Why Are My Friends Killing Themselves? (Mental Health Documentary) | Real Stories
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- A real-life drama about why, in the beautiful and quirky rural town of Hebden Bridge, filmmaker Jez Lewis’ childhood friends are killing themselves. Beginning with a personal quest for understanding, the film moves into a year-long drama of human tragedy and redemption as principal character Cass comes to terms with his own mortality and attempts to lift himself out of his cycle of self-destruction.
This core narrative carves an upward arc through an intimate study of a place often described as paradise, but which harbours an undertow of lethal hedonism and disillusionment.
As people continue to kill themselves during the making of the film, a maelstrom of conflicting values throws up unexpected truths about the human condition..
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Hi everyone, thanks very much for watching this film. I'm the director / film-maker; sadly Cass died recently and his funeral was yesterday. He was my friend for fifty years and my heart hurts; so to for the hundreds of his friends who came to his service and wake. It was, though, the most beautiful service and sending off.
As Cass said in the film, his doctor had given him two years to live; but that was fifteen years ago. He fought and fought and doubled that, doubled it again, and nearly doubled it again! Fighter!
Cass said in the film that his four step-children love him to this day, and so he'd done something right. Well that was so very clear yesterday. And taking that measure, love, and feeling all the love for him yesterday, he did such a lot right. Such a lot Cass got right.
Love with you all, Jez
That was a hard watch tbh.. Nothing but respect for your efforts.
Very sorry to hear of the loss of your friend,
Sorry to hear that Jez
@@Daedric_Sion Thank you.
@@JonnyKlin8 Thank you.
Does anyone else feel like we are living in a completely different world to even say 10 years ago. Im almost 27 now and the world feels like such a different place to when i was a teenager. People are more mean, more selfishness etc
You're sadly correct. I'm sorry.
People now a days are more greedy selfish and cruel. Noone cares about anybody anymore.
Absolutly. Its like a plaque of hate engulfing the human race. Unfortunatly I cant imagine it getting any better.xx
@Jay Bee Why such a mean reply?
Jay Jay
Welcome to adulthood kid.
I have so much respect for the filmmaker. You could tell it was a labour of love and he truly cares about his friends and this town. It must have been very hard for him to make this documentary. My heart goes out to these people.
It really was a Labour of love. Jez went above & beyond to extend his support for Cass
I feel lucky to have gotten sober and so far stayed sober. Be kind to each other especially if you know they can't be kind to themselves.
I wonder how you are doing now. Well done for getting sober, it takes huge commitment - physically, mentally, emotionally, socially. If you are still sober be incredibly proud of yourself. If, for whatever reason, you are not or you have had a couple of slip ups be kind to yourself, continue to be proud of what you accomplished and know that if you did it once you can do it again.
"Be kind to each other especially if you know they can't be kind to themselves." - probably the most important lesson we can learn as human beings. Well said.
Candise Marotta Thank you for your truly beautiful sentiment. I lost my beloved big brother. Please know that you have touched others.
Congratulations! Stay strong. It’s not easy but it does get easier from day to day...slowly. I’ve never seen a documentary that follows from beginning of intervention to sober for life. That would be fabulously interesting to those that do not struggle with addiction. I believe that it happens slowly and is socially acceptable in too many places. Blessing to you Candise!
Yes I’m never kind to myself, that’s the problem
God bless you - Cing on to Him who gave you life! He will give you purpose, hope and joy too
The way people treat each other these days make people not want to live. Broken dreams broken spirit broken hearts broken people.
It's because everyone sees the Kardashians and thinks their life should be like that. Instead of comparing ourselves to the photoshopped, staged, professionally produced highlights of the very top of the top 1%, we need to learn to be happy with what we have and be thankful for it too. Once upon a time if you had health, a job to pay your bills and some friends and family that cared about you, you were on top of the world. As a society we need to get back to that
@@mikemurphy5898 but what if we don't have jobs or homes or self esteem. Everybody needs something to live for. Some people are stronger than others in the face of adversity.
@@bevybee2012 then they need to be grateful for what they do have and strive for what they dont
@@mikemurphy5898 you make it sound so simple but it is not like that at all. I cry for those who have lost the fight but I understand. I was one of them. I am still here but I am numb I take meds on a daily basis just to stay alive.
@@bevybee2012 BIG HUGS
They're so blessed to have such a large group of close friends. It's just too bad their common bond is drugs and alcohol. And boredom. Crushing boredom.
There are always ppl around when drugs are involved
Boredom is a perspective one chooses to use as a excuse to do sinful and destructive behaviors. It's a excuse to take the easy way out.
@@rdallas81 bored isnt a perspective, it's a state of being, and it's been shown that some personality types are much more susceptible to becoming "bored." As I think you're alluding to, they're thereby at a much higher risk of substance abuse but that doesn't mean it's simply in their head, nor imo, is it entirely fair to blame the user, implying they're weak, lazy or have somehow chosen this path for themselves.
The reality is, an expanded opportunity for stimulation (be it after school programs, jobs, etc), would greatly benefit this population.
-Also, since congratulations on your sobriety. That is no small achievement-
I give it a month til you relapse
@@mikemurphy5898 it is a perspective, and if you don't realise that, you are also low on the IQ spectrum. People are directly responsible for how they decide to use their time, even if it's time to think.
@@rdallas81 Look up a book by a Korean man called "Baptize by Blazing Fire." As his congregation held all night prayer vigils, the suicides in their town fell dramatically...AFTER they focussed praying specifically against that spirit! If you can rejoice and have faith, then you can please God. If you can't, He knows how to help you if you'll let Him...
I was born and raised in Wakefield, not far from Hebdon... I moved away as soon as I was old enough to leave home. Wakefield/Hemsworth/Fitzwilliam is still home to many of my friends, and the local cemeteries are filled with the ones who died from suicide/drink/drugs and even murder. So this hit a sore point with me. I also go home on occasion, and the first place I visit is the local cemetery to see how many of my school friends are now there. I call it dead friends reunited, and a lot of the friends who survived are exactly like the people on this film, drinking heavily, doing drugs and waiting for death - which is made all the more tragic knowing that they are mainly in their late 30’s and early 40’s and they have never known what a life is. I’m lucky to have been single minded enough to want to get away, I had a pretty crap education at a school where the majority of the teachers turned up to earn a wage and had no interest in teaching kids that quite frankly on the whole didn’t want to learn... As the adult I am now I genuinely take my hat off to the teachers who did try their best for the kids, and got no recognition or thanks... How they didn’t jump in the Calder with a brick around their neck I don’t know. I moved to and still live in Ireland, and I’m now 30 years in a career that I love, so maybe I’m one of a handful of people who escaped the curse - could it be considered a curse? And watching things like this makes me grateful for having the guts to leave, even though I was terrified to do so... And it also makes me feel incredibly sad for leaving everyone behind in equal measures
Dia, your story sounds very much like mine. Thanks for posting and love to you.
Dia, Glad you found happiness.
O poor baby Dia!!
Good 4 u, u had the common sense & courage at a young age 2 know there was much more 2 life , always your place of birth pulls at your 💝 strings i moved abroad 30 yrs ago many of my friends r no longer in this world through alcohol & drugs 'so sad'
One of the tough things about survivor guilt is the self blame - and this is not meant to be un-empathetic, but the truth is everyone has a choice. They can choose to perpetuate the pathology they've always known or do the work and try to get out. It is by no means easy but all you can do is the best for you. It's sad that more people couldn't get out, however, if this is what you've always known, and what your friends are like, and if you're not in a stimulating environment, success is just so much more unattainable than usual. The odds are just not in your favor. But don't for a moment think that your success story of getting out and living a good life does not inspire those back home. You are a beacon of hope in this tragic situation.
It’s like a curse of death that hangs heavily over the valley.
It’s heartbreaking to see a boy so fearless and full of bravado grow up to be so scared and broken.
The filmmaker is truly a good friend who doesn’t shy away from having tough talks to try to save his friends.
Thank you very much Edd, and thanks for watching and commenting.
If only there were more people like Jezz in the world
The town is divine and the land
Every towns got a group of drunks or drug addicts spending tax payers money on drink and drugs.
@@HOLLASOUNDS i will pray for you , hater.
Sam's mum: education comes in many different forms. Never feel inferior to anybody just because they have a more "formal" university education.
Hi, I'm the film-maker and I couldn't agree more (even though I am university educated). In fact the only row I had with my editor was when she argued that the scene wasn't going to fit into the overall story and I said "Right, then cut out everything else and the film can be just this scene!" Thanks for watching and for this great comment.
@@jezlewis2337 Jez, when I heard Liam's mum speaking about feeling inferior it broke my heart. I'm so glad you didn't cut this scene, it resonates with me the most. She would have more knowledge about the pains of addiction in Hebden Bridge than many.
Thank you for making this documentary, it should be compulsory viewing for all students.
Incidentally, what has Cass been doing? Did he stay in London and continue his sobriety?
Kindest regards,
Andrew Green from Australia.
@@andrewgreen2726 Thank you Andrew. Cass is still in London but drinking. I speak with him from time to time (I don't live in London) and he's on Facebook. He's mostly quite cheerful but life's obviously a struggle. Thanks again, Jez
@@jezlewis2337 I can completely understand. Unless you have walked in someone else's shoes; you will never truly understand. It's wonderful news to here that he is still with us. I have lost many friends, well before their time.
It would be an absolute honor to meet you one day.
Youre film making skills are astounding. I'm across the pond in Australia.
The repeat after me club is devoid of any real life experience.
So much childhood trauma which is at the root of so many addictions. And the PTSD. So much pain. So much sweetness in these people. The addictions are a coping mechanism.
There is a lot of pain, but a lot of people just do drugs & alcohol because it’s become a habit. A lot of these people- it’s their social life. The way they make the hours pass. The way they avoid having to do the hard stuff - find a job/career/life/move away & start anew.
Hats off to the documentary maker, very touching, there is every little bit of them in all of us.
Nhaaa. Do they have jobs?
Yes, there is Sam.. And for those who haven't had the experience of addiction, stop patting urself on the back.. Be grateful you were in circumstances to not fall into this kind of life.. I have a relative who's an ex user.. He looks his nose down at active addicts now as if it could never have happened to him. He's more punchable now than when he was a user 🙄🤦🏻♀️
There sure is.
We all are only maybe 1 drama/tragedy away, from being like these people.
@@josyjump This is so true.
Oh, how beautiful that land/town is! breathtakingly beautiful!
I agree😍
@Mickey oh, thank you. :)N !
@Mickey the drug problem is worse these days in Hebden Bridge
They don't know how lucky they are.
@@deadprivacy rubbish. I live here. The kids in the film aren't the children of Liberal hippies. You haven't got a clue what you're talking about
Actually one of the best documentaries I have seen for a long time. Not going to make a big comment. Luckily the comments page is light on sanctimony. Love and peace, respect all people and help when you can!
This is what England really looks like. Most tourists goto London only and completely miss the point. My town looks the same.
The irony: in an age of convenience and digital inter-connectedness, we are all more alone than ever. Sad. Reach out to people. Say "hello". Ask how they are doing? Does your neighbor need help? A simple meal? A conversation? A ride somewhere? Be the difference you want to see in the world. Start small. These people are someone's child, father, brother, sister, etc. Could be yours. Kindness doesn't cost a thing. We need to care for each other. Peace.
You cant do that nowadays bc humans have gone insane and will only cause you problems.
I agree. But then again, they could all go get a job! Don't see none of them on crutches or in a wheelchair.
@@freddyferrillo9704 They are not physical disabled. They have wounds, very old wounds, invisible wounds from which they have not healed. What they have are mental disorders, caused by child abuse.
@@bliss4383 : Oh okay, whatever you say! I haven't heard any of them say they were abused as children. But I do hear them say, that they drink and do heroin. Do you suppose that could be an issue?
@Jay Bee I dunno about that. I’ve learned a lot of cool things right here at YT or with a simple word search in my browser. As for a social outlet in which to make friends though, it’s not so great. You can’t hear the tone of a person’s voice, or see their body language, which accounts for 60% of a conversation, according to retired FBI agent, Joe Navarro. He’s here on YT, has a website, jnforensics.com, writes articles for Psychology Today online, and has books on Amazon. His book, Dangerous Personalities, helped me in clearly defining the Predator (Psychopath), in my life a while back.
My parents constantly lectured me about drinking and drugs from the time I was 12. Made me read books, watch movies about it, showed me those before and after jail pics. I was so scared off that I stayed away from people that did it. I love and respect them for that.
AmericanPatriot Got yo keep kids busy and away from drifting with a lost crowd
Be careful with your doctor, and if you ever get injured and need pain medication,don't take morphine.
@@DiscoveryWonders I just happened upon your comment and have a question... I've been considering psychedelics for long-term major depressive disorder that isn't helped by traditional antidepressants....... Have you heard any good about using psychedelics for depression? And what dosing? I've never done any sort of hallucinogen.
@@alison4316 Hey saw your comment and I wanted to say that I also have very pesky depression which has been majorly benefited by mushrooms and ketamine therapy. All I will say is, make sure you find a reputable place to do it, as there are some pretty shady operations out there, I know personally the university down the street from my house does experimental ketamine therapy. That is probably the one that was most effective for me. I will also say, that its not just magic. its a medicine like anything else and you will also want to involve therapy sessions to help you with what they call "integration." I was lucky in that I have a very good therapist and he was willing to help me do it (the mushroom integration). I sometimes feel weird talking about it with people because drugs like this still carry some stigma, but ketamine helped me to see inside of myself and guided me in letting go of some of my deeper trauma, and mushrooms help me to forgive myself. Its been over a year since my last session and I am still feeling very good. great fo ptsd especially
@@alison4316 Multidisciplinary Assoctn for Psychedelic Studies - MAPS
So many young men are dying in our communities across the North. My son struggled with a dual diagnosis he was my beautiful boy Jamesy . My son was just 23 when he took his own life. My heart hurts for the young people today who have no hope for the future. Lost souls 💔 that love too much and hurt deeply. Lost communities that nobody takes time to talk about. Such a raw story with beautiful people who have been left behind to self destruction.
I'm so sorry to hear this, about your son Jamesy. Thank you for watching and commenting (I'm the director). ❤
Similar situation exists all over the US. Blue collar jobs were moved to China; white collar jobs went to India. There are only so many teachers needed in a small town. Many young people turn to drugs to numb the excruciating pain of not being needed (forget valued). I wouldn't dream to criticize them. Quite the opposite - my heart goes out to each and every one of them. Lots of love and hugs!
And our culture treated China and India as if their poverty was not our own, as if we were not susceptible and we certainly didn't appreciate where our wealth came from..just ate it up and spit it out.
It's still a choice to put a pipe or bottle to your mouth.
One of my friends killed him self with the bottle.
In alout of ways we all make choices.
But at the same time you all ways have a choice.
We all have more power over are life's than we realize .
Similar situations across the UK with almost every town having there own group drunk or piss heads who dont work and spent there benefit money on drink and drugs. They should get off there back sides and get a job.
It’s important to have parents that step in and teach you about the dangers. Teachers are great too, but parents are a big part.
You can't stay sober when your friends are not. Very sad, but new friends are the key.
@Jez Lewis I have never had the opportunity to thank you for this, being so young when it was made the loss of my sister Nicola is still just as raw as the day we all found out. But I always have this too look back on on days I wanna ponder or just see her smile again. Thank you my friend. Thank you so much 😪
Hi Robert, I've only just seen this, apologies for the delay in getting back to you. I was thinking about Nicola just last night as it happens, her happy beautiful turn in the shop doorway, and the time I came to your house to show the near-finished version of the film to your Mum and Dad for their approval, or otherwise. There was a lot of nervousness all round but we were all so happy that we agreed on the way Nicola was shown. Love to all the family, Jez.
@@jezlewis2337 yes, I recently talked to my dad about it, in which he said he was a bit sceptical because he wasn't sure how she would be perceived. There's a lot of different opinions on what this film stands for but for me it only highlights the troubles the younger generation can come across with all the substances so easy to come by, but to me that's not what she stands for, that's not what I choose to remember her by and I see this film as something to watch if I ever wanna hear her laugh or see her smile again.
@@robertkeeting8303 Yes, I only spoke to Nicola that one evening but she was really lovely. If I remember rightly we worked out that we'd both lived on Garden Terrace, although probably at different times.
"There but for the grace of God go I ". This is a sad sensitive informative documentary about the curse of addiction.. These poor unfortunates need more government intervention and public support. I'm crying for Cass. He was doing so well and looking happy and healthy after his stint in rehab. Whoever you are, you are a true loyal supportive friend. Hope Cass has availed of more help since you made this documentary. ❤ from Ireland 🇮🇪.
Thank you for watching, and for this sensitive comment. (I'm the director.)
My mother was a serious drug user when I was growing up with my four sisters and I have never used a drugs in my life I am now 27 and will never go down the same path my mom went down
Mental health, depression, it's serious all over the world, don't judge people u never no what's going on inside there lifes!
They can all get a job. They're alcoholics. They ain't depressed. They choose. To drink. They should choose to get a job. Period!
I do have compassion. So don't try and say otherwise. But there isn't one reason they gotta be this way. They don't try and they choose to take this path. I'll save my compassion for somebody who at least tries to be successful. So please, stop it with your social justice warrior bullshit way of thinking. However, I do feel sorry for these British Nationals; they have been sold out to immigrants by their own government. Similar to what Obama did to America.
@@freddyferrillo9704 who asked you! You don't have any fking idea what people go threw so shut the fk up!!!
@freddy you sound ignorant. Hope addiction and depression never come your way
@@belfastireland im an alcoholic myself and just celebrated 6 months of sobriety. its sad when others judge/demean/belittle addicts, as we all struggle with our own personal demons. have a great day :)
@@briannafrost5931 people really don't understand what others are dealing with, good on you 👍 I hope you get threw that addiction 🙏 sending blessings your way from Belfast Ireland 🙏😘
So many lost souls. Heartbreaking to see the deterioration of their lives, lost in a maze of foggy thoughts with no direction. The running theme seems to be belonging, even if it is a toxic community, because the alternative of feeling alone and in pain is horrifying. A lot of comments regarding banning alcohol and drugs, how about tackling the reason why they are looking for escape?
Look up a book by a Korean man called "Baptize by Blazing Fire." As his congregation held all night prayer vigils, the suicides in their town fell dramatically...AFTER they focussed praying specifically against that spirit! If you can rejoice and have faith, then you can please God. If you can't, He knows how to help you if you'll let Him...Look up a bo
Lack of or poor excuse for a father figure also a running theme, not only here but in the entire Western world.
The guy talking about his parents splitting up and him skipping school to watch his dad in his office... my heart literally ached...
What have we created?
@@hbishop8475 yes, i agree a strong figure(s) to help support and guide us through life's difficult periods is extremely important. We have to see that it is possible to overcome adversity, and be allowed to fail during this process.
@InnerMittenSignal
Look, believe what you want. But there have been any number of studies done into prayer and apart from a slight negative one there is no effect. Just because someone says it in a book does not mean it's true, and your personal experience is yours alone.
This is a deep sociological issue relating to British history, psychology, politics, economics. It's very sad. Please don't trivialize it by assuming some blanket solution that has no bearing to these peoples' lives.
It's strange to set such sensible suggestions in the comments! Mental health support would go such a long way here, potentially changing these people's lives so they don't just have to block everything out with drink and drugs.
I was in a same situation, but in the Netherlands.
Small town Maastricht, lots of drugs & alcahol.
This video reminds me of that life.
Adiction is here to stay and never leave.
Lot's of my friends are not living anymore.
My heart goes out to them and the folks in the footage.
I've been there and knew someone who lived there. Seems it was less 30 years ago and still less in the streets though than in the US. Also more social supports in Netherlands. In US our streets are filling and filthy.
I really enjoyed the raw perspective this film offered. Although dysfunctional, the characters cannot help but be liked and leave you wishing the best possible outcome for their future. A real credit to the filmmaker for capturing the importance of friendship and love for people in every circumstance, and especially those who find themselves in difficult emotional states, it can very easily happen to anyone if your personal circumstances were to change and you find yourself feeling somewhat lost and without apparent meaning.
Thanks very much Adam, and thanks for watching and commenting (I'm the film's director).
@@jezlewis2337 😉 I noticed several of your comments. Great work. He is lucky to have you as a friend.!!!! You have a wonderful brother too
Thank you Dahra. I'll pass on to my brother too! :-)
My brother took his life in Nashville 7/24/19...I keep seeing the little boy he was,it's such a great loss as I write I cry...I couldn't save him...God Bless...
Bless you
Takes a village...so sorry for your loss.
@Jackie Hillson I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s very very hard to deal with the pain. Bless you!💜
Thank you for this!! The majority of my family and friends (I'm 24) are currently in this situation with drugs and alcohol, or they have sadly passed due to this. I also nearly got lost down the rabbit hole. I know what these people are going threw. I have full respect for the people who filmed this, thank you. Your helping educate people and raise awareness.
I'm sorry to hear about your family and friends Cassie, but very glad to hear that you have escaped that situation (I'm the film-maker). Thanks very much for watching and for this comment.
@@jezlewis2337 thank you, but don't apologise, unfortunately you start to get used to the "news". Going threw this it's grows you as a person, I wouldn't regret anything that I did. It makes me the person who I am today 😊 I hope your friends are doing well and taking care especially during this crazy time. Take care and stay safe
I'm an addict. Have been since I was 16 and I'm 45 now. It's not a fun life. I'm lucky to have a few people who care and help but it's not easy.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real, it's impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me; it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
“Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest”
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Just then a woman who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak. She said to herself, “If I only touch his cloak, I will be healed.”
Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.
Im addicted to failure. Its what I learnt as a kid
You can tell Liam really loves his mum. Wiping the bench down when he makes his brew @52.43
Despite his demons he's trying his best.
At least they’ve got each other; friends and family who care about them. And not stuck in a mind numbing job in a horrid environment, going home to an empty house, isolated. It’s not easy but you can get sober; it’s not so easy to find love and a network of people who will support you.
100 %
You're romanticizing drug addiction, alcoholism and self-pity about a group of people who could have created something to be excited and proud about as a group. Instead they support each other's excuses for living and dying as failures. Not a single thing wonderful about their choices.
One of the best documentary i have seen in along time,Bravo to the filmmaker he truly cares about his friends and his town, Mental health and Depression is a serious Disease RIP for those who lost their life
Thank you for watching and commenting Abeba!
What I would give to live in that beautiful town! I’m not downplaying the significance of their awful plight… but the beauty that surrounds them, I could only dream about having a life there. I’d love to live there and rescue homeless cats and dogs (and other animals who need help).
However, I understand great loss. I’ve lost so many friends; 3 to suicide alone. I lost my best friend / brother / soul mate to suicide; it’s been 9 years, but the pain is still fresh and searing. A year before he died, I tired to kill myself (from being put on too much Lexipro). When I woke up in the hospital, I was too ashamed to tell him, though I wanted to. Albeit we were super close, his motto was always, “Life is good.” A year later… and he dies from suicide… the sick, sad irony. I found out in an awful way, too. I lost another best friend when I was only 18; he had hanged himself at age 19. I had his mother in my arms when the cops walked toward us, slowly shaking their heads to inform us that he had passed. The screams his mother made; I fell to the ground with her, not letting her go. She clung to me. It’s something I’ll never forget; I hold his beautiful mother in my heart, still. Both of these suicides are forever a part of me.
The only thing keeping me alive now are the animals. Though I suffer from an autoimmune disease, I rescue animals, and know that these innocent souls need people out there to help them. If I tried to take my own life again, that would be one less person out there to help homeless animals… and so, I must live for them.
*Side note: I found it interesting how active these people were, even though they suffer from addiction and other ailments. They were all outside, playing games, socializing with one another. That’s just something I don’t really see anymore, at least not stateside among the sick and addicted. I found their activeness to be quite positive, really.
Excellent documentary, over all. I am truly sorry for everyone’s suffering and pain.
That opening flyover scene with the harmonica is absolutely haunting for some reason
Hi Sarah, thanks for watching. The music is a track called Clear Space, by Susumu Yokota, from the album Distant Sounds of Summer, and it's here th-cam.com/video/XJvmoxvMSpY/w-d-xo.html I actually bought the aerial footage (it was before drones) and it was intended to show the town being like an island, cut off, which is how I experienced it growing up. It felt very insular and isolated.
My hometown is a lot like this too. I left as soon as I was old enough to leave. It's somewhat traumatic growing up in an environment like this, there's just no hope, no-one has any ambition.
Me too. I'm in Detroit Michigan USA. Coming up, I honestly didn't feel sorry for myself. But looking back, I wonder how I made it. So many dead friends and relatives. Hey I know....let's legalize pot the government could use the money.
@@user-du3vo5ld2j well congrats on making it man. I'm sure you made it because you're driven.
And just curious, was your last comment that you don't think legalizing pot is a good idea?
All GROWN mom boys what I see
Do any of them leave let the old PEOPLE enjoy life.mommy Is the safeguard
A thought popped into my head the other week... 'Imagine being human is this day and age'
I don't get it. You are human in this day n age. So am I. We all are?
“Wake-up before someone takes everything that you own from you.”... 😔 This line from the end of this documentary says so very much more than intended... Please wake-up!
The village needs to wake up..maybe our species is through social media.
İt's all about the upbringing. Truth is parents don't have a single clue about parenting. They learn along the way. İt's making a home that's filled with love and care. A home that makes you feel safe.
Yes and takes a village...those parents know how to create a village or have a memory of having had one, skill built from having had one.
oh yeah, I didnt come into the world with an instruction book
i used to live in london this vid brings back fond memories, i left after my husband passed life was lonely without him,i miss him alot
I'm so very sorry for your loss...God Bless💜
From following the dialogue, I understand that what is going on here is generation after generation of broken people who were exposed to things at an age when a young person is unable to defend themselves. I will say as a person who suffered from PTSD for over 30 years is that all the pain originates in the mind and all the addiction is to stop the thinking and remembering.
Or get addicted to something healthier and have money and means to escape.
@@noyb8838 Its easy to say, but when your childhood has been a nightmare you dont exactly have rational thoughts of joy that your life will now be better. Some people ofc makes it thru and goes on, but they are more the exceptions than the norm, what M B says is very much how most of these people will live their life to hide the pain and thoughts.
I met graeme in a hostel in Battersea, southwest London.
He was the most kind hearted, genuine soul i ever met.
I have not a bad thing to say about his character.
He was the only person to ever make me a birthday card.
I remember him always speaking about his roots fondly and was very proud to be a yorkshiremen.
You will live on in my memories my old pal.
That's a really lovely comment, I hope you're doing well (I'm the film-maker and one of Graeme's many lifelong friends).
@@jezlewis2337 yes im doing okay thankyou, i hope you are also doing well.
The film was really well made and was nice to see graeme in his hometown and how popular he was there, not only just there, but also here in London, he was loved and liked by many, another testament to his character!
There's a price to moving all the factories abroad
You nailed it. These are victims of pitiless crushing globalism.
@@MrRight1000 no jobs, no futures, little hope, it's sad to see such beautiful towns ruined by drugs and drink
I can say thats what happened to my little town in the US when King Coal went away. Horrible way to make a living, but it was the lifeblood of the town. Once coal left, there was no real industry to replace it. Most of Main St is boarded up and drugs are taking over. I wish we had had SUSTAINABLE, HEALTHY living industry, not dependent on extraction because that is not sustainable. Oh, and the ground & river have mercury & cancer clusters upriver. There should have been a better way.
@@dreamsofturtles1828 Same with my home town in small town USA... Lancaster SC. When Springs Industry moved all their plants overseas, drugs soon flooded communities. Seems like a new overdose daily. Between that and COVID, our morgue is at full capacity. Springs was our life line and employed probably 80% of the county but it had no problem cutting our cord years ago for cheap labor. One by one they all closed down.
@@MrRight1000 Naw..people worked the docs back in the day in the US and the coal mines (still do) and succumb to sorrow and drugs and drink..we've always needed to do better as a species and for the first time in human history social media allows us to see intimately and broadly our commonality and vulnerability..all people need jobs and choices besides "Army, Navy, Airforce" and need people who know them well and care actively about them. Takes a village...I hope our species is building one Globally.
This is such a sad documentary but a great insight into the lives of some people who can't see any hope. 'Silly' obviously has untreated PTSD and possibly so too do some of the others, who have all said they had dysfunctional childhoods. It's heartbreaking. I think Jez was very brave to make this film, I also think he was very lucky to escape the area.
I agree with what you’re saying until he was brave??? What was brave? He did do a really good job but brave???
Thankfully Silly is clean and sober now.
Maby they should stop wasting tax payers money and go get a job then they wouldn't have so much time to get fxxx out of there faces.
@@DarhaLB He could have gotten ridiculed and harrassed to death by druggies or townspeople or even drug dealers etc for exposing what is going on. Small towns can be brutal, I know, I live in one. He is brave and so are the people that allowed him to film them. Their reputations and lives are exposed for all of us to see.
One of the best documentaries I’ve seen in a long time. Excellent work by all the team involved.
What a beautiful sad place
My daughter, who is now 19, didn't have a father because of the bottle. He's reached out over messanger saying he's sober now, for two years. I'll admit, I was shocked absolutely our daughter was shocked. He's angry because he thinks since he has two years sober, she did not come running to him. She absolutely refuses to communicate with him. Maybe she will one day, but I can't force her, nor would I. She's a grown young lady, now, and only she knows how she feels. He's been out of her life since she was four. I'm glad he's sober, but he cannot expect others to just forget the pain he caused and run to embrace him.
The journey of pain never leaves, but there is still hope for everyone by being surrounded by the right people.
... alcohol is a poison ... there is no proven lower safe limit because it transfers into every cell of your body ... Cass in this film is a typical case of having an alcohol induced brain disease ... but that doesn't exclude the others within Cass tribe ... the brain is poorly understood by the medical profession, I know this from anxiety disorder and depression myself ... it's important to be educated on this by family and surrounding society that the medical profession only aim to seek around 50% into recovery from what are complex biological processes not simply solved by "thinking" your way out of them ... as stark as that sounds to "happy" people with decent "emotional" support, no doctor or neurologist I can find can actually define emotions in a scientific arena ... and we shouldn't expect the medical world to have all the answers either ... it's a hugely overlapping cultural, philosophical and scientific dilemma ... psychiatry itself is in conflict with neuroscience on approaches ... and both sides claim more research is still required for even 51% success in recovery (without relapse) for people like Cass ... and myself suffering from anxiety and traumatic grief for now some 20 years or more ... and no I don't drink alcohol ...
Like every town in the UK. Great documentary mate and the line when your brother said to Cass i empathise with what you said. IM MORE SCARED OF LIVING THEN DYING. I know that feeling.
I wish they'd focused though on the differences in their life experiences/social supports and traumas etc. cause somehow the filmer was able to film and he had a healthy brother and how did Cass afford to study literature?
When the friendly buzz of the drink and drugs wears off - then you see the real, serious, paranoid, aggressive individual. Addiction turns personalities into night and day - the opposite of drunk is severe depression. Everything that was promised under the influence is forgotten or denied. It leaves loved ones in a state of confused limbo, living for the next blow out.
I see hurting people
People are now surplus to requirements . There are no jobs apart from soulless work in the service industry . So people just drop through the cracks and there is no one to catch them.
When our species wakes up (maybe due to for the first time in human history having a means through social media to see and feel the lives of so many and our own species vulnerability thereby) we will pay well for jobs supporting humanity (service is valuable and required for our own survival).
I live in Hebden Bridge & this breaks my heart...still an ongoing problem except there's way more offcomers forcing property prices up & our local children suffer the consequences. Credit to Jez for this soulful documentary. x
We are the engineers of our own destinies,they never got it,that none rescues you life is what you make it.
@@RideBikes_Walkplaces still doesn't get over the fact they buy alcohol and cigarettes,or are those things free there.
@@RideBikes_Walkplaces I grew up in a place that was less than a hamlet,40 houses 11 kids,no shop but two pubs one at the bottom of each road that lead to the houses,no bus service ,no school,that was 2 miles away,surrounded by two farms and mountains,the kids never ended up being alcoholic or drugged.all 11 kids have good jobs,the studied hard at school to get somewhere with a good bank balance,that's living proof in my books,the future generation of kids that have been born there are still doing the same,no hanging around drunk or drugged,some have become self employed,very smart kids,
It is a beautiful place to live but you have to realise there no money to live unless you use you brain,there is no such thing as a thick child,everyone e has a talent,even if it means just washing windows or doing someone garden.
One lad I know cant even read and he has become a millionaire by building houses,
How can those guys do that in such a beautiful setting.must grow up
The kids can see.im shock
Towmust vote exile them
X user I'm hard AGAINST
No cuddling
all this free heroin in Vancouver
Zombies of happy JOY joy must be killed
chop off.force care or exile
@@ostapbendervan7874 🤔
I can't believe Cass went back to the same place. I was taught in rehab, you have to change playmates and playgrounds. I did. I was in my early 20s. I'm almost 54 now. I never drank again. Even at my wedding, I refused the champagne unless they could get non alcoholic. Even then I hated the taste. Still hate the taste of alcohol of any variety. Even the smell makes me gag. I hope they all realize things need to change, and it starts with them.
First time I watched from start t finish I no the folk on here an bringing up some hard feelings just started my recovery again last year Rip to all gone never forgotten guys n gals feels Like this was another life time x
I believe this film was made around 2010 and can't help but wonder how many of these tragic people are still alive.
I grew up in a bikers pub. My mates died doing what they loved. These people die of what they love to hate.
It breaks my heart to see so many lives dependent on and destroyed by alcohol and drugs. May God guide them and restore them and protect them.
I’m afraid my dad is now going to the funeral for this man as he was childhood friends with all of these people :( if he didn’t leave hebden and change im afraid I wouldn’t be here it’s honestly heart breaking seeing him so sad over this video 😢
I'll see your dad there Kieran (I'm the film's director). After the funeral I'll put an announcement on here, as per the family's wishes. All the best to you.
The sadness is that there are no jobs, no future for many of these young people, so they turn to drink and or drugs. They have no self esteem, not surprisingly given their childhood abuse and poverty.
Just because there poor doesn't me that they were abused I grew up poor but I was never abused
But are there *really* no jobs? No fast food, no grocery store, no gas station, no restaurant, no lawn maintenance, no housework, no janitorial work, no cell phone kiosks, no retail, no hospital etc...etc... no jobs whatsoever?? I just find that hard to believe because whenever anyone says "there are no jobs!" They always mean that either there were no jobs that they were willing to apply for and do, or they didnt know to question the false narrative of learned helplessness that they had been raised in and that they truly but misguidedly believed in. I'm not saying it's right, I'm saying there is a way out because *there is always a way out* and you can't see that it's worth it to find a way out until you're out and are looking at it from the otherside. Infuriating and paradoxical though it is, you have to be made of some next level stuff to do it anyway.
How are they surviving without jobs? They don't seem to be homeless.
I nearly didn't watch this. I thought it would be some do-goody tear-jerker. I'm really glad I watched it now. I lost my brother to his own hand too. He was a talented rock-drummer who did too many drugs. In the end drugs, loneliness and fear did for him. People with drug and drink problems become really hard work for those around them; they become charmless and unappreciative. Actually that's when they need our support the most (though they'd never admit it). I always felt, when I tried to connect with my brother, that I came across as sanctimonious and superior (he occasionally said the most hurtful things to me, which wasn't easy to take. I was only trying to help). I'd give anything now to have him back. I'll never forget my dad's face when I had to break the news of my brother's loss to him. No parent should have to bury their own kids; it isn't natural. I wish I knew what to suggest that might stop this heartbreaking epidemic.
Dear Jez. Thank you for this. Watching this 9 years after my dear friend ended his life. Strange how I found this today. Our lives were similar to what you present here. You have done it in such a respectful way ! You did beautiful. It must have been really hard to be there and witness it all. Some of my friends died. I was lucky. I hope you are too. I wish you the best. Big hug.
Thank you so much, and apologies for the late reply, I haven't been here for some time for various reasons. I'm very sorry to hear about your friend but happy to hear that you appear to be doing well.
@@jezlewis2337 Thank you Jez. Warm hug. Take care.
"There but for the Grace of God go I...." I finally understand what that means when I watch this sort of documentary. But please universe - PLEASE just spare Cass from this evil. He is so likeable, but he can't help his addiction.
Cass is living in London. He's not off the drink but he's generally quite good humoured. He occasionally posts on Facebook. Thanks for watching and commenting.
@@jezlewis2337 Thanks so much for responding, I'm glad to hear Cass is still here. And bloody fine documentary btw.
"grace of god" .... hahaha what a sick world this is .... look at nature to understand
Those who judge should walk in someone else's shoes. Then you may not be so judgemental.
💯 so right
That is one great thing about social media..first time in human history we have such access to experiences of so many...we all judge AND with less ignorance is always better and with acknowledgement that because we judge we have a duty to be as informed as possible when we do so an be willing and able to change if we find we have misjudged.
what nonsense -- we all judge. It one way we set our own standards in life.
The documentary 'Shed your tears and walk away' was made over an 18 month period in 2008-9.
So sad to see these grown 30 yr olds still doing this young people self-destructive behavior. Addiction is like the plague.
... alcohol is a poison ... there is no proven lower safe limit because it transfers into every cell of your body ... Cass in this film is a typical case of having an alcohol induced brain disease ... but that doesn't exclude the others within Cass tribe ... the brain is poorly understood by the medical profession, I know this from anxiety disorder and depression myself ... it's important to be educated on this by family and surrounding society that the medical profession only aim to seek around 50% into recovery from what are complex biological processes not simply solved by "thinking" your way out of them ... as stark as that sounds to "happy" people with decent "emotional" support, no doctor or neurologist I can find can actually define emotions in a scientific arena ... and we shouldn't expect the medical world to have all the answers either ... it's a hugely overlapping cultural, philosophical and scientific dilemma ... psychiatry itself is in conflict with neuroscience on approaches ... and both sides claim more research is still required for even 51% success in recovery (without relapse) for people like Cass ... and myself suffering from anxiety and traumatic grief for now some 20 years or more ... and no I don't drink alcohol ...
Thank God, God saved me by showing me all addictions are self created. I am clean and sober and even quit a 20 year smoking habit. Yes I almost died multiple times in my life, jail many times....but God showed me I did it all to myself just as you all are. Change your mind by changing your thinking which takes work. Don't be lazy....that's the problem. Good luck.
@Daughter of Enoch Jesus is near! I chose him and been rewarded with his sight! God my king and savior has blessed me with his love and I witnessed a miracle! I shed the sin curse of generations through the sins of the fathers! I never married! I never had kids! I know why! I work for him! I command the interest of others every day for 9 days! I found him! He us coming for his church! He is the cornerstone and I am the temple! It's in my heart!
Repent! His power is upon me! I am his messenger! I witnessed a miracle only which my lord and savior can write! My name is written in HIS book! His spirit surrounded me so intensely it was absolutely all encompassing and beautiful! My king picked me! I am his church and he is at the door! I am going to let him in!
You all have been informed! Know the signs! Satan's reign is coming to an end! His 2000 years falls in THIS time! I know it! He has my vessel! I follow his lead! He works through me! My God and king and his vessel as Jesus saved my life! I am eternally grateful! He has my body! He has been preparing me for years! I seen a man get saved on his death bed! 9 days ago, my king gifted me with sight! I seen the demon! It was his pride and I through Jesus name removed the demon! My own brother is my witness! My god! You are the most high, most powerful and beautiful god! I have looked and I have found! He lives in me and I am his sacrifice! I am ready my God, I am ready!
Thanks for sharing! God bless you
@Politically Incorrect Bender you always need Jesus Christ. Without him, you are bound to sin. I dont care how good you think you are without God, you are never good enough because not having God in itself is a sin...first commandment.
@Politically Incorrect Bender I dont claim to be of "any" religion. I am however FAITHFUL😉. I am of no group. I am however, "of God", as I am from God and by God. I realize that and acknowledge God for it, and God knows I know that He knows. God bless.
Yeah. I believe Christ and God and the Holy Ghost. I believe the bible is a accurate description of things of historical and spiritual value.
@Politically Incorrect Bender God bless you brother. Have a terrific evening.
I recall doing a market at Hebden Bridge many moons ago, I was in active addiction myself back then, my ex partner gave me a bit of history on the place, I thought it was lovely and quaint, it's heartbreaking that this undercurrent of addiction and mental health runs through most of these towns in the uk, these guys genuinely had a strong connection with one another, I too am fed up of going to funerals and visiting my home town to pay respects, a Labour of love this film, I hope they find peace.
How'd you recover? so many comment they escaped these towns and/or addiction yet say little about how.
@@noyb8838 I had to go to the very bottom, jails, institutions and many near Death exsperiences to finally realise that I needed help. I was homeless in a city I did not know. I was offered a place in a rehab CBT this was not working for me, too much emphasis on punishing the addict. Without going into too much detail, I was discharged from there. Thrn found a 12 step rehab. I found that module much more helpful.
I guess the reason why people dont comment about their journey is because you are leaving oneself wide open for troll. So I will keep my comment up here for a short while before deleting it, I feel uneasy about blowing my anominity. Since you asked, I dont know what your reason are for that. I thought I would expand futher. I ended up as a support worker in that second rehab. Visible signs of recovery help those in early sobriety to stay on track. Hope this answers some of your questions.
All the best.
@@rainbows9060 So good to know. Congratulations! Great that you were able to shop around for a good fit. I get the sense options are better in the UK than in US. I ask cause it is helpful for people to know how some escaped...so much has to do with family, early childhood experiences and such too I imagine.
A life that revolves around consumption of dangerous mind-altering substances such as alcohol and drugs rarely ends well.
The man takes a drink; the drink takes a drink; the drink takes the man. So often true. Sadly, every dragon is uncatchable, though chased, all too often, until death. My own dance with the drink lasted 17 years, until I literally ran over a pedestrian. 33 years of 24 hours at a time, later, I am grateful to still be breathing and to still be walking. Nothing about alcohol is good, and its hold on your life can be overcome, even if it ain't easy. Set the drink down, walk away, never look back, and for God's sake, try to find a true self you can love. Abrazos y besos por todos.
So glad you were finally able to walk away from alcohol. 👍👍
Stay strong. You can be an inspiration for others. Thank you for posting here.
Thank you. I try so hard to stay sober.
@@Maya-dc8cb The 'trying to' is the real deal. When we must leave our best friend, sometimes our only friend, alcohol, we truly, moment by lousy moment, are forced to live in the real. With time and patience the real becomes not quite so bitter, and eventually becomes semi-sweet at the very least. So, please keep trying, and know that the willingness to change can and will grow within you with a little practice. May your god shower you with goodness and strength all of your days.
@@stevenzerbach6447 thank you
Trying to stay busy, having responsibilities, working, exercise, and staying away from drugs and alcohol, taking care of yourself can help depression, that can lead to suicide. I know its really hard for some people, but it can help. LISTEN to the positive inner voice,, and don't do that drug! Listening to your parents can be a good thing. Good luck to all you people on this earth. Be good to yourself.
I grew up in Burnley not far from Hebden Bridge. I had a great family but issues got to me. I moved away age 20 to uni and had some success but my demons dragged me down somewhat - I'm still fighting to survive and be my best self - but I sense that even if you change the scenery, you kind of take yourself with you.
Yes, I think there's something to that, certainly happened with some of my friends (I'm the film-maker). Thanks for watching and commenting.
@@jezlewis2337 I'm longing to go back to Burnley soon - I'm back as often as I can (before lockdown) I love the area but the drinking culture and boredom/desperation and lack of financial support for the area makes it hard for me. Burnley FC is doing a great job of community service at the moment with their premier league status (for years they were in the lower leagues!) Facilities aren't what they could be be in light of cost cutting exercises for healthcare support services, among other things. But I love going home, but as an adult who doesn't get led astray by peer pressure like I used to.
@@jezlewis2337 PS my mum is always at those Carlsberg Specials!!!
@@jezlewis2337 Great film Jez, Hope your mate is on the right side of the bottle now. I never knew that these little towns are basically so forgotten. Sad really, this film was very touching and I am bewildered by the amount of deaths at young ages in such a small town. Scary really, it's like the elephant in the room I guess if people bring attention to it. Take care.
@@oranjelibertine Yeah, I like going back to Hebden when I can. I grew up supporting Burnley, and Cass is still an ardent supporter. Great to see them back at the top, where they were when Cass and I were litttluns. Take care.
After watching this for the first few minutes, I was rooting for them all. I hope you can figure this out and get it to stop. Each life is precious. I love how they say at the end of saying smthg "in'it?" They all seem like good people. I hope you don't lose any more of them.
Unfortunately other lives were effected by the loss of one of the lads.
Innit is a hebden tradition bro
Some people learn from their own or others mistakes,& some people don’t.Sad to see these guys in their early 40s hanging around with kids 20 yrs younger,some of whom no doubt will follow them down the same road. You can’t help some people.& it’s often painfully pointless to try.Lifes hard and it’s survival of the fittest.
I remembee asking my parents why they moved us away from our beautiful little hometown in Germany.
They moved us to the other end of the planet to be precise. Yes Australia!!!!
They said they needed to get out of there for thier sake and ours.
I would come and visit relatives every 5 yrs or so and each visit more and more die from alcohol or drug abuse.
We have it in Australia to but I am pleased to say that my brother and I turned out alcohol and drug free.
I thank my parents each day for making such a brave decision. I couldn't imagine how scary it would've been to just up and leave everything you have ever known with a baby and toddler in tow. They called our picturesque German home town "THE GOLDEN CAGE" The place where the devils juice is plentiful.
Currently watching my best friend self destruct with alcohol and drugs,its completely soul destroying and frustrating that they cant see what it's doing to them 😢
I have a repeat cycle going on. Being alone with my thoughts is awful. The darkest place someone can be is with their own thoughts at times. I've been given so much medication over the years. I'm still on the methadone program and although I've been clean since 2013,my mental health has not been kind to me. Certain things really do trigger me to want to end it. I have 3 children and I live for them. Sadly though, just as early as March last year I took an overdose of my prescription meds. I was so down. Nothing could help my dark mind back then. A very sad place to be. Mental health is a constant battle. One that we have to painfully fight every minute of the day.
Everyday I wake up to not wanting to be hear and afraid to die terrible place to be
Thanks Jez, you did a remarkable job in putting this film together . So sad to hear about Cass I was hoping he would make it. Alcohol is such a killer of young people it’s such a horrible addiction. I feel for all these people, I hope they learn something by Cass’s passing. So hard on the mothers and fathers, it must be horrific to see your kids going down the path of alcohol and drugs, and there’s nothing you can do about it. How do you get through to them ?
Thank you (and sorry to take so long to reply). Silly said something about this. I'm actually not qualified, but he is. He said the time has to be right - as someone else commenting said, you have to want the change. He said something about me trying to help him (so much goes on off-camera) but I was slightly confused; he seemed to say that I kind of wasn't able to help him to get through his difficulties, but that I did the initial nudge. I don't know. There's a scene towards the end of the film where I remonstrate with him (as does Di); after that I put down the camera and did it all again so that he knew it wasn't for the film. I don't know quite how much affect that had but it did seem to do something positive. I don't know though, but there are people who do know a lot more than me, and Silly is one of them and now he helps other people who are struggling. And as Cass always signed off, love and peace.
The young lady brought up a very important point and that’s that people get used to a certain lifestyle, regardless of its risks. You can get away from a damaging or dangerous one, but the new environment is so unfamiliar, it feels abnormal. Everything you knew is gone, so the pull back to the familiar world is very strong. Think of it like being completely on your own, no friends or family, and being sent to a country that speaks a different language, has different customs and operates in a completely different manner, but you don’t have to worry about your basic needs being met or your safety. I think most people would still choose to return to home, where they have friends or family and at least know how to function.
Yes, several of the people I filmed said exactly this (I'm the film-maker). Thank you for watching and commenting.
Cass seems like he is a fun loving person. Someone I would like to be friends with, also that guy Sam seems like he is extremely broken hearted
Hi Jez, wow, what a compelling documentary. I'm so so sorry to hear about your dear friend, Cas - what a shame. I used to frequent Hebden when I lived in Leeds, so my perspective was based on the idyllic element of Hebden. Your friends - Cas, Silly and the all.. have so much character and potential, but the pull of the valley seems too much. It's a jarring reality when the place is so beautiful. I wish you and all your friends well and hope that your remaining friends are able to escape their personal hells. Sending love to you all x
Thanks very much. x
This is one of the most beautiful documentaries I have ever seen. Filled with tragedy but very real. Every one of the people involved have beautiful souls.
Thank you Mickeyislowd, that means a lot, and thank you for watching and commenting.
@@jezlewis2337 I live not too far from here in a similar town. I live in Stalybridge which is now been gentrified but love it still.
@@MICKEYISLOWD Great that you still love it. As I said in the film, I have a love hate relationship with Hebden - I really do love the town and the people, but I hate all the unemployment, the house prices, the despair and the fatalism. None of them are total, but more than they should be in my view. Cheers.
This is incredible… It’s a rollercoaster of emotions…
The ending is fascinating, it just stops! What happened to this people of ebdin, I’ll only Imagine…
One is bewildered to see such a beautiful town wearing a gloomy picture.
I like the landscape 😍
If youve ever seen someone die of a bloated cirrotic liver youd get why they end it.
Seen it as a former nurse - they end up bleeding out - via eyes and nose and mostly quickly via burst veins in their oesophagus (pressure backed up from diseased livers). If they don't die quickly from burst oesophageal varices, they die slowly in coma, bloated with bleeding eyes/nose. It is sad for relatives to see their loved ones die this way.
@@robyndaniels1381 It's bloody sad for everyone involved.
How can such a lovely looking little town hold such tragedy...
Anyone else got this stuttering from about 49 minutes in?
Even when I downloaded the video it is stuttering.....
and even further it becomes an unwatchable stutterfest where sound is off too.....to bad, such a good documentary.
Limael Amgedpha me, too. On all devices, so it’s in the upload itself.
Miss my sister more every day 😔
Sorry for your loss mate
This damn near broke my heart! So many wasted souls full of hope. I hope Kas and Silly make it through the next episode of their lives and escape the curse of that town!!
Thanks for watching and commenting Clare. Cass struggles on and is quite chipper on Facebook, and Silly has been in great shape for several years now, and work to help others at the recovery project where he turned himself around.
@@jezlewis2337 Thanks for the update Jez. Thank-you for such an amazing 'real' look into this problem.
Brilliant documentary.
10/10
Your film reminded me the essence of Trainspotting. The real story behind it.
Heartbreaking. Especially the ending.
That place is so beautiful too bad they cant see that. I use to have a drinking problem myself it’s really hard to stop and having all your friends doing the same is no help. Hope you can find your meaning in life and the beauty that goes with it.
It's the best place to live in England if you like the outdoors. They need to give their head a wobble.
If you been there your whole life and havent visited places that are dumps you can’t appreciate the beauty of the scenery
Our valedictorian took his life five years after high school graduation. Several others have had serious mental health problems. It’s hard to wrap your brian around it, my mind reverts to their high school personas and memories. What has the cruel world done to these people?
Childhood abuse and trauma doesn't have to define the rest of your life. Without question, you have CPTSD... Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I recommend the master of CPTSD healing who's been through it, too. Richard Grannon's channel has helped me more than four licensed counselors combined. Start with his older videos.
I would recommend EMDR therapy as well. This treatment has helped me drastically with my CPTSD. And... props to you for realizing CPTSD, many people have no idea there is such a thing that exists, they are only familiar with PTSD. Definitely 2 separate disorders.
Sid Ucyrian you're so incredibly brave
Good to know thank you. ALSO not all cPTSD is the same nor the protective factors, compensatory experiences of those who suffer it.
@@noyb8838 True. Richard makes a bold claim and says that the vast majority of the reasons we initially seek help, e.g., depression and anxiety, primarily, are caused by cPTSD/PTSD. Also, he says one doesn't exist without the other. He also spends a lot of time discussing the ways in which we are often abused and don't even realize we are being abused. He's empowering, and quite funny, which helped me a lot, to laugh, at a time I didn't think I could anymore. His community is stellar, too. So many people are incorrectly diagnosed with the awful Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), especially women, when what they really have is cPTSD/PTSD.
quite a friend I never want a friend like this, community is everything and a good community ,family and friends
Addiction is connected to environment and this vidio shows exactly that ☹️
This is very familiar for me. I was a binge drinker before my teens, into LSD in my middle teens, a heroin addict in my late teens then an alcoholic. I’d had suicidal depression amongst other mental illnesses as far back as I can remember. Lost ppl along the way to that stuff.
I hope my kids have better lives
Sending best wishes for you and your kids Sally. Thank you for watching. (I'm the film-maker.)
How, what helped you Sally?
@@jezlewis2337 thank u for making this 🙏🏻
@@noyb8838 honestly after a decade of drug abuse and mental health issues I was done. I was at rock bottom and ready to check out for good. Some circumstances conspired to lead me to a relationship with god where I was instantly healed from drug/alcohol abuse and depression and soon after cigarettes too. It was amazing and such a complete healing I forget I ever did any of it. 20yrs down the track and I’m not tempted to relapse. Unfortunately, I began to struggle with my mental health after my first son was born and I still do but it’s a lot better without addictions.
Feels like this main guy is the real Frank Gallagher. Long term depression, and possibly growing up with family or a community that thinks depression is a choice or a sign of weakness is a huge influence, add no real opportunity or support, this is the result.
Thanks for making this heartfelt film.
Thank you for watching and commenting.
"You know what i mean!?!" 😅🙃 i used to know a guy who said that alot too. We once lost count at over 100 "you know what i means" in less then a 10 minute conversation
Know what I mean? 😄
Ennui is my worst enemy, as a recovering addict. Boredom + listlessness = relapse for me, even eight years clean. It'll always be a struggle.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real, it's impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me; it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
“Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest”
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Just then a woman who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak. She said to herself, “If I only touch his cloak, I will be healed.”
Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.
“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams.