Enjoy this throwback Thursday video! Just in case you’re new or you missed it. It’s a few years old but the information is still worth it’s weight in gold.
Do not invite strangers to your home on the first date. And don't accept invites to a stranger's house for the first date. Folks are too crazy out here.
I told my cousin this advice because she always has men come to her house or go over there's who she doesn't know from dating apps and she went off on me. One of the guys was actually crazy cuz he picked her up and they went to his city and she spent the night and got drunk and woke up to him trying to have sex with her while she was out. As much as I hate going out or being in public around a lot of people, I try to anyway to stick to my standards.
This video is on point. Especially downplaying your beauty. In my younger days I was with this guy for about 3 years and everytime we got into an argument he would say, "Dont nobody want you, who would want you." Or don't nobody want your skinny ass with that scar on your face." Then when we finally broke up. I ran into him a few years later. And he said this to me. "Damn girl you are still fine as hell." You look good. That is when I actually realized he was intentionally trying to screw up my self esteem. From that point on If a guy said anything negative about me even as a joke I would cut him off quick. Because sometimes it starts as a joke.
I will also add: Talking about an ex, or about any other woman. It is usually made with the intention to create a kind of insecurity that you are not attractive enough for a guy. I remember once, when I was dating someone, he told me that one of his female friends, was the most attractive woman in our martial arts class. I had joined this group 1 month ago at that time and the other girl and the dude had known each other for a couple of years. I told him, that if that was the case, he should bring her to a date and not me. Later I understood that they were in some kind of friends with benefits arrangement, so it was a nice choice of mine to never start something with him or give him more of my time.
Sad if you were attracted to him but the most sensible option because if he thinks "friends with benefits" is a good idea/acceptable it's a relationship going nowhere; whatever age he may be he's too young/not mature enough.🌹
@@gilliankingston8259 Yes, I think it was the best option to let him go. He was 30 at that time, I was 23. Maybe he thought that I was easily manipulated because I was much younger 😅.In addition I was very attracted towards him,I even thought I was in love with him. It was heartbreaking to let him go, but still, I am convinced it was the best for both of us.
@@rosemarie5489 You're right, older men will very often make a bee-line for younger women because they assume they will be easier to manipulate because of their age - that doesn't say anything good about men who would be prepared to act like this.🌹
Kev is exactly right at the end. These guys aren’t looking to work hard to get you to lay on your back. These types of guys are looking for you to make up for all the distance they put in between you and them in order to validate their egos. Think about that next time you run into a low effort man, and how just how much he must value you as a person; which is very little. If he DID value you, he’d at least be honest and let you make a choice by telling you what he wants. If you feel pressure, you’re likely being played for a fool.
Yep agree. I think feeling pressurised is a key indicator that your boundaries are not being honoured…that then gives opportunity for one to speak up the next step is to see how much attention and care or lack thereof they pay…
A woman who is secure in herself and has honor and respect for herself is the best remedy for predatory men. When she is grounded in the truth and has healthy boundaries players don’t stand a chance. Thanks to Kev for educating, helping and encouraging woman.
Those traits are like bait to men tho I swear. Some guys they see your truths and boundaries and it's almost like a challenge to them to try and remove them/ break you down! Lol. Scary stuff! 😨
I learned that having boundaries is really protecting ourselves, and if someone doesn’t respect them then they have ill attention be cautious!! ⚠️ I rather be single, and wait to be in a relationship then to be stuck and taken advantage of by a man that doesn’t even love me. 😢
1. Limited phone talks . 2. Refuse to be emotionally connected or be vulnerable , doesn't listen to your problems , detached emotionally. 3. Run over your boundaries but stick tight to theirs . 4. Don't respond to calls or texts fast enough . This makes you accept his challenge. 5. Refuse to wine and dine you to prep you for minimal effort . 6. Focused sexually. 7. They down play how attracted to you they are even when they are attracted to u ,to keep you wondering if you'll ever be enough . 8. Light put downs 9. Act hot and cold on purpose . Hot sexually , cold emotionally. 10. Leave as soon as they have sex with you .
This honestly makes me want to cry…why do people play all these games it’s so exhausting…life is too short. Don’t let a bad behaviour of one or 2 stop you from believing in love. It’s really tough out there. I think online dating is the devils playground.
Yes, it's exhausting because if I have to play games to counter someone else's game play I'm no better than them. The good news is that if there are game players there are real ones who are authentic. Just be authentic and you will likely attract the same in due time.
Man this really hit home and made me sad. My ex was like this and I dumped him once I realised it. Never compliments, emotionally detached, never responding to text messages on time, never supporting me emotionally, no effort to connect or get to know me, downplaying his attraction to me. Slightly putting me down, little digs here and there. He clearly was trying to eat away at my confidence and it worked for a short period of time until I remembered who the fuck I was. I dumped him and blocked his ass and never looked back. He got sex once but after that I was out! Better late than never as far as I'm concerned.
This is for people who aren't there, many women have been abused from childhood and grew up in foster care and are learning to love and value themselves.
Most women in my experience say they won't settle but what they really mean is the man needs to be the woman and not them. Wanting a man to be effeminate is not the answer. Romance is bullshit. Truth, trust, and a strong, kind, take charge man who works and let's a woman be soft, feminine (not feminist), and a nurturer. I cannot understand why a woman dies not want to be kept by the RIGHT man.
My ex has all the 10 signs you talked about. I laughed at all of them. Even I was disgusted with myself cuz I held on to him for 4 years. Thank God I found myself. I'm good now. Thanks to you.😌
Sad days we live in nobody knows how to date anymore or take people out on dates feel like some people just got so lazy that they only just invite you to their house and that’s it. You gotta watch out for many red flags and it’s like who has time for this anymore
I think it's more so that so many women haven't required for them to do anything for the cat and even the ones with standards lower depending on the attraction or desperation. They will tell the guy they don't have sex on the first date but with the same guy they end up having sex with him on the first date. Sometimes they'll lose respect for you not because you gave it up so easily but the fact that you broke your boundaries for them. They low key want you to stick to your guns. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no. Also it's like working at a hard job that pays extremely well. If your job allows you to just sit around and do nothing and still get paid the same amount as before for a while. When it's time to work hard again for the same money it can become problem because you're use to getting it without jumping through hoops. And the reason why you have to watch for red flags is because we all in general will look for the most easiest route to accomplishing a goal that will benefit us in the long run. Men are great at reading us and shape shifting to what they know we want. But shape shifters always show some sign or another that they aren't really what they look and seem like. So you don't get trick by the bait you have to pay attention. Everyone is trying to get over on someone or something for a better quality of life.
"He may look like a foot" 🤣🤣🤣 Ladies if you don't love and respect yourself a guy will not love or respect you. Work on loving and validating yourself before seeking a relationship Don't take bull. Know your boundaries, know your value as a human being. When you love, respect and value yourself you become selective about only allowing a quality people into your life. You should NEVER beg for anyone's time or attention. If you do, that's how much they value you, not at all. People will treat you how YOU allow them to treat you. Guys will tell you what they want and what they're about from the first conversation. Women LISTEN! Don't try to reinterpret what he said. If he's vague, he doesn't want to be with you seriously. If he doesn't talk about being serious and wanting stability he is not looking for that. Next watch his actions, If he says one thing but does the opposite , it's time for you to go home, alone. Don't be thirsty, it's better to be alone and at peace. If you can't be at peace when you're alone, you have a lot of internal work to do on yourself.
I agree with you 120% But there ARE cases, like mine, where it wasn't just toxicity or player vibes, but narcissism. That love bombing is SO for real. I met him at 37. Had confidence, self-esteem, independent, a traveler, great job, no kids....3 dogs, hell i even had a little pep in my step lol. I admit and accept my part. But when a persons ENTIRE plan is to lie, gaslight, steal, cheat, crush and just, try to leave you as empty and broken and suicidal as possible, and we arent familiar with that, at all....we never see it coming. I know NOW. But my God did it cost me.
Forf :) They dont respond to calls or texts promptly or even at all. It makes you work harder ..makes you more willing to cross your own boundaries to get his attention...they take full advantage
Kev. You make me feel powerful. It's like when a group of people are plotting on ruining you while they're around you. Problem is that they speak a language you don't understand. Kev you are the translator that saves our lives.👏
At this point in my life, theres a few things I know to be true. People make time for what they truly want. They value what they view as special and valuable. They sacrifice and make sure you know your place in their lives is only a place you can hold. Alot of this video is 💯 I'm jus saddened it took a few decades flattened tires and busted heads to get here!
My father was super manipulative to my mom. So was my brother. I adviced him at a young age to be a lawyer cause he'd be able to free anyone with his persuasiveness. My body is physically repulsed by manipulation and it causes me lots of anxiety, fear and anger. Manipulation is literally traumatic to me because of my childhood. I'm learning how to not be afraid of it, know my power and to not use it myself because i am capable of doing it better than any man i know. In the end i think I'm most afraid of myself being manipulative in a relationship rather than my partner. Anyway glad you're exposing these men, Kev
Ugh. Same. It's so disturbing when you see ppl do it with a straight face and look at you like you're crazy. Like, that's a level of crazy mastery I hope I never reach. You can continue being manipulative but I'm pretty sure I'm gonna stick the same 'no' I said a minute ago. Say your little gaslighting speech and move on sir
Pfft smh I'm so easily manipulated it makes me sick. Kev, thank you so much for helping me prevent & protect myself from further manipulation. You're protecting our vulnerable, endearing, beautiful,& loving feminine energies and I am forever grateful for your advice in these videos!!!🙏
Sadly have experienced all of these and several in multiple men. Took a while to clock the behavior and demand higher expectations. I was easily manipulated because of unhealed childhood trauma. In fact if ever approached now with this BS it's a hard pass because I am numb from all of the previous jokers. It's substance, respect, quality or nothing at all. I wish I could tag these beasts so all women would know from the gate, this not the one, move accordingly girlfriend. Thank you for sharing!! 🙏🏽❤
Omg Yesss they prey on women who are empathy and who have unsealed trauma cause they know that they can manipulate and act one one way and then totally change and become fake and do less for you smh these kind of people are so evil
Lord! I experienced every single bit of this 2 years ago. Been trying to heal/grow from it ever since. God bless you for all you do. Silent supporter but I had to say that. You are SPOT on! Thank you.
Good job. To put it simply, if the man doesnt worship the ground you walk on, find one who does. You want a man who ruins your lipstick, not your mascara.
@@User-uw7uw It doesn't matter if she is Black. Are you okay? Aren't you aware of the fact that some Black people put down, underestimate and disrespect each other because they do not value their worth? Why would she think that a consistently articulate man such as he, would use a word that simply does not exist?
I must commend you on this and all of your other videos. Being married over 30 years, I can concur on every piece of advice you give. I have shared this channel with my daughter and nieces, somehow a male perspective goes over better than what “Mama and Auntie” tries to tell them💜
Smart mother and wife. I plan on doing the same. As well as continuing to relay our family principles, in a loving and encouraging way, which starts with me and my wife's testimony of courtship.
Listen I didn’t realize all of this until today. I grew up shelter and met my fiancé and he is all 10 in this list. He lied, cheated, etc, etc. everything. I have never been this heart broken in my life. This guy hit everything so far and I feel like crying my eyes out
My love, if this is so, carefully and safely remove yourself from the relationship. All narcissists behave this way. It’s all about control. I was told what you see is magnified 10x when married. I had the same experience, nearly got engaged, but cut the relationship fast. His fiery, demonic reaction of breaking it off solidified that I dodged a bullet and lifetime of regrets. Please, please, please. Don’t go forward with the engagement. He won’t change. And even if he begs you back, don’t be fooled again. Like children, women like stability and safety. If he can’t provide that emotionally, physically and financially, LEAVE.
@@shirleysaint-remy7115 We broke, I moved out. Making more money. Met someone else who has a career going for himself. We both are working together to merge our lifestyles and build a family. Life has been good, you live and you learn. The ex has been calling and calling 😂😂😂 apologizing, telling me how changed he has been. Mind you he’s blocked but u get voice messages.
Wow this is confirmation. I had a guy I just had one convo with say I wanna meet in person no real convo on the phone, says he dont make plans, and was disrespectful with cursing at me. Like I dont know you sir!
So many times you are dead on. This is one of them. I’ve definitely seen most or all of this list, and left. Due to channels like yours, I’m much more educated in these things.
It’s not just about knowing your value or worth. It’s about ending generational curses. You can’t do better if you don’t know better. These actions might be normal if that’s all a person knows, so it’s not that a woman doesn’t know her “value” or “worth”.
Sometimes it is just because they perceive you as being more vulnerable than you actually are. You know nothing about someones self esteem unless you know them. Unfortunately they can be very persistent so you have to be " stubborn" when establishing boundaries.
I must admit I appreciate hearing these points even though sometimes its damn obvious to see, but when you are an emotional species as a woman all you hoping for is just a stable and loving relationship, men knows what we want as a woman and they play on our vulnerability.!!!
This guy pursued me for 4 months. I ignored him. Spoke only when he spoke to me. He asked for my number. I said no. He asked everyday he saw me for weeks. I became flattered. So I finally gave it to him for being consistent. He’s never called, just text. He’s displayed 4 of the red flags in this video. He won’t ask me out because he said he’s waiting on me. I told him, “I guess you’ll be waiting”. We haven’t talked since. I’m wondering now if this is the 5th red flag he’s displaying which is the pull away method? Thank you Kev, cause I was gonna say something. But, now I’m just gonna let this one go. He’s cut off.
This video is speaking nothing but facts! I wasted most of my 20's attracting these types of men. If I had watched this video while I was in those situations I wouldn't have received this well. I would have made excuses and stayed in denial while collecting the small breadcrumbs I was receiving. The old me would have said "well hes showing 9 out of 10 of these signs so he must be different" oor "my man is just busy" ooor my favourite "maybe if I stick around he'll change with time" lol. I can laugh about it now but I cried many tears over these men. Ladies, make sure your self esteem is up and you are confident in yourself and truly happy with yourself. If you truly know and love yourself, these types of men will have no chance because you will know that you are worth way more than this type of treatment.
I've never seen your videos, but clicked and watched this today. Glad I did. You are so articulate, how you bring light on why men with bad intentions do what they do and how it relates to you. Breaking it down giving the reason as to why they do things like lightly insulting you to create insecurity therefor creating the need in women to "make up" for what the man has made them believe is a lacking in themselves. I've never heard it broken down that way, very helpful. Coming from a woman, keep doing what your doing.
I've been listening to your advice for a while and I'm so thankful for it. It took awhile for me to catch on but I finally dodging bullets and leaving manipulative man where's where they at! I require more and I will remain celibate until I find the right one‼️ thanks Kevin, you like the big brother I never had
I've been abandoned and rejected by my family, friends and husband all my life... Spent most of my childhood alone. I'm an INFJ too... So anyone threatening abandonment, please leave! Doesn't bother me at all! I LOVE my PEACE and freedom from Narcissist abuse and NEVER accepting bullshit or abuse from anyone again! I will be alone forever before I accept or settle for bullshit! I laugh when people play games and threaten to leave. I have some amazing friends I treasure and my kids. I have a friend who has had the life from Hell and guys try to talk to her about nonsense and she tells them to leave and says "Don't stop and keep on going!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@mayaj2354you are right I needed the bible after watching that. I saw the Zac stacy video recently and I was at a loss for words!! He almost killed that girl and throwing her around infront his baby like that againstthe TV and the baby'sbouncy toy. The ex girlfriend said the police didn't believe her so she risked her life getting him on video. We need to be careful out there and the first sign of problems we need to leave. the first time he put his hand on her she should have ended things.
Yes indeed, what’s the big rush take your time ladies and gentlemen find out what they’re hiding 🙈 if he’s a good person you will definitely find out in time .
Kevin, thank you immensely for protecting women from players by describing their game playing tactics, so they can easily be identified by women and avoided. Your wife must be very proud of you for protecting women from players. God must also be very grateful to you for protecting his daughters. I am certain that God blesses you for all your work. I am very grateful to you and appreciate your help as always. May God bless you Kevin.
Thanks for the advice. I'll admit I was a little triggered when he said "I'm disgusted it actually works". But after some thought I realized why. It's not that women are dumb or gullible. It's because we have been conditioned to aspire to having love and relationships. We even desire them more than men. Just as men have been conditioned to aspire to having money and wealth and they generally desire it even more than women. Both men and women seek validation from these things respectively and are often desperate to have them. Just the way many women fall victim to players is the same way many men fall victim to get-rich-quick-schemes. There are many cases of it in my country. I think the first step to being immune to playboy tricks is to first knock down love from that pedestal in your mind. I'm not saying you should abandon love. I'm saying you shouldn't make it a priority. There is so much more to life than to be actively seeking love or worse begging for it. Focus on other parts of your life, physically, emotionally, financially. Be well rounded. And this might sound cheesy but love will find you at the right time. I know it's easier said than done cos even in the media and movies there are many stories of women actively seeking love and finding it and having cute endings. All that gets embedded in our subconscious and make us want it more and even become desperate for it. I would advice weaning yourself from that kind of content till you get your priorities straight. Cos think about it. You can't be scammed for something you're not crazy about.
Thank you for this invaluable advice, Kevin!! After 28 years of marriage and divorce, a woman is out of touch with how single men think.... and what they'll do to get their way🙏💖🌈He actually did "open up" emotionally to trap me, said I'm the only one he's felt connected to....
One guy tried to make fun of my height. I’m very short. Like I’m ashamed of being short. I’m not. That was his hang up not mine! Or was it for manipulation? I thought so.
The guy I was talking to just up and disappeared. It's been about a week and a half.. we haven't done anything. Unfortunately for him, I know it's a power play. Such a turn off.
He probably got bored. If a guy is actually interested then he won’t just ghost you. Worse for him if he actually took you on a date. Good for him to cut off the free attention. Sometimes the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
I had one try that. When he called to go out I already had a date and told him that. He said the next day, i said i have a date then to and that I'll call him if i ever have time. If I'm ever bored enuf, I still wont reach out...hehe
Wow. U are the best. I had a dude do all these to me before 1 dude at that. Worst situations hip I’d ever got myself in, was a complete mess. I left months ago. Still healing myself. I’ll never forget his mon came over she 68-70 years and she’s still looking good. We had relations earlier that day, and when he walks in he’s like mom you fly. I’m like yea you look nice. He told her mom your hair sharp, your outfit nice and look at your purse and u got your shoes matching. And look at your nails blah blah blah blah blah and I mean he went on and on. In all he had said about 20/30 things to compliment her while never saying 1 thing about me. I don’t compete with no man mom and I’m glad he praise her but you can say all that to her u can acknowledge me too even if u had said girl u look good too, he said nothing I felt terrible inside. That was really a trying time for me. I know any real decent man would’ve included me at the least if they were truly interested in me.
Recently had one who's obsessed with "bringing" me lunch (I work from home). Tried to redirect to meeting at a restaurant for this lunch but he was ducking and diving. I stopped responding to his messages.
This was so good. And thanks for addressing the man bashing lol. Bashing doesn't help. There are plenty of things women do that men don't like as well.
I wish I heard this messages years ago 🤦🏾♀️ but I’m glad I’m in a receptive mind set these days, and this message is a gem within this healing journey I’m on 🙏🏾
The guy I recently broke up with did pretty much all of these. He did put a fun twist on one of them though. Every time I would speak up for myself or give him shit/disagree with him he would say something like; you know you look really unattractive when you give me attitude like that. Or something along those lines. It was always something to invalidate me in some way, either telling me I’m unattractive when I say xyz or I sound stupid. This man actually consistently said to me: Ooooh did you read that in a book (in the most condescending tone possible)? He had me thinking I was the idiot for repeating something I read in a textbook are article or something. Like, what? Thank god he decided to ghost me which forced me to tell him we were done. No sir, you are not keeping me on the line. No one is keeping me waiting 5 days for a response. Did me a dang favor.
I needed this list months ago! Been there done that, NEVER AGAIN‼️ This shit messed me up mentally, but it taught me a very valuable lesson. Now that I know all the tricks due to experience, NOTHING gets passed me! I been celibate since and take no shit at all from these men aka little ass boys! Ladies beware! The man that did this to me is a firefighter and I think all these firefighters are doing it! Pay attention to these things! Almost every girlfriend I know who dealt with a firefighter went thru these things and the one I dealt with was in a group chat with all his firefighter buddies. They are training them to do shit like this to multiple women they meet on serious dating sites etc. Be careful please! 🙏🏾
This is so freaking deep!!! If I had listened to this a year ago I wouldn't have just gotten completely played and heart broken. It won't happen again that's for sure
I dated a woman like this. In the first well 2 days after committing I told her “I don’t miss. And if I do miss, I still graze.” I knew I had made a mistake. I gave it until she did all ten of these lol. In 2 months it was over and she still thinks there’s hope because I let gracefully and peaceful because that’s the best way to deal with a covert narcissist without violence. Love the content Kev. 💯
yup so before my bf dated me he dated this girl that according to him is really crazy. anger issues crazy. she'd get really upset at things like if he asked her if she was okay about something twice, or if she wanted something and he didn't do it she would threaten to commit suicide. anyways he was planning on making it work but after the first crazy month of dating he decided to date me (mind u they were both dating multiple people at the same time) she was fine with it until she notices that he was really giving her the peace sign lol she's still trying to get with him (this girl is very desperate as well, and calls him like 10 times within minutes hoping to use one of her tactics on him). why do mean girls always try to come back desperately when they realize the nice guy has moved on?! now she gonna say, what do I have that she doesn't have smh
THANK YOU VERY MUCH, YOUNG MAN!!! As a mature woman, I am so proud of you for educating our daughters and granddaughters. I hope they take this knowledge to heart.
Thank you! 👌🏽 Ladies it's a jungle out there! Plus a whole lotta men walking around with feminine energy! Not a good combo! Lol there's something in the water! 😓😴😴 Thanks Kevin! 😊👌🏼👌🏼
And its really crazy how women Still fall for these crap too. Here i am thinking that most women know all about these games and stuff that these players do...and its old now. So me being genuine, that they will be more attracted to a guy like me nowadays...but no, they still attracted to those players and stuff.. SMH! They Really STILL Fall for this crap. SMDH! 🤦♂️
Only sleep with your husband. Also, watch any episode of Divorce Court with Judge Toler daily. The messy lives of the couples and the insightful advice of Judge Toler can aid in you making wiser decisions regarding current or future relationships. Most importantly, find out who you are without being in a relationship, establish moral boundaries, set and accomplish personal goals, don’t compromise or lower your standards, and surround yourself with people who have your best interest in their heart. Edit: Remind yourself often that you cannot change anyone and make them into someone you desire.
If a guy has a history of being a manipulator towards other women before meeting you don't believe it for a second that because they are showing favoritism towards you that their negative behavior towards women in general is not ever going to come back to haunt the 2 of you some day after he got whatever it is he wants from you like arm candy, better connections in life and then assets and heirs. The only difference concerning you with him while being according to him special is that he is just some day going to be a lot more sneaky about his search for more narcissistic supply to secure for himself while never being satisfied while he is being afraid of losing personal gain which will only be adding to his excitement while he is cheating on you when at the same time he is enjoying the veneer of respectability he has made by using you right from the start.
This makes all the sense in the world 😊Kev, when I hit the lottery, you and your wife can retire!😂 I cant thank you enough for this life saving invaluable information!🙏🏿 God bless!👊🏿
All of this!!!!!! Great content I Knew most of this. I’ve definitely come across my fair share of these types of men. Thankfully I didn’t feel the need to lay down with them to feel validated. Don’t let people that add no value to your life waste your time.
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Enjoy this throwback Thursday video! Just in case you’re new or you missed it. It’s a few years old but the information is still worth it’s weight in gold.
Thanks, Kev!
Thank you.
I miss the intro music!
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Yes it is Sir!! 🥇🥇🥇
Don’t deal with men who give you anxiety a man should make you feel comfortable and safe❤️
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Needed that 👍🏽🙏🏽❤❤
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Umm Zahra Very,VERY sound advice!!
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Do not invite strangers to your home on the first date. And don't accept invites to a stranger's house for the first date. Folks are too crazy out here.
Amen!
I told my cousin this advice because she always has men come to her house or go over there's who she doesn't know from dating apps and she went off on me. One of the guys was actually crazy cuz he picked her up and they went to his city and she spent the night and got drunk and woke up to him trying to have sex with her while she was out.
As much as I hate going out or being in public around a lot of people, I try to anyway to stick to my standards.
Yes! Very True!
Shes very foolish. I hope she doesn't have to learn the hard way. Predators are everywhere. The devil is real.
When you know you have value , these red flags are instantly recognized! And a quick block .
±2348101867472⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.....
Yes ma'am! Peep game and move tf on.
Exactly right Gf!!
I’m the block queen 👑 😂
Yes! Be blocked and be blessed!
This video is on point. Especially downplaying your beauty. In my younger days I was with this guy for about 3 years and everytime we got into an argument he would say, "Dont nobody want you, who would want you." Or don't nobody want your skinny ass with that scar on your face." Then when we finally broke up. I ran into him a few years later. And he said this to me. "Damn girl you are still fine as hell." You look good. That is when I actually realized he was intentionally trying to screw up my self esteem. From that point on If a guy said anything negative about me even as a joke I would cut him off quick. Because sometimes it starts as a joke.
Sometimes that's a prelude to physical abuse. Glad you dodged that bullet.
Good for you! That happened to me as well. After second date I dumped his shitty old ass.
"You can't do any better, and you also bore me in bed. I'm getting really tired of making the most of it."
If i hear those insults, i walk out and never to talk to me again. Ever.
Those are boundaries
I will also add: Talking about an ex, or about any other woman. It is usually made with the intention to create a kind of insecurity that you are not attractive enough for a guy. I remember once, when I was dating someone, he told me that one of his female friends, was the most attractive woman in our martial arts class. I had joined this group 1 month ago at that time and the other girl and the dude had known each other for a couple of years. I told him, that if that was the case, he should bring her to a date and not me. Later I understood that they were in some kind of friends with benefits arrangement, so it was a nice choice of mine to never start something with him or give him more of my time.
You're correct.
You are so very right 👏🏽👏🏽
Sad if you were attracted to him but the most sensible option because if he thinks "friends with benefits" is a good idea/acceptable it's a relationship going nowhere; whatever age he may be he's too young/not mature enough.🌹
@@gilliankingston8259 Yes, I think it was the best option to let him go. He was 30 at that time, I was 23. Maybe he thought that I was easily manipulated because I was much younger 😅.In addition I was very attracted towards him,I even thought I was in love with him. It was heartbreaking to let him go, but still, I am convinced it was the best for both of us.
@@rosemarie5489 You're right, older men will very often make a bee-line for younger women because they assume they will be easier to manipulate because of their age - that doesn't say anything good about men who would be prepared to act like this.🌹
Kev is exactly right at the end. These guys aren’t looking to work hard to get you to lay on your back. These types of guys are looking for you to make up for all the distance they put in between you and them in order to validate their egos. Think about that next time you run into a low effort man, and how just how much he must value you as a person; which is very little. If he DID value you, he’d at least be honest and let you make a choice by telling you what he wants. If you feel pressure, you’re likely being played for a fool.
@Jacob Yes..
He tell you & let you make the decision if you wanna play that part...
Yep agree. I think feeling pressurised is a key indicator that your boundaries are not being honoured…that then gives opportunity for one to speak up the next step is to see how much attention and care or lack thereof they pay…
FACTS‼️
Yep! I figured that out over a year ago and staying single!!!! It's all BS and games...
Right on !
A woman who is secure in herself and has honor and respect for herself is the best remedy for predatory men. When she is grounded in the truth and has healthy boundaries players don’t stand a chance. Thanks to Kev for educating, helping and encouraging woman.
Those traits are like bait to men tho I swear. Some guys they see your truths and boundaries and it's almost like a challenge to them to try and remove them/ break you down! Lol. Scary stuff! 😨
Yes ma'am
Very rare kind of women
TRUTH!
I learned that having boundaries is really protecting ourselves, and if someone doesn’t respect them then they have ill attention be cautious!! ⚠️ I rather be single, and wait to be in a relationship then to be stuck and taken advantage of by a man that doesn’t even love me. 😢
1. Limited phone talks .
2. Refuse to be emotionally connected or be vulnerable , doesn't listen to your problems , detached emotionally.
3. Run over your boundaries but stick tight to theirs .
4. Don't respond to calls or texts fast enough . This makes you accept his challenge.
5. Refuse to wine and dine you to prep you for minimal effort .
6. Focused sexually.
7. They down play how attracted to you they are even when they are attracted to u ,to keep you wondering if you'll ever be enough .
8. Light put downs
9. Act hot and cold on purpose . Hot sexually , cold emotionally.
10. Leave as soon as they have sex with you .
Thank you. Just blocked and deleted an ex boyfriend who has all those traits. Boy be gone!
Thanks so much for the bullet points! 💯🎯🎯🎯
Thank you ❤️
Funny I've done most of the above I am a female 😆
Thank you
This honestly makes me want to cry…why do people play all these games it’s so exhausting…life is too short. Don’t let a bad behaviour of one or 2 stop you from believing in love. It’s really tough out there. I think online dating is the devils playground.
💯💯👍🏽👍🏽
So sad Really.. why play games ??
Dating in general, u have to pay attention, n protect urself.
Yes, it's exhausting because if I have to play games to counter someone else's game play I'm no better than them. The good news is that if there are game players there are real ones who are authentic. Just be authentic and you will likely attract the same in due time.
Celibacy makes things more clear
This!
I am telling you
True, but it should be from choice not out of fear of encountering a man like this.
@@gilliankingston8259 that's why we stop. Fear. I'm okay with that.
Girl!
Man this really hit home and made me sad. My ex was like this and I dumped him once I realised it. Never compliments, emotionally detached, never responding to text messages on time, never supporting me emotionally, no effort to connect or get to know me, downplaying his attraction to me. Slightly putting me down, little digs here and there. He clearly was trying to eat away at my confidence and it worked for a short period of time until I remembered who the fuck I was. I dumped him and blocked his ass and never looked back. He got sex once but after that I was out! Better late than never as far as I'm concerned.
Self confidence, knowing your worth and not settling.. will eliminate all of that!!🙌🏽🙌🏽
Amen sis
This is for people who aren't there, many women have been abused from childhood and grew up in foster care and are learning to love and value themselves.
Eliminate *
@@anna-kayecampbell1232 Wow! I didn’t even pay attention to that. Thank you for correcting me lol
Most women in my experience say they won't settle but what they really mean is the man needs to be the woman and not them.
Wanting a man to be effeminate is not the answer. Romance is bullshit. Truth, trust, and a strong, kind, take charge man who works and let's a woman be soft, feminine (not feminist), and a nurturer. I cannot understand why a woman dies not want to be kept by the RIGHT man.
My ex has all the 10 signs you talked about. I laughed at all of them. Even I was disgusted with myself cuz I held on to him for 4 years. Thank God I found myself. I'm good now. Thanks to you.😌
Take this seriously! This list are all characteristics of narcissists. Don't fall victim to narcissistic abuse
Exactly! It is the worst type of abuse ever.
Absolutely is!! Simply put! Monsters among us
So true! Please stay away from a narcissist 😢
Sad days we live in nobody knows how to date anymore or take people out on dates feel like some people just got so lazy that they only just invite you to their house and that’s it. You gotta watch out for many red flags and it’s like who has time for this anymore
Well said 👏
±2348101867472⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up......
Crazy lazy strategies
I think it's more so that so many women haven't required for them to do anything for the cat and even the ones with standards lower depending on the attraction or desperation. They will tell the guy they don't have sex on the first date but with the same guy they end up having sex with him on the first date. Sometimes they'll lose respect for you not because you gave it up so easily but the fact that you broke your boundaries for them. They low key want you to stick to your guns. Let your yes mean yes and no mean no.
Also it's like working at a hard job that pays extremely well. If your job allows you to just sit around and do nothing and still get paid the same amount as before for a while. When it's time to work hard again for the same money it can become problem because you're use to getting it without jumping through hoops.
And the reason why you have to watch for red flags is because we all in general will look for the most easiest route to accomplishing a goal that will benefit us in the long run. Men are great at reading us and shape shifting to what they know we want. But shape shifters always show some sign or another that they aren't really what they look and seem like. So you don't get trick by the bait you have to pay attention. Everyone is trying to get over on someone or something for a better quality of life.
Rinagade 💯💯💯
"He may look like a foot" 🤣🤣🤣
Ladies if you don't love and respect yourself a guy will not love or respect you. Work on loving and validating yourself before seeking a relationship Don't take bull. Know your boundaries, know your value as a human being. When you love, respect and value yourself you become selective about only allowing a quality people into your life. You should NEVER beg for anyone's time or attention. If you do, that's how much they value you, not at all.
People will treat you how YOU allow them to treat you.
Guys will tell you what they want and what they're about from the first conversation. Women LISTEN! Don't try to reinterpret what he said. If he's vague, he doesn't want to be with you seriously. If he doesn't talk about being serious and wanting stability he is not looking for that. Next watch his actions, If he says one thing but does the opposite , it's time for you to go home, alone. Don't be thirsty, it's better to be alone and at peace. If you can't be at peace when you're alone, you have a lot of internal work to do on yourself.
I agree with you 120%
But there ARE cases, like mine, where it wasn't just toxicity or player vibes, but narcissism.
That love bombing is SO for real. I met him at 37. Had confidence, self-esteem, independent, a traveler, great job, no kids....3 dogs, hell i even had a little pep in my step lol.
I admit and accept my part. But when a persons ENTIRE plan is to lie, gaslight, steal, cheat, crush and just, try to leave you as empty and broken and suicidal as possible, and we arent familiar with that, at all....we never see it coming.
I know NOW. But my God did it cost me.
Omgggggg dealing with this now!! I think I might be getting played by a forest Whitaker lookalike!!
🦶🦶👣. And smell like a foot binding gone wrong.
Oof. 8:05
“Some of y’all are disgusted right now. I am too. …..I’m disgusted that IT WORKS!”
~Kev Hick
Mic drop…he’s absolutely correct
Forf :) They dont respond to calls or texts promptly or even at all. It makes you work harder ..makes you more willing to cross your own boundaries to get his attention...they take full advantage
Never tell a guy you love them first always make sure there the ones who say it to you first
"He may look like a foot..." 😂😂😂 Great points! Thanks for the video!
±2348101867472⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.....
Kev. You make me feel powerful.
It's like when a group of people are plotting on ruining you while they're around you. Problem is that they speak a language you don't understand.
Kev you are the translator that saves our lives.👏
Great 👍 comment, I agree with you 💯 you are exactly right.
Ditto
Exactly this. Alot of mistakes we.are making is because we dont understand our enemy's mindset. He is giving us clarity so we have a fighting chance.
At this point in my life, theres a few things I know to be true. People make time for what they truly want. They value what they view as special and valuable. They sacrifice and make sure you know your place in their lives is only a place you can hold. Alot of this video is 💯 I'm jus saddened it took a few decades flattened tires and busted heads to get here!
My father was super manipulative to my mom. So was my brother. I adviced him at a young age to be a lawyer cause he'd be able to free anyone with his persuasiveness. My body is physically repulsed by manipulation and it causes me lots of anxiety, fear and anger. Manipulation is literally traumatic to me because of my childhood. I'm learning how to not be afraid of it, know my power and to not use it myself because i am capable of doing it better than any man i know. In the end i think I'm most afraid of myself being manipulative in a relationship rather than my partner.
Anyway glad you're exposing these men, Kev
Same here.
±2348101867472⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.....
Ugh. Same. It's so disturbing when you see ppl do it with a straight face and look at you like you're crazy. Like, that's a level of crazy mastery I hope I never reach. You can continue being manipulative but I'm pretty sure I'm gonna stick the same 'no' I said a minute ago. Say your little gaslighting speech and move on sir
We are in the same boat...it is well😫
@@janey_oge8865 yeah, no fun. I'm pushing and putting the mental health work in...i wish you the best on your journey.
Pfft smh I'm so easily manipulated it makes me sick. Kev, thank you so much for helping me prevent & protect myself from further manipulation. You're protecting our vulnerable, endearing, beautiful,& loving feminine energies and I am forever grateful for your advice in these videos!!!🙏
I wouldn’t have thought this type of malicious men exist if it wasn’t because of my own experience with one of them
Unless a man is madly in love with you, they are often predatory
@@someonespecial581 it's true and sick
@@swiftkarma4436 Hmmm
Sadly have experienced all of these and several in multiple men. Took a while to clock the behavior and demand higher expectations. I was easily manipulated because of unhealed childhood trauma. In fact if ever approached now with this BS it's a hard pass because I am numb from all of the previous jokers. It's substance, respect, quality or nothing at all. I wish I could tag these beasts so all women would know from the gate, this not the one, move accordingly girlfriend. Thank you for sharing!! 🙏🏽❤
Omg Yesss they prey on women who are empathy and who have unsealed trauma cause they know that they can manipulate and act one one way and then totally change and become fake and do less for you smh these kind of people are so evil
This spot on ! Experience recently, the chipping away at confidence was so real ! Glad I for the heads up ! Blessings !
Throw in the up down bitch look and wave your hand buh- bye. I hope that did not offend you. You are 100% right.
Lord! I experienced every single bit of this 2 years ago. Been trying to heal/grow from it ever since. God bless you for all you do. Silent supporter but I had to say that. You are SPOT on! Thank you.
What are you doing to grow and heal from this.
Good job. To put it simply, if the man doesnt worship the ground you walk on, find one who does. You want a man who ruins your lipstick, not your mascara.
Amen! This is awesome. Never settle for any mistreatment period. You are loved and valued by God.
Periodt Gods property
So glad he used the word “converse” instead of “conversate” 😂
What's the difference ? I'm not a native speaker
How dare you?! Kev is smart. Why do you think he would do that? Is it because he is Black?
@@leesteal4458 the commenter is literally black. Are you okay?
@@User-uw7uw It doesn't matter if she is Black. Are you okay? Aren't you aware of the fact that some Black people put down, underestimate and disrespect each other because they do not value their worth? Why would she think that a consistently articulate man such as he, would use a word that simply does not exist?
@@leesteal4458 exactly. And so what if he would've said conversate instead of converse. The point is whether or not you understood the message.
*As a man, I hope women learn from this and only pursue the good, honest, true men.*
Hunni I was sitting at my desk at work when he said "He may look like a foot." I about hollered 😭😊 Keep hope alive!! Nothing but truth telling.
"You can't F your way into a cold heart." Wow Kev, another zinger.
I must commend you on this and all of your other videos. Being married over 30 years, I can concur on every piece of advice you give. I have shared this channel with my daughter and nieces, somehow a male perspective goes over better than what “Mama and Auntie” tries to tell them💜
Smart mother and wife. I plan on doing the same. As well as continuing to relay our family principles, in a loving and encouraging way, which starts with me and my wife's testimony of courtship.
He is awesome 👌
i wish my mom would do this when i were younger
AMEN🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I had an old @$$ dude try ALL of these with me. Then had the nerve to be mad & surprised when he got ghosted!
The audacity of you not accepting his b*llshit!
How DARE you?
(insert heavy sarcasm here)
😅😅😅😅😅
@@SonjaElizabethTeal right!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Those older men are the worst. Acting like that looking how they be looking.
Listen I didn’t realize all of this until today. I grew up shelter and met my fiancé and he is all 10 in this list. He lied, cheated, etc, etc. everything. I have never been this heart broken in my life. This guy hit everything so far and I feel like crying my eyes out
My love, if this is so, carefully and safely remove yourself from the relationship. All narcissists behave this way. It’s all about control. I was told what you see is magnified 10x when married. I had the same experience, nearly got engaged, but cut the relationship fast. His fiery, demonic reaction of breaking it off solidified that I dodged a bullet and lifetime of regrets. Please, please, please. Don’t go forward with the engagement. He won’t change. And even if he begs you back, don’t be fooled again. Like children, women like stability and safety. If he can’t provide that emotionally, physically and financially, LEAVE.
@@shirleysaint-remy7115 We broke, I moved out. Making more money. Met someone else who has a career going for himself. We both are working together to merge our lifestyles and build a family. Life has been good, you live and you learn. The ex has been calling and calling 😂😂😂 apologizing, telling me how changed he has been. Mind you he’s blocked but u get voice messages.
Wow this is confirmation. I had a guy I just had one convo with say I wanna meet in person no real convo on the phone, says he dont make plans, and was disrespectful with cursing at me. Like I dont know you sir!
Block em ladies
So many times you are dead on. This is one of them. I’ve definitely seen most or all of this list, and left. Due to channels like yours, I’m much more educated in these things.
my first love had almost everything on the list. some guys are just natural. thank you, the video is very informative
±2348101867472⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.....
It’s not just about knowing your value or worth. It’s about ending generational curses. You can’t do better if you don’t know better. These actions might be normal if that’s all a person knows, so it’s not that a woman doesn’t know her “value” or “worth”.
Sometimes it is just because they perceive you as being more vulnerable than you actually are. You know nothing about someones self esteem unless you know them. Unfortunately they can be very persistent so you have to be " stubborn" when establishing boundaries.
I must admit I appreciate hearing these points even though sometimes its damn obvious to see, but when you are an emotional species as a woman all you hoping for is just a stable and loving relationship, men knows what we want as a woman and they play on our vulnerability.!!!
Know your self worth ladies
This guy pursued me for 4 months. I ignored him. Spoke only when he spoke to me. He asked for my number. I said no. He asked everyday he saw me for weeks. I became flattered. So I finally gave it to him for being consistent. He’s never called, just text. He’s displayed 4 of the red flags in this video. He won’t ask me out because he said he’s waiting on me. I told him, “I guess you’ll be waiting”. We haven’t talked since. I’m wondering now if this is the 5th red flag he’s displaying which is the pull away method? Thank you Kev, cause I was gonna say something. But, now I’m just gonna let this one go. He’s cut off.
This video is speaking nothing but facts! I wasted most of my 20's attracting these types of men. If I had watched this video while I was in those situations I wouldn't have received this well. I would have made excuses and stayed in denial while collecting the small breadcrumbs I was receiving. The old me would have said "well hes showing 9 out of 10 of these signs so he must be different" oor "my man is just busy" ooor my favourite "maybe if I stick around he'll change with time" lol. I can laugh about it now but I cried many tears over these men. Ladies, make sure your self esteem is up and you are confident in yourself and truly happy with yourself. If you truly know and love yourself, these types of men will have no chance because you will know that you are worth way more than this type of treatment.
I've never seen your videos, but clicked and watched this today. Glad I did. You are so articulate, how you bring light on why men with bad intentions do what they do and how it relates to you. Breaking it down giving the reason as to why they do things like lightly insulting you to create insecurity therefor creating the need in women to "make up" for what the man has made them believe is a lacking in themselves. I've never heard it broken down that way, very helpful. Coming from a woman, keep doing what your doing.
Thanks emphasizing safety. There are lunatics amongst us.
OMG #8😳
Yes what Kev said demand more....I can guarantee if you make them wait longer than six weeks most will move on when they are not up to any good
I've been listening to your advice for a while and I'm so thankful for it. It took awhile for me to catch on but I finally dodging bullets and leaving manipulative man where's where they at! I require more and I will remain celibate until I find the right one‼️ thanks Kevin, you like the big brother I never had
I've been abandoned and rejected by my family, friends and husband all my life... Spent most of my childhood alone. I'm an INFJ too... So anyone threatening abandonment, please leave! Doesn't bother me at all! I LOVE my PEACE and freedom from Narcissist abuse and NEVER accepting bullshit or abuse from anyone again! I will be alone forever before I accept or settle for bullshit! I laugh when people play games and threaten to leave. I have some amazing friends I treasure and my kids. I have a friend who has had the life from Hell and guys try to talk to her about nonsense and she tells them to leave and says "Don't stop and keep on going!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think Kev just gave up the Playbook, Ladies! WoW! Thank you, Brother!⚘
Damn. 😭😭😭 sad that this whole man you just described I’m currently married to and have a 3 yr old with. Glad I am becoming aware 😭
I just love his videos. He’s funny and straightforward. Thank you Kevin for caring!! 🥰🥰
±2348101867472⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.....
after the whole Dababy & Danileigh debacle. I needed a refresher thanks Kev
I assume you haven't seen zac stacy video yet? You're gonna need to read a bible after seeing that 😩 tf is wrong with men these days.. smh
@@mayaj2354 just horrible. Almost unbelievable 🥺
@@mayaj2354you are right I needed the bible after watching that. I saw the Zac stacy video recently and I was at a loss for words!! He almost killed that girl and throwing her around infront his baby like that againstthe TV and the baby'sbouncy toy. The ex girlfriend said the police didn't believe her so she risked her life getting him on video. We need to be careful out there and the first sign of problems we need to leave. the first time he put his hand on her she should have ended things.
Yes indeed, what’s the big rush take your time ladies and gentlemen find out what they’re hiding 🙈 if he’s a good person you will definitely find out in time .
Kevin, thank you immensely for protecting women from players by describing their game playing tactics, so they can easily be identified by women and avoided. Your wife must be very proud of you for protecting women from players. God must also be very grateful to you for protecting his daughters. I am certain that God blesses you for all your work. I am very grateful to you and appreciate your help as always. May God bless you Kevin.
If a guy is acting flaky and doesn't respond to my texts I delete his number and keep it moving✌
Thanks for the advice. I'll admit I was a little triggered when he said "I'm disgusted it actually works". But after some thought I realized why. It's not that women are dumb or gullible. It's because we have been conditioned to aspire to having love and relationships. We even desire them more than men. Just as men have been conditioned to aspire to having money and wealth and they generally desire it even more than women. Both men and women seek validation from these things respectively and are often desperate to have them. Just the way many women fall victim to players is the same way many men fall victim to get-rich-quick-schemes. There are many cases of it in my country.
I think the first step to being immune to playboy tricks is to first knock down love from that pedestal in your mind. I'm not saying you should abandon love. I'm saying you shouldn't make it a priority. There is so much more to life than to be actively seeking love or worse begging for it. Focus on other parts of your life, physically, emotionally, financially. Be well rounded. And this might sound cheesy but love will find you at the right time. I know it's easier said than done cos even in the media and movies there are many stories of women actively seeking love and finding it and having cute endings. All that gets embedded in our subconscious and make us want it more and even become desperate for it. I would advice weaning yourself from that kind of content till you get your priorities straight.
Cos think about it. You can't be scammed for something you're not crazy about.
Thank you for this invaluable advice, Kevin!! After 28 years of marriage and divorce, a woman is out of touch with how single men think.... and what they'll do to get their way🙏💖🌈He actually did "open up" emotionally to trap me, said I'm the only one he's felt connected to....
Ladies this information is all FACTS ....USE IT TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE! GOD BLESS YOU KEVIN.
Effortlessly reinforcing real shit with humor! Dope videos. 🙏🏾
One guy tried to make fun of my height. I’m very short. Like I’m ashamed of being short. I’m not. That was his hang up not mine! Or was it for manipulation? I thought so.
Here one date held my face with both hands, looked at me and told me he d liked my.. ears :))))).
With all those guys doing that stuff, I think I’ll validate my own self.
Lol , yes your better doing it yourself x
The guy I was talking to just up and disappeared. It's been about a week and a half.. we haven't done anything. Unfortunately for him, I know it's a power play.
Such a turn off.
Sounds crazy
You need to block and delete that fool with the quickness…. “Next!”
@@MRLX54 @jovanaleshae wit the QUICK-quickness, dear heart. 😳 His name is WAS, now 😑
He probably got bored. If a guy is actually interested then he won’t just ghost you. Worse for him if he actually took you on a date. Good for him to cut off the free attention. Sometimes the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
I had one try that. When he called to go out I already had a date and told him that. He said the next day, i said i have a date then to and that I'll call him if i ever have time. If I'm ever bored enuf, I still wont reach out...hehe
"He may look like a foot." That's too funny.
Number 5 took me out!!!!!!!!!!!! This has happened a few times 😭😭 but I’m a Gemini even when I’m buzzed I’m still sharper than you 😂😂
♊️ ‘s stay alert 😂
Whew lawd! Dating is toooo much these days. 😥 This was a great reminder though on how we need to carry ourselves ladies. Thanks Kev. 🤗
±2348101867472⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up......
Wow. U are the best. I had a dude do all these to me before 1 dude at that. Worst situations hip I’d ever got myself in, was a complete mess. I left months ago. Still healing myself. I’ll never forget his mon came over she 68-70 years and she’s still looking good. We had relations earlier that day, and when he walks in he’s like mom you fly. I’m like yea you look nice. He told her mom your hair sharp, your outfit nice and look at your purse and u got your shoes matching. And look at your nails blah blah blah blah blah and I mean he went on and on. In all he had said about 20/30 things to compliment her while never saying 1 thing about me. I don’t compete with no man mom and I’m glad he praise her but you can say all that to her u can acknowledge me too even if u had said girl u look good too, he said nothing I felt terrible inside. That was really a trying time for me. I know any real decent man would’ve included me at the least if they were truly interested in me.
Recently had one who's obsessed with "bringing" me lunch (I work from home). Tried to redirect to meeting at a restaurant for this lunch but he was ducking and diving. I stopped responding to his messages.
Be very careful with him. Clearly wants to get you at home alone :/
This was so good. And thanks for addressing the man bashing lol. Bashing doesn't help. There are plenty of things women do that men don't like as well.
Yes, that's true, both men and women do that I think it's a reaction to being treated badly by the opposite sex - especially repeatedly.
It’s not about not liking, it’s about manipulation
I wish I heard this messages years ago 🤦🏾♀️ but I’m glad I’m in a receptive mind set these days, and this message is a gem within this healing journey I’m on 🙏🏾
The guy I recently broke up with did pretty much all of these. He did put a fun twist on one of them though. Every time I would speak up for myself or give him shit/disagree with him he would say something like; you know you look really unattractive when you give me attitude like that. Or something along those lines. It was always something to invalidate me in some way, either telling me I’m unattractive when I say xyz or I sound stupid. This man actually consistently said to me: Ooooh did you read that in a book (in the most condescending tone possible)? He had me thinking I was the idiot for repeating something I read in a textbook are article or something. Like, what?
Thank god he decided to ghost me which forced me to tell him we were done. No sir, you are not keeping me on the line. No one is keeping me waiting 5 days for a response. Did me a dang favor.
I needed this list months ago! Been there done that, NEVER AGAIN‼️ This shit messed me up mentally, but it taught me a very valuable lesson. Now that I know all the tricks due to experience, NOTHING gets passed me! I been celibate since and take no shit at all from these men aka little ass boys! Ladies beware! The man that did this to me is a firefighter and I think all these firefighters are doing it! Pay attention to these things! Almost every girlfriend I know who dealt with a firefighter went thru these things and the one I dealt with was in a group chat with all his firefighter buddies. They are training them to do shit like this to multiple women they meet on serious dating sites etc. Be careful please! 🙏🏾
Yeah, the firefighters.Did we date the same boy ? LOL!
wanting a connection and having 1 is 2 different things Make Sure the Connection is Mutual
The DESIRE must be mutual.😎
This video should be shown to all men and women before they join an online dating site!
Love it! Set your standards. Demand More or Move On! 👏🏾
±2348101867472⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.....
What Kevin really meant is....
RUUUUNNNN.
ROFLMAO!!!
Thank you
You are a light in a very dark world.
I appreciate your frankness. You are saying all the things a good father should.
Blessings
The big brother we always needed. God is going to bless you with a Queen my brother 🤴🏽💯
i wish i had watched this video way earlier and discovered these. I dated someone for 9 months and he exhibited all these signs. so fucking true
I rarely see these creeps where I live. They must hangout where they can remain anonymous- medium to large cities.
Lucky you! Because where I live the
F*ck Boys are like a ants- EVERYDAMNWHERE!
This is so freaking deep!!! If I had listened to this a year ago I wouldn't have just gotten completely played and heart broken. It won't happen again that's for sure
I dated a woman like this. In the first well 2 days after committing I told her “I don’t miss. And if I do miss, I still graze.” I knew I had made a mistake. I gave it until she did all ten of these lol. In 2 months it was over and she still thinks there’s hope because I let gracefully and peaceful because that’s the best way to deal with a covert narcissist without violence.
Love the content Kev. 💯
yup so before my bf dated me he dated this girl that according to him is really crazy. anger issues crazy. she'd get really upset at things like if he asked her if she was okay about something twice, or if she wanted something and he didn't do it she would threaten to commit suicide. anyways he was planning on making it work but after the first crazy month of dating he decided to date me (mind u they were both dating multiple people at the same time) she was fine with it until she notices that he was really giving her the peace sign lol she's still trying to get with him (this girl is very desperate as well, and calls him like 10 times within minutes hoping to use one of her tactics on him). why do mean girls always try to come back desperately when they realize the nice guy has moved on?! now she gonna say, what do I have that she doesn't have smh
@@tabbygirl7487 naw your bf is playing you AND her
When some man who you don't know walks up to you while you're by yourself and asks, "Hey, can I ask you a question?" Say, 'No'. Always say, 'No'.
Your content is so refreshing after watching hundreds of red pill videos. Thank you Kev.
That man say “I’m disgusted that it works” lmboooo 🤦🏾♀️
THANK YOU VERY MUCH, YOUNG MAN!!! As a mature woman, I am so proud of you for educating our daughters and granddaughters. I hope they take this knowledge to heart.
You give the best advice that I've ever received and Thank You so much!
“Some of y’all disgusted right now...” 😂
Thank you! 👌🏽 Ladies it's a jungle out there! Plus a whole lotta men walking around with feminine energy! Not a good combo! Lol there's something in the water! 😓😴😴 Thanks Kevin! 😊👌🏼👌🏼
And its really crazy how women Still fall for these crap too. Here i am thinking that most women know all about these games and stuff that these players do...and its old now. So me being genuine, that they will be more attracted to a guy like me nowadays...but no, they still attracted to those players and stuff.. SMH! They Really STILL Fall for this crap. SMDH! 🤦♂️
A lot want to give benefit of the doubt. I think loneliness makes them ignore red flags
wow how is this channel not more popular such clear and wise observations
Only sleep with your husband. Also, watch any episode of Divorce Court with Judge Toler daily. The messy lives of the couples and the insightful advice of Judge Toler can aid in you making wiser decisions regarding current or future relationships. Most importantly, find out who you are without being in a relationship, establish moral boundaries, set and accomplish personal goals, don’t compromise or lower your standards, and surround yourself with people who have your best interest in their heart.
Edit: Remind yourself often that you cannot change anyone and make them into someone you desire.
If a guy has a history of being a manipulator towards other women before meeting you don't believe it for a second that because they are showing favoritism towards you that their negative behavior towards women in general is not ever going to come back to haunt the 2 of you some day after he got whatever it is he wants from you like arm candy, better connections in life and then assets and heirs. The only difference concerning you with him while being according to him special is that he is just some day going to be a lot more sneaky about his search for more narcissistic supply to secure for himself while never being satisfied while he is being afraid of losing personal gain which will only be adding to his excitement while he is cheating on you when at the same time he is enjoying the veneer of respectability he has made by using you right from the start.
Seriously, what would we do without you!!! This is mad 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
And prefer the silent videos! Music takes away from how serious this shit is!
This makes all the sense in the world 😊Kev, when I hit the lottery, you and your wife can retire!😂
I cant thank you enough for this life saving invaluable information!🙏🏿
God bless!👊🏿
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Damn!! This ish is right on point!!! Thank you, Kev!
All I can say is may God bless you abundantly!
All of this!!!!!! Great content I Knew most of this. I’ve definitely come across my fair share of these types of men. Thankfully I didn’t feel the need to lay down with them to feel validated. Don’t let people that add no value to your life waste your time.