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- We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. But we don’t have to. He makes a compelling case to practice emotional hygiene - taking care of our emotions, our minds, with the same diligence we take care of our bodies.
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"It makes us really afraid to reach out because why setup yourself for heartache and rejection when your heart is already aching more than you can stand"
this really cuts me deep..
Yeah that was the quote that really struck me too.
Yeah taht was basically my whole thought process 3 years ago. It was so bad taht I never held a single conversation longer than a minute for nearly an entire year.
My own belief.. I always feel rejected as a middle child.. that is why I only reach out when I'm only at my lowest point.
This one hit home hard!
:',-(
-Take action when feeling lonely
-Change response to failures
-Protect your self esteem
-Battle negative thinking
Catherine Murphy 🙄
@Catherine Murphy This is exactly the kind of pessimistic mindset Guy was addressing
@Catherine Murphy
When I apply this theory the results are out there. The catch is being persistent about it until it become natural. Which is really hard but can't say impossible as I clearly saw the results !
@Suffer No Fools
All of us could go through this you are no exception my friend, just don't give up and take responsibility of working on your spiritual and mental abilities.
Your brain and soul are like a living room it will turn into a mess if you don't clean it frequently.
No one will clean your mess you need to do it yourself
@Suffer No Fools
Then you need to talk to him and ask for empowerment, patience, clarity, and guidance.
"Allah" or God is the source of all the good in this world, some times he answers ur prays by changing your situation to a better one , or he may decide to keep you in it because he wants to get the good part of u out (hard times get strong men)
It might be easy for me to say as you r the one who actually struggles but you don't have many options really:
Either to surrender to the hardship thus declining further down OR decide to get stronger and use all your energy including mental and spiritual to improve the situation. Read about other people who had even tougher circumstances than you.
Someone was told he will die after 6 months because of cancer so he could have chosen to consume the time crying and weeping about his bad luck but instead he used what left of his power putting a positive impact on his and others life.
You need to take the decision to be happy "as much as u could" do stuff you like. Stay away from abusers no one could steal your laugh or small life pleasures from you.
Get bigger , get stronger, get perspective ask others for advice or wisdom.
I would watch this over and over again to remind myself about the harms of rumination. That I need to do something about this chronic anxiety and loneliness.
The world is bigger than the life we live in. The walls that block us, never pierced the skies or ever crossed the seas, but we ourselves can and have.
Asking Google Assistant to tell you the first 1000 digits of Pi will help with breaking the cycle of ruminating
so you're ruminating about the harms of rumination by rewatching this video over and over again?? .... sorry.
@@shaunnil8248 No.
This was probably the best TED talk I've ever heard.
I was just thinking this!
I agree! I only wish I’d found it sooner
Same here, very powerful words
The reason he could talk with such conviction and also convince us is because he has been through it and shared the same honestly.
Great Ted talk.! 👌✌️
True! ! :)
I found myself close to tears a few times. That tells me that I have some emotional hygiene issues to work on. I'd like to watch this again with my whole family. I hope it would stimulate a positive, healing conversation.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights, Dr Winch.
Thank You for this 'first aid' solution to help our very sick Hurting World .. it is an urgent need to ALL living in God's wonderful Creation 💕🙏
I've already opened a new playlist named "rewatch" section & put this video first on the list. I'll watch this again whenever I'll feel emotional pain.
Being close to tears listening to this talk doesn't mean that you have emotional issues, it means that you have empathy. That's a good thing.
@@roushnirafamajumder1578 reminder that this video exists if you are feeling in need of some emotional first aid ⛑️ ❤️
Choosing to watch this video, despite the length, is probably the best thing I've done this week. How does this video not have more views? Everyone needs to watch this
1. We value physical health more than psychological health. If we had a broken leg, we would not say walk it off. But we do that with loneliness, failure, depression.
2. Take action when you're lonely. Loneliness makes us believe those around us care less than they actually do. It is based on your personal perception. Loneliness can be as harmful to your health as cigarette smoking.
3. Don't let your mind be tricked by failure Are you aware how your mind deals with failure? People believe their setbacks means they're no longer capable and do not reach their potential. Our minds are hard to change once it's made up. We have to fight to stop feeling the failure.
4. Be your own best friend and protect yourself against rejection. Rejection forces us to call ourselves names and damage our own self esteem. We wouldn't get a cut on our arm and dig at it and make it worse, but we do that with psychological. Instead, we need to protect our self esteem. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would treat others.
5. Constantly battle negative thinking. Rumination is when you agonize over the same idea over and over. Study shows even a two minute distraction is enough! Battle negative thinking constantly will foster positive thinking.
THANK YOU!
Not to be dramatic but I genuinely appreciate you as a human being thank you so much, I was just looking for a way to write everything down and this was such a concise summary. You indirectly supercharged my healing and I appreciate you so much.
Nice summary
thank you
Wow, thank you!
No doubt. You are a "REAL"Doctor. Your speech brought tears to my eyes. We tend to be so hard on ourselves. Thank you so much
Only Jesus is the real doctor, so you’re lying
@@irinasolomina1800🙄
Having any mental/emotional problems is considered weak and embarrassing, which discourages psychological "routine check-ups", among other things. Plus, letting yourself be vulnerable with a complete stranger is terrifying.
nullins Top notch fear mongering dude.
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nullins
It's cool, bro.
Agreed. When I would explode with anger it seems that it was very embarrassing and disrespectful. After its over its like I've wrecked my own reputation. And then, even after that...it turns out that the way I thought people would think of me, wasn't even how they thought and I screwed myself over. All because of the rumination and failure.
LemonWedge123 Well if we are, then we know that what the doc said was true. Distractions work like a charm. It seems like I take failure too seriously. I guess certain people have to keep moving forward. Like myself. I used to be level headed, or a better description is **was seen** as level headed. But I think my reputation mattered most to me, and when I broke my own character I was disappointing myself. I can't depend on others to make me see myself how I want to be seen.
I've seen quite a few TED talks now, but this one is by far my favourite!
Don't get me wrong, I love watching most of the other ones, but this one is really special in my opinion.
Agreeed!
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.”
― Henry Ford
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Ruminating is what I’m doing right now. I can’t stop hearing all the negative stuff I heard in a recent disagreement with a loved one. It’s overwhelming and causing me anxiety. I keep thinking bad stuff about myself. I want to be better. This video is much needed and I’m on my way to getting better. Thank u.
Well said....
There are ways to help break the over thinking cycle. One expert I like is Reid Wilson. His TH-cam channel under his name and his website, anxieties.com, have some great helps to understand the true nature of anxiety and how you feed it and gratefully how you can starve it. It is highly curable.
Try to force your mind off it by thinking of something else for 2 minutes like he said or better yet do what you would tell a friend to do if they came to you hurting like that.
I was this before and even worse than my present condition. Not until I had spent months to attend positive seminar, the negative thoughts slowly faded. And I can control it.
I used to be the worst ruminator you could ever imagine. Especially during elementary school, I would spend the entire day stuck in my mind, regretting everything I've ever done and reliving the shame. As I got older, I started to notice how this bad habit was making my life miserable, and over the years I learned how to be mindful of it when it happens and remind myself that it's not healthy, that my brain makes everything more negative than it is, and more recently, I've also started stopping it with distractions. I don't know how healthy it is because usually I distract myself by watching TH-cam videos lol, but at least when it's TED Talks, I learn something!
This video is a perfect example of the good the internet can do. Imagine how many lives this man has touched with his words. How many lives he has saved. All thanks to the world wide web.
At least 14, I think.
@@jonhohensee3258 it has over 3+ million views
@@woosh_police4018 - Yeah, but only about 14 or 15 lives saved.
@@jonhohensee3258 I don't think it's all about a number. Not only this video can safe someone's life but it could change non-suicidal person's perspective. As he said, many people don't know how to manage a emotinal damage.
@@현셍 - You're clueless.
holy crap.... he's absolutely RIGHT! I was on the verge of tears hearing him point out whats been the matter with me for the past 3years! I've been lonely, depressed, and have been nothing but negative to myself. But the moment he defined what loneliness is and does I knew b4 he started talking about how to change it. and my tears became of happiness. positmestic, hopeful, and encouraged! The encouragement that ive been searching for for years now. as simple as that, it was or is, like a slap in the face! how obvious! idk how long this joy of releif will last, however it doesn't matter anyway because I know now, what it is, and how to fix it. Thank you, thank you sooooo sooooooooo sooooooooooooooooo much! !!!
I'm glad!
How's it going now, 2 years later?
Hey aerick how are you now
Yeah, how're you doing now, Aerick? Feeling better and more positive? How did things turn out? I'm really curious! (Hope everything is good!)
I'm happy you were happy
Hope you're doing well
2:10 "Walk it off, it's just in your leg."
3:28 "My brother is also a psychologist, so he's not a real doctor either."
4:13 "We decided to splurge and we talked for 10 minutes."
10:03 "I said "In the front seat" but that made no sense to him whatsoever, so now he thought I was on drugs."
I'm just 3 min in and already love this. "Just walk it off. It's all in your leg" XD
Funny .
Ernthir same
Rumination is horrible stuff indeed. I speak from experience.
Complaining Qoheleth I’ve caught myself in the spiral of rumination ..
A master in his field, making a difficult subject understandable and relatable.
We should watch this every day! Brilliant, obvious but desperately needed!
This is gotta be one of my favorite TED talk. Thank you Dr. Guy Winch, your speech really saved my life. Stay strong everyone.
''loneliness creates a deep psychological wund, one that distorts out percection and scrambles our thinking''
OMG! SO WORTH WATCHING!
I
I never beat myself up when I fail or get rejected I'm so grateful I never do the bad self talk THANK YOU MOM u teached me the strongest thing In the world 💙
How did she do that?
Perfect voice for voice acting, voice overs, audio book, etc.
Yeah, and a twin no less. They could of been good actors in a different life.
In the past years I've been watching videos like this, and reading about things like these... But oh lord. This is the first one that actually reach my mind. It's like he broke a wall that I didn't know it existed. There are no words to describe how grateful I am now... And motivated to know myself better.
This guy's voice is incredible.
The reason I don't reach out anymore was because the reason of my breakup with my ex was that I was "too much emotional weight". Even today, I just endure the pain by myself.
I really like his voice, it was soothing to me. So grateful for my friend who posted this on his what's app status. It's been very helpful to me cause I was in a bad place emotionally when I saw his post. Going to share now. Who knows it might help someone else too.
Throughout the video, why did I feel like I was having a one-on-one session with the speaker? 😅
??? You're asking me??😂😂😂
Rejection, it really pains oneself. Failures, despite all hardworks, is truely dragging you down. The feeling that you gave it your all, you spent most of your time and efforts, but still remain a loser. This is indeed, heart breaking, especially if no one got your back.
his voice and storytelling are a emotional first aid as it is!
everyone should hear his good message! 👍🏼
This talk really hit me emotionally. It felt like he was speaking directly to me personally. Like he was looking into my soul. We’ve all been through so much. We’ve all been hurt, had shame and guilt. It’s time I practiced emotional hygiene. I’ve beat myself up and allowed myself to be beaten up too much for far too long. It’s time to start helping myself and healing. Thank you Guy.
Man the timing of this coming on my feed...
It's my birthday, n I'm crying.. n this video.. thanks TH-cam
Happy almost Birthday!
@Soundarya Baswaraj Happy belated birthday! I pray what you were crying about is now history!! You are valued because God chose YOU on your special day!! Stay blessed!! 🤗🙏🏽🎁🎈🎂
Happy birthday
2:25
"Why is it our physical health is so much more important to us than our psychological health?"
That's the story of my life in a nutshell right there
I also watched your another video:" How to fix the broken heart". You are a great presenter and you motivated to me. I totally agree with you. The hurt in your mind is much more painful in physical. And we still won't care about it. This is a real matter. Thanks for your advice. It would help me and others.
BEST. SPEECH. I’VE. EVER. HEARD.
I’m speechless.. and just learned more in those few minutes than in all my 40 years of life 👏
This helped me so much during quarantine, this guy right here is more than just a Doctor.
WHY AM I CRYING, THIS WAS BEAUTIFUL!!!!!
Tears of gratitude?
@@eurocafeduo yes
Broke down too
This is the Gold Standard of TH-cam...
Guy Winch is fucking awesome. The way he empathizes with me (the viewers) with his personal life stories and hints us the solution of one of the biggest problem of modern lifestyle is simply amazing.
Much love for both brothers and a happy life to you all who watch this wonderful ted talk
I love his thoughts on loneliness. Most people believe that loneliness is a choice, but it has a deeper meaning to it. Brilliant! 😬
Came here only for assignment purpose but this whole 17 minutes was worth watching.
Loved his way of explaining!
OH I needed this right now! I took care of my father until he passed away last September. I've been suffering from minor ailments since. Both my family doctor and physical therapist say I should see a psychologist. Growing up, only weak and deranged people went to a psychologist-- what an idiotic way of thinking. Thank you Guy Winch for explaining this so eloquently.
sorry to hear about ya dad. i hope you get the help you need and feel better soon. and don't worry, lots of people think psyc is for weak people, i'm glad you know that's not true. it's actually for strong people, people strong enough to look after themselves.
geekgroupie42
Thank you for your kind words. The broken leg analogy really impressed me.
Some of the most successful amazing people I know have a psychologist. Go be like them.
James Evers emotional hygienist?
We all go one day, that's for sure. As long as we don't build up a litany of regrets. My mum died of cancer and it was a terrible thing. I am happy that her pain finished. The sad emptiness still comes often, but gradually getting lesser. hardest part was letting them go, after they already left. But we must do this as they only live in our minds now. I'm growing as many flowers as i can, as she loved flowers. I stopped visiting the grave as there's really nothing there and I'll just bawl my eyes out.
it was a big coincidence to come across this TED talks. i needed it very much
I needed it too . I'm in psychotherapy right now , but having him restate the basics is a big help .
Thanks for this! I just turned 60 and am in a full-time job that is highly stressful and lacks support from staff. Systems designed to run daily tasks often fail and I am left with unnecessary wait-time and frustrated customers. I want to leave, but I'm 60. Who would want me? This video has inspired me to keep looking and to pursue leads that have come my way, but that I have dismissed due to my age. I will forge ahead. Thank you!
Whenever I feel lonely or depressed I always remind myself that there are wonderful caring people in Colombia and the Philippines that will always take care of me and make me feel happy again...
"You wouldn't make a cut worse" is such a breakthrough for me to hear. This is such a good talk
I was kind of sad when the talk ended. I want to hear more from him. Thanks for the talk
MsAnotherCrazyfan -Me too
Music is emotional hygiene.
god damn right
Sometimes.
oh yes.
depends man!
I listen to some real dark, ethereal sounds when I'm down. Wallowing in my own self pity. That's not very 'hygienic' right?!
This is one of the best TED videos I’ve listened to in a long time. It hit home in so many ways. Thank you ✨🙏✨
Great talk, but I miss one crucial thing here, your personal environment. Speaking from my own experience I know it is damn hard to break these habits to think about all those bad things, but worse than that is when your environment smacks you right back into them, not always on purpose, often unknowing an unaware or even realizing to late. If you are depressed it takes a heck of a lot to get out and only so very little to fall right back in as you cross the edge.
Yeah I try to stop thinking about all the negative things, but to take an example; My mom always loves bringing up every time she can how she was neglected and emotionally abused as a child. Whenever both her and me and my little sister were sad we would have to hug and comfort her while she cried and vented about her feelings, even though we were equally sad. It would be hard to try to stop feeling bad about what happened to her just by being told once, but being repeatedly expected to comfort her while she vents would make it hard for anyone. In every situation she can she brings it up and it hurts, it really does.
Or how when you do a lot worse than usual on a test, and every friend of yours who usually get lower grades got higher grades than you. They mean well, and are only just happy for their own grades for once (which I'm very happy they are! I hate seeing them upset), but it feels kind of bad when they keep saying things like "I got a higher grade than you!" over and over again, while you're trying not to beat yourself up about it too bad.
I guess life just does that sometimes.
Oh shoot I just realized I replied to a three year old comment! Sorry, sorry!
(Hope you're doing good now though!)
I experienced all the feelings you had mentioned in this video due to a breakup I really needed this and I was MEANT to watch this....... THANK YOU!!
I love how much love he has for his brother and how he shows it.
“Walk it off, it’s all in your leg.” Brilliant.
Thank you , I've experienced all that you've said and learnt to practice the Emotional First-Aid all by myself.
I'm proud to have come up with the techniques myself but I'm also very happy to know this is how a real professional psychologist would think. Thank you for sharing .
This guy is amazing. The idea of mental hygiene has always been something I think about but this lecture made me aware of the loose parts. Along with ways I can improve it. Loved the video.
i saw this video in the sadness moment of my life and in 17 minutes i was full of energy and happyness
Thank you. I wanted to quit med school today. Been ruminating about for weeks because of a failed test. I'm so glad I came across this.
he expresses the vague and painful emotions in a very understandable way i wasn't able to define to those around me .I ended up looking proud and Over-reacting in their perspective because of how i put these heavy emotions into light words.
it's like he teaches me my own emotions verbally
So simple, but so good. I will start to take care of my emotional hygiene PROACTIVELY.
I truly loved this and needed this!
Such a blessing to learn about his twins recovery🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you💜
I am so happy watching this, because I've always thought about these things being a depressive anxious person myself. Thank you Guy Winch!
I still ruminate sometimes over the way my closest friends just forgot about me and continued living their lives as if i didn't even matter to them.
In my head i would feel like blaming them for my loneliness but in my heart i couldn't blame anybody but myself. Watching this talk i came through to realise that there is no one to blame, if you know how to be emotionally healthy, life as a lonely guy isn't that bad after all.
One of the best talks I have heard for a long time. That as done so much for me and I know I am on the right track....
Brilliant lecture.
I'm watching this because I'm having an emotional breakdown again. And boy do his words cut like a knife. I'm living alone in a totally new place for 9 months now and I haven't been interacting with people at that duration
He is totally right in everything he said, but what if you have never experienced real failure or shock and still you have no desire to carry on? What if you have almost nothing to keep pushing yourself to the next day? It`s not the fear of fail or rejection, because you know that if you tried hard enough, you would definitely reach something, but you just see no point in doing it. There is less and less sense in going to university every day, in doing your hobby, DOING at all. The one thing that really scares me is that I would exist the rest of my life with these thoughts. It`s just... why?
Anastasia Ivankiv Read or listen to Eckhart Tolle and his story of enlightenment. You are seeking, not a bad place to be.
Sounds silly, but...walk around the block. Getting into that habit changed my life. Just moving around and being outdoors feels amazing after a few minutes. I've also met a few sunny neighbors, admittedly, that took a while.
what about loneliness? not physically surrounding people, not socializing stuff, but true bond with someone? how connected are you to at least few people?
My girlfriend broke up with me now with the coronovirus disease. Felt unfair and couldn't do much due to the lack of meeting her in person . This video helped a lot today i decided to help myself. As much as i wanted this disease to end and meet her in person to talk to her,now i m thinking that it doesnt help i will have to heartbeat for a month or 2, which would be a huge mess for my already broken heart :( She doesn't respect that, she doesn't deserve to be with me! We gotta use our selfish genes, guide us every now and then in order to stay strong !
This talk is really so Beautiful. Listened to it Before and just found it again.
I love this Ted talk - very personal and insightful!!
This man's voice is INCREDIBLY soothing
I don't like a lot of videos but I had to like this one. Thank you for this talk and the rich message it carries. :)
Ya Zhang Same.
That's a strange thing to be in the habit of doing... if you enjoyed a video, you should like it and show appreciation to the person who made it
My favourite TED talk so far. So relatable. I just agree so much. It made me tear up.
Can't remember how many times I've watched this one & shared with others. One of my most favorite TED talks
This guy is doing exactly what God created him to do.
All the worlds religions grew out of the ancient peoples making up stories about the sun, moon and stars. There are no gods, and all life has been evolving for a couple of billion years into what we see today. If you want good mental health, then stop believing in the non-existent, self deluding fallacy of 'gods'. i hope you get better soon.
Ray Weston Nah, because the only reason I haven’t committed suicide is because I believe in God, so what you need to do is mind your business and allow people to believe. If you have no beliefs in your life, then you believe in nothing, including yourself.
@@SG-bh6th You haven't committed suicide because YOU were a strong person. An imaginary friend had nothing to do with it. Allowing people to believe any ridiculous nonsense for no reason is doing them a disservice, what they should be doing is exactly what you hinted at: believing in themselves instead of a higher power.
LaurensVRC No, I literally didn’t commit suicide because of my belief. I knew that after going to church ending my life wasn’t the answer. Don’t you dare tell me why I haven’t committed suicide because you’re not me. Do not speak for me, nor think for me, I’m capable of doing so myself.
@@SG-bh6th - I would not want anyone to kill themself, of course, but if you wish to delude yourself, that is up to you.
I believe in humanity, amongst other things, but certainly not in a farcical 'god'.
Your 'mind your own business' comment is strange, given you then tell me I 'believe in nothing, including myself'. But then. as a 'believer' this paradox view is appropriate.
If you don't like others relpying to what you write, don't comment here!
I've been rejected so many times that if I say something positive, to myself, I ultimately get afraid that I will be wrong with my positive thinking, and get hurt again. It's become a habit I'm trying to break, because not only does it affects my emotional health, but my physical health has started to stuff allong with it. Often times I see the people around me prioritizing physical health over emotional and mental health, and it concerns me greatly because I know what it is like to cast aside my feelings because I thought it was the right thing to do. Now, I'm going to try my best to get out of this habit. I have so many wonderful relationships waiting for me, that I've tried to push aside because of overthinking and loneliness, and I'm tired of it. I'm going to do my best to reach out to these people and clear up everything.
Amazing TED talk! We all needed to hear this!
i have been dealing with Loneliness and rejection lately and just hearing this guy talk i found calm (even if its just for a while) this video was really helpful
Thank you. The body is just an extension of the human mind. You made that point that all of us can take our mental health as seriously as physical health. Take care of ALL of you, but start with the mind.
I Love this video so much.Thank you so much Guy Winch and TED. I really needed this. Infact, we all need this. Its exactly what I needed right now. I feel like ill have to watch it again and again to keep reminding myself this. You have my like.
this is one of my favorite ted talks
wow, i learned so much from this. everyone needs to hear this amazing speech!!
that was so great! I am blessed to hear your speech. thank you.
The way he talks is so captivating.
One of my favorite TEDx talks. One of the best as well! :)
He explains so well with his soothing voice.
Truth. I’ve been alone but never felt lonely. For those that do I hope each one can sometimes find peace🌹 That whole thing about failure...now that’s a different story. I have suffered mightily with tests. Got to come at it differently after hearing this explanation. Even when we know a truth it’s hard to overcome that devil on the shoulder sometimes😒
**bump** on a good #TEDTALK on Practicing Emotional First Aid. One day, the parts of being human that we cannot physically see, will be as honored and nurtured as well as the physical. Until then, let's continue with this dialogue. Let's continue sharing our stories, and build a community to encourage emotional well being. Let's continue sharing our vulnerabilities and triumphs, focusing on strengths and embracing those who do not understand. #mentalhealth #therapy #psychology
+Boontarika Sripom I agree with your comment. I believe that emotional health is very important and sharing triumphs and failures is a great way to initiate dialogue.
You're a beautiful woman.
This talk was 8 years ago but still relevant today. People should listen to this again and again.
This came in the perfectly right time Jesus Christ… nobody talks about rumination at all, knowing someone is doing worse and not knowing how to deal with not being to help them is such a painful feeling. Yeah they might say “I’ll deal with it” or “I’m positive that I’ll be fine” but you sometimes can’t help but sympathise how much their going through and feel bad for not sharing the same feeling… Bro I really needed this this thank you 13:44 btw
5 minute phone call with your family per week?! Wow, sounds like heaven!
Mental health is so often undervalued. I believe in the power of education. Watching this video can be the first step to change our approach!
People who know how the minds of humans work and who are still able to function as a social person are more amazing than most doctors i know
1. Pay Attention to Emotional Pain(Dealing with failure and believe you can succeed)
2. Stop emotional bleeding(stop further hurting self-esteem after failure and rejection)
3. Protect your self-esteem(stop rewinding on negative memories),
4. Battle Negative Thinking(heal and build emotional resilience)
damn! why cant youtube suggest me such good videos like this one......very good message i got today from this video......
this is the best talk i have ever heard
Yes!!! This is so true. Everything about this ted talk was brilliant!
Powerfull how you talk to us! Wish all docters thinking were thinking the same as you ! I wached your other video about a broken heart. You are so right! I have been there since 2,5 year ago my relationship ended by my love of my life... first year around christmas time i was soooo grieving, in the dark..depressed, crying etc. Next year it was a bit better. At this moment there is still some work to do, but feel better. The loneliness....like nothing is worthwhile anymore. So useless. I am working still on it. Sometimes i feel i will overcome it ! And then it feels less. But i want to overcome it now. Only now my man is trying to weel me in again since a year already... i am fighting with myself what to do. I love him still, but am causious. Then think of all the grieve and should not even think about it... but there is also the love whats pulling me. I havent decided yet....if i want to take a risk or say this is the end of it. But even in the last case, i think i will have a better closure then before. Thank you for your sight in this. I will keep my health and hart in focus !
I could relate to that story of loneliness when he thought his brother didn't call. When he realized he could have called, I also realized that I could be doing more to reach out to people. I have to fight the thought that I am a bother to others and that they'll reject me.
Just what I needed to help myself. Searching and finding the right help, I am feeling better by the way he explained what I am going through. May God bless you for helping me and I am sure so many others just like me. Thank you so much.