WOULD YOU STAY OR LEAVE?

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
  • You all know we love a challenge! Some are harder than others🙆🏾‍♀️. We ask: Would we stay or leave?

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  • @GalaletsangSeema
    @GalaletsangSeema ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I love Lerato’s perspective on things..then again I appreciate it more in a conversation setting with Phetola.. such a perfect match❤️😍

  • @graymaplanka
    @graymaplanka ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Pheto is so respectful to her husband 🥺

  • @kundaikoti9701
    @kundaikoti9701 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I think in the African society, staying is a sign of strength. So many women, especially those over 50 grew up in a society where leaving was a non starter so that fear of "what will people say" binds them even if they know they deserve better. Some choose to stay for the sake of their kids, mostly in cases where they believe that in their absence their kids will not be privy to benefits, especially financial from the partner. So yeah, it's tricky but yeah. I guess one needs to know the reasons behind to understand the "strength" part of it because for the 80s kids and above it's not so easy to tolerate such behavior, maybe because we know better and also find ourselves in a better socio-economic status. It's a whole topic. Would be interesting to hear the views of others.

    • @LM-he7eb
      @LM-he7eb ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope I'm strong enough to not care what people would say.

    • @kundaikoti9701
      @kundaikoti9701 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@LM-he7eb Fortunately, the narrative has started to change and people's choices to leave have become somewhat acceptable. The conversation around mental health has contributed greatly to this, I believe.

    • @wamemasilo7546
      @wamemasilo7546 ปีที่แล้ว

      In African society, women were somewhat oppressed. They had no choice but to stay and motivate themselves by calling it strength.

  • @meesheeli9107
    @meesheeli9107 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    😂😂😂"Guys leaving?"
    I swear I haven't resonated this much to two words before

    • @wamemasilo7546
      @wamemasilo7546 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I felt it too. Hei!🤣go boima

  • @viwekakaza8003
    @viwekakaza8003 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Here's something amazing about your installments and such topics: They're very very educational. I'm a varsity student but I learn so much from you guys. And I like how natural and unforced it is because we can tell every time that some of these topics also build your relationship. How you guys have different opinions about stuff but how you manage to find common ground. This is really amazing. Thank you so much!

  • @NokuphiwaPopi9945
    @NokuphiwaPopi9945 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I personally think we glorify "leaving" as strength more, especially in this day and age simply bcos society made it look like if you leave you're a failure. I have personal experience on leaving and my own family and people I thought have my best interest at heart bullying and insulting me ngoba "umendo undohlulile". I do admire the strength of the people who stay though, especially having an idea of what it feels like not being happy but choosing to not quit and rather stay for whatever reasons🤷‍♀️

  • @luvogiba1526
    @luvogiba1526 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "It's the devil!!" 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @zukhanyemodi5234
    @zukhanyemodi5234 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Love you guys you always give us interesting conversations. I wish Mrs Makhs would consider giving us her skin routine one day. The way she looks so gorgeous 😍 💗.

  • @bongekamngcwengi7232
    @bongekamngcwengi7232 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    My favorite couple😍... Food for thought hey.. Lerato's sentiments on Separation, had me dead on the floor.. 'What a breath of Fresh Air' 😂🤣

  • @mckobola
    @mckobola ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Loved what Lerato said that it’s easy to say you’ll do something until you’re faced with the situation. Life will indeed humble you.
    Thank you for this installment.❤❤

  • @GalaletsangSeema
    @GalaletsangSeema ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Phetola is just so gorgeous ❤🇧🇼

  • @mbalenhlemasuku1241
    @mbalenhlemasuku1241 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I love the last question. I left a 4 years relationship because I was mistreated by my ex boyfriend's family. I addressed the situation to him but he made excuses for them. I finally left the relationship.

  • @Bravva_01
    @Bravva_01 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I love how you guys can put each other on a spot with your conversations and yet have the conversation without arguing. You guys have done a lot of work to get to this stage and i hope it does not end on camera but consciously and definitely keep working top keep getting better. I love you guys a bunch

  • @hlengiwehlatshwayo1198
    @hlengiwehlatshwayo1198 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I think we should draw the line when we start becoming bitter, turning into this monster and end up not being able to recognize yourself.

    • @minkz002
      @minkz002 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is what I live by. If the situation is changing me into a monster, that’s where I draw the line.

  • @vjesus4083
    @vjesus4083 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Ask me ,am in that situation right now.Married for almost 14 years ,I thought he cheats am out. Easy said than done guys ,I did everything to push him out n he refused. He begged the whole year, the begging was most annoying to me because it made me look bad n unforgiving wife .God started visiting me n He showed me I needed to forgive him .Guys almost two years ,the pain is still there .God has been helping. Guys marriage is a serious Covenant, only death can set one free.Its hard

  • @tshenolomasilela6360
    @tshenolomasilela6360 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When Lerato started a re "Wuuuuuuuuh!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Absolutely love the fresh perspective from both you guys.

  • @lifutsotsephe7544
    @lifutsotsephe7544 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Having the “strength” to stay where one is not appreciated (constant repetitive actions even after voicing my concerns), for me isn’t strength. I’m just so sensitive especially when it comes to investing time and everything in a union with a “hole underneath”. “I’d rather be alone than be here unhappy” Karen White for real. I love love, but I understand I’d rather love someone from afar than stay with them while their actions don’t look like love to me, I don’t want to endure pain, to have self-doubt, and feel inadequate blah blah in the process of loving anyone.

  • @NokuphiwaPopi9945
    @NokuphiwaPopi9945 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I totally understand Lerato's point, and I agree totally, its the judgement and what the society has decided for us, so for whatever reason, whether you decide to stay or leave as long as it's what you want and you're doing it for you and not bcos it's expected by society as a "norm" , it's high time that we stop judging and celebrate people for doing "them"

  • @nthabisengkhoba1789
    @nthabisengkhoba1789 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Lerato "what a breath of fresh air" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @kundaikoti9701
    @kundaikoti9701 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I agree with Lerato on the separation issue. I just don't get it. I'd rather we work on the issue while we are together if we are really looking forward to fixing or building something. I feel like separation is preparation for divorce. However, I do acknowledge it has worked and works for others but for me naaah I don't want to be in that state of confusion. I want to know if I'm in or out.

  • @zandilengwenya5286
    @zandilengwenya5286 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Are we gonna ignore how gorgeous Phethola looks.

  • @thobekambashe8193
    @thobekambashe8193 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    We need a part two Mr & Mrs Makhs🥰

  • @AnnstaciaK
    @AnnstaciaK ปีที่แล้ว +7

    As class captain today i came before the class.

  • @meesheeli9107
    @meesheeli9107 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It's Mrs Mahks killing us with the smile Chile

  • @phoebeiheanetu1199
    @phoebeiheanetu1199 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Mr Makhs is hilarious! Really enjoyed this serious but funny installment.

  • @sibanimvuyana902
    @sibanimvuyana902 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Such a hard a sensitive topic 😢, but thank you guys for always making such a breeze & fun to discuss such topics.
    Love you fam ❤

  • @unathimdaka1180
    @unathimdaka1180 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I loved this installment....Love how chilled and real you are....well done!

  • @siyamthandampopoma6999
    @siyamthandampopoma6999 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You guys gave me a good laugh… she looks at him n ask “where were you “ I mean imagine 2022 she still wants to know 😀😀😀😀😀😀😀

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    🔥🔥🔥🙌🏾 maybe you are staying because of kids. I don’t feel like you would stay because of your ego or not knowing your worth. Because you won’t gain anything. Unless you got into the relationship or marriage to figure yourself out or trying to fill a gap you have within you. In a sense of we learn as we grow or there will be light at the end of the tunnel. So either way staying and leaving requests to much strength I hope I make sense and didn’t go outside the topic

  • @allthings_suzieq
    @allthings_suzieq ปีที่แล้ว +13

    l agree with Lerato on separation, l have seen a lot of people come back with kids concieved “during separation” 😂

  • @thembelihlevivian435
    @thembelihlevivian435 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The staying conversation should definitely be explored

  • @Rose_Karey
    @Rose_Karey ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Me laughing at midnight while watching this wholesome installment 🤣🤣🤣

  • @tumimasibi2366
    @tumimasibi2366 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So hilarious 😂 Mr Makhs. Mrs Makhs laughter is really contagious. I’m dead by breath of fresh air 😂 and Mrs Makhs visiting her sister 😂We need part 2 please guys. Start with the last question please. We love you ❤️❤️

  • @marvelousmbali8002
    @marvelousmbali8002 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    😂😂😂😂😂😂 finally it’s been years since I wanted this moment Kante no the person isn’t there

  • @bitzgracia1783
    @bitzgracia1783 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Danggg I love the way Mrs Makhs can understand Mr Makhs,😌 it's giving soulmate vibes😃😳😳

  • @kgomotso_nyenye
    @kgomotso_nyenye ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have a 2 cents on the last question "would you leave if your family didn't approve" I think yes and no. You should always be on your partner's side and protect them but only if the relationship is healthy, but if your partner is toxic and isn't generally a good person with good character and your family can see that, then it's a different story. A person would have to really think hard about it and consider the opinions and facts of the matter put on to the table...🤔

  • @chedumokae7347
    @chedumokae7347 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are blessed, what a husband. Blessed family

  • @MrsTay
    @MrsTay ปีที่แล้ว +4

    HELLO DREAM TEAM
    Its so good to sing along with the intro song, its been a minute😀
    Loadshedding mara, I was still enjoying this instalment🙂🙂. Re kopa part 2 of this challenge.
    #1time #2real #ohyes

  • @AnnstaciaK
    @AnnstaciaK ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bana bako gae, did yall like? Are yall subscribed? Hape put the notification bell on cause le tlo saala behind. The train is moving. Share with bo aunty, bo sesi, bo granny, bo my sister, le bo brother and uncle.
    Command,
    Class captain with love.

  • @amandahkhotsomabule8531
    @amandahkhotsomabule8531 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    😂😂😂😂😂"the devil made me do it"

  • @NduwaMukaba
    @NduwaMukaba ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This was funny and amazing! 😂 Thought provoking Phetola hahahaha I just saw my reflection in you trying to prove a point to my man weirdly it's like a woman thing which doesn't have to be normalized! And Lerato thank you for the part you talked about how you feel about separation! Simply loved this Video! Quite an unfortunate it was kinda Short otherwise simply Love it!❤️❤️👏
    God bless!

  • @RayOfLetsatsi
    @RayOfLetsatsi ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You guys are so real, love it.

  • @leraydoo1
    @leraydoo1 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Loadshedding can't do us like this though!! Re kopa part 2 hle guys? This was hilarious yet important. Thanks fam.

  • @tshegoragabane2557
    @tshegoragabane2557 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mr Makgeta is soo realistic plus the loves his wife..

  • @joykabagenyi1181
    @joykabagenyi1181 ปีที่แล้ว

    🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 breath of fresh air

  • @semakanesebola7870
    @semakanesebola7870 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Retsene. The oh so beautiful Phetola

  • @bulelwafaithmahlakahlaka5232
    @bulelwafaithmahlakahlaka5232 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Look at Mrs Makhs😍 the hair the skin. Mr Makhs keep up the good work Mrs Makhs is glowing.

  • @nomasontoradebe3026
    @nomasontoradebe3026 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    First time seeing you guys and I love you already ❤️😍. Well my thing with questions and advises comes down to Are you dating or married? Because the answers are way to different when it comes to either or. Looking forward to part 2 🥰🥰

  • @mbalimkatini7769
    @mbalimkatini7769 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Really enjoyed this, please consider a part 2

  • @kgomotsosetsio
    @kgomotsosetsio ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mrs Makhs is BEAUTIFUL mannnnnnnnnnnnnnnn😍

  • @beatalabercensie545
    @beatalabercensie545 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My favorite location on TH-cam 📍🥺❤️

  • @LM-he7eb
    @LM-he7eb ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Phetho's laugh♥♥♥

  • @chumamajova5503
    @chumamajova5503 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Part 2!😍

  • @NomaMPride
    @NomaMPride 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Pheto ke chipi wadi chipi 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @laveeyk
    @laveeyk ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love the setting today!!! Mrs Makjs looking gorgeous as usual!

  • @lehlohonolomokhachane9244
    @lehlohonolomokhachane9244 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love covers all transgressions. Jesus didn’t stop dying for us because of our mistakes, faults, evil intentions and more…That is true love 🤗❤️

  • @leratojoymamonyane
    @leratojoymamonyane ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Mrs. Makh! 😍 I stared half of the video, no ways!😍

  • @xabisanquka9121
    @xabisanquka9121 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    😂😂😂😂 Love this couple hle!!! They compliment each other sooo well...lol yadika kodwa uLerato 😂😂😂

  • @faithlivingwithSam
    @faithlivingwithSam ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's Pheto going to her sisters house 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @gertykhensani527
    @gertykhensani527 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    girls come pjama party🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @sibukandema509
    @sibukandema509 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Looking Beautiful Petola

  • @CornerHouse_Media
    @CornerHouse_Media ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Forever dropping jewels 💎..undefeated..🫡📠🫡

  • @kagisomafiri
    @kagisomafiri ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was so funny and wholesome 😂❤️🥺

  • @happymuller841
    @happymuller841 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis! Hay' jewels are being thrown here! Mic drop!!! So nje better come ready 'cause whaaaaaaaaat😢❤🔥🔥🔥
    ...2 real!!! Love love love you fam!!!

  • @AnnstaciaK
    @AnnstaciaK ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Lol "its the DEVIL."

    • @busisiwekhumalo7571
      @busisiwekhumalo7571 ปีที่แล้ว

      That just made me lough out load in a taxi 😅🤣🤣

  • @Bravva_01
    @Bravva_01 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    19 minutes got me really laughing😆😆 Mr Makhs is so wise

  • @everjoymercysigauke87
    @everjoymercysigauke87 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love this installment! Very educational in a fun way. Keep it up The Makhs!!😊

  • @nthabisengmaake4122
    @nthabisengmaake4122 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Le pila goreee ❤️❤️❤️

  • @Lindo.N7
    @Lindo.N7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Okay a good one..😁 part 2 we wait!!! 📌😂

  • @samanthamanyame9908
    @samanthamanyame9908 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love you guys! Eye opening installment.

  • @siwemz5102
    @siwemz5102 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Phetola's hair🥺😍😍

  • @thutocatherinemahlangu7509
    @thutocatherinemahlangu7509 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Taba ya Separation neh- thats wisdom right there Mr Lerato!

  • @dandiekekana7283
    @dandiekekana7283 ปีที่แล้ว

    Am I the only one who hasn't seen a part 2 of this? Where is it? I've been searching and can't find it. The Makhs please pay attention to your load shedding schedule tuu, lol, you "always" leave me yearning for more but this one was much worse. Ka njalo nje? Lol, still loved it. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @simbulele.mdleleni
    @simbulele.mdleleni ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Can't wait for part 2.

  • @Samantha-bc2uu
    @Samantha-bc2uu ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Phetola is such a beauty bathong

  • @include1458
    @include1458 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Phetola is very beautiful😍

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You guys! Your videos are always a lot more interesting than your video titles 🙈.

  • @wewemhlaba7593
    @wewemhlaba7593 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love you guys so much❤The Makhs man.Great questions quite thought provoking

  • @saneliswamagagula9781
    @saneliswamagagula9781 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Life will humble you hey. Yhu. And that time thing, ai, forgerabourit💀

  • @masanarikhotso5780
    @masanarikhotso5780 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lol confession time 😂😂20:44

  • @rendanithavhanyedza
    @rendanithavhanyedza ปีที่แล้ว

    Phetola looking 👌👌👌♥️

  • @masentleanidachauke937
    @masentleanidachauke937 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a breath of fresh air🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌🔥

  • @ntokozoking3681
    @ntokozoking3681 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ey y'all are looking fresh marn!!!!!! 🔥🔥

  • @mathapelomonnakgotla7395
    @mathapelomonnakgotla7395 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nna I always like the videos before I watch them hahahaahahhha

  • @onkemadubela
    @onkemadubela ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Part 2 please. such an interesting topic.

  • @hlengiwehlatshwayo1198
    @hlengiwehlatshwayo1198 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    ❤️❤️ Can we just support these amazing people and like their video

  • @keneiloemyoli
    @keneiloemyoli ปีที่แล้ว

    Celebrating people that choose to stay and those that choose to leave.. Yho. That's a tough one.

  • @estherchege2873
    @estherchege2873 ปีที่แล้ว

    much love from kenya🥰

  • @LM-he7eb
    @LM-he7eb ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I totally disagree with you. Leaving is much much much harder than staying. most times. That said, no judgement to either.

  • @fezilenkabinde9087
    @fezilenkabinde9087 ปีที่แล้ว

    Cela i part two pleaseeeeeeee 😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤

  • @vkmabunda9597
    @vkmabunda9597 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Athi "'but sharing is caring"😂😂
    Love the fun you bring into these serious topics

  • @nkhensanikobyana4840
    @nkhensanikobyana4840 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mara mkhwenyana wako Pitori odese… ke grootman kannete. He’s so wise!!!

  • @Sweet_Girlie
    @Sweet_Girlie ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love it here❤️

  • @Ntuthu28_M
    @Ntuthu28_M ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just curious Batho baka ne.. Is taking a pill while u married a sin? Here is where I'm coming from with this question, I believe gore modimo onale plan ka popelo ya gago ne if arile ke batla bana bayi4 moo and wena ka 2 either ontsha popelo or watlhaba so the other 2 he had plan ka bona o bathibile vele? Akitsi Mara my thing is only God can bless you with a baby, then does that mean is it wrong for us to think we r in control by taking the pill and if so what are we controlling if only God can give the baby otherwise married couples who are struggling with having children will just have children. maybe another installment about this will be good. Lol sorry Lerato phetola o tla bala setswana moo

  • @skylermat8912
    @skylermat8912 ปีที่แล้ว

    This installment was nice and too short, we need a part 2.

  • @teboJoh
    @teboJoh ปีที่แล้ว

    Bathong I have enjoyed this so much 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @nomazulunotshokovu2910
    @nomazulunotshokovu2910 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful instalment guys…..anibahle 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @TheAdedolapo.
    @TheAdedolapo. ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this video and the conversation

  • @PalesaV
    @PalesaV หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤

  • @stelliemariri1807
    @stelliemariri1807 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your hair sis pheto❤🔥🔥🔥🔥