i agree on the people who experience being attractive later in life when they grew up ugly (or as a person of color in a predominantly non-poc friendly area). i'm always surprised when people compliment me and i never like people who i perceive as the same people who would've been apart of the same crowd that alienated me for it. i'm also extremely suspicious when non-asian people find me "pretty" because is it pretty for an asian girl or is it a fetish? which was a common instinct.
same like, when I was younger [not like I'm very much old now] but like, some ppl used to bully me in school becuz my skintone isn't considered 'appealing' becuz it's not fair, but I'm actually pretty fair since I'm part siamese, but I felt the need to appear white, I used to cake my face with creams and all to make it appear whiter but now, ppl just go around and say I'm soo beautiful and like- I can't believe it, as a desi girl studying in a chinese school, it was overwhelming for me and hearing these compliments nowadays just- Idk....it feals like they're mocking me, and my physical features that I actually love now used to be the reason ppl just degraded me and yea
@A M apologies but i would disagree because colorism exists everywhere (please refer to khadija mbowe's video on colorism where they discuss the complex relationship of colorism and the world). please also note that it might seem as a more exasperated issue in east asia compared to rest of the world, from your perspective, due to the media you consume (there's also a complex dichotomy of how beauty standards have changed in the west because slightly tanned skin on non-bipoc now means wealth). the truth of the matter is, wherever you are in the world, there is colorism; from india to china to phillipines to canada to mexico. it's a global issue. however, pertaining to my comment, i am speaking on my experience of living in the west where the eurocentric beauty standard runs rampant (meaning skinny, white, no body hair, blonde, and big colored eyes) which leads to degredation and ostracization of people with ethnic features especially in areas where bipoc do not frequent or live. this is an extremely nuanced, complex topic but there's a difference between the demonization of ethnic features vs colorism. this issue is more like south-east asian/south asian features being discriminated against in east asia and vice versa (not jessica's video or thoughts but my comment specifically.)
You look so pretty ♥️ and omg i can’t believe you thought you were unattractive and kind of hold that a bit still :( you are SO BEAUTIFUL 🥺 but I love the conversation about pretty privilege it’s nice to hear your thoughts ♥️
Ahh I love you both 😌 I know, even the people we find most beautiful have insecurities and that’s completely valid-I know other people’s words may not help, but as a fellow Asian gal myself, you are absolutely gorgeous and I always admire how beautiful you are 💗💗 I don’t wear makeup but your eye makeup always makes me want to try it beyond blush, highlighter, lips, and eyebrows :)
i can definitely relate to what you said! i grew up in a small town where pretty meant being skinny blonde white, and i only started gaining confidence in my own appearance after discovering makeup, asian makeup artists (like you!!), and the artistry of it all. that sometimes awkwardly lends itself to this weird imposter syndrome about my own face-i feel less confident barefaced because i feel much more like me as a child who never measured up to the white beauty standard. im definitely still working through my issues even now.
Totally feel you on that last part!! Sometimes I wonder why I hate seeing my bare face, but then I realize it’s because it reminds me so much of my high school self where I thought I was so unattractive 😶
Yeah a lot of this was really real for me. I was also one of maybe 2-3 asian kids in my school district growing up and I also had a complex. Not quite a ugly complex, but an othered one for sure.
i found when i lost weight and started wearing more and more makeup, ive been approached by people on the streets and on campus and it just makes me more insecure about my bare face and it feels really awkward,, so yeah def can relate :')
I know today everybody is like “you’re beautiful the way you are! Looks don’t matter!” But people will always judge you how you look. Like you were saying about having a “glow up.” More people want to talk to you or be with you. Especially with weight lost people treat you differently. It’s crazy
Yes!! I definitely understand what you're talking about - being accepted later on, whether because it's just a natural "glow up" phase or beauty standards shifting to be more inclusive... and it just feels bad sometimes because you're accepted for a reason that doesn't make you feel good or truly accepted.. or at least not in the way you wish you were accepted. thank you for sharing
i think i get what you mean! growing up with pretty privilege vs acquiring it later in life definitely changes the way you are socially conditioned?? so like fitting in with people who grew up with it vs you who has kind of found your place with pretty privilege recently, you have spent so long interacting with the world totally differently so it's hard to find that common ground amongst that crowd. hearing that you've struggled with that is so shocking because you've always been one of the prettiest (amongst many other positive traits!!) people i've ever followed for years. thank you for your transparency, love u miss vu 🤍🕊✨
I agree with that statement of not being accepted then and later being accepted now because you are now deemed attractive or conventionally pretty. I know that as a black girl growing up in a small town I was ostracized a lot and was deemed unattractive and or ugly, however, after discovering makeup and dressing better it was like a button was switched people who wouldn´t normally approach you are and that people are willing to be nicer and more considerate than if you weren´t deemed attractive. So yes, I agree with your statement 100%. Also, I love your videos even though I am not Asian and this style of makeup is not suitable for me and my face shape I wholeheartedly love your makeup style and hope to see your channel continue to grow. Keep going beautiful.
Jessica 😭😭 you literally bring me so much comfort 😩🥺 I’m experiencing the exact same thing and have been experiencing it, I’m asian growing up in a predominantly white area and hearing this from someone else makes me feel 100004664x better :)) I’ve told my caucasian friends about this and so many others about this but I feel like every single time I mention it I feel like their opinions are invalidating of mine. It sometimes hurt being the only one out of the group that no one would blink an eye at but i’ve been learning to understand that it isn’t my problem. Hearing you speak about matters like this really feels so uplifting and I appreciate you so much
I understand what you mean and can definitely relate. I also grew up in a rather small town in Germany and was always one of the few if not the only asian at all schools I went to. I experienced so much underlying racism throughout my life and struggle with feeling inferior, ugly and like an outsider even when my situation has changed... Aside from the blatant racism from random people or classmates who were making fun of me from the start, I almost always also had at least one person in my "friend" group who disliked me for no apparent reason and would treat me differently, even making stupid rumours up like my family would eat frogs or downright say to my face that I'm "ugly but it's not my fault because I'm born that way". I was always friendly to them, just smile and swallow the pain quietly because I was raised that way (my viet parents were refugees and it's probably a mixture of the culture and that there were thankful to live here and they never talked back or stood up for themselves or us kids when some random people called us "Chinks" and pulling their eyes or stuff like that but just laugh it off instead...). This is another topic but my parents wanted my sibling and I to fit into german culture and probably improve their own language skills as well so they only talked in german to us so we both can't even speak viet anymore (which I'm personally very sad about). So we didn't even fit in with other Viet people and they were always disappointed when they learned we couldn't speak our language :( Only later in life when I found some friends who were interested in the Anime & Manga culture (I know xD...) or even later when I moved to a big city to go to university I suddenly received quite a lot of compliments on my appearance (from women and men) and men were taking interest in me... Honestly, growing up most of my life in an environment with underlying racism and my parents probably being overwhelmed themselves, I didn't know how to handle it and I'm still struggling a lot with my self esteem. I notice it everytime I get to know new people I unconsciously avoid the "pretty and popular" people even if they show interest in me. I have to work a lot on leaving this mindset behind and be more confident with myself. I also often wonder what my childhood and youth would have been like if I grew up in a non toxic environment because I feel like it influenced so much and I missed a lot of opportunities.The struggle is real... Anyway, thank you for being so open and personal. You look stunning and have a great personality!
I resonate with this too - i am from the UK but i am half thai and was 1 of like 10 people in my whole school with east/south east asian heritage and i can only speak english as my dad thought teaching us thai would 'confuse us' 🥲🥲🥲🥲 so i basically grew up feeling that i don't fit in with my white side due to my appearance and mannerisms yet don't fit in with my asian side as i can't speak the language and feel completely disconnected from the culture except from the food! Then, when i got older, i started recognising the amount of fetishisation that asian and mixed race (minorities in general tbh) women get and it's just so overwhelming at times. I can only hope that it becomes easier for kids like us to grow up and navigate themselves through life without facing as much stigma and ignorance that we did
I just would like to say to the both of you that I'm west Asian and even though I didn't grow up with your experiences, just keep on going in getting rid of this mindset. Also, it's not too late to learn your native languages. It would help getting over this mental block and allow you to be more confident in yourselves
This look is so pretty!! And I can relate to the conversation about being unattractive at a younger age and then being attractive now but still feel unattractive. I got called ugly all the time and nobody wanted to be my friend. So once I lost my baby fat and got older people saw me differently and it was a weird experience. So strange how when you start to look and feel your best the people who made fun of you wanna be friends. I definitely don't try to befriend popular or cocky type of people. I can agree those are the type of people who are usually mean girls.
Jessica, I know exactly what you mean when you spoke about not being the beauty standard. I grew up in a similar situation and I was never the "it" girl. Because of this, I never thought I was ugly, but I understood I wasn't the social beauty standard either. It wasn't till I got older that I realised that the beauty standard it what I make of it. Either way, it did cause an awkward phase in my life when I moved to a more diverse community. There is this weird sense of pretty privilege that goes along with attractive girls, that "mean girl" stereotype. Since I was never seen as the pretty girl, once I got older and moved to a diverse community......it caused some issues. I didn't hold myself in high regard for beauty looks, but I had other females think I was being snobby when I said this. And they would think I was rude or bitchy because they thought I was pretty. It triggers a weird complex in you going from not being what "society views as pretty" to being seen as "beautiful". I wish more people spoke about this especially for Asian women. Race has a big factor in this and it can be confusing to sift through those emotions. Regardless, I just wanted to say you are very beautiful not just because of your looks, but your spirit!!
i love hearing you open up to us and i hope you know that i’m sure all that appreciation towards you and your beauty is genuine!!! also i wish i could recreate this eye look for new years you are so stunning girl 🤍
omg becoming conventionally attractive later in life is something that i didn't realise affected me/my social life as much as it did until recently !! mine wasn't necessarily because of being a minority because i feel like my parents always made it a point to take me to the Philippines often and be part of filipino/asian communities in the states but i did grow up being one of the "weird" kids because i was super nerdy and not really socially aware due to being homeschooled until i was 10. when i got to high school i didn't realize that people were only meeting me post-awkward phase so i was super shy around new people but apparently because i had become prettier/started to present myself differently i came off as mean or snobby and i had no idea lol, i thought people were just not talking to me bc they still thought i was weird. going to uni kind of forced me to be more outgoing and bubbly and i also became a lot more confident and self assured from being totally on my ow in a new country, so most of my girl friends now say they never perceived me as mean at the beginning but they've also told me that the reason i mostly get attention from older guys is because guys my age find me intimidating lol. apparently a lot of guys find it off-putting (???) that i would rather do everything for myself
The superficial acceptance rings true! Gossip is so big in such circles and I often get a bit overwhelmed since conversations often becomes very negative as well. While I’m not inherently against speaking about things that make one upset, it’s the insistence on complaining about others and themselves to gain reactions that irks me. I guess it’s a form of bonding in their eyes but it’s just exhausting to someone who mostly kept to themselves and their close friends in the past.
jessi, yes I've been through that stage. but now i am more focus on myself and loving myself, i pay more attention to my mental health now, and discover some things that are out of my comfort zone but still trying to comfort myself. 💗 and jessi , i hope you're reading this because you made me confident. 🤗💕 i love you and please keep going, you're the best.
Omg I loveee your makeup!! That eye look is so creative and pretty and the glitter on the liner is everything ❤️✨ also you are literally so beautiful and I can’t believe you ever thought otherwise 🥺💗💗 I feel like everyone is their own harshest critic and it can be hard for us to see ourselves the way others see us. I related a lot to what you said about not feeling like you met the beauty standard being one of the few Asians in a small town so thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤️❤️
Whhaaattt!! I’m the one who is in shock here 😂!! You’re so beautiful with or without makeup, and I get a lot of compliments saying that I look like you and it makes me sooo happy cause you’re one of my beauty standards 💕 thank you for sharing you’re feeling with us it makes me realize that even the prettiest people in my eyes can have these thoughts about themselves sometimes, same as me. my friends always compliments me saying that I’m soo pretty but you know sometimes you don’t see yourself the same way people are looking at you💔 and it's a terrible feeling but eventually, you’ll get over it at some point! I hope so
dude i totally understand the feeling of growing up “ugly” and then being “pretty.” i recently (ish) got an instagram and people have literally told me to my face that my instagram made their jaw drop. and then all the nice comments and its like weird idk. i get so awkward, and sometimes i feel weird trying to be “pretty” but i like being pretty
Hey Jessica.. i‘ve following ur glam journey since i was 15 & now i‘m 20.. lmao😤😂 but i just wanted to tell you THANKYOU FOR SAVING MY A** and being a good asian GLAM GURU for me ofcrs.. merry December and ILY❤️🦋✨ with love Paldron😊
Jessica I honestly miss you, your vibe is so soothing and calm I wish you posted more I always come her to watch your channel because you make the best video.
@@jessyluxe omgggg I didn’t think you would reply back!! Thank you and I appreciate you so much. Take all the time you need I’m just happy you uploaded 😊
As a mixed south Asian girl who grew up in a super tiny predominately white town, i can relate to you a lot. I was ridiculed for how I looked and dressed in middle school then in high school, suddenly people became infatuated with how “mixed” people look and flattery came my way for fitting that beauty standard but tbh I wasn’t happy about it because I knew it wasn’t genuine. At the end of the day, peace and kindness is beautiful ✌🏼
heh five minutes after upload, i hope u’ll see my message jessy : u r one heck of a beautiful girl, please stay just as u are!! These videos r the best thing to watch after a stressful day ☁️
I got into your videos because of how self aware you are. A lot of influencers don’t really talk about things wrong with the way they think about themselves and almost have a fake facade. But they don’t realize that holding in their experiences will cause more troubles
I was bullied for years, and when the bullying stopped I was excluded from things by my peers. Now as someone over 25, I stopped caring. I have some good friedns, and I no longer feel like I don't belong, cause I mean if they didn't like me, they could just say so and I'd find people worth my time.
Yessss I understand, once I learned to do my makeup “popular” people would include me and they would say rude things about others, I thought I would be happy but instead I felt bad.
I would love to have a friend like you and I can really relate to how you expressed your feeling about other girls and not feeling accepted sometimes; your feelings are validated but our thoughts are not always fact :) you are so pretty!! Like I wish I looked THAT gorgeous 🥺😍 always keep your chin up :)
I agree with the social anxiety too esp after Covid 😅 but this makeup look is so pretty! I’m gonna try it for my birthday this wknd with my wine velvet outfit 🥀
Omg I can definitely relate. I was told that I was a cute toddler but going from elementary school to middle school I realized that I was actually pretty ugly lol I had braces and glasses and a really big nose. Even when I started doing makeup during my sophomore year of high school, I was still ugly (which is fine whatever I've been ugly my entire life at that point and envied attractive people and assumed they'd be mean and snobby) But after I graduated high school and entered the quarantine life, I started working out more (b/c I hated my body and had nothing else to do) and practiced makeup more and got more follows on ig bc of those makeup looks then noticed that I got a lot more dms and old classmates started following me and commenting on my posts. This was when I realized like "damn I glowed up ode" and it feels REALLY WEIRD bc people who wouldn't approach me before now want to approach me and I know it's human nature to like attractive looking things but still it bothers me lol
oh my gosh I understand you completely I grew up/growing up in a really small town with very little diversity. I thought that i was ugly for years but now bc of social media and whatnot im realizing that im not ugly?? and its such such a weird experience/disconnect with oneself
I can relate... I grew up in a town where I was pretty much the only Asian at my schools, and I am NOT "pretty" by either American or Asian standards. I can force myself to see that I look fine and it doesn't matter, but I still catch myself hating the way I look for just being Asian and not having eurocentric features. Now at a college where there are tons of Asians, I don't feel so bothered by my Asian features (after finding what makeup/fashion looks best on me), but I get hella imposter syndrome. Also, I feel really guilty when younger Asian girls come up to me and wistfully say "you're so prettyyyy"-- because I spent hoouuurs on my looks to reach a point of "looking decent for an Asian," and I still stress over my appearance all the time & would rather be them who are more comfortable/carefree with their appearance. And I think because I look like I spend more time on my looks, different people approach me, whether they are pretty privileged people thinking I can relate to their woes or those who are more involved in totally different social cultures (pop culture, dating, more Americanized etcetc) than what my not-pretty self is accustomed to. I don't even know if that makes sense, but it just sucks that people's impressions of my appearance get me categorized into different social categories. It gets kind of lonely then. Sorry for the essay idk if it makes sense, ugh sorryyy but yeah, I totally hear you...
I felt the scenario of not feeling attractive in my predominantly white home town. Because I was different physically and didn't throw myself into social circles I felt unwanted in a lot of ways. Now that I'm getting more comfortable in my skin and feeling more attractive it still feels mind-boggling to get complimented or get looks from strangers. I think a bit of the thought that since I don't fit the western or eastern beauty standards, so no one will find me attractive still sits in my head but I am working through it :)
I understand with the pretty privilege thing🥺 as a Asian AND Viet. Unfortunately I was bullied and perceived as “ugly”. Even now. i feel like viets dont get enough recognition 🥺 but now, now that I learned how to do makeup and grew into my features, the people who bullied me, wants to be friends with me. Which I feel is superficial and uncomfy🥺 because at the end of the day, I’m still me💗 since day one!
It wasn't until past year that after years of experimenting, that I finally figured out a makeup style that suits me. For a while, I tried to do makeup that suits western features on my asian face and it just wasn't flattering on me. It made me really insecure, I felt really ugly and underserving of self respect for a really long time. When I started delving in asian makeup styles last year, I feel like I started to fit the beauty standard a bit better. And in just this shift in my makeup style has drastically changed the way people act around me. It's the weirdest thing, people just come up to me and start talking to me in a way I know they didn't in past. I get compliments by strangers way more frequently now and I feel like people are nicer to me?? It does make me feel really uncomfortable sometimes because just a few years ago, those same people probably wouldn't have even looked my direction. In those moments, I just want to smear my makeup and see how they would react, would they treat me the same? It makes me feel like my a lot of my interactions with people are more fake. And I see this flip happening on tiktok too, asian features that we once bullied for - are now being appreciated more. I don't know if this a result the growing popularity of anime, kpop, or the fox eye trend, or a combination of it all but it's definitely ringing alarm bells in my head
talk about beauty privilege, people said that i was the prettiest and cutest when i was a kid and that statement lasted until i was 15 but when puberty hit my face started to grow a few pimples and i had a period where my skin looked really bad. people started to ignore me and that’s really make me bad. I’m so stressed and keep trying to be the prettiest again, i was really obsessed. but now I can accept all the facts, I'm sincere.🥲🥲🥲
Hi Jessica! Can you do a video using “fake product of eyeshadows” I wanted to see how you deal with fake eyeshadow to turn into something cute or bold. It would be interest 😄
I relate on the late bloomer type of experience when it comes to fitting into a more normal standard of beauty, later in life. I too feel kinda dissociated and surreal in my body, just because no one gave me any kind of positive interaction when I was younger. As soon as my body changed and developed more in my early 20s, I started getting more attention and people who wouldn’t notice me before started noticing me. It definitely feels so weird experiencing it now. It’s nice but weird for me at the end of the day haha
Hey Jess, super random request, but is it possible for you to provide some tutorials on how to apply makeup on more textured skin (i.e. on blackheads lol). I haven’t used makeup much, but I find foundation oxidises and makes the clogged pores on my nose more prominent. Also, how to makeup less cakey? Especially if you live in Australia like me and sweat buckets in the summer. Both kinda gross and tmi I know, but any tips would be appreciated. Makeup is such a broad field, and I have no idea where to start with it.
I would like to comment on what you said when you were talking about how you grew up in a community where you considered “unattractive “. I’m sort of struggling with the same thing except I’m in school and I feel ugly because I’m not the beauty standard I think anyone would want where I live and I’m constantly around friends who are which is sort of damaging my mental health. However, I’m no where trying to blame them for that, I just feel like I relate to what u said:)
I definitely went through that phase of being "unattractive" as a teen and then being suddenly more "attractive" in my 20s. Like you said, so many mean girls would try be friendly but I would do my best to stick by my friends. But then...sometimes even my friends would be jealous of those girls or even men? idk it was a super triggering and weird experience for my mental health and my ever disfunctional view on my body. 💀
I understand where you're coming from about growing up and not fitting the standard of beauty. It really did affected my mental health around middle school and in high school. Around 12th grade through now (college ), I been approached in public and it's very strange for me. It's something I can't wrap my head around and I don't think I will accept it either. Anyways, I loved the video and thank you for talking about this topic because I think it's something that is common within poc (I don't fit the standard of beauty here in the states and the same goes for Mexico's beauty standard).
I too like so many of the others who have commented can relate to what you said; there's just something so shitty about being treated differently when wearing a full face of makeup vs not.
i agree on the people who experience being attractive later in life when they grew up ugly (or as a person of color in a predominantly non-poc friendly area). i'm always surprised when people compliment me and i never like people who i perceive as the same people who would've been apart of the same crowd that alienated me for it. i'm also extremely suspicious when non-asian people find me "pretty" because is it pretty for an asian girl or is it a fetish? which was a common instinct.
right!
I totally agree!
same like, when I was younger [not like I'm very much old now] but like, some ppl used to bully me in school becuz my skintone isn't considered 'appealing' becuz it's not fair, but I'm actually pretty fair since I'm part siamese, but I felt the need to appear white, I used to cake my face with creams and all to make it appear whiter but now, ppl just go around and say I'm soo beautiful and like- I can't believe it, as a desi girl studying in a chinese school, it was overwhelming for me and hearing these compliments nowadays just- Idk....it feals like they're mocking me, and my physical features that I actually love now used to be the reason ppl just degraded me and yea
@@lexineevira2452 man 😭 im also desi but in an all white area. I relate so hard
@A M apologies but i would disagree because colorism exists everywhere (please refer to khadija mbowe's video on colorism where they discuss the complex relationship of colorism and the world). please also note that it might seem as a more exasperated issue in east asia compared to rest of the world, from your perspective, due to the media you consume (there's also a complex dichotomy of how beauty standards have changed in the west because slightly tanned skin on non-bipoc now means wealth). the truth of the matter is, wherever you are in the world, there is colorism; from india to china to phillipines to canada to mexico. it's a global issue.
however, pertaining to my comment, i am speaking on my experience of living in the west where the eurocentric beauty standard runs rampant (meaning skinny, white, no body hair, blonde, and big colored eyes) which leads to degredation and ostracization of people with ethnic features especially in areas where bipoc do not frequent or live. this is an extremely nuanced, complex topic but there's a difference between the demonization of ethnic features vs colorism. this issue is more like south-east asian/south asian features being discriminated against in east asia and vice versa (not jessica's video or thoughts but my comment specifically.)
You look so pretty ♥️ and omg i can’t believe you thought you were unattractive and kind of hold that a bit still :( you are SO BEAUTIFUL 🥺 but I love the conversation about pretty privilege it’s nice to hear your thoughts ♥️
Ahh I love you both 😌 I know, even the people we find most beautiful have insecurities and that’s completely valid-I know other people’s words may not help, but as a fellow Asian gal myself, you are absolutely gorgeous and I always admire how beautiful you are 💗💗 I don’t wear makeup but your eye makeup always makes me want to try it beyond blush, highlighter, lips, and eyebrows :)
i can definitely relate to what you said! i grew up in a small town where pretty meant being skinny blonde white, and i only started gaining confidence in my own appearance after discovering makeup, asian makeup artists (like you!!), and the artistry of it all. that sometimes awkwardly lends itself to this weird imposter syndrome about my own face-i feel less confident barefaced because i feel much more like me as a child who never measured up to the white beauty standard. im definitely still working through my issues even now.
Totally feel you on that last part!! Sometimes I wonder why I hate seeing my bare face, but then I realize it’s because it reminds me so much of my high school self where I thought I was so unattractive 😶
Yeah a lot of this was really real for me. I was also one of maybe 2-3 asian kids in my school district growing up and I also had a complex. Not quite a ugly complex, but an othered one for sure.
i found when i lost weight and started wearing more and more makeup, ive been approached by people on the streets and on campus and it just makes me more insecure about my bare face and it feels really awkward,, so yeah def can relate :')
me too😭😭
I know today everybody is like “you’re beautiful the way you are! Looks don’t matter!” But people will always judge you how you look. Like you were saying about having a “glow up.” More people want to talk to you or be with you. Especially with weight lost people treat you differently. It’s crazy
Yes!! I definitely understand what you're talking about - being accepted later on, whether because it's just a natural "glow up" phase or beauty standards shifting to be more inclusive... and it just feels bad sometimes because you're accepted for a reason that doesn't make you feel good or truly accepted.. or at least not in the way you wish you were accepted. thank you for sharing
Yes exactly!! It just feels uncomfy 😕😕
i think i get what you mean! growing up with pretty privilege vs acquiring it later in life definitely changes the way you are socially conditioned?? so like fitting in with people who grew up with it vs you who has kind of found your place with pretty privilege recently, you have spent so long interacting with the world totally differently so it's hard to find that common ground amongst that crowd. hearing that you've struggled with that is so shocking because you've always been one of the prettiest (amongst many other positive traits!!) people i've ever followed for years. thank you for your transparency, love u miss vu 🤍🕊✨
ah thank u!! yes that's exactly what i mean thank u for putting it better than i did hahahah 💖
I agree with that statement of not being accepted then and later being accepted now because you are now deemed attractive or conventionally pretty. I know that as a black girl growing up in a small town I was ostracized a lot and was deemed unattractive and or ugly, however, after discovering makeup and dressing better it was like a button was switched people who wouldn´t normally approach you are and that people are willing to be nicer and more considerate than if you weren´t deemed attractive. So yes, I agree with your statement 100%. Also, I love your videos even though I am not Asian and this style of makeup is not suitable for me and my face shape I wholeheartedly love your makeup style and hope to see your channel continue to grow. Keep going beautiful.
Jessica 😭😭 you literally bring me so much comfort 😩🥺 I’m experiencing the exact same thing and have been experiencing it, I’m asian growing up in a predominantly white area and hearing this from someone else makes me feel 100004664x better :)) I’ve told my caucasian friends about this and so many others about this but I feel like every single time I mention it I feel like their opinions are invalidating of mine. It sometimes hurt being the only one out of the group that no one would blink an eye at but i’ve been learning to understand that it isn’t my problem. Hearing you speak about matters like this really feels so uplifting and I appreciate you so much
I understand what you mean and can definitely relate. I also grew up in a rather small town in Germany and was always one of the few if not the only asian at all schools I went to. I experienced so much underlying racism throughout my life and struggle with feeling inferior, ugly and like an outsider even when my situation has changed...
Aside from the blatant racism from random people or classmates who were making fun of me from the start, I almost always also had at least one person in my "friend" group who disliked me for no apparent reason and would treat me differently, even making stupid rumours up like my family would eat frogs or downright say to my face that I'm "ugly but it's not my fault because I'm born that way". I was always friendly to them, just smile and swallow the pain quietly because I was raised that way (my viet parents were refugees and it's probably a mixture of the culture and that there were thankful to live here and they never talked back or stood up for themselves or us kids when some random people called us "Chinks" and pulling their eyes or stuff like that but just laugh it off instead...).
This is another topic but my parents wanted my sibling and I to fit into german culture and probably improve their own language skills as well so they only talked in german to us so we both can't even speak viet anymore (which I'm personally very sad about). So we didn't even fit in with other Viet people and they were always disappointed when they learned we couldn't speak our language :(
Only later in life when I found some friends who were interested in the Anime & Manga culture (I know xD...) or even later when I moved to a big city to go to university I suddenly received quite a lot of compliments on my appearance (from women and men) and men were taking interest in me... Honestly, growing up most of my life in an environment with underlying racism and my parents probably being overwhelmed themselves, I didn't know how to handle it and I'm still struggling a lot with my self esteem. I notice it everytime I get to know new people I unconsciously avoid the "pretty and popular" people even if they show interest in me. I have to work a lot on leaving this mindset behind and be more confident with myself. I also often wonder what my childhood and youth would have been like if I grew up in a non toxic environment because I feel like it influenced so much and I missed a lot of opportunities.The struggle is real...
Anyway, thank you for being so open and personal. You look stunning and have a great personality!
I resonate with this too - i am from the UK but i am half thai and was 1 of like 10 people in my whole school with east/south east asian heritage and i can only speak english as my dad thought teaching us thai would 'confuse us' 🥲🥲🥲🥲 so i basically grew up feeling that i don't fit in with my white side due to my appearance and mannerisms yet don't fit in with my asian side as i can't speak the language and feel completely disconnected from the culture except from the food! Then, when i got older, i started recognising the amount of fetishisation that asian and mixed race (minorities in general tbh) women get and it's just so overwhelming at times. I can only hope that it becomes easier for kids like us to grow up and navigate themselves through life without facing as much stigma and ignorance that we did
I just would like to say to the both of you that I'm west Asian and even though I didn't grow up with your experiences, just keep on going in getting rid of this mindset. Also, it's not too late to learn your native languages. It would help getting over this mental block and allow you to be more confident in yourselves
I was never a makeup person but you inspires me a lot. and now i like trying new makeup looks from you and i feel so happy whenever i wear makeup.
This look is so pretty!! And I can relate to the conversation about being unattractive at a younger age and then being attractive now but still feel unattractive. I got called ugly all the time and nobody wanted to be my friend. So once I lost my baby fat and got older people saw me differently and it was a weird experience. So strange how when you start to look and feel your best the people who made fun of you wanna be friends. I definitely don't try to befriend popular or cocky type of people. I can agree those are the type of people who are usually mean girls.
this makeup look is so stunning and i LOVE the glitter oml... i love listening and doing my makeup with u it feels like im doing it with a friend
Jessica, I know exactly what you mean when you spoke about not being the beauty standard. I grew up in a similar situation and I was never the "it" girl. Because of this, I never thought I was ugly, but I understood I wasn't the social beauty standard either. It wasn't till I got older that I realised that the beauty standard it what I make of it. Either way, it did cause an awkward phase in my life when I moved to a more diverse community. There is this weird sense of pretty privilege that goes along with attractive girls, that "mean girl" stereotype. Since I was never seen as the pretty girl, once I got older and moved to a diverse community......it caused some issues. I didn't hold myself in high regard for beauty looks, but I had other females think I was being snobby when I said this. And they would think I was rude or bitchy because they thought I was pretty. It triggers a weird complex in you going from not being what "society views as pretty" to being seen as "beautiful". I wish more people spoke about this especially for Asian women. Race has a big factor in this and it can be confusing to sift through those emotions. Regardless, I just wanted to say you are very beautiful not just because of your looks, but your spirit!!
i love hearing you open up to us and i hope you know that i’m sure all that appreciation towards you and your beauty is genuine!!! also i wish i could recreate this eye look for new years you are so stunning girl 🤍
love this so much
omg becoming conventionally attractive later in life is something that i didn't realise affected me/my social life as much as it did until recently !! mine wasn't necessarily because of being a minority because i feel like my parents always made it a point to take me to the Philippines often and be part of filipino/asian communities in the states but i did grow up being one of the "weird" kids because i was super nerdy and not really socially aware due to being homeschooled until i was 10. when i got to high school i didn't realize that people were only meeting me post-awkward phase so i was super shy around new people but apparently because i had become prettier/started to present myself differently i came off as mean or snobby and i had no idea lol, i thought people were just not talking to me bc they still thought i was weird. going to uni kind of forced me to be more outgoing and bubbly and i also became a lot more confident and self assured from being totally on my ow in a new country, so most of my girl friends now say they never perceived me as mean at the beginning but they've also told me that the reason i mostly get attention from older guys is because guys my age find me intimidating lol. apparently a lot of guys find it off-putting (???) that i would rather do everything for myself
watching this as motivation to start experimenting with makeup again! it’s such a cute look and the background music gives it such a cozy vibe
YOU ARE SO STUNNING JESSICAAA!
The superficial acceptance rings true! Gossip is so big in such circles and I often get a bit overwhelmed since conversations often becomes very negative as well. While I’m not inherently against speaking about things that make one upset, it’s the insistence on complaining about others and themselves to gain reactions that irks me. I guess it’s a form of bonding in their eyes but it’s just exhausting to someone who mostly kept to themselves and their close friends in the past.
jessi, yes I've been through that stage. but now i am more focus on myself and loving myself, i pay more attention to my mental health now, and discover some things that are out of my comfort zone but still trying to comfort myself. 💗 and jessi , i hope you're reading this because you made me confident. 🤗💕 i love you and please keep going, you're the best.
I am so happy seeing more asian influencers on media, you are so beautiful and inspires me a lot. Great uploading jessy! ❤️
Omg I loveee your makeup!! That eye look is so creative and pretty and the glitter on the liner is everything ❤️✨ also you are literally so beautiful and I can’t believe you ever thought otherwise 🥺💗💗 I feel like everyone is their own harshest critic and it can be hard for us to see ourselves the way others see us. I related a lot to what you said about not feeling like you met the beauty standard being one of the few Asians in a small town so thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤️❤️
i love how jessicas makeup changes with the seasons
Whhaaattt!! I’m the one who is in shock here 😂!! You’re so beautiful with or without makeup, and I get a lot of compliments saying that I look like you and it makes me sooo happy cause you’re one of my beauty standards 💕 thank you for sharing you’re feeling with us it makes me realize that even the prettiest people in my eyes can have these thoughts about themselves sometimes, same as me. my friends always compliments me saying that I’m soo pretty but you know sometimes you don’t see yourself the same way people are looking at you💔 and it's a terrible feeling but eventually, you’ll get over it at some point! I hope so
so glad youre uploading more!!! makes my day ♡
A makeup look i'am gonna try this christmasssss~ we are getting a lot of content from jessss WAAAAAHHHH🥺🧡
i love how real you are despite being in front of a camera. its so calming and inspiring
Nice potty
dude i totally understand the feeling of growing up “ugly” and then being “pretty.” i recently (ish) got an instagram and people have literally told me to my face that my instagram made their jaw drop. and then all the nice comments and its like weird idk. i get so awkward, and sometimes i feel weird trying to be “pretty” but i like being pretty
i love watching your videos i’ve been a fan for 2 years now and it’s so crazy. love u jessica hope u are taking care of yourself🤍
ah i appreciate u so much thank u for supporting me all this time 🥲💗 sending love to u !
Hey Jessica.. i‘ve following ur glam journey since i was 15 & now i‘m 20.. lmao😤😂 but i just wanted to tell you THANKYOU FOR SAVING MY A** and being a good asian GLAM GURU for me ofcrs.. merry December and ILY❤️🦋✨ with love Paldron😊
Jessica I honestly miss you, your vibe is so soothing and calm I wish you posted more I always come her to watch your channel because you make the best video.
Thank u for watching my videos and appreciating them 🥲💗 I will try to do better my new years resolution is to upload more GRWMs!
@@jessyluxe omgggg I didn’t think you would reply back!! Thank you and I appreciate you so much. Take all the time you need I’m just happy you uploaded 😊
omg romand’s pear chip is so good it’s kind of a unique shade lol i love it too
omg i was thinking of getting peripera’s rosy nude it looks so pretty
As a mixed south Asian girl who grew up in a super tiny predominately white town, i can relate to you a lot. I was ridiculed for how I looked and dressed in middle school then in high school, suddenly people became infatuated with how “mixed” people look and flattery came my way for fitting that beauty standard but tbh I wasn’t happy about it because I knew it wasn’t genuine. At the end of the day, peace and kindness is beautiful ✌🏼
literally how do you look so pretty and elegant :,)
I clicked so fast and I love all your makeup looks💖. I’m going to definitely try this look : )
heh five minutes after upload, i hope u’ll see my message jessy : u r one heck of a beautiful girl, please stay just as u are!! These videos r the best thing to watch after a stressful day ☁️
another therapeutic video for me yay! I love you 🥺💗💗💗
I got into your videos because of how self aware you are. A lot of influencers don’t really talk about things wrong with the way they think about themselves and almost have a fake facade. But they don’t realize that holding in their experiences will cause more troubles
How could u look so perfect😭😭 i just love everything in uuuu, loveee uuuu❤️
such a queen , always love your grwms and how you do your makeup 🥰💓
Love your chitchat videos ! I'm gonna save this one for my work this afternoon 😃💕
I am dying for the earrings love ittt miss gurlie 🥺
I was bullied for years, and when the bullying stopped I was excluded from things by my peers. Now as someone over 25, I stopped caring. I have some good friedns, and I no longer feel like I don't belong, cause I mean if they didn't like me, they could just say so and I'd find people worth my time.
Always such classy and elegant makeups
Do you have a spotify playlist with the songs you play at the end of the video? I love them
I have the exact same feeling you described, thought it was just me!
I bought myself a red dress for christmas eve and this make up will make the outfit complete!!
Perfect timing, thank you 🥺 ♥️
Yessss I understand, once I learned to do my makeup “popular” people would include me and they would say rude things about others, I thought I would be happy but instead I felt bad.
I love your eyebrows! I always feel I want to pluck mine thinner but watching you slayyy with em eyebrows makes me love mine more 💕
I would love to have a friend like you and I can really relate to how you expressed your feeling about other girls and not feeling accepted sometimes; your feelings are validated but our thoughts are not always fact :) you are so pretty!! Like I wish I looked THAT gorgeous 🥺😍 always keep your chin up :)
MY NEW FAVORITE LEWK FROM YOU!
You look so so pretty omg 😱
This look is so pretty!! Burgundy’s one of my fav color lol
Just dropping in to say that you are GORGEOUS!!
I agree with the social anxiety too esp after Covid 😅 but this makeup look is so pretty! I’m gonna try it for my birthday this wknd with my wine velvet outfit 🥀
the warm maroon-y eye makeup is giving me 2016 vibes but better
Yay! I’m early! Notifications came through this time 🤗❤️
I'm gonna do this look for my birthday today😍 thank you! You look as amazing as always
YOU REALLY DID A CUTE MAKEUP💄
It is such a beautiful look!
thank you 💗💗
Amazing as always
Jessica, you are beautiful! You could put on makeup for the holiday season! please! ♥️
The editing 😍
Amazing video Queen 👑 love your makeup
Omg I can definitely relate. I was told that I was a cute toddler but going from elementary school to middle school I realized that I was actually pretty ugly lol I had braces and glasses and a really big nose. Even when I started doing makeup during my sophomore year of high school, I was still ugly (which is fine whatever I've been ugly my entire life at that point and envied attractive people and assumed they'd be mean and snobby) But after I graduated high school and entered the quarantine life, I started working out more (b/c I hated my body and had nothing else to do) and practiced makeup more and got more follows on ig bc of those makeup looks then noticed that I got a lot more dms and old classmates started following me and commenting on my posts. This was when I realized like "damn I glowed up ode" and it feels REALLY WEIRD bc people who wouldn't approach me before now want to approach me and I know it's human nature to like attractive looking things but still it bothers me lol
Love this so much!!💕
I love this so much 💗
oh my gosh I understand you completely I grew up/growing up in a really small town with very little diversity. I thought that i was ugly for years but now bc of social media and whatnot im realizing that im not ugly?? and its such such a weird experience/disconnect with oneself
Omg I loved the look, your soooo pretty 🤩
STUNNINGGG
I can relate... I grew up in a town where I was pretty much the only Asian at my schools, and I am NOT "pretty" by either American or Asian standards. I can force myself to see that I look fine and it doesn't matter, but I still catch myself hating the way I look for just being Asian and not having eurocentric features. Now at a college where there are tons of Asians, I don't feel so bothered by my Asian features (after finding what makeup/fashion looks best on me), but I get hella imposter syndrome. Also, I feel really guilty when younger Asian girls come up to me and wistfully say "you're so prettyyyy"-- because I spent hoouuurs on my looks to reach a point of "looking decent for an Asian," and I still stress over my appearance all the time & would rather be them who are more comfortable/carefree with their appearance.
And I think because I look like I spend more time on my looks, different people approach me, whether they are pretty privileged people thinking I can relate to their woes or those who are more involved in totally different social cultures (pop culture, dating, more Americanized etcetc) than what my not-pretty self is accustomed to. I don't even know if that makes sense, but it just sucks that people's impressions of my appearance get me categorized into different social categories. It gets kind of lonely then.
Sorry for the essay idk if it makes sense, ugh sorryyy but yeah, I totally hear you...
Here early!!! Never clicked so fast lol
as always so aesthetically pleasing!!! Xoxo
I felt the scenario of not feeling attractive in my predominantly white home town. Because I was different physically and didn't throw myself into social circles I felt unwanted in a lot of ways. Now that I'm getting more comfortable in my skin and feeling more attractive it still feels mind-boggling to get complimented or get looks from strangers. I think a bit of the thought that since I don't fit the western or eastern beauty standards, so no one will find me attractive still sits in my head but I am working through it :)
I totally know what u mean about mean girls 🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💖💖💕💖 I feel that tho
You inspired me to start my own yt channel 🥺 i luv u
Love this 😩💗
I understand with the pretty privilege thing🥺 as a Asian AND Viet. Unfortunately I was bullied and perceived as “ugly”. Even now. i feel like viets dont get enough recognition 🥺 but now, now that I learned how to do makeup and grew into my features, the people who bullied me, wants to be friends with me. Which I feel is superficial and uncomfy🥺 because at the end of the day, I’m still me💗 since day one!
Love your videos 💗💗
Have you ever tried makeup products from Kaleidos!!! I want to see your tutorial with their dreamy products!
It wasn't until past year that after years of experimenting, that I finally figured out a makeup style that suits me. For a while, I tried to do makeup that suits western features on my asian face and it just wasn't flattering on me. It made me really insecure, I felt really ugly and underserving of self respect for a really long time. When I started delving in asian makeup styles last year, I feel like I started to fit the beauty standard a bit better. And in just this shift in my makeup style has drastically changed the way people act around me. It's the weirdest thing, people just come up to me and start talking to me in a way I know they didn't in past. I get compliments by strangers way more frequently now and I feel like people are nicer to me?? It does make me feel really uncomfortable sometimes because just a few years ago, those same people probably wouldn't have even looked my direction. In those moments, I just want to smear my makeup and see how they would react, would they treat me the same? It makes me feel like my a lot of my interactions with people are more fake. And I see this flip happening on tiktok too, asian features that we once bullied for - are now being appreciated more. I don't know if this a result the growing popularity of anime, kpop, or the fox eye trend, or a combination of it all but it's definitely ringing alarm bells in my head
talk about beauty privilege, people said that i was the prettiest and cutest when i was a kid and that statement lasted until i was 15 but when puberty hit my face started to grow a few pimples and i had a period where my skin looked really bad. people started to ignore me and that’s really make me bad. I’m so stressed and keep trying to be the prettiest again, i was really obsessed. but now I can accept all the facts, I'm sincere.🥲🥲🥲
Hi Jessica! Can you do a video using “fake product of eyeshadows” I wanted to see how you deal with fake eyeshadow to turn into something cute or bold. It would be interest 😄
I love you so much😭😭😭😭❤❤❤❤
I love it 🥰 I think I will do the same but in more “orangey” tone lol your so pretty I love you eyes
did u use the Lala Coralmingo palette for the sparkle on ur eyes as well?? it looks so pretty!!
I love this! Which eyeshadow palette did you use for 5:12 - 5:22? 🥰😍 I have both the Coralmingo palette and the Wine & Only palette!
I learned doing my eyeliner from you😊💖
Omg I’m so sad that the lashes are not restocking anymore I want it so badly 😭😭😭
Omg you’ve gotta do more eye makeup tutorials! You and I have the same eye shape :D
I relate on the late bloomer type of experience when it comes to fitting into a more normal standard of beauty, later in life. I too feel kinda dissociated and surreal in my body, just because no one gave me any kind of positive interaction when I was younger. As soon as my body changed and developed more in my early 20s, I started getting more attention and people who wouldn’t notice me before started noticing me. It definitely feels so weird experiencing it now. It’s nice but weird for me at the end of the day haha
So pretty 🤩
Hey Jess, super random request, but is it possible for you to provide some tutorials on how to apply makeup on more textured skin (i.e. on blackheads lol). I haven’t used makeup much, but I find foundation oxidises and makes the clogged pores on my nose more prominent. Also, how to makeup less cakey? Especially if you live in Australia like me and sweat buckets in the summer. Both kinda gross and tmi I know, but any tips would be appreciated. Makeup is such a broad field, and I have no idea where to start with it.
I would like to comment on what you said when you were talking about how you grew up in a community where you considered “unattractive “. I’m sort of struggling with the same thing except I’m in school and I feel ugly because I’m not the beauty standard I think anyone would want where I live and I’m constantly around friends who are which is sort of damaging my mental health. However, I’m no where trying to blame them for that, I just feel like I relate to what u said:)
I definitely went through that phase of being "unattractive" as a teen and then being suddenly more "attractive" in my 20s. Like you said, so many mean girls would try be friendly but I would do my best to stick by my friends. But then...sometimes even my friends would be jealous of those girls or even men? idk it was a super triggering and weird experience for my mental health and my ever disfunctional view on my body. 💀
I understand where you're coming from about growing up and not fitting the standard of beauty. It really did affected my mental health around middle school and in high school. Around 12th grade through now (college ), I been approached in public and it's very strange for me. It's something I can't wrap my head around and I don't think I will accept it either. Anyways, I loved the video and thank you for talking about this topic because I think it's something that is common within poc (I don't fit the standard of beauty here in the states and the same goes for Mexico's beauty standard).
love u Jessica
Hi Jessica ❤️
You look gorgeous ❤️❤️ I also wanted to ask what ur favorite all time concealer is, mine is about to finish and I wanna try something different.
I too like so many of the others who have commented can relate to what you said; there's just something so shitty about being treated differently when wearing a full face of makeup vs not.