Hyperfocus is super power, I always get the best grades in my class because my brain is able to hyperfocus on anything I do. I am still socially a mess but hyperfocus is cool
I have somewhat mild autism or I can mask really good. But the best thing is my math skills and weird somewhat eidetic memory. I can get As on a college level without learning and ranked 384th nation wide in my age on a weird math test (population of 8 Million). I know one guy who is better than me at math in a school of 1500 students that are already top 10% in terms of education. If I find something interesting I can remeber it for a few years after hearing it only once. I get really good grades after barely paying attention and watching 20-30 mins of yt explanations. I never forget important appointments and never loose things. Even when I‘m fucked up drunk that I can hardly walk (stopped drinking now as I drank to cope) I never lost anything and got home safe. Without the social difficulties I‘d consider it a superpower. The only problem is if I don‘t find a subject interesting it‘s practically impossible to learn. Without making a checklist or having a task to do I just stare at my screen or paper and waste hours sometimes.
Frl I think the hyper focus makes us have a higher IQ tbh . I succeed in almost everything I try to do, and my brain is very good at observation and picking up patterns.
Thanks for this list, Olivia! It's refreshing to hear positive aspects associated with autism, as opposed to the negative ones. I'm proud of my huge imagination, which I gain from spending time alone, and my long term memory.
I think this is a great idea for a video! I related the most to the incredible hearing. Most recently, my dad was having 'dishwasher' problems that caused puddles around the dishwasher every few days. He tried everything to fix it and was about to buy a new dishwasher, until I finally went over and it took me about 15 seconds to find the source of the leak by hearing a teeny tiny hissing sound coming from the smallest hole in a hose behind the fridge. He replaced the hose for eight dollars and no more puddles or leaks haha!
Ayeee I love woodworking too! But I love the finish side of it. Learning every type of finish, and weirdly enough (but not that weird if you think about it), it translates to hyperfocusing on nail polish too
I struggle with being happy on the spectrum. I have a fear of rejection because of the way some people have treated me for being introverted and quiet.
My favorite is my love for learning, combined with what feels like a huge amount of storage space for information in my head. Like last year, it started to bother me that I know very little geography. Within a couple of weeks, I knew all of the countries, capitals, major cities, and many of the landmark features of the world. I know all of that information now, for no other reason than I wanted to learn it. 💜
Yay! Thank you so much for this! I love being me, and as I age I am learning to see every ‘flaw’ is actually an exciting positive. I am 43 and am unlearning a lot of institutional thinking that was common in my upbringing. My husband delights in my idiosyncrasies and that helps so much. We play together all sorts of silly games daily and it’s wonderful. The freedom to be yourself is magical. Your video has cheered me no end, thanks!
I just wanted to leave a comment to say how much you have helped me! I just got diagnosed 3 days ago and prior to that, action was taken because of you! My dad likes to watch your videos and realised the similarity between us and I'm now managing to get the help I need at a good time at a fairly young age of 15! (I'm just starting exams now so this diagnosis will be great in helping!!) You are honestly such a great person and I will forever be thankful to you!
Thank you! This is what I've found - after I got over the shock of finding out I was autistic - I wouldn't change. I love being autistic... the problems are worth it. God bless you, Olivia.
I am a fan, Olivia! You have helped me process and recognize my own autistic traits. I also watch your videos to reassure me that I am not crazy and do have autism when the world seems alien to me. Note: I am undiagnosed because no doctor takes me seriously because I mask too well.
@4:35 I've been out hoeing 24/7 LOL GREAT VIDEO! THANKS. OLIVIA! I love those things about me too! And I love my confidence, enthusiasm, purity, morality and loyalty. Oh and to recognize bs in society AND call it out!
You have a way of putting things into words that I’m sure a lot of people have had on their minds, and it’s a huge relief to hear someone say it out loud, so thank you :)
Thanks so much! It’s been good, but super duper busy. I redid my backyard for Easter in just two weeks and it’s a very, very large yard. Turned out great! Was busy with my coaching and autism public speaking too. Now that Easter is over, things should calm down a bit. Thanks for asking :) hope you had a great Easter!
I love this positive approach!! So many videos about the struggles- which is important to talk a lot of course but it’s nice to see what you love about being on the spectrum! Love you and all you do! Have a wonderful day everyone! 🖤
@@OliviaHops Hello Oliva. Let me give you a history of my diagnoses I was originally diagnosed with ADD at age 8(no not ADHD as I definitely didn't have the hyperactive aspect but still had learning difficulty at school) It wasn't that I could not concentrate if any thing I had very good concentration but how I learn was different from the other kids I was better learning 1 on 1 rather than a classroom setting. Then I was diagnosed with high-functioning autism at age 9 Which made more sense I didn't have attention defect but I had a different way of learning from most people, I wanted to learn as much as everybody else but unfortunately school is more geared to how neurotypicals think.
Fine being alone - the other extra benefit, because we do masking to look neurotypical in public - its a relief not having to mask, and you get to be yourself. And you can enjoy your differences rather than be on alert.
Trait #2 haha yep 😂😅 same here 😅 Apparently since I was little I was like this, and I went undiagnosed until last year. Like when I was four I turned to a lady beside us in line at the store, and I just said, "Wow, you're fatter than my mom," with the most straight and serious face. And my parents were going to say don't say that, but the pregnant lady was nice enough to say, "Yes sweetie, I am bigger than your mom." 😬😅 Oh and another favorite for me is long-term memory. I remember everything that's ever happened to me since I was two 😅 And lastly, I don't always like being dramatic, but because I'm super emotional and dramatic I am one heck of a writer, and now an English major in college 😂😂😅
When you can name every interchange on Interstate 69 by number, road name, and control cities between Indianapolis and Michigan but struggle getting people’s names strait.
Ha! That’s my husband to a T!! Just today, he called our 19 year old daughter by his sister’s name. This happens frequently. Sigh… And it’s odd that we also live in Indy, and I kid you not, we’re right off of I-69. No, I don’t remember the exit number. I’m not the one that’s autistic. ;)
Great job! It's Interesting how we can look directly at a camera and talk to people that way but not so much in person. Tips that helped me; first, is staying away from foods with MSG. second, a little apple cider vinegar in ice water helps the constipation. Bragg brand has a citrus-ginger flavor that helps the taste., vitamins and mineral suppliments.
Hyperfocus.... Best ability ever Honesty and overshare.... gets me in trouble But honesty is a good thing Imagination is good at work I actually like people. Hearing keeps me safe on city streets while I'm on my bicycle I don't always hear the words but the sounds. Same about memory
The excellent hearing. My most loved and most hated part of me (and for many of the same reasons). It's great for hunting, but sirens are the bane of my existence
I love my long term memory and fact memorizing skills. I’m really great at trivia and I’m my friends’ and family’s own personal IMDb. I also love my honesty.
i used to touch every light that i saw even if i knew they might be really hot, i used to cry at every hand dryer and occasionally have to leave the cinema when the noise got to loud, i would refuse to go places where there was to many people or if it was too loud, i have anxiety and what i do now is go to the washrooms to calmdown. ive got misophonia (just small noises like chewing and nail picking), im not diagnosed with asd, my mom doesnt want me to get tested. i always used to freak out when i had to talk to teachers, i still really dislike speaking to people as i cant keepeye contact and i just feel extremely akward, one time i was called to the office and no joke asked to go to the bathroom 12 times because i couldnt stand looking at them in the eyes and it just got to overwhelming. i constantly pertended to be sick to avoid school and social gatherings like parties at the school gym. when i was about 10 or 11 my mom accidently left a glass on the stove so it exploded and i ran to my moms bedroom and couldnt calm down for a very long time I only have 1 close friend and i find it very hard to make them im very quiet, during lockdown it got so bad i couldnt leave the house and i would panick everytime i would have to even go in a small corner store can anyone relate to any of these things and please tell me if they are sings of asd
Definitely signs of asd. I also cry when noises are too loud, or I hold in my tears and just have a lump in my throat. I recently found the most magical device...noise cancelling headphones!!!! Try to get some, they will help lots. Good luck with everything.
@@maiamaiapapaya what sort of noises bother you may i ask? because most of the time im alright but its those weird time when the mall gets to loud XD or when an unexpected sound comes on while im already stressed out makes it way worse
@@frxstedflakes6298 as a kid I used to freak out at things like the sound of the vacuum, loud toilets at the mall, and fireworks. Nowadays I've noticed that I become very tired & frustrated if I'm near a road and hear the wooshing of cars going by all day. I cannot sleep if I hear people talking or even music in the distance, so I sleep with a fan. Sometimes the high pitched hum of the lights and the sound of clocks ticking bothers me. I actually bought noise canceling earbuds so that I could sleep with them if I need it. They were expensive, like $250, but sooo worth it
@@maiamaiapapaya sounds like me when I was younger too! For me when its busy and there are way to many loud sounds from people or anything it makes me get pretty anxious, I especially hate the white noises such as when people use multiple hand dryers in the toilets and in my school there is this classroom with this machine that makes this fuzzy white noise and I find that I can't concentrate on anything anymore
I think of most things in "matter of fact" terms. Not good or bad mostly curious looking for patterns. I feel like I live a life in my head that runs in tandem with real life. There I can debate my ideas without judgment about pace or considerations. I hate explaining my motivation. I think the difference between my fantasies and (most) others is that mine are in the realm of attainable by me. I am very "tomboyish" for an old broad. I am mechanically inclined and until recently I did all the repair work on my cars. Not afraid to get my hands dirty. It's been a good trait to carry me through the lean times of my sporadic feast or famine work history. I call myself an urban artist type. For most of my working life I did as variety of creative work in sort of the industrial side where the artisan often gets dirty so I've been able to get away with unfashonable utilitrian clothes. There is sort of a word of mouth network of people mostly men who gravitate to the lifestyle.. I have a long memory too. I'm sure my mother was autistic and my brothers were as well. My brothers were especially problematic. OMG, those poor men. Mom was taking it from all sides. She would just sit and go into her head. I wonder when they used to think autism happened due to "frigid mother syndrome" it was due to a spectrum mother just holding it together trying to fix the unfixable in an unkind world. Then there's the part where I share too much... thanks for understanding.
10:51 yess!! I have INSANELY good hearing too!!! And my parents would always accuse me of eavesdropping and I'd say, "You guys are just really loud!" But then they'd say, "You were in your room on the other side of the house with the door closed." Their door is usually closed too, but I can somehow hear through walls? 🤷🏽♀️
@@Catlily5 Exactly! It wasn't until I was diagnosed with Autism that they realized my ears were just really hypersensitive. I also wake up in the middle of the night hearing my neighbors talking in their houses. And I swear I'm not trying to eavesdrop, they just seem so loud. But apparently I'm just hypersensitive 🤔 definitely not normal, but hey, who said we had to be? 🔥
@@Catlily5 Agreed. I love myself, but it's difficult being myself sometimes, because I can't control what I do. My thought process and impulses are quite absurd at times, and for the longest time, even I didn't understand why I did the things I did, or thought the way I do 🤔
I relate so much with you 🎉! Bless you! Out of big number of autistic TH-camrs I feel and see myself in you 😂. Thanks so much for your contents. Daniela from Chile ( South América)
My Autism is a lot like yours and I'm a bloke from the other side of the pond..!.. I am focused on the good stuff as it is an incredible mind.. I have achieved so many things in life thanks to Autism... Focused!.. Lol..
Thank you for this! I wouldn’t trade my autism for anything. I just with neurotypicals we’re more educated on the subject. Love your channel. You mentioned constipation in a previous video…. I never knew that was part of autism. I went 22 days without taking a crap once. Lol
Hi! I’m Dutch, so I don’t know if this (English) word is used in English as well.. My number 1 autistic trade is my hands-on mentality. Never knew it has something to do with autism, but I’m on a forum now for autistic women and that’s a trade a lot of us have. When I need to do something, I do it immediately! That’s a nice trade to have as well. 😊
I'm a huge tomboy too, always have been, was super into Thomas the tank engine and all things trains as a kid, loved playing out and been an engineer for the past 19 years working with all men, don't worry about how I have to look for work is a huge bonus.
I agree with liking all of this, except oversharing. I HATE that I overshare. It's like - Them: "How are you?" Me: "Well not great because I just dropped my hot dog on the ground and missed the bus so I had to wait another hour to get home, but that's okay because I don't have to be at work today because I'm attending my uncle's funeral later. How are you??"
It's tiresome that people won't stop questioning if my son (and thus me) have autism. He never had ados so I get to waste time getting another eval that says he doesn't have autism but lots if traits. This is what happened to me and my son has more social skills than I do.
*Hyperfocus✔️ *Honest (open and may overshare at times.. doesn't embarrass easily)✔️ *Imagination 🤷♀️ *Alone time (allows one to recharge..quieten the noise) ✔️ *Heightened hearing ✔️ *Tomboy (I don't like dressy clothing or being put in a situation that requires me to get fancified )✔️ *Memory✔️
I relate very much to all this except for the tomboy part, ever since I was a child I have loved and been obsessed with all things girly! but it was always very different from the way my peers were girly. it was never about being trendy, I definitely was never trendy - on the contrary, hyperfeminine vintage fashion is a special interest and my peers thought I was very weird in my thrifted 50s dresses and ribbons and red lipstick 😂
I tend to not get embarrassed, but then get worried that I SHOULD be embarrassed. Only because I don't necessarily want gossip to go around work. If I didn't work there anymore, it wouldn't bother me if people talked about how weird I am. I have done some bold things in the past (brutally burning bridges with people by suddenly leaving Facebook, only telling those who were closest to me that I was planning to close my account). This made a few people angry, and they acted like we weren't friends anymore. I couldn't quite understand why we couldn't still be friends and act friendly just because we aren't Facebook friends. Did I want 360 people private messaging me after making a public announcement about closing my account? Not really. I didn't think that I could handle the overflow of messages, or even entertain the idea of even 50 people wanting to exchange numbers with me, and having to stay in touch with them all. As much as I care about people, it often seems impossible to keep up with them. I can't give them what they need, and so sadly, I try not to become close friends with people so that I don't end up hurting their feelings once they find out that I don't like talking on the phone, or texting for more than half an hour.
Hey Nicolo, in the end, there really isn’t a difference. The difference usually lies with how the traits present themselves in males verses females. But as always, every autistic person is different so some makes can present their traits the way females usually do and vise versa.
@@OliviaHops Thank You for the answer; i have a female friend with autism and we both have an INTP-T personality type( she Is an artist while i study psycology but as you said it's more a matter of expression). I really appreciate your work( and your healthy smile), an hug from Italy( and Happy Easter, i know it's passed but Just in case; PS Sorry for my bad english)
I can remember almost every route which I've ever walked or driven and will find the way ...but phone numbers are kind of difficult; think an NT person can usually store 7 digits.
Yep , absolutely same here in everything. Wonder why I ve always connected with boys better and actually more well than the normal type of girls growing up. Now Ive started to appreciate some women a bit more but still hmm 🤔 😂 and I am over 40 years old. Just to say I got into trouble especially with friends boyfriends all the time and girls too who thought probably i was some sort of bitch or a boyfriend stealer as I had really good connection with the opposite sex without and honestly looking for a boyfriend at all. Yes Olivia , fair enough it is a spectrum! and don’t forget the upbringing part with family members . To me, Being autistic has only been a trouble with my parents and was verbally and physically abused for not fitting into the family or because I couldn’t follow the rules . Later in life after a big burn out and a a big trauma I found out I was on a spectrum . I wished I had known before about me especially because I was depressed carrying the burden not being loved and bullied by my parents most of my life and failed to be successful because they hated me and I wanted to please them so it hurt a lot . It happens a lot in people in the autistic spectrum especially my age as parents where very uptight back then. Also throughout early teenage and adulthood this caused me to have some personality disorders again because of my upbringing but this applies to neurotypical people too but more in autism as we are sensitive . This was kind of a gift too to be able to fit everywhere and with everyone as but a curse as it was draining and some time could loose my own sense if I didn’t take enough time for myself to recharge . But autistic or not, child abuse is not sitting well with me and even as an adult they always tried to break me down . Seeing a shrink now about that . That has affected more my life than being autistic for sure and even now. Working on it … Working on loving myself again after other abuse and again my parents . Blessings 💙 I am so happy for you Olivia . You are a light in the community Love ❤️
I also like to be alone but, I also have no need for a boyfriend at all. I just don't need or want that kind of relationship or the troubles that can come with them.
Hello from Indonesia. We need sum advise. How can we help with my niece's autistic constipation and very selective food choice? Many many thanks. Been to doctors, we have yet to succeed in dealing with the prob.
I truly feel that my daughter is autistic, however, teachers don't see anything "wrong." Any suggestions on how or where to start with finding if she is in the spectrum?
Most likely the problem is that schools aren't really educated on autistic women and more so autistic men as autistic men's traits are more obvious than females, females tend to mask, the issue would be solved if autistic females were understood more and received their diagnosis as kids like their male counterparts
Do u have a Facebook page case I would love talking to you about this I might can help u figure out something u don't know case my mom was a autistic teacher but the school she worked at called it the paws class
Olivia smiles a lot. I’m still baffled how anyone can have autism and not know that anything is wrong. The severely impacted, like I am, also like how we are. I wouldn’t change it if I could. What do you mean “nobody ever talks about it?” We talk about it all the time. I’m still kinda perplexed that you have diagnosis of autism and did not know until you were in your twenties. Know what, you do what you want. I cannot watch these type videos anymore. They just upset me. Are you sure your MD gave you the proper diagnosis? Really. To so keen with autism, you seem terribly normal.
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I feel like hyper focus only works on my interests for me, is it the same for you? Or do you have hyper focus in general ?
Hyperfocus is super power, I always get the best grades in my class because my brain is able to hyperfocus on anything I do. I am still socially a mess but hyperfocus is cool
I have somewhat mild autism or I can mask really good. But the best thing is my math skills and weird somewhat eidetic memory. I can get As on a college level without learning and ranked 384th nation wide in my age on a weird math test (population of 8 Million). I know one guy who is better than me at math in a school of 1500 students that are already top 10% in terms of education. If I find something interesting I can remeber it for a few years after hearing it only once. I get really good grades after barely paying attention and watching 20-30 mins of yt explanations. I never forget important appointments and never loose things. Even when I‘m fucked up drunk that I can hardly walk (stopped drinking now as I drank to cope) I never lost anything and got home safe. Without the social difficulties I‘d consider it a superpower. The only problem is if I don‘t find a subject interesting it‘s practically impossible to learn. Without making a checklist or having a task to do I just stare at my screen or paper and waste hours sometimes.
I love my hyperfocus too.
A super power indeed😊
Frl I think the hyper focus makes us have a higher IQ tbh . I succeed in almost everything I try to do, and my brain is very good at observation and picking up patterns.
As a neurotypical, the honesty attribute is my favorite.
Thanks for this list, Olivia! It's refreshing to hear positive aspects associated with autism, as opposed to the negative ones. I'm proud of my huge imagination, which I gain from spending time alone, and my long term memory.
Oh girl I don't get embarrassed about ANYTHING. I love that part of myself too!
I think this is a great idea for a video! I related the most to the incredible hearing. Most recently, my dad was having 'dishwasher' problems that caused puddles around the dishwasher every few days. He tried everything to fix it and was about to buy a new dishwasher, until I finally went over and it took me about 15 seconds to find the source of the leak by hearing a teeny tiny hissing sound coming from the smallest hole in a hose behind the fridge. He replaced the hose for eight dollars and no more puddles or leaks haha!
Ayeee I love woodworking too! But I love the finish side of it. Learning every type of finish, and weirdly enough (but not that weird if you think about it), it translates to hyperfocusing on nail polish too
I struggle with being happy on the spectrum. I have a fear of rejection because of the way some people have treated me for being introverted and quiet.
My favorite is my love for learning, combined with what feels like a huge amount of storage space for information in my head.
Like last year, it started to bother me that I know very little geography. Within a couple of weeks, I knew all of the countries, capitals, major cities, and many of the landmark features of the world.
I know all of that information now, for no other reason than I wanted to learn it. 💜
Yay! Thank you so much for this! I love being me, and as I age I am learning to see every ‘flaw’ is actually an exciting positive. I am 43 and am unlearning a lot of institutional thinking that was common in my upbringing. My husband delights in my idiosyncrasies and that helps so much. We play together all sorts of silly games daily and it’s wonderful. The freedom to be yourself is magical. Your video has cheered me no end, thanks!
This is the goal!! Your partnership sounds so supportive ❤
I just wanted to leave a comment to say how much you have helped me! I just got diagnosed 3 days ago and prior to that, action was taken because of you! My dad likes to watch your videos and realised the similarity between us and I'm now managing to get the help I need at a good time at a fairly young age of 15! (I'm just starting exams now so this diagnosis will be great in helping!!) You are honestly such a great person and I will forever be thankful to you!
Good luck!
I am autistic and I am very honest and I have a huge imagination as well. My creativity is a plus of my autism. I love writing stories so much.
I am not autistic. but I absolutely love your videos!! ❤️❤️❤️.
Aw thanks so much, Katie! I really appreciate that! 💙🥰
Thank you! This is what I've found - after I got over the shock of finding out I was autistic - I wouldn't change. I love being autistic... the problems are worth it. God bless you, Olivia.
I over share to people I've just met, and I'm brutally honest to people, especially when I'm not happy or don't like something.
I am a fan, Olivia! You have helped me process and recognize my own autistic traits. I also watch your videos to reassure me that I am not crazy and do have autism when the world seems alien to me. Note: I am undiagnosed because no doctor takes me seriously because I mask too well.
Your videos are a blessing to me Olivia! 🤍🕊
@4:35 I've been out hoeing 24/7 LOL GREAT VIDEO! THANKS. OLIVIA!
I love those things about me too! And I love my confidence, enthusiasm, purity, morality and loyalty. Oh and to recognize bs in society AND call it out!
You have a way of putting things into words that I’m sure a lot of people have had on their minds, and it’s a huge relief to hear someone say it out loud, so thank you :)
Glad to see you again Olivia, how's life been treating ya?
Thanks so much! It’s been good, but super duper busy. I redid my backyard for Easter in just two weeks and it’s a very, very large yard. Turned out great! Was busy with my coaching and autism public speaking too. Now that Easter is over, things should calm down a bit. Thanks for asking :) hope you had a great Easter!
Your videos are very helpful and you’re amazing! Keep doing what you’re doing. Also love your hair in this video 💕
Aw thank you so much, Jenny! That means so much to me! Hope you had a great Easter! 💙
I love this positive approach!! So many videos about the struggles- which is important to talk a lot of course but it’s nice to see what you love about being on the spectrum! Love you and all you do! Have a wonderful day everyone! 🖤
Thanks, Sarah! I totally agree. We must talk about the struggles but it’s nice to switch it up every once in a while, too!
@@OliviaHops
Hello Oliva.
Let me give you a history of my diagnoses
I was originally diagnosed with ADD at age 8(no not ADHD as I definitely didn't have the hyperactive aspect but still had learning difficulty at school)
It wasn't that I could not concentrate if any thing I had very good concentration but how I learn was different from the other kids
I was better learning 1 on 1 rather than a classroom setting.
Then I was diagnosed with high-functioning autism at age 9
Which made more sense I didn't have attention defect but I had a different way of learning from most people,
I wanted to learn as much as everybody else but unfortunately school is more geared to how neurotypicals think.
Fine being alone - the other extra benefit, because we do masking to look neurotypical in public - its a relief not having to mask, and you get to be yourself. And you can enjoy your differences rather than be on alert.
I feel all the 7 traits very strong in me!!! Thanks!!! I got diagnosed at 28 ,after my 10 y/o boy got diagnosed.......
Congrats on your diagnosis, Anna!
I'm having an identity crisis because of my diagnosis. I really needed that one video now. Thank you!❤
Trait #2 haha yep 😂😅 same here 😅 Apparently since I was little I was like this, and I went undiagnosed until last year. Like when I was four I turned to a lady beside us in line at the store, and I just said, "Wow, you're fatter than my mom," with the most straight and serious face. And my parents were going to say don't say that, but the pregnant lady was nice enough to say, "Yes sweetie, I am bigger than your mom." 😬😅
Oh and another favorite for me is long-term memory. I remember everything that's ever happened to me since I was two 😅
And lastly, I don't always like being dramatic, but because I'm super emotional and dramatic I am one heck of a writer, and now an English major in college 😂😂😅
Profound thanks to you for sharing yourself and experiences. You're really helping others to feel validated and supported. 😍
When you can name every interchange on Interstate 69 by number, road name, and control cities between Indianapolis and Michigan but struggle getting people’s names strait.
Ha! That’s my husband to a T!! Just today, he called our 19 year old daughter by his sister’s name. This happens frequently. Sigh…
And it’s odd that we also live in Indy, and I kid you not, we’re right off of I-69. No, I don’t remember the exit number. I’m not the one that’s autistic. ;)
@@rrmother3748 Fort Wayne for me.
I remember the names of cats better than the names of humans.
Let's get her to 40k subs by the end of the month, everyone! 😇🥳
Aww thanks so much, Nat!! You’re so sweet! 💙
Great job! It's Interesting how we can look directly at a camera and talk to people that way but not so much in person.
Tips that helped me; first, is staying away from foods with MSG. second, a little apple cider vinegar in ice water helps the constipation. Bragg brand has a citrus-ginger flavor that helps the taste., vitamins and mineral suppliments.
Love your positive attitude!
Aw thanks so much, Jeanne!
I share all of those. Plus I have a supersense of smell which I enjoy.
Autism is a gift, not a curse.
Your vids are stupendous, keep going 🤩
Hyperfocus.... Best ability ever
Honesty and overshare.... gets me in trouble
But honesty is a good thing
Imagination is good at work
I actually like people.
Hearing keeps me safe on city streets while I'm on my bicycle
I don't always hear the words but the sounds.
Same about memory
The excellent hearing. My most loved and most hated part of me (and for many of the same reasons). It's great for hunting, but sirens are the bane of my existence
Olivia, I love a lot of your videos. Keep up the great work. 😋
I love my long term memory and fact memorizing skills. I’m really great at trivia and I’m my friends’ and family’s own personal IMDb. I also love my honesty.
Omg you’re stunning with blonde hair and a side part 💖✨
Thank you so much for all your inspirational information. You are awesome!
I was diagnosed at 23 & I am now 29, I can relate to ur channel x
I love this all!!! My girl is all of this❤️
I have shared these with my mother and it has helped explain so much of what I go through. thank you so much!
i used to touch every light that i saw even if i knew they might be really hot, i used to cry at every hand dryer and occasionally have to leave the cinema when the noise got to loud, i would refuse to go places where there was to many people or if it was too loud, i have anxiety and what i do now is go to the washrooms to calmdown. ive got misophonia (just small noises like chewing and nail picking), im not diagnosed with asd, my mom doesnt want me to get tested. i always used to freak out when i had to talk to teachers, i still really dislike speaking to people as i cant keepeye contact and i just feel extremely akward, one time i was called to the office and no joke asked to go to the bathroom 12 times because i couldnt stand looking at them in the eyes and it just got to overwhelming. i constantly pertended to be sick to avoid school and social gatherings like parties at the school gym.
when i was about 10 or 11 my mom accidently left a glass on the stove so it exploded and i ran to my moms bedroom and couldnt calm down for a very long time
I only have 1 close friend and i find it very hard to make them im very quiet, during lockdown it got so bad i couldnt leave the house and i would panick everytime i would have to even go in a small corner store
can anyone relate to any of these things and please tell me if they are sings of asd
Definitely signs of asd. I also cry when noises are too loud, or I hold in my tears and just have a lump in my throat. I recently found the most magical device...noise cancelling headphones!!!! Try to get some, they will help lots. Good luck with everything.
@@maiamaiapapaya thank you so much!! Sometimes i use my normal headphones but noise cancelling would be so much better haha XD
@@maiamaiapapaya what sort of noises bother you may i ask? because most of the time im alright but its those weird time when the mall gets to loud XD or when an unexpected sound comes on while im already stressed out makes it way worse
@@frxstedflakes6298 as a kid I used to freak out at things like the sound of the vacuum, loud toilets at the mall, and fireworks. Nowadays I've noticed that I become very tired & frustrated if I'm near a road and hear the wooshing of cars going by all day. I cannot sleep if I hear people talking or even music in the distance, so I sleep with a fan. Sometimes the high pitched hum of the lights and the sound of clocks ticking bothers me. I actually bought noise canceling earbuds so that I could sleep with them if I need it. They were expensive, like $250, but sooo worth it
@@maiamaiapapaya sounds like me when I was younger too! For me when its busy and there are way to many loud sounds from people or anything it makes me get pretty anxious, I especially hate the white noises such as when people use multiple hand dryers in the toilets and in my school there is this classroom with this machine that makes this fuzzy white noise and I find that I can't concentrate on anything anymore
Love this! Being neurodivergent is awesome!
The imagination one is a key trait!
You are a ray of sunshine, keep up the good work 🎉
I think of most things in "matter of fact" terms. Not good or bad mostly curious looking for patterns. I feel like I live a life in my head that runs in tandem with real life. There I can debate my ideas without judgment about pace or considerations. I hate explaining my motivation. I think the difference between my fantasies and (most) others is that mine are in the realm of attainable by me. I am very "tomboyish" for an old broad. I am mechanically inclined and until recently I did all the repair work on my cars.
Not afraid to get my hands dirty. It's been a good trait to carry me through the lean times of my sporadic feast or famine work history. I call myself an urban artist type. For most of my working life I did as variety of creative work in sort of the industrial side where the artisan often gets dirty so I've been able to get away with unfashonable utilitrian clothes. There is sort of a word of mouth network of people mostly men who gravitate to the lifestyle..
I have a long memory too.
I'm sure my mother was autistic and my brothers were as well. My brothers were especially problematic. OMG, those poor men. Mom was taking it from all sides. She would just sit and go into her head. I wonder when they used to think autism happened due to "frigid mother syndrome" it was due to a spectrum mother just holding it together trying to fix the unfixable in an unkind world.
Then there's the part where I share too much... thanks for understanding.
10:51 yess!! I have INSANELY good hearing too!!! And my parents would always accuse me of eavesdropping and I'd say, "You guys are just really loud!" But then they'd say, "You were in your room on the other side of the house with the door closed." Their door is usually closed too, but I can somehow hear through walls? 🤷🏽♀️
People accused me of eavesdropping but I wasn't trying to eavesdrop. I just have very good hearing.
@@Catlily5 Exactly! It wasn't until I was diagnosed with Autism that they realized my ears were just really hypersensitive. I also wake up in the middle of the night hearing my neighbors talking in their houses. And I swear I'm not trying to eavesdrop, they just seem so loud. But apparently I'm just hypersensitive 🤔 definitely not normal, but hey, who said we had to be? 🔥
@@lethalprincess2087 I don't want to be normal anyway. I like being different but it can be difficult sometimes.
@@Catlily5 Agreed. I love myself, but it's difficult being myself sometimes, because I can't control what I do. My thought process and impulses are quite absurd at times, and for the longest time, even I didn't understand why I did the things I did, or thought the way I do 🤔
Thank you so much for the video ☺️
I relate so much with you 🎉! Bless you! Out of big number of autistic TH-camrs I feel and see myself in you 😂. Thanks so much for your contents. Daniela from Chile ( South América)
Fascinating!! I saw myself: love to be alone, difficulty showing empathy...im 77!
Thank you Olivia for talking so positively about you. I would love to hear about more gifts from being on the spectrum❤
My husband has all of these traits and I freakin love all those things about him
My Autism is a lot like yours and I'm a bloke from the other side of the pond..!..
I am focused on the good stuff as it is an incredible mind..
I have achieved so many things in life thanks to Autism... Focused!..
Lol..
It’s different where ever you live. Im Australian. We are more chill naturally than anyone else, l see.
I disagree if you’re in Melbourne. Melbourne Andrews zealots are the opposite..But I’m sure the rest of Australia is more chill :)
Thank you for this! I wouldn’t trade my autism for anything. I just with neurotypicals we’re more educated on the subject. Love your channel. You mentioned constipation in a previous video…. I never knew that was part of autism. I went 22 days without taking a crap once. Lol
Hi! I’m Dutch, so I don’t know if this (English) word is used in English as well.. My number 1 autistic trade is my hands-on mentality. Never knew it has something to do with autism, but I’m on a forum now for autistic women and that’s a trade a lot of us have. When I need to do something, I do it immediately! That’s a nice trade to have as well. 😊
I'm a huge tomboy too, always have been, was super into Thomas the tank engine and all things trains as a kid, loved playing out and been an engineer for the past 19 years working with all men, don't worry about how I have to look for work is a huge bonus.
Great video Olivia :)
I really dig my super sonic hearing and long term memory as well.
I have adhd and there are some overlap, but for me it's mostly just bad xD
X2 lol
Oh and I do have a good long-term memory.
I agree with liking all of this, except oversharing. I HATE that I overshare. It's like - Them: "How are you?" Me: "Well not great because I just dropped my hot dog on the ground and missed the bus so I had to wait another hour to get home, but that's okay because I don't have to be at work today because I'm attending my uncle's funeral later. How are you??"
I have a detailed long term memory too, my parents joke that I remember being born 😂😂😂
It's tiresome that people won't stop questioning if my son (and thus me) have autism. He never had ados so I get to waste time getting another eval that says he doesn't have autism but lots if traits. This is what happened to me and my son has more social skills than I do.
*Hyperfocus✔️
*Honest (open and may overshare at times..
doesn't embarrass easily)✔️
*Imagination 🤷♀️
*Alone time (allows one to recharge..quieten the noise) ✔️
*Heightened hearing ✔️
*Tomboy (I don't like dressy clothing or being put in a situation that requires me to get fancified )✔️
*Memory✔️
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I also have a terrible short term memory! And get long term memory.
I relate very much to all this except for the tomboy part, ever since I was a child I have loved and been obsessed with all things girly! but it was always very different from the way my peers were girly. it was never about being trendy, I definitely was never trendy - on the contrary, hyperfeminine vintage fashion is a special interest and my peers thought I was very weird in my thrifted 50s dresses and ribbons and red lipstick 😂
I tend to not get embarrassed, but then get worried that I SHOULD be embarrassed. Only because I don't necessarily want gossip to go around work. If I didn't work there anymore, it wouldn't bother me if people talked about how weird I am. I have done some bold things in the past (brutally burning bridges with people by suddenly leaving Facebook, only telling those who were closest to me that I was planning to close my account). This made a few people angry, and they acted like we weren't friends anymore. I couldn't quite understand why we couldn't still be friends and act friendly just because we aren't Facebook friends. Did I want 360 people private messaging me after making a public announcement about closing my account? Not really. I didn't think that I could handle the overflow of messages, or even entertain the idea of even 50 people wanting to exchange numbers with me, and having to stay in touch with them all. As much as I care about people, it often seems impossible to keep up with them. I can't give them what they need, and so sadly, I try not to become close friends with people so that I don't end up hurting their feelings once they find out that I don't like talking on the phone, or texting for more than half an hour.
Thank you
Pretty hair style.
Thank you so much for this Video!🙏...waiiit, it is also an autistic trait being a tomboy?! One more thing, makes me autistic. I hava a lot.
So in the end what is the real difference between male and female autism(i ask this as a male autistic with all these traits)?
Hey Nicolo, in the end, there really isn’t a difference. The difference usually lies with how the traits present themselves in males verses females. But as always, every autistic person is different so some makes can present their traits the way females usually do and vise versa.
@@OliviaHops Thank You for the answer; i have a female friend with autism and we both have an INTP-T personality type( she Is an artist while i study psycology but as you said it's more a matter of expression). I really appreciate your work( and your healthy smile), an hug from Italy( and Happy Easter, i know it's passed but Just in case; PS Sorry for my bad english)
I can remember almost every route which I've ever walked or driven and will find the way
...but phone numbers are kind of difficult; think an NT person can usually store 7 digits.
Yep , absolutely same here in everything.
Wonder why I ve always connected with boys better and actually more well than the normal type of girls growing up. Now Ive started to appreciate some women a bit more but still hmm 🤔 😂 and I am over 40 years old. Just to say I got into trouble especially with friends boyfriends all the time and girls too who thought probably i was some sort of bitch or a boyfriend stealer as I had really good connection with the opposite sex without and honestly looking for a boyfriend at all.
Yes Olivia , fair enough it is a spectrum! and don’t forget the upbringing part with family members . To me, Being autistic has only been a trouble with my parents and was verbally and physically abused for not fitting into the family or because I couldn’t follow the rules . Later in life after a big burn out and a a big trauma I found out I was on a spectrum . I wished I had known before about me especially because I was depressed carrying the burden not being loved and bullied by my parents most of my life and failed to be successful because they hated me and I wanted to please them so it hurt a lot .
It happens a lot in people in the autistic spectrum especially my age as parents where very uptight back then. Also throughout early teenage and adulthood this caused me to have some personality disorders again because of my upbringing but this applies to neurotypical people too but more in autism as we are sensitive . This was kind of a gift too to be able to fit everywhere and with everyone as but a curse as it was draining and some time could loose my own sense if I didn’t take enough time for myself to recharge .
But autistic or not, child abuse is not sitting well with me and even as an adult they always tried to break me down . Seeing a shrink now about that . That has affected more my life than being autistic for sure and even now. Working on it …
Working on loving myself again after other abuse and again my parents .
Blessings 💙 I am so happy for you Olivia . You are a light in the community
Love ❤️
You are welcome 😊 🙏
You are THE Righteousness of God in Christ Jesus
I also like to be alone but, I also have no need for a boyfriend at all. I just don't need or want that kind of relationship or the troubles that can come with them.
Hello from Indonesia. We need sum advise. How can we help with my niece's autistic constipation and very selective food choice? Many many thanks. Been to doctors, we have yet to succeed in dealing with the prob.
I truly feel that my daughter is autistic, however, teachers don't see anything "wrong." Any suggestions on how or where to start with finding if she is in the spectrum?
If she is under 18 then the first move would be to bring it up to her pediatrician.
Most likely the problem is that schools aren't really educated on autistic women and more so autistic men as autistic men's traits are more obvious than females, females tend to mask, the issue would be solved if autistic females were understood more and received their diagnosis as kids like their male counterparts
Playing in the dirt is the best part of being a kid.
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Hyperfocus only works unfortunattely if you are really into something.
Remembering a terrible childhood vividly sucks.
Do u have a Facebook page case I would love talking to you about this I might can help u figure out something u don't know case my mom was a autistic teacher but the school she worked at called it the paws class
I hear everything except the person talking to me 😹
Aren't these AuDHD traits?
They can have similarities.
((nods))
Olivia smiles a lot.
I’m still baffled how anyone can have autism and not know that anything is wrong.
The severely impacted, like I am, also like how we are. I wouldn’t change it if I could.
What do you mean “nobody ever talks about it?” We talk about it all the time.
I’m still kinda perplexed that you have diagnosis of autism and did not know until you were in your twenties.
Know what, you do what you want.
I cannot watch these type videos anymore. They just upset me.
Are you sure your MD gave you the proper diagnosis? Really. To so keen with autism, you seem terribly normal.