Childhood impacts can last a lifetime. Very happy that they’re showing this side of parenthood and how they can effect a child’s connection to something as simple as food.
Its interesting to see an eating disorder portrayed in this way. Usually it’s a girl trying to get thin so see can be “beautiful” but I appreciate this portrayal.
@@siddharth8532 This is an eating disorder. As a male that struggled with this same mindset as this guy all throughout my teens and even early 20’s (I’m mid 20’s now and much better) this is an eating disorder. Sometimes you can’t even tell if someone has one. Not everyone with an eating disorder is extremely thin.
This part really hit me. I used to be obese (180 lbs), my parents would always tell me to stop eating because I was fat. Then I got sick (with food trauma) and became Anorexic, I lost half my weight and was down to 90 lbs. I would only eat 300 calories a day because I was scared to eat (I would get panic attacks just thinking of eating). My mom would cry a lot saying that I needed to eat. So even though my story isn't exactly the same as the drama I could still relate. It's been 7 years since that time in my life and I'm now doing better with food and have been able to maintain a healthy weight at 107 lbs.
Broke my heart. Sometimes our somewhat good intentions become the cause that hold our children back and cause them trauma as they grow. This scene hurt alot
It's not good intentions, it's an obsession from the mother's part. Good intention comes from goodwill, while she did it all because she was blinded by her own pain.
I watched the first episode of the series. My mom is exactly the same as his mom, cruel, cold and harsh. Plus, my mom would physically beat me and verbally abuse me if I didn’t get a good grade. Everything is valid for the sake of going to a good college and having a successful career. They might mean well, but the trauma is for life. My mom thinks she is the best mom in the whole world and I no longer speak to her, just like him. The irony is that my mom used to be high school teacher before she retired.
Your mom treated you the "best way" she thought. All parents were victims of their parents so they threat their children as best way they can... I think you should talk to her at least on hollidays, please don't cut off contact
There are some people that yes, they were impacted by their life, but under no means have the right to inflict pain to their children! My mother had a similar mother to yours and she was awful to her , doing a lot of pretty harsh things to her. She did have a bad ubringing, but after some time, you are responsible for your own actions. We were no contact with her for almost 20 years and my mom has been the happiest she has ever been. Don't feel bad for not contacting your mother. She sounds like an evil person and got what she deserves.
@@fedoua5243 Well, my grandparents, which are my mom’s parents, never laid a hand on their six kids, including my mom. They are actually one of the most happy couples I have ever seen. My mom never endured any physical or verbal abuse from them. It is more the other way around. My mom has OCD. She would order around my grandfather to clean. One time, he threw her out of his house, because my mom yelled at him for not washing his hands before dinner… Growing up, my parents fought a lot. I wanted them to get a divorce. But they didn’t. My mom has serious mood swing. She would be happy and chatty, and then a minute later, she would slap me on my face because I didn’t agree with her. My teenager years were so tough. I wouldn’t had pulled through if I didn’t have a loving father… In fact, my dad is a victim too. I gave her many chances, but she squandered them. Every time, I told her all the pain she inflicted on me, she would be outrageous calling me an ungrateful brat. She can’t accept the fact that she was ever wrong. It took me ten years to accept the fact that she loves her ego much much more than me. And I am at peace with it. My life has never been better. What I am trying to say is that cut all the toxic things and people off your life. It works.
Do hyun is the best of the best in this age of actors. He does everything perfect and makes you fall in love with his character no matter how unbelievable it might be.
tf. my mother always tells me "HOW WILL YOU GET THE ENERGY TO STUDY WELL IF YOU DON'T EAT?? DO YOU WANNA DIE IN STRESS? EAT FULL SO THAT YOU HAVE ENERGY KIDDO. COME HERE AND EAT" that's how my mom is and i thought it was normal- wtf is with this sick household, not letting a kid eat? my parents would never
@@sunnissi6026even i dont get the idea out here, been fed so much by my mom that after exam she has to literally tell me , now exams are over you need to loose some weight now 😂
My mom would bring me snacks while I was in my room studying. She always made sure I ate because I have the habit of focusing on nothing but my work. She would freak out if she thinks I am exercising too hard and not eating enough. We were fortunate to have such parents!
I kinda know that feeling. My parents would always say no to me, they thought if they said yes even for once, I'll get out of their control. Mom would beat me really hard and scare me with everything she would see in front of her. Just bcz I listened to them afterwards doesn't mean that I did it out of respect and wasn't emotionally hurt. When they ruin our childhood, it hurts more than anything in the world
@@zarinsubah1121 I'm glad to hear that you have some good friend. At least you can share, I hope in future you meet a lot of good people and have good time too.
I really love Do Hyun! I'm in fact obsessed but I'm not watching this series because I'm not strong enough to watch this. I know I would be shattered with pain!💔
The love story in the series is quite interesting, and presumably he and his girlfriend had twin babies, but they haven't revealed the father yet, but it's obvious as they loved each other so much. She even took care of the finances so he could give bar exams, and they even stayed together, but unfortunately, they broke up, and the reason hasn't been revealed yet. You should as it's giving good vibes(maybe because of the twins 😊) and even in the trailer they said it's a story to find lost happiness so l doubt they have a sad ending.
@@KD_k1978 even I thought it’s a good series too but the thing is he clearly has mommy issues at least complicated relationship with his mom and I have a similar story. So I thought watching this might effect me mentally as I have an important exam coming. I’ll watch it once I’m done. Even I’m tempted watch it after seeing those twins❤️
This is not about the drama but I'm so happy that La Miran is finally getting the recognition that she deserves Her and Lee Do Hyun's acting is amazing
She's seriously asking why? It took this to happen for her to realize the damage she's done and the garbage she beat into his head his whole life? She reminds me of my mother and her not getting why I have anger and emotional control issues. Parents really need to be more aware of the long term effects the things they do and say have, and also not eating enough if you need to study is what will make you tired as you won't have the energy for your brain to fully function and take everything in.
there is a difference between just saying and forcing Our parents just say its upto us to obay or not And visibly she forced him so much all the time that he had to hide his food
They "tell" to not feel bad but they actually force like the mom kept saying stuff like that but she basically forced him to the point he had to hide the food and to the point he gave up and just starved
it's been a few weeks since i watched this show and this scene in particular still lives rent-free inside my head. It just broke me. The acting really is something else.
I'm thankful for having a mother like mine. 🥺 On the first day of collage, She literally told me I can quit collage if anyone bully me there. I'm going to call her and tell her I love her so much 🥺
This was how I feel when it comes to how my mother and older sister warn me when it comes to the things I adore so much and this was one of effects of not just the degradation of my self-esteem but also indulgence of the little things I used to enjoy so much as a kid.
After seeing comment section, I feel blessed to have one of the best mother (meri maa)❤ Though I was studious in my childhood yet my parents never pressurized me for good grades, it was always my own choice. Whenever I got less marks, they encouraged me and used to say, "it's ok. You'll get best in next exam." And whenever she feels I am sad even now(I am 25year now), my mother cooks my favourite food and papa buys ice creams for whole family. Believe me or not if you have parents who make you feel that they are always there for you no matter what the situation is and trust you, is the best feeling ever being a daughter. I love them a lot and ofcourse I am their whole world ❤ Maa papa I'll make you proud very soon 🍁 PS: sorry for bad English as it's not my first language.
@@yachichuu sad to know but I hope whenever you will be a parent, you will not do the same with your child. You will be a better parent and a good friend to your child 💓 and your child will be able to say it loudly, " no matter how cruel the world is, as long as you are by my side, I can survive."🙂
@@mahi_digiart I dont want my child to suffer how much I suffered. Luckily, I have a wonderful husband who will always remind me to not become like my parents
That’s why u need to have good parents to lead a healthy life in the future 😭i hate the mom. She is a mom who is supposed to care for the child when no one does. But she is the one hurting him the most. Now she can be good because the guy lost the memory but what if she didn’t get a chance to change. Why people be good when something worst happens and why can’t they be like that from before 😞
Actually i can relate this so much,,, at young age i felt like they have done good for me ,, but now i know they just ruined my childhood,, i am a medical student now ,,but the trauma i got,,, i can read well with beautiful memories also... But no i haven’t a single good memory.. Now a days i don’t feel any emotions for my dad... I knkw it's cruel.. But what can i do if it doesn’t come from my heart
@@lily3384 no she's a shit mother who emotionally tormented her son to the point where he can't even fully enjoy a meal without thinking "what will mom do to me?" Good mom my ass
I guess you could say that. Even she's done everything out of good will, that doesn't mean that the mental and emotional trauma that his son faced because of her will ever be justified by her good deeds.
@@zenitsulevi6488 definitely intent doesn't matter especially if the person on the other end is suffering. Also it seemed kinda spiteful especially given that she blames him for his dad's death
just because you are parents does not give you a free pass to do anything to your children. sometimes you have to walk away from these parents to get some type of sanity. mental illness is real 💜
Because she is the only one who is taking care of him Durning his worst condition...mother can do everything for her childern..but sometimes it goes wrong.
@@doran2162 Taking care of him? That's her job as a mom. For what we've seen so far she's not a "good" bad mother; she's simply a bad one. Having "good" intentions it doesn't count if the method you use is mentally abusing your kid.
@@VilmaMks she can just left him there at his worst conditions but she never did that mother take care of there children because they love them not because it's there job
I hate when parents weaponize food against you. When I was a kid I was an early bloomer and had a slightly thicker body compared to my thinner older sister. My parents constantly made comments that I was getting too fat and needed to lose weight, even though I was just a child and knew nothing about dieting. Relatives and family friends would praise how thin and pretty my sister was while barely acknowledging me. Eventually I developed depression and an eating disorder. In my early adulthood I gained so much weight from the anti-depressants that the body shaming got worse. I did manage to lose weight and only then did people started paying attention to me more. However, this did not make me happy. It only made me more desperate to keep off the weight, so I started doing extreme diets and even secretly spat out my food. I especially get triggered whenever my mom tried to push me to eat more or tell me how to eat. It felt like I had no control over something as enjoyable as food.
Its not always about the ways to discipline your kids, debbie. Its portraying what you need to avoid doing when given the opportunity to have a child, childhood trauma has a serious impact on people's lives. And thats what the show is portraying.
@@KO17743 Bully and any type of abuse are usually started within the family and from family members. Discipline comes in many different forms. If you work for a company when you don't follow the protocol you get discipline it is part of life, you can't avoid it. But what the adult and parents should be doing is before choosing to discipline first, please explain and communicate with the kids why and how can we do better as a family. also, the " Culture" itself needs to get rebuilt as well.
I think we as the one inflicted by this unecessary trauma should end the cycle, theres no excuse on being not knowing or we uncapable of love even if its not our kid maybe to other people, nobody deserve this trauma, but, everyone deserve a good future and theres a way for that, society need to care for each rather than being selfish, thats why things like this happen
The love story in the series is quite interesting, and presumably he and his girlfriend had twin babies, but they haven't revealed the father yet, but it's obvious as they loved each other so much. She even took care of the finances so he could give bar exams, and they even stayed together, but unfortunately, they broke up, and the reason hasn't been revealed yet.
What Asian parents fail to realize is they punish their kids, thinking it’s for the kid’s well being, for society’s well being, when it’s all for the parent’s own ego. Ego to have an obedient child with good grades, someone that plays the instrument the parent cannot play, and marry whomever the parent likes. It’s been decades, and I’m still working on growing out of the shadow of my parents’s ego. I’m still working on forgiveness, on accepting them for who they are, egotistic or not.
Not necessarily the fault of asian parents. You need to remember they grew up during a very dark time(s). What you see as abuse is seen as discipline. It was necessary. Unfortunately that gets forced onto kids, but it's understandable.
For me she was the bad mom in story but noticed that he WAS NEVER NEVER NEVER a bad son. Even though what she did any other man will be traumatized and leave her. But he still loved and cared for her. He know that he and his loved ones were in danger. So he choose to leave them rather than loosing them forever. ❤❤❤❤
She will always be a worst mom though I know the reasons and explainations. I know she suffered a lot but their was no fault of son. She had no right to take his all life decisions forcing him to do what she wants in a most abusive manner. Not letting him eat to a absolutely stupid reason. I even think was she really his biological mother. Such a abusive and heartless mother ever 😢😢😢
Its true like when i eat too full i get to sleep really early and a person who studies well at late night...it is a strong drawback to my studies so in exam days at night i have less dinner.... And gets scolding from my mom coz she says you will feel sick if you didn't eat well....at times she just put up snacks in our room for me to eat at night coz she knows i can't really sleep hungry lol....
Esse maravilhoso mãe má …. eu me indentifiquei muito com essa mãe maravilhosa que errou sim mais tudo era p/ que o filho não passa-se o que ela é o marido passaram …. Como se agindo assim ela o salva-se de tudo Tadinha …. Grande mãe 👏👏👏👏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm 31 and still have an emotional relationship with food from trauma my mom inflicted on me as a kid which started when I was around 7. She was obsessed with my weight bc I was in sports and she would compare me to the other kids (the other moms were doing to the same to theirs as well) and one time in my early teens she told me when she felt a bit heavy she'd not eat for 3 days and would feel thin again. I was shocked that she'd told me this and hurt that she was encouraging that habit onto me. I didn't do it but to this day I still feel a small stab of guilt when I snack on junk food or feel 'heavy' aka too full. Some years ago I had a mental breakdown and it was like I'd reverted back into a kid again, I had hurt myself bc my mom would discipline me when I didn't get first place, so that pain and disappointment in myself transferred into adulthood. Thankfully I've taken charge of my life and work hard to heal thru therapy and forgiveness. I'm still midway thru the show but I wanted to see if anyone commented on this scene so I'd know that I'm not alone in this feeling.
My mom was a good bad mother till I turned 18 and went to different state to study in a college and yes I’m Asian and I’m the only child the only son I relate to this show so much I cannot watch ❤
I am going to be honest a lot impacts a young mind, I was raised with my elders and relatives as my parents were unable to manage handling me once I was 3 years. Though 3 is a young age not having your mother around is traumatic and I still bare some bad memories from my childhood. I simply couldn't forgive my parents for letting me be away for 14 years till I completed high school. Result I am too hyper Independent and treat myself like a separate entity, its something I can't change. I am kind, I care about others and I am social, its just that I don't ask help or believe anyone can help me. Side effects of keeping young children away when they craved parents attention. I am glad the mother realizes her mistake
My trauma made me decide to end my bloodline haha I'm not ever having kids of my own for fear that I'll just be another venison of my parents towards them, because after all I'm their daughter.
I'm the same. Grew up with a mother with a bad temper, and unfortunately I developed a bad temper too. I dont want to have kids with my wife because I'm afraid I will do to them what my mother did to me
@@memonomoto7419 I totally get you. It's such a conflict because although I'm not a super huge fan of kids, I still like them, and the thought of having one of my own fills me with warmth BUT at the same time it terrifies me because of the 'what if's. I myself dont know how to cope with my mental break downs and I dont want my kids to suffer or take responsibilities for something I should deal on my own. My heart goes out to you, they say time heals but I know that's not true. But I do hope you dont have to feel bad for something that's a result of trauma caused by others while also working on trying to fix them :)
My mom will let you leave the table if you can't eat all the food in your plate 😋 she hate wasting food so when you get food make sure to eat it all or she will berserk 🤣 and she really doesn't mind if I got low grade .
May i know are there any Indians who felt this type of parenting style. Just for curiosity. As i wanted to know more about parenting style and how it affects children stress. If someone could respond. It would be great.
I feel so sad for him. Had no childhood and a shitty mother. I felt no sympathy for her and really want her to die in the end. Or at least he cuts contact and lives a happy life while she is alone.
She is trying her best to fix her mistakes, she realizes this and try hard for it. She loves him and she knows all the things she done was wrong. For me, it's not about being spiteful for the things that they've done in the past, but about the connection and being a better mother for her son
That's all fine .... The lines are perfect... But this guy certainly doesn't look like one that didn't eat his whole life.... It looks the opposite he is well built😅😂😂🤦♂️
You dont need an eating disorder to lose weight. You just need to be disciplined in eating. I lost 30 lbs in 3 months by only eating twice a day and exercising every day. It's very hard, but you can do it too!
This mother isnt that good...she had a second chance to make a difference yet she made the same mistakes again. its sad. i cant watch it...the good bad mother my ass! ngl i would avoid her 100%
So annoying being a mom .mom not force him to not to eat.she was thinking about his future.more study and more marks.but he is so stubborn .he is taking revenge his own mom when he grow up.i feel so sad about this mom.no one deserve like this stubborn children.they dedicate lots for their children .no mom would be treated like this by their own children .let him die.its better .
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Childhood impacts can last a lifetime. Very happy that they’re showing this side of parenthood and how they can effect a child’s connection to something as simple as food.
Food is a huge factor uk
Its interesting to see an eating disorder portrayed in this way. Usually it’s a girl trying to get thin so see can be “beautiful” but I appreciate this portrayal.
This just shows that Boys also suffer through Eating disorders.... just like girls...
This isn’t a eating disorder , the dude is literally like brain washes by his mother
@@siddharth8532…which is what an eating disorder is…
@@siddharth8532 This is an eating disorder. As a male that struggled with this same mindset as this guy all throughout my teens and even early 20’s (I’m mid 20’s now and much better) this is an eating disorder. Sometimes you can’t even tell if someone has one. Not everyone with an eating disorder is extremely thin.
@Siddharth that's the exact definition of an eating disorder-
This part really hit me. I used to be obese (180 lbs), my parents would always tell me to stop eating because I was fat. Then I got sick (with food trauma) and became Anorexic, I lost half my weight and was down to 90 lbs. I would only eat 300 calories a day because I was scared to eat (I would get panic attacks just thinking of eating). My mom would cry a lot saying that I needed to eat. So even though my story isn't exactly the same as the drama I could still relate. It's been 7 years since that time in my life and I'm now doing better with food and have been able to maintain a healthy weight at 107 lbs.
Good job
I'm happy you are in a better place. Thank you for continuing to fight. You deserve the best in life for yourself and your body. Have a good day 😊
I'm sooo happy for youu..keep it up❤
48 kg then what's your height please ?
I'm 156 cm i wanna be 46 but I'm Afraid I'll be just bones 🥲
@@Baedovey I'm 163 cm. I think you would look fine at that weight since you're not too tall.
Broke my heart. Sometimes our somewhat good intentions become the cause that hold our children back and cause them trauma as they grow. This scene hurt alot
It's not good intentions, it's an obsession from the mother's part. Good intention comes from goodwill, while she did it all because she was blinded by her own pain.
@@almostidioticgirl good of you to comment
My mom is super strict and manipulative but now I feel bad for her because she's sick
I watched the first episode of the series. My mom is exactly the same as his mom, cruel, cold and harsh. Plus, my mom would physically beat me and verbally abuse me if I didn’t get a good grade. Everything is valid for the sake of going to a good college and having a successful career. They might mean well, but the trauma is for life. My mom thinks she is the best mom in the whole world and I no longer speak to her, just like him. The irony is that my mom used to be high school teacher before she retired.
Your mom treated you the "best way" she thought. All parents were victims of their parents so they threat their children as best way they can...
I think you should talk to her at least on hollidays, please don't cut off contact
They weren't born parents...can you give her a chance again? We only got one life .and .it hurts ...
There are some people that yes, they were impacted by their life, but under no means have the right to inflict pain to their children! My mother had a similar mother to yours and she was awful to her , doing a lot of pretty harsh things to her. She did have a bad ubringing, but after some time, you are responsible for your own actions. We were no contact with her for almost 20 years and my mom has been the happiest she has ever been. Don't feel bad for not contacting your mother. She sounds like an evil person and got what she deserves.
I am sorry to hear that
@@fedoua5243 Well, my grandparents, which are my mom’s parents, never laid a hand on their six kids, including my mom. They are actually one of the most happy couples I have ever seen. My mom never endured any physical or verbal abuse from them. It is more the other way around. My mom has OCD. She would order around my grandfather to clean. One time, he threw her out of his house, because my mom yelled at him for not washing his hands before dinner… Growing up, my parents fought a lot. I wanted them to get a divorce. But they didn’t. My mom has serious mood swing. She would be happy and chatty, and then a minute later, she would slap me on my face because I didn’t agree with her. My teenager years were so tough. I wouldn’t had pulled through if I didn’t have a loving father… In fact, my dad is a victim too. I gave her many chances, but she squandered them. Every time, I told her all the pain she inflicted on me, she would be outrageous calling me an ungrateful brat. She can’t accept the fact that she was ever wrong. It took me ten years to accept the fact that she loves her ego much much more than me. And I am at peace with it. My life has never been better. What I am trying to say is that cut all the toxic things and people off your life. It works.
Do hyun is the best of the best in this age of actors. He does everything perfect and makes you fall in love with his character no matter how unbelievable it might be.
Couldn't agree more. I can see his bright future as an actor. Maybe best actor or daesang
He will be the best actor i bet ! Phil.
This scene was so heart breaking. They both nailed the scene. I cried😢😢😢❤❤❤
tf. my mother always tells me "HOW WILL YOU GET THE ENERGY TO STUDY WELL IF YOU DON'T EAT?? DO YOU WANNA DIE IN STRESS? EAT FULL SO THAT YOU HAVE ENERGY KIDDO. COME HERE AND EAT"
that's how my mom is and i thought it was normal-
wtf is with this sick household, not letting a kid eat? my parents would never
Same for my house...this is the first Asian mother i saw who says don't eat..... otherwise Asian mother are very dedicated to feed good food
Same… and now I’m fat with too much “energy” 😂 meanwhile I was on Honor Roll all my life
@@sunnissi6026even i dont get the idea out here, been fed so much by my mom that after exam she has to literally tell me , now exams are over you need to loose some weight now 😂
My mom would bring me snacks while I was in my room studying. She always made sure I ate because I have the habit of focusing on nothing but my work. She would freak out if she thinks I am exercising too hard and not eating enough. We were fortunate to have such parents!
I kinda know that feeling. My parents would always say no to me, they thought if they said yes even for once, I'll get out of their control. Mom would beat me really hard and scare me with everything she would see in front of her. Just bcz I listened to them afterwards doesn't mean that I did it out of respect and wasn't emotionally hurt. When they ruin our childhood, it hurts more than anything in the world
So sorry dear 😢
@@justersosoma4257 well, I at least had some good friends to share my feelings with, but some people can't even do that. That's more saddening😢
@@zarinsubah1121 I'm glad to hear that you have some good friend. At least you can share, I hope in future you meet a lot of good people and have good time too.
I hope you find your peace and happiness now
@@Muniii10 thanks😊
I really love Do Hyun! I'm in fact obsessed but I'm not watching this series because I'm not strong enough to watch this. I know I would be shattered with pain!💔
The love story in the series is quite interesting, and presumably he and his girlfriend had twin babies, but they haven't revealed the father yet, but it's obvious as they loved each other so much. She even took care of the finances so he could give bar exams, and they even stayed together, but unfortunately, they broke up, and the reason hasn't been revealed yet.
You should as it's giving good vibes(maybe because of the twins 😊) and even in the trailer they said it's a story to find lost happiness so l doubt they have a sad ending.
@@KD_k1978 even I thought it’s a good series too but the thing is he clearly has mommy issues at least complicated relationship with his mom and I have a similar story. So I thought watching this might effect me mentally as I have an important exam coming. I’ll watch it once I’m done. Even I’m tempted watch it after seeing those twins❤️
I'm not watch anything sad... Bye
sem! i'm just waiting for my last college entrance exam to be over so that i can gear myself to watch this. don't wanna get depressed durinng exams
I couldn’t stop crying at this part. The fact despite in that condition he remembered those words his mom told him
This is not about the drama but I'm so happy that La Miran is finally getting the recognition that she deserves Her and Lee Do Hyun's acting is amazing
I know it's emotional..but now I realised why I get sleepy after lunch in class..😅
You didn't know that?
@@ck-bs2ms don't know
Yeah it has scientific explanation. Especially in the morning, you are not recommended to eat too full
I get sleepy even after being hungry maybe cuz our mind concentrate for a short time 🥲
@@aye7000i heard that we should eat like a king in breakfast, eat like a soldier in lunch and like a beggar in dinner
Words, especially those of a mother, can hurt worse than blows. 💔
What a great actress. Love her performance 🎭
These actors are superb in their acting skills, teared up over just a few minutes of this scene lol. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I cried a lot 😭😭😭😭 a very painful scene and it was executed professionally,, I never felt it was acting 💔 I felt it from inside my soul
She's seriously asking why? It took this to happen for her to realize the damage she's done and the garbage she beat into his head his whole life? She reminds me of my mother and her not getting why I have anger and emotional control issues. Parents really need to be more aware of the long term effects the things they do and say have, and also not eating enough if you need to study is what will make you tired as you won't have the energy for your brain to fully function and take everything in.
there is a difference between just saying and forcing
Our parents just say its upto us to obay or not
And visibly she forced him so much all the time that he had to hide his food
They "tell" to not feel bad but they actually force like the mom kept saying stuff like that but she basically forced him to the point he had to hide the food and to the point he gave up and just starved
it's been a few weeks since i watched this show and this scene in particular still lives rent-free inside my head. It just broke me. The acting really is something else.
I'm thankful for having a mother like mine. 🥺 On the first day of collage, She literally told me I can quit collage if anyone bully me there. I'm going to call her and tell her I love her so much 🥺
Please do😢
This was how I feel when it comes to how my mother and older sister warn me when it comes to the things I adore so much and this was one of effects of not just the degradation of my self-esteem but also indulgence of the little things I used to enjoy so much as a kid.
After seeing comment section, I feel blessed to have one of the best mother (meri maa)❤ Though I was studious in my childhood yet my parents never pressurized me for good grades, it was always my own choice. Whenever I got less marks, they encouraged me and used to say, "it's ok. You'll get best in next exam." And whenever she feels I am sad even now(I am 25year now), my mother cooks my favourite food and papa buys ice creams for whole family.
Believe me or not if you have parents who make you feel that they are always there for you no matter what the situation is and trust you, is the best feeling ever being a daughter. I love them a lot and ofcourse I am their whole world ❤ Maa papa I'll make you proud very soon 🍁
PS: sorry for bad English as it's not my first language.
Same, they never pressurised over anything.
You're lucky and they are gr8 parents to have ard😊
You’re lucky. My parents told me to not call them mom and dad when I was not part of the top 10 of my class back in highschool
@@yachichuu sad to know but I hope whenever you will be a parent, you will not do the same with your child. You will be a better parent and a good friend to your child 💓 and your child will be able to say it loudly, " no matter how cruel the world is, as long as you are by my side, I can survive."🙂
@@mahi_digiart I dont want my child to suffer how much I suffered. Luckily, I have a wonderful husband who will always remind me to not become like my parents
Mother's can do so many things with their words so had to be careful when use it.
Lee do hyun is the best in this age actors , he still shocked me in every role.
Korean drama always bring us back home as awake up call
This scene had me crying like an actress.
Lee do hyun is the best among all the new actors. His acting and script selection is class apart❤
This video made me have so many emotions I wanted to cry right there on the spot 😭😕😭
This show has my heart. Its gonna b an emotional ride
There is no handbook given on how to be a good parent. We all learn as we go. Unfortunately she didn’t do a good job and left her son with trauma.
haven't seen a single ep from this movie except this scene and i lit rally had a tear fall out of my eye
That’s why u need to have good parents to lead a healthy life in the future 😭i hate the mom. She is a mom who is supposed to care for the child when no one does. But she is the one hurting him the most. Now she can be good because the guy lost the memory but what if she didn’t get a chance to change. Why people be good when something worst happens and why can’t they be like that from before 😞
Actually i can relate this so much,,, at young age i felt like they have done good for me ,, but now i know they just ruined my childhood,, i am a medical student now ,,but the trauma i got,,, i can read well with beautiful memories also... But no i haven’t a single good memory..
Now a days i don’t feel any emotions for my dad... I knkw it's cruel.. But what can i do if it doesn’t come from my heart
Waiting for all the episodes to be out I'm gonna cry my eyes out over this 😭😭😭😭😭
When will this man be in a happy drama 😭😭😭
i was CRYING my eyes out
Serves her right 😏
She is a good mother but missed the way in some of her training. Everything she said was true and out of love but affected him negatively.
@@lily3384 no she's a shit mother who emotionally tormented her son to the point where he can't even fully enjoy a meal without thinking "what will mom do to me?"
Good mom my ass
bruh
I guess you could say that. Even she's done everything out of good will, that doesn't mean that the mental and emotional trauma that his son faced because of her will ever be justified by her good deeds.
@@zenitsulevi6488 definitely intent doesn't matter especially if the person on the other end is suffering. Also it seemed kinda spiteful especially given that she blames him for his dad's death
just because you are parents does not give you a free pass to do anything to your children. sometimes you have to walk away from these parents to get some type of sanity. mental illness is real 💜
I wonder why they translated the title to English as "good" bad mother? In Korean is simply bad mother.
Because she is the only one who is taking care of him Durning his worst condition...mother can do everything for her childern..but sometimes it goes wrong.
@@doran2162 seems like nit went wrong most times for him
@@doran2162 Taking care of him? That's her job as a mom.
For what we've seen so far she's not a "good" bad mother; she's simply a bad one. Having "good" intentions it doesn't count if the method you use is mentally abusing your kid.
But this name matches good bad mother. Our parents can be good for us but too much goodness is turned bad.
@@VilmaMks she can just left him there at his worst conditions but she never did that mother take care of there children because they love them not because it's there job
I hate when parents weaponize food against you. When I was a kid I was an early bloomer and had a slightly thicker body compared to my thinner older sister. My parents constantly made comments that I was getting too fat and needed to lose weight, even though I was just a child and knew nothing about dieting. Relatives and family friends would praise how thin and pretty my sister was while barely acknowledging me. Eventually I developed depression and an eating disorder. In my early adulthood I gained so much weight from the anti-depressants that the body shaming got worse. I did manage to lose weight and only then did people started paying attention to me more. However, this did not make me happy. It only made me more desperate to keep off the weight, so I started doing extreme diets and even secretly spat out my food. I especially get triggered whenever my mom tried to push me to eat more or tell me how to eat. It felt like I had no control over something as enjoyable as food.
This is called child abuse plus domestic violence. What the show needs to teach the audience is solutions and kinder ways to discipline your kids.
Its not always about the ways to discipline your kids, debbie. Its portraying what you need to avoid doing when given the opportunity to have a child, childhood trauma has a serious impact on people's lives. And thats what the show is portraying.
@@KO17743 Bully and any type of abuse are usually started within the family and from family members. Discipline comes in many different forms. If you work for a company when you don't follow the protocol you get discipline it is part of life, you can't avoid it. But what the adult and parents should be doing is before choosing to discipline first, please explain and communicate with the kids why and how can we do better as a family. also, the " Culture" itself needs to get rebuilt as well.
I'm the luckiest daughter in this whole universe! I'm really very blessed to have a cool mom who is more a best friend than a mom to me!🥰😘
I think we as the one inflicted by this unecessary trauma should end the cycle, theres no excuse on being not knowing or we uncapable of love even if its not our kid maybe to other people, nobody deserve this trauma, but, everyone deserve a good future and theres a way for that, society need to care for each rather than being selfish, thats why things like this happen
Lee Do Hyun 🥺❤️this man !!!!!
LEE DO HYUN
AAAAAAAHHHH
THIS MAN AND HIS ACTING WILL BE THE END OF MEEEE
* Dissolves into a pool of tears *
I cried so much 😭
i cried so much at this scene
I not that strong enough to handle this kind of story 🙂 so I will skip this one, hope one day I will be stronger
The love story in the series is quite interesting, and presumably he and his girlfriend had twin babies, but they haven't revealed the father yet, but it's obvious as they loved each other so much. She even took care of the finances so he could give bar exams, and they even stayed together, but unfortunately, they broke up, and the reason hasn't been revealed yet.
I cried like hell watching this series
this scene was killing me 💔🫠
What Asian parents fail to realize is they punish their kids, thinking it’s for the kid’s well being, for society’s well being, when it’s all for the parent’s own ego. Ego to have an obedient child with good grades, someone that plays the instrument the parent cannot play, and marry whomever the parent likes.
It’s been decades, and I’m still working on growing out of the shadow of my parents’s ego. I’m still working on forgiveness, on accepting them for who they are, egotistic or not.
It happens to all parents in the world regardless of race but yeah it’s prevalent in Asian households
Not necessarily the fault of asian parents. You need to remember they grew up during a very dark time(s). What you see as abuse is seen as discipline. It was necessary. Unfortunately that gets forced onto kids, but it's understandable.
For me she was the bad mom in story but noticed that he WAS NEVER NEVER NEVER a bad son. Even though what she did any other man will be traumatized and leave her. But he still loved and cared for her. He know that he and his loved ones were in danger. So he choose to leave them rather than loosing them forever. ❤❤❤❤
She will always be a worst mom though I know the reasons and explainations. I know she suffered a lot but their was no fault of son. She had no right to take his all life decisions forcing him to do what she wants in a most abusive manner. Not letting him eat to a absolutely stupid reason. I even think was she really his biological mother. Such a abusive and heartless mother ever 😢😢😢
that scene was absolutely painful oh god
Its true like when i eat too full i get to sleep really early and a person who studies well at late night...it is a strong drawback to my studies so in exam days at night i have less dinner.... And gets scolding from my mom coz she says you will feel sick if you didn't eat well....at times she just put up snacks in our room for me to eat at night coz she knows i can't really sleep hungry lol....
Esse maravilhoso mãe má …. eu me indentifiquei muito com essa mãe maravilhosa que errou sim mais tudo era p/ que o filho não passa-se o que ela é o marido passaram …. Como se agindo assim ela o salva-se de tudo Tadinha …. Grande mãe 👏👏👏👏❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Sometimes, we doing something that we think good for people without including them or even asking or knowing what their feel
I'm 31 and still have an emotional relationship with food from trauma my mom inflicted on me as a kid which started when I was around 7. She was obsessed with my weight bc I was in sports and she would compare me to the other kids (the other moms were doing to the same to theirs as well) and one time in my early teens she told me when she felt a bit heavy she'd not eat for 3 days and would feel thin again. I was shocked that she'd told me this and hurt that she was encouraging that habit onto me. I didn't do it but to this day I still feel a small stab of guilt when I snack on junk food or feel 'heavy' aka too full. Some years ago I had a mental breakdown and it was like I'd reverted back into a kid again, I had hurt myself bc my mom would discipline me when I didn't get first place, so that pain and disappointment in myself transferred into adulthood. Thankfully I've taken charge of my life and work hard to heal thru therapy and forgiveness. I'm still midway thru the show but I wanted to see if anyone commented on this scene so I'd know that I'm not alone in this feeling.
مسلسل رائع جدا والممثلين رائعين جدا ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I don't know how I feel about me being the 'mother' and 'kang-ho' of my own life
This actor got SNUBBED. ridiculous he didn't get nominated !!!
Instead of this my mom says eat alot or you can't study. And will say ' your food habits are not good that's why you're always dozing and unhealthy. '
My mom was a good bad mother till I turned 18 and went to different state to study in a college and yes I’m Asian and I’m the only child the only son I relate to this show so much I cannot watch ❤
Drama magnífico... Atores fantásticos...😍😍🤩🤩🤩😍
This series is going to wreck me… I still can’t watch it
In my lifetime I never got sleepy after eating too much if there a class or something but sure It make me tired but not to point of sleepy
I am going to be honest a lot impacts a young mind, I was raised with my elders and relatives as my parents were unable to manage handling me once I was 3 years. Though 3 is a young age not having your mother around is traumatic and I still bare some bad memories from my childhood. I simply couldn't forgive my parents for letting me be away for 14 years till I completed high school. Result I am too hyper Independent and treat myself like a separate entity, its something I can't change. I am kind, I care about others and I am social, its just that I don't ask help or believe anyone can help me. Side effects of keeping young children away when they craved parents attention. I am glad the mother realizes her mistake
My trauma made me decide to end my bloodline haha I'm not ever having kids of my own for fear that I'll just be another venison of my parents towards them, because after all I'm their daughter.
I'm the same. Grew up with a mother with a bad temper, and unfortunately I developed a bad temper too. I dont want to have kids with my wife because I'm afraid I will do to them what my mother did to me
@@memonomoto7419 I totally get you. It's such a conflict because although I'm not a super huge fan of kids, I still like them, and the thought of having one of my own fills me with warmth BUT at the same time it terrifies me because of the 'what if's. I myself dont know how to cope with my mental break downs and I dont want my kids to suffer or take responsibilities for something I should deal on my own. My heart goes out to you, they say time heals but I know that's not true. But I do hope you dont have to feel bad for something that's a result of trauma caused by others while also working on trying to fix them :)
😂😂 nice
Whats the Name from the season
My mom did the same thing whenever we visite my grandma, don't eat it looks like we're not feeding you😢
This only happens in tv. In real life people never accept they have damaged other’s lives. So don’t expect people to admit their wrongdoings.
This is so sad
Is this really how a 7 year old thinks 😭
My mom will let you leave the table if you can't eat all the food in your plate 😋 she hate wasting food so when you get food make sure to eat it all or she will berserk 🤣 and she really doesn't mind if I got low grade .
Omg that is so dark.
What show is this?
good bad mother
like my mom😢
Drama name?
La Miran😊
What happened with this man? Did he suffer traumatic injury in head?
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Where can I watch this pls
Netflix
Hitv...free
Anyone know if you gets better in the show 😭💔
I hope the mother blame herself for what happened
Where can i watch this!!!!!
Myasiantv
I don't want to happened to me 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
don't💀
Knows it’s stray cat or dog meat.
May i know are there any Indians who felt this type of parenting style. Just for curiosity. As i wanted to know more about parenting style and how it affects children stress. If someone could respond. It would be great.
I feel so sad for him. Had no childhood and a shitty mother. I felt no sympathy for her and really want her to die in the end. Or at least he cuts contact and lives a happy life while she is alone.
He had a childhood but its rather a toxic one
She is trying her best to fix her mistakes, she realizes this and try hard for it. She loves him and she knows all the things she done was wrong. For me, it's not about being spiteful for the things that they've done in the past, but about the connection and being a better mother for her son
What happened to him
Car accident, memory loss
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I think she's one of the normal Asian parents
That's all fine .... The lines are perfect... But this guy certainly doesn't look like one that didn't eat his whole life.... It looks the opposite he is well built😅😂😂🤦♂️
The story is he got into accident and went back to his 7year old brain. Memory
What happened to him why is he bed ridden
The daughter laced his drink and while he was driving got in an accident that left him paralyzed and has the mind of a 7 year old
@@Quandaledingleberg why did she do that
Thanks for answering
I don't wanna be negative but i want to have a eating disorder to get rid of my obese body..... I'm so sick of this now!!!
You dont need an eating disorder to lose weight. You just need to be disciplined in eating. I lost 30 lbs in 3 months by only eating twice a day and exercising every day. It's very hard, but you can do it too!
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This mother isnt that good...she had a second chance to make a difference yet she made the same mistakes again. its sad. i cant watch it...the good bad mother my ass! ngl i would avoid her 100%
So annoying being a mom .mom not force him to not to eat.she was thinking about his future.more study and more marks.but he is so stubborn .he is taking revenge his own mom when he grow up.i feel so sad about this mom.no one deserve like this stubborn children.they dedicate lots for their children .no mom would be treated like this by their own children .let him die.its better .