I like how you explained the disorder without contempt for the person with the disorder. Sometimes clinicians speak about people with personality orders with contempt, or like they are bad people. You conveyed it in a way that they are people who deserve our help.
Unless they completely ruin your life for 13 years and produce 3 young children, one with DS and then tell you they never loved you one day with their “Flip Switch”. No offense but with out serious repentance with God, they are pure evil.
I had a breakdown, got blocked by 2 people, removed 3 people, and cried outside with my dog for 3 hours because I didn't understand what was wrong with me, and then I just came across this video.. and it all makes sense... I want help.. :(
It's my opinion that histrionic personality disorder is sort of like the clock stopping on a personality of a child and that child growing up with that same personality.
I had a friend who fits all this criteria. We met at 15 and were friends until around 19. She kept lying to gain sympathy and attention from anyone she could, and she always needed to be in a relationship, but would lose interest quickly, and find a new relationship to be in. I couldn't deal with it anymore. The few times I was able to get the real her to talk to me was awesome... She was a sweet, smart girl, but she was usually this constantly changing mask. And always very extreme. She kept hurting me and it didn't seem like she cared. She would always deflect. When people tried having meaningful conversations and expressed worry to her, she would say we weren't really being friends/family, then run off with the "friends" that really didn't care about her well being (would put her in risky situations and convince her that it was okay). Then she would randomly pop back into your life as if nothing happened. I cut all contact with her, but I think of her from time to time. I've never had a close friendship break like that. My friends from elementary school are still my best mates. I miss her sometimes, but she was a toxic person to me. From what I've heard she's not doing well. I hope she's able to find peace with herself one day and accept that sometimes when people are "judging her" they're just worried and trying to reach out and keep her safe.
After reading your comment, I think this whole time I thought my ex was BPD, when she really has HPD. Your story sounds so much like her it aint funny.
I think I have this. I'm super emotional and feel the need to be the center of attention almost all the time. Relationships are really hard because I get attached to people really quickly and will do anything they want so I end up hurting myself. I try to kind of fill up my life with as much excitement and attention as possible
No one ever talks about the rage that bubbles under the surface and also obsessive envy they have when they're having to share the spotlight. I knew one histrionic woman who grabbed a baseball bat and wacked another woman in the head from above, because she had offended her. They have a threatening vibe too, like bullies but with a sweet overly friendly personality. I know another who as a grown woman fought a 12yr old who had offended her - just plain lost it.
It's really sad when I thought that I was a closer with my friends and they thought i'm weird and annoying. It's really hard to find a friend with HPD since people looks you as a loud-mouthed,annoying person.
Awww, I'm so sorry that happened to you, I may have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) I'm trying to get a diagnosed from a licensed psychiatrist but let me tell you I know how if feels when the people you thought you were close to weren't necessarily too fond of you this was the case with me and my sister and I was heartbroken because I thought were also best friends here's a virtual hug, it's not as good as a real one but it does help a little
This was my ex-girlfriend to a T - huge social butterfly who did not stop talking and moving and wanted to be the center of attention always . I found it very difficult to feel emotionally intimate with her as the depth of conversation was rather shallow.
I was in a mental hospital and my therapist there told me that I have this disorder but she never really explained it to me so thank you for explaining
If it means anything, people with personality disorders usually don't perceive themselves as having a personality disorder. Just the fact that you're self-aware and questioning it is a safe sign you might not have it.
Me too. And I meet the criteria for narcissism too. I'm so sad and disappointed. I always wanted to be a good person and finding out that I might be a histrionic and a narcissist it's so sad. Like, I already had enough issues to sort out...now this! And the nice people I probably push away... ****Does anyone know any self-help books on this? I cannot afford therapy right now.
I have a coworker who very likely has this. Constantly telling stories where it's obvious he's stretching the truth to the fullest. If you call him out he emotionally explodes. If things get quiet he will do any number of things to gain attention. Im short he hits about every number on this list.
i love how these "normal" people are trying to make out people with personality disorders out to be a bad person. trust me it doesn't take a personality disorder to be a evil individual, and when you point the finger at others always remember you have 3 pointing right back! to me the only REAL disorder are all these comments about how terrible others are, without looking in the mirror.
Thank-you, also just because you have a personality disorder, does not make you evil, and it doesn't make it not treatable. Personality disorders are something that people can't really control or change, unless they get help. It's not necessarily the individual's fault for having it, especially if they experienced a trauma, that could have been a huge contributing factor in the development of the disorder.
For me in order to respect these type of people is once they stop victimizing themselves to own that they have a disorder and accept that they are the root of the problem instead of blaming others for their miserable life. Once they accept this i will not consider them as bad anymore, it is the first step into receiving help and wanting the help, in order not to change but to improve.
I have a female coworker at my job that did this exactly with coughing really loud and hard and turned around to see if I was watching, she did it about 4 times that day and touching me and eventually hugged me one time, and forever flirting with men and saying off the wall sexual things.
I work with a woman who ticks all the boxes of HPD except dressing seductively, although she dresses in a way that gets (negative) attention. She’s exhausting.
4-26-2022 came here from the Johnny Depp defamation trial. This diagnoses was given about AH and her acting out. This is indeed the perfect description of her.
Love you and your videos I had never heard of this before I'm glad you're shedding light on lesser known mental illness ps. First comment and first like
You do a wonderful job of explaining these conditions. I wish you had been available both in my early life as I was trying to understand the troubling behavior of family and other people around me and also when I was in college struggling to understand my psychology classes. Keep posting. Thanks.
I've seen a lot of people online with this condition. It's sad because it becomes immediately obvious they've been starved of socialisation and they're desperately reaching out in any way they can. However annoying it may be when they constantly post and try to get others to be friends with them, I can't help but feel pity. Yes, they're often entitled. Yes, they're often selfish. And yes, they will typically assume that because a person had one positive interaction with them that they are friends. But I think deep down most of them are good people and just take things too far.
since I'm on my phone it won't let me click yes or no. So, yes, I have a therapist but I'm currently in an off period where I don't need to see her at the moment. This was a very interesting subject by the way. I'd never heard of this particular diagnosis, but can think one or two people from the support group I go to that it fits pretty well. It's kind of relieving to think that it might be a disorder rather than them just being annoying and sometimes frustrating on purpose.
Lol. The other day one guy was describing me IN GREAT DETAILS his egg purchase and, it was so many details that I was lost after 5min of that torture of trying to follow his train of thoughts. I was VERY INTENSLY FOCUSED on him and giving him attention. So I belive your book got it slightly up side down. Also the described behavior in this video is more like behavior of a 3 year old child, which makes an adult with such expressions underdeveloped, not disordered.
i want something to be wrong with me...i want attention...i want to be noticed so im over dramatic, rude, unaware just to get attention...but once i do i end up hating myself and breakdown
If they are consistent in this behavior, focus only on yourself ! If you don't feel what he is saying, use your intuition and tell him seriously not to play theater and leave. If he exaggerates in any way, tell him seriously not to exaggerate and leave. And during this time, offer unconditional love, sooner or later he will thank you for making him understand many things to which he had no answers. In time, with patience and love, only in this way, you can show them that their illusion is not your reality.
I feel like a had/have a minor version of this but after being constantly put in my place and embarrassed it evened out and I learned after years that im not any better than the next guy. Im pretty introverted now
hi Kati! love your videos. I use them as references to disorders i am not familiar with since i work for a treatment facility and deal directly with clients. could it be possible that you give scenario examples? (acting it out?) that would help understand the definition the dsm 5 gives and would put icing on the cake to your explanations.
Gosh... Could someone who has that disorder change some what on there own without even trying? I’m afraid I had almost all the characteristics of the disorder!!! Finally I can say I’ve ground myself. To be more specific 6 to 7 years now . It’s a good place to be .
I wasn't sure which one to click, because I have been with a counselor for three years, but as of yesterday am probably not going to work with a counselor anymore. I think I have been hurt by counselors too many times to try to trust anyone again, but I do know that having a counselor was REALLY good for me when it wasn't hurting me. I think if I lived near you, Kati, I might be willing to give it one more try with you b/c I know you care, but I don't want to get my hopes up just to be crushed again.
These kinds of people are usually pretty fun to be around. They never seem to be manipulative, they just simply want attention. And once you give them the attention they want, it's kind of funny because they're so dramatic.
all is fun and games until they start asking for things you don't want and when you slowly start declining or ignoring them, you'll experience the emotional rollercoaster. Good luck.
Lol, living with it ain't no peach either. 70/100 times I do not realise how fucked up my actions are. And hardly ever do I consider how my behaviour affects others, which brings you down real low, especially once you start analysing everything you do more closely.
Mic Ku EXACTLY, it’s never my goal to hurt anyone, people have no idea how hard it is to feel so extremely guilty every single day knowing that you’re just making people worry for you for attention. and half of the time when i feel like i’m about to do something attention seeking i try to stop myself but then my brain convinces me i’m not attention seeking this time and that is a real problem. people with hpd literally cannot help it, the only way i feel any kind of validation is when i’m in the spotlight and i feel horrible for it. i wish the people in these comments would understand that people with HPD are not monsters. i’ve always said i’m a bad person with good intentions.
You almost present us patients like creeps and weirdoes! We do feel what we express, even if it is for getting the attention, we do feel the emotion we express. If I, for example, seem really sad, I do want the attention, but i do feel really sad as well. We're not creeps or weirdos. We need help, and, again, speaking for myself, would really appreciate if I would stop feeling and acting like that.
They said that I have that and my mom had it. But I don't think I am anything like that. I am the person who doesn't want anyone to pay attention to me.
well from my expirience is close but narisuss is less obvouis and gaslightng so will take time to figure out manipluation and sometimes after damaged is made you will start thinking - this can take mounths or years , and this is one here is more obvious, if iamcorrect ofcours
A Narcissist doesn't have to be the center of attention, a person with HPD does. A Narcissist will gladly sit back and let someone else be center of attention; that is, if that person being the center of attention is apart of their plan. - Example: A narcissist wants to steal a guy's cool pen while surrounded by many people; so he takes control over the conversation with some bullshit story; but then shifts the attention to someone else across the circle so everyone is focused on That guy while the narcissist can steal the pen from off the table. - The comparison is much like Sociopath vs Psychopath. One is focused on the journey (in the moment), the other is focused on the destination (long term goal). - A HPD likes the attention and power; but a Narcissist likes what they can do with the attention and power. - A Sociopath may enjoy the act of murder; but a Psychopath has a goal that can be achieved by murdering.
growing up in school i had a friend who was like this. She would be loud, always wanted attention whether it was from class mates or teachers or boys, she would do anything to get attention, she was always very sexual and dressed provocatively. She was my best mate despite it all, It did use to embarrass me because i was always a shy keep my self to my self type of person. Looking back now I think she may have had this disorder, makes me think actually, i didn't even know something like this existed, i just thought it was more of someones personality rather than a disorder :-/
I clicked the button at the end and it did not work it only paused the video. Is this a serious survey or were you toying with me? You dont seem like the type, so Im going with the click the answer feature is not working. P.S I am not seeing a therapist. Im a college student in AB PSY, studying for my exam using your video. Thanks!! :-)
As someone AFAB with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and Autism, this disorder's existence is triggering for me. I was dismissed for years as being either a drug-seeker or histrionic because blood labs alone couldn't confirm what was wrong with me. I was repeatedly re-directed to psych and eventually also misdiagnosed as having Fibromyalgia. Thank you for explaining what this is. I wish it wasn't the catch-all for "difficult" women that men don't want to deal with.
I knew someone who had all those symptoms and she used to really annoy me. I couldn't be her friend bc of it and dropped her. at the time I thought she was just highly insecure, now I know.
Haha I tried to click no but it wouldn't let me.. Kinda glad it didn't because you made me laugh at the end.. Could you do more videos on personality disorders? I have been diagnosed with avoidance and dependent personality disorders and I really struggle with them xxx
Can you like to stand out and have a tendency towards being dramatic without being histrionic? I feel very uncomfortable as the center of attention. I identify so much more with borderline tendencies but in some instances it looks histrionic. I do want the attention of my favorite person tho. But to command attention of everyone in general causes me a ton of anxiety. Also I know damn well everyone is not my friend. I know that if they are talking crap on someone else they absolutely will talk crap on me. I don’t consider hardly anyone a true friend. I’m not at all showy in fact I walk around looking a little disheveled if I’m feeling down. I don’tcare about money or the most expensive crap. I’ve never even had a professional manicure before. It has to be something else. A psych nurse once commented she thought I was histrionic, I can see where it might look similar but I really think I’m much more borderline. Oh and I’m extremely quiet. I mumble so that doesn’t fit neatly either.
@Itachi Uchiha He didn't say it was malfunctioning, he said it can malfunction. Personality Disorders are disorders because they're not normal and are toxic to society, it's not operating as intended. ASPD is caused by brain damage, PTSD, and genetics (where a part of your brain is completely disabled), emotions would be *required* if we weren't in such a modern age (they still are necessary), which is also why it'd be a disorder.
Love you and your videos I had never heard of this before I'm glad you're shedding light on lesser known mental illness ps. First comment and first like
My best friend fits all the criteria and I’ve always been convinced she’d get an HPD diagnosis if she went to get diagnosed. I have BPD, usually fitting the quiet type. We became friends on my 18th birthday. I’ll be 32 next week and I still love her to bits, and she’s been the one person I’ve always known I could rely on. It did take us a while to realise how our personalities fit with one another, but it eventually happened. She’s the first person I came out to, she’s been nothing but supportive. I love her stories and her theatricality, and I’ve learned not to be bothered about her attention seeking, because through this, she’s never stopped being a good friend.
@@ceterisparibus8966 Attention seeking on its own is not necessarily a problem. In fact, some amount is natural for all people. Everyone needs attention. The problem is when a person is uncomfortable as soon as someone else has the spotlight. It’s makes everyone in group upset to get interrupted when telling a good story or joke. And it’s harmful to the person with HPD because it’s only natural that they will not CONSTANTLY be the center of attention, no matter what they do. So this means they will often be unhappy, and often make inappropriate jokes which will could make their bosses and coworkers not respect them, and casual associates will not want them around if the attention seeking comes across as rude. Truth is, usually when people say “attention seeking” they are referring to an excessive need for attention that interferes with normal and enjoyable socializing.
@@Sarit473 I don't even know where you guys are getting off on saying that, that's the Narcissistic and Antisocial personality disorders that I think you guys are thinking about, I barely even heard about this disorder and frankly don't know why the stupid as fuck DSM-V tries listing it as Cluster B now, but I can at least understand how and why people would try lumping in Borderlines just because some of the switching and splitting can become very antisocial even though they actually feel really bad about it and are totally insecure and love very deeply, which is the exact opposite of what narcissism and sociopathy is. Which come to think about it makes it even more unlikely seeming and funny that Borderlines tend so often to glom on to antisocials and narcissists. But anyway I'd wondered if there'd been any overlap with Histrionic and others. It is not a "bad person" type of disorder like the Cluster B's afaik. So the guy up there saying that about wrecking his family just sounded like, idk more like narcissist or borderline or something like that. Which I can see why people give NPDs, BPDs, and ASPDs such a horrible reputation. But not HPD afaik.
@@Sarit473we don’t think you all are monsters… we just think you all don’t know that you’re not the sun and the world does not revolve around you. Just repeat that to yourself and you’ll be quite alright. 😂
I sadly meet all this criteria and I meet the criteria for narcissism too. I'm so sad and disappointed. I always wanted to be a good person and finding out that I might be a histrionic and a narcissist it's so sad. Like, I already had enough issues to sort out...now this! And the nice people I probably push away... ***Does anyone know any self-help books on this? I cannot afford therapy right now.
I use an app called Ada, only because I'm not comfortable with therapy right now, I might actually go in like a couple of months or so. But the app is really safe and it takes it's time I really recommend it. When you do have enough money to afford it, I recommend going immediately bcuz self diagnosing can be mentally draining but that is up to you and how comfortable you feel with therapy
Read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Everyone needs it, not just you. It will teach you how to transcend your conditioned mental and emotional patterns. Master it, and you'll become more powerful than you can possibly imagine.
I took extasy and it helped me out. I felt great so they got me thinking if I can feel this way by a pill, why cant i feel this way in REAL life. I have been to hell and back but I will not bore you. Just keep searching and eventually it wll just click...... the biggest secret is that you are living in a matrix, so throw out your TV. Just enjoy the show
I'm honestly terrified incase I have this, and I'm not sure if it's my anxiety telling me i'm an attention seeker or if i may struggle with this? I'm so confused.
Sufferers of Histrionic personality disorder are not self-aware of their illness. In fact, your self-critism basically completely invalidates the analysis that you have HPD, unless you have 5-8 of the symptoms stated in the video.
+TheTenthFirefly If you tell yourself that it's just because you are an "attention seeker" you likely do not have it. From the way Kati put it, most people with this disorder aren't self=critical, calling yourself an attention seeker is.
life is hell for someone with HPD I just recently found out about this disorder and it describes me perfectly, even before knowing about it I worked on not feeling so bad about not being the center of attention so it's not my biggest issue. If we destroy people's lives we also suffer I for one love my family so much but I keep hurting them with my anger issues on top of post traumatic stress disorder, HPD and deep seated anger I have taken medication I have gone to celebrate recovery AA meeting's etc, etc nothing seems to be working I wished to die as it seems the only solution but I'm to coward to go through it. I don't enjoy hurting anyone I cry and feel bad for being such a bitch Im also an empath So please don't hate on people like us some of us have a heart too.😥
Luna en Casa De Acuario918 Luna Newby My mother, aunt and grandfather have this. My mother was seductive in all situations with men. My husband would not stay in the same room with her by himself.
The first issue I find from your reply here is: "Don't hate on people like us" Typical histrionic to want people to like them and this you need to stop aswell - Don't give a fuck about what people think about you, only give a fuck about what YOU think about yourself. Histrionic people seeks validation 24/7 and it's bad for you... Stop giving a fuck about what others think about you! Learn to exist as you are without validation, set some goals in life, go to the gym, do things that makes you feel good but for god sake, stop posting every moment of your life on insta, facebook, twitter etc. - Give your self the validation you need when you look in the mirror and stop giving a fuck about what others think...
I believe you. You still have a heart. The one in my family does not. She gloats at the misery and suffering of others. I wish you well. I wish you a full recovery.
It could be worse: at least you don't have borderline personality disorder (those people enjoy hurting others)... and you don't any serious physical disability. Do what a stoic or a buddhist would do, and imagine how things could get even worse for you, and be thankful that they aren't. As a stoic philosopher once pointed out (I'm paraphrasing), if you haven't committed suicide yet there must be something in your life that's making it worth living for. Also if you want more mental stability & clarity go on the ketogenic diet or at least a very low carb diet. It really helped me with my problems
Mandy Muir I think there's a certain molotov cocktail that is particularly-- cough-- 'interesting'. Histrionic + Borderline-- If you ever want to know what it would be like to be in Dante's 7th layer of hell, just try to hold a conversation with someone with both of these combined.
Mandy Muir agree. i had my birthday tiara ripped from my head in the middle of my birthday party because it had hit midnight and was now her birthday... she, to this day, cannot understand why it hurt me.
Tianthee Warcraft They will justify anything. They can do no wrong. My sister with this disorder seduced my boyfriend, just as she tries to seduce almost every man she comes across. Then then she tried to justify it by saying I was lucky that she caught him out and showed him up as being unfaithful! She also did this "favor" for one of my sisters by seducing her husband. Fortunately not all of my men in the past have found her attractive despite the fact that she's physically beautiful. They were turned off by her personality disorder traits like her conceit and self-centeredness.
Hi so I’m Histrionic and I think you didn’t really expres yourself very good. So yes, we used to make things to get others atenthion, but this is because we have no selflove so we need others to love us because we feel so alone. And another caracter that for me is super important, is that we aren’t like a kid, we don’t know we are trying to get others atenthion, we just do it. In my case, I hate beeing the center of the atention, but I always am.
Pining for the fjords I had a friend that met this criteria. We are polar opposites, I have high high anxiety and I feel very very uncomfortable being the center of attention. She loves it
I've been involved with an HPD girl. It was a roller coaster ride that was fun at first but turned into world of hurt. At the end it was exhausting and a emptiness void.
I think I have this and I rarely feel romantic feelings so I just think it's easier for everyone that I just be friends or sex friends with people. Non monogamy has definitely been easier than monogamy because of these reasons
I (bipolar) was in a three person bi relationship with two girls, one histrionic, the other bipolar and borderline. It was extremely intense and chaotic.
This is the first video that I've seen throughout my big YT research on this topic that hasn't made me feel like a clown for being histrionic! Thank you, you have a really nice way to approach the matter and it makes me feel like I can solve it without feeling threatened.
I don't usually feel like this, but I definitely see myself as more than 5 of these and I've never realized that this was a condition more than I just like being the center of attention - it really made me stop and think when she mentioned "considers relationships with others to be closer than they really are", this is absolutely me and I feel hurt when other people don't see me the same way because I'm desperate for friends that care about me the same way I'm quick to attach to people. :(
Met a girl who was exactly like this. During her episodes, she'd often talk about how incredibly shitty her parents were. For context, she was 17 and to that day she'd never made her own bed or cooked for herself or cleaned her room; parents drove her to school every day despite living literally 10 mins away; got her everything and anything she asked for. So it used to make my blood boil every single time lol, but looking back, I feel sorry that I didn't know as much about psychology as I do now. At the time, I thought families were dysfunctional only if money or a parental figure was lacking, or if the parents were aggressive and abusive, etc. I didn't understand bratty attention seekers develop those tools to deal with neglect. I didn't quite know neglect can cause just as much harm as active forms of abuse. I haven't heard from her since, but I reckon she was right to an extent. “My parents don't ever fucking pay attention to me”. I guess that was exactly why she turned out like that. Hope she got the help she needed.
Brooklyn Kelash Here's what makes people like this who they are, and also worsens them... Hardly ever does anyone call them on their bullshit. EVER... Because, today, that isn't considered socially acceptable (although it might be some weirdo ass thing to do, even if It is in public)... Nobody actually cares that another human being's goal's are to gain some emotionally PERVERTED attention for themselves!!! There is some PC movement, creating some ridiculous agenda, and its actually working... This type of person eventually, will always (aggressively) avoid ANYONE who embarrasses them, calls them out, anything that negatively affects the attention that makes them feel good... so guess what, you are all weak, ignorant, and absolutely unconcerned with the individual you meet who is like this... Because if you were concerned about this individual you would call them out on everything they say and do, absolutely EVERYTHING too!!! that is the only medication that exist for people like this........ then our world wouldn't have to be so overcrowded with people like this.. honestly! this is a epidemic. pay attention to the people around you
I’ve never heard of this before today and I believe it may be me. I’ve always felt this way and it really stems from my parents being gone all the time and not having friends in my formative years. I found myself having bouts like this and struggled so hard to even find out who I really am and even when I ask people to describe me all that comes out is this repetition of all the traits I’ve picked up from other people. I am no person. Just a shell of one and quite honestly I’ve become so toxic I’ve had friends become hostile towards me from it (I lied about something important to them, and they have told me not to come near them again or else). I don’t even notice sometimes and that’s what gets me. Lately though I have sought help at least for my pathological lying and will start with the rest of these symptoms ASAP. I cant wait to suggest this to my therapist and finally get the help I need.
You forgot the part about them being attractive yet having many friends who are much less so. Also the part about being far more prevalent among women than men.
I like how you explained the disorder without contempt for the person with the disorder. Sometimes clinicians speak about people with personality orders with contempt, or like they are bad people. You conveyed it in a way that they are people who deserve our help.
Dr Grande & that balding white haired 60-year old come to mind
Unless they completely ruin your life for 13 years and produce 3 young children, one with DS and then tell you they never loved you one day with their “Flip Switch”. No offense but with out serious repentance with God, they are pure evil.
Yes exactly they should be having empathy Bc this is often a result of childhood trauma
Until a person with that disorder fucks your life up with zero remorse
@@birdlover6842 Dr Ramani? How come?
I had a breakdown, got blocked by 2 people, removed 3 people, and cried outside with my dog for 3 hours because I didn't understand what was wrong with me, and then I just came across this video.. and it all makes sense... I want help.. :(
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i hope u find help soon. it gets better. much love. please take care of urself❤️
I am rooting for you. You can do this!
You got this dude 🥰 the first step is getting help and that starts with you
We need to stick by each other’s sides - not literally lol but there’s so many people against us that we just need our own community
It's my opinion that histrionic personality disorder is sort of like the clock stopping on a personality of a child and that child growing up with that same personality.
BINGO
I never thought of it that way, but it makes perfect sense though.
Kid which has to go to work etc.
That’s all personality disorders.
bruh they’re literally people too
I had a friend who fits all this criteria. We met at 15 and were friends until around 19.
She kept lying to gain sympathy and attention from anyone she could, and she always needed to be in a relationship, but would lose interest quickly, and find a new relationship to be in. I couldn't deal with it anymore.
The few times I was able to get the real her to talk to me was awesome... She was a sweet, smart girl, but she was usually this constantly changing mask. And always very extreme. She kept hurting me and it didn't seem like she cared. She would always deflect.
When people tried having meaningful conversations and expressed worry to her, she would say we weren't really being friends/family, then run off with the "friends" that really didn't care about her well being (would put her in risky situations and convince her that it was okay). Then she would randomly pop back into your life as if nothing happened.
I cut all contact with her, but I think of her from time to time. I've never had a close friendship break like that. My friends from elementary school are still my best mates. I miss her sometimes, but she was a toxic person to me.
From what I've heard she's not doing well. I hope she's able to find peace with herself one day and accept that sometimes when people are "judging her" they're just worried and trying to reach out and keep her safe.
+Teeglor sounds more like Borderline Personality Disorder in a way.
+Teeglor This is exactly what HPD is. As the other guy says, it is a bit like BPD; that is because many people have both called "cluster B"
+DJ Serpent No it doesnt…
SqueegieLip just an assumption.
After reading your comment, I think this whole time I thought my ex was BPD, when she really has HPD. Your story sounds so much like her it aint funny.
I love your blouse. My therapist always wears dark colors.
My CPN wears dark clothes but her hair is bright pink. Like hot HOT pink. It's fun.
rebecca finn So, she's Histrionic herself then maybe.
Hahahaah
Lisa Bunnie I think it looks tasteful... or else, she reminds me of my histrionic mother.
I think it’s more to do with image. Most want to present a formal image. My therapist usually wears white, brown, grey, dark blue, and black
I think I have this. I'm super emotional and feel the need to be the center of attention almost all the time. Relationships are really hard because I get attached to people really quickly and will do anything they want so I end up hurting myself. I try to kind of fill up my life with as much excitement and attention as possible
Me too
This video is going to blow up because a psychiatrist just diagnosed Amber Heard with this and BPD in court
No one ever talks about the rage that bubbles under the surface and also obsessive envy they have when they're having to share the spotlight. I knew one histrionic woman who grabbed a baseball bat and wacked another woman in the head from above, because she had offended her. They have a threatening vibe too, like bullies but with a sweet overly friendly personality. I know another who as a grown woman fought a 12yr old who had offended her - just plain lost it.
It's really sad when I thought that I was a closer with my friends and they thought i'm weird and annoying. It's really hard to find a friend with HPD since people looks you as a loud-mouthed,annoying person.
I have the same experience, it's so hard to have real, true and close friends 🥢
Awww, I'm so sorry that happened to you, I may have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) I'm trying to get a diagnosed from a licensed psychiatrist but let me tell you I know how if feels when the people you thought you were close to weren't necessarily too fond of you this was the case with me and my sister and I was heartbroken because I thought were also best friends here's a virtual hug, it's not as good as a real one but it does help a little
This was my ex-girlfriend to a T - huge social butterfly who did not stop talking and moving and wanted to be the center of attention always . I found it very difficult to feel emotionally intimate with her as the depth of conversation was rather shallow.
I was in a mental hospital and my therapist there told me that I have this disorder but she never really explained it to me so thank you for explaining
I'm actually scared that I have this, it may be my anxiety telling me this, but sadly I feel like I meet all this criteria
If it means anything, people with personality disorders usually don't perceive themselves as having a personality disorder. Just the fact that you're self-aware and questioning it is a safe sign you might not have it.
Eden's Corner I definitely considered whether I have this but I don’t like to be center of attention
Kirukitsu idk if that’s always true. i saw BPD traits in myself as soon as i read about it lol. diagnosed at 17
Me too. And I meet the criteria for narcissism too. I'm so sad and disappointed. I always wanted to be a good person and finding out that I might be a histrionic and a narcissist it's so sad. Like, I already had enough issues to sort out...now this! And the nice people I probably push away... ****Does anyone know any self-help books on this? I cannot afford therapy right now.
@@Kirukitsu it's not true. My auntie is suffering from schizophrenia
I have a coworker who very likely has this. Constantly telling stories where it's obvious he's stretching the truth to the fullest. If you call him out he emotionally explodes. If things get quiet he will do any number of things to gain attention. Im short he hits about every number on this list.
i love how these "normal" people are trying to make out people with personality disorders out to be a bad person.
trust me it doesn't take a personality disorder to be a evil individual, and when you point the finger at others always remember you have 3 pointing right back! to me the only REAL disorder are all these comments about how terrible others are, without looking in the mirror.
finally someone who understands.
Thank-you, also just because you have a personality disorder, does not make you evil, and it doesn't make it not treatable. Personality disorders are something that people can't really control or change, unless they get help. It's not necessarily the individual's fault for having it, especially if they experienced a trauma, that could have been a huge contributing factor in the development of the disorder.
For me in order to respect these type of people is once they stop victimizing themselves to own that they have a disorder and accept that they are the root of the problem instead of blaming others for their miserable life. Once they accept this i will not consider them as bad anymore, it is the first step into receiving help and wanting the help, in order not to change but to improve.
Except people with these conditions lack empathy so naturally they hurt others.
That's AsPD, Ken Jataimu.
I knew a girl with all of those symptoms. She got excluded from my school as a result. :( I just hope she is ok now
I know too
I have a female coworker at my job that did this exactly with coughing really loud and hard and turned around to see if I was watching, she did it about 4 times that day and touching me and eventually hugged me one time, and forever flirting with men and saying off the wall sexual things.
I work with a woman who ticks all the boxes of HPD except dressing seductively, although she dresses in a way that gets (negative) attention. She’s exhausting.
4-26-2022 came here from the Johnny Depp defamation trial. This diagnoses was given about AH and her acting out. This is indeed the perfect description of her.
Why does Kris from keeping up with the Kardashian’s seem to match this description
Love you and your videos I had never heard of this before I'm glad you're shedding light on lesser known mental illness ps. First comment and first like
You do a wonderful job of explaining these conditions. I wish you had been available both in my early life as I was trying to understand the troubling behavior of family and other people around me and also when I was in college struggling to understand my psychology classes. Keep posting. Thanks.
You should do the whole gambit of cluster B
4. I dress tomboyishly and modestly. Not me at all.
I've seen a lot of people online with this condition. It's sad because it becomes immediately obvious they've been starved of socialisation and they're desperately reaching out in any way they can. However annoying it may be when they constantly post and try to get others to be friends with them, I can't help but feel pity.
Yes, they're often entitled. Yes, they're often selfish. And yes, they will typically assume that because a person had one positive interaction with them that they are friends. But I think deep down most of them are good people and just take things too far.
or maybe you're quick to put a label. i am not histrionic but sometimes i behave like one just because i am BORED
since I'm on my phone it won't let me click yes or no. So, yes, I have a therapist but I'm currently in an off period where I don't need to see her at the moment. This was a very interesting subject by the way. I'd never heard of this particular diagnosis, but can think one or two people from the support group I go to that it fits pretty well. It's kind of relieving to think that it might be a disorder rather than them just being annoying and sometimes frustrating on purpose.
Great topic Kati. I'm glad you are putting the word out!:)
been diagonised with HPD recently didnt really know what it meant and have been doing alot of reacherch so thank you for helping me understand it
As a stereotypy pretty young woman who was diagnosed with this before autism, I want to scream and cry
Lol. The other day one guy was describing me IN GREAT DETAILS his egg purchase and, it was so many details that I was lost after 5min of that torture of trying to follow his train of thoughts. I was VERY INTENSLY FOCUSED on him and giving him attention.
So I belive your book got it slightly up side down.
Also the described behavior in this video is more like behavior of a 3 year old child, which makes an adult with such expressions underdeveloped, not disordered.
They love to distract you so you can't get to the truth of a situation.
i want something to be wrong with me...i want attention...i want to be noticed so im over dramatic, rude, unaware just to get attention...but once i do i end up hating myself and breakdown
No, I do not see a therapist. Mobile device won't let me click. By the way I love your videos. I always learn something new :)
Facts !!!!!! Omg my best friend is exactly like this how to set boundaries with him ?
If they are consistent in this behavior, focus only on yourself ! If you don't feel what he is saying, use your intuition and tell him seriously not to play theater and leave. If he exaggerates in any way, tell him seriously not to exaggerate and leave. And during this time, offer unconditional love, sooner or later he will thank you for making him understand many things to which he had no answers. In time, with patience and love, only in this way, you can show them that their illusion is not your reality.
I feel like a had/have a minor version of this but after being constantly put in my place and embarrassed it evened out and I learned after years that im not any better than the next guy. Im pretty introverted now
Still love attention when it falls on me tho
hi Kati! love your videos. I use them as references to disorders i am not familiar with since i work for a treatment facility and deal directly with clients. could it be possible that you give scenario examples? (acting it out?) that would help understand the definition the dsm 5 gives and would put icing on the cake to your explanations.
Thank you for explaining with so much detail!
Gosh... Could someone who has that disorder change some what on there own without even trying? I’m afraid I had almost all the characteristics of the disorder!!! Finally I can say I’ve ground myself. To be more specific 6 to 7 years now . It’s a good place to be .
People with this personality are obnoxious. I can't deal with them.
Audrey Gaffney I know some that are very entertaining until you are in the receiving end of their insincerity.
You are so appealingly expressive.
I have definitely met soo many ppl like this
I have destroyed so many relationships in the past
Watching this video because of the Amber Heard and JD trail. Fascinating
People with any form paranoia (despite how informative it is) watch this video and think they have this disorder!!
*Same*
No. No they don't Jim
I wasn't sure which one to click, because I have been with a counselor for three years, but as of yesterday am probably not going to work with a counselor anymore. I think I have been hurt by counselors too many times to try to trust anyone again, but I do know that having a counselor was REALLY good for me when it wasn't hurting me. I think if I lived near you, Kati, I might be willing to give it one more try with you b/c I know you care, but I don't want to get my hopes up just to be crushed again.
I have an estranged father with NPD and a sister who had Histrionic PD.
They hated each other.
We aren’t bad people.
Haha I loved your thing at the end "I'm impatient" that was great:)
These kinds of people are usually pretty fun to be around. They never seem to be manipulative, they just simply want attention. And once you give them the attention they want, it's kind of funny because they're so dramatic.
Try living with them
all is fun and games until they start asking for things you don't want and when you slowly start declining or ignoring them, you'll experience the emotional rollercoaster. Good luck.
Lol, living with it ain't no peach either. 70/100 times I do not realise how fucked up my actions are. And hardly ever do I consider how my behaviour affects others, which brings you down real low, especially once you start analysing everything you do more closely.
Have you met Donald Trump cuz he seems very similar to this.
Mic Ku EXACTLY, it’s never my goal to hurt anyone, people have no idea how hard it is to feel so extremely guilty every single day knowing that you’re just making people worry for you for attention. and half of the time when i feel like i’m about to do something attention seeking i try to stop myself but then my brain convinces me i’m not attention seeking this time and that is a real problem. people with hpd literally cannot help it, the only way i feel any kind of validation is when i’m in the spotlight and i feel horrible for it. i wish the people in these comments would understand that people with HPD are not monsters. i’ve always said i’m a bad person with good intentions.
Awesome Vídeo!!! Thank you Kati!
You almost present us patients like creeps and weirdoes! We do feel what we express, even if it is for getting the attention, we do feel the emotion we express. If I, for example, seem really sad, I do want the attention, but i do feel really sad as well. We're not creeps or weirdos. We need help, and, again, speaking for myself, would really appreciate if I would stop feeling and acting like that.
They said that I have that and my mom had it. But I don't think I am anything like that. I am the person who doesn't want anyone to pay attention to me.
My mom has this.
Mine too...
is this closely intertwined with narcissism?
Mary Ehm they're both cluster B & share characteristics. They can also co occur in the same individual.
They may appear similar on the outside, but the internal process is really different.
well from my expirience is close but narisuss is less obvouis and gaslightng so will take time to figure out manipluation and sometimes after damaged is made you will start thinking - this can take mounths or years , and this is one here is more obvious, if iamcorrect ofcours
A Narcissist doesn't have to be the center of attention, a person with HPD does. A Narcissist will gladly sit back and let someone else be center of attention; that is, if that person being the center of attention is apart of their plan.
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Example: A narcissist wants to steal a guy's cool pen while surrounded by many people; so he takes control over the conversation with some bullshit story; but then shifts the attention to someone else across the circle so everyone is focused on That guy while the narcissist can steal the pen from off the table.
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The comparison is much like Sociopath vs Psychopath.
One is focused on the journey (in the moment), the other is focused on the destination (long term goal).
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A HPD likes the attention and power; but a Narcissist likes what they can do with the attention and power.
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A Sociopath may enjoy the act of murder; but a Psychopath has a goal that can be achieved by murdering.
B to
How can you distinguish a psychopath who seems histrionic because they don't really have emotions and an actual histrionic? Thank you. Great video! ❤
I had hurt a girl thinking that she was attention seeker, but now I realized that she had HPD. I'm guilty 😔
Hey you didn't know before and that's ok now you do
Amber Heard brought me here
Meghan Markle too.
Secondary psychopath!
@@janebaker4912false
growing up in school i had a friend who was like this. She would be loud, always wanted attention whether it was from class mates or teachers or boys, she would do anything to get attention, she was always very sexual and dressed provocatively. She was my best mate despite it all, It did use to embarrass me because i was always a shy keep my self to my self type of person. Looking back now I think she may have had this disorder, makes me think actually, i didn't even know something like this existed, i just thought it was more of someones personality rather than a disorder :-/
Ive been diagnosed with being the life of the party. Oh yeah
I clicked the button at the end and it did not work it only paused the video. Is this a serious survey or were you toying with me? You dont seem like the type, so Im going with the click the answer feature is not working. P.S I am not seeing a therapist. Im a college student in AB PSY, studying for my exam using your video. Thanks!! :-)
As someone AFAB with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome and Autism, this disorder's existence is triggering for me. I was dismissed for years as being either a drug-seeker or histrionic because blood labs alone couldn't confirm what was wrong with me. I was repeatedly re-directed to psych and eventually also misdiagnosed as having Fibromyalgia. Thank you for explaining what this is. I wish it wasn't the catch-all for "difficult" women that men don't want to deal with.
I knew someone who had all those symptoms and she used to really annoy me. I couldn't be her friend bc of it and dropped her. at the time I thought she was just highly insecure, now I know.
Haha I tried to click no but it wouldn't let me.. Kinda glad it didn't because you made me laugh at the end.. Could you do more videos on personality disorders? I have been diagnosed with avoidance and dependent personality disorders and I really struggle with them xxx
Yes
W-why are you looking into my soul!?
Because apparently it likes to be the center of attention :-P
Can you like to stand out and have a tendency towards being dramatic without being histrionic?
I feel very uncomfortable as the center of attention. I identify so much more with borderline tendencies but in some instances it looks histrionic.
I do want the attention of my favorite person tho. But to command attention of everyone in general causes me a ton of anxiety.
Also I know damn well everyone is not my friend. I know that if they are talking crap on someone else they absolutely will talk crap on me. I don’t consider hardly anyone a true friend. I’m not at all showy in fact I walk around looking a little disheveled if I’m feeling down.
I don’tcare about money or the most expensive crap. I’ve never even had a professional manicure before. It has to be something else.
A psych nurse once commented she thought I was histrionic, I can see where it might look similar but I really think I’m much more borderline.
Oh and I’m extremely quiet. I mumble so that doesn’t fit neatly either.
Sounds like those people that self diagnose themselves with autism on tik tok
Yes, I see a therapist!
KT... very well said...
The human brain is the most complex thing in the universe and it can malfunction in so many ways.
Sounds alot like a Volvo
That’s a big claim.
soooooooo true
@Itachi Uchiha He didn't say it was malfunctioning, he said it can malfunction. Personality Disorders are disorders because they're not normal and are toxic to society, it's not operating as intended. ASPD is caused by brain damage, PTSD, and genetics (where a part of your brain is completely disabled), emotions would be *required* if we weren't in such a modern age (they still are necessary), which is also why it'd be a disorder.
@Itachi Uchiha I'm sure of my opinion, yes. If you'd like to debate it, the comment section is the place to do so.
Love you and your videos I had never heard of this before I'm glad you're shedding light on lesser known mental illness ps. First comment and first like
My best friend fits all the criteria and I’ve always been convinced she’d get an HPD diagnosis if she went to get diagnosed. I have BPD, usually fitting the quiet type. We became friends on my 18th birthday. I’ll be 32 next week and I still love her to bits, and she’s been the one person I’ve always known I could rely on. It did take us a while to realise how our personalities fit with one another, but it eventually happened. She’s the first person I came out to, she’s been nothing but supportive. I love her stories and her theatricality, and I’ve learned not to be bothered about her attention seeking, because through this, she’s never stopped being a good friend.
what a beautiful story, thanks for sharing :)
What's the matter with attention seeking?
@@ceterisparibus8966 Attention seeking on its own is not necessarily a problem. In fact, some amount is natural for all people. Everyone needs attention. The problem is when a person is uncomfortable as soon as someone else has the spotlight. It’s makes everyone in group upset to get interrupted when telling a good story or joke. And it’s harmful to the person with HPD because it’s only natural that they will not CONSTANTLY be the center of attention, no matter what they do. So this means they will often be unhappy, and often make inappropriate jokes which will could make their bosses and coworkers not respect them, and casual associates will not want them around if the attention seeking comes across as rude. Truth is, usually when people say “attention seeking” they are referring to an excessive need for attention that interferes with normal and enjoyable socializing.
I was diagnosed with this and it really hurts to look at myself in this way. I realize I’m not a bad person for being this, but it’s not easy to take.
I was dx HPD, NPD not grandiose. Abused because intellectually disabled to top it off. Fear of being disliked. Need to be liked.
@@birdlover6842 nope, we don't have to be liked 😓
Same here. They all think we are monster. I didn't choose to have this desorder
@@Sarit473 I don't even know where you guys are getting off on saying that, that's the Narcissistic and Antisocial personality disorders that I think you guys are thinking about, I barely even heard about this disorder and frankly don't know why the stupid as fuck DSM-V tries listing it as Cluster B now, but I can at least understand how and why people would try lumping in Borderlines just because some of the switching and splitting can become very antisocial even though they actually feel really bad about it and are totally insecure and love very deeply, which is the exact opposite of what narcissism and sociopathy is. Which come to think about it makes it even more unlikely seeming and funny that Borderlines tend so often to glom on to antisocials and narcissists. But anyway I'd wondered if there'd been any overlap with Histrionic and others. It is not a "bad person" type of disorder like the Cluster B's afaik. So the guy up there saying that about wrecking his family just sounded like, idk more like narcissist or borderline or something like that. Which I can see why people give NPDs, BPDs, and ASPDs such a horrible reputation. But not HPD afaik.
@@Sarit473we don’t think you all are monsters… we just think you all don’t know that you’re not the sun and the world does not revolve around you.
Just repeat that to yourself and you’ll be quite alright. 😂
I sadly meet all this criteria and I meet the criteria for narcissism too. I'm so sad and disappointed. I always wanted to be a good person and finding out that I might be a histrionic and a narcissist it's so sad. Like, I already had enough issues to sort out...now this! And the nice people I probably push away... ***Does anyone know any self-help books on this? I cannot afford therapy right now.
I use an app called Ada, only because I'm not comfortable with therapy right now, I might actually go in like a couple of months or so. But the app is really safe and it takes it's time I really recommend it. When you do have enough money to afford it, I recommend going immediately bcuz self diagnosing can be mentally draining but that is up to you and how comfortable you feel with therapy
Read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Everyone needs it, not just you. It will teach you how to transcend your conditioned mental and emotional patterns. Master it, and you'll become more powerful than you can possibly imagine.
I took extasy and it helped me out. I felt great so they got me thinking if I can feel this way by a pill, why cant i feel this way in REAL life. I have been to hell and back but I will not bore you. Just keep searching and eventually it wll just click...... the biggest secret is that you are living in a matrix, so throw out your TV. Just enjoy the show
I just learned that if you are sad about possibly being a narcissist, you are NOT!! A narcissist doesn’t care bout being a narcissist…
I'm honestly terrified incase I have this, and I'm not sure if it's my anxiety telling me i'm an attention seeker or if i may struggle with this? I'm so confused.
Sufferers of Histrionic personality disorder are not self-aware of their illness. In fact, your self-critism basically completely invalidates the analysis that you have HPD, unless you have 5-8 of the symptoms stated in the video.
so would they be unaware of "attention seeking" behaviours?
Oakland Oakland ^
Same hereeeeeee
+TheTenthFirefly If you tell yourself that it's just because you are an "attention seeker" you likely do not have it. From the way Kati put it, most people with this disorder aren't self=critical, calling yourself an attention seeker is.
life is hell for someone with HPD I just recently found out about this disorder and it describes me perfectly, even before knowing about it I worked on not feeling so bad about not being the center of attention so it's not my biggest issue. If we destroy people's lives we also suffer I for one love my family so much but I keep hurting them with my anger issues on top of post traumatic stress disorder, HPD and deep seated anger I have taken medication I have gone to celebrate recovery AA meeting's etc, etc nothing seems to be working I wished to die as it seems the only solution but I'm to coward to go through it. I don't enjoy hurting anyone I cry and feel bad for being such a bitch Im also an empath So please don't hate on people like us some of us have a heart too.😥
Luna en Casa De Acuario918 Luna Newby My mother, aunt and grandfather have this. My mother was seductive in all situations with men. My husband would not stay in the same room with her by himself.
Omg you just described me to a tee
The first issue I find from your reply here is:
"Don't hate on people like us"
Typical histrionic to want people to like them and this you need to stop aswell - Don't give a fuck about what people think about you, only give a fuck about what YOU think about yourself. Histrionic people seeks validation 24/7 and it's bad for you... Stop giving a fuck about what others think about you! Learn to exist as you are without validation, set some goals in life, go to the gym, do things that makes you feel good but for god sake, stop posting every moment of your life on insta, facebook, twitter etc. - Give your self the validation you need when you look in the mirror and stop giving a fuck about what others think...
I believe you. You still have a heart. The one in my family does not. She gloats at the misery and suffering of others. I wish you well. I wish you a full recovery.
It could be worse: at least you don't have borderline personality disorder (those people enjoy hurting others)... and you don't any serious physical disability. Do what a stoic or a buddhist would do, and imagine how things could get even worse for you, and be thankful that they aren't. As a stoic philosopher once pointed out (I'm paraphrasing), if you haven't committed suicide yet there must be something in your life that's making it worth living for. Also if you want more mental stability & clarity go on the ketogenic diet or at least a very low carb diet. It really helped me with my problems
It would be ironic if someone with hpd was seeking attention by saying they have hpd.
I actually did this... Doesnt feel good.
Lol bru
it's not ironic, but it's called a catch-22, like a paradox, but not entirely.
It happens
bruh its not funny but some of em dont do this cuz i dont say i have hpd all the time
If you Have a histrionic parent then it's not a simple thing, It can be devastating, they are monsters for attention and will do anything to hold it.
Mandy Muir
I think there's a certain molotov cocktail that is particularly-- cough-- 'interesting'.
Histrionic + Borderline--
If you ever want to know what it would be like to be in Dante's 7th layer of hell, just try to hold a conversation with someone with both of these combined.
Mandy Muir agree.
i had my birthday tiara ripped from my head in the middle of my birthday party because it had hit midnight and was now her birthday...
she, to this day, cannot understand why it hurt me.
Lonna p 😥
Tianthee Warcraft They will justify anything. They can do no wrong. My sister with this disorder seduced my boyfriend, just as she tries to seduce almost every man she comes across. Then then she tried to justify it by saying I was lucky that she caught him out and showed him up as being unfaithful! She also did this "favor" for one of my sisters by seducing her husband. Fortunately not all of my men in the past have found her attractive despite the fact that she's physically beautiful. They were turned off by her personality disorder traits like her conceit and self-centeredness.
i know its a hell to live with them
Hi so I’m Histrionic and I think you didn’t really expres yourself very good. So yes, we used to make things to get others atenthion, but this is because we have no selflove so we need others to love us because we feel so alone. And another caracter that for me is super important, is that we aren’t like a kid, we don’t know we are trying to get others atenthion, we just do it.
In my case, I hate beeing the center of the atention, but I always am.
I'm here because of Amber Heard... hope she gets help 😬
I have Histrionic Personality Disorder and I want to cure it.🙄
How do you know i also think i have
I must be the furthest thing from this. I hate to be the centre of attention.
Let me guess - You're very attracted to histrionic people?
Haha me too! I’m too socially awkward to be histrionic
Haha. Do you possibly have anxiety disorder like me? People with social anxiety are the exact opposite of this. LOL
Pining for the fjords I had a friend that met this criteria. We are polar opposites, I have high high anxiety and I feel very very uncomfortable being the center of attention. She loves it
unapologetically canadian I’m on the spectrum so I’m socially awkward a little bit as well
AMBER HEARD’s ENTIRE TESTIMONY!!
trisha paytas, anyone? that description seemed to hit home?
I was thinking the same thing
All I could think of was Patsy Ramsey.
Fynn H Trisha for sure I wanna tag her in this video someway
She is a great example
I certainly see it too
Hmm. So the person with this disorder probably feels lonely. I found that people eventually ignore drama queens.
I've been involved with an HPD girl. It was a roller coaster ride that was fun at first but turned into world of hurt. At the end it was exhausting and a emptiness void.
Same i was once with a girl who could possibly have HPD and she was the same. Fun at first but turned into a living nightmare eventually.
Pure hell. CPTSD + PTSD following 10 years with GAD and now it all makes sense. Complete waste of 12 years
@Natalie do not apologize
Sex is mechanical and they are totally empty, just mirror who ever impresses them
I think I have this and I rarely feel romantic feelings so I just think it's easier for everyone that I just be friends or sex friends with people. Non monogamy has definitely been easier than monogamy because of these reasons
I (bipolar) was in a three person bi relationship with two girls, one histrionic, the other bipolar and borderline. It was extremely intense and chaotic.
I can only imagine
Lol
This should be a program
What were you thinking? Yeesh!
OMFG!!! 😳
This is the first video that I've seen throughout my big YT research on this topic that hasn't made me feel like a clown for being histrionic!
Thank you, you have a really nice way to approach the matter and it makes me feel like I can solve it without feeling threatened.
Dang, so we’re all here for the same reason lol
I don't usually feel like this, but I definitely see myself as more than 5 of these and I've never realized that this was a condition more than I just like being the center of attention - it really made me stop and think when she mentioned "considers relationships with others to be closer than they really are", this is absolutely me and I feel hurt when other people don't see me the same way because I'm desperate for friends that care about me the same way I'm quick to attach to people. :(
They react to every little thing u do!
Met a girl who was exactly like this. During her episodes, she'd often talk about how incredibly shitty her parents were. For context, she was 17 and to that day she'd never made her own bed or cooked for herself or cleaned her room; parents drove her to school every day despite living literally 10 mins away; got her everything and anything she asked for.
So it used to make my blood boil every single time lol, but looking back, I feel sorry that I didn't know as much about psychology as I do now. At the time, I thought families were dysfunctional only if money or a parental figure was lacking, or if the parents were aggressive and abusive, etc. I didn't understand bratty attention seekers develop those tools to deal with neglect. I didn't quite know neglect can cause just as much harm as active forms of abuse.
I haven't heard from her since, but I reckon she was right to an extent. “My parents don't ever fucking pay attention to me”. I guess that was exactly why she turned out like that. Hope she got the help she needed.
That is creepily me. :/
It's OK don't be sad!!!! It's not lifetreatning... You are a good person anyway.
Any personality disorder just means that you're unable to cope with how fucked up the world is, in different ways.
Brooklyn Kelash Here's what makes people like this who they are, and also worsens them...
Hardly ever does anyone call them on their bullshit. EVER... Because, today, that isn't considered socially acceptable (although it might be some weirdo ass thing to do, even if It is in public)... Nobody actually cares that another human being's goal's are to gain some emotionally PERVERTED attention for themselves!!! There is some PC movement, creating some ridiculous agenda, and its actually working...
This type of person eventually, will always (aggressively) avoid ANYONE who embarrasses them, calls them out, anything that negatively affects the attention that makes them feel good... so guess what, you are all weak, ignorant, and absolutely unconcerned with the individual you meet who is like this... Because if you were concerned about this individual you would call them out on everything they say and do, absolutely EVERYTHING too!!!
that is the only medication that exist for people like this........ then our world wouldn't have to be so overcrowded with people like this..
honestly! this is a epidemic. pay attention to the people around you
Lol I’m histrionic personality disorder got told by my psychologist I’m the most dramatic person she’s ever met. I’m also Bipolar haha 😂
I know a couple of people like this, and I'm autistic and it overload/overwhelms me 😕
I love how you always humanize these disorders. I find it really helpful :)
It sounds like a majority of social media influencers have this 😂
Amber Heard?
I’ve never heard of this before today and I believe it may be me. I’ve always felt this way and it really stems from my parents being gone all the time and not having friends in my formative years. I found myself having bouts like this and struggled so hard to even find out who I really am and even when I ask people to describe me all that comes out is this repetition of all the traits I’ve picked up from other people. I am no person. Just a shell of one and quite honestly I’ve become so toxic I’ve had friends become hostile towards me from it (I lied about something important to them, and they have told me not to come near them again or else). I don’t even notice sometimes and that’s what gets me. Lately though I have sought help at least for my pathological lying and will start with the rest of these symptoms ASAP. I cant wait to suggest this to my therapist and finally get the help I need.
You forgot the part about them being attractive yet having many friends who are much less so. Also the part about being far more prevalent among women than men.
This almost sounds a bit like borderline, can u make a video about the similarities and differences? Love your videos:)