Absolutely love this..............thanks Danny and Joanna for putting this together. Myself being 33 years post injury can 100% relate to this. Back then there was nothing out there like this.
The questions of "what happened to you" "can you have sex" etc are all absolutely normal questions. I don't see anything inappropriate because how else are people to get to know you and understand your disability and it's issues? Educating others is key and there should be no taboo questions. Also about grief. When you open up and speak up about your suffering people instantly turn away because all they want to hear is positive things and you're left alone with your suffering with 0 comfort.
I agree that there should not be taboo questions, but context here is key. I’m talking about strangers coming up and asking these questions. In that context it is overly personal and invasive, and therefore inappropriate at first meeting. I’m sorry to hear that’s been your experience with grief. Some friends are willing to listen while others, as you say, would prefer not to hear it. This is a hard condition to live with, no doubt, but I think leaning on each other for support is a valuable resource because, of anyone, we can actually understand what it’s like.
@@Queenmania2007 Fair enough with the first part in regards to that context. But in a date setting all questions are fair game, how else are people supposed to get to know each other? I've tried leaning on my peers and at best I get "oh I'm sorry" and proceeds to act as if I don't exist anymore. It's hopeless. I don't know why people are like that.
How do you live a life if you constantly have bladder / bowel issues / accidents and 24/7 insane pain (and with years it just gets worse and worse) which literally stop you from doing things? And no matter what you do, you just can't fix it. What then?
Absolutely love this..............thanks Danny and Joanna for putting this together.
Myself being 33 years post injury can 100% relate to this.
Back then there was nothing out there like this.
The questions of "what happened to you" "can you have sex" etc are all absolutely normal questions. I don't see anything inappropriate because how else are people to get to know you and understand your disability and it's issues? Educating others is key and there should be no taboo questions.
Also about grief. When you open up and speak up about your suffering people instantly turn away because all they want to hear is positive things and you're left alone with your suffering with 0 comfort.
I agree that there should not be taboo questions, but context here is key. I’m talking about strangers coming up and asking these questions. In that context it is overly personal and invasive, and therefore inappropriate at first meeting.
I’m sorry to hear that’s been your experience with grief. Some friends are willing to listen while others, as you say, would prefer not to hear it. This is a hard condition to live with, no doubt, but I think leaning on each other for support is a valuable resource because, of anyone, we can actually understand what it’s like.
@@Queenmania2007 Fair enough with the first part in regards to that context. But in a date setting all questions are fair game, how else are people supposed to get to know each other?
I've tried leaning on my peers and at best I get "oh I'm sorry" and proceeds to act as if I don't exist anymore. It's hopeless. I don't know why people are like that.
How do you live a life if you constantly have bladder / bowel issues / accidents and 24/7 insane pain (and with years it just gets worse and worse) which literally stop you from doing things?
And no matter what you do, you just can't fix it. What then?
by being awesome.
@@thomasrootes1839 I would love to see you troll with insane 24/7 pain degenerated body. You wouldn't even be able to do that.