She definitely didn't just succumb to a sudden kiss. It takes weeks to remodel a kitchen. She was hot for this dude for a while and knew exactly what she was doing.
Absolutely mate. I don't believe OP's wife had sex with AP once. I don't even believe this is the first time this woman has cheated. I think she hit the ax on the stone this time. I think other man she slept with threatened to tell her husband and blackmail him. It doesn't make sense to me that the woman who walked into another man's bed so easily was the first to cheat. Her husband never mentioned this woman's phone. This means that this woman's husband was not controlling at all. I don't believe this woman has any remorse. If she regretted it, she would have confessed everything to her husband that day.
Not only that... this woman must be at least 40 (given the kids ages). So... what construction guy just randomly kisses a married woman -- risking his job, career, assault claims, etc. No... he didn't just randomly kiss her... he talked to her, flirted with her, and she flirted back, made him coffee, managed to ask him to stay behind, etc., etc. I bet she also wore more revealing clothes, did her hair, showered, perfume, etc.
now what the husband SHOULD have done, is sue that company for millions using the "alienation of affection" charge, as a company employee caused the dissolution of the marriage
@BW022 because in some places you can sue both. Remember he hired them to do work on his house so the OP can say if had hired another company his wife would not had cheated.
@@davidjones8942 well at least in the state he works in. But none the less, sue the company as the AP was directly representing the company at the time of the incident. I guarantee the company will settle quickly with the simply demand of firing the employee and refunding the OP’’s money for the job.
Purgatory is the perfect description of living with a cheater. A friend of mine's wife cheated on him, he found out 30 years later. He forgave her and tried to work through it. He divorced her 18 months later. He described it as 18 months of hell.
I do get it because she wanted what she wanted, emotion over reason. She got with the consequences that go along with it. A cheater cheats its what they do.
@@larryg7126 YES! It doesn't make sense because we're looking at it logically. It's like, if you had a $500 million winning Powerball ticket and traded it for a $2 winning scratch-off, most people would logically KEEP the Powerball ticket. But women would take the scratch-off and justify it by apologizing and saying she made a mistake (and it's not her fault, she felt drawn to the scratch-off, she was depressed, she'll go to therapy, she'll do anything, etc), in an effort to get the Powerball ticket. Cake eaters.
@@Remianen FYA made a point on another video about lust and how it can overcome any feelings like love and can cause you to make bad decisions not to excuse this woman but it most likely played a huge part in her choices
@g-saviour6581 As humans, we ALL deal with some level of temptation. It is our responsibility to avoid putting ourselves in a situation where we know we may be weak. If she knew she was attracted to that worker, walking thru with him should've been avoided. Sin has a price and she's paying it.
The wife confessed only because her sister threatened to out her, she has no true remorse. And even her confession reeks of trickle truth. There is no way that this installer just kissed her out of the blue and then screwed her on the couch. At the very least she was flirting and giving this guy signals that she would be receptive if he wanted to make a move. Also, her claim that it was just one time is almost certainly a lie. This guy should DNA test his kids.
No I think the sex was just one time, just based on how her guilt was physically effecting her. she really didn’t go into the events leading up to that”kiss” and the couch boffing. Nor did OP even ask her for the details. As one wise man said “it’s not important how many times she did it or with who. It only matters that she did it “. This seems to be OPs take on it. Sorry, but no one believes a single kiss led to her throwing away 20+ years of, for all purposes, what was a successful marriage. That must have been one hell of a kiss.
@@panzerlieb Fear of consequences can be mistaken for guilt. The only thing OP will ever know for sure is that his wife confessed to the minimum necessary, only due to the threat of exposure. In my experience, the time you catch them is rarely the first time, but who knows. And unexplained weight loss is often motivated by the desire to please an affair partner.
Any consequences to the contractor who took his money and then pounded out his wife? If I was the betrayed husband, I’d have packed my wife a suitcase, driven her to contractor’s home, rang the doorbell and informed him and his family that their new roommate is here.
Lol. Nope. Western folks are....probably too used in getting their wife pounded by their overlord. I think its racial trait or something. Any husband who seek revenge got killed back then. So, now, they only blame the wife. If this were to happen most other part of the world, that employee gonna lose his teeth. N probably get fired by his boss. Remember....infidelity isnt a crime in many western countries. Many other countries treat infidelity as a crime (punishment vary)
He did the right thing. She says she is remorseful and would never do it again but if she had been asked before the betrayal if she would cheat on her husband she would have said, "never". She doesn't even know herself so how can she believe he would ever be able to trust her again when she can't trust herself.
26:00 that’s called post-nut clarity. She says she’ll never love another man again but she was fine giving away what was promised only to him to a random. She has no excuse. No cheater does.
Imagine the disrespect, that guy plowed his wife without a sweat keeping a straight face and look of mockery while he talked to the husband. Took his money and destroyed his family. Plus I don't believe this was the first time she did something like this. she just made this one time mistake is BS to me.
Yup. She got horizontal with him quite quickly - they just said, "Hi" and went at it. Or at least that's what she wants people to believe. But I'll bet she had been flirting with this guy since Day 1. -OR- she really IS that easy, and that's a whole other story.
One thing that I have learned from experience with a cheating wife. NEVER TRUST A WOMAN EVER!!!!! You may Love her, but never put anything past her. ALWAYS WATCH HER!!!! No matter what, they can change and cheat on you in a blink of an eye.
kris so what are men's options?I just don't see the purpose of a guy getting married and constantly watching your wife.This is one reason I never got married.It's like 90% you'll never catch your wife cheating.
Imagine spending so much money for a kitchen as a present for your wife which is expensive AF only so she would thank you by sleeping with the boss of the construction team
he saved up 3 years to give her the kitchen she wanted. Crazy part of all this is they spent all that money on the kitchen that the wife wanted to NOT enjoy it at all. Something about this story is odd to me, what drove the boss to kiss her?? I doubt it only happened once and what gave the boss the green light. I am guessing the wife was flirting with him the whole time he was there.
"Everyone makes mistakes", No, no, no-committing adultery is not a "Misunderstanding" rather a selfish choice and total disregard to the feelings & well being of the family. Yes-no doubt she is remorseful and can be forgiven, but never can be trusted in the same way again. Trust is the most important and fragile component within any relationship. Without trust a person cannot go out on a limb, make sacrifices and show the true hero/heroine inside them. Folks need to take their marriage vows seriously and the contractor should be shamed or sued for home wreaking.
@@vlugovsky I figure he'd barely have to call a lawyer to get the foreman fired, a full refund on the kitchen and probably a nice settlement on top, just to keep quiet. Imagine what it would do for business if word got out that employees were seducing customers wives.
Absolutely correct, I made the mistake of staying with my cheating wife and it was terrible! I ended up isolating us, thinking when we went out, and her flirting and guys flirting back, always knowing that she had or would be having affairs with them! Found out she even commented adultery at work! Never stay with a cheater, it destroyed me!
Amazing how, out of several hundred of these stories, I've only heard of 2 where reconcilliation turned out good, and I honestly believe one of the two was a lie, just so the internet didn't dogpile on him as badly. I can say my wife and I are doing well and very much in love 28 yrs after her infidelity, but it was a hard and rocky road to get here. I would also say that if I could go back and make the choice again, I would not take her back. It would have been much less painful to start fresh.
Noted that the story elided over what brought her to the point where she was so willing to cheat on such a great Husband . Had to be some flirting, inappropriate banter, and debauchery, going on while Hubby wasn't around ! He had saved-up money and had just gifted her with the new kitchen ! Guess it just proves the old saying : " No good deed goes unpunished !" Well, it was a long run , but his turn is finally up !
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist Nope, she has done something even she would not have thought she would ever have done. I doubt she would do anything like that again. However, her husband can respond anyway he wants because once trust has gone, so has the relationship. Even though i truly believe she wouldn’t do it again it’s irrelevant, I just couldn’t stay with her.
@@anthonycraig274 you think that based on what? Her crying about her remorse when she clearly lied about her story? Is it her completely covering her story and only revealing it when coerced? You're just talking I'm asking you to think Edit: have you ever had a personal relationship with a girl that cheated on someone else? What they actually say when everyone isn't looking?
So she was so grateful to the contractor for her kitchen that she had to screw him to show her appreciation? It was her husband that gave her the kitchen, she should have been grateful to him! Her adultery destroyed the whole family, not just the husband!
The cheating didn't happen by chance, there was flirting and an emotional affair going on for a long time. Guy should have absolutely sued the remodeling company
There are folks who go on Quora and admit to wanting to cheat on their partner. The former cheaters advise against letting 20 minutes ruin your entire relationship. My guess is this was one of those "in the moment" choices this woman made, and her instant regret (if that's truth) goes to show that. Chances are, this was one of those 20- minute affairs where she allowed it because it was completely against her normal, comfortable, day-to-day routine. The kitchen was a gift from her husband. What a way to "stick it to him" for being the provider for her comfortable, yet "boring" life. And notice, Joel was never mentioned as calling her for another romp. This guy did the right thing by immediately walking away and giving her complete uncertainty until serving her with divorce papers. He dumped her, and that made her want him even more. Men see a cheating wife as wanting him around as the provider who "pays" for sex while giving other guys free sex. Women see a cheating husband as wanting to replace her because she has completely been a failure as a wife. Good for him for moving on, while she continues to grasp at hope of having him back someday. She sees herself as a complete failure now- sexual partner, cook, cleaner, mother of his kids, everything!
I was agreeing with you until the you threw out this line, " Women see a cheating husband as wanting to replace her because she has completely been a failure as a wife." My ex cheated on me and not because I was a failure, it was because he was an idiot! I worked full time, took care of 3 kids, and paid all of the bills (he only bought groceries). We had a boat, 3 motorcycles, 2 four wheelers and a lake house so life was good and we were having lots of fun. On the intimate side, we had a very "creative" and exciting intimate relationship, I can promise you it was never boring or mundane! Why did he cheat? Well a woman that was supposed to be a friend saw our life and all the toys and since I always let him come across as the "Alpha Male" she thought she would step in and steal him so she could live the good life! She chased and he let her catch him. Imagine her surprise when she called to tell me she had been with him on our pool table the night before and I told her she could have him but she would need to come get him because not only do I pay for everything we own, he only worked part time at Walmart and would not be able to pay his car payment that month! Back to the point, I wasn't a failure, he was an idiot who immediately regretted what he had done and begged for forgiveness.
Reconciliations rarely work. Many couples try, but in most cases within 20 to 36 months the relationship implodes. Or the couple stays together as roommates for the children or simply for economic reasons. This story reminds me of something that happened to someone I heard about. In this case, it was an afternoon session with a 20-year-old neighbor's son. She was a housewife but they had no children. I know about this story because I am dating the Attorney the husband spoke to. According to her, the husband caught her as she was leaving her office and they spoke for several minutes about what happens when they get divorced. Then she asked him to come back the next morning to talk because he had a case and Virginia is an at-fault state. She then went home and had an uneventful evening. The next morning heard nothing from him. So she forgot about it and moved on with her day and life. That is until a Deputy Sheriff found his remains about an hour out of Richmond. Once she read about that in the paper her thoughts went back to that evening. She always takes notes when interviewing clients, and sometimes records these meetings for archival purposes. Because of Attorney-Client privilege, she can't allow anyone to hear that meeting, but the local Sheriff and Coroner did. This man said he told his wife the same thing as mentioned in this story. As he was packing he packed his firearm. Then found my GF and she told him what to expect under Virginia law. He then drove about an hour away and made himself no longer alive. This wayward wife left Virginia as far as my GF knows. My GF was married at the time this happened. Her husband was caught by some mutual friends at a Roanoke hotel with another girl. These two events happened about 6 months apart. After she cleaned her ex-husband's clock she had a sign made. It is behind her chair at her desk on the wall. It simply says "accountability starts here" there is also another one in her firm's main conference room.
She didn’t get caught, she was sorry and the guilt was eating her up inside. However, from the OP perspective, remorseful or not, the results the same.
Every meal that the ex-wife cooks in her apartment will remind her of her dream kitchen, what she could've had, what she lost. No wonder she lost weight. By now she's probably eating like a bird from take-out containers, alone with her demons. If this isn't a cautionary tale...
At that point, revenge isn't necessary. Her whole family shunning her, living in a shitty apartment while working a retail job, losing a loving husband who saved up to buy her the dream kitchen she always wanted, life has already punished her sufficiently.
I think it was not just that 1 kiss that had led them to do it consensually, but over the days that this guy were at the house everyday that they had developed an emotional affair first that led to the physical affair. Its always dangerous to leave your women to be with men in close contact everyday continously, because we know women are very very vulnerable.
I guarantee if this was always the outcome. less women would cheat. This woman gave up a loving husband, her dream custom kitchen, the respect of her children parents and sister for what? PS I find it hard to believe it was just that one time. They may only had sex once but you know all sorts of flirting and other things were going on first. Most likely for most of the time the workers were there.
Wife probably thought it was the perfect opportunity to have a ONS as the lover boy would be gone after that so no one would know. I have a friend that married a virgin (they have been married for 30 years) that has said to him that she regrets not sleeping around when she was young. Women start to hit the wall and have a kind of mid-life crisis around that age, the regret of not having enough partners when they were young combined with the excitement and validation of someone finding them attractive is all it takes for them to step out. So this was not just him suddenly kissing her, there was a lot that lead up to this and a lot of signals from her that she was up for some fun.
This wife did not think about how her affair would impact her husband. From listening to the story, he was totally in love with her after all these years. The event destroyed his trust in her, and he could never trust her again. Her husband sees her as nothing to him now. No amount of counseling, one side open relationship would never make him love her again.
Besides the lack of trust, it's the emotional pain of betrayal. How could he ever have sex with her and not think about some guys member inside her? That's a wound beyond healing.
If a woman is offering you an 'one-sided open relationship' to keep the marriage together, say you'll do it. You don't HAVE to, but come back from work or whatever late a couple days later and say you did. Woman tend not to think through this offer when they consider it, and cheaters never seem to understand the pain discovery can cause. Let her think you did for a moment, then admit you lied, but tell her those feelings she got when she thought you had? Yeah, that's what you're feeling for real.
My exwife do same thing. She cheating 5 months and i file for divorce. She offer me everything like sexless marriage because i say i will never touch her again, one side open marriage for me, threesome with 2 other womens,gps tracker in her phone. I say her im not prison guard and i dont want spend single minute in marriage where i dont trust my wife.
Women that make that offer don't really mean it. It just hurts too much. Besides she would eventually resent it and feel she was entitled to cheat herself.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Dumping a cheater is always the right thing to do. I'm sure her AP was a big-time masculine Chad. There is no way it only happened that one time. Cheaters are LIARS.
You know while the construction went on he probably started flirting with her and she responded to that. She was with her husband for a long time and she was feeling validation and felt flattered that another man besides her husband found her desirable. I am not condoning what she did. She only felt guilty because she knew after the fact that her life was over. Her nice comfortable home and her meal ticket "her husband" would be gone. She was just selfish and only thinking about herself. She probably hoped if she came clean that he would just let everything go because of the years they had spent together. I am sure that this is not the only time she did this I wouldn't be surprised if she did this early in their relationship.
What isn't told here is what led up to the initial kiss, because it didn't come out of the blue. There must have been some flirting taking place in the days before, leading up to the infidelity; the builder must have had a pretty good idea the wife was up for it... And the guy was right to immediately end the relationship. That's the way to move on and recover your self-respect.
damn it i should have saw ur comment because i ask the same thing. The guy would not do that unless she showed some sign or some indication for him to make that move.
I have drug mine out for my daughters sake. It’s been 10 years of hell for me mentally. I have done several things to try to put off the thoughts I have on the damn sad thing she done with him. I have 4 months left with her in my house. My daughter graduates from high school. Praise the lord. Divorce was settled years ago. It’s just keeping her around to help our daughter has been a hard gig to deal with for me.
It's true! Get the word out as soon as possible! My idiot head pastor told me to keep it quiet and totally screwed me over! The ex got to spread lies about me "physically abusing" her because she got her 'story' out first. I lost a lot of friends. Tell everyone what happened!
Bro this dude was already red pilled blue pulled would have stayed. This red pill alpha had no warning signs his like was content & happy. This what happens when a woman they seem to always work off emotions & being 45 & getting attention from another man getting in her feelings among other things. Another happy home destroyed.
The husband needed to post Joel cheating behaviors in every review and BBC complaints to all potential customers can see this. I would definitely make sure the word spreads about him to the contracting world. Joel would be ruined especially among married or unmarried homeowner couples.
omg how horrible! Can you imagine the sacrifice this guy went through for 3 years to save up for his wife's dream kitchen, only for her to pork the contractor?! That is the ultimate blow of the husband's manhood. Here he thought he was giving the ultimate gift to his wife through his 3-year sacrifice and dedication. I feel SO bad for the husband.
The love, the caring, tender love for her, is lost forever. Based on her life experience, this will torment her for the rest of her life. Some men you cannot cheat on.
Interesting story and analysis. There are things to be learned from these stories. One of the most important is that you must be careful of who you are alone with. Do not know her mind or heart was or is, but no doubt she is very remorseful. So here is another mid 40’s woman, mysteriously single. I work in a National chain hardware store. I see these mystery relationship women all the time. Some of them have some attractiveness still. You could imagine that even 10 years ago they would probably be a solid beauty. But there is a haunted look to these women. A desolation of the soul. I can feel it. I help many of them yo do the things they need yo do to maintain their homes or repair things. Of course, there are also women who have had their husbands dump them too. Both conditions exist, of course. But the former is seeming to be on the increase. Sometimes they will wistfully use certain words as if ruminating on something lost. I do not pretend to know all nor fo I elevate myself yo judge for there is ONE who judgeth ALL. And that isn’t me. But, be careful of whom you are alone with, for sometimes things can flare ip suddenly without one even considering that it could be do, be careful both women and men.
WTFF? Why are you posting here? You appear to be a mature adult who has a sense of compassion. Look at the other comments to these videos. What do you see? Learn to be more childish, vindictive, hateful and sadistic and then come back and apologize for your breech of etiquette.
NEVER TAKE A CHEATER BACK AFTER THEY SHOWED YOU WHAT AND WHO THEY REALLY ARE AND WHAT THEY REALLY THINK OF YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. Theres nothing can be said after they done what they wanted without a second thought for you or your family.
It's so disgusting the bad choices people make to destroy their lives and alter things. I have zero tolerance for cheaters who disrespect the sanctity of a relationship.
Great story, however, most women don’t just let the BS walk away with a fair settlement. Most women will wreck the BS financially and emotionally, if they leave. Even worse, family courts assist them in doing so. As a survivor of a high conflict divorce with young children involved, it is one of the worst experiences I have ever had in my life and I’ve seen a lot, as a career paramedic.
There are a few disturbing thing about this story that’s not mentioned. 1. She had unprotected sex with AP 2. She then had unprotected sex with OP 3. They must have had sat on that couch many times together, her knowing and not saying anything.
It's amazing how to the regret suddenly appears immediately AFTER the experience. (you have to enjoy the experience first.) Then you can cry. If the regret came before the act... the regret for even entertaining the thought, then... "You can choose whatever you want, what you can not choose are the consequences of your choice. those are chosen for you."
Yeah, it's almost like human beings have powerful subconscious urges that were programmed right into their brain tissue, and so make foolish decisions and then regret them deeply. Ha ha. Just kidding, that never happens. Everyone on earth is either 100% good or 100% evil. Everyone in these comments sections are 100% good.
So all it took was for the other dude to kiss her and she went right for it, but of course, she "regretted it immediately afterward and the guilt had been eating her alive ever since." So I guess the guilt wasn't eating her alive while she was screwing another dude on their own couch.
Too late for her. Don't ever cheat on a faithful, devoted, loving spouse for any reason. I hope this good man has a great life. The "trash" has been taken out.
The sad part is had the guy been incredibly hot in bed and and a 14 " yik yak, she would have continued the "affair"..... in fact, she would have left her husband for the POS.... so weak and pathetic these cheaters are.....
My honest opinion, I think she's done this before. I feel the guilt came from the fact that she cheated after her husband did something nice for her. So you gotta wonder what happened after an argument? Or disappointing situation. I mean 25 years no cheating, And now all of a sudden a Chad construction worker comes in and gets it.
Sometimes the ex just keeps doing horrible things to your sons and you. She told my oldest son that she wanted to buy his Suzuki for $2000 so she can give it to my middle son. She never paid him the $2000. My oldest son went to work for the mining company and moved up quickly to journeyman position within a couple of years. She asked him to take a loan out on his 401k so she could pay off her 401k so she could take out another loan. She said she would pay him back when she got her money out. My son didn't go for it and she didn't speak to him for 2 years. She ignored him at Christmas, her birthday and his birthday. My youngest son of three wanted to buy his mother's Tacoma pickup. I lent him the $5000 to purchase the truck. I took another corporate job and had to move to Phoenix. She showed up at my door telling me that she would sell the truck for me and give me the money. How nice of her. She didn't and I took her to court and won. Unfortunately she filed bankruptcy, for the third time, and didn't have to pay me. That's when I said enough and I will not have anything whatsoever to do with her. Sometimes you just need to throw out the trash permanently.
"I'll never do anything to hurt you again."... they just don't get it. EVERY time he looks at the kitchen or the sofa, it will pain him. This isn't one or done thing, it is a continued torture.
When cheated husband sees his wife crying he has to remember a couple of important things. Most cheating wives protect their reputation. They dont want parents to criticize them. They suffer because the divorce the sons pointing fingers at them. Friends and coworkers accusing laughing when hearing about divorce. Whatever entitled women say divorce is a failure.
One thing to do is to go to the designer and company that employed Joel. Leave reviews, on this company warning any people who would consider using this company. ETA she took the situation where he saved for 3 years to give her this kitchen and repaid him by cheating.
After 25 years, you'd think she would have been loyal, more wise, ain't no way this is her first rodeo. And it all started with a gift. No good deed goes unpunished I guess
Wow, two kids, gets the kitchen of her dreams as her husband saved for 3 years to make it happen and she boinks a construction worker on the family couch. Good move. Buy a cat.
She ripped her husband's heart out. He could never see her the same. She was very special to him up to the point of cheating. Most people think that because of their years together, they think he should forgive her for this event. It appears that he was totally in love with her, but cheating in a relationship cheating will change your heart toward them forever. No way he could stay with her. In this case, the number of years together went against saving this marriage. During all those years together, the husband questioned her genuine love for him.
I did like this presentation. It would have been both educational and interesting to hear in greater detail how exactly that woman was enticed into such an act. What did she in that adultery partner that she didn't see in her own husband?
This is completely disgusting ! I love how he said he would always love her, and then he said he hates her. Well her life was not worth living with out him, well she at least has her new kitchen……
I'll admit, I cheated in my marriage. I won't tell the story not try to rationalize it; I did it. Ultimately, we divorced after 22 years. My infidelity was a factor, but by no means the only one. If, and it will never happen, I ever got married again or if I have an exclusive relationship (likely), I would never cheat again. The selfish reason is that the infidelity IS ALWAYS THERE. Nothing else can be addressed without that cloud coming into play.
8:50 she was love bombing out of guilt and shame due to her infidelity in hopes that it would mask any suspicions. When I read or listen to stories like this especially if the wife is the wayward spouse who cheated they always start off with professing their unbreakable love/bond they have with their husbands yet somehow still decided to desecrate their relationship and family for short terms thrills and excitement.
She got conquered by another man, she submitted to him, sorry to say AP won and the husband lost everything. That memory will haunt him foe the rest of his life!
Until the contractor confirms that it was a single event, I don't believe it was. It's irrelevant, I guess, since once was enough for this strong husband.
The normal reaction of a married woman who gotten kissed by a contractor of the blues would be she would slap the hell out of him because he just disrespected her, and then she would have called her husband and let him know aboutthe advancethe employeemade on her. But no, she let it go to the point of having sex with this guy, thus now she disrespected her husband. I bet the guy was either attractive, younger, and probably well built, and she loved the attention she was getting from him . Well, in any case, I don't feel bad for her. She's got what she deserved for her cheating. Secondly, I would file a lawsuit against the contractor for the breakup of my marriage that was caused by one of their employees. Was
From this video I understand why women bust out in tears. The realize that their husbands are much better persons than they are. Every time she was forced to tell her story and every time she looked the good person she bursted out in tears.
Cheating is unforgivable . If a woman cheats just ghost her . Don´t waste your time looking for confrontation .If someone cheats , it doen´t matter the reason even because whatever the reason is it will always be a stupidy reason. People cheat because they can , have no respect ,and underestimete their partners . That´s why relationships don´t work anymore .One , five , ten , sixteen , twenty years together mean nothing because there´s no guaranties . Period .
I’ve been enjoying this channel and the videos. No idea if you’d see this, but why the recording your screen with an external camera thing? It’s unique, but I guess I don’t understand why. I thought this was a recording of a wall with a digital projector pointed at it or something until the Norton popup appeared around 2:54.
This did not just happen out of the blue. She is hiding a lot more of the store. She was different with her husband after the kitchen was done. I think chad pumped her and dumped her. She was upset the affair had ended. The distance the husband felt was his wife mourning the end of the affair.
She definitely didn't just succumb to a sudden kiss. It takes weeks to remodel a kitchen. She was hot for this dude for a while and knew exactly what she was doing.
Absolutely. I had just commented that before reading this.
Absolutely mate. I don't believe OP's wife had sex with AP once. I don't even believe this is the first time this woman has cheated. I think she hit the ax on the stone this time. I think other man she slept with threatened to tell her husband and blackmail him. It doesn't make sense to me that the woman who walked into another man's bed so easily was the first to cheat. Her husband never mentioned this woman's phone. This means that this woman's husband was not controlling at all. I don't believe this woman has any remorse. If she regretted it, she would have confessed everything to her husband that day.
Not only that... this woman must be at least 40 (given the kids ages). So... what construction guy just randomly kisses a married woman -- risking his job, career, assault claims, etc. No... he didn't just randomly kiss her... he talked to her, flirted with her, and she flirted back, made him coffee, managed to ask him to stay behind, etc., etc. I bet she also wore more revealing clothes, did her hair, showered, perfume, etc.
Of course it's her, she is the gatekeeper of the cookie jar.
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now what the husband SHOULD have done, is sue that company for millions using the "alienation of affection" charge, as a company employee caused the dissolution of the marriage
So true
@@jguterrez01 Why? Sue the guy (if you must).
@BW022 because in some places you can sue both. Remember he hired them to do work on his house so the OP can say if had hired another company his wife would not had cheated.
@@BW022 It will ensure the man gets fired and most likely blacklisted in the entire industry.
@@davidjones8942 well at least in the state he works in. But none the less, sue the company as the AP was directly representing the company at the time of the incident. I guarantee the company will settle quickly with the simply demand of firing the employee and refunding the OP’’s money for the job.
Purgatory is the perfect description of living with a cheater. A friend of mine's wife cheated on him, he found out 30 years later. He forgave her and tried to work through it. He divorced her 18 months later. He described it as 18 months of hell.
I’m female and I am not saying my life is miserable, it’s not, but I would kill for a tenth of what this woman had before she threw it all away.
I do get it because she wanted what she wanted, emotion over reason. She got with the consequences that go along with it. A cheater cheats its what they do.
The money and resources part of getting laid by the alpha-construction worker?
@@larryg7126 YES! It doesn't make sense because we're looking at it logically. It's like, if you had a $500 million winning Powerball ticket and traded it for a $2 winning scratch-off, most people would logically KEEP the Powerball ticket. But women would take the scratch-off and justify it by apologizing and saying she made a mistake (and it's not her fault, she felt drawn to the scratch-off, she was depressed, she'll go to therapy, she'll do anything, etc), in an effort to get the Powerball ticket. Cake eaters.
@@Remianen FYA made a point on another video about lust and how it can overcome any feelings like love and can cause you to make bad decisions not to excuse this woman but it most likely played a huge part in her choices
@g-saviour6581 As humans, we ALL deal with some level of temptation. It is our responsibility to avoid putting ourselves in a situation where we know we may be weak. If she knew she was attracted to that worker, walking thru with him should've been avoided. Sin has a price and she's paying it.
The wife confessed only because her sister threatened to out her, she has no true remorse. And even her confession reeks of trickle truth. There is no way that this installer just kissed her out of the blue and then screwed her on the couch. At the very least she was flirting and giving this guy signals that she would be receptive if he wanted to make a move. Also, her claim that it was just one time is almost certainly a lie. This guy should DNA test his kids.
I doubt it was a one time act, also.
Her sister is an excellent person with sterling character.
@@pvajit1109 absolutely, she’s amazing and it’s SOOOO rare that women’s family will EVER hold them accountable. Sis was a real one
No I think the sex was just one time, just based on how her guilt was physically effecting her. she really didn’t go into the events leading up to that”kiss” and the couch boffing. Nor did OP even ask her for the details.
As one wise man said “it’s not important how many times she did it or with who. It only matters that she did it “. This seems to be OPs take on it.
Sorry, but no one believes a single kiss led to her throwing away 20+ years of, for all purposes, what was a successful marriage. That must have been one hell of a kiss.
@@panzerlieb Fear of consequences can be mistaken for guilt. The only thing OP will ever know for sure is that his wife confessed to the minimum necessary, only due to the threat of exposure. In my experience, the time you catch them is rarely the first time, but who knows.
And unexplained weight loss is often motivated by the desire to please an affair partner.
Any consequences to the contractor who took his money and then pounded out his wife? If I was the betrayed husband, I’d have packed my wife a suitcase, driven her to contractor’s home, rang the doorbell and informed him and his family that their new roommate is here.
Lol. Nope. Western folks are....probably too used in getting their wife pounded by their overlord.
I think its racial trait or something. Any husband who seek revenge got killed back then.
So, now, they only blame the wife.
If this were to happen most other part of the world, that employee gonna lose his teeth. N probably get fired by his boss.
Remember....infidelity isnt a crime in many western countries.
Many other countries treat infidelity as a crime (punishment vary)
😂😂😂
He did the right thing. She says she is remorseful and would never do it again but if she had been asked before the betrayal if she would cheat on her husband she would have said, "never". She doesn't even know herself so how can she believe he would ever be able to trust her again when she can't trust herself.
26:00 that’s called post-nut clarity. She says she’ll never love another man again but she was fine giving away what was promised only to him to a random. She has no excuse. No cheater does.
Will Smith is a perfect example of this. Although his marriage and his acting career are 2 different aspects, does anyone really respect him anymore?
Imagine the disrespect, that guy plowed his wife without a sweat keeping a straight face and look of mockery while he talked to the husband. Took his money and destroyed his family. Plus I don't believe this was the first time she did something like this. she just made this one time mistake is BS to me.
Nah, this was definitely a one time thing.
Yup. She got horizontal with him quite quickly - they just said, "Hi" and went at it. Or at least that's what she wants people to believe. But I'll bet she had been flirting with this guy since Day 1. -OR- she really IS that easy, and that's a whole other story.
One thing that I have learned from experience with a cheating wife. NEVER TRUST A WOMAN EVER!!!!! You may Love her, but never put anything past her. ALWAYS WATCH HER!!!! No matter what, they can change and cheat on you in a blink of an eye.
kris so what are men's options?I just don't see the purpose of a guy getting married and constantly watching your wife.This is one reason I never got married.It's like 90% you'll never catch your wife cheating.
Exactly 💯
And the same with a cheating man. Hard to trust a man again if ever.
Imagine spending so much money for a kitchen as a present for your wife which is expensive AF only so she would thank you by sleeping with the boss of the construction team
This story is so buu I know look at her actions did she lay the other we irjers??? Did she call that skins bosscaa a nd tell him what went down??!
That's what I was thinking, she rewarded him by blowing Joel.
he saved up 3 years to give her the kitchen she wanted. Crazy part of all this is they spent all that money on the kitchen that the wife wanted to NOT enjoy it at all. Something about this story is odd to me, what drove the boss to kiss her?? I doubt it only happened once and what gave the boss the green light. I am guessing the wife was flirting with him the whole time he was there.
"Everyone makes mistakes", No, no, no-committing adultery is not a "Misunderstanding" rather a selfish choice and total disregard to the feelings & well being of the family. Yes-no doubt she is remorseful and can be forgiven, but never can be trusted in the same way again. Trust is the most important and fragile component within any relationship. Without trust a person cannot go out on a limb, make sacrifices and show the true hero/heroine inside them. Folks need to take their marriage vows seriously and the contractor should be shamed or sued for home wreaking.
Yeah it was an accident how did you accidentally fall on his penis 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Exactly! Cheating is never a simple mistake, it is ALWAYS a long string of intentional bad CHOICES!!!
Of course adultery can be a mistake, having an affair, or planned to have sex is never a mistake. However, everything else you said I do agree with.
I would've sued the kitchen company for foreman's highly unprofessional conduct while on the job.
I can't believe the OP never even brought that up! He could have retired from his job.
@@vlugovsky I figure he'd barely have to call a lawyer to get the foreman fired, a full refund on the kitchen and probably a nice settlement on top, just to keep quiet. Imagine what it would do for business if word got out that employees were seducing customers wives.
@@virtual-viking Agreed. Just don't understand why so many betrayed people don't follow through.
Op is kind of a punk tbh. He gave half his assets to a cheating garden tool
Absolutely correct, I made the mistake of staying with my cheating wife and it was terrible! I ended up isolating us, thinking when we went out, and her flirting and guys flirting back, always knowing that she had or would be having affairs with them!
Found out she even commented adultery at work!
Never stay with a cheater, it destroyed me!
Amazing how, out of several hundred of these stories, I've only heard of 2 where reconcilliation turned out good, and I honestly believe one of the two was a lie, just so the
internet didn't dogpile on him as badly.
I can say my wife and I are doing well and very much in love 28 yrs after her infidelity, but it was a hard and rocky road to get here. I would also say that if I could go back and make the choice again, I would not take her back. It would have been much less painful to start fresh.
@@davidjones8942 damn man. That’s brutal. Glad it worked out but yeah, that’s a special kind of torture no one should have to go through.
@@granthoover9045 thx!
@@davidjones8942 simp a little buddy?
Cheaters think only the Pleasure in cheating!!! They Don't think about the Consequences on what they've done!!!
Noted that the story elided over what brought her to the point where she was so willing to cheat on such a great Husband . Had to be some flirting, inappropriate banter, and debauchery, going on while Hubby wasn't around ! He had saved-up money and had just gifted her with the new kitchen ! Guess it just proves the old saying : " No good deed goes unpunished !" Well, it was a long run , but his turn is finally up !
Very true. In my experience of helping people in need, they were the ones that had done bad things to us after that.
After more than a year, no mention to what happened to that slithering, smooth talkin' Casanova, Joel ! (?). SHHHHH !!! Don't talk about him !
If she cheats once, she'll cheat again. The only correct response to a cheating partner is, " You made your choice, pack your bags".
I don’t think it was a choice, it was a response. I doubt she would respond like that again.
@@anthonycraig274no offense but that's punk language to distort reality
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist Nope, she has done something even she would not have thought she would ever have done. I doubt she would do anything like that again. However, her husband can respond anyway he wants because once trust has gone, so has the relationship. Even though i truly believe she wouldn’t do it again it’s irrelevant, I just couldn’t stay with her.
@@anthonycraig274 you think that based on what? Her crying about her remorse when she clearly lied about her story? Is it her completely covering her story and only revealing it when coerced? You're just talking I'm asking you to think
Edit: have you ever had a personal relationship with a girl that cheated on someone else? What they actually say when everyone isn't looking?
@@anthonycraig274cheating is always a choice. You are faced with temptation vs loyalty. betrayal is a congnizant decision. period.
So she was so grateful to the contractor for her kitchen that she had to screw him to show her appreciation? It was her husband that gave her the kitchen, she should have been grateful to him!
Her adultery destroyed the whole family, not just the husband!
The cheating didn't happen by chance, there was flirting and an emotional affair going on for a long time. Guy should have absolutely sued the remodeling company
There are folks who go on Quora and admit to wanting to cheat on their partner. The former cheaters advise against letting 20 minutes ruin your entire relationship. My guess is this was one of those "in the moment" choices this woman made, and her instant regret (if that's truth) goes to show that. Chances are, this was one of those 20- minute affairs where she allowed it because it was completely against her normal, comfortable, day-to-day routine. The kitchen was a gift from her husband. What a way to "stick it to him" for being the provider for her comfortable, yet "boring" life. And notice, Joel was never mentioned as calling her for another romp.
This guy did the right thing by immediately walking away and giving her complete uncertainty until serving her with divorce papers. He dumped her, and that made her want him even more. Men see a cheating wife as wanting him around as the provider who "pays" for sex while giving other guys free sex. Women see a cheating husband as wanting to replace her because she has completely been a failure as a wife. Good for him for moving on, while she continues to grasp at hope of having him back someday. She sees herself as a complete failure now- sexual partner, cook, cleaner, mother of his kids, everything!
I was agreeing with you until the you threw out this line, " Women see a cheating husband as wanting to replace her because she has completely been a failure as a wife." My ex cheated on me and not because I was a failure, it was because he was an idiot! I worked full time, took care of 3 kids, and paid all of the bills (he only bought groceries). We had a boat, 3 motorcycles, 2 four wheelers and a lake house so life was good and we were having lots of fun. On the intimate side, we had a very "creative" and exciting intimate relationship, I can promise you it was never boring or mundane! Why did he cheat? Well a woman that was supposed to be a friend saw our life and all the toys and since I always let him come across as the "Alpha Male" she thought she would step in and steal him so she could live the good life! She chased and he let her catch him. Imagine her surprise when she called to tell me she had been with him on our pool table the night before and I told her she could have him but she would need to come get him because not only do I pay for everything we own, he only worked part time at Walmart and would not be able to pay his car payment that month! Back to the point, I wasn't a failure, he was an idiot who immediately regretted what he had done and begged for forgiveness.
Reconciliations rarely work. Many couples try, but in most cases within 20 to 36 months the relationship implodes. Or the couple stays together as roommates for the children or simply for economic reasons. This story reminds me of something that happened to someone I heard about. In this case, it was an afternoon session with a 20-year-old neighbor's son. She was a housewife but they had no children. I know about this story because I am dating the Attorney the husband spoke to. According to her, the husband caught her as she was leaving her office and they spoke for several minutes about what happens when they get divorced. Then she asked him to come back the next morning to talk because he had a case and Virginia is an at-fault state. She then went home and had an uneventful evening. The next morning heard nothing from him. So she forgot about it and moved on with her day and life. That is until a Deputy Sheriff found his remains about an hour out of Richmond. Once she read about that in the paper her thoughts went back to that evening. She always takes notes when interviewing clients, and sometimes records these meetings for archival purposes. Because of Attorney-Client privilege, she can't allow anyone to hear that meeting, but the local Sheriff and Coroner did. This man said he told his wife the same thing as mentioned in this story. As he was packing he packed his firearm. Then found my GF and she told him what to expect under Virginia law. He then drove about an hour away and made himself no longer alive. This wayward wife left Virginia as far as my GF knows. My GF was married at the time this happened. Her husband was caught by some mutual friends at a Roanoke hotel with another girl. These two events happened about 6 months apart. After she cleaned her ex-husband's clock she had a sign made. It is behind her chair at her desk on the wall. It simply says "accountability starts here" there is also another one in her firm's main conference room.
Truly remorseful? The cheater didn’t disclose the affair until her sister gave her an ultimatum.
Exactly; not sorry, just sorry she got caught. “Tale as old as time.”
Perhaps, if she confessed the very next day, then maybe?!?!?
She didn’t get caught, she was sorry and the guilt was eating her up inside. However, from the OP perspective, remorseful or not, the results the same.
Her sister is a total assshole.
Every meal that the ex-wife cooks in her apartment will remind her of her dream kitchen, what she could've had, what she lost. No wonder she lost weight. By now she's probably eating like a bird from take-out containers, alone with her demons. If this isn't a cautionary tale...
At that point, revenge isn't necessary. Her whole family shunning her, living in a shitty apartment while working a retail job, losing a loving husband who saved up to buy her the dream kitchen she always wanted, life has already punished her sufficiently.
I think it was not just that 1 kiss that had led them to do it consensually, but over the days that this guy were at the house everyday that they had developed an emotional affair first that led to the physical affair.
Its always dangerous to leave your women to be with men in close contact everyday continously, because we know women are very very vulnerable.
It takes two if your a pos that would fuck another man's wife while you're suppose to be working doing a job for the guy.
I always say that that's why I don't allow my wife to be near men. Call me insecure I don't give a damn.
@@abuabdoalwaheed9967 This is what i'm always telling my wife. No man will enter our house unless i'm in the house.
I guarantee if this was always the outcome. less women would cheat. This woman gave up a loving husband, her dream custom kitchen, the respect of her children parents and sister for what? PS I find it hard to believe it was just that one time. They may only had sex once but you know all sorts of flirting and other things were going on first. Most likely for most of the time the workers were there.
Wife probably thought it was the perfect opportunity to have a ONS as the lover boy would be gone after that so no one would know. I have a friend that married a virgin (they have been married for 30 years) that has said to him that she regrets not sleeping around when she was young. Women start to hit the wall and have a kind of mid-life crisis around that age, the regret of not having enough partners when they were young combined with the excitement and validation of someone finding them attractive is all it takes for them to step out. So this was not just him suddenly kissing her, there was a lot that lead up to this and a lot of signals from her that she was up for some fun.
@Jackson Gunner yep, no one just walks up and kisses a married woman without getting strong signals first.
This wife did not think about how her affair would impact her husband. From listening to the story, he was totally in love with her after all these years. The event destroyed his trust in her, and he could never trust her again. Her husband sees her as nothing to him now. No amount of counseling, one side open relationship would never make him love her again.
Besides the lack of trust, it's the emotional pain of betrayal. How could he ever have sex with her and not think about some guys member inside her? That's a wound beyond healing.
If a woman is offering you an 'one-sided open relationship' to keep the marriage together, say you'll do it. You don't HAVE to, but come back from work or whatever late a couple days later and say you did.
Woman tend not to think through this offer when they consider it, and cheaters never seem to understand the pain discovery can cause. Let her think you did for a moment, then admit you lied, but tell her those feelings she got when she thought you had? Yeah, that's what you're feeling for real.
My exwife do same thing. She cheating 5 months and i file for divorce. She offer me everything like sexless marriage because i say i will never touch her again, one side open marriage for me, threesome with 2 other womens,gps tracker in her phone. I say her im not prison guard and i dont want spend single minute in marriage where i dont trust my wife.
Women that make that offer don't really mean it. It just hurts too much. Besides she would eventually resent it and feel she was entitled to cheat herself.
No one deserves to be cheated on.
So true.
Cheaters do
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Dumping a cheater is always the right thing to do. I'm sure her AP was a big-time masculine Chad. There is no way it only happened that one time. Cheaters are LIARS.
You know while the construction went on he probably started flirting with her and she responded to that. She was with her husband for a long time and she was feeling validation and felt flattered that another man besides her husband found her desirable. I am not condoning what she did. She only felt guilty because she knew after the fact that her life was over. Her nice comfortable home and her meal ticket "her husband" would be gone. She was just selfish and only thinking about herself. She probably hoped if she came clean that he would just let everything go because of the years they had spent together. I am sure that this is not the only time she did this I wouldn't be surprised if she did this early in their relationship.
What isn't told here is what led up to the initial kiss, because it didn't come out of the blue. There must have been some flirting taking place in the days before, leading up to the infidelity; the builder must have had a pretty good idea the wife was up for it...
And the guy was right to immediately end the relationship. That's the way to move on and recover your self-respect.
damn it i should have saw ur comment because i ask the same thing. The guy would not do that unless she showed some sign or some indication for him to make that move.
Probably wearing revealing shirts or ultra short shorts.
I have drug mine out for my daughters sake. It’s been 10 years of hell for me mentally. I have done several things to try to put off the thoughts I have on the damn sad thing she done with him. I have 4 months left with her in my house. My daughter graduates from high school. Praise the lord. Divorce was settled years ago. It’s just keeping her around to help our daughter has been a hard gig to deal with for me.
It's true! Get the word out as soon as possible! My idiot head pastor told me to keep it quiet and totally screwed me over! The ex got to spread lies about me "physically abusing" her because she got her 'story' out first. I lost a lot of friends. Tell everyone what happened!
Hope you sued the cheater for Slander and Defamation of Character
Someday I'll post my friends' story, but trust me, pastors are the WORST, most gynocentric misandrists you will ever see.
I’m willing to bet it was more than one time on the couch !!!
I'd also sue Joel's company. It was done on work time.
The problem with marrying the first girl you meet is you never have the chance to become red pilled until its too late and you're getting divorced
Bro this dude was already red pilled blue pulled would have stayed. This red pill alpha had no warning signs his like was content & happy. This what happens when a woman they seem to always work off emotions & being 45 & getting attention from another man getting in her feelings among other things. Another happy home destroyed.
Knowledge. Knowledge could supplant experience.
The only thing I miss here is that I wish Joel suffered the consequences of being a part in this.
The husband needed to post Joel cheating behaviors in every review and BBC complaints to all potential customers can see this. I would definitely make sure the word spreads about him to the contracting world. Joel would be ruined especially among married or unmarried homeowner couples.
Exactly!
I’m with you he’s a sweet bucket and deserves to be exposed also👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Skum
Joel just accepted what was offered... Still a bastard, of course.
omg how horrible! Can you imagine the sacrifice this guy went through for 3 years to save up for his wife's dream kitchen, only for her to pork the contractor?! That is the ultimate blow of the husband's manhood. Here he thought he was giving the ultimate gift to his wife through his 3-year sacrifice and dedication. I feel SO bad for the husband.
The love, the caring, tender love for her, is lost forever. Based on her life experience, this will torment her for the rest of her life. Some men you cannot cheat on.
Go after the contractor!
Seriously. I would have sued him, sued his company, and sued his mother for raising such a turd.
Interesting story and analysis. There are things to be learned from these stories. One of the most important is that you must be careful of who you are alone with. Do not know her mind or heart was or is, but no doubt she is very remorseful. So here is another mid 40’s woman, mysteriously single.
I work in a National chain hardware store. I see these mystery relationship women all the time. Some of them have some attractiveness still. You could imagine that even 10 years ago they would probably be a solid beauty. But there is a haunted look to these women. A desolation of the soul. I can feel it. I help many of them yo do the things they need yo do to maintain their homes or repair things. Of course, there are also women who have had their husbands dump them too. Both conditions exist, of course. But the former is seeming to be on the increase. Sometimes they will wistfully use certain words as if ruminating on something lost. I do not pretend to know all nor fo I elevate myself yo judge for there is ONE who judgeth ALL. And that isn’t me. But, be careful of whom you are alone with, for sometimes things can flare ip suddenly without one even considering that it could be do, be careful both women and men.
She clearly fooled your ass😂.
❤️👍yes but why has he not called the Azp Boss I would have dad one thst thst very same hour!!my god
WTFF? Why are you posting here? You appear to be a mature adult who has a sense of compassion. Look at the other comments to these videos. What do you see?
Learn to be more childish, vindictive, hateful and sadistic and then come back and apologize for your breech of etiquette.
NEVER TAKE A CHEATER BACK AFTER THEY SHOWED YOU WHAT AND WHO THEY REALLY ARE AND WHAT THEY REALLY THINK OF YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. Theres nothing can be said after they done what they wanted without a second thought for you or your family.
It's so disgusting the bad choices people make to destroy their lives and alter things. I have zero tolerance for cheaters who disrespect the sanctity of a relationship.
It is not about age, it is about maturity. Some people mature early while others will never mature.
Great story, however, most women don’t just let the BS walk away with a fair settlement. Most women will wreck the BS financially and emotionally, if they leave. Even worse, family courts assist them in doing so. As a survivor of a high conflict divorce with young children involved, it is one of the worst experiences I have ever had in my life and I’ve seen a lot, as a career paramedic.
There are a few disturbing thing about this story that’s not mentioned.
1. She had unprotected sex with AP
2. She then had unprotected sex with OP
3. They must have had sat on that couch many times together, her knowing and not saying anything.
So Joel got off Scott free? How does one regain anything if the perpetrator of this event gets to walk away unscathed?
kudos to this guy. i am sure this was a tough decision , but you have to do what is best for you. and as always there are no winners. so sad.
A whole kitchen, with a designer/contractor. You're looking at at least 40-50K.
SHE HAD A FAMILY BUT ITS NEVER ENOUGH FOR MODERN WOMEN. NEVER
She wasn’t a modern woman. I don’t think you listened to the story.
Many women get bored within marriages and convince themselves that they are entitled to act like this..
It's amazing how to the regret suddenly appears immediately AFTER the experience. (you have to enjoy the experience first.) Then you can cry. If the regret came before the act... the regret for even entertaining the thought, then... "You can choose whatever you want, what you can not choose are the consequences of your choice. those are chosen for you."
Yeah, it's almost like human beings have powerful subconscious urges that were programmed right into their brain tissue, and so make foolish decisions and then regret them deeply.
Ha ha. Just kidding, that never happens. Everyone on earth is either 100% good or 100% evil. Everyone in these comments sections are 100% good.
So all it took was for the other dude to kiss her and she went right for it, but of course, she "regretted it immediately afterward and the guilt had been eating her alive ever since."
So I guess the guilt wasn't eating her alive while she was screwing another dude on their own couch.
I’m thinking the only eating getting done was…well you know. 👅🐈
The guilt was eating her so much that she was never going to say anything at all until her sister forced her hand.
Too late for her. Don't ever cheat on a faithful, devoted, loving spouse for any reason. I hope this good man has a great life. The "trash" has been taken out.
The sad part is had the guy been incredibly hot in bed and and a 14 " yik yak, she would have continued the "affair"..... in fact, she would have left her husband for the POS.... so weak and pathetic these cheaters are.....
My honest opinion, I think she's done this before. I feel the guilt came from the fact that she cheated after her husband did something nice for her. So you gotta wonder what happened after an argument? Or disappointing situation. I mean 25 years no cheating, And now all of a sudden a Chad construction worker comes in and gets it.
Sometimes the ex just keeps doing horrible things to your sons and you. She told my oldest son that she wanted to buy his Suzuki for $2000 so she can give it to my middle son. She never paid him the $2000. My oldest son went to work for the mining company and moved up quickly to journeyman position within a couple of years. She asked him to take a loan out on his 401k so she could pay off her 401k so she could take out another loan. She said she would pay him back when she got her money out. My son didn't go for it and she didn't speak to him for 2 years. She ignored him at Christmas, her birthday and his birthday. My youngest son of three wanted to buy his mother's Tacoma pickup. I lent him the $5000 to purchase the truck. I took another corporate job and had to move to Phoenix. She showed up at my door telling me that she would sell the truck for me and give me the money. How nice of her. She didn't and I took her to court and won. Unfortunately she filed bankruptcy, for the third time, and didn't have to pay me. That's when I said enough and I will not have anything whatsoever to do with her. Sometimes you just need to throw out the trash permanently.
Once a vvoman sleeps with another guy after being with you, treat her like the trash she is and don't ever bring trash back into your life.
"I'll never do anything to hurt you again."... they just don't get it. EVERY time he looks at the kitchen or the sofa, it will pain him. This isn't one or done thing, it is a continued torture.
He should have went and found that worker and let him have it and if was married tell his wife or girlfriend what he had done with his wife!!!!
When cheated husband sees his wife crying he has to remember a couple of important things. Most cheating wives protect their reputation. They dont want parents to criticize them. They suffer because the divorce the sons pointing fingers at them. Friends and coworkers accusing laughing when hearing about divorce. Whatever entitled women say divorce is a failure.
If they’re narcissistic, they’ll have little remorse. Imagine that.
My X when I burned her miserable life down. It was a sad sight.
One thing to do is to go to the designer and company that employed Joel. Leave reviews, on this company warning any people who would consider using this company. ETA she took the situation where he saved for 3 years to give her this kitchen and repaid him by cheating.
It was not just a kiss and they did it she was accepting his advances all those weeks that’s why he kissed her and did it
After 25 years, you'd think she would have been loyal, more wise, ain't no way this is her first rodeo. And it all started with a gift. No good deed goes unpunished I guess
Wow, two kids, gets the kitchen of her dreams as her husband saved for 3 years to make it happen and she boinks a construction worker on the family couch. Good move. Buy a cat.
So, the husband offers a very beautiful cook to his loving wife who, to thank him, sleeps with the team leader! 🙏🙏🙏 Nice mentality
She gave up a great life for nothing. She is now sad and lonely.
Why he didn't go after the contractor is beyond me. I would've raised hell against the entire company and had his ass fired
So having relationship for long doesn't guarantee faithfulness.
She ripped her husband's heart out. He could never see her the same. She was very special to him up to the point of cheating. Most people think that because of their years together, they think he should forgive her for this event. It appears that he was totally in love with her, but cheating in a relationship cheating will change your heart toward them forever. No way he could stay with her. In this case, the number of years together went against saving this marriage. During all those years together, the husband questioned her genuine love for him.
I did like this presentation. It would have been both educational and interesting to hear in greater detail how exactly that woman was enticed into such an act. What did she in that adultery partner that she didn't see in her own husband?
The contractor waited until he finished the project and got paid before trying his luck.
This is completely disgusting ! I love how he said he would always love her, and then he said he hates her. Well her life was not worth living with out him, well she at least has her new kitchen……
Nope, the new owner had a new kitchen.
I'll admit, I cheated in my marriage. I won't tell the story not try to rationalize it; I did it. Ultimately, we divorced after 22 years. My infidelity was a factor, but by no means the only one.
If, and it will never happen, I ever got married again or if I have an exclusive relationship (likely), I would never cheat again.
The selfish reason is that the infidelity IS ALWAYS THERE. Nothing else can be addressed without that cloud coming into play.
I'd like to think that OP found the contractor years later in a dark alley, and took a baseball bat to his knees (and balls).
8:50 she was love bombing out of guilt and shame due to her infidelity in hopes that it would mask any suspicions.
When I read or listen to stories like this especially if the wife is the wayward spouse who cheated they always start off with professing their unbreakable love/bond they have with their husbands yet somehow still decided to desecrate their relationship and family for short terms thrills and excitement.
I like this channel better than the others as it provide some description from the admin as the story went along.
She got conquered by another man, she submitted to him, sorry to say AP won and the husband lost everything. That memory will haunt him foe the rest of his life!
Sue the company.
I would totally get my money back for the remodel from the company that did it due to the situation.
Until the contractor confirms that it was a single event, I don't believe it was. It's irrelevant, I guess, since once was enough for this strong husband.
TRUST is EVERYTHING!!!
12:50 And it shows that she didn't disclosed it voluntarily.
The normal reaction of a married woman who gotten kissed by a contractor of the blues would be she would slap the hell out of him because he just disrespected her, and then she would have called her husband and let him know aboutthe advancethe employeemade on her. But no, she let it go to the point of having sex with this guy, thus now she disrespected her husband. I bet the guy was either attractive, younger, and probably well built, and she loved the attention she was getting from him . Well, in any case, I don't feel bad for her. She's got what she deserved for her cheating. Secondly, I would file a lawsuit against the contractor for the breakup of my marriage that was caused by one of their employees. Was
Life is short - and to spend it with a cheating spouse, and forever wondering if you can trust your spouse? No thanks!
From this video I understand why women bust out in tears. The realize that their husbands are much better persons than they are. Every time she was forced to tell her story and every time she looked the good person she bursted out in tears.
Don't let anyone live in your head rent free.
It is very difficult to listen to some of these stories, no matter how great you as a man they can one day decide to step out on you
Dang! Did the dude at least get a discount on the kitchen?
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He did, he got a sperm deposit on the couch.
Cheating is unforgivable . If a woman cheats just ghost her . Don´t waste your time looking for confrontation .If someone cheats , it doen´t matter the reason even because whatever the reason is it will always be a stupidy reason. People cheat because they can , have no respect ,and underestimete their partners . That´s why relationships don´t work anymore .One , five , ten , sixteen , twenty years together mean nothing because there´s no guaranties . Period .
I’ve been enjoying this channel and the videos. No idea if you’d see this, but why the recording your screen with an external camera thing? It’s unique, but I guess I don’t understand why. I thought this was a recording of a wall with a digital projector pointed at it or something until the Norton popup appeared around 2:54.
This is the best video if you're ever cheated on. I haven't yet at least nothing I'm aware of but I know my time is coming
Great post and well written..
Yes I agree, the PO did nothing about the man (the builder).
This did not just happen out of the blue. She is hiding a lot more of the store. She was different with her husband after the kitchen was done. I think chad pumped her and dumped her. She was upset the affair had ended. The distance the husband felt was his wife mourning the end of the affair.
"Everyone makes mistakes" ? It's a convenient excuse. Everyone can easily use that as a reason.
cheating is a choice. not a mistake. not an accident. a choice.
Test those kids. Something is fishy here.
The husband should have sued the kitchen company over the infidelity. And he should’ve taken a DNA test for the kids.
Just another example of why no man should marry in 2023.
7:45 you are way lowballing on a state of the art kitchen, my friend.