I thank you both so much for your transparency! I stumbled upon your station at a very critical time in my marriage. I’m praying that I can encourage my husband to listen to your sessions with me, because they are very helpful! I thank God for your obedience! Please do not stop sharing!! Many blessings to your union!!❤🙏🏽
As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I want to first express my sympathy to the wife involved in this situation. Your experience was deeply traumatic, and it’s essential that it be recognized as such. What you went through was not sex therapy. A licensed sex therapist is a trained professional, and unfortunately, that was not your experience here. It’s incredibly harmful when one partner seeks help for an issue by involving someone else, without fully considering the other partner’s needs and perspective. This creates a biased and damaging dynamic, often leading to further trauma. Your partner was wrong to focus primarily on his own needs by engaging a third party. An ethical pastoral counselor would have involved both of you and ensured both perspectives were heard before the first meeting. In therapy, there should be no secrets or taking sides. I’m truly sorry you had to endure this, and it’s important to acknowledge that this added to the trauma you were already facing. This situation was mishandled from the start, and it was not sex therapy at all.
Thank your tuning in and sharing your insight, especially since you are an expert in this field. Having this experience made us ever so cautious when others come to us for help. We offer advice only and refer out for professional counseling. We believe in this so much so, that our church covers the cost of their first session. We never want to be the cause of inflicting further trauma on people who are already hurting. If nothing else, that lesson was learned.
Just found this channel and I am thankful for this! 1st Lady has really put words to how I feel and have been feeling in this episode. Considered therapy but afraid that it would break us apart because of what all we have to unpack. May God continue to bless you both.
I love how there's no edge or defensiveness or hurt in this conversation. This is a HIGHLY volatile topic, but the healing has just permeated this whole conversation because it's peaceful, there's humor, there's flow. Whew, that's the fruit of the Spirit!
The whole conversation was fire. The 42-44 min mark is pivotal to the whole thing. You have to almost take it back to the first time dating mode. Just because you’re married don’t forget the soft moments. Fire episode, thx guys.
Thank you for the transparency, if couples could hear more of these real issues and how to resolve them , also letting them know it's normal, it could potentially give them the hope they need to get through the rough patch and have the longevity in their marriage. Been married 19 years together for 22 and thought we been through it all, but as we age, roles are reversing and now I'm learning how he felt in the beginning of our marriage, (when my drive was low) dealing with lack of intimacy due to having very young kids, (now my drive is high) dealing with teenagers and college students, and his is low. So again, thanks for sharing. It helps put things in perspective.
❤I hope the purpose and trajectory of this podcast never changes because it is real and raw. I agree, counseling can end up doing more damage than good especially for children though I do push therapy. The problem is, everyone is not anointed for therapy.
I can listen to you’ll all day. I learn so much with your honesty and openness. Amazing channel, I never heard christian couple share like this. The sad thing is my husband is not involved with listening he shows no interest in things like. Even though I’m hurting in my 😢😢😢marriage Gods helps me get through this long suffering. Know that people are being helped more than you know. Thank you 😊
5mins in and I am feeling the relatability with you guys and my marriage.....ALL I want to know is...are your open to connect with a couple of going on 12 years from Memphis??? Cause this is too on point. Enjoying the transparency of two pastors! FYI. We lost 5children and went through HELL and going through that was only the beginning. I wrote a book that highlights my experiences with Loss and the crossroads of Healing and Broken Faith...etc. Let me know if you want the book info.
My wife and I are in our mid-20s and these episodes have been so helpful. Thank you for your authenticity and candor. We need more of this in the body of Christ tbh!
Another great conversation. I have long wanted to see what it would look like to hear both sides of a relationship where both could be honest about their feelings and how they experienced their partner without the barrier of ego and pretense. I am thankful for the commitment you made to each other, your ability to communicate and willingness to share. It’s hard to walk the line between transparency and oversharing but I believe your intentions shine through. I do hope that your story can help many. And whatever your content will be if/when you pivot from lessons learned in marriage has just as much insight.
Again, everything discussed here is what we're experiencing. I do feel guilty about having these feelings...and I shouldn't. I believe my most important "deficiency" is connection with my husband. The sex would be icing on the cake. Earlier in the years it was me not wanting to have sex because of medical issue and then no libido. He tells me during that time when wanted it and needed it, I refused him - which turned him off indefinitely. I've wondered if he watches porn to get what he needs, but he says he doesn't. He has admitted to me about his struggle with ER...due to not getting it for so long. However, my issues were resolved long ago and my body was and is ready again, but he has shut down. So, I suffer in silence now and sweep it under the rug. However, the yearning persist and I am not one to go seeking anything outside. Once again, thank you for being open and transparent on this subject. I'm listening intently, yet also hear your advice.
Excellent conversation! Thank you for your transparency! We overcome by the words of our testimony. This will help so many marriages, mine included! May God continue to bless your union! May he increase you and cause you both to prosper individually and as a unit!
Wow this podcast was so authentic and very informative. I really loved this share. IM going to save this session. Blessing to you both. One of the most real sessions between couples I seen in TH-cam. Im divorce my husband after 30 years. The information was useful. To God. Be the Glory.
This podcast is great. Your story is similar to my situation. I’ve decided just do it so as to avoid the tension in sex life. I’ve definitely learnt a lot. Thank you.
This is so good I do understand my marriage is going through let’s just have sex and get it over with so now I know it’s ok for me to enjoy. Bennett you are hit it on the head today
Great godly and practical exchange! Can you guys speak on how your trauma affect you emotional/sexually? (If that is appropriate to express.) If so, how did you confront them and truly healed from it after trying so many other resources?
Sex is the main reason I have chosen never to marry. Too much emphasis is put on it, and it seems like an obligation or forced duty to keep things together. I hear this from so many women. I can't do it!
Marriage can truly be a beautiful thing, but it’s definitely not without its challenges. It requires a lot of responsibility, commitment, and a willingness to make selfless choices, often when it’s not convenient. Unfortunately, not everyone is prepared or willing to make those sacrifices. But when both partners are committed to loving and serving each other, even through the difficult seasons, it can be one of the most rewarding experiences in life. It’s not perfect, but it’s worth it when both people are willing to put in the work
I love what you both share with us! But I was sharing and listening with another married woman and although she enjoyed it as feed back, her take away was constantly hearing the loud Subscribe Bell that would interrupt several times and over take what you were saying to us and the interruption of the consistent sound effects that would interrupt what you guys were saying! Thank you for your transparency to help marriages!
I guess it's still hope for my marriage and I, almost exact replica of my wife and I, only difference is seperated 3 years living in 2 seperate states, her choice not mine.
Agreed that the absence of sex rarely has anything to do with sex. It's sad though that the "counselling session" went the way it did and to protect herself from that happening again, she just decided to enjoy her sex life, so it seemed like problem solved, however, he thought the "session" made it click for her.
Only problem was that it wasn't a real sex therapist that counsel ya'll. I instantly got discourage when I read the title but then when I listen I was like oh they didn't do real sex therapy, but it did have a purpose that was reveal amongst themselves. God can and does uses everything.
..hmmm.. if marriage is the vehicle god uses to point out where we are jacked up, why wasnt this (your jac ked up ways ) revealed to both of you in your 1st marriage?....
@@lthompson601 agree no 2 partners/marriages are the same, but toxic is toxic wehther its working or not...did the lord not point it out or ....anyways
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Thank you two pastors for sharing, teaching, and ministering. Your impact is being felt in Atlanta! Praying for your ministry!🔥🙌🏾💯🙏🏾
I thank you both so much for your transparency! I stumbled upon your station at a very critical time in my marriage. I’m praying that I can encourage my husband to listen to your sessions with me, because they are very helpful! I thank God for your obedience! Please do not stop sharing!! Many blessings to your union!!❤🙏🏽
As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I want to first express my sympathy to the wife involved in this situation. Your experience was deeply traumatic, and it’s essential that it be recognized as such. What you went through was not sex therapy. A licensed sex therapist is a trained professional, and unfortunately, that was not your experience here. It’s incredibly harmful when one partner seeks help for an issue by involving someone else, without fully considering the other partner’s needs and perspective. This creates a biased and damaging dynamic, often leading to further trauma. Your partner was wrong to focus primarily on his own needs by engaging a third party. An ethical pastoral counselor would have involved both of you and ensured both perspectives were heard before the first meeting. In therapy, there should be no secrets or taking sides. I’m truly sorry you had to endure this, and it’s important to acknowledge that this added to the trauma you were already facing. This situation was mishandled from the start, and it was not sex therapy at all.
Thank your tuning in and sharing your insight, especially since you are an expert in this field. Having this experience made us ever so cautious when others come to us for help. We offer advice only and refer out for professional counseling. We believe in this so much so, that our church covers the cost of their first session. We never want to be the cause of inflicting further trauma on people who are already hurting. If nothing else, that lesson was learned.
Man, I just love the transparency and authenticity.
I feel like listening to your conversation is therapy for me. Love this channel.
Thank you for tuning in and sharing your thoughts! 😊
Just found this channel and I am thankful for this! 1st Lady has really put words to how I feel and have been feeling in this episode. Considered therapy but afraid that it would break us apart because of what all we have to unpack. May God continue to bless you both.
I love how there's no edge or defensiveness or hurt in this conversation. This is a HIGHLY volatile topic, but the healing has just permeated this whole conversation because it's peaceful, there's humor, there's flow. Whew, that's the fruit of the Spirit!
Thank you for the encouragement.
Watching this has me in tears because it feels as though FINALLY someone has said exactly what I am currently feeling.
This means the world to hear. Welcome to the family
You guys are awesome! God bless your marriage and ministry
The whole conversation was fire. The 42-44 min mark is pivotal to the whole thing. You have to almost take it back to the first time dating mode. Just because you’re married don’t forget the soft moments. Fire episode, thx guys.
Thank you for the encouragement!
Thank you for the transparency, if couples could hear more of these real issues and how to resolve them , also letting them know it's normal, it could potentially give them the hope they need to get through the rough patch and have the longevity in their marriage. Been married 19 years together for 22 and thought we been through it all, but as we age, roles are reversing and now I'm learning how he felt in the beginning of our marriage, (when my drive was low) dealing with lack of intimacy due to having very young kids, (now my drive is high) dealing with teenagers and college students, and his is low.
So again, thanks for sharing. It helps put things in perspective.
Hey family!! Thanks streaming with us
❤I hope the purpose and trajectory of this podcast never changes because it is real and raw. I agree, counseling can end up doing more damage than good especially for children though I do push therapy. The problem is, everyone is not anointed for therapy.
Please 🙏🏾 for Richard and Shannon Hamilton in this area . God bless you both you all are helping me
@@richardhamilton3964 we got you! Hang in there & keep talking it thru
I can listen to you’ll all day. I learn so much with your honesty and openness. Amazing channel, I never heard christian couple share like this. The sad thing is my husband is not involved with listening he shows no interest in things like. Even though I’m hurting in my 😢😢😢marriage Gods helps me get through this long suffering. Know that people are being helped more than you know. Thank you 😊
@@dietriamichelle494 wow, thank you for sharing your story. We are standing with you in this season!
5mins in and I am feeling the relatability with you guys and my marriage.....ALL I want to know is...are your open to connect with a couple of going on 12 years from Memphis??? Cause this is too on point. Enjoying the transparency of two pastors! FYI. We lost 5children and went through HELL and going through that was only the beginning. I wrote a book that highlights my experiences with Loss and the crossroads of Healing and Broken Faith...etc. Let me know if you want the book info.
My wife and I are in our mid-20s and these episodes have been so helpful. Thank you for your authenticity and candor. We need more of this in the body of Christ tbh!
Thank you! We honored that you & your wife would take our time to even listen. Many blessings
Another great conversation. I have long wanted to see what it would look like to hear both sides of a relationship where both could be honest about their feelings and how they experienced their partner without the barrier of ego and pretense. I am thankful for the commitment you made to each other, your ability to communicate and willingness to share.
It’s hard to walk the line between transparency and oversharing but I believe your intentions shine through. I do hope that your story can help many. And whatever your content will be if/when you pivot from lessons learned in marriage has just as much insight.
He said “I will always be fresh!” 😂😂😂😂
Again, everything discussed here is what we're experiencing. I do feel guilty about having these feelings...and I shouldn't. I believe my most important "deficiency" is connection with my husband. The sex would be icing on the cake. Earlier in the years it was me not wanting to have sex because of medical issue and then no libido. He tells me during that time when wanted it and needed it, I refused him - which turned him off indefinitely. I've wondered if he watches porn to get what he needs, but he says he doesn't. He has admitted to me about his struggle with ER...due to not getting it for so long. However, my issues were resolved long ago and my body was and is ready again, but he has shut down. So, I suffer in silence now and sweep it under the rug. However, the yearning persist and I am not one to go seeking anything outside. Once again, thank you for being open and transparent on this subject. I'm listening intently, yet also hear your advice.
Omg!!!value all up and through my life!! This is wow!!!
Excellent conversation! Thank you for your transparency! We overcome by the words of our testimony. This will help so many marriages, mine included! May God continue to bless your union! May he increase you and cause you both to prosper individually and as a unit!
@@jeremiahrobertson333 thank you
Thank you so much for tuning in. That others will be blessed is our prayer, so thank you for the encouragement! 😊
I love the transparency you two possess!❤
Thanks for another insightful conversation.
Wow this podcast was so authentic and very informative. I really loved this share. IM going to save this session. Blessing to you both. One of the most real sessions between couples I seen in TH-cam. Im divorce my husband after 30 years. The information was useful. To God. Be the Glory.
This podcast is great. Your story is similar to my situation. I’ve decided just do it so as to avoid the tension in sex life. I’ve definitely learnt a lot. Thank you.
This conversation has helped me a lot. I understand my wife better. Luckily I did not quit yet, I will try harder. God help me!
Great discussion ❤
Thank you for being honest and transparent. God bless you both and may the God glue continue to keep you. ❤
I’m so glad i found this page. Amazing content.
@@NYourWill thank you
Another Christian marriage podcast. I love authenticity of the conversation. I can definitely tune in on every video.
You guys are heroes. Thank you for sharing
This is good, really enjoyed this!! Good advice
Glad it was helpful!
Great episode
Thank you
Very helpful ❤
Glad it was helpful!
This is so good I do understand my marriage is going through let’s just have sex and get it over with so now I know it’s ok for me to enjoy. Bennett you are hit it on the head today
Great godly and practical exchange! Can you guys speak on how your trauma affect you emotional/sexually? (If that is appropriate to express.) If so, how did you confront them and truly healed from it after trying so many other resources?
Sex is the main reason I have chosen never to marry. Too much emphasis is put on it, and it seems like an obligation or forced duty to keep things together. I hear this from so many women. I can't do it!
Marriage can truly be a beautiful thing, but it’s definitely not without its challenges. It requires a lot of responsibility, commitment, and a willingness to make selfless choices, often when it’s not convenient. Unfortunately, not everyone is prepared or willing to make those sacrifices. But when both partners are committed to loving and serving each other, even through the difficult seasons, it can be one of the most rewarding experiences in life. It’s not perfect, but it’s worth it when both people are willing to put in the work
43:38 that’s exactly me and I’m 15 years with my husband. Thank you for this great conversation
I love what you both share with us! But I was sharing and listening with another married woman and although she enjoyed it as feed back, her take away was constantly hearing the loud Subscribe Bell that would interrupt several times and over take what you were saying to us and the interruption of the consistent sound effects that would interrupt what you guys were saying!
Thank you for your transparency to help marriages!
Thank you for sharing! We addressed the sound alerts in the next episode.
I guess it's still hope for my marriage and I, almost exact replica of my wife and I, only difference is seperated 3 years living in 2 seperate states, her choice not mine.
How do I approach my wife with this without a argument? I can't get passed the huge amount of defensiveness no matter what the conversation is. 😢
Agreed that the absence of sex rarely has anything to do with sex. It's sad though that the "counselling session" went the way it did and to protect herself from that happening again, she just decided to enjoy her sex life, so it seemed like problem solved, however, he thought the "session" made it click for her.
We chalked that session up to be an opportunity to share with others… over 10 years later God makes His plan known.
I just found your channel and I love how Christians are finally having these conversations. These conversations trigger me on a high level.
Welcome to the channel! You’re an answered prayer
Only problem was that it wasn't a real sex therapist that counsel ya'll. I instantly got discourage when I read the title but then when I listen I was like oh they didn't do real sex therapy, but it did have a purpose that was reveal amongst themselves. God can and does uses everything.
Absolutely! Thanks for watching
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I like when she goes hood😊
..hmmm.. if marriage is the vehicle god uses to point out where we are jacked up, why wasnt this (your jac ked up ways ) revealed to both of you in your 1st marriage?....
What works in 1 marriage doesn't necessarily happen in the 2nd marriage. No partner/marriage is the same.
@@lthompson601 agree no 2 partners/marriages are the same, but toxic is toxic wehther its working or not...did the lord not point it out or ....anyways