Thoughts on Making Friends & Dating
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ก.ย. 2024
- I get asked fairly often-usually by young males in our community-about how to find a girlfriend.
I also get asked about how to make friends.
It seems like a lot of people are feeling lonely and isolated.
I definitely don't consider myself an expert on "girls and making friends" (is there such a thing?), but I'm happy to share what's worked for me.
Honestly, because there's SO MUCH variance in what people like, it's hard to say we should do certain things to appeal to all people.
In my opinion, the more we overthink about how to "crack the code" behind getting a significant other or making friends, the worse things get.
My recommendation is to work on yourself in all aspects-mentally, physically, spiritually, financially, emotionally, psychologically... Everything. This is a worthwhile pursuit in its own right.
At the same time, give to others and help people while expecting nothing in return-whenever possible. I go into the video about how we don't need to "give until we hurt" or overextend ourselves. It's okay to help ourselves first or distance ourselves from those who hurt us. However, giving to others without an ulterior motive is so rare nowadays that it truly makes you stand out. Doing so creates opportunity for you and everyone involved. It's just one of the best things you can do whenever you have a chance to manifest opportunity, build relationships, and cultivate a better life.
When we do all of these things, then the rest is left up to chance. I decided not to say "left up to destiny" because that sounded cheesy, but that's really what it is as well.
To build relationships, make yourself a person you would want to be friends with, help others, and you'll start building a community around yourself. Within this community, some will be lovers, others can be business partners, and others may just be good friends.
I hope that makes sense! I know I'm speaking quickly in this video haha. I was happy.
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Hey everyone! What's some advice you'd give your younger self? Even if you're quite young, what would you tell yourself a few years ago?
I usually respond to comments for 20 minutes or so after I post a video, but I'm about to sleep. I'll answer a lot of them tomorrow! You're all the best.
What would you consider a soulmate? How she we react with a soulmate and should we date our soulmate?
if it makes you happy, then it is ok. other people really don't care, even though it may seem everyone thinks something about you. that is just not true. do it for yourself!
Go for what you want. Don't hold back and overthink things.
What do you think on straying away from friends?
I have friends that they use to always play together but now we barely talk and they also hanging out with others more often maybe it's just me as a person.
“If you spend your time chasing butterflies, they’ll fly away. But, if you spend your time building a beautiful garden, the butterflies will come. And if they don’t, you will still have your beautiful garden.”
I love this
Sounds like a nightmare
Or don't build a garden at all
Fuck those butterflies 🦋 😆
So in other words “pursue your goals and women will pursue you.”
moral of the story: be a good person while still brushing your teeth.
*starts sweating*
@@preciousabang8233 Which of the two are you lacking?
@@sireislas3903 *sweats even harder*
@@sulfur_americium2993 Oh, no....
Dental hygienist here. I approve of this message.
He is as cool and calm as the river behind him.
Plot twist- it is an ocean, but it is very still because of hampton's calmness
Not really. He talks really fast because he drinks a lot of coffee. Definitely not calm.
@Mister Sir Dog don't try to argue when you know nothing. Talking so fast clearly isn't a sign of calmness in fact it indicates nervousness. Get your facts straight you brainless loser.
@@MrBin2 He normally talks like that. Many people just talk fast.
@@MrBin2 no need harsh words.just relax😂
I kid you not... My husband found me the second I had given up on this toxic mindset that the world owed me something because Im nice. I had just started living on my own and I realized just how unforgivingly cold the world could be. So, I stopped expecting good things to happen and every good moment became a surprising gift. I stopped being lonely and found happiness in my solitude and he came to join me.
That's a good minset to have.
That's awesome to read and I'm super glad for you. I'm working on that myself and it's great to see people getting out of this funk and living well.
Awesome. God bless you both! Brian
This gives me hope actually! Thank you for sharing this!!
That is so beautiful :)
'You can be the best strawberry ice cream in the world, but some people still prefer chocolate.' I love this xD
Yea
Imma steal this quote :3
Beautiful analogy
All women prefer chocolate ;)
Imaoo👍🤣
This guy is the bob ross of calisthenics.
Agree 100%
Reincarnation of nob Ross
Bob Reps
Spot on
TRue! I hav never thouhght of it like that
Short story: Expect nothing, and befriend those that have a genuine desire to spend time with you. Otherwise you will get nothing and spend time with people who don't want to spend time with you.
Great summary! One thing I would add to this video is that be assertive and notice people action cues. From my experience, I did alot of nice things for people not expecting anything however they kept using me. At that point, it's only natural to tell people that you expect something or else I don't want to keep talking to a user. Assertive will help with that. With action cues, I notice people tend to be less direct than previous generation. Sometimes someone saying hi everyday meant they liked you rather than be friendly (at least many girls admitted this to me) so I say take the risk and get rejected to understand what the relationship really is.
Well said
Well done
Now actually thinking of it, I don't really have friends that come to me .. rather it's me always going to them trying to spend more time with them. But being not that talkative has been a major disadvantage as well
I've had too many friends lovers that used me for money to benefit them in a way that's not good for me i never want friends again they aren't vital I'm tired of meeting same person different face.
Be the person you would wanna date. That advice changed my view on things so just wanted to share that
I had never heard this before, thank you..
I'll just date myself, I'm the best strawberry ice cream
FB still won't allow me to put that as my status. This world is corrupt. I'm gonna spoon myself.
everyone is looking for the right person, be the right person people are looking for
I'm not sure how that works, I'm a guy not a girl, there's things about girls and there's things about guys
" When you give without expecting something in return that's charity, that's kindness. When we give and claim that we don't want anything in return when we secretly do, that's manipulation."
-Hybrid Calisthenics
I wish I could take credit for this but I'm certain it's been said before. It's probably on a cave wall somewhere, haha.
@@HybridCalisthenics hahaahahah :DD when the caveman said "ooga booga" on the wall, I felt that ✊🏻😔
@@anmoljuyal9439 why am I laughing this hard
@@anmoljuyal9439 lmao haha
@@anmoljuyal9439 ooga booga
This isn't just good socializing skills, it's also therapy for dealing with manipulative people
Thank you
Always believe in yourself. Trust your friends.
Hi
@@Monkforilla some of the best advice I’ve heard have come from TH-cam: Jocko Willink Jordan Peterson and so on. If there’s nobody around to help you and you are in dire need of some help then don’t be ashamed of going onto TH-cam. You might find a solution or an entirely different world view. Some people are broken and don’t know how to be fixed. You can either go years being tossed around by life until you shoot up a walmart or seek answers for your problems so you don’t become a ball of pathology
Hi
Hello fellow great one
He speaks with the compassion of a young man and the wisdom of an elder
Wheres Jin bro
Exactly what I want to say. He is probably 25 but talk like a 55 year old man.
He was brought up well I feel. Too many people grow in toxic homes and don't know this till much later in life.
@@DestinyAitsujiWrites true.
He gives that "Cool Teacher" vibes.
This is a life´s lesson i want to share with you young fellas: "If you´re not happy with yourself, you will never be happy with another person"
And you will make the other one miserable 😣
That is far better advice then this damn video.
Mmmmmhhhh, I dont know man. Humans dont learn how to be ok by themselves. Think about it, if you are not ok, then you probably do not know how to be ok. We need others to learn, to lean on, to reafirm our importance. People change because of other people, love does decrease depression, people with mental ilnesses and desabilities requiere other people to function properly. Reject capitalist individualism; embrace codependant social structures
I was definitely happier with another person but you do you
@@elisegray6962 THIS. That's why even tho I encounter some people I have a mutual attraction with, I don't commit to a relationship with them because I'm still not that emotionally stable and I don't want to hurt them, whether intentionally or unintentionally.
I’m 56 & trying to get back in shape after a bad divorce & dark period in my Life & I just want to say THANK YOU & you are an awesome person.
i wish you the very best james, its always darkest before the dawn
@@jab3522 Thank you sir! I’m working so hard trying to get my first pull up 😂.
@@jameslandrum555 best of luck to you!! we're both trying to get our first pullup 👍
I found this comment by scrolling it and want to say I'm sorry to hear your divorce, I hope you'll get better! Good luck!
Wishing you a good luck on your journey sir.
No matter how cool or nice you are you will always be the villain in someone's story.
Yip, even Ned Flanders is a villain to Homer Simpson.
You can't win 'em all.
i was literally made the villain a few days ago because i asked someone if their profile pic is fanart from a certain anime character.
they then went on about about how rude i am because i'm comparing their art to something that exists and that is apparently evil.
They feel represented by their profile pic and lectured me how every artists hates to be compared to other artworks and that this is never allowed.
It wasn't even their own art...
I've worked with hundreds of successfull artists over the years and thats what they do on a daily basis... its literally how you improve as an artist.
I shouldn't care but sadly i did. I'm officially an art shaming monster now...and couldn't sleep this night over the amount of accusations i received.
we live in a fucked up and fragile world
@@YuriNoirProductions nah. You gotta let that one go... you can't control how other people react to you. You didn't do or say anything out of line. You asked a question. It was the other person who took it the way they did. Their response is a reflection of themselves, not you. Unless you're doing something like "ugh, don't quit your day job" or "my dementia riddled grandma draws better in her seizures" or something else equally stupid, it's not on you.
Even Jesus was a villian in many people's eyes...he was the villian to evil.
ooooof
finally someone on TH-cam that doesn't preach the "Alpha, beta Male mentality"
Yes, he seems like a genuine guy. That alpha male bs is directed to broken men, those who are bitter and resentful.
Every "alpha" gym male has the personality of a cardboard box- it's like the gym and being conventionally attractive is their entire personality lol
The alpha mala & beta male thing is one of the reasons why i hate western culture
@@terrodactyll its not western culture its anglo American culture. In Europe we don't do this
@@sandralison7584 You can't really speak for all of Europe. I'm from Finland and I know plenty of people who subscribe to the alpha/beta bullshit.
"Just like in fitness, in life, we all go at our own pace." Perfect.
This guy is awesome!
this guy is gonna grow old and look like one of those ancient wise shifus. Already got he long hair xD
Who can probably lift up a human sized bolder despite his lean physique.
@@Nim...
His Chris Redfield?
@@Raccon_Detective. *_THE REDFIELD BLOODLINE MUST CONTINUE_*
hes uncle iroh
He reminds me of Straizo from jjba
Summary: Don't expect anything from anybody, be good to people because you want to be good, not because you want something from them or want them to recognise you as a friend.
be good to people without thinking you're entitled to them being good to you? sure. be good to people without wanting them to be good to you? what?. go through life being completely ambivalent to whether people treat you well or poorly? you're lying to yourself if you think anyone can do this and even if they could it wouldn't be healthy or constructive.
@@pancakerepairman if people are treating you poorly then you are with the wrong people.
@@vladimirputin8495 so you agree the philosophy you just expressed is stupid? because if you are good to people without caring how they treat you then you must be fine with being treated poorly.
@@pancakerepairman I never said the theory is good or bad. Personally for me, I try to be as good as possible with everybody without thinking of any personal gains. By if I am treated poorly for no reason, then I choose to quit the person's company without any hate. There's no hate or grudges involved, it's just that people are different.
@Jazmine Arevalo you're repeating the part of the post i agreed with while ignoring the part i disagreed with.
How did I find the love of my life? By working on myself. I finally decided to get up and tackle life instead of staying sad and depressed. Moved to a city which I thought will help me get a job. Got a job. Found her. We just clicked. Never tried to force myself into a relationship, just respected myself and others around me. Start loving yourself and love will find you sooner or later.
Thanks
@Baba Gandu he's sahil not salah ifykyk
@Baba Gandu yupp your name justifies that
Beautifuly said.. 👏🏻👏🏻
Do you think humans in the past gave a fuck about “loving” themselves? That’s a first world creation and entirely a myth
After seeing so much "ALPHA" male podcasts. This is so refreshing and gives me a little bit more hope in the world!
My thoughts exactly. Be a well rounded man. Physically strong, mentally strong, emotionally mature & available, morally upright, righteous, ethical, etc.
@@wakeupwitnesses1954 you forgot funny.
They are not aplha males lol, these guys are down to earth
*”He who is a friend to all is a friend to none.”*
- Aristotle
Words to live by.
Wow that impact me. What does it mean?
@@mr.marius5094 if you are friends with everyone you have no true friends. Because you have to lie to keep everyone happy. There’s more factors, but that’s the POV I look at it from. Google it if you want any more info.
@@WaywardVector I was guessing that but I wanted to know your opinion. 😊 Have a Great day!
@@mr.marius5094 u2
I disagree, I have lot of friends that come from different backgrounds. In fact, I married a person who’s so different from my personality and we’re living happily. You don’t have to lie as long as you simply “agree to disagree” you are not forced to justify anything you do or believe as long you’re not causing anyone any harm.
man this guy is like a concentrated ball of positivity, its sooooo damn rare to find a person like you on TH-cam, seriously you inspire me to be a good person
How's Ramadan going brother? Hope it's going well.
I think that’s why I started watching this guys videos, his positivity draws me like a moth to a lamp and also fitness.
@@michaeldost8155 chanced upon his video and stayed for the community
Hello fellow human. This guy is how we should be
@@DestinyAitsujiWrites Yes that's one of the reasons I like this place. The comments section here is mostly positive.
One advice I would tell my younger self is that it is okay to not be friends with everyone!
"You can be the best strawberry ice-cream in the world, but some people prefer chocolate" is such an apt quote thanks Hampton!
this is honestly the best advice too. In high school i became so suicidal because i was never anyones first choice and i felt lonely. Now i am in college and i have more fun being by myself than being around fake people. I made myself my first choice and i am honestly so stress free now.
Yeah. It's kinda not offensive rephrasing. And beautiful in both ends.
@@ngndnd The worst thing in the world isn't being alone.
It's being surrounded by people that make you feel like you're alone.
I think kindness is much more appreciated when it’s not expected or entitled.
He is quickly turning into my favorite youtuber, he’s so respectful and selfless and very charismatic while staying calm and collected. He’s so wise for how young he looks, he makes videos just for us to teach us about what he loves doing.
Not hating but I wouldn’t necessarily say he’s wise. What makes him seem wise is his charisma, how he speaks and how he delivers his message. Many can have the same pov as him but not be capable of elaborating the way he does. At most this entire video is common sense. He’s just making some people realize what they’ve been ignoring
@@neloangelo365 A lot of wisdom is just common sense that people ignore.
True!
Well said
@@neloangelo365 That, my friend, is wisdom you are describing.
We need to be more like Brother Hampton- the world would be a better place if we were honest and sincere to one another
In terms of having a good heart, yes! 🙌
Very true, but there would be people just as evil as Hampton is good. Keep that in mind
If we do that from the beginning (like since the evolution of human) the world will indeed be a better place..
But if we start now, we will always have a lack of problems for a couple decades before your dream comes true.....
But your idea,, i agree🥰
You’re right yamcha
No...YOU need to be....don't be manipulative...😆
came for the calisthenics, stayed for the feels
This guy is just that one friend in that large friend group we all had, where you couldn't be serious with anyone about anything, but you could with this guy. And so everyone was actually just there to hang out with him. I like you, friend.
I'm a simple man. I see Hapmton upload: I click
Well said
Yea
And hopefully like?
Even if his name isn't Hapmton.
@@imho2278 yes, it's hybrid Calisthenics
the only time i thank youtube's algorithm is when Hampton uploads a video :')
I agree
ARE U NOT SUBSCRIBED??? If not you better hit that button buddy.
@@capstore393 no, i obviously am subscribed to him. i meant that i found him randomly one day on TH-cam shorts, which is why i am grateful to the algorithm, my friend :)
@@geetanjali_1906 oh I see, my greatest apologies sir
@@capstore393 ma'am*
and it's okay haha
Dear Hampton, I've known that something's special about you that I'd find you very close to my heart. Today I found out that your voice is similar to my father's, who died a year ago. I'd also know that many of us feel some kind of emotional and spiritual connection with you. Thank you so much for your love. We'd always support you.
Ooof i wanna make meme about that.. but after i read the whole story, i thought twice.....
Don't worry, everyone will be facing death one day. Just pray so that your father is in good deeds in the afterlife. That way you reaaaaaly can help him
HELP MY!!! My muscles are too big! I am a big tall man and my muscles are even BIGGER! I use them to get views but they HURT so much!!! Because they are heavy. Do you have any advice, dear vhan
@@AxxLAfriku that's oilright
@@hackerhacker3667 thanks man :) btw would love to know what the meme is
@@AxxLAfriku dude, they guy talking about his grief, you chose the worst comment to up your views
What i learned with time is that "It's possible to do everything right and still fail". I think J.L Pickard said that.
And to find a real friends or a girlfriend... its just about luck and timing. Be in the right place, in the right time and with the right person. Life is a series of random events.
Honestly I agree with the quote because after learning my mistakes on approaching women and speak confidently, I was able to keep her interest engage and she feel comfortable around me. Yet still she isn't simply attracted to me.
I really love the community that this channel has created. Everyone here is working on improving themselves, and everyone is so polite. It shows how influential Hampton is.
F YOU
@@Rivexd Ironic.
I really love this community as well.
I'm relatively new to Hampton's channel, but I agree
@@48gtm3s2f me too
@@Rivexd Fuck you too my friend! :D
So healthy physically & mentally. But what is so attractive is his clear mental health & self care. Very nice to see people like this in the world. Very inspirational.
❤
okey i m very positive now and feel good can i get your number?
@@tomkrueger6556 did you watch the video?
@@Alex-mt7vg i was joking 😂😂
As F’ed up as this world is rn, this guy is refreshing, and restores my faith in humanity
This man will age like wine, wise like a wizard.
I think he is older than we think but due to his calmness looks younger.
Great attitude band a healthy lifestyle will go a long way.
@@fightermma because he is Asian
You're a true inspiring wise man. I'm with my wife since 20 years and when people ask me how we do this, i say : you have to love the other for what he / she is, not what you want.
That's really nice to hear! If you dont mind me asking, how do you handle arguments with your wife?
@@fishmcfish3850 We got some highs and lows for sure. But when we are in conflict and get irritated, there's always one of us who come back and says something like "ok that's my fault, i don't have to be that rude with you" and the other follows. We remember that life is short and we don't want to stay in conflict for more than a day !
@@fishmcfish3850 Also not being afraid to let some conflicts just end without resolution. You have to accept that some things you won’t agree on.
@@zacherybutter7349 To prevent a couple harbouring resentment over arguments and eventually letting that take control right?
@@fishmcfish3850 That's a reason. But also because we, as humans, will never agree on everything. So if it's not a dealbreaker for you, then some disagreements may be discarded. However, you should make absolutely sure the other person is also willing to drop the whole thing without harboring resentment.
Bro isn’t a callisthenics “instructor” anymore, he a therapist
Psgggngvvvcckdeweeeeeeev6yc
For reaaall
A life coach if you will
The therapist hardly tells you what you should do, they expect you to figure it out. Instead, coaches are like that.
😂
This is the best take on how to find a partner that i've ever come across. There are too many relationship advice givers out there that act like there's some secret code to unlock someone's pants, or telling people tricks they can pull to make someone love them. Real life doesn't work like that. The way to get a true healthy relationship is to care for and respect people for who they are as a whole individual person. Nothing is more attractive than a person who's secure in their identity, respects others, and cares for others without expectation.
This. 😌☝☝☝
"Do what makes you happy and you'll be a happy person" - Bob Ross
problem is im not sure what makes me truly happy anymore
@@WiSHNUKEs try new things experience life to the best of your abilities then you are bound to find something 👍
@@rys9582 thx for the advice homie, I'll eventually figure out something
@@WiSHNUKEs good luck.👍
@@WiSHNUKEs dont chase happiness, dont expect it. itll come naturally
I spent my entire life thinking that everyone has their own evil hiding in the deepest of their heart until I met this guy. How can someone has such a pure heart
What matters is the part we choose to act on ⚡ :)
What the actual fuck kind of life do you live if you think everyone has evil inside them
People are very easily deceived.
He is a christian lol 😮
I just turned 30 and have been comparing my life to those around me. I have been down. Thinking I was "behind". That I am less than because I just do not have a spouse. Hampton, you always seem to tell me just what I need to hear. Thank you as always man. Seriously. *I guess I have to buy a shirt now...* No, but seriously, I mean all of that.
Bro fuck that... you do what fits you and you're in control of IT
@@meh4200 Thank you!
Same 🥲
I feel you. I'm about to turn 34 and my bf of three years & I broke up. Before that relationship I was engaged and in a different relationship for 7 years & that didnt work out either. I was really depressed and comparing myself to friends and other family members getting married, having kids, having work go well for them etc. But like the video says, just because they have those things doesnt meant their lives are perfect. & even tho I'm alone, I'm trying to change my thinking into.. well, since I'm not married I technically have no obligations to anyone and I can selfishly use this time for myself. So I'm going to work on my mental health, physical health, & try to be kinder. I hope on my road to healing my broken heart I find myself again. That will be enough for me. Anyway, take this time for you! My Mom didnt get married until like 42, and she's still happily married to this day. Gives me hope that we are just going at our own pace. Cheers.
@@masterhide I hope you enjoy this time for yourself! I am sorry you have been going through all that! Thank you very much for the encouragement!
Dude this couldn't have come out at a better time lmao
I'm not worried so much about love being reciprocated; I believe that's what love is supposed to be. I'm just fearful that I can love and still end up getting hurt
Deep.
Uh yeah that's very possible
That’s a lot of people’s fear bro, no one wants to get hurt. I know what that’s like and I know what it’s like to be hurt by someone you love. If it is the were the other way around you’d probably expect that person to be okay if you rejected them.
At the end of the day you’ve got to take risks. And it’s okay to walk away when you don’t feel like the situation is full filling to you. Good luck bro.
Loving people is an act. Its a sacraficial act. The sacrafice is knowing that invariably, you will be harmed by love and harm the ones you love. Its part of the failure of being human. Embrace it and move through it. Course thats easier said than done
@@matthewfurlani8647 well said
"Look at how not many people like me"
Names Hampton. I need names.
😁
There are none. Not anymore. No need for thanks.
If you go to any of his videos and look for recent comments, there's always some people insulting him
the 190 people who hit dislike in this wholehearted video.
Send me location I smesh them
I found this guy when he had barely started his channel and I found him to be a really polite dude who knows his stuff. He has come a long way and he has blown up really quick, he deserves it, an amazing video brother.
"Service To Others Is The Rent You Pay For Your Room Here On Earth." -Muhammad Ali.
Beautiful!
Great saying but why capitalize every word lol. Still a great mindset
@@uniquechannelnames I think it looks better with the first letter of every word capitalized (the way it is now).. (:
@@uniquechannelnames idk i copied and pasted it lmao
@@ayamrudin7985 it's fine for titles and short phrases, but this is stretching its aestheti c to the limit
"Look at how many people don't like me 🤷♂️"
Everybody: *likes him*
If you're looking for negative comments on youtube videos, your best chance is to sort comments by "Newest First"
@@WanderTheNomad you're new. 😲
@@WanderTheNomad bruh 😳
There are people like that, sadly...
@@kayaeki it cant be helped
as someone who had never dated or had a girlfriend for 18 years and finally got one, my biggest advice for people looking to get into a relationship is just to ask. don’t be afraid of rejection, don’t expect that person to come to you, and don’t expect another opportunity to ask again. don’t expect a prettier, or smarter, or funnier person to come around, take what you have now and just give it a shot.
You can always go for better, if she/he's the one, you'll know. But, if a person feels like their significant other is not enough, they should not clinge on and should find someone better.
Ok I was expecting this person to ask me out but he didn't, now I am going to before it's too late😅😅 I'm nervous...finger crossed
Eyyo what's your age my dude? I'm 18 yo and i can't understand this "love"
Can someone pls tell me how to propose 😭😭😭 now that I am thinking about it, it is really difficult and frightening. we have never talked before, he is my senior, he likes me but I don't think he will propose so pls help me tehe
What did you ask....
«Sometimes people have friendships or relationships just to feel normal, but they often end up more miserable as a result». I felt that.
today is going to be a good day since you've posted
Hope you have a great day!
@@HybridCalisthenics thank you 😊
Like your pf 😁.
Nah
@@HybridCalisthenics ty
As a father, my wish for my sons is for them to grow up to be at least half as wise and have a great understanding of life as hampton, I will be a very proud dad
I was just thinking exactly this. I took it as far as taking cliff notes to talk to my boy. I adore his energy and mindset.
well im a child, you want an advice? give him attention
@@user-ns3th7vv6h Thank you for saying that, that is amazing advice. Sadly, that should be an obvious thing for parents, but not all children get the attention they not only need, but deserve. Luckily my son and I are friends, amazing friends and he's my #1. When I am Mom first, he knows its for his best interest, but I want him to also know, he ALWAYS has "a place to fall", life can be hard. Bottomline, you are 100% correct. Thank you for saying so.
@@thankyouforincorrectingme i hope you live a happy life honestly. You know my parents are quite the opposite. They are never actually there for me even though im trying to get their attention. They focused ob my older sister and now they don't have time for me because" they have a lot of work to do" and i mean if you don't have time for your children then simply dont make some. It's hard when you grow up like me you are the type of child that is "mature". That's because if you have problems you can only count on your self. But when your self is not enough you are fucked and so am i right now. Btw sorry for any grammatical errors English is not my mother tongue. Also tell your husband to give attention to his child as well boys need their fathers.
You're like a Fitness Bob Ross, it's amazing - stay shining, my dude.
This is exactly what I'm trying to do in my life, developing myself, walking alone through life, doing good, without expecting anything from return. It changed me and my life completely.
How is going bro
Who is this man. He’s so jacked that he can hold that coffee mug up for hours, the sun went down and it’s still there :0
When you pointed out that he held a mug up for like 10 minutes. I felt like watching a god.
Edit: its not even a minute. I just realize he was actually there for hours.
Lol same way you hold your cell phone all day without getting tires
@@braddaily8688 I've been laughing for a minute, thanks
Names Hampton.... hybrid Hampton
@@AyoJayArr tired*
but "tires" is a pretty common typo that i do alot too ngl
I appreciate the sock metaphor, I've recently been struggling after giving someone my last sock, she accepted it but then she left which left me with many sock related questions. I'm doing better now.
many sock related questions lol xd
I gave a girl a pair of my socks, and she only returned one of them. What’s with that? Who’s benefiting in this situation? Now we both only have one sock.
Hard to find people like him in this generation, God bless
Seek and you shall find. Go to church and you shall find.
@@Jonathan-tw4xm Amen🙏🙏🙏
People like him are rare in any generation
I'm just now discovering that you have an online presence beyond the forbidden app and I'm so thankful to see you doing well and continuing to help make the world a better place. You're a treasure my dude, stay cool and keep on keepin on.
The... forbidden app?
@@damoji5332 tiktok i guess…?
@@lun4r866No
@@damoji5332 He’s referring to Ifunny
this dude is on some Bob Ross level of humbleness, amazing 👏🏼
I made a Bob Ross comparison, now I realized you and plenty others have beaten me to it..haha!
Hey Hampton, I never thought that a video about pull ups would lead me here. I needed you in this time of my life. I needed you more than I knew. I will do my best to really adopt your advice and to become a better person.
Same lol
Dude that's me. It's crazy.
Saaaaame.. 😂
if you are trying to become a better person, you are already on the right path❤️
He gets his inspiration from the Bible. His wisdom and demeanor comes from there.
A big brother that shares a zen mode with you to just calm down and reflect.
It's nice.
Thanks....
i have a very jarring weakness of looking for validation from other people so whenever i feel like even the tiniest bit rejected it really affects me a lot. well, i’ve been trying to rip that part of me out of my life for the past couple of months now, but it’s definitely a process changing from seeking the approval of other people to just accepting who you are.
This guy's changing this channel into a personal friend channel and I love it
Curb your parasocial relationship
It's called a para social relationship
@@johnl9361 was just about to say
My dude, TH-cam needs a heart button for people like you ❤️
Exactly
Say no more man, say no more
“I’ve never dated guys”
Me: Damn, I’m straight and I want to date this man.
Lmao
you're not straight then :)
Why are you geh?)
IKR
translation: you are hetero leaning but the beauty of this man, both physical and spiritual, moved you enough to consider leaning the other way
I am so obsessed with his philosophy. I think the same way.
It is amazing to do good that comes from the heart and not really want or need anyone's approval or recognition.
When you do you, you love people, yourself and life. You are only doing what you know best, kindness and pouring out love. 🥰
this actually made me tear up. it's been a long time since i've heard such sensible, practical, and well thought out on the internet, or anywhere really. thank you for being a light on youtube.
You shoul check out healthygamergg, it has similar content.
Socks analogy was brilliant. You percieving your gift to them as more valuable than they do. That's why you get nothing in return. You never gave them anything they saw as important. It's the non personal answer to why a girl stopped texting back. She didn't value your texts because they were too plentiful and she didn't want your attention it has no value to her. She had too much of it already. Why would she give you anything? In her mind you never gave her anything of value.Makes it easier to digest
Yes but to go further, although that person may not have needed your socks there are others who would value your specific socks very highly.
And the more you are comfortable with yourself, the brighter the unique patterns on your socks shine.. attracting those who like that specific pattern.
“It should be light, free, and easy.” Excellent advice Hampton.
I’m a woman and I seek love but I’m always worried in the back of my mind, it seems impossible to foster a genuine and long-lasting relationship in today’s world. I worry that my partner may seek out satisfaction elsewhere should they become dissatisfied in our relationship as it grows. Maybe after years and years go by.
I found a guy I really love. I mean, truly. And I want it to last. I hope he wants me as much as I want him.
This was pretty unrelated but I just wanted to share what’s on my mind somewhere, lol
I feel the same thing. Today's world is too focused on immeadiate reward.
Good luck. I hope your love will last.
So you basically dont love yourself. Thats the problem. Not anyone else. If a guy is with you and you two are in a relationship, then thats what it is. He loves you and wants to be with you. Its that simple.
@@likemysnopp no shit dude lol
Did you guys get married yet?
You sound like you are projecting your view of yourself onto the world around you. Like that someone can love you for a finite amount of time.
You are probably a great person, and you just have some insecurities about reciprocal love. I promise you, this is something you need to work on and build yourself. You need no one but yourself to fill that love. Being a great partner is filling in the things that maybe our SO lacks (minus the fundamentals obviously).
You will not receive love when asking for more from someone. You will receive love when you are comfortable knowing you love yourself, and that someone else is very much capable of loving you too.
Hampton is a totally different breed. I'm beginning to see life in a different fashion. Thanks to Hampton🙏
“Love can only be given, never taken. That’s the difference between love and lust.”
-Santa
Can lust be taken ?
@@tp230 yeah. For example in rape and cohesion.
@@sandralison7584 the rapist has lust but the victim does not, so the rapist isn’t “taking” lust. He’s applying his lust onto the victim.
I don’t understand what you mean with “cohesion” in this context.
Wait, when did Santa say this?
@@ballo3595 Christmas.
This man is too wholesome for earth, we must protect him at all costs
The 65 dislikes are people who expect a relationship out of “favors”
Don’t worry, the guy did not post the video for the likes. ;)
Or people who never had a relationship, or got into toxic relationships, or never got their questions answered in this video... never be too quick to judge.
@@biffin1123 there is this word called a "joke"
Well the thing is that those guys would be happy too if they dated each other right? So probably not even then
It went up to 154
“you may not be behind even when you think you are.” thanks sir i needed that
my brain: you have depression
me: just watch some wholesome hampton life talk
my brain after video: *_faith in life and humanity restored_*
I usually find these kind of videos superficial and unhelpful, but your video actually made me feel a bit better. Thanks dude!
May I just say, I am glad I know about your existence in this world. You are a positive force of nature and you are making my day every time you are on screen. Good day to you kind sir.
Man i love this guy. Hes just so positive and honest and funny and calm.
Can't wait for the Hampton podcast!
ME TOO
I taught myself to no longer expect something in return after being kind, and it's changed my life around into a much likeable and social person. Being kind means it makes you go on about your day with a smile.
I think why it's so hard to break that giving someone without expecting stigma is because we were thought that the golden rule is "treat others like how you wanted to be treated" thus expectation of them to do the same is created.
didnt think of that :D
very interesting insight, thank you!
That’s just a very narrow extrapolation of that phrase
The same logic still applies, just extend it a little more. I know I wouldn't someone to hold me to a relationship of any kind/ interpersonal dynamic that I wasn't comfortable with or didn't enter into knowingly. It sucks when someone is living in a relationship you never signed for. In those situations, I back off considerably, maybe even cut them off if it feels necessary to my emotional/psychological safety.
Also while giving whitout expecting back is good,don’t just give and give to others who don’t give back.
Hello, my friend! I just found out your channel when I was searching how to exercise and I have to say Hampton, This channel is a Blessing. Not only do you have videos on my physical struggles, you also have videos on Mental ones and other Life tips. Thank You Hampton. And you are incredibly Wholesome, I don't feel like i am being Flexed on by a "ripped dude", I actually feel like I am learning and that I can do these too and get healthier. I genuinely Thank you, Hampton, for these videos.
There are very few youtuber whom I have seen whose videos make me feel calm and spiritual... And you my brother are on the top... I truly hope that everyone finds peace with your videos like I do...
I love that someone is talking about this.
It actually hurts a lot when people give a bunch of unsolicited help or attention that you didn't ask for/don't need, but you don't want to be rude so you go along with it and be polite, only for them to turn around and be pissed off at you for not wanting to go out with them. You can't win. When you reject the help/attention, they say you're acting snobby/too good for them but if you accept it and then don't give them what they're secretly expecting in "exchange" for their good deeds, they say you led them on. Just wanna be treated like a human, not a commodity to be bartered for.
I like how the sun sets when the topic gets a lot more serious.
"Look at how not many people like me"
Who can not like this dude! Like serious.
I was one of those dudes to be honest. I come across his youtube shorts and he struck me as a overly optimistic blue pilled thinker. But after just watching this one video (first vid of his i ever watched) he has gained my respect. And i subbed lol
165 people
@@navia810 can u explain what u meant by “blue pilled thinker?”
@@rika8285 no
"Whoever you are, there's someone out there who will appreciate you for who you are"
True, even Hitler had a wife who loved him
@@sasino Dayum, even Hitler had it better than me 🤣😅
@@sasino to be fair, Hitler had quite the social status in his time
@@dustingaethje1332 💀
This is absolutely untrue.
This is such good advice . I’ve learnt to “Give what I can and accept what I receive “ in my friendships
“Some people find me pretentious, arrogant, or like my style”
I’m going to need their names so I can slap some sense into them.
Be nice, we need to restrain ourselves. We can do it.
Yeah let’s beat them up in an alley. Names. We need names.
@@elifc8941 Hahaha that's the opposite of what Hampton is trying to make us understand.. lol
@@ayamrudin7985 I know I’m kidding lmao
@@elifc8941 one of them is Elif C.
I’d like to say for relationships, is look for someone that genuinely enjoys being with YOU as a person. Not just that quick felling of togetherness or for pleasure.
I literally jumped to make coffee when I got the notification -
that's so cute when i think about it
It's been crazy having known you in Arkansas when I was such a mess, and then getting sober and stumbling across your TH-cam and seeing how incredible you are doing. This guy IS who he claims to be. He is how he claims to be. I hope your parents and their restaurant are doing ok, and you're keeping up with your tai chi.
I don’t know why I have binged all his videos, but it has been well worth it. Love this guy, in a friendly way
I love how it started sunny and ended dark
2cents to share from many years of dating and wandering the world meeting people: you got pretty close to the conclusion I came to. Namely, two parts: sincerely be yourself (dont pretend to be something or someone you are not, because you want people to like the real you. But also strive to be the best 'you' that you can be.) And secondly, "give without expectation of reciprocation." ...that last statement came as a quote from a monk I became friends with. Even as an agnostic I am constantly exploring theology, and I asked him to define kindness, as I agree with the taoists who say all virtues ultimately come from kindness. So, what IS kindness? And he said ^that, and I thought it was a great way to put it.
Be sincerely yourself, be your best self, be kind. And things eventually work out.
I've had SO many girls cheat on me, many people be physically violent to me, uncountable people lie to me or otherwise be a negative influence on my life, ...but I've also found some solid friends along the way, by sticking to these principles.
🤷♂️ if you read this, I hope you found it interesting, and perhaps helpful.
@Baba Gandu ...chang? ...I don't get it. 🤨 to who or what are you referring, and why?
Thank you for this Hampton, I need this. I always saw myself as a nice humble person, especially because I never dwelled on it but I think I subconsciously felt like I deserved better. I'm 20 and am still very confused about who I am and who I should strive to be but I'm glad people like you are out here helping others.
Me too bro bro!
After 21 years i just noticed i've been giving people too much power in being able to influence my decisions. Be it peer pressure, drugs or even relationships.
We as humans, are really blessed to experience the universe’s greatest gift.... Life & Free will.
I now realize that i need to be mindful and present whenever im making decisions, the choices we make quite literally creates your reality and future life.
I'm done answering people just to please them, or making choices on auto mode. If someone asks of you what you cant give, it really is an injustice to YOUR OWN-SELF..... to NOT say NO and build needed BARRIERS in any relationship that NEED said barriers
By being mindful about my present choices,
I now see the weight of not thinking before making decisions.... there are often CONSEQUENCES THAT WE ARE UNPREPARED TO FACE.
SO brudda.....
you say your confused about who you are
TAKE YOUR TIME TO THINK BEFORE YOU MAKE DECISIONS
Make sure what you do and want, is what YOU do and WANT!
By keeping it 💯 with yourself and others,
Only then can you really see who you are!
‼️PRAISE BE TO GOD FOR THIS MIGHTY GIFT THAT IS LIFE‼️
Almost died a couple times last year and i really cant re-iterate how important it is....
TO
LIVE
WHATS
YOURS✨
No one on this earth is like any of you!
So why try to be someone else...
WHILE YOU ARE SUCH A UNIQUE EXISTENCE.
LOVE AND TRULY BE YOURSELF BRUDDA❤️✨
I have no other words other than....thank you, I recently had my first day in college and found that many others in my class have already begun to find groups of friends heck one even got a girlfriend on his first day. I started thinking that maybe Im behind others? Maybe Im not as ahead as I thought I was? Your video really clarified to me all of us have our own pace and we shouldn't feel pressured to make friends at any given moment, but learn to slowly improve ourselves mentally, physically & spiritually until the day we find like-minded people
edit: whoop sorry for rambling on didnt know I typed that much, had to get these thoughts out of my head haha
Don't be sorry for typing ''much''.. People who wants to read it will, and you'll just have to accept that some may not want to read it all, hehe.. Be yourself! xd
I understand this completely!!! I always had a hard time making friends so whenever I was a freshman in college I felt so lonely my first semester, but honestly as time went on I made a few friends without realizing it. I'm in my third year of college and I feel l ike I'm back to square one again, because of the pandemic. All of my friends that I made now live off campus and my lease doesn't start till the fall so I have to stay on campus for this semester. They all have S.O.s, their own place, and I just feel like I'm so behind. Being in isolation this semester, I actually started to learn a lot of about myself and decided to stop focusing on what others are doing and focus on me until the focus is on me. I've been seeing that since I started getting my life together, the rest tends to follow after. When I stopped chasing after things in longing and fear, I attracted the things I actually needed. Breathe, focus on your classes, remember to take care of yourself, allow yourself to get help when you need it, and let yourself adjust to the college life. The first year is often the hardest so be kind to yourself.
Don’t worry about other people making friends or someone getting a girlfriend, seriously. You need to change your mindset of people having it better than you and keep a positive mindset.
Hampton is the guy who always films a video when the daylight is fading away so you can focus on his voice in the end.
that's just videography basic. during noon sun light is too harsh. it will cast hard shadow and prone to highlight clipping.
@@PenguinCrayon269 so you mean a TH-camr who understands videography basic but doesn't understand how to use lighting kits with his camera lol?
A good person and a nice person are not the same thing
Huh?
@@unknown69801 just bc someone is nice, doesn't mean they're 'good'
a hundo pasant
@@unknown69801 To be a good person means to do what's right regardless of how others think.
Being a good person includes being nice.
Always believed I'm somehow behind in life, since, well, I've never been in a relationship despite being 27, but your words about this issue actually moved me to tears. Thank you!