The fact that the school cared more for its image than the students and that the teacher got FIRED for literally following the law is disgusting and horrifying.
Some schools are awful. My mom’s school told her she was no longer welcomed there because she was a teen mom and it looked bad on them. My middle school principle was so invested in drama most of the staff acting like they were in middle school themself. I respect the people who work in the industry because they actually care, but unfortunately there’s a whole lot of people who shouldn’t be around kids working in schools.
No. You sue. You drag it out into the open, force them to suffer publicity 1000x worse than they would’ve for the report itself. And even if you somehow lose, they won’t have standing to counter-sue, because you haven’t defamed them.
The comment about chronic scab picking being a “sign”: Was a school nurse, for years. My “frequent flyers who did this daily needed love. They did it for nurturing. I say that because after MANY days in a row I told one, “You don’t have to be bleeding to come see me. In the mornings, on your way to class, if you need/want a hug, stop and see me.”. The picking stopped. I did the same with the next, & the next… I had so many little babies coming for hugs, some it was every time they passed my office. 😭. I can’t think of them without crying. If I could have I would have taken them all. The “troubled kids” were my special visitors and any time they were missing, I always got a call from the office, “Is _____ down there with you?” Lol. They almost always were. Children seek out love, the problems start when they give up. Positive attention, understanding & acceptance cures many things.
Good lord. I loved my old school nurses before I did homeschool. I knew if I needed any kind of help at school I could go to them, and they were often my first thought. I went for them for panic attacks, high blood pressure, medication (duh), they were the ones who helped me through the first time I knew I was having an asthma attack. You reminded me of them. They were like the emotionally available mother I wanted and needed because I was a very emotional person and didn’t know how to regulate it. Thank you. Thank you for bringing those memories back.
So many of these stories have the root cause of homelife being disrupted, negligent, or dysfunctional. It's amazing how intervening early and actually dealing with these behaviors will help, yet this video is just a snippet into the massive amount of households that refuse to act on them.
Making the assaulted student alternate days with the assaulter is just punishing the victim again. If I were the parent of the girl, I'd be insisting that the school figure out a way to deal with him and let her have her proper education.
i was assaulted at 8 and my parents didn’t know anything until i told them almost a decade later, things happen, they know now but i didnt tell them and the only signs were my depression but that was signed off as being situational as i was also homeless for a period of time. i think my parents going through so much at the same time didnt help them not picking up on the signs though
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 Because at some point your kids going to say \ do something to show signs . They arent going to sit there quietly (some might but not all) Soo you cant always say "i didnt know"
It's very common actually; no man or woman wants to think the worst of their partners and very few are looking for it (and even amongst these they're at risk of ruining their families worse especially if wrong.) Also, don't forget the amount of access parents have to their own children, unmitigated anf unsupervised.
Compulsive scab picking and such can be a sign of stuff like depression and anxiety, and to some degree can be a thing with ADHD or autism, where the texture feels wrong so you try to get it off. For anxiety and depression, it usually comes from needing some kind of physical input to stop thoughts, so many turn to picking scabs so they don't harm themselves worse
@@sonyabruns That can also be true. I'm someone with autism with ADHD-like symptoms where fidget toys don't help me, and I'll scratch out my scabs anyways
It's also known as dermatillomania. Absolutely sucks I have OCD and autism and I have it bad with my lips. Any time I feel that the skin is "uneven" I have to peel it even though I know it'll hurt. Sucks majorly
I threw up a lot of red flags when I was a kid based on the content of my stories and essays, coupled with my behavior, which was pretty atrocious and odd (before things were diagnosed). My parents would be contacted because I had adult themes and violence in my stories. Very well written, but with stuff that a second or third grader shouldn’t know about. I wasn’t getting it from my parents or any violence or sex at home, I was just watching TV and reading books above grade level and didn’t know it wasn’t appropriate for school. When I was around 9 I wrote about a girl who introduces her mom to her new boyfriend and her mom goes ballistic because the new boyfriend’s dad had raped her in the past. Later on in the story, the mom’s rapist stalks and kills her. I didn’t know rape was off the table. Honestly, it’s got to be pretty difficult to tell the difference between a child’s active imagination versus actual issues and situations they’re dealing with. I can see where you’d want to err on the side of caution but I’m also quite glad no one ever proceeded with anything legally with my parents. It wasn’t anything bad going on at home.
"Fourth graders are typically very sweet, light-hearted, and not bratty yet." I want to know what fourth grade class they're talking about because I went to a private LUTHERAN school in fourth grade, and my classmates were throwng around inuendos and swearing like nobody's business. They knew exactly what they were saying, too. The third and fourth grade teacher said that our class and the class befotre us were probably the worst two classes she had taught in her 35 years of teaching at the same school. My teachers from 7th and 8th grade completely agree. There were fights everywhere, we were almost a year behind on material because of class disruptions (which resulted in everyone coming close to failing and having to repeat), vaping in the bathrooms, death threats from students to other students in THIRD GRADE. Third grade! For years, I've been wondering how the parents can just let their kids act like this. The parents act like their kids can do no wrong, when the teachers and classmates are saying otherwise. The students even acted in these ways toward their parents, as I saw at sporting events. I can't blame any of these behaviors on mental disability, because the only IEPs in the class were for speech impediments. We went on an overnight field trip to a summer camp in 7th grade, and my classmates had ZERO respect for anyone, even the camp leaders (as I was told. I had a migraine from the heat, so I had to stay in the cabin for the entire trip). The class after mine went to the same camp the next year, and they were still talking about our class, saying that the other class was so much better, and I don't blame them. My classmates sucked. They still act like this sometimes in high school. I hope they grow up soon, because I don't want to know where they will end up if they don't.
20:10 nothing enrages me more than this op It’s so obvious this kid is being sexually abused and what did they do? Send him to homeschool to isolate him with his abusive parents. It’s absolutely heart wrenching to see how little empathy op has for this poor child. I hope op feels the guilt weigh on their conscience forever.
FINALLY SOMEONE NOTICED THIS!!! that was my 1st thought, with some of these stories (even more that one) you can really tell the teacher doesnt care at all for there student and just wants any kid with behavioral issues to not be there
13:17 this is actually illegal. As a teacher, this person was a mandated reporter, meaning their job MUST legally be protected in the event of reporting something for the well being of a child
The day Twin Towers were destroyed my daughter was in 4th grade. I took her to school, not sure if school was cancelled or not. One of her classmates, who was also a new friend, came running up at school, telling us that her aunt had fallen out of the window of the 80th floor of one of the towers! She was crying and I started giving her my condolences. Then she pipes up and told me she was being transported to the hospital with a broken leg...after falling 80 floors. This kid was know to lie and I let it slide but I was really angry with her, as it was a terrible day, and told her that it couldn't have been the 80th floor. She doubled down and started screaming at me that it was. I told her I didn't believe her and it was a terrible thing to lie about. Later that day, after much thought, I went and saw her mother about it, wondering if she needed some help. The mother told me that she wasn't lying as she did have an Aunt who lived in New York. Apparently the mother thought that any sliver of truth made the lie not a lie! About 6 weeks later they moved her to another school. Good Riddance.
you can hear the sadness and empathy in his voice throughout the video :( it always pains me to hear these stories and i have a feeling of dread listening to them yet i always stick around for the entire video
I was an IEP kid and let me tell you there are some very interesting people in that program. I remember in particular we have one girl that everyone in the actual group of kids would call Miss psycho, and not to be mean. She once punched our pregnant teacher in the belly trying to cause a miscarriage; another time she ran off with the wheelchair of our one-legged teacher's aide because she thought it would be funny to watch him hobble after it. And if she got mad her fits were so bad that the teachers weren't even allowed to handle them anymore they had to call the resource officer that was stationed at the school to handle it. The last time I saw her was after my school locked her in one of what they called The quiet rooms which was basically just a closet for the kids that they didn't know how to handle. It had a small window that you couldn't see through a desk that was screwed to the wall and if you were lucky a chair, she was not though. I was actually in the room next door to her at this time because I had argued with the teacher earlier in the day because they were wrong on something they were teaching us and refused to admit it but I had a chair. It was right after lunch time and surprisingly the secretaries had remembered our food this time. This meant she had a tray screwed on desk and the window. She use the tray to break the window then open the door from the outside which is the only way you could open the door. After she was free she decided to open my door to free me, which was honestly quite surprising, before going to the secretarial desk and holding one of the secretaries at glass point. I stayed in my closet for the hour long stand off that ensued. The resource officer eventually got the upper hand and she was taken out in cuffs screaming she would quote "blow this building sky high." Another boy broke one of the other windows using his head the next year and was apparently laughing when the paramedics arrived. I think part of the reason we all went insane in those rooms at some point or another but it's basically a 10 by 10 closet where they could shut the lights off to quote "keep us calm". Many of us spent most of the year in those. It was basically like giving students solitary confinement for a very small crimes.
@@SoulDevoured oh I'm aware there's multiple lawsuits from kids that were put through that currently pending. I chose to not go through with a lawsuit but many other people decided to
It's truly horrifying here about how common abuse like this is in dedicated special ed. schools. The dehumanization of literal children is mortifying to hear of.
@@TheStarsTwilight I'm a survivor of our extremely carceral and underfunded state psychiatric hospitals. Cops and hospital employees actually killed a patient at one by dog-piling and suffocating him. Virginia Central State Hospital. I was at SWVMHI in Marion, and that place scares the shit out of hillbillies who aren't afraid of going into the pitch-black coal mines The places are horrifying and degrading, but at the same time I saw a patient on the pediatric ward during our marches to the chow hall. He was a 16-year-old kid whose father wanted a football star. So daddy dearest kept giving him steroids and other performance enhancing drugs until all that was left in him was rage. He broke people's arms like they were nothing I don't really know what the humane option is in these cases. Having been over-medicated several times before, I can tell you that a life sedated isn't worth living. We don't have the resources yet to keep them in gilded cages so large that they wouldn't know they're confined, and then there's also the problem of keeping them in solitude being torture, but also keeping them around others is too dangerous. Any kind of physical restraint can eventually get worked out of. As horrifying as it sounds, I think the only option that spares their lives and keeps their minds in tact if all other forms of therapy fails is permanent physical disability, like having a surgeon rupture the Achilles tendon on opposite legs every couple years
I graduated high school in 2001 and they knew NOTHING about mental health. I was picked on almost daily by teachers, one in particular couldn’t go a single day without saying something horrible or sarcastic to or about me. Instead of asking if anything was wrong I got bullied. And I was a good kid, straight A’s until my mental health made them slip and never got detention for bad behavior, just things like being late or not bringing a note after an absence.
Yes!! I graduated in 2015 and looking back, I have no clue how no one saw it in me. I would've been the perfect case study in recognizing abused kid behaviors. I literally even slipped a "help me" note to a teacher and he didn't report it because he thought I was just being over dramatic. Disheartening shit, I'm glad staff is better trained now. I'm a substitute teacher and I've got a great eye for it, I've made a report or two based on some suspect behavior.
@@poogissploogis I’m glad you’re helping now, by reporting things. It seems so odd that the people who taught teenagers had no idea how to spot depression, anxiety, abuse, etc. I’m sorry that happened to you, and anyone who went through school having to deal with extra hardships and were utterly ignored or punished instead of helped.
I could have been many of these children. Addiction, prison, crime. Almost 40. So much was ignored, in the 90s no one listened or cared. Guidence counselor once said his dad beat him w a broom so things werent that bad. I didnt have time to get to the bad parts. Lifes hard.
While I get that many of these kids are really terrifying, I mostly just feel sorry for them. They're kids and most of them probably have or had some deep rooting issues that just get overlooked or ignored. And if the kid acts up they get send to a different class/school where it most likely will continue. Out of sight out of mind.
Story 5 is one I relate to. I have a ton of scabs and red bumps on my arm and I have a tendency to pick at them over and over again. I always get told to stop, but I just can't stop.
Kids teach themselves how to cry???? Normal kids? I wouldn't know - I had a very abusive childhood and had plenty to cry about. Except I better NOT cry.
When i was in high school i got a 504 plan, specifically to have a little more time on tests and to be able to take tests in a seperate room (overwatched by another teacher, obviously), because i would usually have a panic attack hearing everyone flipping their test papers, people getting up to turn tests in before me (made me feel like i had to rush and that fueled the panic attack), and any excess noise outside of normal test taking noises (so, talking...etc.) But, i took normal classes and only was ever in the "special ed" classroom whenever i had to take tests. Edit: It helped me massively. I have ADHD, Autism, Mild Reading Comprehension Issues, and Unspecified BiPolar Disorder. So, having a seperate space to take tests and such really really helped.
I remember my criminology teacher telling us she was only truly scared of 1 student in her life. He was massive for a 17 year old. He never talked and had that soulless look about him. Like the body was there but the soul wasn’t it was creepy according to her. She point blank refused to be alone in a room with him. When he finished school she felt relieved.
i almost got mine but i was failing high school anyways. senior year finaklly got diagnosed autism (more of a burnout but also i am a kind of smart one). wish i got it earlier but eh i have my GED now anyways
I never got attention growing up, and the only thing i really knew was discipline. My mom treated me like I was a trophy, never really giving me the emotional support i needed while only giving me physical attention and nothing else. I was never taught a lot of things either that a child should learn from their parents. I became a sneaky asshole in school. I would manipulate and use people to benefit myself and when i got into highschool it was more of the same stuff. I always knew how to talk my way out of trouble. When i turned 20, i went to therapy with the hopes of being diagnosed with ADHD so i could get on meds. Instead, after several sessions, i was diagnosed with ASPD + NPD (on top of ADHD as well as tendencies for BPD). Needless to say, i was taken aback and surprised all to hell. Lately ive been trying to make do with that knowledge and try to project something beneficial into the world. Have been a manipulator myself, i find it easy to point out things people may miss in relationships. If someone has problems with their s/o, they come to me. It helps me try to amend all the damage i did as a youth. Not sure where to go from here, but im taking it one day at a time.
My younger brother is A.S.P.D. You can learn cognitive empathy, if you really want to. Obviously, it's in your best interest to follow the law as much as possible to avoid incarceration 🤷. You might want to go somewhere else & get a second opinion on your diagnosis. Most sociopaths have little regard to trying to amend any damage they may have caused or anything like that. N.P.D. can be treated.
@LaraKeller-su3zc I never said I was a sociopath. I was considering going to therapy again but I really don't feel like I need to. My quality of life is decent enough and I don't really care too much to pay for something I feel I don't really need. After getting my diagnosis way back when I stopped seeing my therapist altogether after a while because I realized she wasn't gonna get me on meds
6:12 Yes! Most children know how to make themselves cry or at the very least how to fake it. The difference is why they’re doing it. I taught toddlers up through the age of 5 and if they ever made themselves cry it’s because they didn’t want to do something, plain and simple. Take napping for example. I can see on a child’s face that they’re exhausted and need this nap, they know they’re tired, but they want to play so they cry to fight it and me. Some kids cry for attention, but they don’t usually make stuff up. Especially not things that drastic and it’s not constant and every day.
Psycopaths are typically highly intelligent and charming. Which makes them so terrifying. You usually don't see them coming. Whereas sociopaths are typically impulsive, irratic and explosive so at least you get a chance to distance yourself.
14:30 in america kids get TWO WEEKS for xmas break 1 week for spring/easter break and thursday n friday off for thanksgiving its been this way since i was in school
14:29 Op's calendar math is correct. The next Wednesday after Christmas break was January 2nd. Yes, the 26th was a Wednesday, but that's part of the week of Christmas break.
Are teachers exempt from retaliation laws? Mandatory reporting ARE teachers responsibility, that means its part of their job. But they can get fired for doing their job?
Taking away recess has been factually proven to make bad behavior worse through multiple studies. Bro needs to update his teacher's education. (I have a master's degree in education)
Had teachers scream in my face because they thought I was talking. Could never imagine one ever asking me if I'm being abused and that's pretty fucking sad.
I was working as a high school secretary. As I was walking down a small hallway that housed the offices of the social workers I saw a young man sitting on the floor waiting for his social worker. He was crying, then he started ramming the top of his head into the cinder block wall. I ran up to him to stop him, then ran to find his social worker. She took over from there.
Not really affecting me now but back when I was in elementary school, my dad was a gang member + drug dealer and my mom was always at strip clubs etc... anywàys me and some of my other siblings were badly abused like them using needles and other stuff on us and always were locked in the dark of the basement (ofc not to go in school but most of the time..). I would always try to get signs to the teacher. Dont really remember exactly what I did though. The teachers always brushed the stuff off and claimed it was just fine not really suspecting things. If your in education dealing with children please dont ignore their behaviour like that
regarding story 5: i have similar compulsions (not to that extreme but i do sometimes pick my skin until it bleeds) AND i get itchy enough with allergies to *want* to scratch underneath my skin, thank god i haven't (but i have accidentally broken my skin scratching too hard 😐). this kid definitely had something going on. it's near impossible to diagnose mental illnesses in children under like, 10ish (especially things like sociopathy and psychopathy, pretty much every kid shows socio/psycho behavior a few times) and i only have highschool ap psych level knowledge so i won't say much about it but it does definitely seem like he may have something.
Story 2: oh geez no, doing put him in a drama class. It wouldn't redirect his energy, he would just use the info to be a more skilled sociopath. Same reason you don't send people with full blown malignant narcissism to therapy or psychology classes. They take that info to get more skilled at messing with people.
Sociopath are made though. So I don't think he is a sociopath. Sociopath is an other name for antisocial personality disorder and it comes most of the time with children who have been victim of trauma. So yeah...no.
The swastika one reminded me of a story my bf told me about his childhood - his parents were/are kind of racist and definitely misinformed him on a few things. He was maybe 12 and in class, and the teacher asked “what is the word for somebody who is foreign and moves to a different country?” looking for the word “immigrant”. My bf, the good kid, raises his hand, the teacher calls on him, and he says “ethnically challenged, sir.” I’m pretty sure the entire class went silent, teacher was shocked and all the non-white kids were looking at him in sheer horror. He was promptly informed that that was not the correct term and I don’t think he’s ever been so mortified since 💀
That background footage was freaking me out more than the stories in the video (the ones I've heard so far, I'm only seven minutes into the video). The background footage is pretty close to the kind of dream that you half-control, where you cramp up to e.g. try to stop a wheel or pendulum, just for it to go even faster the other way. And I felt my legs cramping up whenever that dang ball didn't get pushed down when my subconcious wanted it to, or when it almost got stuck somewhere and I tried to lift it up with my will power, fully knowing that my thoughts will not have any effect on the video. I couldn't even listen fully!
@@PokeMageTech Just so you know, I have already, about a decade ago. I have an autism diagnosis and I think the fact that my brain is wired differently is the cause for me feeling that way when seeing that. But I've heard from several people who also have the kind of dream I described, so at least that is something pretty common.
@@PokeMageTech Dunno, is after all already almost a full decade ago. I can't get the darn papers for it either even though I need them to be able to take driving lessons in Sweden…
My God, that's horrible! You're telling me that school had a student they KNEW was violent and dangerous to the staff and the rest of the students, and they did NOTHING to get that kid out of there? I don't care if he WAS special Ed, if he was dangerous and being sent to a public space where he could hurt someone, that is wrong. He should have been home schooled or sent somewhere better equipped to deal with him. It's just not fair to the other kids and staff who SHOULD be able to feel safe in that environment to learn and teach.
When I was in elementary, I knew these twins and one of them would always do odd things (in my opinion what I thought was odd at 9 years old) but one time, he broke open a pen and started to basically drink the ink. I knew enough about ink to know it was not good. The only thing I thought he did it for was to die. I told the teacher that he was drinking the ink from his pen and I hadn’t seen either twin in years until about senior year, I saw the twin who did not break open a pen and turns out it’s all good now. But that’s my red flag story😅
When I was a freshman in high school, I had a classmate who said something "really funny" happened recently... "My mom hit my cat and she died." The whole class went silent and stared at her, until someone finally asked, "How is that funny?" She kind of started backpedaling, but couldn't really explain herself. I used to be friends with her, but I started getting a bad feeling from her after that. It sounds like my gut was right on the money, because she became a big bully later on. Despite claiming she was against bullying, she tried to start a cyberbullying trend against one girl for no reason. Luckily, I don't think many people joined in.
There was this kid that would bash his head into the bus window while cackling madly. He'd also constantly try and lick me , id tell him to stop then he'd start back up a minute later, for that whole school year it just became a neverending cycle of pushing him away and literally holding him back the whole bus ride home, I got yelled at when I tried to sit in a different seat. We were on a short bus and half the seats were empty. I was being punished by the angry driver by being put in the front seat with that kid. What was I in trouble for? Complaining about the sensory overload of the short bus... because I was special needs and the whole bus REAKED like that fresh weirdly sweet chemical smelling plastic and there was this kid that would just SCREAM. That on top of the kid literally trying to push himself on top of me and force his tongue in my mouth for half an hour EVERY DAY for that whole school year and id have really bad panic attacks from it all...the panic attacks were the reason I was on that bus to start with.
Oh and that kid had the worst case of lobotomy doll face id ever seen, his parents had him on something that reduced him to a doll that sometimes tried to assault people. I still struggle with internalized ableism because of him . I wonder if he was even human anymore and if it was cruel torture not just letting his body rest.
I'm pretty sure OP meant the second Wednesday after Christmas, not the very next day. Obviously the next day would have been December 26th, but the second Wednesday after Tuesday December 25th, would have been January 2nd. Perhaps the wording was a little unclear, but I knew what they meant and I'm pretty certain they know what they meant.
Had this tenth grader at Cleveland South High School in 1996 I called Nature Boy because he disliked wearing a shirt. One day Cleveland police detectives showed up to examine my attendance book to determine whether or not he’d been in class on a given day. I told them he was marked present but that it might not hold up in court because I had one of the girls take attendance for me. When they got up to leave I asked them which squad they were with. One of them answered “homicide”.
Not a teacher, but this reminds me of a kid back in elementary. She peed in her chair, and then started barking like a dog. She started crawling under the desks while our teacher had us move over towards the door. Never know what happened to that girl
I was sat next to a reg flag kid at school, it was really hard. I was terrified of him, but was told "you need to be an example for him to follow" any time I tried to complain. He threatened me all the time, broke my things, tried to hit me with a metal ruler (left holes in my folder as I used that as a shield). I hated that class and learned nothing, since I lived in fear instead of being able to focus. If you are a teacher, please don't force other kids to have to deal with this. You're the adult! Both of us would've been better off sitting alone - he wouldn't have been able to assault me/threaten to, and I could've focused. End of the day, I hope he did alright, he had a lot of problems going on behind the scenes and was being bullied I think, so I don't really blame him for this, but I do blame the adults for caring more about trying to get him to fit in, rather than for me to be safe. I really think he would've done better with 1:1 teaching, and its shit that no one provided that for him.
19:18 There it is. Let me guess: kid has weird/troubling coping mechanisms. Kid got bullied relentlessly or even attacked, even by adults, for said coping mechanism So kid turned to violence to get people to leave him alone and soon, that was his default.
My mother wasn't a teacher but she did volunteer to tutor some young men in a youth prison. One young man was in there for assaulting children. My mom didn't want to work with him, considering what he had done but she was persuaded to anyway. She was not happy about it and kept telling them that she had a bad feeling about it. One day, they told my mom that she wouldn't be working with him anymore. She didn't mind of course but curiosity made her ask why and they told her that they had found out that he had wanted to be tutored so he could be closer to the door because he was planning an escape.
Story 10: beginning of that sounded like the twins in my mom's classroom who had FAS. Their mother did drugs and alcohol while pregnant. She was also the school trustee. Tons of fun to deal with, considering everything.
I attended a school with a girl, who nobody really liked. She was quiet, reserved, and had very little interaction with other people, besides a couple of girls. that became less of an occurrence after one moved. I hardly ever saw her express emotions, either. (TW: BLOOD) One day, in science class, we had to dissect a cow heart. There were about eight long tables in the room, and she was in the back near a group of boys. I'm not sure what happened to set her off, but after sitting there doing nothing for a while, I saw the scariest smile I have ever seen on anybody. Then, she began laughing as she stabbed a small bit of the heart she had dissected, over and over again. I have never heard somebody laugh like that. It was psychotic. The boys at the table were rightfully freaked out. Eventually the teacher came over to see what the fuss was about, and the girl just put her head in her arms. I should probably mention, that I know this girl was bullied. And as for her home life, I heard from somebody else that it certainly wasn't pleasant. And I, along with everybody else, knew she self harmed. One of the things I noticed about her, was she really liked animals. From rescuing a lizard from a group of kids, to releasing a bird out of a window, and saving a ladybug. She wasn't heartless. I truly don't know what her case was, but wherever she is now, I really hope she got help.
I've got a story about my brother. He is diagnosed with ASD (autism) and when he was young he had a lot of anger issues. He would become violent towards others with or without provocation, was very strong for his age, and sometimes hurt other kids when they played together because he didn't understand how to regulate is use of force. He would attack me to the point that if he makes a move towards me I will still flinch away (it's been almost a decade since he was last violent), and I think he might have also harmed our little sister (I'm eldest, then mt brother, then sister). when he was five he told my mom that he didn't want to do the bad things he did, he didn't like hurting people, but that he couldn't stop himself from doing it. At one point he got mad at a classroom aide and pushed her, causing her to fall and hit her head. She had a concussion and permanent speech difficulties, but did not press charges. My brother was sent to a special school for the remainder of the year and has since gotten a lot better. My sister will similarly lash out when something even very minor (ie being asked to clean up messes she makes) upsets her, but she rarely makes contact, its mostly screaming, crying, and kicking/slapping in a persons direction but not touching them. she is also diagnosed with ASD. my siblings both have medication which improves their behavior and self control by a lot, and my mom has worked with them extensively to improve self control as well.
Story 56 reminds me of my last year in primary school, but less a problem with the student and rather a problem with the staff. So my school had an after school program if you couldn't take the bus or go home after school for whatever reason. Most students in my grade (6th) weren't in it anymore, but I still had to go. I became friends with the only other kid my age who is on the spectrum (so am I, but that went undiagnosed till the age of 17). He was in the special ed class, but all the students were put together in the after school thing (I don't know the actual term, English isn't my first language so I'm not sure what it's called). On ped days, if you couldn't stay home, you could do activities at school or go on outings and they were supervised my the same educators that took care of the after school program. That friend was pretty much always there, so we would usually spend our time together. One thing I noticed later is that the educators acted as if it was a chore for me to be with him and watch him or something. At the time, I didn't understand because I was just spending time with a friend, but nearly every outing they came up to me and were like "Are you okay being with him?" and it took me a few years later to realize why. I knew he's autistic, but I didn't care. He was my friend and I enjoyed spending time with him. I left at the end of that year to go to high/secondary school and I think he did too. I never saw him again, but I still regularly think about him and wonder how he's doing. I wish I hadn't lost contact with him. I know I helped the educators a lot in that last year, but I wish they had seen that as a friendship rather than me taking pity on the autistic kid or something similar.
One of my friends was abused horrifically due to being intersex, what did the school do? absolutely nothing she very nearly shot up the school as in had the gun in the guitar case... she very thankfully decided not to and although she still struggles shes finding out that she isnt so alone as she thought.
16:48 this reminded of the time in middle school a boy held a knife he made of tinfoil to my neck in art class. Just snuck up behind me. I think I was just confused when it happened. He was a weird dude. Has done worse things but that was all after middle school. Got a criminal record as a minor for stabbing someone with a pencil because they either insulted or hit on his female cousin (I can’t remember). It could be a lie though too. He, again, was weird. Yet oddly nice to me at times
THIS is WHY we need more specially trained Teachers to handle kids like this. Otherwise, we continue to drop the ball and have MORE tragedies at schools across the country BECAUSE of these kids
In one schòol, a student was behaving strangely. He really unnerved me. One day, he stole newborn rabbits. They were rescued. We all became very wary of him. Years later, he was convicted of murder.
The compulsive picking (yes, the case in that story was extreme) is called dermatillomania and from what I've read, because I have a form of this and have since I can consciously recall, it's the result of an impaired response to stress.
I can absolutely feel for the suck up kid as I was the same way. My mother always taught me that if you got a gift you acted appreciative even if you didn't really like it / care about it so I would do just like the kid in that story where I would act all sweet and stuff when they gave it to me but then almost immediately end up throwing it away or crumbling it up or something like that It wasn't that I was like a psycho or evil or anything I just was told that that's what you did if you got a gift you didn't actually like My mom just never really clarified for me until much later in life that disposing of the unwanted gift was something you were supposed to do privately when you got home or something like that
I think it’s so funny that dudes all like “I feel so bad for them. I hope everything’s better now. I wanna know what happened to the poor abused child. “. No you don’t. You don’t care. No one does. Cause it’s most likely the same addict that you straight up judge for being broken addicted and/or homeless.
41:33 'he used to crawl on the floor looking for crayons to eat, but that might just have been a kid thing' really REALLY drives the point of just how little these kids are
I am fortunate that I was able to leave higher ed when I started to see these behaviors in students. The issue is that people do not parent their children and without parenting their little fuck trophies, there is NO REASON TO BEAT YOURSELF UP AS AN EDUCATOR BECAUSE YOU CAN’T HELP OR SAVE THEM
This is blatantly false, people with ASPD (psychopathy is a heavily outdated term) can and more often than not are average people, just with more challenges socially than those who don't have it. With therapy and self-work it can be worked through and accommodated for. All mental illnesses should be treated as such, people are not evil for having mental problems and you have no doubt met people with ASPD, psychosis, schizophrenia, what have you without even knowing it because we are not what sensationalized media tells you we are. I have autism, OCD with psychosis, and NPD and with therapy I've been able to function semi-normally. It just takes extra work because society isn't built for people like us and people like to make us out to be disgusting horrible monsters when according to research we are actually more likely to be victims of crimes than perpetrators.
I was probably a red flag child. I had undiagnosed adhd (and likely still undiagnosed autism, I’m also a system, so that’s fun) and anger issues that stemmed from a lack of knowledge on how to regulate my over abundant emotions because I live in a very emotionally empty family. I would get into fights but was never physical (at school, at home I’d beat up my twin and I still feel bad about it). I got into trouble a lot, threatened a few other students, etc. But the moment they took me away from the others I was so happy. I was thrilled to be away from the people I so vehemently despised. Hell i considered misbehaving AGAIN just so I’d be put in ISS (aka isolated and alone). A LOT of my issues made sense after my diagnosis but nobody bothered to get me help because I was afab. The only person who tried to get me help was my GT teacher (Gifted and Talented class aka the class of “kids we know definitely have a mental disorder but we don’t want to diagnose them or ask parents to get them an evaluation early on in life” class)
I’d like to inform everyone I’m better now. I’m in therapy and will be continuing so for life. I’m very mentally fucked from events in my life, but I’m better. I’m happy. I’m recovering.
It's surprising how smart a two year old can be. We told our son he could get a toy if he could start pooping on the potty. Well I caught him in the bathroom using a piece of toilet paper (this part blew my mind that a 2 year old would be germ conscience) to pick his crap out of his pullup up and put it in the toilet. If I hadn't caught him halfway through doing this I probably would have believed him. 😅
I feel like they should have helped that kid who seems to be sociopathic, he has even less of a chance as an adult now. The mother definitely should have taken her child to therapy when she was noticing the fake crying. Edit: I'm actually so angry at the people posting this that didn't help these children. It's not that hard, see something say something.
Society would rather slap a temporary bandaid on a on an infected weeping wound than do any permanent fixes because it isn’t profitable. I hate humanity for this reason.
@@mourgie that's also the problem and therapy may not fix things but it can be a tremendous help. Greedy corporations and how terrible mental healthcare can be is also part of the problem. The kid is a product of this environment.
I don't think I'll be on here but damn I know I scared a LOT of teachers when I was younger... I've gotten a lot better as I've gotten older and have been graduated since 2012 but man my K-5 was nuts I threw more red flags than a soccer referee
Most sociopathic children end up growing up to lead rather normal lives. Often times they eventually notice how the world reacts to their actions once they’re no longer kids and people don’t give as much sympathy and they learn to fake it until they make it. So if it’s any consolation, there’s a really good chance if you come across a kid like that they probably won’t become some sort of serial killer.
I’m a senior this year- last year a freshman or sophomore in band said that he was on parole bc he SA’d his little sister. I have to work with him in bassline this year and if he says anything else abt it I’m sending him to the director. I can’t deal with that shit
So this happened, at 42:00 he said "for calling me a female..." but right then the Hardees ad came on and the first thing i heard was a whistle 🤣😂🤣 couldnt ask for better timing TH-cam. Im convinced they do this on purpose, cause its happened way too many times.
Getting fired for reporting to cps while your a mandatory reporter sounds like a huge employment lawsuit
Came here to say this. I am gobsmacked.
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@@gnojoe6359dude. Get. A. Freaking. Life.
I agree with our narrator. If people are getting fired for reporting abuse, education is doomed
@@raarasunai4896education is already doomed.
The fact that the school cared more for its image than the students and that the teacher got FIRED for literally following the law is disgusting and horrifying.
That's an expensive lawsuit for that teacher, and that case will probably be pro bono
We need to enforce homeschooling so this does not happen homeschooling also applies freedom to parents
@@RobloxianBros-jd7krnow there's an overreaction
Some schools are awful. My mom’s school told her she was no longer welcomed there because she was a teen mom and it looked bad on them. My middle school principle was so invested in drama most of the staff acting like they were in middle school themself. I respect the people who work in the industry because they actually care, but unfortunately there’s a whole lot of people who shouldn’t be around kids working in schools.
12:57 seriously, if you get fired for making a CPS call, be glad you left the crap place.
No. You sue. You drag it out into the open, force them to suffer publicity 1000x worse than they would’ve for the report itself. And even if you somehow lose, they won’t have standing to counter-sue, because you haven’t defamed them.
@@PokeMageTechnope they defamed themselves already
The comment about chronic scab picking being a “sign”: Was a school nurse, for years. My “frequent flyers who did this daily needed love. They did it for nurturing. I say that because after MANY days in a row I told one, “You don’t have to be bleeding to come see me. In the mornings, on your way to class, if you need/want a hug, stop and see me.”. The picking stopped. I did the same with the next, & the next… I had so many little babies coming for hugs, some it was every time they passed my office. 😭. I can’t think of them without crying. If I could have I would have taken them all. The “troubled kids” were my special visitors and any time they were missing, I always got a call from the office, “Is _____ down there with you?” Lol. They almost always were. Children seek out love, the problems start when they give up. Positive attention, understanding & acceptance cures many things.
I'm not crying... But... Oh my goodness....
Good lord. I loved my old school nurses before I did homeschool. I knew if I needed any kind of help at school I could go to them, and they were often my first thought. I went for them for panic attacks, high blood pressure, medication (duh), they were the ones who helped me through the first time I knew I was having an asthma attack. You reminded me of them. They were like the emotionally available mother I wanted and needed because I was a very emotional person and didn’t know how to regulate it.
Thank you. Thank you for bringing those memories back.
So many of these stories have the root cause of homelife being disrupted, negligent, or dysfunctional. It's amazing how intervening early and actually dealing with these behaviors will help, yet this video is just a snippet into the massive amount of households that refuse to act on them.
Making the assaulted student alternate days with the assaulter is just punishing the victim again. If I were the parent of the girl, I'd be insisting that the school figure out a way to deal with him and let her have her proper education.
I’m always suspicious of the mom “who didn’t know anything about the abuse.”
Why?
i was assaulted at 8 and my parents didn’t know anything until i told them almost a decade later, things happen, they know now but i didnt tell them and the only signs were my depression but that was signed off as being situational as i was also homeless for a period of time. i think my parents going through so much at the same time didnt help them not picking up on the signs though
@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 Because at some point your kids going to say \ do something to show signs . They arent going to sit there quietly (some might but not all) Soo you cant always say "i didnt know"
Happens all the time my mom never knew my uncle had groomed and assaulted me till I told her at 14
It's very common actually; no man or woman wants to think the worst of their partners and very few are looking for it (and even amongst these they're at risk of ruining their families worse especially if wrong.) Also, don't forget the amount of access parents have to their own children, unmitigated anf unsupervised.
Compulsive scab picking and such can be a sign of stuff like depression and anxiety, and to some degree can be a thing with ADHD or autism, where the texture feels wrong so you try to get it off. For anxiety and depression, it usually comes from needing some kind of physical input to stop thoughts, so many turn to picking scabs so they don't harm themselves worse
For the autism, it can also be the OCD-like behaviors that can come with it. (I would know.)
@@PokeMageTech Absolutely true!
For ADHD it could be a form of fidgeting too. Sometimes a fidgit toy could help change that behavior.
@@sonyabruns That can also be true. I'm someone with autism with ADHD-like symptoms where fidget toys don't help me, and I'll scratch out my scabs anyways
It's also known as dermatillomania. Absolutely sucks I have OCD and autism and I have it bad with my lips. Any time I feel that the skin is "uneven" I have to peel it even though I know it'll hurt. Sucks majorly
That kid scream crying whilst staring at the teacher smiling maniacally with no tears would be FUCKING TERRIFYING
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If I were that teacher I'd be convinced I was in a horror movie.
I threw up a lot of red flags when I was a kid based on the content of my stories and essays, coupled with my behavior, which was pretty atrocious and odd (before things were diagnosed). My parents would be contacted because I had adult themes and violence in my stories. Very well written, but with stuff that a second or third grader shouldn’t know about. I wasn’t getting it from my parents or any violence or sex at home, I was just watching TV and reading books above grade level and didn’t know it wasn’t appropriate for school.
When I was around 9 I wrote about a girl who introduces her mom to her new boyfriend and her mom goes ballistic because the new boyfriend’s dad had raped her in the past. Later on in the story, the mom’s rapist stalks and kills her. I didn’t know rape was off the table.
Honestly, it’s got to be pretty difficult to tell the difference between a child’s active imagination versus actual issues and situations they’re dealing with. I can see where you’d want to err on the side of caution but I’m also quite glad no one ever proceeded with anything legally with my parents. It wasn’t anything bad going on at home.
Every child deserves parents, not every parent deserves a child, and some kids are just straight up nightmares
Wow, so original 🙄
"Fourth graders are typically very sweet, light-hearted, and not bratty yet." I want to know what fourth grade class they're talking about because I went to a private LUTHERAN school in fourth grade, and my classmates were throwng around inuendos and swearing like nobody's business. They knew exactly what they were saying, too. The third and fourth grade teacher said that our class and the class befotre us were probably the worst two classes she had taught in her 35 years of teaching at the same school. My teachers from 7th and 8th grade completely agree. There were fights everywhere, we were almost a year behind on material because of class disruptions (which resulted in everyone coming close to failing and having to repeat), vaping in the bathrooms, death threats from students to other students in THIRD GRADE. Third grade! For years, I've been wondering how the parents can just let their kids act like this. The parents act like their kids can do no wrong, when the teachers and classmates are saying otherwise. The students even acted in these ways toward their parents, as I saw at sporting events. I can't blame any of these behaviors on mental disability, because the only IEPs in the class were for speech impediments.
We went on an overnight field trip to a summer camp in 7th grade, and my classmates had ZERO respect for anyone, even the camp leaders (as I was told. I had a migraine from the heat, so I had to stay in the cabin for the entire trip). The class after mine went to the same camp the next year, and they were still talking about our class, saying that the other class was so much better, and I don't blame them. My classmates sucked. They still act like this sometimes in high school. I hope they grow up soon, because I don't want to know where they will end up if they don't.
20:10 nothing enrages me more than this op
It’s so obvious this kid is being sexually abused and what did they do? Send him to homeschool to isolate him with his abusive parents. It’s absolutely heart wrenching to see how little empathy op has for this poor child. I hope op feels the guilt weigh on their conscience forever.
FINALLY SOMEONE NOTICED THIS!!! that was my 1st thought, with some of these stories (even more that one) you can really tell the teacher doesnt care at all for there student and just wants any kid with behavioral issues to not be there
13:17 this is actually illegal. As a teacher, this person was a mandated reporter, meaning their job MUST legally be protected in the event of reporting something for the well being of a child
The day Twin Towers were destroyed my daughter was in 4th grade. I took her to school, not sure if school was cancelled or not. One of her classmates, who was also a new friend, came running up at school, telling us that her aunt had fallen out of the window of the 80th floor of one of the towers! She was crying and I started giving her my condolences. Then she pipes up and told me she was being transported to the hospital with a broken leg...after falling 80 floors. This kid was know to lie and I let it slide but I was really angry with her, as it was a terrible day, and told her that it couldn't have been the 80th floor. She doubled down and started screaming at me that it was. I told her I didn't believe her and it was a terrible thing to lie about. Later that day, after much thought, I went and saw her mother about it, wondering if she needed some help. The mother told me that she wasn't lying as she did have an Aunt who lived in New York. Apparently the mother thought that any sliver of truth made the lie not a lie! About 6 weeks later they moved her to another school. Good Riddance.
The story about the op using urinals with his pants all the way down got a chuckle out of me
Basically doing a Butters from South Park
you can hear the sadness and empathy in his voice throughout the video :(
it always pains me to hear these stories and i have a feeling of dread listening to them yet i always stick around for the entire video
I was an IEP kid and let me tell you there are some very interesting people in that program. I remember in particular we have one girl that everyone in the actual group of kids would call Miss psycho, and not to be mean. She once punched our pregnant teacher in the belly trying to cause a miscarriage; another time she ran off with the wheelchair of our one-legged teacher's aide because she thought it would be funny to watch him hobble after it. And if she got mad her fits were so bad that the teachers weren't even allowed to handle them anymore they had to call the resource officer that was stationed at the school to handle it. The last time I saw her was after my school locked her in one of what they called The quiet rooms which was basically just a closet for the kids that they didn't know how to handle. It had a small window that you couldn't see through a desk that was screwed to the wall and if you were lucky a chair, she was not though. I was actually in the room next door to her at this time because I had argued with the teacher earlier in the day because they were wrong on something they were teaching us and refused to admit it but I had a chair. It was right after lunch time and surprisingly the secretaries had remembered our food this time. This meant she had a tray screwed on desk and the window. She use the tray to break the window then open the door from the outside which is the only way you could open the door. After she was free she decided to open my door to free me, which was honestly quite surprising, before going to the secretarial desk and holding one of the secretaries at glass point. I stayed in my closet for the hour long stand off that ensued. The resource officer eventually got the upper hand and she was taken out in cuffs screaming she would quote "blow this building sky high."
Another boy broke one of the other windows using his head the next year and was apparently laughing when the paramedics arrived.
I think part of the reason we all went insane in those rooms at some point or another but it's basically a 10 by 10 closet where they could shut the lights off to quote "keep us calm". Many of us spent most of the year in those. It was basically like giving students solitary confinement for a very small crimes.
Yeah that's um ... Literally torture and child abuse.
@@SoulDevoured oh I'm aware there's multiple lawsuits from kids that were put through that currently pending. I chose to not go through with a lawsuit but many other people decided to
It's truly horrifying here about how common abuse like this is in dedicated special ed. schools. The dehumanization of literal children is mortifying to hear of.
@@TheStarsTwilight I'm a survivor of our extremely carceral and underfunded state psychiatric hospitals. Cops and hospital employees actually killed a patient at one by dog-piling and suffocating him. Virginia Central State Hospital. I was at SWVMHI in Marion, and that place scares the shit out of hillbillies who aren't afraid of going into the pitch-black coal mines
The places are horrifying and degrading, but at the same time I saw a patient on the pediatric ward during our marches to the chow hall. He was a 16-year-old kid whose father wanted a football star. So daddy dearest kept giving him steroids and other performance enhancing drugs until all that was left in him was rage. He broke people's arms like they were nothing
I don't really know what the humane option is in these cases. Having been over-medicated several times before, I can tell you that a life sedated isn't worth living. We don't have the resources yet to keep them in gilded cages so large that they wouldn't know they're confined, and then there's also the problem of keeping them in solitude being torture, but also keeping them around others is too dangerous. Any kind of physical restraint can eventually get worked out of. As horrifying as it sounds, I think the only option that spares their lives and keeps their minds in tact if all other forms of therapy fails is permanent physical disability, like having a surgeon rupture the Achilles tendon on opposite legs every couple years
Say what you will about her but at least she cared about her fellow tortured children enough to free you from your cells
I graduated high school in 2001 and they knew NOTHING about mental health. I was picked on almost daily by teachers, one in particular couldn’t go a single day without saying something horrible or sarcastic to or about me. Instead of asking if anything was wrong I got bullied. And I was a good kid, straight A’s until my mental health made them slip and never got detention for bad behavior, just things like being late or not bringing a note after an absence.
That really sucks, especially coming from teachers. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Yes!! I graduated in 2015 and looking back, I have no clue how no one saw it in me. I would've been the perfect case study in recognizing abused kid behaviors. I literally even slipped a "help me" note to a teacher and he didn't report it because he thought I was just being over dramatic. Disheartening shit, I'm glad staff is better trained now. I'm a substitute teacher and I've got a great eye for it, I've made a report or two based on some suspect behavior.
@@poogissploogis I’m glad you’re helping now, by reporting things. It seems so odd that the people who taught teenagers had no idea how to spot depression, anxiety, abuse, etc. I’m sorry that happened to you, and anyone who went through school having to deal with extra hardships and were utterly ignored or punished instead of helped.
I could have been many of these children. Addiction, prison, crime. Almost 40. So much was ignored, in the 90s no one listened or cared. Guidence counselor once said his dad beat him w a broom so things werent that bad. I didnt have time to get to the bad parts. Lifes hard.
taking away recess has been proven to make behavioral issues worse..... that one teacher just doesn't gaf.
literally
Agreed. It’s the one place kids can use up their energy.
The kid who cuts bugs in half and looks for crayons to eat will have a great career in the Marine corps later on in life.
While I get that many of these kids are really terrifying, I mostly just feel sorry for them. They're kids and most of them probably have or had some deep rooting issues that just get overlooked or ignored. And if the kid acts up they get send to a different class/school where it most likely will continue. Out of sight out of mind.
Story 5 is one I relate to. I have a ton of scabs and red bumps on my arm and I have a tendency to pick at them over and over again. I always get told to stop, but I just can't stop.
Kids teach themselves how to cry???? Normal kids? I wouldn't know - I had a very abusive childhood and had plenty to cry about. Except I better NOT cry.
There is nothing normal about a kid teaching themselves how to cry, ffs. xS
Absolutely not. I’ve never seen that before. It is most definitely NOT normal
When i was in high school i got a 504 plan, specifically to have a little more time on tests and to be able to take tests in a seperate room (overwatched by another teacher, obviously), because i would usually have a panic attack hearing everyone flipping their test papers, people getting up to turn tests in before me (made me feel like i had to rush and that fueled the panic attack), and any excess noise outside of normal test taking noises (so, talking...etc.)
But, i took normal classes and only was ever in the "special ed" classroom whenever i had to take tests.
Edit: It helped me massively. I have ADHD, Autism, Mild Reading Comprehension Issues, and Unspecified BiPolar Disorder. So, having a seperate space to take tests and such really really helped.
I remember my criminology teacher telling us she was only truly scared of 1 student in her life. He was massive for a 17 year old. He never talked and had that soulless look about him. Like the body was there but the soul wasn’t it was creepy according to her. She point blank refused to be alone in a room with him. When he finished school she felt relieved.
That made me think of an old movie called " The River's Edge ". The protagonist was a kid like that. It's really good....& very chilling.
By the way IEP isn’t just disabilities. I am a IEP kid but it’s because I am advanced, so I have a different education plan that normal students.
I also have an IEP, but it’s for both reasons. I’m a grade ahead in math, but also get to wear headphones and leave class 5 minutes early.
i almost got mine but i was failing high school anyways. senior year finaklly got diagnosed autism (more of a burnout but also i am a kind of smart one). wish i got it earlier but eh i have my GED now anyways
I never got attention growing up, and the only thing i really knew was discipline. My mom treated me like I was a trophy, never really giving me the emotional support i needed while only giving me physical attention and nothing else. I was never taught a lot of things either that a child should learn from their parents.
I became a sneaky asshole in school. I would manipulate and use people to benefit myself and when i got into highschool it was more of the same stuff. I always knew how to talk my way out of trouble.
When i turned 20, i went to therapy with the hopes of being diagnosed with ADHD so i could get on meds. Instead, after several sessions, i was diagnosed with ASPD + NPD (on top of ADHD as well as tendencies for BPD). Needless to say, i was taken aback and surprised all to hell.
Lately ive been trying to make do with that knowledge and try to project something beneficial into the world. Have been a manipulator myself, i find it easy to point out things people may miss in relationships. If someone has problems with their s/o, they come to me. It helps me try to amend all the damage i did as a youth.
Not sure where to go from here, but im taking it one day at a time.
My younger brother is A.S.P.D. You can learn cognitive empathy, if you really want to. Obviously, it's in your best interest to follow the law as much as possible to avoid incarceration 🤷. You might want to go somewhere else & get a second opinion on your diagnosis. Most sociopaths have little regard to trying to amend any damage they may have caused or anything like that. N.P.D. can be treated.
@LaraKeller-su3zc I never said I was a sociopath. I was considering going to therapy again but I really don't feel like I need to. My quality of life is decent enough and I don't really care too much to pay for something I feel I don't really need. After getting my diagnosis way back when I stopped seeing my therapist altogether after a while because I realized she wasn't gonna get me on meds
@@localcompanion What in the hell do you think A.S.P.D. IS???🤣🤣🤣
one day at a time is great ;) u got this! keep it going
as someone who was abused to the point of developing DID this makes me I wonder what my teachers noticed about us... and if they did anything
6:12 Yes! Most children know how to make themselves cry or at the very least how to fake it. The difference is why they’re doing it. I taught toddlers up through the age of 5 and if they ever made themselves cry it’s because they didn’t want to do something, plain and simple. Take napping for example. I can see on a child’s face that they’re exhausted and need this nap, they know they’re tired, but they want to play so they cry to fight it and me. Some kids cry for attention, but they don’t usually make stuff up. Especially not things that drastic and it’s not constant and every day.
Wouldn't reporting abuse and getting a child away from an abusive family be good for a schools reputation.
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Psycopaths are typically highly intelligent and charming. Which makes them so terrifying. You usually don't see them coming.
Whereas sociopaths are typically impulsive, irratic and explosive so at least you get a chance to distance yourself.
14:30 in america kids get TWO WEEKS for xmas break 1 week for spring/easter break and thursday n friday off for thanksgiving its been this way since i was in school
14:29 Op's calendar math is correct. The next Wednesday after Christmas break was January 2nd. Yes, the 26th was a Wednesday, but that's part of the week of Christmas break.
There is a week between Christmas and new years (if you celebrate Christmas on the 24th) :)
Are teachers exempt from retaliation laws? Mandatory reporting ARE teachers responsibility, that means its part of their job. But they can get fired for doing their job?
Some parents are just so oblivious of their kids especially their little girls girls can be so mean and manipulative at that age it's scary
Taking away recess has been factually proven to make bad behavior worse through multiple studies. Bro needs to update his teacher's education. (I have a master's degree in education)
Had teachers scream in my face because they thought I was talking. Could never imagine one ever asking me if I'm being abused and that's pretty fucking sad.
Remember, all most people need is love, attention and community. If we focused on that there would be less pain in the world.
I was working as a high school secretary. As I was walking down a small hallway that housed the offices of the social workers I saw a young man sitting on the floor waiting for his social worker. He was crying, then he started ramming the top of his head into the cinder block wall. I ran up to him to stop him, then ran to find his social worker. She took over from there.
Not really affecting me now but back when I was in elementary school, my dad was a gang member + drug dealer and my mom was always at strip clubs etc... anywàys me and some of my other siblings were badly abused like them using needles and other stuff on us and always were locked in the dark of the basement (ofc not to go in school but most of the time..). I would always try to get signs to the teacher. Dont really remember exactly what I did though. The teachers always brushed the stuff off and claimed it was just fine not really suspecting things.
If your in education dealing with children please dont ignore their behaviour like that
I worked as a teacher for about a year.. kids can be scary as sh*t.. shout out to teachers that stay for years!
that is enough internet for the day
regarding story 5: i have similar compulsions (not to that extreme but i do sometimes pick my skin until it bleeds) AND i get itchy enough with allergies to *want* to scratch underneath my skin, thank god i haven't (but i have accidentally broken my skin scratching too hard 😐). this kid definitely had something going on. it's near impossible to diagnose mental illnesses in children under like, 10ish (especially things like sociopathy and psychopathy, pretty much every kid shows socio/psycho behavior a few times) and i only have highschool ap psych level knowledge so i won't say much about it but it does definitely seem like he may have something.
Some of these kids sound like they'd make horror movie villains blush
Story 2: oh geez no, doing put him in a drama class. It wouldn't redirect his energy, he would just use the info to be a more skilled sociopath.
Same reason you don't send people with full blown malignant narcissism to therapy or psychology classes. They take that info to get more skilled at messing with people.
Sociopath are made though. So I don't think he is a sociopath. Sociopath is an other name for antisocial personality disorder and it comes most of the time with children who have been victim of trauma. So yeah...no.
"he had an evil smile all while making crying noises" ooh. oh. dont like that at all.
Tbh idk if I'd trust the mother, considering how nonchalant she was
The swastika one reminded me of a story my bf told me about his childhood - his parents were/are kind of racist and definitely misinformed him on a few things. He was maybe 12 and in class, and the teacher asked “what is the word for somebody who is foreign and moves to a different country?” looking for the word “immigrant”. My bf, the good kid, raises his hand, the teacher calls on him, and he says “ethnically challenged, sir.” I’m pretty sure the entire class went silent, teacher was shocked and all the non-white kids were looking at him in sheer horror. He was promptly informed that that was not the correct term and I don’t think he’s ever been so mortified since 💀
Please don't hate students!
That background footage was freaking me out more than the stories in the video (the ones I've heard so far, I'm only seven minutes into the video). The background footage is pretty close to the kind of dream that you half-control, where you cramp up to e.g. try to stop a wheel or pendulum, just for it to go even faster the other way. And I felt my legs cramping up whenever that dang ball didn't get pushed down when my subconcious wanted it to, or when it almost got stuck somewhere and I tried to lift it up with my will power, fully knowing that my thoughts will not have any effect on the video. I couldn't even listen fully!
…you should probably see a psychologist…
It's a game called exo one, but also I would definitely see someone about that.
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Just so you know, I have already, about a decade ago. I have an autism diagnosis and I think the fact that my brain is wired differently is the cause for me feeling that way when seeing that. But I've heard from several people who also have the kind of dream I described, so at least that is something pretty common.
@@Lampe2020
I’m autistic, too. Have you been screened for anything else?
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Dunno, is after all already almost a full decade ago. I can't get the darn papers for it either even though I need them to be able to take driving lessons in Sweden…
Didn't expect an Angron of the World Eaters cameo in one of those stories
My God, that's horrible! You're telling me that school had a student they KNEW was violent and dangerous to the staff and the rest of the students, and they did NOTHING to get that kid out of there? I don't care if he WAS special Ed, if he was dangerous and being sent to a public space where he could hurt someone, that is wrong. He should have been home schooled or sent somewhere better equipped to deal with him. It's just not fair to the other kids and staff who SHOULD be able to feel safe in that environment to learn and teach.
6:03 the very first day I can remember,was when I was two
When I was in elementary, I knew these twins and one of them would always do odd things (in my opinion what I thought was odd at 9 years old) but one time, he broke open a pen and started to basically drink the ink. I knew enough about ink to know it was not good. The only thing I thought he did it for was to die. I told the teacher that he was drinking the ink from his pen and I hadn’t seen either twin in years until about senior year, I saw the twin who did not break open a pen and turns out it’s all good now. But that’s my red flag story😅
When I was a freshman in high school, I had a classmate who said something "really funny" happened recently... "My mom hit my cat and she died."
The whole class went silent and stared at her, until someone finally asked, "How is that funny?" She kind of started backpedaling, but couldn't really explain herself. I used to be friends with her, but I started getting a bad feeling from her after that. It sounds like my gut was right on the money, because she became a big bully later on. Despite claiming she was against bullying, she tried to start a cyberbullying trend against one girl for no reason. Luckily, I don't think many people joined in.
There was this kid that would bash his head into the bus window while cackling madly. He'd also constantly try and lick me , id tell him to stop then he'd start back up a minute later, for that whole school year it just became a neverending cycle of pushing him away and literally holding him back the whole bus ride home, I got yelled at when I tried to sit in a different seat. We were on a short bus and half the seats were empty. I was being punished by the angry driver by being put in the front seat with that kid. What was I in trouble for? Complaining about the sensory overload of the short bus... because I was special needs and the whole bus REAKED like that fresh weirdly sweet chemical smelling plastic and there was this kid that would just SCREAM. That on top of the kid literally trying to push himself on top of me and force his tongue in my mouth for half an hour EVERY DAY for that whole school year and id have really bad panic attacks from it all...the panic attacks were the reason I was on that bus to start with.
Oh and that kid had the worst case of lobotomy doll face id ever seen, his parents had him on something that reduced him to a doll that sometimes tried to assault people. I still struggle with internalized ableism because of him . I wonder if he was even human anymore and if it was cruel torture not just letting his body rest.
I'm pretty sure OP meant the second Wednesday after Christmas, not the very next day. Obviously the next day would have been December 26th, but the second Wednesday after Tuesday December 25th, would have been January 2nd. Perhaps the wording was a little unclear, but I knew what they meant and I'm pretty certain they know what they meant.
7:16 Story 5 sounds a lot like Bar Jonah a cannibal child murder and sexual abuser.
Had this tenth grader at Cleveland South High School in 1996 I called Nature Boy because he disliked wearing a shirt. One day Cleveland police detectives showed up to examine my attendance book to determine whether or not he’d been in class on a given day. I told them he was marked present but that it might not hold up in court because I had one of the girls take attendance for me. When they got up to leave I asked them which squad they were with. One of them answered “homicide”.
Not a teacher, but this reminds me of a kid back in elementary. She peed in her chair, and then started barking like a dog. She started crawling under the desks while our teacher had us move over towards the door. Never know what happened to that girl
I was sat next to a reg flag kid at school, it was really hard. I was terrified of him, but was told "you need to be an example for him to follow" any time I tried to complain. He threatened me all the time, broke my things, tried to hit me with a metal ruler (left holes in my folder as I used that as a shield). I hated that class and learned nothing, since I lived in fear instead of being able to focus. If you are a teacher, please don't force other kids to have to deal with this. You're the adult! Both of us would've been better off sitting alone - he wouldn't have been able to assault me/threaten to, and I could've focused. End of the day, I hope he did alright, he had a lot of problems going on behind the scenes and was being bullied I think, so I don't really blame him for this, but I do blame the adults for caring more about trying to get him to fit in, rather than for me to be safe. I really think he would've done better with 1:1 teaching, and its shit that no one provided that for him.
When i was 4 or 5 I taught myself to fake genuine smiles so I could always smile with my mother so she wouldn't hurt me
19:18
There it is.
Let me guess: kid has weird/troubling coping mechanisms.
Kid got bullied relentlessly or even attacked, even by adults, for said coping mechanism
So kid turned to violence to get people to leave him alone and soon, that was his default.
It's so messed up that a teacher got fired for doing the right thing. Prioritizing the school's image over the students' safety is just disgusting.
My mother wasn't a teacher but she did volunteer to tutor some young men in a youth prison. One young man was in there for assaulting children. My mom didn't want to work with him, considering what he had done but she was persuaded to anyway. She was not happy about it and kept telling them that she had a bad feeling about it. One day, they told my mom that she wouldn't be working with him anymore. She didn't mind of course but curiosity made her ask why and they told her that they had found out that he had wanted to be tutored so he could be closer to the door because he was planning an escape.
Story 10: beginning of that sounded like the twins in my mom's classroom who had FAS. Their mother did drugs and alcohol while pregnant. She was also the school trustee. Tons of fun to deal with, considering everything.
The number of sociopaths and serial killers that we're around every day is ridiculous now.
I attended a school with a girl, who nobody really liked. She was quiet, reserved, and had very little interaction with other people, besides a couple of girls. that became less of an occurrence after one moved. I hardly ever saw her express emotions, either. (TW: BLOOD)
One day, in science class, we had to dissect a cow heart. There were about eight long tables in the room, and she was in the back near a group of boys. I'm not sure what happened to set her off, but after sitting there doing nothing for a while, I saw the scariest smile I have ever seen on anybody. Then, she began laughing as she stabbed a small bit of the heart she had dissected, over and over again. I have never heard somebody laugh like that. It was psychotic. The boys at the table were rightfully freaked out. Eventually the teacher came over to see what the fuss was about, and the girl just put her head in her arms.
I should probably mention, that I know this girl was bullied. And as for her home life, I heard from somebody else that it certainly wasn't pleasant. And I, along with everybody else, knew she self harmed.
One of the things I noticed about her, was she really liked animals. From rescuing a lizard from a group of kids, to releasing a bird out of a window, and saving a ladybug. She wasn't heartless. I truly don't know what her case was, but wherever she is now, I really hope she got help.
Trauma doesn't affect everyone the same. There are surely typical signs of abuse, but of course some kids don't show them.
I've got a story about my brother. He is diagnosed with ASD (autism) and when he was young he had a lot of anger issues. He would become violent towards others with or without provocation, was very strong for his age, and sometimes hurt other kids when they played together because he didn't understand how to regulate is use of force. He would attack me to the point that if he makes a move towards me I will still flinch away (it's been almost a decade since he was last violent), and I think he might have also harmed our little sister (I'm eldest, then mt brother, then sister). when he was five he told my mom that he didn't want to do the bad things he did, he didn't like hurting people, but that he couldn't stop himself from doing it. At one point he got mad at a classroom aide and pushed her, causing her to fall and hit her head. She had a concussion and permanent speech difficulties, but did not press charges. My brother was sent to a special school for the remainder of the year and has since gotten a lot better. My sister will similarly lash out when something even very minor (ie being asked to clean up messes she makes) upsets her, but she rarely makes contact, its mostly screaming, crying, and kicking/slapping in a persons direction but not touching them. she is also diagnosed with ASD. my siblings both have medication which improves their behavior and self control by a lot, and my mom has worked with them extensively to improve self control as well.
Story 56 reminds me of my last year in primary school, but less a problem with the student and rather a problem with the staff. So my school had an after school program if you couldn't take the bus or go home after school for whatever reason. Most students in my grade (6th) weren't in it anymore, but I still had to go. I became friends with the only other kid my age who is on the spectrum (so am I, but that went undiagnosed till the age of 17). He was in the special ed class, but all the students were put together in the after school thing (I don't know the actual term, English isn't my first language so I'm not sure what it's called).
On ped days, if you couldn't stay home, you could do activities at school or go on outings and they were supervised my the same educators that took care of the after school program. That friend was pretty much always there, so we would usually spend our time together. One thing I noticed later is that the educators acted as if it was a chore for me to be with him and watch him or something. At the time, I didn't understand because I was just spending time with a friend, but nearly every outing they came up to me and were like "Are you okay being with him?" and it took me a few years later to realize why.
I knew he's autistic, but I didn't care. He was my friend and I enjoyed spending time with him.
I left at the end of that year to go to high/secondary school and I think he did too. I never saw him again, but I still regularly think about him and wonder how he's doing. I wish I hadn't lost contact with him.
I know I helped the educators a lot in that last year, but I wish they had seen that as a friendship rather than me taking pity on the autistic kid or something similar.
One of my friends was abused horrifically due to being intersex, what did the school do? absolutely nothing she very nearly shot up the school as in had the gun in the guitar case... she very thankfully decided not to and although she still struggles shes finding out that she isnt so alone as she thought.
16:48 this reminded of the time in middle school a boy held a knife he made of tinfoil to my neck in art class. Just snuck up behind me. I think I was just confused when it happened. He was a weird dude. Has done worse things but that was all after middle school. Got a criminal record as a minor for stabbing someone with a pencil because they either insulted or hit on his female cousin (I can’t remember). It could be a lie though too. He, again, was weird. Yet oddly nice to me at times
He probably was a psycopath or something
THIS is WHY we need more specially trained Teachers to handle kids like this. Otherwise, we continue to drop the ball and have MORE tragedies at schools across the country BECAUSE of these kids
In one schòol, a student was behaving strangely. He really unnerved me. One day, he stole newborn rabbits. They were rescued. We all became very wary of him. Years later, he was convicted of murder.
You can't blame the kid in story 25, bullying sucks.
The compulsive picking (yes, the case in that story was extreme) is called dermatillomania and from what I've read, because I have a form of this and have since I can consciously recall, it's the result of an impaired response to stress.
Whats the game in the background, I'm kinda wanting to know because it looks like a good time waster.
exo-one, hope this helps :)
@@idk-dg1to Thank you, have a great day/night ^^
I can absolutely feel for the suck up kid as I was the same way. My mother always taught me that if you got a gift you acted appreciative even if you didn't really like it / care about it so I would do just like the kid in that story where I would act all sweet and stuff when they gave it to me but then almost immediately end up throwing it away or crumbling it up or something like that
It wasn't that I was like a psycho or evil or anything I just was told that that's what you did if you got a gift you didn't actually like My mom just never really clarified for me until much later in life that disposing of the unwanted gift was something you were supposed to do privately when you got home or something like that
I was literally picking the scab on my head when the scap story came on 😭
I think it’s so funny that dudes all like “I feel so bad for them. I hope everything’s better now. I wanna know what happened to the poor abused child. “.
No you don’t. You don’t care. No one does. Cause it’s most likely the same addict that you straight up judge for being broken addicted and/or homeless.
41:33 'he used to crawl on the floor looking for crayons to eat, but that might just have been a kid thing' really REALLY drives the point of just how little these kids are
I am fortunate that I was able to leave higher ed when I started to see these behaviors in students. The issue is that people do not parent their children and without parenting their little fuck trophies, there is NO REASON TO BEAT YOURSELF UP AS AN EDUCATOR BECAUSE YOU CAN’T HELP OR SAVE THEM
I agree totally.
I like being alive too much to be a teacher
Once one has exhibited psychopathy they don’t get better.
This is blatantly false, people with ASPD (psychopathy is a heavily outdated term) can and more often than not are average people, just with more challenges socially than those who don't have it. With therapy and self-work it can be worked through and accommodated for. All mental illnesses should be treated as such, people are not evil for having mental problems and you have no doubt met people with ASPD, psychosis, schizophrenia, what have you without even knowing it because we are not what sensationalized media tells you we are. I have autism, OCD with psychosis, and NPD and with therapy I've been able to function semi-normally. It just takes extra work because society isn't built for people like us and people like to make us out to be disgusting horrible monsters when according to research we are actually more likely to be victims of crimes than perpetrators.
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK537064/ research I mentioned as well
@TheMrcbritt2 You can.
I was probably a red flag child. I had undiagnosed adhd (and likely still undiagnosed autism, I’m also a system, so that’s fun) and anger issues that stemmed from a lack of knowledge on how to regulate my over abundant emotions because I live in a very emotionally empty family. I would get into fights but was never physical (at school, at home I’d beat up my twin and I still feel bad about it). I got into trouble a lot, threatened a few other students, etc. But the moment they took me away from the others I was so happy. I was thrilled to be away from the people I so vehemently despised. Hell i considered misbehaving AGAIN just so I’d be put in ISS (aka isolated and alone). A LOT of my issues made sense after my diagnosis but nobody bothered to get me help because I was afab. The only person who tried to get me help was my GT teacher (Gifted and Talented class aka the class of “kids we know definitely have a mental disorder but we don’t want to diagnose them or ask parents to get them an evaluation early on in life” class)
I’d like to inform everyone I’m better now. I’m in therapy and will be continuing so for life. I’m very mentally fucked from events in my life, but I’m better. I’m happy. I’m recovering.
The letter opener kid wasn't a red flag, HE'S A GOTTDANG ROAD FLARE
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highly highly illegal to get fired. OP should have known this.
It's surprising how smart a two year old can be. We told our son he could get a toy if he could start pooping on the potty. Well I caught him in the bathroom using a piece of toilet paper (this part blew my mind that a 2 year old would be germ conscience) to pick his crap out of his pullup up and put it in the toilet. If I hadn't caught him halfway through doing this I probably would have believed him. 😅
I feel like they should have helped that kid who seems to be sociopathic, he has even less of a chance as an adult now. The mother definitely should have taken her child to therapy when she was noticing the fake crying.
Edit: I'm actually so angry at the people posting this that didn't help these children. It's not that hard, see something say something.
Society would rather slap a temporary bandaid on a on an infected weeping wound than do any permanent fixes because it isn’t profitable.
I hate humanity for this reason.
Therapy isn’t a fix all solution and some people don’t know how to work with that. The programs they need are often expensive too.
@@mourgie that's also the problem and therapy may not fix things but it can be a tremendous help. Greedy corporations and how terrible mental healthcare can be is also part of the problem. The kid is a product of this environment.
I don't think I'll be on here but damn I know I scared a LOT of teachers when I was younger... I've gotten a lot better as I've gotten older and have been graduated since 2012 but man my K-5 was nuts I threw more red flags than a soccer referee
I wanna know what the game in the background is!! It looks so fun and pretty!
Also these kids are wild…
Story 46 thus far the only one that actually made my heart sting for sadness
Most sociopathic children end up growing up to lead rather normal lives. Often times they eventually notice how the world reacts to their actions once they’re no longer kids and people don’t give as much sympathy and they learn to fake it until they make it. So if it’s any consolation, there’s a really good chance if you come across a kid like that they probably won’t become some sort of serial killer.
What is the game name that was playing in the backround??
I’m a senior this year- last year a freshman or sophomore in band said that he was on parole bc he SA’d his little sister. I have to work with him in bassline this year and if he says anything else abt it I’m sending him to the director. I can’t deal with that shit
Watching this while going to sleep makes me feel weird it reminds me of things I did when I was younger and yes I know how bad that sounds
So this happened, at 42:00 he said "for calling me a female..." but right then the Hardees ad came on and the first thing i heard was a whistle 🤣😂🤣 couldnt ask for better timing TH-cam. Im convinced they do this on purpose, cause its happened way too many times.
Holy shit. That background looks really cool.