It may have to do with the fact that he still might work there. Which might give him some control over what happens. Even then, if the station found out. He is not immune to prosecution. He will be prosecuted as a citizen, not as a cop. Not speaking up only helps him. And if you were to try to change the results of the case, that would be pretty hard evidence. So she barely has anything to worry about, it's just her own head. And our trauma, she needs therapy.
The mother's problem is not with the police, she has a problem with getting into toxic relationships. She has a bad track record with picking men and her new husband is no exception. She wants to believe this relationship is better that she is willing to jump to his side for everything even willing to throw her own child under the bus. That man is eventually going to do something to OP's mom and she won't have her child to support her when that inevitable reverse happens. Even now her current toxic relationship is isolating her from people like OP and she is still letting it happen, OP's mother is a moron.
Yup, the red flags are slapping her in the face as we watch this video and she just chooses to ignore it The new husband appears to be a lot more insidious than the ex, in that his toxic behaviour is discreet
@@ironscalp484 Trying to have a hostile takeover of his step-daughter's house is not discreet in any way. That mom actually blames her own daughter for removing them is insane. The whole situation beggars belief. This girl needs therapy and to find another mentor figure, because her mom abdicated that responsibility long ago.
@@smallpseudonym2844 i completely agree with you.. i meant discreet more in the way he manipulates the mother, you can probably bet your left nut that that man has woven a very intricate veil of lies and probably also played the mother's feelings and past trauma to paint OP as the villain... But the mother is a gullible idiot, so i'm probably giving him more credit than he deserves
@@smallpseudonym2844I’m just sitting here thinking how did these fully grown adults think this would go? Like I’m certain me and my wife’s first reaction would be aggressive as hell for obvious reasons then get the cops to make it official. Luckily we live in Texas so no DA would bring charges against homeowners protecting their own property
Warning flags are being raised. EITHER the stepdad lied about what happened, claiming OP just changed her mind and called the police on them, OR the mother is genuinely evil. They changed the locks, they tried to steal the land from OP. She 100% should have called the police, there wasn't any alternative. I see the issue now, she's putting her partner's feelings over everything else, regardless of the damage it causes. It's what happened with that abusive Ex, and it's what's happening here as well.
It’s not uncommon. She was with a terrible guy who cheated, left her and left her isolated. Now she has a new partner and daughter, she’s desperate not to lose them. Rather than have her boundaries in place after her Ex, she’s trying to keep the peace and make her new family happy so they don’t leave
@@vexxamaWell said. I predict that, when OP finally goes no contact with her mother, stepfather, and stepsister, she'll sell her house, move to another city, farther away from those toxic bozos, and marry a man who's one moment, Prince Valiant that comes to rescue her, and the next, a mega evil tyrant who controls and abuses her, verbally, emotionally/mentally, and worse, physically, to the point of where the paramedics/EMTs show up at the door, and threatens to do away with her if she breaks up with him, fall pregnant, when her abuser traps her, then, pack all her belongings, (including important documents, and sentimental items), ship them to a storage facility, and flee to a women's shelter, with the help of cops and DV social workers, third, file for divorce, flee to another state, ship all her belongings to her new state, find a cheaper, and apartment in a safe neighborhood, find another job, and rely on neighbors as her new support system, because she won't have her bio-dad, friends or other relatives in her new state to help out; all she and her kid will have is each other, and to avoid making the same mistakes her mother has made, OP will need to steer clear of potential SOs and stepkids, concentrate on her mental health, her kid's welfare/health/needs/happiness, raising him in a stable and safe home environment, and being a better mother to him than her own mother is.⚠️
Bruh imagine someone literally breaking into your house and locking you out and then someone tries to tell you you're the bad person for calling the police on them, which is exactly what you're supposed to do. Absolutely wild.
bet the mother knows how toxic they are, which is why she figured that if she step daughter moved into op's house she'd unload half the crazy to someone else. what I think is funny is the mother being surprised op called the police. should op buy a house warming present instead and say, "I'll just buy another house for me to live in"??
Well said. The mother will be bawling out of control, when she never receives any invitations to OP's wedding, gender-reveal party, and baby shower, nor, ever gets to be there for the birth of OP's first baby.⚠️
"Mom. I am 30 years old, i can make my own decision as to who i hang out with and that does mot include your new family." "Honey, let emma move in with you" Talk about in one ear and out the other
YOU Are Not the Problem. Your mother is. She railroaded your boundaries, tried to guilt you into getting having stepsister move in. Then blames you for her hubby and stepsister breaking into your home to take it over.
I hope there's an update on this story where OP sells her house to newlwed couple, goes no contact with her mother, stepfather and stepsister, moves to another state, disconnects her phone number, and deletes her social media accounts.
Op is definitely part of the problem for being spineless. Just refused to stand up for herself. Was basically trying to apologize for having her house broken into.
WTH mom thinks OP went too far? Stepdad and stepsister changed the freaking locks on a house they didn’t own! WTF are you supposed to do when kicked out of a house you OWN? This is so ridiculous, OP is so conditional to be a doormat. If OP had agreed to let stepsister to move in they would’ve done the same thing. OP would’ve come home to locks changed and what stuff she didn’t want would’ve been in the trash. OP needs to get into therapy ASAP and get a damn backbone
I call bulls**t on the entire thing. No sane single person would break into their step daughters house merely to teach her a lesson. Less still changing the locks and just crossing their fingers that they wouldn't call the cops. It's even less likely still because they have only been on the scene for about 2 years and wouldn't be that confident in her being unwilling to risk calling the police.
Your mom not liking cops is entirely irrelevant. She could've left him at any time but she didn't. She doesn't have the right to complain about police. The problem is your step father and step sister broke into your house and changed the locks, keeping you out of your own home. Hopefully you pressed charges. The call with your mom was just her attempt to emotionally manipulate and guilt trip you. Ignore her, shes just as bad as your sd and ss
It seems to me that Adam and Emma are doing to the mother the same thing her abusive ex did, even going so far as to bait the OP into getting the cops involved in order to trigger the bad memories with her. Anything to separate her from her life prior to them being involved. The mother is going to come to two realisations. First, that her new family is taking advantage of her and being controlling / abusive in the exact same way. And secondly, that since she took it upon herself to burn all the bridges she had with people, nobody is going to care enough to try and help her next time. She will be stuck with them and it is her own fault.
Exactly. He used her issues with cops as leverage, he used his own wife as a tool. The OP really should have conveyed that to her more directly, that her new family is using her as an excuse to commit theft. She’s become a doormat so they won’t leave her and they’re taking full advantage
like u should have some braincells to see this situation they are manipulators emma doesnt care abt her she is in for the money i hope i never be asshole as her mother was throwing her own babies on street and coddling others when she is used and dumped which will definetly happen she will get back to her daughter and op being an idiot still will take care of her
Well said. Not only should OP go full NO CONTACT with her mother, she should also put her house up for sale, and move to another state to start her life afresh.
OP's mom and new family are absolutely delusional, I haven't even finished the story yet and I had to stop for a minute because their actions were literally insane
How the fuck did it take her that long to get to her home being notified of a break in for them to change all the locks? how the fuck did the security system not automatically call the police? how the hell are these adults clearly still children
I was thinking the same thing. But maybe her house is 30+ min away from her work & by the time she got there, they had to locks changed. It don’t take that long to change locks. I’m more concerned about the security system not calling the cops for a B&E, unless she just has security cameras like the Roku ones & has them set to motion censor but even if she had those, she would have seen who was in her house. Idk it’s not adding up 🤷🏽♀️
I'm guessing the service she use doesn't include calling the police as one of it's policies. I can understand how they were able to change the locks, but the police might be for a different reason. Idk.
It’s AI😂😂 wtf is this story?😂😂😂😂 My step dad tried to steal my house? Literally😂 Just break in change the locks and he lives there now? What would a reasonable person expect the outcome to be? A house is like 300k, so what she gets a joke told about her so she steals majority of her net worth and leaves her homeless 😂 They were married 2 years she barely knew these things people If that worked wouldn’t everyone just see a house they like and do that?😂😂 I know it’s AI but what was the prompt?🤣🤣
Not even that. She had a call from the security company. THEY would have called the cops and only then informed her of the break in. That's literally what they are paid to do. These stories just pull circumstances out of their a$$ without thinking of the real world consequences of all of these events and what happens with them. Either it's an AI or some basement goblin living beneath their parents that never steps outside into the real world.
@@thecursed01 Either way your original point stands - she would have called the police first if the security company hadn't beaten her to it. If for no other reason than for home owner insurance purposes - something I think you would expect to be an issue for someone who had a security company contracted to watch the premises. Not calling the police could lead to prejudicial judgements delaying or even denying a payout if something had been broken by the intruders.
Let be honest,the best thing OP can do is go NC and keep an eye out if they try that stunt again in the future. If the mother choose the stepdaughter let her, eventually karma will come for her.
The mom basicly realized how bad of a parent she was, decided to make up for it by spoiling her new stepdaugther. But she felt to guilty and abandened op again and ran from them on the same coin Everything their mom is doing now is just to placate their own guilt while trying to outrun it
It’s deeper than that. Deep down the mom hates OP because she blames her for the fact that she didn’t live her “best life” when she was younger, because of her birth.
That kid cannot comprehend her mom doesn't give a crap about her or that she was a part of the three's plan to have her pay to support her step sister. They are all pos people and she isnt. Pos identify with eachother. Her mom cheated with a cop and he turned out to be like hearted to the people she is socially attracted to and physically attracted to. Ghosting her emotionally abusive and manipulative mom is the best relationship she will have with her mom.
The stepfather leveraged his partners trauma to steal a house. He used her, she should be furious, not taking his side. And then the mother goes on about being selfish in the past, but goes right back to being selfish by wanting to be away from her daughter because she felt guilty and wanted to appease her new family. She’s enabled so much toxic behaviour and pushes her issues onto everyone around her. The OP is better off without them, if they act like this with others it won’t be long till they end up in cells the next time they do something like this
I have a strong suspicion that as soon as the new husband and step-daughter get whatever they can out of the OP's mother, she is going to find herself broke, homeless, husband-less, daughter-less, step-daughter-less and pretty darn hopeless. Evidently, she skipped the words: family, mother, daughter, loyalty, love, fairness, neglect, honor, trust, etc., when she was learning vocabulary in elementary school. When she finally realizes this (when I say 'realizes' I moght actually mean 'slapped upside the head by karma) she is going to realize that she threw away the only person/item from the (abovementioned) list that was actually genuine and not simply a placeholder.
Considering if the story is true, Is the mother stupid? She has once more put herself in an abusive situation where practically strangers are "looking after her". I could sympathize with her past but given her current attitude, I say it was all a bunch of bull. What would happen if she were to divorce? She burnt all bridges herself this time and will stay that way for her whole life. Very Sad.
Your mom's past is irrelevant...but the fact that they tried to take YOUR house with ZERO sympathy; on top of how she reacted after you called the cops, shows your mom does not have your best interests at heart. Sorry to OP hope she's doing better now.
This is really sad. OP's mom understood that she failed as a mother but she ended up choosing her new family over her own biological daughter. I really hope that one day she'll finally make up with OP. . .
No, let's not get our hopes up, because, unfortunately, that will never happen, I mean, the mother has caused OP too much hurt over the years; it's time for OP to not only forget about her mother, but also cut off all contact with her, the stepfather, and stepsister, sell her house, move to another state, buy another house there, and make her own family that consists of supportive new friends, a trustworthy therapist, and a warm-hearted man whose family are good people. OP can invite her bio-dad to come visit/hang out with her in her new state, any time she wants, plus, she'll end up with a MIL (mother-in-law) who's 5 times more of a real mother to her than her birth-giver is.
Why would you wish such misfortune upon OP. That mother is one of the most toxic people in her life, not to mention how much of doormat OP that she would probably take her back without hesitation
I can't wait for the future update where the mom gets dumped by her husband and the bratty stepdaughter and comes begging for another chance with her real daughter.
Honestly the problem are not the the step dad and step sister! It’s the Mom she’s is very selfish and self centered! Always making excuses of why she hasn’t been a good mom and not putting her only child first! I honestly believe her mom doesn’t love her and she needs to cut her off! Cause the end of this post was heartbreaking! People need to realize that no matter who the person is whether it is a mom or dad a friend or any kind of family member you shouldn’t put up with toxic relationships or mediocre love! Cutting cutting people off, no matter what position they hold in your life is the best thing you can do because they will destroy you and bring you down with them and have you believing that you are the problem! And I say this from experience, Its the only way that you will survive in this world!
His mom really needs to see a professional. I think relating one place officer that you were dating she’s a whole group of police officers is a big stretch which makes me think there’s more problems.
Dude, how is she even supposed to "live together with her step-sis and get along" if she's locked out? Did her mom not know that part, or did she conveniently overlook it while dropping her guilt bomb on her daughter? Not that it really matters. Even under the most charitable interpretation, her mom is a monster that ignores her daughter's wishes and enables some prick that weaponizes her mom's trauma against her daughter.
Mom's issues with the police are ridiculous.. She picks crap boyfriends, and let's them control her... Screw mom and those other AHs who thought they could push you around.. Why would you bow down to a mom who doesn't respect you at all; and let's her husband of 2 yrs try to steal your house.. I'd want nothing at all to do with a mom like this..
OP-You have nothing to feel bad about the situation. Your Mother is toxic and needs lots of therapy. Don't feel guilty, try and get her into therapy. That stepfather and daughter are toxic, I dont think calling your Mom would have made a difference. You need to get yourself some help so you can move on. Your Mom is paying for her choices.
She didn't have a traumatic experience with the police, she had a shitty ex! Had he been a teacher, would she be scared of teachers? how about a line cook?
So the security monitoring employees didnt call the police like literally every security system does? How did the stepdad break in and change all the locks in the time it took the poster to drive home? I guess when you make up stories its easy to forget simple details like that.
Depending on the commute, I could see the lock change happening. After all, OP did say it took her an hour to get home. The standard house only has 2 locks to change, so doing that in an hour is very possible. The security company not calling the cops could be as simple as the police not being able to get involved at the time. I've lived in a small town where there's only 2 or 3 cops on duty at a time, and a simple break in would be down the list of things to handle.
Women who have children for the man that they are with at the time behave this way, women who have a child because they wanted and was ready for it take care if their own.how many woman you know like that, just observe a little, they are everywhere.
OP is 30 years old, why is she still clinging to the mommy in her head, her mom is a POS but the way she's still clinging to her dream mommy is honestly worse, go to therapy and close that chapter ffs.
I'm so sick of these stories of people willing to let their families walk all over them, because it's family!! So OP's mom was willing to let her husband (not his father) throw her son into the street for his daughter. Walk away OP. Live your life, build your own family. Your mother is showing you where she stands. Family is not always blood. She's proven this to you.
OP, you should have turned mother and her uninvited family away from your housewarming. Knowing how she is you shouldn't have invited her at all. Another "Do it for Dan" story.😂
These types of stories doesn’t anyone pay thugs to handle these situations? $1,000 and 4 huge dudes would be there asap. Just saying that happens more than you think. Thugs aren’t just bad guys, they give regular people justice for money 💴
If the ex-partner was a doctor would she refuse to get medical help? I think it was just an excuse. That mother really never deserved her daughter and to be honest I think Adam and his daughter are asses but not the drivers here
I feel like this is fake which I don't like doing. Op added a bunch of unnecessary bs and was just yapping at some points. And then the story about why her mom doesn't like the police, never have I've rolled my eyes so many times. Don't get me wrong, no person should get through that, but that's no reason for judging an entire group because of people
Can't wait for the update a few years from now when mom and Adam try to worm their way back into OP's life once they learn how wonderful her life is with her new hubby and kids. Will be fun to hear about her slapping them into the dirt like that sorry excuse of a maternal unit that can't understand why the daughter she abandoned doesn't want anything to do with her.
Does your mom even like you? At her big age she needs to go seek professional help with her “anxiousness” with cops and why she continues to chose sucky partners, you need to set your boundaries and don’t waiver you should not have apologized for calling thee authorities to remove trespassers off of your property the way your mom gaslit you I’m surprised you reached out to have a talk….. your mom clearly doesn’t care about your feelings for whatever her issue is with you isn’t for you to find out love from a distance…… and go see a professional to work through your childhood trauma….
What is this fuc*ing story?! Their mother had trouble with the police so they felt bad about calling the police on his step father and step sister stealing their house, WHAT?! 😂
Go no contact with all if them especially your mother. you are not responsible for your mom's poor choice in men..100% sure the cop would not have tried to take over your house, she downgraded..keep the cops on speed dial. Your Mom is a terrible mother
In short op Your mom doesn't want to build a relationship not just because of her new family but also because you remind her of all her mistakes. She can't be that mom to you ever. I'm sorry
so SD et SS break in, changes the lock, and mom get real sad about you not accepting it ? come on ... if she doesn't see the problem, it's because she was ok with it. she doesn't care about you, she cares about what you can do for her. a step dad "punishing" his 31 yo setp daughter ? wtf is wrong with you mom and step familly ...
Stories like this really gets under my skin how the fuck she go get mad because she called the police on her pick me daughter an SOB of a husband try to force her out of her house and she's mad at her
Are you kidding me? I know how we feel about our mom, wth... They are all crazy. Doesnt matter what moms past experience is...she and her family is in the wrong.
Not sure if OP read this but Im so sorry of his situation, one hard pill to swallow that he has to take is that his mom is her own individual. I can give to her that in lack of information, know what to do and feel trap into a situation with no help can lead to take the worse choices, a police officer may have power but doesn't make it unbeatable or all powerful, she could have record it him, present the evidence of his abuse to the I.A, go to the district attorney, at the end even officers have to follow the law and Im sure many would have turn their back to him and no one want to support an abuser despite present as a nice person. Now what choice did he have, the step father and sister literally invade his home, change the locks of his house and basically throw him out to a house he work to have and pay for it, just call his mom to appease a totally unfair situation just because she got a bad deal with one, I understand the trauma but they broke so many laws and even if he had op to follow that way it would be even a worse and more stressful situation because it would turn into a squatter situation and end up in a prolong battle that be much much worse for OP. For what I can say of the mother, she took really bad decisions, pressure from the family to pick two of the most toxic relationship and now is basically abandon him because she feels ready to live the family life she always crave, it wont last and once the new family show the true colors to her and turn around there she would see the errors of her actions and it be to late for her to amend things with OP the one that hurt the most as a mother. I say to OP be ready for some day she will try reach you and you have to make a decisions, will be either to forgive her or leave her to suffer the consequences of her choices.
I swear, the moment my mother asked me to keep my distance or "take a break", i would take out my phone, delete her number right in front of her, and wish her the best.
Her hard time is completely irrelevant.
I agree. Nothing about it really had anything to do with the police. He was a man that caused her pain.
I agree. Anyone can be abusive, police or not.
This is the least police issue ever.
It may have to do with the fact that he still might work there. Which might give him some control over what happens. Even then, if the station found out. He is not immune to prosecution. He will be prosecuted as a citizen, not as a cop. Not speaking up only helps him. And if you were to try to change the results of the case, that would be pretty hard evidence. So she barely has anything to worry about, it's just her own head. And our trauma, she needs therapy.
Bruhhhhhh agreed
They are treating her like a child with a toy she won’t share
Not them trying to punish a grown woman with trying to take HER home
Soo your mom let them take your house & yet your the bad guy. You mom in no way loves you. You did the right thing. Disown your so called mom.
Ikr? Sounds like a narcissist to me
At this point she doesn't deserve to be called mom just egg donor.
That's not a mom, and that's not even a mother, it's an egg donor at the very least.
It's painfully obvious that OPs mother doesn't love her.
She sounds like a doormat and completely gaslit by narcissists.
The mother's problem is not with the police, she has a problem with getting into toxic relationships. She has a bad track record with picking men and her new husband is no exception. She wants to believe this relationship is better that she is willing to jump to his side for everything even willing to throw her own child under the bus. That man is eventually going to do something to OP's mom and she won't have her child to support her when that inevitable reverse happens. Even now her current toxic relationship is isolating her from people like OP and she is still letting it happen, OP's mother is a moron.
I was thinking this exact thing
Yup, the red flags are slapping her in the face as we watch this video and she just chooses to ignore it
The new husband appears to be a lot more insidious than the ex, in that his toxic behaviour is discreet
@@ironscalp484 Trying to have a hostile takeover of his step-daughter's house is not discreet in any way. That mom actually blames her own daughter for removing them is insane. The whole situation beggars belief. This girl needs therapy and to find another mentor figure, because her mom abdicated that responsibility long ago.
@@smallpseudonym2844 i completely agree with you.. i meant discreet more in the way he manipulates the mother, you can probably bet your left nut that that man has woven a very intricate veil of lies and probably also played the mother's feelings and past trauma to paint OP as the villain...
But the mother is a gullible idiot, so i'm probably giving him more credit than he deserves
@@smallpseudonym2844I’m just sitting here thinking how did these fully grown adults think this would go? Like I’m certain me and my wife’s first reaction would be aggressive as hell for obvious reasons then get the cops to make it official. Luckily we live in Texas so no DA would bring charges against homeowners protecting their own property
Warning flags are being raised. EITHER the stepdad lied about what happened, claiming OP just changed her mind and called the police on them, OR the mother is genuinely evil. They changed the locks, they tried to steal the land from OP. She 100% should have called the police, there wasn't any alternative.
I see the issue now, she's putting her partner's feelings over everything else, regardless of the damage it causes. It's what happened with that abusive Ex, and it's what's happening here as well.
It’s not uncommon. She was with a terrible guy who cheated, left her and left her isolated. Now she has a new partner and daughter, she’s desperate not to lose them. Rather than have her boundaries in place after her Ex, she’s trying to keep the peace and make her new family happy so they don’t leave
@@vexxamaWell said. I predict that, when OP finally goes no contact with her mother, stepfather, and stepsister, she'll sell her house, move to another city, farther away from those toxic bozos, and marry a man who's one moment, Prince Valiant that comes to rescue her, and the next, a mega evil tyrant who controls and abuses her, verbally, emotionally/mentally, and worse, physically, to the point of where the paramedics/EMTs show up at the door, and threatens to do away with her if she breaks up with him, fall pregnant, when her abuser traps her, then, pack all her belongings, (including important documents, and sentimental items), ship them to a storage facility, and flee to a women's shelter, with the help of cops and DV social workers, third, file for divorce, flee to another state, ship all her belongings to her new state, find a cheaper, and apartment in a safe neighborhood, find another job, and rely on neighbors as her new support system, because she won't have her bio-dad, friends or other relatives in her new state to help out; all she and her kid will have is each other, and to avoid making the same mistakes her mother has made, OP will need to steer clear of potential SOs and stepkids, concentrate on her mental health, her kid's welfare/health/needs/happiness, raising him in a stable and safe home environment, and being a better mother to him than her own mother is.⚠️
No, the mother is a piece of sh*t. She has her do-over family and used that as an excuse to get rid of OP
I would press charges against Adam, Emma & her mom.
So, would I.
@@danacarter9147anyone with a spine would
Bruh imagine someone literally breaking into your house and locking you out and then someone tries to tell you you're the bad person for calling the police on them, which is exactly what you're supposed to do.
Absolutely wild.
That mom sounds like a master manipulator also. Huge red flags when she doesn't give a damn what OP said and even lives with 2 entitled toxic people.
bet the mother knows how toxic they are, which is why she figured that if she step daughter moved into op's house she'd unload half the crazy to someone else.
what I think is funny is the mother being surprised op called the police. should op buy a house warming present instead and say, "I'll just buy another house for me to live in"??
Well said. The mother will be bawling out of control, when she never receives any invitations to OP's wedding, gender-reveal party, and baby shower, nor, ever gets to be there for the birth of OP's first baby.⚠️
@@danacarter9147although our op looks like she is still gonna do that both mom and daughters are doormats let everyone pull anything on them
@@alluripranithaTrue, but not if OP finally grows a backbone, and goes complete NO CONTACT.
"Mom. I am 30 years old, i can make my own decision as to who i hang out with and that does mot include your new family."
"Honey, let emma move in with you"
Talk about in one ear and out the other
YOU Are Not the Problem. Your mother is.
She railroaded your boundaries, tried to guilt you into getting having stepsister move in.
Then blames you for her hubby and stepsister breaking into your home to take it over.
I hope there's an update on this story where OP sells her house to newlwed couple, goes no contact with her mother, stepfather and stepsister, moves to another state, disconnects her phone number, and deletes her social media accounts.
Op is definitely part of the problem for being spineless. Just refused to stand up for herself. Was basically trying to apologize for having her house broken into.
WTH mom thinks OP went too far? Stepdad and stepsister changed the freaking locks on a house they didn’t own! WTF are you supposed to do when kicked out of a house you OWN? This is so ridiculous, OP is so conditional to be a doormat. If OP had agreed to let stepsister to move in they would’ve done the same thing. OP would’ve come home to locks changed and what stuff she didn’t want would’ve been in the trash. OP needs to get into therapy ASAP and get a damn backbone
Well said. OP is WAY too naive.
@@danacarter9147 Yeah op is a fucking doormat
I call bulls**t on the entire thing.
No sane single person would break into their step daughters house merely to teach her a lesson.
Less still changing the locks and just crossing their fingers that they wouldn't call the cops.
It's even less likely still because they have only been on the scene for about 2 years and wouldn't be that confident in her being unwilling to risk calling the police.
She has literally no reason to have a problem with the police, would she have a problem with bakers if he was a baker.
This poor girl is going to be a doormat her whole life.
Your mom not liking cops is entirely irrelevant. She could've left him at any time but she didn't. She doesn't have the right to complain about police. The problem is your step father and step sister broke into your house and changed the locks, keeping you out of your own home. Hopefully you pressed charges. The call with your mom was just her attempt to emotionally manipulate and guilt trip you. Ignore her, shes just as bad as your sd and ss
It seems to me that Adam and Emma are doing to the mother the same thing her abusive ex did, even going so far as to bait the OP into getting the cops involved in order to trigger the bad memories with her. Anything to separate her from her life prior to them being involved.
The mother is going to come to two realisations. First, that her new family is taking advantage of her and being controlling / abusive in the exact same way. And secondly, that since she took it upon herself to burn all the bridges she had with people, nobody is going to care enough to try and help her next time. She will be stuck with them and it is her own fault.
You hit the nail right on the head
Exactly. He used her issues with cops as leverage, he used his own wife as a tool. The OP really should have conveyed that to her more directly, that her new family is using her as an excuse to commit theft. She’s become a doormat so they won’t leave her and they’re taking full advantage
like u should have some braincells to see this situation they are manipulators emma doesnt care abt her she is in for the money i hope i never be asshole as her mother was throwing her own babies on street and coddling others when she is used and dumped which will definetly happen she will get back to her daughter and op being an idiot still will take care of her
Very sad. Op should not give her Mom more chances and stay no contact
Well said. Not only should OP go full NO CONTACT with her mother, she should also put her house up for sale, and move to another state to start her life afresh.
OP's mom and new family are absolutely delusional, I haven't even finished the story yet and I had to stop for a minute because their actions were literally insane
I don't blame you, I had to take a break from the story, too.
How the fuck did it take her that long to get to her home being notified of a break in for them to change all the locks? how the fuck did the security system not automatically call the police? how the hell are these adults clearly still children
I was thinking the same thing. But maybe her house is 30+ min away from her work & by the time she got there, they had to locks changed. It don’t take that long to change locks. I’m more concerned about the security system not calling the cops for a B&E, unless she just has security cameras like the Roku ones & has them set to motion censor but even if she had those, she would have seen who was in her house. Idk it’s not adding up 🤷🏽♀️
I'm guessing the service she use doesn't include calling the police as one of it's policies. I can understand how they were able to change the locks, but the police might be for a different reason. Idk.
It’s AI😂😂
wtf is this story?😂😂😂😂
My step dad tried to steal my house? Literally😂
Just break in change the locks and he lives there now?
What would a reasonable person expect the outcome to be?
A house is like 300k, so what she gets a joke told about her so she steals majority of her net worth and leaves her homeless 😂
They were married 2 years she barely knew these things people
If that worked wouldn’t everyone just see a house they like and do that?😂😂
I know it’s AI but what was the prompt?🤣🤣
That ain't a mother in the slightest. OP's and their mother's separation is a blessing in disguise, good riddens
"someone is breaking into your home" and you race home to...what? get killed by robbers? you send the police
Thats the part that doesn't make sense, usually the company themselves would alert the police about the break in.
@alegendarywolf3278 depends on the contract. I used to work in security. Not in the usa, but here,it depended on what the customer specified.
Not even that.
She had a call from the security company.
THEY would have called the cops and only then informed her of the break in.
That's literally what they are paid to do.
These stories just pull circumstances out of their a$$ without thinking of the real world consequences of all of these events and what happens with them.
Either it's an AI or some basement goblin living beneath their parents that never steps outside into the real world.
@@thecursed01 Either way your original point stands - she would have called the police first if the security company hadn't beaten her to it.
If for no other reason than for home owner insurance purposes - something I think you would expect to be an issue for someone who had a security company contracted to watch the premises.
Not calling the police could lead to prejudicial judgements delaying or even denying a payout if something had been broken by the intruders.
Let be honest,the best thing OP can do is go NC and keep an eye out if they try that stunt again in the future.
If the mother choose the stepdaughter let her, eventually karma will come for her.
Agreed. But the mother, stepsister, and stepfather will never try that ?#*$ again in the future, once OP sells her house and moves states away.
'No one can figure out who we are based on this post'
Oh you'd be surprised.
4chan found a guy only by a photo of his feets stepping on lettuces while he was working.
They found who the guy was and his work place (burger king).
It’s not real people 😂
It’s AI
i thought the mom got beat by cops or something but she just dated an asshole and is taking it out on all cops wtf
The mom basicly realized how bad of a parent she was, decided to make up for it by spoiling her new stepdaugther.
But she felt to guilty and abandened op again and ran from them on the same coin
Everything their mom is doing now is just to placate their own guilt while trying to outrun it
It’s deeper than that. Deep down the mom hates OP because she blames her for the fact that she didn’t live her “best life” when she was younger, because of her birth.
That kid cannot comprehend her mom doesn't give a crap about her or that she was a part of the three's plan to have her pay to support her step sister. They are all pos people and she isnt. Pos identify with eachother.
Her mom cheated with a cop and he turned out to be like hearted to the people she is socially attracted to and physically attracted to.
Ghosting her emotionally abusive and manipulative mom is the best relationship she will have with her mom.
The stepfather leveraged his partners trauma to steal a house. He used her, she should be furious, not taking his side. And then the mother goes on about being selfish in the past, but goes right back to being selfish by wanting to be away from her daughter because she felt guilty and wanted to appease her new family. She’s enabled so much toxic behaviour and pushes her issues onto everyone around her. The OP is better off without them, if they act like this with others it won’t be long till they end up in cells the next time they do something like this
"get them evicted" honey get them arrested lmao
This is BS. How come Adam and Emma didn't get arrested? That's breaking and entering.
Probably a "civil matter". Basically if the police can walk away they will.
Burglary isn't a civil matter. I would have pushed for an arrest. Trespassing too. The alarm compis proof of the crimes.
I have a strong suspicion that as soon as the new husband and step-daughter get whatever they can out of the OP's mother, she is going to find herself broke, homeless, husband-less, daughter-less, step-daughter-less and pretty darn hopeless. Evidently, she skipped the words: family, mother, daughter, loyalty, love, fairness, neglect, honor, trust, etc., when she was learning vocabulary in elementary school.
When she finally realizes this (when I say 'realizes' I moght actually mean 'slapped upside the head by karma) she is going to realize that she threw away the only person/item from the (abovementioned) list that was actually genuine and not simply a placeholder.
Your steps involved the police, don't break the law and you won't be involved with the police.
Considering if the story is true,
Is the mother stupid?
She has once more put herself in an abusive situation where practically strangers are "looking after her".
I could sympathize with her past but given her current attitude, I say it was all a bunch of bull.
What would happen if she were to divorce?
She burnt all bridges herself this time and will stay that way for her whole life. Very Sad.
I'm actually wondering if the ex partner allowed her to see her daughter and she used it as an excuse
If her ex was a butcher she goes vegan and so on 😂😂😂
Your mom's past is irrelevant...but the fact that they tried to take YOUR house with ZERO sympathy; on top of how she reacted after you called the cops, shows your mom does not have your best interests at heart. Sorry to OP hope she's doing better now.
I think OP mom has a type. Mom should go to therapy, because the new family is doing exactly what that bad boyfriend did to her.
The mom is going to be crying when OP has a baby. And op won't let her be a grandma
Oh, hell yes, not only that, but also, when OP never invites her to her wedding.⚠️
OP is a bit sympathetic if yall can’t tell. & the mom knows that.
This is really sad. OP's mom understood that she failed as a mother but she ended up choosing her new family over her own biological daughter. I really hope that one day she'll finally make up with OP. . .
I really hope that when she decides to try that, daughter will tell her to F off.
No, let's not get our hopes up, because, unfortunately, that will never happen, I mean, the mother has caused OP too much hurt over the years; it's time for OP to not only forget about her mother, but also cut off all contact with her, the stepfather, and stepsister, sell her house, move to another state, buy another house there, and make her own family that consists of supportive new friends, a trustworthy therapist, and a warm-hearted man whose family are good people. OP can invite her bio-dad to come visit/hang out with her in her new state, any time she wants, plus, she'll end up with a MIL (mother-in-law) who's 5 times more of a real mother to her than her birth-giver is.
Why would you wish such misfortune upon OP.
That mother is one of the most toxic people in her life, not to mention how much of doormat OP that she would probably take her back without hesitation
"im sure you can understand my moms mistrust in police"
no. i cannot. thats the stupidest reason to mistrust the police, but to each their own
Yeah it's moronic lol
The mom sounds like the type to escalate a situation with the police then get mad when they respond In kind
NTA: It’s a good thing the step dad decided not to squat in Ops house.
I can't wait for the future update where the mom gets dumped by her husband and the bratty stepdaughter and comes begging for another chance with her real daughter.
bruh what? someone's breaking in & you rush home w/o calling the cops? gotta be fake/taking the piss😂😂
🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ cut your losses OP DAMN YOUR NOT THEIR DOORMAT
Sue the heck out of them
Honestly the problem are not the the step dad and step sister! It’s the Mom she’s is very selfish and self centered! Always making excuses of why she hasn’t been a good mom and not putting her only child first! I honestly believe her mom doesn’t love her and she needs to cut her off! Cause the end of this post was heartbreaking! People need to realize that no matter who the person is whether it is a mom or dad a friend or any kind of family member you shouldn’t put up with toxic relationships or mediocre love! Cutting cutting people off, no matter what position they hold in your life is the best thing you can do because they will destroy you and bring you down with them and have you believing that you are the problem! And I say this from experience, Its the only way that you will survive in this world!
His mom really needs to see a professional. I think relating one place officer that you were dating she’s a whole group of police officers is a big stretch which makes me think there’s more problems.
People don't change. Be grateful for your dad.
At first, I was annoyed with the step sister, then the step dad, then the mom. Then the op, lol! Why can't she take the hint?
OP, you have no guts to stand up for yourself. Grow a backbone already!🙄😠
Her hard time has nothing to do with police. She had a crappy boyfriend, his job was just that, a job.
Dude, how is she even supposed to "live together with her step-sis and get along" if she's locked out? Did her mom not know that part, or did she conveniently overlook it while dropping her guilt bomb on her daughter?
Not that it really matters. Even under the most charitable interpretation, her mom is a monster that ignores her daughter's wishes and enables some prick that weaponizes her mom's trauma against her daughter.
Mom's issues with the police are ridiculous.. She picks crap boyfriends, and let's them control her... Screw mom and those other AHs who thought they could push you around.. Why would you bow down to a mom who doesn't respect you at all; and let's her husband of 2 yrs try to steal your house.. I'd want nothing at all to do with a mom like this..
3 words were in my head the entire story “ Sue their ahh”
The whole reason she came up with for hating all cops makes no sense the mom was just shady and selfish.
You don't deserve this treatment from mom. Don't feel bad you warn them
Your mother is happy with her new family. She is selfish. Forget about her
OP-You have nothing to feel bad about the situation. Your Mother is toxic and needs lots of therapy. Don't feel guilty, try and get her into therapy. That stepfather and daughter are toxic, I dont think calling your Mom would have made a difference. You need to get yourself some help so you can move on. Your Mom is paying for her choices.
Only 4:11 in and the step dad is already in for break in and alteration of private property without consent lawsuits😂😂
She didn't have a traumatic experience with the police, she had a shitty ex! Had he been a teacher, would she be scared of teachers? how about a line cook?
So the security monitoring employees didnt call the police like literally every security system does? How did the stepdad break in and change all the locks in the time it took the poster to drive home? I guess when you make up stories its easy to forget simple details like that.
Depending on the commute, I could see the lock change happening. After all, OP did say it took her an hour to get home. The standard house only has 2 locks to change, so doing that in an hour is very possible. The security company not calling the cops could be as simple as the police not being able to get involved at the time. I've lived in a small town where there's only 2 or 3 cops on duty at a time, and a simple break in would be down the list of things to handle.
I hope OP’s mom finds out that her new husband is abusive.
Women who have children for the man that they are with at the time behave this way, women who have a child because they wanted and was ready for it take care if their own.how many woman you know like that, just observe a little, they are everywhere.
OP can't accrpt the fact the her mom does not love her. So much drama.
Mom is a criminal, husband is a criminal, step sister is a criminal. Who could have guessed they were all horrible people?
HELL NO!!!! GET OUT!!! You paid for it...doesn't matter what your mom wanted. You did the right thing 😉
Sometimes I wonder if most of these writer of these stories have common senses! They always the doormat and feel bad standing up for themselves!
He stepfather and stepsister are awful people but the worst person of all is her mother who isn't a mother in the real sense at all.
OP is 30 years old, why is she still clinging to the mommy in her head, her mom is a POS but the way she's still clinging to her dream mommy is honestly worse, go to therapy and close that chapter ffs.
I'm so sick of these stories of people willing to let their families walk all over them, because it's family!! So OP's mom was willing to let her husband (not his father) throw her son into the street for his daughter. Walk away OP. Live your life, build your own family. Your mother is showing you where she stands. Family is not always blood. She's proven this to you.
It's time to get the bat, some idiots have infested your home
Watch her and her new family crawl back in the future when times get tough...
OP, you should have turned mother and her uninvited family away from your housewarming. Knowing how she is you shouldn't have invited her at all.
Another "Do it for Dan" story.😂
These types of stories doesn’t anyone pay thugs to handle these situations? $1,000 and 4 huge dudes would be there asap. Just saying that happens more than you think. Thugs aren’t just bad guys, they give regular people justice for money 💴
If the ex-partner was a doctor would she refuse to get medical help? I think it was just an excuse. That mother really never deserved her daughter and to be honest I think Adam and his daughter are asses but not the drivers here
I feel like this is fake which I don't like doing. Op added a bunch of unnecessary bs and was just yapping at some points. And then the story about why her mom doesn't like the police, never have I've rolled my eyes so many times. Don't get me wrong, no person should get through that, but that's no reason for judging an entire group because of people
Can't wait for the update a few years from now when mom and Adam try to worm their way back into OP's life once they learn how wonderful her life is with her new hubby and kids. Will be fun to hear about her slapping them into the dirt like that sorry excuse of a maternal unit that can't understand why the daughter she abandoned doesn't want anything to do with her.
Does your mom even like you? At her big age she needs to go seek professional help with her “anxiousness” with cops and why she continues to chose sucky partners, you need to set your boundaries and don’t waiver you should not have apologized for calling thee authorities to remove trespassers off of your property the way your mom gaslit you I’m surprised you reached out to have a talk….. your mom clearly doesn’t care about your feelings for whatever her issue is with you isn’t for you to find out love from a distance…… and go see a professional to work through your childhood trauma….
What is this fuc*ing story?! Their mother had trouble with the police so they felt bad about calling the police on his step father and step sister stealing their house, WHAT?! 😂
Go no contact with all if them especially your mother. you are not responsible for your mom's poor choice in men..100% sure the cop would not have tried to take over your house, she downgraded..keep the cops on speed dial. Your Mom is a terrible mother
We all know these stories are fake but they are really entertaining
In short op
Your mom doesn't want to build a relationship not just because of her new family but also because you remind her of all her mistakes. She can't be that mom to you ever.
I'm sorry
When she looses them she'll be back sorry
Op kinda let them mess with her head till the end 😔
so SD et SS break in, changes the lock, and mom get real sad about you not accepting it ? come on ... if she doesn't see the problem, it's because she was ok with it.
she doesn't care about you, she cares about what you can do for her. a step dad "punishing" his 31 yo setp daughter ? wtf is wrong with you mom and step familly ...
Stories like this really gets under my skin how the fuck she go get mad because she called the police on her pick me daughter an SOB of a husband try to force her out of her house and she's mad at her
she do be gaslighting her badly,
dont negotiate with terrorists
Shes not. She seems to be drawn to chaos and wants to fix it. She cold shouldered you, figuring you'll always be there. That shit is total bs
your mother is the problem and I wouldn't care HOW she felt. you need distance and to give her what she needs -NOT YOU!!! your mother is pityful.
I don’t get it they took ur house n ur mom is mad at u naw stop talking to ur mom im sorry that happened but really I would never talk to her again
Are you kidding me? I know how we feel about our mom, wth... They are all crazy. Doesnt matter what moms past experience is...she and her family is in the wrong.
Mom is toxic as f and Emma deserves jail with her father for breaking and entering
bruh you called that a trauma?
I reckon that Mum is dying to get rid of Emma and that’s why she’s so disappointed that OP didn’t cave.
i would just start spilling shit to relatives abt them and keep proof of everything if she never gave me love y will i care
Nah. Just spend the holidays with a petty friend that would make a slap back post against that sorry egg donor.
This sounds EXACTLY like somethig my biomum would do🤣
I hope op cut ties with that pos.
He mom is just like a person who kick the wall 🧱 & cry when he/she is hurt.
I almost needed an ENTITLED parent warning. 😂 JFC. These people.
Not sure if OP read this but Im so sorry of his situation, one hard pill to swallow that he has to take is that his mom is her own individual.
I can give to her that in lack of information, know what to do and feel trap into a situation with no help can lead to take the worse choices, a police officer may have power but doesn't make it unbeatable or all powerful, she could have record it him, present the evidence of his abuse to the I.A, go to the district attorney, at the end even officers have to follow the law and Im sure many would have turn their back to him and no one want to support an abuser despite present as a nice person.
Now what choice did he have, the step father and sister literally invade his home, change the locks of his house and basically throw him out to a house he work to have and pay for it, just call his mom to appease a totally unfair situation just because she got a bad deal with one, I understand the trauma but they broke so many laws and even if he had op to follow that way it would be even a worse and more stressful situation because it would turn into a squatter situation and end up in a prolong battle that be much much worse for OP.
For what I can say of the mother, she took really bad decisions, pressure from the family to pick two of the most toxic relationship and now is basically abandon him because she feels ready to live the family life she always crave, it wont last and once the new family show the true colors to her and turn around there she would see the errors of her actions and it be to late for her to amend things with OP the one that hurt the most as a mother.
I say to OP be ready for some day she will try reach you and you have to make a decisions, will be either to forgive her or leave her to suffer the consequences of her choices.
Her mom is just looking about her own wishes, OP shouldn't feel bad and definitely not apologizing
I swear, the moment my mother asked me to keep my distance or "take a break", i would take out my phone, delete her number right in front of her, and wish her the best.
I can’t believe what her mother thought.