My late husband had this down so beautifully. He taught me through his heart. I had been slaughtered in previous relationships. This manly man took the time to help me trust again. He gave to me unconditionally. Thank you for this truth.
A piece of advice I was given was: observe your SO’s pockets, their anger, and their drink. How are they with money, how do they deal with anger, and how are they with their habits.
Yea that part. I find it kind of odd how much more effort it is to make money and the wife spends it so easily unconsionsly and especially in a divorce. but its almost as if us Men as breadwinners have to get used to slaving away for the wife/kid. Thats what scares me about marriage Its a big risk financially even if you are generous
Yes 💯. Giving to your marital partner should bring you joy inherently and this generosity should inherently bring gratitude for the other. It’s a reciprocal flow allowing for each to be the role they are in the marriage as a husband or wife creating even more love
Exactly Rabbi that’s what happened to me in my marriage of 19 years it was all about him he was totally self absorbed. I did not exist physically or emotionally with no communication whatsoever. I was so run down doing everything that I came down with head colds.I was completely neglected and exhausted. In our culture in those days divorce was taboo it didn’t even cross my mind. Then God stepped in and took him! God sent him away never to return. He left with his girlfriend. I started to come alive but still very stressed from the emotional abuse. I got stronger more beautiful and worked very hard till now. I raised the children and remained single, strong, happy and content. God saved me from that heartless marriage. I’ve never been so happy. Not talking to a person is so hurtful it’s neglect it’s lowering a person to their lowest as he did to me. God healed me I thank God for restoring me and being by me all along 🙏
Powerful... True words of wisdom... And Very Rare... Which is one of the many reasons most marriages don't last... And the marriages that last for an extended period... Both of them are miserable and hate each other...
I really admire a lot what you say and I really needed this to hear something if something that makes sense what you're trying to help people with I appreciate all of your help thank you so much
Yessss!! We need more advices and guidance from wise man of God about marriages. -Marriages barely make it these days. Peole are struggling to satay together!!
I was very generous and loving with the two men who ended up cheating on me. I made it all about them in the relationships. All it did was bring me heartbreak☹️.
Most men are just toddlers in a grown ups body! They look at the partner as a way to have their needs met: clean house, clean clothes, food, and sex! And somehow they still think they are great man if they go out and cheat…so, it is not your fault! And I am not sure how generations after generation men are still taught that is ok for them to cheat! Mothers should do better in educating them…when raising them!
For those of the faith, marriage should be where you both take a servant's heart and put God first. I don't think it is healthy to make the relationship about the other person, but you both as a team making it about God.
I don't have any idea what I could do for a husband🤷🏾! Maybe that's why I am still single right now? 🤦🏾🤣🤣 I have no idea AND I am quite tired of trying to figure it out! I am going to give my brain a much needed rest!
What if you put the other person first and they don’t return the same treatment? Give them the world and they don’t appreciate it? *SEES MARRIAGE COUNSELING IN THE FUTURE*
I have watched several videos by the Rabbi. The way people are in the world today, I just don' t think it' s possible to find anyone who actually thinks that's the way relationships and marriage should be. I speak from my own experience and the people I have encountered in the last 53 years. Men want women for money or lust.
Yes that's what will make a relationship last, but the second either person thinks the other isn't equally giving the question will arise. What am I getting out of this? Isn't that true?
do i give up my time for the constant attention i have to give someone so they feel loved and better their life with support if i might not get it in return...love is action
WISDOM! This is not the language of today that’s why relationships fall apart. Many have lost the reality of what it takes to serve one another in a relationship. It shouldn’t be that hard to do. It just takes a mentality shift from me me me.
Spoken from a man I find this ironic he is speaking to the ladies better believe it don’t lose yourself thinking about the other person don’t be selfless or selfish that is my advice
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This man speaks absolute truth. It can be about me and all about me but that is called staying SINGLE🎉
For some of us even when we are single Is not about us. Never about us.
Only God does that and he puts things in perfect balance
Dont look for the right partner, be the right partner
Yeah cause that way of thinking is going to change the wrong person 🤣🤣🤣🤣
💯
It was never about me for me. Always my partner, and he was a narcissist. Imagine how life unfolded then.
I think a balance has to be achieved.but with a narc nothing can be advised except get out fast.❤️
My late husband had this down so beautifully. He taught me through his heart. I had been slaughtered in previous relationships. This manly man took the time to help me trust again. He gave to me unconditionally. Thank you for this truth.
I love your love story 🥹🥹🥹
Hello. I had a good husband too, but he died 5 years ago.
Did you have this as well?
A piece of advice I was given was: observe your SO’s pockets, their anger, and their drink.
How are they with money, how do they deal with anger, and how are they with their habits.
Love is not selfish. I wish more people would see it this way
He is such a wise man!
I would love to have a grandfather like him!❤
He has a very gentle, but at the same time strong way to discuss relationships!🙏
True you can’t change someone and it is about sharing time money space and a set of shared values
Very enjoyable message❤
Yea that part. I find it kind of odd how much more effort it is to make money and the wife spends it so easily unconsionsly and especially in a divorce. but its almost as if us Men as breadwinners have to get used to slaving away for the wife/kid. Thats what scares me about marriage Its a big risk financially even if you are generous
Yes 💯. Giving to your marital partner should bring you joy inherently and this generosity should inherently bring gratitude for the other. It’s a reciprocal flow allowing for each to be the role they are in the marriage as a husband or wife creating even more love
Exactly Rabbi that’s what happened to me in my marriage of 19 years it was all about him he was totally self absorbed. I did not exist physically or emotionally with no communication whatsoever. I was so run down doing everything that I came down with head colds.I was completely neglected and exhausted. In our culture in those days divorce was taboo it didn’t even cross my mind. Then God stepped in and took him! God sent him away never to return. He left with his girlfriend. I started to come alive but still very stressed from the emotional abuse. I got stronger more beautiful and worked very hard till now. I raised the children and remained single, strong, happy and content. God saved me from that heartless marriage. I’ve never been so happy. Not talking to a person is so hurtful it’s neglect it’s lowering a person to their lowest as he did to me. God healed me I thank God for restoring me and being by me all along 🙏
more & more of this wisdom…..we need it ….as our world is becoming chaotic😢
You ain't lying.. smh
So much Windom and Insight. Thank you Rabbi
This is a deep strong truth to finding happiness in life!
Love is about giving - not getting.
Love the truth and humility in this
Powerful... True words of wisdom... And Very Rare... Which is one of the many reasons most marriages don't last... And the marriages that last for an extended period... Both of them are miserable and hate each other...
The wisdom of Solomon 🔥
I really admire a lot what you say and I really needed this to hear something if something that makes sense what you're trying to help people with I appreciate all of your help thank you so much
He is absolutely correct it’s BOTH in a relationship 🫶🏻💯
Very wise words! 👍👍
Sucks when you're always available.. but it doesn't get reciprocated.
It has to be about us because now you have two people to be that for each other ❤❤
Thank you sir you've been a major blessing
Yessss!! We need more advices and guidance from wise man of God about marriages.
-Marriages barely make it these days. Peole are struggling to satay together!!
I appreciate this message.
This is a true statement. And nobody wants to think like this anymore.
This is soo true. Love must be unconditional 👍❤
You a wise man you a great teacher
More people need to hear that before getting married Rabbi.
Thank you for speaking truth
This is spot on. ❤
Good message! Marriage with purpose it's not about me and serve the other person for sure
This definately does not work with a narcisistic person.
AmenAmen Amen AmenAmen Amen True God bless you 💯 🙏 😊 ☺️ 😀 ❤️ 💯 🙏
Wow! Wicked truth!
This one really hit home.
Word's of wisdom 🙌 ✨️ 👏 🙏
I've never agreed with this Rabbi more than now. Wonderfully put, and the absolute truth.
marriage is between 2 people Shareing a life ❤ learning, careing, supporting Each Other, as soon as me,myself,mine gets in, it is failing
I was very generous and loving with the two men who ended up cheating on me. I made it all about them in the relationships. All it did was bring me heartbreak☹️.
Most men are just toddlers in a grown ups body! They look at the partner as a way to have their needs met: clean house, clean clothes, food, and sex! And somehow they still think they are great man if they go out and cheat…so, it is not your fault! And I am not sure how generations after generation men are still taught that is ok for them to cheat! Mothers should do better in educating them…when raising them!
Amen 🙏 and that’s exactly how it suppose to be 😊
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A great way of thinking
That's fine, as long as the other person is thinking and acting the same way.
Very true!
I believe in this too, what if she doesn't reciprocate?
My biggest mistake was doing all these things and still ended up with nothing life is crazy
He's right! EXACTLY what I did!
It can’t work when only one person I the marriage feels like this One person feeling this way will never make a marriage work
Great thanks 🙏🏽🙏👍🏽 thank you 🙏
It's about both people in a relationship, this is only good advice if both people have that attitude.
So true❤❤why didnt i learn that before🥰🙂
Self interest can be damaging when done selfishly
thank you,
you're absolutely correct !❤
Absolutely truth❤
I need to send this to my kid, he's a big value guy.
Definitely needs this given his new marriage
Also most importantly the other person also needs to have the same mindset as yours! Otherwise your love and your generosity will be taken for granted
Wise words.
Thanks Rabbi
Whether you are Jewish, Muslim, Christian, or other, this philosophy and state of mind, is exactly what will work until death do you part.
Much wisdom here🌟
It's about both person as they respect an not just other person better but both marriage take two
Yes very true ❤
Thank you Sir...🙏
Husbands, love your wives and vice versa. I don't want a wife tho, but Paul is 100% correct.
And it has to be reciprocated or its just one person using/taking advantage of the other
This is true, but it only works if they both do this. If one of them does and the other doesnt, you have a martyr and a taker.
Pure wisdom .
In a good relationship there is no I....only WE. There is no mine or your but our. There are two to be one. This can only be achieved by true love
🎉❤true there, I’m not able to do that been by myself 20 years unfortunately
Great questions
For those of the faith, marriage should be where you both take a servant's heart and put God first. I don't think it is healthy to make the relationship about the other person, but you both as a team making it about God.
you reminded me of a girl who was taking 110% from me and giving back her 30%.
I don't have any idea what I could do for a husband🤷🏾! Maybe that's why I am still single right now? 🤦🏾🤣🤣 I have no idea AND I am quite tired of trying to figure it out! I am going to give my brain a much needed rest!
two become..become one for life
True that!
True wisdom ❤
Like parents when they have kids. Still we need boundaries
I agree, but it's 2 sided. Both have to function in higher consciousness, otherwise resentment arises.
What if you put the other person first and they don’t return the same treatment? Give them the world and they don’t appreciate it?
*SEES MARRIAGE COUNSELING IN THE FUTURE*
But what about all the "certified life couches" who say you must take care of number 1 to maintain your happy happy?
Wisdom!
So wise
I have watched several videos by the Rabbi. The way people are in the world today, I just don' t think it' s possible to find anyone who actually thinks that's the way relationships and marriage should be. I speak from my own experience and the people I have encountered in the last 53 years.
Men want women for money or lust.
Agreed wholeheartedly.
Its always about the other persons best life
ABSOLUTELY
What if the other person isn't sharing that same sentiment?
One way streets end up as dead end streets..Ask me.I know
Goosebumps ❤
People get divorced, just deal with it like an adult.
👩🎨
Wise
no wonder marriage is a wreck too much selfishness
That's correct. We have been living in the every individual for themselves world a long, long time.
Yes that's what will make a relationship last, but the second either person thinks the other isn't equally giving the question will arise. What am I getting out of this? Isn't that true?
do i give up my time for the constant attention i have to give someone so they feel loved and better their life with support if i might not get it in return...love is action
WISDOM! This is not the language of today that’s why relationships fall apart. Many have lost the reality of what it takes to serve one another in a relationship. It shouldn’t be that hard to do. It just takes a mentality shift from me me me.
So many people get this wrong!
Well Said 🙏🏽✝️❤️
So right
Spoken from a man I find this ironic he is speaking to the ladies better believe it don’t lose yourself thinking about the other person don’t be selfless or selfish that is my advice
Perfect 🤩
I find it so hard to put me aside .... its about me