The Living years reaction-Mike and the Mechanics-Dedicated to my dad
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- Mike and the Mechanics living years reaction of the song that talks about regret.Basically it is the story of a man who did not make up with his father till he died and is left with regrets.The music video tells the story better.Mike Rutherford was a member of British rock group Genesis.
My dad passed in 1995. Dad told me on his deathbed that I was a good daughter, that I'd always been a good girl. I was 40 at the time. He asked me to look after my Mom 'until he could come home'. He never did. I hope he sees that I've spent all these years taking care of Mom, just like he asked. I miss him so much.
God bless you. I know exactly how much you love and miss your father. My Dad passed away 50 years ago and I still miss him. 😢❤
My dad passed in 1995 too, and I didn't get to see him because the hospital didn't think it was a good idea. I wish I had so many things I wanted to say to him. I hope he and Mom are together and dancing in heaven. RIP, Daddy, July 10th, 1951- July 8th, 1995 and Mom, January 16th, 1947- May 4th, 2021. I love and miss you both
I regularly talk to my Dad. We get on OK now. It's important. X
You are loved for doing so
I was rushed home from Afghanistan to be with my family and say goodbye to my dad. I got to my parents house and walked into my dad's bedroom. My mother made everyone leave so I could be alone with him. We talked and he told me he was very proud of me. After about 15 minutes I told mom to bring everyone back in. My dad passed away 10 minutes later. That 15 minutes was the best 15 minutes of my life.
God I miss that man.
God bless you man. Your dad heard your voice as he left to go back home. He is on the other side waiting for you in a world so beautiful that your own 'earth-bound' mind can't even imagine it... for now. That's what's coming your way my friend... an infinitely beautiful existence on higher levels where all existence is based on love.
My dad drowned when I was 5 and I was devastated even then. 67 years later I still think about him and wonder what we missed together. I cry every time I hear this haunting song.
You poor fellow. You were dealt a blow. The absence in your life must have made you feel cheated. You didn't have a dad to fall out with and finally realise he was right all the time. God love you John.
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God Bless you
God Bless you
Yes I know
Every SON should listen to this song before their father passes
The sad story of me and my late father, the day I picked up the phone, time had already run out and it was too late for us. I'm 60 years old and I can't listen to this song without breaking uncontrollably in tears. Song is from 1988.
This song makes me cry every time. Not exaggerating. Literally every time.
you're not alone
@@HarriBestReactions every time too for years, saw them at a festival cried like a little girl everyone was looking at me, I think they understood
Those final words
I wasn't there that morning
When my Father passed away
I didn't get to tell him
All the things I had to say
I think I caught his spirit
Later that same year
I'm sure I heard his echo
In my baby's new born tears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years
I love you Dad even though you wasn't there i miss you ...
Me 2
I am mopping up my face right now.
Can you believe this was actually played on the radio ..... songs like this made society better
Teenagers loved this song back then. Now look at what they peddling them now
My Dad passed suddenly, and without warning in 2002. The night before, I had gone to see him. The last thing that I ever did with him, was give him a hug and say, "I love you." Not a day goes by that I am not thankful that it was the last interaction between us. Since then, especially now that I am older(and terminally ill), I make sure that I say that to my loved ones every chance I get,, because I know what a comfort it has been to me for the past 20+ years. I suggest that everybody do the same
I LOST MY MOM AND DAD 3 WEEKS APART. AND 40 YEARS LATER I STILL CRY FOR THEM.😢😢😢
Lost my Dad Dec 2008, lost my Mum Jan 2009 2 weeks later 😢both in not particularly nice ways, miss them every day and I wish I had had longer with them both, trouble is you think your parents are going to be there forever and you feel very vulnerable when they have gone. Make sure you tell all your family how much they mean to you and never ever go to bed on an argument with anyone you are close to.😢
Real men show emotion so thank you for showing your humanity.
God bless you
Never be ashamed of shedding tears for those you have loved and lost.
If this song doesn't get to you, you aren't human. I cry every time I hear it.
Your honesty is the best reaction. Thank you, Harri.
I always post his song online every Father's Day. I ask all who hear it to learn to live by the words.
My father passed over29 years ago, we had a huge falling out and didn't speak to each other the last ten years of his life , I would give anything to change that.
I didn't speak to my father for 35 years but after my mom died I reached out we're good now.
I love the contrast of a child choir on one side and then an adult choir on the other ...
I'm 44 and I just lost my Dad on September 19, 2023. Even though he and I fixed things in our own way, it still hurts. But he's always with me, and I see him in my 3-year-old daughter's smile. Talk to your parents. PLEASE. Love you Dad. Forever. Until Valhalla.
Harry, my son was born in 1998. The first thing I saw in my baby was my Father's face. This song started up in my head and I did catch my Father's spirit at that moment. I still talk to my Father and tell my son about him all the time. May peace be with you.
Harry, my friend, I have great respect for your posting your honest reaction to this song. There is no reason to apologize for not being upbeat after hearing such a deeply emotional song. You probably have a few hundred viewers who wanted to give you a brotherly hug. You're also absolutely correct that this song translates to nearly every culture. I played this for my daughter a few years ago and before the last chorus, she burst into tears, held me tightly (cutting off circulation) and made me promise to never die. While I could promise it, I did decide to get healthy (lost 52 lbs). So, if there is even one person who heeds your message to sort out their differences before it's too late, then I am positive to the core of my soul that your father would be very proud of you. Cheers!
Wow! Thats such a touching story..Hugs and live to your daughter..she might have just saved your life..Kudos to the healthier you
Beautiful song. I lost my father earlier this year to Covid-19. Holds even more meaning to me now, especially the last verse as " I wasn't there that morning, when my father passed away". Heartbreaking 💔
But we left nothing unsaid.
So sorry to hear that Karen..May his soul RIP
@@HarriBestReactions Please accept my condolences on the loss of your father. I have loved this song since it's release, it's such a reminder not to let time pass to say the things we need to say as tomorrow is not promised. Your comment really touched me, it brought tears to my eyes. So happy that you left nothing unsaid, I hope it brings some comfort to you during this time. Both my parents died unexpectedly and I did not have the chance to say the things I would have wanted to say. We were never estranged and saw each other frequently but sometimes we just don't talk about the important stuff. Such regret! Take care and be well.
RIP
hug
My heart goes out to you.
That last verse is especially poignant to me, too. My Dad passed away when my son was just a few months old. I constantly think about the things that they both missed out on by not getting the chance to know each other.
Didnt talk to my pops for five years and it sucked. Really glad I came to my sense swallowed my pride and let him back into my life. Lifes too short to stay mad at the ones you love.
That 3rd verse always hits super hard
Beautiful song! My dad is battling cancer and he's scared. We don't have the best relationship, but I will try to do everything to be the best son I can...
Hello Brian, I'm 82 years young, and have just been diagnosed with a form Aggressive Cancer, I will do all I can to reconnect with All my grown up kids, love and respect from Perth Australia. 😎🖐🦘
I don’t know if your Dad is still with you 🙏…
If you spent the time trying to just be present with him the past doesn’t matter. You were there when it really mattered and that is a blessing 😇🙏
Great singer and band. The chorus added much power and emotion to the song.
I was 17 when my mom passed away.That was 28 years ago now.
I was 17 when my Dad passed away on 11th April, 1971. 50 years ago now and I still miss him.4My Mum passed on 25th May,1996 so 25 years ago.
May she rip, mothers....their special aren't they.
My brother and I had a terrible fight for years. I was lucky enough to make peace with him, before his heart stopped. NEVER wait!
...to missing our dads ❤
This song came out the same year I lost my dad. It's guaranteed to make me cry every time.
The song is a great one when it reaches our heart....
Yes, you can say it to him. Our loved ones who have passed away are aware of our lives now, and will understand more than we can imagine.
Every time, I always wonder if I showed my parents how very much I loved them. I was a complete little shit growing up. My parents never, ever gave up on me and were always there!
Harri, I think you are such a thoughtful, sincere, kind, open, honest, genuine, stand-up man and I just wanted to thank you for that. It doesn't have to be someone we love or even know, but i just wanted to say these things to you while we are in "The Living Years". Blessings and Peace upon you, Brother.
Lisa you are such a sweet soul..I was still smiling from your last comment,then i see this..Thanx Lisa💙
Such a lovely comment! If we all did this regularly the world would be a better place. Thank you for the reminder.
This song is pure poetry. I never really 'listened' to the lyrics of this song despite hearing it thousands of times on the radio. It was only after my pops died that it resonated with me. I always cry when I hear it now , it's almost as though its a different song - the meaning now is so clear
In 1972 I was15 and I lost my dad. Several years later I admitted to his brother that he reminded me of him.
I was terribly embarrassed at the time to have admitted this but very thankful that my uncle understood, and was careful in kindly pointing out that he could never be a replacement.
I never used to tell my dad I loved him as it always felt a little “un cool” when I was a kid. As an adult watching my dad get older as I do, I tell my dad every time we talk/meet that I love him.
Don’t have regrets. ❤️🙏❤️
First time I’ve seen your channel. A wonderful heartfelt reaction. I always have a hard time listening to this song without crying because of unresolved or unsaid things with several friends and family members who have passed away. I agree with you - talk before it’s too late. Thank you, Harri.
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my son & I saw Mike & the Mechanics in concert. i cried like a baby listening to it with my son sleeping with his head on my lap
Mike is /was the guitar player in Genesis
There is a way to talk to those who have passed away!! Myself, I have always have been stricken by the fact that those people lost are now able to read our minds!! Then, they know they were loved!! Conversations take place in our hearts on this kindred spirit level that settle and resolve completely!! I still think it is way more real to do this "In The Living Years"
I am currently estranged from my adult son, and it kills me. This song hits harder now than it did when I was 12 and it first came out.
The human condition, mistakes, regret and pain, but if we learn from our life experiences, we can move forward.. love your honest and intelligent reaction. All the best to you.
Thanx Alicia😀
My father had many regrets not telling his father what he wanted to say before he passed. This song became his favorite. He played this for me when I was a child and I never fully grasped the truth expressed in this song until I became much older. Now this song is one of my favorites. Thank you for your reaction and your experience.
Mike and his dad were distanced. In part because his carecer election as musician didn't like his father. This song was written little bit after Mike's dad passed the way. The lyrics revels how guilty he felted for not to have a better relationship with him. After all the message is forget and love your love ones. Enjoy them, ' cos at last,... We don't know how long we're gonna stay in this World. Salutes!
I’m a Son and a Father. My dad passed when I was 43, two years later I was hit with autoimmune diseases that have taken most of me. My son and I are close, but I’m sure he has things to say…I hope he does. My dad and I had a pretty great relationship, but this song really hits me as so much was still left unsaid. I just needed someone to cry with someone…thanks.
RIP Mom and Dad.
After hearing this a long time ago , i used it as a catalyst to make sure i saw as much of my dad as possible knowing one day he wouldn't be here and spend time with him, after 4 yrs without him im so glad i did, still hurts but hopefully did him proud.
My dad died when I was 20. Of course I didn’t get to tell him all the things I had to say. But my daughter, his first grandchild, was born one week before he died. He held her once as we were in the same hospital.
Thus “I’m sure I heard his echo in my baby’s newborn tears” hit me hard at the time.
I claimed the song as our own, back then in the 80s. 💔
Lost my dad to a massive coronary in 2000. Never got to tell him I lived him one more time and he never got to meet my baby girl or got to know my son. I think of him every time I hear this song.
Tears come easy listening to this song. If you need a good cry put this on, but have your phone close so you can make that phone call. You know who have to call.
I think that one thing great thing about this song is that it doesn't say who is "right" and "wrong". You have to accept that you're simply *not* going to see eye-to-eye with your {parents | children | friends} about everything. But you should keep those connections and friendships open, even though there are some things which you're just never going to agree on. You need to respect the things that do bond you together, or you're going to live many years regretting the walls you built up.
Perfectly said & something many seem to miss. Relationships with parents are not always easy, but yes, keep the connection, accept your differences. Talk if you can, but if not, just accept. Different generations, different perspectives.
LOVE THIS SONG AND THE LYRICS
Even though I had my dad until his ripe old age of 91 & told him how much I loved & respected him, I neglected to broach the subject of the way his words wounded me sometimes. I was too weak or afraid that if I did, his response would only wound me more. I was too concerned about his feelings & how my words would affect him & how I would feel if his words were unfeeling & harsh that I would be hurt more. Five years later I still wonder if opening a dialog about this would have given him an opportunity to apologize & an opportunity for healing.
This is a beautiful song. Very moving and powerful. Message is clear not to leave things unsaid. It may be too late otherwise. Don't have regret.
Great vocals, Great lyrics = Great Song!! ♠W.G.
This song always got me. More so now in my 50s, having lost both parents and my sisters, i can't get through the first verse. Amazing when music can take you on a journey. When it can reach in and grab your heart and soul. It's a beautiful thing.
Your dad is looking down from Heaven and is proud of you ♥️
The lead singer Paul Carrack does this song still to this day as a solo artist. Although he didn't wrote it but has a strong emotional connection since his own father died when he was only 11 in a industrial accident.
I feel you, Harri. I was 15 when my little brother was taken in a terrible accident. While we had never fought, I was both brother and dad to him, helping to raise him since he was born. I was at work when it happened and I felt the guilt of not being there for him when I should have for almost 40 years. It was only a few years ago that I found I could resolve my feelings by finally accepting there was nothing I could have done and no way to foresee what happened. But what I wouldn't give for just a few minutes to tell him one more time that I love him.
I have two sons now, both in their 20s. I distinctly recall how I felt when they were the same age as my little brother and how I became overprotective for that time until I realised what I was doing. Say it now.
every time. the loss of your dad you are brave and strong xx
They are singing every word I feel. I loved my father and mother so very very much. Did they know? I was, without doubt a trial and tribulation. Oh God I do hope so, if not I do not think I can ever forgive myself!
They knew. Parents always know deep down that we love them.
really brings it home doesn't it - beautiful but a hard, emotional listen.
Harri,
This song says it all. My dad and I had a fight the day before he passed, but we made up that night. "I love you" was the last thing we said to each other. The next time I saw him after that, was at the funeral home. He was only 34 and it was exactly one week prior to my 14th birthday. Years later, my two children's birthdates literally bookend the date of my dad's passing.
Dad's passing was 48 years ago. I still thank God for us settling our quarrel the evening before he passed.
Lost my stepdad of 42 years 2 years ago. I missed my time to thank him for taking me in as his own son as he passed unexpectedly. It was just as hard if not harder losing him as it was my biological dad.
Another song that kind of goes hand in hand with this one is 'Cat's In the Cradle' by Harry Chapin. Speaks to what you spoke of chasing something in your life and thinking you would spend time with your dad later. Thank you for sharing Harri. Appreciate your honest reactions and a big virtual hug and much love to you brother.
So eerie reading your comment. My dad died 50 years ago at age 36, two days after my 15th birthday. My wife and I shared the same birthday and our oldest son was born 3 days before it. In one 5 day period we have 3 birthdays and my fathers passing. I lost my wife 2 years ago to cancer. This song just gets more relevant and harder to listen to. Take care.
@steveturner3999 Thank you for sharing, Steve. I am so sorry for the recent loss of your wife. My prayers to you and your kids for peace and strength. As unbelievable as this may sound, my ex-wife(my 2 kids' mom) passed away unexpectedly 2-1/2 years ago. Her birthdate(day & month) was the same date as my dad's passing.
@@squired2802 Wow! Needless to say I will remember you.
@@steveturner3999 As I will you...
To late for me and my dad RIP Dad sorry for everything and I do and always did love you
I prefer your true and authentic self and besides its charming to see a man not deny their true feelings and emotions keep it up and don't change yourself for nobody! Be yourself it's very endearing to see
''I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away '' a line that resonates with us all .
I cry each and every time I hear this and I had a great relationship with my dad. beautiful beautiful song!
This song is precious for us all. I'm sending love and comfort to you and all who need it today.
I have cried many times when I hear this song. I lost my dad 2 years ago and I miss him so much.
Wow. Harri you moved me with this one. I’m so glad I was close to my dad until the end. He was always the rock I could lean on.
My mother and father were in a different country also and I have exactly the same regrets as you by not going to see them, only a few times over 20 years even though we talked by phone I realise that wasn't enough. I lived with guilt for years until a physic told me to let that guilt go and my father understood and from that day on I let it go and felt more peaceful.
This song is so true thank you Harri.
My father suffered from MS for 20 years before passing at 49 years of age. He been gone for 20 years and not a day goes by that this 53 year old doesn't think of and miss my father. I never got to recall know him as an adult, nor did the fact that the illness put him in a wheelchair allow us to do much of anything together. We were both into sports and hunting, fishing, but the wheelchair never allowed that. Allow water to go under the bridge and bury any issues while you still have the chance.
Please talk to your Father. I promise he will hear you and eventually you'll receive signs from him. I lost mine in 1993. I knew about this song for years before he died, I did make sure we talked everything out before he passed of course I still miss him. At 58 I understand him far more than I did at 28 when he died.
I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Father. I can only imagine that He looks down on you and is very, very proud of you. This is one of the Top Father’s Day tracks out there.
There is no death people. You can still have a relationship with loved ones who are non physical. It's different of course, but absolutely possible. This Multiverse is beautiful and amazing..........we are ALL connected.
There is death. But when you think you’re communicating with the dead it’s actually demons and will lead you to Hell. Those are demonic spirits masquerading as people you know. But if you really want to communicate with your loved ones post death - give your life to Jesus Christ so you’ll meet them in Heaven if they surrendered their life to the Lord before passing. Just remember, there are no friends in Hell. Choose the Lord Jesus Christ.
@@tennesseeminnissi2445 no no no
Amazing song! One of my all-time favorites. The lyrics are just the best. It was up for a Grammy for Best song of the year. It lost to "Wind beneath my Wings." But I felt "In the living Years" should have won.
Even though this song is about the relationship between a father and son, it should also apply to other relationships, be it family members or friends.
I agree. But there is definitely something about that particular relationship between father and son. We’re both men. We’re both told and kind of trained by society not to address or show our emotions. Real men don’t cry and all that shit. Young men often search for their own way and to find a fight/cause to get behind. Our fathers, with so much more experience and wisdom, have to watch us go find so many of these answers on our own, when they know too well that they actually have many of them. The angst we feel towards them - growing up under their rules and views - and the rebellion it brings…. maybe it’s mirrored in their stubbornness to let us go and get hurt and fail until we hopefully get it right. Sometimes those opposing forces snap the bond. Ties are lost. Like he says in the song, only the bitterness lasts. But sometimes (god, I really hope most of the time), we come back from the wilderness to our fathers. And we look at them with a completely new found respect, a much deeper love. And they look back at us with pride - not only a child now, but a comrade. I’m not sure there is any other relationship out there between people that hinges so much on faith that time will do what it does, and that the bond will eventually be stronger. So much can be at risk in the years apart. So many fears. So much to say. And yes, it can all be lost in that time. But if, again like he says in the song, you don’t give up and you don’t give in to those bitter feelings, you can come out the other side with something to treasure. You just have to let them know.
Pretty much describes my relationship with my sister, my only sibling.
I feel your pain. I lost my father 22 years ago. Thanks for sharing. Much love and respect from Baltimore as always.
Lost both my Parents 2 weeks apart Dec 2008 and Jan 2009😢.Miss them all the time would just like to talk to them. Never ever go to bed on an argument with anyone you are close to and make sure you tell your family you love them😢
Beautifully spoken analogy from your reaction Harry. Life is to short. Tomorrow is not promised no one! You hit the nail on the head brother! Thanks for your heartfelt❤advice to those people who refuse to speak to one another for whatever reason. Your reaction made me tear up, I could feel your emotions man. I believe your father is always with you and your children, as is mine with my children. God bless you and your family! 🙏✌
Sitting at my favorite pub. Trying to not tear up. Dad died 11 yrs ago.. trying to hold back tears.
I had a great relationship with my dad, but this song destroys me, every single time x
Thankful for your vulnerability. This song goes straight to the heart of what we universally may be struggling with. Life is too short indeed. It takes both to want to reconnect, and that's not always an achievable thing.
I brought my mum to the hospital for a procedure. My dad and I were going out to buy fireworks for New Year’s Eve. I got home and he had had a aneurysm and he was gone. Still miss him to this day!
I absolutely love songs that someone wrote from the heart that other people can relate to!!! Love this! I remember hearing this back in the day but never took it the way I do now!!!
Hits home every time...
Very deep song that I've had the privilege to see Live.
God Bless You..
YOu can say anything to him.. Her hears you daily and you can talk to him whenever you want. Looks for the signs of him hearing you. God Bless Brother ( I do this with my folks)
One of the most emotive and meaningful songs ever. I've watched and listened to a number of reactions about it. Thanks for yours.
My grandfather passed away in 1988 just after this song was released, actually, the first time I heard this was just a few days after he passed..... my mom and grandmother couldn't stop crying every time this song played.
This song haunts me because I lost my father when I was 32 (1998). I tear up every time I hear it. RIP Dad, I Love you!! Funny or ironic, we both had generally the same point of views. My youngest was born 8 months after he passed away, so the verse "I think I caught his spirit
Later that same year, I'm sure I heard his echo In my baby's new born tears" destroys me to no end. I can't get back that time lost, but I hope to do better with my daughters.
I listened to this song with my dad. I’m so grateful, for the song, the time, the conversation, and his homemade muscadine wine.
Went through a hell & back five year gauntlet of half mad gatekeeping & abusive relations just to get in contact with my biodad finally in 2004. Spent a halting, awkward next few years trying to build some relationship between us as adults, only to have him pass on in 2008. Being his sole surviving inheritor having left no will meant inheriting a surreal stranger's few belongings not lost along the way by a lifetime of being a touring musician. This song kicks me so hard in the feels I think I could have mike arrested on assault charges. Its power never diminishes to me, personally. There is a profound, deeply layered wisdom expressed in every line. Heck, the reason I found you was of my need to occasionally replay this song on the anniversery of his passing. This is as potent wisdom as can be told between humans, and as close to a expressing the shape of a wound to those of us who didn't or couldnt make make use of those living years.
Powerful experience you shared here mate
@@HarriBestReactions It comes from an honest place, with a number of years to dwell & reflect on my unquiet ghosts. I don't mean in a literal sense, of course. Just haunted by memories & regrets for things I might have done differently. Life is too short, too precious. In our constant distraction by trivial things we all too easily let all what's really important slip away from us until it's too late.
Music has become very important to me, I wish i'd spent more time learning to perform it when I was surrounded by all those remarkable musicians every day as a child growing up on the road.
If you don't mind some suggestions, when I indulge that special place of melancholy as a purgative coping mechanism this song is part of a very selective playlist. Perhaps you may draw some value from it as I have.
James Taylor's "fire & rain"
Dan Fogelberg "leader of the band"
Dixie Chicks "landslide"
Israel Kamakawiwo'le "somewhere over the rainbow"
Patty Loveless "you'll never leave harlan alive"
Eric Clapton "tears in heaven"/"fathers eyes"
Metisse "Boom Boom Ba"
Peter Gabriel's album(!) "Up".
Blue Oyster Cult "Dont fear the reaper".
(No idea what all you've listened to or not, so just putting this all out there, for you or whomever else may need music to carry you through some dark spots)
Thanks for responding back! Cheers, mate!
Makes me cry too... hits a tender spot....😥
Strength & Love From Australia🧡I Know Your Pain👊They Knew We Loved Them🧡
What a beautiful reaction man, really got me thinking. It's my birthday today you filmed this a year ago. You wouldn't have known a year ago this is what I needed today. Thank you.
20 years ago this summer I found my dad dead in his favorite chair. I still miss him.
I've cried every single time I've heard this song since it first came out and I still do.
You have NOTHING to be sorry for. Be proud of the love of your father
Such a beautiful, profound song. From Mike Rutherford and his mechanics. My father passed away and I never got to say I love you..."In the Living Years".
Harry my brother it is very much a pleasure to watch you give your heart felt reactions. We all have feelings and regrets. I lost both parents by the age of 27. All the life advice I needed and missed. I would give anything to hold them one more time. God bless you sir and keep your videos coming.
I loved this honest reaction.