Ua Txhua Yam Yuav Credit~08/03/2024~
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ต.ค. 2024
- Hmong Audio Story(Drama) original content created by this channel - Mab Vaj Channel. Please do not copy this to any other channel without my permission.
Story description: She was a very sweet and would go above and beyond for her friends, but the minute you don't recognized her giving she will destroy you.
$2000 is alot of money, she is worthy of recognitions…I am surprised you didn’t even mention her and husband….you are wrong.
If someone helped me over $2000 they will definitely be the very first person I thanked at event
When someone helps you that much you really do need to acknowledge them. When someone goes above and beyond you should show your appreciation
Yes, of course, lady. Just a thank you in front of the crowd to show that you appreciated her hard work that she helped you. You failed to do that. So why are you complaining?
Damn you’re at fault 100%. You should’ve paid her back. They helped you so much and were not even recognized. Yes some help you, but only a few dollars. She helped you about $2000 for your freaking daughter. You took advantage of her kindness!
If what she offered to do for your daughter’s wedding was so much that you’ve never heard of or seen that kind of help before and she did everything just as she promised, then you definitely under appreciated her and should’ve thanked her separately. Why do you think a thank you to everyone should’ve been enough when you clearly acknowledge that she went above and beyond for you? Just give credit where it belongs, it’s cheap it’s simple. Otherwise it’s gonna cost you.
The music at the beginning of the story is too loud, and long sister 😮 I could not concentrate and listen to the story. Please consider shortening and lower volume or don't play music at all like before, which I prefer. Thank you
Do for others without asking anything in return, so God will bless you 10 folds…according to the scripture…!
It's crazy to think that a friend, not super close friend, would drop 2k for your daughter's wedding. It was your fault believing that she would help u genuinely wholeheartedly without expecting anything in return. Heck, i can almost guarantee u wouldn't help out with 2k either. Nothing in life comes free. It's good u learned your lesson.
She did help you a lot. Who’s go pay their recent friend flowers for their daughters wedding?
Tus me niam tsev some one that do some things special for you, you should theat them special too.
Yeej tsim nyog chim lawm nawb. Nws txojkev pab ntau kawg nkaus li. Paj thiab order zaub mov mas yeej tsis yog poob nyiaj tsawg li os. Koj yuav tau fwm cov neeg uas hlub tau yus thiab tsis khwv xim lub dag zog nyiaj ntxiag os
Lol the part where you didn’t thank niam koob at your daughter’s wedding reminded me of when we had an uncle who did a big hu plig party for our aunt and he didn’t specifically thank one of our super Nyab (who did most of the planning and preparations) by name so she cried and left the party too.
But in reality, when someone have spent that much money to help you then you do need to thank them by name so they know that what they did was significant for you. The people who did not help or only showed up, then you can just thank them for their support.
Kuv tshai2 nrog cov neeg zoo li ko os. Tiam sis yog leej twg tau pab yus tsis hais nyiaj los yog dag zog lawm mas yuav nco ntsoov ua tsaug thiab nco luag tus txiaj tus ntsig thiaj li tsis tub qaug luag nawj......
It’s your daughter’s wedding. You shouldn’t had expected others to help pay, even if she did become petty after the fact.
Sister remember there is always that one person that like to be recognized and get credit.
I kind of get the lady. Hmong always give such a generic thank you at parties. People don't realize how much time, money, and resources go into these things. I'm not that petty, but I have done a lot for people, and in the end, I just feel used. I don't say or change my relationships because of it. I just don't offer as much of myself to people anymore. That's all I have control of.
Luag twb muab luag lub zog pab yus uas tej paj mab paj ntoo zoo nkauj heev rau yus lawm yuav tsum understand thiab poj hmoob aw.
Txaus ntshai tiag li os
Pay back if the right thing
If you only want to help someone so you can gain recognition and accolades in return then don't help. It's not like OP singled out and thanked someone who did less by name and did not thank this "friend."
$2,000 is a lot of money. Nothing in this life is free. It is better for that lady to gift your child a wedding gift than help you with the wedding.
The thank you to everyone on stage is fine since there are too many people. That friend never gave her the time either. If she never said thank you to them personally, then they got the right to be mad. If you offer to help and they forget to thank you for it, you shouldn't be mad.
Another story why I keep my circle very small. Some people have their own agenda. Most people's beliefs and values will not align with your's.
cov neeg coj li ko ces muaj coob tus vim koj tsis tua nws npe ne yus xav tias tua npe ces neeg yuav tu siab no tabsis yus tua nws npe los lwm tus yuav tu siab na.
Nothing is free hunny!!
You're supposed to thank everyone that helped you. For me I'm a shy person so I rather help on the downlow but some people loves the recognition.
I’m with her on that. Hmong people are mostly ungrateful when someone goes above and beyond for you. She went above and beyond to help you, but rather than called her out personally to thank her, you collectively thank her along with those that did less for you.
I want to listen to the other side of the story.
Tiag tiag yog nkawv twb pab nyiaj ntau zog lawm neb yuav tsum hais ib qho ua nkawv tsaug xwb e mam ua tsaug rau sawv daws ib qho ho yog ua li ko ces Leej twg los yeej tu siab li os
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Only antidote to a toxic so-called friend is to disengage the relationship and move on.
Cov neeg tsab ntse ntaw ces av tsij muab pov khib nyiab os nws muab ib pob rau koj los yeej yuav poob ob npaug rau nws os.them tsuag tsuag tej nyiaj rau nws es muab ob niam txiv ntaw dov kauj vab kiag xwb
Luag tej neeg paub cai, yog tau txais support, donation, or help, luag yeej ua tsaug ib tug ib tog zuj zus tuaj tsis hais tus twg yuav pab lawv hom twg phab twg.
Ib txhia yog tsis ua lawv tsaug ces zaum ntawd tsuas yog zaum 1 zaum kawg. Ib txhia ces xa nqi rau them li niam koob tiag. There’s no free lunch in the world. Free lunch to someone is being paid by someone else. If you don’t appreciate and give credits where credits are due, then typically the free lunch end.
Nej mus hmoob ntees tuag, txawm donation $5 los $500, luag hais ib zaj tsaug ib leeg zuj zug pe 2 pes na.
Es koj es ua nej tsaug nawb no xwb ces tus lawv tsis mind ces lawv kuj noj ob phaj mov kom tau lawv nqi. Tus lawv mind ces niam koob sawv tsees thiab zaum 1 zaum kawg li ntawd xwb mos
Cov neeg coj li koj hais ko thiaj nyob tsis tsheej ib qho chaw, nco ntsoov tias nyob ntiaj teb no yeej tsis muaj leej twg yuav pab nyiaj rau yus tsis yuav dab tsi, tshwj tsis yog yus niam yus txiv los yog yus cov me nyuam, cov koj hais ko ces yeej xav tau ib yam dab tsi thiaj pab yus, tej laus hais tias ncauj qab zib nplaig qab ntse ntxias noj ntxias qhe
Kuv yeej agree nrog niam koob nkawv kawg li vim luag ncuav nyiaj txiag tshaj phav lawm ces yus twb tsi pom luag tus txiam ntsim li thiab luag tej kev khwv li muaj ib txia luag pab me me li ne...Luag tej pab ib ob puas xwb tabsis yus tsi tuav luag npe li ne yeej yog yus vam luag tabsis yus tsi kam tuav npe li os...Koj yuav tsum understand thiab os.
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Tus niam tais aw tsis yog tim lawv os tim neb 1 niam txiv kov xwb os tsis muaj neeg qhuas koj os. lawv pab ntau npaum kov es twb tsis pom lawv muaj nqes li ces tsis tsim nyog lawv pab koj li os yog kuv Los ntshe yuav pab zaum 1 thiab zaum kawg lawm xwb.
Cas neb 2 niag niam txiv kom es tsis txaj muag twb yog tim yus los tseem coj luag tuaj hais thiab. Ntuj aw yeej tsis muaj leej twg muab 2000 pub koj li na.
Nws nros nws txau siab pab ces tom qab ho kom yus them tsis tha quav2 ntsej nws li os kom nws huaj cheej kiag xwb maj
It lesson learn 😊
This why stop believing people when they say they do it for free. Remember to record people so you have a leg room to sue her.
Plus nothing is never free. If you don't have the funds to do a big wedding don't let someone convince you to do it. Just do a hmong wedding and later if the kids wants a American wedding they can do it on their own.
Well, if she would be to upfront with u about getting recognize, would she have done it? Not many people have the face to say what they expect but they do expected especially if they go above and beyond. And i get it, you want to keep it short and thank everyone altogether, however those that put more effort in would had appreciate some sort of recognition at the moment, not afterward. A mention of their names dont hurt..
Anywho, its a petty situation how she kept all the receipts, even gas receipt to repay her back. A lesson learned for u for future reference. Given thanks and recognition to those who help u or dont accept their help at all.
Aub yaub ib niag hmoob tsis txheeb yus es donation txog $2k mas yeej tsim nyog hais nws lub npe kawg vim yeej tsis muaj leejtwg hmoob sab rauv yuav donation txog $2k nev. Nws chim los yeej yog kawg. Qhov tsis zoo ces yog nws hais kom koj ntxiv rov qab rau nws.
Nws yuav ntsej muag thiab tsis yuav los tsis yog koj teebmeem. Koj qhov haujlwm yog ua nws tsaug tim ntsej tim muag mas koj thiaj li xam nws txoj kev donation
Ham tsis luag pab lawm cais luag kuj xav yuav ntsej muag thiab los mas mi niam tsev aw !
I understand how this other sister felt. She did contributed a lots so you should have recognized those who had contributed a lots. Sometimes, it’s good to know the help they have done is being appreciated per such individuals so don’t take it so personal!!😂
Im sorry. This is the 2nd video i listened to today that is urs, sister Mab. And the music/song is too loud from the start, i can barely hear u talking. Please, next time lower the music before sharing the story.
Tab kj g txawj xav kj g ua nw tsaug thb kj yeej g txawj xav ua tsaug ib tug zuj zu
Just pay!
You don’t need a friend like that in your life. They are the worst people in the world. Glad you were able to cut all ties.
Yes i do c that...i stay away from those ppl
Yeah, you were in the wrong. If they spent $2K to help you and your Husband for Your Daughter's Wedding, and everybody else only helped by showing up then you were in the wrong because the least you could have done was say thank you. This is why I don't accept other people's help even if they offer because I don't want to owe them anything and I know it's a LOT of work and money. The Hmong Community seems very ungrateful and doesn't say thanks where thanks are due sometimes, and just "EXPECTS" people to step up and spend LOTS of money or effort to do something that they don't even get recognized for. That Couple needs to learn that a lot of the Hmong Community doesn't recognize money or hard work, so they shouldn't give more than the average person or Go out of their way to help, so that they don't waste their time, energy, and money. Hard lesson to learn.
Well you have to understand nothing is for free. When ppl tell you they will cover for free just be ready cause nothing is for free. There is always a catch. The only time free is their time helping only. But when it comes to $$$$ nope not even close family willing to give that much $$$$ especially it’s not their daughter’s wedding.
I agree with your ex friend. If I were her, I would block you too. You were ungrateful. You thanked her like you thanked other guests that didn’t do anything so she felt unappreciated. You should not have friends so you don’t owe anyone anything. I don’t like to owe anyone so I don’t have friends.
Lady in the story. Stop taking advantage of others because they have a nice and kind heart to give and support. Know ur boundaries with others. It was ur daughter’s wedding, so u take full responsibility financially. This is the best way to prevent problems. Therefore, u do not need to question ur friend, and u do not need to be upset and angry. It would be more embarrassing and losing face for u if u take her to the relatives to resolve the problem.
How u judge ur friend, yes she has a nice and kind heart, yet u have no appreciation towards people who supports u. Quit judging others as it will be judge upon u too. U feel she help for credit, but people like u wants others to help for free. How selfish can u be too, woman??? 😂
You do a generic one for people who come help but when someone basically paid a lot and did a lot of work, you need to acknowledge and thank her too. I personally won’t accept a gift from a friend for that much money. I would accept the food but paid for the flowers to begin with.
Tus muam Kuv qhia Koj, peb ua neeg nyob tsuas Yog tus neeg tuag lawm thiaj tsis suav nqi thiab them nqi xwb. Koj tseem kawm tsis tau cauv. Hope you learn your lesson.
Cas koj yuav tsis totaub li laud luag pab koj tsuas yog lub zog xwb na nyiaj txiaj koj yuav tsum tuaj ho
I thought I heard this story once long time ago
She should have been given credit when the time was due for it .... however, she is also being pity just because she didnt get recognized, she is now saying she didnt do it from her heart. Neb ces nim qhuav sib phim ua phoojywg os 😂😂😂
I would have to agree with your ex friend. She helped you out and spent over $2k but didn’t get recognized for it ! You don’t deserve the help. But for future reference, she should only help with what she’s happy to help with and not expect anything in return.
Kablia, can you either completely stop the music when you start telling a story, or turn it down a lot because it's loud and distracting from the story. You really don't need to let the music play out to the end. It was kinda hard to listen to.
I know 2k is alot, but it's all preference. To me a thank you in person is more intimate than hearing it on stage. You just dodged a bullet sis, she lied that she DID IT OUT OF LOVE. She's doing things for the wrong reasons. People like that are not your cup of tea and that's ok. Just see this as a life lesson.
Vuag, cas es koj yuav ntsib tau tej Co phooj ywg dangerous thiab os. Thaum zoo mas zoo kom tau, thaum phem mas yuav kom luag pom lub tseeb.
Qhov tseem ceeb ntshe twb yog tsis muaj nyiaj txaus yuav pob
Sounds like Carrie Tsis muaj xeem..nyog Atwater
Tu neeg ua yuav credit...tu no nws tsis muaj phooj ywg dav...nws muaj yeej ncuab coob....yog ib qhov kev kawm rau peb txhua tu yuav tau kawm...ua ntej yuav txais luag txoj kev pab yuav tsum paub seb pab dawb..lo pab dub....yog tsim nyog txais mam li txais....tsis tsim nyog txais txhob txais tsam zoo li koj
Koj yog ib tug niam tsev g paub luag tus txiaj ntxim luag pab koj tus pab ntau thiab pab loj lawm koj yuav tuav kiag nkawv npe hos cov ua qav ua nug tej xwb mas koj hais tag nro sawv daws ib lo los tau
Dang, your husband is full of it to just like your friend. And yes, you should have at least name a few very important people and thank those that help but some people do want to be recognized.
Nws li kev khwv xwb li ko nas
She sounds like she knew she was wrong but she wanna make the other ppl sound like they're the wrong ones.
Women that talk sweet like this..I stay far, far away from! I don't befriend them because they are super fake. If you have to watch what you say or behave around them then you shouldn't be friends with them. That was your mistake because you chose to be friends with her. Smh
Yog lawm os leejtwg pab yus ntau dua thaib nyiaj ntau dua ces yus yuav tsum tau ua tsuag txhwj xeeb...
You have to know that there is nothing in value is for free. The millionaires donate lots of money to their presidential candidate because they want something in return. We Hmong people donate $20 to the deceased family at the funeral home and expect one day they will return our donation back to us in all kind of forms. I help you today I expect you to help me one day in the future. God bless you because you already worth ship him every Sunday. If you don't obey him, he will toss you to hell. LOL LOL. Remember nothing is for free.
Easy fix, just pay her
Kuv xav tia tsi yog nws xav tau credit txog txij pab txog 1 2 pham lawm ce yuav tau hu kiag npe los ua tsaug thiaj yog luag pab yus ntau npaum ntawv yus cia li hai tia ua tsaug rau txhua tus pab xwb kuj tsi yog lawm
sorry but you should thank someone personally and publicly when they put alot of time and money helping you. Yes you should pay them back now that they asked for it. im pretty sure all you had to do was to thank them and everything would have been free. Learn to thank people even your own children or parents.
Tim koj thiab tiag luag pab yus ntau baum los tseem ua tsaug tsuag luj las lices kawg yuav tau thov txim LOL
Mab, the music in the background is so loud.
Siab aub me tiag2. Yeej meem muaj blast tuag nti! Siaj tshal plaws!
Tone down the music in the beginning please, Mab. Lol
Wow this lady is too much lol😅 money or not, there are others who didn’t donate $ but their time helping is value as much. This is a debatable situation
Well tus niam tsev yog ib tug Phooj ywg es yog nws pab koj tshaj plaws mas koj yeej tsim nyog ua tsaug rau lwm tus tas mas koj tsim nyog ua nkawv tsaug mog, koj yuam kev lawm
It's your fault for not recognized her at the wedding so now pay up $2K is a lot of money.
Lawv ua luam ntag lau
Hate to say it but you didn’t appreciate your friend enough… when you planned your event you mentioned you thought of her first … so for you to know she was a good friend who really helped you, you should’ve thank her and mentioned her name for her big help since I’m sure no one helped you that much during your daughters event…. Now you’re just bashing her flaws so everyone can agree with you… maybe she is a bit extra and want recognition but you should’ve thanked her, especially since you knew she left the wedding after your speech… you knew you left her out on purpose…
Really it's your daughter not hers.... you should have thanked her.
You are in the wrong! You failed to acknowledge your friends compassion when you thanked everyone else.
It’s your daughter wedding. I don’t see anything with you paying for it
They want fame so they can scam ppl they’ll go nowhere🤣🤣🤣
She may be selfish, but u also didn't show appreciation, especially when she stood out the most with the most help but u didn't acknowledge her at all. I see her wrong, but i also see your wrong too.
Koj los lus ua tsaug koj twb tsis Kam hais tab si koj ho ntshaw luag txoj kev pab mas
She dropped 2 grand helping you. You didn’t even mention their names at the party. Does everyone help you that much? That was your big mistake.
Niam Koob is Americanized. If you associate with educated folks, you will realize they thank their benefactors individually. Muaj cov pab xwv teb xwv chaw, but niam koob went above and beyond for you. I would agree she deserves credit.
Lol so childish 😂
You are selfish alot of people I help but don't remember but at a wedding that is big thing