I must say… this book made me feel even more sympathy for Liam. I truly think he’s genuinely a very sweet and kind person. I have this weird belief that most drug addicts are sweet and pure hearted people who take drugs to escape the harsh pain of life. The drugs arent an excuse for his bad behavior but I agree that he is a troubled and tormented soul. Im so sad to find out he was in so much pain. I love Liam dearly and I miss him terribly 💔
@@Anna-sk3eki read he was diagnosed with bipolar. He talked himself he has bin diagnosed with something that can give you a high high, but on the other hand it can give you really lows. It sounds to me like bipolar disease. The problem with mental health issues and diseases is that you cant advocate for your self, as it affects your judgements and lack of insight. So the thing is when you get a diagnose like this you should be declined your rights of refuse treatment or care in episode you spiral. In my opinion that right should go to your primal doctor who should be regularly check in on you. Therapist and relatives should have a number they can call if they get worried so they can do a healthcheck. I read somewhere in England they have special ambulant team for mental health, but I dont know what it calls.
I worked with DV victims for 10 years and the way Maya brought her experience made me very uneasy. During my time in a Charity for DV I had to witness also many false accusations. My main problem was Maya bringing her story, mixing with gossiping about 1D and tauting Liam from 2 years ago when the entire Internet was already hating and bullying him. DV victims don't do that. The alleged Axe episode wasn't reported to the police and she never initiated a court process even being backed by a family of famous lawyers. But no, she wrote a book and kept trying to use the relationship to be relevant. Surely if he was stalking her there are evidences. Still no show. Look at Cassie and Diddy. She did everything legally and didn't need move a finger for him to be exposed. I also just discovered that the alleged cheating was a lie. They were separated for a month but didn't announce. She still played the victim. Also there is a report that she went to hospital bleeding. No abortion at home. Abortion or Miscarriage? The True Crime journalist from The Enquire went all the way looking for evidence of Maya's accusations and there are a lots of cracks in her story. Liam wasn't a saint. He was an alcoholic and addicted but not all of them are abusers. I think they were toxic to each other and hurt each other badly. But her accusations including P&@ d0 ph1 l1@........is way exaggerated.
You working with dv victims doesn't mean you'll be empathetic to women. Your paragraph became moot when you said "why didn't she go to the police" working at a shelter and saying that is odd. What's your favorite 1D song, you must be a fan🥰
@lordtette I am a 55 years old woman. Even recognising the Band success and talent, certainly not my cup o tea. Generation thing. Not interested in gossip. Went to investigate exactly because the DV allegations, Addiction and mental issues. Strong accusations about gr00ming minors and hom1c1de attempt is very serious.....Also the ab0rtion situation is very much similar to Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake. I am an old b1tch, hun....no that gullible. DV Victims take ages to be able to leave and talk. The trauma and fear are paralysing. They don't taunt their abusers for 2 years ridiculing them publicly. You know why? Because even free, they fear their abuser. Much more when they tried to kill them with an axe. Like I've said, I believe they had a toxic relationship and Maya suffered, but being a shit boyfriend it doesn't mean the guy is an abuser. Abusers have a pattern in all relationships, so does the victims. The lies about the split and the gossip about the band was already a warning.
@@vanessacarvalho9076 What do you mean in regards to the pregnancy comment regarding her being at home? Also, Britney being pregnant etc was/is a rumour. Not factual.
@@vanessacarvalho9076 this rhetoric is incredibly damaging to victims and it makes me sick to my stomach that you worked claimed to have with victims while having zero empathy or nuance about the topic. the “perfect victim” does not exist.
If this is her 'truth' story, why is it a fiction book? How is anyone meant to take that seriously?! Sounds like she has exploited him and their relationship as much as the music industry did, so sad that his warnings were ignored and that someone so famous felt so alone.
She said in a gossip interview that didn't want to write a "boring memoir" & that the book is "obviously fiction". So, was the "real" story quite boring without dramatising? I have seen people take the entire book as fact. Saying he chased her with an ax. She deliberately blurred fiction & memoir & her fans can't tell the difference with what is fantasy. All we have is allegations. He is no longer here to defend himself.
She called the book "fiction" so how much was embellished? Her video allegations were like a gossip session, like she was feeding drama. What bothered me was Liam was clearly troubled but she kept insisting his mentioning death was a manipulation tactic. Sounds like projection, when someone attributes traits they have themselves to someone else. She comes from a legal family with money, so should know that doesn't have a legal case without evidence. Just allegations. Jury by gossip on the internet is toxic. There's a saying that before you take revenge, dig two graves. This means there will be consequences.
@@one-day-at-a-time4134 I have been accused of that by some ignorant people if I revealed that I wasn't doing well. Definitely wasn't a form of manipulation. She said he was using mentioning death as a "manipulation tactic". Dismissive. I suspect she was projecting, as her big gossip session rants & making readers believe her "fiction" book wasn't embellished could be considered to be manipulative.
This is not about belittling Maya's testimony. The problem is that she is exposing sensitive issues about a person's life. I understand that she wants to share her story, but she has to realize that there are aspects that only belong to Liam. Liam was not an abuser, he was a man with a lot of trauma who wanted to hurt himself, but in the process also hurt those who were close to him. The erratic behaviors described in the book and also described by workers at the hotel where Liam died are due to a highly addictive drug called Tuci which causes exactly that behavior. Recently a woman in Brazil committed suicide under the same circumstances because of Tuci. In other words, the behaviors described in the book are not the real Liam, they are an effect of this drug, the surprising thing is that even in that state Liam does not seek to directly hurt any particular person, other than himself. I think the real Liam was the one shown when he was sober, the sad thing is, being conscious the trauma hurts more, and maybe that was too much for Liam to deal with, so he resorted to this kind of escape. Other than that, Maya is not looking for money, she is looking to promote her career as a writer, but how sad that she would use such a sensitive story to promote her work, and what a shame that she would use a person who is constantly being watched and criticized, without thinking about how it would affect this person.
@@lightandtruth25 Drug fueled or not Liam engaged in abusive behavior, which makes him an abuser. But I do agree that this mode of trauma sharing by Maya was not an earnest attempt at creating a productive discourse surrounding the ills of fame, drug abuse and toxic relationships. It seems like an attempt to exact revenge while also, as you stated, bolstering her writing career. She’s now enrolled as a creative writing student at NYU and probably thought that this was an interesting story to tell. But, her method of blending fiction and reality makes this piece of writing nothing more than a stirring of past trauma for the purpose of revenge and career progression. Had this been published in a more mature way where she was direct about what happened, that truly addresses the issues at hand then she would have succeeded in creating a space for dialogue about these all too common celebrity tales where fame ends up damaging (or, in this case, killing) them. And by doing this maturely, she wouldn’t have infringed on his right to dignity despite bad behavior.
Unfortunately, Liam on drugs is the real Liam. He had addiction issues. The nicest people you will meet are the sober addicts, partly because they feel guilty for their addictions and feel the need to overcompensate for their bad behaviour. Sober and drugged/drunk Liam, are the real Liam.
I am a believer that everyone has the right to share their story especially when it's an abusive relationship. I just don't like how she was in a personal relationship with a public figure who had an illness and went out to the public putting his dirty laundry out. I think she should have some class and should have put out her story but without mentioning his name. I am not saying what he did is right nor covering him up but I do believe there has to be some respect in airing things out when someone is going through personal problems. She also lives in a free country where she could have left when the abuse started. If she was inexperienced with abuse and kept going back that's on her. At the end of the day, everyone can do what they want with their lives but it is not kind.
First let me say that I am not now nor have I ever been a 1D fan. I have found myself down this rabbit hole as this situation has brought up a lot of emotions for me as one of my oldest and best friends passed a few years ago after breaking 10 years of hard won sobriety. This culminated with him being in a coma in ICU for 6 days at which point his family were advised to take him off life support, he died late in the afternoon of a cold but sunny Thursday in January. The reason I am saying this is because the inciting incident that caused my lovely, clever, funny, flawed but trying friend to drink was the end of his relationship with the woman he thought he'd spend the rest of his life with, and her behaviour throughout their relationship and after. Her need to own the narrative, and her desperation to be perceived as a good girl caused my friend to distrust his own instincts and endure hateful acts of spite, slander and the worst kind of lies. He didn't want to be seen as stupid or weak or to accept that she wasn't who he thought she was for 5 years years so he kept it all inside himself. Leaving a handful of us to piece together what happened from things we each saw and what her friends let slip. I am telling you this because just as those who have survived abusive relationships resonate with a story of survival. (something that I have also experienced) I now also find myself resonating with a young man who died in a horrible and public setting having struggled with addiction and mental health, who stayed silent whilst an ex published a 'based on truth' work of fiction that provides no clarity on what parts are fiction, leaving the reader to assume the worst and reinforced by social media posts with daming accounts that are free of any evidence, and cease and desist letters; which as an initial step do not require adjudication and are often used as an intimidation tactic. Like most, I have friends who are survivors, and I have also struggled with my experience, so I empathise and understand why so many will resonate with any book that attempts to decipher that experience. But what stands out to me with mutual experience I've shared in support groups and friends is that all any of us have wanted to do in the aftermath was not attract the attention of our abusers, not engage or cause them to focus on us again. It took me years and a lot of therapy before I got to a place where I could speak about what happened and more than a decade later I would still panic if I found myself near my ex. I can not and will never know the facts of their relationship, but I can tell you that as a society we will never truly know the statistics on men enduring IPV in relationships, and I can tell you that that includes: Aggressive verbal communication, Verbal threats, Manipulative and controlling behavior, Humiliation in front of friends or family, Isolation, Name-calling, insults, and put-downs, Accusations of flirting or having affairs, Invalidation, and Denial and deflection (role switching). As I said at the beginning I can only perceive through my own experiences and my own loss, but while it's clear Liam Payne was very unwell and carrying a lot of pain; his early experiences having left him ill equipped and disappointed with existence, the circumstances set out by the author seem almost intentionally murky.
I'm sorry for your loss Thank you for sharing! This would bring light to a lot of people here on the internet to also consider the other side of the coin and not be quick to judge and crucify Sending you healing, peace and light XOXO
The fact people are defending this women is actually wild 😳 im a dv victim and i can see clear as day that this girl is lying about a good bit of this stuff just to sell her book
So my opinion is Maya should not get abused or blamed. However, i also would say this is only her side of the story. I would also be careful saying she is a victim. she's an alleged victim as nothing has been proven. He was a very troubled man, and it's no excuse for any bad behaviour he did exhibit or any abusive behaviour.
Remember when Cara Delevingne had her troubles, and her family swooped in, got her the help she needed and supported her throughout? And look how great she is doing now! So where on earth was Liam's family? People are so quick to blame women for not silently absorbing men's abuse, and this comment section proves it, but who truly had responsibility here are the people who created him. All members of 1D experienced fame at a young age, but only Liam had an issue with his behaviour. Based on the meeting his family excerpt, I'm no longer surprised.
People have to understand that that's HER POV - her side of the story. It's not necessarily THE truth, but HER truth (how she perceives / interprets / judges her experiences). Liam also has his side of the story - why things happened the way they did. Most celebrities if not all work for and with a lot of people so they're lives - decisions, schedules etc - are partly not their own. They decide based on how their careers would go and this includes not just the celebrity but the whole team All these things plus his personal issues - his coping mechanism on how things were going with his life which were drinking and taking drugs
I wish Maya’s parents had looked out for her earlier. Why would you ever let your 17 yr old daughter date a world famous boyband member who obviously had issues? Now she immaturely is blasting her story on the internet like any young person would do, but will that bring her or anyone involved in the situation peace? Doesn’t seem like it did… if anything this will probably haunt her more now after this event. I think it’s important for people to share their stories about alleged abuse on huge platforms, but only when they are healed and mature enough to handle the situation with dignity. Her appearance on that podcast right before his death goes to show that there was still a vindictive twinge to her attitude about Liam. Which she is entitled to feel as it is obvious that she is still healing. But while in the process of healing, the last thing you should probably do is tell the entire world about it. There’s this false equivalence that has gained traction in recent years that telling your traumatic story to the world is healing in itself. It is not. I think maya needed time to mature and come to terms with the situation before doing this. She is only 23 she has much more growing to do and I wish she gave herself that time before putting herself back in the bully pulpit that is the 1D fandom. Unwise in my opinion. Her immaturity is also on display by her creative choices in this book. When a situation is so serious, it does no good to blend reality with fiction. It allows for so much speculation and it’s not good for either side. She wanted to tell her story, but had some hold ups whether it be fear or anxiety about it, so she chose to fictionalize some of this. I can see how the process of writing this may have been healing to some level, but how is releasing this amalgamation of fiction with some truth going to do anything but stir up internet chaos. If she wanted a real discourse on the ills of fame, drug abuse and toxicity then she should have made it a real discourse on the real things that happened. I’m sure she wasn’t ready for that, which is precisely why this book should’ve been a personal endeavor.
@@jadeprice2655 he definitely should have known better, he was the adult in the situation. He should have certainly found someone who wasn’t 17/freshly 18. And Maya was a child, so, personally, I think the onus is on the parents to protect their kid. Especially when they are newly gaining independence in a wild world. Her parents are well off and had every resource in the world to stop this from happening but they did not. Liam was quite obviously mentally ill and was only capable of worsening the situation. While in a perfect world he wouldn’t have pursued her in the first place, his immaturity/trauma/toxic upbringing lead to this and the only people capable of protecting Maya at the time were her parents. And they seemingly failed to do so unfortunately.
So, let me start with saying I'm an author who writes about my personal abuse through fiction. I don't condone the behavior of Liam or Maya. That being said, she said herself it's dramatized. As an author myself, it's fictional and she should've been way more discrete with her storytelling. She is really contradictory in whether it's fiction or true. I doubt it is only Liam that inspired her because we, as authors, the inspiration comes from a ton of different sources. She could've been more discrete and respectful about it. This is a dramatized narrative.
Maya's book was a wonderful way to give insight into the pressures of the music industry to artists. I read it for free on the Kindle 30 day free trial. We need to stop blaming the women, they did their best and left the horror he put them through. Addiction to drugs is one hell of a demon to overcome.
Wow, this is kind of insane. I feel so bad for everybody in this situation. I’m sure at some point and at some level she loved him, and this loss must be devestating and haunting for her. The balcony scene you mentioned is so crazy considering everything now. He had been going on this downward spiral for years, and nobody close to him cared about him beyond his commerical value. My immature instinct is to wish she never left and maybe this wouldn’t have happened- but this wasn’t her duty, and perhaps things would have been way way worse if she had stayed. RIP Liam & I wish healing for Maya.
It's called nuance, people: it can be based on her experiences while also being a work of fiction. That can be due to a bunch of reasons; here are some: 1) writing in the 3rd person can help process trauma as it creates distance from the events, 2) parts of the story may not be remembered well, or edited as "something I wish I had said or done" which would give the work the quality of fiction and labeling it a true story would be slander, 3) Maya Henry has already publicly shared her story, and said her book is different. She has never said the book is her story, only that it is based on it, 4) writing a fiction allows some people to be disguised: non-public figures, family members, friends who'd like to remain anonymous. She is calling out a public figure, who allegedly used his fame and celebrity to take advantage of young girls. No one else has to be put on blast if they don't want the spotlight, 5) the fact that the book is labeled fiction doesn't mean she didn't suffer grooming or abuse of some kind by Liam Payne, 6) while his dead is tragic, it doesn't automatically make him a saint. He was human. He was fallible. We can acknowledge his death is tragic and that he did a bad thing when he was alive. The two things can be true and are not exclusionary, 6) people should read everything critically; that doesn't mean to criticize, but that in your mind you can discern fact from fiction, characters from real life people. If you read this work critically, you will realize that Maya Henry can be a victim and that Liam Payne can be a perpretator, and that their fictional counterparts and their story is not real even if it has real life elements.
Very thoughtful and respectful book review,especially in light of everything that has happened. Honestly, in relation to what has recently happened, it all pans out and makes sense. I appreciated your take on things and the nuance you have with your review!
She humiliate him in public eye. Its like kicking somrone who is already on the ground! She should go to the court. Not to the public. I hope she is " happy now and opened the champagne".
Liam dy*ing or having mental health problems/ drug abuse is NOT an axcuse for people to attack her. This is not fiction these events happened to her. She even said that she tried to get him help and he refused. Him and his company also threatened her that she will be hated and no one will believe her because of his fans. Maya is not the first or the last person to write this kind of books. If it was not Liam, people would have supported her all the way.
@@babushkadoll7959 what does it have to do with anything? Fiction means she uses fake names because of copyrights and she is from texas and mel is from Tennessee. It doesn't mean she faked any information
Can we be honest for a minute…? I’ve been a 1D fan since my British best friend told me about a “cute boy band on X-Factor”. With that being said, the hypocrisy in our fandom is hilarious. We LIVE for just a glimpse into the life of these boys, yet when a former fiancé of one of them releases 400+ pages of 1D lore we shame her? Grow up. Acknowledge that you don’t know them (as much as you want to) and that Maya’s book is giving you so much more content than anything those boys will put out.
I don't think it's right to review this right now. He just died. No matter if the book is true, it's in poor taste to speculate right now. Lets let his family grieve.
You are trying to give credence to a Woman who took the ultimate revenge because she was scorned. She could of gone to the police with her allegations or left the relationship much earlier. Instead, she tries to monetize on her relationship with him knowing full well he was mentally ill from the very beginning. I hope know one buys or reads this book.
@@aleksandrac9335 It not the family, the way Liam became. And what is Maya gaining out of it, Liam is gone and else damaged can she do next. What does she want, hurts his family?
Heartbreaking. It's so easy to believe people with money can get all the help they need. Yet it seems like both Maya Henry and Liam Payne have dealt with.the same issues I have from self-destrctive behavior, addiction and relationship dynamics.
Tbh i wanna read her book. i think he's just used to him being a victim and having multiple issues. The more I look into, the more I'd realized how distorted Liam is.
Destorted? Why do you use this word? Could you use a more understanding and compassionate word, the end goal should be everyone is understood and ok, this word is very judgmental and shows lack of understanding for how complex we are as humans people don’t have choices on mental health and their nature, we need to understand the nature of this to help others in the future, what you say is not helpful and only hurtful. We need to look at this in a way what help did he need? What causes this behaviour? All behaviour is communication. Also what could Maya have done to protect herself and to get him help ? Did she need to be so cruel in her language talking about it? Could he have seen it in a different way as in he was sick and need help that he wasn’t getting? Hopefully 🙏 this will help bring up this subject and something good will come from it? His behaviour wasn’t good but her mouth was equally hurtful, I hope she is ok we want everyone to learn from this
She wasn’t an attractive girl it’s odd he picked her out of other girls. Also, she such an attention seeker using him to write her book I didnt even know who she was or will I remember her after this she look so basic.
The fact to spoke my pee based on trustory, the fact that he refuse to have a baby and did drugs in front of her family period what type of person would you be looking up to like that? He just became a shell of a person of himself
I must say… this book made me feel even more sympathy for Liam. I truly think he’s genuinely a very sweet and kind person. I have this weird belief that most drug addicts are sweet and pure hearted people who take drugs to escape the harsh pain of life. The drugs arent an excuse for his bad behavior but I agree that he is a troubled and tormented soul. Im so sad to find out he was in so much pain. I love Liam dearly and I miss him terribly 💔
I always wondered if he saw a psychologist or not and now that I have watched the Paul Logan interview, it confirms Liam had mental issues.
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@@Anna-sk3eki read he was diagnosed with bipolar. He talked himself he has bin diagnosed with something that can give you a high high, but on the other hand it can give you really lows. It sounds to me like bipolar disease. The problem with mental health issues and diseases is that you cant advocate for your self, as it affects your judgements and lack of insight. So the thing is when you get a diagnose like this you should be declined your rights of refuse treatment or care in episode you spiral. In my opinion that right should go to your primal doctor who should be regularly check in on you. Therapist and relatives should have a number they can call if they get worried so they can do a healthcheck. I read somewhere in England they have special ambulant team for mental health, but I dont know what it calls.
I worked with DV victims for 10 years and the way Maya brought her experience made me very uneasy. During my time in a Charity for DV I had to witness also many false accusations. My main problem was Maya bringing her story, mixing with gossiping about 1D and tauting Liam from 2 years ago when the entire Internet was already hating and bullying him. DV victims don't do that. The alleged Axe episode wasn't reported to the police and she never initiated a court process even being backed by a family of famous lawyers. But no, she wrote a book and kept trying to use the relationship to be relevant. Surely if he was stalking her there are evidences. Still no show. Look at Cassie and Diddy. She did everything legally and didn't need move a finger for him to be exposed. I also just discovered that the alleged cheating was a lie. They were separated for a month but didn't announce. She still played the victim. Also there is a report that she went to hospital bleeding. No abortion at home. Abortion or Miscarriage? The True Crime journalist from The Enquire went all the way looking for evidence of Maya's accusations and there are a lots of cracks in her story. Liam wasn't a saint. He was an alcoholic and addicted but not all of them are abusers. I think they were toxic to each other and hurt each other badly. But her accusations including P&@ d0 ph1 l1@........is way exaggerated.
You working with dv victims doesn't mean you'll be empathetic to women. Your paragraph became moot when you said "why didn't she go to the police" working at a shelter and saying that is odd.
What's your favorite 1D song, you must be a fan🥰
@lordtette I am a 55 years old woman. Even recognising the Band success and talent, certainly not my cup o tea. Generation thing. Not interested in gossip. Went to investigate exactly because the DV allegations, Addiction and mental issues. Strong accusations about gr00ming minors and hom1c1de attempt is very serious.....Also the ab0rtion situation is very much similar to Britney Spears and Justin Timberlake. I am an old b1tch, hun....no that gullible. DV Victims take ages to be able to leave and talk. The trauma and fear are paralysing. They don't taunt their abusers for 2 years ridiculing them publicly. You know why? Because even free, they fear their abuser. Much more when they tried to kill them with an axe. Like I've said, I believe they had a toxic relationship and Maya suffered, but being a shit boyfriend it doesn't mean the guy is an abuser. Abusers have a pattern in all relationships, so does the victims. The lies about the split and the gossip about the band was already a warning.
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What do you mean in regards to the pregnancy comment regarding her being at home? Also, Britney being pregnant etc was/is a rumour. Not factual.
@@vanessacarvalho9076treating victims as a monolith tells me everything i need to know about your outlook on abuse and women
@@vanessacarvalho9076 this rhetoric is incredibly damaging to victims and it makes me sick to my stomach that you worked claimed to have with victims while having zero empathy or nuance about the topic. the “perfect victim” does not exist.
If this is her 'truth' story, why is it a fiction book? How is anyone meant to take that seriously?! Sounds like she has exploited him and their relationship as much as the music industry did, so sad that his warnings were ignored and that someone so famous felt so alone.
She said in a gossip interview that didn't want to write a "boring memoir" & that the book is "obviously fiction".
So, was the "real" story quite boring without dramatising?
I have seen people take the entire book as fact. Saying he chased her with an ax. She deliberately blurred fiction & memoir & her fans can't tell the difference with what is fantasy.
All we have is allegations. He is no longer here to defend himself.
Wow this comment section is disturbing
It really is, super concerning
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@@ringoinah I don’t understand what’s disturbing about it?
For real
She called the book "fiction" so how much was embellished?
Her video allegations were like a gossip session, like she was feeding drama.
What bothered me was Liam was clearly troubled but she kept insisting his mentioning death was a manipulation tactic. Sounds like projection, when someone attributes traits they have themselves to someone else.
She comes from a legal family with money, so should know that doesn't have a legal case without evidence. Just allegations. Jury by gossip on the internet is toxic.
There's a saying that before you take revenge, dig two graves. This means there will be consequences.
Some people threaten to off themself as a form of manipulation. Maybe that's what she meant? Who knows.
@@one-day-at-a-time4134 I have been accused of that by some ignorant people if I revealed that I wasn't doing well. Definitely wasn't a form of manipulation.
She said he was using mentioning death as a "manipulation tactic". Dismissive.
I suspect she was projecting, as her big gossip session rants & making readers believe her "fiction" book wasn't embellished could be considered to be manipulative.
This is not about belittling Maya's testimony. The problem is that she is exposing sensitive issues about a person's life. I understand that she wants to share her story, but she has to realize that there are aspects that only belong to Liam.
Liam was not an abuser, he was a man with a lot of trauma who wanted to hurt himself, but in the process also hurt those who were close to him.
The erratic behaviors described in the book and also described by workers at the hotel where Liam died are due to a highly addictive drug called Tuci which causes exactly that behavior. Recently a woman in Brazil committed suicide under the same circumstances because of Tuci. In other words, the behaviors described in the book are not the real Liam, they are an effect of this drug, the surprising thing is that even in that state Liam does not seek to directly hurt any particular person, other than himself. I think the real Liam was the one shown when he was sober, the sad thing is, being conscious the trauma hurts more, and maybe that was too much for Liam to deal with, so he resorted to this kind of escape.
Other than that, Maya is not looking for money, she is looking to promote her career as a writer, but how sad that she would use such a sensitive story to promote her work, and what a shame that she would use a person who is constantly being watched and criticized, without thinking about how it would affect this person.
@@lightandtruth25 Drug fueled or not Liam engaged in abusive behavior, which makes him an abuser. But I do agree that this mode of trauma sharing by Maya was not an earnest attempt at creating a productive discourse surrounding the ills of fame, drug abuse and toxic relationships. It seems like an attempt to exact revenge while also, as you stated, bolstering her writing career. She’s now enrolled as a creative writing student at NYU and probably thought that this was an interesting story to tell. But, her method of blending fiction and reality makes this piece of writing nothing more than a stirring of past trauma for the purpose of revenge and career progression. Had this been published in a more mature way where she was direct about what happened, that truly addresses the issues at hand then she would have succeeded in creating a space for dialogue about these all too common celebrity tales where fame ends up damaging (or, in this case, killing) them. And by doing this maturely, she wouldn’t have infringed on his right to dignity despite bad behavior.
Unfortunately, Liam on drugs is the real Liam. He had addiction issues. The nicest people you will meet are the sober addicts, partly because they feel guilty for their addictions and feel the need to overcompensate for their bad behaviour. Sober and drugged/drunk Liam, are the real Liam.
@@Blondie101010100ding ding ding
Who are y'all calling the 'victim' here? The one who died or the one who is alive and is playing 'victim card' without any proofs
I am a believer that everyone has the right to share their story especially when it's an abusive relationship. I just don't like how she was in a personal relationship with a public figure who had an illness and went out to the public putting his dirty laundry out. I think she should have some class and should have put out her story but without mentioning his name. I am not saying what he did is right nor covering him up but I do believe there has to be some respect in airing things out when someone is going through personal problems. She also lives in a free country where she could have left when the abuse started. If she was inexperienced with abuse and kept going back that's on her. At the end of the day, everyone can do what they want with their lives but it is not kind.
First let me say that I am not now nor have I ever been a 1D fan. I have found myself down this rabbit hole as this situation has brought up a lot of emotions for me as one of my oldest and best friends passed a few years ago after breaking 10 years of hard won sobriety. This culminated with him being in a coma in ICU for 6 days at which point his family were advised to take him off life support, he died late in the afternoon of a cold but sunny Thursday in January.
The reason I am saying this is because the inciting incident that caused my lovely, clever, funny, flawed but trying friend to drink was the end of his relationship with the woman he thought he'd spend the rest of his life with, and her behaviour throughout their relationship and after.
Her need to own the narrative, and her desperation to be perceived as a good girl caused my friend to distrust his own instincts and endure hateful acts of spite, slander and the worst kind of lies. He didn't want to be seen as stupid or weak or to accept that she wasn't who he thought she was for 5 years years so he kept it all inside himself. Leaving a handful of us to piece together what happened from things we each saw and what her friends let slip.
I am telling you this because just as those who have survived abusive relationships resonate with a story of survival. (something that I have also experienced) I now also find myself resonating with a young man who died in a horrible and public setting having struggled with addiction and mental health, who stayed silent whilst an ex published a 'based on truth' work of fiction that provides no clarity on what parts are fiction, leaving the reader to assume the worst and reinforced by social media posts with daming accounts that are free of any evidence, and cease and desist letters; which as an initial step do not require adjudication and are often used as an intimidation tactic.
Like most, I have friends who are survivors, and I have also struggled with my experience, so I empathise and understand why so many will resonate with any book that attempts to decipher that experience. But what stands out to me with mutual experience I've shared in support groups and friends is that all any of us have wanted to do in the aftermath was not attract the attention of our abusers, not engage or cause them to focus on us again. It took me years and a lot of therapy before I got to a place where I could speak about what happened and more than a decade later I would still panic if I found myself near my ex.
I can not and will never know the facts of their relationship, but I can tell you that as a society we will never truly know the statistics on men enduring IPV in relationships, and I can tell you that that includes: Aggressive verbal communication, Verbal threats, Manipulative and controlling behavior, Humiliation in front of friends or family, Isolation, Name-calling, insults, and put-downs, Accusations of flirting or having affairs, Invalidation, and Denial and deflection (role switching).
As I said at the beginning I can only perceive through my own experiences and my own loss, but while it's clear Liam Payne was very unwell and carrying a lot of pain; his early experiences having left him ill equipped and disappointed with existence, the circumstances set out by the author seem almost intentionally murky.
I'm sorry for your loss
Thank you for sharing! This would bring light to a lot of people here on the internet to also consider the other side of the coin and not be quick to judge and crucify
Sending you healing, peace and light XOXO
The fact people are defending this women is actually wild 😳 im a dv victim and i can see clear as day that this girl is lying about a good bit of this stuff just to sell her book
she said it's half fiction
DV victim realised dv is a spectrum. Do you want a cookie🍪🍪 here take it 😄
So my opinion is Maya should not get abused or blamed. However, i also would say this is only her side of the story. I would also be careful saying she is a victim. she's an alleged victim as nothing has been proven. He was a very troubled man, and it's no excuse for any bad behaviour he did exhibit or any abusive behaviour.
Remember when Cara Delevingne had her troubles, and her family swooped in, got her the help she needed and supported her throughout? And look how great she is doing now! So where on earth was Liam's family? People are so quick to blame women for not silently absorbing men's abuse, and this comment section proves it, but who truly had responsibility here are the people who created him. All members of 1D experienced fame at a young age, but only Liam had an issue with his behaviour. Based on the meeting his family excerpt, I'm no longer surprised.
People have to understand that that's HER POV - her side of the story. It's not necessarily THE truth, but HER truth (how she perceives / interprets / judges her experiences). Liam also has his side of the story - why things happened the way they did.
Most celebrities if not all work for and with a lot of people so they're lives - decisions, schedules etc - are partly not their own. They decide based on how their careers would go and this includes not just the celebrity but the whole team
All these things plus his personal issues - his coping mechanism on how things were going with his life which were drinking and taking drugs
I wish Maya’s parents had looked out for her earlier. Why would you ever let your 17 yr old daughter date a world famous boyband member who obviously had issues? Now she immaturely is blasting her story on the internet like any young person would do, but will that bring her or anyone involved in the situation peace? Doesn’t seem like it did… if anything this will probably haunt her more now after this event. I think it’s important for people to share their stories about alleged abuse on huge platforms, but only when they are healed and mature enough to handle the situation with dignity. Her appearance on that podcast right before his death goes to show that there was still a vindictive twinge to her attitude about Liam. Which she is entitled to feel as it is obvious that she is still healing. But while in the process of healing, the last thing you should probably do is tell the entire world about it. There’s this false equivalence that has gained traction in recent years that telling your traumatic story to the world is healing in itself. It is not. I think maya needed time to mature and come to terms with the situation before doing this.
She is only 23 she has much more growing to do and I wish she gave herself that time before putting herself back in the bully pulpit that is the 1D fandom. Unwise in my opinion.
Her immaturity is also on display by her creative choices in this book. When a situation is so serious, it does no good to blend reality with fiction. It allows for so much speculation and it’s not good for either side. She wanted to tell her story, but had some hold ups whether it be fear or anxiety about it, so she chose to fictionalize some of this. I can see how the process of writing this may have been healing to some level, but how is releasing this amalgamation of fiction with some truth going to do anything but stir up internet chaos. If she wanted a real discourse on the ills of fame, drug abuse and toxicity then she should have made it a real discourse on the real things that happened. I’m sure she wasn’t ready for that, which is precisely why this book should’ve been a personal endeavor.
Liam dated a 17 year old that could be argued he should of known better.... Sad around
@@jadeprice2655 he definitely should have known better, he was the adult in the situation. He should have certainly found someone who wasn’t 17/freshly 18. And Maya was a child, so, personally, I think the onus is on the parents to protect their kid. Especially when they are newly gaining independence in a wild world. Her parents are well off and had every resource in the world to stop this from happening but they did not. Liam was quite obviously mentally ill and was only capable of worsening the situation. While in a perfect world he wouldn’t have pursued her in the first place, his immaturity/trauma/toxic upbringing lead to this and the only people capable of protecting Maya at the time were her parents. And they seemingly failed to do so unfortunately.
@@seaanemones agree 100 per cent
@@seaanemones agree 100 per cent
You wouldn't ve vindictive if you were abused? You'd say she was lying if she wasn't angry
So, let me start with saying I'm an author who writes about my personal abuse through fiction. I don't condone the behavior of Liam or Maya.
That being said, she said herself it's dramatized. As an author myself, it's fictional and she should've been way more discrete with her storytelling.
She is really contradictory in whether it's fiction or true. I doubt it is only Liam that inspired her because we, as authors, the inspiration comes from a ton of different sources. She could've been more discrete and respectful about it. This is a dramatized narrative.
Maya's book was a wonderful way to give insight into the pressures of the music industry to artists. I read it for free on the Kindle 30 day free trial. We need to stop blaming the women, they did their best and left the horror he put them through. Addiction to drugs is one hell of a demon to overcome.
Wow, this is kind of insane. I feel so bad for everybody in this situation. I’m sure at some point and at some level she loved him, and this loss must be devestating and haunting for her. The balcony scene you mentioned is so crazy considering everything now. He had been going on this downward spiral for years, and nobody close to him cared about him beyond his commerical value. My immature instinct is to wish she never left and maybe this wouldn’t have happened- but this wasn’t her duty, and perhaps things would have been way way worse if she had stayed. RIP Liam & I wish healing for Maya.
yes, he had a love of going on balconies for years and loved looking down
It's called nuance, people: it can be based on her experiences while also being a work of fiction. That can be due to a bunch of reasons; here are some: 1) writing in the 3rd person can help process trauma as it creates distance from the events, 2) parts of the story may not be remembered well, or edited as "something I wish I had said or done" which would give the work the quality of fiction and labeling it a true story would be slander, 3) Maya Henry has already publicly shared her story, and said her book is different. She has never said the book is her story, only that it is based on it, 4) writing a fiction allows some people to be disguised: non-public figures, family members, friends who'd like to remain anonymous. She is calling out a public figure, who allegedly used his fame and celebrity to take advantage of young girls. No one else has to be put on blast if they don't want the spotlight, 5) the fact that the book is labeled fiction doesn't mean she didn't suffer grooming or abuse of some kind by Liam Payne, 6) while his dead is tragic, it doesn't automatically make him a saint. He was human. He was fallible. We can acknowledge his death is tragic and that he did a bad thing when he was alive. The two things can be true and are not exclusionary, 6) people should read everything critically; that doesn't mean to criticize, but that in your mind you can discern fact from fiction, characters from real life people. If you read this work critically, you will realize that Maya Henry can be a victim and that Liam Payne can be a perpretator, and that their fictional counterparts and their story is not real even if it has real life elements.
Very thoughtful and respectful book review,especially in light of everything that has happened. Honestly, in relation to what has recently happened, it all pans out and makes sense. I appreciated your take on things and the nuance you have with your review!
She humiliate him in public eye. Its like kicking somrone who is already on the ground! She should go to the court. Not to the public. I hope she is " happy now and opened the champagne".
Liam dy*ing or having mental health problems/ drug abuse is NOT an axcuse for people to attack her. This is not fiction these events happened to her. She even said that she tried to get him help and he refused. Him and his company also threatened her that she will be hated and no one will believe her because of his fans. Maya is not the first or the last person to write this kind of books. If it was not Liam, people would have supported her all the way.
If her book is not fiction than why was it termed fiction based on real life events??how do we know what is real and what is made up / dramatised??
@@babushkadoll7959 what does it have to do with anything? Fiction means she uses fake names because of copyrights and she is from texas and mel is from Tennessee. It doesn't mean she faked any information
Can we be honest for a minute…? I’ve been a 1D fan since my British best friend told me about a “cute boy band on X-Factor”. With that being said, the hypocrisy in our fandom is hilarious. We LIVE for just a glimpse into the life of these boys, yet when a former fiancé of one of them releases 400+ pages of 1D lore we shame her? Grow up. Acknowledge that you don’t know them (as much as you want to) and that Maya’s book is giving you so much more content than anything those boys will put out.
I don't think it's right to review this right now. He just died. No matter if the book is true, it's in poor taste to speculate right now. Lets let his family grieve.
that's not gonna happen....
You are trying to give credence to a Woman who took the ultimate revenge because she was scorned. She could of gone to the police with her allegations or left the relationship much earlier. Instead, she tries to monetize on her relationship with him knowing full well he was mentally ill from the very beginning. I hope know one buys or reads this book.
Exactly, I hope Liam family stop Maya from releasing her book. If she proceeded to release the book.
If he was mentaly ill he should get help instead of grooming teenage girl
@@o_huskywolfdean7 how could they stop her? Eff them for raising him like that
@@aleksandrac9335 It not the family, the way Liam became. And what is Maya gaining out of it, Liam is gone and else damaged can she do next.
What does she want, hurts his family?
@@o_huskywolfdean7 she want to help all the young girls who were used and abused by older men?
Heartbreaking. It's so easy to believe people with money can get all the help they need. Yet it seems like both Maya Henry and Liam Payne have dealt with.the same issues I have from self-destrctive behavior, addiction and relationship dynamics.
Tbh i wanna read her book. i think he's just used to him being a victim and having multiple issues. The more I look into, the more I'd realized how distorted Liam is.
Destorted? Why do you use this word? Could you use a more understanding and compassionate word, the end goal should be everyone is understood and ok, this word is very judgmental and shows lack of understanding for how complex we are as humans people don’t have choices on mental health and their nature, we need to understand the nature of this to help others in the future, what you say is not helpful and only hurtful. We need to look at this in a way what help did he need? What causes this behaviour? All behaviour is communication. Also what could Maya have done to protect herself and to get him help ? Did she need to be so cruel in her language talking about it? Could he have seen it in a different way as in he was sick and need help that he wasn’t getting? Hopefully 🙏 this will help bring up this subject and something good will come from it? His behaviour wasn’t good but her mouth was equally hurtful, I hope she is ok we want everyone to learn from this
Cancelada
Liam was with two prostitutes in the room right after his girlfriend had left. Sooooooooooo
Timing.....
She wasn’t an attractive girl it’s odd he picked her out of other girls. Also, she such an attention seeker using him to write her book I didnt even know who she was or will I remember her after this she look so basic.
This is a really weird comment
Agreed. Idk what he saw in her. She's not even nice and she was clearly not good for him. She just used him for money and fame.
@@07Flash11MRC delulu weirdo. Stop projecting
The fact to spoke my pee based on trustory, the fact that he refuse to have a baby and did drugs in front of her family period what type of person would you be looking up to like that? He just became a shell of a person of himself
@@07Flash11MRC her family is wealthy