My heart goes out to Ms. Barbara raising her niece. I have 4 daughters and one thing I have always considered important to their health and safety is birth control. They can get an implant that will last 5 years. I hate to make such a low level decision. Of course we all want better for our girls, but nothing will put a young lady's life off course more quickly than an unplanned pregnancy. And that often leads to generational poverty.
I am so thankful to moms who do this. My mom put me on birth control when she realized I was hanging out with the wrong crowd as a teenager. I am so unbelievably thankful to her because it kept me out of trouble in high school. Then I completely bloomed in college and now I have a successful career. My friends from high school are all single moms. If only their moms had looked out for them, they would be doing so much better today.
Yes he had issues but the mark was missed. She is controlling and wants thing her way. She doesn’t listen to him and runs over him. That’s is invaliding and I’m sure that’s why he seeks comfort in being a father than dealing with her. He can’t have harmony if his wife is solely controlling the show.
I think they are both the problem meaning their energies are complete opposites. The fact that he sat on the couch and the 1st thing he said was he didn't propose. That speaks volumes...
The wife doesn’t make the children feel like their dad’s home is also their home. She keeps saying my home. He should’ve never married her so quickly until his children got to know her and she got to know them, and to work out with their parents and style would be when the children came to visit.
But she means it in a "not your place, it's my place" way. This is super obvious for those kids and as someone who had to de with a stepfather who obviously had no connection to me and who wanted me gone, I clearly get why those kids don't respect her. They are imitating her. @@tashiaredd3421
Imagine being a Marine and your children have no discipline, your household has no structure, and your woman runs your relationship. Sounds about right….
@@georgiapeach31027as a military veteran myself, I will say it has a lot to do with it. He literally lives his day-to-day life as an integral part of a structured environment, and being a Marine, soldier, etc., isn’t simply a job, it’s a lifestyle of sorts, and the discipline that has been instilled in us can’t help but to spill over into our personal lives. I’m not saying that he should treat his kids like they’re little Marines, but AS a Marine, he certainly understands the importance of order, yet his personal life seems so chaotic.
@@NubianP6 umm i am the child of a military family who also joined and served 23 years. I never brought military discipline in my home. There was structure and consequences but my kids were not soldiers, I was
In the first situation, I really think what was skipped over is the fact that the wife is controlling and somewhat dismissive of her husband’s feelings, e.g., his birthday gift, but yeah, he is going to have to step up and take control of the situation as it relates to his own kids. With the second situation, I may be off the mark here, but it actually made me feel sad to hear the aunt say that she was happy that this 16 year old is pregnant, because a baby may help her to feel a void. No, it won’t because that void has a very specific shape to it, and it can’t be filled by anything other than what was supposed to be there to begin with. I remember hearing T.D. Jakes say that when a person doesn’t have their father in their lives, it’s like there will always be a hole in their heart, in the shape of their father. It’s also sad that this young lady’s mom is happy about her being pregnant. I understand that what’s done is done, and there’s no point in fussing about it now, but to be happy about a 16 y/o girl who is about to be propelled into a situation that is going to completely alter the course of her life, doesn’t make sense to me. They need to educate her to make sure that this doesn’t happen again any time soon. She has career aspirations, so she is already going to have to break through some statistical barriers. Also, the “older” father of this baby needs to be looked at too, because according to her, he always knew her true age, which makes him a predator.
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I wish Karamo would have addressed the wifes controlling aspects because i think thats a key role in their issues. Yes the husband was wrong but so was she
There is no “I” in a shared home. There is only one we. And then it's not just yours or mine but all of ours. She is no longer alone. She is part of the family team now😊😊
John Shay needs to treat the children like they are a part of the family. John is not fully the problem. Shay keeps saying my home. The children has to feel that their father's hone is their home too. Shay is only saying when they are coming to my house. Allow the children to feel that they are part of the family.
I'd be trying to escape this blended home, if parents are structured and work as a team 🙄 forget about it, this hands off Dad needs to seriously grow up, if you look at your kids, they should be able to read they have crossed the line. Dad your not guiding and directing your kids, that makes for insecure kids with out boundaries, when are you going to step up. Kids need the security of knowing Dad's got this. You have broken down the structure.
My home…..what this kid did…. This 24-7 kid is also terrible verbiage You can’t just tell a child I’m the adult so you have to follow my rules, you have to act like an adult
I think this 16 year old knows exactly what to say to manipulate people. She’s not as innocent as people think. Also, she was clearly r-worded and is protecting her assaulter.
Da dad you need to make your children listen to your wife, and mind their manners in your home. I agree with Karamo you need to shut down anyone saying the kids don't have to listen, or respect your wife.
For me they didn't say what the kids did she is saying that the day they don't have to listen her but you didn't say what kids do for you fuss at them.
Men loses their voice too sometimes and it is okay… Maybe he should have healed and found himself as a Man and dad first before getting into another marriage..
The women proposed to herself 😭 he should’ve but his foot down but I think Kamaro missed on this part by saying he’s the problem. He has issues he needs to work on but the wife seems insufferable with the need to control everything
I feel sorry for John, his home life sounds like a nightmare. On top of all those awful children, his wife is a controlling lunatic. 2nd story: the child is well on her way to nowhere in life🤷♀️
I really feel for Ayanna because all she is, is a girl who is looking for love in the wrong places because she never had stability and comfort or any parents too run too for help. And I can personally relate
Because of Shay's contrilling nature, she also keeps saying my home my home. Shay has to understand that her husband's children should feel at home qhen they are in the house and Shay stop saying my home because the children should feel at hime i. His hoyse too.
I get where he is coming from but to say your kids can run a muck.. and she just has to take a deep breathe.. if you love her and want a good relationship with her then if you see she’s overwhelmed you should put your foot down to your children.. she has enough respect for you and your children to not want to say or do anything discipline wise because that’s not her place and I can respect that.. but to say just take a breathe is kind of absurd. Dads think oh well when they come to me i want them to let loose and I don’t get them often.. which is cool. You don’t have to ground them.. you don’t have to yell.. but to put boundaries so that everyone is able to be happy is very important!
So she has a valid reason to be upset.. and then he talks about her nothing getting him a gift he wanted… he seems a little off and very dismissive of everything.. id run for the hills girl❤
I disagree with the aunt. The "comfort" she's missing from her mom will not come through her child. That's not a reason to have a child, although I'm sure she didn't plan on getting pregnant. Yes, her child will love her, but being a young mom will not be easy. I think this young lady will be fine though. There's something about her and it seems like she's tough and will pull through.
He doesn’t have a backbone - he meant to get her a promise ring, and then she TOLD HIM it was a proposal. So it was. 🤷🏻♀️ Um, she’s controlling - and he doesn’t speak up for his kids enough that are there 24:7.
So we bypass the fact that the wife is controlling and that she makes everything about her I haven’t heard one is or we it’s all been I this I I I I nothing there shows togetherness or even a relationship
Is helping others be better people, get counseling, communicate better, not self harm or harm others ... not bringing ppl to be more like christ? Is not letting ppl know their are consequences for their actions not all throughout the bible?
Can you take a second to think about the ignorance that just came out of your brain and fingers. Maury is toxic and doesn’t make money unless it is a shit show. Karamo is taking his life experiences and helping families the way HE wished he was helped. Especially in black households we are not allowed to have mental health, talk about things that happen INSIDE our house, or ask for help in general. Karamo is breaking not only his own generational curse but every single family that steps on that stage.
I'm sorry, Karamo, but I can't agree with u with this story. The wife is controlling, and it is very clear in the 5 minutes of watching this. Yes he is layed back but she clearly takes advantage of it.
if its not her kids then there should be no real punishing or anything if my ex husbands wife was taking my sons or my daughters shit all hell breaking loose its boundaries
Shay proposed to herself #1 red flag.
And he let her. Red 🚩
My heart goes out to Ms. Barbara raising her niece. I have 4 daughters and one thing I have always considered important to their health and safety is birth control. They can get an implant that will last 5 years. I hate to make such a low level decision. Of course we all want better for our girls, but nothing will put a young lady's life off course more quickly than an unplanned pregnancy. And that often leads to generational poverty.
I am so thankful to moms who do this. My mom put me on birth control when she realized I was hanging out with the wrong crowd as a teenager. I am so unbelievably thankful to her because it kept me out of trouble in high school. Then I completely bloomed in college and now I have a successful career. My friends from high school are all single moms. If only their moms had looked out for them, they would be doing so much better today.
Yes he had issues but the mark was missed. She is controlling and wants thing her way. She doesn’t listen to him and runs over him. That’s is invaliding and I’m sure that’s why he seeks comfort in being a father than dealing with her. He can’t have harmony if his wife is solely controlling the show.
It’s her house. She can control it. Who else is in charge? If you say him, then that’s her complaint. Welcome to the discussion 🤐
I think they are both the problem meaning their energies are complete opposites. The fact that he sat on the couch and the 1st thing he said was he didn't propose. That speaks volumes...
The wife doesn’t make the children feel like their dad’s home is also their home. She keeps saying my home. He should’ve never married her so quickly until his children got to know her and she got to know them, and to work out with their parents and style would be when the children came to visit.
@user-,
Well said.
Well all of my bio kids live with me and I also day my house when referring to MY HOUSE. I feel like that’s a natural thing to say.
But she means it in a "not your place, it's my place" way. This is super obvious for those kids and as someone who had to de with a stepfather who obviously had no connection to me and who wanted me gone, I clearly get why those kids don't respect her. They are imitating her. @@tashiaredd3421
@@tashiaredd3421So true 💯
Agree
Imagine being a Marine and your children have no discipline, your household has no structure, and your woman runs your relationship. Sounds about right….
what has being a marine got to do with it?
@@georgiapeach31027as a military veteran myself, I will say it has a lot to do with it. He literally lives his day-to-day life as an integral part of a structured environment, and being a Marine, soldier, etc., isn’t simply a job, it’s a lifestyle of sorts, and the discipline that has been instilled in us can’t help but to spill over into our personal lives. I’m not saying that he should treat his kids like they’re little Marines, but AS a Marine, he certainly understands the importance of order, yet his personal life seems so chaotic.
@@NubianP6 umm i am the child of a military family who also joined and served 23 years. I never brought military discipline in my home. There was structure and consequences but my kids were not soldiers, I was
In the first situation, I really think what was skipped over is the fact that the wife is controlling and somewhat dismissive of her husband’s feelings, e.g., his birthday gift, but yeah, he is going to have to step up and take control of the situation as it relates to his own kids.
With the second situation, I may be off the mark here, but it actually made me feel sad to hear the aunt say that she was happy that this 16 year old is pregnant, because a baby may help her to feel a void. No, it won’t because that void has a very specific shape to it, and it can’t be filled by anything other than what was supposed to be there to begin with. I remember hearing T.D. Jakes say that when a person doesn’t have their father in their lives, it’s like there will always be a hole in their heart, in the shape of their father. It’s also sad that this young lady’s mom is happy about her being pregnant. I understand that what’s done is done, and there’s no point in fussing about it now, but to be happy about a 16 y/o girl who is about to be propelled into a situation that is going to completely alter the course of her life, doesn’t make sense to me. They need to educate her to make sure that this doesn’t happen again any time soon. She has career aspirations, so she is already going to have to break through some statistical barriers. Also, the “older” father of this baby needs to be looked at too, because according to her, he always knew her true age, which makes him a predator.
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She sounds like a dictator mom
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OMGoodness! Karamo and child discussing their book! I love it! Beautiful illustrations and sounds like a great message! ❤
Look at how far they are sitting apart
in all episodes everyone sits that far apart .. so what r u talking abt/ trying to say ? 😅😅
@@allaboutt.____iI guess you also sit far apart from your mate. 😅
@@allaboutt.____inot all of them lol
I wish Karamo would have addressed the wifes controlling aspects because i think thats a key role in their issues. Yes the husband was wrong but so was she
I have to say that this is a great episode and thank you Karamo for being you 🫶🏽
I love when Jason visits , He so much after his father it's a Joy to see them together 😍👍
Pray Ayonna comes to the understanding that her life is in her hands. And the only way she can better it is by making right decisions.
There is no “I” in a shared home. There is only one we. And then it's not just yours or mine but all of ours. She is no longer alone. She is part of the family team now😊😊
John Shay needs to treat the children like they are a part of the family. John is not fully the problem. Shay keeps saying my home. The children has to feel that their father's hone is their home too. Shay is only saying when they are coming to my house. Allow the children to feel that they are part of the family.
I'd be trying to escape this blended home, if parents are structured and work as a team 🙄 forget about it, this hands off Dad needs to seriously grow up, if you look at your kids, they should be able to read they have crossed the line. Dad your not guiding and directing your kids, that makes for insecure kids with out boundaries, when are you going to step up. Kids need the security of knowing Dad's got this. You have broken down the structure.
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Not a Karamo book!!!!! You know I’m copping that ASAP!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
My home…..what this kid did….
This 24-7 kid is also terrible verbiage
You can’t just tell a child I’m the adult so you have to follow my rules, you have to act like an adult
Karmo never sees the man’s side. this is sad. Shay is clearly the issue.
Trying to raise kids that are not yours biologically without support from the biological parents puts her in an impossible position.
She not there mother they have to respect her
Their "
I think this 16 year old knows exactly what to say to manipulate people. She’s not as innocent as people think. Also, she was clearly r-worded and is protecting her assaulter.
stop trying to make her out to be something she isn’t. on one hand you want to talk about her but then say she’s a victim
No one said she was "innocent". But clearly the reason why she is the way she is is due to the lack of her mother's presence
Da dad you need to make your children listen to your wife, and mind their manners in your home. I agree with Karamo you need to shut down anyone saying the kids don't have to listen, or respect your wife.
For me they didn't say what the kids did she is saying that the day they don't have to listen her but you didn't say what kids do for you fuss at them.
There’s no way this goof ball is a marine!
Men loses their voice too sometimes and it is okay…
Maybe he should have healed and found himself as a Man and dad first before getting into another marriage..
The women proposed to herself 😭 he should’ve but his foot down but I think Kamaro missed on this part by saying he’s the problem. He has issues he needs to work on but the wife seems insufferable with the need to control everything
Awww His son😮😍😍😩was his special guest love it
All I have heard from the wife is I, I, my, my, I… no us , we or anything that suggests they are a couple
This was a good show .I will get the book .❤❤
I feel sorry for John, his home life sounds like a nightmare. On top of all those awful children, his wife is a controlling lunatic. 2nd story: the child is well on her way to nowhere in life🤷♀️
I really feel for Ayanna because all she is, is a girl who is looking for love in the wrong places because she never had stability and comfort or any parents too run too for help. And I can personally relate
Because of Shay's contrilling nature, she also keeps saying my home my home. Shay has to understand that her husband's children should feel at home qhen they are in the house and Shay stop saying my home because the children should feel at hime i. His hoyse too.
There is a reason why Shay had to propose to herself. All of the other men figured it out, and ran
Marriage will not last...
She is controling
I get where he is coming from but to say your kids can run a muck.. and she just has to take a deep breathe.. if you love her and want a good relationship with her then if you see she’s overwhelmed you should put your foot down to your children.. she has enough respect for you and your children to not want to say or do anything discipline wise because that’s not her place and I can respect that.. but to say just take a breathe is kind of absurd. Dads think oh well when they come to me i want them to let loose and I don’t get them often.. which is cool. You don’t have to ground them.. you don’t have to yell.. but to put boundaries so that everyone is able to be happy is very important!
He is using the sandwich method, to be honest... I like the gift, but.....he is afraid of her
So she has a valid reason to be upset.. and then he talks about her nothing getting him a gift he wanted… he seems a little off and very dismissive of everything.. id run for the hills girl❤
I disagree with the aunt. The "comfort" she's missing from her mom will not come through her child. That's not a reason to have a child, although I'm sure she didn't plan on getting pregnant. Yes, her child will love her, but being a young mom will not be easy. I think this young lady will be fine though. There's something about her and it seems like she's tough and will pull through.
Karamo you sre really good with what yoy do. Karamo I love you. O my gosh
Karamo is the bomd. I wish he could help me and family.
Dad just be a good dad , if the kids dont respect your authority thats their loss
Today on Karamo
She doesn't use condoms, birth control and thinks a baby will fix her problems; long road ahead. Praying she takes advantange of the counselors.
She doing well now
She seems selfish everything is "my my my" he said it from the beginning everything she wants and it has to be the way she wants it
He doesn’t have a backbone - he meant to get her a promise ring, and then she TOLD HIM it was a proposal. So it was. 🤷🏻♀️ Um, she’s controlling - and he doesn’t speak up for his kids enough that are there 24:7.
Shay is not crazy but Shay is too controlling.
Follow ups
When he was explaining who’s kids is who’s in the picture I just smelled sex 😭🤮🤢
What???
What 💀
The second situation is statutory rape
embarrassing
this show is bias against men
You are correct. Karamo barely holds women accountable especially those who are abusive, controlling, etc.
I've noticed that as well.
wait i though karamo was gay
He had the child when he was very young.
Gay people can adopt, or have children with sperm donation’s etc
Karamo Shay is very controlling and she needs to stop beunf so contrillung
So we bypass the fact that the wife is controlling and that she makes everything about her I haven’t heard one is or we it’s all been I this I I I I nothing there shows togetherness or even a relationship
YOUR TV SHOW NEEDS UPGRADING! WHEN U BEGIN TO WIN SOULS FOR JESUS AND LEAD THEM TO CHRIST THEM UR SHOW WILL BE LIGHTNING
be quite
Bro shut up
Calm down, Jerry springer won souls, judge Judy won any..go watch TD Jakes
Love your show Karamo. You are so compassionate and understanding to your guests.
Is helping others be better people, get counseling, communicate better, not self harm or harm others ... not bringing ppl to be more like christ? Is not letting ppl know their are consequences for their actions not all throughout the bible?
Take this black fake trying to Act like MAURY off the air
Can you take a second to think about the ignorance that just came out of your brain and fingers. Maury is toxic and doesn’t make money unless it is a shit show. Karamo is taking his life experiences and helping families the way HE wished he was helped. Especially in black households we are not allowed to have mental health, talk about things that happen INSIDE our house, or ask for help in general. Karamo is breaking not only his own generational curse but every single family that steps on that stage.
Someone clearly has never seen Maury if you think Karamo is trying to act like Maury. Please have several seats.
@@ChibiChick25 Just ignore the stupid BS
Stop hating he is educated in helping families Maury Show made it because of black people coming to his show.
Ignorance is Bliss
I'm sorry, Karamo, but I can't agree with u with this story. The wife is controlling, and it is very clear in the 5 minutes of watching this. Yes he is layed back but she clearly takes advantage of it.
if its not her kids then there should be no real punishing or anything if my ex husbands wife was taking my sons or my daughters shit all hell breaking loose its boundaries