Black Women “HATE” Their Natural Hair |
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- There have been on going discussions on Black women and their hair. Do Black women truly hate their hair and if they do, why? In this video I will be discussing the history of our hair and how it even affects us today.
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This is such a great video! So informative and entertaining! Thank you for trusting You Go Natural. We will always celebrate black women loving their natural hair while being fashionable and comfortable! 🤍
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That's a funny joke. It was pure satire and I laughed the entire way. None of it was truth. Yall just nasty and lazy. 🤣😂🤣😭💀
Uaoh sister. You touch me
No it's black woman hating they hair
@@smilesandthetwistedmd7608 I'm not sure who you are talking to, but that was my problem with the video, it seemed like Toni was addressing it to people like you who are outside of our community, and we do not need ya'll in this conversation
it also should be mentioned, and this is why I went natural, that there are scientific studies that show that relaxers increase a woman's chances of developing fibroids , thyroid issues, and breast cancer. Black women's health is always overlooked and awareness should be brought forward.
My former hairstylist (Creamy Crack Queen) died from cancer in her early 40's.
THIS 👏🏾 agree 💯
@@georgina4874 I wish black women who are still into relaxers would be aware of this, it's a real shame 😔
This is true but people put beauty over health.
This is IT! This is precisely why I went natural over a decade ago and refuse to put that poison in my hair ever again.
I get a lot of backlash about my 4C hair from black women and black men. It’s annoying and alarming. The black community makes it seem like 4C hair is a struggle to deal with….it’s not.
@@LilithsCosmicLounge If black women can take the time to learn how to bleach, dye, or melt the lace of a weave….then they can take the time to learn how to care for their hair.
When some say 4c isn't time consuming and easy, I wonder are they really talking about 4c hair or some other texture. 4c hair is time consuming and takes time to detangle and unkink to comb through. It is not wash and wear hair. If it is short then it can be easier but longer 4c hair is time consuming. We need to be honest and admit the maintenance isn't easy as many say. This doesn't mean we hate our hair as many will say.
I think people also try to hard to style their hair. Your 4c hair is presentable if it is clean and moisturized. That’s it. It is done. Anything else you decide to do with it is extra and you’re putting more work on yourself.
Well yeah I think the depends on how you want to wear your hair. I hated detangling so I installed my own microlocs. Best hair decision I've made.
I’ve been natural 9 years and I’m just finding the right products for my hair. If you don’t know what works for your hair you will struggle with 4c hair.
Lets be honest it come from with in our community then without. Older black women and especially black men&boys.
Yep, but people are too into their victimhood to see it.
Amen, Colorism especially.
Yes! Sure I’ve had bad experiences from outside my community, but within it is the WORST 🥲.
Preach! Personally, I've only gotten negative comments about my hair from fellow black people. I live in a predominantly black country, the terms fellow black people would come up with to describe afro textured hair (mostly 4c) was very saddening to hear growing up.
Based on this comment section Seems like it’s women who do it just as much as guys
As someone who’s been natural for 5 years now, I’m tired. I’ve tried everything, done multiple big chops, it never gets easier. My hair was even shoulder length at one point and it didn’t make me any happier because it’s so coarse. I hate my 4c hair and I wish my curls were a bit looser so I wouldn’t have to spend 6+ hours in the bathroom every night smh
I’m tired of being told I HAVE to like my hair, it’s so much work! It’s especially frustrating when it comes from girls with type 3 curls; they’ll NEVER know what it’s like to deal with constant breakage.
Hey love, thank you for taking the time to share your personal experience dealing with your natural hair. I completely understand the frustration that could come with dealing with your hair, but that’s why I said to embrace the versatility of our hair. Do whatever style or technique you want with it, but just make sure you’re caring for it to the best of your ability. Honestly hair will always grow back so you literally can do what you want! I am all for that!
Mmmhhh, sounds like your hairs been sabotaged since birth
I have natural hair, and I’m always surprised when people say it takes them hours to do their hair. I’m not being disrespectful, but I’m actually curious-what are you doing to it every day? I’m a 4C, and except for the 30 minutes or so I spend deep conditioning each week and the time it takes for my monthly barber cuts, it takes me like 5 minutes in the mornings to get my hair popping-I wet it, add some product and go. And my hair has grown beyond a TWA, so it has some length. And I know I don’t look crazy because I get compliments on my hair all the time, so I’m unsure of what I’m missing.
What are you trying to make it look like? That might be your issue.
@@ToniBryanneTV See, “dealing with?” The video did make one valid point and that is we have a ways to go yet!🤦🏾♀️
our problem is when we think of long flowing hair as the standard of femininity and beauty which stems from whiteness. that’s what we grew up learning from movies,books, commercials. even though our hair can do all types of different things, we are way too obsessed with “length” when our hair is simply not made that way in its natural state. and that’s because of what we’ve been surrounded by. we don’t see and hear enough positive descriptions about our coils.
It does not stem from whiteness i saw my grandmother, aunties grow long hair, their tribes in West Africa with long hair. The truth is that alot of black women are either ignorant or lazy about RESEARCHING and taking care of their hair. Simple
@@sadraolaedo4733 I know right!!! like this comment is what black women are conditioned to think that long hair only belongs to white people. Like girl stop being lazy go grow your hair and enjoy it🙄
@@sadraolaedo4733 i don't know if it's laziness or its because there isn't a lot of research to read. We need more black scientists doing the work we need to make our hair flourish.
What about our very own black men also hating on our hair and preceding to see us in long fake hair...this is also a big reality
@@sadraolaedo4733 99.999 percent of black people hair is afro like.
Black women are the only women who aren’t allowed to either manipulate their without it being called self hatred. Like I have white and Asian friends who literally bleach, dye straighten their curls, wear weave aka extensions to achieve the look they want. For us it’s just so much scrutiny and I feel like we’re appealing to the everyone else except ourselves
Yup! Lose lose situation
white and asian don't have a community called natural hair and neither majority of them need to wear wigs and lace front at all especially with a different hair type then theirs
Not really. The difference is other races most of the time change their hair it’s still their hair texture. Y’all say this but why is this change never your hair texture? I KNOW you see the resurgence of relaxers and how the wig game is always about being ‘layed’. Don’t play dumb bc you don’t want to confront it properly.
@@yema4755 Go outside. Women with straight hair gets perms to make their hair appear fuller and curly. WHY does it even matter if someone wants to change the hair texture? If it aint on your head let people do them. The whole point is we need to stop policing how other people live. If i wanted to shave my hair off and paint it green and blonde I can. It's none of your business, and im not self-hating because that's how I want to wear my hair. Self-hating is concerning how others perceive you, so you bend to their will instead of doing what's best for you.
That’s because BW are the only women that manipulate their hair out of self hatred in such high numbers. Let’s be honest BW motivation behind changing the appearance of their hair is completely different from the other races. Other races usually enhance what they already have or do a slight switch up for a short while. BW for the most part don’t want to “enhance” their natural looks. They want to cover them due to shame.
For example: A WW may see her short brown hair as boring so she’ll bleach it blonde or ad extensions in the SAME TEXTURE. But even if she can’t change it she won’t have any issues going out in public with it.
The average BW on the other hand see short natural hair as unsightly. So manipulation is a must to them. They will absolutely not go out in public without manipulating their hair to the max. So if they can’t get a straight wig or weave installed, then they rather walk around with a bonnet on than to let their hair be seen in its natural state.
As a African living in Africa i really never knew that black women in the west were made to feel bad about there hair .. like here in West Africa it is deemed as wierd and not attractive when u hve loose curls as it is usually associated witn damaged hair
Yes, the reason why you see black American on tv with straight hair back in the day, was because natural hair wasn’t accepted . Some weren’t allowed to go to prom dances or work if their hair was natural
@@Justafox305 thants pretty harsh like its hair no ome can control it how it grows
Where in West Africa
I'm also hearing, some are bleaching
Thnx for discussing a topic that was really really important. I know lots of bw hate black hair texture, and I understand. That’s why I do my hair myself mostly if you don’t like my hair you shouldn’t be allowed to touch it.
I’m not here to encourage anyone to love anything, I just wanna remind us that the power is still in our hands.
I second this 👏🏾
I'm Nigerian living in Nigeria and you won't believe how bad people make me feel about my hair. All my life I've not had the confidence to wear an afro. Anytime I wear my hair in a puff people are always like "so when will you braid your hair?" or " when will you relax your hair?" Or they'll ask me to cover my hair ( I live in a Muslim dominated area) It's really a struggle.
In Nigeria black women wear their hair naturally all the time. In America they feel ashamed to be seen in cornrows, it’s different level in America because amerrican blacks are minorities.
I say this as someone who’s lived in both places. Not to discount your personal experiences
@@themarathoncontinues4211 American culture is different they are still taking from the effects of slavery....In Africa and Caribbean we are still free to wear our hair in cornrows and natural to work and school ...However in America some work places and schools do not allow it and call it unprofessional... In all fairness to them they are not as free as us
@@semoneg2826 I mostly agree. I would say they aren’t AS free. But in America the black women CAN wear their hair natural, they just choose not to. I know doctors, lawyers, normal retail workers etc who wear it natural.
There’s laws in place to prevent discrimination against hair now.
The uncomfortable truth that we aren’t meant to say is, they just don’t see their hair as beautiful. They prefer straight hair. While in Africa + Carribeans, there’s greater exposure to African hair as beautiful. I don’t blame black women for this situation. But if American black women want to change it, they can. Black women during black panther era ALL had Afro’s when there was way worse discrimination. Let alone now
@@themarathoncontinues4211 I hear you but I read slot of stories and they are not as free as we think...
Yes I remember wearing my afro as a kid and my silly relatives asking me when I was gonna brush my hair. It's like black women's hair isn't seen as being ready unless it looks closer to a European style.
I used to hate my hair as a child. It seemed unmanageable, now with all the products I absolutely love it ! I dress it up and at 63, it’s going grey but it’s my best feature. It’s part of who I am .
I’m from UK.
I hated my 4c hair up until last year. It was hard to manage, I spent so much money on products and more. However, I big chopped last year and kept my hair in braids most of the time, Using in between braid styles to learn something new about my hair. Some of the things I learned so far is: my porosity, that it’s actually not 4c, that my hair is actually thin but there’s a lot of it, it really doesn’t like to be messed with and butter & cream based products are amazing while water and gel based are not.
I chose to go this route because I started working out and my wigs will lift and I think that looks horrible. I started growing my edges back and I wanted to keep them 😂
I knew that if I didn’t start to learn how to love and embrace my crown, I will never be satisfied. I don’t believe it’s self hate to dislike your hair, I think you just need to get to know it and understand there’s value in taking that time to know the raw you.
It is self hate to dislike your hair, because HATE is like a seed
I definitely think people shouldn’t be afraid to be their unique selves. Everyone is starting to look the same it’s sad. We need to embrace the features that make us different. THAT is beautiful💖if we all did that instead getting all this surgery and stuff there wouldn’t be a societal beauty standard because we would all learn to see the absolute beauty in everything and everyone!
Natural hair is one of those things that has to be promoted from day 1. It has to be embellished, styled, cared for, and worn on a very regular basis
Beautiful video. It's prompted me to think a bit more about my choices when styling my hair. I've had every style, but the main thing is learning how to moisturise and take care of my hair. Not all hair can use the same products and I've never really gotten into trends. My hair is low porosity, my scalp gets dry, while my hair stays moisturised. My mum relaxed my hair as a teenager, before I knew how to take care of it and so it broke off.
At near 40, I am learning what my hair needs, what it likes and doesn't like. My hair is completely natural and I'm currently wearing wigs. I like to keep it simple with regular treatments and trimming my ends and sticking to products my hair likes. I drink lots of water and eat well and have a healthy lifestyle. I believe you have to feed yourself from the inside out; skin, hair and nails tells us a lot about the state of our health.
I love my hair. I love how fluffy it is when I blow dry my hair and I love the ease of brushing and combing and the intricate styles I can do. I've learnt so much from watching TH-cam videos. I really had to research products for my hair. It's a life learning journey for black women, as we have so many options. We are Queens and can do what the Fuck we want!
I'm just a european with wavy hair and I didn't know it's really like that. Why is something normal and natural considered something weird? Type 4 hair is pretty on it's own, without any efforts to make it resemble any other type of hair
No one asked for ur input
True ....the sad thing is we started to categorize good hair verses bad hair
I'm glad my family didn't make me feel insecure about my hair. As long as its clean and the style is cute to me and doesn't take up too much of my time I'm good to go.
This video is really important and informative. The last point really got me because sometimes I search up styles to do for my 4c hair and I mostly see extensions or mixed people with 3b or 3c hair or without the same hair texture as me as the result. Like that's not what I searched for I clearly searched for styles for 4c hair.
This was a great video and for me I love to change up my 4c hair but this year is a year of no wigs/weave for me. I am going back to embracing my hair and lord knows it's hard but I have been loving it.
Thank you beautiful and you got this!
And brothers will be loving you sis, believe that ❤️
@@celsocosta880it’s not about brothers loving us. Most of them worship straight hair even if they claim they aren’t like that. It’s about us. Us loving ourselves. Centering ourselves when they and other women are always centered above ys
Why are men happy with their hair texture
Because we aren't taught to hate it. They literally are taught to hate it. I've seen it. I grew up around it. It's a paradigm that the generates keep passing down. It has nothing to do with white people anymore. Black women are afraid to where it natural because they were brainwashed not to their whole lives. It's literally a fear. An emotional response. Same how poor people feel self-conscious because everyone told them it is shameful to be poor or to wear Payless shoes or to be gay or to be a nerd or to be a virgin or even to be rich in some cases. It's dumb paradigms controlling everyone. Americans hate school. But Africans love school. It's just paradigms.
They’re not. That’s why they always keep it short or get dreads then they always talk about finding a white or Asian women or a black women with loosing hair to have a kid with so their hair will be looser
I’ve always thought that people of color have such gorgeous hair and are so lucky because they could basically shape it into anything they like!
That’s my favorite thing about my natural hair. I can do anything I want to it. I just have to be willing to set aside a few hours of my time each week to style it. I can see why naturals who are low on time or patience would have a hard time dealing with it tho. But not me. Styling my hair is how I express myself so it worth the time and effort I have to put into it
I love this video! Great content! It nearly had me in tear because I struggled to love my hair. I kept my natural hair hidden for years because I didn’t know what to do with it. I wouldn’t even wash it. I would go to one beautician to wash it an another one to install my wig/weave. Until one day I was at training and didn’t have time to get my hair done before leaving and I took my weave out and realized how much hair I had. Of course when I returned home. I went back to my normal routine but now I am really trying to embrace my hair. A few weeks ago it felt liberating just to wear my own hair. I didn’t have to worry about my wig sliding, or my braids being too tight or the stress on my edges. It felt good just to rub my fingers through my hair but enough of me. Thank you for this video and I pray that it will be inspirational to other.
This is why I just cut my hair and decide to look like an African princess. I can't understand the obsession with hair.
Just got a new subscriber, thinking about dreading I’m trying to stray away from weaves, black women are the only ones with pores in our scalps let’s embrace that
My hair is BEAUTIFUL. I love my natural hair at all lengths. I’ve had my hair really short to long where as though everyone thought it was fake but it was all mine. But the MAINTENANCE of my hair was insane and not conducive to my patience and time.
My hair would be a tangled mess 3 days after spending 3 hours detangling it during wash day…I am tender-headed and my hair would ALWAYS knot at the root. So just imagine the pain.
I would always dread wash day because I knew even after 3 days my hair would be sooo tangled so wash day would literally be all day. And whenever I washed it so much hair would come out bc of my scalp condition.
I treated my hair very well. I was gentle, I kept up with trims, I deep conditioned, I used protein when needed, I kept my scalp and hair moisturized in between wash days with my homemade scalp tonic, i ate right, I did EVERYTHING for my hair. But it still was high maintenance and if I slacked on ANY part of my regime it would be a complete nightmare.
Eventually i realized my hair prefers not being touched. Point blank period. I have locs now and it’s been smooth sailing. I don’t miss my loose hair at all. I threw away all of my products combs and brushes. I feel like I can take a deep breath because my hair is happy not to be pulled so much anymore. It’s been 7 months I can’t wait for a year then 2 years. Locs are maintenance but WAY lower than loose natural hair. I have more freedom and way less worries. I spend less time on my hair and my obsession and sadness over my hair subsided. 🌈
It’s never “just hair”. I mean it is but it also isn’t. Hair is part of your self expression. And loving your hair is apart of loving yourself. And that’s very very important. Idc if my hair isn’t the standard of beauty. That standard is based on racist ideologies anyway. 🤷🏾♀️
I am all for black women doing whatever they want with their hair. Natural, wigs, weave, straighten/silk press, locs, shaved, whatever suits you and your lifestyle. It’s your hair, you’re the one who has to manage it. Do what’s best for you. Just be careful with relaxers. They are directly linked to uterine cancer and fibroids. There’s a class action going on as we speak. (The women on the relaxer boxes have spoken out and it turns out they were natural the whole time. They just had their hair pressed out. Food for thought.)
i've had white male teachers ask me in front of the entire class why my hair looks like an electrocuted dog when I was wearing an afro and everyone in the class laughed at me :( ruined my whole day. called me bald, nappy headed, ugly. Other kids referring to me as a slave or people asking me why I would come outside looking like that. I hate my hair and yes I think I look better with a wig on I don't get nearly as much attention with my natural hair. I said it.
Hadiyah, I am so so sorry you went through all of that. How discouraging, hurtful, and humiliating. I can't even begin to imagine how awful you felt and what that did to your self-esteem. You are in my thoughts. I admire your bravery in sharing your story. I've even seen some hateful, nasty, and condescending people here in the comments, too. Keep your chin up!
Sorry sis, same thing happened to my friend and she’s mixed Indian.
Side note: that’s why I believe in homeschooling and why I’m going to do it to provide a warm, loving and affirming environment for my children to grow up in.
According to black women "white men love their natural hair more than black men" 😂
@@joepatrick3092ngl this is a bitter comment. You don’t even have proof that she said anything like that, just heard it from random bw online. Y’all don’t have to keep reminding us that y’all don’t like us anymore, we know. Either have compassion, or the conversation isn’t for you.
That’s traumatic
This is a great video! Honestly the convo is needed
I agree 💯
There are always attributes that are considered more or less desirable at different times and for different reasons. The blame game never gets anyone anywhere. Sometimes no matter how it’s said or not said, life just isn’t fair.
*personal opinion*- (almost every) black woman i see on my Instagram or in person have their edges laid. it honestly pisses me off because if you dont have your edges laid your considered not professional or basically “not pretty” i care more about KEEPING my edges as well letting my edges breathe. I have 4c hair but I get alot of compliments from my hair & how i style it. I make sure my edges are brushed or combed but not ever laid.
THIS! I came across a video that edges have a connection to whiteness. Using gel and brushes to slick it down vs People that their edges lay down with water without doing anything.
@@genevaxo & it also shows again, how most of our sisters are still insecure & want to be valid in the white (or basically in the 3c+) hair texture community 😕 WE MUST. Do. Better!😤
Both of y’all are wrong. There are African Somalians who are black (not white). So how does everything correlate to white people? Y’all are so obsessed with them, nobody don’t even thinking about them. And also, whites don’t go around with laid edges, blacks created that.
@@madebyme7590 Yes but guess where majority of African Americans came from. Places there are not Somalia. Loose hair doesn't occur naturally in those places.
@@genevaxo yes it does.. there are a lot of african americans with 3b-3c hair… Even mixed darkskins. Stop holding the standard to whites 🤢 you’re embarrassing blacks.
"Where would we be if society taught us how to love and upkeep our hair? our whatever she said. but that literally has me rethinking EVERYTHING.
I started my natural "journey" back in 2009. I transitioned, plaited, braided, twisted out, fro'ed up, bleached, dyed, shortened, loc'd, bald-faded and grown out.
Like any good relationship, variety can be the spice of life. I've had a lot of judgement and lack of preference expressed by others but also the opposite. I'm not looking for approval so minding my business and learning me has been the best thing for my hair and my health. I keep it simple and that works for me. I think I'm 4a but a wash and go on day 7 is gonna give 4c...I just spray it with water, throw in a lot of conditioner and some oil or grease, agitate it and keep it moving. I wear it out most of the time. I'm wearing plaits with kanekalon for the first time in like a year and I'm content to enjoy the growth my hair will get from the lack of daily manipulation it's accustomed to. I'm gonna keep some interesting scarves and keep these in for at least the rest of the month...maybe even through the end of August. I oil it daily and massage it and let the roots nap as they please...like I did with my locs.
Been saying this. Great video.
You Go Natural head wraps are phenomenal!! I love the Open Turbans!! Very classy look in seconds!! I hadn’t seen my natural hair in over 40 years and just did my. IG Chop this past July. I am indebted to all the young ladies on TH-cam who have provided me with excellent information, techniques and product recommendations. I wear my hair “out” every day….mostly a big curly Afro. I love being ‘me’. May we (women with textured strands) treasure our tresses.
It’s deeper than just hair-it adds with other features!!!
I loc’d my hair and never looked back I feel more beautiful sexy and fabulous. I have 4c and people try to tell me I don’t it looks more 4b like what
Girl if that's you in the profile pic, you are ROCKING it! You look beautiful!!!
Wow yes it’s me thank you beautiful , that was really nice, thr first nice thing anyone told me today🥺 thank you
The chart should be flipped instead of straight hair being 1 and the curlier hair being 4. Even the chart is discriminatory. I love 4c and I think it should number 1.
I absolutely love my hair ❤️ fearfully and wonderfully made by Jesus 🙋🏽♀️
As a brazilian girl I never understood how in American movies and series black women had so many wigs at home, my hair is naturally 3b/3c (I never have sure sorry) and the only thing that annoys me is the frizz (but all my friends suffer from that too), and it was a surprise to me that it is so difficult to find a salon that can handle curls there. My biggest pain is when I buy a shampoo that dries out my hair, because curly hair is very light and that's why it shrinks and straight hair is heavier and that's why it stretches (my friend is a professional hairdresser, so he explained it to me like this).
My friend (who has 4b hair) and I follow almost the same hair schedule, we bought a 1k bottle of hair massage cream (usually nourishing, but moisturizing will do as well - also my mom likes to mix in a jojoba oil or rosehip oil to keep her hair healthy - she's a 3c) and used it once or twice a week (it will depend on the health of the hair) and then we take care of it normally during the week (shampoo + conditioner + styling cream) and when I commented this in a discord group it seemed like I was talking about witchcraft, and I was like "...???" people with curly hair, regardless of the type, always need to be well hydrated, a good nourishing cream works miracles on curly hair as it is extremely delicate. I've been doing this for so long that these days my hair is so soft I can run my fingers through my curls and have no problem.
My point is: I'm always surprised this isn't public information, you don't have to hate your hair, maybe it's just your hair schedule that's wrong, do a hydration (or nourishment) once or twice a week for a few months and see if it won't get much better
a tip I can give is: I have two creams, one for hydration and the other for nutrition, once a week I mix two tablespoons of each cream in a small bowl and put this mixture on the hair (you can add a hair oil of your choice to the mixture) I leave it for 30min or 40min and rinse, after that you just need to towel dry and apply the hair cream that you are used to. with this even 4b/4c can grow well
For normal use I buy a nourishing shampoo, conditioner and styling cream as I like my curls very soft and fluffy. I do it at my house the same as most of my friends and it's ok.
edit: also use a hairbrush and start combing from the ends and then work your way up (preferably a wooden brush), never use a comb.
I think it's a shame that anyone is made to feel shame over things they were born with and can't control. I'm white, and while there are times I wish my hair were different, I've never hated it or been told there's something wrong with me because my hair isn't 'right'. I can only imagine how horrible that must feel.
Hmmmm Idk
Saying wearing a wig means you hate your hair is like saying wearing clothes means you hate your body or skin.
It's just an accessory,
Nway I love my hair and have always done so,
it's also not fair that you can't wear your hair naturally without doing too much to it. The curly or natural hair community has become obsessed with the perfect ringlets, the perfect shine, the perfect bounciness. It's becoming too competitive when the focus needs to be on healthy hair and destigmatizing hair texture. Sometimes I just wanna use shampoo and conditioner and call it a day and let my hair decide how it wants look like today
Your comment should be one of the ones at the top! I couldn't agree with you more! Nicely said!
I’m mixed and I thought there was something wrong with me for hating my 4A/4C hair
Thank you for explaining
That was a great video Toni; it was very informative🥰
Thank you so much Aunty Laura!!❤️
i don’t after seeing others hair types and styles i really don’t. and i’m not gonna pretend i do either just because it comes out of me doesn’t mean i have to like it. it’s hard to maintain hard to manage and time consuming. and honestly it doesn’t look that great on me. if i had a choice i would pick the easiest hair type.
I have grown to love my hair, but I will wear braids and wigs for convenience but I have long kinky thick hair, and I wear it sometimes but truth is you have to have the proper products for it to last.
That’s a wild shirt girl! lol but anyways, great video I found it very interesting & I just have boring blonde hair lol. Love your curls! So pretty!
I put extensions and wigs on because my 4c hair is stressful
This was an amazing video. Well done. As a licensed hairstylist, the cost overall for products are expensive. I do all ethnicities and all professional products are pretty high. When you use pro products you don’t go by the race or ethnicity, you use a product based off the hair texture, density, and elasticity. Not all black women have kinky hair and not all white women have straight hair. Once you understand the science behind hair, a stylist becomes an asset. I don’t do a lot of weaves, but mainly color and natural hair. I enjoy learning all aspects of hair. I wish more stylist would stop the weaves and learn how to properly care for the hair. Will be sharing this video with other stylist. This was very informative.
Some people really don't think it's that deep most people ik just gets wigs and stuff and straighten their hair because it's much easier to handle than to wake up every day having to comb it out and style it which can take HOURS I don't think some of us hate our hair we just don't have time for it .
Thank you so much for this video. I did try natural for a while but never achieve the length have fine hair from the start. But for years I have gone as natural as I can. I love the end where you don't shame those who try other method. Wigs, weaves, braids, natural. Life is to short wear your hair for yourself. What makes you feel beautiful do it.
sis hit all the stops
I think coily hair are fricking AWENSOME, eaven if they are frizzy.
Lol,... I stayed to the end and I loved the content. Hair in and of itself is fascinating but black hair is the ultimate in versatility. I had a Chinese woman tell me once that she loves black people's hair and called it "magic hair" when asked why she said because you can do so many different things with it. Think about it, we can manipulate our hair to look like any style on any race, BUT not so on the other end of the spectrum. In other words, it would be extremely difficult and damaging for most people with naturally caucasian straight hair to achieve an afro, yet we are able to bounce from natural afros to bone straight styles literally in the blink of an eye. Hmmm, and that's just one of the elements that make us so fierce. So embrace the magic, do you, and keep living your best hair life!
@bun stop being ignorant. “black” people do not have the slowest growth rate. hair grows from about 1/4 to 1/2 inch a month. everybody’s growth rate is different. some people’s grows fast while other’s hair grow slow. it has nothing to do with race or hair type. if you don’t know how to maintain your hair , it will just break off if you don’t know how to care for it. nothing to do with race. do not spread the ignorant lie that “black” people’s hair grows slow. i’ve seen afro hair that grows fast. just because your hair may grow slow it doesn’t mean that ALL of their hair grows slow.
Divesting (joke very much intended) from the natural hair side of social media was the best thing I ever did. I wear my hair how I please, and I do the basics for my routine. Clarifying Shampoo, moisturizing shampoo, fenugreek water and deep conditioner, rinse, grease, and style as desired. I also use heat regularly bc my hair grows better when I stretch and style. Once people decenter how others do their hair, the strife will disappear, learn your own hair and go with it.
When u bring the term natural up to most bw it's taboo smh
Yeah or they get extremely defensive about it...
@@lilnativa_That_4C_hair_Chick yaas ma'am I rocked my natural for 2year before I started getting silk presses made my hair grow and inner confidence rise I know longer need hair weave to feel validated or confidence most bw with out the weave have extreme low self esteem if our country was to turn 3rd world today they wouldnt know where to start Now at 28 I'm a grown proud blk woman
@@queenbbeaute2654 love that for you 👏🏾 👏🏾
OUTSTANDING video!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I hate my hair 😭 when it's all done up its nice but when I have to do it it's sooo annoying
I remember a non black was so concerned with my hair. I had to ask them what the problem was. They said it’s to high can I tame it. I said no I can not then she ask to touch it🤦🏾♀️ like girl get on.
I have locs, and the only hair products that work for me are expensive af.
Omg do they at least last longer?
Racism is racism, whether its segregated bathrooms or unrealistic biased beauty standards with deep, historical roots of inequality.
Lol it’s racism huh?
@@joyceg5421 “lol” yes it is. Anything that enforces different standards (legal/political/educational/beauty/healthcare/ lifestyle/ behavioural) on different races is racism. Next time ask this question without the “lol” so you’ll sound reasonable instead of sounding ignorant.
@@freakmeoutwillu I laughed because racism is the least of your problems. You insulted me lol lol 😂
@@joyceg5421how is racism the “least of your problems” when it affects your paycheck. Silly fool
@@tiredoftheworld4834 You’re the silly fool😂 you don’t know me, my salary or if I’m even employed. That’s the problem, you guys know it all while still having issues with hair in the workplace. Your hair isn’t the problem. It’s you 👈🏾
Well can’t blame us when ur own ppl talk down on ur natural hair “bald headed ,Nappy” I’ll continue wearing my wigs ty
Well done Toni! Love this video.
Thank you so much Dr black hair black colour is very important science proved that
Is there a video on the issues black women face in the professional job market? I keep hearing women talk about not being able to have Afros, braids, etc… just wanted to learn more!
I will say check your facts ! Black queens in Africa wore wigs and weaves so that is something ingrained in the culture..besides that agree with the relaxing it damaging it!
My facts are very much correct. I am referencing African Americans
@@ToniBryanneTV if you say so.. but just know we do as our ancestors did even when we never met them!
Thank you for this video! You answered many of my questions and I went to hair school! They were never teaching anything about this hair type which I actually thought was stupid because I had allotvof people wanting me to do there hair!
I just got finish twisting my hair ! Took me 4hrs and the breakage!! And honestly I don’t even want to deal with my own hair anymore!! Like my hair takes forever to grow and when it does it breaks so it’s stuck on shoulder length!! I’m either gonna cut it or back to wigs!! It’s the work for me !!
if you have 4 type hair, condition condition condition, use leave in conditioner, detangle and oil/grease your scalp plus 4 type hair CAN NOT SHOULD NOT be braided up for long periods, 4 type hair needs maintenance every 3-5 days, that's how I retain my length. Anddd quick natural hairstyles are best, think halo braids, 2 buns etc
Protein treatments and deep conditioning
dont comb it excessively all that does is cause breakage. i used to hate my hair so i combed it really roughly and it wasnt until my mom said something about it i was taking it out on my hair. it started growing and i had leas breakage
Girl do what is most beneficial to YOUR hair , I’m reading these comments and I notice how people give advice on what actually works for themselves . I wore wigs for a year straight , I went from neck length hair to bra strap length . It’s all about techniques and what works for your hair✨
@@Lalajewel thank you dear, I put my hair in crotchet styles my hair grew long before I cut it . One technique that works for all 4a/4b/4c hair whether low or high porosity, high or low density is LESS IS MORE.
People have attached too many rules to 4c hair. Dont grease your hair,wash your hair x amount of times, detangle your hair, stretch your hair. Your haircare routines are unnecessarily long and frustrating because you are trying to change the nature of your hair. Afro shrinks, embrace it. Your hair will never be perfectly detangled, black hair strands love hugging together,embrace it. You guys are completely going against the nature of your hair and as a result your hair will fight back by frustrating you. You wouldn't want someone trying to change your entire personality and being controlled, would you? Your hair has a life too. If anything, all these perceived challenges with natural 4c hair are teaching people to stop being control freaks. Leave your hair alone and it will grow.
Well said sis
I did not have a guide back in 98 when I chopped mine off, so I experimented until I found what was right for me.....
What is 4c hair?
@@hi-xf7cj it's an unnecessary categorization of natural hair, African hair with very tight coils.
100%! White ppl would get as frustrated if they tried everything to convert their bone straight hair into our kinks and coils, as it completely goes against the nature of their hair
The day the natural hair movement has succeeded is when a black woman with 4c hair can walk out of the house, into the workplace, into the church, into the clubs, anywhere without having to manipulate their hair to look presentable to other people.
Amen and Amen
Well that was a failed movement. Hopefully we can give it another try
They do in the UK...❤
@@Ms_Brendi_B no they don’t
What is stoping you from doing that?
I'm a Russian woman, and this issue is so interesting and puzzling to me! Thank you so much for the video. As a person from a country where there is almost no black population, only a few years ago I discovered that all this hair that Beyonce and other celebrities have is not their own!! I couldn't even imagine what black women go through with their hair, all the strengthening, wigs etc. To me, as well as to majority of white foreigners (not americans), natural hair on black women is just AS BEAUTIFUL as straight hair, I didn't even know about such deep issues with descrimination etc.
It’s interesting to hear what it’s like from the outside looking in. I too think people look better with what’s naturally on their god given head!!!
If a stylist want u to pay more, come early, or pre do your hair at home before u come to your appointment. DO NOT GO TO THAT STYLIST FIND A NATURL HAIR SALON. Cause a stylist who specializes in NATURL HAIR would NEVER tell u to pay MORE based off your texture and length.
And that is the TRUTH!!!
All natural hairstylist I know charge based on length. It makes sense to me. Not speaking on texture.
Not true. There are videos on TH-cam covering the past years controversy of multiple black hair salons charging more for type 4 (especially 4c hair). This has become to be known as the 4c fee. We must acknowledge the part our own community plays in this.
A very well-known Black NATURAL hair care salon from back in the day (whose owners transitioned into having a natural hair haircare line) used to have a price scale. Only very loose non-Black type curls paid the base fee. Everyone about a 3c or above paid a premium. They had a diverse curly clientele. Due to the price scale, most Black woman paid a premium at that salon.
Black natural hair are is lacking in many areas it’s hard to find, when you do they charging $300…. For cut wash and wash and go.
We don't really hate our hair, society hates it and it has a huge effect on our self images .
Yeah and that’s what I stated in the video
Nah Im telling you as a afrohaired woman when I wear my afro I get hated on by black women. Other races absolutely admire and glorify my hair even asian women say I look like an angel with the flowers in my fro. I get stopped by ppl all the time about my hair. But black women will stick their hands in my hair without asking just to see how “nappy” it is or to make sure its not a wig. They don’t even compliment me on my hair first before they touch me! Its rude and disrespectful asf I don’t care what color they are they need to keep their hands to themselves bc their whole intention behind touching my hair is NEGATIVE and its all about selfhate. Its not mainly society its mainly black women who are afraid to rock afros. White men have followed me around the store just to glorify my hair. Black women need to heal and reprogram themselves.
Its so bad when I do get compliments they will automatically start explaining why they wear a wig, or why they are bald for no reason. I never told them how to wear their hair Im always friendly while they roll their eyes. One time people where complimenting me and praising me for wearing my hair and my coworker said she had hair longer than mines until Covid. Then when she walked away everyone laughed bc they knew she was lying and hating. I can write a movie about the hate I receive from my own kind bc of my long 4a hair.
She just said black women's hair is not a monolith everybody feels differently about their hair she's touching on the majority of black women who hate their hair if you're not a part of that majority then this is not for you
@@parisjej
i don’t know why some black women think that it’s ok to touch another black women’s hair. it’s almost like some of them feel entitled to do it just because they’re black. black or white or other, i don’t want ANYONE’s hand in MY hair. hands OFF. i’m so sorry that happened to you. you speak the complete truth. i haven’t gotten hate from other races for my hair, it’s from my OWN kind. 🙄
i had my hair in mini braids and another black woman had the AUDACITY to touch the roots of my hair telling me i need to tighten it up. i had the hairstyle for a month and i was planning on taking it down, but either way, i do NOT like to “TIGHTEN” my hair. that leads to DAMAGE. so i will NOT tighten my hair for the sake of pleasing the eyes of others. i love my hair and they hate that i do. keep rocking your hair and don’t let jealous women make you feel bad or ashamed.
@@Ισαβέλα-ψ7τ Thank you for sharing your story. It’s unfortunate we go through these things but I am glad someone can empathize with me bc some people think Im lying. Its so weird. It does make me kind of sad that I get hate from my own kind. I’m not as outgoing as I used to be bc of the bullying and hate I receive when it comes to my hair.
Honestly the moment you remove yourself from these societal views the less you care. I really believe we are too busy trying to get other people to accept something we haven’t fully accepted. They do not have to accept our difference. When will we ( collectively) focus on our own…
Very true I agree
AND THAT'S FACTS. WE CARE TOO MUCH ABOUT FITTING SOCIETY'S STANDARDS
@@samoyha1Almost no woman, from any race, fits those standards. Maybe only the rich and famous do, because they also have the money and the time to always look perfect or give that appearance, because when you remove make-up, fake body parts and photoshop, how do they really look like? Often like regular people.
I was taught to hate my natural hair because it's extremely thick and long. My mom hated doing my hair as a child and made it clear to me by hitting me on the head with the brush while doing my hair, always keeping it in the quickest most boring braids that she could do, or just pawning me off on my older sister or grandma because they could see my mom had no empathy while pulling brushes and combs through my hair with frustration. It hurt a lot. My older sister is mixed with white, while I'm a completely black woman without easy straight hair. My mom was annoyed I had regular black girl hair as she and my older sister don't have that. The first time I ever had a good experience getting my hair done, my mom permed it bone straight. My hair wasn't damaged and I got to wear it out for the first time. I loved it, and I didn't have to suffer under my mom's heavy narcissistic hand with thick, "nappy" according to her, hair. I've never worn my hair without a relaxer since age 6. I'll be 37 this year in July. My mom caused me to hate my natural hair, especially the texture.
I’m so sorry you went through this
Smh that is so mean and unfair. Sorry that happened to you.
I remember those pressing comb days. As children we are made to feel something is wrong with our hair. It’s a generational curse and it’s up to us to break it!
Im sorry that happened to you sis. My hair is nappy and my mom's hair is nappy. She hated her own hair. She did that too and hated doing my hair. She also put weave in it at 11. I'm 31 and just now wearing my natural hair for the first time and learning to love myself.
I also now do my moms hair too now 😇😈
Omg! reminds me of the beautician's my mom would send me. They would pull and yank at my hair, all the while telling me to hold still and complaining that I was tender headed! Then on top of it they would charge my mom more because my hair was so long (shoulder length) and thick. Mom ended up having them put a relaxer in it. I was nine at the time. Now don't get me going about the relaxers.
The obsession with hair length is also due to the masculinization of most black women. Society makes us feel like we have to do so much and adhere to so many standards to be seen as feminine , they talk about the BBL girls but look at how they treat BW with average bodies, the fuller the features and the deeper the skin the more they try to associate us with men. So yes the obsession with length is very real and it’s very sad . I struggle with it too because I’m so tall and I feel all this unnecessary pressure to always be received as feminine. I have shaved my hair few times and enjoyed the freedom but also endured what I previously mentioned. I also learned that the right people as in people with common sense never mistakenly Ed me as a boy , especially black women, they saw me as the beauty that I was without all of my hair and I started to realize all that pressure was simply just engraved racism in society. I’ve since grown and am now looking to just grow a huge fro haha.
Came here to say this! They really make us feel like we're not feminine enough and hence our obsession with over-doing feminine aspects; long nails, long lashes, long weaves, etc.
In addition, long hair has been the standard in all the other races: Asians, Latinos and whites have long hair as their “crown” of beauty. For whatever reason that is not for us but we are differently beautiful and can appreciate our beauties💜
Lord Jesus Christ is coming back everyone, please don’t worship celebrities and entertainment, focus on Him alone. I promise there’s more to life than money, partying, homosexuality and music. Hell is real, repent from sinning confess your sins and ask God to forgive you, I know He will if you’re sincere. Anyone who thinks the Name of Lord Jesus Christ is a joke, boldly mocks and scorns Him or takes pleasure in people who do is in for a big unpleasant surprise on judgement day IF they don’t repent and follow Lord Jesus Christ. Hell is very hot, people please repent! In the mighty name of Lord Jesus Christ, Amen 🙏💪✝️💜❤️✝️!
Idolatry such as, Islam, Catholicism, Sangomaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Santa Clausism, Confucianism, New Age, Science, Evolution, halloweenism, Harry Potterism, Politics, Donald Trumpism, Easter Bunnyism and other religions/faiths that are outside Biblical Christianity lead to hell! Don’t believe them, believe the Almighty God the Father of Lord Jesus Christ, who begot Him. Our Creator, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is mighty, He doesn’t need a woman to beget a son, He is God. I choose to put my faith in a God who can do anything and everything, a God who has unlimited and infinite power to beget!
So, it’s time to confess that Lord Jesus Christ is the Lord and to believe that He died and rose from the grave after three days and you shall be saved if you only obey Him by praying, worshipping, praising, reading the Bible and living holy and righteously according to the Bible. You have to endure until the end, carry your cross daily and build your relationship with God by following Lord Jesus daily until the end. You must never renounce your faith in The Lord Jesus Christ, there’s hell awaiting those who reject/deny Lord Jesus Christ and those who continue living sinfully, even the Christians who don’t want to repent will face the same fate, so please repent beloved people, in Lord Jesus Christ’s mighty and precious Name, Amen.
@@lizangenye1509 it is for us, it’s just with a different texture, long hair is feminine the Bible also teaches this.
Lord Jesus Christ is coming back everyone, please don’t worship celebrities and entertainment, focus on Him alone. I promise there’s more to life than money, partying, homosexuality and music. Hell is real, repent from sinning confess your sins and ask God to forgive you, I know He will if you’re sincere. Anyone who thinks the Name of Lord Jesus Christ is a joke, boldly mocks and scorns Him or takes pleasure in people who do is in for a big unpleasant surprise on judgement day IF they don’t repent and follow Lord Jesus Christ. Hell is very hot, people please repent! In the mighty name of Lord Jesus Christ, Amen 🙏💪✝️💜❤️✝️!
Idolatry such as, Islam, Catholicism, Sangomaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Santa Clausism, Confucianism, New Age, Science, Evolution, halloweenism, Harry Potterism, Politics, Donald Trumpism, Easter Bunnyism and other religions/faiths that are outside Biblical Christianity lead to hell! Don’t believe them, believe the Almighty God the Father of Lord Jesus Christ, who begot Him. Our Creator, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is mighty, He doesn’t need a woman to beget a son, He is God. I choose to put my faith in a God who can do anything and everything, a God who has unlimited and infinite power to beget!
So, it’s time to confess that Lord Jesus Christ is the Lord and to believe that He died and rose from the grave after three days and you shall be saved if you only obey Him by praying, worshipping, praising, reading the Bible and living holy and righteously according to the Bible. You have to endure until the end, carry your cross daily and build your relationship with God by following Lord Jesus daily until the end. You must never renounce your faith in The Lord Jesus Christ, there’s hell awaiting those who reject/deny Lord Jesus Christ and those who continue living sinfully, even the Christians who don’t want to repent will face the same fate, so please repent beloved people, in Lord Jesus Christ’s mighty and precious Name, Amen.
@@thefoolenergy True and a lot of black men go after these other women who have so call black hair
We need to take away the power that we’ve given hair in our community.
This is the reason why in Wal-Mart and Target our products cost more than the white girls do. They know the importance we place on something that we can never change.
@@preciousunderwood1512 facts
@@preciousunderwood1512 Have you thought about buying your hair products from the Dollar Tree, Family Dollar or Big Lots? They all have Black hair care products and cost a lot less than Target and Walmart
@@preciousunderwood1512 This isn’t true at all. Our products cost more because our products tend to have better ingredients. Compare Mielle, UFD, and Camille Rose to Herbal Essence, Garnier, and Pantene. Concentrated products with good ingredients vs watered down products with filler ingredients. Of course our products are going to cost more. Now when we buy from hair shops that’s a different story because you know those hair shop beauty supply owners like to price gouge tf outta us. I buy black hair care online and it’s the same story as target because our brands tend to have better ingredients which is why it costs more, and I’ll gladly pay for it. You should look up healthy studies on white hair care products. Scary stuff.
@@Jazzy869 Not at all.
It’s so sad that the majority of beauty schools don’t teach black hair at allllll
We’re not even tested on it. I was only taught how to apply a relaxer ☹️
That’s actually changing. It’s now becoming mandatory for beauty schools to teach black hair, and there have been talks about making it so non-black salons also have to be knowledgeable in how to do black hair.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 Oh yeah ?! That's great news, they'd better keep it up coz it's really needed!
TH-cam taught me everything!
Ayurveda does ❤
THIS! I didn’t learn much about black womens hair. I had to learn through TH-cam
Just looking through the comments here, and I’m kind of confused. I say this as a black woman with arm pit length 4B/4C hair. What is it that you guys are doing that takes hours? I wash style and detangle my hair every week and wear it in a wash and go, and it takes me 2 to 3 hours maximum, and I don’t touch it for the rest of the week. So what is everyone else doing? Could a huge part of disliking natural hair, be due to doing too much?
Edit: this comment is 2 years old but people are still responding. It takes me about 1.5 hours a week to do my hair now, I have better technique and I use better products.
Same here!!!! My hair does not take my whole day and it still bomb as hell after every wash day. My styles last well over a week. But that’s because I have a SOLD regimen. I don’t think these women have totally figured out their hair yet.
Facts
Same! I only wear wash and go's. Shampoo, condition and style once a week. The entire process...3 1/2 hours max. To maintain throughout the week I wear a bonnet or buff to bed, fluff and shape hair with my fingers in the morning. The wash and go is a low maintenance hair style.
People are fighting against the nature of their hair. This stretching,detangling
Black hair shrinks,our hair strands do not stand in isolation. If we embraced our shrinkage more and let our hair be we would probably have more love for our hair. Natural hair is only frustrating when you try to change its nature constantly.
same. Washing my hair never takes more than an hour... never.
What I find interesting about wigs and weave wearers, is that most say it's a protective style, yet the majority only have straight or traditionally white hair types wigs. Let's call a spade a spade. I said what I said.
Yep, it’s hypocrisy. We cry appropriate when non-black people wear braids, etc, but what about when we wear hair that isn’t ours?
fr like just be honest with yourself and reflect on what makes you feel most beautiful and why and maybe how to work past that. if the wig movement was really about protection we'd see lots more extensions with kinky and curly hair. and that's would actually look much more realistic
Amara la negra wore a natural wig and y’all tore her apart
@@seshib7232 whose ya'll? Cos last time I checked, wasn't me...
Not true. You took offense on Seshi B generalizing meanwhile you are doing the same
My two cents is we black women as a collective need to stop policing each other’s hair. It’s become exhausting. Whatever ur thing is, however wearing ur crown makes u feel beautiful and most importantly content , is what matters
True
Period!
This! Let people be great damn
Yes, this. It’s so annoying. Like why do we care so much about what other people do with their hair? I agree with you.
PREACH!! Are there this many videos of women of other races doing this? We are not the only race that does stuff to their hair! the difference is that those people don't care its a waste of time really🙄
"Black women spend thousands of dollars on natural hair products"
Looks at my $4 hair grease and $12 leave in. Wait what?? Lol
Not all products work for all hair.
@@missdesireindependance5194 did I name one specific product and say that it would work for everyone? Didn't think so..
I am with you. I have my products for months and I only use three products from wash to styling. We gotta simplify 😂
For the longest time ever I only used olive oil, you know the kitchen one not that overpriced "hair olive oil"
@@destinydivine8465 Me af I think the reason is bc nobody knows much about their hair type or they want to change it so they spend money until they find the right products. Ik I did after I went natural.
It’s a different type of confidence I feel wearing my real hair. I know my real hair sisters understand me. Even if you’re texturized or permed.. it’s a flex to feel sexy in your own hair.
It really is, people move different interacting with you once they see you rocking coily kinky hair.
Making our hair more "palatable" has truly stripped us of the GIFT of developing a love affair with our natural hair...It makes me sad.
Bro natural hair products isn’t more expensive than wigs that’s the most delusional statement I’ve heard do you know how much women spend every month on wigs and weaves
literallyyyyyyyy
I’ve fallen in love with my natural hair. Mastering it can bring you so much confidence! It took some time to learn how to do it, I’ve been natural for 6 years and I still learn new things about my hair. When I get tired or don’t have time to deal with my hair, box braids are my best friend. And I’ve learned to do them myself! I can’t even imagine getting a sew in or relaxer anymore. Those days with that tragic, dusty, crusty, 2 inch long, broken up, heat damaged leave out are over!! Nothing but long beautiful textured locks in my future 😎
That's why I have always disliked the term "good hair" black folk need to get away from that term.
As far as I'm concerned all hair is good!!!
I'm just sayin...
Right. I would say healthy hair is good hair.
I think the root of hate is that we’ve been taught that it must be TAMED
No the problem is you blame others and use it as a crutch and want to continue to be viewed as the victim.
@@lauramatheis9069 I can tell you are NOT black. So kindly leave us alone.
@@lauramatheis9069funny how you can’t stick to your white woman videos… move along. You’re not wanted here.
@@lauramatheis9069 Yea let's ignore the bit of the history she gave us and it makes sense. You act likr society has no influence literally growing up with barbie dolls that looks nothing like you. Only nowdays I see barbie diversity would have helped alot back then.
Confidence is ALL u need.
I remember being called Peter at school when my hair was short. And? I love my Type 4 hair..grows slow but its ALL MINE 😍
Amen 💯
I always believe natural hair won’t growth
It will grow slow but certainly stronger then snow bunny!Black dark women with natural hair have no ideia how extremely sexy and beautiful they are 🤔 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿
My 10 year old nephew told me yesterday I look better with my natural hair. That was so sweet being that we was just looking at my ig pics and no one was talking about hair
Im telling you as a afrohaired woman when I wear my afro I get hated on by black women. Other races absolutely admire and glorify my hair even asian women say I look like an angel with the flowers in my fro. I get stopped by ppl all the time about my hair. But black women will stick their hands in my hair without asking just to see how “nappy” it is or to make sure its not a wig. They don’t even compliment me on my hair first before they touch me! Its rude and disrespectful asf I don’t care what color they are they need to keep their hands to themselves bc their whole intention behind touching my hair is NEGATIVE and its all about selfhate. Its not mainly society its mainly black women who are afraid to rock afros. White men have followed me around the store just to glorify my hair. Black women need to heal and reprogram themselves.
Its so bad when I do get compliments they will automatically start explaining why they wear a wig, or why they are bald for no reason. I never told them how to wear their hair Im always friendly while they roll their eyes. One time people where complimenting me and praising me for wearing my hair and my coworker said she had hair longer than mines until Covid. Then when she walked away everyone laughed bc they knew she was lying and hating. I can write a movie about the hate I receive from my own kind bc of my long 4a hair.
What’s sad is, WE are suppose to be the MAIN SOURCE of support with each other. WE are the only ones with this type of hair texture! However, like you said, from decades of self hate we have came to this- degrading each other. Not only degrade but being jealous, envy…OF OUR OWN BLACK SISTERS! This pisses me off & jt hurts my heart ♥️😥😔 we must get better.
Don’t worry about them . You continue to wear that BEAUTIFUL natural hair. Those black women are jealous because they don’t have the confidence to wear it.
They’re the same women that only feel confident in Asian women wigs lol. Imagine walking around confidently wearing Asian women’s hair and wonder why so many non bw think they’re better then bw, that’s literally putting them on a pedestal by wearing their hair.
Wow. Just.... Wow.
This is 100% true. They are losers.
I can speak from my experience that I honestly hated my 4C hair. It was a lot to do so I recently relaxed it and it’s so much more manageable for me . But recently I went to the DR , & saw the black women embrace their crown and I was like 🥺 dang now why did I do this to me ?! I got treated so well overseas compared to the men here in America . European beauty standards are real and can damage you. Do what’s best for you. I may just go back natural cause the way the black women looked at me like wtf is wrong with her hair sent me in a spiral 😂😂😂😂
@K C I realized that which is why I literally said “Do what’s best for you.” Reading comprehension.
@K C lol I’m not arguing babe! 😂 It’s just a pet peeve of mine when I tell people read between lines . I’m sorry if my response seemed mean or anything 🥺💕
DR IS WORST WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT. I GREW UP THERE AND IT ALOT OF HATE WITH NATURAL HAIR
@@ayuanabradford3206 you do know experiences are different right depending on the person ? My experiences was a good one , I’m sorry yours wasn’t .
It's like you can't win! 😅
And you know i don’t feel pretty with it but i don’t mind it. Even though it hurts to take care of and takes forever.. I know i will never get what i want with my 4c hair and that is what i think it is. I’m so damn tired of seeing everyone with straight wigs all the time, forcing our hair to match, ITS NOT GOING TO MATCH, it’s not supposed to. People at work tell me edge controls i need to try. My shit isn’t supposed to be straight, it doesn’t slick down because it’s not supposes d to. I don’t think it will ever be the standard to rock my 4c hair, and let me reiterate again, i wish every one would wear theirs, but i know I’ll never be treated the way i want to be if i do.
It’s sad to even have to read this but you’re speaking from truth. Much love to you sister. Forget what others won’t accept and also their stupid recommendations ..keep loving YOU.. I’m sure you’re beautiful in all your natural ness ITS ALL YOURS.. MUCH LOVE
Well said we’re not supposed to look the same that’s why God makes us different.
Girl get the kinky wig it's much much much prettier and more realistic looking.
Iv'e never liked edge control, it defeats the purpose of having courser hair texture
I second this comment thread👌🏾 💯
I went to beauty school and they barely teach u anything at all about black hair let alone 4c kinky curly hair. So that’s something within the system.
Did Black instructors and students complain to the state authorities? The squeaky wheel gets the oil.
@@KC-ed1dj no. Unfortunately because everybody is just used to it I guess. 🤷🏽♀️ they literally have zero education in black hair. Everything taught is for white people.
I live in Africa. Almost everyone has kinky hair. Girls with relaxed hair,alot of people envy girls with kinky hair. But they don't want it cause of the stress
Thank you nne. Many of these women do not research about 4c hair and know that LESS IS MORE FOR 4C HAIR
As hard as it’s to take care of my hair.
I feel the most prettiest in my natural hair ,so I learned to love it ,
growing up in Africa helped a lot because many hair dresses know what to do with it.
That's beautiful
What country
We have been conditioned to want what we don’t naturally have and so it makes us seem ungrateful for what we DO have. Our hair is our BRAND AND BIRTHRIGHT. The colonizers wanted what they couldn’t grow therefore developing jealousy and the need to have us cover it up. No wonder why our hair is called our “GLORY”.. Love on it because it is a plant 🌱 that needs continued maintenance & watering. Our hair grows towards the sun ☀️ BECAUSE IT IS ALIVE… Remember that. ASE & LOVE TO OUR ANCESTORS
You can have all the 4c hair!
@@joyceg5421 give it to me I’ll gladly accept ..
Lovely comment ❤️
So beautiful and true!
@@joyceg5421 y’all don’t look better than the women who wear Afros, let a black women walk in with a wig( ok nothing we haven’t seen before) then another one walks in with a Afro ( she a goddess! She a queen! Love her hair!) y’all missing out on the praising and the beauty and glory that comes with an Afro. A black woman with a Afro and yellow clothes on will always outshine any other woman who steps in a room.
I like to experment so i try a lot with my hair but I'm always more comfortable in my natural hair.
Same here lol
@@ToniBryanneTV And no it's not that deep the crap is hard to comb just as simple as that
@@thelmathomas9399 your hair can be hard to comb but you still love it….
@@thelmathomas9399 You know there is this thing called a spray bottle that you can fill up with water and all you'd have to do with it is spray your hair wait a few minutes then use a wide tooth comb, part your hair in sections then comb from the ends to the roots. It's not that hard you just don't know what you are doing.
I guess I was lucky in that I never felt bad for having the hair that I do. I have type 4A hair (for some context) but I used to think I had 4C because of how dense my hair was (and still is)... and I didn't know leave in conditioner was a thing until like 2016😅
The only negative memories I have for my hair was my mum yanking my hair in efforts of detangling it, giving me headaches and of course the pain from my butt sitting down on the floor for hours. Although it was very painful, I appreciate my mum doing what she could to take care of my hair. And always telling me that I looked 'cute' with it and that its 'long' looking back it wasn't long at all, but I was the only in the family with a lot of hair being the only girl at the time. My mum really made me wear it with pride😂.
During the mid 2000's when I was a kid I wanted to perm my hair since another girl had her hair permed and I thought it looked nice. My mum would always deny my request saying that I'll ruin my hair. I knew where she was coming from as she herself permed her hair continuously when she was a teenager and till this day her hair is really damaged from it.
I'm thankful that she didn't let me do it, instead she was always very open to trying out hairstyles she never done before (like crochet) on my head. She'd watch youtube videos and everything! I know that my mum is glad that my hair is as long and healthy as it is today; she tells me that my hair right now is her goal. She really taught me and my sister that we can do a lot with out hair without damaging it and I think the fact that she was very open with trying out these new hairstyles helped my sister and I love our hair for what it is!
Of course it also does help when your hair is 'long' by 'black hair standards' (I got a lot of comments from other black girls in my school who wished their hair was as long as mine -- again my hair was like neck length it weren't that long back then) but I honestly think it was because my hair's health was always out first compared to the actual 'look' of it.
*The TLDR is: I'm thankful that my mum wanted me to learn what she did much later in life -- that black hair is beautiful, and deserves to be taken care of! Even if you gotta endure a little pain to find out what really works for you! Learning to love your hair also can mean experimenting with it, but always out of appreciation and curiosity of what your hair can do, not what you can conceal about it!*
your mom is very cool for that! but my mom also used to yank my hair and that is a horrible energy to be doing hair in... at least in my scenario. if you have some extra time, try to patiently work with the knots and give it to her detangled. ALSO try Ethiopian hair butter.. you can make it at home. it will help your hair so much
I’m blessed to have a momma who was always gentle and taught me how to love my hair. I also was tired of my hair and wanted a perm, my momma said no like yours did. Thank The Lord our Mothers!
Same, turned out my hair was just dehydrated and hated oil 😭
This was a beautiful message, your mom taught you and your sister very well ❤ You don't see stories like this that often
I’m going to say something controversial… Not all black women have to like shrinkage, hair that will not grow no matter what you do, having a difficult time combing your hair, breaking combs, or having a painful time combing it and trying to style it… We as black women have different hair textures and experiences and not all bw go through what I listed but some do …..I don’t think you have to like something that’s difficult for you if you’re having a hard time with it… My hair is a mixture of type 3 and 4a and I hate combing my hair with a passion because it’s literally painful because I’m tender headed and I’ve had difficulty growing parts of it no matter what I did and I don’t like it and guess what I still don’t and I OK with saying that there’s nothing wrong with that …I don’t have to like it Or things such as shrinkage… I refuse to have to make black women feel they must like parts of their hair that they actually don’t like for their own personal reasons if they are in fact struggling with it
I don’t hate my texture is very nice in my opinion (most Black people tell me I have good hair and I know that that sounds ignorant to many but y’all know what that is… But that doesn’t mean I don’t have difficulties) but there have been some difficulty still at times and I don’t like it and that’s OK
And that does NOT mean that you hate yourself. I get so tired of people saying it's self hate because you don't totally enjoy your hair for whatever reasons. We're not totally defined by our hair.
If you’re breaking combs or having difficulty “growing “, it’s not a result of your hair type you just need to change your hair routine
Agreed
Yeah I agree it’s totally fine for other textures to complain and outright say that they hate their hair but we must not dare complain else it’s self hate. That’s not always true...we are women too and human and we get to not like it sometimes or at all if we choose!
@@delightfuldaisy3520 facts I agree ! I feel compelled to like it … seems like it’s so much pressure and judgement on us as black women.
Just off the title alone sis 👏🏾👏🏾. This is a conversation that needs to be had.
Always and we should never stop until we see some real change happening 💯