childfree weddings are totally insulting? | Childfree Kimberly
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- This literal Karen thinks childfree weddings are totally insulting...and I think she's totally stupid. Come on this journey with me as we read the article "Why Childfree Weddings are Totally Insulting".
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Hot take: If you can afford to have children, you should be able to afford to get a sitter for one night. Do not make it the bride and grooms problem- if it’s a problem just RSVP no so that no one needs to deal with your negativity. I cannot handle these people lol.
Yes, yes, yes, 1000000 times YES
@@ChildfreeKimberly They always bring up the cost element and it’s like “and…?” I’m not paying $100 per person for your toddler to not eat the food lol
👏👏👏 exactly. It's not free for the kid to be there any more than a babysitter is free!
I can't stand people who try to make their spoiled crotch fruit everyone else's problem. They try to hide behind the fake claim that they're being discriminated against when they can't bring in their precious offspring with them. No one deserves special treatment because they had unprotected sex whether the pregnancy was planned or not. They chose to have the kid, and now their lives revolve around it. People need to stop posturing and using their kids as an extension of their arrogance.
Amen to all of this. What is it worth these idiots that think someone else's special day should cater to them.
Lord i hope someone does reply back about how selfish it is... Then the bride/groom can say "Oh sorry. You're right. We don't want you there because we did say no children. Next time we just won't invite you at all since you can't be an adult."
As a former kid: YOUR CHILDREN DON'T WANT TO GO TO A WEDDING
Agreed even at 13 I did not have fun at the wedding. Just a bunch of adults getting drunk, while I sat around doing nothing with no food...
i only liked going for food back when i was 12. whitewashed pakistanis had to have some cringey sob speech
Yes! I went to one when I was 10 and I hated being there. I'm 20 now and I would tell parents that their kids don't want to be there being talked down to by adults and being uncomfortable in nice clothes. The whole time I was at the wedding, I wanted to go home or to go play (it was at a cool looking vineyard).
@@hannahstarinieri1351 true, my parents didnt even let me play with my cousins
Yes! I hated it when I was younger, too, because most of the time it was far away - meaning I’d lose tons of energy far before the event, then being around tons of people... most of which I didn’t know, loud sounds everywhere, and nowhere to get any peace.
Unbelievable... This reminds me of a cat-cafe in my country that didn't let kids under the age of 12 enter, because they didn't want the cats to be bothered by little demons screaming, running and chasing them. But there was ONE mother, of course, that filed a complaint against the cat-cafe for not letting her 6yo kid in. She was all pissed and offended. The cat-cafe manager said "this is not a petting zoo".
And animals in petting zoos should have to tolerate them either.
@@mmason9836that's a great response. I remember I was friends with the lady who raised her awful son to be beatified, canonized and put him on a pedestal. This kid grew up to be an absolute nightmare. An overgrown man child with no respect for boundaries, zero comprehension of the word no and nothing resembling a sense of accountability. Well he worked for a mutual friend who owns a ranch. Then in his early twenties, he was fired after 2 weeks for being a terrible employee but I do more than mutual friend laughing with relish about how he had been kicked by a horse. The mutual friend pulled no punches and told him he probably deserved it for teasing them. It should come as no surprise whatsoever, he had even less respect for animals.
We same the same issue in Russia. When we finally started having some cat-cafes, of course, moms with children started invading them and causing chaos, so cat-cafes created policies which didn't allow kids before 7-12 to enter or "no-child" days, when adult visitors can fully relax without little kids screaming around and abusing cats. Of course, many mothers were okay with these rules, but some, unfortunately, got hella mad of this, and sent multiple complaints to authorities about these policies or they even tried to push their kids in the cat-cafes when the kids were too young to enter or there was "no-child" day and then had an audacity to insult poor workers and threatened them to call the police, because: "Where in the law is written where children aren't allowed in certain places?! You're discriminating us!!"
We call mothers like them "yazhematj" (яжемать)/ "IAmAMother", cause these women think that their only value as a woman is creating a child and because they had sex without a condom, now they "did a huge favor to the society", they're the main characters, and now the whole world revolves around them and their children. They're very insufferable to interact with, no matter are you a social worker, a family member or just a stranger. Many of them verbally and often physically attack other adults and even other children for anything, they often use their husbands as a backup (if they even have them). This cate-cafe situation is 100% "yazhematj" behaviour and it shouldn't be tolerated.
Cats aren't toys for children and cat-cafes are very unprofittable businesses. Many of them are shelters for cats cause the majority of cats in cat-cafes were strays or just abandoned by previous owners, and cat-cafes try hard to find potentional new homes for their inhabitants. They exist not only for entertaiment. If these places don't allow children or create strict policies around children, then parents should understand that nothing is created out of nowhere and they had some part of fault in this. Wait till you child gets older or just don't attend places where children aren't allowed. Not everything should be around children and it's okay.
Good for the owner. Sorry but not every environment is appropriate for kids and they should be banned in places. That woman is unreal. Selfish main character syndrome.
@@peachesandcream22 in the US places have the right to refuse service to anyone unless the person can prove discrimination… makes me want to open a cat cafe here.
This is basically what I got from Karen’s article;
“Childfree weddings are wrong because they are excluding MY child! Unless it’s MY childfree wedding! And adult-only time is wrong, because you’re excluding MY child! Unless it’s MY adult only time!”
Basically, Karen is unknowingly confessing to being a massive hypocrite and that everyone must cater to her wants and desires because sHe HaS a ChIlD!
You hit the nail right on the head, my friend 🤣👏
Bam! Bam!
I suspect her child is going to grow up hating her and cut contact as soon as he moves out. That's what happened to a former friend of mine who very much had the same hypocritical attitude is the Karen in that article. My former friend, let's call her Molly, never gave a damn about her children unless it could get her attention. She used them to get handouts from people because she never worked. Her kids often went without, wore ill-fitting clothes, shoes that didn't fit, didn't have supplies for school, but dear old mom always had a full pack of cigarettes, her nails done, her hair done and booze in the fridge. Last I heard as I went no contact more than 8 years ago, her now-grown son and daughter have little if anything to do with her, her marriage to hubby number two (son's father) is on the rocks and Molly is the around the clock caregiver for her spiteful elderly mother-in-law. To say there is no love lost between these two women is a gross understatement. Mother-in-law CANNOT stand Molly as she purposely baby-trapped mother-in-law's son into getting married by getting pregnant. She also despises Molly for turning her grandson into a spoiled, entitled brat. In other words, son turned out just like Mom.
She is narc!! Unfortunately, most who pop out a f^
@@iononcantomascrivo that's a tragic story
Dear parents, a child of a species which has overpopulated the world is NOT a miracle
The most sound thing I’ve ever read addressed to the countless mfs who crowd this place more and more w their inability to not sh!t out a person and/or spew one into another for the same endgame.
Exactly!!! A Miracle doesn't shit, piss, burb, scream, belch, vomit, throw a tantrum, whine, throw food..etc!! It's a MIRACLE if the brat didn't do ANY of these things! Kraken Karen needs a dictionary. Shitting out a BABY is NOT a miracle.. even if it IS jesus freaking christ.
Careful now. You will bust their egotistical bubble.
Moms don't realize their kids annoy others. And you're right. You lose your identity with the MOM label
Honestly I think some parents KNOW their kids annoy others and just don't care 😂
My kids are grown. Glad they're grown but they were the biggest pains in my ass when they were younger. They're why I can't stand the sight and sound of children. I'm a little triggered and traumatized because they were rotten little shits. Moms don't have the guts to admit that. Child free people are smart
I appreciate this honesty so much 👏👏👏
Went to a wedding the other day. A toddler was screaming during the father-daughter dance. Absolutely screaming. And the parents, just sittin there chillin like it was cute. Here’s the thing, that is a moment that some people dream about their entire lives. There will be no babies at my wedding. 21+ only for liability reasons (booze will be flowing) and because I’m not about to drop THOUSANDS of dollars on what is supposed to be one of the best days of our lives only for your kids to ruin our beautiful moments throughout the night. Save the dates are sent out months ahead of time… use that time to arrange childcare… or don’t come. Simple.
YES. They have SO MUCH TIME to find arrangements for their children!
Kids also 🙃 literally don’t care about weddings. They don’t enjoy them. WHY?? Like, just because you’re invited to an event doesn’t mean your kids can come???? Like are you gonna bring them to your evening work events too? No? Because that would suck and be thoughtless and make no sense? Right!!
@@athenaatwar475 Also, weddings have a dress code. Kids are never comfortable in tuxedos and long puffy dresses, this just makes them want to scream more and more.
@@NynNahh true story. As a child, I had to go to or be in MANY weddings. When you’re the flower girl and you have to stand there and be still in painful shoes for an hour or however long the really religious wedding ceremonies are… it can be really difficult.
And like, I randomly got what I thought was Tang or Orange Juice and it turned out to be a Screwdriver in a punch bowl once at a wedding. I remember I brought it to the closest adult I could find and told them the orange juice had gone bad and then they realized that kids could access the liquor bowl and also they hadn’t provided any kind of drinks that kids COULD drink and it basically ruined like 5 peoples’ nights as they scrambled to make sure they didn’t have drunk children. (I didn’t actually know what happened until way later in life)
@@mangala666 what the hell... They had a child inclusive wedding with no drinks for kids (aside from water, I suppose - I hope!) ?! That's nuts!! And I'm sorry you had to go through that, it sounds really painful... the shoes were really a nightmare :-:
That 6 month old baby still wailed during the vows at that wedding. What does it matter if the father took him away later? He still ruined the moment. Thats a risk nobody wants at their wedding.
RIGHT?! The baby cried and the father was a distraction in taking him out of the building. So it was still an issue! She's just DENSE 🤣
This exact thing happened to my parents. They had their ceremony tape recorded and there is some baby screaming throughout the entire ceremony. Fucking infuriating. No, we can't trust parents to actually parent their shithead kids because they don't.
why are americans so overly sensitive
In my culture the actual ceremony doesn't start until 10 or 11 pm, all the screaming kids are fast asleep till.then😂
Oh but Mamma bear was probably lapping it up as all eyes were on HER and HER screaming Bouncing Baby Baalzebub.
People don’t teach their kids shit. They blame the school system and plop them in front of screens. But please by all means bring your “poop machine” to ruin somebody else’s wedding.
Kids usually get so bored at weddings and end up running around and ruining everything! If you can afford children, you can probably afford a sitter for the night.
Agreed! 👏 and if not, guess they gotta miss the wedding 🤷♀️
or just give them a tablet or phone they will be quiet and good it's not that hard
@@i-3137Some parents don't want their little children with phones, the best for them is being at home.
Agreed. Also the whole “I couldn't find a sitter” excuse is just that, a flimsy, lazy excuse. The save the date invitations go out usually at least a year in advance. That means they had plenty of time to find accommodations for their child so they could attend the child-free wedding. Unless, of course, what they planned to do was show up with their kid at the wedding expecting "an exception” to be made.
This woman has been so blinded my motherhood and a sense of entitlement that she can’t see how hypocritical she is being. She literally laid out all of the (very valid) reasons why someone might not want kids at their wedding, and then turns around and says “but my kids are SO well-behaved and I’m SUCH a good mom! How DARE you exclude them!! You must not love us enough or you would have wanted all of us there!!!!” Like, c’mon. It’s not that big of a deal, it’s just a damn wedding. Get over yourself, Karen. 🙄
EXACTLY THIS 🤣🤣🤣 so blinded by her entitlement
Every single "mama bear" thinks THEIR own kids are little angels *SIGH*
@@ChildfreeKimberly 14:12-14:18 shocked me because she said anyone that doesn't do what that couple did is heartless. Like what does she not get NOT EVERYONE wants kids at their wedding my god the entitlement is disgusting and motherhood does not mean you get to demand special treatment!!!
Yeah she missed that memo! She thinks she deserves the WORLD 😅🤦♀️
The overwhelming irony is, if she hadn't let her husband get over herself, she wouldn't be in this position
People who banned kids from their weddings were heroes to me as a kid. I used to LOATHE weddings as a kid. No kid wants to spend their weekend at a wedding.
My wedding was 21 and up. Not only did I not want children there, I did not want to worry about people who weren't allowed to drink legally yet.
yup, fully agree. i’ve always thought at least 18+ for my future wedding. i mean i’m
19, and i would totally get that if i wasn’t invited to a wedding bc i’m 19. it’s literally not a big deal lol plus it’s not my day?? it would be narcissistic to feel entitled to an invitation to a wedding.
I was 19 when I got married.. i cant imagine being barred from a wedding because you're not 21..
America is so weird
In case Karen forgot, weddings are about the couple! If they want everyone to dress as effing dinosaurs so be it. Her useless rant highlights her entitlement (as you stated) and the attention she seeks from having kids. And agreed, breastfeeding in the honeymoon suite? Ewwwww. Also, weddings aren't effing summer camp! Couples aren't obligated to hire entertainment for other people's kids. Period. UGH. So absolutely entitled. I unfortunately had kids at mine. Thankfully my step mother set up a station for coloring and one of the teenagers manned it for us hahaha. BUT, if I could do it all over again? There would be none.
That was good thinking on your step mom's part! I had 1 child at mine (husband's nephew) and luckily he's a quiet kid 😂
Karen is a nice name not an insult
Omg now i want a theme wedding lol
Or if there are brats.. dunk the pacifier in two DROPS of Benadryl or Ny-Quil.. lol.
What bothers me is that children don't like being at weddings, it is boring to them. Do the children a favor by having a childfree wedding.
This entire BS “article” is one extremely selfish woman trying to justify why other people should put up with her kids at their weddings for her convenience even though she didn’t want to put up with other people’s kids at her wedding. So much for becoming a parent making you less selfish!
Very late to the party but that part where Karen said 'children are integral to our lives' - pets are also very integral and yet everyone has the understanding that weddings aren't the place for them and that the couple getting married doesn't have to accommodate any animal being present.
Is this a new thing? My parents went to at least 6 or 7 weddings throughout my childhood and my sister and I never went. We got to hang out with our favorite babysitter, rent video games and movies from Blockbuster and order pizza while our parents went to the weddings. They had fun and we had fun. I would NEVER have wanted to be dragged to a wedding as a child.
You had parents who possess basic reasoning skills 🧠
They did good 👍
They didn't consider what they'd be losing by becoming parents, and now that they're realizing it they expect everyone else to bend and accommodate them. Nope. Their mistake for not thinking it out first.
1. the look on your face as you make fun of her is amazing
2. with how much parents complain about their kids, you'd think they'd want to be away from them
She was just too ridiculous 🤣 and yes, you'd think so! But when your whole identity is your kids, I guess it doesn't apply lol
It’s not that deep honestly. The parents that are offended are either egotistical, entitled or highly sensitive over small situations. To me, I think that since it’s the couple’s wedding and it’s THEIR decision how they want their wedding to be, then as invited guests or people attending, we should be able to follow such simple rules. Hell, if the couple told me to come to the wedding wearing a red hat, I’d do just that or not go. What’s the point of getting upset over something so stupid?? In the past, my siblings and I were babysat as my parents attended a Childfree wedding. My parents didn’t care to make it a big deal but wanted to pay respect because it was a old classmate and they were invited. This woman actually got so angry that she wrote a whole article?? People are so damn childish, UGH!
Childfree weddings actually make sense because weddings are long and boring to kids. They won't have a good time, so why bring them?
Guys, trust me it's not fun to have a kid scream during a wedding.
Sounds like Karen’s husband wasn’t sacrificing anything, he was playing drums while his wife was taking care of their baby.
"One heck of a dancer" LOOOL I'm done...I've literally burst out laughing in public whilst watching this video
That sentence was so ridiculous to me 🤣🤣🤣
Karen just jumped from "it's financially and logistically prohibitive to find one (1) babysitter" to "just hire a full bus full of them for the event". Because she had hers already, now she gets concerned on how she's accomodated elsewhere.
She's doing her name justice, holy hell. This is the peak of self-serving delusion.
I dont care how amazing your child is, don't bring him to the wedding.
Honestly, I don't think the kids want to be a part of the weddings either. Thankfully, my parents always involved me in anything that I was a part of. If I didn't want to go to a wedding or a funeral I was babysat by a neighbour/family friend/another family member, visiting a friend or just being home when I was old enough to be home alone.
(I sometimes wonder if I dodge a crazy bullet when it comes to my parents.)
See, I wouldn't have wanted to go to a wedding as a kid either! These parents get so offended over NOTHING 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️. Just leave them at home and it'll be alright lol
My sister gets highly offended when I state I don’t want to travel with her with my niece (her daughter) in tow because then it becomes a kid’s trip: eating on their schedule and at places appropriate for them, having to be back in hotel on their sleep schedule, having to avoid activities they are unable to participate in, etc. She states she doesn’t want to travel without her. Fine. But then goes on to plan a week-long trip to MC a wedding out of the country…on her daughter’s 5th birthday. The kicker? It was the wedding of her daughter’s godfather. I asked her if she felt so strongly about not wanting to travel without her daughter, that was the perfect trip: her godfather’s CHILD FRIENDLY wedding, on her birthday. But no. She wanted to have an adult trip for a break. But she can’t get how someone else might want the same for a trip they are spending their hard earned money on. Listening to parents, you see they are anything but selfless. My sister isn’t. She just views her child as her property and extension of her, so excluding her makes HER feel excluded, but she doesn’t mind excluding her herself and for HER own reasons.
🤦♀️🤦♀️ such hypocrisy!
Your sister is bigger hypocrite than the Karen in the article 😂😂😂
My best friend invited me to go to Germany with her and her husband and child. I declined because I know the trip would be filled with family friendly activities and early dinners because Little Precious needs to get to bed. Not exactly the trip that would be fun for me.
I wouldn’t want kids at my wedding, either. Hell I wouldn’t even want a very pregnant woman around if it was my special day especially if she’s close to having her baby. I don’t want to be inconvenienced at all during a special time.
Well, you sound absolutely delightful. I’d be shocked if you had many friends to invite to a wedding!
I think you're on the wrong channel, Katie 😊
I actually have many fitness. Ones that are on the same page as me who are child free. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting your special day inconvenienced. Not by a child nor pregnant woman.
I actually have many friends. Sorry about that autocorrect error.🤷🏽♀️
Children I understand, pregnant women not so much! If she's so near her due date as to be in danger of going into labour during the wedding I'm sure she would politely decline the wedding invitation. But just a woman being pregnant should be absolutely fine at a wedding!
I have children and when I got married and my husband and I opted for a child free wedding. Inviting children would take away from us being able to invite the people we really wanted, OUR FRIENDS! We have some family that has chosen not to speak to us because of this choice we made. The last thing we wanted was children taking up the dance floor & running around everywhere. My husband and I do not take our children to weddings either, even if our kids are invited. We like to have that time to ourselves & not worry about minding our children. We want to have a good time & celebrate the happy couple!
Children are not even allowed in my car.
I just read that SAME article a couple months ago in one of my childfree groups, and after reading it, my brain was burnt to a crisp. She literally LISTS a lot of reasons why people want to be childfree, and yet she gets so triggered enough to write a whole article against a childfree event?? Like, where is your BRAIN??? KARENNN??
Karen's brain has left the building 😂
After listening to that train wreck of an article, I highly doubt Karen was born with more than a few brain cells that rubbed up against each other from time to time to show signs of life. Why anyone would invite her dumbass to anything is beyond my comprehension.
So… this woman is basically saying “when I got married, I didn’t want other peoples’ grubby kids at my wedding, but now that I have MY OWN baby, I want people to let me bring him to THEIR weddings.”
I bet she’s also the same woman who says “I used to be pro-choice back when I was unprepared to have a child, but now that I have MY OWN BABY, I no longer want to have an abortion, so I don’t think other women should be allowed to, either.”
Selfish, in a word.
I've noticed that too. People seem to worship the ground their precious little children walk on and get so offended if you don't want to be around or play with their kids ooing and awwing over every dumb little thing they do. They treat kids like little playthings or pets solely for they're entertainment. At least the dads do while the moms do all the work.
So lately I've been getting demonized by my husband's aunts and relatives calling me a "child hater" because I don't want to play with his little nephew every single day. They're always making him follow me around trying to make me babysit or carry him around and act like I'm supposed to coo over him and play with him. It's pretty annoying.
I've already been forced into a parental role helping raise my little siblings for years. What makes these people think I want to do it again with their children huh? Nope!
If they think sticking a toddler to me like that is supposed to "cure" my lack of desire to have kids or make some magic "baby fever" kick in, they're doing it all wrong. Coz I'd rather run for the hills! Lol 😂
Ugh yeah forcing a child on to someone who has no desire for one isn't the move 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Your husband should stand up for you, it's his family....
Also, the irony is that most of these parents only like their own children and hate other children just as much as some childfree people. When I was a teenager I was regularly harassed and threatened by mothers for daring to take my dog outside and making their dogs bark when their precious child was sleeping.
My family tried the same thing. I’d no sooner sit down before someone handed me an infant, and someone else told me how “natural” I looked holding it. I used to politely stand there and smile while the child screamed it’s head off. No more. Now I just hand the kid back. Don’t hand me your fucking kid.
Why would you even want your child there? The receptions tend to be drunk adults shaking ass. It’s not food kids tend to like. The ceremony is boring and quiet. Not a place for a kid. Jfc.
We got grief for our child free wedding. We were on a budget, and we wanted our close friends as well as family there. It was either not have our favourite people there, or double the numbers and get into debt. We did what we wanted anyway, and had a great time. It’s one day for heavens sake! I wouldn’t have minded the screaming toddler thing, but we couldn’t afford it, and it was our day and our choice.
And like you said, its just ONE day! 😂👏
“If I can’t bring Little Precious-I’m not coming!” “Well - I’m sure we’ll note your absence.”
if Karen stays home, I'm not sad about it
I love kids but I can absolutely see why someone would not want then at their wedding since they can be unpredictable and especially young kids who do not have full control of their emotions yet would not be a good at a wedding
Love and trust that they will MAKE THE DECISION FOR YOU on your special day???
What the actual f...k???!!!
So, Karen now has the right make decisions for any other adult, let alone on a day they spent a s...t-load of money on to have a celebration of their life choices?
But I think I get it:
What a perfect opportunity to go fishing for complements about her excellent parenting skills, when she's obviously so insecure and insure about it "when I say my kid is well behaved, it's so insulting not to believe me, even if you didn't ask and I just made it clear I'm projecting and getting defensive..."
Why do parents insist on bringing their kids to events that they won't enjoy or remember?
In Karen's case it was because of the attention she got for having a baby.
Im so glad all the weddings ive ever been to have been childfree 🤙🏻
I'm so glad that the one and only wedding I have ever been to was for work. Don't want to push my luck! 😅
I love your channel. Children repulse me, tbh! I'm also Antinatatalist and think reproduction is unethical, but I'm so disinchanted by humanity that as long as they keep their kids away from me, I don't really care at this point. The problem is that they don't respect other people's boundaries.
The UK is so overpopulated nowadays. The kids are on school break this week and all I can hear are them screaming wherever I go. Something about the tone just makes me mad!
Your shaved head really suits you by the way. X
Thank you! Kids repulse me as well and summer vacation just started here 😅... luckily there's only a few kids in my neighborhood!
I knew I wanted a childfree wedding even before I came to the realization that I wanted to be childfree. Like the whole time, the kid is just nagging and wanting to go to the bathroom and squirming because they don't know why they have to sit still and be at that wedding. And if they're super young, it's not like they're going to remember being there in the first place.
I was born in 1961. Our parents got babysitters. Kids didn't go to events that were not kid appropriate. When did parents feel like they had to drag their sex trophies everywhere??? I've seen parents taking small kids to R rated movies and sit and complain through the film that it wasn't kid friendly!
No way! Who takes ki ds to r rated movies 😂
@@swatisaini6447 I can make you a list lol! My idiot brother used to watch porn in front of his 6 year old ...then he got mad because he was called to his sons school because his son was saying....things...to the other kids. My brother is a moron tho!
@@melfreemans u r kidding 😳
@@swatisaini6447 oh I wish I was.. I'm serious when I wrote that my brother is an idiot....and that is being nice!!!!!
When I was a kid in the 80s & early 90s, I remember going to a lot of weddings, but that's bc the culture was different at that time; it was normal for whole families to attend. I also remember being suuuuuuper bored, & tired from being up past my bedtime. Children were also taught to be much better behaved in a formalised environment, at the time.
These days, child-friendly versus child-free is about 50/50. It's not unusual. Having a wedding-especially a formal one - being adults-only is quite normalised.
IDK what's so hard for some ppl to keep up.
How hard is it to grasp that other pp's weddings aren't about you? Do you bring your children to a dinner party? Then why is your rule arbitrarily different forvweddings?
My favorite thing about these types is they call it "selfish" to have a childfree wedding. They will complain about how "you expect me to pay for a wedding gift AND a babysitter?!?!"
Even if you love kids and plan to have your own someday, it's totally understandable to not want them at your wedding, if for no other reason than because it balloons the cost. I think weddings and the wedding planning process are really neat, so I've done a lot of research on the topic. If you want to be fair, you have to have the same rules apply to everyone you invite who has kids. Depending on how many of the people on your list have kids, that can balloon the guest list. The bigger the guest list is, the bigger the venue needs to be, the more tables you need, the more food and cake you have to pay for (that the child will likely just pick at), and some couples even generously work in children's entertainment. It makes it WAY more expensive. It's one thing if it's, say, a niece or nephew you care about or a kid you like that you actually want there. But if you're just inviting them so their parents don't have to hire a babysitter, it ends up being a massive waste of money.
It's so ironic that they call it selfish when THEY'RE the ones being selfish by bitching about having to pay for a babysitter. Like, this couple (or their parents) are shelling out literally THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS for a night of food, booze, and entertainment for you and the other guests. The measily cost of a few hours of babysitting and a wedding gift is nothing compared to how much money they're spending for your ungrateful ass to see one of the most important moments in their lives. Especially if the couple don't have any connection to your children and just to you, it's selfish on YOUR end to think your children are owed an invitation just because you're too cheap to hire a babysitter or because you're busy giving your child attachment issues.
Not to mention, it's selfish and unfair to the kids to drag them along. If they're young enough, they might not even remember it. Older kids and even some teens won't enjoy it - to them, it's a boring grown-up party, and they'd probably be happier watching Disney movies at grandma and grandpa's house and eating a PB&J sandwich for dinner. I went to one wedding as a kid, and the only reason I even know I was there is because everyone tell me I was - I have no memory of it, and I wouldn't feel wronged if I had been left with a babysitter, trust me.
My cousin is getting married soon, she's in her early 30's, and her and her fiancé requested adults only for the wedding. I'm more excited knowing that because it's just going to be one big fun party ❤
But, children AREN'T integral to my life. Quite the contrary, I their absence is integral to my life.
SAME HERE 👏👏👏
Why is she making HER issue everyone else's issue?
She's just mad that the world won't bend to her. She does NOT see this from "both sides" she is a full blown Karen Parent!
As a child, I was taken to my cousin's wedding, and I was BOOORED. The incessant talking at Church and the City Hall was long, boring, and tedious (when you're 7 you don't care about promises to either spouses or God). At the party, I was almost completely ignored if not by the family's Yorkshire dog (my saviour), and luckily, I had my books.
Honestly, I think if kids were given the choice between being forced sitting down and ignored all day or watching the 117th replay of Shrek on the BBC, the choice would be obvious if the kids had any in the matter. I think it's only an ego thing for the parents who like to show them off like a Hilton liked to show off her handbag chihuahua.
Not everyone raises their children for the world around them. There are poorly behaving children that don't care about timing or the place. So this Karen is bizarre to say it's wrong to have a childfree wedding, if she can't attend she can't attend oh well.
My thoughts as well! Get a sitter or just miss the wedding 🤷♀️
When I was a child I would have killed to be able to have the excuse to be left behind from weddings.
You have to dress up and sit quietly for hours on end. You have to sit through a ceremony that is boring and means nothing to you. You have to pretend that you care about the whole thing, telling the bride and groom that you are so happy for them while daydreaming of the jacuzzi back at the hotel and desperately wishing you could be there right now.
On second thought... as an Ace introvert, I still hate weddings and skip them when at all possible. Just last summer I drove five hours to a cousin's wedding, and got so bored that I turned around and drove home as soon as the ceremony was over.
The more I think about it, the less I want to have a weeding. Too much drama for just one day, uncomfortable clothes and disgusting cake (I hate pastry cream and whipped cream). And I have social anxiety disorder so it will definitely not be the best day of my life. I'm open to get married but I want to keep it low-key
Have you a tiny wedding with like 3 guests and can it a day! You're no less married than someone who has a $10,000 wedding with 500 guests! Our wedding was pretty small as well and if I could do it over I'd just elope on the beach or something 🤣
@@ChildfreeKimberly I think when the time is right I'll have a small reception with like 30 people, 50 max. Only close family and friends 😉
you can design your wedding cake however you want, if you don't like cream then you don't have to have it in your wedding cake
I don't know where you live but I'm sure that pretty much everywhere in the world there are services offering a custom-made wedding cake, and it's also not an obligation that you have to have a white creamy wedding cake
Some people get cupcakes instead of a wedding cake. Also, the filling is completely up to you. You're not limited to one or two options.
I board my horse at a huge barn....over 70 horses. Kids everywhere of course. We decided to have a party for the ADULTS only. We have plenty of barn parties for the kids. We made it very very clear that no one under 21 was invited....period. One couple brought their grandkids. So it wasn't even a case of a parent who couldn't get a babysitter. They made a point to drive 50 miles round trip to pick these kids up to bring to a no kids party. After being told multiple times NO KIDS. So we asked them to leave. They were so offended! They couldn't believe we were making them leave. The woman complained for days afterwards. I finally had heard enough and asked her just wtf did she expect after it being stressed that no one under 21 was invited so why would she bring 6, 9 and 11 year olds?? She said she just thought we would make an exception for her grandkids. That right there...that's the mentality in a nutshell.
I would be a damn hypocrite if I ever in my life condemned someone for wanting a child free wedding, considering I WAS the small child that caused scenes at weddings. Hopped on the church organ and tried to play mid-ceremony, kept a father from dancing with his daughter all night, got a bit too ambitious as the flower girl...
Of course I'd want a child free wedding, if I ever got married. I know that kids are bored, grabby little snots at weddings.. because I was THAT kid!
Omg you were a feral child 😂😂😂
What’s insulting is thinking everyone HAS to like your kid.
No they don’t.
Your kid ain’t special.
I told that to someone.
My friends friend got pregnant. So my friend told her “you know we’re not going to hang out after the bay comes right? I don’t want to go out with a kid”
And she said she’ll change her mind. Her kids different blah blah. (Kids not even born yet)
I said from the back seat “your kid ain’t special”
Needless to say he was born. And we never saw her again because the kid HAD to always come along. No baby sitter, no nothing.
She assumed her kid would be special because she made it? Lady, we didn’t really like you that much to start with.
Child-free hotel resorts are the best. My husband and I once went to a non-Child-free hotel and the whole pool had to be closed off all day because a kid pooped in it. 😵😵😵
I didn't want kids at the ceremony, and my husband didn't want kids at the reception. So, we decided to go kid free. *insert immediate drama* We got shit for this from his step-sisters (and their kids) for YEARS! The crazy thing is that my husband and his step-sisters weren't even that close, so WTF?!
I've never been to a child free wedding I would love to go one would be so much fun 🙌
Anyone claiming they can’t leave their children for half a day is lying. I have never heard of a mother that hasn’t spent 2-4 hours away from their child. Even the stay at home and home school moms.
Jesus the absolute nerve. When I got married, I didn't invite any of the children. I didn't exactly go out of my way to exclude them, but I had a couple people ask and I said "No, adults only, please," and it wasn't a big deal! Hell, my MATRON OF HONOR had a young baby at the time and even she was okay with leaving him at home for one lousy day!
This article is a perfect example for writing classes in English. Even if someone definitely supports the idea of having a wedding with children, she can convince them otherwise, it's very funny 😂 She got all the reasons why childfree weddings could be better.
Gotta love a good 5 paragraph persuasive essay 🤣. Don't forget the thesis statement and to restate it at the end!!!!
@@ChildfreeKimberly I sent this video to my sister who will be taking IELTS soon 😂
The bride and groom are the people who decide who is and who ain't on the guest list. Period. Like the kids even want to be there, they'll be bored out of their asses and be a disruption. Sounds like Karen just wants to ruin the whole ceremony.
If someone is having a $150 per plate wedding reception, you can't bring your child who wants to eat chicken nuggets and fries, and will make a scene if they can't touch the cake. Take them to McDonald's and let grown folk attend the wedding.
The absurdity has me laughing! i have a friend who once catered at weddings and the disasters of misbehaved ankle biters was incredible! Goodness gracious .-.
Also, it’s an honor to be invited to a wedding, not a right.
EXACTLY 👏👏
@@beitheleaf8221 wish people understood that
I have always been deeply uncomfortable seeing kids at weddings where there is a sh*t-tonne of alcohol being consumed and you know there is always going to be that one guy who can't hold his liqour and will get loud and probably shirtless. So kids should see this? I've always been confused that children are allowed to be at weddings due to liqour licencing rules.
I attended my aunt's childfree wedding which was her second wedding and no one, not even the parents found that insulting simply because it's not insulting to not want kids and babies at a wedding because it the married couples day, not the day of the parents and their kids.
I don't think the author of that article knows the difference between arguing for or against a motion. Everything she describes sounds like she's arguing against having kids at a wedding if you ask me
🤣🤣 she's a little confused for sure
I’m very thankful that my childfree wedding wishes were respected. It also helped that my wedding venue was an over 100 year old landmark with original fixtures and artifacts and it would have been a liability. When I explained that to my brother and sister in law as soon as I mentioned the liability clause in our contract, they were immediately respectful of that. My father in law tried to bribe us into inviting our nephew but we didn’t budge and after we made it clear that we weren’t changing our minds he thankfully backed off. I wouldn’t change a thing. No crying during the ceremony, no anxiety that he would break anything or try to get into the koi pond. And guests enjoyed the generous open bar and explicit versions of songs during the reception lol.
Omg I bet that venue was amazing!!! I love old places like that 🤩
I remember going to my aunt’s church wedding, where my six year old niece was literally doing summersaults over the church pews, and yelling to get peoples’ attention. Her parents (my other aunt and uncle) pretty much pretended to not even see her, except for my aunt saying “wow, Meghan. I guess you’re not very good in church” afterwards.
Then she and my other little cousins ran around the reception throwing cake at people, knocking over drinks, and laughing. All while their parents ignored everything.
I hate weddings and children are a big part of the "why".
It's nice to see that people want a childfree wedding, but I will still go out of my to not attend.
We can agree this is one of the most contradicted articles ever-
I wish this is a joke because if she thinks this way I am sorry for the kid that will grow in a house full of contradictions
This person just want to bring her kids to the wedding cause is too lazy to find a sitter and doesn’t care about other people who don’t want them-
This b*tch is just entitled
Contradictions and hypocrisy every which way 🤣
I was so pissed when my cousin brought her brat to my childfree wedding and the thing screamed the whole time. I paid for everything myself, I am entitled to be selfish on one day for 3hrs.
Not her saying the Real World…😂 Ma’am!
about 10 years ago my husband and I were invited to a wedding our children were about 2 and 4 were not..I tell you I was more than happy to leave the at home with a babysitter (my dad). it meant my husband and I could have an evening out without having to wonder where our children were (our youngest was very full on) we also ate quite late so I can imagine my children saying I am hungry..I was able to relax. I have no issue with my children not being invited...my husband and I have unwritten rule if our children are not invited it is one of his friends or his side of the family he goes and vice versa for me
Trust the couple to make the best decision for themselves and their wedding. It’s *their* wedding, not yours. They don’t have to accommodate you if they don’t want to or can’t afford to.
Not to say I didn’t want kids at my wedding, but… my husband’s cousin brought his little boy who destroyed our cake. We never got more than the first bite. I don’t think anybody else did either.
So she can have a child free wedding but heaven forbid if other people do the same 😂😂😂
I had a child free wedding (there was technically one toddler there, my ex-wife's only niece) and it was spectacular. Most of the parents thanked us bc they were able to let their hair down and party.
They don't want to fork out for expensive childcare
Can't stand hypocrisy. Caron admitted that she doesn't like other children but she expects everyone to revolve around her and her child. This article says a lot about the author. I'm surprised she has friends at all.
"Food throwing" got me - if the child is 1 or older they shouldn't be throwing food. That should be taught that it's wrong to do as soon as they're old enough to throw things. Also "chase around the dance floor" is another point. Why are people allowing their children to run around at an event like a wedding? They should be sitting with their parents and not leaving until they are old enough to behave.
But even so, if someone doesn't kids at their wedding it's their business.
I'm undecided if marriage is right for me but already know if I decided to have a wedding one day I'd do a childfree one and wouldn't care about all the offended family members.
Exactly! People are just so entitled and ridiculous!
I have 4 kid's ages 6 to 18, and, If I'm invited to a wedding, I don't want to bring no kid's with me. Like, seriously these people act like the invitation says "I absolutely hate children, despise them actually and most Ostensively your children in particular, so don't bring them to my wedding" lol 😆 😂 🤣
I subscribed to your channel! I love your reactions and your accent is so cute! I got married to the love of my life coming up 5 years ago, we had a child free wedding and it was wonderful!
Thank you! I'm glad you enjoy 🖤 and congrats on 5 years!
Thank you!! I’m glad I’ve found you, you understand the frustration!!
My fiance & I are having a child free wedding. I’m a step mom he has 2 kids from a previous marriage and we are letting the older teenage kids come from his siblings, but I already told my friends with kids it’s a no go.
There's a video going around on Instagram of kids dancing in the fog from a machine while the married couple are supposed to have the dance floor to themselves. Ugh and of course no parents to parent them. 🙄
Someone sent that to me! And people in the comments said it made me moment better?! Ugh the kid worship is too much 🤦♀️
@@ChildfreeKimberly Yeah people were actually justifying the brats behavior! Like no have them crotch goblins at home instead of ruining a beautiful moment. And those people can f themselves
9:34- PLEASE!!! say that loader for the people in the back. There are certain responsibilities you take on when you decide to have a child.
Yup! And people like her just expect everyone to bend around her so she doesn't have to miss out on things! Think again, Karen 🤷♀️
yes you might love your child but doesn't mean everyone else has to....my children are special to me but I accept they are not special to anyone else
Children are cute and can be fun to be around. I am childfree and do not want to care for kids. But the thing is is that the couple wants the wedding to be the way they want. It's their day. Parents are so entitled because they think everything should accommodate children.
Sounds like literal Karen is regretting having kids so wants everyone else to deal with him like she has to. Now I don't doubt she loves him, but she does regret having him at least at that point in time.
I'll gladly accept her penny.
I don’t even want my niece or my nanny kid at my wedding & I actually LIKE those children. There’s absolutely no way my friends’ kids are coming.
It drives me crazy when people refer to mothers as mama bears and babies as cubs. Like, what the hell, we ARE animals already. It's weird that people make that "association" from a human mother/child to an animal mother/child, when a human mother/child IS an animal mother/child.
fr it’s cringe asf
I'm not a big fan of weddings to begin with but one way to maybe get me interested is to say it's child free. For real, there was 7 people at my wedding and two of them were me and my husband. I would have eloped but knew our parents would at least want to be there.
I don't really like weddings either 😂 just because I'm introverted and would rather be home in comfy clothes 🤷♀️
@@ChildfreeKimberly that's one of my reasons too! I hate getting dressed up because I'm so used to being in like sweatpants and a tshirt, I'm awkward at dancing and social interactions, and I have like 1 and a half cocktails and I'm tipsy so weddings are just not my jam. Plus so many of them take place in a church so that's an extra big nope from me.
I had a child free wedding. My ex husband’s friend brought his 6 yo son. The boy was good but it fucked up our seating and the kitchen had to figure something out bc the food was pre selected. Parent entitlement is disgusting.
my parents tried to force me and my sister to go to church when we were kids. Yeah, that didn't go well, because my sis and I started swearing loudly. My point is, most kids hate going to weddings and to church
I'm an adult and hate going to weddings and no force on earth will bring me to attend church.
Had kids at my wedding and hated it. And I like kids. I have never taken my kids to a wedding. It is up to the bride and groom to decide if they want kids at their wedding g. That they are paying for. This is just an inconsiderate, incredibly ignorant mum.
Hell a number of restaurants have banned kids under a certain age, only allows kids between certain hours or have banned kids altogether. Kids are why I have 3 DOGS. Karen is literally NOT obligated to attend THEIR WEDDING WHICH IS LITERALLY THEIR DAY, THEIR RULES.
My parents didnt take me to events till i was 10 and well-behaved
I cannot put myself in the shoes of such entitled, selfish people
if I was invited to a wedding and had a kid, I'd be thinking "how can I not ruin their day" and if I wouldn't be able to find a sitter I'd just excuse myself from the event
I grew up in the 80s and I remember there were many adult-only weddings, adult only bars etc. I was with a babysitter alot