the outcome was unknowable. Doesn't matter the race of person causing a problem. You as a Black woman have the weight of your private life on your shoulders. Then you have the weight of the entire world on your shoulders. It's exhausting, and it is demoralizing. But man oh man, someone (me) here in Philly feels your pain, and I am sending love, and strength to you. May you ever stand strong, and continue to persevere in the Light, Love, and Peace.❤❤❤
That woman in the beginning!! If she is in the masculine role, then the men must be in the feminine.😢
He is a pun in the rise n fall of the kingdom of darkness… Glory be to God
I wish Wendy the best recovery, but I remember how vicious she was to Whitney Huston when she was going through her struggles! Lord only knows cute little young Whitney may have suffered during the early stages of her career.. just remembering…few people have a clean record in that industry 😢..
One reason I never got married.
Fabulous as always Auntie Fumi❤
Respectfully, we need to talk about the first video because…. WHEW!!!!
One of the short clips of videos out there on Diddy that I found most disturbing was a white guy with curly black hair, passed out, face down on outdoor furniture and Diddy saying proudly, "You know what happens to white boys at a Diddy party? We put them to sleep!" Meanwhile, another white man, sitting with legs crossed, stroking the hair of this passed out man. That sent chills up my spine.
Omg!!! That just made me feel sick to my stomach!🥹🤢
But Diddy had lots of money.
I wonder why he never paid people for their work and worth.
I hope he rots in jail. He ought to pay for the monstrous things he did to innocent souls. Stupid man!
I admire you and your creativity immensely!!! Go for it!!
I believe Diddy's oldest son is also being accused of and fighting charges for SA.
The Fumi Desalu Vold Show. We need this talk show
Stealing people Music!!! Sounds about right
Auntie Fumi !! Did I not cut my hair! You are the inspiration behind all that! And its looking good
I'm going crazy over the skirt😆😆😆😆😆😆
Sean Combs has been a bully and a villain for decades 😡😡!!!
Fumi you look stunning!
Remember Diddy was (or is) on hard drugs. Was he able to shut down for sleep? With all the withdrawal he's going through with not eating, paranoia, etcétera, I think his body would have to crash!
And in that facility it doesn't make sense to sleep too deeply!!
Are we sure its Wendy speaking or an opportunist making out to be her. Where's the clip of her actually wendying?
😂😂 indeed Wendying. I like that.
@justbelit . Per @themastersvoiceprophecyblog the lady we know to be Wendy Williams’ the popular TV show host is no more among the living. The person walking around now is NOT Wendy Williams.
Listen... yall we gotta stop repeating things without knowledge of truth..... I am doubting that Wendy Williams as said anything but people are exploiting her voice.... unless we see her say it, I wouldn't believe it.
I don't think the new law team will make a difference... I believe its already a wrap that he'll never be set free...even after he tells on everyone else and tries to make a deal!
I think he is done .
The new team Diddy hired is not going to save him. Sorry not sorry!
Horse tranquilizer, 😳😳😳😳😳😳 the thing human do for control , power and fame is absurd
The lady at the beginning really touched me unfortunately it’s the story of a lot of black woman
I hear this woman LOUD and clear but SHE chose to accept that way of life for as long as she did. I’m just glad she’s ready to redefine her FEMININE energy and get out that babysitting ass ‘marriage’. Her husband sounds SUPER USELESS
I enjoy the story of the woman masculinity at the end of the start of the video, very inspiring video Fumi❤❤❤
What is the link to the lady's video at the beginning? She speaks fact
Oh dear! Fumi please talk the masculinity that's a thing in women's lives. Much love my darling ❤
Alway LIVING and LOVING you and everything you represent sis. Fumi💖💖🌹
Fumi, I can't stop looking at you. Your hair just makes you more stunning than ever!
Thank you, Fumi Darlin 🙏🏽
My fav colours oh my my love it here Aunty Fumis
How can one sleep at nights living such an extreme double life??? People like this should not go to prison to eat, sleep and repeat.
This lady shame the masculine one
I found it so ironic that Wendy, of all people, is dealing with dementia during this time. Viewing this episode highlighted it again.
The things Wendy knows about what went down or tea 🍵 she heard from others. My goodness...Wendy could open a global tea shop and be set for life 😂😂
Karma is a bish', so, nonetheless, Diddy is going to face the music.
I was surprised that he was using Sam's lawyer because I was like, "Didn't Sam get TKOed 🥊?? 🤔
Even if Diddy miraculously was to get off. His career, life, and anyone associated with him are tainted 💩
The Til tok intro video almost made me cry…. …😢😢😢 I relate way way way too much
Fumi, I love you Sis keep bringing the TRUTH!!!
I’m a barrister in training and I can confirm Afiya is a force to be reckoned with in the industry. It’s a shame the tickets are all sold out!
The hen got off the eggs 🥚 🥚 and cackled loud diddy's karma comes back in time for all the survivors who was hurt by him and his cohorts evil 😈 don't last forever no lawyers can't save him from going to prison cell
I just got back from the nail salon having burgundy nails and toes. As she’s nearly done she say I did so many of this colour last week 😂😂😂 I said yea because this is this year’s autumn/winter season colour 😅
He stole music from Mace, Biggie, Greg Mack, etc., He did owes them money. They did the music he was in the videos. Thats all.
OMG THE FIT IS LIT. ITS GIVING MELTING CHOCOLATE. ITS EVERYTHING. I LIVE I LOVE AUNTY
Momma Fumi, YOU LOOOOOOKKKK GOOD GEESH
YAAAAZZZZ!!! QUEEN!!! SOOOOOOO WONDERFUL!!! CONGRATZZZZ!!! BLACK EXCELLENCE!!!
This is the life of black women married to black men! But, will try and portray that they’re in these healthy, loving, happy “black love” marriages
The Horror his victims went through. No one but them know to what extent. 😢
I feel you girl... trust me.
I thought that was me speaking for a moment! I lived the same life, had a whole husband, but had to be masculine all the damn time! I AM NOW, repairing myself from all the physical damage of lifting heavy shit and delayed self care! I pray that I can embrace my feminine side and be loved in that space!
You're so so stunning in that beautiful dress aunty fumi♥️🥰🥰🥰 🇸🇱🇸🇱🇸🇱🇸🇱
Ms. Wendy called it a long time ago, she knew how down right dirty and scumming Diddy is
That brown is crazy good on you…awesomeness
It's burgundy mama.. a very beautiful shade of red