BOUNDARIES WITH SOCIAL MEDIA | how to know if you have a problem and how to fix it
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- You ever just have one of those days?! me too. Today is one of them. I feel like everything is frustrating me today (the majority of it for no reason) and maybe I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed or maybe something else but regardless I don't want to spend my entire day being mad at the world. I think I'm going to get outside to get some fresh air, leave my phone at home and pray for a bit... And no, I'm not just saying this because of the topic of this video haha. This is real life. Tori and I want you to know that we practice the same advice we give you and not because we are testing hypothesis as some kind of science experiment, we practice this advice because we need it. Life definitely has it's peaks and valleys and lately it has felt like we are falling up the peak if that makes sense... Like I'm not mad about where we are, but it's been difficult to get there and continue upward. I did get a timely text from a close friend of mine this morning who sent me this scripture...Proverbs 19:21 "Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand." Funny how much harder verses hit when you are struggling with that specific topic. I think I just have too many things in my mind and I need to let go of control of them...
Anyways, that's about all the encouragement I could muster up today :( but as always we are super thankful to do life with you all and have a fun video coming at you this Thursday at 10:30am Eastern.
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Might make a part two answering more specific things about this topic! Comment if you have any specific questions!
Boundaries with social media in a relationship!
I think you are on to something and a lot of people will want that video!!!
Boundaries with social media in friendships and family... Would help navigate daily life with so much more ease. 🙂
Also how to go about life when you seem to be an outlier in most spheres of life... as in having such self discipline that it gets difficult to have real friends due to lack of relatability and people distance you since you seem 'too good to be true'! 🧐
Blocking people, when and when not to :)
Yes, I would love an answer to what to do when you are around people that do not have social media boundaries and you fnd it harder to connect with them without sounding higher or holier than though because you are able to ut it down for a moment...or a meal...Also, LOVE the Thrive Bible idea and want to thank both of you two for the book suggetions. I have bought the Thrive Bible and have been following it EVERYDAY! along with the the Boundaries book (and workbook) that Chad suggested and the 31 Prayers for my Future Husband book. Thanks Tori!
Thanks again guys!!!!
I love the idea of getting to donate to give Bibles to people, that's amazing!!
Yay! Another on board! Keep you updated!
And the notes as always:
-“If the enemy can’t make you sin, he will make you to busy to hear the voice of God”
-“Make sure you’re not exchanging what’s better for what’s good”
-“Just because something is good that doesn’t mean that’s the best thing for you”
-“Don’t be a better version of yourself, but a more accizate reflection of Jesus”
-“Seek the Kingdom before you seek social media”
-“It’s about your heart posture not about behavoir modification”
Love you guys🙌🏻❤️
If the enemy can't make you sin, he will make you too busy to hear the word of God. Facts!!
Just because something is good doesn't mean it's the best for you! Truth right here!!
fax machine!
In November, I felt a nudge to just log off for a whole year. Here I am, approaching 3 months in... do NOT miss it. Sooo many benefits. Even if you could do a fast from it, at least a few times a year, I promise you, you won't regret it!
I hope you call each other "bebes" in that baby voice for the rest of your lives :')
At this rate it's going to be the only word we know in about 10 years lol
I really like that "one degree" explanation that Chad mentioned. Aiming for consistency in healthy living requires you to stay the course. These apps are designed for maximum consumption. Temporary detoxes can be a good thing. But hopefully they don't mute too much, otherwise they will miss all the comments asking to see Chad doing Tori's makeup voiceover 😎(ok sorry I just had to there lol)
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I'm not psychic but I could've predicted somebody asking this! Apparently watching Tori talk with Chad's voice must be some sort of redemption for 2020. Lol!
hahah I feel like all of yall are in on this!
@@ToriAndChad Ha, I feel like you see this every video now and interact with the request! Must mean that it might be coming up very soon :D
Yes they said they would do this one and the finances video soon!
I know it's not something that everyone can do, particularly if they run businesses, but I deactivated all my social media and I find myself much happier and productive that way. I find myself learning other points of view that way as well, while also blocking out the noise of people who seem to want to cause trouble for it's own sake.
I think it is a great idea! And you're right, not everyone can do it... BUT if someone is struggling with mental health because of their job on social media then we think drastic measures should take place! Like deactivating or something else! Mental Health is Wealth!
@@ToriAndChad haven’t you seen my comment yet?
I saw this video on TH-cam of a photographer who ran his business online and he went a whole year offline. It was so interesting!! I'll go find that video and share it. It was interesting to hear his perspective as a business person!
th-cam.com/video/2iQaxvqVGSM/w-d-xo.html
i deleted social media for my 21 days of prayer and fasting and im debating on keeping it that way
It's so true about notifications causing stress and anxiety within people. I turned off all notifications for everything single app on my phone aside from my email (i don't usually need to respond to my emails everyday, so i have notifications on bc i tend to forget to check my inbox actually). When i turned them off, my anxiety levels went way down and I feel so much calmer. Usually when I would see notifications, I knew they weren't important for me to check and I would typically just swipe them away from my screen. Now that I don't even need to do that little, but repetitive action of swiping away notifications, I feel so much calmer when I do go to check my phone and I don't feel like every little thing is trying to pull on my attention. It's honestly so freeing and I would recommend taking the time to go through all your apps and choosing which ones are important to get notified from and which ones you should completely switch off alerts from.
I'm that person who scroll on my phone before I sleep and right after I wake up 🙈when Tori reminds me "seek first the kingdom" I felt so called out lol yea because I literally seek first for my phone and that needs to change (ps. either the bible giveaway or the bible fund are great ideas! really appreciate you doing this)
The idea of starting a Bible fund with volunteers is actually an excellent idea and probably better than any giveaway- even though those are great also. Evangelization requires messengers and what better way is there to do that than to share the gospel? After all we are all one family!
My church is doing a 21 day fast and this year I chose to fast from social media and I feel like I’ve gotten to meet myself again because I have actually had alone time without being over stimulated. It’s been a real relaxing time. Once this 21 day fast is over I will definitely be using these tips to limit my time on all these apps. Thanks guys
I LOVE that y'all did this topic! I recently got really overwhelmed and social media did not help! I deleted the apps for IG and FB off of my phone. Now, I am more intentional with my quiet time with the Lord and I can reinforce what He says about me. I have also changed my nighttime routine to reading a book rather than mindless scrolling. Super timely boundaries video! :)
Social media can drain you spiritually when you’re just pleasuring your flesh. Being on media just to scroll for hours will never be satisfying or accomplishing but using it as a tool to connect with the Father 💯💙
Thanks for the very interesting perspectives, facts and tips! When I find myself having the urge to prioritize social media above more important things, I log out of everything for two weeks or until I don’t feel the need for it anymore. Intentional breaks are really helpful! I find it helps boost my mood and creativity (which is important as an artist), and honestly, helps me relearn how to think for myself!
That is smart! Love that you do that!
"Just because something is good doesn't mean it's the best thing for you ".......preach sir!!!🙌🙌🙌
Just had to comment again because I absolutely LOVE the way Chad explains Bible stories :)
Sometimes I just need to paraphrase and let the people know what is actually being said lol
ahhhhh i literally just logged off most my social media accounts then this video popped up!
No way! hahah Well don't log in because of us haha
Same!!
This is so timely for me, I have been starting to put boundaries on social media and I have been discussing this topic with my brother! Love when God prepares me for something like this! So cool!
Not gonna lie but Tori is looking like a godly woman..her charm is really showing through! dedinitely I see you as an elder woman to look upto..never really had this feeling!! love love love!💞💞
I absolutely love the idea of giving others bibles! Y’all are so amazing! ❤️
YES! Two minutes in and a bible fund is a great idea and definitely something I would love to be a part of! :)
We waited 14 seconds for the tiny hands. Chad you're slackin'! Haha
Can't give you everything hahaha
I thought I was the only one expecting them in T-5 seconds😂😂😂
hahah sorry to let yall down!
@@ToriAndChad hope tori is feeling better I did pray to her and it seems to me that she is feeling a lot better.
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I have never been this fast omg. Tori and Chad, just wanted to say how thankful so many of us are for y’all and the wisdom God has given you. You share in kindness and love and it is always a joy to listen/watch! Love y’all!! 😋😋
We are thankful for you, Maylonie! Thanks for being there for us! We love you too!
So funny you guys talked about this! I’ve literally been thinking the last couple days how I should get off instagram more and limit my use.
I took three months off end of 2020 and if I didn’t I wouldn’t have discovered you guys! Yay! Blessings everywhere!
You guys are so kind and thoughtful! so thankful for y'all - I think the Bible fund is a great idea and I am so down to be a part of it!
Aww yay! That makes us happy!!!
This description is capturing my feelings to a T! Thank you for being like a big brother and sister to me with these videos. These are things I never got the chance to talk about from a religious perspective as an oldest child. Putting the phone and laptop aside is a good thing and one of my new years resolutions.
I was just inspired to reset my mind by deleting Instagram from my phone for a week, thanks guys🙌
Love love this!! I’m on week 3 of an instagram detox - I don’t think I’ve ever gone this long without going on instagram but it’s felt so freeing and God’s been doing such a good work on me without the distraction of it and my mind and emotional health has been better and healthier! This video also came at the perfect time as my church are doing a digital fast this coming week! Thankful for all your wisdom 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks for the idea of making social media an healthy place! I' definitely going to check who I follow and refresh the environment!! Thank you for your advice! A big hug! 😊
Haha, I noticed immediately how y’all’s voices were different on podcast! 😂
I love it though! It’s like...
Poddcast voices: Don’t use too much volume, it’s too early for that! 🤫
TH-cam voices: Bring on the energy!! 😆
Any way, great video! Probably something we all need! I know I do! I have to battle with it, especially in the mornings like Tori said!
Love y’all! 🤍
I started taking at least one day per month to fast from all social media, sometimes even a week and wow what a difference it made! I have time to do other things and it forces me to be creative to find things to do instead of being bored. Like recently, actually Christmas break, I started reading again and I am hooked! I went through three books in two weeks! I also find that once the fasting was over I didn't miss social media at all...which is weird for this day and age. I highly recommend fasting from social media at least once a month whether it be a week or a day, it is so good and you will notice a huge difference in your day to day activities.
Thanks again for this video Chad and Tori. Thank you for being a light in the darkness and portraying Jesus Christ wherever you go. Love you both! :)
Tori’s HSM solo instantly made this my favourite video from y’all🥺🤩 I think she missed her calling as a singer❤️😂
i just woke up and haven’t watched yet but when i tell u God speaks thru yall- He does. this has been such an issue for me this week especially so i’m so excited to hear this video!! love u guys
The Bible donation idea is definitely a winner! Set it up, and we will jump on board.
Count me in for wanting to contribute to the Bible fund! Can't wait to watch this video!
Halloo all the way from Cape Town🇿🇦❤️💃🏻😄 I think the Bible project idea is wonderful! And thank you for the super helpful advice and guidance with social media - I call it ‘the black-hole🕳’ because of that aimless scrolling so easily ‘tripping’ into that habit or action. You two are a blessing in every bit you do for the Masters Fam. Lots o love🌸
This was SO GOOD you guys!!!! Love taking notes while watching! Definitely love the Bible Fund idea!
The Bible found sounds like a great idea! I would contribute!
This was soo powerful - Thank you Tori and Chad
This was good one especially to our present generation. From the past few months I developed this habit of first going on pinterest and reading atleast 5 verses of the bible which really helps me to be encouraged in situations and also helps me remember God's word and keep it first before I check anything else on my phone
Tuesdays and Thursdays are now my morning exercise days that I get to spend with Tori and Chad. Thank you for making a video on this topic, I've always wanted to hear your perspectives on it!
I am so happy you are talking about this because not enough do. What scares me the most is how this is affecting children since parents these days put a smartphone in their hands from a very young age. We need to go back to the purity of true human interaction. Great video Tori and Chad! I subscribed :)
Thanks for the video guys! We are not aware of how addicting social media is and we don't notice its impact until we detox from it
You have no idea how much I respect y’all 💜
Finally made it again on your upload time. So much love in this boundaries series and this topic is so timely since social media has been a haven for people on quarantined but of course this video can help a lot of people to understand if they are overusing social media and making it rule their life on regular basis. Love the comparison of using social media more into consumibg stuff like alcohols, everything is good only if you use it in moderation. Love the points you guys gave in here, very informative and great sense that makes people think twice of the way they use the social medias. Love the idea of funding the bibles too and also your encouragement chaaad 🐢🐨
I’m loving this boundaries series! Haven’t watched all the videos yet, but surely will! Love from Argentina❤️
I was just thinking about this yesterday and decided to make a change to limit my social media first thing in the morning and before bed. Another thing I have found that made me realize just how much mindless scrolling I was doing was by changing the location of some of my social media apps. That has helped me short term because the muscle memory isnt there and I think twice when I'm trying to find where the apps are.
U guys are so inspiring. Also want a video about facing depression and anxiety in teenage Christians suggestions about dealing with that please 🙂
We can definitely do that one... I know a lot about that topic because of my experience...
This is a message I definitely needed to hear! And I am so thankful for the light that you guys are on my social media! Thanks for everything you do. ❤️
Yes! I love the Bible fund idea!
You both are such a blessing 🤍
a NEEDED video! perfect for this hour. keep bringing on the boundary videos!!
Thanks for this lovely video and for the encouragement!! I hope you all don't feel pressured to have to always say something "super encouraging," because like it says in Romans 12:15, sometimes we have to take some time to weep with those who weep--there is a time and place for everything, whether that's encouraging or listening! I'm been feeling a bit of that feeling lately that was written about in the description, and one verse that has been reminding me of God's peace is Isaiah 26:3: "You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you." you'll get through this!! hope you guys have an awesome rest of your week :)
you guys are so anointed by the Lord and being used in so many ways. Love you guys and y’all’s heart for Jesus🥺🙌🏽 🤍
Yes!! I was hoping for this one. Thanks for doing it. 😊 I am not on social media yet, but it has been really good to learn about it prior to actually getting it. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
this was a whole motivational talk ahaha
the time before social media and technology took over... oh man. i wish we could go back. i feel like we were so much more creative then. this realization trickled in when i was in highschool and ever since i have stopped looking at my phone before i go to bed and i don't check it after i wake up for an hour.
recently i turned off my notifications and oh my god. it has made the biggest change!!!! it's so weird but i actually feel better when i spend time away from my phone.
another thing i really find helpful is treating social media as a treat. after 30mins of work, looking at it for a while to take a break.
and tbh, after watching the social dilemma, putting boundaries is easier atleast for me😂
Also, from 50K to 50.2K to 50.8K dangggg. You guys are thriving and I'm loving it ❤️
I’ve not had Instagram since June 2020. It was something I needed to purge from my life and I felt like God was leading me to that decision . And since then it’s helped me to improve my self esteem and self worth because I realized I was comparing myself to what I’ve seen on Instagram. I think social media can be a great tool but for myself, I had to let it go and it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made
My people!!!! Just seeing y’all makes me so happy!! Can’t wait to get into this video. Love y’all
Video doesn't start until tiny hands make an appearance 😎
hahahahah truer words have never been said... I didn't know I carried so much power in the tiny hands!
Grace Nayak I agree haha😂🙌🏻
I LOVE giving Bibles as gifts and I would love to contribute to the fund!
These are such good points! It's crazy when you think about this. So important to talk about!!!💛
LOVE this topic. Thanks for doing a video on this! I also noticed that I had a constant need for stimulation, and I want to overcome that! This is such great advice and much needed!
Yeah I was getting so frustrated that I need constant stimulation... that can't be good for me...
I WOULD LOVE TO DO THE FUNDING THING
yay! We got one person on board!!!
A big thank you for this! By far the simplest way anyone has put across something so wise so gently!!
Social media is analogous enough to the society that we are all accustomed to.. its so difficult to find 'realness'. Your video is truly inspirational and I hope it reaches more people and they benefit from it!
Having never been part of any social media platform..this video helped me empathise with those who struggle with the addiction!
The daily devotionals are going terrific! 😎 The way you'll explain the devotional by citing personal examples after Tori reads the verse from Thrive bible is so so insightful.
Lots of love! ♥
Aww thank you so kindly, Shweta! We love you!!
@@ToriAndChad I love you two more!! 🙂 I truly salute your courage to think about such innovative and real topics and speak your heart out to help those in need!
Just like your video made way to my screen one fine day out of nowhere..I pray your channel does the same to each one in need.
Heartfelt congrats on the growing family across all platforms!
Can't wait for Thursday's video...
Today's video was amazing!💛 It goes on line with the podcast on what are we filling ourselves with because if we're filling ourselves with things that don't add value or fill our souls, sometimes that noise is so loud that we can't here what God is trying to say to us!!
Loved the description too, today was definitely one of the weird days for me when things frustrated me and pressure was pushing down on me but joy comes in the morning so when I wake up I will be joyful hopefully 🎉💛.
Bless you Chad and Tori!
Sitting here, patiently waiting for your book to drop lol. Love your videos!
Often social media influences can distract people from God's will.. thank you for sharing all this wisdom! The Bible donation idea is great! I would love to help!
Hey for the last 3 years, I've been working on my relation for my phone and leaving Instagram for weeks. Now I'm long distance with my boyfriend and I reach to my phone soooo often... I know it isn't healthy but I check my notifications all the time
I love you guys so much!!! Thank you for encouraging always and being great examples💖💖I love the idea of the Bible fund!!!
God Bless you!!! Goin through the vids while not feeling well ha
So relatable!! Loved Chad's airplane analogy.
And the comparison to Mary & Martha!
On setting a timer!
Chad suggested in a previous video using the app: APP DETOX and I got it and it has changed my life!
I must admit, I used to disable it sometimes🙈 but I do need those boundaries! Thank you for this video!
I can’t tell you how important I feel this topic is. Do you remember life 15 years ago? In my opinion it was radically different because smart phones weren’t around much. There is an increasing amount of research on smart phones and the way it affects your brain. The average American spends 5 hours on their phone a day! Anyway I think this is so important to talk about so thank you!! I think time in silence and time alone is Vital and is missing so deeply in our culture. I love the Mary/Martha story. One of my favorites in the Bible. Maybe there could be a phone challenge ? Like how little screen time can you have? (I know you guys need it for work so it’s a bit different) it would be cool I think to have some sort of challenge with choosing God and silence over the phone and people reporting back how they feel. Just a thought. Grateful for you guys !!
The idea for a Bible fund is such a good idea! But make also a international option for payments with PayPal, so we international peeps can join too with donating! 😊 if possible
I love your honesty and advise ❤️ Thank you so much.🙏
Great video !! I stay off my phone sometimes for hours or a day. I feel so refreshed and just spend time in the word with God or doing things around the house etc. Same with texting my friends, I don't wanna text the whole day and everyday because I can start to feel like I have to respond and then I stay on my phone. So, sometimes i mute them lol and put my phone on do not disturb.
I deleted instagram 3 months ago because I that I was too invested in it, comparing myself too much to other people and spending too many hours in it. So I just deleted it and I noticed that I'm spending sooo much more time with God ❤️ and I am not planning to go back! The only social media I have is youtube and nothing else...
Thankyou for the video!!!! Love u guys💕🙏
This is sooo amazing that God put this next specific video idea (about boundaries) in your heart!! I love it! And that is such a beautiful and lovely brainstorming idea about the Bible Fund!
Hi Tori & Chad,
Thanks for your honesty & heart behind the fund! Also, the Bible verse in the description! 🥺♥️✨🙂
You two are inspiring. Thank you for your lives 💕
One of those IG requests is mine hahahaha This was very helpful and soo true. Especially on prioritizing my time and not letting my time with God be replaced by lost time on social media.
Wow, God bless you so much. We needed this topic! I don't have IG account because i know it can be so bad for me. Thank u Chad for the note in description, thx for sharing
Needed this!! Thank you so much ♥️ literally always look forward to your videos :)
Soo good i realy like the idea of contributing .
I had to delete my fb becauce every other comment or story was sooo negative .
That was an excellent movie voice chad!! good video guys, I've started to see the what works for me when it comes to social media and you guys mentioned some of that like not scrolling when you wake up! 🤜 fist pump!
So excited to watch this video after dinner 💛 have a great week Chad&Toriiii :))
I needed this!!!
Can you guys PLEASE do a part two of your modesty video?! I loved the last one❤️
The Bible fund is such a great idea!!! Yes, would love to be a part of it❤
Let us bless each other
#MastersFam💕
Excellent idea! Would love that!
wow what a video!!! so so so good🤩🤩
So happy to enjoy a new video!!! 💛 Love listening to your advice! You are always an encouragement and a huge blessing in my life! Love you guys! 🤗🤗
You are a blessing in our live, Lulia!!
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This video is going to be so good and can’t wait to watch it! It’s also my birthday tomorrow
Happy Birthday! Have a wonderful year ahead. 😊
HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY SWEET ISABELLA!!!
@@anmolnayak6533 thank you
That's nice of you Grace!
@@ToriAndChad thank you!
great video! “be not a better version of yourself, but a more accurate reflection of Jesus”
yes! so important. being aware that we are in control of the social media and not the other way around and to use it for good.
and yes! hah great idea. i too entered the giveaway because being from croatia it's kinda hard for me to get hold of one and i know how much my relationship with God would benefit from having one. having said that, i would love to participate with at least a small bit to make it possible for someone else to have access to one too.
“Small acts, when multiplied by millions of people, can transform the world.”
year,I downloaded it right away. (screenlock) thanks..you have right about sociale media!
I really like the idea of starting a fund that we contribute to to distribute bibles!
Someone gave me a tip recently where they suggested uninstalling a social media app you have trouble clicking on almost accidentally, like totally out of habit - even often unlocking your phone for something else but then you see the app and click on that instead (anyone else guilty of that? hihi), and only viewing that social media by intentionally opening up a web browser for it. I have been trying it out for Instagram for a few days now and I spend wayyyy less time on there!
Dang, definitely have been feeling all these things latey. Praying that God will help me through this!❤
I would love this idea I mean its amazing