You are correct. I'm 65, and I have been dating a woman in her 50's from Medellín. We have fallen in love and are talking marriage. I met through a social media platform. I live in Puerto Rico and language is not an issue. But you are spot on.
@@ernesto5655 Congratulations to you. You have apparently met someone your equal, rather than lusting after a young woman half your age. I wish you both all the best.
I maintain the belief that Colombian women are inherently suited for Colombian men. A select few among them are truly exceptional, yet they often do not comprehend our values. They criticize us for "not dancing" and other such things, but here, the significance of trust and honesty is virtually nonexistent. Colombian women are reputed to be among the most unfaithful globally, so one should think twice. AK's perspective, with all its "filters," is accurate. It is indeed an amazing and beautiful culture, but only feasible for the short term-a few months at most. For a long-term relationship, I fear it is unmanageable. The video is good, offering excellent advice, particularly regarding safety and education. However, I would strongly advise reconsidering any long-term plans. Their beauty is angelic, but the cultural differences are significant. Best of luck to everyone.
@@AKJoel It is not a matter of my adverse experience, as one individual cannot alter my perception and genuine affection for this remarkable country. I am merely conveying the truth and emphasizing your astute observations. Your circumstances are extraordinary, amigo: a young entrepreneur from Australia residing permanently in Medellín... It is, indeed, an atypical scenario, wouldn't you agree?
Don't think its ok to bash on Colombian women exclusively. Colombian men are also unfaithful lol. I've met many Colombian guys that tell me they have other lovers while they're married and have a family. Have met Colombian guys tell me they've had children with other girls while they were married, and that didn't end well with them.
as a colombian woman I'm glad you addressed to the passport bros. nobody wants them. It's nice to see a foreggner giving good dating advice to the men wanting to date here. and I like how you're advice is being respectful towards the colombian woman. that is refreshing from what i have seen on other channels. thank you
I spent 18 months in Medellin and dated many girls in Colombia. Almost every girl i met needed money for medicine for there mothers. I was thinking to myself how unlucky could i be meet all these women with sick mothers 😂😂😂😂😂
I like how you qualify the types of men whom your advice does not apply to. Unrealistic expectations are the same in every country and they most certainly apply here in Colombia.
Great advise.. For me, as soon as I became 50% fluent, relationship became fun..: laughter, jokes, serious convo.. i communicate w my gf 10 times a day at least in WhatsApp.. that builds up skills as we struggle n learn more.
This is an excellent video! Ironically, some men insist on paying for everything but, as a professional and independent woman, I appreciate when my offers to pay are accepted.
Overall excellent advice which I am totally in agreement with. A couple of things I might add - first, tying in with the ability to speak some English and desire to travel I would say it's best if they have some experience with or at least a desire to learn about your own culture. Even though you're here on their turf, it shouldn't be a total one-way street with the expectation that you embrace everything about Colombian culture absent any reciprocal interest on their part in yours (which after all, will always be a major and primary part of you). Next, even though dating apps if used according to the right guidelines might be useful (and in Medellín you have to be especially careful), I believe it's always best to meet someone organically through participation in an activity of mutual interest. That way you already know you at least have something in common, and there will normally be an opportunity to talk and get to know them better absent the innate pressure of being on a 'date'.
I have been to Medellin before with my wife and I will say you typically only see the passport bros in Medellin and Cartagena. Trying to find a serious relationship is like trying to find a serious relationship in Las Vegas, Nevada…. I have Been with my Colombian wife for 4 years. She is from Bogota and she’s 6 years older than me. She is very passionate, loving, loyal. She is an entrepreneur, she is very smart with finances and saving money. I’m very fortunate.
I agree with most of what was said. I don't want to be an ATM. But, the wages in Colombia are super low. I can make in one day what a typical Colombian can make in a month. Personally, I don't have a problem paying for Ubers and food. But, if she says "my grandma is sick," or "I need help with rent," I'm gone.
Great advice for the deserving. And I couldn’t agree more about finding someone who is university educated. For example, I’ve met some incredible Medellin women who graduated from the University of Antioquia. They’re intelligent, confident, engaging and worldly-even when not well traveled. If I were in the dating market, that would be a major green flag (or a red one for the passport bros/whining Weses out there).
I went with my white gringo friend we had great time until he wanted to risk it more was trying to pick up women one day he met this Colombian woman and they arranged to have something to eat (I told him be careful)i normally never really stayed out late and took great care anyway that was the last I heard of him tried calling him not responding even went to the place they met nothing I later got wind he was drugged and killed and had his cards rinsed till this day it sends shivers down my spine I would never go back also majority of killings don’t make it in the media be careful guys when you go you only have one life.
AK, this video is long overdue. Maybe you hadn’t lived in Medellín long enough to have amassed the data you have now. I think you gave very solid & sensible advice. I was raised where my father was the sole bread winner & provider + I believe in chivalry. While I believe it’s my responsibility to cover the costs of a date I also provide opportunities to allow my date to reciprocate & look for signs of appreciation. For example, I love gelato so often after enjoying a meal together I rather go elsewhere for dessert. Most often my date will at least make an attempt to treat me to dessert. Another example might be me buying the movie tics & her offering to buy the popcorn & drinks etc. As you suggested it’s important to take notice & establish some sort of ground rules by which you guide yourself so as not to be taken advantage of. I’ve also found that introductions by others often lead to better quality opportunities based on the premise that good people know other good people. If you & I were mates, hung out a bit, your now wife gets to know me there’s a chance she might introduce me to one of her friends that she believes would be a good match. There’s no guarantee of compatibility & eternal love BUT I do believe intros by others also help weed out those who don’t necessarily have the bestest of intentions. Off topic but relevant to your channel & valuable work. I’m taking my first trip to Medellín 8/29 - 9/7 to see the country & city I’ve heard so many things about, to explore relocating there & determining whether it’s possible to find my last first kiss. Working on my list of topics in advance of a call with you in the near future. Keep up the good work!
I agree with your points, but would say THE #1 Most Important factor is that the girl has a job/career... A REAL job 💯 That means none of these girls who do hair/makeup/modeling, etc. as a side hustle.... They need to have steady income that they receive biweekly. If not, YOU will become the sponsor by default... I seen it too many times....
The kind of women you describe (educated, professional, cultured) are more selective, especially if they're also physically attractive. "Passport bros" tend to want an easy ride and therefore go for the lower-hanging fruit. I think they also sometimes see being well-traveled and speaking good English as red flags in a woman. They seem to enjoy the sense of superiority that they feel when with they're with a girl from a low social class. It gives them a sense of security and raises their ego and self-esteem, which is, despite appearances, in a fragile state after many years of dissapointment and failure in the West. There are, by the way, millions of good women from economically humble backgrounds (and tons of bad women from privileged backgrounds), but they're also not interested in what these men have to offer. So they're left with what they're left with.
Please don't speak on something your not a part off, passport bros are looking for those qualities in women , looking for wives , so don't categorize us with tricks, we are way different
Many men that visit Medellin aren't looking for girlfriend's man, they're looking for a fun hookup; just like if they were visiting Vegas, Miami, or Houston. Are men that go to Vegas and hookup with women, low quality men too? Leave your judgemental comment at home and learn humility haha. Men MOVING to Medellin are a different story.
Most spot-on video about finding genuine women in Latin America!! I learned to spot the gold-digging type in my very early 20s. Coming from LA and going to my parent's small town in Mexico, I would always feel like a rockstar getting all the attention 🤣thanks for the informative videos as always!
I would also like to add some things to your list. If you know that you are going to live or going to date in south america. You have to learn spanish. Even if your date can speak english or is learning it. Even if it is not perfect but she sees you put the effort in, she will look at you way differently. Also the people in general. I am from germany and my appearance is like a typical german I would say. Blonde with blue eyes. I was in Colombia this year for vacation and the people just thought "another gringo". But after starting to speak spanish to them, you could see the the expressions in their eyes and face change drastically. And secondly I would never go on an expensive first date. Just go into a park or have a coffee together. In parks there are usually people selling some street food or stuff like ice cream, too. You could also go to the cinema. It is pretty cheap, at least the tickets are. Food is ok. If she does not agree to something like that and only wants to go to a fancy restaurant or something, she just is not interested enough to get to know you.
Yes you are completely right when you say "after starting to speak Spanish to them, you could see the the expressions in their eyes and face change drastically." Your social value increases 10x they realize you know Spanish. You're not just "another gringo" anymore.
Regarding social media. If the majority of her posts are of her in bikinis or other sexually suggestive situations, don’t even bother. Look for a woman that is modest and who doesn’t post ‘thirst trap’ pics. Also, When you find a good woman, and establish a monogamous relationship, if she doesn’t post pictures of the two of you together on her social media accounts, you’re not the only guy she’s talking to.
Overall this is great advice. I'd say learn spanish at a high level if you want to do well in Latin America. The pool of English-speaking people in Colombia is pretty tiny. Your time in any Latin American is going to be 100% better speaking Spanish. I want to make local friends and not just be hanging out with expats and I want to learn about the culture. Along those lines a girlfriend is one of the best ways to immerse yourself.
I've dated a bunch in Medellin. I never offer to pay transport off the bat. I will often if they ask about it. If they get there on their own, even if it's taking the metro, they are usually more genuine. Them offering to pay for little things, taking you on the metro with their civica, coffees or beer is also a good sign like you say. But I also lump acts of service in with that. My ex girlfriend took me to the hospital stayed with me for two weeks while I recovered, and was running around getting all my medicine and supplies after surgery. This was when I started dating her, without me asking and after Id planned to hire a nurse. I've dated other girls that want to cook for you, clean up, help you shave etc... With the gold diggers it's always about them or minimally they think giving you sex is enough.
As a Medellin girl married to someone from US that I met almost 9 years ago, I would say this advice is pretty good. There are a lot of fantastic and exceptional women all around Medellin, education in a country like Colombia is a privilege, therefore, sometimes your girl could be from a poor area of Medellin and still be a good and exceptional woman that just hasn’t have a lot opportunities in life. However, a lot good and local girls just don’t want to go out with foreigners because some of them have been really good on creating a bad reputation around foreigners and that they are only looking to go out and have sex with as many women as they can while traveling in Colombia. So best advice be mindful of yourself and use common sense and you would probably be fine and find a good girl in Medellin or anywhere in the world.
I like your videos my man! I speak Spanish and I say only get with a Colombian women that speaks English. If you think she will learn English, you can forget about that. A good place to to meet Colombians that speak English are the doctor and dentist office that cater to tourist. I go to international smiles and everybody speaks English. I agree with dating app but if she has self employed, unemployed, or student, pass on these women. Also if you're in your 40s, get a woman close to your age.
I’m currently living in Manila Medellin and I have actually had a ton of luck dating in Colombia with tinder and bumble. I’m talking about women who know English, have visas to Europe and U.S., and have degrees and have good jobs. With tinder you have to be more realistic with yourself. Dating in the U.S. is far easier and I had way better results. But in Colombia it’s even harder with the language barrier, even if the girl is into you, at some point you two will become frustrated if you don’t both improve. Guys really do need to learn Spanish. I am good at talking to women in the U.S. so my superpower in the US does not work in Colombia. Also dating women in Colombia has actually saved me a ton of money. If they are interested in you, they will do try to help you
Even in the USA if I ask someone on a proper date I should pay. Internationally men have created what I call "the handout mentallity". It all comes down to who your dating. Money will create pleasures but are very short term. There some amazing in women in Colombia and others want and need money. My joke is I'll be your "Slendid Dad" and will also say Im not sponsoring anyone right now. They laugh, but someone will always try to out bid you. I have feelings and always want to better the people around me.
Yes. Him expecting guys to go to Columbia and find college educated women who want to split the bill on the first date while these same men do not have those credentials and come from a country where their currency is exponentially more valuable is ridiculous and terrible advice.
Hello AK, Mike Faca here. Just a comment about your video. First, there is an old saying, " stay in your lane ". What this means is that if you are 70 years old you should be looking for someone in your age group. I am 71 and my wife, who is Colombian, is 71. We have been married for 21 years. Second, when I was single, I did not have a problem dating women because I treat them with respect, I am honest to them and I never tried to change who they were. If you go to another country to find a woman because you could not find one in your country, maybe look in the mirror. Alot of your videos talk about making friends which I have commented on. Friendship is the foundation to a good relation. If you are a good person, you will attract good people. If you know what you want, you will see the bad people and can avoid them. Have a great day my friend.
Sorry I’m 58 and have always dated 20 years younger bec fortunately good genes look decade plus younger . What applies to you doesn’t apply to everyone .
Great advice. I’ve been paying for women my whole life but I’ve found that I’ve changed in that I’m not interested in changing girls anymore. I’m just looking for a chemistry and companion. I’m not into nighttime as I go to sleep ridiculously early and do a ton of exercise , sports and diet. I’m hoping to find a travel partner too. One who can understand or even partake in my fitness life along with sightseeing. I’m learning Spanish and plan on studying it in Medellin as well as pursuing my sports activities there. No more clubs man that’s over.
Am i considered a passport bro? hear me out... Ive never been the type to have a one night stand im strictly a relationship only guy, i do want to speak to alot of Colombians when i go there, because i find their culture fascinating, and i am naturally drawn to latina women, but id never do anything whilst im out there. Is that still considered being a passport bro? if my culture is very different, what are your thoughts?
GOOD WOMEN in Medellin are professional women and women who didn't go to university but are very business saavy and have established themselves with their work in general. You really don't find them on dating apps in general. You have to network. These womnen usally work for good companies like Nacional de Chocolates, ISA, EPM, etc.You have to really speak Spanish well enough to connect with them. Some of these professional women have some pre-intermediate to intermediate English speaking skills. These types of women are not interested in leaving Medellin and their comforts to go to some foreign land where they're far from family and friends. I know all of tghis because I have been here for 26 years now. I'm a teacher and that's how I have met so many good women and not the shady ones.
26 years?! Damn!! All your tips are spot on by the way - you're right that no high value established woman wants to leave Medellin. Plenty are open to going to other countries to study/work but they always want to come back home.
@@AKJoel That's right Joel. If any decent guy wants to have the chance of connecting with a good Paisa gal, they need to learn a good amount of Spanish, network with locals and establish good friendships so that they can get introduced to the right people. By locals I mean middle class or upper class folks because there's a good chance of not getting fooled or worse.
Dating good woman is NOT impossible in Colombia. However, to your points, you will indeed have to put in the work. In my opinion, speaking english is NOT the best way, but speaking Spanish is. You are in their country , they are not in yours. The chances of getting someone of great character opens up when you can get them natively and not already Americanized 😒 Also, a degree while good, doesnt justify being a good woman. As for Social media, you just want to make sure it's not a troll account. Likes to travel, well, I'd personally rather have a partner who never or barely traveled so I we can share that experience together.
homie go to to a village or small town and find yourself a local woman if you're into colombian chicks. Medellin you're shit out of luck if you want a relationship, for fun you're good but otherwise don't bother.
Tbh I see passport bros as legit people that want to find a wife and legit ones and im one of them but tbh I don’t really call them actually it’s just travellers that are not having success in your own country for whatever reason and trying another country just to live a better life and technically these women especially in Colombia are much easier to deal with than UK women. Where you have to go through the bullshit just to attract her and I don’t need to increase my bodies just to make her attractive to me. So the video is also for people like myself that need a quality girl that we can marry and have kids. The sex pests are not included in this video cos they only want hookup and that’s totally fine and that’s why I call them passport bros.
@@AKJoel your welcome man and I hope that it rectify that we as men are trying to have success dating in our country but no luck and today got rejected so you know how hard is it to get a date within all avenues of dating and going to a country that is chilled and much cheaper to deal with than in the west at least we can have a peace of mind and actually live our lives to the fullest rather than having this pressure to approach and get little to nothing at all and just feeling like bland.
Colombia, and especially Medellin, is not for the uninitiated. While Colombianas are very beautiful they can be very "mercenary". By the time you figure things out, you may be a relieved of a lot of your funds.
Is Medellín really the right city to be looking for that kind of woman in, especially considering the dangers of dating there? 🤔 You seem to be talking to higher value guys (so not most passport bros) who are pretty liberal. Those guys should be able to do well in Europe and probably even in the US in the first place. I see that you’re passionate about Medellín and Colombia, which is great but dating for that profile of guy isn’t probably the reason for him to go there when compared with the safer alternatives.
I get your point and I'd say the main reasons for Colombia over Europe is: better weather year round, cost of living, same time zone as the US and friendlier people.
@@AKJoel yeah, I definitely agree on most of that although the climate, cost of living and friendliness vary a lot on where you are in Europe. I hope to make it out to Colombia in the next year to make a more informed comparison with the region that I cover. 👍🏻
The video was interesting and pleasant, until it spoke of women who will drug and rob you. Really made me rethink what a blessing being single is! Thanks, AK!
@AKJoel AK, you are absolutely right! But if I live in reality and am being honest, that can, does and will happen anywhere if one is unwise. But lately, I have been utilizing your very insightful and informative videos to begin aligning my plans to relocate to Colombia. I would, at the appointed time, appreciate and trust in any and all services ($) that you (and Andrew) would be willing to partner with me in the process of this most exciting adventure! Best regards, and have a bright day AK!
I'm an American man and I am using a Marriage agency. The women I met are educated and looking for a serious relationship. It's worth the money for the introductions.
There are no statistics on the information you are giving out. Finding a women with a degree doesn’t qualify her as a good women. Most sex workers are using money to fund a college degree. So if you end up finding a women with a degree, you better be asking how did she pay for it.
@SepulchreBrit it starts with understanding the culture. This isn't a first world country where education is more accessible. It's actually common for girls to do this in order to finance their education or anything that is of great value simply because the money comes quickly. To be fair, it also happens in first world. I knew many strippers who funded their education by their vice. (not everyone wants to stay in this lifestyle)
Good afternoon Joel. Talking to SME like you, whose advices I listen carefully and try to process my question is: is your friend Lora, who accompanied your through Comuna 13th in one of your videos. Is she available for a meaningful friendship and possible relationships (no idea how old she is). She speaks English and seems not boring to be with at all. A woman like she is an ideal case. I was in Colombia 🇨🇴 twice before, traveling all over the country trying to see and to absorb as much life style and local culture, but no time to meet woman friend in there. My next visit will be different. I need a woman partner, a true friend who can be an open window to the new world. I most likely will be around Medellin most of the time my next trip. Viva Gran Colombia 🇨🇴 !
I mean this in the nicest possible way and I hope you take it that way, but women like Laura are not going to go out with a guy trying to meet them through a TH-cam comment lol Best of luck with your search though!!
@@AKJoel Of course I understand that. Laura is cute, smart, speaks English and won't do anything silly like looking at a guy from faw away through his comments on TH-cam. The problem I face is to meet a woman like her in there, who can enjoy time together exploring unexplored of beautiful Gran Colombia. I want to see and learn to much when I am in there. I am definitely not Tinder or LavaLife person. When I come next time, I may not have much free time, but whatever will be available should not be wasted. I appreciate your time answering to me.
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You are correct. I'm 65, and I have been dating a woman in her 50's from Medellín. We have fallen in love and are talking marriage. I met through a social media platform. I live in Puerto Rico and language is not an issue. But you are spot on.
Congratulations!!!
Which dating platform..I live in Medellín and cannot find a good girl despite being here for some time...Thanks
@@ernesto5655 Congratulations to you. You have apparently met someone your equal, rather than lusting after a young woman half your age. I wish you both all the best.
As a Colombian, I don’t like passport Bros. Your video is interesting.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I maintain the belief that Colombian women are inherently suited for Colombian men. A select few among them are truly exceptional, yet they often do not comprehend our values. They criticize us for "not dancing" and other such things, but here, the significance of trust and honesty is virtually nonexistent. Colombian women are reputed to be among the most unfaithful globally, so one should think twice. AK's perspective, with all its "filters," is accurate. It is indeed an amazing and beautiful culture, but only feasible for the short term-a few months at most. For a long-term relationship, I fear it is unmanageable. The video is good, offering excellent advice, particularly regarding safety and education. However, I would strongly advise reconsidering any long-term plans. Their beauty is angelic, but the cultural differences are significant. Best of luck to everyone.
Sorry you had a bad experience mate!
@@AKJoel It is not a matter of my adverse experience, as one individual cannot alter my perception and genuine affection for this remarkable country. I am merely conveying the truth and emphasizing your astute observations. Your circumstances are extraordinary, amigo: a young entrepreneur from Australia residing permanently in Medellín... It is, indeed, an atypical scenario, wouldn't you agree?
Don't think its ok to bash on Colombian women exclusively. Colombian men are also unfaithful lol. I've met many Colombian guys that tell me they have other lovers while they're married and have a family. Have met Colombian guys tell me they've had children with other girls while they were married, and that didn't end well with them.
as a colombian woman I'm glad you addressed to the passport bros. nobody wants them. It's nice to see a foreggner giving good dating advice to the men wanting to date here. and I like how you're advice is being respectful towards the colombian woman. that is refreshing from what i have seen on other channels. thank you
Thank you!! 🙂
I spent 18 months in Medellin and dated many girls in Colombia. Almost every girl i met needed money for medicine for there mothers. I was thinking to myself how unlucky could i be meet all these women with sick mothers 😂😂😂😂😂
Damn you better speak to the Minister of Health because these women need help!!! 😂
I like how you qualify the types of men whom your advice does not apply to. Unrealistic expectations are the same in every country and they most certainly apply here in Colombia.
Definitely, well said Jeff!
Great advise.. For me, as soon as I became 50% fluent, relationship became fun..: laughter, jokes, serious convo.. i communicate w my gf 10 times a day at least in WhatsApp.. that builds up skills as we struggle n learn more.
This is an excellent video! Ironically, some men insist on paying for everything but, as a professional and independent woman, I appreciate when my offers to pay are accepted.
I love that! All women should be like you Vivi🙂
Overall excellent advice which I am totally in agreement with. A couple of things I might add - first, tying in with the ability to speak some English and desire to travel I would say it's best if they have some experience with or at least a desire to learn about your own culture. Even though you're here on their turf, it shouldn't be a total one-way street with the expectation that you embrace everything about Colombian culture absent any reciprocal interest on their part in yours (which after all, will always be a major and primary part of you). Next, even though dating apps if used according to the right guidelines might be useful (and in Medellín you have to be especially careful), I believe it's always best to meet someone organically through participation in an activity of mutual interest. That way you already know you at least have something in common, and there will normally be an opportunity to talk and get to know them better absent the innate pressure of being on a 'date'.
You're right, someone who's into you should definitely be interested in learning about your culture!
Excellent video, excellent advice as usual.
I have been to Medellin before with my wife and I will say you typically only see the passport bros in Medellin and Cartagena. Trying to find a serious relationship is like trying to find a serious relationship in Las Vegas, Nevada….
I have Been with my Colombian wife for 4 years. She is from Bogota and she’s 6 years older than me. She is very passionate, loving, loyal. She is an entrepreneur, she is very smart with finances and saving money. I’m very fortunate.
Great advice thanks for the video.
I agree with most of what was said. I don't want to be an ATM. But, the wages in Colombia are super low. I can make in one day what a typical Colombian can make in a month. Personally, I don't have a problem paying for Ubers and food. But, if she says "my grandma is sick," or "I need help with rent," I'm gone.
Great advice brotha. Does make sense
Thank you, AK. You always put out good informative videos.
No worries Thomas!
Great advice for the deserving. And I couldn’t agree more about finding someone who is university educated. For example, I’ve met some incredible Medellin women who graduated from the University of Antioquia. They’re intelligent, confident, engaging and worldly-even when not well traveled. If I were in the dating market, that would be a major green flag (or a red one for the passport bros/whining Weses out there).
"Great advice for the deserving" - I like this line!!
I went with my white gringo friend we had great time until he wanted to risk it more was trying to pick up women one day he met this Colombian woman and they arranged to have something to eat (I told him be careful)i normally never really stayed out late and took great care anyway that was the last I heard of him tried calling him not responding even went to the place they met nothing I later got wind he was drugged and killed and had his cards rinsed till this day it sends shivers down my spine I would never go back also majority of killings don’t make it in the media be careful guys when you go you only have one life.
AK, this video is long overdue. Maybe you hadn’t lived in Medellín long enough to have amassed the data you have now. I think you gave very solid & sensible advice. I was raised where my father was the sole bread winner & provider + I believe in chivalry. While I believe it’s my responsibility to cover the costs of a date I also provide opportunities to allow my date to reciprocate & look for signs of appreciation. For example, I love gelato so often after enjoying a meal together I rather go elsewhere for dessert. Most often my date will at least make an attempt to treat me to dessert. Another example might be me buying the movie tics & her offering to buy the popcorn & drinks etc. As you suggested it’s important to take notice & establish some sort of ground rules by which you guide yourself so as not to be taken advantage of.
I’ve also found that introductions by others often lead to better quality opportunities based on the premise that good people know other good people. If you & I were mates, hung out a bit, your now wife gets to know me there’s a chance she might introduce me to one of her friends that she believes would be a good match. There’s no guarantee of compatibility & eternal love BUT I do believe intros by others also help weed out those who don’t necessarily have the bestest of intentions.
Off topic but relevant to your channel & valuable work. I’m taking my first trip to Medellín 8/29 - 9/7 to see the country & city I’ve heard so many things about, to explore relocating there & determining whether it’s possible to find my last first kiss. Working on my list of topics in advance of a call with you in the near future.
Keep up the good work!
Great comment Michael! Thanks for taking the time to write this 😊 "Find my last first kiss" is a great line haha
What was your experience?
I agree with your points, but would say THE #1 Most Important factor is that the girl has a job/career... A REAL job 💯
That means none of these girls who do hair/makeup/modeling, etc. as a side hustle.... They need to have steady income that they receive biweekly. If not, YOU will become the sponsor by default... I seen it too many times....
Yeah, I didn't order these tips because I think all are important but the job factor is probably #1 as you said!
The kind of women you describe (educated, professional, cultured) are more selective, especially if they're also physically attractive. "Passport bros" tend to want an easy ride and therefore go for the lower-hanging fruit. I think they also sometimes see being well-traveled and speaking good English as red flags in a woman. They seem to enjoy the sense of superiority that they feel when with they're with a girl from a low social class. It gives them a sense of security and raises their ego and self-esteem, which is, despite appearances, in a fragile state after many years of dissapointment and failure in the West. There are, by the way, millions of good women from economically humble backgrounds (and tons of bad women from privileged backgrounds), but they're also not interested in what these men have to offer. So they're left with what they're left with.
You summed it up perfectly! 💯
Please don't speak on something your not a part off, passport bros are looking for those qualities in women , looking for wives , so don't categorize us with tricks, we are way different
Many men that visit Medellin aren't looking for girlfriend's man, they're looking for a fun hookup; just like if they were visiting Vegas, Miami, or Houston. Are men that go to Vegas and hookup with women, low quality men too? Leave your judgemental comment at home and learn humility haha. Men MOVING to Medellin are a different story.
Great 👍🏾 video
Glad you enjoyed it!
Most spot-on video about finding genuine women in Latin America!! I learned to spot the gold-digging type in my very early 20s. Coming from LA and going to my parent's small town in Mexico, I would always feel like a rockstar getting all the attention 🤣thanks for the informative videos as always!
I would also like to add some things to your list.
If you know that you are going to live or going to date in south america. You have to learn spanish. Even if your date can speak english or is learning it. Even if it is not perfect but she sees you put the effort in, she will look at you way differently. Also the people in general. I am from germany and my appearance is like a typical german I would say. Blonde with blue eyes. I was in Colombia this year for vacation and the people just thought "another gringo". But after starting to speak spanish to them, you could see the the expressions in their eyes and face change drastically.
And secondly I would never go on an expensive first date. Just go into a park or have a coffee together. In parks there are usually people selling some street food or stuff like ice cream, too.
You could also go to the cinema. It is pretty cheap, at least the tickets are. Food is ok.
If she does not agree to something like that and only wants to go to a fancy restaurant or something, she just is not interested enough to get to know you.
Yes you are completely right when you say "after starting to speak Spanish to them, you could see the the expressions in their eyes and face change drastically."
Your social value increases 10x they realize you know Spanish. You're not just "another gringo" anymore.
That’s a very real video!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great vid bro 🥂🙏🏽
Cheers Jules!
Good video Joel. Right on the money.
Cheers Eddie!
This is a GREAT video!!
Thanks Marcus!
Excellent tips!
Thanks!
great advice
Cheers Andrew!
@@AKJoel i sent you an email id like to schedule a call this week before i go to Medellin saturday
Great topic
This one was long overdue!
Regarding social media. If the majority of her posts are of her in bikinis or other sexually suggestive situations, don’t even bother. Look for a woman that is modest and who doesn’t post ‘thirst trap’ pics. Also, When you find a good woman, and establish a monogamous relationship, if she doesn’t post pictures of the two of you together on her social media accounts, you’re not the only guy she’s talking to.
Brilliant comment 👍 No good woman is gonna post on social media like she's an Onlyfans model lol 😅
Overall this is great advice. I'd say learn spanish at a high level if you want to do well in Latin America. The pool of English-speaking people in Colombia is pretty tiny. Your time in any Latin American is going to be 100% better speaking Spanish. I want to make local friends and not just be hanging out with expats and I want to learn about the culture. Along those lines a girlfriend is one of the best ways to immerse yourself.
It’s not true. Brazil speak português only. Spanish won’t make the cut out there
I've dated a bunch in Medellin. I never offer to pay transport off the bat. I will often if they ask about it. If they get there on their own, even if it's taking the metro, they are usually more genuine. Them offering to pay for little things, taking you on the metro with their civica, coffees or beer is also a good sign like you say. But I also lump acts of service in with that. My ex girlfriend took me to the hospital stayed with me for two weeks while I recovered, and was running around getting all my medicine and supplies after surgery. This was when I started dating her, without me asking and after Id planned to hire a nurse. I've dated other girls that want to cook for you, clean up, help you shave etc... With the gold diggers it's always about them or minimally they think giving you sex is enough.
As a Medellin girl married to someone from US that I met almost 9 years ago, I would say this advice is pretty good. There are a lot of fantastic and exceptional women all around Medellin, education in a country like Colombia is a privilege, therefore, sometimes your girl could be from a poor area of Medellin and still be a good and exceptional woman that just hasn’t have a lot opportunities in life. However, a lot good and local girls just don’t want to go out with foreigners because some of them have been really good on creating a bad reputation around foreigners and that they are only looking to go out and have sex with as many women as they can while traveling in Colombia. So best advice be mindful of yourself and use common sense and you would probably be fine and find a good girl in Medellin or anywhere in the world.
I like your videos my man! I speak Spanish and I say only get with a Colombian women that speaks English. If you think she will learn English, you can forget about that. A good place to to meet Colombians that speak English are the doctor and dentist office that cater to tourist. I go to international smiles and everybody speaks English. I agree with dating app but if she has self employed, unemployed, or student, pass on these women. Also if you're in your 40s, get a woman close to your age.
Brilliant advice - especially when you said "get a woman close to your age." This is another area where a lot of foreigners mess up.
God bless bro, great vids
Thanks mate!
If a grown man needs to watch this video, he is going to become a statistic.
The #1 and most important thing is that the man and woman are believers of Jesus Christ, only then you are really good for each other ❤
I hope you do a collaboration one day with Saiyan Chan.
I’m currently living in Manila Medellin and I have actually had a ton of luck dating in Colombia with tinder and bumble. I’m talking about women who know English, have visas to Europe and U.S., and have degrees and have good jobs. With tinder you have to be more realistic with yourself. Dating in the U.S. is far easier and I had way better results. But in Colombia it’s even harder with the language barrier, even if the girl is into you, at some point you two will become frustrated if you don’t both improve. Guys really do need to learn Spanish. I am good at talking to women in the U.S. so my superpower in the US does not work in Colombia.
Also dating women in Colombia has actually saved me a ton of money. If they are interested in you, they will do try to help you
Even in the USA if I ask someone on a proper date I should pay. Internationally men have created what I call "the handout mentallity". It all comes down to who your dating. Money will create pleasures but are very short term. There some amazing in women in Colombia and others want and need money. My joke is I'll be your "Slendid Dad" and will also say Im not sponsoring anyone right now. They laugh, but someone will always try to out bid you. I have feelings and always want to better the people around me.
Yes. Him expecting guys to go to Columbia and find college educated women who want to split the bill on the first date while these same men do not have those credentials and come from a country where their currency is exponentially more valuable is ridiculous and terrible advice.
Hello AK, Mike Faca here. Just a comment about your video. First, there is an old saying, " stay in your lane ". What this means is that if you are 70 years old you should be looking for someone in your age group. I am 71 and my wife, who is Colombian, is 71. We have been married for 21 years. Second, when I was single, I did not have a problem dating women because I treat them with respect, I am honest to them and I never tried to change who they were. If you go to another country to find a woman because you could not find one in your country, maybe look in the mirror. Alot of your videos talk about making friends which I have commented on. Friendship is the foundation to a good relation. If you are a good person, you will attract good people. If you know what you want, you will see the bad people and can avoid them. Have a great day my friend.
Sorry I’m 58 and have always dated 20 years younger bec fortunately good genes look decade plus younger . What applies to you doesn’t apply to everyone .
Good video
Thanks!
Great advice. I’ve been paying for women my whole life but I’ve found that I’ve changed in that I’m not interested in changing girls anymore. I’m just looking for a chemistry and companion. I’m not into nighttime as I go to sleep ridiculously early and do a ton of exercise , sports and diet. I’m hoping to find a travel partner too. One who can understand or even partake in my fitness life along with sightseeing. I’m learning Spanish and plan on studying it in Medellin as well as pursuing my sports activities there. No more clubs man that’s over.
This sounds exactly like me "I’m not into nighttime as I go to sleep ridiculously early and do a ton of exercise , sports and diet."
Well my wife checks all these boxes. So I will second these recommendations.
Congrats to you, she must be an amazing woman!
Am i considered a passport bro?
hear me out...
Ive never been the type to have a one night stand im strictly a relationship only guy, i do want to speak to alot of Colombians when i go there, because i find their culture fascinating, and i am naturally drawn to latina women, but id never do anything whilst im out there. Is that still considered being a passport bro? if my culture is very different, what are your thoughts?
EXACTLY TRUE
Regarding women who travel... I would be careful. If the girl has no means, but lots of travel to exotic places.... That means... Nothing good IMHO.
nice shirt
Thanks! I picked that one up in a boutique store in Bali!
GOOD WOMEN in Medellin are professional women and women who didn't go to university but are very business saavy and have established themselves with their work in general. You really don't find them on dating apps in general. You have to network. These womnen usally work for good companies like Nacional de Chocolates, ISA, EPM, etc.You have to really speak Spanish well enough to connect with them. Some of these professional women have some pre-intermediate to intermediate English speaking skills. These types of women are not interested in leaving Medellin and their comforts to go to some foreign land where they're far from family and friends. I know all of tghis because I have been here for 26 years now. I'm a teacher and that's how I have met so many good women and not the shady ones.
26 years?! Damn!!
All your tips are spot on by the way - you're right that no high value established woman wants to leave Medellin. Plenty are open to going to other countries to study/work but they always want to come back home.
@@AKJoel That's right Joel. If any decent guy wants to have the chance of connecting with a good Paisa gal, they need to learn a good amount of Spanish, network with locals and establish good friendships so that they can get introduced to the right people. By locals I mean middle class or upper class folks because there's a good chance of not getting fooled or worse.
Dating good woman is NOT impossible in Colombia. However, to your points, you will indeed have to put in the work.
In my opinion, speaking english is NOT the best way, but speaking Spanish is. You are in their country , they are not in yours. The chances of getting someone of great character opens up when you can get them natively and not already Americanized 😒
Also, a degree while good, doesnt justify being a good woman.
As for Social media, you just want to make sure it's not a troll account.
Likes to travel, well, I'd personally rather have a partner who never or barely traveled so I we can share that experience together.
Enjoyed your comment "nip it in the bud. lol. Enjoyed the Vedio. Tks
Same in Mexico
homie go to to a village or small town and find yourself a local woman if you're into colombian chicks. Medellin you're shit out of luck if you want a relationship, for fun you're good but otherwise don't bother.
I can attest there's plenty of good women in Medellin, no need to live in a village lol
It sounds just like dating in America. Only the women are more feminine. Way too many "baby mamas" in Colombia.
Tbh I see passport bros as legit people that want to find a wife and legit ones and im one of them but tbh I don’t really call them actually it’s just travellers that are not having success in your own country for whatever reason and trying another country just to live a better life and technically these women especially in Colombia are much easier to deal with than UK women. Where you have to go through the bullshit just to attract her and I don’t need to increase my bodies just to make her attractive to me. So the video is also for people like myself that need a quality girl that we can marry and have kids.
The sex pests are not included in this video cos they only want hookup and that’s totally fine and that’s why I call them passport bros.
Well said, thanks for your comment!
@@AKJoel your welcome man and I hope that it rectify that we as men are trying to have success dating in our country but no luck and today got rejected so you know how hard is it to get a date within all avenues of dating and going to a country that is chilled and much cheaper to deal with than in the west at least we can have a peace of mind and actually live our lives to the fullest rather than having this pressure to approach and get little to nothing at all and just feeling like bland.
You wouldn't think that based on the men PPB channels. Most PPB TH-camrs seem to be with former xes workers especially in Thailand.
@@besharp1998yup
Meet them in church. Then see if they donate to the tithe.. Make sure its their money and them not asking pops to give only...
Great idea!
Colombia, and especially Medellin, is not for the uninitiated. While Colombianas are very beautiful they can be very "mercenary". By the time you figure things out, you may be a relieved of a lot of your funds.
Is Medellín really the right city to be looking for that kind of woman in, especially considering the dangers of dating there? 🤔 You seem to be talking to higher value guys (so not most passport bros) who are pretty liberal. Those guys should be able to do well in Europe and probably even in the US in the first place.
I see that you’re passionate about Medellín and Colombia, which is great but dating for that profile of guy isn’t probably the reason for him to go there when compared with the safer alternatives.
I get your point and I'd say the main reasons for Colombia over Europe is: better weather year round, cost of living, same time zone as the US and friendlier people.
@@AKJoel yeah, I definitely agree on most of that although the climate, cost of living and friendliness vary a lot on where you are in Europe.
I hope to make it out to Colombia in the next year to make a more informed comparison with the region that I cover. 👍🏻
Gringos are big targets my mate got drugged and got robbed when he went Colombia stay safe guys be very careful sometimes is just not worth it
The video was interesting and pleasant, until it spoke of women who will drug and rob you. Really made me rethink what a blessing being single is! Thanks, AK!
Lol yup, that's definitely a danger here if you don't take the necessary precautions!
@AKJoel AK, you are absolutely right! But if I live in reality and am being honest, that can, does and will happen anywhere if one is unwise. But lately, I have been utilizing your very insightful and informative videos to begin aligning my plans to relocate to Colombia. I would, at the appointed time, appreciate and trust in any and all services ($) that you (and Andrew) would be willing to partner with me in the process of this most exciting adventure! Best regards, and have a bright day AK!
Awesome mate, we're here to help whenever you need 👍🙂
@@AKJoel Thank you so much! I truly appreciate you and all you do!
I'm an American man and I am using a Marriage agency. The women I met are educated and looking for a serious relationship. It's worth the money for the introductions.
Yeah, to have them already vet the women can save you a lot of time and hassle it seems! Good for you!
There are no statistics on the information you are giving out. Finding a women with a degree doesn’t qualify her as a good women. Most sex workers are using money to fund a college degree. So if you end up finding a women with a degree, you better be asking how did she pay for it.
Be interested to know how you’d discovered sex workers’ career ambitions….
@SepulchreBrit it starts with understanding the culture. This isn't a first world country where education is more accessible.
It's actually common for girls to do this in order to finance their education or anything that is of great value simply because the money comes quickly.
To be fair, it also happens in first world. I knew many strippers who funded their education by their vice. (not everyone wants to stay in this lifestyle)
As Colombia I’ll say you should try to go to other cites and also pay attention if I lady only want to go to fancy places that is big 🚩
Yes - that's definitely true. First date at Juan Valdez! If she isn't interested, move on hahaha
@@AKJoel yeap but believe me the same apply for any big city, cuz I’m in LA and is the same 🤣
The secret is to find a Colombian woman that doesn’t dance! That’s how you know she’s a keeper.
Personally I’m not learning a new language for anyone lol it’s millions of chicks that speak English
Good afternoon Joel. Talking to SME like you, whose advices I listen carefully and try to process my question is: is your friend Lora, who accompanied your through Comuna 13th in one of your videos. Is she available for a meaningful friendship and possible relationships (no idea how old she is). She speaks English and seems not boring to be with at all. A woman like she is an ideal case. I was in Colombia 🇨🇴 twice before, traveling all over the country trying to see and to absorb as much life style and local culture, but no time to meet woman friend in there. My next visit will be different. I need a woman partner, a true friend who can be an open window to the new world. I most likely will be around Medellin most of the time my next trip. Viva Gran Colombia 🇨🇴 !
I mean this in the nicest possible way and I hope you take it that way, but women like Laura are not going to go out with a guy trying to meet them through a TH-cam comment lol Best of luck with your search though!!
@@AKJoel Of course I understand that. Laura is cute, smart, speaks English and won't do anything silly like looking at a guy from faw away through his comments on TH-cam. The problem I face is to meet a woman like her in there, who can enjoy time together exploring unexplored of beautiful Gran Colombia. I want to see and learn to much when I am in there. I am definitely not Tinder or LavaLife person. When I come next time, I may not have much free time, but whatever will be available should not be wasted. I appreciate your time answering to me.
Cringe AF
Great advice