I think in the African society, staying is a sign of strength. So many women, especially those over 50 grew up in a society where leaving was a non starter so that fear of "what will people say" binds them even if they know they deserve better. Some choose to stay for the sake of their kids, mostly in cases where they believe that in their absence their kids will not be privy to benefits, especially financial from the partner. So yeah, it's tricky but yeah. I guess one needs to know the reasons behind to understand the "strength" part of it because for the 80s kids and above it's not so easy to tolerate such behavior, maybe because we know better and also find ourselves in a better socio-economic status. It's a whole topic. Would be interesting to hear the views of others.
@@LM-he7eb Fortunately, the narrative has started to change and people's choices to leave have become somewhat acceptable. The conversation around mental health has contributed greatly to this, I believe.
Here's something amazing about your installments and such topics: They're very very educational. I'm a varsity student but I learn so much from you guys. And I like how natural and unforced it is because we can tell every time that some of these topics also build your relationship. How you guys have different opinions about stuff but how you manage to find common ground. This is really amazing. Thank you so much!
I personally think we glorify "leaving" as strength more, especially in this day and age simply bcos society made it look like if you leave you're a failure. I have personal experience on leaving and my own family and people I thought have my best interest at heart bullying and insulting me ngoba "umendo undohlulile". I do admire the strength of the people who stay though, especially having an idea of what it feels like not being happy but choosing to not quit and rather stay for whatever reasons🤷♀️
Love you guys you always give us interesting conversations. I wish Mrs Makhs would consider giving us her skin routine one day. The way she looks so gorgeous 😍 💗.
Loved what Lerato said that it’s easy to say you’ll do something until you’re faced with the situation. Life will indeed humble you. Thank you for this installment.❤❤
I love the last question. I left a 4 years relationship because I was mistreated by my ex boyfriend's family. I addressed the situation to him but he made excuses for them. I finally left the relationship.
I love how you guys can put each other on a spot with your conversations and yet have the conversation without arguing. You guys have done a lot of work to get to this stage and i hope it does not end on camera but consciously and definitely keep working top keep getting better. I love you guys a bunch
Ask me ,am in that situation right now.Married for almost 14 years ,I thought he cheats am out. Easy said than done guys ,I did everything to push him out n he refused. He begged the whole year, the begging was most annoying to me because it made me look bad n unforgiving wife .God started visiting me n He showed me I needed to forgive him .Guys almost two years ,the pain is still there .God has been helping. Guys marriage is a serious Covenant, only death can set one free.Its hard
Having the “strength” to stay where one is not appreciated (constant repetitive actions even after voicing my concerns), for me isn’t strength. I’m just so sensitive especially when it comes to investing time and everything in a union with a “hole underneath”. “I’d rather be alone than be here unhappy” Karen White for real. I love love, but I understand I’d rather love someone from afar than stay with them while their actions don’t look like love to me, I don’t want to endure pain, to have self-doubt, and feel inadequate blah blah in the process of loving anyone.
I totally understand Lerato's point, and I agree totally, its the judgement and what the society has decided for us, so for whatever reason, whether you decide to stay or leave as long as it's what you want and you're doing it for you and not bcos it's expected by society as a "norm" , it's high time that we stop judging and celebrate people for doing "them"
I agree with Lerato on the separation issue. I just don't get it. I'd rather we work on the issue while we are together if we are really looking forward to fixing or building something. I feel like separation is preparation for divorce. However, I do acknowledge it has worked and works for others but for me naaah I don't want to be in that state of confusion. I want to know if I'm in or out.
🔥🔥🔥🙌🏾 maybe you are staying because of kids. I don’t feel like you would stay because of your ego or not knowing your worth. Because you won’t gain anything. Unless you got into the relationship or marriage to figure yourself out or trying to fill a gap you have within you. In a sense of we learn as we grow or there will be light at the end of the tunnel. So either way staying and leaving requests to much strength I hope I make sense and didn’t go outside the topic
So hilarious 😂 Mr Makhs. Mrs Makhs laughter is really contagious. I’m dead by breath of fresh air 😂 and Mrs Makhs visiting her sister 😂We need part 2 please guys. Start with the last question please. We love you ❤️❤️
I have a 2 cents on the last question "would you leave if your family didn't approve" I think yes and no. You should always be on your partner's side and protect them but only if the relationship is healthy, but if your partner is toxic and isn't generally a good person with good character and your family can see that, then it's a different story. A person would have to really think hard about it and consider the opinions and facts of the matter put on to the table...🤔
HELLO DREAM TEAM Its so good to sing along with the intro song, its been a minute😀 Loadshedding mara, I was still enjoying this instalment🙂🙂. Re kopa part 2 of this challenge. #1time #2real #ohyes
Bana bako gae, did yall like? Are yall subscribed? Hape put the notification bell on cause le tlo saala behind. The train is moving. Share with bo aunty, bo sesi, bo granny, bo my sister, le bo brother and uncle. Command, Class captain with love.
This was funny and amazing! 😂 Thought provoking Phetola hahahaha I just saw my reflection in you trying to prove a point to my man weirdly it's like a woman thing which doesn't have to be normalized! And Lerato thank you for the part you talked about how you feel about separation! Simply loved this Video! Quite an unfortunate it was kinda Short otherwise simply Love it!❤️❤️👏 God bless!
First time seeing you guys and I love you already ❤️😍. Well my thing with questions and advises comes down to Are you dating or married? Because the answers are way to different when it comes to either or. Looking forward to part 2 🥰🥰
Thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis! Hay' jewels are being thrown here! Mic drop!!! So nje better come ready 'cause whaaaaaaaaat😢❤🔥🔥🔥 ...2 real!!! Love love love you fam!!!
Am I the only one who hasn't seen a part 2 of this? Where is it? I've been searching and can't find it. The Makhs please pay attention to your load shedding schedule tuu, lol, you "always" leave me yearning for more but this one was much worse. Ka njalo nje? Lol, still loved it. 🙏🙏🙏
Just curious Batho baka ne.. Is taking a pill while u married a sin? Here is where I'm coming from with this question, I believe gore modimo onale plan ka popelo ya gago ne if arile ke batla bana bayi4 moo and wena ka 2 either ontsha popelo or watlhaba so the other 2 he had plan ka bona o bathibile vele? Akitsi Mara my thing is only God can bless you with a baby, then does that mean is it wrong for us to think we r in control by taking the pill and if so what are we controlling if only God can give the baby otherwise married couples who are struggling with having children will just have children. maybe another installment about this will be good. Lol sorry Lerato phetola o tla bala setswana moo
I love Lerato’s perspective on things..then again I appreciate it more in a conversation setting with Phetola.. such a perfect match❤️😍
Pheto is so respectful to her husband 🥺
I think in the African society, staying is a sign of strength. So many women, especially those over 50 grew up in a society where leaving was a non starter so that fear of "what will people say" binds them even if they know they deserve better. Some choose to stay for the sake of their kids, mostly in cases where they believe that in their absence their kids will not be privy to benefits, especially financial from the partner. So yeah, it's tricky but yeah. I guess one needs to know the reasons behind to understand the "strength" part of it because for the 80s kids and above it's not so easy to tolerate such behavior, maybe because we know better and also find ourselves in a better socio-economic status. It's a whole topic. Would be interesting to hear the views of others.
I hope I'm strong enough to not care what people would say.
@@LM-he7eb Fortunately, the narrative has started to change and people's choices to leave have become somewhat acceptable. The conversation around mental health has contributed greatly to this, I believe.
In African society, women were somewhat oppressed. They had no choice but to stay and motivate themselves by calling it strength.
😂😂😂"Guys leaving?"
I swear I haven't resonated this much to two words before
I felt it too. Hei!🤣go boima
Here's something amazing about your installments and such topics: They're very very educational. I'm a varsity student but I learn so much from you guys. And I like how natural and unforced it is because we can tell every time that some of these topics also build your relationship. How you guys have different opinions about stuff but how you manage to find common ground. This is really amazing. Thank you so much!
I personally think we glorify "leaving" as strength more, especially in this day and age simply bcos society made it look like if you leave you're a failure. I have personal experience on leaving and my own family and people I thought have my best interest at heart bullying and insulting me ngoba "umendo undohlulile". I do admire the strength of the people who stay though, especially having an idea of what it feels like not being happy but choosing to not quit and rather stay for whatever reasons🤷♀️
"It's the devil!!" 😂😂😂😂😂
Love you guys you always give us interesting conversations. I wish Mrs Makhs would consider giving us her skin routine one day. The way she looks so gorgeous 😍 💗.
My favorite couple😍... Food for thought hey.. Lerato's sentiments on Separation, had me dead on the floor.. 'What a breath of Fresh Air' 😂🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Loved what Lerato said that it’s easy to say you’ll do something until you’re faced with the situation. Life will indeed humble you.
Thank you for this installment.❤❤
Phetola is just so gorgeous ❤🇧🇼
I love the last question. I left a 4 years relationship because I was mistreated by my ex boyfriend's family. I addressed the situation to him but he made excuses for them. I finally left the relationship.
Good for you child
I love how you guys can put each other on a spot with your conversations and yet have the conversation without arguing. You guys have done a lot of work to get to this stage and i hope it does not end on camera but consciously and definitely keep working top keep getting better. I love you guys a bunch
I think we should draw the line when we start becoming bitter, turning into this monster and end up not being able to recognize yourself.
This is what I live by. If the situation is changing me into a monster, that’s where I draw the line.
Ask me ,am in that situation right now.Married for almost 14 years ,I thought he cheats am out. Easy said than done guys ,I did everything to push him out n he refused. He begged the whole year, the begging was most annoying to me because it made me look bad n unforgiving wife .God started visiting me n He showed me I needed to forgive him .Guys almost two years ,the pain is still there .God has been helping. Guys marriage is a serious Covenant, only death can set one free.Its hard
When Lerato started a re "Wuuuuuuuuh!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Absolutely love the fresh perspective from both you guys.
Having the “strength” to stay where one is not appreciated (constant repetitive actions even after voicing my concerns), for me isn’t strength. I’m just so sensitive especially when it comes to investing time and everything in a union with a “hole underneath”. “I’d rather be alone than be here unhappy” Karen White for real. I love love, but I understand I’d rather love someone from afar than stay with them while their actions don’t look like love to me, I don’t want to endure pain, to have self-doubt, and feel inadequate blah blah in the process of loving anyone.
I totally understand Lerato's point, and I agree totally, its the judgement and what the society has decided for us, so for whatever reason, whether you decide to stay or leave as long as it's what you want and you're doing it for you and not bcos it's expected by society as a "norm" , it's high time that we stop judging and celebrate people for doing "them"
Lerato "what a breath of fresh air" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I know
I agree with Lerato on the separation issue. I just don't get it. I'd rather we work on the issue while we are together if we are really looking forward to fixing or building something. I feel like separation is preparation for divorce. However, I do acknowledge it has worked and works for others but for me naaah I don't want to be in that state of confusion. I want to know if I'm in or out.
Are we gonna ignore how gorgeous Phethola looks.
We need a part two Mr & Mrs Makhs🥰
As class captain today i came before the class.
It's Mrs Mahks killing us with the smile Chile
Mr Makhs is hilarious! Really enjoyed this serious but funny installment.
Such a hard a sensitive topic 😢, but thank you guys for always making such a breeze & fun to discuss such topics.
Love you fam ❤
I loved this installment....Love how chilled and real you are....well done!
You guys gave me a good laugh… she looks at him n ask “where were you “ I mean imagine 2022 she still wants to know 😀😀😀😀😀😀😀
🔥🔥🔥🙌🏾 maybe you are staying because of kids. I don’t feel like you would stay because of your ego or not knowing your worth. Because you won’t gain anything. Unless you got into the relationship or marriage to figure yourself out or trying to fill a gap you have within you. In a sense of we learn as we grow or there will be light at the end of the tunnel. So either way staying and leaving requests to much strength I hope I make sense and didn’t go outside the topic
l agree with Lerato on separation, l have seen a lot of people come back with kids concieved “during separation” 😂
The staying conversation should definitely be explored
Me laughing at midnight while watching this wholesome installment 🤣🤣🤣
So hilarious 😂 Mr Makhs. Mrs Makhs laughter is really contagious. I’m dead by breath of fresh air 😂 and Mrs Makhs visiting her sister 😂We need part 2 please guys. Start with the last question please. We love you ❤️❤️
😂😂😂😂😂😂 finally it’s been years since I wanted this moment Kante no the person isn’t there
Danggg I love the way Mrs Makhs can understand Mr Makhs,😌 it's giving soulmate vibes😃😳😳
I have a 2 cents on the last question "would you leave if your family didn't approve" I think yes and no. You should always be on your partner's side and protect them but only if the relationship is healthy, but if your partner is toxic and isn't generally a good person with good character and your family can see that, then it's a different story. A person would have to really think hard about it and consider the opinions and facts of the matter put on to the table...🤔
You are blessed, what a husband. Blessed family
HELLO DREAM TEAM
Its so good to sing along with the intro song, its been a minute😀
Loadshedding mara, I was still enjoying this instalment🙂🙂. Re kopa part 2 of this challenge.
#1time #2real #ohyes
Bana bako gae, did yall like? Are yall subscribed? Hape put the notification bell on cause le tlo saala behind. The train is moving. Share with bo aunty, bo sesi, bo granny, bo my sister, le bo brother and uncle.
Command,
Class captain with love.
😂😂😂😂😂"the devil made me do it"
This was funny and amazing! 😂 Thought provoking Phetola hahahaha I just saw my reflection in you trying to prove a point to my man weirdly it's like a woman thing which doesn't have to be normalized! And Lerato thank you for the part you talked about how you feel about separation! Simply loved this Video! Quite an unfortunate it was kinda Short otherwise simply Love it!❤️❤️👏
God bless!
You guys are so real, love it.
Loadshedding can't do us like this though!! Re kopa part 2 hle guys? This was hilarious yet important. Thanks fam.
Mr Makgeta is soo realistic plus the loves his wife..
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 breath of fresh air
Retsene. The oh so beautiful Phetola
Look at Mrs Makhs😍 the hair the skin. Mr Makhs keep up the good work Mrs Makhs is glowing.
First time seeing you guys and I love you already ❤️😍. Well my thing with questions and advises comes down to Are you dating or married? Because the answers are way to different when it comes to either or. Looking forward to part 2 🥰🥰
Really enjoyed this, please consider a part 2
Mrs Makhs is BEAUTIFUL mannnnnnnnnnnnnnnn😍
My favorite location on TH-cam 📍🥺❤️
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Phetho's laugh♥♥♥
Part 2!😍
Pheto ke chipi wadi chipi 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Love the setting today!!! Mrs Makjs looking gorgeous as usual!
Love covers all transgressions. Jesus didn’t stop dying for us because of our mistakes, faults, evil intentions and more…That is true love 🤗❤️
Mrs. Makh! 😍 I stared half of the video, no ways!😍
😂😂😂😂 Love this couple hle!!! They compliment each other sooo well...lol yadika kodwa uLerato 😂😂😂
It's Pheto going to her sisters house 🤣🤣🤣🤣
girls come pjama party🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Looking Beautiful Petola
Forever dropping jewels 💎..undefeated..🫡📠🫡
This was so funny and wholesome 😂❤️🥺
Thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis! Hay' jewels are being thrown here! Mic drop!!! So nje better come ready 'cause whaaaaaaaaat😢❤🔥🔥🔥
...2 real!!! Love love love you fam!!!
Lol "its the DEVIL."
That just made me lough out load in a taxi 😅🤣🤣
19 minutes got me really laughing😆😆 Mr Makhs is so wise
I love this installment! Very educational in a fun way. Keep it up The Makhs!!😊
Le pila goreee ❤️❤️❤️
Okay a good one..😁 part 2 we wait!!! 📌😂
Love you guys! Eye opening installment.
Phetola's hair🥺😍😍
Taba ya Separation neh- thats wisdom right there Mr Lerato!
Am I the only one who hasn't seen a part 2 of this? Where is it? I've been searching and can't find it. The Makhs please pay attention to your load shedding schedule tuu, lol, you "always" leave me yearning for more but this one was much worse. Ka njalo nje? Lol, still loved it. 🙏🙏🙏
Can't wait for part 2.
Phetola is such a beauty bathong
Phetola is very beautiful😍
You guys! Your videos are always a lot more interesting than your video titles 🙈.
I love you guys so much❤The Makhs man.Great questions quite thought provoking
Life will humble you hey. Yhu. And that time thing, ai, forgerabourit💀
Lol confession time 😂😂20:44
Phetola looking 👌👌👌♥️
What a breath of fresh air🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙌🔥
Ey y'all are looking fresh marn!!!!!! 🔥🔥
Nna I always like the videos before I watch them hahahaahahhha
Part 2 please. such an interesting topic.
❤️❤️ Can we just support these amazing people and like their video
Assomblief
Celebrating people that choose to stay and those that choose to leave.. Yho. That's a tough one.
much love from kenya🥰
I totally disagree with you. Leaving is much much much harder than staying. most times. That said, no judgement to either.
Cela i part two pleaseeeeeeee 😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
Athi "'but sharing is caring"😂😂
Love the fun you bring into these serious topics
Mara mkhwenyana wako Pitori odese… ke grootman kannete. He’s so wise!!!
Love it here❤️
Just curious Batho baka ne.. Is taking a pill while u married a sin? Here is where I'm coming from with this question, I believe gore modimo onale plan ka popelo ya gago ne if arile ke batla bana bayi4 moo and wena ka 2 either ontsha popelo or watlhaba so the other 2 he had plan ka bona o bathibile vele? Akitsi Mara my thing is only God can bless you with a baby, then does that mean is it wrong for us to think we r in control by taking the pill and if so what are we controlling if only God can give the baby otherwise married couples who are struggling with having children will just have children. maybe another installment about this will be good. Lol sorry Lerato phetola o tla bala setswana moo
This installment was nice and too short, we need a part 2.
And a part 3 and 4
Bathong I have enjoyed this so much 😂😂😂😂😂
Beautiful instalment guys…..anibahle 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I love this video and the conversation
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Your hair sis pheto❤🔥🔥🔥🔥