@@godspurple4805 I FEEL you it's like most of the collective is avoidant 😒 but once you be by yourself and heal you'll attract options that are secure just keep the faith 🤞🏾❤️
Oooooh girl I dated a man just like that. As soon as things were going really good and he got vulnerable with me bam ghosted! Then he would come back again like a yo-yo until finally I ended communication for good. That was the best decision I could’ve made for myself and my mental health. Gave myself time to heal and then I was open and free to meet my now fiancé. I have someone who treats me how I deserve to be treated and we have a beautiful friendship. I found out later that past man had abandonment issues from being in foster care and I am sending him love and healing from afar.
I had a relationship EXACTLY like this! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️It took me 4 times to understand this was toxic and unhealthy. Things would be going good, then he would found a way to sabotage and then break up with me and leave. Time would pass and he would come back literally crying, begging for another chance. He would regain my trust, love bomb me and then repeat the same cycle. Life is a teacher, I had to learn.
His emotional disconnection from you is giving him permission to treat you badly, if you recognize that you cut him loose because you are better, you deserve better.
Omg that was like watching a movie. You're an amazing storyteller. My ass would be all over the place telling the story all messed up lol. But the lesson you taught overall was the icing on the cake. Thank you for sharing. You are appreciated ❤❤❤
Wow MJ sorry you had to learn such a hard lesson. I married my high school sweetheart. We had 3 kids together. He left me for his bottle of booze and another woman. Sadly I loved him so much that for awhile I'd fall for his I want my family back 😢 I learned that his booze was more important than the kids and I. Sadly again he drank himself to death 2 years ago. He was homeless and living in a church parking lot. He drank hand sanitizer and alcohol. It was a fatal combination. I lived my life without him and raised our children and have 5 beautiful grandchildren. I will never be 2nd best to anyone and you shouldn't either! Much love ❤️
Yes... The hot and cold, in and out, way less reasonable excuses.. been learning about narcissists.. and It sounds like Gary might be one. He thought he could love bomb you back, no matter how much damage he caused. Thank you for sharing 🥂🙏🏽💚
I LOVED this story time, MJ. At this life point, I value MYSELF too much to engage on any level with anyone AFRAID to give of themselves regardless of the nature of the relationship. Have signed off on friends and some family. It was righteous to do so because I AM VALUABLE by Grace and Glory‼️
MJ l am 68 years old woman and I going through what you stated with someone he's 68 yrs initially we met 26 yrs ago we played that dance through out yrs it's just now my old foolish self realize what you eloquently and profoundly conveyed.
Chile I was about to watch a movie but MJ you won😂 It was worth every minute☺ Ironically, I just prayed about this & was led to hear this!!! God's answer🙌🙏🏼
These guys got gameS! I used to fall for the gameS, but life taught me some VALUABLE LESSONS! There are SIGNS! I look at ALL the SIGNS everywhere. Looking at the signs can help prevent a CRASH! Toxic people don’t even love themselves so don’t expect them to love you. Thanks for video!
MJ, you just told my story. After a year on and off with this man, I realized that it was a game and he was also seeing someone else. So I spent the Xmas and New Years with him and then told him that i had to break it off! 🙃 the back and forth got to my physche. He sent me 2 long abusive and disrespectful texts to which I didn't respond. I told him I couldn't continue another day with the drama...I feel liberated, although I miss him...I think it's the trauma bond , but I'm done-I need to love me more than I love him plus my sanity is paramount. Thanks for sharing your story, it's confirmation.
WOW! What an emotional rollercoaster ride! I’m so glad you stood your ground & decided Enough is Enough!💯By the way, you’re a Great Story Teller, I sat up straight & had my face ALL up in my iPad.
You betta preach. Ppl love the way they love. Doesnt mean they dont love you. Its their way, whether toxic or dysfunctional. Its so important that you were able to let go of that dude. He didnt deserve you.
After listening to Mj, I had to subscribe to his channel. He's a great storyteller. I'm impressed how he showed you can love someone and let them go in a nice way. Mj showed 😂me how to dismiss someone in a nice way.
You hit the nail on the head, I went through the same thing, sick mother in another state...bla, bla, bla. I got him goid, wanted to come over, Booty Call, and I said NO.... He begged and I stood my ground, didn't answer any calls or texts. I wasted years on him and was DONE. ENOUGH!!!
So sorry for you. I hope you heal. I've been taught how to master these things, reconciling isn't easy and not for everyone who still not healed. Be happy with you
MJ I love your story time. I have a very attention span so 5 minutes of someone talking I’m bored as hell. But you can hold my attention straight from beginning to the end.
I keep catching myself having to re-sit myself back on the couch, I got this wine while listening to you Baaabeh if I fall forward off this couch one more time 😂😂😂😂
Dang MJ Gary turned out to be a runner. I been through that it is heartbreaking!!! And that’s right you have to love yourself enough to not go through that again and again. What an amazing story you had me on the edge of my seat!!! Btw that jacket is Beautiful and your skin looks amazing ! ❤
Thank you for loving life. Thank you for living a life worth sharing with others so we can learn from. Thank you for being so free with yourself to be apart of these kinds of experiences. We are blessed to your best friends. You always tell us things we need to know.
MJ, you are a great storyteller. I was on the edge of my seat. The best line was when said my heart is not a timeshare.....I'm glad you realized that relationship was not good for you. Can't wait for the next storytime!
This 'Garry' guy is a big baby and he seeks validation. The moment he gets it he is gone....it's almost like he wants to prove something to himself. It's possible he uses drugs and steroids, and gets paranoid a bit. Good video, MJ. We need this!
I have to say This story was so strong and deep I want to thank you Mj for your story It was so heart felt that I we’re Setting right next to you and listening to your story I would have just Put my arms around you and just hold you and say to you you gonna be all right you are Love baby you are Love. Some may have been there but some have not. But you we’re better than that baby 👍🏽 Thumbs up to you you became strong 👍🏽 🥰
MJ you are wonderful story teller. Your messages are clear and concise about how we should love ourselves enough to walk away from a toxic situation. Keep the videos coming.
Heartbreaker Gary! Yes, Hunty...we remember. Love your story times, especially when it's a GRWM Storytime! ❤️ Get in here, get in here, get in here. Shared! 😜
The last 10 secs hit me hard‼️ this video was right on time! I’m going through a similar situation now & didn’t know how to end it. You just gave me clarity & the right words. Thanks MJ!!
I’m in tears because I was once that person who was afraid of commitment (due to trauma as a child from a family member) I hated hurting the person I was with, but It was a control thing. I have since learned from, healed from, and grown from. God Bless you for telling your story. I was able to recognize my past issue with commitment and recognize and block relationships that I allowed do the same to me. 🙏🏽
With that being said, at times we are the very toxic person, that needs to change. We also allow toxic people in our lives for a reason. I have allowed God to highlight and heal me from being that toxic person, and heal me from allowing toxic people in my life. Thanks again, this story time was so refreshing.
These types are exhausting & so frustrating. I’m glad you finally saw the light & took care of your own heart. Obviously, he didn’t really care what he was doing to it 😢
You are absolutely right. He did not want a committed relationship and was probably seeing another man whenever he left. He was definitely love bombing you and making you believe that he was going to marry you. He cried and put on an act. You did the right thing by letting him go. He was playing games. That's cruel!
Watch the prior video in this series to learn how to met Gary.. th-cam.com/video/kqUkOXGs6q8/w-d-xo.html
I saw this just yesterday
I love your stories. ❤️🤣
Me too!!!
Nobody complemented his blazer do you see sunshine. Shine baby🙂 💜👍. Gods special delights of creation. Encouraging and inspiration to be better. 🥰👍👂😌
@@MichelleLPacheco1111111111111111111111
Why am I nodding my head like it’s just you and me having this conversation? 😂🤣
😂😂 right
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I enjoyed our conversation ❤😂
Rite! Lmao
Ikr.. its like im on face time
He was definitely avoidant 😒🥺🥺 those type of people are so mentally and emotionally draining and when they leave they leave you with trauma
Yup and it hurts so bad 😢
@@godspurple4805 I FEEL you it's like most of the collective is avoidant 😒 but once you be by yourself and heal you'll attract options that are secure just keep the faith 🤞🏾❤️
MJ u had me sitting on the edge of my seat… love how u draw us in… CANT no one tell a story like u ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Very well said.
Me too
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Period
Always. lol
Oooooh girl I dated a man just like that. As soon as things were going really good and he got vulnerable with me bam ghosted! Then he would come back again like a yo-yo until finally I ended communication for good. That was the best decision I could’ve made for myself and my mental health. Gave myself time to heal and then I was open and free to meet my now fiancé. I have someone who treats me how I deserve to be treated and we have a beautiful friendship. I found out later that past man had abandonment issues from being in foster care and I am sending him love and healing from afar.
My HEART is Not Some Timeshare you can stop into when you feel like taking a break from the rest of the World. WOW MJ! That was deep.
"Love yourself enough to let go of anyone who doesn't love you the way you deserve" I love it, thank you for sharing your story 💖
I so agree!!!
That's called a narcissist! Don't ever go back to your past to get hurt again. I've been there and I had to learn the hard way
One red flag was when he felt uncomfortable around your friends. He didn't want them there to see him or to question him. He felt guilty.
I had a relationship EXACTLY like this! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️It took me 4 times to understand this was toxic and unhealthy. Things would be going good, then he would found a way to sabotage and then break up with me and leave. Time would pass and he would come back literally crying, begging for another chance. He would regain my trust, love bomb me and then repeat the same cycle. Life is a teacher, I had to learn.
He is a Narcissist
@@SherrekaMcCulloughabsolutely
His emotional disconnection from you is giving him permission to treat you badly, if you recognize that you cut him loose because you are better, you deserve better.
Omg that was like watching a movie. You're an amazing storyteller. My ass would be all over the place telling the story all messed up lol. But the lesson you taught overall was the icing on the cake. Thank you for sharing. You are appreciated ❤❤❤
MJ my name is Cynthia and I have never heard of you but Darling, I’m totally impressed by you learning a lot. I can’t wait until the book comes out.
I JUST did this with a man who's been dancing to this song for 5yrs!!!! I released myself from him 2-19-2023!!!!
Congratulations
Wow MJ sorry you had to learn such a hard lesson. I married my high school sweetheart. We had 3 kids together. He left me for his bottle of booze and another woman. Sadly I loved him so much that for awhile I'd fall for his I want my family back 😢 I learned that his booze was more important than the kids and I. Sadly again he drank himself to death 2 years ago. He was homeless and living in a church parking lot. He drank hand sanitizer and alcohol. It was a fatal combination. I lived my life without him and raised our children and have 5 beautiful grandchildren. I will never be 2nd best to anyone and you shouldn't either! Much love ❤️
He’s good at handling others.
Your friend saw his true colors and he cant confront his behaviors. Good friend!
This was so good, l couldn't even go to the bathroom without taking you with me lol,Amen love yourself enough to let go.
Wow. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. God bless you my friend 🙏💞
Yes... The hot and cold, in and out, way less reasonable excuses.. been learning about narcissists.. and It sounds like Gary might be one. He thought he could love bomb you back, no matter how much damage he caused. Thank you for sharing 🥂🙏🏽💚
I don't know how u have so much strength to hold your composer and your so smart & intelligent in how u carry yourself im so impressed
I'd be mentally messed up after all the experiences being described.
MJ I just closed this very door myself and needed this for confirmation that I did the right thing by walking away. Thank you love. 💚
I LOVED this story time, MJ. At this life point, I value MYSELF too much to engage on any level with anyone AFRAID to give of themselves regardless of the nature of the relationship. Have signed off on friends and some family. It was righteous to do so because I AM VALUABLE by Grace and Glory‼️
MJ l am 68 years old woman and I going through what you stated with someone he's 68 yrs initially we met 26 yrs ago we played that dance through out yrs it's just now my old foolish self realize what you eloquently and profoundly conveyed.
I dated a guy like that. I respect your strength! I couldn’t go thru it anymore because it’s too painful!💔
You definitely had me locked in baby, that ending was everything!❤️
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I'm the same way. At 67 years old, I only give one man the time of day if they are showing me they're showing they're interested in me.
Chile I was about to watch a movie but MJ you won😂 It was worth every minute☺ Ironically, I just prayed about this & was led to hear this!!! God's answer🙌🙏🏼
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These guys got gameS! I used to fall for the gameS, but life taught me some VALUABLE LESSONS! There are SIGNS! I look at ALL the SIGNS everywhere. Looking at the signs can help prevent a CRASH! Toxic people don’t even love themselves so don’t expect them to love you. Thanks for video!
I love how you’re so brutally honest with us!!! ❤
we eventually learned from our mistakes even if it meant learning the hard way
MJ, you just told my story. After a year on and off with this man, I realized that it was a game and he was also seeing someone else. So I spent the Xmas and New Years with him and then told him that i had to break it off! 🙃 the back and forth got to my physche. He sent me 2 long abusive and disrespectful texts to which I didn't respond. I told him I couldn't continue another day with the drama...I feel liberated, although I miss him...I think it's the trauma bond , but I'm done-I need to love me more than I love him plus my sanity is paramount.
Thanks for sharing your story, it's confirmation.
*standing ovation at the end* WHEW CHILD. You deserve an Oscar 😍
This is like one of them novels our moms were reading that we ain't had no business opening 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I used to take my mom’s books and read them on lunch at school lol 😂
@@MJHarrisSpeaks yop 🤣🤣🤣
Glad I'm not the only one who did that. 😩😩😩
WOW! What an emotional rollercoaster ride! I’m so glad you stood your ground & decided Enough is Enough!💯By the way, you’re a Great Story Teller, I sat up straight & had my face ALL up in my iPad.
Okaaaaayyyy
Hello
I promise you his story times got me through the pandemic🫣🤭🤷♀️
Girl you and I both 😂❤❤❤
@mjharrisspeaks2 You are a GREAT teacher . You should have a school !! 😘
Nobody does “Story-time” like you!❤
I love the way you dismissed him. Very classy and full of SELF LOVE ❤❤❤❤
I hope all of this is just stories. Because to many men . People are crazy out their. Be safe. Good luck...
Toni Braxton Moment Honey ‼️
7 Whole Days & Not A Word From You 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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U have helped me so much. I love u. Thx for all the advice and sharing ur life with us. I appreciate you.
You're very welcome!
You betta preach. Ppl love the way they love. Doesnt mean they dont love you. Its their way, whether toxic or dysfunctional. Its so important that you were able to let go of that dude. He didnt deserve you.
MJ you are the best story teller 🥰
Sweetie big egos do bruise easy and you are one heck of a strong person love your personality ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹
Your stories make me feel like I'm there
When you finally get through him, you will realize that you wasn't for him.
After listening to Mj, I had to subscribe to his channel. He's a great storyteller. I'm impressed how he showed you can love someone and let them go in a nice way. Mj showed 😂me how to dismiss someone in a nice way.
I was in a relationship on this very topic. I left him in pain, but I learned about myself 💕
Agree!!! I was in a similar situation, it had hurt me to leave but I had to now I'm in a better place taking care of me
They NEVER come back for you!! Your easy TARGET! They know you still love them and your being USED!!
This is powerful especially the last 5 minutes
I'm sooooo glad I found your channel!! You are truly a gifted story teller!! Omgz I frigging love you♥️♥️♥️🧸🧸
MJ great message. You have to love yourself more. ❤
Yes this happened to me last 3 yrs. I fell for it every time.
You tell the best stories, it’s like reading a good book that keeps me wanting to read more! Definitely had to subscribe!
Amen. Life is so short. For all that mess
You hit the nail on the head, I went through the same thing, sick mother in another state...bla, bla, bla. I got him goid, wanted to come over, Booty Call, and I said NO.... He begged and I stood my ground, didn't answer any calls or texts. I wasted years on him and was DONE. ENOUGH!!!
You have been so real FROM JUST! Thank You for sharing THIS!! Now on to your next video!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m dying!!! Oh lord best friend i LOOOOOOOVE story times with you. ❤😂
I feel the "void" is awareness. I smile for your honesty, and being yourself. I love your time is valuable and your pattern is getting stronger. Hug.I
Using You for his pleasure and afraid of connection.
So sorry for you. I hope you heal. I've been taught how to master these things, reconciling isn't easy and not for everyone who still not healed. Be happy with you
MJ I love your story time. I have a very attention span so 5 minutes of someone talking I’m bored as hell. But you can hold my attention straight from beginning to the end.
I had to stop that break up and getting back together.
That is emotionally draining.
MJ, this is sooo exciting, I love your story time!!! 💓
Yup that rushing crap scares me. Lawd definitely not taking anyone that hurt me back into my life. You told him MJ 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 Thank you MJ ❤️
Come on, Savanah and Kenneth from waiting to exhale type of story time at the beginning, love it.
I keep catching myself having to re-sit myself back on the couch, I got this wine while listening to you Baaabeh if I fall forward off this couch one more time 😂😂😂😂
Dang MJ Gary turned out to be a runner. I been through that it is heartbreaking!!! And that’s right you have to love yourself enough to not go through that again and again. What an amazing story you had me on the edge of my seat!!! Btw that jacket is Beautiful and your skin looks amazing ! ❤
Thank you for loving life. Thank you for living a life worth sharing with others so we can learn from. Thank you for being so free with yourself to be apart of these kinds of experiences. We are blessed to your best friends. You always tell us things we need to know.
MJ, you are a great storyteller. I was on the edge of my seat. The best line was when said my heart is not a timeshare.....I'm glad you realized that relationship was not good for you. Can't wait for the next storytime!
This 'Garry' guy is a big baby and he seeks validation. The moment he gets it he is gone....it's almost like he wants to prove something to himself. It's possible he uses drugs and steroids, and gets paranoid a bit. Good video, MJ. We need this!
I have to say This story was so strong and deep I want to thank you Mj for your story It was so heart felt that I we’re Setting right next to you and listening to your story I would have just Put my arms around you and just hold you and say to you you gonna be all right you are Love baby you are Love. Some may have been there but some have not. But you we’re better than that baby 👍🏽 Thumbs up to you you became strong 👍🏽 🥰
These are good nuggets I wish I knew as a young woman.
MJ, your skin is amazing!
Love yourself enough to let go and let it be.
I love that Yo-yo analogy.that is exactly what came to mind during this story time.
Chile im definitely baited just like all the rest 😝 🎣 I love your stories 😂😂😂
MJ you are wonderful story teller. Your messages are clear and concise about how we should love ourselves enough to walk away from a toxic situation. Keep the videos coming.
This was so beautiful oh my god. This spoke to me on a while mother level.
You are THEE best story teller. I love it. Can't get enough of you❤️
👏 👏 You took your power back!!!!!
This is a wakeup call for me , iv been with someone like this for over 4 years and she is gives excuses and brings up.arguments
Omg!!! Is 6am in Utah and by accident I came to this video and this guy has me hooked with This story.
Heartbreaker Gary! Yes, Hunty...we remember. Love your story times, especially when it's a GRWM Storytime! ❤️ Get in here, get in here, get in here. Shared! 😜
MJ, Girlllllll! You had me Hollering and Rolling on the floor with laughter and Envy.
You have me late for my physical therapy had to finish listening to you
It’s so hard to do but it will be worth it in the end. ALWAYS love yourself first ❤️ Thank you MJ ❤️
Powerful Message!!!
Thanks for sharing.
The last 10 secs hit me hard‼️ this video was right on time! I’m going through a similar situation now & didn’t know how to end it. You just gave me clarity & the right words. Thanks MJ!!
You're so intriguing and captivating.
It felt like I was listening to one of those story novels part 1 and 2…wow great story and lesson thank you for sharing ♥️….his lost.
Right!
Amen. I benefitted from your truth.
Wow The Story Was Awesom ❤
I’m in tears because I was once that person who was afraid of commitment (due to trauma as a child from a family member) I hated hurting the person I was with, but It was a control thing. I have since learned from, healed from, and grown from. God Bless you for telling your story. I was able to recognize my past issue with commitment and recognize and block relationships that I allowed do the same to me. 🙏🏽
With that being said, at times we are the very toxic person, that needs to change. We also allow toxic people in our lives for a reason. I have allowed God to highlight and heal me from being that toxic person, and heal me from allowing toxic people in my life. Thanks again, this story time was so refreshing.
Did you ever reach back out to the person you let go?
This story was EVERYTHING!! That ending! 🎯 🎯
I’m sooo glued to this story I even took you with me to the grocery shop 🫢 you such a good storyteller.
Very enlightening story. I'm happy you were strong enough to put you first
These types are exhausting & so frustrating. I’m glad you finally saw the light & took care of your own heart. Obviously, he didn’t really care what he was doing to it 😢
Noah’s ARC vibes…🥰🥰🥰
I’m triggered…wow!!! I feel this whole heartedly. Thank you for sharing…I’ve been going thru this for years.
You are absolutely right. He did not want a committed relationship and was probably seeing another man whenever he left. He was definitely love bombing you and making you believe that he was going to marry you. He cried and put on an act. You did the right thing by letting him go. He was playing games. That's cruel!