Took my cat back today... literally been crying all day, and cried myself to sleep. Checked the website and saw her sweet face! She was everything to me, I just couldn’t afford it, and I have to work all day and she deserved more of my time! I tried and tried, I have no family that would take her! I had to surrender her back to the shelter! The guilt is heart wrenching! Do not adopt unless you make a lifetime commitment! Even though it was for the right reasonsI will never adopt again! This feels like a death! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
That’s what I did. I adopted a cat bc when I moved out of state alone everyone kept saying I should adopt a cat for companionship. I adopted two so the one wouldn’t be alone while I was gone. Biggest mistake Of my life . The boy cat has cost me thousands in medical bills. I calm him my million dollar cat. Hs eats toilet paper , his scratchers , litter , paper , plastic , rubber bands , rub across my legs all the time while I’m walking and I have almost tripped on him a million times. Hs fights with the girl cat. The girl cat is scared of everybody ajd everything. They are now 14. They puke all the time. I am so tired of cleaning up vomit , thejr poo , thejr fights on the bed and the boy was just diagnosed with a very bad heart disease where I have to give him pills every day anx I can’t. I have tried pill pockets , mixing with water , shoving down throat. Nothing works. Hs even foams it out or vomits the medication . He lived a long life. I think I’m done with the frustration of the pills. Some of the meds I can give with liquid but some I can’t bc of the type of medication. Having cats is like having toddlers fod 18 years. I def won’t ever be getting any more pets of any kind ever again
Thank you guys for your responses and understanding. It’s been almost a month without my sweet baby. I miss her so much, but I will admit, it’s been much easier. Because I already have two children. It’s absolutely like having a child. Especially because my kitten was only 4 months when I got her. The litter duties, play time, and cleaning sanitizing countertops and tables. I really feel relieved. Cats are amazing animals, but they require a lot of work and maintenance. I don’t regret my decision as much as I did at the time, cause now I can get things done. I didn’t even realize how much having a cat was causing extra stress and worry on me! Let’s not forget money. I won’t be adopting ever again!
I recently rescued a stray, that got sick for a week in my home, she has been in front of my house for about 3 months already, and I gave her to shelter just a day ago, I am honestly crying, she was so sweet, I help cats before, but this one IDK, we bonded like spent a day together watching sun set. I miss her so much, but I already have 2 cats, though this one is unique and feels different. :(
Awe I’m sorry... the pain does fade eventually. My kitten got adopted and now has a forever home 🏡 I’m so happy about that. Now I have two neighborhood cats that pop up at my house from time to time to be fed. Cats definitely have a way of pulling on your heart strings for sure. Unfortunately we can’t save them all! We have to do what’s best for us at the end of the day. What you are able to do for animals, doesn’t go unnoticed to the creator. Don’t be hard on yourself....you live and learn 💚🌎
We rehomed our two cats today. We raised them from kittens and have lived with them for 8 years. The only thing that ever could have forced me to do it happens. My infant son is allergic and develops eczema when he’s around them. We had a legitimate reason to give them up, but this is a horrible feeling. I miss them both so much.
Chicago guy here and my new born kids are allergic to my cats. A 2 year old male Luke and 3 year old female Ella. I spent $4,000 renovating my garage for them to live in with insulation and a heating/ac window unit. It's a detached garage. No cars are parked inside. I have layered their beds and the floor to keep them off the concrete ( which I epoxyed ). Plus I wrapped their houses in that teflon aluminum foam stuff. And put beds inside which I change out regularly. The 2 do not get along. The male plays too rough for the female so she hates him. We thought this would stop over time. It hasnt. I have them sectioned off in their own spaces. Roughly 30 sqft each. Though I let the female roam around the garage more freely than the male. He's missing his back legs from the knees down.. Adopted him that way. So there less space for him to roam than the rug I put down. She has an illness where she use to walk around drunk but she got better with age. Though her stool was basically water when we got her and she would projectile poop everywhere.. And sometimes fall in it and get it all over herself and my home.. Since she's gotten better at walking the poop has also been 50/50 loose, she doesn't fall in it as much anymore. Basically both cats are special needs. With the Chicago winter here, it's been moderately cold. Worst so far has been 25 degrees outside. My heating/ac unit maxes at 81 degrees. 5-6ft away is their spaces and I have a thermometer by their spaces and it shows 50-55 degrees. I am afraid that when the Chicago weather goes negative, it could drop to 25-30 degrees or lower in their area despite my heating/ac unit pumping out 81 degrees... ( It was $800 and I thought it would do better... ) I can't have them inside since my newborns are allergic and the no kill shelters are saying they will take them back and rehome them. I am terrified not knowing where they would go if I rehomed them... Per their adoption contracts, If cannot care for them anymore, I have to bring them back to the agencies Is it cruel if keep them like this? check them twice a day and sometimes play with them when I can like when l'm working in the garage but deep down I want them to have a warm home to live in and roam freely. I am having a very hard time deciding what I should do. advice would be appreciated.
I want to cry reading this. I’m getting close to this. My son was born and both cats are having behavioural issues. I’m trying everything I no my power first but I’m absolutely devastated.
@@unnamedexodus3902 I just adopted a cat a few months ago & I think I'm super allergic to her :( it's starting to really get to me as well as her extreme energy I had two cats for 18 years and never had allergies like this before. How are you coping with it?
@@SB-ht8uo I just surrendered my cat due to allergies mostly, but also inappropriate peeing. I’ve had him 8 years. I should have surrendered him right away when I found out about the allergies. My health has really been suffering more and more as time went on.
@@marcilk7534 I surrender my two kittens and I feel terrible they just don’t listen, they go all on my dinning table and plates for food so unhygienic. I have tried all measures to keep them but they don’t comply. 😥
@@natalieneverson1001 My cat used to go on the dining table where he knows he’s not allowed. When I scold him, he just would look at me with those “I dare you” eyes. I would grab him to take him off, and he would make himself as heavy and limp as he could while telling me off for taking him down. I miss him though.
It’s been the most difficult decision rehoming my 2 girl cats because I have so so so much love for them. I went through college and dating and living alone with my one girl all the way to now in my late 20s engaged and pregnant, and the other we got almost 2 years ago and she’s so cute and smart and brings us tremendous joy. I withstood countless arguments in my relationship defending to keep them, independently took care of them both while putting up with my partners constant complaints for years, and have spent thousands in rental repair costs but just persisted in trying to make it work. Now that I’m pregnant it feels like I truly can’t handle the responsibilities they deserve. The pain is immense and the reality that they no longer fit into your life is brutal and feels devastating. The thought of them feeling abandoned and sad and scared without their mom is just the worst. I will probably never adopt another pet for a very long time because the grief is too much. Wishing anybody going through this lots of love and support. You are not alone.
I can relate to this so much. My cat was rehomed twice (2nd home due to his aggression) and he has literally been the light if my life for so many years as well as helped me through difficult times. I'm currently 7 mo. pregnant and at times he requires a lot, but also randomly attacks me when I just try to love on him. I want to try to keep him, but am worried how he will respond to my baby. I am so conflicted and torn about rehoming him again 😔💔
I’m rehoming my cat tomorrow, he has been meowing constantly every night for months now and my mom is so fed up with it now she’s giving him to her friend. I’ve been crying for the past 2 days but I know this is best for him, he’s a small little guy and he needs a bigger house and backyard like my moms friend has. I love him, and he loves me but I know it’s best for him
Did you get the cat fixed? Almost always random meowing like that is because they haven’t been fixed which I can’t believe any pet owner wouldn’t do in this day and age but my cat cries all the time for no reason because he’s anxious because I travel a lot and it’s driving me crazy
I’m getting kicked out, and I’m not able to take my cat with me. I raised him, woke up every two hours since he was born to feed him for two weeks. He’s 9 months now. It hurts so much to give him up, but it’s what’s best for him. Someone will give him the care I’m not able to :(
I am rehoming my two kitties on Saturday. My space is small, they pee on my stuff, poop outside of the litter.. and deserve more space. I found them a nice home that is bigger, has a patio and a yard. She is retired so can spend the time with them that they deserve. I feel broken… but I keep saying it is what is best for them. I started as a foster (mama and her 4 babies) kept two, gave those two a great start and now found them their forever home
I found a kitten about a month and a half ago at my apartment, someone had left her so my husband and I took her in until we could find her a new home. We have three kids and a dog and a cat so we were taking a risk but willing to do so. I had a family member that was interested in her but kept going back and forth about it. Finally I had to surrender her to the same shelter I got my dog from. I felt so bad, we named her and we loved on her so much. Had my situation been different I would of kept her but I was at my pet limit. I pray she gets an amazing home. It’s a difficult choice to make but never feel guilty. If you are unable to care for an animal then the best thing to do is find someone who can. Never abandon an animal, either surrender or rehome to someone else you find.
I had to rehome my cat because my fiancee was severely allergic. My son and I were both crushed, and I just remember how scared he was at the shelter. I feel like I've abandoned him and the regret is killing me he was my best friend and most loyal companion and now he's just gone. :(
Hopefully the relationship is worth it. My daughter is allergic so i will have to face this potentially but looks like my cat wants to harass me with meows all day and night not ALL the time but enough to where i dont get any peace when i finally have it. I am so conflicted. My cat was with me through Corona and i honored and cherished him so much, i try so hard to keep him happy and find him the best food, all to fail. I love him but it doesnt seem to matter what i want or need or who i love. He got outside, and now he wants it all the time. Peace or love? 😭
@@arianamooon nope she left me after i was hurt in a car crash because i disciplned my step son for miss behaving and had her parents threaten me. Wasn't a nice time in my life but i've grown from it.
@@arianamooon That’s the similar situation I’m dealing with. My cat does not let me or my husband sleep. I play with him throughout the day and we recently intentionally played with him in the evening to get his energy out. He still yelled-meowed and woke up up multiple times throughout the night. ☹️ I don’t want to give him away, but since we plan on moving again and seeing how badly it affected him (the cat) makes us also feel like we are being selfish to only keep him for emotional support and still put him through that kind of stress. We think he will be better with a family with young children who can give him more attention because he demands a lot. Someone with a home would be better too because he wants to go outside everyday, but gets scared seeing so many people at the apartment that he runs back in so scared. 😔
I’m heartbroken. I have two cats, but am currently pregnant and it is just not working out. They are not getting the attention they deserve, and I don’t have time for them. Not even mentioning, the time when the baby is born, the cats would have to stay in a tiny room at night because it’s a safety concern to have a newborn sleep out open if the cat may jump on the baby 😭 I feel so so guilty. I hope they find a home that really loves them.
I’m pregnant too and my cats smear their poop on the floor which makes it hard to even notice it at times. I feel like I’m exposed to cat feces every day and it’s driving me crazy. I’m rehoming them soon cuz I don’t feel safe in my home anymore . How’s your situation going now?
We took our cat in today for that same reason, it's so hard she was our first baby you know but then our baby boy has to take priority and it's the hardest thing we've had to do. For now, i'm not okay
Thank you for this, I unfortunately have to rehome my cat soon due to me not fully bonding with her, financial and mental issues as well. She has a lot of behavioral problems that I tried to fix and work passed but I can't do it anymore. I'm going to make sure she goes to a better home of which she'll get all of her needs met and tons of love.
My cat needs the vet and I can’t pay for it so I have to let her go and it makes me angry that it’s come down to this. The vet said they would help my cat for free but they wouldn’t give her back to me.
I’m sorry to hear that. This is certainly a difficult situation to deal with. Although you might have already come to a decision on this, there are sometimes options you could look into for overcoming expensive veterinary bills. One option is looking into care credit, which might allow you to pay a vet bill off over time instead of all at once. Another option is to look into financial aid programs set up for pet owners. There are some organizations that have financial aid available to pet owners to help them decrease the cost of an expensive procedure. I wish you and your cat the best for whatever happens.
Thank you for this. I've been wrestling with my conscience ever since I began considering it if I should surrender my cat to a shelter. It's a 10 year old indoor only cat which I adopted from a family last year. I only found out after that my cat has a history of inappropriate urination from the vet. Since then I've tried pretty much every method to attempt retraining her, mostly with limited short term success. I've had to throw out fully functional pieces of furniture because she kept peeing on them and nearly lost my safety deposit on my last apartment. So it's not just causing stress but also financial burden that wasn't anticipated. I recently hired a cat trainer as last ditch effort to get the issue under control but I already know that I need to give my cat up if it doesn't work. I feel really guilty. My cat is quite anxious and I observed her feeling calmer and more confident than she was with her previous owners. So I know she's generally doing okay with me and she really is a great cat in all other aspects. But I have my doubts that retraining her is possible and I don't want to rehome her myself since I'd be pushing the problem and responsibility on someone else. I'd rather make the hard decision now than make this a continuous cycle. Your video helps me affirm that I'm not a terrible person for considering surrendering her.
I’m not sure what you decided since you posted, but if you do still have your cat, talk to your vet about kitty Prozac. I just rehomed my cat this morning. Peeing was part of it, but also allergies. I did look into Prozac, but the peeing was so sporadic for mine, that it would have been hard to tell if it had been working. I’ve heard a lot of people have success with it to treat peeing as a result of anxiety.
@@marcilk7534 thanks for the advice :) as of now, I still have my cat, the trainer's advice I followed solved most of issue. I will still look into prozac for the remaining stuff though, I know the previous owner had tried a few medications before but not sure if this one
I'm at a point in life where finances, physical illness, and mental illness, to be frank, as well as other factors make it virtually impossible to give my two cats the life they deserve. I know the local rescue charges a fee, and it's not a small one, understandably so because they're taking on animals that require care, which costs money. Our local Humane Society is no-kill, but the thought of resorting to that option and imagining them scared and bewildered in those small cages makes me sick. Family members have pets of their own. Both cats are skittish around strangers, so I question whether they'll be able to adapt and flourish elsewhere. One cat has recurring ringworm infections--one of the cats had it when I got him, a tiny spot that I had no idea what it was till his first vet visit--and that's been a nightmare that seems unending. That's why I don't just place an ad, because I'd risk passing on this nuisance of an infection into someone else's life. I do know this, they deserve better than what they have here. I share this all anticipating others' judgment. I love them enough to know they deserve the best lives possible, and that it's not with me. I have failed them, and admit it. This whole situation hurts so deeply.
I would say that you shouldn’t really worry about judgment of others if you do what is best for them. Doing what’s right is the most important thing. Others can have their opinions, but that shouldn’t change how you feel about your own actions. Some animal shelters have foster homes that are much less stressful for some cats. I’d urge you to ask your local shelters to get an idea of what kind of husbandry they practice and what kind of housing they have to put your mind at ease if you’d like to rehome them. Most of the time an animal shelter is going to be best equipped to help in a situation like this. They might be willing to waive the rehoming fee if you ask and tell them your situation. As for the ringworm situation though, this can be hard for an animal shelter or a new owner to deal with. Perhaps reach out to the shelter and see if there is anyway they could help you deal with the ringworm before surrendering them. Ringworm can take a long time to get rid of in cats. Maybe call around to shelters to see if there is anyway they can help. That’s what they are there for after all.
I'm so sorry from someone who's going through a very similar situation with 2 cats. 🥺 I wasn't physically disabled when I adopted my cats and now I am, which had led to a cascade effect of financial/caretaking/physical stress. The way I'm trying to look at it is that it's not fair on my cat if someone else could take proper care of him. I can't bear to rehome my first cat, we have an extremely rare bond - he calms me when I'm emotionally disregulated & sleeps with me every night. Absolutely no judgement here. 💔 I hope your situation worked out in the end.
I don't know what to do. I adopted a kitty and I love her very much, but she's two months old and she demands so much attention and has so much energy that I just can't cope with it. I work from home and I have a really hard time focusing with her asking for my attention all day. It would break my heart to give her to someone else but I don't know what else to do :(
@@GASMASKANGEL166 I've been really trying hard to train her, playing with her on sessions of 10 minutes 3 times a day. Also rewarding her good behaviors and she seems to be responding. I noticed a very small progress today. We just need to be patient!! And keep training them constantly.
@@shradhamehta3552 it's good, but I've noticed that the days I'm too busy to play with her she starts misbehaving to get my attention ( including "attacking" my ankles and trying to bite, which I never encourage by the way, but she still does it). Raising a kitten is more difficult than I thought!
I don't think my cat is that happy in my home. She is super destructive probably due to boredom even with a lot of toys. I can't provide her with better enrichment and my apartment is too small for two cats. :( I feel really bad.
I'm in a similar situation. I live alone and work from home many hours a day and my kitty wants attention all day and won't let me work. :( I don't know what to do
This is what I’m dealing with to. I work all day and the cat is just so destructive. If I leave any kind of food on the counter she breaks into it. She’s bitten the spouts of my baby’s bottles. Many. Chewed a lot of my kids toys and fake plants. Just gets in to a lot of things. A very hard decision. I’m not sure what to do. After a long day I do not want to come home wondering what else she got into or chewed. It’s stressful.
We brought home and fostered a community cat for weeks waiting for a spay appointment she had to be Dewormed and then had diarrhea for weeks. Then she blood in her poop. She never once came out always hiding. 😢unfortunately after her spay appointment we had to TNR and release her back into community. It was heartbreaking. But we had to do what was best for her not us. Ill never forget the time we spent trying to domestic her. I’m thankful she allowed us to give her a place to stay, room to walk around, and fresh food and water. She just wasn’t meant to be indoors and that’s ok. Angels don’t always have wings. They have whiskers 🐱🐯❤️🩹
I’m really sorry to hear that. That’s an unfortunate situation. I don’t know if this will help in your scenario or not, but one thing I did not mention is that if you are struggling for a short period of time, asking a family member or friend to take a cat in until you are effectively able to care for it can be another option. Whatever happens, I wish you and your cat the best.
I was feeling so alone and thought adopting pet(s) would help. So I took in these two little kittens from a neighbors cat who had given birth 2months ago. Two weeks in and I'm feeling overwhelmed with taking care of them. From fleas which refuse to go away even after washing and treating them,to litter problems (I have been using sand/wood pillings/ natural soil from the garden since I can't afford to buy) and my room has become so messed up from those dirt particles, to them being in my closet which I want to avoid because I don't want them to damage/mess my clothes. I am considering giving them up. I feel so bad right now. I am so overwhelmed. But giving them up says to me that I failed in yet another thing . I feel so bad right now and confused on what to do
Give them another home. Ic yiu feel that overwhelmed now it doesn’t get any easier. Trust me. I have had my two cats for 14 years and every day I wish I never got them. I adopted them together bc everyone said I should. I guess I didn’t really think of the expense if they were to have a ton of medical problems and one id rjem has. I can’t tell you the thousands of dollars I have had to pay for one of them. I prob could have bought a house. They are always vomiting . Hard as heck yo give them pills. It’s just been a stressful 14 years. I thought about giving them back to the shelter but it would be like giving a child back rhwt I adopted. So I kept them . I just know I will never get another cat again
@@ccalexander1924 I ended giving them to another home. I felt horrible. I cried 😭. When I'm financially stable and living in a better home I will for sure adopt kitten (s) and a dog. I love animals. My take away is that you can love something so much but if you are not prepared to have it, it will stress you and everything has a cost to it because I don't know why I assumed there are no costs involved.
This comment section was the most helpful thing ever. I brought home the cutest little kitten to foster and take care of till we find a permanent home. It’s been 8 days. I decided to adopt her after 3 days. But I realised that I don’t work from home and she’s so small, just 4 weeks old, she needs immense love and attention. I can take her to work but it was tiring in just one week. I can’t imagine doing it for months. And even when she’s older, she’ll spend more time with my roommate than me. That just doesn’t make sense. Not to mention my roommate has 3 cats already. My mental health is already on the edge. I just feel so guilty and sad wondering if mental health is a reason enough to rehome her. I know for sure that if she stays here, she’ll be more attached to my roommate than me. Honestly, not okay with that too. And if something goes wrong like catching fleas,etc., the environment in the house can easily fire up since other cats will also be at risk. I know this is the right decision, but I feel so selfish taking it.
Thank you for this. My mom brought home a kitten from someone we know, and as much as I’ve wanted one for the future, I’m in no way ready for a pet in my life yet. It’s unexpected and I currently don’t want to care for a living thing. I do feel awful, but I think that someone else will be able to care for the kitten and set time aside for them better than I am. I live in a small & cluttered home with my parents, so I think the cat deserves a nicer home where she’ll be able to run around and have a window to look out.
I’m finding it really hard, we just moved out of families into a friends (it’s really hard to get a house where I am) it’s cheaper at our friends and mentally we are better here. However our friend does have two dogs - we tried for them to get along but they just won’t and it was at the point where our cat would be harmed. We have to rehome our cat tomorrow. This is so hard because we got him in 2020 during quarantine and he has been with us through everything. He is so lovely and gentle and funny and has so much character. The dog/cat situation will just not work and it’s so hard because I will grieve him for a long time. Hard days and sad days coming home to my fluffy little grey and black man with a bushy tail takes me away from reality and knowing that I will wake up in a couple of days and he won’t be at my feet really breaks me. Sending love to anyone who has had to rehome a fur baby. ✨
I had to rehome my cat. I was so allergic to the point where I had to go to the ER due to a severe asthma attack. When they told me that I was allergic. I was like man damn. Your health comes first.
My cat does not let me or my husband sleep. It wasn’t that bad, but it’s gotten way worse recently and he will yell so loudly next to my bed now.. I play with him throughout the day and we recently intentionally played with him in the evening more to get his energy out. He still yelled-meowed and woke up up multiple times throughout the night. ☹️ He used to actually even sleep with us in the bed. We would just wake up to him there lol. I don’t want to give him away, but since we plan on moving again and seeing how badly it affected him (the cat) makes us also feel like we are being selfish to only keep him for emotional support and still put him through that kind of stress. We think he will be better with a family with young children who can give him more attention because he demands a lot. Someone with a home would be better too because he wants to go outside everyday, but gets scared seeing so many people at the apartment that he runs back in so scared every time I try to let him out on the balcony. He doesn’t overcome the fear, but I can tell he wants to instinctively go outside because he meows by the door after looking out the window. 😔 He is our first cat and he’s only 2 years old. 😕
My husband and I hit out limit last night. One cat won't let us sleep, the other cries to go out all the time, he even unlocked the front door! We just aren't the right owners for those cats. We love them too! But they aren't happy with us! The more they destroy our stuff and sleep the less we like the cats too. We don't want to get to a point of resentment and hate.
Honestly, I got the cat relax pheromones and cat calming treats and then also when he gets really bad crying for no reason I’ll give him a full syringe of hemp oil for animals and it’s really calm him down. Maybe it’ll work for you
Very well explained! Be sure that the new owner is good for the cat and ask if you may look after him so now and than, only to be sure that he is in good hands!
That’s certainly a good point. If you care and love the cat you want to rehome your cat (which you should regardless), having a proper forever home lined up is vital. If you have the ability to check in on them every once in a while, that’s even better!
My cat is going today. He’s a Tom cat we have just moved home and he keeps going back to his old house, we moved in the same town close by. I found him out in the rain the other day freezing cold and wet. We have had him since he was 4 weeks old as his previous owners didn’t want him and wanted him gone fast. He’s going to a cat sanctuary where he can roam free without all the danger I know this is the best thing for him we have tried keeping him in the house but he sprays and urinates everywhere we have a 13 month old daughter so it’s not fair on her. I feel so bad about having to do this literally feels like my child is being taken from me. Stupid animal has brought a grown man to tears!!!😔 life really is not fair…!!! I always said I would never be a person to rehome a animal yet here I am in this situation.😔
Also took our baby Skylar away today because of a newborn. Skylar roamed around a lot and wanted to be next to baby so we always had to lock our baby boy in the one bedroom which was not nice for the little one. It's so hard. I have a headache from crying now💔
I have had the cutest ginger haired cat for the past 7 months, i got him at 8 weeks, he has been a tresure to house, such a polite gentle of a feline, and today I had to rehome him due to a new job that would put me in a position where i'd be leaving him at home for 20 hours a day each day of the working week, I felt that it would be cruel to leave him. so i found someone to take him on, I saw him off earlier today and it have felt so empty since saying my goodbyes, I live alone and I got the cat for company, he has been my companion these last 7 months never left my side. I've been sat crying my eyes out all afternoon. I feel like I've abandoned him. I know deep down that he has gone to a caring home with multiple people and will get the same love but it hurts so much. I wish there was some other way to make this work. But i can't justify leaving my poor cat alone for 20 hours a day.
I had to regime my cat today because he was going deaf and being bullied by other cats in the area leaving him wounded. I also have a disabled child so keeping him inside is not possible because my son has meltdowns and the cat needed somewhere to escape. It's been such a tough day and I have cried so much but know this is the right things for him
Thank you for posting. I had to make the heartbreaking decision to surrender my rescue kitty. I had him since he was 4 weeks old. We took really good care of him. The only challenge was him constantly wanting to run out the house when he was 6 months old. I tried developing a system to allow him to go out and return back. It worked once but he later couldnt find his way home. Thankfully I managed to find him after hearing his cries, late at night. It also didnt help that the area I resided in is very hilly and has a bit of traffic. I also reside in a complex and don't have the yard space to build him a big cattio. I tried to distract him with play etc but he would eventually want to go outside. Bought a leash to take him on walks to fulfil his desire but he would always want to run out again when we get back. I eventually had to make the heartbreaking decision to turn him in to our local shelter. I cry everyday as I miss him so much and im having a hard time dealing with it.
I rehomed my 12 week kitten today. I was really allergic to him and I’m so frickin sad. At first the regular congestion was fine and doable but then I developed allergic asthma which started to get sort of dangerous. I still feel guilty because a part of me wonders if I could have rode it out and built immunity. He really went to a wonderful family. A young couple with 2 young kids, I really hope he has an amazing life. I couldn’t take care of him that well because I had to avoid him to manage my allergies before I could go back to him. I miss you so much !!
I'm a student and I'm still getting my degree, I have roommates and pay the rent, and all the bills, by myself...although I work, I still don't have much money, and my finances aren't that great, at the same time my family can't really take my cat because my parents have a dog and they also work and aren't at home, my brother is also working im different cities and has a cat himself... I'll also probably be moving in with my boyfriend soon, and starting a family in a year or two...my cat is 1.5 years old and I'm at a very vulnerable place in life, where I haven't got enough time not even for myself and my goals, I practically live in one room and my salary isn't big...I just don't know what to do, if I had a house and money I'd be happy to keep my cat but I'm really struggling because I have to fix many things in my life at the moment and caring for my cat is overwhelming...
Hey I'm in similar situation regarding finances but alsl poor mental health. What happened and how are you now, if you don't mind me asking? I feel very stuck
@@wish4somefish sorry to hear that, it'll get better! Well nothing really happened, I still live with my cat, I care for him and love him, but it's still overwhelming especially because I'm often not at home, I was thinking of finding him a new home but it's problematic, I don't know how and I'm not 100% sure about it, I'd like to find a better solution..I just know it's overwhelming and I'll have even less time to care for him in the next couple of months
HAD TO REHOME MY CAT YESTERDAY, SHE WAS DESTROYING MY LEASED PLACE AND I FEEL TRULY HEARTBROKEN I HAD TO TAKE HER TO MY LOCAL VET TO BE PUT FOR ADOPTION..
Tomorrow i will have 2 give my cat a new home. Because I'm moving out of state to take care of my grandparents. I've had her for over 11 years. I feel 😪 bad but I have no choice. She's like my child i have ptsd she helps but I know she will have about life with someone who can take care of her needs. Thank you for making me feel better.
@@guroovirus I'm fine only becuse I know she won't stay at the shelter long . And I have known the woman who runs the shelter for years I'm going Monday to see her but it is what it is .
@@TazHall I dident hit her or anything I did yell she unplugged my freezer and I lost over a thousand dollars of food so yes I was mad and thought you gotta go
I am so sad because my cat is my best friend but my mom is allergic and got asthma because of him and my decision to keep him for this long (a year). I am so so so sad because he is my therapy and emotional support animal, he always knows when I’m down. He is the best, doesn’t bite, scratch or break things. I will miss him so much but I already found him a home with other cats and a girl just like me. I hope he is happier this way, instead of having to be kept in a small room. It hurts so damn much but I guess I will be okay
I had my cat 3 years but I ended up with 4 cats and I live in small home. They were having piss wars all over my home and I couldn’t handle it. I had to give one of my cats away to a good family where she will be an only cat. Miss her
This year my dog passed away, now i found a stray cat recently and let him in while look for a new home for him. After a few days I’ve grown attached to him and dont want to let him go. I’ve already found a new home for him. They have several cats all male and nurtured. I can detect that maybe my cat has separation anxiety, everytime i walk out the door and come back in it will cry and try to sleep on me, basically very clingy. I dont want to stress him out,so think rehoming is better for him. Plus my partner want to have a dog. I dont want to put this cat at risk of loosing it’s life.
I’ve had my cat for almost a year and she won’t stay off the counters no matter what I’ve tried. It actually disgusts me finding her fur on the stove…and horrifyingly enough in my food. I can only afford to buy so many sssscat refills. The cans themselves are finicky. I truly dislike this behavior and I feel like I’m running out of options.
I’m thinking of rehoming my cat and i know i’m gonna feel guilty afterwards but i thought about this so many times yet never happened. But i think i will do it this time:( i have this family cat belong to my sister but my sister and her family are so busy and automatically this cat have to be with me and i’m overwhelmed and so stressful. I was so happy of his presence but i thought that my family is going to take care of him together but ended up only me who takes care of him. What make me so stressful is he has PICA eats everything like plastic etc and throw up every day like many times i went to the vet and never resolved. I’m really frustated and the one who frustated is only me my family member seems not to care about it. Currently i’m looking for a job and i’m pretty sure that nobody can take care of him because they dont know how to take care of him since i’m the one who 100 percent take care of him all the time. I dont want him to suffer when i start my busy life
i recently got a kitten the breeder lied alot . he said the mama cat abandoned him, and when i showed up she was there. this kitten was extremly sick, practically blind, anal issues, inflammed belly fleas. i cured its eyes to see & fleas but needed around the clock care i couldnt provide bc i work 9-5. illnesses the breeder did not tell me prior. it hurts me sooo much to put him up for adoption but kittens shouldnt be adopted or left from their mom under 6 months, its hell having to rehome him. he deserves unconditional care and 24/7 attention. he cannot use the litter box without having explosive diahrah that covers him completely. he needs various baths a day and i feel like a failure not being there for him due to my corporate job. i know its not my fault but breeders should be more honest from the start. most kittens are too young to be treated for parasites, so it would be months of constant care
I still feel so guilty because I had to rehome my kitten 5months old. Because 3 weeks ago. I so scared I couldn’t find him. After like 5 mins he was under my bed roaming around and got stuck between the planks that support the bed frame. After pulled up my queen size mattress and hes neck of caught between them because his collar w/ his bell broke. So that why I couldn’t hear his bell. And I yelled at him so scaredy because of my anxiety was so bad because I love him so much I didn’t realize how I looked. Weeks later since then he’s was clingy during my work hours, would sit on my lap, sit near me, sit onto of my desk sleeping when I work, and he would still sleep with me and pur but I’ve noticed at Certain times of the day like usually after we wake up and he licks me after I feed him. Then before I clock in I would always play with him, but I get so tired, and work has been stressful, and I believe he still thinks I’m mad at him, even when I I use my baby voice, I’ve made safe zones when he scared, because when I walk around, he would always jump and run away from me, and this has been a routine during the morning, and even at night, and he still baby, so he sleeps a lot, wakes up. Sometimes he looks at me like he still frightened, and even would pounce on me without me looking and would attack me at random times. And I can tell when he’s playful or not even after he seems like himself before the accident. But I think I traumatized them so bad that I had to rehome to a friend and when he just woke up I had to put up in his cat bag, we had to talk, and he understood everything and he was crying saying no pls no. I never heard him cry like that before her breaks my heart til this day and that was two days ago. I love him so much that him to a friend who has cats and I know that he’ll have a better life because I was given him a stressful environment because of work. I miss him so much I can’t stop crying. I don’t know why I still feel guilty because I know they had to rehome him but I know I can put more patient. He was still me lick me and kiss me. I think I just had a a bit longer. I don’t know. I just feel so much pain because he was my first pet ever and I’ve depressed for years. And he was the only one that supported me and I know I want him back so bad.
Im suppose to join the marines in less then a year and I have 5 ferrets I feel like I want to save up the money I earn from the marines for my future and not spend it all on vet bills for 5 ferrets would you say that’s a good reason
What about you having this cat a Short time, and for the long term you know already know that the living situation for the cat wont fit to the cat and owner. I have her fot a week but i am really doubting if this was the right time to take her..i tought my family support me, but not really and i am still at this time of my life when everything is not so sure. So idk she seems happy but i still Think she deserves beter. Feeling really stressed and guilty about this makes me depressed. I wont give up so easy but i dont wanna feel depressed and stressed al the time, i hope this feeling will change.
I adopted a cat 5 days ago, but I started getting head/sinus pressure after hanging out with it. It seems like I have developed a cat allergy and I am going to surrender her back to the Humane Society tonight. I am so hurt and sad. I love her so much, but I need to look after myself.
I have a few too many cats, it’s come from lack of responsibility on my part and being unable to rehome the kittens my original cat had when I adopted her. I’m unable to take care of all of them, but I feel terrible for wanting to rehome them. They’re my babies and have lived here with me their whole lives. Im doing my best to find homes instead of shelters first, but I don’t know how this is going to go. Im scared and guilty and sad.
Well one of mine passed and I waited a year to get her a friend. Well the adopted cat hates the resident cat. I tried swapping rooms , blankets , screen , everything that galaxy guy recommends. I was told I have 30 days to decide if he is a good fit without it being a surrender. I tried for 3 weeks and that cat would just attack the resident cat. Then I found out I had to work out of state for few months and bringing a cat that keeps attacking my resident cat wasn’t ideal. I took the cat back but gave him a glowing review. The adopted cat was very loving to humans. He follows anyone anyehere. He purred , licked my hands , played with his toys etc. he adjusted well. Except to my resident cat. I think I needed more time to introduce them. I read some cats can take months up to a year to get along. I do think he will find a great home. He is a great cat. I told the apl ( that is a no kill shelter ) that he was amazing and would be a perfect cat for anyone who does not have other cats or have a lot of time for the introduction. I felt terrible. I don’t ever want to do the introducing thing again. Or bring a cat back to the shelter. It’s not a good feeling at all
I had a kitten for 5 days and my dad had an asthma attack on a football pitch because he was allergic to the cat and was in the hospital but I am so sad we had to let him go I miss him so so much and I don’t want to tell anyone what happened because I feel like a bad pet owner I am so upset and just don’t know what to do with myself 😭😭😭😭
We adopted a kitten with disabilities. She walks like she's drunk. She's gotten better over time but her stool stays wet and sometimes she falls in it. No matter what food we try and the vets are no help. Anyway, we got her a new kittin companion and turns out she didn't like that. Our new boy cat wants to rough house and she doesn't like it. We thought maybe over time she would get over it. No, she still 3 years later hates him. And 3 years later, we had 2 kids. Both are allergic. So I spent $4,000 remodeling my garage for the cats. But the heating/ ace wall unit I got seems like it can't keep up with Chicago's winter temps.. The other side of the garage is roughly 10 degrees or more cooler. Nevertheless, I also can't spend a ton of time in the garage with them either. I think its cruel that they are out there by themselves... I feel like rehoming would be better for them to be in a new home. Though I am afraid of doing it. Is it best they stay with me because they know and love me or go to a new home where they would be inside a warm home with someone new who can love them? Ella is 3 and Luke is 2.
I couldn’t keep my cat of 13 years it was hard surrendering it back to the humane society. So am I wrong for giving it to a family that wants her. I adopted her back in 2005 and had to give her up for a place that doesn’t allow them
I’m rehoming 1 mother cat I’ve had for 2 years and her 4 2 month old kittens and I got to attached to the kittens and we are getting rid of them tomorrow and I would feel to bad to separate the kittens from their mom. I hate my life now that I have to do this. I’m really really really gonna miss them
I have to give away my cat on Sunday because my infant nephew has severe allergies. I hate it so much, I’ve been trying to convince my parents not to for two months just because of how much I wanted to keep her, but in the end, it’s a health concern, and there’s nothing else that we can do- I feel so guilty and horrible, I’ve cried so much about it but it’s for the best. I’m gonna miss her so much.
I’ve to regime my two cats cuz I’m pregnant and they smear their poop on the floor almost every week. We tried changing their diet but to no avail. I’m afraid for my health cuz Sometimes I can’t see where they have smeared and I’m exposing myself to feces when I’m pregnant.
I feel awful about to take my cat to a no kill shelter. He been with me thru depression ect…I’m moving to another state for a job and will have roommates, no animals. I have family that has offered to keep him till I get settled but I know that’s not the best idea. I’m broken.
we rehomed our male sphynx cat today because of an allergy that was triggering asthma and breathing dificulties, but I feel so. so. bad. He has a history of rehoming (at first he was living at a cat-cafe for a year or so until they closed, then the loving family adopted him only to realize that one of the owners has very bad allergies after pregnancy, so after 2 years living with them he was rehomed again, to us. I was so sure we could give him everything he deserves and finally let him feel safe, make sure he knows that he isn't going anywhere no more. and now I feel like we betrayed him. I know we had a reason. I know he will be happy there eventually, but I just feel so guilty and so sad. it's so hard for everyone.
The exact same thing happened to me. I had two cats years ago and I was more than sure that I wasn't allergic, so I received this beautiful kitty that had my heart from day 1. Immediately I reacted, I went to the doctor and got a full treatment but even with my treatment I wasn't feeling any better, I always felt like I was getting out of breath, I had for a month itchiness and red eyes. I realized that I couldn't live like that anymore. I wasn't hugging him as I wanted to. Yesterday we re-home it, and I couldn't stop crying.
I had to take my cat back yesterday since he had pounced on my mom. I miss him so much. I had no say in this and I couldn’t do anything to stop this and it’s too late. I wish we could’ve kept him and it’s just not the same.
I'm about to literally move to the other side of the globe. I can't stay where I am right now. I don't want to bring her to a tropical climate where her curiosity will get her killed by some poisonous animal sooner rather than later. We are very close, she follows me everywhere, always has. I have no idea how I'm supposed to do this.
@@scorpion6178 It's been a month without her and I miss her. It's the little things that constantly remind me, like a missing tingle on my leg when I enter a room, or having the bed to myself. I'll be back in two weeks, and then it's another month without her, then a month with her and then I'll leave for good. It's just surreal and it hurts to think about it. We've never even been separated for longer than a week.
@@aiymturunbayeva5095 I decided against moving to another continent and kept her. I simply moved somewhere else, since I didn't want to stay where I was.
I adopted a cat since he was a baby from the street and he is totally dependent on me, he's a tuxedo cat boy, but i had to rehome him a couple of days ago cuz my wife is allergic to cats, before rehoming him, i rented an attic close to my work place where i kept him and his sister while i was visiting them 3 times a week which wasn't enough and for sure they felt lonely, now the new owner keeps telling me that my cat is sad and keep looking for me, I'm thinking about taking him back and moving out with them to a new apartment without my wife 😢
we got our cats as a brother and sister in 2018 and not until the last 6 months has one started to pee constantly outside of the litter box, we dont know what to do and at this point ready to give her away :/ I dont have a say in it either making it twice as hard, we just dont know what other options there are
Take her to the vet. Usually when they pee outside the litter box they either have a health issue or it means they're asking you to put more litter boxes in the house.
I have two cats right now, male and female. They are both neutered. They’re the best cats I’ve ever had, yet recently the boy has been peeing all over the floors and walls. I have a deep connection with both of them, but sadly one might have to go. I also feel bad because the other cat might become lonely. We’ve been debating it, but we might have to say good bye 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I have so many things going on in my life and I haven’t been able to be home and might have to move out I do not want to get rid of my cat he is my little friend and he is scared of everyone he’s met but me I don’t know what is the pest choice but I don’t want him to get depressed because he did when our other cat ran away and he just seemed sick but the pet adoption place will take him and he would have outside time everyday and good care if anyone has any advice please let me know
I just rehomed my cat due to allergies. I feel awful 😥 She will have a good home and I get to stay in contact with the owner but I don't know them and can't just visit any time I want.
I’m thinking of rehoming my cat or giving it back to the anime humane, I got her because I was lonely and people said to get a cat, all she does is she keeps scratching me and waking me up at night every 20 mins, and plus I don’t have time for her since I’m always away usually at work or school. I can’t decide if I should give her away so she can be in a new family or should I just keep her.
@@annikaminina7670 hi I decided to returned her to the humane society I got her from, I was really sad but happy when I found out she got adopted just a few days later, praying that she goes to a good family
At the moment I'm 7 mo. pregnant and conflicted with rehoming my cat. He has always had issues with aggression (rehomed twice before I adopted him) but it's too much now that I'm pregnant. I don't think I can trust him around my baby 😔
My cat keeps destroying my carpet and is meowing excessively for no reason. I got my wife a cat instead of a dog because we are just so busy that we don’t have the time to take care of a dog. But I was wrong I had a childhood dog that wasn’t anywhere near as needy as this cat that I got my wife is. This cat wants attention 24/7 and keeps my wife and I up as well as our 7 month old daughter who she barely gets along with. Strongly considering finding her a new home but I do want to try and make this work. I’m so lost and I’m not sure what to do.
@@august21xp decided to keep the cat and her behavior has gotten a lot better! She’s nowhere near as bad as she was a year ago and is a lot more easier to handle
Thanks for the upload. It's so emotionally tough to decide to give the cats up. It's the right decision because we are getting so frustrated. The cats are already stressed and we don't want to add to their stress. We certainly haven't been able to reduce their stress.
My uncle didn’t tell us his no tent had fleas and my cat Dani got tapeworm and my mom couldn’t get to vet with bad timing, and overall cost. I’m so depressed over it and I feel like I’m a terrible person and it’s all my moms choice I had no say. Every night I cry over it and it hasn’t even happened yet and I know if I’m this sad now I’ll be even worse down the line.
I adopted a kitten and a 2. 5 years cays, the kitten is so can free, she lives with my daughter in Toronto, they are gave a blast. My adult cat is very much loved at my home, it's only my son an I, ww love her, spoil her, i would give my life for her. But there are periods everyday I feel like she wants to be alone under the dinning table, not sure if that's a normal behavior or she misses her precious owners. I know nothing about them other than she had UTI so she was dropped off at a clinic and never picked up. The clinic contacted an adoption agency, then she ended up at a foster home then I adopted her, all within 4 or 6 weeks. I adopted her 3 weeks ago, she is a fussy eater, but I am very patient and love love love her, I just don't know if she misses her precious owner and she sees me aa someone who took her away even though she sleeps on my chest fir hours at night. Is she OK? How can I help her if she's missing them? Please
I'm not struggling financially but dominio..is a bit unruly. Gets on my couch..gets on my top kitchen cabinets..claws the couch..put a hole in my carpet upstairs by my room door because I wouldnt let him in my room clawed up the seals on garage door..hollers at my room door although I spend time with him..he is a bit unruly..he was even sitting on my stove one day I should have took him then. . I dont want to get rid of him but I think I must and I dont feel bad about it..never seen a cat so unruly..veeery lovey dubby cat but he is trying to take over my house. I dont allow him in my bedroom but every now and then..it makes him happy. Just opened my room door to go out. He darts in under my bed but his paw stabbed my big toe now my dang toe is bleeding..He is a spoiled cat I just think maybe he was a wild stray or something..idk the shelter never discussed this plus he sheds and I have allergies he keeps me sweeping and mopping constantly..because he bathes alot. Love the little guy but,may have to let him go. If anyone is interested in domino..let me know his original name was Bartholomeow..🥰..He is totally free..comes with cat tree,..cat liter box, food toys..cat cube he likes to hide in..hes talkative etc but I think we are growing apart because of his behavior. I tell myself not to be mean because hes a cat and just loves me..but, some days I flip because he even gets on my kitchen table..my mom bought it for me.I dont even eat on it because when I'm gone the cats gets his behind up there..I mean I'm over it..let me know..never have I encountered a cat like this one..hes sweeet but, a bit unruly..let me know if I'm over reacting.Ive bought every type of spray..tried aluminum foil..use spray bottles nothing works..its the cat on my profile..😏..Any suggestions what would you do..help in florida? Has shot records updated dont think I had the cat a year yet..shelters need to discuss why the hell the animal ended up in the shelter..some of these may prefer being around other animals..and then you adopt and they act out due to feeling alone....4 y/o tuxedo cat..likes company..if no..I'll take him to a no kill shelter if worse comes to worst...
Took two of my cats in yesterday and literally after filling out the forms the hardest thing for me to do was walk away. They were terrified as they have never been outdoors. I've been sobbing all of yesterday and now I'm just numb. Coming home to only the mom and dad and not the kittens were the worst. I never felt comfortable to spade or neuter them but its the second time they have young and I always get homes but this time dropping them at a center did not feel the same. The people spoke so mean, I feel so guilty and cant get over it. I'm heartbroken and trying not to let worry get the best of me. (if only my apartment was feasible for 4 cats I would drive to the center and get them back)
Me and my mom have to bring one of our kitty to a shelter I feel guilty about it but at the same time she needs care 24/7we just don’t got the time or patience had her for about 2 years she’s super sweet cuddly and a social kitty she just too much to take care of very needy and me and my mom are having a hard time with her neediness
We are giving away my cat it has been with us for 1 year now . the problem is it needs to get spayed and we cant really do it cause i think we will be moving but you made me feel less guilty about it thanks
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Took my cat back today... literally been crying all day, and cried myself to sleep. Checked the website and saw her sweet face! She was everything to me, I just couldn’t afford it, and I have to work all day and she deserved more of my time! I tried and tried, I have no family that would take her! I had to surrender her back to the shelter! The guilt is heart wrenching! Do not adopt unless you make a lifetime commitment! Even though it was for the right reasonsI will never adopt again! This feels like a death! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
That’s what I did. I adopted a cat bc when I moved out of state alone everyone kept saying I should adopt a cat for companionship. I adopted two so the one wouldn’t be alone while I was gone. Biggest mistake Of my life . The boy cat has cost me thousands in medical bills. I calm him my million dollar cat. Hs eats toilet paper , his scratchers , litter , paper , plastic , rubber bands , rub across my legs all the time while I’m walking and I have almost tripped on him a million times. Hs fights with the girl cat. The girl cat is scared of everybody ajd everything. They are now 14. They puke all the time. I am so tired of cleaning up vomit , thejr poo , thejr fights on the bed and the boy was just diagnosed with a very bad heart disease where I have to give him pills every day anx I can’t. I have tried pill pockets , mixing with water , shoving down throat. Nothing works. Hs even foams it out or vomits the medication . He lived a long life. I think I’m done with the frustration of the pills. Some of the meds I can give with liquid but some I can’t bc of the type of medication. Having cats is like having toddlers fod 18 years. I def won’t ever be getting any more pets of any kind ever again
Thank you guys for your responses and understanding. It’s been almost a month without my sweet baby. I miss her so much, but I will admit, it’s been much easier. Because I already have two children. It’s absolutely like having a child. Especially because my kitten was only 4 months when I got her. The litter duties, play time, and cleaning sanitizing countertops and tables. I really feel relieved. Cats are amazing animals, but they require a lot of work and maintenance. I don’t regret my decision as much as I did at the time, cause now I can get things done. I didn’t even realize how much having a cat was causing extra stress and worry on me! Let’s not forget money. I won’t be adopting ever again!
I recently rescued a stray, that got sick for a week in my home, she has been in front of my house for about 3 months already, and I gave her to shelter just a day ago, I am honestly crying, she was so sweet, I help cats before, but this one IDK, we bonded like spent a day together watching sun set. I miss her so much, but I already have 2 cats, though this one is unique and feels different. :(
Awe I’m sorry... the pain does fade eventually. My kitten got adopted and now has a forever home 🏡 I’m so happy about that. Now I have two neighborhood cats that pop up at my house from time to time to be fed. Cats definitely have a way of pulling on your heart strings for sure. Unfortunately we can’t save them all! We have to do what’s best for us at the end of the day. What you are able to do for animals, doesn’t go unnoticed to the creator. Don’t be hard on yourself....you live and learn 💚🌎
@@Magicallystephanie Thank you for the kind words ❤
We rehomed our two cats today. We raised them from kittens and have lived with them for 8 years. The only thing that ever could have forced me to do it happens. My infant son is allergic and develops eczema when he’s around them. We had a legitimate reason to give them up, but this is a horrible feeling. I miss them both so much.
I have bad allergies from my cat and I have asthma…I suffer so much …I can’t have him anymore.. the feeling is horrible indeed
Chicago guy here and my new born kids are allergic to my cats. A 2 year old male Luke and 3 year old female Ella.
I spent $4,000 renovating my garage for them to live in with insulation and a heating/ac window unit. It's a detached garage. No cars are parked inside.
I have layered their beds and the floor to keep them off the concrete ( which I epoxyed ). Plus I wrapped their houses in that teflon aluminum foam stuff. And put beds inside which I change out regularly.
The 2 do not get along. The male
plays too rough for the female so she hates him. We thought this would stop over time. It hasnt. I have them sectioned off in their own spaces. Roughly 30 sqft each. Though I let the female roam around the garage more freely than the
male. He's missing his back legs from the knees down.. Adopted him that way. So there less space for him to roam than the rug I put down. She has an illness
where she use to walk around drunk but she got better with age. Though her stool was basically water when we got her and she would projectile poop everywhere.. And sometimes fall in it and get it all over herself and my home.. Since she's gotten better at walking the poop has also
been 50/50 loose, she doesn't fall in it as much anymore. Basically both cats are special needs.
With the Chicago winter here, it's been
moderately cold. Worst so far has been 25
degrees outside. My heating/ac unit maxes at 81 degrees. 5-6ft away is their spaces and I have a thermometer by their spaces and it shows 50-55 degrees. I am afraid that when the Chicago weather goes negative, it could drop to 25-30 degrees or lower in their area despite my
heating/ac unit pumping out 81 degrees... ( It was $800 and I thought it would do better... )
I can't have them inside since my newborns are allergic and the no kill shelters are saying they will take them back and rehome them. I am terrified not knowing where they would go if I
rehomed them... Per their adoption contracts, If cannot care for them anymore, I have to bring them back to the agencies Is it cruel if keep them like this? check them twice a day and sometimes play with them when I can like when l'm working in the garage but deep down I want them to have a warm home to
live in and roam freely. I am having a very hard time deciding what I should do. advice would be appreciated.
I want to cry reading this. I’m getting close to this. My son was born and both cats are having behavioural issues. I’m trying everything I no my power first but I’m absolutely devastated.
I feel really bad because i’ve wanted a cat for a long time but then it became so stressful. My cat was surrendered this morning and i feel so bad
How do you feel now? I'm in a similar situation but feel sick possibly due to the cat.
@@unnamedexodus3902 I just adopted a cat a few months ago & I think I'm super allergic to her :( it's starting to really get to me as well as her extreme energy I had two cats for 18 years and never had allergies like this before. How are you coping with it?
@@SB-ht8uo I just surrendered my cat due to allergies mostly, but also inappropriate peeing. I’ve had him 8 years. I should have surrendered him right away when I found out about the allergies. My health has really been suffering more and more as time went on.
@@marcilk7534 I surrender my two kittens and I feel terrible they just don’t listen, they go all on my dinning table and plates for food so unhygienic. I have tried all measures to keep them but they don’t comply. 😥
@@natalieneverson1001 My cat used to go on the dining table where he knows he’s not allowed. When I scold him, he just would look at me with those “I dare you” eyes. I would grab him to take him off, and he would make himself as heavy and limp as he could while telling me off for taking him down. I miss him though.
Thank you so much, I have been cry on and off all day about giving my cat to a better home. Your video makes me feel so much better about it.
Feeling same, with my cat im so much stressful but i without her i assume i will be even worse crying all the time
It’s been the most difficult decision rehoming my 2 girl cats because I have so so so much love for them. I went through college and dating and living alone with my one girl all the way to now in my late 20s engaged and pregnant, and the other we got almost 2 years ago and she’s so cute and smart and brings us tremendous joy. I withstood countless arguments in my relationship defending to keep them, independently took care of them both while putting up with my partners constant complaints for years, and have spent thousands in rental repair costs but just persisted in trying to make it work. Now that I’m pregnant it feels like I truly can’t handle the responsibilities they deserve. The pain is immense and the reality that they no longer fit into your life is brutal and feels devastating. The thought of them feeling abandoned and sad and scared without their mom is just the worst. I will probably never adopt another pet for a very long time because the grief is too much. Wishing anybody going through this lots of love and support. You are not alone.
I can relate to this so much. My cat was rehomed twice (2nd home due to his aggression) and he has literally been the light if my life for so many years as well as helped me through difficult times. I'm currently 7 mo. pregnant and at times he requires a lot, but also randomly attacks me when I just try to love on him. I want to try to keep him, but am worried how he will respond to my baby. I am so conflicted and torn about rehoming him again 😔💔
I could have wrote this myself! As I’m sat here crying my eyes out missing my two. When does this get better?!
I’m rehoming my cat tomorrow, he has been meowing constantly every night for months now and my mom is so fed up with it now she’s giving him to her friend. I’ve been crying for the past 2 days but I know this is best for him, he’s a small little guy and he needs a bigger house and backyard like my moms friend has. I love him, and he loves me but I know it’s best for him
I am going through a very similar situation right now. Best of luck :)
Me too💔
Same feeling😭😭
Did you get the cat fixed? Almost always random meowing like that is because they haven’t been fixed which I can’t believe any pet owner wouldn’t do in this day and age but my cat cries all the time for no reason because he’s anxious because I travel a lot and it’s driving me crazy
Who else is bawling watching this video
I’m getting kicked out, and I’m not able to take my cat with me. I raised him, woke up every two hours since he was born to feed him for two weeks. He’s 9 months now. It hurts so much to give him up, but it’s what’s best for him. Someone will give him the care I’m not able to :(
That’s heartbreaking Ally. I hope you are able find your kitty a good home.
I am rehoming my two kitties on Saturday. My space is small, they pee on my stuff, poop outside of the litter.. and deserve more space. I found them a nice home that is bigger, has a patio and a yard. She is retired so can spend the time with them that they deserve. I feel broken… but I keep saying it is what is best for them. I started as a foster (mama and her 4 babies) kept two, gave those two a great start and now found them their forever home
Makes sense, you did the right thing. ❤
I found a kitten about a month and a half ago at my apartment, someone had left her so my husband and I took her in until we could find her a new home. We have three kids and a dog and a cat so we were taking a risk but willing to do so. I had a family member that was interested in her but kept going back and forth about it. Finally I had to surrender her to the same shelter I got my dog from. I felt so bad, we named her and we loved on her so much. Had my situation been different I would of kept her but I was at my pet limit. I pray she gets an amazing home. It’s a difficult choice to make but never feel guilty. If you are unable to care for an animal then the best thing to do is find someone who can. Never abandon an animal, either surrender or rehome to someone else you find.
This video made me feel a little bit better thank you Edit: we are keeping her
I had to rehome my cat because my fiancee was severely allergic. My son and I were both crushed, and I just remember how scared he was at the shelter. I feel like I've abandoned him and the regret is killing me he was my best friend and most loyal companion and now he's just gone. :(
Hopefully the relationship is worth it. My daughter is allergic so i will have to face this potentially but looks like my cat wants to harass me with meows all day and night not ALL the time but enough to where i dont get any peace when i finally have it. I am so conflicted. My cat was with me through Corona and i honored and cherished him so much, i try so hard to keep him happy and find him the best food, all to fail. I love him but it doesnt seem to matter what i want or need or who i love. He got outside, and now he wants it all the time. Peace or love? 😭
@@arianamooon nope she left me after i was hurt in a car crash because i disciplned my step son for miss behaving and had her parents threaten me. Wasn't a nice time in my life but i've grown from it.
@@arianamooon That’s the similar situation I’m dealing with. My cat does not let me or my husband sleep. I play with him throughout the day and we recently intentionally played with him in the evening to get his energy out. He still yelled-meowed and woke up up multiple times throughout the night. ☹️ I don’t want to give him away, but since we plan on moving again and seeing how badly it affected him (the cat) makes us also feel like we are being selfish to only keep him for emotional support and still put him through that kind of stress.
We think he will be better with a family with young children who can give him more attention because he demands a lot. Someone with a home would be better too because he wants to go outside everyday, but gets scared seeing so many people at the apartment that he runs back in so scared. 😔
I’m heartbroken. I have two cats, but am currently pregnant and it is just not working out. They are not getting the attention they deserve, and I don’t have time for them. Not even mentioning, the time when the baby is born, the cats would have to stay in a tiny room at night because it’s a safety concern to have a newborn sleep out open if the cat may jump on the baby 😭 I feel so so guilty. I hope they find a home that really loves them.
I went through the exact same thing. How are you now?
I’m pregnant too and my cats smear their poop on the floor which makes it hard to even notice it at times. I feel like I’m exposed to cat feces every day and it’s driving me crazy. I’m rehoming them soon cuz I don’t feel safe in my home anymore . How’s your situation going now?
We took our cat in today for that same reason, it's so hard she was our first baby you know but then our baby boy has to take priority and it's the hardest thing we've had to do. For now, i'm not okay
Thank you for this, I unfortunately have to rehome my cat soon due to me not fully bonding with her, financial and mental issues as well.
She has a lot of behavioral problems that I tried to fix and work passed but I can't do it anymore.
I'm going to make sure she goes to a better home of which she'll get all of her needs met and tons of love.
Hey how are you doing now?
How'd it go?
My cat needs the vet and I can’t pay for it so I have to let her go and it makes me angry that it’s come down to this.
The vet said they would help my cat for free but they wouldn’t give her back to me.
I’m sorry to hear that. This is certainly a difficult situation to deal with.
Although you might have already come to a decision on this, there are sometimes options you could look into for overcoming expensive veterinary bills. One option is looking into care credit, which might allow you to pay a vet bill off over time instead of all at once. Another option is to look into financial aid programs set up for pet owners. There are some organizations that have financial aid available to pet owners to help them decrease the cost of an expensive procedure.
I wish you and your cat the best for whatever happens.
I am sorry to heat this too. Bad decision from the vet part in my opinion. ❤
Thank you for this. I've been wrestling with my conscience ever since I began considering it if I should surrender my cat to a shelter. It's a 10 year old indoor only cat which I adopted from a family last year. I only found out after that my cat has a history of inappropriate urination from the vet. Since then I've tried pretty much every method to attempt retraining her, mostly with limited short term success. I've had to throw out fully functional pieces of furniture because she kept peeing on them and nearly lost my safety deposit on my last apartment. So it's not just causing stress but also financial burden that wasn't anticipated. I recently hired a cat trainer as last ditch effort to get the issue under control but I already know that I need to give my cat up if it doesn't work.
I feel really guilty. My cat is quite anxious and I observed her feeling calmer and more confident than she was with her previous owners. So I know she's generally doing okay with me and she really is a great cat in all other aspects. But I have my doubts that retraining her is possible and I don't want to rehome her myself since I'd be pushing the problem and responsibility on someone else. I'd rather make the hard decision now than make this a continuous cycle. Your video helps me affirm that I'm not a terrible person for considering surrendering her.
I’m not sure what you decided since you posted, but if you do still have your cat, talk to your vet about kitty Prozac. I just rehomed my cat this morning. Peeing was part of it, but also allergies. I did look into Prozac, but the peeing was so sporadic for mine, that it would have been hard to tell if it had been working. I’ve heard a lot of people have success with it to treat peeing as a result of anxiety.
@@marcilk7534 thanks for the advice :) as of now, I still have my cat, the trainer's advice I followed solved most of issue. I will still look into prozac for the remaining stuff though, I know the previous owner had tried a few medications before but not sure if this one
I'm at a point in life where finances, physical illness, and mental illness, to be frank, as well as other factors make it virtually impossible to give my two cats the life they deserve. I know the local rescue charges a fee, and it's not a small one, understandably so because they're taking on animals that require care, which costs money. Our local Humane Society is no-kill, but the thought of resorting to that option and imagining them scared and bewildered in those small cages makes me sick. Family members have pets of their own. Both cats are skittish around strangers, so I question whether they'll be able to adapt and flourish elsewhere. One cat has recurring ringworm infections--one of the cats had it when I got him, a tiny spot that I had no idea what it was till his first vet visit--and that's been a nightmare that seems unending. That's why I don't just place an ad, because I'd risk passing on this nuisance of an infection into someone else's life. I do know this, they deserve better than what they have here. I share this all anticipating others' judgment. I love them enough to know they deserve the best lives possible, and that it's not with me. I have failed them, and admit it. This whole situation hurts so deeply.
I would say that you shouldn’t really worry about judgment of others if you do what is best for them. Doing what’s right is the most important thing. Others can have their opinions, but that shouldn’t change how you feel about your own actions.
Some animal shelters have foster homes that are much less stressful for some cats. I’d urge you to ask your local shelters to get an idea of what kind of husbandry they practice and what kind of housing they have to put your mind at ease if you’d like to rehome them. Most of the time an animal shelter is going to be best equipped to help in a situation like this. They might be willing to waive the rehoming fee if you ask and tell them your situation.
As for the ringworm situation though, this can be hard for an animal shelter or a new owner to deal with. Perhaps reach out to the shelter and see if there is anyway they could help you deal with the ringworm before surrendering them. Ringworm can take a long time to get rid of in cats. Maybe call around to shelters to see if there is anyway they can help. That’s what they are there for after all.
I'm so sorry from someone who's going through a very similar situation with 2 cats. 🥺 I wasn't physically disabled when I adopted my cats and now I am, which had led to a cascade effect of financial/caretaking/physical stress.
The way I'm trying to look at it is that it's not fair on my cat if someone else could take proper care of him.
I can't bear to rehome my first cat, we have an extremely rare bond - he calms me when I'm emotionally disregulated & sleeps with me every night.
Absolutely no judgement here. 💔 I hope your situation worked out in the end.
I had to surrender my cats today because my mom is dying and I’m going to have to move. I’m so emotional right now. I can’t stop crying 😭
I don't know what to do. I adopted a kitty and I love her very much, but she's two months old and she demands so much attention and has so much energy that I just can't cope with it. I work from home and I have a really hard time focusing with her asking for my attention all day. It would break my heart to give her to someone else but I don't know what else to do :(
@@GASMASKANGEL166 I've been really trying hard to train her, playing with her on sessions of 10 minutes 3 times a day. Also rewarding her good behaviors and she seems to be responding. I noticed a very small progress today. We just need to be patient!! And keep training them constantly.
@@andreamaldonado1551 So how is the trainning going now with the cat?
@@shradhamehta3552 it's good, but I've noticed that the days I'm too busy to play with her she starts misbehaving to get my attention ( including "attacking" my ankles and trying to bite, which I never encourage by the way, but she still does it). Raising a kitten is more difficult than I thought!
@@andreamaldonado1551 im having the same issue kittens arent supose to be adopted out before 5 months
@@CindyValencia I didn't know that. I've never had cats, and the girl who gave her to me didn't tell me either.
I don't think my cat is that happy in my home. She is super destructive probably due to boredom even with a lot of toys. I can't provide her with better enrichment and my apartment is too small for two cats. :( I feel really bad.
Literally the story of my life I’m dealing with the exact same thing omg
I'm in a similar situation. I live alone and work from home many hours a day and my kitty wants attention all day and won't let me work. :( I don't know what to do
Ad what are u thinking of doing about it?
This is what I’m dealing with to. I work all day and the cat is just so destructive. If I leave any kind of food on the counter she breaks into it. She’s bitten the spouts of my baby’s bottles. Many. Chewed a lot of my kids toys and fake plants. Just gets in to a lot of things. A very hard decision. I’m not sure what to do. After a long day I do not want to come home wondering what else she got into or chewed. It’s stressful.
We brought home and fostered a community cat for weeks waiting for a spay appointment she had to be Dewormed and then had diarrhea for weeks. Then she blood in her poop. She never once came out always hiding. 😢unfortunately after her spay appointment we had to TNR and release her back into community. It was heartbreaking. But we had to do what was best for her not us. Ill never forget the time we spent trying to domestic her. I’m thankful she allowed us to give her a place to stay, room to walk around, and fresh food and water. She just wasn’t meant to be indoors and that’s ok. Angels don’t always have wings. They have whiskers 🐱🐯❤️🩹
Going through this rn it’s literally like I’m giving up my child (college in fall have a pair b they only allow one ESA ) :( damm
I’m really sorry to hear that. That’s an unfortunate situation. I don’t know if this will help in your scenario or not, but one thing I did not mention is that if you are struggling for a short period of time, asking a family member or friend to take a cat in until you are effectively able to care for it can be another option. Whatever happens, I wish you and your cat the best.
I was feeling so alone and thought adopting pet(s) would help. So I took in these two little kittens from a neighbors cat who had given birth 2months ago. Two weeks in and I'm feeling overwhelmed with taking care of them. From fleas which refuse to go away even after washing and treating them,to litter problems (I have been using sand/wood pillings/ natural soil from the garden since I can't afford to buy) and my room has become so messed up from those dirt particles, to them being in my closet which I want to avoid because I don't want them to damage/mess my clothes.
I am considering giving them up. I feel so bad right now. I am so overwhelmed. But giving them up says to me that I failed in yet another thing . I feel so bad right now and confused on what to do
Give them another home. Ic yiu feel that overwhelmed now it doesn’t get any easier. Trust me. I have had my two cats for 14 years and every day I wish I never got them. I adopted them together bc everyone said I should. I guess I didn’t really think of the expense if they were to have a ton of medical problems and one id rjem has. I can’t tell you the thousands of dollars I have had to pay for one of them. I prob could have bought a house. They are always vomiting . Hard as heck yo give them pills. It’s just been a stressful 14 years. I thought about giving them back to the shelter but it would be like giving a child back rhwt I adopted. So I kept them . I just know I will never get another cat again
@@ccalexander1924 I ended giving them to another home. I felt horrible. I cried 😭. When I'm financially stable and living in a better home I will for sure adopt kitten (s) and a dog. I love animals. My take away is that you can love something so much but if you are not prepared to have it, it will stress you and everything has a cost to it because I don't know why I assumed there are no costs involved.
Kittens are like small babies its alot to deal with..I'm an animal lover but every animal isnt a good fit..feel better😊
This comment section was the most helpful thing ever. I brought home the cutest little kitten to foster and take care of till we find a permanent home. It’s been 8 days. I decided to adopt her after 3 days. But I realised that I don’t work from home and she’s so small, just 4 weeks old, she needs immense love and attention. I can take her to work but it was tiring in just one week. I can’t imagine doing it for months. And even when she’s older, she’ll spend more time with my roommate than me. That just doesn’t make sense. Not to mention my roommate has 3 cats already. My mental health is already on the edge. I just feel so guilty and sad wondering if mental health is a reason enough to rehome her. I know for sure that if she stays here, she’ll be more attached to my roommate than me. Honestly, not okay with that too. And if something goes wrong like catching fleas,etc., the environment in the house can easily fire up since other cats will also be at risk. I know this is the right decision, but I feel so selfish taking it.
Thank you so much for this♥️ I needed to hear this more than you know...😢🙏
Thank you for this. My mom brought home a kitten from someone we know, and as much as I’ve wanted one for the future, I’m in no way ready for a pet in my life yet. It’s unexpected and I currently don’t want to care for a living thing. I do feel awful, but I think that someone else will be able to care for the kitten and set time aside for them better than I am. I live in a small & cluttered home with my parents, so I think the cat deserves a nicer home where she’ll be able to run around and have a window to look out.
Pros and cons list idea was helpful, thanks Colin.
I’m finding it really hard, we just moved out of families into a friends (it’s really hard to get a house where I am) it’s cheaper at our friends and mentally we are better here. However our friend does have two dogs - we tried for them to get along but they just won’t and it was at the point where our cat would be harmed. We have to rehome our cat tomorrow. This is so hard because we got him in 2020 during quarantine and he has been with us through everything. He is so lovely and gentle and funny and has so much character. The dog/cat situation will just not work and it’s so hard because I will grieve him for a long time. Hard days and sad days coming home to my fluffy little grey and black man with a bushy tail takes me away from reality and knowing that I will wake up in a couple of days and he won’t be at my feet really breaks me. Sending love to anyone who has had to rehome a fur baby. ✨
I had to rehome my cat. I was so allergic to the point where I had to go to the ER due to a severe asthma attack. When they told me that I was allergic. I was like man damn. Your health comes first.
You’re so underrated! Or TH-cam is just drunk and your 100k subs will come soon!❤️
My cat does not let me or my husband sleep. It wasn’t that bad, but it’s gotten way worse recently and he will yell so loudly next to my bed now..
I play with him throughout the day and we recently intentionally played with him in the evening more to get his energy out. He still yelled-meowed and woke up up multiple times throughout the night. ☹️
He used to actually even sleep with us in the bed. We would just wake up to him there lol.
I don’t want to give him away, but since we plan on moving again and seeing how badly it affected him (the cat) makes us also feel like we are being selfish to only keep him for emotional support and still put him through that kind of stress.
We think he will be better with a family with young children who can give him more attention because he demands a lot. Someone with a home would be better too because he wants to go outside everyday, but gets scared seeing so many people at the apartment that he runs back in so scared every time I try to let him out on the balcony. He doesn’t overcome the fear, but I can tell he wants to instinctively go outside because he meows by the door after looking out the window. 😔
He is our first cat and he’s only 2 years old. 😕
My husband and I hit out limit last night. One cat won't let us sleep, the other cries to go out all the time, he even unlocked the front door!
We just aren't the right owners for those cats.
We love them too! But they aren't happy with us!
The more they destroy our stuff and sleep the less we like the cats too.
We don't want to get to a point of resentment and hate.
We have the same situations. I just rehome my cat yesterday and keep crying until now.
Honestly, I got the cat relax pheromones and cat calming treats and then also when he gets really bad crying for no reason I’ll give him a full syringe of hemp oil for animals and it’s really calm him down. Maybe it’ll work for you
Very well explained! Be sure that the new owner is good for the cat and ask if you may look after him so now and than, only to be sure that he is in good hands!
That’s certainly a good point. If you care and love the cat you want to rehome your cat (which you should regardless), having a proper forever home lined up is vital. If you have the ability to check in on them every once in a while, that’s even better!
My cat is going today. He’s a Tom cat we have just moved home and he keeps going back to his old house, we moved in the same town close by. I found him out in the rain the other day freezing cold and wet. We have had him since he was 4 weeks old as his previous owners didn’t want him and wanted him gone fast. He’s going to a cat sanctuary where he can roam free without all the danger I know this is the best thing for him we have tried keeping him in the house but he sprays and urinates everywhere we have a 13 month old daughter so it’s not fair on her. I feel so bad about having to do this literally feels like my child is being taken from me. Stupid animal has brought a grown man to tears!!!😔 life really is not fair…!!! I always said I would never be a person to rehome a animal yet here I am in this situation.😔
Also took our baby Skylar away today because of a newborn. Skylar roamed around a lot and wanted to be next to baby so we always had to lock our baby boy in the one bedroom which was not nice for the little one. It's so hard. I have a headache from crying now💔
I have had the cutest ginger haired cat for the past 7 months, i got him at 8 weeks, he has been a tresure to house, such a polite gentle of a feline, and today I had to rehome him due to a new job that would put me in a position where i'd be leaving him at home for 20 hours a day each day of the working week, I felt that it would be cruel to leave him. so i found someone to take him on, I saw him off earlier today and it have felt so empty since saying my goodbyes, I live alone and I got the cat for company, he has been my companion these last 7 months never left my side. I've been sat crying my eyes out all afternoon. I feel like I've abandoned him. I know deep down that he has gone to a caring home with multiple people and will get the same love but it hurts so much. I wish there was some other way to make this work. But i can't justify leaving my poor cat alone for 20 hours a day.
i’m just worryed my cat will be sad
That's my issue
I had to regime my cat today because he was going deaf and being bullied by other cats in the area leaving him wounded. I also have a disabled child so keeping him inside is not possible because my son has meltdowns and the cat needed somewhere to escape. It's been such a tough day and I have cried so much but know this is the right things for him
Thank you for posting. I had to make the heartbreaking decision to surrender my rescue kitty. I had him since he was 4 weeks old. We took really good care of him. The only challenge was him constantly wanting to run out the house when he was 6 months old. I tried developing a system to allow him to go out and return back. It worked once but he later couldnt find his way home. Thankfully I managed to find him after hearing his cries, late at night. It also didnt help that the area I resided in is very hilly and has a bit of traffic. I also reside in a complex and don't have the yard space to build him a big cattio. I tried to distract him with play etc but he would eventually want to go outside. Bought a leash to take him on walks to fulfil his desire but he would always want to run out again when we get back. I eventually had to make the heartbreaking decision to turn him in to our local shelter. I cry everyday as I miss him so much and im having a hard time dealing with it.
my cat keeps breaking cords and being destructive and idk what to do, nobody wants her
I rehomed my 12 week kitten today. I was really allergic to him and I’m so frickin sad. At first the regular congestion was fine and doable but then I developed allergic asthma which started to get sort of dangerous. I still feel guilty because a part of me wonders if I could have rode it out and built immunity. He really went to a wonderful family. A young couple with 2 young kids, I really hope he has an amazing life. I couldn’t take care of him that well because I had to avoid him to manage my allergies before I could go back to him. I miss you so much !!
I’m also allergic to my cat, I wasn’t at first..and now I’m scared I have asthma symptoms. I try to rehome him
I'm a student and I'm still getting my degree, I have roommates and pay the rent, and all the bills, by myself...although I work, I still don't have much money, and my finances aren't that great, at the same time my family can't really take my cat because my parents have a dog and they also work and aren't at home, my brother is also working im different cities and has a cat himself... I'll also probably be moving in with my boyfriend soon, and starting a family in a year or two...my cat is 1.5 years old and I'm at a very vulnerable place in life, where I haven't got enough time not even for myself and my goals, I practically live in one room and my salary isn't big...I just don't know what to do, if I had a house and money I'd be happy to keep my cat but I'm really struggling because I have to fix many things in my life at the moment and caring for my cat is overwhelming...
Hey I'm in similar situation regarding finances but alsl poor mental health. What happened and how are you now, if you don't mind me asking? I feel very stuck
@@wish4somefish sorry to hear that, it'll get better! Well nothing really happened, I still live with my cat, I care for him and love him, but it's still overwhelming especially because I'm often not at home, I was thinking of finding him a new home but it's problematic, I don't know how and I'm not 100% sure about it, I'd like to find a better solution..I just know it's overwhelming and I'll have even less time to care for him in the next couple of months
@@marylynn259 yeah it's so difficult. I don't trust any shelters 100% because there are always nasty reviews I can find about them.
HAD TO REHOME MY CAT YESTERDAY, SHE WAS DESTROYING MY LEASED PLACE AND I FEEL TRULY HEARTBROKEN I HAD TO TAKE HER TO MY LOCAL VET TO BE PUT FOR ADOPTION..
Tomorrow i will have 2 give my cat a new home. Because I'm moving out of state to take care of my grandparents. I've had her for over 11 years. I feel 😪 bad but I have no choice. She's like my child i have ptsd she helps but I know she will have about life with someone who can take care of her needs. Thank you for making me feel better.
I feel horrible I took my kitten to the shelter becuse she made me very mad and I was not so nice to her and I thought she deserves better
im in the exact same situation , i have to give her away tommorow and i feel so bad. How are you doing now?
@@guroovirus I'm fine only becuse I know she won't stay at the shelter long . And I have known the woman who runs the shelter for years I'm going Monday to see her but it is what it is .
I respect that
@@TazHall I dident hit her or anything I did yell she unplugged my freezer and I lost over a thousand dollars of food so yes I was mad and thought you gotta go
I just rehomed my kitty. I’m on the floor crying my eyes out. 😭😭😭😭 IM SO SORRY KITTY 😭😭
It’s been 6 hours since he moved and I miss my kitty ☹️
How are u now?
I am so sad because my cat is my best friend but my mom is allergic and got asthma because of him and my decision to keep him for this long (a year). I am so so so sad because he is my therapy and emotional support animal, he always knows when I’m down. He is the best, doesn’t bite, scratch or break things. I will miss him so much but I already found him a home with other cats and a girl just like me. I hope he is happier this way, instead of having to be kept in a small room. It hurts so damn much but I guess I will be okay
I surrendered my cat this morning had her since she was 6 weeks (bottle feeders her and potty trained her) I’m crying right now it hurts
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I had my cat 3 years but I ended up with 4 cats and I live in small home. They were having piss wars all over my home and I couldn’t handle it. I had to give one of my cats away to a good family where she will be an only cat. Miss her
I had to rebome my cat because I’m going on deployment. I overwhelmed with grief.
This year my dog passed away, now i found a stray cat recently and let him in while look for a new home for him. After a few days I’ve grown attached to him and dont want to let him go. I’ve already found a new home for him. They have several cats all male and nurtured. I can detect that maybe my cat has separation anxiety, everytime i walk out the door and come back in it will cry and try to sleep on me, basically very clingy. I dont want to stress him out,so think rehoming is better for him. Plus my partner want to have a dog. I dont want to put this cat at risk of loosing it’s life.
I’ve had my cat for almost a year and she won’t stay off the counters no matter what I’ve tried. It actually disgusts me finding her fur on the stove…and horrifyingly enough in my food. I can only afford to buy so many sssscat refills. The cans themselves are finicky. I truly dislike this behavior and I feel like I’m running out of options.
Cat hair, a fashion accessory and a condiment.
Fly paper, two sided tape, citrus spray they're supposed to not like. Some kind of deterrent for the counter.
What did you end up doing?
I’m thinking of rehoming my cat and i know i’m gonna feel guilty afterwards but i thought about this so many times yet never happened. But i think i will do it this time:( i have this family cat belong to my sister but my sister and her family are so busy and automatically this cat have to be with me and i’m overwhelmed and so stressful. I was so happy of his presence but i thought that my family is going to take care of him together but ended up only me who takes care of him. What make me so stressful is he has PICA eats everything like plastic etc and throw up every day like many times i went to the vet and never resolved. I’m really frustated and the one who frustated is only me my family member seems not to care about it. Currently i’m looking for a job and i’m pretty sure that nobody can take care of him because they dont know how to take care of him since i’m the one who 100 percent take care of him all the time. I dont want him to suffer when i start my busy life
did you push through with it? this was exactly my situation thats why i gave mine away :( i love her with all my heart but it’s been so difficult.
i recently got a kitten the breeder lied alot . he said the mama cat abandoned him, and when i showed up she was there. this kitten was extremly sick, practically blind, anal issues, inflammed belly fleas. i cured its eyes to see & fleas but needed around the clock care i couldnt provide bc i work 9-5. illnesses the breeder did not tell me prior. it hurts me sooo much to put him up for adoption but kittens shouldnt be adopted or left from their mom under 6 months, its hell having to rehome him. he deserves unconditional care and 24/7 attention. he cannot use the litter box without having explosive diahrah that covers him completely. he needs various baths a day and i feel like a failure not being there for him due to my corporate job. i know its not my fault but breeders should be more honest from the start. most kittens are too young to be treated for parasites, so it would be months of constant care
I still feel so guilty because I had to rehome my kitten 5months old. Because 3 weeks ago. I so scared I couldn’t find him. After like 5 mins he was under my bed roaming around and got stuck between the planks that support the bed frame. After pulled up my queen size mattress and hes neck of caught between them because his collar w/ his bell broke. So that why I couldn’t hear his bell. And I yelled at him so scaredy because of my anxiety was so bad because I love him so much I didn’t realize how I looked. Weeks later since then he’s was clingy during my work hours, would sit on my lap, sit near me, sit onto of my desk sleeping when I work, and he would still sleep with me and pur but I’ve noticed at Certain times of the day like usually after we wake up and he licks me after I feed him. Then before I clock in I would always play with him, but I get so tired, and work has been stressful, and I believe he still thinks I’m mad at him, even when I I use my baby voice, I’ve made safe zones when he scared, because when I walk around, he would always jump and run away from me, and this has been a routine during the morning, and even at night, and he still baby, so he sleeps a lot, wakes up. Sometimes he looks at me like he still frightened, and even would pounce on me without me looking and would attack me at random times. And I can tell when he’s playful or not even after he seems like himself before the accident. But I think I traumatized them so bad that I had to rehome to a friend and when he just woke up I had to put up in his cat bag, we had to talk, and he understood everything and he was crying saying no pls no. I never heard him cry like that before her breaks my heart til this day and that was two days ago. I love him so much that him to a friend who has cats and I know that he’ll have a better life because I was given him a stressful environment because of work. I miss him so much I can’t stop crying. I don’t know why I still feel guilty because I know they had to rehome him but I know I can put more patient. He was still me lick me and kiss me. I think I just had a a bit longer. I don’t know. I just feel so much pain because he was my first pet ever and I’ve depressed for years. And he was the only one that supported me and I know I want him back so bad.
I am crying right now because I lost my cat
I have been crying for days. I love my cat. She is like my daughter but I need to rehome her for a short while I'm just so afraid.
Im suppose to join the marines in less then a year and I have 5 ferrets I feel like I want to save up the money I earn from the marines for my future and not spend it all on vet bills for 5 ferrets would you say that’s a good reason
Considering this cause my cat eats up a huge chunk of my time
What about you having this cat a Short time, and for the long term you know already know that the living situation for the cat wont fit to the cat and owner. I have her fot a week but i am really doubting if this was the right time to take her..i tought my family support me, but not really and i am still at this time of my life when everything is not so sure. So idk she seems happy but i still Think she deserves beter. Feeling really stressed and guilty about this makes me depressed. I wont give up so easy but i dont wanna feel depressed and stressed al the time, i hope this feeling will change.
I adopted a cat 5 days ago, but I started getting head/sinus pressure after hanging out with it. It seems like I have developed a cat allergy and I am going to surrender her back to the Humane Society tonight. I am so hurt and sad. I love her so much, but I need to look after myself.
I have a few too many cats, it’s come from lack of responsibility on my part and being unable to rehome the kittens my original cat had when I adopted her. I’m unable to take care of all of them, but I feel terrible for wanting to rehome them. They’re my babies and have lived here with me their whole lives. Im doing my best to find homes instead of shelters first, but I don’t know how this is going to go. Im scared and guilty and sad.
Well one of mine passed and I waited a year to get her a friend. Well the adopted cat hates the resident cat. I tried swapping rooms , blankets , screen , everything that galaxy guy recommends. I was told I have 30 days to decide if he is a good fit without it being a surrender. I tried for 3 weeks and that cat would just attack the resident cat. Then I found out I had to work out of state for few months and bringing a cat that keeps attacking my resident cat wasn’t ideal. I took the cat back but gave him a glowing review. The adopted cat was very loving to humans. He follows anyone anyehere. He purred , licked my hands , played with his toys etc. he adjusted well. Except to my resident cat. I think I needed more time to introduce them. I read some cats can take months up to a year to get along. I do think he will find a great home. He is a great cat. I told the apl ( that is a no kill shelter ) that he was amazing and would be a perfect cat for anyone who does not have other cats or have a lot of time for the introduction. I felt terrible. I don’t ever want to do the introducing thing again. Or bring a cat back to the shelter. It’s not a good feeling at all
I also asked a million people if they would adopt him bc he really would have made someone the happiest owner on earth . Nobody wanted a cat.
I had a kitten for 5 days and my dad had an asthma attack on a football pitch because he was allergic to the cat and was in the hospital but I am so sad we had to let him go I miss him so so much and I don’t want to tell anyone what happened because I feel like a bad pet owner I am so upset and just don’t know what to do with myself 😭😭😭😭
We adopted a kitten with disabilities. She walks like she's drunk. She's gotten better over time but her stool stays wet and sometimes she falls in it. No matter what food we try and the vets are no help. Anyway, we got her a new kittin companion and turns out she didn't like that. Our new boy cat wants to rough house and she doesn't like it. We thought maybe over time she would get over it. No, she still 3 years later hates him. And 3 years later, we had 2 kids. Both are allergic. So I spent $4,000 remodeling my garage for the cats. But the heating/ ace wall unit I got seems like it can't keep up with Chicago's winter temps.. The other side of the garage is roughly 10 degrees or more cooler. Nevertheless, I also can't spend a ton of time in the garage with them either. I think its cruel that they are out there by themselves... I feel like rehoming would be better for them to be in a new home. Though I am afraid of doing it. Is it best they stay with me because they know and love me or go to a new home where they would be inside a warm home with someone new who can love them? Ella is 3 and Luke is 2.
I couldn’t keep my cat of 13 years it was hard surrendering it back to the humane society. So am I wrong for giving it to a family that wants her. I adopted her back in 2005 and had to give her up for a place that doesn’t allow them
all i did when we moved was have Tippo go down to Pound and change the address on his cat license, it worked!
Today, I still miss her and regret moving where I am
I’m rehoming 1 mother cat I’ve had for 2 years and her 4 2 month old kittens and I got to attached to the kittens and we are getting rid of them tomorrow and I would feel to bad to separate the kittens from their mom. I hate my life now that I have to do this. I’m really really really gonna miss them
That’s it I’m going to try to convince my parent to keep them and I’ll clean up whatever mess they make and pay for whatever they need
I have to give away my cat on Sunday because my infant nephew has severe allergies. I hate it so much, I’ve been trying to convince my parents not to for two months just because of how much I wanted to keep her, but in the end, it’s a health concern, and there’s nothing else that we can do- I feel so guilty and horrible, I’ve cried so much about it but it’s for the best. I’m gonna miss her so much.
I’ve to regime my two cats cuz I’m pregnant and they smear their poop on the floor almost every week. We tried changing their diet but to no avail. I’m afraid for my health cuz Sometimes I can’t see where they have smeared and I’m exposing myself to feces when I’m pregnant.
I feel awful about to take my cat to a no kill shelter. He been with me thru depression ect…I’m moving to another state for a job and will have roommates, no animals. I have family that has offered to keep him till I get settled but I know that’s not the best idea. I’m broken.
Thanks… I just rehomed my cat today 😞 didn’t want to but have to do be done… it’s a hard day for me
Why? It’s mainly three reasons 1) allergy 2) peeing all over 3) apartment not taking cats
we rehomed our male sphynx cat today because of an allergy that was triggering asthma and breathing dificulties, but I feel so. so. bad. He has a history of rehoming (at first he was living at a cat-cafe for a year or so until they closed, then the loving family adopted him only to realize that one of the owners has very bad allergies after pregnancy, so after 2 years living with them he was rehomed again, to us. I was so sure we could give him everything he deserves and finally let him feel safe, make sure he knows that he isn't going anywhere no more. and now I feel like we betrayed him. I know we had a reason. I know he will be happy there eventually, but I just feel so guilty and so sad. it's so hard for everyone.
The exact same thing happened to me. I had two cats years ago and I was more than sure that I wasn't allergic, so I received this beautiful kitty that had my heart from day 1. Immediately I reacted, I went to the doctor and got a full treatment but even with my treatment I wasn't feeling any better, I always felt like I was getting out of breath, I had for a month itchiness and red eyes. I realized that I couldn't live like that anymore. I wasn't hugging him as I wanted to. Yesterday we re-home it, and I couldn't stop crying.
I had to take my cat back yesterday since he had pounced on my mom. I miss him so much. I had no say in this and I couldn’t do anything to stop this and it’s too late. I wish we could’ve kept him and it’s just not the same.
I'm about to literally move to the other side of the globe. I can't stay where I am right now. I don't want to bring her to a tropical climate where her curiosity will get her killed by some poisonous animal sooner rather than later. We are very close, she follows me everywhere, always has. I have no idea how I'm supposed to do this.
I feel you. I will be forced to do the same in about a week. How do you feel now and how did the things go?
@@scorpion6178 It's been a month without her and I miss her. It's the little things that constantly remind me, like a missing tingle on my leg when I enter a room, or having the bed to myself. I'll be back in two weeks, and then it's another month without her, then a month with her and then I'll leave for good. It's just surreal and it hurts to think about it. We've never even been separated for longer than a week.
@@reyne8424 how are things going now?
@@aiymturunbayeva5095 I decided against moving to another continent and kept her. I simply moved somewhere else, since I didn't want to stay where I was.
I rehome my cat because he damage my furniture and stuffs. I feel bad but i can't keep loosing money.
I adopted a cat since he was a baby from the street and he is totally dependent on me, he's a tuxedo cat boy, but i had to rehome him a couple of days ago cuz my wife is allergic to cats, before rehoming him, i rented an attic close to my work place where i kept him and his sister while i was visiting them 3 times a week which wasn't enough and for sure they felt lonely, now the new owner keeps telling me that my cat is sad and keep looking for me, I'm thinking about taking him back and moving out with them to a new apartment without my wife 😢
Such a great video about rehoming you'd precious 🐈
we got our cats as a brother and sister in 2018 and not until the last 6 months has one started to pee constantly outside of the litter box, we dont know what to do and at this point ready to give her away :/
I dont have a say in it either making it twice as hard, we just dont know what other options there are
Take her to the vet. Usually when they pee outside the litter box they either have a health issue or it means they're asking you to put more litter boxes in the house.
I have two cats right now, male and female. They are both neutered. They’re the best cats I’ve ever had, yet recently the boy has been peeing all over the floors and walls. I have a deep connection with both of them, but sadly one might have to go. I also feel bad because the other cat might become lonely. We’ve been debating it, but we might have to say good bye 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Thank you, good video!:)
I have so many things going on in my life and I haven’t been able to be home and might have to move out I do not want to get rid of my cat he is my little friend and he is scared of everyone he’s met but me I don’t know what is the pest choice but I don’t want him to get depressed because he did when our other cat ran away and he just seemed sick but the pet adoption place will take him and he would have outside time everyday and good care if anyone has any advice please let me know
My cats hate each other. They lick themselves constantly out of anxiety.
Lol I live in a house where animal is not allowed but I don’t care I have 2 cats
I just rehomed my cat due to allergies. I feel awful 😥 She will have a good home and I get to stay in contact with the owner but I don't know them and can't just visit any time I want.
I’m thinking of rehoming my cat or giving it back to the anime humane, I got her because I was lonely and people said to get a cat, all she does is she keeps scratching me and waking me up at night every 20 mins, and plus I don’t have time for her since I’m always away usually at work or school. I can’t decide if I should give her away so she can be in a new family or should I just keep her.
What did you do finally? I gave up mine to a shelter
@@annikaminina7670 hi I decided to returned her to the humane society I got her from, I was really sad but happy when I found out she got adopted just a few days later, praying that she goes to a good family
Where and how do I rehome a cat that was given to me
At the moment I'm 7 mo. pregnant and conflicted with rehoming my cat. He has always had issues with aggression (rehomed twice before I adopted him) but it's too much now that I'm pregnant. I don't think I can trust him around my baby 😔
My cat keeps destroying my carpet and is meowing excessively for no reason. I got my wife a cat instead of a dog because we are just so busy that we don’t have the time to take care of a dog. But I was wrong I had a childhood dog that wasn’t anywhere near as needy as this cat that I got my wife is. This cat wants attention 24/7 and keeps my wife and I up as well as our 7 month old daughter who she barely gets along with. Strongly considering finding her a new home but I do want to try and make this work. I’m so lost and I’m not sure what to do.
Give him up, they don’t. Change, anxious cats will need medication.
@@august21xp decided to keep the cat and her behavior has gotten a lot better! She’s nowhere near as bad as she was a year ago and is a lot more easier to handle
Thanks for the upload.
It's so emotionally tough to decide to give the cats up.
It's the right decision because we are getting so frustrated. The cats are already stressed and we don't want to add to their stress. We certainly haven't been able to reduce their stress.
My uncle didn’t tell us his no tent had fleas and my cat Dani got tapeworm and my mom couldn’t get to vet with bad timing, and overall cost. I’m so depressed over it and I feel like I’m a terrible person and it’s all my moms choice I had no say.
Every night I cry over it and it hasn’t even happened yet and I know if I’m this sad now I’ll be even worse down the line.
Great video, volume is a bit low though.
I adopted a kitten and a 2. 5 years cays, the kitten is so can free, she lives with my daughter in Toronto, they are gave a blast.
My adult cat is very much loved at my home, it's only my son an I, ww love her, spoil her, i would give my life for her. But there are periods everyday I feel like she wants to be alone under the dinning table, not sure if that's a normal behavior or she misses her precious owners. I know nothing about them other than she had UTI so she was dropped off at a clinic and never picked up. The clinic contacted an adoption agency, then she ended up at a foster home then I adopted her, all within 4 or 6 weeks.
I adopted her 3 weeks ago, she is a fussy eater, but I am very patient and love love love her, I just don't know if she misses her precious owner and she sees me aa someone who took her away even though she sleeps on my chest fir hours at night. Is she OK? How can I help her if she's missing them? Please
I'm not struggling financially but dominio..is a bit unruly. Gets on my couch..gets on my top kitchen cabinets..claws the couch..put a hole in my carpet upstairs by my room door because I wouldnt let him in my room clawed up the seals on garage door..hollers at my room door although I spend time with him..he is a bit unruly..he was even sitting on my stove one day I should have took him then. . I dont want to get rid of him but I think I must and I dont feel bad about it..never seen a cat so unruly..veeery lovey dubby cat but he is trying to take over my house. I dont allow him in my bedroom but every now and then..it makes him happy. Just opened my room door to go out. He darts in under my bed but his paw stabbed my big toe now my dang toe is bleeding..He is a spoiled cat I just think maybe he was a wild stray or something..idk the shelter never discussed this plus he sheds and I have allergies he keeps me sweeping and mopping constantly..because he bathes alot. Love the little guy but,may have to let him go. If anyone is interested in domino..let me know his original name was Bartholomeow..🥰..He is totally free..comes with cat tree,..cat liter box, food toys..cat cube he likes to hide in..hes talkative etc but I think we are growing apart because of his behavior. I tell myself not to be mean because hes a cat and just loves me..but, some days I flip because he even gets on my kitchen table..my mom bought it for me.I dont even eat on it because when I'm gone the cats gets his behind up there..I mean I'm over it..let me know..never have I encountered a cat like this one..hes sweeet but, a bit unruly..let me know if I'm over reacting.Ive bought every type of spray..tried aluminum foil..use spray bottles nothing works..its the cat on my profile..😏..Any suggestions what would you do..help in florida? Has shot records updated dont think I had the cat a year yet..shelters need to discuss why the hell the animal ended up in the shelter..some of these may prefer being around other animals..and then you adopt and they act out due to feeling alone....4 y/o tuxedo cat..likes company..if no..I'll take him to a no kill shelter if worse comes to worst...
Any luck?
How about because the cat is Schizophrenic and a jerk?
Took two of my cats in yesterday and literally after filling out the forms the hardest thing for me to do was walk away. They were terrified as they have never been outdoors. I've been sobbing all of yesterday and now I'm just numb. Coming home to only the mom and dad and not the kittens were the worst. I never felt comfortable to spade or neuter them but its the second time they have young and I always get homes but this time dropping them at a center did not feel the same. The people spoke so mean, I feel so guilty and cant get over it. I'm heartbroken and trying not to let worry get the best of me. (if only my apartment was feasible for 4 cats I would drive to the center and get them back)
Alot of time rehoming reason is the mom
Me and my mom have to bring one of our kitty to a shelter I feel guilty about it but at the same time she needs care 24/7we just don’t got the time or patience had her for about 2 years she’s super sweet cuddly and a social kitty she just too much to take care of very needy and me and my mom are having a hard time with her neediness
We are giving away my cat it has been with us for 1 year now . the problem is it needs to get spayed and we cant really do it cause i think we will be moving but you made me feel less guilty about it thanks