Kashmir: Understanding The Surge In Divorce Cases
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Social activist Er. Manzoor Nawchoo sheds light on Kashmir's increasing divorce cases
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You're totally right, uncle. Compatibility is must between two people. Infact, you reminded me of my beloved grandfather, who often used to emphasize the fact that, it's very important that you marry a person who is understanding. Conflicts will arise among the couple if one is competent and demanding enough the other one is incompetent or let's say dependent. Also, young people these days have this really naive, and lovey dovey idea of marriage, which is like a castle in the air. Because things in reality are different and when things don't work their way as they had expected before marriage. They fly off the handle and create mess.
So, its of paramount importance that people listen to each and negotiate and try to understand each other and create a happy family. Conflicts between parents and families make their generations traumatized. Its very important that we understand each other, trust, and respect each other. So that things like divorce don't cross our mind.
People like you are an inspiration to us!
Thank you
An average kahsmiri girl/boys has 10 break ups before nikah!
So Divorce is no big deal for them!
I believe there are other reason apart from these
-Easy access to alternative partners
-Feminism replacing empathy
-dependent male partner
-lack of mutual respect
Mother-in-law turns into Monster-in-law after 6 months. Bahu always on receiving end.
that had me laughing & crying simultaneously!
@@sheikhaasif5731 such is life. Gotta deal with it. Same bahus will torment their bahus years later.
U r ryt....they becm real monesters nd their boys reacts moms magic
What about the brides becoming monsters after marriage? Cases are from both sides not just mother in laws
@@mr_kashmir that's true. But moms in law need to accept there is another woman in their son's life..she's not a maid.
Good report.Need more such reports on social issues in Kashmir.
Society needs a Mentor and social activist like you who is working religiously for the betterment of the Society.
My Salutes to the reporter who approached you and shared your noble views and experiences on TH-cam.
My Sincere Salutes to You Dearest Noble Mentor
Parents are responsible because they endorse divorce of their sons over petty issues and when a man is immature and irresponsible then he does what parents say . Second thing is when fixing rishta the families lie ,pretend & show so much love but once they get married their approach changes. Third is People don’t fear Allah and they take everything far granted without realising they are ruining someone’s daughter. Their is no tolerance and patience and parents of man in marriage meddle so much they don’t let the couple live peacefully and happily. May Allah guide us . Ameen
This is 💯 true. And more often fight starts before marriage over *majma* . Parents provoke there son yemo kya chu soozmut ! Bakwas ! Czot ! Yem che ni yezat karan keh . And boy - rather than using his mind - he calls his would be wife and screws her like anything. And these things exaggerate even after marriage. And last thing to tell - never marry a mama’s boy . They just ruin everything
Ryt mama,s boy hamesha maa ki sunte hai maa galt hoge b biwi sahi b ho toh galt lagti hai aur maa k galt hone ka proof b ho toh ladka kehta hai kya karun ab maa hai biwi kare toh sab kuch sunte hai ulti baatein 😢😢😢@@Some786-x9i
Nowadays divorces are high because youth are involved in relationships before marriage. Most often love marriages have a high divorce rate. I personally know the cases where a girl was having an affair after marriage which ultimately led to dispute and now they are on the edge of divorce.
1.Boy(he's not man) needs a maid and caretaker, so does his mother, and girl marries for compassion. When things are opposite, divorce happens.
2.The guy's family wants a good girl, but the girl wants to rule only, hence divorce happens.
3. In most marriages, because women are taking the shit silently, marriages survived. Now because girls call out the ills of their in laws, which is not acceptable to in laws and husbands, because they assume themselves to be God, they can't take a woman who stands against wrong (not unnecessary things), they divorce the girl. Because they can't deal it when they are shown the mirror.
Great personality. May Allah bless Mr. Navchoo.
Good person great speech
U r rite, they are not independent but depend on their parents
Thank you for uploading this video ❤
these days nikkah has become a fashion and show off... in Kashmir
100% Right
Very very nice information for all people's
💯 true
Nice report
Think 10 times before marrying. Its a trial by fire.
Apart from other reasons for divorce , we cannot ignore and sideline the subtle feminism that is being fed to our female children in schools and through television and other media. Also most of women give bad advices to other women which also leads to divorces
Says expert"jimmy johnny".
LOL! You're Confusing the basic women's rights with feminism..Bro needs to educate himself
My dear sisters every society that is plagued with the disease of feminism has high rates of divorces. We don't need to be a scientist to observe this simple phenomenon. Just look at the west and see how their society is completely decaying and falling off.
Also men are taught to behave well and treat women well in schools but unfortunately women are never taught to do the same for men. In fact they are told it's sort of slavery and patriarchy if they honour and treat men with respect and serve them in a marriage. This is my personal observation due to which women feel entitled and end up not being patient in a marriage which is very important in a relationship. The women that honour and respect their husbands lead a happy married life while those that obey the rituals of the kufaar end up divorced and lonely
My dear sisters every society that is plagued with feminism has high rates of divorces. We don't need to be a scientist to observe this simple phenomenon. Just look at the west and see how their society is completely decaying and falling off.
Also men are taught to behave well and treat women well in schools, at home etc but unfortunately women are never taught to do the same for men. I fact they are told it's sort of slavery and patriarchy if they honour and treat men with respect and serve them in a marriage due to which women feel entitled and end up not being patient in a marriage which is very important in a relationship. Marriage is based on mutual respect and obeying your spouse and modern education doesn't promote healthy families in fact it wants broken homes so that controlling and manipulating people is easier
My dear sisters every society that is plagued with feminism has high rates of divorces. We don't need to be a scientist to observe this simple phenomenon. Just look at the west and see how their society is completely decaying and falling off.
Thank you for the video report. However, I’d like to clarify some points based on accurate information about divorce rates.
India has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world, with only 1.1% of marriages ending in divorce. This indicates that out of every 100 marriages in India, only 1 ends in divorce, reflecting a strong level of marital stability compared to many other countries.
For international context:
Sri Lanka: 1.5%
Pakistan: 1.5%
Nepal: 1.6%
Afghanistan: 0.2%
These figures highlight that India's divorce rate is relatively low on a global scale, consistent with its strong cultural and social values supporting marital stability.
For Kashmiri Context
Jammu and Kashmir: 0.34% (according to the 2011 Census)
Punjab: 1.5%
Himachal Pradesh: 1.4%
Uttarakhand: 1.6%
Haryana: 1.8%
This shows that Jammu and Kashmir's divorce rate is very low at 0.34%, and is comparable to or lower than that of its neighbouring states, reflecting deep traditional values in the region.
While it is true that divorce rates are rising in urban areas, this trend reflects evolving societal norms, including greater awareness of personal rights and gender equality. This shift should be seen as a positive development, allowing individuals to make choices that better their well-being.
Islamic teachings also recognize divorce as a permissible and sometimes necessary option. For example, Surah Al-Baqarah (2:229) says:
"Divorce is twice. Then, either keep [her] in an acceptable manner or release [her] with kindness."
And Surah An-Nisa (4:35) advises:
"If you fear a breach between the couple, appoint an arbiter from his family and an arbiter from her family. If they both desire reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them."
These verses highlight that while divorce is not the first choice, it is an acceptable option when handled with respect and care.
In Jammu and Kashmir, where the divorce rate is very low at 0.34%. While this low rate reflects traditional values, it’s also true that some women may feel pressured to endure unhappy marriages, which can negatively affect both their well-being and their children’s development. Any problems with children to our understanding is not because of divorce only its is because of not having a divorce at a particular stage of life. Not having divorce also reflects our despising of remarriage either by a man or woman thus making it a taboo. This is also because of several socio cultural norms.
Encouraging open discussions about marital issues and supporting people in making informed decisions can lead to healthier family dynamics. Divorce, when approached properly, can be a positive step for families facing significant challenges.
Thank you for discussing this important topic. It’s essential to consider both accurate data and the real-life impacts on families and children.
We are answerable for many things!!!
Nosh ki mother is answerable for not teaching her the basic etiquette of adjustment in Sasuraal.
The father of Nosh is answerable for choosing money over Deen in the groom.
The society is answerable for creating a negative image of in laws in the eyes of girls.
Parents are answerable for pushing their kids for marriage!
All blame can't be put on in laws!!!! That will be an tooooo unfair
Etiquette of sasuraal???. Shouldn't she be living with her husband and kids only, so Etiquettes are what she makes them in her house.
@youknowwho9055 And where exactly does Islam say that??
@munazzahkanth695 literally check out any of the mainstream Ulama, like Sheikh Assimal Hakeem, on this matter.
A woman does not have to stay with the parents/brother/sister of her husband, her duty is towards her husband and kids, not his parents and his brothers. That's absolute slavery you expect of a woman to work for people who are nobody to her. She may take care of her husbands parents out of utter humanity and out of goodness of her heart, but she is not at any fault or isn't at all sinful if she wants a separate accommodation where she and her kids can live peacefully. The husband is responsible for his own parents, he also cannot command his wife to take care of "his" parents. Really go and search on youtube regarding this.
Every relation is a two way process. There is always a reaction to an action. To be biased to something and someone is a crime and an act against Almighty
@@munazzahkanth695 check any Aalum bruv!.
If you don't know this basic thing, what do you know.
Good point of view .....😊
Bilkul sahi kaha aap ne
Same meri story hai
Great work
Best speech,
U r right
Bilkul sahi hai,namaskar brother I meet you at the house of Ishtiyaq Qadri Saaheb
Exactly
Yes
I hv studied ,that divorse rate was more before 40 years what is now .
The mother in-law and sister in law is one of the major cause to spoil the life of' Mahreen ' the father of a Mahreen is the super hero who educated the the daughter in hardship after that he arrange the money again for her marriage and after marriage she, Mahreen , become a first domestic servent and than victim.
The word daughter in. Law is daughter in law it will never becom daughter .
@@NaziyaMehraj-ll1si Right habeebti
100% right
Absolutely
Sir with due respect if condition for marriage is that boy tries to get independent financials then he will not be able to marry very soon. If a girl's father becomes independent at the age of 40 or 50 years at least how u will justify to a 25 year old boy to get financially independent at young age..
25 year olds should not get married. If you aren't financially independent you have no business getting married
@@something--else sir I agree with your comment but late marriages give birth to many social problems which also needs to be looked at. Those who get late married have less chance to have babies.
@@hilalshiekh5284 I'm not sure how else to break it down, but just like everyone cannot be a doctor or engineer, everyone cannot by default have a claim to marriage either. It's a failure for someone not fit to marry to become a father or mother. It's a bigger disservice to the society, to the child, and to themselves, than remaining unmarried.
It might sound extreme, but marriage isn't for everyone.
I am extremely to all who given their valuable comments , some agreeing in toto and some disagreeing so authoritatively with respect and honour. I am happy to know that we do thoughtful and well versed persons in our society who can make a big difference in working for the eradication of evils existing in our social life. I have much more than this with me which I may share with you all , may be soon. My salutes to all of you.
We have made nikah difficult and turned Away from Guidance of Allah these things will Happen ۔۔۔the early Age is best for marriage as Guided by Deen Islam
Aslmalykum jo biwi ke kedar karey ga uss ka nikkha mushkil say melta hain.kyu ke uss ka pass bunglow aur govt job nahi hota
A.a
Kya ye vdo koi (sugan shopian )se dekh rha h please reply
Iss ke taraf koyee tawajah nhi deta jab tak ke talaq nhi hojata😢😢😢😢
Divorce is not a bad practice if done mutually.
Meri saas aur mery jethani ne mera ghr toda
Manzoor sb ,a humble person.
Court does not provide justice
Ye meri kahaani hai
Kyu sister sab kuch thk hai
It happens
کبھی کبھی لڑکے والوں یا لڑکی والوں کو مس چوہیس ہوتی ھے
اور پھر مجبوری میں جڑ جاتا ھے۔
اور اس طرح کسی کسی رشتہ میں پھر فساد ہوتا ھے
Leaving quran and Sunnah
Why can't u effort second Mike always Mike here and their......
😭😭😭
Gis ladeis ki zaban khale hi us gar mi parblem zada hi
Yeh meri kahani hai meri saas ne b aise he kiya mery sath
What happened???
Es. Person k no. Chayhe mujay
Gaali , maar peet pe kaun sabr karna chahega ?
Sir jis tareh parents apne bachoun ki galtiyaan maaf kartay h kya bahu ki galti maaf nhi hogi....bechari ladki sab kuch bhula k sasuraal mein sab ko bardasht karti h...afsoos ye koi nhi samajhta
Right ...issi ko kehte h ki
Beti ki galati chup jati h
Bahu ki galati chapp jati h.
Humare yahan 10 din pehle talaq hua ek ladki kaa woh b bahu thi yahan uski koi galati hee nhi thii 😢😢😢
Her koi sirf girls ke hi bolte hai
Yhn pa hemeri colony mein ek ladka hai jis ko ek girl k 7 me affairs thi fir roka Kiya to chod diya
Usey k baad kisi aur k 7 Kiya 7 months k vivah k baad usey bhi chod diya
Usey k baad kisi aur k 7 roka mtlb ki engagement usey ko bhi chod diya
Usey k baad fir se vivah usey ko bhi chod diya
Ab itifaq ye hai ki aj se ek week pehle fir se engagement hovi hahaha
@@simranjan7301 jab sarkhar k lia log aya karege. Unko bola karo inki asliyat. Begarath logu ki
@@Some786-x9i hmmm
Mother in laws r insane they r not considering daughter in law as their own daughters…
Kya phir apki "Maa" b Mother in law ban k "insane" ho jayegi...apka comment dekh k It made laugh . Agar ap yehi sonch rakho gai, I don't know if you are married or not, Allah hi phir apka hafiz ho.
Ap apni iss sonch ko thoda badlo, ap kisi ghar mein apni saans k liye manfi sonch le kar jao gai, tou kya hoga phir?
Janazah .... How is janaza posible in tatoo
Ya Allah give hidayah to our youth
They think they look cool in tatoo
But seriously gaye chud jamat chu basan
There is nothing wrong in Divorce. It is allowed in islam if situation demands
IMPORTANT
BOY should be capable, emotionally,physically ,mentally, spiritually ,financially to handle his family as a head
GIRL: should also add value to her husband's family ,should have patience but to a certain limit ,girls should not tolerate these 3 things 1. If her husband has some extra marital affair ...2 if any one raises hand on her 3 if her husband is earning haram income.....then she should not tolerate it n should raise her voice . Make girls empowered/ capable to such extent that they can manage their financial condition independently ,for that they should get their share from property acc to quran if she is muslim and make them learn some skills.
The need of hour is Marital Education. Parents make their sons and daughters learn ,Med,Arts,commerce etc that is also imp....but not making them learn or educate about Marriage which is essential part of our life ,more than half of our life is marital .
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You are wrong These days young people are not getting married but the marriage age these days is above 35
Everybody saying Allah's Fear Nobody is Talking About that a man can have 4 wifes in Islam. Then obviously divorce rates will decrease Drastically plus no women would ever remain widow. Islam is so beautiful but we are following some deen of Hindu brothers and some of Christians. In crux we are following our Deen where it suits us Its called selective practice of Islam.
When a man can't handle one wife, you expect him to handle four?.
When he can't have a separate house for one wife away from his parents, you expect him to have 4 houses for four of his wives?!.
@@youknowwho9055 No need to have 4 houses this is created by us in islam there is no such thing of 4 houses n ol but you have to give them time equally
@hamzashahreyar222 so you think Prophet Muhammad (saw) had all the 11 wives in one house?!?
If you think that's practical then you're basically delusional. And time means nothing if you can't provide for them equally, and your working a good job which earns enough money to provide for 4 wives and their children, then you won't have enough time to spend on everyone of them equally.
4 wives in Islam is a luxury, not a right or an obligation. The kuffars used to marry as many as they wanted, 10 20 whatever the number, Islam put a maximum limit to this weird practice, and in the same verse, Allah said that if you fear that you won't be able to treat all of them fairly, then marry only One. Because ofcourse otherwise you're a cruel person if you treat one of them with riches and the other one with "your time".
You have to (obligatory) give them separate accomodation (a room, a kitchen, a washroom, a seperate entryway) to each and every one of them, and that's the rule in Islam.
@@hamzashahreyar222I think u don't have any knowledge even prophet Muhammad saw had different houses for different wives in islam living in joint family is disliked
And if u can afford go for it but the thing is no one can AFFORD MORE THAN ONE WIFE NOWADAYS
@@hennaqayoom1383 sister I know my facts well but if you take a look at sex ratio its increasing that means more women and less men which is a grave situation and to deal with this Islam has already given the remedy. If there will be only one women for a man than 1/3rd of women population would remain unmarried and this has started to happen. So , islam is not based upon emotions but logical reasoning and thinking. May Allah guide us all.
Mother in law dayan hoti hai usko lagta hai beta kha liya bahu ne 😢mera nhi raha ab
Exactly
Really...
Meri saas ne mera ghr toda
I am the victim as well
Meray saas nay Mera ghar tabah kiya😢
I m the victim as well.. May Allah have mercy on us
@@SabahatNazir every women has complained saas ne kiya. I swear they are earning jahnum only that’s it
How ???
Beautiful
I want to marry Kashmiri girl but I am hindu 😢😢😢😢
So find a kashmiri pandit girl to marry. What's the big deal
@@something--else they probably won't accept this low caste baniya, they only opt for High class brahmans
Yes find a hindu girl
No morals either. You must have fear of Allah.
Sab bakwaas,purani kahani.
If she is garbage, it is demeaning to linger onto misplaced sence of hope that she will change. Dispose of her without any regrets.
Agr meri baat manu 100% extra marital affair ka reason hota hai..boys ma 2,4 k sath affair rkhry hai 😢
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Sregg ti panah daar 😂
Mujhe ap sa baat krne thii sir how I contact u
Anybody have his contact plzz send me
Yes