Fighting the Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage - Jason & Tori Benham

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  • Jason and Tori Benham struggled with conflict until they realized marriage is a spiritual battle. Fighting together for their marriage rather than against each other transformed their relationship. Tune in to hear practical tips about working through conflict, overcoming destructive thought patterns towards your spouse, and reigniting godly jealousy for your husband or wife.
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  • @durranpotter3248
    @durranpotter3248 2 ปีที่แล้ว +230

    Driving this morning and this was God's perfect timing, my Wifey and I had a tough argument yesterday, and this morning I was reminded to fight for my marriage not against it, the defeated devil hates marriage and wants to cause Division between marriages. Fight with God's truths

    • @BitsyBee
      @BitsyBee ปีที่แล้ว +8

      "Fight for my marriage, not against it," great summary, thanks!

    • @ambivertical
      @ambivertical ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well done brother

    • @susanogletree3899
      @susanogletree3899 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen!

  • @kelsey7411
    @kelsey7411 2 ปีที่แล้ว +148

    This woman has put into words exactly what I struggled with. Feeling so lonely at home like we were living completely separate lives and my husband was doing just fine without me. It made me feel normal to hear that I’m not alone in this. Thanks for sharing

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      We're sorry to hear about your marital struggles, Kelsey. Thanks for sharing with us that this broadcast meant so much to you. Know that we'll keep you and your husband in our prayers. If you’d like to talk with one of our counselors (at no cost to you), call 855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays between 6 A.M. and 8 P.M. (MT). May God bless you with His grace and peace.

    • @Psalmtwentyseven
      @Psalmtwentyseven ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I agree with you. My husband is a truck driver and he is driving across the country most of the week and I feel like we are going down opposite and parallel paths when we should be going down the sane path TOGETHER!!!😪😭

    • @annwilson3941
      @annwilson3941 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      When spouses family suffer from lifelong trauma , death of mother, alcoholism.. and sibling jealousy’s.. the turning on the partner .. devil won ..such destructive powers
      Not this time Kick Satan out!!!!

    • @endtimesareuponus8930
      @endtimesareuponus8930 ปีที่แล้ว

      We find so many Americans are too materialistic. Hence they hold onto the material or pride and ignore others.

    • @Erin78G
      @Erin78G ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I haven’t heard her speak yet but this is me exactly!

  • @vanessaaimee6008
    @vanessaaimee6008 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Im fighting in prayer with hope and faith to restore my marriage. My husband moved out a year ago and immediately filed. I still can’t comprehend how he went from loving me so much to nothing. It’s been so hard for me and the kids. Please pray for us. I’m praying for all marriages.

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks for sharing, Vanessa, and we’re sorry to hear that you are experiencing difficulties in your marriage. We realize you are hurting. Please know that we'll be praying for you and your husband, asking the Lord to bring healing and hope to your situation. Also, we have counselors here who can listen and pray with you. Here’s the contact info: bit.ly/2ItKdoE. In the meantime, our website contains some information you might find helpful. If you haven’t already done so, we hope you’ll visit our “Marriage” channel [bit.ly/2zG1Oq6]. Our resource list [bit.ly/3KU15nL] may be of interest, too. May God be your source of wisdom and strength in the days ahead.

    • @jemimahhezekiah218
      @jemimahhezekiah218 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      May God restore ur marriage, dont stop praying...God s faithful.

    • @nelvawood1895
      @nelvawood1895 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @standalonelandclearingllc
      @standalonelandclearingllc ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Praying for restoration. My your prayers be in allienment with God's will

    • @barbaramurphy124
      @barbaramurphy124 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@focusonthefamilytDrrDrRddrRESrdRerrs
      As f

  • @8Demetra
    @8Demetra 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    The Lord taught us many years ago to stand back to back and fight the enemy, not each other!!

  • @Psalmtwentyseven
    @Psalmtwentyseven ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Please pray for my marriage. I just want SOOOOOOOO BADLY for my husband to love me GOD'S WAY with His agape UNCONDITIONAL love and to have a heart of compassion for me; and I want to be able to talk to him about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING.
    We will be married 33 years this coming January and because he is a truck driver and he is driving across the country most of the week, we are separated more than we are together and I REALLY REALLY REALLY wish he would see what his job is doing to us. We hardly see each other and we hardly talk to each other and I KNOW this is not the way it is supposed to be and this is NOT God's plan for us. PLEASE pray for us.

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thanks for sharing, friend. Please know that we'll be praying for you and your husband, asking our Heavenly Father to give you insight into the ways you may express love and patience with each other and enable you both to serve one another in love. Also, we have counselors here who can listen and pray with you. Here’s the contact info: bit.ly/2ItKdoE.
      In the meantime, our website contains some information you might find helpful. If you haven’t already done so, we hope you’ll visit our “Marriage” channel [bit.ly/2zG1Oq6]. Our resource list [bit.ly/3KU15nL] may be of interest, too. May God be your source of wisdom and strength in the days ahead.

    • @Psalmtwentyseven
      @Psalmtwentyseven ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@focusonthefamily Thank you SO VERY MUCH!! I REALLY APPRECIATE it!!!

    • @jenniferwhiten1884
      @jenniferwhiten1884 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      16:40 the enemy has our marriage - I know it’s because I am drawing my husband closer to the lord and we have been serving and reading scripture - now he’s attacking us turning us against each other . Please pray for Jennifer and Scott . And that we would fight together . Thank you. I’ve tried everything . ❤

    • @Psalmtwentyseven
      @Psalmtwentyseven ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@jenniferwhiten1884 I am sp sorry. But I want you to know that I am praying for you and your husband.

    • @bethmiller6827
      @bethmiller6827 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      If he owns a cellphone, there is no excuse for lack of communication. Set up at least one time every day you can have a long conversation. Work together to make your marriage better.

  • @brightpage1020
    @brightpage1020 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My Lord!
    “Marriage is the most organic form of church”.
    And the idea that we could treat our marriages like our primary church…
    🤯 ❤🎉

  • @sbg4ever120
    @sbg4ever120 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    How you see the battle determines how you fight it! Life changing words of wisdom! Thank you 🙏

  • @gulfreensunny109
    @gulfreensunny109 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I'm recently married . This broadcast help me to get to know more about marriage. Need prayers for a blessed and awesome marriage life . Blessings

  • @yaderblen2890
    @yaderblen2890 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    We need to preach more about the spirit of unity in the Church, home and everywhere. Let's us set the world on fire with the peace and the love of Jesus Christ. Amen Hallelujah ❤️

    • @endtimesareuponus8930
      @endtimesareuponus8930 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We think it's preached enough.
      It just needs to be CARRIED Out.
      People need to Choose to love.

  • @s.i.williams2876
    @s.i.williams2876 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Loved this conversation! Blessed! May we seek to honor the Lord with our marriages and make Him Lord of our battles. ❤🙏

  • @jerrysinclair3771
    @jerrysinclair3771 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    It is not the wedding RING that gets married couples thru struggles, but it is the suffer-RING

    • @endtimesareuponus8930
      @endtimesareuponus8930 ปีที่แล้ว

      And suffering will get much worse.
      WEF promises "you will own nothing..."

  • @kimacker8594
    @kimacker8594 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Thank you for reminding us how that our marriage is so important and we need to work at it everyday.

  • @aurorao.8594
    @aurorao.8594 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Focus on the Family should do a book with those stories counselors hear and how they guide people that call their counselors. Thank you for another great program 👌🏼

  • @discipleofchrist5217
    @discipleofchrist5217 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm going through a battle in my marriage as the Lord has woke me from a dead sleep & equipped me for the storm I was heading into in my marriage. It's been almost 4 years now since the storm started & and it's only getting worse. I just ordered my copy & I look forward to reading it. I'm currently separated "taking a break" for the 8th or 9th time in the past 3.5 years after 27 years together and were both 41 with 3 amazing children. I pray this book will give me some insight to healing & dealing with the storm in my merriage on even a greater & deeper spiritual level 🙏
    Thank you so much for the great information & I could not agree with you guys more.

  • @randihager8914
    @randihager8914 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is such a great reminder for my marriage.

  • @maranatha2033
    @maranatha2033 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    The ring that keeps you together is not your wedding ring, it's suffe-ring.

    • @mytreasuredcreations
      @mytreasuredcreations 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      So true. I've been married for 21 years. Every time we go through a season of suffering and struggle, our marriage gets better. At first we struggle, then we remember we are supposed to draw toward each other. We pray as we struggle and we become more intimate. God's ways are higher than our ways. 🙌

    • @endtimesareuponus8930
      @endtimesareuponus8930 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mytreasuredcreations and things will get worse cause WEF promises "you will own nothing...."

  • @bonnieketterman6542
    @bonnieketterman6542 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was watching ur video it was a real blessing it really helped our marriage

  • @valerisjeanruthesther2041
    @valerisjeanruthesther2041 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you Lord. Thank you so much, I really need to hear that today.

  • @jameswhite9448
    @jameswhite9448 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Wow! Extremely valuable, inspiring and challenging! Worth repeat viewings!

  • @lottieduncan6300
    @lottieduncan6300 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you for this, very timely. FOTF ministries has meant so much to us over the years!!

  • @elmyvaldez6034
    @elmyvaldez6034 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Im about to get married and want a Holy marriage I know trials will come but will overcome with the Holy Spirit

  • @chikamsonwamara
    @chikamsonwamara 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you so much for this video. it really blessed me so much!

  • @nurseliz1973
    @nurseliz1973 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Needed to hear this tonight 😇

  • @SingaporeUkuleleRevival
    @SingaporeUkuleleRevival 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing

  • @NathanWesleySmith
    @NathanWesleySmith 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Awesome job guys! So well done. Loving the Beauty in Battle Podcast as well!

  • @d2suarez
    @d2suarez 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you

  • @HollyDavis-u4r
    @HollyDavis-u4r หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I need prayers for our marriage. My husband told me to leave back in May this year. I miss him and our kids. I need a restoration for our marriage because I want to go home to my husband and our kids.

  • @HisRichBlessings
    @HisRichBlessings ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Please pray for our marriage

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hello, Tina. Please know that we'll be praying for you and your spouse, asking our Heavenly Father to bless your marriage and comfort you daily with evidences of His great love and compassion (Lamentations 3:22‐23). Also, so that we might come alongside you and offer assistance, we invite you to talk with one of our Christian counselors (at no cost to you). Here’s the contact info: bit.ly/2ItKdoE. Grace and peace to you.

    • @endtimesareuponus8930
      @endtimesareuponus8930 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We will.
      Please focus on other people's needs. That'll help.
      Bible tells us to love our neighbor as ourselves.

  • @favourenyi8440
    @favourenyi8440 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Whooaaaaah!
    So apt! I love the work y'all are doing.
    Pls keep it up..

    • @focusonthefamily
      @focusonthefamily  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for your kind feedback, friend. We're so glad this broadcast encouraged you. May God bless and guide you.

  • @kimberlylewis2669
    @kimberlylewis2669 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So relatable thank you

  • @mariceladominguez84
    @mariceladominguez84 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Such a beautiful message! Wow.

  • @juliejustus6878
    @juliejustus6878 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The best comment I've ever heard about spouses not having an argument is their not being honest with each other. You have 2 people who might have different directions or opinions your going to argue

  • @thepuma77
    @thepuma77 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is encouraging. 10:35 just wow! amazing lesson! Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom bro. 🔥🔥🔥

  • @felicitysoyi6096
    @felicitysoyi6096 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow! This is amazing, so much to learn.

  • @jerrythompson8337
    @jerrythompson8337 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Our spouse is there to complete us, not finnish us off.

  • @hajahkalobwe9915
    @hajahkalobwe9915 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much

  • @parlinsashincontractor8117
    @parlinsashincontractor8117 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi, this is Parlin here, i request you to please pray for our Marriage, we have been married for 23 years. Satan has brought the dispute between us, my hubby's name is Sashin, and he is a stubborn self-centred, and egoistic person, he doesn't want to feel sorry or regretful for the dispute. It has been nearly one year since we both lived under one roof though we have been like strangers and not communicated with each other or any relationship, i tried so many times to talk to him but sadly he always ignored me, so it's like one side game only. me fighting for our marriage and he is not interested in it at all but i am praying for our marriage that Jesus Christ will resurrect our marriage and bring life to it. i have faith in Christ and i am trusting Him with all my heart. Thank you for your prayers. 🙏🏻

  • @MariahFan09
    @MariahFan09 ปีที่แล้ว

    All of these people in this video are so sharp

  • @Men_After_Gods_Heart
    @Men_After_Gods_Heart หลายเดือนก่อน

    I resonate with Tori,though
    Mine was vice versa,i always felt my ex wife,loved her job more than she loved me or the marriage,whereas both of us we were working,,,this brought alot of resentment n bitterness, two years later we separated in alot of pain.
    I resonate with that pain,,,,when your partner keeps far away ,what you yearn most......its the most uncomfortable position to be

  • @SayonaraNY
    @SayonaraNY ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I really really need help I’m a pastor please pray for my marriage

  • @tintaolana8316
    @tintaolana8316 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Tori is so cute and intelligent 🥰

  • @jamesmunyaneza2494
    @jamesmunyaneza2494 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Help me in my marriage🙏

  • @pamelav.5699
    @pamelav.5699 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    🌈🌟💞🦋🌻ThankYou
    Very helpful!

  • @johndurham8965
    @johndurham8965 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Exactly what she talked about is what my Ex-wife did to me when I deployed and would come back. The resentment built a wall and lead to other bad things. She eventually filed for divorce when I found out about her affairs.

    • @BitsyBee
      @BitsyBee ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Great reminder to be aware of that resentment and check it. Thank you.

  • @annwilson3941
    @annwilson3941 ปีที่แล้ว

    Fight right!!!
    I believed this until a band of brothers and a sister
    They were the force and now,,, family fractures all

  • @juliejustus6878
    @juliejustus6878 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    As much as I enjoyed this! It didn't really help me because, my husband isn't saved and I completely alone

    • @standalonelandclearingllc
      @standalonelandclearingllc ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You are not alone the rest of us Christian are in agreement that we pray for his salvation.

  • @gabyestrada3334
    @gabyestrada3334 ปีที่แล้ว

    I will search for it in audiobook

  • @amaliacorral4727
    @amaliacorral4727 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amen👍

  • @elizabethgacau6472
    @elizabethgacau6472 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Double like

  • @ariadnehendricks9529
    @ariadnehendricks9529 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow 💜

  • @debbiestrang7774
    @debbiestrang7774 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Let her answer the question!

  • @vickiyoung5190
    @vickiyoung5190 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think an interesting question to ask these couples Is, "Did you have an argument on the way here? Or as you got ready this morning?"

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The western church is in for an awakening
    But it must come to separate
    Wheat from tares

  • @toddkeeran3479
    @toddkeeran3479 ปีที่แล้ว

    My Father is always at his work, and I, too, am working. We must choose to do God’s will. Ask the Father if his teachings were spoken through Jesus? Then turn to Jesus and abide in Him and he will reward you for what you have done. Blessed is he who does not stand in the counsel of men but delights in the word of the Lord. Pray that our flight will not take place in winter or on the sabbath. Seek our Father and His understanding. Ask that his Wisdom lead us in his path of righteousness. Knock bless you Father for blessing us with your Son and name Jesus.

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When a preacher from the pulpit
    Speaks with admiration of a
    Sharp shooter killing the enemy 😱
    The only enemy of the Christian is
    The devil

  • @gemcyr7710
    @gemcyr7710 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story of my life except that my husband cheated on me too

  • @cokefishtail
    @cokefishtail ปีที่แล้ว

    Please lord pray for marriage on brink if divorce give us strength wisdom lord he lives for world he is saved long time ago lord gi e us direction and power in your name amen

  • @zhannalicious
    @zhannalicious ปีที่แล้ว

    So the husbands neglect the wives and then somehow they have to learn to be strong etc I can’t even finish watching this

    • @aneber1811
      @aneber1811 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This podcast is really wise for healthy, reciprocal relationships where there are 2 involved and dedicated partners. It is wise.
      Part of identifying wisdom is knowing when to apply it. You don’t apply this to consistently neglectful or abusive relationships. So if you are neglected, guard that heart and filter this information.

    • @beauhendricks2074
      @beauhendricks2074 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@aneber1811 what its a false accusations charge of domestic abuse? I believe it's just a way for her to steal from me

    • @endtimesareuponus8930
      @endtimesareuponus8930 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do you neglect others?