I'm really old fashioned. I only date someone who can bring me treasures from the gods and the heads of my enemies, provided they can answer my riddles three. I'm a classy gal.
According to my grandmother, if you visited your boyfriend's house, you weren't allowed in his bedroom, at all. And you couldn't wear any kind of nightwear around them.
I'm 23 And my first serious relationship was with the guy I married. He was the second guy to present himself to my parents because they have a strict rule about them having to meet the guy I was going out with. Yes this is hard as no guy was up for that especially in the 21st century. So yes there's still strict parents out there.
Still have my fraternity pin from my beloved Eddie from over 50 years ago!💕. Then came the engagement ring, the wedding ring and then sadly he was drafted and I lost him in Viet Nam. Great memories keep him alive in my heart everyday 💕🍀 Love my Screaming Eagle🇺🇸
Peggy Higgins my dad is names Eddie 🥰 we are norwegian but his parents (my granma and grandpa) moved to the us for a little while and got their kids there, so I guess my dads name is american. Just thought I would share that for fun!
K K I mean you don’t need to go out on a date or anything like that to have fun, making your own food with them and watching scary movies/TH-cam videos is fun too !
People didn’t really speak like that, it was called a transatlantic accent or mid Atlantic accent. It was mainly used by actors in movies. If you look up old film bloopers, sometimes you’ll hear them speak in their normal American accents after they mess up.
@@usagiprincess4387 In Malaysian old movies by P. Ramlee also used a different kind of speaking. I thought it was how it was back then, until my mum said the same thing as you. I guess the tv accents were highly used before.
My husband was brought up in an old fashioned way. His mother taught him to ask for permission to date a girl, go introduce yourself to her family and when you go to collect her for the date - don’t wait in the car! Knock on the front door and ask if she is ready to go out. We’ve been together 13 yrs and I still find it so precious that I married an old fashioned gentleman! I find that whole “dont talk about yourself” thing so rude!! Everyone should feel comfy to talk a bit about themselves.
this is how my boyfriend is. his mom taught him to be very very respectful toward women. he always walks my to my classes, and our high school is huge and we only have a seven minutes passing period. he always opens doors for me and waits for me. but sentimental and sweet, so he’s just great
@@jessicavill You're welcome! I'll be praying for you. Just remember that if you need to take time off or whatever we understand even if we miss you xoxo
A lot of gals don't realize that rules like "let him talk first" is actually a great idea, you can tell a lot about how considerate a person is by how long it takes them to ask you about your day. Also the "order your food thing" shows you how well he listens and pays attention to your needs, If someone didn't ask you about your day or was obviously not listening when they place your order you could know right away that there would not be a date #2. My husband can order for me without asking no matter what restaurant we go to, not because I get the same thing all the time but because he really understands my needs and preferences, he has been doing this since day 1. On our 4th date when i returned to the table after using the restroom and saw the exact drink i wanted and the appetizer i wanted on the table without me ordering it, at that moment I knew he was a very attentive person. The older i get (35) the more i realize these "old fashion norms" were actually really good ways to find out about a person's character very quickly and were actually really smart. Now a days we spend so much time on surface level things like hobbies, and favorite books but don't have many "norms" to help us figure out someone's character besides how they treat the waiter. As a 30 something married gal, let me give young ladies advice, figure out the guy's ethics and character, observe his action, not what he says. A lot of these old customs are great ways to see what a man is made of.
Well if you put it that way, I guess it's okay, I mean I really like it when a man knows how to pay attention to the details. Still, I don't like it when someone orders for me, even if they are trying to be polite. It makes me feel as if I'm being treated like a child and that really annoys me 😅. But I guess some people like it so, it's okay.
That may be true, at a certain extent but they didn't do this because they thought it would help the relationship they id this because they thought women were inferior. Imagine as a human being, being told what to do with your own body and self for the rest of your life and it was normal.
Imagine how boring it will be for the dude having to do most the talking and just how stressful knowing he is judged for everything and anything he does or doesn't do...
I somewhat agree but disagree on the hobbies thing. Hobbies make a person and its really interesting to learn about the things that they’re interested in
Your sugar coating. Maybe they're talking first because they don't want to hear about anybody else. I exaggerating one for like thing for the fact that you call someone then you are the one who hangs up. But you shouldn't dominate the entire conversation. So of course if he ask someone out and they conversation with start with thank you for coming let me tell you what we're here. Then of course he would want to hear about the person
I dont see how is that bad on a date, its not really respectful to the guy if you dump all your feelings on him the first date. That could also create an unhealthy emotional dependency on someone who might not even be that great for you. So then it would hurt both people a lot more if they stopped dating. You could totally talk feelings if the relationship grew more serious and there's enough emotional security and maturity on both sides.
squishy booty it would be bad if she did that but not him? Why would the outcome not be the same? I highly doubt she’d wanna dump all her feelings onto someone she doesn’t even know that well anyway. It’s just talking. She wants to talk and so does he. He talks then she talks...
here in the Philippines, we have this called "Harana" where the boy sings in front of the girl's house/porch to ask her hand, and also we still introduced our boyfriends/girlfriends to our parents. ..I'm sorry if my English is quite bad. I'm not that good in english. but I'm happy i could share this information ^^
My boyfriend has a bit of 50s in him when it comes to dating. He believes that you have to meet parents before or early on in dating to ask permission, and he believes that he should pay for everything when we go out or get food. I know that he's only being polite, but I'm stubborn and don't want to feel like a mooch, so we always fight about the latter. We've made more cashiers than I'd like to admit nervous because we both hold out money and insist that they take ours. We finally came up with a passive-aggressive way to do this in private by allowing the other person to pay, but slipping money into their backpack or guitar case. Yeah... I don't think I would have had a dating life in the 50s.
Ronin Elenion I find when a man treats you this way is because he views you as marriage potential. It is a sign of respect. I am glad you are a strong woman though. 😀
It's crazy to me how much dating has changed over the years. Imagine how much easier dating would be today. If every told you there intentions from the start. Lol I of course can't image having so many rules pressed upon me.
But the thing is that woman basically had not rights in the world ! It took the 1960's-1970's and a lot of years after to get where we are today. Imagine finding the an you marry to decide he wants to party , be unfaithful , abuse you after a few kids or few years of marriage. You wouldn't have any options to leave because the jobs a woman could get paid less than minimum wages . woman may have lost some things but ......you decide if the loss was worth it. My mom married just that kind of man . had 4 kids and jobs paid very little , he paid even less to help , I think it was 0.00$$ he gave mom to help with clothes , food home etc. Options are much better now , I think.
Rules help. But yeah, some of them are a little extra, and I wouldn't be used to the rules, as they would have been accustomed to back then. It was normal, so why would they question it?
Yes, 100%, for people telling me their intent! I would honestly *love* to have them say "I'm only saying yes to your boundaries for now so I can slowly attempt to push past them through psychological manipulation for my ulterior motives, I don't actually respect them nor do I actually respect you as a person" so I could block/leave them right away.
@@subliminalphish No rights? What about voting in elections and going to university? These possibilities are no rights to u? Lmao your historic knowledge is really something.
Right! Me living in the Detroit area. I grew up listening to Motown music. I love the aesthetic and the music. I just don't like how the singers were treated because they were African American.
We still have most of these "unspoken" rules in Russia. It's bad to ask a guy out on dates and also offer to pay for food a big NO. And I still tell my bf what I wanna get in a restaurant. If you say the order yourself nothing bad happenes but its uncomfortable for me personally and a bit rude, because boyfriend pays for this not me.
my boyfriend is always the kind to pay for my dates but I feel very uncomfortable because I always like keeping things fair even with money, even if I still get nervous buying at a store lmao. :(( But that's just my personal preference.
Actually, historically being a lesbian was far more accepted than being a gay man. It's not a huge range of acceptance, it just wasn't illegal to women to like women.🙂
Hermione Gashnuum define “accepted” lmfao don’t act like lesbians had it easy, because they didn’t and we still don’t, nobody asked for input about gay men
I actually wasn't comparing lesbian relationships to those of gay men? I was comparing them to the relationships in this video so I'm not sure what you're correcting. My comment stands. Don't act like we weren't gifting broccoli in secret.
I’d prefer to order myself, BUT the rest is the same for me. Unless we’ve been together awhile then if he remembers what I like lol he can order for me.
I'm the kind of girl that wants a guy to court me :) and yes, he'll meet my parents from the start. I guess I'm just a bit old fashioned hehe. P.S. please tell us where you got your outfit! I love it!
Football Lover9 same here, I was brought up to act like a lady and there is nothing wrong with that. Someone will respect that and that will be a long lasting relationship.
See I went out with a guy a few years ago and he said I’ll order it for you I thought it was quite nice that he did that I didn’t find it awkward at all
I guess it depends on the girl. Personaly, it would be a bit weird for me if a guy does all that, but it's cool that you find someone who understands you and who treats you the way you want to be treated 💕
@@theotter7021 I'd feel insulted if a guy ordered for me. I already had bad experiences where my mom questioned everything I ordered and looking younger makes it ten times worse.
My dad does this when the family goes out to dinner, ofc some of my siblings like to order for themselves, but I always mess up my words. So my dad just memories my order, because we go to the three same places everytime lol😂
Serenadesong I get it, but i was saying that if I asked someone to go out with me and they said yes or no the very moment I asked, I’d think they were either faking it or being sarcastic. No one wants someone who plays “baby games,” but I don’t necessarily want someone who is going to answer immediately with no pause or thought when I ask them important things, you know? I don’t like when people play hard to get, but I don’t mind waiting for an answer when it comes to those sorts of things. Love isn’t immediate and emotions take time to process. I would be very skeptical of someone if they gave me a blunt yes or no answer straight away..
My husband and I started dating when I went up to him and said "I like you, would you be my bf?". (He said yes! This year is our 10th anniversary). I talk "too much" and def paid for the dates! So, even if I'm into 50s fashion I'd never fit to the culture. 😅
@@NiinaO lmaooo same! I just like keeping stuff equal personally and I'm more independent which is why I also never fit the culture. Glad you guys are doing well btw!! :>
Some of these I'm glad died out (ex: girl can't ask a man first, order their own food, pay dutch). Others I kind of miss (guys showing restraint and respect on dates, "going steady" to define an exclusive relationship, not getting drunk/wasted and making your date uncomfortable). Basically no matter your gender, just be a decent person on a date.
Keyanna you want to live in an era that restricted you entirely as a female, we’re not allowed to vote and if you were unhappy in your marriage you couldn’t do much about it. If he was cheating, drinking or being abusive people would just suggest how the wife can change to stop him acting out. Definitely not glamorous like the movies portray
@@nicola_rosee Women were allowed to vote since the 1920s, technically after World War I ended since women were working because of the war and the men having to give up their jobs to fight. The women sought to change their voting rights. While I see your point in the other stuff you mentioned, is it so bad to want a relationship like the 1950s movies?
U can choose just ur date tells it to the waiter. And of course u can talk about that. Just maybe u should try to get to know the *other* person not talking about *yourself* always.
I wish the 2 days in advance warning for meeting up was more of a thing now (in general rather than just for dates) especially if people are going to come over
I'm a gentleman in quarantine questioning life on how could I date now... Also, it makes me happy to see I'm not the only one who loves old fashioned things
My husband orders all my food at restaurants mostly because my voice is so quiet the waiters can never hear me. Plus it's just more convenient to put in the entire order all at once. Also my parents always wanted to meet my dates while I was living in their house, since I was a minor it makes sense. Most of these I've (and my boyfriends) always followed anyway, maybe they're not that arcane! 😅😅😅
I'm an old timer. "Going Dutch" means you each pay for your own (meal, movie ticket, etc.) not that the girl pays for the whole date (as it sounded that you said, maybe I misunderstood). I think that the guy ordering was too be considerate of his budget, not that the girl was not allowed to speak in public. Also, things were much simpler then, more considerate, common courtesy, and a girl wouldn't have such a picky food order out would be a burger and fries ans a coke or shake. And the burger wasn't a double quarter pounder with bacon and cheese, lol. So simple.
In the 'dating culture' in my country, when you pay for yourself, it means you're just hanging out as friends, it's not a date. It's also a polite way of showing the guy it won't lead to any type of romantic relationship, so he doesn't have his hopes high. Still, you can have a great time together in this 'just friends' atmosphere. I really like it because you can get to know the person really well before you move on to any romance. And if it stays in this 'just friends' mode, there are no hard feelings.
It would be so cool if you did another video like this, talking about social life in the 50's, but you interview your gramma or some lovely nursing home residents.
I wish the "introduce your parents" rule was still a thing because man is it a great way to avoid some of the guys my friends and I have met. My husband sometimes orders for me but only because we're at a drive thru and he's driving lel.
I’m down with bringing back the advance notice for plans and dates. I hate when things are sprung on me, and it’s nice to have a few days to mentally and emotionally prepare for something.
I don't find any of these strange. In fact the meeting parents rule makes so much sense. (and the drinking rule too) It shows respect to her parents and it means you're not taking the relationship as a joke. Everything has meaning. I was raised very traditional and was always told to let the woman do most of the talking. She's more important.
Well I must be living in the 50’s lol because I still do 60% of this. I always play hard to get. Men love a challenge. I still introduce to my parents, when in a restaurant I never order my food as I thought it was common and courteous for a man to order. I don’t like showing affection out and about lol always thought it was a bit cringe. I’m only 27.
“You introduced your date before the date. That’s crazy” it’s very similar to the only dating rule in my house. They have to ask my dad for permission before they ask me out.
Now that I think about it, men don't kiss women's hands anymore and that was such a sweet gesture.. but women these days would probably think it's "creepy" or something and that's sadly why it doesn't happen anymore. The younger generations have literally killed chivalry and it sucks.
I love how personal this felt, like you were actually remembering how it was and telling all of us. Especially when you said "that sucks" at the end and then kind of awkwardly laughed and looked down; I felt like I was watching a girl that had really been a part of such a society that didn't really care about her as a person. It was kind of heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time
I like the politeness and gentleness and tests to make sure their intentions were true, but the pressure put on the guys and the helplessness of the girls is a lot.
Having been married a few years now, here is my checklist of those items. 1. Pinned her with a WW2 pilot's pin when we started dating. Everyone knew I liked WW2 as a topic and giving this to her made it obvious to everyone - Done 2. Asked her out first after formally hanging out with a group - Done 3. Scheduled a date before the we went somewhere. It gave us something to prepare and look forward to doing - Done 4. Did not meet parents until later - Failed 5. We ordered our own food - Failed (not really a failure, though) 6. Always covered the food. I'm not an animal - Done 7. ...yeah... 8. I've actually asked for no affection in public. Didn't know this was a rule. - Done 9. LOL, what universe does that happen in? Me, my dad and my grandfather have always sat on the couch nodding our heads as they talk. - Failed
Although i would love a guy being so respectful all of these rules are mainly strictly against women and how they look in the eyes of everyone that just sucks i love old time eras but i just hate the way women were treated
Ha! I laughed when you said that "We no longer follow the rule of introducing all our dates to our parents." My parents are VERY strict on meeting the guy BEFORE I go on a date or even befriend someone. :/
i like the ordering for you rule, i didn’t know it was a thing back then but i always like when i tell my fiancé what i want and he orders it for me i feel so ladylike 💁🏽♀️
My grandmother is a very classy 50s lady who raised my mother this way so I was raised to follow a lot of these rules!! (especially the meeting thembefore going on a date rule) the PDA rule and most of the others still aply or at least I was told to respect them (all except the food ordering and not speaking your mind)
My grandpa was a teen in the late 50s. He said boys were expected to act like gentlemen, walking the girl back home, meeting her parents before the date, no sex or sexual touching, etc. I asked him if the stereotype men/boys beat their gfs/wives was true. He opened his eyes wide and said “GOODNESS NO, at least I never saw or heard any evidence of it. I’m sure there were terrible men but slapping your gf was not a social norm. I always made sure to act like a gentleman, otherwise no second dates and her friends will hear about it!”
My parents raised me very traditional, I never knew why I didn’t give my own order to the waiter. My husband used to get upset when I’d tell him. This video cleared that up for me.
The thing with the pin that the girls would wear. That changed a bit seeing as how I'm in highschool currently. The girl gives the guy a scrunchie to show that. It's cute and kinda funny
The part of wearing a ring to symbolize that you date is super common where I live! **countryside** Even 13 year olds with their first boyfriends use it! And the man ordering food and not the woman too, most waiters don't even like talking directly to women because some men are very offended 🙄
Seriously the cutest woman alive! I was literally thinking about how much I love your hair when you said you did it yourself. The content was super interesting too, thanks!
Honestly, you just earned a new subscriber! I love how it doesn’t matter if you’re old fashioned or not when it comes to you and you accept everyone! I myself love the 70s/80s and would love to live in that period of time! I also love other periods but 70s and 80s are my favorites!❤️❤️❤️
I feel like I came out of this decade. My parents were always strict. They always needed to know who I was going out with and was there a chaperone and who, the man always had to ask the girl out in my family, the woman never paid, I had to know about the plans at least 2 days ahead or God forbid my parents decide to make plans for me to help them in any way and I go out instead of helping. Also wasn't allowed to be drunk in public(my parents' rules, not the bf). Lately I've been fighting some of these rules but because they were so ingrained in me I don't even realize that they're still there, these self boundaries.
I liked like 46 seconds into the video because she just sound so funny and dorky and I love people like that. I've never even seen this channel before. Go girl!
Granted I’ve only really dated 3 guys in my lifetime, my parents had to meet each one when they picked me up that first night. It was always embarrassing 😂
I hate PDA and feel that it should be left behind closed doors, but then again I tend to follow many old fashioned rules when it comes to just about everything, lol.
I'm really old fashioned. I only date someone who can bring me treasures from the gods and the heads of my enemies, provided they can answer my riddles three. I'm a classy gal.
mcwjes no but yea 💀.
mcwjes 😂🤣
mcwjes are you an Ancient Greek?
Bell Hawkins No honestly I don’t know where that can from hahahaha I noticed it later when everyone kept liking it hahaha
That how you know you got someone REAL CLASSY...
According to my grandmother, if you visited your boyfriend's house, you weren't allowed in his bedroom, at all. And you couldn't wear any kind of nightwear around them.
Still was an is like that at my parents home. My younger siblings aren't allowed to bring their bf/gf to their room.
But, I mean, what parents let their kids have their BF/GF in their rooms.....
Weren’t bedrooms not allowed to be shown in old tv shows from around then, too?
demarc lol that’s the rules my parents have had for me
I'm 23 And my first serious relationship was with the guy I married. He was the second guy to present himself to my parents because they have a strict rule about them having to meet the guy I was going out with. Yes this is hard as no guy was up for that especially in the 21st century. So yes there's still strict parents out there.
Still have my fraternity pin from my beloved Eddie from over 50 years ago!💕. Then came the engagement ring, the wedding ring and then sadly he was drafted and I lost him in Viet Nam. Great memories keep him alive in my heart everyday 💕🍀
Love my Screaming Eagle🇺🇸
Normally I don't have a heart but I think that whatever is in that cavity you just broke 😢
Peggy Higgins my dad is names Eddie 🥰 we are norwegian but his parents (my granma and grandpa) moved to the us for a little while and got their kids there, so I guess my dads name is american. Just thought I would share that for fun!
@@demonicastar Always leave your heart open. You may be surprised when someone comes along and opens up a whole new life for you💕
@@julianneh.wathne That's awesome, so glad you shared it. My Eddie's family was from Ireland💕🍀
@@peggyhiggins6923 you are the sweetest, bright blessings
1950: You get a guys school pin to prove your dating him
2020: You take a guys hoodie to prove your dating him
I wonder what’s gonna happen in 2090? Lol 🤔... Take his entire clothes!!! 😁😁😁😂😂😂
@@SheOnEarth LOOOLLLL😂😂😂😂
SheOnEarth steal his earring perhaps
Not my hoodie !??!
Or you give a guy your scrunchie 😂
Spend seven dollars a month?! I want to date in the 1950's
7 dollars in the 50s is 70+ dollars today due to inflation. It wasn’t actually cheaper, per say.
@@howtoshotbow6961 considering dinner and a movie these days for 2 people is like $150, that's not bad!
Still, just playing video games is fun too!
@@aleksandramakari Your standards are far too low
K K I mean you don’t need to go out on a date or anything like that to have fun, making your own food with them and watching scary movies/TH-cam videos is fun too !
I love how they spoke back then, I wish we still spoke with that more formal kind of accent now.
People didn’t really speak like that, it was called a transatlantic accent or mid Atlantic accent. It was mainly used by actors in movies. If you look up old film bloopers, sometimes you’ll hear them speak in their normal American accents after they mess up.
@@usagiprincess4387 In Malaysian old movies by P. Ramlee also used a different kind of speaking. I thought it was how it was back then, until my mum said the same thing as you. I guess the tv accents were highly used before.
Honestly, the transatlantic accent makes me a bit uncomfortable because it feels forced and I know that's not how they spoke off camera.
Golly gee, that would be swell!
I know right I truly miss that accent so much
My husband was brought up in an old fashioned way. His mother taught him to ask for permission to date a girl, go introduce yourself to her family and when you go to collect her for the date - don’t wait in the car! Knock on the front door and ask if she is ready to go out.
We’ve been together 13 yrs and I still find it so precious that I married an old fashioned gentleman!
I find that whole “dont talk about yourself” thing so rude!! Everyone should feel comfy to talk a bit about themselves.
You are so sooooooooooo lucky! i wish I could be as lucky as that one day. :''3
this is how my boyfriend is. his mom taught him to be very very respectful toward women. he always walks my to my classes, and our high school is huge and we only have a seven minutes passing period.
he always opens doors for me and waits for me.
but sentimental and sweet, so he’s just great
My Dad was raised that way!
@@paramore4ever575 ikr they only want one thing and then drop you, i will never be in a relationship until I find the right boy
@@yourbeardhaslice1624 same here
"As a woman you could not order your own food on the date."
-Me a woman with extreme anxiety and asks my friends if they can order for me
OMG same. I have social anxiety, and so I literally tell the person I'm with what I want, and they order it for me :-)
I just ask my mother
I'm a child so I guess its fine?.
Sounds like a good deal for me
Me with a long list of allergies:
Well shit
On the contrary, that rule totally couldn't work for me, absolutely nope 😂
Are you okay Jess? (You mentioned who doesn't dye or cut their hair when going through a crisis) If you ever need anything just dm me, okay?
Thank you lovely!! I have just been extra stressed lately haha
@@jessicavill You're welcome! I'll be praying for you. Just remember that if you need to take time off or whatever we understand even if we miss you xoxo
God bless you Jess. Be strong.
@@jessicavill Aww honey. Be strong. Your honestly okay, I have been sooo anxious lately, too.
This is such a nice comment! We need more kind people like this ❤️
A lot of gals don't realize that rules like "let him talk first" is actually a great idea, you can tell a lot about how considerate a person is by how long it takes them to ask you about your day. Also the "order your food thing" shows you how well he listens and pays attention to your needs, If someone didn't ask you about your day or was obviously not listening when they place your order you could know right away that there would not be a date #2.
My husband can order for me without asking no matter what restaurant we go to, not because I get the same thing all the time but because he really understands my needs and preferences, he has been doing this since day 1. On our 4th date when i returned to the table after using the restroom and saw the exact drink i wanted and the appetizer i wanted on the table without me ordering it, at that moment I knew he was a very attentive person.
The older i get (35) the more i realize these "old fashion norms" were actually really good ways to find out about a person's character very quickly and were actually really smart.
Now a days we spend so much time on surface level things like hobbies, and favorite books but don't have many "norms" to help us figure out someone's character besides how they treat the waiter.
As a 30 something married gal, let me give young ladies advice, figure out the guy's ethics and character, observe his action, not what he says. A lot of these old customs are great ways to see what a man is made of.
Well if you put it that way, I guess it's okay, I mean I really like it when a man knows how to pay attention to the details. Still, I don't like it when someone orders for me, even if they are trying to be polite. It makes me feel as if I'm being treated like a child and that really annoys me 😅. But I guess some people like it so, it's okay.
That may be true, at a certain extent but they didn't do this because they thought it would help the relationship they id this because they thought women were inferior. Imagine as a human being, being told what to do with your own body and self for the rest of your life and it was normal.
Imagine how boring it will be for the dude having to do most the talking and just how stressful knowing he is judged for everything and anything he does or doesn't do...
I somewhat agree but disagree on the hobbies thing. Hobbies make a person and its really interesting to learn about the things that they’re interested in
Your sugar coating. Maybe they're talking first because they don't want to hear about anybody else. I exaggerating one for like thing for the fact that you call someone then you are the one who hangs up. But you shouldn't dominate the entire conversation. So of course if he ask someone out and they conversation with start with thank you for coming let me tell you what we're here. Then of course he would want to hear about the person
A woman couldn't really talk about her day and her feelings and she couldn't order food? This is the so called "good old days?"
I dont see how is that bad on a date, its not really respectful to the guy if you dump all your feelings on him the first date. That could also create an unhealthy emotional dependency on someone who might not even be that great for you. So then it would hurt both people a lot more if they stopped dating. You could totally talk feelings if the relationship grew more serious and there's enough emotional security and maturity on both sides.
squishy booty it would be bad if she did that but not him? Why would the outcome not be the same? I highly doubt she’d wanna dump all her feelings onto someone she doesn’t even know that well anyway. It’s just talking. She wants to talk and so does he. He talks then she talks...
Right
@@ninkiminjaj83 aye👏👏
Ikr
*me thinking how strange it is for the guy to order
Me remembering my mom orders for me 1/2 the time even though I'm 16 bc anxiety
Same
Sameee 😂
Same tho
I’m scared to to talk to people other than my 8 close friends and family
Lol that's me 😂
Legend says if you're early Jessica will heart your comment....
Rebekah Seetayah omg she did!!!! Woahhhh
Don’t edit your comment or the heart’ll go away!
here in the Philippines, we have this called "Harana" where the boy sings in front of the girl's house/porch to ask her hand, and also we still introduced our boyfriends/girlfriends to our parents.
..I'm sorry if my English is quite bad. I'm not that good in english. but I'm happy i could share this information ^^
We have that in Myanmar my boyfriend did that and got yelled by my mom
Edit:Its still very common in my country but some boys can't sing
Yeahhh
Awwwww that’s like movies!! but what if they can’t sing?? Do they just not do that tradition?
@@fluffle6522 they will find somebody or someone that can sing for them and the guy will play the instrument or sing along
yeah and if your father doesn’t like the guy, watch out for big rocks hovering to his head or else your dad will take out the big guns 😂
My boyfriend has a bit of 50s in him when it comes to dating. He believes that you have to meet parents before or early on in dating to ask permission, and he believes that he should pay for everything when we go out or get food. I know that he's only being polite, but I'm stubborn and don't want to feel like a mooch, so we always fight about the latter. We've made more cashiers than I'd like to admit nervous because we both hold out money and insist that they take ours. We finally came up with a passive-aggressive way to do this in private by allowing the other person to pay, but slipping money into their backpack or guitar case.
Yeah... I don't think I would have had a dating life in the 50s.
Ronin Elenion I find when a man treats you this way is because he views you as marriage potential. It is a sign of respect. I am glad you are a strong woman though. 😀
Same thing with us🤣, i don't want him to pay and we have the same agreement ❤️✌️
That man was raised right!
He's probably an arab 🤔
Noone but arabs can figure out why 😅
That’s the way it should be. If he asked you out he has to pay.
I like the one where you have to schedule dates in advance. I feel that is more considerate to peoples times
Up to this video, I've never thought of NOT scheduling them in advance 😂 now I feel so out of place 😂
It's crazy to me how much dating has changed over the years. Imagine how much easier dating would be today. If every told you there intentions from the start. Lol I of course can't image having so many rules pressed upon me.
But the thing is that woman basically had not rights in the world ! It took the 1960's-1970's and a lot of years after to get where we are today. Imagine finding the an you marry to decide he wants to party , be unfaithful , abuse you after a few kids or few years of marriage. You wouldn't have any options to leave because the jobs a woman could get paid less than minimum wages . woman may have lost some things but ......you decide if the loss was worth it. My mom married just that kind of man . had 4 kids and jobs paid very little , he paid even less to help , I think it was 0.00$$ he gave mom to help with clothes , food home etc. Options are much better now , I think.
Rules help.
But yeah, some of them are a little extra, and I wouldn't be used to the rules, as they would have been accustomed to back then. It was normal, so why would they question it?
Same.
Yes, 100%, for people telling me their intent! I would honestly *love* to have them say "I'm only saying yes to your boundaries for now so I can slowly attempt to push past them through psychological manipulation for my ulterior motives, I don't actually respect them nor do I actually respect you as a person" so I could block/leave them right away.
@@subliminalphish No rights? What about voting in elections and going to university? These possibilities are no rights to u? Lmao your historic knowledge is really something.
Girl I spot that Marilyn Monroe eyeliner trick! pls do a Marilyn transformation!
if we could just bring back the 50’s aesthetic and leave literally everything else behind that would be great
Right! Me living in the Detroit area. I grew up listening to Motown music. I love the aesthetic and the music. I just don't like how the singers were treated because they were African American.
Keep the pin and the asking a girl out two days in advanced because i like schedules
Let's bring back the 1950's price tags too!
This, yes.
You cant attract 50s class thinking like 2020s trash
We still have most of these "unspoken" rules in Russia. It's bad to ask a guy out on dates and also offer to pay for food a big NO. And I still tell my bf what I wanna get in a restaurant. If you say the order yourself nothing bad happenes but its uncomfortable for me personally and a bit rude, because boyfriend pays for this not me.
Tanya Jackdaw personally I like those dating “rules”. Maybe i should find myself a Russian boyfriend haha
Yes, even in Canada my boyfriend always orders for me and I really appreciate it.
my boyfriend is always the kind to pay for my dates but I feel very uncomfortable because I always like keeping things fair even with money, even if I still get nervous buying at a store lmao. :(( But that's just my personal preference.
It's the same in Chile!
As a lesbian, my relationship would have been against ALL the rules. Lol.
Victoria Byers Same haha
Actually, historically being a lesbian was far more accepted than being a gay man. It's not a huge range of acceptance, it just wasn't illegal to women to like women.🙂
@@hermionegashnuum2992 That's because in manly world lesbians are hot and gay men challenge fragile masculinity
Hermione Gashnuum define “accepted” lmfao don’t act like lesbians had it easy, because they didn’t and we still don’t, nobody asked for input about gay men
I actually wasn't comparing lesbian relationships to those of gay men? I was comparing them to the relationships in this video so I'm not sure what you're correcting. My comment stands. Don't act like we weren't gifting broccoli in secret.
I'm so untraditional I don't think I would survive dating life in the 50s lmaoo I think I would offend too many people 🙈🙆🏻♀️
If u think about it positively, u might have been a trendsetter and ud weed out a lot of partners right away
Kess Kess you would know no difference because you were raised that way! Barely any TVs at this time! Plus women and men respect themselves more!
Same here,especially as a woman who might be bi.
@@imhuemankeepURcolorsforcrayons Respect themselves more today? I would agree.
AJ's Journeys no sir I was talking in past tense.
You’re baby bangs look so cute 🙂
Ikr she is so adorable :3
I'm still a little old fashioned because I love when my date asks me out, orders for me, and pays for me 😁😂
XD
Same here sis
I do too.
Same! My husband does this!
I’d prefer to order myself, BUT the rest is the same for me. Unless we’ve been together awhile then if he remembers what I like lol he can order for me.
I'm the kind of girl that wants a guy to court me :) and yes, he'll meet my parents from the start. I guess I'm just a bit old fashioned hehe. P.S. please tell us where you got your outfit! I love it!
Football Lover9 same here, I was brought up to act like a lady and there is nothing wrong with that. Someone will respect that and that will be a long lasting relationship.
My mom would kill me if I didn't introduce me to my (future) boyfriend.
Football Lover9 dysfunctional parents gang rep🤪
@@HawkinaBox same with my dad.
kassie williams Long lasting relationships are not about that
See I went out with a guy a few years ago and he said I’ll order it for you I thought it was quite nice that he did that I didn’t find it awkward at all
Roo doodle my husband does this and I love it. He opens my door etc. I feel loved and respected.
Light Heidi and that’s it when he used to do it for me I found it charming and like you respected and loved
I guess it depends on the girl. Personaly, it would be a bit weird for me if a guy does all that, but it's cool that you find someone who understands you and who treats you the way you want to be treated 💕
@@theotter7021 I'd feel insulted if a guy ordered for me. I already had bad experiences where my mom questioned everything I ordered and looking younger makes it ten times worse.
My dad does this when the family goes out to dinner, ofc some of my siblings like to order for themselves, but I always mess up my words. So my dad just memories my order, because we go to the three same places everytime lol😂
if a girl said yes or no immediately after I asked her out, I’d be very suspicious lol
it seems many things have changed :0
Serenadesong I get it, but i was saying that if I asked someone to go out with me and they said yes or no the very moment I asked, I’d think they were either faking it or being sarcastic. No one wants someone who plays “baby games,” but I don’t necessarily want someone who is going to answer immediately with no pause or thought when I ask them important things, you know? I don’t like when people play hard to get, but I don’t mind waiting for an answer when it comes to those sorts of things. Love isn’t immediate and emotions take time to process. I would be very skeptical of someone if they gave me a blunt yes or no answer straight away..
@@_T048 Thanks makes sense
If a guy a liked or whatever asked me out, I would pause for a moment, "think" about it, and say yea, that would be cool
DubsOdyssey yeah- i would be kinda surprised if someone blurted out yes or no upon me asking the question lol
Wait, people don't usually answer immediately? (Never been asked out or asked anyone out.)
Royal Super Nova Same to be honest, but for me I thought about it and would totally wait for a second
Almost like a “don’t be desperate” kinda thing
My husband and I started dating when I went up to him and said "I like you, would you be my bf?". (He said yes! This year is our 10th anniversary). I talk "too much" and def paid for the dates! So, even if I'm into 50s fashion I'd never fit to the culture. 😅
(If anyone's seen how Ed proposes to Winry in FMA, that's more how my "proposal" went - just genderbend).
@@NiinaO so you left on a train afterwards?
@@dannycervantes1855 If there only was one nearby - I was so happy and embarrassed at the same time I would've needed a time off. 😂
@@NiinaO 😂glad it worked out!
@@NiinaO lmaooo same! I just like keeping stuff equal personally and I'm more independent which is why I also never fit the culture. Glad you guys are doing well btw!! :>
well, my granny said that her "date" in the 50s was a forced marriage k
Grandpa!
My gramma too
Some of these I'm glad died out (ex: girl can't ask a man first, order their own food, pay dutch). Others I kind of miss (guys showing restraint and respect on dates, "going steady" to define an exclusive relationship, not getting drunk/wasted and making your date uncomfortable).
Basically no matter your gender, just be a decent person on a date.
yeah some of the rules would be nice if they applied for both genders
I just want someone who loves me, I dont care if there will be rules.
Thanks Jessica, you make me happy!💕
"I think she wanted a burger with a lotta sauce"
"no a little bit of sauce"
😂😂💔
Honestly, I would still rather date in the 50’s before I date in this era
Same here. Everything seemed more genuine with dating.
Keyanna you want to live in an era that restricted you entirely as a female, we’re not allowed to vote and if you were unhappy in your marriage you couldn’t do much about it. If he was cheating, drinking or being abusive people would just suggest how the wife can change to stop him acting out. Definitely not glamorous like the movies portray
@@nicola_rosee in the fifties women could vote
@@nicola_rosee Women were allowed to vote since the 1920s, technically after World War I ended since women were working because of the war and the men having to give up their jobs to fight. The women sought to change their voting rights. While I see your point in the other stuff you mentioned, is it so bad to want a relationship like the 1950s movies?
Same...😬
I can‘t order my own food? I can‘t talk about how my day was? Sounds fun 😬
If I had a bad day, I hope I might be distracted?
U can choose just ur date tells it to the waiter. And of course u can talk about that. Just maybe u should try to get to know the *other* person not talking about *yourself* always.
its a matter if the dude actually listened to you
I guess just watch who you’re dating. If a guy is interested in you, wouldn’t he ask questions and try to know more about you?
@@schwester6523 Oh unlike how the man was told to do that?
I wish the 2 days in advance warning for meeting up was more of a thing now (in general rather than just for dates) especially if people are going to come over
I'm a gentleman in quarantine questioning life on how could I date now...
Also, it makes me happy to see I'm not the only one who loves old fashioned things
1:49 Crybaby! I love that movie.
@@sarahjasmine7746 It's called Crybaby. Directed by John Waters.
Beat it, creep!
My favorite movie ❤
Faith 4 Disney,
Mine too!!
Loved that movie!
My husband orders all my food at restaurants mostly because my voice is so quiet the waiters can never hear me. Plus it's just more convenient to put in the entire order all at once. Also my parents always wanted to meet my dates while I was living in their house, since I was a minor it makes sense. Most of these I've (and my boyfriends) always followed anyway, maybe they're not that arcane! 😅😅😅
I'm an old timer. "Going Dutch" means you each pay for your own (meal, movie ticket, etc.) not that the girl pays for the whole date (as it sounded that you said, maybe I misunderstood).
I think that the guy ordering was too be considerate of his budget, not that the girl was not allowed to speak in public. Also, things were much simpler then, more considerate, common courtesy, and a girl wouldn't have such a picky food order out would be a burger and fries ans a coke or shake. And the burger wasn't a double quarter pounder with bacon and cheese, lol.
So simple.
Right!!!! So true
In the 'dating culture' in my country, when you pay for yourself, it means you're just hanging out as friends, it's not a date. It's also a polite way of showing the guy it won't lead to any type of romantic relationship, so he doesn't have his hopes high. Still, you can have a great time together in this 'just friends' atmosphere.
I really like it because you can get to know the person really well before you move on to any romance. And if it stays in this 'just friends' mode, there are no hard feelings.
But what about going Holland?
It would be so cool if you did another video like this, talking about social life in the 50's, but you interview your gramma or some lovely nursing home residents.
WHEN YOU PLAYED A SCENE FROM CRYBABY I SQUEALED I LOVE THIS
Lol
I really like the ideas of going steady and getting a pin, making dates at least two days in advance, and meeting the parents early on.
I wish the "introduce your parents" rule was still a thing because man is it a great way to avoid some of the guys my friends and I have met. My husband sometimes orders for me but only because we're at a drive thru and he's driving lel.
It is for me even when I don't want to my grandma make me so the first time I really meet him she do to XD and ..I'm still single
I'd still prefer it a guy asked me out a couple days before a projected date. I hate not having time to plan.
I wish it was still like this in many of the ways.
I’m down with bringing back the advance notice for plans and dates. I hate when things are sprung on me, and it’s nice to have a few days to mentally and emotionally prepare for something.
I don't find any of these strange. In fact the meeting parents rule makes so much sense. (and the drinking rule too) It shows respect to her parents and it means you're not taking the relationship as a joke. Everything has meaning.
I was raised very traditional and was always told to let the woman do most of the talking. She's more important.
I find some of these pretty patriarchal ; I’d totally not be the ideal person in the 50s 🤔
Well I must be living in the 50’s lol because I still do 60% of this. I always play hard to get. Men love a challenge. I still introduce to my parents, when in a restaurant I never order my food as I thought it was common and courteous for a man to order. I don’t like showing affection out and about lol always thought it was a bit cringe. I’m only 27.
I pretty much follow all of these except the ordering rule and "the guy has to talk first" rule
“You introduced your date before the date. That’s crazy” it’s very similar to the only dating rule in my house. They have to ask my dad for permission before they ask me out.
Same girl....I feel ya😐
I can’t tell you how much I adore your posts. I love that era and I appreciate other who do also and help bring it back 🥹🤍 xx
Now that I think about it, men don't kiss women's hands anymore and that was such a sweet gesture.. but women these days would probably think it's "creepy" or something and that's sadly why it doesn't happen anymore. The younger generations have literally killed chivalry and it sucks.
My family is very traditional about dating and I agree with them on it.
I noticed that on 1950s shows when they were ordering food. The guy would order for the girl and I’d be so confused.
I love the vintage footage that you used for your evidence 😀 Also I hope you feel better about the stuff you are going through👍🏼
I love how personal this felt, like you were actually remembering how it was and telling all of us. Especially when you said "that sucks" at the end and then kind of awkwardly laughed and looked down; I felt like I was watching a girl that had really been a part of such a society that didn't really care about her as a person. It was kind of heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time
My husband generally orders for me lol. It doesn't seem weird to me because I'm so used to it.
What do I care, now days women can order and pay for themselves. The good news is "I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance."
superfaces a whole 15$ 🤣
😂
Stingy man
I like the politeness and gentleness and tests to make sure their intentions were true, but the pressure put on the guys and the helplessness of the girls is a lot.
“I’m sorry Bill but I can’t go to drive inn tonight my mother wants me to clean fridge”
I WILL ORDER FOOD IF I WANT! So happy I live now.
Me in the 50's: *Goes against almost everything except over drinking and asking the guy out because anxiety*
The little curly bit of the side of your bangs is the cutest thing ever!
Having been married a few years now, here is my checklist of those items.
1. Pinned her with a WW2 pilot's pin when we started dating. Everyone knew I liked WW2 as a topic and giving this to her made it obvious to everyone - Done
2. Asked her out first after formally hanging out with a group - Done
3. Scheduled a date before the we went somewhere. It gave us something to prepare and look forward to doing - Done
4. Did not meet parents until later - Failed
5. We ordered our own food - Failed
(not really a failure, though)
6. Always covered the food. I'm not an animal - Done
7. ...yeah...
8. I've actually asked for no affection in public. Didn't know this was a rule. - Done
9. LOL, what universe does that happen in? Me, my dad and my grandfather have always sat on the couch nodding our heads as they talk. - Failed
Thank you so much for this video! I learned so much and I am grateful a lot of these rules don't exist anymore. :)
I started dating and i am very vintage most of these I am doing lol
Our family still does the whole family thing they need to know who I'm dating and if they don't like him they'd kick him out.
Although i would love a guy being so respectful all of these rules are mainly strictly against women and how they look in the eyes of everyone that just sucks i love old time eras but i just hate the way women were treated
Ha! I laughed when you said that "We no longer follow the rule of introducing all our dates to our parents." My parents are VERY strict on meeting the guy BEFORE I go on a date or even befriend someone. :/
I feel like me and my boyfriend still carry some of these values today 🥰
i like the ordering for you rule, i didn’t know it was a thing back then but i always like when i tell my fiancé what i want and he orders it for me i feel so ladylike 💁🏽♀️
I would’ve been a rebel back in hose days!
I actually like these rules better it’s just showing RESPECT! & I love that.
Oh my goodness I followed some of these rules without knowing!
People actually respected each other
My grandmother is a very classy 50s lady who raised my mother this way so I was raised to follow a lot of these rules!! (especially the meeting thembefore going on a date rule) the PDA rule and most of the others still aply or at least I was told to respect them (all except the food ordering and not speaking your mind)
My grandpa was a teen in the late 50s. He said boys were expected to act like gentlemen, walking the girl back home, meeting her parents before the date, no sex or sexual touching, etc. I asked him if the stereotype men/boys beat their gfs/wives was true. He opened his eyes wide and said “GOODNESS NO, at least I never saw or heard any evidence of it. I’m sure there were terrible men but slapping your gf was not a social norm. I always made sure to act like a gentleman, otherwise no second dates and her friends will hear about it!”
Nice to see someone else on this platform that appreciates old school styles.
Aww... Jessica I love you! You’re my favorite TH-camr! You’re the only TH-camr that I can find that’s so much like me! I love your videos!! 💕💞
My parents raised me very traditional, I never knew why I didn’t give my own order to the waiter. My husband used to get upset when I’d tell him. This video cleared that up for me.
Everything but the last point my boyfriend and I unconsciously have followed 😱 but I need to speak my mind too!
the first one is basically like a promise ring right?
“People don’t like to babysit people”
Me: *laughs in CNA*
The thing with the pin that the girls would wear. That changed a bit seeing as how I'm in highschool currently. The girl gives the guy a scrunchie to show that. It's cute and kinda funny
The part of wearing a ring to symbolize that you date is super common where I live! **countryside** Even 13 year olds with their first boyfriends use it!
And the man ordering food and not the woman too, most waiters don't even like talking directly to women because some men are very offended 🙄
lol that MASOGYNISTIC AF
Aww hell naw
@@julialumina1615 girl.... It's misogynistic 😅
Ooo where are you from?
@@EmeraldOctober1 country side of Brazil
Seriously the cutest woman alive! I was literally thinking about how much I love your hair when you said you did it yourself. The content was super interesting too, thanks!
Going Dutch is when each person pays for their own meal. You were so close!
Honestly, you just earned a new subscriber! I love how it doesn’t matter if you’re old fashioned or not when it comes to you and you accept everyone! I myself love the 70s/80s and would love to live in that period of time! I also love other periods but 70s and 80s are my favorites!❤️❤️❤️
My boyfriend likes to order my food at the restaurant so I tell him my order in advance. I had no idea it was so old fashioned lol 😝
I feel like I came out of this decade. My parents were always strict. They always needed to know who I was going out with and was there a chaperone and who, the man always had to ask the girl out in my family, the woman never paid, I had to know about the plans at least 2 days ahead or God forbid my parents decide to make plans for me to help them in any way and I go out instead of helping. Also wasn't allowed to be drunk in public(my parents' rules, not the bf). Lately I've been fighting some of these rules but because they were so ingrained in me I don't even realize that they're still there, these self boundaries.
It's my birthday on Valentine's Day :D
I liked like 46 seconds into the video because she just sound so funny and dorky and I love people like that. I've never even seen this channel before. Go girl!
My parents still make me live by these rules and I'm 22
Same
Lucky you. I wish my parents taught me these rules. I had to learn them all myself
I love all your videos !!!!!
Granted I’ve only really dated 3 guys in my lifetime, my parents had to meet each one when they picked me up that first night. It was always embarrassing 😂
I just realised that I basically still follow most of those rules unintentionally XD including not ordering my own food
I love the content you come up with, it’s always so unique 💕
I hate PDA and feel that it should be left behind closed doors, but then again I tend to follow many old fashioned rules when it comes to just about everything, lol.
also omg I love your style it’s so cute ♡