As a mother of three boys, my oldest is 17. I'm glad me and his father taught him from a young age how people and this world is. My oldest is so unbothered by typical teenage drama a lot of his friends can't relate to him because he's so mature for his age. My boys aren't afraid to talk to either one of us about ANYTHING! We put trust and confidence in them early! We always got your back before ANYONE! As a parent that's all you could ever ask for. I'm so proud of all my boys for understanding trust us before anyone and never be afraid to confide in us even if you feel it's a teenage/ child issues.
@@raebell3538 How were you able to instill and navigate that with 3 boys?? Kudos to you forreal, I have a little girl and there are so many values I want to instill in her just have no idea how to navigate that correctly as she grows up
@@tiaramartin5657 I lost both my parents by the time I was 14. Their dad grew up very early due to absentee parents. We both have just been straight up with them about life. We pay attention to them so much they don't even realize it. It's like the saying "been there done that" we'll realize they may be going through something even when they think we're not noticing. Pay attention to your child/ children. You know them better than anyone & you're the one that's going to always have they back no matter what. They just have to understand that and trust that. Make sure they always feel secured with love.
Agreed I went through the same thing with my young daughter.. Crying over a kid for months that she only knew for a little over a month. She was never alone with him so I know nothing happened but it exhausted me. I had to tell her to toughen up while still showing compassion. It was so hard especially with growing up in a different time because I was never able to show that vulnerability with my own parents so it was new for me
I don’t think it was the fact that she was crying but I think it was the fact that she was crying in front of the girl who seems to be kind of manipulating her in a way
She wasn’t even aggressive . she’s frustrated because her daughter is crying over a girl that is disrespecting her daughter. Tammy is mad at the girlfriend for making her daughter cry. She on Charlie’s side. And she just wanted her to not cry over a girl. When there’s plenty of others girls in the world she can get. And this is the same way with A straight gurl dating a boy and a mom sees her crying. It’s the same thing. She just wants her to know that girl not worth crying over..or/boy.
Wow. Tammy sounded just like my mom when I was little. I was always too emotional or too sensitive, so I stopped coming to her. THANK GOD my grandmother allowed my sensitivity to show. I consider myself very emotionally independent and strong when I need to be but being vulnerable is where I struggle the most.
And you know what's the crazy thing ..tammy could have gotten it from her mom...and idky but when their daughters have children ..they are emotionally there compared to when they was there for their own ...its soo strange to me..I can't be what my child need for me to be because you wasn't like that with me and I get blamed as a emotionally unavailable mom because that's how it was growing up...its hard to break...but I will try my hardest to never ever be like with any of my children
this meto i love my grandma for that i mean she get tired at times but sh e help me understand life so im guided..when your mom pushes you off you dont really learn so it gets repeated in a cycle.
Same. I love my mom so much but when I came to her in the past she would change the subject or say things like “it could always be worse right?” When I called her on it she said she hates to see me hurt. So I just learned to stop coming to her. I never wanna do that to my son. It left me feeling like I had no one to go to.
My Grandma was like my bestfriend she never judged me I could come to her about anything no matter what it was and she took my emotions seriously but not my mom she took it as it's not serious or you can just forget it like it's that simple I would give anything to if I could get my Grandma back she meant so much to me
Same I experienced with my mom and that’s why we don’t connect till this day she never understood or embraced the fact that I was sensitive. She wanted me to be what she wanted me to be emotionally numb and unavailable like her smh
@@kikidomain8090 re read the question baby. Tammy has been seen being emotional all over TV about Waka. So why can't her daughter be allowed to do the same? Is it because it's a girl she crying over?
This type of parenting is what makes children easy prey. She can’t cry because you feel the issue is not worth it. Someone else will be an ear to listen and will be her go to person. Hopefully they have her best interest at heart.
NOBODY is worth the drainage of your energy. Charlie is young and beautiful and don’t need to be crying over boys and girls she won’t talk to three years from now
@@thaboot2944 exactly ! And on top of that she’s ha mother !!!!! Tf ! She’s already had to accept the fact that she’s gay at such a young age. She allowed for them to date and what not and what she’s not about to do is watch her own daughter break down emotionally over something that can affect her deeply in the long run. We all know that first heart break is NO JOKE.
@@thaboot2944 Tammy can cry because she's a grown woman who's married to a known cheat but her young daughter shouldn't cry because she's just "emotional"? Make it make sense dude 🙄
What’s sad is, these “tough love” parents don’t realize that these “sensitive kids” are here to help them heal. Continuing to force this hard exterior onto your children because of what you went through or how mean the world is does nothing but pass the trauma forward. We’re supposed to be healing ourselves and the generations to come, not repeating and enforcing negative patterns and mindsets, folks. “I don’t have time for that!” Wow! Pretty soon your daughter won’t have time for you.
This is why children don’t talk to their parents. She’s allowed to show emotions especially in a situation like this where she is trying to navigate throughout her sexuality and is experiencing confusion. Parents need to understand that just because this situation seems minor to you it can be major for your child and how you respond plays a part in their emotional development. Have some compassion and patience for your baby’s and be grateful that these are the types of problems she may be dealing with at the moment bc it could be worse.
Tammy got some nerve telling somebody not to cry over someone they love like she ain’t cry over Waka a million times when he cheated AND STAYED till this day 💀 Tammy needs to practice what she preaches.
I feel that Tammy has had a rough up bringing and was taught to dry her tears up and push it to the side. That's what has worked for her so she force's it on her daughter. My mom is more emotionally stronger than I am. She calls me sensitive all the time because I fluently show my emotions. Honestly that has confused me you tell me to be true to myself but when I show me im sensitive for it. It doesn't show that we're weak but just know this is how we felt or feel. Hopefully Tammy realizes that her and Charlie are two different people with two different emotions. Whether she knows it or not holding in emotions causes worse problems.
Agreed. Sadly, I'm pretty sure this is exactly how I am as a parent and I came to that realization some time back. Tammy will look back at this and handle future situations differently..hopefully
I agree! That’s how my mom is with me. I am now in my 30s and I have distanced myself from her. I love her and I know she is who she is. So I talk to my mom only 2x a week and see her every few months. Whenever she tried to support me I felt like she was attacking me and pressuring me to hide my feelings. Now, I feel at peace away from my family (different city state). I feel like myself, I can breathe and sit still. Talking to my mother here and there is enough. I love her and I accept her how she is. I am done arguing with her and trying to change her. I can only live my life and love her with a little distance.
@@cierramoten5179 amen to you for being able to not have an ego and realize what you we’re doing wrong and back up and go in the right direction! 🙏 I know your kid or kids saw that and have so much more(I can’t find the right word there’s so many so I’ll say this)love for you and I know this because my mom is this way instead of getting mad and yelling and now everyone’s in trouble she sits back takes some time to breathe and then realizes what she did wrong and changes it. That’s the best thing a child can see from their parent is that they care! So again amen to you for being a wonderful mother! Also sorry for the long paragraph 🙏🙏
If anyone watched lhhatl when mama dee Kk & her mother had that intervention for Tommie and her mom and it was revealed Tammy’s mom wasn’t there for her because of the drugs ... a repeated cycle
@@yuhhh. Tammy was definitely emotionless to Charlie in this clip. How is her daughter being sad about a new situation in her life stupid, but Tammy crying and running after Waka trying to understand his grown feelings not stupid? 🤔
@@manifestingme6504 wait what? First off I’m not calling Charlie’s feelings stupid I’m saying that her crying over some girl that won’t hear her out is stupid
@@manifestingme6504 I never said that Charlie’s feelings were stupid I just think it’s stupid to be crying over some girl especially if she doesn’t know what she wants
Tammy is raising Charlie (emotionally) the way my mother raised myself and my siblings. There was no room to cry or express yourself emotionally and we were told to “get over it” and “suck it up”. Fast forward 20+ years and I’m still unlearning that behavior. Emotions are meant to be expressed. It may be annoying for her but she needs to show Charlie some compassion and understanding.
That's not literally it. She's yelling at Charlie to stop crying....to shut off her emotions. That's how black girls are raised. You don't cry you don't feel you shut it off and you move on and then when you're older and you can't show emotions and communicate how you feel ....you're damaged etc etc when literally it coulda been prevented. She does not give af about her gf ....it'll pass. Ofc she's mad the girl is hurting her daughter. But She's mad she's crying. ......my mom does the same shit.
I don’t think people understand how it feels to not know your sexuality and then have the whole world basically force you to choose.. She wasn’t crying about the girl she was crying because she probably tired of being LABELED Like hello 🙄
I completely agree, she said it clear as day. She even ask the cousin to help her explain it. It's so sad how everyone is making it out to be a "teenage relationship" problem. When it's SO MUCH DEEPER for Charlie.
@@firstladygift.2431 the world pushes you into boxes and as you grow you sometimes have the mental fight of if you fit in that box or if you don’t and feel bad if you don’t.
This is unfortunately how a lot of us were raised and why a lot of us have issues with expressing our emotions now. We HAVE to break this behavior because it’s not okay. It is VERY okay to express yourself THAT is normal. Not expressing yourself isn’t normal it’s suppressing and causes issues well into your adult years. Prime example would be Tammy and her emotionless behavior.
She wasn’t even aggressive . she’s frustrated because her daughter is crying over a girl that is disrespecting her daughter. Tammy is mad at the girlfriend for making her daughter cry. Did you not see that? Or you just seeing what you wanna see..? She obviously on Charlie’s side. And she just wanted her to not cry over a girl. When there’s plenty of others girls in the world she can get. And this is the same way with A straight gurl dating a boy and a mom sees her crying. It’s the same thing.
@@Thelegendmia ok and there's still a better way to handle this situation. And her doing what she doing and not actually comforting her isn't gone help with future shit. This ain't going to be the only time she cries over some dumb asshole, so being hard on her now just because Charlie is hurting at the moment won't help in the future when some bs pops off again
Tammy done cried over Waka when he was on his bs, so she should understand and at least let her cry it out. Then be like ok now it's time to get it together because Charlie can do better than what she was dealing with
I did not see Tammy not once hug her and say it’s okay and politely tell her feelings. Instead she keeps saying “I don’t have time for that” it’s like she’s saying she doesn’t have time for Charlie and her personal problems. No one wants to see their child crying over someone that doesn’t love them even though they still love that horrible person but you just should be there to support them not walk away from them.
But how would u know how that girl feels because she doesn't want her girlfriend hoeing around and she upset about it like tf is she supposed to feel and her mother cosigned it
Tammy is just like my mother doesn't have the patience when me and my sister cry and it hurts sometimes. She was taught that crying isnt going to get you no where so get shit done and fix yourself. Its just sometimes its good to cry and let yourself out. So I see Tammy's side and Charlie's side. Hopefully, they worked this out!
@@Alygrantt see here’s where ppl like you go wrong. She never once said it was okay or anything. She simply related to the situation because she went through it herself so she understands. Everything in your comment she never said if made it seem like that at all. She simply said she understands both sides because she has gone through it. Not once did she say anything about it being okay just cause she went through it.
MY MOM IS JUST LIKE TAMMY! and now that i’m 21. I have NO problem letting someone go, not being mad at something someone does, not getting into much that’s supposed to hurt me. She’s literally shifting her into someone who will know how to handle their feelings quickly
Why is everybody telling her not to cry? They're basically saying her feelings don't matter. She's still a young lady for goodness sake! When Tammy be crying about Waka cheating...you know what nevermind. 😔
Tammy acts just like my mom and it’s disgusting. Girl allow your child to have emotions... like we didn’t watch you crying over Waka every damn season.
Tammy has been hurt a few times so she is scarred. She feels like showing emotion when you’re hurt is a weakness so she just doesn’t want her daughter to be “weak.” She thinks she’s protecting her daughter but she’s really hurting her only because she still doesn’t know how to handle her own emotions.
Cause he spoils her.. you can’t just be crying cause the chick your dating is being petty and pretending she don’t understand Charlie.. Tammy has to be the put your foot down parent other wise your child will run rapid and then your labeled as the parent that let the daughter do whatever she wants and then she’s a Spoiled little bitch that no one likes.. PICK YOUR PISON OTHERWISE LEAVE TAMMY ALONE AND HER PARENTING..
Cause he’s not her a real father. I mean, how harsh, stern and assertive can he be for a child that actually isn’t his? He loves her enough to support her decisions and besides I see nothing wrong with how Tammy did her and Charlie will appreciate it In the long run! Wtf are you crying over this girl who had another girl who you don’t even like on her live? She has no respect for you. Annnndddd that’s why I have issues with this lifestyle in children because the girl mad at Charlie for going out with a boy. If she wants to like boys too than what’s the issue? Bisexuality is a thing too!!! Stressing this girl out because she went on a date with a boy …knock it off
Tammy is mad at the girlfriend I don’t think her anger was toward Charlie fr… she was basically like “so you can do it but my daughter can’t” she could’ve been more comforting tho
Tammy has some nerve. This girl missed out on her own 15 because she was running after her baby daddy but can't comfort her child?! Especially the way she be crying all on social media because Wacka was cheating! BUT CANT BE THERE FOR HER CHILD?!
I think Charlie is a sensitive and sweet soul with pure intentions. So when someone (someone she is loyal to) questions her character, intent or accuses her of doing something she didn't do nor intended to do, it triggers her pain. Plus the girl she is dealing with is probably guilty of something and she is using Charlie talking to a boy a fuel to justify her actions.
yeah why are you acting like the treat her like a dog on the street ??? that’s her child let her parent they way she want. you people on the internet really got some nerve like seriously
Its called tough love teenage 101 we can't raise our kids like how we was raised its a different generation nd she was mainly going off on the girl regardless shes her moms catch tht shit from an early tht way she'll knw how to handle future bs Charlie dnt need to be cryon over NOBODY period
@@chicagostylistinc3852 she’s crying because she’s confused. she’s need love & guidance, not being told to get over it & hold that in. some people don’t need tough love.
@@chicagostylistinc3852 so if she’s going to go through it regardless, why does she need to go through it home too? just cause you show your child some compassion doesn’t mean they’re gonna be soft. tammy was being a whole bitch & for what?
Tammy is prolly talking from experience, but her daughter should deal with her emotions the way she wants like wtf??? its the getting tf back up what matters.
I think Charlie is blessed to have Tammy as her mum. She has the best of both worlds with Flocka and Tammy. One to hug her when she cries and the other to dust her off and charge anyone who comes at her.
Obviously her daughter is enjoying her experience in life and labels arent her thing rn. Also Tammy was very pissed off for no reason, be more nurturing, damn. We all went through emotional teenage years
She wasn’t pissed off for no reason. And secondly... your not a mother so you can’t speak on something you never experienced. And 3rdly... she’s frustrated because her daughter is crying over a girl that means nothing. Tammy is mad at the girlfriend for making her daughter cry. Did you not see that? Or you just seeing what you wanna see..? She obviously on Charlie’s side. And she just wanted her to not cry over a girl. When there’s plenty of others girls in the world she can get. And this is the same way with A straight gurl dating a boy and a mom sees her crying. It’s the same thing.
I feel that Tammy just doesn’t want to see her daughter hurt like she has . no parent would want that so she’s telling her daughter to carry things like she wish she did which is contradicting , but every parent does it. she does need to understand that her daughter is gonna go through things , she’s young !! she just needs for her to go through them and learn from them and just support her along the way.Because the way she carrying shit she’s gonna make that girl afraid of talking to her about things and that’s a BIG NO.💯
We’re they lying tho ? I mean honestly they really teach us to demand our respect they may lack in some parts but what parent doesn’t they do the best that they can ❤️
@@sparkleevans5625 Nawh they can do better. That’s not teaching anything positive at all. It’s teaching that your feelings aren’t valid and just bottle things up and suffer in silence.
@@annwarner7278 well I can’t speak FOR YO MOTHER HER MOTHER AND THEY MOTHER ! I know I was hard headed & I also know my momma did a damn good job and I wouldn’t ask for better one .
I hate when parents tell you to grow up and act like an adult but when they reach adulthood and become one now all of a sudden there not pick one and chose one
My thing is, why didn’t she say to Charlie what she said in the confessional. Instead of “wipe tears so nobody sees you being like this” calm her down and tell her what you said in the confessional. “You shouldn’t be crying for someone that’s not worth it.” Those two statements give off very much different meanings. The first one is saying, hide your emotions cause people are going to judge you for them and the second one is saying be stronger than that and don’t let people who don’t deserve to see your tears, tear you down
Never would’ve imagined Tammy was so bad at feelings. I hope she gets therapy so that little girl doesn’t have to have it for the rest of her life because of an emotionally unavailable mother.
that is your daughter. she is visibly upset. be a mother and comfort her and give her a hug. she wasn’t being rude or disrespectful, she was literally just crying. COMFORT YOUR CRYING CHILD! i know what it’s like to be confused and upset over figuring out your sexuality, it’s a hard thing to try to comprehend about yourself, especially at a young age. tammy could’ve shown a bit more sympathy for her kid. im disappointed in her for how she handled that.
Prime example of why children don't need to asked are they gay...or have a sexual preference pushed on them...because they literally don't know but when someones pushin a certain thing in their face everyday it can be persuasive and not really what they want...this is sad Charlie was even goin thru that...hopefully today she is comfortable with whatever she chooses...no pressure applied to be happy...it comes freely
Because that’s her husband she crying about a girl and guess what it’s gonna be more girls and boys after this girl🤷🏽♀️That’s a big difference nobody wants a failed marriage
@@slimesita9998 ok and wtf that gotta do with anything……if your child is hurting you do everything in your power to stop that hurt all that girl probably needed was someone to vent and listen to her but instead she wanna act like her feelings ain’t valid because she don’t agree so like I said previously……. That’s wack boo
I don’t think Tammy was mad that she was dating/talking to a girl. She was mad that Charlie let the girl get into her feelings that much. I feel she would’ve said the same thing about a boy Charlie could possibly date. She just thinks it’s all trivial and not worth the emotions. But Tammy could have definitely reacted differently 🥴
This is why Tammy did what she did. Charlie and the girl not even together anymore. I understand comfort her in the moment but Tammy knew what would happen
Wait! So you ask her is she ok THEN once she becomes vulnerable and begin to attempt to tell you how she’s feeling you blow her off and pass the issue in to someone else!?!? 🤔 Wow Tammy! I’m glad Waka was around during her upbringing🤦🏽♀️ Dude enjoy your freedom 🙏🏽
Whew. Forcing her to suppress her emotions is how an angry adult is made. It’s gonna come out somewhere if she doesn’t get it out. I’d let her cry, not into the phone with the girlfriend though.
When someone has continuously been hurt it destroys something inside of you . Whatever it was, it leaves you feeling empty and helpless (not necessarily a man, or woman, it could be anything that affects you). So, in this situation in her mind, this is b.s. so let's just move along, but her daughter is really bothered. She knows she's being a little hard but her emptiness won't allow her to be more understanding and comforting towards her daughter. I was in the same place once in my life, but thank God I've been refilled, and now I have so much more to give, as well as knowing how to receive.
Mothers ALWAYS forget they were the same way and treat you like your crazy. My mother is the same. Always heard "too sensitive or emotional" (I never cried like charlie though) Up to 13 be so vulnerable with my mom 😂 then 14-15 calm with it then late teens, I don't tell her ANYTHING anymore. I keep everything to myself. If I want to talk to somebody I talk to 1/2 of my friends. I think that's why daughters draw towards their fathers more. They are much more level headed and most understanding. I pray I don't forget. I pray I always remember my teenage days and always understand my future daughter. I pray I never call her too sensitive.
Y’all are saying Tammy is wrong but you got a look at it from her perspective she been through heartbreaks so when you’re looking at your child it’s like I don’t want you to sit here and dwell on one person like it’s not 1 million 1 billion other people to love I get it people want compassion for young people trying to find love but why would you want your child to sit there and dwell on something that’s going to hurt them temporarily that they’re probably not gonna give a fuck about in 10-20 years💯
She was once a child too so she should be more understanding. To charlie it's not something temporary. As a child you feel like it's the end of the world. Just try to be understanding. We been through it and we learned, so let them do the samething.
Exactly, I’m not sure if I have the patience my dang self to witness my child get broken down by someone else’s broken child. Yes, express your emotions... but don’t come to me bout what this person did today only to forgive them tomorrow. In all honesty I knew my toxic situation got old, yes as I got older. However especially once my mom was tired... She didn’t care to see me cry but wanted to hear less and said less except “are you dealing or bailing!?”
if she was a child once before, and she’s been in heartbreaks then she knows how it feels to not be listened to or held on too or anything. So tammy is wrong. Tammy see her child crying in need of help, so she should be there instead of “i don’t have the patience” or “why are you even crying for” like that’s weird that’s your child, don’t matter the circumstances, your ALWAYS supposed to be there.
I get both sides, I get so mad at my girls when this happens, but im just hurting to see them hurt, its nothing wrong with crying but I do say "WIPE THEM TEARS" U are strong an beautiful an u dont have to take shit from nobody an I have to catch myself cause im so hurt seeing them hurt, I come off hostile, but I also sit down an talk to them as well, I get both sides but I feel she should not be on national tv talking bout she aint gt time for this, that pissed me off
I think Tammy was more upset about what was happening to her daughter and didn’t want her to be sad over it, yes she should have been more patient but I don’t think she was trying to come for or hurt her cause she loves her daughter a lot.
As much as I understand Tammy’s demeanor, that’s your child, you gotta learn to show your child emotions and comfort her. Tammy is too tough and has a very emotional child. It’s a hard mix when you don’t show your emotions like that.
Regardless of what other people think about a persons sexuality why is she talking to her daughter like that. So she’s possibly bi-sexual and deserves to be talked to like someone who isn’t subhuman. Instead of people calling her “confused” show some compassion for her instead berating her like her mother did.
This is why teenagers need to take their time and focus on their school work an enjoy their growing up. Instead of trying to be in serious relationships as an adults
Tammie aint wrong she was dating someone before her 15th bday she should have never been given the leniency to have a relationship title before even her 15th birthday she has so much growing and figuring out to do which is why i understand tammies frustration with it all. Girl you dont need to be tied down where you are already having these type of problems with a significant other whom you might not even be with by age 18
This is just sad I feel like Tammy doesn’t know how to do anything but be strong which is good but it’s ok to open up sometimes she just has a wall build up due to her past so I do understand where’s she’s coming from
Now if somebody told Tammy to stop bitching and crying about Waka cheating on her, she’d be ready to throw hands. Charlie is still a child. Tammy needs to stop expecting her to have the emotional maturity level of an adult. I’m sure we’ve all cried over somebody that wasn’t worth the tears. Just let her go through the motions and figure it out herself. Telling your child to suck it up and act like they don’t care is creating a sociopath. I understand where Tammy is coming from but you have to let your kids be vulnerable or else they’re not going to tell you shit. I tell my nieces and nephews they can talk to me about anything & I won’t tell their parents unless it’s something serious. Sometimes they need some solid advice or to just vent without feeling like they’re gonna get a lecture, ignored, misunderstood, or in trouble. How hard is it to just listen and be understanding? 🙄
My mom is the same way as Tammy I can’t tell her anything I don’t trust her and I don’t have a father figure to talk to so I keep to myself, I feel for Charlie I understand on that level !
Did she cry over Waka? She expect her not to have feelings that's not right she haves feels and she gotta let her get that shit off her and her way is to cry it out.
Everyone saying how Tammy is wrong but I wish I had a parent like this that taught me to be emotionally strong probably could’ve avoided a lot of heart breaks && always being took advantage of && not being capable of someone truly loving you
She’s young.. she didn’t know what she wanted , some people at her age aren’t loyal nor faithful nor know what they want when it comes to their sexuality..
Sadly I can relate with Charlie about this because my mom is the same way. And it’s VERY frustrating, but I went it through the same and she gets mad because I don’t talk to her about anything really
This shit just pissed me off. How Tammy gone ask her is she okay and when charlie starts crying Tammy walks away and tells someone else to get her🤦🏽♀️
It's the women in here justifying Tammy disregarding her daughter being in distress, like she doesn't know what that feels like. She needed to console her daughter, not make her feel more less of whatever she was feeling. Double Jeopardy of not feeling heard. That is toxic as hell. Nah, its a no from me.
I understand where Tammy's comming from. As a parent u want to save ur child from heartbreak and hurt feelings. But at the same time there are gonna be those times u as a parent u have to stand back and let that child learn those life lessons. And she's just trying to help her daughter understand that sometime u gotta hide ur emotions and never let em see u cry.
I’m saying tho relationships in MS/HS is a distraction period I graduated two years ago and when I think back I really wasted my time worrying about a relationship. Young asf stressing another person that’s not around now .
Grades was bad and all then relationships bringing more stress into your life you already gotta be worried about passing a class a test getting hw done graduating but mfs stressing and crying about a gf/bf
Tough love ❤... There's definitely a place for it. You can tell Tammy loves her daughter and is just upset that she's got to be hurt over this girl. Yes she's projecting her anger for how this girl did her daughter into the situation but she genuinely loves and cares for her daughter and doesn't want to see her hurting. And we don't know how many hugs she's given her behind the scenes so we should all really mind our business... PERIOD.
im so thankfully for my mom overall and because of things like this ! tammy handled this horribly, charlie literally started crying more because of frustration from the girl and her mom not comforting her
She's a teenage girl going through teenage stuff, stop expecting teenagers to react as an adult. Patience is key.
Rd n wen they do act like an adult ... they tell them they aint one..
Right
Adults aren’t even adults they’re just grown kids.
@@AshleyWilliams-zs1sp THE MF GAG!😂😂
BS these absentee parents rather give presents than show presence in their child’s lives.
This is why most children can’t be vulnerable with their parents
My mom just told me my depression isn’t real
@@alyssadavidson874 that’s terrible smh I can relate
As a mother of three boys, my oldest is 17. I'm glad me and his father taught him from a young age how people and this world is. My oldest is so unbothered by typical teenage drama a lot of his friends can't relate to him because he's so mature for his age. My boys aren't afraid to talk to either one of us about ANYTHING! We put trust and confidence in them early! We always got your back before ANYONE! As a parent that's all you could ever ask for. I'm so proud of all my boys for understanding trust us before anyone and never be afraid to confide in us even if you feel it's a teenage/ child issues.
@@raebell3538 How were you able to instill and navigate that with 3 boys?? Kudos to you forreal, I have a little girl and there are so many values I want to instill in her just have no idea how to navigate that correctly as she grows up
@@tiaramartin5657 I lost both my parents by the time I was 14. Their dad grew up very early due to absentee parents. We both have just been straight up with them about life. We pay attention to them so much they don't even realize it. It's like the saying "been there done that" we'll realize they may be going through something even when they think we're not noticing. Pay attention to your child/ children. You know them better than anyone & you're the one that's going to always have they back no matter what. They just have to understand that and trust that. Make sure they always feel secured with love.
I think Tammy is just upset that her daughter is crying about something that she know will pass. Still she could be less aggressive tho
Agreed I went through the same thing with my young daughter.. Crying over a kid for months that she only knew for a little over a month. She was never alone with him so I know nothing happened but it exhausted me. I had to tell her to toughen up while still showing compassion. It was so hard especially with growing up in a different time because I was never able to show that vulnerability with my own parents so it was new for me
I can relate to Tammy
I don’t think it was the fact that she was crying but I think it was the fact that she was crying in front of the girl who seems to be kind of manipulating her in a way
girl i’m looking at this comment like “when did i comment this” then i read your name 💀🤣
She wasn’t even aggressive . she’s frustrated because her daughter is crying over a girl that is disrespecting her daughter. Tammy is mad at the girlfriend for making her daughter cry. She on Charlie’s side. And she just wanted her to not cry over a girl. When there’s plenty of others girls in the world she can get. And this is the same way with A straight gurl dating a boy and a mom sees her crying. It’s the same thing. She just wants her to know that girl not worth crying over..or/boy.
I don’t think Tammy is upset that her daughter is crying over a “girl “ she upset that this girl is toxic to her daughter and Charlie cares .
That’s what i saw!
That’s exactly what I was thinking
Makes sense
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You get it. Ppl are too sensitive, completely looking past the point tammys trying to make.
Wow. Tammy sounded just like my mom when I was little. I was always too emotional or too sensitive, so I stopped coming to her. THANK GOD my grandmother allowed my sensitivity to show. I consider myself very emotionally independent and strong when I need to be but being vulnerable is where I struggle the most.
And you know what's the crazy thing ..tammy could have gotten it from her mom...and idky but when their daughters have children ..they are emotionally there compared to when they was there for their own ...its soo strange to me..I can't be what my child need for me to be because you wasn't like that with me and I get blamed as a emotionally unavailable mom because that's how it was growing up...its hard to break...but I will try my hardest to never ever be like with any of my children
this meto i love my grandma for that i mean she get tired at times but sh e help me understand life so im guided..when your mom pushes you off you dont really learn so it gets repeated in a cycle.
Same. I love my mom so much but when I came to her in the past she would change the subject or say things like “it could always be worse right?” When I called her on it she said she hates to see me hurt. So I just learned to stop coming to her. I never wanna do that to my son. It left me feeling like I had no one to go to.
My Grandma was like my bestfriend she never judged me I could come to her about anything no matter what it was and she took my emotions seriously but not my mom she took it as it's not serious or you can just forget it like it's that simple I would give anything to if I could get my Grandma back she meant so much to me
Same I experienced with my mom and that’s why we don’t connect till this day she never understood or embraced the fact that I was sensitive. She wanted me to be what she wanted me to be emotionally numb and unavailable like her smh
So she doesn't want the world to see her crying over a girl... but she can cry over Waka as much as she wants? Gotta love parenting
The misogyny is coming from inside the house.
Right!!!!
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No waka is her dad that little girl is something that is gonna come and go waka is gonna be there for ever
@@kikidomain8090 re read the question baby. Tammy has been seen being emotional all over TV about Waka. So why can't her daughter be allowed to do the same? Is it because it's a girl she crying over?
This type of parenting is what makes children easy prey. She can’t cry because you feel the issue is not worth it. Someone else will be an ear to listen and will be her go to person. Hopefully they have her best interest at heart.
Exactly
Agreed
NOBODY is worth the drainage of your energy. Charlie is young and beautiful and don’t need to be crying over boys and girls she won’t talk to three years from now
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My mom always said THIS!
why they getting mad that she crying😒🙄? that’s literally how she expresses herself, they need to let up...💯
What i don't understand is y is Tammy mad when we see her ass crying over Waka all the time fr fr.
Because she need to open up if something is making her cry and crying isn't going to solve nothing. She's just emotional.
@@rainnmoon114 Tammy is a woman that's why and she's married.
@@thaboot2944 exactly ! And on top of that she’s ha mother !!!!! Tf ! She’s already had to accept the fact that she’s gay at such a young age. She allowed for them to date and what not and what she’s not about to do is watch her own daughter break down emotionally over something that can affect her deeply in the long run. We all know that first heart break is NO JOKE.
@@thaboot2944 Tammy can cry because she's a grown woman who's married to a known cheat but her young daughter shouldn't cry because she's just "emotional"? Make it make sense dude 🙄
What’s sad is, these “tough love” parents don’t realize that these “sensitive kids” are here to help them heal. Continuing to force this hard exterior onto your children because of what you went through or how mean the world is does nothing but pass the trauma forward. We’re supposed to be healing ourselves and the generations to come, not repeating and enforcing negative patterns and mindsets, folks. “I don’t have time for that!” Wow! Pretty soon your daughter won’t have time for you.
Whew! Say that again! These sensitive kids are here to help them heal.
Damn thats a WORD!
This comment should be pinned. Powerful!
This comment right here 👏🏽❤️
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Beautifully said
This is why children don’t talk to their parents. She’s allowed to show emotions especially in a situation like this where she is trying to navigate throughout her sexuality and is experiencing confusion. Parents need to understand that just because this situation seems minor to you it can be major for your child and how you respond plays a part in their emotional development. Have some compassion and patience for your baby’s and be grateful that these are the types of problems she may be dealing with at the moment bc it could be worse.
Thank you for saying this! I wish I can have talks when I'm down but I can't because I'm too sensitive or too emotional.
Tammy got some nerve telling somebody not to cry over someone they love like she ain’t cry over Waka a million times when he cheated AND STAYED till this day 💀 Tammy needs to practice what she preaches.
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I just said the same thing!!!!!!!
Tammys a Leo theyre very contradicting souls.
Tammy is a leo and I heard Leo women don't usually get along well with daughters I'm like that too
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I feel that Tammy has had a rough up bringing and was taught to dry her tears up and push it to the side. That's what has worked for her so she force's it on her daughter. My mom is more emotionally stronger than I am. She calls me sensitive all the time because I fluently show my emotions. Honestly that has confused me you tell me to be true to myself but when I show me im sensitive for it. It doesn't show that we're weak but just know this is how we felt or feel. Hopefully Tammy realizes that her and Charlie are two different people with two different emotions. Whether she knows it or not holding in emotions causes worse problems.
Agreed. Sadly, I'm pretty sure this is exactly how I am as a parent and I came to that realization some time back. Tammy will look back at this and handle future situations differently..hopefully
Agree
She stay crying tho when Waka cheats
I agree! That’s how my mom is with me. I am now in my 30s and I have distanced myself from her. I love her and I know she is who she is. So I talk to my mom only 2x a week and see her every few months. Whenever she tried to support me I felt like she was attacking me and pressuring me to hide my feelings. Now, I feel at peace away from my family (different city state). I feel like myself, I can breathe and sit still. Talking to my mother here and there is enough. I love her and I accept her how she is. I am done arguing with her and trying to change her. I can only live my life and love her with a little distance.
@@cierramoten5179 amen to you for being able to not have an ego and realize what you we’re doing wrong and back up and go in the right direction! 🙏 I know your kid or kids saw that and have so much more(I can’t find the right word there’s so many so I’ll say this)love for you and I know this because my mom is this way instead of getting mad and yelling and now everyone’s in trouble she sits back takes some time to breathe and then realizes what she did wrong and changes it. That’s the best thing a child can see from their parent is that they care! So again amen to you for being a wonderful mother! Also sorry for the long paragraph 🙏🙏
I see why she’s closer to Waka...Tammy is just emotionless
well I don’t think Tammy is emotionless I just think she doesn’t have the patience to be dealing with something so stupid
If anyone watched lhhatl when mama dee Kk & her mother had that intervention for Tommie and her mom and it was revealed Tammy’s mom wasn’t there for her because of the drugs ... a repeated cycle
@@yuhhh. Tammy was definitely emotionless to Charlie in this clip. How is her daughter being sad about a new situation in her life stupid, but Tammy crying and running after Waka trying to understand his grown feelings not stupid? 🤔
@@manifestingme6504 wait what? First off I’m not calling Charlie’s feelings stupid I’m saying that her crying over some girl that won’t hear her out is stupid
@@manifestingme6504 I never said that Charlie’s feelings were stupid I just think it’s stupid to be crying over some girl especially if she doesn’t know what she wants
Tammy is raising Charlie (emotionally) the way my mother raised myself and my siblings. There was no room to cry or express yourself emotionally and we were told to “get over it” and “suck it up”. Fast forward 20+ years and I’m still unlearning that behavior. Emotions are meant to be expressed. It may be annoying for her but she needs to show Charlie some compassion and understanding.
Same!
Same
Sadly same here. I hope we all heal and learn that it’s okay to show emotions. I love y’all praying for you all healing.❤
All Charlie needed at that moment was a Mother's Love and for Tammy to say it's gonna be ok baby I'm here for you always
Tammy Pissed because someone making her baby cry and she can’t fix it. That’s literally it
Literally it.
Very understandable
That's not literally it. She's yelling at Charlie to stop crying....to shut off her emotions. That's how black girls are raised. You don't cry you don't feel you shut it off and you move on and then when you're older and you can't show emotions and communicate how you feel ....you're damaged etc etc when literally it coulda been prevented. She does not give af about her gf ....it'll pass. Ofc she's mad the girl is hurting her daughter. But She's mad she's crying. ......my mom does the same shit.
Exactly!!!
This the one
This why Charlie closer to Waka than Charlie.
You mean Tammy right?
*Tammy
Lmaooo I had a brain fart but we know what you meant.
Facts
Lol you mean Tammy.
I don’t think people understand how it feels to not know your sexuality and then have the whole world basically force you to choose.. She wasn’t crying about the girl she was crying because she probably tired of being LABELED Like hello 🙄
I completely agree, she said it clear as day. She even ask the cousin to help her explain it. It's so sad how everyone is making it out to be a "teenage relationship" problem. When it's SO MUCH DEEPER for Charlie.
How can you Not know if you are Man or a woman?? 🤨
@@firstladygift.2431 well it's a good thing sexuailty doesn't mean gender 🙄
The children are confused and life hasn’t even begun yet 🤦🏾♀️
@@firstladygift.2431 the world pushes you into boxes and as you grow you sometimes have the mental fight of if you fit in that box or if you don’t and feel bad if you don’t.
This is unfortunately how a lot of us were raised and why a lot of us have issues with expressing our emotions now. We HAVE to break this behavior because it’s not okay. It is VERY okay to express yourself THAT is normal. Not expressing yourself isn’t normal it’s suppressing and causes issues well into your adult years. Prime example would be Tammy and her emotionless behavior.
Tammy walking away from her daughter like it’s a problem with her crying is so toxic. She needed that hug.
When charlie stops showing emotions Tammy gone regret doing this. You don't need to be this damn aggressive
She wasn’t even aggressive . she’s frustrated because her daughter is crying over a girl that is disrespecting her daughter. Tammy is mad at the girlfriend for making her daughter cry. Did you not see that? Or you just seeing what you wanna see..? She obviously on Charlie’s side. And she just wanted her to not cry over a girl. When there’s plenty of others girls in the world she can get. And this is the same way with A straight gurl dating a boy and a mom sees her crying. It’s the same thing.
@@Thelegendmia ok and there's still a better way to handle this situation. And her doing what she doing and not actually comforting her isn't gone help with future shit. This ain't going to be the only time she cries over some dumb asshole, so being hard on her now just because Charlie is hurting at the moment won't help in the future when some bs pops off again
Tammy done cried over Waka when he was on his bs, so she should understand and at least let her cry it out. Then be like ok now it's time to get it together because Charlie can do better than what she was dealing with
The cycle repeats
@@allyj137 well when it comes to her heart and her coochie is different anything outside of that she ain't got time for apparently
I did not see Tammy not once hug her and say it’s okay and politely tell her feelings. Instead she keeps saying “I don’t have time for that” it’s like she’s saying she doesn’t have time for Charlie and her personal problems. No one wants to see their child crying over someone that doesn’t love them even though they still love that horrible person but you just should be there to support them not walk away from them.
She said it in the end of the video
@@QueenDiamondBee not to her daughter but to us
But how would u know how that girl feels because she doesn't want her girlfriend hoeing around and she upset about it like tf is she supposed to feel and her mother cosigned it
Tough love
exactly
Tammy is just like my mother doesn't have the patience when me and my sister cry and it hurts sometimes. She was taught that crying isnt going to get you no where so get shit done and fix yourself. Its just sometimes its good to cry and let yourself out. So I see Tammy's side and Charlie's side. Hopefully, they worked this out!
You do realize just bc something happens to you don’t means it was ok to happen nor should happen to anybody else right?
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@@Alygrantt see here’s where ppl like you go wrong. She never once said it was okay or anything. She simply related to the situation because she went through it herself so she understands. Everything in your comment she never said if made it seem like that at all. She simply said she understands both sides because she has gone through it. Not once did she say anything about it being okay just cause she went through it.
Lmaoo girl, I also need to cry in private because my mom cant stand it lol
Same, my mom would literally say “Oh lord” and walk away when I started crying. 😕
MY MOM IS JUST LIKE TAMMY! and now that i’m 21. I have NO problem letting someone go, not being mad at something someone does, not getting into much that’s supposed to hurt me. She’s literally shifting her into someone who will know how to handle their feelings quickly
Why is everybody telling her not to cry? They're basically saying her feelings don't matter. She's still a young lady for goodness sake! When Tammy be crying about Waka cheating...you know what nevermind. 😔
Tammy acts just like my mom and it’s disgusting. Girl allow your child to have emotions... like we didn’t watch you crying over Waka every damn season.
But at least they're Grown and married
Charlie still has her life ahead of her
@@KikiW89 so? She’s not a human and doesn’t experience emotions because she’s young?
@@KikiW89 they're grown & married & she still has to fight with him to be faithful 😭😭😭
THIS!!!
@@KikiW89 So? She's a damn human being with feelings and emotions.
Why is waka more understanding too charlie then tammy
Tammy has been hurt a few times so she is scarred. She feels like showing emotion when you’re hurt is a weakness so she just doesn’t want her daughter to be “weak.” She thinks she’s protecting her daughter but she’s really hurting her only because she still doesn’t know how to handle her own emotions.
Cause he spoils her.. you can’t just be crying cause the chick your dating is being petty and pretending she don’t understand Charlie.. Tammy has to be the put your foot down parent other wise your child will run rapid and then your labeled as the parent that let the daughter do whatever she wants and then she’s a Spoiled little bitch that no one likes.. PICK YOUR PISON OTHERWISE LEAVE TAMMY ALONE AND HER PARENTING..
Cause he’s not her a real father. I mean, how harsh, stern and assertive can he be for a child that actually isn’t his? He loves her enough to support her decisions and besides I see nothing wrong with how Tammy did her and Charlie will appreciate it In the long run! Wtf are you crying over this girl who had another girl who you don’t even like on her live? She has no respect for you. Annnndddd that’s why I have issues with this lifestyle in children because the girl mad at Charlie for going out with a boy. If she wants to like boys too than what’s the issue? Bisexuality is a thing too!!! Stressing this girl out because she went on a date with a boy …knock it off
Because mothers are more harder on their daughters than they are on their sons naturally.
Tammy is mad at the girlfriend I don’t think her anger was toward Charlie fr… she was basically like “so you can do it but my daughter can’t” she could’ve been more comforting tho
she was not here for that
Yes she wasn’t playin
That’s what I got from it.
Agree she hurt her baby
I definitely think that was what it was & the fact the girl don't like Charlie make me suspicious too kids are cruel
My mama is honestly the same way. 2:45 was all too familiar to me😭 LOL
YALL DONE HAD THE MOST FUN IN HISTORY 😊😂😭😀😀😭😂😢😭😌↕😁😂😊😂😊😒😭
Tammy has some nerve. This girl missed out on her own 15 because she was running after her baby daddy but can't comfort her child?! Especially the way she be crying all on social media because Wacka was cheating! BUT CANT BE THERE FOR HER CHILD?!
Facts
Wacky is not Charlie’s dad
Pick me moma
I think Charlie is a sensitive and sweet soul with pure intentions. So when someone (someone she is loyal to) questions her character, intent or accuses her of doing something she didn't do nor intended to do, it triggers her pain. Plus the girl she is dealing with is probably guilty of something and she is using Charlie talking to a boy a fuel to justify her actions.
She do realize her kid is human right
yeah why are you acting like the treat her like a dog on the street ??? that’s her child let her parent they way she want. you people on the internet really got some nerve like seriously
Leo moms act like this . My mom is a Leo . Now that I’m grown , we go back & forth like sisters . Keywords NOW THAT IM GROWN 😅
Same here I can’t stand my leo ex mom they all got themselves they are bad mothers period
I love honest Charlie is lol, “I told half of these people I was gay !, idk what I want” 😂
That's all you can say is girl girl talk to your freaking daughter dude 😂
I am DISGUSTED by tammy!! She needs to be there for her daughter PERIOD!
Its called tough love teenage 101 we can't raise our kids like how we was raised its a different generation nd she was mainly going off on the girl regardless shes her moms catch tht shit from an early tht way she'll knw how to handle future bs Charlie dnt need to be cryon over NOBODY period
@@chicagostylistinc3852 she’s crying because she’s confused. she’s need love & guidance, not being told to get over it & hold that in. some people don’t need tough love.
@@PapaMosa forget all that
@@PapaMosa shes gonna go thru nire than tht keep living
@@chicagostylistinc3852 so if she’s going to go through it regardless, why does she need to go through it home too? just cause you show your child some compassion doesn’t mean they’re gonna be soft. tammy was being a whole bitch & for what?
Tammy is prolly talking from experience, but her daughter should deal with her emotions the way she wants like wtf??? its the getting tf back up what matters.
Tammy is the epitome of an emotionally absent mother. Her daughter is vulnerable and she’s dismissing it. Just so selfish and narcissistic of Tammy.
I think Charlie is blessed to have Tammy as her mum. She has the best of both worlds with Flocka and Tammy. One to hug her when she cries and the other to dust her off and charge anyone who comes at her.
Period!💜
Gtfoh. These moms are harmful for sensitive kids. It's why lots of kids don't tell their parents things.
Tammy always talking to her daughter crazy in these clips
“Maybe I am super hard, I don’t know! But I don’t have time for this s#!1!”
Tammy is treating Charlie the way Waka treated her when she would address his infidelities .
Boom!
And it’s heartless
Yea.Tammy has to ease up on her, she acts like she wasn’t a teen once. She is learning and growing.
Obviously her daughter is enjoying her experience in life and labels arent her thing rn. Also Tammy was very pissed off for no reason, be more nurturing, damn. We all went through emotional teenage years
She wasn’t pissed off for no reason. And secondly... your not a mother so you can’t speak on something you never experienced. And 3rdly... she’s frustrated because her daughter is crying over a girl that means nothing. Tammy is mad at the girlfriend for making her daughter cry. Did you not see that? Or you just seeing what you wanna see..? She obviously on Charlie’s side. And she just wanted her to not cry over a girl. When there’s plenty of others girls in the world she can get. And this is the same way with A straight gurl dating a boy and a mom sees her crying. It’s the same thing.
@@Thelegendmia ahhh shut uuuuup. Have a great day! 😂😘
I feel that Tammy just doesn’t want to see her daughter hurt like she has . no parent would want that so she’s telling her daughter to carry things like she wish she did which is contradicting , but every parent does it. she does need to understand that her daughter is gonna go through things , she’s young !! she just needs for her to go through them and learn from them and just support her along the way.Because the way she carrying shit she’s gonna make that girl afraid of talking to her about things and that’s a BIG NO.💯
Is this how a lot of black moms are? Because my mom was the same way... “crying don’t fix nothing” smh
We’re they lying tho ? I mean honestly they really teach us to demand our respect they may lack in some parts but what parent doesn’t they do the best that they can ❤️
It fixes and releases a lot tired of these adults acting like because they were hard TRYNNA BE GROWN thay WE can't have feelings
Tammy's not black
@@sparkleevans5625 Nawh they can do better. That’s not teaching anything positive at all. It’s teaching that your feelings aren’t valid and just bottle things up and suffer in silence.
@@annwarner7278 well I can’t speak FOR YO MOTHER HER MOTHER AND THEY MOTHER ! I know I was hard headed & I also know my momma did a damn good job and I wouldn’t ask for better one .
I hate when parents tell you to grow up and act like an adult but when they reach adulthood and become one now all of a sudden there not pick one and chose one
Tammy is misdirecting her anger. 😂 she needs to express her being mad AT the gf WITHOUT yelling at Charlie. Tf.
My thing is, why didn’t she say to Charlie what she said in the confessional. Instead of “wipe tears so nobody sees you being like this” calm her down and tell her what you said in the confessional. “You shouldn’t be crying for someone that’s not worth it.” Those two statements give off very much different meanings. The first one is saying, hide your emotions cause people are going to judge you for them and the second one is saying be stronger than that and don’t let people who don’t deserve to see your tears, tear you down
Never would’ve imagined Tammy was so bad at feelings. I hope she gets therapy so that little girl doesn’t have to have it for the rest of her life because of an emotionally unavailable mother.
that is your daughter. she is visibly upset. be a mother and comfort her and give her a hug. she wasn’t being rude or disrespectful, she was literally just crying. COMFORT YOUR CRYING CHILD! i know what it’s like to be confused and upset over figuring out your sexuality, it’s a hard thing to try to comprehend about yourself, especially at a young age. tammy could’ve shown a bit more sympathy for her kid. im disappointed in her for how she handled that.
Prime example of why children don't need to asked are they gay...or have a sexual preference pushed on them...because they literally don't know but when someones pushin a certain thing in their face everyday it can be persuasive and not really what they want...this is sad Charlie was even goin thru that...hopefully today she is comfortable with whatever she chooses...no pressure applied to be happy...it comes freely
I wish I had a mom like her. Learn how to treat people that’s irrelevant. Never give to much of your energy to anyone!
Naw Tammy is dismissive. Let the girl be sad. She’s always crying over waka maybe that’s where Charlie gets it from.
Tammy but nobody did that to you when you was crying over waka don’t do that to her this her first relationship she don’t know any better
THAT PART
she had everyone’s comfort when she was crying all season 5 over waka but can’t even comfort her own daughter? sums wrong
She feels it’s valid because he’s a MAN
@@latenighthub thisssss
@@sagainfinity5013 ok! Nobody wants to admit that
She was all on the marriage boot camp crying over waka but acts like this towards her daughter for crying........ that’s wack boo
Because that’s her husband she crying about a girl and guess what it’s gonna be more girls and boys after this girl🤷🏽♀️That’s a big difference nobody wants a failed marriage
for 1 walk is her husband and for 2 her and walk have been thru way more then charlie and that girl BYEEEE
and adult marriage vs two teen girls
@@slimesita9998 ok and wtf that gotta do with anything……if your child is hurting you do everything in your power to stop that hurt all that girl probably needed was someone to vent and listen to her but instead she wanna act like her feelings ain’t valid because she don’t agree so like I said previously……. That’s wack boo
@@lakeisha9121 bye lakeisha huesband or not we all human so stfu
Tammy could’ve been a little less aggressive though.
Charlie wasn't going cry til she pointed at that Phone, Lol Teenagers and their Phones🤣🤣🤣
I don’t think Tammy was mad that she was dating/talking to a girl. She was mad that Charlie let the girl get into her feelings that much. I feel she would’ve said the same thing about a boy Charlie could possibly date. She just thinks it’s all trivial and not worth the emotions. But Tammy could have definitely reacted differently 🥴
Tammy is wrong
Tammy is me as a mama. Lmao. I'd be all in my kids drama.
I remember when I was 16 and crying over a boy and my mama played "Not Gon Cry" by Mary J Blige for me. 🎶🎵🎶😅😅😅
This is why Tammy did what she did. Charlie and the girl not even together anymore. I understand comfort her in the moment but Tammy knew what would happen
Wait! So you ask her is she ok THEN once she becomes vulnerable and begin to attempt to tell you how she’s feeling you blow her off and pass the issue in to someone else!?!? 🤔 Wow Tammy!
I’m glad Waka was around during her upbringing🤦🏽♀️
Dude enjoy your freedom 🙏🏽
OFCOURSE Tammy wouldn’t care she’s been cheated on a thousands time by Waka! 😊
Whew. Forcing her to suppress her emotions is how an angry adult is made. It’s gonna come out somewhere if she doesn’t get it out. I’d let her cry, not into the phone with the girlfriend though.
Yeah, Tammy is a dumahh for that. I can see why waka cheated multiple times and she CRYED, and took him back.
When someone has continuously been hurt it destroys something inside of you . Whatever it was, it leaves you feeling empty and helpless (not necessarily a man, or woman, it could be anything that affects you). So, in this situation in her mind, this is b.s. so let's just move along, but her daughter is really bothered. She knows she's being a little hard but her emptiness won't allow her to be more understanding and comforting towards her daughter. I was in the same place once in my life, but thank God I've been refilled, and now I have so much more to give, as well as knowing how to receive.
Mothers ALWAYS forget they were the same way and treat you like your crazy. My mother is the same. Always heard "too sensitive or emotional" (I never cried like charlie though)
Up to 13 be so vulnerable with my mom 😂 then 14-15 calm with it then late teens, I don't tell her ANYTHING anymore. I keep everything to myself. If I want to talk to somebody I talk to 1/2 of my friends.
I think that's why daughters draw towards their fathers more. They are much more level headed and most understanding.
I pray I don't forget. I pray I always remember my teenage days and always understand my future daughter. I pray I never call her too sensitive.
how are you going to ask your daughter if she’s ok and then when she starts crying you say “oh no” ? 🤦🏽♀️
Y’all are saying Tammy is wrong but you got a look at it from her perspective she been through heartbreaks so when you’re looking at your child it’s like I don’t want you to sit here and dwell on one person like it’s not 1 million 1 billion other people to love I get it people want compassion for young people trying to find love but why would you want your child to sit there and dwell on something that’s going to hurt them temporarily that they’re probably not gonna give a fuck about in 10-20 years💯
She was once a child too so she should be more understanding. To charlie it's not something temporary. As a child you feel like it's the end of the world. Just try to be understanding. We been through it and we learned, so let them do the samething.
Exactly, I’m not sure if I have the patience my dang self to witness my child get broken down by someone else’s broken child. Yes, express your emotions... but don’t come to me bout what this person did today only to forgive them tomorrow.
In all honesty I knew my toxic situation got old, yes as I got older. However especially once my mom was tired... She didn’t care to see me cry but wanted to hear less and said less except “are you dealing or bailing!?”
if she was a child once before, and she’s been in heartbreaks then she knows how it feels to not be listened to or held on too or anything. So tammy is wrong. Tammy see her child crying in need of help, so she should be there instead of “i don’t have the patience” or “why are you even crying for” like that’s weird that’s your child, don’t matter the circumstances, your ALWAYS supposed to be there.
not calling her a bad mother, but this clip she did nothing for charlie
I get both sides, I get so mad at my girls when this happens, but im just hurting to see them hurt, its nothing wrong with crying but I do say "WIPE THEM TEARS" U are strong an beautiful an u dont have to take shit from nobody an I have to catch myself cause im so hurt seeing them hurt, I come off hostile, but I also sit down an talk to them as well, I get both sides but I feel she should not be on national tv talking bout she aint gt time for this, that pissed me off
I get what Tammy is trying to do but she is not doing it the right way. You can be tough and soft at the same time
I think Tammy was more upset about what was happening to her daughter and didn’t want her to be sad over it, yes she should have been more patient but I don’t think she was trying to come for or hurt her cause she loves her daughter a lot.
Lol my mum ...you cry and she be like "Don't buy me with your tears "
As much as I understand Tammy’s demeanor, that’s your child, you gotta learn to show your child emotions and comfort her. Tammy is too tough and has a very emotional child. It’s a hard mix when you don’t show your emotions like that.
Tammy is just mad because she upset with the young lady that making her baby cry, and she can’t take it out on her (the girlfriend).
Tammy how you getting mad at Charlie cuz she’s emotional like girl😭
Regardless of what other people think about a persons sexuality why is she talking to her daughter like that. So she’s possibly bi-sexual and deserves to be talked to like someone who isn’t subhuman. Instead of people calling her “confused” show some compassion for her instead berating her like her mother did.
this the same woman that’s been crying over waka for YEARSSSS trying to tell someone that they are overreacting
This is why teenagers need to take their time and focus on their school work an enjoy their growing up. Instead of trying to be in serious relationships as an adults
Exactly when most HS relationships don’t even last
Tammie aint wrong she was dating someone before her 15th bday she should have never been given the leniency to have a relationship title before even her 15th birthday she has so much growing and figuring out to do which is why i understand tammies frustration with it all. Girl you dont need to be tied down where you are already having these type of problems with a significant other whom you might not even be with by age 18
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Exactly and if anything she was taking up for her daughter. Don’t let no one see you cry or treat you any kind of way
This is just sad I feel like Tammy doesn’t know how to do anything but be strong which is good but it’s ok to open up sometimes she just has a wall build up due to her past so I do understand where’s she’s coming from
Tammie is super mean and unsupportive I’m that moment
It’s given “I don’t want my daughter gay”
Tammy not mad at her daughter she mad cause she let some bum make her cry
Tammy needs parenting classes.
She is always bawling over Waka shiit let your child express her emotions.
Now if somebody told Tammy to stop bitching and crying about Waka cheating on her, she’d be ready to throw hands. Charlie is still a child. Tammy needs to stop expecting her to have the emotional maturity level of an adult. I’m sure we’ve all cried over somebody that wasn’t worth the tears. Just let her go through the motions and figure it out herself. Telling your child to suck it up and act like they don’t care is creating a sociopath. I understand where Tammy is coming from but you have to let your kids be vulnerable or else they’re not going to tell you shit. I tell my nieces and nephews they can talk to me about anything & I won’t tell their parents unless it’s something serious. Sometimes they need some solid advice or to just vent without feeling like they’re gonna get a lecture, ignored, misunderstood, or in trouble. How hard is it to just listen and be understanding? 🙄
My mom is the same way as Tammy I can’t tell her anything I don’t trust her and I don’t have a father figure to talk to so I keep to myself, I feel for Charlie I understand on that level !
Did she cry over Waka? She expect her not to have feelings that's not right she haves feels and she gotta let her get that shit off her and her way is to cry it out.
That’s so mean. Does she not remember crying over waka to other people?
Everyone saying how Tammy is wrong but I wish I had a parent like this that taught me to be emotionally strong probably could’ve avoided a lot of heart breaks && always being took advantage of && not being capable of someone truly loving you
She’s young.. she didn’t know what she wanted , some people at her age aren’t loyal nor faithful nor know what they want when it comes to their sexuality..
Sadly I can relate with Charlie about this because my mom is the same way. And it’s VERY frustrating, but I went it through the same and she gets mad because I don’t talk to her about anything really
This shit just pissed me off. How Tammy gone ask her is she okay and when charlie starts crying Tammy walks away and tells someone else to get her🤦🏽♀️
It's the women in here justifying Tammy disregarding her daughter being in distress, like she doesn't know what that feels like. She needed to console her daughter, not make her feel more less of whatever she was feeling. Double Jeopardy of not feeling heard. That is toxic as hell. Nah, its a no from me.
@Sakura Bloom agreed!!!
I understand where Tammy's comming from. As a parent u want to save ur child from heartbreak and hurt feelings. But at the same time there are gonna be those times u as a parent u have to stand back and let that child learn those life lessons. And she's just trying to help her daughter understand that sometime u gotta hide ur emotions and never let em see u cry.
She too young for all that.
agree
how?
@@latenighthub needa get out school not worried about a relationship that’s how y’all give these teenagers to much freedom😂
I’m saying tho relationships in MS/HS is a distraction period I graduated two years ago and when I think back I really wasted my time worrying about a relationship. Young asf stressing another person that’s not around now .
Grades was bad and all then relationships bringing more stress into your life you already gotta be worried about passing a class a test getting hw done graduating but mfs stressing and crying about a gf/bf
Tough love ❤... There's definitely a place for it. You can tell Tammy loves her daughter and is just upset that she's got to be hurt over this girl. Yes she's projecting her anger for how this girl did her daughter into the situation but she genuinely loves and cares for her daughter and doesn't want to see her hurting. And we don't know how many hugs she's given her behind the scenes so we should all really mind our business... PERIOD.
LMAO these teenagers are sooo annoying and dramatic 😂
Y’all are right. Many of the commenters are not mothers. However, we are children of mothers. And as a child, Tammy’s response would be hurtful.
im so thankfully for my mom overall and because of things like this ! tammy handled this horribly, charlie literally started crying more because of frustration from the girl and her mom not comforting her