Do you have Declutter Blindness?

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  • @ClutterbugPod
    @ClutterbugPod  ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Thank you @TheMinimalMom for joining me on the Podcast! We are uploading new and old episodes twice a week until we're caught up. Make sure to hit the Subscribe button so you don't miss them!

    • @marym346
      @marym346 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Didn't you just agree with Matt Paxton about the story-telling when decluttering?

    • @findingaway5512
      @findingaway5512 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ​@@marym346 this was a podcast they posted in November. She is doing the video on it now. I think they both different useful strategies. And I think Matt Paxton was bringing up a different view on it when working with people who are very attached to their stuff. In this it sounded like she was talking about items that were heading towards a no before they started telling a story to talk them self out of getting rid of it. Like they really didn't even like the item kind of a situation.

    • @kacyandlaura
      @kacyandlaura ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Cass, I started watching you like 6 years ago! I remember watching your organizing videos and downloading these black and white floral labels from your website. You have come so far! (And so have I, actually.)

    • @marionbeaumont1521
      @marionbeaumont1521 ปีที่แล้ว

      18:34

  • @donnautley1254
    @donnautley1254 ปีที่แล้ว +208

    I’m a senior who will be downsizing in the next few years. The question I ask myself as I look at each item is : “ Will I really want to MOVE this to a small condo? “. This strategy works beautifully. Will you girls please do some videos for seniors like myself. I think there is a HUGE market for that. Love you both! Thanks for all your help.

    • @wallflower5182
      @wallflower5182 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I have thought about this portion of life, too. I have heard someone talk about 'reverse decluttering', that is, knowing what you MUST take with you (such as a table, chairs, a few kitchen items, your most important pieces of clothes, recliner, side table....), so then the stuff that is not on that list will be the first to declutter before your move. If you can, have others come and pick up items for you if possible, especially if your health doesn't allow you to do it yourself. Make this as easy as you can. Good luck!

    • @donnautley1254
      @donnautley1254 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Sounds like a good strategy!

    • @artsylady3187
      @artsylady3187 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@wallflower5182 i used to think this way also....I was doing DEATH CLEANING as they call it....getting rid of stuff due to worry about my son having to deal with it....but NOW I have changed my mind because so many things I MISSED....now I have re bought all the stuff I had gotten rid of....LOL....and now I am happier and I don't care about what happens to any of it after I die....I am putting ME first now.....I am not saying HOARDING ....I definitely don't hoard... but I am glad to have things again....things that make me smile...

    • @wallflower5182
      @wallflower5182 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@artsylady3187 That's nice that you can reincorporate missing items again. Hopefully when I have gotten rid of all I intend to, I will not have gotten rid of items I cherished as well. For me, it is a balance of what do I need or should have to keep me happy verses what can I get rid of so that it all doesn't weigh so heavily on my mind, or items I would have to maintain all the time (cleaning/dusting/polish, finding room for..., etc). I find I am happier with less. And with having less, it allows me time to pursue other interests I might not have had time for otherwise.

    • @marylut6077
      @marylut6077 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@artsylady3187your original mindset was a bit off, should have been What do I need for my best life now?

  • @jansmith2658
    @jansmith2658 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Definitely the more you declutter the less you buy. I shop and enjoy looking but have no need to buy.

    • @91splamy
      @91splamy ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Also the more you declutter the more you recognise you can say goodbye to. I’ve been going through my house so I can move overseas and it’s been a month and each time I’m going through again I find so much again. There’s a few things I know I wasn’t ready to give up the first time but by the time I was going through it for the 4th time I felt ready.

    • @mkathrynblacker5960
      @mkathrynblacker5960 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Unfortunately, that is not true for my daughter. She has an addiction, literally, to shopping. Declutters regularly, though.. sometimes getting rid of things she JUST bought! 🤦

    • @bleakaf
      @bleakaf ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Absolutely, I look at things now and appreciate them, but then think 'how simple would it be to get rid of this if I needed to?' and that stops a lot of purchases, because I want to help look after the planet if possible. And also looking at things more like when you visit a museum: it's nice but you don't have to take it home!

  • @reneemoore3658
    @reneemoore3658 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    I got sick in 2021 and went through treatments in 2022. I have finally got most of my energy back. I decided that I would rather go through all of my stuff and get rid of the things that don't fit my body or in my life anymore, rather than leave it for my family to sort through later. I view that as taking as much off of them as I can because I Love Them!

    • @lyndi9082
      @lyndi9082 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Thinking the same my friend 🙂

    • @donnav
      @donnav ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Me too 😊. This is my main motivation

    • @jennifertiffany363
      @jennifertiffany363 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      My mom passed away from cancer. She took care of sick parents and in-laws and had to go through two houses full of stuff after they passed. She vowed to never leave that much stuff for my sister and me. It’s such a dark topic but I’m telling you, it was a gift. It was the hardest time of my life losing her and not having that huge burden on top of the grief was just a gift.

    • @LilCraftyNook
      @LilCraftyNook ปีที่แล้ว +5

      My mom did that. She was already a minimalist but a few months before she passed, she pared down to just the few things she wanted my brother and me to have. Even then I didn’t take everything.

    • @LilCraftyNook
      @LilCraftyNook ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jennifertiffany363Yes. So sorry for your loss.😢❤

  • @dianamcmahon51510
    @dianamcmahon51510 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    So I work as a nanny to a pretty well off family (big house, lots of stuff), and because of both of your channels, I spent 3-4hrs helping them declutter and reorganize their home. In just that short amount of time, we got rid of SIX full garbage bags worth of stuff. My decluttering journey has helped jump-start my employer's decluttering journey!

    • @debbiecreter2005
      @debbiecreter2005 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Maybe you should consider your own business of decluttering and organizing!

  • @lubnan08
    @lubnan08 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Minimalism saved my life really. Having less stuff is so freeing but it is hard at first to let go. After you let go at first, then it becomes easier.

  • @outlawonadventure
    @outlawonadventure ปีที่แล้ว +52

    You two ladies and Dana K White totally changed my world! I spent decades buried in clutter never realizing how overstimulating and distracting it was! I only wish I found you all when my kids were still at home. Over the past year I have decluttered the living space of my home to a manageable level and only have closet in guest bedroom and our third bedroom to declutter. It was hard letting go of things at first, thinking of all that money wasted, but like Cas said, it makes you think more about purchases moving forward.
    To satisfy my impulse shopping I use my wish list on Amazon and add items to that instead of shopping cart, then after I study it for a while, if I still want it I buy it later after I’ve had time to think on it. That satisfies the thrill of finding new things without the buyers regret!

    • @michaelstec5489
      @michaelstec5489 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good ideas!

    • @abebatesfaslasia9304
      @abebatesfaslasia9304 ปีที่แล้ว

      I need help

    • @Landon.220
      @Landon.220 ปีที่แล้ว

      11:54

    • @clairebyrne9247
      @clairebyrne9247 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      When you start De cluttering, it definitely becomes addictive, your house feels like a new home,,,but it takes a long time,

  • @סיוןמסלר
    @סיוןמסלר ปีที่แล้ว +73

    My gosh, Dwan, you are so right about adhd!!! My son is 7 years old and has adhd. Since I decluttered our home, he is calmer, he finds things to do, it's easier for him to focus, I have more time to play card games and board games with him, he plays with his 3 year old sister much more. My anxiety is so much better! I love binge watching your channel and now started with Clutter bug as well. Thank you so much for being such an inspiration!!!

  • @clairedaines508
    @clairedaines508 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I'm currently helping an elderly friend declutter, and I do take the time to listen to the stories attached to every item. They have the most amazing stories from a lifetime of experiences, and it makes them feel seen and respected, which makes it easier for them to decide what they want to keep etc. Sure, it makes the job take a bit longer, but that's fine, I enjoy spending the extra time with them. If I hurried things along, it would only cause extra stress and resentment. This is something they chose to do, there's no danger of eviction or anything.

    • @Jessica_Jones
      @Jessica_Jones ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Bless you for taking the time to care and to listen. I have many older relatives (with wonderful stories and wisdom as well!) and that warms my heart to hear. Thank you 🥰

    • @cs4887
      @cs4887 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Cass has a different video with someone (TV personality, don't know his name) who helps hoarders.
      In that video he talks about the importance of telling the stories. And he says it actually helps hoarders get rid of more things

    • @marylut6077
      @marylut6077 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Got to know Dad via his stories about his possessions as he prepped for assisted living. If it had a story, it went with him

    • @gretaeder5996
      @gretaeder5996 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@cs4887yeah, it depends on the person. Sometimes stories create fake sentiment and make an item more meaningful than it actually is and we doubt our decluttering gut. But also, grief demands a witness. Telling stories and reminiscing can help you move on. It all depends on the context and why the person is telling a story. Is it a silly thing to justify keeping it or a genuine anecdote to work through emotions? I’ve done both and need to recognize which one I’m doing in the moment

    • @pricklypetal
      @pricklypetal ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@cs4887Matt Paxton

  • @marvellousmrsmoller
    @marvellousmrsmoller ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The story is part of the grieving process. It lets me say goodbye to the item if I have re-membered it. Maybe I wouldn't be able to do that if someone was spending time to help me declutter, but I can do it when I am alone, and when I have done that story telling I can let it go properly, not regretfully.

  • @bellaluce7088
    @bellaluce7088 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    It helps me to snap a "before" pic and search it rather than the room for easy "No" items. Somehow that little bit of distance helps!🤓Also: Taking photos of gifts & sentimental items I don't actually use so I can keep the reminder of good feelings without the actual object. It really is the thought that counts! : - ) Thinking about how a donated item will benefit someone who'll actually use it.❤

  • @macybradach9919
    @macybradach9919 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I’ve recently started taking photos of the spaces I need to declutter because of Declutter Blindness. Looking at the photos shows me how bad it’s gotten and why I am completely decluttering my house as I type.

    • @pricklypetal
      @pricklypetal ปีที่แล้ว

      Photos leave me SHOOK 🙀

  • @DFBurgermeister
    @DFBurgermeister ปีที่แล้ว +62

    I had to do several decluttering passes in order to get to the point that I felt I had done enough. However, I still have a weekly decluttering task on my ‘to do’ list and I still find stuff that can leave my house. I’m a Minimal Mom fan. I never miss a video and often go back and rewatch some. Cas, love your robe and it was you that helped me figure out why the organizing systems I had didn’t really work for me. Thank you!

    • @lyndi9082
      @lyndi9082 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thank God for YT and these awesome ladies!!

  • @lessarey
    @lessarey ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I’m listening and I’m crying. My therapist has been trying to tell me the same thing about people. Declutter the toxic people, even if they’re family. Yes it’s hard, but if it’s better for you and your health, it’s worth it. It’s not easy, but you’ll feel better in the long run. I have a difficult time decluttering the things from childhood that have good memories attached to them. Like things from my step-dad, my grandparents. My time in Girl Scouts. Those things that gave a safe place or feeling.

    • @polystaircasesniffs2610
      @polystaircasesniffs2610 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ❤️❤️

    • @bellaluce7088
      @bellaluce7088 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hang in there.❤ It really does get better. I've found Patrick Teahan's channel to be a wonderful resource for healing from toxic family relationships. Meghan Trainor's song Bad for Me is validating too. < : - ) So many of us who grew up in toxic families internalized the lie we are inherently flawed, but there really is light on the other side. 🌞💞Good for you for doing the work to feel better. You deserve it! ❤

    • @lessarey
      @lessarey ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I found Patrick a few weeks ago! And yes, the healing is great. Finally the feeling of validation and being believed.

    • @heatherbosshardtmusic
      @heatherbosshardtmusic ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love Patrick’s channel!!

    • @bellaluce7088
      @bellaluce7088 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lessareyValidation and being believed are powerful!! I'm glad you're getting that. ❤

  • @amandasfreshstart534
    @amandasfreshstart534 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    You guys SERIOUSLY MOTIVATE ME, SO MUCH!!!!!!!!! 💛 You make me feel like I CAN PERSONALLY DO THIS!!!!!!! (I also think that you both make an AMAZING TEAM!!!! 🙂)

  • @kellywhite9157
    @kellywhite9157 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I’ve got ADHD and have been decluttering thanks to Dawn, Cass and Dana. It has been transformative and I’m so thankful. I’m trying to teach the same to my children now who are very similar to me😊

  • @jff3490
    @jff3490 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I lost the keys to my shed. After 5 years, I finally got around to getting the lock opened. I’m now decluttering everything. If I haven’t used it in 5 years, I don’t need it.

  • @scar12monty
    @scar12monty ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You guys are rockstars!! What I love about you guys is that you know what we go through. It's talking 5 years to declutter since my husband died. I'm so glad you guys are here.

  • @ellenjonasson94
    @ellenjonasson94 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I'm so jealous of anyone that gets to call Dawn their friend. She is a top tier human.

    • @NovasYouTubeName
      @NovasYouTubeName 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yaaasss! Or Cas! I want to interview to be their friends

  • @shellemcaddis8874
    @shellemcaddis8874 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    When I declutter it's actually very helpful to tell the story of each thing. Giving voice to my sentimental items is validating and helps me to emotionally let go.

  • @luthergirl106
    @luthergirl106 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    Two of my favorite ladies!!! Love you both!! 💞💞

  • @wallflower5182
    @wallflower5182 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I so agree with you about when you help others declutter - all you do is hold a bag/box etc and they make all the decisions. But the fact that you're standing there helping out with morale or keeping a focused direction, is priceless to those you are helping. Case in point - this past weekend my husband, who has adult ADHD, was at a loss about what to do with his cram packed clothes closet. He asked for help, and I said sure. He pulled all the clothes out to the livingroom, and we went through each piece. I asked him questions I have heard you and Dawn talk about. My questions for each piece were "Do you like this or enjoy wearing this? Does it fit? Is it worn out?" We were able to get rid of many items when we weren't concerned about the price we paid initially, or the fact the shirt didn't match any of his suits or pants. We also went through all his ties using the same criteria. To go further, we designated about half his clothes to the basement as seasonal, so that he could change out for heavier wear when the season turned cold again. But all this helped make much more room in his closet, and he is overjoyed with the result. Now, with fewer choices to make when pulling out clothes, he can easily target an outfit to wear. You and Dawn have been a tremendous help to us.

  • @TheGenflute
    @TheGenflute ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ooo, ooo! At like 27:00 not only was I not taught to declutter, my Mom (who had mental illness) didn't involve me in decisions and would randomly throw stuff out, so I felt more out of control. I think, in a way, the stuff was soothing and became a symbol of soothing or love or just--even if it was a hair brush, it was more constant than my unpredictable mother. Now at almost 50, I've finally freed myself of most of that baggage and have built up my decluttering muscles. I've felt safe. I value experiences over stuff. ❤

  • @emilypacheco2074
    @emilypacheco2074 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So true with ADHD and the clutter! I’m a teacher and this year my summer project was to declutter the whole house. I decluttered for years but could never get rid of enough clutter. Finally cleared out the rooms and thoughtfully put the important parts first. It has helped tremendously.

  • @andromedastar1
    @andromedastar1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You both have dramatically changed my life. I’m just getting started with decluttering and then organizing what’s important in each area and when it is finished is such a joy to me. I love cooking more. I feel more free I feel more creative. It’s truly remarkable what you guys do and thank you so much. I love your happiness and your cheerful laughter. My big problem is my fiancé. He wants to keep everything and we had to combine two households so I’m working on him slowly, but surely to let things go.

  • @lifestylehomestead
    @lifestylehomestead ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I go back and listen to Dawn often and especially when I need declutter inspiration. I love how she gets into the psychology and let's you understand what the outcome can be and look like.

  • @Heather.C.ButterflySage
    @Heather.C.ButterflySage ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Dawn is such a cheerleader 📣! Encouraging, inspiring, cheerful 😄! Silly, funny, and human.

  • @lauriereber8939
    @lauriereber8939 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Dawn was speaking about contentment and consumerism, and I have an inspirational saying pinned to my board that says, "Contentment flies away when conparison comes in to play." This saying always keeps me focused on what really matters. This was a great interview and thank you both for the hard work you did to bring it to us.

  • @ehart2422
    @ehart2422 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Decluttering reminds me of quitting smoking many years ago. I thought “What will I have left? What will I do with my time if I’m not smoking?” It was my first insight into my mindset. The smoking was 1. An addiction that made me feel better in the moment but was hurting me in the long run (like clutter), and 2. It was a distraction from feeling things I didn’t want to feel because it kept my head too full to think. Acquiring things to keep up with the Jones’s , for the most part, wasn’t the issue. It was

    • @ehart2422
      @ehart2422 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      (Cont.) really about past pain I wasn’t ready to deal with. Many years later I can see my clutter is the same. It’s freeing me to really let go. Advice and insight like yours has helped immensely too.

  • @elissa7470
    @elissa7470 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Im decluttering, been for 3 years. Been trying to get my husband to also, and he has got rid of alot. But the other day he got sad, and said " i dont know who i am anymore, i got rid of so many things" Did not know what to say other than- "you r not your things" 😢

    • @JaneH3675
      @JaneH3675 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That is sad. I didn't involve my husband when I began decluttering. I worked on my stuff and general areas like the kitchen. He eventually let go of some things on his own but still has a lot. But he's a good organizer, his spaces are not messy. I don't nag him to get rid of anything. It's true we are not our things, but what we have reflects personality. I hope your husband finds his way to deal with decluttering.

    • @CS-tk1ni
      @CS-tk1ni 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I grew up in the 60s and 70s. One thing that is true about men in my generation, they identify with their job, career, accomplishments, and things - especially cars. It seems like this was part of their status among other men. We didn't have the distractions of cell phones and internet - so I can't speak for the younger generation. God bless

  • @babygirllovespink
    @babygirllovespink ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I went really overboard with our Easter hunt last year, but with decluttering so much the past year I only bought a chocolate bunny, pack of plastic eggs, and a pack of Reese eggs to fill the plastic ones and a little painting thing from the dollar store. My kids had a blast, it was faster and easier for me. Loved it 😊 😊😊😊

  • @susanmunoz7688
    @susanmunoz7688 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Isn’t this so much fun hearing two of our favorite friends talking about how we can be free of clutter and at peace? Thank you both and God Bless you for all your help.❤️🤗♥️

  • @melindafalls1227
    @melindafalls1227 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dawn said one word a long time ago that brought me into the light. That word was INVENTORY. I was like wait... what? and I watched it again 🤯she blew my mind. My mind immediately went to ( inventory = work ). I was sold on minimalism from that point on. My 3 favorite declutter gurus are Dawn, Cass and Dana.

  • @dhall1421
    @dhall1421 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Cass, I have a lot of earrings so I bought an earring micro-organizer but found i always had earring strewn across my dresser! In one of your videos you talked about this very issue. I got a beautiful little glass bowl at a thrift shop and put it in my dresser. now I just toss them in the bowl and my dresser looks great!

  • @janethunt4037
    @janethunt4037 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I've actually found that in clearing the clutter, I figure out what I really want instead.

  • @mariannedavis9136
    @mariannedavis9136 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cas, I love your cozy blue robe. I enjoy watching you and Dawn. When I was decluttering one day, I found The Minimal Mom on you tube. Very helpful ideas, thanks to both of you.

  • @tarski7420
    @tarski7420 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This was so helpful, thank you to both of you! I definitely have clutter blindness- overwhelmed and shut down when I see a big pile. Also that point you said about when you had a lot of stuff you tended to buy more stuff,…and now that you have less you want to buy less. I LOVE that

  • @misst2474
    @misst2474 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I think the key to your success is to keep the client focussed and to drive the process forward! Very difficult to stop yourself from going down the guilt, just in case, memories rabbit hole when trying to declutter on your own. Also, Cas, thanks for the tip that non-fitting clothes are toxic - that helped me to bin about 75% of my wardrobe! Love you, Dawn and Dana - keep up the good work, ladies!

  • @jennygebicki4130
    @jennygebicki4130 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So good, love you Dawn and Cas. I think those empty containers in my hallway can go tomorrow 👍😃😃😃

  • @kakylong2
    @kakylong2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have been on the minimalist journey about 2 yrs & my family knows it. They used to load me down with all their unwanted items, but not anymore. Now, my Mom has started going through their house, so us kids won't have to do it after they're gone. Thank you, Dawn, Cas & and Joshua, for inspiring me, which in turn has inspired my family. 😊

  • @jessicakoppers1121
    @jessicakoppers1121 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Two of my fav people! 😍 really needed to hear this!! Declutter blindness definitely gets me, I feel like all I do is declutter yet so much is still around me!! Thank you for the advice ❤

  • @lildebleigh84
    @lildebleigh84 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Some of my favorite ppl in the world in one podcast/video! Oh yay! 🎉 I’ll be listening to this more than once!

  • @mc5366
    @mc5366 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Yay!! so happy to see Cass and Dawn together! Terrific motivation 🤩

  • @kacyandlaura
    @kacyandlaura ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I agree Cass! Dawn is inspiring, relatable, not intimidating… she has a special gift.

  • @PuzS
    @PuzS ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I love this one! So good! Thank you! I will relisten many times. Thank you again for putting this new channel together. It’s awesome!

  • @karenrich9092
    @karenrich9092 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have had some serious health issues over the past couple of years, but this year, I managed to stay out of the hospital, so I'm planning to declutter as much as I can. I have several sets of china from my family. When I find them, I plan to get boxes to store them properly. Then, before I do that, I will set out a place setting with the serving pieces on a nice tablecloth and take a picture of them. That does 2 things: the picture preserves the memory, and it also allows the items to be sold online. Taking pictures of things allows you to "keep" the things without actually keeping them.
    Thank you for your videos. Sometimes, I have to watch them repeatedly to get the job done.

  • @zinnajohnst
    @zinnajohnst ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love you both!!! I started decluttering this week and my family is on board!!! I'm so excited

  • @SF-ru3lp
    @SF-ru3lp ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I'm reminded that Andrew Mellen said that clutter comes from deferred decisions. Therefore Cass's prompt to pick up each item and ask the question as to whether I need/like every item one at a time is very spot on. We need to revisit all our unmade decisions. G Ire

    • @findingaway5512
      @findingaway5512 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I like what he says about sentimental items. That just because someone in your family owned it doesn't make it a sentimental item to you personally. He was speaking about a grandma's teacup she used everyday having more value then some other items in her house that she probably didn't like anyway because the tea cup reminds you of your grandma. He also said if everything is sentimental nothing is . I am paraphrasing. It was from a talk he did and is on TH-cam somewhere.

  • @sarahouser3100
    @sarahouser3100 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Are you being cozy in a bathrobe or are you sick today? Great chat with Dawn, you two are my favorites.

  • @KSLassie457
    @KSLassie457 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have always called it “selective sight”. We tend to see things differently than most people. And being surrounded by our possessions actually bring us feelings of security.
    I have found it helpful not to ask myself what do I want to get rid of (if it’s a useful item, I can easily find a reason to keep it), but what do I want to keep. And I follow up by asking questions like “Have I missed it; Do I use it; etc ...” I am slowly making progress now. The hardest part is figuring out what to do with it. There are a limited number of places nearby that we can donate to. 😢
    You ladies are the best! And the TYHB group has been so helpful for me and many others. Thanks Dawn, Cas, & Diane 😊

    • @limonade2684
      @limonade2684 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can see the clutter of my partner clearly 😉

  • @jaytee-gl9ft
    @jaytee-gl9ft ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I'm feeling convicted that I need to help my pre teen daughter declutter her room even more as a piece to help battle the anxiety she struggles with

    • @BayRaeDay
      @BayRaeDay ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes! Make an afternoon of it and use it as some bonding time. Let her make a music playlist, grab a treat drink, and get to work. I’ll be doing the same before we give her room a big girl makeover. 🥹

    • @jamlittlefield
      @jamlittlefield ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I get this… just be gentle and put things in bins in a storage area if she has anxiety letting go.

    • @Jennifer-nz2ss
      @Jennifer-nz2ss ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hi I also have a daughter who has anxiety and I taught her to declutter and organize her things when freaking out!!❤ it has helped her out a lot and she now realizes it was a good thing! She's 30yrs now!!

  • @nicholejones8002
    @nicholejones8002 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cass makes me cry all the time lately! She is so loving and genuine. “You did this!”

  • @melanieoconnell6390
    @melanieoconnell6390 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh my goodness this is such a gift of a video !! Thanks ladies !!!!!! Cass thanks for doing this in your robe and thanks to you and Dawn for all your encouragement !!!! God bless you both much !!!!!!! 15 minutes a day i CAN DO! Lord help me do it !

  • @Vivienne130
    @Vivienne130 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Great !!!! … You ladies rock !!! … this episode is worth listening to , over and over again !!!

  • @kathleenj1158
    @kathleenj1158 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Both you & Dawn reeeally inspire me. I appreciate you both. ☺️❤

  • @joditripp7003
    @joditripp7003 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dawn, no matter what you are talking about on your TH-cam channel i always get some golden nuggets that i have used to transform my life!

  • @gwenj5419
    @gwenj5419 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just got rid of something that was supposed to solve a specific problem. I bought it and tried it for a while but it didn't really work for me. It stayed around getting in the way until I decided it needed to go. Everything I buy really needs to be on trial to see if it's a keeper.

  • @lucystrider728
    @lucystrider728 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    One of the valuable things you have given me is the idea of giving myself permission to get rid of things that I spent money on and then change my shopping habits and accumulating habits so in the future I don't reclutter and I start saving all the money I used to spend! Like Jesus said, go forth and sin no more. It helps end the guilt trip stumbling block. I can do more valuable things with my time than shuffle stuff.

  • @tamarawyrick6569
    @tamarawyrick6569 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I could listen to both of you everyday. Now, mind you I do enjoy listening way more than getting up and doing. (Oops) lol
    I just recently told both my daughters 18 and 22, DO NOT KEEP any of my stuff when I’m gone IF you truly do not want it. Don’t keep anything of my moms either just because it meant something to me and/or my mom. I collect elephants and I told them, you don’t want them then don’t keep them. (I know, I probably don’t even need them anymore but that’s for a different day. 😂
    I adore you both and I HAVE DONE SOME THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE BECAUSE OF BOTH OF YOU!!
    THANK YOU!!!

  • @makboehringer2748
    @makboehringer2748 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You two are my absolute favorite! I love that you can make content together!

  • @thepioneerhomestead
    @thepioneerhomestead ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It’s such a great idea to video your house too. Then look back or have someone else look at it and give constructive criticism.🏡💗
    Thank you both!🥰

    • @bellaluce7088
      @bellaluce7088 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This has helped me! (Photos, not video.) Somehow it creates that little bit of distance for me to see things more clearly.

  • @rhondagood2408
    @rhondagood2408 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hey Ladies! I want to let you know that, “I GET IT!” Finally! I’m 66 yrs old and I just thought being organized and neat was not my forte! I had too much “STUFF!” Thank yall so much!
    Also that faith based show will be great! We need to declutter our minds also! Send that garbage that tries to creep in our minds, “OUT!”💃🏽

  • @belindan4974
    @belindan4974 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You ladies are the absolute best. Thank you both for all you bring us. You really do change so many lives, personally speaking. 🤗🏡

  • @lcnessie15
    @lcnessie15 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    You and Dawn are so great to listen to together! 👌👌🥳🥳Hope to see more of this! 🎉🎉

  • @ForgetTheHouse
    @ForgetTheHouse ปีที่แล้ว +2

    From my experience, having someone that doesn’t live in the home with you and who has more of an “outsider looking in” perspective of the clutter, it holds you accountable and it makes it harder to go through all of those mental gymnastics of keeping it or not. I totally get how her going to other people’s homes and literally holding their clutter in front of them causes them to realize “wow I really don’t need this.” 💕

  • @XOJOjenio
    @XOJOjenio ปีที่แล้ว

    🎉🎉🎉🎉
    Congrats on 55K!!!!!
    🎉🎉🎉🎉
    I’m getting ready for Autumn 🍂 by baking some yummy breads & desserts this weekend!!! In New Orleans we don’t get much cool weather until later in the Winter. So I can’t pull out the fun Fall wardrobe yet. But, I can have Cocoa & S’mores!!!

  • @pamelalinthompson
    @pamelalinthompson ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Aww!! Two of my favorites together in one podcast!!🎉❤🎉

  • @sherryhennigan5945
    @sherryhennigan5945 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for helping us with this journey.

  • @rinamax
    @rinamax ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My two favorite ladies on youtube together! Their videos (and Dana's), literally saved me! I finished their course for decluttering and it was life changing

  • @amylynn9034
    @amylynn9034 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You and Dawn are my favs! Both of you are so inspiring and calming. I'm working at decluttering my home. The mental breakup with stuff is hard, but I'm letting go. Thanks for your great information!

  • @lorettacrooms4398
    @lorettacrooms4398 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is such good information! Sooooo helpful. 🥰😊🤩

  • @lynnshepard7485
    @lynnshepard7485 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m working through “Decluttering By Faith” right now! I’m learning about my emotions and relationship to stuff and grounding myself. I’m enjoying the book so much that I bought a copy for my daughter, too. She’s already a master declutter-er but she’s thrilled to get the book. Me…I definitely have Declutter Blindness!

  • @toocooltobeold
    @toocooltobeold ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I probably watched half of the video before I realized you are wearing your bath robe. 😂 Work goals!!

  • @hollyday4628
    @hollyday4628 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    First thought...I love Dawn's laugh. These are the two decluttering experts that resonate with me. I am decluttering my house to do a major remodel (all flooring, painting interior, gut and replace kitchen and two baths). We basically have to move out. I have 3 months to get almost everything out. We are selling and donating some furniture so it is just gone when we remodel. We have been in this house for 25 years and raised 2 kids here. Thankfully we have a vacation home that hubby, 2 dogs, 1 cat and youngest child (college aged) will be at all summer. I will be back and forth between the two houses - working remote a lot. To add to this, we have lots of stuff from in-laws' house we sold last year. I feel a bit overwhelmed but Cas and Dawn defiintely help me stay focused and motivated. Excited for the "new" house though 🙂

  • @christinemossop9659
    @christinemossop9659 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank to all three off you have helped me to start declutter my house this year and you have given me confidence to get rid of more than i thought by the yes no practice on things. A BIG THANK YOU.

  • @julietannOsfan1972
    @julietannOsfan1972 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This was great.
    I personally could never have anyone decluttering with me. I much prefer to do things on my own & I would hate someone telling me what to get rid of.
    I also can’t go clothes shopping with anyone, as I only like bright colours & hate drab ones like black & brown etc.
    A few years ago a lady I know took me shopping for some new clothes & kept criticising me when I chose red & yellow etc. I felt so stressed by the end of it. Never again.

    • @Ellaodi
      @Ellaodi ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Well the idea is for you to make those choices, you get to decide if you wanna keep a macaroni necklace or fine China. Up to you.

    • @ruthmgonigle5914
      @ruthmgonigle5914 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry that happened to you 😮

  • @gifttanz
    @gifttanz ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is my first minimalist birthday and I managed to convince all my family not to buy me any stuff, I am getting money from some and my mum bought me a year of my medical appointments in advance :D

    • @pricklypetal
      @pricklypetal ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Your mother giving you continued health for your birthday is very poignant. Blessings to you!

  • @Jessica_Jones
    @Jessica_Jones ปีที่แล้ว +5

    As an extremely sentimental person, when it comes to decluttering special keepsakes, it has often helped me to share at least a part of a given story to sort of tip the scale toward giving something away. I suppose it gives space to verbally process and be grateful for the story it tells from my life, and then I move on. My mom and I have gone through quite a few declutter sessions and especially when we both share fond memories about something, it's strange but it helps us to share the moment one last time and then say goodbye :)

    • @juliab8992
      @juliab8992 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's a great point! Most of my high school treasures (I'm almost 40 now...) were kept as a reminder of fond memories, but I guess always with the thought that I would "show off" my treasures in the future, to a child or partner. Maybe in a way, it's showing them who I was before I knew them.
      I hadn't really realized THIS was the reason, but as I downsized my keepsakes into a single tote last fall, sharing stories with my son (16), I was just thinking today, "gosh, it's a shame I packed all that in there so well, I really feel like I could get rid of half of it now... I wonder if that's just the 'minimalism' kicking in" but now, I think it's your reason!! 😁🥰

    • @Jessica_Jones
      @Jessica_Jones ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@juliab8992 that's so great! It may even be a combination; I have remembered and avoided various items I have that I've thought, "Oh I'll never be able to part with that..." and have realized later as I've built up those decluttering muscles, my association of memories with the things has really shifted. Some of those very same things I felt so attached to, I now wonder why I felt that way. It's a great feeling, isn't it?! 😃

  • @mariahwilson6505
    @mariahwilson6505 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much ladies❤I’ve been listening to you both for years now but this conversation really rebooted my mindset - set me on another round of decluttering - stuff I’ve held onto for 30 years is gone!!!

  • @juliedavidson5596
    @juliedavidson5596 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Two of my favs! Love you both. Thanks for all you do! ❤

  • @natashaauton2029
    @natashaauton2029 ปีที่แล้ว

    My two favourite girls!
    The two of you have helped me and countless people. Thank you!

  • @findingaway5512
    @findingaway5512 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You ladies always make videos worth watching. ❤ Don't need to ever stress. Love ya both. Thanks for all the wisdom and inspiration ladies! Always a great blessing to me.

  • @emotionalstability
    @emotionalstability ปีที่แล้ว

    All the talk of guilt, shame, and obligation resonated with me. ❤️ Thank you SO much for both of your thoughts! ☺️

  • @k3ri
    @k3ri ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg have been watching for last couple of weeks, today I took up 7 75litre bags to the vets for the animals, was blankets and big throw cushions, took 3 bags out to trash the other day.... I'll keep binge watching til I'm done! Ty from New Zealand ❤

  • @ellenherman9543
    @ellenherman9543 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like the word manage...that is true..all these people are spending so much time on managing there amounts of stuff!!

  • @amberrawlings3636
    @amberrawlings3636 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Cass and Dawn for being so transparent in your life and with your clutter struggles. I personally love to organize lol but I’m learning through you Cass that there are so many different types of organization and I’m learning so much more about myself and style. Dawn I never imagined myself to even think about being a minimalist lol but some words you said have really resonated with me. Do I have the “bandwidth”? WOW! What a way to think!! NO I don’t! Thanks again ladies! So much more I could say lol. Can’t wait to see where my journey goes through thoughts I’ve never thought about in ways I’ve never thought of.

  • @username9999
    @username9999 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like the phrase "quarantine" for items. I hadn't heard of this but I tried it with some kitchen items. I put them in a box in my closet to see if u could live without them. After a few months, I donated them.

  • @limonade2684
    @limonade2684 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I decluttered my clothes three times. Now I have 23 t-shirts, that fit and that I like. Ten of them are dark. Now it gets difficult. I dont need so many shirts. Should I discard a shirt, that fits and that I like? Same with underware.
    I am smart and well educated and realized through you, that decluttering has nothing to do with intelligence. Your advices sound so simple and they are so tough. Decluttering is a mental and emotional process, merely a physical.

  • @cathymalone3697
    @cathymalone3697 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i am starting the decluttering process and baby steps. My problem is that I just started working in retail and loving it. I see great deals everyday and sometimes it is a problem just leaving the stuff in the store. My other issue is that it is my job to push credit as I am trying to get out of credit card debt.

  • @Angebaby1237
    @Angebaby1237 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think you have to know that your presence also plays a role!!like Dawn said just having someone there. Helps a ton!!❤

  • @trulylivinggood
    @trulylivinggood ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Two of my favorite you tubers

  • @rozannah8073
    @rozannah8073 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for the podcast. I think for me I was 14 years old and saw my aunt’s closet. Her closet made an impression on me and decided I want a closet like hers. Today it’s hard for me to let go of clothes and decor. I did alot of decluttering, need to do more.

  • @conniesoares157
    @conniesoares157 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great video Cass and Dawn!
    Loved this!

  • @thewovenknotcrochetthehand4721
    @thewovenknotcrochetthehand4721 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So true, after decluttering a lot of stuff my tendency to buy things on impulse has radically decreased…as if the object that caught my eye is more a source of future annoyance than a thing to want 😂😂

  • @donnatrobaugh1676
    @donnatrobaugh1676 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Absolutely, a storage container is: quarantined items you don't need. the time never comes. You absolutely don't need it even if it's got value. (What I find when talking to my friend- she thinks everything could be sold but doesn't realize the negative emotional impact of keeping it)

  • @valerieshy8749
    @valerieshy8749 ปีที่แล้ว

    You two are so amazing! Several key comments from each of you resonated w/ me and I will be sharing this video with others who could learn from your ideas and messages. Thank you both!

  • @Stumpybear7640
    @Stumpybear7640 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dawn is so relatable and so nice! She admits to her shortcomings and helps us find a way to live a less stressed life. 💖 her x

  • @Wendy-WackyWomanCreations
    @Wendy-WackyWomanCreations ปีที่แล้ว

    Love the conversation when you guys get together (and Dana)

  • @littlesusiehomemaker1718
    @littlesusiehomemaker1718 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    😀😃😄😁❤♥️💯I love you two ladies! I just can't tell you how motivational and awesome you both are!!!!!!!

  • @carriemainquist757
    @carriemainquist757 ปีที่แล้ว

    You two are just phenomenal. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.